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table of contents

Volume 6

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20 We are always searching

for the Palm Beach Woman

Debbie Berman is that and so much more.

Photography: Brett Tyler Brett@bretttylerstudios.com

Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Insideâ&#x20AC;Ś life is beautiful

6 RED The color of the season

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8 Skincare 101

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runway report

10 Savoia

live better

16 Five Ways to Ensure You Receive an Excellent Massage

Letter from the publisher

Dear Friends: Wow, what a time it has been. With challenges came opportunities. With sorrow came light. But nevertheless, It has been a long road. There are moments when we swear we have everything we want. We are happy. We are invincible. We are seeing things so clearly. And then there are moments when we realize time goes by and things can change and there’s really nothing more we can do but go on living life fully. At the same time, we have laughed. We have found new opportunities and made new friends. We have changed and we have just let things be. Here we are. It is a new day. Thankful. Blessed. A life of someone who has survived thus far, who has the battle scars and wounds to show for it, but has found a way to deal with those battle scars and wounds. What I know is this, and it’s both nothing and everything. There is grace. I have embraced it all and let the things and situations go that need no paying any mind to. It’s funny how a life changing circumstance can bring that forth so fast. I’ve always known this, of course. We all do. We live our lives either running away from or running to something. Until that one moment you have no choice but to be in the now. So now is the new now. Living in the moment as they say. We are excited about the future. Woohoo as I say! Welcome Candace, our new Editor. Terri our amazing Art Director. And a whole new team of great people. We are evolving with plans that are great for all of us and all of you. As we move forward we will be embracing our own changes and being in the moment with you…our readers…our partners…our friends. So all there is to do, right at this very moment is take a breath and move forward with purpose.You can do the same. Ask this of yourself. If not you, who? If not now, when? Blessings,

Lauren Malis

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Letter from the editor

Dear Friends, Exactly who or what is a Palm Beach Woman? First, allow me to introduce myself, I’m Candace Rojas and am honored to be the Editor of Palm Beach Woman Magazine. This wonderful new opportunity has led me to ask the aforementioned thought-provoking question. After much reflection and deliberation, my answer can be found in YOU, a multidimensional, multicultural & multigenerational woman. She is a smart and sophisticated lady who radiates light and beauty. Wife-Lover-MotherDaughter-Friend-CEO-Entrepreneur-Volunteer-Role Model-Homekeeper-Student-Dreamer-Inventor-ArtistCaretaker-Teacher....which one of these titles define you? I know, probably all of them! Despite our individuality, it’s our commonalities, differences, challenges, and desires, along with our magical geographical location that manifest our bond. Every woman desires to create a meaningful life and impact her community. In this and future issues of Palm Beach Woman Magazine you can expect lifestyle stories of local heroes, world-changers and history-makers. My goal as Editor is to leverage the media platform and provide quality content that is authentic, innovative, informative and edgy. I will embrace digital and social media components which will further engage our readers while continuing with the traditional printed publication. Building long-term business collaborations and creating exclusive incentives for our partners and readers is crucial. Partnering with nonprofits to help further their mission of awareness and impact and to encourage a spirit of volunteerism are my highest priorities. It is a privilege to be positioned as Editor of Palm Beach Woman Magazine. Thank you for your readership and I can’t wait to see you around town! Blessings,

Candace Rojas Editor@palmbeachwoman.com

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What’s Inside…

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24 5 Steps for a Drama Free Life

Publisher Lauren Malis

28 Doing Business the Eleanor Roosevelt Way

Editor Candace Rojas

30 Which Social Media Platform is Best for Your Business?

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32 Palm Beach Influential Women

International Editor Emine Dilek

enhancing lives

36 H ow Women Find Their Authentic Philanthropic Voice

step up to the plate

38 Farm to Table

bevology

42 Bubbles & Bourbon

day tripping

44 Mt. Dora

destinations

46 A First Timer’s Love Letter to Toronto

home design

50 The Newly Renovated Colony Hotel, Palm Beach Island

cult-ure

56 Books & Music

high society

58 High Society A List

61 Palm Beach I Do's

mark my words

62 Survive

Art Director Terri Herzfeld Contributing Writers Lea Black, Kathleen Brady, Michael Cinque, Margaret May Damen, Emine Dilek, Elysze Held, Debra K, Betsy Kent, Jennifer Lawrence, Lauren May Malis, Josephine May, Gary Michaels, Jamie Morris, Nancy Munro, Michele Savoia, Eric Stephenson Contributing Photographers Rick Gomez, Corby Kaye, Mario Munoz, Brett Tyler, Adam Sanders, Nicki Toblonski, Don Seidman Sales and Marketing Dee May, Laura Josephs, Dilena Abreau, Ilianna G For pricing and deadline information with regards to advertising with Palm Beach Woman magazine, email us at lauren@palmbeachwoman.com. Palm Beach Woman, published four times a year, is a publication focusing on lifestyle, culture and business. We want to hear from you! Email all news, editorial submissions, article topic suggestions and ideas to Editor@palmbeachwoman.com. Your email must include your name, address and a telephone number so that we can contact you.We reserve the right to select which submissions are published and to edit all submissions prior to publishing. 2014 by Palm Beach Woman magazine, Savvy Woman Media Group, LLC, a Delware based company. All rights reserved. Palm Beach Womans magazine is a publication supported solely by our advertisers and distributed throughout Palm Beach County and other areas. Palm Beach Woman magazine called “publisher” hereafter does not necessarily endorse the views expressed in the articles and advertisements. Advertisers are solely responsible for the contents of advertising; including photos, images, artwork and all creative works submitted for publications. All advertisers must agree to protect and indemnify 'publisher” against any and all legal action. This includes any and all liability, loss or expense arising from claims of liable;unfair competition; unfair trade practice; infringement of trademarks; trade names; patents; copyrights; violations of rights of privacy and any other claims accepted for publication in the journals. We apologize for any misprint(s) or error(s) found within any editorials. Our contributing writers are responsible for the information and facts given to Palm Beach Woman and Savvy Woman Media Group, LLC.

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SKIN CARE 101 tips from the skin authority By Debra K.

always wear sunscreen; though have found that, after summer, there are extra freckles and gasp… age spots. For advice, I turned to skin care expert Celeste Hilling. Hilling is the CEO and Founder of Skin Authority, which is a brand that I use. According to Celeste, you might be using too many products. She suggests you can save time and money by simplifying to no more than three to four steps in the morning and at night. “In the morning, you need a mild gel cleanser, an anti-oxidant such as Vitamin C and a sunscreen moisturizer. Before going to bed, use resurfacing ingredients such as AHAs and retinols in addition to restorative peptides,” advises Celeste. Another way to achieve optimal skin health is to exfoliate. Regular exfoliation speeds up the cell turnover process which actually allows the body to produce moisture. Exfoliation also helps to plump the skin by churning up elastin and collagen production. Celeste recommends using a natural resurfacing agent such as glycolic acid to gently dissolve dead skin cells on the surface.

A couple more tips for optimal skin care health:

q Cost Per Ounce – “Shop for skin care the way that you shop for food, by looking at the cost per ounce. When you see a product that is $20 for .2 of an ounce, multiply and see that it’s actually $100 for one ounce… not a great deal. Instead, visit spas and salons. What you’ll find is that spa- and salon-quality products are a bargain as they include complimentary consultations with licensed experts,” urges Celeste.

q Concentrate on Concentrations – After evaluating the ounces, concentrate on the concentrations. “Take a look at the active ingredients and ensure that any treatment product has a pH below four. The human skin ranges from 4.5-5.5 pH. A product should be below the pH level of the skin for maximum penetration. Otherwise, you might as well be using water!”

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Photographed by: Nicki Toblenski

Savoia

By: Lauren May Malis

e looked out of place. He was so While here in Florida he looked at me one incredibly dapper. Dressed to the nines day- and said, “Babe, (he called both his female and in a throwback type of suit while eating a slice male friends by this) what is with the color you leaning at a pizza window on 7th and A in the East are wearing?” I had on a pink jacket. I replied, “I Village. I did a triple take. He noticed. He smiled. live in Florida now.” He began a long dissertation He yelled out, nice look. I was wearing a vintage on style and that I was black and white, cream and leather sheared fur and leather trench with worn just maybe a little navy. By no means, was I ever out jeans and black frye boots. I smiled, waved to wear a colored jacket. Ever. Maybe a little color and turned the corner. So random- but that is why under the jacket. Enough said. He was right. For we love NYC. I told my friend I just saw a man me, black is the new black. I could hear him now, from the 1940’s and laughed. She said, “Oh that Babe, Please, please just listen to me. Photographed by: Adam Sanders was probably Savoia the Tailor.” As he was known A year ago, I asked Savoia to write a column. to many. She said he was going to be part of the show we were WHAT WE SHOULD ALL HAVE AS KEY PIECES. He was working working on for Fashion Week. I love how the universe works. A on it. It’s been long overdue. Last February during the last day of week later I was in his bespoke haberdashery in the East Village. The NewYork Fashion Week, Savoia went missing. Most of us thought he shop was more like something out of a movie set. It was filled with dashed away to AC or Vegas.We figured, he would call in a few days. men’s fashions, suits, shirts, pants and jackets all perfectly made. He didn’t.The search became what I can only imagine as frantic. And lots of accessories like one of a kind cuff-links and vintage stop You see, Savoia lived on the Hudson in a restored 50 foot plus boat, watches and such. He made suits for CEO’s, Wolves of Wall Street named FOREVER. He slipped and fell getting on that wintery and for Movie Stars. Celebrities like DeNiro, Mickey Rourke and February night and drowned. Dressed to the nines, that is how he was The Cast of the Sopranos to name a few. He was also a fabulous found. He was loved. A lot. Personally, I don’t think he knew how costume designer for various shows on Broadway. And a teacher at much. From his Bankers, FIT Students, stars of screen and the Great FIT. I decided, we had to be friends. White Way to the various people he collected over the years, myself He had quite the personality and a long catalogue of stories. Really good stories. As friends, we dined on Italian, drank red wine, shopped the flea markets, talked fashion design, shared stories and laughed..alot. Once when I was producing the Miss New York USA Pageant, I knew he would be my prefect judge- a task he took so seriously that he also insisted on making the winners interview outfit for Miss USA. Every so often he would venture out from downtown and come for Sunday Dinner at my Upper East Side apartment. And every time he would rearrange my place. It was always better. He had the touch. When I moved to Florida we stayed in touch by phone mostly and my visits to NYC or his visits to Miami.When I was working on the event for The Finale of the Sopranos, I could not think of a better person to bring in for the red carpet commentary with the cast. One, he knew them, two he dressed some of them and three, he would come in all Mobbed up- a term for dressed to the detail. And he did. It was the event. And he worked that red carpet flawlessly.

included. He touched us all. He was one cool cat.We are lucky for knowing him and blessed to have spent time with his heart. His spirit lives on in his daughter Gabby and his friends like Felix, Kevin and Juli (GF at the time) And now here on these pages.

