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LINDSAY SEALEY Lindsay Sealey is the founder and CEO of Bold New Girls, a company designed to empower girls through education and personal growth and development. She is also the author of Growing Strong Girls: Practical Tools to Cultivate Connection in the Preteen Years (available at Amazon.com and Amazon.ca) and Raising Girls’ Voices: Guiding Girls to Listen, Trust, Share, and Use Their Voices. (available at Lulu.com). Lindsay earned an M.A. in Educational Leadership from San Diego State University. A passionate girl champion, with diverse public speaking experience, she has worked in consulting, curriculum development, and special education for more than 15 years. Lindsay has appeared on CTV’s, The Social, Global’s Morning Show, and Toronto’s The Agenda. As well, she has spoken on Newstalk 1010 (Toronto), News 1130 (Vancouver), CJAD 800 (Montreal), and CBC Radio (Canada). She is a contributor to the Globe and Mail, Huff Post, and Red Tricycle. To contact Lindsay Sealey: info@boldnewgirls.com www.LindsaySealey.com www.BoldNewGirls.com

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HOW DO YOU GROW INTO A STRONG GIRL? A STRONG GIRL… • Has confidence and self-belief

• Knows her competencies – all she can do

• Stands tall • Feels secure

• Shows she has self-respect by how she stands and by her words

• Believes she has value and worth

• Views mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow

• Knows she is enough

• Has a growth mindset – knowing outcome is the result of her efforts

• Uses healthy ways to connect with her authentic self • Listens to her inner voice

• Thinks for herself • Sets boundaries

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NURTURING YOUR IDENTITY AND YOUR TRUE SELF Girls, you are happier when you don’t have to pretend to be someone for others and when you are free to be your beautiful, wonderful, unique selves. No comparing. No competing. No hiding. No pretending. “You do you!” Fill in this chart to discover who you are:

The qualities that best describe me…(such as: kind, caring, silly, funny, smart, brave, strong, shy…)

My interests and hobbies…

5 of my favorite things include…

What I feel makes me unique…

An ideal day for me would be…

What makes me feel happy is…

What I like to learn about is…

What I think about the most is…

What I am most looking forward to is…

Some things I dream about are…

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BEING BRAVE AND HEALTHY RISK TAKING Girls today need to be brave. You need to be brave. How? By practicing little acts of bravery and taking steps out of your comfort zone. It may feel scary and uncomfortable but this is exactly how you will grow braver. Fill in this chart to discover who you are:

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Deciding to change: “I will change by___.”

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Trying a challenge: “I will challenge myself by___.”

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ACTIVITY FILL IN THESE PROMPTS: What bravery means to me…

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I will be brave when I…

Benefits of bravery include…

Drawbacks of bravery include…

BONUS ACTIVITY Take a glass jar and cut out several small pieces of different coloured paper. Take time to think about what bravery means to you. Write one brave idea on each paper. Fold the paper and place it in the jar. When you are finished with your bravery ideas, choose the one you want to focus on and clip or tape it to the outside of the jar so you can see it. See how many ways you can be brave - in this way - all week.

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STEPS TO BOLSTERING CONFIDENCE Confidence is believing in your value and worth and knowing you can do what you choose and be yourself. Confidence needs to be practiced every day. It is NOT something you are born with (or without). It is something you work on developing.

HOW DO YOU DEVELOP CONFIDENCE? HERE ARE SOME IDEAS: • Show body confidence: stand tall, shoulders back, chest out, head held high, and use good eye contact • Use your voice: speak up and be clear, concise, and confident with your words • Use positive self-talk: “I am so hard working”, “I am musical”, “I never give up” • Make choices that are healthy for YOU: “I will choose to watch less Netflix tonight so I get a good night’s sleep” • Look back to notice your growth in confidence: “Yesterday, I was confident when I…”

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ACTIVITY TRY THESE STEPS: 1. List your strengths: I am good at…

2. List your stretches: I am working on…

3. List your skills and talents: I can…

4. List your qualities: Words that best describe me are…

5. List what you love to do: I love to…

6. List your goals for the day: Today, I will…

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BONUS ACTIVITY Use this confidence scale, numbered from 1 to 10. On each number write out what the number means to you. For example, 1 could mean asking your friend a question you are wondering, 2 could mean saying, “No” to an invitation. When all the numbers have been labeled, colour in the scale to chart your confidence. See how you are becoming more confident and how you can become even more confident.

