Leadership Principles from God’s Word:
Interpersonal Skills Mario Denton Module 502 I Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Leadership Principles from God’s Word:
Ecclesiastes 4:9,10,12 Two are better than one, because they had a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Makes you think • Fifteen percent of the reason why people get a job, keep the job, and move ahead in the job is determined by their technical skills and knowledge • Eighty fiver percent has TO DO WITH PEOPLE SKILLS AND PEOPLE KNOWLEDGE Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Great leaders are well acquainted with forgiveness • Every leader is seek upon by God to seek out, forgive and restore those who have wronged him or her
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Think for a moment about the quality of your relationships • Are you pursuing any aspirations, ambitions or accomplishments that threaten the quality of the relationships in your life? • Can you have it both ways? • What can you do to enhance your most significant relationships? Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
At their end of their lives • The things that people generally regret have far more to do with unfinished relational business than with incomplete tasks • What must you do to look back at the end of your journey with no regrets
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The word Relationship • The leader has to relate with his or here followers in a way that encourages the intertwining of ideas, commitments and values • The word relationship implies the attempt to twist the threads together • The result? Better work, less vulnerability Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Money and relationships • Money and achievements will disappear in the end, but relationships will endure forever • Luke 16: 9 Use worldly health to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The breakdown of trust • Even the strongest relationships break down. • Trusted allies will betray you • Key subordinates will fail • Does this mean that the relationship is finished? • God allows his people room to fail but then permits them to get back up Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
HOW TO BUILD TRUST? • Communication (keep everyone informed; give feedback; tell the truth) Support (be available and approachable) Respect (delegate; be an active listener) Fairness (give credit where due; objectively evaluate performance) Predictability (be consistent; keep your promises) Competence (demonstrate good business sense and professionalism) Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Rules for feedback 1.Given with Care (Help, not Hurt) 2.Readily Actionable (That can be changed) 3.Directly Expressed (Specific, concrete) 4.Well Timed (Appropriate) Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Guidelines for feedback • • • • • • • • •
Be honest and cordial Be specific - incident and data based Limit to here an now - only mutually experienced events Employ maximum number of sources Be supportive and constructive Limit to main issues - strong points and development areas Recipient has right to accept or reject Recipient may ask for clarification - not to justify rejection Recipient is free to comment on feeling about feedback.
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
How to Give Effective Feedback Do’s • Descriptive • Specific • Directed at behaviour • Well-timed • Relevant • Preferably solicited • Observed behaviour • More or less • Sharing ideas and info • Exploring alternatives
Dont’s • Judgmental • General and vague • Directed at the person • Inappropriate timing • Irrelevant • Forced • Inferences • Either/or • Telling • Setting solutions
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The sense of a goose In spring, when you see geese heading north for the summer, flying in a V-formation, you may be interested to know what scientists have discovered: As each goose flaps its wings, it creates an “uplift” for the bird following. By flying in a Vformation, the whole flock adds 71% more flying range than if each bird flew alone.
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The sense of a goose: basic truth 1 People who share a common direction and a sense of communication get where they want to be more quickly and more easily because they are travelling on the trust of one another. Whenever a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to go it alone and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the birds immediately in front. Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The sense of a goose: basic truth 2 If we have even as much sense as a goose, we will stay in formation with those headed in the same way that we are going. When the lead goose gets tired, it moves to the back and another goose takes up the lead.
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The sense of a goose: basic truth 3 It pays to take turns doing hard jobs.
The geese honk from behind to encourage those up front to keep up their speed.
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
A sense of a goose: basic truth 4 We need to be careful what we say when we honk from behind. Finally, when a goose gets sick or is wounded by gunshot or falls out, two geese immediately fall out from the formation and fly down to help and protect the one in trouble. They stay with the disabled goose until it is able to fly again or until it dies.
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
The sense of a goose: basic truth 5 If we have the sense of a goose, we will stand by one another.
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
You Are Not Robin Hood
Shift Your Thinking From Being a Taker to Being a Giver Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
It’s About You too… • Be Real • Be Special • Challenges and Struggles • Be Interesting and Fun Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Relationship Communication • • • • • •
Face to Face Phone Notes E-Mail Gifts Creative Approaches
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Capture Their Heart • • • • •
Share Your Vision Seek Their Advice Allow them to mentor Transformational Testimonies Meet the People
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Excuses to Meet • • • •
Thank You Visit Ask Advice Share Good News Request Something Easy • Small Gift • Update on Project
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Prayer Focus • Father, In the name of Jesus, I surrender myself to walk in the Word. Your word living in me produces the Life in this world. • The word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. It makes my way plain before me. • I boldly and confidently say that my heart is fixed and established on the solid foundation – the Living Word of God! Amen Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
I was made to praise You I was made to praise You I was made to glorify Your Name In every circumstance To find a chance to thank You I was made to love You I was made to worship at Your feet And to obey You Lord I was made for You Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Learning, application and commitment: James 1: 22-25 • “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. • Do what it says. • Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in the mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. • But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it - he will be blessed in what he does.” (NIV) Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Learning, application and commitment • One of the Biblical truths (principles) that I have learned from this lesson was … • I intend to apply this truth (principle) in my business/Ministry by: ….. • With the help of the Holy Spirit, I will begin applying this truth immediately. I ask and expect my group to hold me accountable for this and to check with me periodically to determine if I am doing so. Please ask me ….. Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
Jesus said: Take what I have given you and change the world!
Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships
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Leadership Principles from God’s Word: Interpersonal relationships