THE LIST A Black Pencil Skirt A Black Cocktail dress A Crisp White Shirt The Perfect Black Pump Perfect fitting Black Blazer A leather Bomber Jacket Black Skinny Pants White wife beaters White Jeans Perfect Fitting Jeans Silk Cami’s in various colors (to be worn under the black leather jacket or blazer)

Black Ballet Flats Cream and black cashmere sweaters Diamond Stud earrings A Great Handbag (money well-spent) A pashmina – color allowed, although he preferred cream Pearls A Really Good watch A black gown- because eventually you will need to go to a black tie And a pair of black boots.

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“Don’t be into trends. Don’t make fashion own you, but you decide what you are, what you want to express by the way you dress and the way you live.” –GianniVersace

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Five Ways to Ensure You Receive an Excellent Massage By Debra K.

tress is a fact of life and it can make us nuts. To keep from pulling out their hair (or someone else’s), more people than ever before are turning to massage therapy for stress reduction. Proof in the numbers: the American Massage Therapy Association estimates the U.S. massage industry at $10 billion. That figure is driven by the roughly 35-million adults (16 percent) who have had a massage at least once.

o Increased circulation, which allows

Think back to your very first massage. What was going through your mind? Regardless of how vocal you are typically, once you find yourself lying nude and face down on a massage table, you may find it challenging to communicate your needs. There is a power differential that exists and it is up to you to communicate to the therapist so they are aware of your needs throughout the massage. Eric Stephenson, Director of Education for imassage, Inc. says, “Massage is a dance.This popular analogy is often used to illustrate the dynamic, spontaneous nature of communication between client and therapist. For it to be a fluid, successful exchange, both parties must give and receive feedback”.

o Stimulation of your body’s natural defense

The following concerns come from hundreds of conversations with clients over the years and are especially beneficial to remember:

No longer viewed solely for pampering, massage offers a non-invasive, drug-free approach to wellbeing and allows the body to heal itself. Some of the benefits received from regular massage are: more oxygen and nutrients to reach your vital organs. system, which helps increase cells that fight off inflammation.

o Tension release in sore or tired muscles. o Endorphins are released, which are your body’s natural anti-depressant.

As the Natural Health Explorer for the show Journey intoWellbeing and co-owner of WellWorld Group., a spa education and consulting company, I have spent a great deal of time with massage therapists as well as with their clients. Through our interactions, some themes have emerged that seem to be the reasons for dissatisfaction with the service. It’s important to address these concerns; after all, if you plan on paying between $60-120 for a massage, you should enjoy it. Whether you are a newbie or have been experiencing the healing benefits of massage for some time, there are some surefire ways a massage can end up creating - instead of relieving - stress. It is up to you, as the client, to ensure you 16

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1. Nudity. Research from the International Spa Association (www.experienceispa.com) shows nudity to be the No. 1 fear of massage clients. Therapists receive training on how to properly drape their clients, but all will have different styles and, sometimes, draping can become careless. If, at any time during the massage, you feel exposed or uncomfortable, simply ask the therapist to adjust the drape or adjust it yourself. This also protects the therapist, as it only takes one complaint due to inattentiveness to lead to the loss of their license. 2. Too much or not enough pressure. Within the first portion of your massage, the therapist should always check in with you on pressure. This is your opportunity to guide the rest of the massage. Instead of answering “Uhhuh”, clearly state your needs: “Actually you can apply more pressure” or “I’m ok if you lighten up just a bit”. If your needs change during the massage or their pressure changes, just ask for them to adjust accordingly. Most are very willing to accommodate this request and want you to enjoy the service.

If your therapist does not check in with you on pressure, clearly ask if they can change their technique if what they are doing does not work for you. 3. I didn’t get what I wanted. One of the top complaints expressed by clients is that they didn’t get what they wanted from the massage. During the intake portion, you have the opportunity to express your desires. Don’t miss out on this by saying everything is fine. Be specific with what you want. For example, “I would like an extra 15 minutes of work on my feet and shins to help alleviate pain from running.” Or “I prefer medium pressure and would like to add in a scalp massage.” If you make a request at the beginning of the session and the therapist has not worked the area you requested, halfway through the session, you can remind them about the problem area. Client requests made during the intake process are part of getting an agreement for how the session will unfold. The therapist’s job is to listen to your needs and deliver upon them. 4. Lack of presence. At times, we all get busy and distracted while at work. But, when a massage therapist is checked out, this can really lessen the value of a treatment. Most clients look forward to their massage, and there is nothing worse than having a therapist who is thinking about what they will have for dinner while they work with you... or even worse, mindlessly chatting through the entire session. Massage may be the only time during that month (or year, but I hope it’s not that long!) that you get to just relax. Also, on that note, communicate early-on if you would prefer a quiet session. 5. I need recommendations. A professional recommendation is a crucial part of the massage experience and one that is often missed. If your therapist does not offer insight into your condition or recommend a time to return, ask during the end of the session what they noticed and what they would recommend. Next time, ensure you have a great massage session by confidently asking for the type of massage you wish and not hesitating to communicate during the session. About Debra K. - As the host of The Journey into Wellbeing television show, Debra K. uncovers the secrets to living a high-energy, vibrant life. Have a show idea? Send it to dk@journeyintowellbeing.com. She hopes the stories highlighted will inspire your health transformation. Debra is also the author of the business book, “Success from the Start”, and co-founder of the production company, Well World Productions, which brings organization’s stories to life. More about Debra’s Journey can be found on Facebook at The Journey into Wellbeing with Debra K.

Masterful hands execute precision skin care and all treatments are delivered with a passion for perfection.

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Complimentary Champagne and cupcakes. An on-site Mixologist who creates Scrub Kits using fresh ingredients. Hanging chairs suspended above a reflection pond. Rubber ducks. This is not your average spa. Eau Spa, located in EAU PALM BEACH Resort & Spa, is where high-tech meets high-touch and “me time” is the only priority. It’s where you step away from the burden of life and into a magical wonderland. It’s where you light a candle and make a wish, and where you listen to chill Ibiza beats in an open-air adult playground as a heated waterfall massages your neck, back and shoulders. Managed by a team of “smart, stylish and extremely dedicated” women, Eau Spa encourages you to pause, play and perfect, Spa Director Catherine Warren says. “We welcome individual personalities and our team reflects that.”

“Take a minute for yourself, lounge in our fountains and emerge feeling gorgeous and sexy,” Warren says. “It’s all about luxury, fun and not judging yourself.”

Recovery,” a majestic experience that includes a soothing foot scrub and paraffin wrap following by a head neck and shoulders massage that ends with a 30 minute foot massage.

It’s also about cheeky “lucky ducks” that serve as your tour guide on a wet, sometimes wild adventure of being spoiled silly. Warren’s handpicked team has worked together to create a unique concept with rubber ducks dressed for different occasions playfully placed throughout the spa.

Eau Spa, winner of the SpaFinder Reader’s Choice Awards in 2012 for Best Beach Spa, Best for Weddings, Best for Girlfriend Getaways and Best Interior Design, is a whimsical and flirtatious place where guests come to spend the whole day.

Guests of Eau Spa are offered a selection of signature treatments in which masterful hands execute precision skin care and all treatments are delivered with a passion for perfection. It is luxury that defines the Eau Spa experience. Take for example, the “One Love Facial,” where you duck in for a decadent 90 minute treatment in which our masterful Estheticians customize everything based on your personal needs; or “The Royal

Warren, who has worked in spas all over the country, says Eau Spa is the one that finally got it right. “It’s not preachy or new age. You don’t come here to lose weight or meditate. You come here to be self-indulgent and luxurious,” Warren says. “This spa is as close to perfect as you’ll find.” _____________________________________ For more information about Eau Spa at EAU PALM BEACH Resort & Spa, call 561-540-4960 or visit www.eauspa.com.

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he is savvy, ambitious, a hard working lady with ideas to implement. Beautiful on the inside and giving.

Debbie Berman is that and so much more. Not to mention she is in-tune with her body, mind and spirit and quite gorgeous. You are very accomplished and obviously, dedicated and driven. Tell me about your childhood. My Parents always taught me to be independent and always encouraged me to pursue my goals, whatever it is. If there is something I want to accomplish or learn I go after it. Where does that drive come from? Where are you originally from and/or grew up? I actually grew up in Margate Fl in a middle class Italian family. My family is originally from NewYork. What were your parents like and how did they influence you? My parents have always been hardworking people. In fact my dad just recently retired at the age of 72! He didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to stop! My mom started her own business recently as well.

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Photography: Brett Tyler

What was the initial attraction to a boutique owner? Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve always loved fashion and would picture myself having my own store.

professionals in the community. And I am hosting events at my store which partial sales proceeds go to the charity. It allows me to give back and I think that is important in anything that you do.

How did you meet your husband? When were you married? Ted and I met through a mutual friend we lived not far from one another and would always see each other out.We got married on December 31, 2012. You have great taste. Who is your customer? Fashion forward man/women who want to set the trends. My store is more of a LA look What was the drive to go into new business ventures? I’ve always been a hard worker but finding that fulfillment was hard for me. So I wanted to get fulfillment and accomplishment from my career. I like to look back and say wow that was awesome I can’t believe I did that all by myself!

Folks have become obsessed with fashion, myself included, what are some of the simple and not so simple things ladies and guys can do to look good? You can have a very basic black shirt and jeans and throw on a statement necklace or belt and you have a totally different outfit. So, we are on a budget, what items can we use that we may already have? Jeans, Black skinny pants, white shirt. Add a black blazer and some statement pieces of jewelry. Also, every gal needs a Little Black Dress. The items we MUST have in our closets? Black jeans or black blazer will always be your best friend Can you mix and match styles designs, textures? Yes! If you do it the right way, it goes What is next for you? I would love to have a second store or even my own brand line… we’ll see!