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EMBRACING “PERFECTLY IMPERFECT” AND YOUR BEST SELF Look perfect. Act perfect. Be perfect. No doubt, you are feeing the pressure from culture and social media, parents and teachers, and yourself, to be perfect. When you don’t reach “perfection”, you may even feel something is wrong with you and then push to be even more “perfect”. You can be your ‘best self’ but, first, you will need to let go of the idea of “perfect”. Repeat after me, “There is simply no such thing as perfect!” Perfect does NOT exist. What does exist? Effort, progress, personal best, and “perfectly imperfect”.

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“I want to be the best dancer.”

“I want to be a good friend.” “I want to enjoy dancing.”

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ACTIVITY Perfectionists often avoid trying and taking risks because they are so afraid of being less than perfect. Try this…choose a fun activity you haven’t tried before and you could possibly not be good at (yet). For example, you can try…juggling, a cartwheel, baking a cake, playing a new video game, making an iMovie, ordering at a restaurant, singing a song, or dancing. Fill in this permission form before you try. Then, try again and see you if you can get better.

PERFECTLY IMPERFECT PERMISSION SLIP I, ___________________________give myself permission to try_____________________________. (your name)

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I know that I have never tried this before. I know that practice is necessary to improve. This will take time. I know that I won’t be perfect and I will not try to be perfect. Today, I will be “perfectly imperfect” as I learn_________________________________. (activity)

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GIRL IN THE MIRROR: WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A HEALTHY BODY IMAGE Girls, you can be so unhappy with your appearance, especially as you compare your bodies with the carefully curated, perfected images you see in the media. As you grow, you will become increasingly dissatisfied or obsessed with your looks. You can easily turn on your bodies when times get tough and you feel you need to gain a sense of control. You may blame or hurt your bodies by being overly critical, depriving your bodies of essential nutrients and minerals, or practicing self-harm. Instead, try some body appreciation.

BODY APPRECIATION PHRASES TO TRY… • My eyes are sparkly and bright • My dimples show I am happy • My shoulders are square and strong • I feel proud when I stand up tall • I love my rounded tummy • My arms are strong and help me write, play the piano, dribble a basketball, and hug others • My legs are athletic and allow me to jump, dance, and run • My hips are curvy and rounded and my butt is just right • I am comfortable in my own skin • I love how my body moves • I nourish my body with water and nutritious foods • I am so much more than my appearance • Different is beautiful • I am bold, brilliant, and beautiful…JUST AS I AM

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WHEN YOU ARE NOT FEELING SO GOOD ABOUT YOUR BODY, ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU NEED MORE OF AND LESS OF: MORE OF…

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ACTIVITY In this space, draw your body. Label the various parts of your body: head, eyes, face, shoulders, arms, hands, stomach, hips, legs, butt, feet, and back. Then beside each body part, write out one positive message. For example, if you start with your eyes, add: “My eyes are so round and beautiful.” For your face try: “I love the shape of my oval face.” For your arms, you could write, “My arms are so strong and give great hugs.” *When you look in the mirror, instead of looking for the flaws, focus on a body part you can appreciate, and say the matching phrase aloud! When you focus on what you LOVE about your body, you start to LOVE your body!

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FACING ANXIETY Are you ever stressed out? Are you worried and anxious about anything and everything: school (quizzes and tests), friends (making them, keeping them, yoyo friends and “frenemies”), social media (keeping up), and your busy schedule (and never ending “to do” list). Stress is an inevitable part of life but too much can cause damage to your body and your health. Let’s explore and face anxiety head on! Stress is your body’s response to a stressor (something that causes stress). Your body will show you something is WRONG to alert you of DANGER. You will want to: • FIGHT – use mean words, yell, scream, throw a tantrum • FLIGHT – run away or escape the classroom or the situation, into your bedroom, or onto a screen • FREEZE – do nothing and say nothing You may feel OUT OF CONTROL and want to AVOID feelings of discomfort. This is NORMAL.

