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Farewell to 2024 and welcome to 2025!
This tends to be a time of year for reflection. Personally, it is also because it is my birthday at the end of the year. As 2024 was a ‘milestone birthday,’ I wanted to mark the occasion but am not one for a ‘big fuss’. I do however like to have memories to cherish. And so, I embarked on a journey of doing ‘40 things to celebrate being 40’. It is safe to say that a few of them will be completed in 2025 but I have had the most wonderful time making a start in 2024. Some have been ‘big’ (such as events and holidays) and others have been personal and ‘small’. Each one has enabled me to have a fantastic time celebrating this ‘milestone birthday’ and to feel positive about new adventures in the new year.
I hope you find some inspiration in this magazine to get out in nature, perhaps think about your next holiday or just take some time to sit quietly with a cup of tea and enjoy a good book.
And of course, don’t forget to find Sammy the Seagull somewhere on these pages and enter The Regent’s competition. It is always good to have something in the diary to look forward to.
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Coffee Break Time
How to solve codeword
Every letter of the alphabet has been replaced by a number.
All you have to do is decide which letter is represented by which number.
To start you off we reveal the code for 3 letters.
Solutions on page xxii
sponsored by Louis P Creative
Coffee Break Time
Together, we can grow
By Grounded Community
As we begin a new year, the team at Grounded Community has been reflecting on the successes of 2024.
A major shift in our systems at our “Feed Our Community” project took place in October, when our food box distribution hub was closed for refurbishment. Following a move from the community centre at the back of the Bournemouth Foodbank at St George’s Church on Haviland Road to what was previously the old church entrance hall, we took this golden opportunity to review our processes.
Our team had spent many months researching the benefits of a “social supermarket” style concept, as an alternative means to redistributing surplus food via our food boxes. In September 2024, 357 food boxes
were distributed to local families, with 512 adults and 172 children registered. This food surplus is saved from landfill and collected from 12 local supermarkets daily by our dedicated team of volunteer drivers. It is supplemented with fresh and organic fruit and veg, grown by local volunteers at our Secret Garden, behind St Clements Church in Boscombe.
Based on community feedback, we knew that a new set up would not only empower our local residents to choose which items they personally
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The Pantry at Bournemouth Foodbank
needed but would also cut out the lengthy preparation of food boxes by our volunteers before doors open from 11am each day.
Throughout the refurbishment, a number of joyful volunteers, including recipients of our food boxes, stepped up to help us create this brand new space. Demonstrating the power
of community, together we moved out old and impractical chest fridges, painted the walls, and installed two brand-new glass-fronted fridges, thanks to generous funding from the BCP Food and Energy Fund.
We’re delighted to report that when we reopened our doors, now known as “The Pantry”, we were greeted with so many happy faces and positive comments! Everyone enjoyed being welcomed to the beautiful new space, and our volunteers were able to relax and chat as local residents browsed the shelves and fridges to select their 10 items per household.
A huge thank you goes out to everyone who came forward to help during this challenging but also fun and exciting time. Our fantastic volunteers continuously step up to make a difference to the local community every single day and we’re excited to see what the new year brings.
If you know a Boscombe resident who is struggling to meet the rising cost of living and needs extra support with food, or you would like to volunteer with our friendly team, please contact our Pantry Coordinator by emailing george@groundedcommunity.co.uk.
Alternatively, you can visit George at The Pantry at St George’s Church, 118 Haviland Road, Monday to Friday from 11am to midday. This project really has been a labour of love, set up in partnership with our local community and crystallises our charity tagline: “Together we can grow.”
The Pantry at Bournemouth Foodbank
Hengistbury Head Beach reopens following Long Groyne upgrade
Works to protect 6,000 homes over the next 100 years within the Poole and Christchurch bays have been completed.
Following rock armour upgrades to Hengistbury Head Long Groyne, which began in April, the beach is now fully open to the public again.
The Long Groyne remains at its original length of approximately 150m from the beach line but is 1.5m higher and almost double the width – 30m at its widest point.
This makes it more resilient to projected sea level rise and the increasing number of storm events predicted over the next century.
During construction, the original Long Groyne from 1939 was dismantled and the salvaged material was re-used to form the core of the upgraded Long Groyne.
Cllr Andy Hadley, portfolio holder for Climate Response, Environment and Energy, said: “We are delighted that the upgrade of the Long Groyne,
which plays a significant role in reducing the risks of coastal erosion from the Purbecks to Hurst Spit, has finished ahead of time and within budget.”
Following completion of the Long Groyne works, approximately 8,000 tonnes of the rock delivered to site was used to adapt and upgrade a further two short groynes near Solent Beach car park.