What aspect of it do you like best? Helping customers look and feel good about themselves! And I love hearing them say that was the most fun they ever had shopping. I love that. You have a fitness background. Tell us about that. And give us some tips please!! I started dancing at the age of 4 and never stopped. Fitness and ballet are in my blood. Its my passion and I can’t live without it. I started competing because I wanted to challenge myself more so I did my first show and won.Then a year later I became an IFBB Pro which I’m very proud of because its a lot of hard work that goes into that title. I’m currently taking a break because we want to start a family but I will be up on that stage again one day. What is an average day? My day starts at 5:30 with a workout, then its work all day! I’m pretty sure when I was dreaming of my boutique when I was younger I didn’t know about how many things there are to juggle! But its fun. What do you do for fun? Any organizations/ charities that you are involved with? If yes, which ones and why these in particular? I am a member of the Boca Chamber as well as the Woman’s Executive Club. I really enjoy networking and meeting different types of

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5 steps for a

Drama Free Life By Eric Stephenson

ention the word â&#x20AC;&#x153;Dramaâ&#x20AC;? and most people immediately relate. We all have people, places and things in our personal and professional lives which drain our time, money and energy. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d like to share five approaches for ditching the drama around you- once and for all.

I define drama as: a voluntary behavior that creates negative emotions or outcomes, draining resources of time, money and harmonious relationships. First and foremost, creating a drama free life begins with the realization that all of the drama in your life begins and ends with you- a difficult reality for many of us to accept. But until that statement becomes an absolute truth, drama will continue to follow you, tempting you to blame it on external people, events and circumstances. Our culture feeds on drama: nightly news, pop magazines and reality television generate a ton of it. Here are five steps for ditching drama:

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Practice “Unconditional Positive Regard” for yourself and others. Psychologist Carl Rogers coined this term as a way of relating to the self and others. All too often, our judgments and stereotypes limit our ability to accept other human beings and treat them with respect. Unconditional Positive Regard is an overall acceptance of another human being, regardless of their political views, sexual orientation, religious affiliation, or any other factor that may lead us to prejudice. This general outlook of acceptance is communicated through our thoughts, feelings, words and most importantly, our non-verbal communication. Ever felt judged by someone without them ever saying a sword to you? Research shows that as much as 80% of our communication in non-verbal. Our body language says a lot. In addition, a review conducted by researcher, Margaret Kemeny (UCLA) of over 200 studies examining stress and cortisol, found that being negatively evaluated, especially by someone of importance or interest to you is the most important variable that elevates cortisol in our blood during a stressful event. In other words, what causes our greatest increase in cortisol release is not having too much to do, or feeling the pressure of deadlines, but how negatively judged we feel by others.

earn to recognize L what hooks you into drama. Your mother has just asked you for the third time this month: “When are you going to give me a grandchild?

This statement causes you to see red and blow smoke out of your years. I call this the “big fat worm on the fishhook”. Each of us has certain buttons that get pushed by family members, coworkers, even complete strangers. Once these are pressed, it often sends us into a reactive state that finds us entering the “fight or flight” part of the nervous system. New scientific brain research shows that information first enters our brain through an almond sized organ called the amygdala. The amygdala has an enormous influence on our reaction to events that stress us and cause drama. If we are constantly in a reactive state to the events around us that cause drama, our amygdala can hijack our body’s response and our thoughts, words and actions can quickly trigger the fight or flight response. We become on the one hand- aggressive, combative or on the other hand- evasive or unable to effectively address conflict. There’s good news! By becoming aware of when our amygdala is lit up, we can learn to watch our reaction and choose how we will respond to our triggers. Simply by taking a few deep breaths in the midst of an amygdala hijack, you send a different signal to your nervous system, hopefully allowing you to choose the most appropriate response.

Practice

non-reactivity. There are countless opportunities to react to events, opinions, and activities that those around you engage in. Simply scroll down on any on-line discussion forum or controversial Facebook feed to see how quickly humans can disagree with each other and the short distance to truly harmful

language pointed towards those that disagree with our views. As I mentioned above, becoming aware of what hooks us is the first step in choosing what garners our attention and response. Maybe the driver who just honked at me to hurry through the green light doesn’t need to be responded to with my middle finger. Maybe the Facebook status that disagrees with my view on immigration policy doesn’t need my input- especially when it involves family or friends. Learn to sit a few out and avoid the drama. M ake clear agreements and manage them accordingly. We make agreements in all arenas of life. Marriage is an agreement between lovers. Employment is an agreement between employer and employee. Anytime we enter into relationship with a role in our life, it comes with both written and unwritten agreements. One of the best pieces of business advice I have ever gotten is the adage: “Manage agreements, not personalities.” The truth is, most of us end up in relationships where we attempt to manage or change the other’s personality. Personality for some can change from day to day, causing all sorts of personal and professional drama. Clearly defined agreements stay pretty consistent, with occasional renegotiations.

People who thrive on drama are often looking for any external excuse to lay blame for their breach of agreements. The co-worker that is always late, blaming it on traffic, a sick child, anything but taking responsibility

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for the fact that when they signed their employment agreement, showing up at a certain time was a clearly written part of what they agreed to. The brother-in-law who promised to not have more than one drink at your holiday party, who now is holding a bottle a Jack Daniels in the middle of your living room while playing his favorite Lynyrd Skynyrd songs for your friends that seem to now be leaving the party early. Holding ourselves and those with whom we make agreements accountable is a sure way to diminish drama before it can spread.

Learn to manage difficult conversations. When it comes to tough conversations, many of us enter our fight or flight response. Either we turn into a screaming, distraught hot-head or we avoid the conversation all together, desperately hoping the situation goes away on its own. But arguing with another person’s ego rarely achieves healthy results. On the other hand, totally avoiding a drama filled situation that demands our attention only makes the pink elephant in the room get bigger and bigger with each passing day. So how can we enter into a respectful dialogue that treats the other person with unconditional positive regard, and in the process, holds ourselves and the other accountable? I call the process: “The Model for Drama-Free Communication”. Here are the steps:

Stop, breathe, and quiet your amygdala. Profound new research has conclusively determined that all information coming into our nervous system first goes to the brains amygdala. The amygdala controls the fight or flight response. Interrupting a reaction with breath will override a purely emotional response to the situation.

State the facts. Using a statement such as “I notice….” Or “I am noticing”, we identify the situation in objective terms stating facts. Many times this means giving voice to the “pink elephant” in the room. If this statement alone does not initiate response, you can use “I’d like to describe what I’m noticing and get your interpretation of it.”

Seek to obtain their point of view first. Here we gather their interpretation of the situation and seek to understand their intent. We may be missing some important information. Remember, the desire to be seen and heard is a basic human need.

Mirror back your understanding. Make sure that what they said is what you heard. “So if I am hearing you correctly….(insert your understanding)…. Is that correct?

Now pause and run it through the BS meter Trust your “gut feeling” here. Is this story a load of BS? Does the story you are hearing add up to the facts? Your response to the next step might depend on this reading.

Speak your truth. With an understanding of their intent, you run this through your intuition for congruence with their side of the story. You now express your point of view. Use only “I” statements and refrain from “you” statements. What non-negotiables do you need to reiterate?

Getting agreement. Here the intent of both parties is weighed and an agreement is made on how to proceed. In some cases we “agree to disagree”. In other cases, we are unable to reach an agreement and the situation is ended. Drama always requires fuel for the fire. People that create drama often turn to those around them as fuel. When they turn to you, how will you respond? Remember- all of the drama in your life begins and ends with you.

Eric Stephenson has a clear personal mission: to decrease the amount of unnecessary drama in personal and professional relationships. Eric is available for speaking engagements and in the business sector where he works with teams to diffuse chaos and increase engagement. To learn more, please visit www.dramafreeinc.com or email Eric at eric@dramafreeinc.com. 26

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â&#x20AC;&#x153;Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don't see it yourself.â&#x20AC;?

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leanor Roosevelt wrote “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” While she was encouraging personal boldness, the message is also applicable to corporate life. In 2010, Audi stated its bold goal of “becoming the leading brand worldwide in the premium car segment.”They aimed to overtake BMW, who has held the number one sales position for the last decade, by 2020.This audacious goal has helped increase their overall performance significantly: courage pays off. Here are some six ideas for bringing Roosevelt’s sense of bravery to the job:

D ifferentiate between smart risk and silly risk. Being courageous at work does not mean challenging the boss to a dual at the next board meeting or neknominating yourself at the offsite. We would never recommend that you walk into a meeting unprepared, take an overly aggressive trading position, or give your boss an ultimatum. While these are risks, they are not smart ones. A smart risk pushes you slightly out of your comfort zone without pushing others out of theirs. Smart risks include asking for the sale, asking for the promotion, or asking for more responsibility. A manager, coach or mentor can be very helpful in encouraging you to take smart risks.

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I used to be terrified of needles and would do everything in my power to avoid them. Then, when I wanted to have children, I had to have needles almost every day. Suddenly they were not as scary, as my clear vision of family life trumped my fear. The same thing happens at work.You might be terrified of public speaking, but if you want to take

Roosevelt Way By Jen Lawrence on more interesting work in your field, the opportunity to keynote at a conference will help you get over your fears. Have a clear vision of what you want, write it down, and tape it someplace prominent. The daily risks you must take to get you where you want to go will not seem as scary.

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You can practice courage by taking small risks on a regular basis. This could mean anything from asking to be part of a new project, to writing an article for an industry publication, to offering to mentor a new employee. Take on small stretch goals and then climb, jump, or borrow a ladder in order to reach them on a regular basis.Youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll get used to feeling brave.

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In a third century BC parable from Zhan Guo Ce, a fox is caught by a hungry tiger. The fox, trying to figure out a way to save himself, tells that tiger that he is king of the beasts and should not be eaten. The tiger does not believe the much smaller animal so the fox challenges him to follow him through the forest and see how the other animals react. The two set off together and the other animals, seeing the tiger, run away in fear. The fox takes full credit for their fearful response and the tiger, believing him, spares his life. While this parable mainly seems to be about the gullibility of tigers, it also shows how we can borrow courage. Surrounding ourselves with courageous people can help us to feel more bold. We can attend conferences with like-minded people, join a mastermind group, or invite someone we admire for lunch. There are lots of people out there who are taking risks and doing interesting things. Spend more time with them and you will find their courage is contagious.

P ractice courage in your personal life.

If you are nervous taking risks at work because the stakes feel too high, start building those courage muscles at home.

Take the microphone on karaoke night, volunteer for that school committee, or sign up for ziplining. If you learn the benefit of taking calculated risks in your personal life, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll be more comfortable taking them at work.

