Written + Created By: Dr. Amberleigh Carter, D.M., A.M.P., H.H.P.
h g i e l r e b m A k s A 5 Copyright 2022
The
Major
Game Changers in Relationships
HOW TO GET THE RELATIONSHIP YOU REALLY WANT WITH FRIENDS, FAMILY, AND PARTNERS.
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RELATIONSHIPS ARE ALWAYS AN INSIDE JOB.
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Every relationship is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself, and they are a mirror for what’s going on inside of you. So, when you are in relation to the world around you, you get to see your subconscious beliefs and your subconscious programs that you’ve picked up along the way. The subconscious patterns and programs you have, especially if you’re ungrounded and in your head often, are the driving force behind your relationships. Your beliefs affect everything, so using your relationship with the world around you as your mirror is the best way to have insight into what you've judged or stifled inside of you. Energy always seeks flow, so when you drop your judgments and express your true self, the energy can move freely. And that always feels good in relationships.
2 HAVE AWARENESS.
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Bringing awareness to the relationship you have with everyone around you is crucial for you to learn and grow. Bringing awareness to your relationships allows you to really start seeing those undercurrents in your subconscious belief system and your subconscious programs. Each relationship you have, even with a pet or the world around you or with food, is shining a light on you and on the things inside of you that have remained dormant. Now, you have the opportunity for those things to come up and come out so that you can look at them and change them. Whether it’s a safety issue, a connection issue, a worthiness, control, boundary, or a conditional love issue...bringing awareness and having a light reveal your issues to you, brings the opportunity for you to heal. What a gift!
3 BE VULNERABLE.
3 Vulnerability is your key to true connection. It's really your willingness to be seen clearly and authentically, revealing something about yourself that you have judged as being bad or wrong. That thing you're trying to hide is usually something that you have shame around, like, "If I reveal this thing about me that I've judged to be unworthy of love and connection, then it will make me less lovable or deserving of love, and, therefore, I will be disconnected and unloved because of it." That belief prevents you from true connection. If you are vulnerable, you are brave, and you are telling yourself that under no terms, conditions, or behaviors, am I any more or less lovable. This is where your power lies: in unconditional love for yourself.
4 HAVE BOUNDARIES.
4 When you are loving yourself unconditionally, you are also willing to put yourself first. Not in a selfish way, but with love. Boundaries are loving because you cannot pour from an empty cup. If you give to yourself first, then you have more to give to others, as well. If you believe that there is something unlovable about you, (therefore, you have to earn love or manipulate for love), then you will have poor boundaries, you will put everyone else first, and you will deplete yourself in order to be more pleasing + lovable to others. This also builds resentment of other people because, in this dynamic, they will NEVER show up enough for you, in the way that you would for them. This is because there is an energetic imbalance, and they are always a reflection of what's going on inside of you. continued
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So, if you have poor boundaries, then people will not return the favor, which will show you how to balance that energy by giving more to yourself. Otherwise, you will always feel depleted and left fighting for lost energy throughout your day. The physical body is a mirror for your energy and beliefs, as well, so this imbalance of energy can lead to hormonal imbalances, blood sugar issues, and even financial depletion. The body can also hold onto excess fat from toxic emotions and reflect control issues: if you're manipulating others to return your energy, this control pattern will make your cell walls either totally open (leaky gut, inflammation, etc.), or very rigid (high blood sugar, malnourished, malabsorption, etc.). Do not violate your own boundaries thinking you will increase how much someone will love, like, accept, and connect with you. continued
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Because what you're really doing is trying to prove to yourself how much you are worthy of your own love + attention + connection. Seeking that connection outside of yourself is a mirror for you to know you need to connect within yourself, first. If you're doing everything you can to scream at the person to love you more or show up for you more, you are screaming at yourself in a mirror to grab your attention. *Give yourself the very attention that you're seeking from someone outside of you. How do you want them to show up for you? Do you wish your partner would take care of themselves more? Stop parenting them and start parenting yourself more because you might need more discipline/attention in certain areas of your own life. Do those things with yourself, first! Because it's also not fair to put expectations on someone else to make you feel more safe: that is always a bottomless pit and an impossible feat!
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YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE POWER.
5 If you want your partner or friend or colleague or loved one to change, the change begins inside of you! This gives you the power. The most effective way to change them is by making the internal change. This does not mean to not ever speak up, but you'll find that when YOU change, then your experience of that person and your relationship dynamic also changes. They start to show up in your life differently and act differently. And their experience of you also changes. So, when you’re in relationships with people, and you’re working on vulnerability and connection, you’re really learning how to fully love yourself unconditionally in the process: again, under no terms, conditions, behaviors, or circumstances are you any more or less loveable. You are LOVE. You are love incarnate. And there's nothing you or anyone else can do to take that away from you. How powerful!
r e t r a C h g i e l r e b Am HI.
I'M A DOCTOR OF METAPHYSICS, ALTERNATIVE MEDICAL
PRACTITIONER, HOLISTIC HEALTH PRACTITIONER, PODCASTER, MAGAZINE EDITOR, WRITER & SPEAKER, BUSINESS OWNER, ENTREPRENEUR, & LIFESTYLE INFLUENCER.
I HELP CLIENTS AROUND THE WORLD BY WORKING WITH SUBTLE, ENERGETIC PATTERNS OF INFORMATION THAT IMPACT THEIR HEALTH & LIFESTYLE. MY SPECIALTY IS RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN THINGS: THE CONNECTION BETWEEN THE SUBTLE ENERGY OF BELIEFS & THEIR PHYSICAL EFFECT ON ONE'S REALITY. THIS GIVES YOU CLARITY + EMPOWERMENT, WITH TOOLS TO CREATE THE CHANGE YOU WANT.
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