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The “Bewitching”

ERIN MURPHY REMEMBERING

FRANKENSTEIN’S

BRIDE SURVIVING AND THRIVING AS AN

Alzheimer’s

Caregiver

Kathy

Bates

Horriﬁcally happy and ﬂying through life

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Contents

October 2015

Cover Profile

Departments

10 Kathy Bates

6 50-Plus: What You Need to Know

Horrifically happy and flying through life.

8 It’s The Law

Features 20 Thriving And Surviving As An Alzheimer’s Caregiver Coping strategies that can literally save your life while caring for another.

24 Life After Breast Cancer Support, information, guidance and tools for women to live post-breast cancer life.

26 The Hallowed Hall Of Must-Knowtables * Elsa Lanchester Legendary notables that everyone, of every age, should know.

30 The Look Of Life After 50 – Erin Murphy

The actress who played Tabitha on “Bewitched” shares memories and the joy of the journey.

A quick look at things 50-plusers should be aware of. Mitchell A. Karasov on avoiding punishment for doing a good deed.

22 Tuned In To What’s On

The best in October television viewing.

34 Let’s Get Out

Looking to get out and about? Our October/November calendar has some great suggestions.

38 Rick Steves’ Travels

The fatal attractions of Europe.

42 And Finally…The Bookworm’s Best, A Look Back and Just A Thought Before We Go

A book suggestion, memory, and a little something to leave you with.

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Editor’s Note...

A bit of inspiration, wrapped in disbelief and admiration

nbelieving shock and endearing admiration. That was, over and over, the reaction I received when I told folks we would be featuring actresses Erin Murphy and Kathy Bates in our October issue. The shock came via the realization that Murphy, who played Tabitha in the television series “Bewitched,” has not only joined the 50plus club, but is also a grandmother. I have seen similar wide-eyed reactions from folks when we featured Donny Osmond, Mariel Hemingway and Scott Baio, but for some reason, the concept of little, toddling Tabitha now being in her 50s was a reality check that hit a good many of my boomer brethren with a stinging slap. As for the admiring love: I’ve been interviewing notables and sharing their stories with viewers, listeners and readers for so long, it sends me into unbelieving shock. Going back over all those years and stories, I have received innumerable comments from people who expressed their affection for the subjects I presented, but never anything like I got when I mentioned I was interviewing Bates. I’m sure the purveyors of every profession have various questions they are constantly asked and, for me, the query has always been what someone I have interviewed is “really like.” Interestingly, when it came to Bates, instead of being asked what she was like, every person I encountered broke into a passionate spiel of how much they loved and admired her, almost always with the preambling line: “She is my favorite actress!” As for what Bates was like, I’ll be the first to disclose I am also a long-time fan and a fellow Yorkshire terrier aficionado. That revealed, I will set aside my fondness for her (and her dogs) and, in strictly professional terms, state for the record: She was one of the warmest, genuinely down-to-Earth, funny and allaround delightful people I have ever encountered. From my earliest interviews, I can’t recall one in which I came away without being inspired by something that has stayed with me and served as a lasting personal definition of my interviewee. As for the two women we feature in this issue, the same was true. With Murphy, it was her belief in finding happiness in each moment. “I think so many people get caught up in the future – what they hope for and want, things that may never come to be – that they don’t enjoy the journey,” she told me. “I believe there is joy to be found along the way.” As for Bates, it was in her passionate stance that even when you get knocked down in life, you’ve got to keep moving forward. “Sometimes it isn’t easy and you feel like giving up,” she said, “but you’ve just got to get back up and fly and keep going and living your life.” While neither of those sentiments is unbelievably shocking, I did find them to be endearingly admirable and inspiring…as I hope you do as your read their stories.

David Laurell, Editor-in-Chief

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An October Thought

“There is a child in every one of us who is still a trickor-treater looking for a brightly-lit front porch.” – Robert Brault

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From Miracles To Bigfoot – What We Believe

recent national poll has found that over 71 percent of Americans believe in miracles, 42 percent believe that ghosts exist, 41 percent think that extrasensory perception and telepathy are possible, and 29 percent believe in astrology. Sander van der Linden, a social psychologist and Psychology Today blogger whose research explores the psychology of social influence, judgment, and decision-making, says other recent psychological research has found an espousal of conspiracy theories and belief in the paranormal are highly correlated with one another. According to van der Linden, other polls have also shown that 21 percent of Americans think the government is hiding aliens from other planets, 28 percent believe that a mysterious, secret elite power is plotting a new world order, and 14 percent believe in Bigfoot.

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What You Need To Know

By Claire Yezbak Fadden and Max Andrews

Think Pink

s we observe National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, it is a sobering fact that breast cancer is the second most common kind of cancer in women. About one in eight women born today in the United States will get breast cancer at some point. The good news is that many women can survive breast cancer if it’s found and treated early. If you are a woman age 50 to 74, be sure to get a mammogram every two years. You may also choose to get one more often. Talk to a doctor about your risk for breast cancer, especially if a close family member of yours had breast or ovarian cancer. Your doctor can help you decide when and how often to get mammograms. Learning more about breast cancer can help you take an active part in making informed choices about your care. At www. cancer.gov you’ll find a booklet, “What You Need To Know About Breast Cancer,” that includes information on the basics about breast anatomy and breast cancer; available treatments; information about reconstruction after mastectomy, and a list of questions you should be asking your doctor.

Fifty Candles

ifty years ago this month, Fidel Castro announced Che Guevara’s resignation from his government position, citing his need to leave Cuba to fight for the revolutionary cause abroad; President Lyndon B. Johnson signed the Immigration and Nationality Act of 1965 abolishing quotas based on national origin; the Los Angeles Dodgers won the 62nd World Series defeating the Minnesota Twins; Pope Paul VI, the first pontiff to visit the Western Hemisphere, celebrated mass in Yankee Stadium and made a speech at the United Nations; the Gateway Arch in St. Louis, Missouri opened; and the Supremes released “I Hear a Symphony.” Notable personalities born in October 1965 who are celebrating their 50th birthday this month include actors Lenny James and Ted King, model Cindy Margolis, hockey player Mario Lemieux, college football coach Jimbo Fisher, news anchor Harris Faulkner, actresses Kelly Rowan, Charnele Brown and Jamie Gertz, singer-songwriter Shawn Smith and musician Chad Larson.

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The Taste Of Living To Be 100

he secret to longevity does not rest with the federal government or the medical community, asserts longevity expert Dan Buettner. According to Buettner, the answer can be found with those in our communities who control our living environments – municipal officials, restaurant owners, school administrators and parents who run households and make daily lifestyle decisions for themselves and their families. “If we arm these people with strategies to nudge us into better eating, more natural movement and better social interaction, better health will ensue, with longevity an added bonus,” Buettner opines. “It’s not a silver bullet; it’s silver buckshot – a healthy swarm of small things that make a huge impact.” For more than a decade Buettner has traveled the globe in search of the world’s longevity hot spots – communities he’s identified as “Blue Zones,” places with high concentrations of 100-year-olds who have grown old without preventable diseases such as diabetes, heart disease and obesity. In his new book, “The Blue Zones Solution: Eating and Living Like the World’s Healthiest People” (National Geographic Books, 2015), Buettner reveals how to transform your health using the smart eating and lifestyle practices of the world’s longest-lived people. Here’s a taste of his findings: * Stop eating when your stomach is 80 percent full to avoid weight gain. *

Eat your smallest meal of the day in the late afternoon or evening.

Eat mostly plants, especially beans, and eat meat rarely, in small portions of three to four ounces.

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Celebrating The Chairman’s Centennial

hroughout his nine-decade career, Frank Sinatra, who was born 100 years ago this December, performed on more than 1,400 recordings and was awarded 31 gold, nine platinum, three double platinum and one triple platinum albums. He appeared in more than 60 films and produced eight motion pictures. Through the years, he also demonstrated a remarkable ability to appeal to every generation and he continues to do so. Beginning on October 21, fans of the man who headed up The Rat Pack as “The Chairman of the Board” and was affectionately known as “Ol’ Blue Eyes,” can celebrate the centennial of America’s favorite singer by immersing themselves in the vocalist’s memorabilia. The Grammy Museum in downtown Los Angeles will play host to “Sinatra: An American Icon”, a multimedia exhibit exploring the life and career of the multiple Grammy Award-winner. This exhibition traces 100 years of Sinatra’s legacy, from Hoboken, New Jersey, through superstardom, chronicling the meteoric rise of his music career, his Hollywood success, personal life and humanitarian work. This display will feature artifacts from the Sinatra family’s personal collection, including never-before-seen photos, family mementos, rare correspondence, personal items, artwork and recordings, as well as original artifacts from Capitol Studios, where Sinatra recorded many of his most-beloved songs. The Grammy Museum is located at 800 W. Olympic Boulevard in Los Angeles. “Sinatra: An American Icon,” will be on display in the second floor special exhibits gallery through February 2016. For more information call (213) 7656803 or click on www.grammymuseum.org.

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Seenager: While those under 20 define the word as teens who are a part of the hip and trendy scene in which to be seen, folks over 50 use it a portmanteau of “senior” and “teenager” to describe a peer who is adventurous and doing things they couldn’t afford to do as a kid.

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Aerobically Attacking Alzheimer’s

xercise may do more than help keep your waistline slim. New findings from research conducted at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center in North Carolina suggests that working up a good sweat may also improve life for Alzheimer’s disease sufferers. Cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Laura Baker, Ph.D., who reported some of the findings at a recent Alzheimer’s Association International Conference, points to results showing how aerobic exercise significantly increased blood flow in the memory and processing centers of participants’ brains, with a corresponding improvement in attention, planning and organizing abilities referred to as “executive function.” Participants who completed aerobic exercise (most commonly using a treadmill) saw a statistically significant reduction in tau tangle (brain lesions) levels in cerebrospinal fluid (CSF). The effect was most pronounced in adults over the age of 70, according to Baker, an associate professor of gerontology and geriatric medicine. Baker had previously shown that in older adults with mild cognitive impairment (MCI), regular moderate-to-high intensity aerobic exercise has benefits for cognition and plasma levels of amyloid protein, the primary component of the other Alzheimer’s hallmark lesion, known as plaques. “These findings are important because they strongly suggest a potent lifestyle intervention such as aerobic exercise can impact Alzheimer’s-related changes in the brain,” Baker said. “No currently approved medication can rival these effects.”

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Avoiding punishment for doing a good deed

I feel like I’m in a situation in which no good deed going unpunished. I was my elderly aunt’s power of attorney and managed her medical care and finances until she passed away. I worked closely with the healthcare professionals to make sure she was properly cared for and our family repeatedly told me I made a great contribution to her last years. I explain this, because I’m now having problems dealing with her estate. Her only income was social security, which was insufficient to pay for her caregivers and the nursing home. However, she had multiple $50,000 CDs, which, as they became due, I consolidated into regular savings accounts and, as needed, transferred that money into her trust checking account. I didn’t appreciate that I needed to make provisions for myself and all the other nieces and nephews that my aunt indicated as beneficiaries on the CDs I closed. As of now, only a few of my six cousins have received their CDs. The bank manager is trying to be helpful, but she told me they cannot release the beneficiary information or any inheritance without a probate court order. In my aunt’s trust, I inherit her condo, the contents, and the residue of $270,000. I really want to get my other cousins their inheritance quickly for a variety of reasons, including one who is threatening to sue me. I need to know if there’s anything I can file with the court to get the money quickly. If not, I may be able to get the money from someplace else and give it to them. If I do that, can I just keep the residue?

As a power of attorney over your aunt’s finances, you also owed a duty to her to preserve her estate plan for inheritance. That includes taking into account all of her beneficiaries, including all of those named on accounts. Accordingly, you needed to ensure that you did not favor one beneficiary over the other. Based on what you’ve explained, it sounds like a few of your cousins actually collected the $50,000 CDs your aunt had set up for them as beneficiaries. Her estate only has $270,000 in liquid funds, the condo, and the personal belongings contained therein. Since you’re supposed to inherit the condo and its contents and you and the other cousins were intended to inherit $50,000 each, somebody isn’t going to inherit their full share. This sounds like it would have been the case anyway, except you have a few cousins who already received their full sum when they should have only received a reduced sum. The problem for you is that since you were legally in charge of the finances, you could be held financially responsible to make up the difference for the cousins who aren’t receiving as much as they could have. Furthermore, you may be held accountable for other expenses related to the legal and accounting costs, as well as any potential harm related to the delays. There are ways to expedite the distributions to your cousins. However, you need legal representation to properly administer your aunt’s probate and trust estate to conclusion, to make any distribution to your cousins, and to protect yourself. You need to quickly retain a qualified probate/elder law attorney to also attempt to head off any lawsuit that your cousin is threatening.