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Part of what makes bold actions scary is the inherent downside. Before doing something brave, it can be helpful to contemplate what might go wrong. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s useful to look at the potential problems (what might go wrong) and the potential causes (why it might go wrong.) You can look at preventing these problems and minimizing the impact should the problem still occur. As an example, perhaps you are contemplating buying a house but are terrified it will burn down. As a way to prevent fire, you can make sure the electrical system and stove are in good working order. As a way of minimizing the damage of a fire, you can install an alarm system and sprinklers. Assessing risk can help you to be more courageous, as it's easier to take a leap of faith when you are fairly certain it won't lead to disaster. We hope you do something today to flex your courage muscles. It is fun, makes your job more interesting, and can serve to inspire others. Most people regret what they don't do more than what they do, so take a page from Eleanor and do that thing that scares you just a bit. Lawrence, who holds an MBA in Finance, has widely written and spoken on corporate culture, critical thinking, and strategic planning. She has been interviewed by media outlets including The Toronto Star, Report on Business TV, National Post, and Toronto Life. A resident of Toronto, Lawrence is a proud mother of two children. Connect with Lawrence and Chester on: Websites: http://engagethefox.wordpress.com/ and http://jenlawrencedesign.blogspot.ca/

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Which Social Media Platform is Best for Your Business? By Betsy Kent

n just a few short years Social Media has evolved from a huge phenomenon to become part of nearly everyone’s life, and part of almost every business’ marketing efforts, in one way or another. As a digital marketer who uses Social Media as a tool to help small businesses get more exposure, compete better, gain new customers, and engage with the ones that they already have, I’ve witnessed this transition first-hand from the inside. But in spite of the astounding numbers of people who use Social Media sites every day, many small business owners are still mystified about how to use them efficiently. If you fit into this category, you are not alone. First, here are a few things that you should keep in mind: ■ Social Media represents an opportunity that businesses have never had before ■ It’s not going away, in fact, it’s expanding ■ Your business can grow and thrive without Social Media ■ But it can grow and thrive faster with it If you are a new business owner, or an experienced one that is new to Social Media, it’s important to take a look at the landscape and decide where to put your efforts. Even if you are planning to hire an outside agency to help you set up or manage your Social Media marketing, it’s still important that you understand the most popular platforms. So, here’s a list of the most prominent social sites and a description of each, to help you figure it all out.

Facebook More time is spent on Facebook than anywhere else on the web, so it’s sort of a no-brainer that your business should have a presence. For B2C businesses Facebook is an absolute necessity, but it requires a plan. From setting up your business Facebook Page to building your community, there are right and wrong ways to do it. What you want to avoid is a lot of wasted time here. There are hundreds of blogs and articles on the web that will help you set up your Page 30

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correctly, build your community, engage with the community, run ads, hold contests, and ore. All you need to do is search and make sure the articles you use are current, because Facebook is changing all the time. In terms of building a community, harness first your personal Facebook friends, then your customers (Facebook advertising can help here - it’s inexpensive and effective). Next you need a communications plan. How often should you post? What should you post about? Can you get your fans to respond and share your messaging with their friends? What are the rules? Again, Google is a treasure trove of free information that can help you with all of it. Just search! Reach: 1 billion users worldwide Crucial for B2C business Good for B2B businesses depending on the business category A helpful article: http://socialmediatoday.com/ ubersocialmedia/1335031/facebook-business-benefits

LinkedIn I like to think of LinkedIn as the quiet giant. Nearly every business and businessperson has a presence here and LinkedIn listings are highly visible in Search Engine results. On LinkedIn you can set up a company Page and populate it with your marketing messaging, linking it from your personal profile as well as have your employees set up profiles for themselves and link to the company page as well. Moreover, LinkedIn Groups are a great way to share your blogs and business news with your colleagues. If you want to be seen as a “thought leader” in your field, LinkedIn is must. Reach: 200 million users worldwide ■ Best for B2B businesses A helpful article: http://www.midphase.com/blog/how-to-uselinkedin-to-boost-lead-generation-for-a-small-business/

Twitter

Twitter is completely public - there are no walls between you and your customers here such as there are on Facebook. It’s easy as pie to build your community and there are tons of tools that can help with that (we love Tweepi). Twitter, if used properly and monitored consistently, can help your business reach out and actually communicate directly with your clients, customers, and potential ones, too, as well as colleagues and notable experts. Twitter marketing an art that can be mastered in time. It’s also a great tool to keep tabs on your competition and get real-time news about your industry subjects that affect your business.

What do people share most on Social Media? Images. And Pinterest is a social network that is nothing but images. Think of your business Pinterest page as a set of bulletin boards where you have “pinned” things that inspire you or of products that you sell. Pinterest tends to drive a lot of traffic to websites since every image that you “pin” to a board is linked back to the original web source. How all this traffic can benefit a B2B website, is up very much dependent upon what type of business you have.

Reach: 200 million active users worldwide Good for both B2B and B2C businesses

A helpful article: http://www.socialmediaexaminer.com/how-to-usetwitter-for-business-and-marketing/ Google Plus (or Google+) is Google’s answer to Social Media and although it’s been a lot slower to grow than many expected, the bottom line is that Google owns Google+ and that means that anything that is posted there has a chance of showing up in Google searches. It’s simple to create a business Page. If you blog, upload all your blogs there, too. For local businesses, make sure you create a Google+ Local profile, this will enable searchers for your business on Google to see an enhanced listing with your address, business information and even a map. Great for B2C and B2B (especially for local businesses) A helpful article: http://www.business2community.com/googleplus/4-secrets-to-maximize-google-plus-for-business-0449477

Instagram Instagram, which was recently purchased by Facebook, is a social network for photo sharing from mobile devices (Instagram has recently launched a desktop website, but most usage is on mobile). If you have a very visual business and images are important (such as fashion or interior design) Instagram is a great way to get exposure. And, we have found that one of the best uses for Instagram is for live events, such trunk shows. Some creative uses for Instagram include sharing photos of your employees and running Instagram contests. Reach 100 million users ■ Best for B2C businesses A helpful article: http://blog.kissmetrics.com/biggest-misconceptionsabout-instagram/

Reach: 48.7 million users Best for B2C businesses ■ Good for B2B businesses For a comprehensive tutorial on using Pinterest for business, check out this eBook: Pinterest for Business: http://www.bevisibleassoc.com/resources/ download-our-free-pinterest-for-business-whitepaper/ We believe that most businesses should set up a profile on at least two of the major Social Media sites, even if these sites are not going to be actively used. Every platform where your company name and story appears does help with your business’ overall visibility and helps you control every site that your business is on (it’s still possible for anyone to set up a Facebook Page for any business, even if that person isn’t affiliated with the business). However, if you are not going to be actively using the social sites (or aren’t using them yet) don’t add links to them from your website. A website that leads a user to its Facebook page that has only 3 fans is risking a bit of a negative impression. Still confused? A good rule of thumb is to pick one site and get comfortable with it, then move on. For B2C businesses that choose Facebook, for B2B businesses choose LinkedIn. And remember, Google is your best friend. All the help you need is there, for free! Note: There are currently hundreds, if not thousands, of Social Media sites on the web, some of which you probably have never encountered. Click here to see a really cool list of most of them, and the amount of people who are using each one. http:// expandedramblings.com/index.php/resource-how-many-peopleuse-the-top-social-media/ Betsy Kent is the president of Be Visible Associates, a digital marketing agency that caters to the needs of small businesses. Betsy Kent has been at the forefront of digital marketing for over a decade. An early adopter of the Internet as a marketing medium, she draws from her extensive experience in the media, marketing and advertising industries to help business owners and marketing executives leverage the power of digital channels. betsy@bevisibleassoc.com ■ www.bevisibleassoc.com 212-420-5950

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Palm BEach Influential Women In the world, there have been so many incredible women who have contributed to the betterment in a myriad of areas. Whether it is through politics, entertainment, medicine, pop culture, philosophy, science, sports, fashion, health and well-being and philanthropy. Our girlfriends are doing good things. Right here in South Florida they are shaping many lives and continuing to shape their own. This isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t an all-inclusive list just a few significant ladies with intelligence, who work hard, help others, have enduring character and grace.

I've come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that's as unique as a fingerprint - and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you. - Oprah Winfrey

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obin Ross is known as a ‘gown-guru’ for her expertise as both a gown designer and fashion stylist, and as the founder of LA CASA HERMOSA, a unique retail store offering special occasion gowns and dresses appropriate for weddings, charity balls, prom and pageants.

Ross designs many of the specialty custom gowns, and selects notable emerging designers for a unique merchandise mix within the store. The name LA CASA HERMOSA means ‘the beautiful house’ in Spanish, taken from the Mediterranean villa in South Florida where Ross originally designed gowns and launched the brand, located near the grounds of the International Polo Club. Ross’ designs have been viewed on the red carpet at the Oscar Awards, MTV VMA’s, ABC’s Dancing With The Stars, Good Morning America, NBC/Telemundo Miss Universe pageant, ABC’s Miss America telecast and other notable venues. What has been your greatest achievement? My greatest achievement as a fashion entrepreneur has been LA CASA HERMOSA of Wellington, in it’s 9th year of business, and as a designer, it’s a three-way tied between having my gown design worn by actress Kelly Lynch to the Oscar Vanity Fair party, being selected as the Official Eveningwear Designer for ABC’s Dancing With The Stars, and designing the Madame Alexander Miss America Anniversary doll. All three, Vanity Fair, DWTS and Madame Alexander Doll Company are iconic companies in our American culture and I am still elated at having had those opportunities. Who are your hero's in real life? My every day heroes are working mom’s. I know from personal experience of having two children how hard it is to balance work, personal life and family, and have great admiration for all women who even attempt that juggling act. What is your greatest regret? My greatest regret is not having the opportunity to attend a formal design school. I learned from my mother, a master tailor and pattern-maker, but missed out on that classroom experience. Maybe someday I’ll be awarded an honorary fashion design diploma! What trait do you love in others? I admire loyalty, integrity, and strength of character. Those personality traits are the triple crown for me. What is your most treasured possession? My most treasured possession? Probably my phone, as I stay connected to the people in my life on a daily basis.

What is your greatest love? My children are my greatest love. What is your biggest challenge in business? It’s to continue to challenge our team to reinvent the wheel. Fashion retail needs new ideas, innovation and inspiration on a daily basis to really thrive. How do you relax? I love walking on the beaches here in Florida just before the sun goes down. The best way to unwind from a long day for me is to commune with nature and get a little bit of exercise at the same time. What is your Motto? Just do it. So much of what happens in life is directly correlated to just executing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done. Who is at your fantasy dinner table? All women! Vera Wang, Donna Karan, Jennifer Lawrence, Sharon Stone, Anna Wintour and Angelina Jolie, among others. Fashion icons who are also at the top of their respective fields AND give back to humanity in meaningful ways. Last Supper? My family. No question. You in one word? Inspired.