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Trigger – What happens? (Something that makes you feel anxious such as: a teacher announcing a quiz or a friend being mad at you but you don’t know why)

Body Signs of Anxiety – What is your body showing you? (Sweaty hands and feet, upset stomach, headache, butterflies in your stomach, sore or achy muscles)

Fight, Flight, or Freeze - What do you want to do? (Yell or become snarky with your words, run away to your bedroom or go on your phone, or stop and do nothing at all)

Quick Tools to Avoid Anxiety – What do you do to avoid feeling anxious? (Binge-watch Netflix, play video games, eat junk food, sleep, or go onto social media)

Tools That Take Time but That Help You Deal with Anxiety – What can you do that will work best? (Deep breathing, yoga or meditation, exercise, listening to music, arts and crafts, journaling, talking to someone about your feelings or how to figure out your next steps)

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ACTIVITY Look at the following ideas for what is in your control and circle the ones that are true for you.

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IN MY CONTROL My thoughts, words, and actions

Healthy choices and decisions

Positive self-talk

My social circle

Daily habits

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My schedule and “to do’s”

A positive attitude

Social media and screen time and who I follow

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LEARNING THE GROWTH MINDSET The growth mind set is the belief that you can grow your brain with determination, grit, and hard work. The opposite is a fixed mindset which is the belief that your growth is limited to what you were born with and you have no power to change or grow! Brains and talent are just the starting point. You can develop your growth mindset in the following ways: 1. Working hard and hustling every day – so you get better, stronger, and faster and so you can know hard work pays off

2. Practicing positive self-talk: “I can do this.” “I am smart, talented, and hard working.” “I am growing.” “Small steps make a big difference.” – so you believe in yourself

3. Persevering and persisting – teaches you that progress is hard but you can do it if you don’t give up

4. Struggling – teaches you when something is challenging you are stretching your brain and learning

5. Failing and falling – to know what not to do and how you learn best 6. Making mistakes – to get better and better at any skill you try 7. Using the word “yet”: “I can’t play the piano, bake, read, make friends YET!” – reminds you that with effort you can improve

8. Noticing your own growth: “Look how far I’ve come.” and “Look how much I’ve changed.” – gives you the energy and motivation to keep going.

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ACTIVITY Look at the fixed mindset phrases (on the left) to see which ones you use the most. Then choose one of the growth mindset phrases (on the right) that you like the best and write it on a cue card or sticky note. Practice saying it throughout the day and keep track of how many times you use the phrase in one day and how it feels for you.

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I am just not good at this…

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It’s not good enough.

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I can’t do this.

I will try a new strategy.

This is too hard.

I need to ask for help.

I’ll never improve.

I will commit to improving a little every day by taking little steps.

I made a mistake.

Mistakes help me learn and grow.

I’m not smart.

I get smarter every day and commit to learning one new idea or fact a day.

Everyone else can do it.

I will learn from others who can do it.

It will take too long.

I will be patient and practice consistently.

I can’t do it.

I can’t do it yet.

My brain hurts.

My brain is stretching.

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SCREENS AND SOCIAL MEDIA Screens and social media (SM) are a big part of your day. You may be on a screen for more than 8 hours! You may use your screen to read, to research, to watch Netflix, or to keep in touch with friends. The downside of screens and social media is feeling disconnected or stressed and out of balance.

GIRLS LOVE… • To have fun and laugh

WHAT GIRLS LOATHE…

• To alleviate their stress and escape problems

• To procrastinate jobs that need to get finished (homework, chores, etc.)