This will ensure they continue to perform their coastal protection role effectively into the future, including protecting the seaward end of the historic Iron Age Double Dykes embankment.
Book Reviews
Murder on the Marlow Belle by Robert Thorogood, hardback £14.99
Oliver didn’t come home last night, so of course Verity goes straight to Judith Potts, Marlow’s resident amateur sleuth, for help. Oliver, founder of the Marlow Amateur Dramatic Society, had hired The Marlow Belle, a private pleasure cruiser, for an exclusive party with the MADS committee but no one remembers seeing him disembark, and then Oliver’s body washes up on the Thames with two bullet holes in him. It’s time for the Marlow Murder Club to leap into action. Oliver was, by all accounts, a complicated chap with a reputation for bullying during nativity play rehearsals, and he wasn’t short of enemies. The gang will need to keep their wits about them to solve this case! Volumes 1–3 of the Marlow Murder Club Mysteries are also available in paperback.
Magus by Anthony Grafton, paperback £10.99
At the heart of the High Renaissance stood a distinctive, strange and beguiling figure: the magus. An unstable mix of scientist, bibliophile, engineer, fabulist and fraud, the magus ushered in modern physics and chemistry while also working on everything from secret codes to magic tricks. The historical Faust, Marsilio Ficino, Pico della Mirandola, Johannes Trithemius and Heinrich Cornelius Agrippa are all fascinating characters, closely linked to monarchs, artists and soldiers and sitting at the heart of any definition of why the Renaissance was a time of such restless innovation. Studies of the stars, architecture, warfare, even medicine were all revolutionised in some way by the experiments and tricks of these extraordinary individuals. This book allows us to understand the ways that magic, religion and science were once so intertwined and often so hard to tell apart.
A Really Short History of Words by Bill Bryson, hardback £25
Adapted from Mother Tongue, this stunningly illustrated book by Bill Bryson tells the story of English, from the first words ever spoken to the very first dictionaries. Have you ever wondered why the English language turned out like it did? If so, this is the book for you. In this epic journey through words, rhymes and jokes, Bill Bryson will teach you how the English language came to be and what makes it a rich and beautiful thing.
Why not pop into the shop to have a browse? Contact us on 01202 418403, email sales@ bh6booksandhome.co.uk or find us on social media @bh6booksandhome to place orders and discover all that we have to offer at BH6 Books and Home, 69 Southbourne Grove, BH6 3QU.
Salted Caramel
BY CHRISTIAN ØRNER | SALT Cø. Private Chef and Chocolatier | www.salt-co.co.uk
INGREDIENTS:
• 50g water
• 125g caster sugar
• 20g liquid glucose
• 60g salted butter
• 100g double cream
Method:
• Add the water to a saucepan and bring to the boil. This removes any microscopic bits of dirt from the pan, however clean it appears to start with.
• Weigh out the sugar and glucose.
• Once the water has boiled, discard the water and add the sugars to the pan.
• Add another 50g water to the sugars and bring to the boil.
• Continue to boil the sugars until the mixture turns an amber colour. Once the desired colour has been achieved, remove the pan from heat.
• Bring the cream and butter to the boil in a separate pan. Add the freshly boiled cream to the caramel. Stir to combine. The sugar will be about 140°C, so be careful!
• Once cool, add a pinch of salt, stir it in, then scrape into a piping bag.
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Conflict within relationships
Conflict is a normal part of any relationship and requires resolving rather than being feared or ignored. Resolving conflicts in a constructive, helpful way will encourage relationships to grow and strengthen. On the other hand, mismanaging conflict can have damaging and long-lasting effects.
Conflicts arise because of personal disparity in values, motivations, perceptions, ideas or desires. At the root of conflict is often an unfulfilled personal need such as:
• to feel secure and safe
• to feel valued and respected
• for closeness and intimacy
• for privacy
Some of these disparities are due to the gender differences between men and women, whilst others are due to our upbringing, life experiences, culture, values and beliefs.
A conflict is a situation in which one or both parties perceive (this perception may not be an objective view of the facts) a threat to their wellbeing and survival. Conflict triggers strong emotions, so to resolve it in a constructive way, you must be able to recognise and control these emotions.
Anger creates ‘black and white thinking’ when we forgo reasoning and stop listening to others. In a conflict situation, the needs of both parties need to be respected and considered. Fear of conflict due to previous painful experiences from early childhood or unhealthy relationships will lead to either unhealthy avoidance of conflict and building of resentment, or to entering a conflict situation already feeling threatened with heightened emotion, resulting in unhealthy outcomes of either ‘blowing up’ or ‘shutting down’. So how can we manage conflict better?
• Enhance our emotional intelligence and learn to control our emotions and behaviour.