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ikki Oden is a former senior vice president of investments at Smith Barney. After a very successful career there, Nikki discovered her entrepreneurial side. First launching an 11,000 square foot spa in Delray Beach, Florida, Eleven Salon & Spa, Nikki has leveraged that success into a marinebased skincare collection, ElevenSkin, and the soon to launch furniture collection, ElevenHome. Every aspect of the brand and its products comes from Nikkiâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s vision, and her focus on that vision is the driving force to its success. Eleven Salon & Spa just celebrated their 10th year in business. Since childhood, Nikki has thrived on sharing with others her optimism. She brings this passion to the masses today with her growing brand, Eleven. What has been your greatest achievement? My greatest achievement is my amazing daughter, Ava Grace. What is your greatest regret? I don't have any regrets. I think everything I have experienced in life has made me who I am today. I try to learn and live looking forward, not backwards.

What traits do you love in others? Honesty and Loyalty. What is your most treasured possession? Before an unfortunate robbery in my home, I would have answered this question with one of my family heirloom/jewelry pieces that I have been saving for Ava. After this experience, I realized it is not the possession, it is the memories and relationships with loved ones in my life that are most treasured. What is your greatest love? My greatest Love is my daughter Ava Grace and our blessed life What is your biggest challenge in business? Patience. How do you relax? Travel, anything involving the ocean and great people.

What is your Motto? My motto is my Brand, Life Better. I try to touch everyone I encounter in some way that make's their life better. In my personal life I try to live that way each and every day. Who is at your fantasy dinner table? Dinner table, Steve Jobs, Marilyn Monroe, Blake Shelton and Ava Grace. Last Supper? My family and closest friends, great music and bubbles. I am a foodie so the menu is too long and ridiculous to print and we would be on the water or on a countryside somewhere in West Virginia where I am from. You in one word? ENERGY.

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ilsa McKinney is the co-founder (1998) of the Caring House Project Foundation with her husband Frank. CHPF now creates villages based upon self-sufficiency by providing housing, food, water, education, medical support, and opportunity (free enterprise) for the desperately poor and homeless from around the world, particularly in Haiti. Since 2003, Nilsa and her Caring House Project have created 21 self-sufficient villages, thus providing shelter to over 10,000 desperately poor and homeless from Haiti alone! Nilsa also has a 16-year track record of helping the poor and homeless right here at home, as 15% of the donations received by CHPF go toward caring for those in need in the United States. Nilsa has also been a volunteer with the Bethesda Hospital Foundation for over 16 years and a Women of Grace committee member for the past several years. This year, Nilsa will be The Chairwoman of the event taking place at Mar-a-Lago hosting 700 attendees. What has been your greatest achievement? My greatest achievement is seeing my daughter grow and become a strong, smart, faithful, and selfless young lady. Who are your hero's in real life? My mother has been my mentor in life, and is my vision of who I hope to be. What is your greatest regret? Not one regret. Even through challenging times I have been given blessings. They just were concealed in alternative wrapping paper. What trait do you love in others? The one trait that wins me over every time is when someone unexpectedly gives to those that need. That is the one trait that made me melt when I met my husband Frank and still to this day the reason I love him so! What is your most treasured possession? Outside of my daughter and husband, it’s my prayer book that I carry with me all the time. Sometimes when I am driving and I am ahead of schedule I will pull over in a parking lot and pull out my prayer book. I will read or pray for five or ten minutes. I love those unexpected opportunities to just and simply pray.

What is your greatest love? My greatest love is my daughter. My true and greatest love story is Frank. What is your biggest challenge in business? Challenges in business can vary but for the most part every problem has a solution. It is the task of empowering those who work for you, to believe in themselves and realize that they are truly a gift to me. How do you relax? I have found that having the luxury of a full day of cooking and hosting friends and family is really therapeutic. What is your Motto? My daughter and husband tease me all the time because I am constantly saying, “It will be fine.” They say on my gravestone it will read “I’m Fine.” Who is at your fantasy dinner table? Mother Teresa, St. John Paul II and Virgin Mary. Last Supper? My last supper would have to be a collection of different types of seafood. You in one word? Blessed. Follow Nilsa @ nilsa25924284

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How Women Find Their Authentic Philanthropic Voice By Margaret May Damen

“Life is no brief candle for me. It is a splendid torch which I have got ahold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations” – George Bernard Shaw

omen’s traditional patterns of giving are dramatically shifting. There is a definite trend for women to be more discerning how they give of their time, talent and especially their money. Women are more selective in not only how, but also, why, and where they give their money. With their wellearned financial independence comes the empowerment to be strategic in supporting programs and organizations that strive for systematic change rather than just maintain the status quo. Women are taking a serious look at their community and asking, “how can I do good, why is this cause important to me, and where can I really make a difference?” For many women the time has come to form valuable partnerships with like-minded friends to amplify their voice to help solve problems and create a better environment for future generations. And once women believe in their cause, they will support it for the long-term and consider their gifts as investments that impact their community and their way of life. When women give because they can give they want to make sure their dollars have social and political significance to change society and their community. And perhaps because women now have the financial freedom to

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make meaningful giving decisions, they have a desire to be role models for their children and to inspire other women. In conducting the research for my book “Women, Wealth and Giving: The Virtuous Legacy of the Boom Generation,” coauthored with Nicki Nicastro McCuisiton, I found that women who choose to use their authentic philanthropic voice share three virtues. Courage, Confidence, and Love. My definition of each is: Courage is the ability to sustain the steadfast pursuit of one’s conviction and beliefs in the face of skepticism or discouragement for other or from ourselves. Confidence is the ability to judge wisely and objectively in all matters pertaining to how, where and why to invest one’s time, talent and treasure. Love is the ability to trust in the expectation of right and proper being accomplished in all your acts of beneficence and rejoice in the happiness of others. Courage, confidence and love, seem to be what the world needs now. We are

bombarded by thousands of message thrown at us from modern-day media – TV, radio and the internet – all asking for help for good causes. How does one know where to give money, time and talent, how much to give, and, when necessary, how to say no to a worthy charity that just may not align with one’s values and vision. The good news is that more and more women are empowering themselves by looking inward to find what they really care about in their lives and then living those hopes, dreams, and aspirations with an authentic voice to create a community for the greater good of all citizens. And they reinforce their commitment to the issues and concerns they support by not allowing adversity to drag them down. Women philanthropists of this modern –era are perennial optimists who confidently lead others through uncharted waters in search of lasting solutions to systemic problems. They remain restless until their goal is met and exceeded. They remain responsible for their actions yet open to working with others and are both leaders and followers for the same cause, knowing and respecting all diversity of individualism and thought. Furthermore when all three virtues are in alignments, women find reassurance in

knowing who they are and what they want to accomplish as philanthropists. They also recognize that it is not only self-interest to use one’s resources for the common good but that it is also altruistic and fulfilling to express the values and vision in one’s heart through one’s pocketbook and checkbook. When I interviewed Margaret Smith, CEO of Dormus, one of the San Francisco Bay area’s largest independently owned kitchen and home accessories stories, she described his authentic voice in these terms, “My volunteerism and donations are more cause-based. I really believe in the causes of women entrepreneurs and in the validation of the social, economic, and political impact they are making on the world and the world economy.” As an entrepreneur she herself has been generous with her time and talent and money for over 30 years. In times of adversity and economic uncertainty it has taken courage for Margaret to champion positive messages and focus on the solutions built on what is right, not on what is wrong in our world. Women’s authentic philanthropic voice reflects personal beliefs as well as values they feel strongly will create a more just and humane community. The entries in their checkbook register reflect their courage, commitment, and love for the issues they support. Take a look at the entries in your checkbook – is that who you really are, and what you really care about. Does the picture from your checkbook represent your honest feelings about what is meaningful in your life. Is it your authentic voice. Is the money in your investment portfolio allocated to corporate and social issues that practice responsible corporate citizenship in their conduct of business. And if not — what do you want to change? Business owner and former Martin County, Florida school board member, Jody Bond believes in family values and in the economic vitality fostered by a good education system., “I grew up in a loving family,” said Jody, “where we always looked out for each other, worked hard, and encouraged each other to do our best at home and in school.” Bond’s strong

commitment to family and education is evident from the moment you walk into her jewelry store, Just Gold, in Stuart, Florida. On many occasions when you visit her store you will see a contented grandchild sitting happily in a playpen while mother and grandmother attend to a customer. Jody is quick to tell her customers and friends, “I prefer that my money help families and education issues and these are the values I hope my daughters and grandchildren will inherit from me as we work side by side in the business. I want them to take an active part in making the business decisions of where we volunteer our time or give financial support in the community.” When Jody talked about philanthropy, her authentic voice resounds with commitment in support of family and education issues.

performance, that’s what I want to devote my life to doing’.” Her goal in high school had been to study marine biology, but that quickly changes and she went on to get an MFA in theatre directing and taught in high school and college. During her work for the Florida Department of State Division of Cultural Affairs she realized how critical advocacy was to ensure government understands its role in funding arts and arts education and how important the arts to the quality of life of all citizens. Sherron has dedicated her life to help support a creative industry that enriches lives and connects people in meaningful wHer love for her mission rings true in her authentic voice as an advocate for diverse and quality arts education and cultural resources throughout the state.

Women’s authentic philanthropic voice is enthusiastic and contagious and charged by an unshakable faith in their capacity to reach and sustain their philanthropic goals. They see their life story as an inspiration for others and a legacy of significance for family, friends and community. What keeps the desire burning to make a difference? Their positive energy is like a magnet, attracting others to also give gratitude for blessings received and the quality of life they work to sustain. They bring the love and passion of their conviction to each decision and each deed in doing the work that is dear to their heart and for which they have courageously committed their time, money and talent.

Courage, Commitment, and Love are the three virtues that weave together the lives of Margaret Smith, Jody Bond, and Sherron Long even though they may not know each other. Each woman speaks with her authentic voice expressing how, why and where she wants to make a difference with her time, talent and money. Philanthropy creates a community where every woman can speak her authentic voice for the cause they choose to champion. What are you saying?