• To be entertained

• To be cyber bullied or trolled

• To feel inspired by pictures

• To receive inappropriate or mean comments

• To get ideas

• To feel judged or criticized

• To feel connected, normal, and included

• To feel excluded

• To be part of the conversation

• To experience FOMO (fear of missing out)

• To keep up with people’s lives, posts, and social trends

• To compare and compete

• To learn

• To measure their self-worth by number of likes and followers

• To be entertained

• To see fakeness

• To get help when they need it

• To feel disconnected, not good enough, and stressed out

• To follow people (friends and celebrities) and their stories

• To be pressured to post and to keep up • To be addicted

• To keep in touch with far away friends and family • To self-promote and advertise products and services

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ACTIVITY To find better balance when it comes to screens and social media, create some guidelines. Below, are some ideas to get you started and then add some of your own! • Be safe: turn off location settings, turn on privacy settings; don’t share too many personal details • Monitor how much time you actually spend on a screen and decide if you want to stay the same or make changes • Choose a “screen and social media time” for each day and stick to it. For example, 4pm-5pm for screens and social media • Take frequent social media breaks and shift gears to other activities • Be boundaried: don’t accept all requests; decide carefully who and what to follow • Be real: be your true and authentic self; limit filters and editing; share good moments and bad • Be intentional: choose who and what to follow and think before you post – be kind and respectful • Make choices: decide when to use your phone, for how long, and where • Be prepared for triggers: if you see a post or comment that bothers you, delete, block, mute, unfollow, or report • Practice 1:1 – for every 1 hour on a screen, choose 1 hour to do a real activity, in real time • Challenge yourself to try: 1 hour, 1 day, or even 1 week without screens and social media – honestly ask yourself how you feel • Add you own ideas here…

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CULTIVATING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS Healthy relationships are important and they require time, effort, energy, care, love, practice, and patience. What you PUT INTO a relationship can be what you GET OUT of a relationship. Consistent effort is the KEY. You must know and feel the difference between HEALTHY and UNHEALTHY relationships and be wiling to let go when relationships are not healthy for you:

HEALTHY

UNHEALTHY

• Clear communication

• Confusing communication

• Respecting boundaries and differences

• Disrespecting boundaries and differences

• Easy and fun

• Difficult and stressful

• Supportive • Care and kindness • Loyal

• Competitive • Meanness and jealous • Disloyal

• Fair

• Unfair

• Consistent

• Unpredictable

• Takes turns

• Dominates

• Reciprocal

• One-sided

• Open to new ideas and learning

• Closed to new ideas and learning

• Encouraging

• Puts you down

• Reliable

• Flaky

• Promises kept

• Promises broken

• Accepts you for exactly who you are

• Tries to change you

• Listens

• Ignores or dismisses you

• Builds you up

• Puts you down

• Balances activities with chat-time

• Out of balance activities with chats

• Real: what you see is what you get

• Fake: you don’t know what you will get

• Free to express all feelings

• Limited to express some feelings

• Works through conflict

• Avoids or ignores conflict

• Feels uplifting

• Feels draining

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ACTIVITY Girl drama – gossip, rumors, and stories - is unnecessary and hurtful. Why do girls participate in girl drama? Sometimes, they are bored, lonely, mad, needing attention, or wanting to gain in popularity. Girl drama can be fun and exciting to some girls. It can help girls feel closer and more connected to each other. But girl drama can become bullying and it can cause a lot or worry and stress and, ultimately create disconnected relationships. To avoid girl drama, focus on the positive aspects of friendship and identify the following:

WHAT KIND OF FRIEND ARE YOU:

WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS DO YOU WANT:

(I am: kind, caring, loyal, funny, interesting…)

(I want someone who is: outgoing, silly, athletic, spontaneous…)

BONUS ACTIVITY Instead of trying to find that one, “perfect” BFF, consider creating a circle of friends – a circle with many different types of friends – older, younger, taller, smaller, friends who are like you and also unlike you. This way, you are creating a variety of people and personalities and have many friends to choose from! Use this picture to write out the names of friends you want in your circle and what you like best about this person. Ex. Molly – “She is so positive and confident.”

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BECOMING INTERESTING, INTERESTED, AND INTERACTIVE Without a doubt, we better connect with people when we are interesting, interested, and interactive.