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Cover Profile

Kathy

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inematically speaking, the word “Casablanca” will always conjure up the image of Humphrey Bogart as Rick Blaine in a white dinner jacket presiding over his cafe. No one can hear the word “godfather” without thinking of Marlon Brando as Don Vito Corleone gently stroking his cat while making offers that couldn’t be refused. And who would not immediately (with a cringing, ankle-covering shudder) associate the word “misery” with Kathy Bates as the sledgehammer-welding Annie Wilkes? While the character of Wilkes may always be the one most-associated with Bates, who won an Oscar and Golden Globe for the role she played in the 1990 psychological thriller, “Misery,” more recently her name conjures two of the creepy characters of FX’s “American Horror Story” (“AHS”) – Delphine LaLaurie, a 19th century slave killer for which she won a Best Supporting Actress Emmy Award, and Ethel Darling, a booze-swigging freakshow bearded lady, which earned her an Emmy nomination. This month, as the fifth season of the hugely popular anthology series debuts as “Hotel,” Bates will add yet another character to her canon of roles – Iris, the crossword puzzle-playing manager of the Hotel Cortez. Iris lives at the Cortez with her son, Donovan, played by Matt Bomer, who becomes romantically involved with The Countess, portrayed by Lady Gaga, who has an “ancient blood virus” that keeps her eternally young, but in constant need of fresh blood. Beyond Annie, Delphine, Ethel and Iris, Bates, one of Hollywood’s most beloved actresses, is revered for her other numerous iconic roles, including the unsinkable Molly Brown in James Cameron’s “Titanic” and Harriet Korn, an attorney rebounding for a second act in her career on NBC’s “Harry’s Law.” Along with her on screen work, the Memphis native, who turned 67 this past June, has also dealt with her share of real-life horror. Diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2003, which she successfully fought, 2012 saw her diagnosed with breast cancer and undergo a double mastectomy. Following her masectomy she contracted lymphedema in both of her arms, which causes fluid retention and tissue swelling due to a compromised lymphatic system. Agitated by just how little doctors know about this rather mysterious disease, even though it affects an estimated 10 million Americans, Bates has become a passionate advocate for sufferers and, as the national spokesperson for the Lymphatic Education and Research Network, is actively involved in lobbying the government and medical community to do more research on its causes, prevention and treatment. Life After 50 was recently invited to spend a day visiting with Bates at the Art Deco-era Hollywood home she shares with her Yorkshire terriers, Mr. Mojo Rising, whom she calls “Mini Mo,” and Zelda (named after Zelda Zonk, the pseudonym Marilyn Monroe used to avoid the press and fans). Enjoying a day off from “AHS,” Bates sunk into a couch adorned with floral print pillows in a room overlooking her pool with the HOLLYWOOD sign in the background and cuddled up with the terriers for a chat. life After 50 (lA50) Thank you for giving up your day off from your hectic filming schedule to spend some time with us. Talk about how you became involved with “American Horror Story.” Kathy Bates (KB): I was driving down Beverly Boulevard and this billboard for “American Horror Story” caught my eye. In one corner was a pregnant woman about to give birth and opposite her was a man in a rubber suit. That was it. Nothing else. I had never seen anything like that. I mean my head literally turned to look at it and I couldn’t look away. So I was intrigued and started to watch the show and thought it was absolutely great. This was the first season – “Murder House.” I thought Jessica [Lange] was doing such amazing work and the rest of the cast was wonderful. The whole story line was interesting to me. I was doing “Harry’s Law” at the time and when we got cancelled, I talked to Jessica during the summer they were shooting the second season, “Asylum.” I told her I would love to sit down with Ryan

Murphy [the co-creator and producer of “AHS”], just to tell him I’m a fan. That was it. I really didn’t expect anything to come out of it. It had been a rather difficult time for me – the cancellation of “Harry’s Law” and having to have a double mastectomy. So a few months went by and Ryan and I finally found time to sit down together and when we did, he pitched this wonderful part of Delphine LaLaurie to me. And then everything changed. This little person who thought her career was over suddenly got up and started running around the room saying: “Hey! I can do this… and what about this… and I’m so excited about that!” When Ryan offered me that role, I just came back to life. LA50: You really thought your career was over? KB: I did. That summer, after the cancellation of “Harry’s Law,” was a very painful time. I was really upset about the cancellation. Even though we had seven to 11 million people watching every week, and regardless of the fact that they kept switching the days and never gave us any publicity, our audience always found us and were tremendously loyal. And yet, it was announced they were cancelling us because they said it couldn’t be “monetized with an older audience.” I was absolutely furious when I heard that, because our whole generation – those of us over 50 – has redefined what age is. And television has got to get with that reality. I understand the desire for a young demo and what advertisers want and all of that, but I think it is a totally outdated concept that older people don’t change brands. It’s just not true at all! Anyway, I was angry over the cancellation and mastectomy and was tending to my wounds over the show and the operation and I just felt like everything was over. I thought: “Okay, I’m done.” But then, I began to think: “Well shoot, I’m not going to just lay down and die here.” So while I’ve never been a party giver, I put on this shiva for “Harry.” I invited everybody – the entire cast and

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crew – and we had a great time. That put an end to “Harry” for me and then being offered the role by Ryan really put me back into life – getting on with working and living my life.

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KB: What was tough was the heat. It was hot as the hinges in Hades [laughs]. It was tough shooting “Coven” outside in the heat while wearing 18th century outfits. Then I actually got heat exhaustion while we were doing “Freak Show.”

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LA50: Your “Freak Show” character, Ethel, became a fan favorite. How did you prepare for that role? KB: Our production designer, Mark Worthington, did a lot to help me find her. Mark is one of my most favorite people and he makes these amazing sets that are so much fun to play on and are so inspiring. When I was trying to get a handle on Ethel, all I knew was she was a bearded woman. Then Mark found a real vintage caravan and had it brought to the set. He and his very talented crew used it as a model to build a replica and they decorated it with all of these things Ethel had picked up over the years in all her travels. It was the most exquisite set, and as soon as I walked in, that’s where I found my Ethel. You just never know where you are going to find your character. I found she had a sense of history and was very proud of her career. She reminded me of the actress Liz Ashley. Liz and I did a play together in the 1970s – “Vanities” – and she had everything with her in her dressing room. Her copper pots, her dogs, her pillows, all sorts of this-and-that. She once told me: “Honey, if you are going to be on the road, you need to be comfortable.”

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LA50: Back to “American Horror Story.” Talk about doing a show with the same cast in which you all play different roles every season. KB: It is like living in a neighborhood with your best friends and you’re all kids playing dress-up. One day you are this character and then another day you say: “No. I want to play that character,” and it all shifts around. It is the most wonderful magical thing an actor could get to do. It’s play. Most of the cast on “AHS” comes from theater, so there is a built-in respect and an understanding of the language and the craft of acting. It’s a wonderful group. It feels like a real troupe.

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LA50: And what a troupe it is! A dream troupe! But before we talk about the regular cast, for the benefit of those who loved “Freak Show,” tell us about working with Jyoti Amge who played the endearing Ma Petite. KB: Everyone loved her. I’ll never forget one day, when she was sitting on Jessica’s lap and she got tickled running lines back and forth and started laughing. And then somebody said the “F” word and she covered her mouth and gave this horrified look. She was so very sweet. LA50: Talk about working with Sarah Paulson. KB: I just told her the other day that I think she is one of the most delightful and joyful people I have ever known. She is part of the magic that brought me back to life. She is incredibly talented and so much fun to hang out with. I just adore her. She is so intense and like a young girl in a woman’s body. She just goes for it in life with her hands outstretched, like: “Gimme! Gimme!” LA50: And Angela Bassett? KB: I love her. I first met Angela when she was still a student at Yale and she really impressed me. There was something about her then that I never forgot. I sensed a power in her and that has grown into the powerhouse she has become. LA50: And how about Evan Peters who played your son in “Freak Show.” KB: [Rolls her eyes and sinks back into the couch] Okay, I just have to tell you, I forgot my lines every time I worked with Evan. One time, he was supposed to be throwing up in a bucket and I would forget my line and he would be like: “Okay, I’ve got to do this all over again, because the broad forgot her lines

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LA50: Tell us about your character, Iris. KB: Iris runs the hotel that is owned by Gaga’s character – The Countess. Iris has been there for a while and just hates her job – making sure all the activities in the hotel are running smoothly. And there are some very grizzly activities that I can’t reveal [laughs]. Iris also hates Sarah’s character, who is a junkie. LA50: Does Iris have an accent? KB: [Laughing] No accent! I wish she did! And no beard either. I’m still getting to know her. I recently told somebody that I see Iris sort of like a hotel – I keep finding new rooms. LA50: Every “AHS” fan is speculating as to where Ryan is going with this anthology and how he intends to tie it all together, but I guess you’re not going to tell us. KB: [laughs] No, but I really think this season is going to be jaw dropping. There will be so much going on that it’s almost like going through a fun house. Great acting and directing… surprising storylines. It’s going to be a great season. LA50: As an actress who also directs, is it easier or harder to be directed?

again” [laughing]. I don’t know what it was about him that made me feel so nervous. He is such a wonderful actor – so real!

KB: When an actor directs, they have compassion for the actor, and when I am acting, I have compassion for the director – but I still want to put my two cents’ worth in [laughs.] With television, you don’t get to do rehearsals like you do in a play, and if you are an actor of notoriety, a director sometimes is hesitant to tell you what to do. So, many times you are flying by the seat of your pants. I always tell every director I work with that I may have won an Academy Award for one role, but it’s not this one, so I’m just starting from scratch [laughs]. But I think after you have directed, you watch the way a director works with other actors differently. I do, and at times think: “Oh gee, I wish they had told the actor this instead of that.” Actors understand doing. They want to know how they are doing, why they are doing something, how it should be done.

LA50: And, of course, the one everyone wants to hear about – Lady Gaga. KB: I simply adore her. I read something on Twitter that it is nothing but a publicity thing that people say how much they love working with her. That’s just BS! She is a true sweetheart. When we began shooting this season, I went to a wonderful dinner party she threw for the cast at her beautiful estate in Malibu. When I entered this big foyer, there was a curvy staircase, and I’m sure she timed this, she walked down the staircase looking right at me, looking for all the world like Veronica Lake in a silver fishnet evening gown that left nothing to the imagination. It was SO Hollywood! But that’s her. She’s a performance artist and a fashion maven, and she has brought so much of that to her role as The Countess. She is truly an amazing talent and a courageous woman. I had watched her concerts with Tony Bennett and I thought: “OMG, this woman is totally reinventing herself.” Then her appearance on the Oscars, doing “The Sound of Music” tribute, changed everything. I kept expecting her to pull her skirt off and make a joke out of it. But she really worked hard on it and it totally changed the way so many people view her. But back to the party. She had black calla lilies all over, which I didn’t even know existed. And she had her pool dyed blood red. What a night! When I left, she insisted on walking me out to my car. I said: “No, no, that’s okay.” But she insisted. She took my arm and walked me out and we stood talking about how happy and grateful we are to be in the show. She said how excited she was to be with the group, as a part of the ensemble – which is not something she’s used to. Then they brought my car around and as I walked across the gravel she said: “I’m coming with you.” I said: “Not in those heels.” And she said, “I can walk on anything in platform shoes.” So she escorted me over to the car and closed the door. It was just so Gaga! [laughs]. I love working with her. She is so talented and smart. She has a great sense of humor and is a woman who really knows how to market herself. She is just brilliant!

LA50: You mentioned earlier that you felt like giving up after you had the mastectomy. Can you share a bit of how you did deal with that, and the other health challenges you have faced?

LA50: This is Gaga’s first real acting gig. Has she hit the ground running? KB: She is unafraid. Totally courageous and really in it. She is very aware of her timing and relationship to space. I think she’s having a ball and has already said she would love to act more.

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KB: Yeah, I will share a very personal story, since we are sitting here by these big glass windows. The mastectomy was a difficult recovery for me. I got lymphedema, which is a swelling in my arms, but thank goodness it is a very mild version. But it was rough and I had to wear these drains to help with the fluid for several weeks. Then, I can remember getting the drains out, feeling great, coming out into this room and saying, “Ahh…it just feels great!” And then, WHAM, a little bird flew right into the glass and dropped. I thought to myself: “God, why is it always something?” So I went out and I picked up this poor little bird and his head was hanging off the side of my hand and his little feet were hanging down and his little eyes were crooked and he was dead. I went over and sat on a chair just feeling like I had hit the window – how you fight and pray and strive for healing and then the universe is just cruel, and as I sat there telling myself not to go there, this little bird all of a sudden flipped over in my hand. I could see his little beak open and close, and he then lifted his little legs under him and I could feel his tiny claws on my palm. I checked his wings and they seemed okay. So I took him over to this planter and my niece came out and saw his beak opening and closing and she gave him water and he drank and began to thrive. I then put my hand out to him and he flew away. It was like a miracle, and my assistant, Linda, who was standing there said: “Are you getting the message?” And I was… the message that like the little bird, I had really taken a hit, but I came through it and wasn’t dead. It was my time to accept my healing and fly off to start working and living my life again. LA50: You have become a very passionate advocate for people with lymphedema. What should our readers know about it?

