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Helping your teenager survive transitions Surviving a stressful transition helps teens develop resilience, the knowledge that they can handle change and prevail in the face of difficulty. PAGE 5

February 2013 Volume II • Issue 2 Michael Kull and Eva Nations, Publishers Advisory Board Sr. Mary Marta Abbott, RSM The Diocese of Knoxville Marie Alcorn United Way of Greater Knoxville Mike Bailey Small Business Representative Ellen Liston East Tennessee Children’s Hospital Tracey Matthews Knox County Department of Education Elizabeth Pooley Marketing Professional

Contributing Writers Kristina Howard Jeremy Lloyd Tracey Matthews James McIntyre, Ph.D.

Teenagers’ Dread: The Final of All Finals the SAT and the ACT college entrance exams cover material that the student likely hasn’t seen or worked on for years. Here are some tips to help your child prepare. PAGE 7

Paul Metler, Ph.D.

Erin Nguyen Mike O’Hern Michael Smith, Ph.D. Kathryn Rea Smith, Ph.D. Liz Stucke Lee Tramel Barry Van Over Liza Zenni

The Teen Years: Searching for the 30-Foot Wave The teenage years should be about exploration and searching for interests, trying out skills and gaining a greater selfawareness.. PAGE 22

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A letter from the publishers

14 A message from Dr. Jim McIntyre

Helping your teenager survive transitions

15 How can I help my teenager with middle and high

Climbing into reading

Teenagers’ Dread: The Final of All Finals

Protect your teenager with vaccines

The Violet Jessop story

19 Unplug early: Transitioning to a healthier life

Teenagers and transitions: Supernatural edition

20 “You can be anything you want to be?”

Are you listening?

21 Dad dispatch: A special bond

Events for the month of February

22 The Teen Years: Searching for the 30-Foot Wave

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A message from the Publishers by Eva Nations and Michael Kull

Dear readers, This monthâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s issue is devoted to teenagers and their journey towards adulthood. The teen years mark a time of transition from childhood to maturity. Our writers offer their expert ideas on how you can help your children approach these milestone years, whether it is dealing with changing habits, thought processes, or emotions. You will find articles that give advice on preparing for difficult tests and succesful applications as your child prepares for college, maintaining good health through proper vaccinations, increased outdoor activity, and more. Together, we can ensure that our children will gain the knowledge and experience to become successful adults. Happy Valentineâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Day! Eva and Michael

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Helping your teenager survive transitions by Kathryn Rea Smith, Ph.D.

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“Surviving a stressful transition helps teens develop resilience, the knowledge that they can handle change and prevail in the face of difficulty.”

r. Smith, I’m worried about my daughter. Since starting high school, she’s just not herself. She’s stressed and unhappy. She’s not sleeping, she’s cranky, she’s isolating from friends, and she doesn’t want to go to school. What can I do to help her?” The teenage years are times of transitions including school-related transitions. Going from middle to high school and from high school to college can be very stressful. One of the challenges for parents of teenagers You may certainly be worried that your teen will never is to help them cope effectively with the changes they adjust! If so, be patient and maintain the belief that, in face. Parents can help their teens with transitions by time, he or she will make it all the way through to the following these three “psychological” steps. other side of the transition. Continue to be supportive The first step is to recognize the way your adolescent and empathic. Say things like “You’re dealing with some experiences change. Some people seem to thrive in the big changes, and change can be hard. It makes perfect face of change, some are more neutral, and some don’t sense that you feel overwhelmed now, but you won’t feel like change much at all. These differences in handling Sarah and Matthew Esslinger remember their this way forever.” You can also say “I think you’re doing experience of transitioning into high school. change reflect personality differences. Being sensitive a great job coping with all this change, and I’m really Photo courtesy Edward Foley Photography. to change is not bad or good, just as thriving in the proud of you.” face of change is not bad or good. However, those who Surviving a stressful transition helps teens develop resilience, the knowledge that are sensitive to change will benefit from having extra support during times of they can handle change and prevail in the face of difficulty. Parents can reinforce transition. If you understand your teen’s personality, you can help him or her to the lessons learned from successful navigations of change by reminding teens about develop self-awareness about reactions to change. For instance, you might say “I’ve their past accomplishments: “Remember how hard it was when you started high noticed you like things to stay the same, and it’s hard on you when everything is school? You got through that, and now you really love high school. Why should the suddenly different.” process of going to college be any different for you?” The second step is to recognize how you have experienced change in your own life. Are you a person who embraces change and seeks it out, or do you prefer constancy and stability? Did you tend to have a hard time or an easy time dealing with change during childhood and adolescence? Even if you are someone who Orthodontics has dramatically changed over the years. The technology embraces change, were there times when a major change was unwelcome and hard utilized in our practice allows us to precisely diagnose our patients and to bear? Is your style of dealing with change similar to or different from that of your offer creative treatment options while achieving better results faster! teen? Developing your own self-awareness will help you empathize with your teen’s experience. The third step is to put your empathy to work. Remind your teen that change can be difficult, but that eventually he or she will adapt. Help your teen name the changes he or she is experiencing. For instance, what is different about high school compared with middle school? What does he or she miss about middle school? When the distinctions between the old and the new are spelled out, your teen can more easily appreciate why the transition seems so hard. If your teenager is struggling with change, think of a time in your own life when you went through a difficult transition, and tell your teen the story, emphasizing your feelings. For example, “When I went to high school I was scared because I did not know what to expect. I was worried about fitting in, and I was afraid the work was going to be too much for me. It took some time, but once I got used to high school, I realized there were things about it I liked so much better than middle school.” Be sure to answer your teen’s questions about your experience honestly. If it took you until Christmas to feel good about being in high school, then say so! Aesthetic treatment options such as Invisalign removable aligners, Adolescents really need to know that their feelings about going through change are ceramic braces - which are less obvious – and even lingual braces normal, and so hearing that Mom or Dad went through (and survived) something – braces which are affixed to the back of the teeth – are all discreet similar is powerfully reassuring.