HOW TO BE INTERESTING:

HOW TO BE INTERESTED:

• • • • • •

• Pay attention to others – LISTEN to what they like to do • Get to know their skills and talents – learn from them • Try their activities, join their groups, and try adventuring with them • Ask a variety of questions and respond to their answers: “How are you today?”, “What do you do for fun?”, “What are you excited about right now?”, “What are you proud of?”, “What are you thankful for?”, “What are you looking forward to?”

Know what you like to do Develop your skills and talents Learn new things Try activities that are challenging (and fun) Join new groups Be open to new adventures

HOW TO BE INTERACTIVE: • Practice social awareness: paying attention to facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice • Practice guessing other people’s feelings based on what you notice: “You seem sad, is that right?” “Wow. You are happy!” • Practice the 50-50 guideline – 50% of the conversation talking, 50% of the conversation listening • Work on conversations with these ideas: add a thought, support with a comment, ask a question • Notice and compliment: “I like your new haircut” or “What a great shirt” • Share: a story, an idea, and an opinion • Invite: ask someone to join you

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ACTIVITY One of them most difficult parts of connection is conflict and working through it. Circle any of the “trouble” you have gotten into and then think of an idea for “trouble shooting” (the first one has been done for you):

TROUBLE

TROUBLE SHOOTING

• Talking about someone behind his/her back

• Talking directly to a person

• Asking a friend to take sides and back you up • Breaking a promise • Telling a secret • Boasting and bragging • Being mean to someone • Yelling or screaming at someone • Ignoring or leaving a friend out on purpose • Competing and comparing • Embarrassing someone in a group • Being bossy in a rude way

BONUS ACTIVITY Below is a sample script for working through conflict. You can practice beforehand and then give it a try! I notice… (state the situation; stick to the facts) I feel…(say how you are feeling about the situation) I need or want…(ask for what you want to happen) What is your experience…?(hear the other side of the story) Let’s try…(come up with a solution together)

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BOUNDARIES AND BORDERS Put simply, boundaries are your limits and lines between you and others. Boundaries are what you will say, “Yes” to and what you will say, “No” to. Boundaries are your rules for you and nobody should tell you what they are or try to push or change your boundaries. As you grow, your boundaries may change as you become more comfortable trying new things and meeting new people. For now, your boundaries are set for who you are today. Just as you are in charge of setting them, you are in charge of when they expand (get bigger) and when they shrink (get smaller). Think of a boundary as a hula-hoop and you are in the center making all the decisions. You then get to choose who or what is outside of your hula-hoop and who or what is inside of your hula-hoop. Boundaries keep you safe and healthy. Boundaries can be flexible. For example, you may not like someone at first but over time realize you like her and trust her. You had a boundary with her at first, and then you opened up your boundary to let her in. It’s more than okay to change your mind! Borders are when you need to hold your boundaries firm. If that same friend turned out to be mean and unhealthy for you, you’d need to have a border and absolutely not let her in your hula hoop, even if she begged or pushed! Sometimes you will need boundaries. Other times, you will need borders. You get to decide.

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ACTIVITY TO CONSIDER FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES (OR BORDERS): • • • • • •

What you want and need Your personal limits – what feels right and best for you and what feels wrong Using “I statements” to express yourself: “I feel…”, “I need…”, “I want…” Saying, “Yes”, “Yes, that sounds good”, “Yes, I’ll come with you”, or “Yes, I agree” Saying, “No”, “No, I am not comfortable with that”, “No, I don’t want to”, or “No, I don’t have time” Making requests: “I need more time to think.” “May I have some help?”

Take some time to choose from the following topics and either place them outside of the hula-hoop to show they are “No’s” or inside of the hula-hoop to show they are “Yes’s” • Funny friends

• Quiet time

• Mean friends

• People time

• Laughter

• Play

• Fun

• Work

• Bullying

• Time outside

• Jokes

• Time inside

• Knowing the plan

• Real time

• Being spontaneous

• Screen time

• Healthy eating

• Gossiping

• Eating junk

Try some ideas of your own

“NO’S” YES’S

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LEADERSHIP AND BANNING BOSSY Girls are leaders. Leadership includes: knowing who you are and believing in yourself enough to speak up, stand up, and influence others in positive ways. Leaders are not born. They are made. Leaders are Made For More, which means we have to all ban bossy. You are more than the label “bossy”.