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learn how little is known about it and how expensive the treatment is. My doctor put me in touch with the Lymphedema Education and Research Network, who, by the way, have a great website with valuable information [www.lymphaticnetwork.org] and I found out that more people are suffering with lymphedema than AIDS, Parkinson’s, muscular dystrophy, ALS and multiple sclerosis. But you never hear about it. Most doctors don’t really even know what it is. I’ve heard about people that have cancer and are worried about it and their doctors tell them not to give it any thought and then, if they develop it, they have to live with the consequences of it not having been treated early. So I want to do everything I can to raise awareness, and I am doing that. I now look at having lymphedema as a great gift in that I can work as an advocate and a spokesperson. The medical community has been like an ostrich with their head in the sand over this disease and people are suffering and not getting the care they need. LA50: As time marches on and you have had to deal with health issues, have you adopted any philosophy on getting older? KB: I’m working on it – on getting older. And I’m lucky to have great people around me. My grand-niece, Georgia, keeps me young, and the incredible people I work with keep me young and active. I don’t know if I have any philosophy except to say you’ve got to be like the little bird who hit the window. You’re flying along and you get knocked down and think it is all over but, you’ve got to get up again and fly. Sometimes it isn’t easy and you feel like giving up, but you’ve just got to get back up and fly and keep going and living your life.

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The 13-episode fifth installment of the Emmy- and Golden Globe-winning franchise, “American Horror Story: Hotel” will premiere on FX on October 7 at 10 p.m. Featuring an all-star cast of Lady Gaga, Sarah Paulson, Kathy Bates, Angela Bassett, Wes Bentley, Matt Bomer, Chloë Sevigny, Denis O’Hare, Cheyenne Jackson, Evan Peters, Lily Rabe and Finn Wittrock, the popular horror series has become legendary for its gory pushing of the envelope. That will certainly be the case this season as the ensemble cast checks into the Hotel Cortez owned by The Countess, a bloodsucking fashionista. Among this season’s plotlines will be two murderous threats in the form of The Ten Commandments Killer, a serial offender that justifies his actions in accordance with Biblical teachings; and The Addiction Demon, who roams the hotel, armed with a phallic-shaped sex toy enhanced with a drill bit. For more information, click on www.fxnetworks.com.

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Special to Life After 50 by Sherry Lynn Harris

Thriving and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver Coping strategies that can literally save your life while caring for another

ere’s something that should scare the daylights out of caregivers of loved ones with Alzheimer’s disease: According to a Stanford University Study, nearly 40 percent will pass away before their loved ones do. I was one of the lucky ones. I survived the responsibility of taking care of my mom for 18 years after her Alzheimer’s diagnosis. During that time, like every caregiver I’ve discussed this with, there were times when I was so discouraged, I didn’t think I could go on. I kept journals as a way of “unloading” all of the complicated feelings and lessons I learned about each crucial challenge so that I could eventually write a book, “Adapting to Alzheimer’s: Support for When Your Parent Becomes Your Child” (iM Press, 2015) in order to help others. While caring for someone whose cognitive abilities are deteriorating due to changes in the brain, impacting their daily skills of living (as in dementia, Parkinson’s, stroke, Alzheimer’s and other conditions) no caregiver need ever work themselves to death when they remember to support themselves in body, mind, and spirit. Here are some of the coping strategies I learned that can literally save your life.

EMBRACE THE SITUATION Caregiving is challenging, but you can benefit dramatically by adopting a shift in perspective. 20 LIFEAFTER50.COM October 2015

Rather than feeling burdened, making a conscious decision that to give care is your choice provides tremendous support. Once you make the commitment to be a caregiver, you embrace a mindset determined to accomplish whatever is needed.

ACCEPT THAT YOUR LOVED ONE IS MORE LIKE A CHILD This is a controversial subject because many elder-care professionals do not believe this is true, although most Alzheimer’s caregivers say this is precisely how they experience the situation. While we will continue to treat our elders with dignity and respect, I find denying the obviously childlike behavior and resisting reality to be unhelpful. Instead, when you focus on accepting your loved one at whatever level they are at, you give yourself permission to play and have fun with them.

LIVE IN THE MOMENT Every person moves through the stages of Alzheimer’s at their own pace, so you never know when a dramatic drop in their skills will occur. You don’t want to put off doing what you can do now, because it may not even be possible in the future. A great way of coping with this knowledge is to live in the moment. That’s basically what your cognitively impaired loved

one is doing, because it can become difficult for them to remember the past or envision the future. Hold in mind these words of wisdom from Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu: “If you are worried, you are living in the past; if you are anxious, you are living in the future; if you are at peace, you are living in the moment.” Enjoy the level your loved one is at in the “now,” because it will change. Find ways to enjoy moments together – of discovery, of wonder, of excitement and joy.

CREATE JOY Have fun doing things your loved one has always enjoyed. If you bake cupcakes or a cake, let their imagination run wild as they decorate them with various colored sprinkles and toppings. Let them make a flower arrangement for the dining table. No matter how it ends up looking compliment them on what a lovely job they did. Realize that there is no wrong way to play. Allow both of you to just relax and have a good time.

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS Granted, your blessings may not be the ones you expected, but there is still much to be grateful for. Make a list of your blessings that you can refer to in times of stress. Just reviewing this list can shift your perspective, helping to restore calm and balance to life.

SPIRITUAL SUPPORT I was strengthened and supported by my spiritual practices of prayer, meditation and communion with my Creator. I can attest, it is a true source of help for those who believe in a higher power.

VISUALIZATION AND BREATHING Try simple visualizations in your imagination. Sit with good posture in a comfortable chair in a quiet, private spot, placing both feet on the ground. Close your eyes and begin to relax. Picture in your mind’s eye a place where you feel best – the beach, the forest, or a garden – and notice everything you can with all your senses. Are you hearing birds singing? Are you feeling the light caress of a gentle breeze on your skin? Then set all thoughts aside for these few minutes and allow yourself to be completely absorbed in resting in silence. Repeat an affirmative statement as you breathe deeply from your abdomen, inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth. Remember the body automatically relaxes itself when your inhale is shorter than your exhale. Try this example: inhale for four counts as you quietly say to yourself: “In the silence,” and as you exhale for seven counts say: “I am peaceful and renewed.” In just a few minutes, you can be restored to balance and peace. Or listen to a guided meditation, such as the ones on my “Serenity Visualizations” CD, which are available by clicking on www.Adapt2Alz.com.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF There are times when everyone needs a break, so familiarize yourself with what’s available in your area with an Internet search of senior centers, adult day-care activity centers, and respite care providers. Know your limitations. The many places that offer respite care will take your loved one for a week so you can take that time to rest and heal. Take time to get away and just “be,” without having to take care of anyone else but yourself. You are human and need nurturing, too.

EDUCATE YOURSELF While you are caring for your loved one, you may want to consider lifestyle changes that can help you

be proactive in retaining your own brain skills. Although Alzheimer’s is the sixth leading cause of death in the United States, the research is still in its infancy. However, what we have learned is that lifestyle choices can postpone or even prevent Alzheimer’s from occurring. * Injuries to the head have shown the most robust evidence of cause; so wear seat belts in the car and use the support of handrails, a cane or a walker to help prevent falls. * Keep the brain functioning by using games developed by neurologists, such as Lumosity (www.lumosity.com). Math problems and games such as Sudoku, Scrabble, and crossword puzzles develop the logical, left side of the brain. Creative activities such as painting, writing, and dancing cultivate the creative, right side of the brain. * Of all the different exercises studied, the only one shown to help cognitive thinking is dancing, and the most effective is ballroom style. This is because the brain is very active – one must remember the dance steps, react to their partner, listen to the music and move to its rhythm, and improvise, all of which builds cognitive resilience. * Eat a Mediterranean diet high in fruits and vegetables, low in meat, moderate in dairy with “good fats” (olive oil, almonds, avocados) and limited sugars and high fructose corn syrup. It is my hope that these coping strategies will prevent anyone going through the caregiving experience from becoming another Stanford University statistic. Adapting to Alzheimer’s can be challenging, but it is possible to not only survive, but to even have many good times as well. By choosing this life of caregiving, practicing acceptance of reality, finding ways to create joy, living in the moment, counting your blessings, visualizing serenity, educating and taking good care of yourself, you can find the way to do your best with what you have, in the place you are.

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f you have a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease or are interested in doing everything you can to prevent the disease, click on www.lifeafter50. com throughout the month of October. Highlighted on our homepage, you’ll find interesting and helpful features on Alzheimer’s by Kristin Rotblatt and Dr. Constance L. Vincent Ph.D. A licensed acupuncturist with a master’s degree in traditional Oriental medicine. Rotblatt has over 30 years of experience in the area of nutritional

counseling, herbal medicine and nutraceuticals who focuses her practice on thyroid and autoimmune disorders, dementia and Alzheimer’s prevention. Rotblatt gives live talks and webinars on “The Ultimate Brain Health Program” every month. For more information and webinar reservations, click on www. longlifeusa.com.

Dr. Vincent is the author of “Not Going Gently: A Psychologist Fights Back Against Alzheimer’s for Her Mother …and Perhaps Herself” (CreateSpace Independent Publishing, 2014), a unique book that offers a moving, scientific and personal perspective for caregivers and individuals who want to prevent Alzheimer’s. For more information on Dr. Vincent and her book, click on www. DrCLVincent.com.

A Survival Guide for Alzheimer’s Caregivers

herry Lynn Harris’ book “Adapting to Alzheimer’s: Support for When Your Parent Becomes Your Child” is a moving tribute to the loving bond between mother and child, as they support each other through 18 years of Alzheimer’s. She provides innovative ideas and useful advice, offering hope and inspiration to caregivers. Unique insights and storytelling to help readers recognize warning signs, put financial and legal affairs in order, use music and play as therapy, learn calming tools to avoid aggression, and support themselves. This book empowers you to rise to the challenge by providing the tools, information, and encouragement you need. As one caregiver said: “It is truly the ultimate survival guide.” For more information on Harris, her book, personal appearances, blog, and CD “Serenity Visualizations,” click on www.Adapt2Alz. com.

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American Horror Story: Hotel – Season Five, FX – Premiers Wednesday October 7 at 10 p.m.

This 13-episode fifth installment of the Emmy- and Golden Globewinning anthology series features an all-star cast that includes Lady Gaga, Sarah Paulson, Kathy Bates, Angela Bassett, Lily Rabe and Emma Roberts. Gaga, who plays Countess Elizabeth, a wealthy social doyenne and owner of the Hotel Cortez, heads up the creepy cast that will once again push the envelope of horrific mayhem. Fighting to overcome the hotel’s tragic past, the countess eventually becomes corrupted by the establishment’s unsavory guests, which include satanic cultists and members of secret organizations. Ultimately, she allows them to conduct their rituals and dark practices, as long as they pay a bloody high price. Warning: This program is intended for mature (and non-squeamish) audiences.

Agent X – New Series, TNT – Premieres Sunday November 8 at 9 p.m.

This action drama marks the television series debut of Sharon Stone, who plays America’s first female vice president, Natalie Maccabee. She pledges to protect the country “against all enemies, foreign and domestic” and deploys John Case, a top secret agent hidden from the view of the public – and even from the president – when necessary. He is trained, ready to serve, and deployed only at the careful discretion of the vice president. Gerald McRaney plays Malcolm Millar, the chief steward of the vice president’s mansion and the keeper of its many secrets.

Fargo – Season Two, FX – Premieres Monday October 12 at 10 p.m.

The second season of FX’s acclaimed drama series features a new cast, new story, and mostly new characters, taking place in both South Dakota and Minnesota in 1979. Patrick Wilson stars as a young Lou Solverson, a state trooper caught up in a case involving a local gang, the mob, and a small-town beautician. The cast also includes Kirsten Dunst, Ted Danson, Jesse Plemons, Nick Offerman, Brad Garrett, and Jean Smart.

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Tuned In To What’s On Jesse Stone: Lost In Paradise – New Movie, Hallmark Channel – Premieres Sunday October 18 at 9 p.m.

This mystery franchise is new to Hallmark and the films’ 10th anniversary installment finds Police Chief Jesse Stone, played by Tom Selleck, reprising his popular role. Once a Los Angeles homicide detective, Chief Stone now presides over the quiet, seaside village of Paradise, Massachusetts. When the facts in a brutal Boston-area murder case don’t add up, Chief Stone opens an investigation filled with surprises, unlikely suspects and grave danger. Though it’s widely believed the murder was committed by an incarcerated serial killer, Stone suspects another killer is at large and is hell-bent on bringing him to justice. Co-stars William Devane, Luke Perry, Leslie Hope, and Gloria Reuben.

Wicked City – New Series, ABC – Premieres October 27 at 10 p.m.

This new anthology series will devote each season to a different era of Los Angeles history, with this first season centering on the music- and cocaine-fueled Sunset Strip in 1982, where various detectives, reporters, club kids, and drug dealers are caught up in a serial murder case. Ed Westwick, Erika Christensen, Taissa Farmiga and Adam Rothenberg head the cast.

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Special to Life After 50 by Dr. Jeffrey Hartog, director, Breast Center at The Bougainvillea Clinique

Life After Breast Cancer

According to www. breastcancer.org, for individuals between the ages of 50 and 60, the probability of developing invasive breast cancer in the next 10 years is 2.31 percent, or one in 43. While this is an average of an absolute risk of developing breast cancer, it is imperative for women to recognize their increased risk as they age and to take the necessary strides – namely, being proactive in neutralizing the threat of cancer. Women who are BRCA1- or BRCA2-positive (whose ancestors carried the breast cancer gene) have a much higher risk of getting breast cancer. Experts recommend that as a woman ages, she should first establish a baseline mammogram to use for a comparison against future mammograms. Some say that women should start as early as 35, while others suggest 40. Your doctor is a great resource in establishing when the best time is for you. Some points to keep in mind: ■ Keep track of when and where you have each mammogram. ■ After establishing your baseline, have a mammogram each year.

