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Ways to Reinvent Your Wardrobe
DARK WINTER FLORALS Swap those bright blooms for something darker and more seductive for the new season.
A SCARF - Wrap yourself up in Stella McCartney’s check scarf - a super smart addition to any autumnal line-up.
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FRILLY SOCKS - Super sweet and just the thing to wear when it’s too cold for bare feet in those summer sandals.
LEATHER - Black leather is back on the agenda for autumn/ winter 2012-13. Vamp up the last of those summer pieces with this leather biker.
SEQUINS - As soon as it begins to get dark outside, you know it’s time to start thinking about investing in a party dress. LOUISE GRAY FOR TOPSHOP Here’s a collaboration we can’t wait to get our hands on: Louise Gray for Topshop. Launching on August 23 and full of sequinsmothered pieces, these are great buys to invest in ahead of party season.
MULBERRY - As soon as Mulberry launches a new bag, it becomes the bag of the season. So we’re looking to Bryn in f lame shiny grain as part of our autumn/winter 2012-13 update.
VICTORIA BECKHAM EYEWEAR - She’s proved herself with her fashion label and now Victoria Beckham is expanding her empire with the launch of a range of prescription glasses. A very practical investment indeed.
Printed trousers aren’t going anywhere, but those in summerslinky fabrics are - the back of your wardrobe. JEWELLERY - There’s an old faithful fashion maxim that accessories ring the changes. It’s true, they do. Add one knuckle duster ring to your outfit and suddenly it’s taken on a whole new appeal.
season’s traditional trend. PORTFOLIO CASE - The clutch has had itself a technological makeover in the shape of the portfolio case - the perfect accessory to carry that iPad around in. When it’s not housing an iPad, it’ll be great for everything else you find yourself carting about. BOOTS - Boots are always a fashion turning point - taking you officially from one season to another. Rachel Zoe, £315, www. harveynichols.com. TIGHTS - When it’s too hot for thick tights and too cold for bare legs, these sheer and spotty numbers are just the thing.
VICTORIA’S SECRET - If you haven’t already done so yet, now would be the time to familiarise yourself with the legendary US label.
GOTHIC - Add a bit of gothic drama to your wardrobe. Don’t worry, you don’t need to go all out - opt for something easy and sartorially subtle such as this T-shirt.
LAYERING - It’s the easiest way to bring a new lease of life into your current wardrobe - mix and match those layers. We’re taking our style cues from the catwalk of Marc Jacobs where it was all about the more layers, the better. PATTERNED TROUSERS -
COLLARS - Collars are a great way to make one simple T-shirt seem like two very different ones. JUMPERS - Two for one here: you need a good jumper, for the new season and one with sequins means you’ve ticked the party
ADVICE - It never hurts to ask your friends for advice - especially when they’re fashion friends. “A crisp white shirt! A timeless piece, always looks sharp and modern. Great under this season’s chunky jumpers,” advises our fashion designer from Lounge on how to update your wardrobe for the new season.
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Review
For the love of writing By Aima Khosa
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lready bestowed with the highest national honour in the arts, Nishan-i-Imtiaz, Bapsi Sidhwa [currently resides in Houston, USA, she describes herself as a “Punjabi-ParsiPakistani”] indeed is one of Pakistan’s national jewels – the first amongst a now steadily growing list of internationally recognized fiction writers from our neck of the woods. Whenever she has picked up her pen, she has taken her reader deep into her stories, where one becomes the character, where The Crow Eaters one feels the pain and Pages: 255; Price: Rs345 the joy that she creates so magically with her than value for money. Why imagination. For those connoisseurs who do now? Aamir Riaz, general manager at not already have these internationally- Ilqa-Readings, says: “The intent was acclaimed novels in their collection, to reach out to new readers, making Readings, Lahore has simultaneously Bapsi Sidhwa’s work accessible, to issued reprints of the quartet in high- both young and old. “Some of these novels are now quality low-priced paperback edition. All are tastefully printed, and more prescribed reading at many of our
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The Bride Pages: 215; Price: Rs295 colleges. That is why no compromise was made in terms of quality, yet care has been taken that the price should not dent the pocketbook of the students”.