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Climbing into reading

“‘You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view’”

n Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird, Scout complains to Atticus about her first grade teacher, Miss Caroline, who “said you taught me all wrong.” Apparently, Miss Caroline had her own views on how to teach young children reading and didn’t want Atticus to teach Scout (“you tell him I’ll take over from here and try to undo the damage”). Atticus is amused at understand adult and child perspectives in the racially this comment and proceeds to teach Scout a valuable charged 1930s South. The other three domains can also lesson. “First of all,” he said, “if you can learn a simple provide insights. trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds Eric Liu is an ABC (American-born Chinese) who of folks. You never really understand a person until you struggled to fit in between his white friends (who called consider things from his point of view—until you climb him an “honorary white”) and his Chinese friends into his skin and walk around in it.” (who called him “banana”). His book, The Accidental Reading can help us climb into another’s point Asian: Notes of a Native Speaker, chronicles his efforts Photo courtesy Edward Foley Photography. of view. For teenagers who are struggling with the to combine both worlds as he goes from high school transition to adulthood, reading can provide a means to understand how others to Yale and then to become a speechwriter for President Clinton. Liu writes of have handled these transitions. The Common Core Reading Standards note that how America is changing: “What it means to be American—in spirit, in blood—is students “come to understand other perspectives and cultures” by reading widely. something far more borrowed and commingled than anything previous generations In fact, these standards promote reading in four domains: Literature, Informational ever knew.” Texts in English/Language Arts, History/Social Studies, and Science/Math/ Elizabeth Cady Stanton’s father was a lawyer. As a teenager, Stanton liked to hang Technology. To Kill a Mockingbird is an excellent example of literature that helps us out at his office, listen to his cases, and read his law books. She discovered what she thought was a strange law. When a father died, all his money and land went to his eldest son. The mother usually got nothing. She told her father to go change these laws. He said it wasn’t that easy. “When you are grown up, and able to prepare a speech,” said he, “ you must go down to Albany and talk to the legislators; tell them all you have seen in this MORE office—the sufferings of these [women]. . .robbed of their inheritance and left V IES & ’S, MO D C , dependent on their unworthy sons, and, if you can persuade them to pass new S K O O USED B laws, the old ones will be a dead letter.” Thus was the future object of my life foreshadowed and my duty plainly outlined. This teenage event changed Stanton’s life. She and Susan B. Anthony would work their whole lives to help earn women the right to vote. Their history is described 230 Papermill Pl Way in Geoffrey Ward and Ken Burns’ remarkable Not For Ourselves Alone: The Story of Knoxville Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony. E R & MO OV IES Albert Einstein dropped out of high school in Germany due to personal M , ’S D 7734 Lee B Hwy OK S , C O difficulties with teachers and his family’s financial problems. Moving to Switzerland, D USE Chattanooga he applied to the Zurich Polytechnic. He passed the entrance exams in math and NEXT TO THUNDER CREEK HARLEY DAVIDSON science but failed in other subjects. He studied for a year at a small school before passing the exams the second time around. After graduation, he worked as a patent STORE HOURS clerk before he had his “miracle year” in 1905, developing theories on light quanta, 9am-9pm Mon-Thurs Brownian motion, and the special theory of relativity. Walter Isaacson, in Einstein: 9am-10pm Fri/Sat His Life and Universe, charts Einstein’s struggles and scientific discoveries. 11am-7pm Sun Reading can help teenagers understand how past and present personalities have (SEASONLY STORE dealt with choices and crises. The Common Core Standards emphasis on diversity HOURS WILL VARY) should change how high school teachers and students approach the school day.

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Teenagers’ Dread: The Final of All Finals By Mike O’Hern, Center Director of Mathnasium of West Knoxville

hen I was in school I used to dread final exams. Why did my grade rest so heavily upon my performance on one day? I remember my Statics course at UTK where the midterm accounted for 40% of the grade, and the final for 60%! The final exam is intended to determine if the student has digested the material for the entire course – a cumulative exam covers concepts from the very first day of the class. But what if there was a final exam for everything the student has learned since beginning school? Oh, wait. I can think of two: the SAT and the ACT. Yes, these college entrance exams cover material that the student likely hasn’t seen or worked on for years! At least in the math portion. I’m no expert in the other parts of the ACT/ SAT, but I can tell you that the math portion of these exams is no walk in the park for most students. The ACT covers pre-algebra, algebra I (and a little of algebra II), coordinate geometry, plane geometry, and even some trigonometry. But the questions in the ACT are not always like the ones that confronted the student in the class, because many of the problems on the ACT are combinations, like a combination of geometry and algebra. That is, they are testing to see if the student understands the math, not just be able to repeat a mathematical process. So what can a student do to be prepared? Here are a few suggestions. Start preparing early. Start preparation for the ACT by taking a practice test five to six months before the exam is to be taken. This will give plenty of time if there is a lot of brushing up to do, but it won’t hurt if there’s not! Take an orderly approach.

, Use the practice test to determine what types of problems need work.

Then when working on the issues, work on the most basic types first, then work up the chain. If there are problems with proportions, for example (pre-algebra material), work on those before trying to work on quadratics (algebra level material). Think about test-taking and time-management skills When taking the ACT or SAT, your student can maximize her score with this simple technique. Go through the math section problems one-by-one, answering the ones that are fairly easy for her, putting a “T” (for Time) by the ones that she can work but will take some time, and putting an “H” (for Hard) by the ones that may or may not be doable. After going through the whole math section, start again working on the “T” problems. If she gets though them all, start again to work on the “H” problems. At any point in the process if time gets down to just a couple of minutes left, she can go through and guess at whatever is left.

“But what if there was a final exam for everything the student has learned since beginning school?... the SAT and the ACT college entrance exams cover material that the student likely hasn’t seen or worked on for years!” This method helps with momentum (doing the easy ones first builds confidence), and assures that all of the easier problems are addressed without running out of time. A note about “guessing penalties” There are no guessing penalties in the ACT, but there are for the SAT. So even though we’d prefer to work every problem, feel free to make some guesses on the ACT. And even for the SAT, educated guessing will always be rewarded! If the student can eliminate one or more of the answers as unreasonable, then making a guess will improve the overall score, despite the “penalty.” As owner and director at Mathnasium (a math learning center with locations in West Knoxville and Chattanooga (www.mathnasium. com/westknoxville) for the past five years, Mike has extensive experience teaching children and young adults the foundations of math concepts that are crucial to building their confidence and engagement with math throughout life.