TREATMENT OPTIONS From a lumpectomy and a mastectomy to radiation and chemotherapy, there are several options for women who want to get rid of and treat their breast cancer diagnoses in hopes that the disease will not return.

LuMPEcTOMy Women who opt to have a lumpectomy have a small portion, or the “lump,” removed from the affected breast(s). Some women choose to have a lumpectomy because of the size of the lump and the type of breast cancer found. In many cases, women who have undergone lumpectomies followed by radiation are not offered reconstruction at all, despite the fact that they are frequently left with moderate or severe breast deformities and significant breast asymmetry as it relates to the breast without the lump. Many women might be surprised to learn that a lumpectomy can actually limit their reconstruction options because this procedure often leaves the breast with a dent or a distortion that can make some forms of reconstruction very difficult.

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hen you receive the news that you have breast cancer, the world seems to stand still. I know this from an all-too-personal standpoint. As a doctor, when my wife got the diagnosis that she had breast cancer, I immediately went into fight and research mode. I learned a lot from her experience with the disease – so much so that I transformed my entire practice. I am now dedicated to helping women who have received breast cancer diagnoses know that they have options available to them to ensure that they look and feel better about themselves after overcoming this disease. I have come

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to learn that women need support, guidance and tools to aid themselves as they create their new post-breast cancer lives.

AS TIME GOES By

The longer you live, the richer your life becomes due to the many experiences you have had and can share with others. However the passage of time also means you can become more susceptible to certain illnesses and diseases. For women – and some men – that includes the specter or reality of a battle with breast cancer.

MASTEcTOMy Women who opt to undergo a mastectomy have the whole breast removed. A unilateral mastectomy is the removal of one breast while a bilateral involves the removal of both breasts. Women with stage I or II breast cancer often opt for a partial mastectomy followed by radiation. A lumpectomy is considered a small portion of a partial mastectomy. With a radical mastectomy, the full breast is removed, as well as the underlying muscle and even lymph nodes. Modified radical mastectomies, which leave the muscle intact, are becoming more popular. In some cases, like the preventative mastectomy, women can undergo a mastectomy and have the option to immediately begin reconstruction, allowing them to walk out of

the clinic with small amounts of breast tissue, as opposed to no breasts at all. Today, more and more women, such as actress Angelina Jolie, are utilizing the preventative mastectomy option to prevent a breast cancer diagnosis in the future.

RAdIATION Radiation therapy, as part of the overall treatment of breast cancer, can notably decrease the risk of recurrence and improve the overall survival rate in the face of advanced breast cancer in women undergoing mastectomies. Radiation therapy may be beneficial in terms of the treatment of the cancer itself, but it can create complications for women seeking breast reconstruction. Some of these complications include complete failure of breast reconstruction with either implants or tissue flaps as well as poor aesthetic outcomes.

REcONSTRucTION OPTIONS I’m always surprised to learn how many women still don’t know the reconstruction options available to them after a diagnosis and subsequent treatment. A University of Michigan study found that seven out of 10 women don’t know their breast reconstruction options after a mastectomy. As a cosmetic surgeon, I consider it imperative to inform oncologists and primary-care physicians of the resources now available to women. Most women see their only options as having a mastectomy and having no reconstruction or having a mastectomy and replacing their breasts with artificial implants. Today, women have more options than ever before. For years, I used traditional reconstruction procedures in my own practice. When my wife, Michelle, was diagnosed with breast cancer, I began exploring additional options.

AuTOLOGOuS FAT TRANSFER A lesser-known form of reconstruction that’s gaining traction in the field is autologous fat transfer (AFT), wherein a surgeon reconstructs a woman’s breasts using her own fat. Who knew that women would one day be eager to put their fat to good use? Autologous fat transfer offers multiple benefits to the women who decide to utilize it for their reconstructions, including the outpatient procedure and the resulting natural-looking and -feeling breasts. ■ As an outpatient procedure, autologous fat transfer uses gentle liposuction to remove fat from various areas of the body such as the abdomen or thighs. ■ Once removed, surgeons purify the fat and inject it into the breast area in small droplets. This way, the procedure leaves women with no additional scars to worry about. ■ After surgeons inject the fat, the body quickly builds a vascular network to support it, permanently attaching it to the “new” part of the body. Women who utilize AFT leave the clinic with breasts that look and feel natural. This makes AFT one of the best available options for reconstructing

the breasts of lumpectomy patients. Women can even freeze their fat for future use, which includes enhancing the size of their breasts at a later date. In some cases, women can opt to undergo their mastectomies and start the AFT breast reconstruction as part of the same procedure.

IMPLANTS The most common form of reconstruction employs the use of silicon or saline implants that are inserted into the former breast cavity. Some women can have the implants placed at the same time as the mastectomy, filling the space created by the removed cancerous breast tissue. Other patients must wait to have their breast implants placed at a later date, using a tissue expander in the meantime to stretch the breast tissue. ■ Expanders, commonly inserted following radiation therapy, stretch the skin to make room for implants, resulting in an extremely thin layer of skin, which makes the implant very noticeable. ■ The use of implants can mean additional scarring. ■ A common complication from implant procedures is excessive scar formation or capsular contracture, wherein the body reacts by forming a protective lining around the implant, the lining shrinks and the breast becomes hard. This can occur whether the implant is silicone or saline. Though women often find that they need to replace their implants after about 10 years, implants are still the most common form of reconstruction.

TISSuE FLAP Another form of reconstruction available is the tissue flap procedure. In this procedure, surgeons move a section of skin – including muscle, in some cases – from an area of the woman’s body, such as the abdomen or back, to the chest in order to rebuild the breast. ■ Tissue flap procedures are complex. ■ They usually leave at least two surgical sites with scarring. ■ They may also lead to donor-site issues, such as hernias in the abdominal area and muscle damage.

LIVING LFE AFTER BREAST cANcER After beating breast cancer, many women do their best to seek a more active and full lifestyle – after all, life at any age should be enjoyed and lived to the fullest. While your life might not return to exactly what it was before your breast cancer diagnosis, breast reconstruction is a great way to make that transition to your new life and new self. Other ways to ease that transition include maintaining a healthy lifestyle and getting plenty

of exercise to ease the symptoms of lymphedema, which is a swelling in the arm caused by a lymphatic system blockage, which can occur after a mastectomy. Another great tool in post-reconstruction life is joining a support group. This will allow you to connect with other women experiencing the same changes and feelings as you.

FINd FAMILIAL SuPPORT Whichever route you decide to take, be sure you do your research to find the best treatment plan for you and your family. Cancer can be a daunting experience, and figuring out the best treatment and reconstruction plan isn’t a task to take lightly. As part of your healing process, create a team of family members and close friends who can help you through the journey. Consider giving each person a role to help ease the transition. Having someone or multiple people around on whom you can rely for even the smallest things can be therapeutic and helpful throughout your transition. Surround yourself with positive people who can help keep your spirits lifted. Most importantly, remember to ask questions and don’t be afraid to seek a second opinion – some doctors are simply unaware of all of the treatment options available to women. Whatever you do, don’t settle; you don’t want to limit your future self.

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The Hallowed Hall of Must-Knowtables By David Laurell Illustration by Mark Hammermeister

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LANCHESTER An English character actress, Elsa Lanchester is best remembered for her roles as the title character in Universal Pictures’ 1935 horror classic “The Bride of Frankenstein” and the strict Katie Nanna, who serves as the disagreeable pre-Poppins nanny of Jane and Michael Banks in the 1964 Disney film “Mary Poppins.” The wife of the legendary actor, director, producer and screenwriter Charles Laughton, Lanchester had a long career in theater, film and television and was a two-time Academy Award-nominee.

orn to unmarried socialist Bohemians on October 28, 1902 in London, Elsa Lanchester developed both a love and talent for performing at an early age. Having studied ballet in Paris under the legendary American dancer Isadora Duncan, Lanchester began teaching dance herself before she was a teenager. An enterprising young woman, the young children who were her dance pupils, inspired her to establish a theater company for young people and, later, a nightclub – the Cave of Harmony – that presented theatrical and cabaret performances. As a headliner herself, Lanchester entertained Cave of Harmony patrons with a selection of Victorian songs and ballads she presented in a revue entitled “Riverside Nights.” Her performance garnered the notice of Columbia Records who signed her to record two 78 rpm records. These recordings, coupled with her continuing live performances, led to Lanchester being cast in a 1927 play, “Mr. Prohack,” in which she met a young actor, Charles Laughton. Following a two-year romance, Lanchester and Laughton married and would continue to appear onstage – together and separately – throughout their lives.

The couple also made the leap from the stage to the screen with Lanchester making her debut in the 1925 silent film “The Scarlet Woman: An Ecclesiastical Melodrama.” Going on to appear in British films throughout the early 1930s, Lanchester would journey to America to join her husband, who had begun to work in Hollywood, and in 1935 appeared in small roles in MGM’s “David Copperfield” and “Naughty Marietta.” Although Lanchester’s film roles had been small, they captured the attention of director James Whale, who had made a name for himself with the horror films that were becoming a staple of Universal Studios’ portfolio. Cast in a duel role in Whale’s 1935 film, “The Bride of Frankenstein” as both Mary Shelley in the film’s prologue and as the monster’s bride who only appears in the picture’s final few minutes, Lanchester is only credited for the role of Shelley. Regarded as a high point in Universal’s horror series, Lanchester said she looked to the swans of London’s Regent’s Park for inspiration in finding the bride’s hissing voice. She would also say that she found her work on that film to

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be most enjoyable, in spite of the fact that she had been so tightly wrapped in bandages she had to be carried from wardrobe to the set and be fed through a straw. Following her work on “The Bride of Frankenstein,” Lanchester and Laughton kept up a hectic work schedule, appearing together and on their own, in both British and American screen productions. In 1949, Lanchester played an artist who created nativity scenes in the 20th Century-Fox film, “Come to the Stable Come,” for which she was nominated for a Best Supporting Actress Academy Award. While she didn’t win the Oscar, she did continue to find film work throughout the 1950s and also appeared at Hollywood’s Turnabout Theatre doing a one-woman show that included a marionette show and her performance of vaudeville-style, off-color songs, which she later recorded on two albums. Her onscreen work during the era included a cameo appearance as a bearded lady in the 1954 Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis comedy “3 Ring Circus,” and her reteaming with Laughton in the 1957 screen version of Agatha Christie’s “Witness for the Prosecution.” Both Lanchester and Laughton received Oscar nominations for “Witness for the Prosecution” – she for Best Supporting Actress and he for Best Actor. While neither heard their name called to collect the Academy Award, Lanchester did win a Golden Globe for Best Supporting Actress for the film. Following Laughton’s death from cancer in 1962, Lanchester resumed her career doing a few television appearances and in a string of Disney films – “Mary Poppins,” “That Darn Cat!” and “Blackbeard’s Ghost.” She also appeared in Paramount Pictures’ 1967 “Easy Come, Easy Go,” in which she teams up with Elvis Presley to do a musical number. The 1970s saw Lanchester appear in “Willard,” a horror film in which she played the mother of a social misfit with an affinity for rats. During this time, she also appeared in numerous popular television programs including “Nanny and the Professor,” in which she played the recurring role of Aunt Henrietta, an eccentric grand dame with powers of premonition. Her last film appearance came in 1980 in the Robbie Benson black comedy “Die Laughing.” Lanchester wrote two autobiographies, the first, “Charles Laughton and I” (Harcourt, Brace and Company, 1938) when she was 36. Forty-five years later, she released a more telling tome, “Elsa Lanchester Herself” (St Martins Press, 1983), in which she states the reason the couple never had children was because of Laughton’s homosexuality. That claim was refuted by various people, including actress Maureen O’Hara who was a close friend of the couple. O’Hara said Lanchester told her the reason they never had children was because of a botched abortion Lanchester had as a young woman. Lanchester did write of having two abortions in her second book, but never gave any indication that the second termination left her incapable of becoming pregnant. In the mid-1980s, Lanchester’s health began to fail and a series of strokes left her totally incapacitated and in need of constant care. In March of 1986, the Motion Picture and Television Fund was named her conservator and she was admitted to the Motion Picture Hospital in Woodland Hills, California where she died on December 26 at the age of 84 from bronchopneumonia. She was cremated at the Chapel of the Pines in Los Angeles and her ashes were strewn over the Pacific Ocean.

LEARN MORE Elsa Lanchester’s two autobiographies are available. The second one, “Elsa Lanchester Herself,” is a far more comprehensive revelation in which the iconoclastic actress reminisces about her extraordinary life and career, radical parents, study with Isadora Duncan, romantic relationships, and marriage to Charles Laughton.

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Erin Murphy The actress who played Tabitha, the cute little nose-twitching witch on “Bewitched,” shares memories and the joy of the journey Story and photos by David Laurell

rom 1966 to 1972, Erin Murphy played the wee witch Tabitha, the first-born child of the mortal Darrin Stephens and his bewitching wife, Samantha, on the popular television series “Bewitched.” Today, while the actors who played Dennis the Menace, Eddie Munster, Beaver Cleaver and so many other roles in classic television shows from the 1960s and ‘70s are now adults, it is more than a bit disconcerting for those who grew up watching Murphy that she is no longer that adorable little nosetwitcher, but rather a poised businesswoman, the mother of six and (get ready to hold on to something) a grandmother! “It really does surprise people when they hear I have six children and a four-year-old granddaughter,” laughs Murphy.