The Crow Eaters
Freddy Junglewalla moves his
Ice- Candy-Man Pages: 268; Rs345 family from their forest home to the big city, Lahore. His pregnant wife, baby daughter, and Jerbanoo, and his mother-in-law all travel with him Lahore in the hopes of a better life. He opens a store, and as his fortunes grow, so does the animosity between Freddy and his mother-in-law. While Freddy prospers under British rule, life with the domineering Jerbanoo is another matter entirely. This exuberant novel, full of rollicking humor, paints a vivid picture of life in the Parsee community. This book won the David Higham Award for first books.
The Bride As a young boy, Qasim had lived in his tribal village in the Himalaya plains. In the aftermath of the partition, he adopted a young girl and brought her to the city of Lahore. As he grew older, and as his daughter, Zaitoon, grew up, they both began to pine for their lives in
she did not realize as a child. She starts to notice religious differences, she begins to understand w h a t discrimination is, what intolerance means. Even though she enjoys a privileged life in Lahore, it is the kidnapping of her governess that brings a dramatic change in Lenni’s life, and it is then when she begins to appreciate the magnitude of the conflict around her. An American Brat This book is the recipient of Pages: 315; Price: Rs395 LiBeraturepreis for Ice-Candythe village – Qasim because he was Man (Cracking India) in Germany in nostalgic for home, and Zaitoon 1991 and in 1999 Cracking India was because she imagined a wonderful listed among the 200 best books in life in that village. On an impulse, English by The Modern Library. Qasim promises his daughter’s hand in marriage to one of his tribal men. An American Brat It is then when Zaitoon’s romantic Feroza Ginwalla’s parents are notions are dashed and she starts to concerned. Her daughter has a scary, lead a life of obedience and labor. rigid thinking and fundamentalism Andrew Sinclair wrote in the is on the rise in Pakistan. They send London Times: “Bapsi Sidhwa is a her to the United States in the hope powerful and dramatic novelist who that some time over there would alter knows how to flesh out a story.” her perception. They get more than
Ice-Candy-Man This is one of her most powerful novels. With the backdrop of the 1947 Partition of India, the story is centered around a child who narrates the trauma of the partition. Being unable to go to school because of polio, Lenni Sethi spends her days with her beautiful governess, who attracts many followers and admirers. But as she starts to grow older, she begins to see the things
what they bargained for. Not only is Feroza enthralled by the American life, she wants to stay there. So her parents agree to let her go to college in America. But then she falls in love with a Jewish boy and wants to marry him. Her parents are devastated, and Feroza begins to wonder how far she can go with her new life. This novel won the New York Public Library award “Books for the Teen Age”.
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Review
Of Thinking, Focus & Achievement By Syed Afsar Sajid
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avid Joseph Schwartz, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Les Hewitt and Brian Tracy belong to a group of American writers/speakers/ coaches/experts/facilitators who have, in the recent past, worked wonders in the kindred domains of motivation and inspiration by their speeches, writings and training programmes focusing on the enhancement of human faculties and skills for achieving higher goals and objectives. Three of their books (translated into Urdu) highlighting the magic of thinking, the power of focus, and the phenomenon of maximum achievement are being jointly reviewed here in view of the homogeneity of their content.
Bari Soch Bari Kamyabi
The late Dr. David Joseph Schwartz, who taught at Georgia State University, Atlanta, was one of the foremost experts on motivation. His book The Magic of Thinking Big (1959) dwells on the question: How to think big and correspondingly achieve big? The book has some thirteen chapters with eponymous titles: power of faith facilitates success; the need of curing one’s sense of deprivation, failure as a disease; cultivating self-confidence, banishing fear; how to achieve big thinking; what kind of thinking
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converting defeat into victory; keeping an eye on one’s goals by moving forward; and, thinking like a leader. Most of the observations made in the book would instantly appeal to the reader’s common sense and motivate him to faithfully follow the writer’s advice on how to achieve success in life by determining specific goals and working assiduously but consistently to reach them. He also suggests that quantification of activity by setting timelines would facilitate realization of one’s desires and dreams in life.