Love of her work and her passion for others to know and experience the transformative power of the arts and arts education on individual lives, communities and schools is the lifetime mission of Florida Cultural Alliance president Sherron Long. In high school, Long first saw the profound effect a live musical production can have on young people when attending a production in New York of the musical Man of La Mancha. “ I watched my classmates at the end of the performance crying and deeply touched by what they experienced in the theatre,” Sherron recalls, “and I thought to myself ‘if something can move people that much, in a short period of an afternoon

Margaret May Damen CFP®, CLU, ChFC, CDFA, CAP® Co-author Women, Wealth and Giving: The Virtuous Legacy of the Boom Generation. Founder and President, The Institute for Women and Wealth, West Palm Beach. Florida For more information on her availability for workshop, consulting or speaking engagements go to www.margaret-may.com or email: mm@margaret-may.com

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step up to the plate

Farm

Table By: Lauren May Malis

s the “Taste of America” evolves, Americans' taste buds are developing, too. Dynamic transformation marks today's gastronomic landscape, and we find ourselves at a critical culinary crossroads. One path leads us towards a fast-food future which threatens to heap our collective plate with the health issues, environmental concerns, and social consequences we have already begun to taste. The alternate path, however, leads us towards a sustainable, balanced, and healthier future—one flavored with a celebration of diversity, a respect for tradition, and an eager exploration of the exotic. Along this path, we will discover supermarkets with delicious foods produced by growers from around the globe, as well as by our nearest, most responsive— and environmentally responsible—family farmers. This world of producers has the ability to provide us with a palette for our palates that includes foods rarely available just thirty years ago—foods that can inspire us, titillate our taste buds, and give us true cause for sensory celebration! And when our interest in fresher foods leads us to supporting our local farms, our local economies benefit, too. The thriving Farm to Table movement gives those of us who don't grow food a chance to buy directly from those who

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do. These purchases are actually investments in small, local, food-production businesses, investments which strengthen the economies we live within. Farmers Markets have popped up in various locations across the county. In addition to the health of our bodies, the wealth of our economies, and the pleasures of the plate, the choices regarding responsible food production raise other concerns. Sustainable food is as important as air or water. Running out of food will create the same disastrous consequences as running out of potable water or oxygen. Supporting the Farm to Table movement, which, in turn, so strongly supports local agriculture, will help us avoid such a disaster and keep our families fed—and fed well, at that. For so many reasons, then, as we stand at this culinary crossroads, we must choose our next steps wisely. Sure, the fast-food highway may appear the more convenient option. But if we consider all that's at stake, we might realize there's another way, a road that leads us towards good food and the slow, significant processes that produce it. If we travel that road, we, along with a growing number of Americans, affirm a genuinely respectful, oh-so-delectable and demonstrably sustainable path of consumption—a path which starts in our own backyards.

Rise of sustainable agriculture and organic food On the grounds of the White House, against the imposing backdrop of the Washington Monument and the U.S. Capitol, symbols of American political might, First Lady Michelle Obama grows a garden—an organic garden—and speaks of the ways that America’s young people can benefit from an up-close-and-personal understanding of the origins of the foods they eat. “Healing” and “regenerative” are the powers she assigns to the knowledge children can accrue by learning how to cook foods they have grown themselves. The goals of a garden-to-kitchen education project also include teaching children to develop a taste for healthy food, which, in turn, can foster their desire for life-long good health—and all the vitality, energy, and mental agility that accompany it. And, in the process of raising and preparing nourishment for their bodies, young people find their minds nourished, as well, since the tasks associated with cooking and gardening can create a sturdy foundation of skills for them to build upon in their later lives.

working hand-in-gardening-glove with local restaurateurs, provide the excellent, fresh ingredients needed by chefs to prepare world-class cuisines. This creates a full-circle partnership that benefits every participant in the Farm to Table game.

Multi diversity and regionalism

But the perks of growing, preparing, and enjoying healthy, sustainably-produced foods are not limited to young people. As savvy restaurateurs join the Farm to Table movement, they are partnering with local growers to serve their patrons the most memorable meals based on only the freshest, most enticing, most environmentally responsible ingredients.

Today, in addition to vegetable farms and fruit orchards, we have seen an increase in the availability of sustainably produced herbs and spices, sprouts and honey, pigs and poultry, eggs and dairy. Across the nation, these and other foods representing America's cultural diversity are increasingly available to chefs and grocers who seek to feed the soul of the country as well as the bodies of its people.

Here in Palm Beach County, chefs and farmers are on it. They are forming collaborations that create fresh, delicious menus for South Florida diners.

This feels right. It feels like going home—to a home that most of us 21st-century urban and suburban dwellers have visited only in books, movies, or our grandparents' memories.

The rise of the chef Thanks to the rise in popularity of cooking shows and “foodie” blogs and publications, the American public now views the role of chef with a greater respect than has ever been the case before. Now, what chefs do becomes fashion. Chefs visit small farms in search of prime ingredients, and foodies, taking note, head to the closest farmers' market. In their quest for the best, chefs can create dynamic relationships with local growers, relationships that generate a greater variety of fresh ingredients as local farmers respond to the needs of local kitchens. It is local producers, who,

Farm to Table, and all it implies, returns us to our roots. While it may seem a leap to some, it's a leap to a system that makes profound sense. It's as simple as knowing where your food comes from. As simple as having a relationship with the farmer who comes by once a week in dirty boots, and knowing that what you will be serving that night was in the ground that morning.

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bevology

We love a glass of both The Champs and The Whiskey By Gary Michaels

ourbon is on a roll. The market is growing and thensome. And not all Bourbon is made in Kentucky. While most of it does come from there, we’ve tasted others from upstate New York and Chicago. Older bourbon is not always better. Although you will find those that love their 23 year old family reserve you will find many more that do not. It’s your prerogative. Please don’t let anybody tell you how to drink your whiskey.You should enjoy it any way you want. If you want to add ice, use a jumbo cube that chills thoroughly but melts slowly. Bourbon is also, of course, delicious in cocktails. Our preference is the classic Mint Julep.

BOURBON'S Bulleit Bourbon ~ lingering and lovely. Rough Rider Bourbon ~ vanilla and honey, creamy and robust. Breckenridge ~ woodsy, rich, smooth, complex. John B. Stetson ~ Dry, fruity with pepper, smooth, fresh, lively, short. Widow Jane ~ spicy, savory, lingering.

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Celebrating? Champagne is a must. Of all the wines, Champagne has a unique story to tell. The sparkling bubbles of Champagne have intrigued kings and Queens, celebrities and the common folk alike and have helped Champagne become an integral part of every celebration. Though Champagne is produced exclusively within the Champagne region of France, from which it takes its name, America and some parts of South America reserve the right to market selected sparkling wines as Champagne. The bubbles in the golden or pinkish fizzy drink seem to match the effervescent celebrating spirit of a festive occasion. The popularity of Champagne is attributed to the success of the wine producers in marketing the drink. Champagne first became famous because of its association with the anointment of the French kings. The wine-makers of those times and of invested considerable energy to creating a history and identity for their wine and promoted it on all royal occasions thus associating it and themselves with nobility. Even today brands succeed to a large through packaging and advertising in associating Champagne in all its blissful glory with high luxury, festivities and rites of passage. It is a symbol of affluence. it has always been and will always be. Please drink responsibly!

CHAMPAGNES Perrier Jouet ~ The Go to bottle. Laurent-Perrier Ultra Brut NV Champagne ~ Dry, very dry. Bollinger Special Cuvée ~ Bright, crisp, lovely. Oudinot Cuvée Brut NV ~ Creamy, summer flavor. Gosset Brut ~ Broad flavored. Moët & Chandon NV White Star ~ Crisp, Never Dissappoints. Veuve Clicquot Yellow Label NV ~ Full and fruity.

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day tripping

MT. dora is a quaint little town just 25 miles northwest of Orlando. It is known for it's historic Bed and Breakfast Inns, the tranquil little town of Mount Dora, with it's oak lined streets, rests on the shores of Lake Dora.

he City of Mount Dora was established in 1880 when it was originally named Royellou, a combination of the children's names of one of the City's pioneers. Later taking the name of it's famous lake, and adding the "mount" because it is elevated higher than most of the Central Florida area, 266 feet above sea level. Sailing along the 6 mile Lake Dora, antiquing in the captivating shops and sightseeing are among the charms of this 19th century town. Though, an entire day could be spent visiting Mount Dora's many parks. Parks for sports, fishing, picnicking and even a friendly game of lawn bowling are available. Listed on the National Register of Historic Places, the turn-of-the century Lakeside Inn is Mount Dora's oldest structure, build in 1883. Here you can still sip icy lemonade from a colonial rocker on the front porch or take a tour of the historic residence.

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On day trips from the Mount Dora Railway, you can experience the comfort and heyday of an authentic railroad passenger car, The Mount Dora Limited. The Mount Dora excursion train makes a round-trip run from Mount Dora to Travares then back again, offering lovely views of Lake Dora, tropical foliage and wildlife from it's open window coaches. The Annual Mount Dora Art Festival, held the first full weekend in February features over 200 artists from all across the nation and brings in several hundred thousand visitors for the show. October is a busy month as the annual events include the Mount Dora Bicycle Festival and the Craft Festival. The annual Sailing Regatta is in late April. December brings the annual Christmas Walk, for those looking for a traditional holiday feel (without the snow, of course). Where visitors can walk the coblestone streets, visit the local shops and even take a horse and buggy ride. Other annual events include the Antique Boat and Car Festivals. The Renningers Antique Extravaganza, held the 3rd weekend in November, January and February displays the wares of over 1000 topnotch antiques dealers from all over the country. Open on weekends, Renninger's Twin Markets, antique center and farmers & flea market has been ranked in the Top 10 Flea Markets by Family Money magazine.

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destinations Getting there

A First Timer’s

Direct flights are available seasonally from PBIA, meaning if you want nonstop, you have to be willing to fly when the Canadians are flying, and that’s fall and winter. Otherwise, be prepared to drive to Miami, Orlando or Fort Lauderdale.

Once you’ve arrived You can drive in Toronto (your U.S. license is fine, unless you are staying over 90 days) , but if you do take to the streets, stay off them during weekday rush hours (7 to 9 a.m. and 4 to 6 p.m.). There isn’t a big multilane highway system, you can’t make safe left turns (the green arrow light is rare) and road construction is neverending, due to older infrastructure and weathering of road surfaces. On the plus side, pedestrians rule here.You’re the king and queen of the crosswalk, once you step in it. Cars stop for you, rather than consider you as a target. The subway system has four basic lines, which will take you to all the major city stops for just a $3 token, and same-day transfers are free. The eleven streetcar lines cover more of the city, cost the same $3, offer the same free same-day transfers and provide the benefit of sightseeing.

Love Letter to Toronto By Nancy Munro

he weather can change in a day, it can get cold quicker then the States. Bottom line: it’s a cooler fall, but this is Toronto. It’s a city full of fine art, fun fashion, fanatical sports fans, and music venues large and small and eclectic food in ethnic neighborhoods. And it’s a city that values its history as much as it looks up (literally) to a vertical future, with 132 high-rise buildings under 46

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construction at one point. * As of January, 2013 there were more high rises (150 meters or higher) being constructed in this city than anywhere else in the Western Hemisphere.** But that’s enough statistics.You want to know the basics about this financial and cultural hub of Canada: how to get here, how to get around, where to stay, where to eat and what to see, especially if some of it takes you off the tired tourist trail.