LEADERSHIP STARTS WITH YOU, ASKING YOURSELF: • • • • • • •

What are my values? What are my skills and talents? What are my interests? What are my passions? What do I believe in? What are my strengths? What are my stretches?

HOW TO BE A LEADER? • • • • • • • • •

Believe in yourself: your inner voice, words, actions, choices, beliefs, and opinions Let go of fear of judgment. Say, “So what?” and “Who cares?” Be brave and take risks (even when it’s hard or scary) Challenge yourself to grow in all different ways (at school, with friends, in the community) Ask for support when you need it Speak up for yourself and others Stand up for what you believe is right Follow positive and inspiring people Read because leaders are readers

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ACTIVITY 1. In the middle of the square, glue a picture of yourself. 2. Circle the ideas around the square that you’d be willing to try to grow your leadership skills and list the steps you can take to make this happen.

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START A NEW PROJECT

GIVE BACK TO THE COMMUNITY

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REFLECTION QUESTIONS FOR YOU… Where do you feel you are growing?

Where do you feel you have room to grow?

When do you feel most strong?

When do you feel least strong?

What is one step you can take STARTING NOW to help you become stronger?

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POSITIVE POWER STATEMENTS I am strong, confident, and capable.

I will always be true to myself.

I will be kind, loving, and compassionate to myself.

I can take positive risks and be brave.

I can do anything if I work hard.

I am different and uniquely beautiful.

I will practice daily self-care in the way that I need.

I can speak up and stand up for myself and for others.

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WORDS WITH POWER

GIRLS CAN The Future is Yours

GIRL POWER

GO FOR IT! Design Your Dreams

STRONG IS THE NEW PRETTY

Girl on Fire PURSUE YOUR PASSIONS To contact Lindsay Sealey: info@boldnewgirls.com • www.LindsaySealey.com • www.BoldNewGirls.com Copyright © 2019 Bold New Girls All Rights Reserved Follow Lindsay Sealey on @LindsaySealey or @BoldNewGirls Social icon

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COLOUR THESE

WORDS WITH POWER

and cut them out and stick them around your bedroom!

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HOW DO YOU GROW INTO STRONG GIRL? “It’s brave to reach for something out of your comfort zone, and even braver to let the world see…when you fall flat on your face.” Reshma Saujani

“Confidence requires a choice: to squash people pleasing and perfectionism, and embrace risk-taking and the lessons of failure.” Katty Kay & Claire Shipman

“There’s a truth I know in my heart, though, that always pulls me out of that place – the meaning of life is the meaning you give it. “ Jazz Jennings

“Those with high self-esteem know they are valued as unique individuals. So, in knowing they matter, they believe that they are deserving of what they want.” Danielle Fuligni McKay

“I plan to keep standing up for what I believe in and inspiring as many people as I can.” Kheris Rogers

“If I could tell you anything, if I could convince you to believe it, it’s that you were made for more.” Rachel Hollis

“Though people don’t always enjoy being stretched to new limits, both common sense and scientific research tell us that the stress of operating beyond our comfort zones helps us grow.” Lisa Damour

“Courage, sacrifice, determination, commitment, toughness, heart, talent, guts. That’s what little girls are made of.” Bethany Hamilton

“Let us make our future now, and let us make our dreams tomorrow’s reality.” Malala Yousafzai

“You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both.” Brené Brown

“When they go low, we go high.” Michelle Obama To contact Lindsay Sealey: info@boldnewgirls.com • www.LindsaySealey.com • www.BoldNewGirls.com Copyright © 2019 Bold New Girls All Rights Reserved Follow Lindsay Sealey on @LindsaySealey or @BoldNewGirls Social icon

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