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Protect Your Teenager with Vaccines

hough measles, mumps and whooping cough seem outdated, teenagers are exposed to them every day on college campuses and in large groups. These diseases are among the many that parents can prevent by making sure their teenage children are properly vaccinated. Though it may seem like all of your child’s immunizations were taken care of in elementary school, many shots are meant specifically for adults and long-term protection. Doctors recommend that teens should be vaccinated against the following diseases: • Diptheria, tetanus and pertussis • Measles, mumps and rubella • Hepatitis A • Hepatitis B • Meningitis • Human Papillomavirus (HPV) • Chickenpox (if he or she has not had the disease) • Influenza Many of these diseases affect adults more than children. For example, chickenpox can be much more dangerous for adults than children. Hepatitis B attacks the liver, which could end in death. Making sure your child is vaccinated could save his or her life. Recently, doctors have begun to strongly recommend the HPV vaccine for boys ages 11-21 and girls ages 11-26. This vaccine protects against infections that can lead to numerous cancers in both men and women and heart disease. Though HPV is a sexually transmitted disease, most infected people do not know they have it due to a lack of symptoms. Because of this, many people with HPV can pass the infection to others without knowing it. The HPV vaccine is given as three injections over six months. Because the vaccine does not protect against people who have been infected with HPV before being vaccinated, beginning the shots before having sex for the first time is the most effective way to prevent the infection. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved the vaccine as safe. Like any medication, vaccines may cause side effects. However, receiving a vaccination is far safer than getting the disease it prevents. The most common reactions include soreness, redness and swelling in the area of the shot or a lowgrade fever. Though shots can still be scary for teenagers, it is vital to protect your child with these immunizations. The shot will only last a moment, but your child will be protected from life-threatening diseases for decades to come. For more information please visit the East Tennessee Children’s Hospital website (www.etch.com).

he Violet Jessop Story reads like a movie script! It has two major shipwrecks, romance, danger, excitement, and most of all, the unvarnished truth about a woman’s life lived on the edge. Violet was born to adventure in the rugged pampas of Argentina in 1887 - the first child of a young, Irish immigrant couple. She survived the hardships of life on a sheep farm and the loss of her father, all before entering convent school back in England. Violet had grown up hearing her Violet Jessop’s story is just mother’s tantalizing tales of her one out of 2,208 stories to be experiences as a steamship line told everyday at the Titanic stewardess. Now, she was determined Museum Attraction in Pigeon to follow in her footsteps, but it wasn’t Forge, TN. easy. Her young age, Irish good looks and lilting accent had prevented her from finding work - back then, most stewardesses were middle aged women. Finally, at 21, she resorted to trickery to get a job. Wearing no makeup and dressed in a drab, shapeless dress, she appeared to be 10-years older and was hired on the spot. Three years and a few ships later, Violet signed on as a First Class Stewardess aboard Titanic. She was no stranger to passenger ships nor to the challenges of life at sea, both from the natural elements and the elementary instincts of men she encountered. Around midnight on April 14, 1912, she faced the ultimate challenge– survival. With Titanic listing heavily, Violet was directed to enter the last remaining lifeboat and to reassure women passengers that it was safe. She was handed a baby to look after and set adrift in the dark until the good ship Carpathia came to her rescue.

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Teenagers & Transitions: Supernatural Edition Compiled by Erin Nguyen

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The Lightning Thief By Rick Riordan Reading level: 5th – 8th Twelve-year-old Percy (Perseus) Jackson has always had problems at school, but he has only just discovered it’s all because he’s never learned how to control the powers he inherited from his absentee father, Greek god Poseidon. Forgive My Fins By Tera Lynn Childs Reading level: 6th – 10th While trying to live a normal teenage life on land, mermaid Lily unwittingly sets plans in motion for her inheritance of her father’s mermaid kingdom when she kisses the cute boy next door. Alex Van Helsing: Vampire Rising By Jason Henderson Reading level: 6th – 10th After being sent to a Swiss boarding school, Alex Van Helsing finds out that vampires are real and that he is indeed a descendant of vampire hunter, Dr. Abraham Van Helsing.

Wolf Mark By Joseph Bruchac Reading level: 7th – 12th Not only has Lucas King’s black ops agent father taught him how to defend himself with martial arts and cunning, he’s also passed on the family shape-shifting trait, which comes in handy when he has to take on the mysterious new gang at his high school. Legacy By Molly Cochran Reading level: 7th – 12th Upon her arrival at her mysterious new boarding school, sixteen-year-old Katy soon learns that she comes from a long line of witches and must learn to control her magical abilities.

City of Bones By Cassandra Clare Reading level: 8th – 12th When teen Clary Fray Slayers discovers that she possesses By C.J. Hill certain magical powers, Reading level: 7th – 10th including the ability to see Rich socialite Tori has always supernatural creatures, she had an odd fascination with becomes drawn into the dragons, which makes sense world of Shadowhunters, when it is revealed at her humans sworn to kill demons unusual summer camp that and monsters. she is one of a small group of dragon slayers, endowed For libary information in with special abilities necessary to the fight the your area visit: very real threat of dragons. www.knoxlib.org/

The Diviners By Libba Bray Reading level: 9th – 12th A string of occult murders in 1926 New York coincides with a group of teens learning to use their supernatural powers, including psychic abilities, invisibility, and healing powers. Hold Me Closer, Necromancer By Lish McBride Reading level: 9th – 12th College dropout Sam is working at a fast-food restaurant, unaware of his ability to raise the dead, until evil fellow necromancer Douglas recognizes his powers and forces Sam to learn how to use them in this lighthearted, yet sometimes gory, tale. Paranormalcy By Kiersten White Reading level: 9th – 12th Sixteen-year-old Evie has lived at the International Paranormal Containment Agency for as long as she can remember, surrounded by a wide variety of supernatural friends (mermaids, faeries, shape-shifters), but she’s only beginning to discover what her ability to see through supernatural glamours reveals about her own identity.

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Are you listening? by Chief Lee Tramel

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hild, give me your hand that I may walk in the light of your faith in me. “ –Hannah Kalhn Whether you’re parenting a toddler or teenager, good communication is the key to building selfesteem as well as mutual respect. But how do you establish that “good communication?” Many child experts say to talk to and treat your child as you would a guest or your best friend. The American Psychological Association reinforced that with some great tips for communicating with your child: Be available to your children. Notice when they are most likely to talk and be available. You start the conversation, but not with a question. Start by sharing what you’re thinking. Show an interest in what your child is interested in. Try to find some time each week for one-on-one activity with each child. Let your kids know you’re listening. Stop what you’re doing and listen when your child opens up about concerns. Show interest and listen to their point of view, even if it’s difficult to hear. Let them complete what they’re saying before you respond. Repeat what you heard them say to