Soch Ki Quwwat
Authors Jack Canfield and Mark Bari Soch Bari Kamyabi (The Magic of Thinking Big) Victor Hansen happen Author: Dr. David Joseph Schwartz to be world-recognized inspirational-cumTranslator: Malik Ashfaq motivational speakers Pages: 216; Price: Rs400/and co-creators of ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’ book series generates dreams; what do we and whereas Les Hewitt is a top-ranking what should we think; upgrading performance coach and business our environs to join the top-rankers; speaker in North America. The developing a cordial attitude Power of Focus (2000), the prototype toward people; thinking positive of the book being reviewed here, is of them; urgency of physical work; a joint venture of the three writers.
and success.
Aala Kamyabi Ka Husul
one’s life spectacular; seven rules of controlling one’s mind; how to conceive a highly promising future; the art of attaining superlative intellectual prowess; the art of attaining superior skills, the art of attaining maximum power; the art of higher decision making; the art of attaining maximum success in life; the art of building superb relations with fellow beings; the art of being good parents; and, the power and potential of love.
The third book in the series, authored by Brian Tracy --- a self-help author and motivational speaker, also based in the US --- would seem to amplify, as it were, his own statement that “If you consistently and persistently do Translation from one medium the things that other to another is no doubt an onerous successful people do, exercise but the translators in nothing in the world the instant case have done their can stop you from job remarkably well. They have being a big success succeeded in correctly conveying the also.” sense of the original in the process Brian Tracy with little recourse to any unwanted believes that our mind is one of our most lexical embellishment. Readers for valuable possessions sure will benefit a lot from these and our success in life books. depends u p o n how we Soch Ki Quwwat (The Power of Focus) d e v e l o p, Authors: Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, train, and Les Hewitt utilize it. Translator: Amjad Mahmood Successful people Pages: 248 – Price: Rs.400/become m o r e It deals with a vital human successful because they resource building faculty deemed as are all the time thinking a pre-requisite to practical success in about their successes. He life. Here too, the titles of the (ten) pronounces that man is chapters of the book, which are spelt the architect of his own out below, would seem to compress destiny --- sitting behind its theme and content: one’s habits the steering wheel of his would determine one’s future; life, and that there is no concentration, not confusion, limitation upon his will leads to success; comprehensive to think, plan and act future planning; need of extreme except what he places moderation and balance in life; on himself by his own fostering excellent human relations; thinking. We have to the virtue of self-confidence; resolve in advance that seeking help and advice from others we won’t give up, no unhesitatingly; determination; matter how intriguing decisiveness; and, the concept of a the odds are! purposeful life. Life is a formidable challenge; Like the other two Aala Kamyabi Ka Husul (Maximum Achievement) one has to countenance it boldly, books, the titles of the Author: Brian Tracy with a well-thought out plan. The (twelve) chapters of this authors counsel the reader to book do also illustrate Translator: Malik Ashfaq punctiliously draw on the strategies their author’s intent Pages: 216; Rs400/enumerated in the book if they wish in the framework of Publisher: Book Home, 46-Mozang Road, Lahore to lead a life of purpose, happiness its scope: how to make
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Health
Monsoon Whisper’s By Mariam Aftab
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qbal was a young eligible bachelor returning from New York after completing his MBA. He was returning to his country to help his father in his business. Iqbal’s family loved nature so they lived in a farm house near Lahore. Iqbal was excited and sad as well; he was excited about coming back to his country and sad because he did not want to leave New York. He had been in his country now over three weeks and in the beginning he was feeling very depressed. He could not understand what was wrong with him. In the past he had felt some depression off and on but he did not know why it was prolonging. He started working 38 I September 02 - 08, 2012
in his father’s office. He has no friends and basically he was loner. One Friday late night, he was in his study at his farm house which was spread in acres and acres. It was 12’O clock at night and it began to rain cats and dogs, the electricity went off. This was the beginning of a thunderstorm. The whole farm house was in pitch darkness with only the sound of the rain. Iqbal got up to light a candle when phone bell rang. Hurriedly Iqbal picked up the phone there was a sweet, melodious, young girl’s voice on the other line which was totally mesmerizing. The girl seemed to know a lot about him and even his family. Although he had no clue who she was they continued talking
on the phone for 5 hours that rainy night until it became a pattern and became a everyday ritual. The girl would not disclose her identity and would not give him even a call back number which was totally annoying him. By that time, Iqbal had become totally addicted to these strange phone calls. The girl called herself Samina and there was no way to find out whether it was true or not. Every time he insisted on meeting her but the answer would be ‘no’, which was very strange. He was addicted to talking to a stranger and who had become close to him. They spoke about every topic under the sun i.e. economics, world politics, and human relationships etc. Slowly and gradually Iqbal became totally dependent on her.