THE BEWITCHING BACKSTORY Well-received since it debuted in 1964, the Emmy Award-winning “Bewitched” was ranked number two in the ratings for its first two years and went on to be ABC’s biggest success of the mid-1960s. Tabitha, who arrived on the January 13, 1966 episode, was first played by infant twin sisters, Heidi and Laura Gentry, and later by Tamar and Julie

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Young. In the fall of 1966, as Tabitha transitioned into a toddler (things move quickly in television time), Erin and her twin sister, Diane, who had done some commercial work, assumed the role when they were two-years-old. Erin, the real-life daughter of a mother who was a teacher and a father who owned a North Hollywood business college, doesn’t have any recollection of working on the very early episodes, although she later learned that after their first appearance, the producers realized she and Diane didn’t really look identical. “They only used her for wide shots and reverse-angle shots,” Murphy explains. “And then Diane left the show completely after the second season.” While she may not recall the very early days, Murphy does has vivid recollections that go back to when she was very young. “Everyone remembers things from when they were eight, but not much from when they were two,” she says. “I do have clear memories of being very young and watching the technicians set up the lights and prepare the special effects. I always loved to see how the magic was done. But I played Tabitha until I was eight, so I do have a lot of great memories. In fact, if I watch an episode today, I will, many times, have a memory

of doing that particular show. I especially liked the episodes when they brought in wild animals, like elephants and monkeys. And I loved any show that had other kids, because it was an all-adult cast.” As the only child incloved with the production, Murphy had studio tutors, but also attended regular school. “My classmates never treated me like a celebrity,” she recalls. “I was just a normal kid. Well, except for when the studio would have me picked up in a limo and the whole class would come out to see me off.”

CONJURING UP MEMORIES Amongst her fondest memories of doing “Bewitched” are those of Murphy’s co-stars, Elizabeth Montgomery, Dick York, Dick Sargent and Agnes Moorehead. “Liz was great!” says Murphy. “We did so many things away from the set. Her three kids were right around my age, so we did a lot of things together – trick-or-treating, going to the movies. One Christmas, we even all got together at my parents’ cabin in Lake Arrowhead.” Murphy says that as she has gotten older, many people have told her she reminds them of Montgomery. “I’ve also been told that I act like

LIFE TODAY Following “Bewitched,” Murphy continued acting for a while. “I did over 80 commercials up until I was in junior high,” she says. “By then, I kind of lost interest, because I was into things like cheerleading and school activities.” Today, as a mother with three kids still at home, Murphy says her days are extremely busy. “I get up around 5:30 a.m., because my youngest has to get ready for school,” Murphy explains. “My boys who are still at home are from 12 to 16, and then I have three adult children – 21 to 30 – which is hard to say and even harder to comprehend,” she adds laughing. With the boys off on their day, Murphy turns to business. She is the co-owner of a company called Slim Chillers that makes low-calorie frozen Vodka Martini popsicles. “We started the company two years ago and are in many retailers including BevMo, and we also have an online store,” says Murphy. “Our signature products are four frozen pops that are flavored as an Appletini, a Cosmopolitan, a Lemon Drop and a watermelon lemonade Martini. So that also keeps me busy.” Murphy has also partnered up with a group of other former child stars who have formed a social

network that helps up-and-coming child actors. “We all get together to do fundraisers – bowling or a barbeque – and we talk and offer advice to kids who are working in the industry. We share our very unique life experiences to help them as they work in the business or as they go on to have productive lives doing other things.” Asked if she would ever consider a return to acting, Murphy says now that her children are getting older she may consider it. “Being a parent has directed all of my career choices for a long time,” says Murphy. “I had worked as a correspondent with the Fox Reality Channel and loved it. With Fox, I could make lunches and take my kids to school, work for a few hours, and still be home before school let out. The kids have been my priority. They are only small for such a short amount of time and life is long. So I’ve always felt that if acting is right for me, there will be plenty of time to do that when they are all off on their own. I would love to do a sitcom again. I’m very open minded about the kind of projects I would love to do, but I’m definitely more drawn to doing a television series. I like the family aspect of it – where you work with the same people and become like a family.”

FINDING JOY IN THE JOURNEY Asked for her feelings on the passage of time, Murphy, who, believes that giving back to her community is very important, says the joy to be found in getting older comes with each day. “I’ve always gotten my hands dirty with various charitable organizations,” she says. “And when I was finishing my term as the president of the Junior Women’s Club, I gave a speech I called ‘The Joy is in the Journey.’ I think so many people get caught up in the future – what they hope for and want, things that may never come to be – that they don’t enjoy the journey. I believe there is joy to be found along the way. I’m one of those people that stops and smells the flowers. I live each day to the fullest. I have wonderful friends and a great family. I have an interesting life. There isn’t this grand ending that I’m aiming for. I find joy in every step – every day. I think, as we get older, we should all make each day as much fun as possible. I like traveling and volunteering for various causes and taking college classes to learn new things. I love being around animals and my kids. You just have to make the most of every single day.”

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Elizabeth,” she laughs. “I think that is because I spent so much time with her when I was very young and impressionable. Much of my sense of humor is hers.” Asked about the relationship she maintained with Montgomery from the end of the show’s run until her death in 1995 at the age 62 from colon cancer, Murphy says they only saw one another periodically. “I did see her children often,” she says “They were, and still are, some of my dearest friends. As for Elizabeth, we really didn’t stay in close touch. The last time I spoke with her, I was calling her son, Billy, and she answered the phone and it was just a ‘Hey, how’s everything going? Great! Is Billy there?’ kind of conversation. I didn’t know she was sick. She didn’t even know the severity of her illness. She was the type who had experienced symptoms but never went to see a doctor until it was too late. So it wasn’t like she was sick for a long time. By the time she was diagnosed, her cancer was already very far along. She was a great person – full of fun. I admired her very much and I have great and fond memories of her.” Along with her television mother, Murphy also harbors affection for her on-screen dads – York and Sargent. “Dick York and I kept in touch and would have wonderful conversations about the many charities he was involved with,” Murphy recalls. “Even when he got sick, he would be on oxygen and still be out doing good for others.” She also remembers teaming up with Sargent doing philanthropic community work following the 1992 Los Angeles riots. Murphy’s entire demeanor brightens when she reminisces about her television grandmother, Agnes Moorehead, who played Endora. “Agnes was always wonderful to me,” she laughs. “She would read me stories and draw cartoons. And the thing I remember most was her dressing room – everything in it was purple!”

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Burbank. Through Oct. 18. Prices vary. (818) 558-7000. colonytheatre.org. RAVENSCROFT On a snowy night in rural England in the early 1900s, inspector Ruffing is called to a remote country estate to investigate a murder. He subsequently becomes involved in the lives of five intriguing and dangerous women. As everyone’s secrets and desires are revealed, Ruffing is bewildered, amused, and frightened as he is led to a dark encounter with the truth. Kentwood Players, Westchester Playhouse, 8301 Hindry Ave., Westchester. Also Oct. 17. $20-$25. (310) 645-5156. kentwoodplayers.org. MAN COVETS BIRD

BOO AT THE L.A. ZOO Jack-o-lantern-carving demonstrations, strolling characters, entertainment and upclose encounters with “crawly” insects and reptiles just some of the Halloween family adventures for visitors. The Los Angeles Zoo and Botanical Gardens, Griffith Park, 5333 Zoo Dr., Los Angeles. Through Oct. 31. $17-$20. (323) 644-6042. lazoo.org. THESE PAPER BULLETS! Meet the Quartos. Ben, Claude, Balth, and Pedro. Their fans worship them. Scotland Yard fears them. And their former drummer will stop at nothing to destroy them. Can these fab four from Liverpool find true love in London and cut an album in seven nights? Geffen Playhouse, 10886 Le Conte Ave., Los Angeles. Through Oct. 18. $39-$74 (310) 208-5454. geffenplayhouse.com.

Finegan Kruckemeyer’s internationally acclaimed tale of friendship and optimism incorporates live music, song and lyrical storytelling. 24th Street Theatre, 1117 West 24th St., Los Angeles. Weekends through Nov. 15. $10-$24. (213) 745-6516. 24thstreet.org. FOGHAT This great rock ‘n roll, boogie and blues band performs with high energy and intense. Hits include: “Slow Ride,” “Fool For The City” and “I Just Want To Make Love To You.” Opening sets by The Lilies and Intensity. Saban Theatre, 8440 Wilshire Blvd., Beverly Hills. $35-$75. (888) 645-5006. sabantheatre.org.

AWAKE AND SING! Gritty, passionate, funny and heartbreaking, Odets’ masterpiece beautifully captures the hopes and the struggles of a lower-middleclass, three-generation Jewish family living in a Bronx apartment during the Great Depression. Starring Marilyn Fox and directed by Elina DeSantos. Odyssey Theatre, 2055 S. Sepulveda Blvd., Los Angeles. Dates vary through Nov. 29. $34. (310) 477-2055 x2. odysseytheatre.com. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 16 THE BEST OF ENEMIES Meet Ann, an African-American civil rights activist, and C.P., the Exalted Cyclops of the Ku Klux Klan. They are forced by the federal government to work together to achieve integration in their small North Carolina town 15 years after Brown v. Board of Education. Clearly, they will never be friends, but over the course of time they discover things they have in common, and ultimately forge an alliance based on respect and trust. The Colony Theatre is located at 555 North Third St.,

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 17 THE SOUND OF MUSIC A brand new, lavish production of one of the world’s most popular musicals the romantic and beloved musical story of Maria and the von Trapp family features such songs as “My Favorite Things,” “Do-Re-Mi,” “Climb Ev’ry Mountain,” “Edelweiss” and the title song. Center Theatre Group/Ahmanson Theatre at the Music Center, 135 N. Grand Ave., Los Angeles. Dates vary through Oct. 31. $25-$130. (213) 972-4400. centertheatregroup.org.

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Round up the kiddos and celebrate autumn at this annual festival, which includes a pumpkin carving demonstration, crafting and costume parades. Activities free with admission unless noted. Descanso Gardens, 1418 Descanso Dr., La Cañada Flintridge. Some events also Oct. 18. $6-$9. (818) 949-4200. descansogardens.org.

A FLEA IN HER EAR Very strange bedfellows rub shoulders – and more – at the Hotel Coq d’Or in the work that is thought to be Feydeau’s comic masterpiece. Based on older French farces, the demimonde and their caprices are exposed in this entertaining romp. A Noise Within, 3352 East Foothill Blvd., Pasadena. Through Nov.22. Prices vary. (626) 356-3100. anoisewithin.org. LOS ANGELES CHAMBER ORCHESTRA Jeffrey Kahane, conductor; Richard Goode, piano; Wade Culbreath, marimba. Timo Andres: “Word of Mouth,” Mozart: “Piano Concerto No. 18 in B-flat major, K. 456,” Emmanuel Sejourne: “Concerto for Marimba and Strings,”

and Haydn: “Symphony No. 88 in G major.” Los Angeles Chamber Orchestra, Alex Theatre, 216 North Brand Blvd., Glendale. Also Oct. 18 at UCLA, Royce Hall, 340 Royce Dr., Los Angeles $27-plus. (213) 622-7001. laco.org. SUNDAY, OCTOBER 18 SONDHEIM ON SONDHEIM His story. His inspiration. His genius. Sondheim on Sondheim is an intimate portrait of the famed songwriter in his own words … and music. The carefully selected songs blend beautifully with video interviews to shine new light on Sondheim’s childhood, his relationship with Oscar Hammerstein, his personal demons and professional triumphs. International City Theatre, Long Beach Performing Arts Center, 300 E. Ocean Blvd., Long Beach. Thurs.-Sun. through Nov. 8. $46-$48. (562) 436-4610. internationalcitytheatre.org. UNCLE VANYA Vanya and his niece Sonya have toiled for years to maintain the crumbling family estate. When Sonya’s father, the retired Professor Serebryakov, returns with his dazzling, much younger wife, old resentments explode and secret longings come to light. The Antaeus Company, 5112 Lankershim Blvd., North

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October/November 2015 LA/Ventura TOMMY ROE, JAY AND THE AMERICANS Roe, who toured with The Beatles, lit up music charts with “Sheila,” “Dizzy” and “Everybody.” Jay and The Americans stormed the charts with “She Cried,” “Cara Mia,” “Only in America,” “Come a Little Bit Closer” and “This Magic Moment.” Cerritos Center for the Performing Arts, 12700 Center Court Drive, Cerritos. Prices vary. $45-$65. (562) 4678818. cerritoscenter.com. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 24

MONDAY, OCTOBER 19 THE PAINTED ROCKS AT REVOLVER CREEK Aging farm laborer Nukain has spent his life transforming the rocks at Revolver Creek into a vibrant garden of painted flowers. Now, the final unpainted rock, as well as his young companion Bokkie, has forced Nukain to confront his legacy as a painter, a person and a black man in 1980s South Africa. The Fountain Theatre, 5060 Fountain Ave., Los Angeles. Sat.-Mon. through Dec. 19. $15–$35. (323) 663-1525. fountaintheatre.com. WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 21 GLENDALE NOON CONCERTS Brian Asawa. Sanctuary of Glendale City Church, 610 E. California Ave., Glendale, Glendale. Free. (818) 242-2113. glendalenoonconcerts.blogspot.com. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 22 DAMN YANKEES Middle-aged baseball fanatic Joe Boyd trades his soul to the Devil for a chance to lead the hapless Washington Senators to victory in the pennant race against the New York Yankees. As young baseball sensation Joe Hardy, he transforms the Senators into a winning team, only to realize the true worth of the life he’s left behind. Songs include “Whatever Lola Wants (Lola Gets),” “You Gotta Have Heart” and “Those Were The Good Old Days.” Cabrillo Music Theatre, Thousand Oaks Civic Arts Plaza, 2100 Thousand Oaks Blvd., Thousand Oaks. Prices vary. Through Oct. 25. cabrillomusictheatre.com. THE MONEY FISH Sometimes you have to journey to the end of the world to find yourself. From Army Airborne Ranger to Dutch Harbor, Alaska fisherman, John Cox learned the hard way that what you want in life isn’t always what you need. Hudson Theatre, 6539 Santa Monica Blvd., Los Angeles. Thurs.-Sun. through Nov. 21. $20. (323) 960-7780. coxtheshow.com. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 23 ALL MY SONS A ferocious indictment of the American Dream and ethos, Arthur Miller’s play holds up a mirror to the soul of American business and morality. How family ties bind – to ideals and the realities of daily life – is illuminated with a bright light in this searing touchstone of the American stage. A Noise Within, 3352 East Foothill Blvd., Pasadena. Through Nov.21. $40$62. (626) 356-3100. anoisewithin.org.