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“Whether you’re parenting a toddler or teenager, good communication is the key to building self-esteem as well as mutual respect.” ensure that you understood correctly. Respond in a way your children will hear. Try to soften your reaction because kids will tune you out if you are angry or defensive. Express your opinion without putting down theirs. Let them know it’s OK to disagree. Focus on your child’s feelings instead of your own during the conversation. According to childdevelopmentinfo.com, children thrive on positive attention. Unfortunately, it’s easier for most parents to provide negative feedback rather than positive feedback. There are some phrases that you can say daily that may find your child paying more attention and trying harder to please. You might try saying yes, good, very good, excellent, wonderful, I like the way you did that, good job, way to go, I’m glad you’re my son/daughter, and I love you. You can also show them how you feel as well as tell them: smile, nod, pat on the shoulder or head, wink, high five, pat on the back, and a big hug! The American Academy of Pediatrics has a list of helpful do’s and don’ts to improve communication no matter what the age. Do: give clear, age-appropriate directions such as, “When we go to the store I expect you to be police and stay with me.” Make sure your child understands what you have said. Praise your child whenever possible. Calmly communicate your feelings. Be truthful. Use your talking times as teachable moments. Model what you want your child to do—practice what you preach! Make sure that when you are upset with your child, he or she knows that it is her behavior that is the problem, not the child. Don’t: Give broad, general instructions such as, “You’d better be good.” Name call or blame. “You are bad” should be replaced with “I don’t like the way you are acting.” Yell or threaten. Lie or tell you child half-truths. Use silence to express strong feelings. Long silences frighten and confuse children. It’s hard to keep your cool in a lot of situations. You need to calm yourself when you feel stressed before a talk with your child. Try to take a few deep breaths very slowly. Wait 5 minutes before starting to talk to your child. Try to find a word to label what you are feeling, such as disappointment. Share your feelings of frustration with your spouse or a friend. Don’t hold grudges. Deal only with the present. Seek professional help if you feel that you have lost control. Lee Tramel is the Assistant Chief Deputy for the Knox County Sheriff ’s Office. During his 26 year career, he also served in the civil warrants division and as Assistant Director of the Court Services Division. Lee is a Knoxville native, where he lives with his wife and 11 year old daughter.

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Knox County Schools PARENT UNIVERSITY “P.E.” (Parent Empowerment) Classes and Community Events Submitted by Tracey Matthews, KCS Supervisor of Family and Community Engagement

November 5-February 28: Sevierville’s Smoky Mountain Winterfest Celebration. To learn more go to www. VisitSevierville.com or call (865) 453-6411. February 5, 7, 12, 14, 19, 21, 26, 28: (two days or evenings are required): “Adult Education Registration/ Orientation” classes are held on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9:30 a.m. – 2:30 p.m. or 4 – 9 p.m. at the Historic Knoxville High School. Once registered, Adult Education Classes take place on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays from 9 a.m. – noon and Tuesdays and Thursdays from 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. For more information, call 594-3622 to sign up for mandatory orientation or visit ae.knoxschools.org. February 5, 7, 12, 14, 19, 21, 26, 28: “Nurturing Parents Classes” are held at the Child & Family Tennessee Building, 901 E. Summit Hill Drive, on Tuesdays 10 a.m. – noon and Thursdays 4 - 6 p.m. This is a 12-hour course in which attendance is mandatory. For more information call 524-7483 ext. 240. February 5, 12, 19, and 26: The Helen Ross McNabb Center presents the “Mother Goose Program.” The Mother Goose program teaches crucial interaction in the formative first steps of an infant’s life. The program has 12 groups each month. The groups will meet on February 7 and 21 at the HRMC’s Children’s and Youth Center, and on February 14 and 28 at the Cokesbury Center from 9 - 11:45 a.m. Each meeting costs only $5 or the option of purchasing a season pass is also available. Call 5238695 for more information. February 2, 9, 16, and 23: “Chess for Kids” meets Saturdays at 2 p.m. at the Knox County Public Library’s Bearden Branch. Children of all ages and skill levels are welcome. Visit knoxlib.org for more details. February 2, 9, 16, and 23: “Saturday Stories and Songs” are held at the Knox County Public Library’s Cedar Bluff Branch and Lawson McGhee location from 10:30 - 11:30 a.m. Join guest storytellers at the libraries to learn songs and stories that both parents and children can enjoy. For more information, please call Lawson-McGhee Library at 215-8750, Cedar Bluff Branch Library at 470-7033 or visit knoxlib.org.

Events for February 2013

February 2, 9, 16, and 23: “Parenting Classes for Divorced Families” are held each Saturday from 9 a.m. – noon at the Child & Family Tennessee Building: 901 E. Summit Hill Drive, Knoxville. This is a 12-hour course consisting of 4 weekly sessions. Call 524-7483 ext. 240 for more information. February 4, 11, 18, and 25: “Fountain City Scrabblers” (all ages) group meets every Monday at 6 p.m. at the Fountain City Branch Library. Join other Scrabble enthusiasts and pit your wits against other word lovers. Visit knoxlib.org for details. February 4, 11, 18, and 25: “Ruff Reading” Bring your children to the Clinton Public Library on Mondays at 3:30 p.m. A live dog will be present for the children to read to (or just to play with). For more information, please visit familyfriendlyknoxville.com. February 4 CPR, February 23, Safe Sitter: East Tennessee Children’s Hospital is providing “CPR and Safe Sitter Classes.” CPR Classes are being offered for teens ages 11-14 on February 4 from 6 - 10 p.m. Safe Sitter Classes are being offered on February 9 and 23 from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. The cost for each class is $25. Call 541-8262 to reserve your spot or visit etch.com for more information. February 5, 12, 19, and 26: “Families Anonymous” is a group of concerned relatives and friends who have faced up to the reality that the problems of someone close to them is seriously affecting their lives. The discussion topics are most often drug and alcohol related, but the floor is open to discussions of any type. This ADULTS ONLY group meets every Tuesday at 7:15 p.m. at Peninsula Lighthouse. For more information, visit faknoxpeninsula.blogspot.com or email PeninsulaFA2@aol.com. February 5, 6, 12, 13, 19, 20, 26, and 27: Knox County Schools’ Adult Education program will provide registration for the “English Language Learners Classes” (formerly ESL at Fountain City United Methodist Church every Tuesday at 9:30 a.m. and 6 p.m. in room 112, and at the Cokesbury Center every Wednesday at 9:30 a.m. in room 112. The classes will take place every Tuesday and Thursday from 9:30 a.m. – noon and 6 – 8:30 p.m. at the Fountain City United Methodist Church, and every Wednesday from 9:30 a.m. – noon at the Cokesbury Center. Contact Nancy Seely at 5943622 or visit ae.knoxschools.org for more information. February 12: “Knox Breastfriends Support Group” This FREE support group for breastfeeding mothers meets on the second Tuesday of every month at the Bearden Branch Library at 6 p.m. and

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Events for February 2013

Archery Camps for kids age 10 - 15 (novice or with skills)

Camps are designed for Junior novice or archers with some experience. Participants will learn the safety rules, basics of archery art, and will play lots of archery games. Organized by Elzbieta Tworek: USA Archery Coach, Level IV

Former member of the Polish Archery National and Olympic Team • Indoor Champion of Southeastern-2012 • Bronze medalist of the US Indoor Nationals-2012