Staying in Toronto An inexpensive hotel is not an impossible find in this city. But it won’t put you close to the action. The good news is that you have choices ranging from the B&B all the way up to super deluxe. For an intimate stay in an historic venue, the Hotel Victoria in the financial district is a good central location. Opened in 1909 as the Hotel Mossop, it has 56 rooms that are modernized enough for today’s traveler, while keeping much of their hundred-plus year-old charm. Many of the rooms are small by American standards (500 square feet), but if you are out of the room much of your stay, then size does not matter. While there, be sure to try the hotel’s diner-style restaurant, Over Easy, for their excellent breakfast.

If sharing a bath isn’t an issue, check out the House on McGill, with its six rooms and proximity to the shopping madness known as Eaton Centre. The House dates from 1890, and while it’s close to everything, it’s located on a quiet side street, away from traffic. The rooms were renovated about 20 years ago, but all the charm of the original Victorian era has been maintained throughout. Guests not only share the bath, but also share a kitchen/ dining area and a reception area. If you want to get to know some fellow travelers, this is a lovely way to do it. For really getting away from it all, head for the island – Ward’s Island that is. One of a chain of islands in Toronto Harbour, Ward’s Island is one of the three main islands serviced by the Toronto Ferry Service. Good thing for the Fourth Street Bed and Breakfast, which brings visitors year-round, regardless of weather, to stay in the only guest room (queen and single beds available). Free bicycles are offered to guests, as are kitchen privileges and a shared bath. But be warned: the islands are really for those who want very little to do. There is almost no commercial development. If you like to relax, go to the beach, do some boating, this is the place for you. Of course, the ferry to downtown Toronto does run regularly. At the other end of the spectrum is the lavish Fairmount Royal York Hotel. Queen Elizabeth II has been a visitor to this property, as have many other heads of state. The Fairmount is also located downtown and opened in 1929. There are over 1,300 rooms with many amenities, from ATMs to full wedding services and that most rare of amenities: room windows that open. The elaborate lobby and shopping arcade alone are worth a visit, with a number of highend shops and portraits of dignitaries who have graced these halls.

Sports fans, fanatics and staying in shape Toronto is a fit city. Given that it’s built into the side of a plateau, there’s the

reason: it’s a lot of uphill and downhill walking, running and cycling. The good weather season is relatively short, and Torontonians make the most of it, with events in their parks, cycling (on and off-road), running, boating, kayaking and beach going.Yes, Toronto has beaches a ten-minute ferry ride away on the Toronto Islands.You can hike the trails, launch your dinghy, watch regatta races, pack a picnic, dine at the island eateries or swim in Lake Ontario, the smallest of the Great Lakes (average summer water temperature ranges from 12 to 20 degrees Celsius or 53 to 68 degrees Fahrenheit).

The Royal Ontario Museum is all about science and natural history; it’s one million objects showcase ancient archaeology, the history of Canada’s First Nations population, African and Asian history, and vast collections of photography, sculpture and textiles. The museum is celebrating its 100th anniversary.

If you love major-league sports, and don’t mind spending money, you’ll have no problem feeding your inner fanatic in Toronto. Home of the NBA Raptors, NHL Maple Leafs and MLB’s Blue Jays, this is a town that wears team colors loud. The home venues – Air Canada Centre for the Leafs and the Raptors and Rogers Field for the Jays – are both located in downtown Toronto, walking distance from the main transportation hub of Union Station and a number of parking lots.

Music and other culture

The art scene AGO, or the Art Gallery of Toronto, is a modern museum set in the heart of the city’s Chinatown district. The collection consists of 80,000 works, and you should plan to spend at least a half-day here, in order to appreciate everything from antique ship models to the paintings by such Great Masters as Matisse, Chagall and Picasso to David Bowie’s exhibition of musical and personal archives. The nearly 600,000-square foot space houses collections from all over the world, and the staff is especially proud of the permanent space given over to Canadian artists.

Both AGO and ROM offer many programs for children, from hour-long tours to overnight sleepovers in the museums and hands-on demonstrations and projects. Most of these require advanced reservations.

Roy Thompson Hall (with Massey Hall nearby; they two venues share the same ownership and website) is a hatshaped venue with the enviable boast of offering every patron who enters its doors the opportunity to sit no farther than 100 feet from the stage. This is the home of the Toronto Symphony Orchestra, and many of the TIFF (Toronto International Film Festival) offerings are shown here as well. Sony Centre is a much larger venue than Roy Thompson, and the event calendar is a mix of dance (Celtic Thunder), children’s programs (Dora The Explorer), music (Pet Shop Boys, Soweto Gospel Choir), religion (John Hagee Ministries) and programs that defy

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any category (TV personality/medium Theresa Caputo). There are three levels of seating, but no seating alongside the stage, ensuring a good view no matter where you sit. And here’s something special about the Sony Centre: there’s a weekly food truck event out front.You can buy what you want and eat inside. The Centre’s management not only knows about the trucks, they encourage them to show up. The Elgin and Winter Garden Theater This is two theaters in one, a double-decker (the Winter Garden is built seven stories above the Elgin) built as part of the Loew’s theater chain. Now restored by the Ontario Heritage Trust to its original ornate beauty, you can attend plays, concerts and films and pretend the days of Edgar Bergen, Charlie McCarthy, George Burns and Gracie Allen never ended. Or you can simply arrange for a guided tour and marvel at all this plastered and gilded splendor.

Bookstores: The literary arts Toronto is blessed with enough independent bookstores to keep a book lover happy for weeks. Shops range from those specializing in cookbooks to comic books, from Christian and New Age literature to science fiction. What keeps all these places in business, aside from a population kept indoors by long winters, is the fact that many of them offer additional

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services, such as author readings and book signings, live music, cafes and fine giftware and art. The Cookbook Store: It’s more than just books about food and recipes. This shop, close to high-end Bloor Street Fashion District, offers classes in specialty cooking, knife sharpening, gardening in small spaces, and of course, cookbook author signings. You’ll find the usual suspect TV/celebrity chef books, but you also find really obscure tomes here, too. Ben McNally Books: this is an elegant store in the Financial District, with wooden floors and shelves and muted lighting. It’s as quiet as a library, and the selection of books includes plenty of authors you know, and even more you don’t. The store offers first editions, rare books, author lectures and signings and does a particularly outstanding job when it comes to featuring Canadian writers. Chapters - World’s Biggest Bookstore: there’s nothing subtle about WBB, as the locals call this block-long behemoth. It’s three floors of books, magazines, gifts and toys, and although everything is well-marked and neat, it could take you a few hours to see it all. The store’s lighting is almost painfully bright, compared to its more sedate bookstore relations, but the better to see everything here. City Books: a utilitarian shop in Greektown (The Danforth) with whitewashed shelves and plain walls. But the place is loaded with books: two rooms full of everything from the latest beach reads to stylized architecture and art books for your coffee table. City Books has three other locations in the city as well.

Food and dining: eating local Poutine and peameal bacon: comfort food, Canadian style: Poutine is Canadian stick-to-your-ribs all winter long meal in a bowl: French fries, cheese curds and gravy, at its most basic. But variations are everywhere, and Smoke’s Poutinerie (three locations in Toronto) has a good range of them, from nacho toppings to cheeseburger and all the fixings to vegetarian gravy, pulled chipotle pork and grilled chicken and baby peas. This is hearty eating for cold nights; make sure you take a long walk before or after this meal. You’ll need it. Peameal bacon is a Toronto original not well known in the U.S. It’s thinly sliced cured pork loin, rolled in cornmeal and pan-fried. The meat is then served on a soft, slightly sweet bun. At breakfast, it’s often served with a fried egg tucked into the sandwich, and at lunch, it becomes the Canadian version of our BLT, with mayo, lettuce and tomato. Soma Chocolate is Toronto’s homegrown sin. Their main plant is located in the Distillery District, at the southern end of town. It’s worth the walk from anywhere to see and smell the Soma aroma – dark, rich, thick and pretty. Very pretty, with all the bars, truffles, pralines and caramels lined up and piled up, waiting for you. But no matter what you buy, try a cup of their hot chocolate. It’s a shot of liquid-ganache-meets-Good-Lord-you’rekidding goodness. Chinatown and Koreatown: be careful what you ask for: Toronto’s Chinatown/Koreatown areas are packed with trinket shops, vintage clothing stores, medicine/herb sellers and lots of restaurants. But if you are expecting classic Cantonese cuisine, you’re in for a shock: this is not your parents’ Chinese food. This is the real thing.You may not be able to read the menu and you may be the only English speakers in the place. Non-Chinese Asians make up 12% of the

city’s population, or the largest group of immigrants in Toronto (the Chinese are in second place, with 11%). They love their native dishes, they eat out a lot, and they expect visitors to love them, too. A visit to House of Gourmet (484 Dundas St. West, (416) 217-0167) was overwhelming, with almost 500 different dishes on the menu. Pastries: The French influence in this city shines through when it comes to all things carbohydrate. Breads are light, brownies and cookies are a delight without being too sweet, and flaky pie crust is light enough to leave your plate. Mutual Street Deli is an old and comforting place; a classic corner diner that packs people in on game day Saturdays, which means it’s noisy and the kitchen is stretched to the limit. But it’s also the kind of place that somehow produces great food for the locals, who keep coming here for the all-day breakfasts of omelets that hang off the plate’s edge, meatloaf, burgers, salads and smoked meat sandwiches, including corned beef sliced so thin that it almost ceased to exist. If you cannot find a place to sit, you can always take it to go and walk a block west to the aptly-named Church Street, then sit among the half-dozen peaceful churchyards and magnificent spires in this neighborhood. Kensington Market vs. St. Lawrence Market: This is more about a neighborhood versus a building. Kensington looks like a market when you look at a map. It is actually a crazy-quilt collection of small ethnic food markets, funky clothing and art stores and restaurants.You’ll see shops in old Victorian buildings selling Goth clothing and hear reggae music pouring out of Korean vegetable markets. It’s a part of town with many accents. Some places to check out include Global Cheese (76 Kensington Ave.) for a huge selection of cheese, knowledgeable staff and the generous trybefore-you-buy policy. They want you to be educated about your purchases and they go the extra mile to make sure that happens. If you are into military surplus, you have

to go into the Army Surplus Main Store, 199 Baldwin St. and say hello to “Camomother”, as the owner is known. The place is packed with merchandise, so space is tight, and it’s cash only. But if you love this kind of gear or you are looking for a different kind of gift or souvenir, this is the place for you. St. Lawrence, on the other hand, is a bonafide market. Actually, it’s two buildings. One that is open Tuesday through Saturday, and the North Market building, which is open for local farmers on Saturdays and for a flea market on Sundays . St. Lawrence’s main market is a two-floor eating paradise.You can get anything here. Fresh seafood, cheese, meat butchered to order from whole animals, kitchen gadgets, the best produce from all the provinces and beyond, baked goods, caviar, fresh juices, spices, teas – you can shop here for food, and never worry about going to the local supermarket. Do not miss the lower level of the market. It’s a little less elegant and a little more boisterous, but there are some real bargains down below, such as fresh caviar, Hungarian food, and fresh-squeezed juices.