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 31 THE ADDAMS FAMILY You’re invited to Gomez and Morticia Addams’s annual family gathering, where you’ll rub elbows with the macabre and morbid, the cadaverous and crazy. Watch what happens when daughter Wednesday brings a normal boy and his stuffy parents to the party. Redondo Beach Performing Arts Center, Fullerton. Through Nov. 8. Ticket prices vary. (714) 589-2770. 3dtshows.com. JONNY LANG The Canyon, 28912 Roadside Dr., Agoura Hills. $48-$79. (818) 879-5016. canyonclub.net.

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HOME FREE This country a cappella band captivates audiences with high-energy performances peppered with quick-witted humor, meshing Nashville standards with pop hits. Pepperdine University, Smothers Theatre, 24255 Pacific Coast Highway, Malibu. $20-$40. arts. pepperdine.edu.

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East Main St., Ventura. First Sunday of each month. (805) 653-0323. venturamuseum.org. WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 4 GLENDALE NOON CONCERTS Dimitry Olevsky-violin; Harout Senekeremianpiano. Sanctuary of Glendale City Church, 610 E. California Ave., Glendale, Glendale. Free. (818) 242-2113. glendalenoonconcerts. blogspot.com. SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 7 HUMBLE BOY Felix Humble is a brilliant but bumbling astro-physicist whose mission in life is to unlock the secrets of the universe. He returns home to his bee keeping father’s funeral, only to discover his difficult and domineering mother in the arms of another man. As he struggles to unlock the secrets of the human heart, what emerges is a touching, funny and entertaining family portrait. The Colony Theatre is located at 555 N. Third St., Burbank. Through Dec. 13. Prices vary. (818) 558-7000. colonytheatre.org.

POE: IN HIS OWN WORDS Join Edgar Allan Poe as he sets the mood for Halloween with his spookiest tales and anecdotes from his life. Based on his awardwinning one-man play, actor Travis Rhett Wilson inhabits the Master of the Macabre as he narrates his tragic life and delivers tales of madness like “The Raven” and “The Tell-Tale Heart,” as well as Poe’s hauntingly melancholic final poem, “Annabel Lee.” Thousand Oaks Civic Arts Plaza, Scherr Forum Theatre, 2100 Thousand Oaks Blvd., Thousand Oaks. $40-$44. civicartsplaza.com. TUESDAY, OCTOBER 27 VENTURA BLUEGRASS JAMS Milano’s Italian Restaurant, Patio, Ventura Harbor Village, 1559 Spinnaker Dr., Ventura. (805) 658-0388. milanositalianrestaurant.com. WENESDAY, OCTOBER 28 BREAKING THROUGH Set in a tiny sewing factory in East L.A., this is the story of five full-figured women racing to meet an impossible deadline to keep their tiny sewing factory in East L.A. from going under. The Pasadena Playhouse, 39 S. El Molino Ave. Pasadena. Tues.-Sun. through Nov. 22. $47$87. (626) 356-7529. pasadenaplayhouse.org. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 29 JAKE SHIMABUKURO In just over a decade of recording music and playing sold-out shows worldwide, Shimabukuro has redefined the ukulele. In his hands this diminutive Hawaiian instrument becomes a complex and bold new musical force. Pepperdine University, Smothers Theatre, 24255 Pacific Coast Highway, Malibu. $25-$55. arts.pepperdine.edu.

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This operetta, performed by Todd Almond and Courtney Love, tells of lovers in small town America who become separated when the woman travels to New York City in search of her destiny, and then disappears. Center Theatre Group/Kirk Douglas Theatre, 9820 Washington Blvd., Culver City. Thurs.-Sun. through Nov. 8. $25-$70. (213) 628-2772. centertheatregroup.org.

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October/November 2015 LA/Ventura SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 8 IN MO YANG An arresting and virtuoso performer, violinist Yang has been a commanding musician since the age of 11. Pepperdine University, Raitt Recital Hall, 24255 Pacific Coast Highway, Malibu. $28. arts.pepperdine.edu. SECOND SUNDAY CONCERT Pasadena Central Library, 285 E Walnut, Pasadena. Free. (626) 398-0658. TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 10 VENTURA BLUEGRASS JAMS Milano’s Italian Restaurant, Patio, Ventura Harbor Village, 1559 Spinnaker Dr., Ventura. (805) 658-0388. milanositalianrestaurant.com. THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 12 DOWNTOWN LOS ANGELES ART WALK This self-guided, public art walk brings art lovers and community friends together in downtown Los Angeles. 411 S. Main St., between Second and Ninth Streets, Los Angeles. Free. downtownartwalk.org. FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 13 HOLIDAY FANTASY TEA This event includes a complimentary champagne social hour, boutique shopping featuring holiday fashions and gift items. Westlake Women’s Club, North Ranch Country Club, 4761 Valley Spring Dr., Westlake Village. $65. (818) 991-2790. westlakewomensclub.com. THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 14 WENDY LIEBMAN Thousand Oaks Civic Arts Plaza, Scherr Forum Theatre, 2100 Thousand Oaks Blvd., Thousand Oaks. $29-$34. civicartsplaza.com.

eXHIBItIONs WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 21 SINATRA: AN AMERICAN ICON This multimedia exhibit explores the life and career of the multiple Grammy Award winner, tracing 100 years of Sinatra’s legacy, from Hoboken, New Jersey, through superstardom. This display features artifacts from the Sinatra family’s personal collection, including neverbefore-seen photos, family mementos, rare correspondence, personal items, artwork and recordings, as well as original artifacts from Capitol Studios, where Sinatra recorded many of his most beloved songs. The Grammy Museum at L.A. Live, Special Exhibits Gallery, Second Floor, 800 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles. Through February 2016. $12-$13. (213) 765-6803. grammymuseum.org. SITTING PRETTY Portrait Photography from the Salon to the Selfie. Formal, framed portraits of well-known city pioneers, such as Dr. Cephas Bard, Dr. Manuel R. de Poli and Mrs. Concepcion Sepulveda de la Guerra, as well as lesserknown names are on exhibit. The works on

view range from dramatic, framed portrayals of adults to light-hearted depictions of children, many of which are from the studio of John Calvin Brewster, a Ventura portraitist who established a studio on Main Street in 1875. Museum of Ventura County, 100 E. Main St., Ventura. Through Nov. 29. $3-$4. (805) 653-0323. venturamuseum.org. RAVI SHANKAR: A LIFE IN MUSIC This display features a collection of sitars played by Shankar throughout his life and career; performance attire, including outfits worn at Woodstock in 1969 and the Concert for Bangladesh, rare photographs from the Shankar family collection as well as original correspondences, writings and music. The Grammy Museum at L.A. Live, Fourth Floor, 800 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles. Through Spring 2016. $12-$13. (213) 765-6803. grammymuseum.org. LEGENDS OF MOTOWN: CELEBRATING THE SUPREMES Founded as the Primettes, the Supremes became Motown’s most consistent hit makers and the most popular female group of the ‘60s. The polished singing style of original members Mary Wilson, Diana Ross and Florence Ballard bridged the worlds of pop and soul. On display are rare photographs from the personal collection of Mary Wilson, concert posters, tour books, fan memorabilia and an assortment of performance gowns, including the Turquoise Freeze dresses worn during a 1967 appearance on “The Ed Sullivan Show.” The Grammy Museum at L.A. Live, Third Floor, 800 W. Olympic Blvd., Los Angeles. Through Spring 2016. $12-$13. (213) 765-6803. grammymuseum.org. JELLIES Delve into the mysterious world of sea jellies through this new exhibition. Often referred to as “jellyfish,” sea jellies are actually invertebrates or animals without backbones. Explore the amazing life of these gelatinous animals and learn about their importance to our ocean planet through new exhibits, educational programs, a film and even art. Ever wondered what a jelly feels like? You can even safely touch them. The Aquarium of the Pacific, 100 Aquarium Way, Long Beach. Through April 30. $26-$29. (562) 590-3100. aquariumofpacific.org.

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Featuring the Kaufman Collection, this exhibit presents nearly 60 paintings, sculptures and works on paper. Organized thematically, the artworks are set alongside quotes that describe aspects of experience and identity in the West. These words support, challenge or complicate the artworks, creating a dialogue that reminds us that a work of art—like any form of representation—does not always tell the whole story. The Autry National Center, Norman F. Sprague, Jr. Gallery, 4700 Western Heritage Way, Griffith Park, Los Angeles. Through July 9. $6-$10. (323) 667-2000. theautry.org.

SOMEDAY IS NOW: THE ART OF CORITA KENT This is the first full-scale exhibition to survey the entire career of pioneering artist and designer Corita Kent (1918–1986). For more than three decades, Kent experimented in printmaking, producing a groundbreaking body of work that combines faith, activism, and teaching with messages of acceptance and hope. Her work was widely recognized for its revolutionary impact and remains an iconic symbol of that period in American history. Pasadena Museum of Art, 490 East Union Street, Pasadena. Through Nov. 1. $5-$7. Wed.-Sun. (626) 568-3665. pmcaonline.org. EMPIRE AND LIBERTY: THE CIVIL WAR AND THE WEST The West is seldom considered in the context of the Civil War, yet Westward expansion shaped the issues that ignited that tumultuous conflict. This exhibition combines personal stories of Americans with audio-visual presentations and extraordinary historical artifacts. Come to know Sacagawea, John Sutter, Jesse and Frank James, Andrés Pico, Biddy Mason and Big Tree. Artifacts include: Jefferson Davis’s pistol, Ulysses S. Grant’s revolver, John Fremont’s 1842 expedition flag, George Armstrong Custer’s Bible and

Kicking Bear’s muslin painting of the Battle of the Little Bighorn. The Autry National Center, 4700 Western Heritage Way, Griffith Park, Los Angeles. Through Jan. 3. $6-$10. (323) 6672000. theautry.org. PETIT TAKETT: LOVE, LEGACY AND RECIPES FROM THE MAGHREB Sharing food is one of the most genuine forms of cultural exchange. Gathered at the dinner table, we reminisce, share stories and engage with one another. This exhibition and event series, based on Los Angeles artist Orly Olivier’s Tunisian family heritage is expanded to include a display of original artwork, family photographs, and artifacts, as well as a “recipe mosaic” that will grow over time. Skirball Cultural Center, 2701 N. Sepulveda Blvd., Los Angeles. Through Jan 10. $7-$10. (310) 440-4500. skirball.org.

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Rick Steves’ Travels The fatal attractions of Europe Rick St eveS’ t RavelS

By Rick Steves

hen I’m traveling in Europe, I often see those touristy “torture museums” that, without offering one actual historical artifact, are cleverly marketed to make lots of money by appealing to dumbed-down travelers. If the macabre side of Europe holds a fascination for you, skip these hokey rip offs and visit a cemetery – they’re authentic, artsy and oozing with history. Here’s a list of some of my favorites.

intimate, as catacombs should. Visitors enter from a convent and explore the result of 250 years of tunneling that occurred from the second to the fifth centuries. The underground tunnels, while empty of bones, are rich in early Christian graffiti, such as doves, peacocks, and fish, which functioned as a secret language. You’ll see a few thousand of the 40,000 niches carved here, along with some beautiful frescoes, including a depiction of Mary nursing the baby Jesus.