JUNE 03-07, 10-14,17-21, 24-28 & JULY 15-19 All camps take place Monday –Friday at 9:30am-12:00pm in the archery range at Gander Mountain retail store at Turkey Creek/Farragut. Price for one week: $150.00 • Each camp is limited to 10 kids. The coach provides the equipment and professional instructions. For more info call 865-719-7543 or E-mail theolympicarrow@comcast.net TheOlympicArrow.com

on the third Thursday at the Burlington Library at 10:30 a.m. The group always includes snacks, stories, and lots of time for mothers to discuss breastfeeding. Contact Kristin Williams at Kristin@ lisarosscenter.org or 524-4422, for more information. February 5, 12, 19, and 26: “Mom’s Café” This FREE group is for mothers with younger babies who are not yet mobile to just get together and chat about life. The meetings are every Tuesday at 11:00 a.m. Contact Jessica@lisarosscenter.org or call 524-4422 for more information. February 13 and 27: “Mom’s Mother Goose” This FREE workshop takes place at the Lisa Ross Birthing Center every second and fourth Wednesday at 11:30 a.m. The focus is on early brain development through stories, songs, and rhymes. Contact Kristin Williams at Kristin@lisarosscenter.org or 524-4422, for more information. February 12: “Family-to-Family Support Group” hosted by K-Town Youth Empowerment Network. The support group is held on the second Thursday of every month from 6 - 8 p.m. Light dinner will be served. Call 474-6689 for more information. February 16: “Mom’s Group” The Lisa-Ross McNabb Center presents this FREE group for mothers to come together and chat about any topic that comes up from “baby wearing” to cloth diapering. The group meets every 3rd Wednesday at 11:30 a.m. Contact Jessica@ lisarosscenter.org or visit lisarosscenter.org for more information. February 2: “Begin Genealogy” How to begin your family search by using family, governmental, library, and electronic resources is being offered by the East Tennessee History Center. Space is limited to 22 participants. For more information call 215-8809. February 2: “Winter Carnival – Friendship Club” ASA-ETC’s Friendship Club Knoxville is having a Winter Carnival, with games, crafts, food and fun. The carnival is Saturday, February 2, 2013 from noon – 3 p.m. at Farragut Church of Christ Family Life Center, 136 Smith Road, Knoxville, TN 37934. For more information and to RSVP contact Jessie Winston at 804-4110 or Jaana Alumni at uygifts@att.net. February 5: “Knoxville Songwriters” Join area songwriters as they share their work and discuss the craft of songwriting. This event is Tuesday, February 5, at 6 p.m. at the Fountain City Branch Library. February 9: “Grandkids Growing: Bird Brain” February is Wild Bird Feeding Month. The University of

Tennessee Gardens is offering this class to teach about birds and how bird feeders B F can help during the winter months. Attendees will also have the opportunity t to make a bird feeder! The cost is $10 for ( members and $14 for nonmembers. The r F address is 2518 Jacob Drive. For more t information call 974-8265. February 12: “Communication 101 F p Workshop” ASA-ETC is hosting a C FREE Communication 101 Workshop. C This workshop is for parents and providers who work with children who areF nonverbal to early verbal communications.S H This event is being held at United Way of Greater Knoxville, 1301 Hannah Ave., F Knoxville. Advanced RSVP required due c to limited class size. RSVP to: info@asaetc. n S org or 274-5082. 8 February 14: “Home Grown: Freezing Gardens.” This session will t C have activities that touch on science, a math, and reading. Pre-registration is required, and the cost is $5 per student. t The location is 2518 Jacob Drive. Please l call 974-8265 for additional information. i c February 15: “Garden Sprout: M Cherry-O.” February is national M Cherry Month and the University of C Tennessee Gardens is celebrating with a this information packed class! This fun activity-packed class is for children ages p 3 to 5. The cost is $8 for members, and $12 for nonmembers. The location is 2518 Jacob Drive. Please call 974-8265 for additional information. February 18: “Special Education: Five Important Things You Should Know.” This will take place Monday, February 18 at 6 p.m. in the Sarah Simpson Center, Great Room. Call 5949424 to register. February 23: “Garden Buds: Cool Veggies.” Now is a great time to start planning and planting some seeds inside for cool veggie crops! In this class, attendees can plant a few seeds to take home and grow, and also learn some ways to start plants earlier using cold frames and other techniques. This program is for children ages 6 to 9. The cost is $10/members and $14/nonmembers. University of Tennessee Garden located at 2518 Jacob Drive. Can be called at 9748265. February 25: “McClung Museum Stroller Tour.” Museum educators will lead engaging gallery tours for parents and caregivers of their young ones. The event is free, however registration is required. Visit mcclungmuseumstrollertour.eventbright. com to RSVP. The Frank H. McClung Museum is located at 1327 Circle Park Drive. Please call 974-2144 for more information. February 25: “The Bully, The

Bullied, and The Bystander” This a FREE session will take place at 6 p.m., in the Sarah Simpson Center Great Room (801 Tipton Avenue). Call 594-9424 to register. February 27: “Equipping Students to be Competitive for Careers of the Future.” This FREE session will take place at 6 p.m., in the Sarah Simpson Center Great Room (801 Tipton Avenue). Call 594-9424 to register. February 15-17: The Knoxville News Sentinel presents the Dogwood Arts House and Garden Show. The Festival’s mission is to promote and celebrate the region’s arts, culture, and natural beauty. Show hours are Friday and Saturday, February 15 and 16: 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. and Sunday, February 17: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. at the Knoxville Convention Center, 701 Henley Street. Save $1 off admission tickets by purchasing your ticket at an ORNL Federal Credit Union location through February 14. For more information visit dogwoodhouseandgarden. com. March 1: “Safe Sleep with Dr. Michael Warren” – The East Tennessee Council on Children and Youth presents a “Lunch and Learn” from 11:30 a.m. – 2 p.m. at the Family justice Center, 400

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Harriet Tubman. You must register for this FREE event at etccysafesleep-eorg. eventbrite.com. March 2: Put your best foot and your best friend’s paw forward to march in the 6th Annual Mardi Growl Parade and Festival, hosted by Friends of YoungWilliams Animal Center and the City of Knoxville. Proceeds benefit the YoungWilliams Animal Center. The event will be held on Saturday, March 2 ,2013 in Market Square. For more information contact Amy Johnston at 215-6668 or ajohnston@young-williams.org or visit the Young-Williams Animal Center website at young-williams.org.