• Really listen to the other person’s point of view and empathise (‘step into their shoes’).
• Be ready to forgive – do not hold on to resentment and anger and sulk or seek to punish.
• Seek compromise. There are four outcomes to any conflict: win-win, win-lose, lose-win, lose-lose. A win-win requires compromise.
• Embrace conflict. Do not try and constantly avoid it.
• Focus on the present conflict, not past resentments.
• Know when to agree to disagree.
• Use humour if appropriate to lighten the mood, but not at the other person’s expense. Unhealthy conflicts will occur more when we are stressed and our resilience is low, so knowing how to manage stress helps us to stay balanced. ‘Stress makes us stupid’ as then we are working from our basic reptilian hindbrain and not engaging parts of our brain involved in logic, reasoning and intelligence. When stressed, we cannot read the body language of others, nor hear what they are really saying. We cannot be in touch with our own feelings or accurately communicate our own needs. We become irrational and blinkered and unable to compromise. Stress management is important with the modern-day pace and expectations of life. It is something that counsellors can help you with if you are feeling overwhelmed.
Dr Armorel Wood MBACP Private Counsellor
mapletreetherapy.org.uk 07765915211 woodarmorel@gmail.com
Ask a CHS Archivist
By Julie Ratcliffe, Christchurch History Society
For our first article in August 2023, I explained that the Christchurch History Society (CHS) is custodian to a large archive of around 20,000 items. A team of volunteers, led by Head Archivist Janet Burn, undertakes a variety of tasks, not only to catalogue and care for the many documents, photographs, pamphlets and books, but also to carry out research and answer enquiries. So, what kinds of questions can you ask us?
Thanks to TV programmes such as the BBC’s ‘Who Do You Think You Are’, many people enjoy learning about their own family’s story. They may have discovered a Christchurch ancestor and wondered about where they lived and the jobs they did, so they send an enquiry. The team will check the catalogue and look in places such as trade directories, electoral registers and the Christchurch Times archive. We may find a photograph of a building, business or people. Often our enquirers are unsure of places, names and dates. Using the society’s collection of maps, the team looks for clues as to when a property was built. Comparing maps from different dates can give us a time frame to search other resources.
We get enquiries about various topics too. This year, the team has researched a local firefighter, a local Russian colony, a bakery in Purewell, and found a family of ironmongers. We’ve helped media researchers (including filming in the archive for a TV programme), authors, and professional genealogists, all searching for information not available elsewhere. We’ve helped teachers preparing projects, Christchurch Town Council, and BCP Council (see the old images on the new wayfinding posts about town). We’ve had enquiries from solicitors looking for historic boundaries. We’ve found and provided pictures and information for displays.
The archive is held in the North Porch Room of the Priory, so CHS pays a fee. Other expenses include archive standard storage and repair materials. We need computers, a scanner to provide digital copies of information, and for those wanting hard copies, we can print these — most people know the cost of ink! These costs mean that we do need to ask enquirers for a modest payment. Donations are also very welcome. Details are on the website.
As an archive volunteer, I derive pleasure from helping people to discover their past or uncovering information that may change a story. If you are curious about your Christchurch past, check out the archive on the website, and why not ask an archivist?
Talks:
7 January 2025
CHS relies on volunteers, and we also need members! If you’re interested in history, why not join us? Membership costs £13 single or £18 per couple, per year. For this, you receive the quarterly copies of The Journal and can attend the talks for just £2 per person.
www.historychristchurch.org
A metal detecting archaeologist, by Tony Player
Winter sunshine cruise on Celebrity Infinity
I recently went in search of some winter sunshine and sailed on Celebrity Infinity, departing from Athens for nine nights. It worked! We were blessed with warm sunny days and blue skies; October was a great time to travel, avoiding the intense heat of the summer months.
Pre-cruise activities
We started our holiday with three nights in Piraeus, which is the port area in Athens that cruise ships depart from. We chose to stay in Piraeus as we had stayed in central Athens before. It also made everything easy on embarkation day with a short 10-minute taxi ride to the cruise terminal.
You can easily get into central Athens from Piraeus using the metro service, which takes around 30 minutes. We used it a couple of times and we also took a trip by metro and coastal tram to Glyfada, which is a seaside town, the gateway to the Athens Riviera. It’s full of designer stores, restaurants and bars; a great place to spend the day away from the city. The coastal tram is a quick and efficient way to travel.
Sally Pullen in Greece
Athens offers sunshine even in winter
The cruise ship in Greece
Having some time in the area you are sailing from is a good way to extend your holiday; it means you have time to explore instead of flying in and joining the ship straight away. It also takes away the stress of any flight delays.