Kaisergruft, Vienna

For centuries, Vienna was the heart of a vast empire ruled by the Habsburg family, but visiting their imperial remains is not as easy as you might imagine. These original organ donors left their bodies, about 150 in all, in the Kaisergruft – the Imperial Crypt at the Capuchin Church – not far from Vienna’s famous Opera House, their hearts in the Augustinian Church, and their entrails in the crypts below St. Stephen’s Cathedral. Unless you have a thing for Père Lachaise Cemetery, Paris Highgate Cemetery, London organs preserved in alcohol, visit the Kaisergruft. With tombstones that bear the names of many of Located in the tea-cozy-cute village of Highgate, north You’ll find the tombs of all the Habsburg greats the city’s most illustrious departed, this cemetery is of the city, this Victorian burial ground represents an here. Flanking the appropriately austere military relatively new by European standards, having just intriguing, offbeat piece of London history. Built as tomb of Emperor Franz Josef are the tombs of his opened in 1804. Today, this city of the dead is home a private cemetery, it was the fashionable place to son, the archduke Rudolf, and his wife, Empress to the mortal remains of Frédéric Chopin, Molière, bury the wealthy dead in the late 1800s. It has themed Elisabeth. Rudolf and his teenage mistress supposEdith Piaf, Gertrude Stein, Héloïse and Abélard, and mausoleums, professional mourners, and several high- edly committed suicide together, and it took considmany more luminaries, including rock legend Jim profile residents in its East Cemetery, including Karl erable legal hair-splitting to win Rudolf a place in Morrison, whose tomb is the most visited. An iconic, Marx, George Eliot, and Douglas Adams. It is here you this consecrated space. funky bust of the rocker, which was stolen by fans, will also find the rotten veggie-covered tomb of “The has been replaced with a more toned-down headGodfather of Punk,” Malcolm McLaren, who was the While they may not be true travel destination stone. Another hot spot is Oscar Wilde’s final resting manager of the Sex Pistols. points, if, while making your way through the great place. This writer and martyr to homosexuality is cities of Europe, you become dead tired of dusty mourned by “outcast men” (as the inscription says) Monumental Cemetery, Milan art museums, rude waiters, and never-ending ticket and by wearers of heavy lipstick, who used to cover Europe’s most artistic and dreamy cemetery experilines for never-ending tourist traps, don’t give up his gravestone with kisses until it was protected by a ence, this grand place was built just after Italy’s the ghost. Add some life to your European experiplastic barrier. unification to provide a suitable final resting spot for ence and visit a cemetery. the city’s “famous and well-deserving men.” It’s a Catacombs of Priscilla, Rome long walk from Milan’s Garibaldi Metro station, but Rick Steves writes European travel guideOf the countless catacombs honeycombing the it’s worth it. Any cemetery is evocative, but this one, books and hosts travel shows on public ground just outside Rome’s ancient city walls, only with its super-emotional portrayals of the deceased and television and radio. You can e-mail him five are open to the public. While most tourists, and their heavenly escorts (in art styles circa 1870 to 1930), at rick@ricksteves.com and visit his nearly all tour groups, go out to the ancient Appian is in a class by itself. It’s a vast garden art gallery of website at www.ricksteves.com. Way to see the famous catacombs of San Sebastiano proud busts and grim reapers, heartbroken angels and and San Callisto, the Catacombs of Priscilla (on the weeping widows, too-young soldiers and countless old other side of town, northeast of the main train station) smiles, frozen on yellowed black-and-white photos. are less commercialized and crowded, and feel more

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Meyer. As the daughter of a high-powered lawyer-to-the-rich, Meyer was accustomed to the best restaurants, shopping and travel destinations including Milan, Paris, London and Palm Beach. But travel behind a hearse? No way. And yet, after her beloved father’s death, that’s just where Meyer found herself. And, once the shock of his death subsided, there was one thing she couldn’t forget: though the family had utilized the services of Manhattan’s most prestigious funeral home, it was she who pulled out all her party-throwing and event-organizing skills to ensure the send-off was one the family wanted and her father deserved. The funeral home hadn’t done it; she had, and so, sometime after her grief eased, she marched into the funeral home, requested a meeting, and asked for a job. She knew the funeral home’s clientele; she’d attended social affairs, private schools and charity events with them all her life. She knew what they demanded. She didn’t need money; she just needed something to do. Despite what she knew, once offered a job, there was plenty to learn, and Meyer absorbed everything she was taught: embalming, casket ordering, burial and cremation planning – the entire business side of the funeral industry. Working with the dead and their families turned out to be the “calling” she’d been searching for – even though her friends and family thought she was going through “a phase” and tried to talk her out of it. Their talk fell on deaf ears. Meyer was happy – until she wasn’t. Until the corporation and the funeral home’s culture became a problem. Until Meyer began to think: “There just has to be a better way to do death.” Here’s an interesting mash-up: Take “Six Feet Under,” add a subscription to Vogue and a hefty bank account, stir in a tony New York address, and sprinkle on some attitude. What you’ll get is “Good Mourning.” By diving into a world that few desire to be involved with, and by questioning why that’s so, Meyer proves she’s not your typical “society girl.” Of course, she serves up tales of the rich and famous cheating, lying and being generous and regretful, but she also profoundly ponders death, the afterlife, and the role of religion in both. Conversely, there were too many “I-don’t-need-the-money” protestations scattered throughout the book, along with not-so-subtle reminders of the author’s prominent station in life. That she came from money was far too obvious and quite belabored. Still, it didn’t take long for me to brush aside her swagger and truly enjoy this book, and if you need something thought-provoking, yet light and fresh, I think you’ll like it, too. Put “Good Mourning” on your to-read list… because life is not a dress re-hearse-al. “Good Mourning: A Memoir” by Elizabeth Meyer with Caitlin Moscatello, 2015, Gallery Books, $24.99, 281 pages. The Bookworm is Terri Schlichenmeyer who lives on a hill with two dogs and more than 12,000 books. You can read more of her book reviews at www.lifeafter50.com. Just click on “Entertainment” and then “Book Reviews.”

A Look Back

ince the 1950s, many Halloween costumes have been inspired by current events and popular culture. For those who took to the streets trick-ortreating 50 years ago this month, the most popular costumes were Ben Cooper-manufactured offerings depicting Spiderman, Batman, Underdog, Morticia Addams and Samantha Stephens of the popular television show, “Bewitched.” The Samantha costume included a mask, black skirt with gold designs and a yellow shawl. Today, that 1965 Samantha costume, in good condition and in its original box, can fetch well over $100. Licensed items pertaining to the first few seasons of “Bewitched” are rare and coveted by those who collect television memorabilia. The two most desirable “Bewitched” items are a 1965 Samantha doll and a 1966 Tabatha doll. The Samantha doll now sells for over $300 and for more than $1,500 if it is in its box with all the accessories. The Tabatha doll is very rare, and a pristine condition doll in the box recently sold for $2,420. The Tabatha doll is unique in that her name is spelled with an “a,” the way it was done on the show until the fifth season. The new spelling of Tabitha, with an “i,” was first seen in episode 143, “Samantha on the Keyboard.” According to Erin Murphy, who played the wee witch, it was her father who prompted the correction when he pointed out to the producers that they were not using the conventional spelling of the name.

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Cover Profile

Departments

10 Kathy Bates

6 50-Plus: What You Need to Know

Horrifically happy and flying through life.

Features 18 Thriving And Surviving As An Alzheimer’s Caregiver Coping strategies that can literally save your life while caring for another.

22 Life After Breast Cancer Support, information, guidance and tools for women to live post-breast cancer life.

24 The Hallowed Hall Of Must-Knowtables * Elsa Lanchester Legendary notables that everyone, of every age, should know.

28 The Look Of Life After 50 – Erin Murphy The actress who played Tabitha on “Bewitched” shares memories and the joy of the journey.

A quick look at things 50-plusers should be aware of.

8 It’s The Law

Mitchell A. Karasov on avoiding punishment for doing a good deed.

30 Let’s Get Out

Looking to get out and about? Our October/November calendar has some great suggestions.

34 Rick Steves’ Travels

The fatal attractions of Europe.

38 And Finally…The Bookworm’s Best, A Look Back and Just A Thought Before We Go

A book suggestion, memory, and a little something to leave you with.

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An October Thought

“There is a child in every one of us who is still a trickor-treater looking for a brightly-lit front porch.” – Robert Brault

“There’s a smile on every face, and a winner in each race”

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From Miracles To Bigfoot – What We Believe

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Think Pink

Fifty Candles

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The Taste Of Living To Be 100

Eat your smallest meal of the day in the late afternoon or evening.

Eat mostly plants, especially beans, and eat meat rarely, in small portions of three to four ounces.

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Where You Need To Go

Celebrating The Chairman’s Centennial

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The Most Important Thing To Know This Month

Aerobically Attacking Alzheimer’s

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It’s The Law Mitchell A. Karasov

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crew – and we had a great time. That put an end to “Harry” for me and then being offered the role by Ryan really put me back into life – getting on with working and living my life.

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Special to Life After 50 by Sherry Lynn Harris

Thriving and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver Coping strategies that can literally save your life while caring for another

EMBRACE THE SITUATION Caregiving is challenging, but you can benefit dramatically by adopting a shift in perspective. 18 LIFEAFTER50.COM October 2015

EDUCATE YOURSELF While you are caring for your loved one, you may want to consider lifestyle changes that can help you

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Special to Life After 50 by Dr. Jeffrey Hartog, director, Breast Center at The Bougainvillea Clinique

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Erin Murphy The actress who played Tabitha, the cute little nose-twitching witch on “Bewitched,” shares memories and the joy of the journey Story and photos by David Laurell

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eNteRtAINMeNt THURSDAY, OCTOBER 15 THE WONDERFUL WIZARD OF OZ A new musical adaptation of Frank Baum’s wondrous American folktale about Dorothy Gale and her adventure in the land of Oz. Lamb’s Players Theatre, 1142 Orange Ave., Coronado. $52-plus. Through Nov. 15. (619) 437-6000. lambsplayers.org. THE ADDAMS FAMILY You’re invited to Gomez and Morticia Addams’s annual family gathering, where you’ll rub elbows with the macabre and morbid, the cadaverous and crazy. Watch what happens when daughter Wednesday brings a normal boy and his stuffy parents to the party. Plummer Auditorium, 201 E. Chapman Ave., Fullerton. Through October 25. Ticket prices vary. (714) 589-2770. 3dtshows.com. THE PHANTOM OF THE OPERA This play tells the story of a masked figure who lurks beneath the catacombs of the Paris Opera House, exercising a reign of terror over all who inhabit it. He falls madly in love with an innocent young soprano, Christine, and devotes himself to creating a new star by nurturing her extraordinary talents and by

employing all of the devious methods at his command. San Diego Civic Theatre, Third and B St., 1100 Third Ave., downtown San Diego. Through Oct. 18. Prices vary. (619) 570-1100. broadwaysd.com. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 16 ABUNDANCE A stagecoach pulls into a station in the middle of the Wyoming territory. Off step two mailorder brides, one innocent and wide-eyed, the other spunky and assertive. For the next quarter of a century, they struggle with the incongruities of fate while clinging to their dreams in a fierce and funny story set in a wild west that would have daunted even Thelma and Louise. South Coast Repertory, Segerstrom Stage, 655 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. Dates vary through Nov. 15. $22-plus. (714) 708-5555. scr.org.

IN YOUR ARMS Ten dance vignettes tell wordless stories of love, yearning and romance, and constitute a magical evening of movement and music

Known for fusing popular music genres and indigenous Mexican music, Downs brings her unique sound to a Día de Muertos (Day of the Dead) celebration. The concert showcases some new songs from her album “Balas y Chocolate” (Bullets and Chocolate). Segerstrom Center for the Arts, Renée and Henry Segerstrom Concert Hall, 600 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. $49-plus. (714) 556-2787. scfta.org.

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performed by a cast of 20 talented dancers. Each vignette takes place in a different place and time, and the 10 dances range from duets to large ensemble numbers. Thrilling styles of dance from classical ballet to swing, tap to tango, rock ’n’ roll to Charleston, modern to jazz are celebrated with verve and nuance. The Old Globe Theatre, Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre, Conrad Prebys Theatre Center, 1363 Old Globe Way, Balboa Park, San Diego. $29-plus. Through Oct. 25. (619) 234-5623. theoldglobe.org.

octopus and his jellyfish friends. Also featured along the trail are athletes and scenes from the ball fields, carnivores like T-Rex, as well as some classic American cars like the 1957 Chevy. San Diego Zoo Safari Park, 15500 San Pasqual Valley Rd., Escondido. Weekend evenings through Oct. 25. $24-$28. (760) 747-8702. sdzsafaripark.org.

AMERICA Humphrey’s Concerts by the Bay, 2241 Shelter Island Dr., San Diego. $50. (800) 745-3000. humphreysconcerts.com.

HELLO DOLLY Dolly Levi, the well-known matchmaker, attempts to find herself a husband in the wealthy Horace Vandergelder. Welk Resorts Theatre, 8860 Lawrence Welk Dr., Escondido. Dates vary through Nov. 15. $48-$75. (888) 802-7469. welktheatre.com.