Other Dates to Remember:

February 4: Board of Education Work Session Meeting February 5: “State of the Schools Address.” Dr. Jim McIntyre, Superintendent of the Knox County Schools, will deliver his second annual

“State of the Schools Address” on Tuesday, February 5 at 6 p.m. at Powell High School (2136 West Emory Road). The event is open to the public. School Board Chair Karen Carson, Knox County Mayor Tim Burchett, and Randy Boyd, Founder and CEO of Radio Systems, will join Dr. McIntyre in sharing their perspectives on public education in our community. February 6: Board of Education Regular Session Meeting February 18: Teacher In-service Day (Student Holiday) February 18: Board of Education MidMonth Meeting

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Knoxville Parent • February 2013

Dear Knox County Schools’ Families

recently had the opportunity to deliver the second annual “State of the Schools Address” to parents, students, staff, and community members across Knox County. It was a wonderful opportunity to place a spotlight on public education and talk about where we’ve been, where we are, and where we aspire to be in the future. Given this edition of Knoxville Parent is focused on teenagers and transitions, I want to highlight the significant academic achievements of our high schools students. For the class of 2012, our official four-year high school graduation rate stands at 90.3 percent. That is a considerable increase from a high school graduation rate of 79.3 percent just five years ago. Freshman academies, graduation coaches, instructional improvement efforts, credit recovery programs, interventions and academic supports for students, and the Dr. Paul L. Kelley Volunteer Academy are having a profoundly positive effect

on our ability to support and facilitate students’ success in high school. What’s even more encouraging is that we have been able to facilitate this increase in our high school graduation rate while also increasing our composite ACT score. While our high school graduation rate improved more than 3 percentage points for the class of 2012, the composite ACT score for our graduates also increased - from a 20.4 to a 20.6. These concurrent achievements reinforce the fact that a greater number of our students are graduating with an even more rigorous high school diploma – better preparing them to enter the job force. Recent unemployment figuresMark put the overall unemployment rate for the United States at 7.8 percent. But that is an aggregate rate, and breaking it down further is very telling. For individuals without a high school diploma, the unemployment rate is 12.3 percent, while for those with a diploma, some post-secondary education, or a bachelor’s degree or beyond, the unemployment rate ranges from about 4 to 8 percent. In closing, one of the best ways to ensure our children have access to good jobs in their future is to make sure they have access to a great education today. I am very proud of all of the progress being made throughout Knox County Schools as we strive to reach our ambitious goal of Excellence for All Children. Please do not hesitate to call us at (865) 594-1800 if we can be of assistance to you, or visit us online at knoxschools. org. Sincerely, Dr. Jim McIntyre Superintendent, Knox County Schools

Knoxville Parent • February 2013

How can I help my teenager with middle and high school math? by Tracey Matthews, KCS Supervisor of Family and Community Engagement

n last year’s February issue, we took a general look at how parents can remain involved and engaged in their teenager’s middle and high school years. This year, let’s take a closer look at one area of high importance: Fear of middle and high School Math! Not our teenagers’ fear, but parents. Middle and High School: Turning Point in Math

“When I was in middle and high school, my parents would get very frustrated when they tried to help me with math, and then they would seem to get mad. I thought they were mad at me for not understanding it right away. I’m sure they were just frustrated because they hadn’t’ taken math for so very long, and I suppose they felt it should have been easier for them.” ~Chelsea Craig, University of Tennessee Graduate, Class of 2012 Well said, Chelsea! I think her experience is shared across many coffee tables each evening, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Disclaimer: We are not going to make you a math genius by the end of this article. However, we hope that by the time you are finished reading this you will feel better equipped and somewhat relieved. Tip #1: It’s Never Too Late! While there is a plethora of websites that can help you help your child with higher math, many assume the user (that’s us) has stayed in tune with what our children are learning at every grade level. Unfortunately, many of us have been unable to keep up with the curriculum with busy afterschool schedules, work, etc. Plus, most adults have found it easy to function just fine using basic math skills with a calculator so “practice” hasn’t been at the forefront of our “to do” list. Here are some helpful tips to remember: • Avoid fertilizing your child’s “I hate math” seed. However, share the fact that math is a challenge for you, as well, if that is true. • Assist your child in uncovering how math is important in everyday uses and applications (i.e., sports statistics, and how it will be important in his/her future college major and/or future career choice.

“Remember, it is okay to not fully understand higher math concepts. This expectation is usually self-imposed. However, if you have the time, it is always good to brush up on your own math skills and even have a “friendly competition” of sorts with your child when it comes to solving grade level math problems.” Tip #2: Learn About the Common Core State Standards One of the best ways to “keep up” with the changes that are taking place with Tennessee’s math curriculum is to learn as much as you can about the Common Core State Standards. Common Core is a set of standards for math and English Language Arts that were developed by state leaders to ensure that every student graduates high school prepared for college or the workforce. The standards are designed to set clear expectations of what students should know in each grade and subject. They reflect rigorous learning benchmarks when compared to countries whose students currently outperform American students on international assessments. By adopting the Common Core, teachers in Tennessee will be able to better learn from and collaborate with teachers in other states, since all teachers will follow a common set of standards. Common Core State Standards will be phased into English Language Arts and math across all grade levels in the coming academic years, with full implementation scheduled for 2013-14. For more information regarding Common Core, please visit tncore.org. Remember, it is okay to not fully understand higher math concepts. This expectation is usually self-imposed. However, if you have the time, it is always good to brush up on your own math skills and even have a “friendly competition” of sorts with your child when it comes to solving grade level math problems. Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Volunteer to stand out By Liza Zenni.

March 30, 2012 study by the National Endowment for the Arts entitled The Arts and Achievement in At-Risk Youth: Findings from Four Longitudinal Studies, Showed the Potential Benefits of Arts Education for At-Risk Youth. It found that at-risk students who have access to the arts in or out of school also tend to have better academic results, better workforce opportunities, and more civic engagement. The study tracked children, teenagers, and young adults who had high or low levels of arts engagement in or out of school. Those activities included coursework in music, dance, theater, or the visual arts; out-of-school arts lessons; or membership, participation, and leadership in arts organizations and activities, such as band or theater. Outside of school, teenagers who want to be active in their community and in the arts can volunteer at any number of organizations throughout Knox County. Whether they’re interested in animals, books, art, media, music, gardening, or pretty much anything else, there may be a job for your teen. Volunteering at the local library or any one of our 20 local museums can help your kid stand out on a college application and give them invaluable experience. Although volunteers don’t get paid, other benefits often come with the position, ranging from free entrance to other arts institutions, special discounts, and invitations to special exhibits and events. For more information

