Deputy Head Mary Stanford 1938 – 2022

your Mum in school! LEH played a huge part in her life, and she devoted many years to the school. Mum was an excellent teacher and inspired lots of young women to follow their dreams.”

Retired LEH Geography teacher Chris Dapre says: “Mary was a very assured teacher with a great sense of humour who had high expectations but made the subject fun. Her positive approach to everything and her admirable work/life balance made her an ideal colleague.

“She was an enthusiastic sailor and was a great help with the fledgling sailing club which had been set up when the school had been given a couple of boats. It was the school’s first foray into water sports and eventually led to the rowing club and the prowess which LEH now has in that field.”

Alumna, retired Chemistry teacher and former fellow Deputy Head Trish White, Class of 1955, says: “I shall remember Mary with affection and gratitude. She and I were appointed Joint Deputy Heads by Liz Candy in 1981. Mary concentrated on the timetabling and I on the pastoral side. Mary was always efficient yet thoughtful and was great as a member of the Senior Team, always consulting with colleagues yet pursuing innovations with vigour.

Shirley followed him on the Queen Mary with their two children Claire and Christopher and 12 pieces of luggage. Once settled, she joined the Presbyterian Church, sang in the choir, got her degree and teaching credentials from the small but prestigious Christopher Newport University and taught Middle School English. Shirley and James divorced but they both stayed in Virginia. Claire lives in Virginia and Chris and his two boys Rory and Ewan live in California.

“On a lighter note, she appeared in a Sixth Form pantomime at the end of a Christmas term as Batman, with me as Robin. This probably says much. Mary retired from the post before I did in 1995 and Lesley Hazel succeeded her. Mary and her husband, Ed, both moved to Suffolk.”

On retirement Mary decided to take a degree in Fine Art with the Open University. She was in her element debating with others and critiquing the Old Masters. She and Ed moved to Woodbridge and quickly established themselves as key members of the local community.

They resumed their love of travel by visiting the Galapagos Islands, Antartica, Botswana and travelled extensively in Europe.

Beckie adds: “Mum always lived life to the full. Few will forget her laughter, often until she cried, the sense of humour, her artistic abilities and her kindness, combined with her ability to bring people together. She was much loved and will be sorely missed.”

Following another twist of fate, she crossed paths again with her childhood sweetheart Colin Jones. Following the death of his LEH wife Jan Hollands and being an American Civil War buff, Colin decided to visit some of the Civil War sites. Shirley met him at the airport. They were married for 10 years. We remember Shirley – blond, blue-eyed, upbeat, and smiling.