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SATURDAY, OCTOBER 17 HEALING WARS This multisensory experience blends dance, storytelling and multimedia in an exploration of how soldiers and healers cope with the physical and psychological wounds of war. Incorporating narratives from the American Civil War, as well a remarkable performance from a young Navy veteran, this powerful piece asks how we as a nation recover from what seems like endless battles. La Jolla Playhouse, UCSD Campus, Sheila and Hughes Potiker Theatre, Mandell Weiss Theatre, 2910 La Jolla Village Dr., La Jolla. Through Oct. 25. Prices vary. (858) 550-1010. lajollaplayhouse.org. VIETGONE An all-American love story about two very new Americans. It’s 1975, and Saigon has fallen. He lost his wife. She lost her fiancé. But now in a new land, they just might find each other. Using his uniquely infectious style and skipping back and forth from the dramatic evacuation of Saigon to the here and now—playwright Qui Nguyen gets up close and personal to tell the story that led to the creation of…Qui Nguyen. South Coast Repertory, Segerstrom Stage, 655 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. Dates vary through Oct. 25. $22-plus. (714) 708-5555. scr.org. RISE OF THE JACK O’LANTERNS View some 5,000 jack-o-lanterns that have been intricately hand-carved and crafted by artists into striking displays, along a winding trail spanning nearly one-third mile. Stroll past enormous carved giraffes, rhinos, cheetahs, tigers and lions, before seeing a spectacular

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 18 DISNEY’S THE LION KING Giraffes strut. Birds swoop. Gazelles leap. The entire Serengeti comes to life. And as the music soars, Pride Rock slowly emerges from the mist. Tony award-winning director Julie Taymor brings to life a story filled with hope and adventure set against an amazing backdrop of stunning visuals. Segerstrom Center for the Arts, Segerstrom Hall, 600 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. Through Nov. 1. $31-plus. (714) 556-2787. scfta.org. I’M STILL GETTING MY ACT TOGETHER Based on Gretchen Cryer’s and Nancy Ford’s 1978 groundbreaking musical. “Act One,” the original musical, introduces Heather, a 39-year-old divorced song-writer attempting a comeback by ditching the romantic songs of her past for a more personal collection. “Act Two” visits Heather and her band 30 years later. Laguna Playhouse, 606 Laguna Canyon Rd., Laguna Beach. Dates vary through Nov. 1. $41-$66. (949) 497-2787. lagunaplayhouse.com. CHAMPAGNE JAZZ Jazz Attack featuring Richard Elliot, Peter White and Euge Groove. Thornton Winery, 32575 Rancho California Rd., Temecula. $75. (951) 699-0099. thorntonwine.com/ champagne-jazz-series.

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THE VORTEX Nicky Lancaster brings his elegant fiancée, Bunty, home to introduce her to his famous mother, stage actress Florence Lancaster. Nicky is shocked to discover that Florence has taken a much younger lover, and when Bunty ditches Nicky to run off with his mother’s boytoy, both are forced to confront the truth about themselves. Cygnet Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St., San Diego. Dates vary through Nov. 8. $34. (619) 337-1525. cygnettheatre.com.

MOMIX: ALCHEMIA The exceptionally inventive company of dancer-illusionists, presents a riveting multimedia spectacle exploring themes of invention, beauty, sensuality and humor. This new work about the art of alchemy manipulates the four classic elements: earth, air, fire and water, to create a visually arresting theatrical experience. California Center for the Arts, Escondido, Concert Hall, 340 N. Escondido Blvd., Escondido. Prices vary. (800) 988-4253. artcenter.org.

WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 21 CHAPATTI Two lonely animal lovers in Dublin cross paths, and an unexpected spark begins as they re-discover the importance of human companionship. North Coast Repertory Theatre, 987 Lomas Santa Fe Drive, Suite D, Solana Beach. Through Nov. 15. Prices vary. (858) 481-1055. northcoastrep.org. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 22

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 25 DRACULA In Charles Morey’s acclaimed adaptation, Count Dracula slips to Victorian London where Dr. Van Helsing must stop his frightful carnage. To do this, Dr. Van Helsing must uncover the vampire’s layer and pierce Dracula’s heart with a wooden stake. Poway Center for the Performing Arts Foundation, 15498 Espola Rd., Poway. $35-$65. (858) 668-4798. powayarts.org. CLASSICS AT THE TCC Temecula Community Center, 28816 Pujol St., Temecula. $12. (866) 653-8696. temeculatheater.org. LIVE JAZZ ON THE PATIO Jimmy and Enrique. Bernardo Winery, Tasting Room Patio, 13330 Paseo Del Verano Norte, San Diego. Free. bernardowinery.com. MONDAY, OCTOBER 26

EMERSON STRING QUARTET A musical program featuring Haydn’s dazzling String Quartet in D minor “Fifths,” Bartók’s String Quartet No. 4 and the rarely performed String Quartet No. 15 in G major by Schubert. The quartet includes Eugene Drucker, violin; Philip Setzer, violin; Lawrence Dutton, viola and Paul Watkins, cello. Segerstrom Center for the Arts, Samueli Theater, 600 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. $29-plus. (714) 556-2787. scfta.org. HAUNTED HALLOWEEN DINNER San Dimas Community Center, 245 E. Bonita Ave., San Dimas. $15. (909) 394-6290. JAZZ AT THE TCC Temecula Community Center, 28816 Pujol St., Temecula. $15. (866) 653-8696. temeculatheater.org. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 23 HAY FEVER Retired stage star Judith Bliss, her novelist husband and their two bohemian adult children have each invited houseguests for the weekend. But as the Blisses indulge their artistic eccentricities in a hilarious whirlwind of flirtation and histrionics, the guests begin to wonder if they’ve landed in a madhouse - and if they can survive with their own wits intact. Cygnet Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St., San Diego. Dates vary through Nov. 8. $34. (619) 3371525. cygnettheatre.com.

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HORROR UNSCRIPTED Impro Theatre takes a “stab” at creating an entire play in the style of 1980s horror films, on stage, right before your very eyes. North Coast Repertory Theatre, 987 Lomas Santa Fe Drive, Suite D, Solana Beach. (858) 481-1055. northcoastrep.org. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 31 JAKE SHIMABUKURO Humphrey’s Concerts by the Bay, 2241 Shelter Island Dr., San Diego. $50. (800) 745-3000. humphreysconcerts.com.

NOVEMBER THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 5 INA GARTEN The Emmy Award-winning host of the “Barefoot Contessa” television show brings her natural approach to food, entertaining tips, stories and recipes, engaging the audience with an interactive Q and A. Segerstrom Center for the Arts, Segerstrom Hall, 600 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. $49-plus. (714) 5562787. scfta.org. FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 6 MELISSA ETHERIDGE Etheridge performs songs from her 13th studio album, “This Is M.E.”, including “Take My Number,” “Monster,” and “A Little Bit of Me,” plus classics like “Come To My Window,” “I’m The Only One” and “Bring Me

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Some two dozen museums and cultural attractions present creepy craft projects, scary gallery tours, spine-tingling storytelling, costume parades and contest, and other fun surprises. Highlights include mini-carnival games and costume contests, a doggie costume contest in the Spanish Village, the San Diego Air and Space Museum’s annual rooftop pumpkin drop, a free children’s concert and activities in the Spreckels Organ Pavilion. Balboa Park, Botanical Building, San Diego. Free. (619) 239-0512. balboapark.org/halloweenfamilyday.

Some Water.” California Center for the Arts, Escondido, Concert Hall, 340 N. Escondido Blvd., Escondido. $40-$85. (800) 988-4253. artcenter.org. SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 7 COUNTRY AT THE TCC Temecula Community Center, 28816 Pujol St., Temecula. $15. (866) 653-8696. temeculatheater.org. SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 8 LIVE JAZZ ON THE PATIO Chini and Camberos. Bernardo Winery, Tasting Room Patio, 13330 Paseo Del Verano Norte, San Diego. Free. bernardowinery.com. COMPOSTING WORKSHOP Learn how to use your yard clippings as a resource, naturally achieve a beautiful, health

yard and garden and reduce your use of synthetic pesticides and fertilizers. Living Coast Discovery Center, 100, Gunpowder Point Dr., Chula Vista. Shuttle to entrance from parking lot. $9-$14. Sundays. (619) 409-5900. thelivingcoast.org. TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 10 42ND STREET Based on a novel by Bradford Ropes and Busby Berkeley’s 1933 movie, this is the story of a starry-eyed young dancer named Peggy Sawyer who comes to New York to audition for a new Broadway musical. When the star breaks her ankle, Peggy takes over and becomes a star. Segerstrom Center for the Arts, Segerstrom Hall, 600 Town Center Dr., Costa Mesa. Through Nov. 22. $25-plus. (714) 556-2787. scfta.org.

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ADAMS, CURTIS AND WESTON Photographers of the American West. This exhibition documents the changing landscape of the west and the art of photography through time as well as through the lenses of three of the most celebrated 20th century American photographers: Ansel Adams, Edward S. Curtis and Edward Weston. The photos range in date from 1905 to 1967 and depict a variety of subjects, including landscapes and portraits. Bowers Museum, Mary Muth Wing 2002 N. Main St., Santa Ana. Through Nov. 29. $10$15. (714) 567-3679. bowers.org.

LIVE AT THE MUSEUM LA Horn Quartet. Laguna Beach Live All Stars. Laguna Beach Live, The Ranch at Laguna Beach, 31106 S. Coast Hwy, Laguna Beach. Prices vary. (949) 715-9713. lagunabeachlive.org. FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 13 INDECENT Alive with popular songs of the 1920’s, this deeply-moving piece charts the history of an incendiary work, the artists who risked their careers and lives to perform it, and the evolving identity of the culturally-rich community that inspired its creation. La Jolla Playhouse, UCSD Campus, Sheila and Hughes Potiker Theatre, Mandell Weiss Theatre, 2910 La Jolla Village Dr., La Jolla. Through Dec. 10. Prices vary. (858) 550-1010. lajollaplayhouse.org.

INGENIOUS! THE WORLD OF DR. SEUSS The lively and whimsical exhibition features rare early works, ephemera, illustration and editorial cartoons, as well as two newly

CALeNDAR released Geisel illustrations. The Seussland gallery features giant bronze Seuss character sculptures, anchoring interactive family activities that emphasize the important themes and innovative nature of Seuss books. San Diego History Center, Casa De Balboa, Balboa Park, 1649 El Prado, San Diego. Through Dec. 31. $6-$8. (619) 232- 6203. sandiegohistory.org. Get the Word Out. E-mail your announcements to Claire Fadden, cfadden@lifeafter50.com 60 days prior (or even earlier) to your event. Include a brief description, location, date, time, cost, phone and website. Submission does not guarantee publication.

eXHIBItIONs generative computer works. This survey demonstrates that he operates at the intersections of the visual, the performative and the time-based. Orange County Museum of Art, 850 San Clemente Dr., Newport Beach. Wed.-Sun. through Feb. 28. $10. (949) 7591-1122. ocma.net.

MADE IN AMERICA: CRAFT ICONS OF THE 50 STATES This exhibition, over two years in the making, features traditional and contemporary iconic craft icons that represent each of the 50 states. These objects highlight distinctive materials, excellence of workmanship, and makers’ imaginations. Exploring regional and national craft traditions while expressing each state’s unique contribution to the richness of the American experience, this exhibition celebrates the variety of craft found in America. Mingei International Museum, Balboa Park, 1439 El Prado, San Diego. Through Feb. 21. $7-$10. (619) 239-0003. mingei.org. WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 28 SAN DIEGO COUNTY PANORAMA The Chula Vista Art Guild hosts this display. Bonita Museum and Cultural Center, 4355 Bonita Rd., Bonita. Wed.-Sat. through Nov. 21. (619) 267-5141. bonitahistoricalsociety.org. SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 7 R. LUKE DUBOIS--NOW New York-based DuBois has produced a prodigious body of work ranging from musical composition and collaborative performance to large-scale public installations, film and

MAYA: HIDDEN WORLDS REVEALED The ruined cities of the ancient Maya have captured imaginations since news of their discovery in the jungles of Central America was published in the 1840s. This exhibition tells the story through the eyes of Maya rulers and their loyal subjects. On display are more than 200 authentic artifacts, including spectacular examples of Maya artistry made by masters of their craft, along with objects from everyday life. San Diego Natural History Museum, 1788 El Prado, Balboa Park, San Diego. $15-$27. Through Jan 3. (619) 232-3821. sdnhm.org. FIVE: NEW FACETS, DIVERSE EXPRESSIONS Artwork by Maria Evangelina Rodriquez, Therese Cipiti-Herron, Louanne Kroemshroeder-Davis, Judy Pike and Carol Freno. Bonita Museum and Cultural Center, 4355 Bonita Rd., Bonita. Wed.Sat. through Oct. 24. (619) 267-5141. bonitahistoricalsociety.org. MODERN TWIST Contemporary Japanese Bamboo Art. This exhibition explores the innovative shape bamboo art has taken since the mid-20th century. The display features a stunning selection of works from the Clark Center for Japanese Art and Culture. With rare wallhung installations and pieces never before seen in the United States, this exhibition both engages and educates audiences about a vibrant cultural art form. Bowers Museum, Mary Muth Wing 2002 N. Main St., Santa Ana. Through Jan. 3. $10-$15. (714) 567-3679. bowers.org

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One of the biggest Broadway musical hits ever, this play has been performed in 28 languages. The beloved score includes “Maybe,” “It’s a Hard Knock Life,” “You’re Never Fully Dressed Without a Smile,” “Easy Street,” “I Don’t Need Anything But You” and the eternal anthem of optimism, “Tomorrow.” San Diego Civic Theatre, Third and B St., 1100 Third Ave., downtown San Diego. Through Nov. 8. Prices vary. (619) 570-1100. broadwaysd.com.

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