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“Volunteering at the local library or any one of our 20 local museums can help your kid stand out on a college application and give them invaluable experience.” on arts and history organizations in our area visit www.knoxalliance.com. The month of February is rich with arts events that your teen can enjoy for free as a part of the Penny4Arts program. On Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday, February 7-9 when you purchase one adult ticket you may take up to three children for free to the Clarence Brown Theatre’s production of Red. The plot takes you into the mind of abstract expressionist Mark Rothko and chronicles his two-year struggle to complete the largest and most lucrative commission in the history of modern art — a set of dark red murals for Manhattan’s exclusive Four Seasons restaurant. This Tony Award-winning play is a snapshot of a brilliant artist at the height of his fame. Red is hailed as “intense and exciting” by the The New York Times. Appropriate for high school and up. 974-5161. On Sunday, February 10 at 2:30 PM treat your teen to Knoxville Opera’s production of Puccini’s The Girl of the Golden West. This fully-staged opera is in Italian with projected English supertitles above the stage. It features live horses on the stage of the Tennessee Theatre! Saddle up and ride on down to see music that blazes like the California sunset and an opera that even John Wayne would love! Can the Golden Girl win the poker game and save her lover’s life? Up to two students may attend for $0.01 per paying adult. Call 524-0795 x28. Thursday and Friday, February 21-22, at 7:30 PM the Knoxville Symphony Orchestra performs Romance of the Violin. The program includes Dvořák’s Carnival Overture, Howard’s A Village Romance and Sarasate’s Carmen Fantasy. Tchaikovsky’s Symphony No. 3, “Polish” will conclude the program. Up to three children can attend for free with one paying adult. Call 291-3310, Option 4. WDVX-FM Radio presents Kidstuff, a free live music show hosted by Sean McCollough at the Knoxville Visitors Center on Saturday, February 23, 10:0011:00 AM. The show also features the Rockin’ Kidstuff Band with Kevin Abernathy and girl band The Pinksters. Wrapping up a wonderful winter month, take your teen to the Clarence Brown Theatre’s production of A Raisin in the Sun Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday, February 28 - March 2 and March 6-8 at 7:30 PM. The Washington Post said A Raisin in the Sun is “one of a handful of great American plays” and The New York Times called it “a play that changed American theater forever.” Lorraine Hansberry’s play was the first to portray African American characters, themes, and conflicts in a natural and realistic manner on Broadway. Don’t miss this powerful and hopeful portrait of one family’s quest for the American dream during the 1950s. Appropriate for high school and up. Call 974-5161. For more information, visit Penny4Arts.com. Liza Zenni has been with the Arts & Culture Alliance since 2002. She holds a BA in Theater and a MFA in Arts Administration from the Yale School of Drama. From 1990 to 1995 she was Executive Director of Theatre Bay Area, the largest regional theater service organization in North America. She and her two daughters live in Oak Ridge, not far from where she grew up.

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The first step in helping a child get better is helping a child feel better. At Children’s Hospital, providing the best pediatric care starts with creating an environment that’s as pleasant and stress-free as possible. Plus, we’re right here in Knoxville so your child gets world-class treatment without ever being too far from home.

Knoxville Parent • February 2013

Run (or walk) on down to the Knoxville Zoo on March 2! Information provided by Knox County Schools and Knoxville Parent Photo provided by the Run For The Schools Facebook page

ow many races get you face to face with an elephant while you support education in East Tennessee? Just one – the Rusty Wallace Honda Run for the Schools on Saturday, March 2. The Rusty Wallace Honda Run for the Schools features a 5K run/walk and a 100-yard dash in Chilhowee Park and a one-mile family fun walk inside the Knoxville Zoo. The event includes fun for the whole family, with music, refreshments, vendor booths and prizes. All participants even receive a complementary day at the Knoxville Zoo following the race. Day-of registration for the race is 6:30-8 a.m. The 5K run/walk begins at 8 a.m., winding through Chilhowee Park and down Linden Avenue; the one-mile family fun walk begins at 8:15 a.m. After awards are presented at 8:45 a.m., the fun-filled morning will conclude with the 100-yard dash at 9:30 a.m. Kristina Canan, Marketing Specialist with the Knoxville TVA Employees Credit Union and Race Director for Run for the Schools, says that, even though the race has already become the third largest race in Knoxville, it is still really young, and “as we move forward you will see more and more connections between Run for the Schools and local health education initiatives. Proceeds for the Rusty Wallace Honda Run for the Schools benefit local public and private schools in East Tennessee. Students, their families and community members can run for a specific school to raise funds. Schools raise money based on participation in the race, so the more runners for a school, the more money the school receives! Last year, Run for the Schools gave back more than $9,000 back to participating schools in the region. “We want to encourage a healthy lifestyle for East Tennessee students and their families all while helping students raise money for their own schools,” race director Kristina Howard said. “Our goal is to bring schools and their communities together. We want to engage local communities to support their schools.” Pre-registration is through February 22; Students are $10, adults are $20, and children age 2 and under are free. Registration after February 22 is $15 for students and $25 for adults.

For more information or to register for the Rusty Wallace Honda Run for the Schools, visit: http:// runfortheschools.org.

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Unplug early: transitioning to a healthier life by Jeremy Lloyd. Photo by Sue Zupko

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he evidence is in: when young people don’t spend time outdoors in unstructured play, it is bad for them and bad for society. Conversely, the more time they spend outside the better it is for them and for society. In case you believe this isn’t a very pressing issue, think again. Outdoor play among American children has declined by 50% over the last two decades, and the results have been disastrous. Lack of physical activity in children has led to skyrocketing obesity and obesity-related diseases including Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, asthma, liver disease, vitamin D deficiency, osteoporosis, stress, depression, and attention deficit disorder. Startlingly, the lifespan of many of today’s youth may be

shorter than that of their parents. One main reason is that we are vastly more “plugged in” as a culture today compared with only a generation. According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, children spend an average of six and half hours per day using television, computers, DVD players, and mp3 players. Eight to ten-year olds spend an average of four hours a day watching TV. This translates to well over forty hours a week, or the equivalent of a full-time job. This disturbing trend even caught the attention of Congressman Jimmy Duncan, when he discussed technology addiction in his August 2012 Legislative Update. There are real world consequences to this for you and me. Costs related to childhood obesity before long could reach $100 billion annually. Economywatchers should be concerned for other reasons as well. Fewer people spending time outdoors means fewer dollars feeding outdoor retail sales, a $730 billion a year industry. Spending less time with electronic devices is only part of the answer. The key is to get outside in nature and engage in more unstructured playtime. Doing this may require a certain amount of “letting go” on the part of parents. It will mean coming to grips with potential risks such as stranger danger, traffic, liability, bites and stings. All too often parents use these as an excuse to keep their children indoors where it is “safe.” But in the long run, the greater risk is not allowing kids to explore the outdoors. Study after study has shown the benefits to children from contact with the outdoors and nature. Kids are better able to concentrate in school, attain better grades, maintain normal weight, and sleep better. Further benefits include healthy brains which leads to emotional, cognitive and social development. The risks for obesity, depression, attentional and anxiety