Shopping Tosho Knife Arts in Mirvish Village is for people who care about their knives, and don’t want anyone else to use them. Tosho is about seriously beautiful knives of all sizes, from cheese knives and pocket knives up to kitchen and utility knives of literally any length and shape. There’s a museum-worthy selection of ready-made cutlery, or you can ask about custom orders. Bloor Street West: This is the spot for big spenders who know and love their labels and aren’t afraid to spend. All the best boutiques are here: Hermes, Gucci, Prada, Aldo, BCBG Max Azria, Hugo Boss, Kate Spade, Louis Vuitton and Michael

Kors, just to name a few. There are hair, nail, and skin salons, dry cleaners, money exchanges, jewelers, and even laser treatment centers, for that last-minute, serious beauty treatment. Queen Street East: If you loved the 1960s and 1970s, you may never leave this area. The street is known for the funky collection of thrift, vintage and second-hand stores.You’ll find clothes, furniture and eclectic items for your home, office or to give as gifts to people who are simply impossible to buy for. Rest assured, if you spot it on QSE, you likely won’t ever see it anywhere else. There are a few independent grocery stores and specialty food shops here as well. This is a great neighborhood for meeting the locals and seeing the real Toronto. I loved this city. I enjoyed doing some of the touristy things, like the CN Tower, but I admit I’d skip them to indulge in the lesser-known delights of Canada’s largest city.You need a better than average budget to really do the city well, and more than a week to take it all in. I promise to return, with more time and many more loonies.

•As of October 2011, www.BuzzBuzzHome.com ** The Council on Tall Buildings and Urban Habitat, report, December, 2012.

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home design

We celebrate Palm Beach Style by showcasing the newly renovated Colony Hotel, Palm Beach Island. By Josephine May

or as long as we can remember we have loved the colorful, vintage vibe that Palm Beach fashion and interior design style exudes. From the pinks and greens and Lilly prints to the white lacquer and gilded Hollywood Regency style. And truth be told we are treasure hunters and often find ourselves at estate sales and shops along Dixie looking for that perfect piece that is Palm Beach Style.You can capture the style yourself by adding some key colors and pieces. We can tell you how and show you some photos but we suggest to go book yourself a room at the wonderful Colony Hotel, Palm Beach. Recently renovated…..it is Palm Beach… in all it’s glory. The Colony Hotel has been the center of Palm Beach Style since the 40’s has been re-imagined with a $9 Million Dollar renovation by internationally renowned designer Carleton Varney, President of Dorothy Draper & Company. It is simply Palm Beach. Done so well.

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EQUESTRIAN CLUB ESTATES

$1,295,000

$1,290,000

Walk to the Horse Show

Stunning Water Views

Beautiful 4 bedroom, 3.5 bath home on Stroller Way Large pool and patio area, available furnished

Gorgeous 4 bedroom, 3.5 bath home on Stroller Way Gas stove and fireplace, great pool area, available furnished

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WELLINGTON, FLORIDA

PALM BEACH POINT

$1,250,000/Per Lot

The Most Sought After Equestrian Neighborhood

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5 acre farm, 18-stall barn, grass paddocks, all-weather arena 5 bedroom, 5 bath home plus beautiful 2 bedroom guest house

Hack to WEF, four 5 acre lots offered together or separately Build your dream farm on 5, 10, 15, or 20 acres

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SOUTHFIELDS

$7,200,000

$3,995,000

Direct Bridle Path Access Into Grand Prix Village

Professional Facility Close to the Horse Show

18-stall barn, staff quarters, all-weather ring, owner's lounge 5 bedroom, 6.5 bath pool home, 2 bedroom manager's home

5+ acres, 2 barns totaling 38 stalls, ring with all-weather footing Two 2 bedroom apartments plus staff quarters

MARTHA W. JOLICOEUR Cell: 561-797 -8040 Office: 561-793-2300 martha@marthasproperties.com

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“3rd Annual Girls, Pearls, Hats & Heels”

Photos left to right 1. C aron Dockerty & Nancy Dockerty- Event Co-Chairs, Kate Toomey – Honorary Chair, Kimberley Trombley-Burmeister – Library Development Director 2. K ay Harvey – Executive Director Bethesda Hospital Foundation & Nancy Dockerty – Library Board President, event Co-Chair

3. H at Sponsor – Tauriello & Company Real Estate, Inc. Sue Tauriello, Mary Jane Masella, Sandra Champagne, Susan Ring,Inez Fleming, Stacey Hamilton 4. H eels Sponsor – Bank United Phyllis Fornabaio, Mary Boutin, Ali Razak

The first ever Central Park Dressage Challenge presented by ROLEX

Photos left to right 1. G eorgina Bloomberg and Juvina won the $210,000 Central Park Grand Prix, presented by Rolex CSI 3*. 2. T he arena at the Central Park Horse Show, presented by Rolex.

3. T he Central Park Grand National Shetland Pony Steeplechase were in the weekend matinees.

4. A long with matinee performances, the U.S. World Equestrian Games Vaulting team gave a performance before Saturday night's competition.

5. G ermany's Isabell Werth and El Santo NRW won the $40,000 Central Park Dressage Challenge, presented by Axel Johnson Group. Shown with Mark and Katherine Bellissimo, Tammany Patrick of Axel Johnson Group, Paige Bellissimo, and Jim Wolf. Photos all copyright Kit Houghton/Rolex.

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Office Depot Foundation Women’s Symposium

Photos left to right 1. V ictoria Rixon (left), market manager, J.P. Morgan Private Wealth Management Division, and Virginia Philip, master sommelier, Virginia Philip Wine Shop & Academy (right), spoke to Office Depot Foundation Women’s Symposium participants on the topic of “What Does Maximizing Success Mean to You?” Mary Wong, president of the Office Depot Foundation, is at center. 2. ( From left) Keynote Speaker Naomi Whittel, founder and CEO, Reserveage Nutrition; Mary Wong, president of the Office Depot Foundation; and Ovidiana Soleis

3. S peakers Robin Wilson (left), CEO and founder, Robin Wilson Home; and Gila Kurtz, co-founder and owner, Dog is Good, closed the Women’s Symposium with in inspiring presentation on “Giving Back to Make a Difference.” 4. ( From left) Speaker Holly Bohn, founder and creative director, See Jane Work; Mary Wong, president of the Office Depot Foundation; and speaker Linda Rendleman, CEO and co-founder, Women Like Us Foundation. Bohn and Rendleman spoke on “Innovation for Women.” 5. M ary Wong (left), president of the Office Depot Foundation; students from the Women of Tomorrow Mentor & Scholarship Program at West Boca High School; School Coordinator Beth Rubin; and Anne Dufour Zuckerman, Law Offices of Anne Dufour Zuckerman. 6. M ary Wong (center), president of the Office Depot Foundation, thanks representatives from Women’s Symposium sponsors (from left) Florida Atlantic University (Gift Bag Sponsor), 3M (Exhibitor Sponsor), Daszkal Bolton (Exhibitor Sponsor), SMEAD (Exhibitor Sponsor), Coca-Cola (Breaks Sponsor) and Allstate Benefits (Exhibitor Sponsor). 7. ( From left) Lisa Mulhall, In Rem Solutions; Susan Diener, co-president of Impact 100 Palm Beach County; Beth Johnston, director, Local Relations, Division of Institutional Advancement, Florida Atlantic University; Cindy Krebsbach, In Rem Solutions; Karen Sweetapple, board member of Impact 100 Palm Beach County 8. M ary Wong (center), president of the Office Depot Foundation, thanks representatives from Women’s Symposium table sponsors (from left) the U.S. Chamber of Commerce Foundation Corporate Citizenship Center, Greenberg Traurig, the Women’s Business Development Council of Florida and Grand Canyon University. 9. M ary Wong (left), president of the Office Depot Foundation, thanks representatives from Women’s Symposium sponsors (from left) WBENC (Journal/Workbook Sponsor), Ernst & Young (Registration Sponsor), Office Depot (Network Reception Sponsor) and the Merrill G. & Emita E. Hastings Foundation. 10. A group of participants enjoys the camaraderie of the inaugural Office Depot Foundation Women’s Symposium. 11. ( From left) Women’s Symposium participants Dr. Sheryl Ferguson, Lasting Families; Beth Sena-Parker, The Sena Group; and Roxana Scaffidi, CEO/Owner, FLAccounting, LLC 12. L iza Crenshaw (left) and Bailey Jacobs from the U.S. Chamber of Commerce Foundation Corporate Citizenship Center attended the Symposium from Washington, DC. 13. A nswering questions following the opening presentation are (from left) Mary Wong, president of the Office Depot Foundation; Victoria Rixon, Market Manager, J.P. Morgan Private Wealth Management Division; and Virginia Philip, Master Sommelier, Virginia Philip Wine Shop & Academy. 14. P atricia Burdett with United Capital Financial Advisers, who served as a table facilitator for the Women’s Symposium, poses a question to the speakers. 15. M ichelle Villalobos, Founder of the Women’s Success Summit and author of The Stiletto in Your Back, spoke energetically to participants about how to “Stop Competing and Start Collaborating: Brand Yourself, Establish Massive Influence and Become a Category of One.” Photography: Carlos Aristizabal

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lake and Lindsey met at Florida State University so it was important to implement that into their special day, so Lindsey surprised him with the FSU themed grooms cake. Lindsey's favorite part of the day was seeing him for the first time as she was walking down the aisle. She was shaking before the doors opened, but once she saw him, she immediately calmed down. She knew that he was feeling the same way so it was a special feeling to know that we could work as a team that day, but most importantly in life. Blake's favorite part of the day was when their photographer, Mario Munoz took us away from the reception to take pictures by the wine in the HMF lounge. At first we were annoyed that we were being taken from our reception, but Mario explained he wanted to do that because it seemed like we needed a moment away from it all together to absorb everything, and he couldn't have been more right.

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survive Life has many roads. Some bumps and turns are never expected. After what seemed like the longest road and longest year of quite the ride and not in a good way I found myself sitting at the crossroads of my life. From death to illness to loss and significant change. I knew one thing. I didn't start to stop. I was reminded of the Kathy Kinney quote below. Move over, I have changed lanes and look forward to the new ride.

“One day she finally grasped that unexpected things were always going to happen in life. And with that, she realized the only control she had was how she chose to handle them. So, she made the decision to survive using courage, humor and grace. She was the queen of her own life and the choice was hers.” – Kathy Kinney

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