His dependence on these phone calls was very strange. He was only looking forward to the phone calls the whole day. Many times he would think he would not talk to her unless she gave him her correct name but all his efforts go in vain. Six weeks past like this until one day Samina told him
These phobias are considered to be exaggerated fears because they extend far beyond reasonable concern and a normal sense of precaution
that she was about to get married and her fiancé was coming back from Dubai. This was a total shock for Iqbal. Samina suggested that he should meet another friend of hers called Zara that they would be excellent for each other. She even arranged a meeting between them. Iqbal thought nothing much of Zara but Samina was constantly brain washing him that she was the only girl for him. Iqbal could not say ‘no’ to Samina, he often wondered why? A stranger whom he never met does not even know the correct name is listening to her suggestions as commands. His mind was not in sink with this nonsensical arrangement but his heart would not stop. He was not in love with Samina neither did he like Zara that much but then why he was not giving up these phone calls? That is when he decided to seek professional help.
mind immediately goes back to the terrifying time in that bedroom, all alone, and the fear is relived all over again. Iqbal’s unconscious mind in some strange way in that stormy night found refuge in Samina’s phone call and got addicted to them. Now he has made up his mind to fight his phobia because he was aware of his problem. One needs to have a checklist to see if one is facing the fear of loneliness (Monophobia).
These phobias are considered to be exaggerated fears because they extend far beyond reasonable concern and a normal sense of precaution.
Recall: Were you an only child? Or were your brothers and sisters loved more than you? Were you perhaps regarded as the proverbial ‘black sheep’ because you did not conform to convention, accept domesticity or the love of your parents? Did you seek your own company in preference to mixing with the rest of the family? At school, were you the butt of schoolmates’ unpleasant jibes and jokes? Possibly you were bullied and made a scapegoat? Did teachers neglect and reject you and pass over you in preference to brighter, more communicative pupils? Do you now long to have friends, to enjoy a normal social life, to be well-liked at work? But, do you still isolate yourself as you did in earlier years, preferring your own company, fearing to mix with people in case you are rejected as you were in childhood and adolescence?
Many, many phobias exist more in the imagination than in actual fact. Most of them arise through unpleasant childhood experiences which are recalled in adult life when similar situations occur, so crating phobias. An example is of a child being forced by its parents to sleep alone in a bedroom while a violent thunderstorm is raging. In later life, whenever a thunderstorm happens, the adult
Iqbal’s story is illustrative of the way in which small fears can create big problems. Many among us suffer from similar phobias and all I want them to know is that their problem is a small one that is easily treatable – unless one lets it become big oneself and allows it to interfere with more important aspects of one’s life.
Iqbal was suffering with Monophobia (fear of loneliness). Phobias are exaggerated fears and as such, can be whittled down to inconsequential confusions of thought that, upon examination, can be seen to be really quite foolish and totally unnecessary in the mature adult.
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Recipe
Italian Meatballs
Ingredients: 1 lb ground beef 1 egg 1/4 cup milk 1/2 cup breadcrumbs 1/2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon oregano 1 tablespoon fresh parsley 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder 1/2 teaspoon fresh ground pepper 1/4 cup grated parmesan cheese Directions:
1 Mix all ingredients in a large bowl by hand. 2 Use your bare hands for best results. 3 Roll meatballs to about the size of a golf ball. 4 Drop raw meatballs into large stockpot of sauce. 5 (Use your own favourite sauce recipe). 6 Simmer for about 3 hours. 7 Enjoy!
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