“Eight to ten-year olds spend an average of four hours a day watching TV. This translates to well over forty hours a week, or the equivalent of a full-time job.” disorders decrease sharply. “Time in nature is not leisure time; it’s an essential investment in our children’s health,” writes Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods. It’s of course also an investment in the future of our country and natural resources. A healthy nation depends on healthy individuals after all. So go outside and take a child with you. Go for a walk in the woods. Plant a garden. Count squirrels. Fish, hunt and mess around in the dirt. Encourage your local school to create and utilize outdoor teaching spaces. Sponsor a child at summer camp. The ideas are endless. Do one or more of these things and you’ll be doing a future generation of Americans a huge favor.

Jeremy Lloyd has taught environmental literacy at Great Smoky Mountains Institute at Tremont since 1996. He is the author of A Home in Walker Valley: The Story of Tremont as well as Great Smoky Mountains Pocket Guide and Journal.

Jessica’s New Future

Knoxville Parent • January 2013

“You can be anything you want to be?”

A few years ago, Jessica Demby was struggling. After graduating from high school Jessica tried by Barry Van Over college, but soon realized it wasn’t for her. Jessica did not know hen parents want to encourage their children what to do and felt she had run about finding a career they often say, “You can out of options. All she knew wasbe anything you want to be.” Is it a lie? Absolutely! that living at home and making The truth is, if you’re 4’9, you will probably minimum wage was not what shenever play in the NBA. You teach someone all the basketball you want, but if they do not match up wanted.

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Now, in less than two years she’stechniques and practice in the world will not allow doubled her salary, has paid vacations and and is truly enjoying her this goal to holidays, become reality. work every day. Further it is also true that we have more in the United States than just about Whatopportunities did she do?

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Knoxville Parent • February 2013

A special bond by Paul Metler, Ph.D.

lthough it has been nearly four years, I can remember making the trip to Children’s Hospital like it was yesterday. It was a Sunday afternoon in February when I checked my son’s blood sugar with my monitor. As soon as I saw the result, I knew what it meant. Nick’s blood sugar was very high. I recognized the symptoms and understood the reading because of my history as a Type I diabetic. Diagnosed as a child, I have been a diabetic for over forty years. Diabetes care has changed dramatically since I was a child. There were no electronic meters then. But, I still remember hearing the news that I needed to go to the hospital. As a seven year old I understood what it meant to be a diabetic because I watched my older brother take his shot every morning. He was diagnosed at sixteen months. As my wife Lynn, Nick and I walked into Children’s Hospital my mind raced in two directions at the same time. Memories flooded in. I couldn’t help but remember how I felt when I was walking into the very same hospital. I remember how I began to wrestle with the prospect of taking a shot every day. I knew what it was like walking into the hospital as a child. Now I was discovering what it was like to be the father. In the moment, my thoughts were shifting back and forth between the past and the future. I wondered how Nick was feeling. How will diabetes affect Nick’s future? My mind raced forward to the responsibilities that Nick faced ahead. In his book, Summoned to Lead, author Leonard Sweet suggests, “Crisis doesn’t make a person. It reveals you for what you are. You don’t know who someone is until adversity comes. It shows the cracks, and the cracks are where God leaks through”. I began to realize how I had been blessed with parents who allowed God to “leak through” in their care, encouragement and guidance when I was a child. Now it was my turn. To be sure, fatherhood is an adventure. That’s an understatement. It stretches me. It is filled with creative tension. Not every father experiences Type I diabetes with a son. However, all fathers do experience unexpected trials. Life is a constant mix of past, present and future. What we do with that “mix” shapes our fatherhood. If I am wise and I muster the courage to do so, I will reach back and glean from past experiences, both good and bad and take the time to share them with Nick. If I am honest about those experiences, Nick will learn as much from my integrity as he will from my words. Those times of sharing are irreplaceable opportunities to speak encouraging words into his “present” life. Most dads recognize how quickly those opportunities can slip away and how difficult authenticity can be. But the rewards are worth the risk. As valuable as it is to reflect, it is equally important to look ahead. When Nick and I talk about what the future holds, it is both exciting and unnerving to gaze toward the horizon together. As a father, I am blessed to be a part of Nick’s transformational passage toward maturity. None of us is able to see the potential in our children with the clarity and precision that God possesses. Paul Metler, Ph.D. serves as senior pastor of Heritage Fellowship Church and is a board member of Christian Academy of Knoxville. He and his wife Lynn have been married for 24 years and have one son, Nick.

“Later he asked, ‘Daddy, why does time go so slow at daycare but it goes really fast when I’m playing with you?’” But, it is not my responsibility to “know” Nick’s future. Instead, we prepare for the future together. I take comfort in the wisdom of the Proverbs. The Proverbs describe the importance of discipline and a willingness to deposit wisdom into Nick’s heart. As Nick’s physical stature has increased, it is most gratifying to see the development of his heart and his character. It’s hard for me to believe that Nick is a sophomore at Christian Academy of Knoxville. I am so proud of Nick. Balancing diabetes with a busy schedule of church activities, academics and high school basketball is not easy. All the clichés about time are true. But rather than complain about how quickly the days pass, I hope I will choose to be a wise steward of the opportunities that God provides in each season of life. Truly, every day is a gift.

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The Teen Years: Searching for the 30-Foot Wave By Liz Stucke, owner of LS Admissions Prep

eens at an elite prep school in Connecticut got more than they bargained for when they set off for a 3-week educational cruise to Antarctica. The excursion delivered on its promise to see nature close up. In addition to seeing elephant seals, king penguins, albatross and whales, they also witnessed the immense power of the sea. According to the NewYork Times, while the cruise ship was heading south towards Antarctica they ran into a storm, which produced a 30-foot wave crashing down on the ship and smashing the bridge’s windows injuring the captain and a few crew. While the students were uninjured, it was undoubtedly a very frightening experience, even more so for parents back home. One mother expressing her relief that her son was fine looked on the bright side. “She told him when he left to be on the lookout for a college essay idea. Now, she said, he has one.” Teens across the world can identify with that last statement. The Common Application, used by many colleges, asks students to “evaluate a significant experience, achievement, risk you have taken, or ethical dilemma you have faced and its impact on you.” I work with many students that struggle with the word significant. Significant in their and in many parents’ minds looks

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