Facilities on board
Celebrity Infinity holds 2,170 passengers. It has one indoor pool, two outdoor pools, a spa and a casino. There is a good choice of bars and lounges; my favourites were Rendezvous Lounge and Cellar Masters. They are both great places to enjoy pre-dinner and after-dinner drinks. You can enjoy live music and dancing in the Rendezvous Lounge and also in the Constellation Lounge, which has great views at the front of the ship.
The main restaurant on Infinity is the Trellis Restaurant. Here you can select early or late dining or Celebrity Select dining. This means you can choose when you wish to eat and have a table for two or larger if you want to dine with friends.
If you want more casual dining, you can visit the Oceanview Café for a buffet dinner. There are also three speciality restaurants on Infinity: Tuscan Grille, Sushi on Five, and Le Petit Chef. They have an extra charge, but each offers a very special dining experience. We dined at Tuscan Grille and the steaks were fantastic.
There is a good range of accommodation on board including suites at The Retreat, Aqua Class which includes dining at Blu Restaurant, Concierge and Veranda staterooms, ocean view
and inside cabins.
Our itinerary from Athens included two days at sea. This is a great time to relax on deck or to take part in some of the daily activities that Celebrity arrange for you. Every evening, a copy of the schedule for the following day is delivered to your cabin. It includes restaurant opening times, the weather forecast, port information and most importantly the time you need to be back on board.
Suitable for all
We loved our Celebrity cruise. Cruises are great holidays with no packing or unpacking, they also suit multi-generational family groups or groups of friends.
If you would like to know more about cruising with Celebrity or any other cruises, please contact me. I can also help with any other travel plans.
SALLY PULLEN TRAVEL COUNSELLOR
T 01202 375150
M 07929626156
E sally.pullen@travelcounsellors.com
W www.travelcounsellors.com/sally.pullen
Celebrity Infinity holds 2,170 passengers
Creating your own garden vignette
By Colin Knapman
Vignettes are snapshots or memories of something you wish to be reminded of from the past. They can be in corners or small sections of your garden and they tell a story or recall a happy memory. It could be a pathway leading to a ‘secret garden’ where you can sit and enjoy the
special plants or memorabilia it contains, or a focal point which you cannot miss when looking out of the window. The themes could be a reminder of summer holidays by creating a gravel garden with a Mediterranean flavour or souvenirs from a particular location.
Create a corner with a specific theme that evokes happy memories or anniversaries. A trip to a local reclamation yard will give you plenty of ideas. For ideas to get you started, contact Colin Knapman by phone or text: 07925 166767
Every vignette tells a story.
North Foreland Lighthouse
by Keith Morton | Association of Lighthouse Keepers | alkhurst@gmail.com
Continuing our tour of lighthouses in England and Wales, there is now quite a gap after Orfordness. Across the Thames Estuary, there are several lightvessels, buoys and lights on various structures before we arrive at our next lighthouse at North Foreland.
History tells us that there has been a beacon of some sort at North Foreland ever since 1499. Records also tell us that the first lighthouse at North Foreland was erected in 1636 after a patent was granted by Charles I to Sir John Meldrum.
The lighthouse was just a house built with timber and covered with lath and plaster. A light, in the form of a fire, was installed in a large glass lantern. Sadly, this first lighthouse was accidentally burnt down in 1683.
By the end of the century, a strong octagonal flint structure had been erected on top of which an iron grate was installed.
In 1719, the ownership of the tower and light was passed in a will to Greenwich Hospital.
In 1732, the top of the lighthouse was covered by a lantern of sorts constructed of large sash windows and bellows which were operated all night by attendants. Sadly, this modified arrangement did not work well as many vessels were lost on the sands from not seeing the light. Complaints were so loud and frequent that the governors of Greenwich Hospital sent Sir John Thompson to investigate. He ordered the lantern to be removed, which restored the situation to nearly the former state.
In 1792, the lighthouse underwent considerable alterations under the supervision of John Yenn, the surveyor to Greenwich Hospital. The structure was raised to 100ft with a lantern at the top which contained new oil lights and was covered with copper to prevent accidents from fire.
In 1832, Trinity House purchased the North Foreland lighthouse. 1858 saw the installation of a new lantern
atop of the lighthouse, some 14ft wide and 22ft high. At this time, the tower was modernised, which also included the building of two keepers’ cottages either side of the tower and the exterior of the tower was rendered and painted white, leaving the lighthouse looking very much the same as it does today. In 1884, the light was changed from fixed to occulting.
During the 20th century, the lighthouse continued to be upgraded. 1930 saw the light converted to electricity but the fixed optic was retained so the light was made to flash. The characteristic of five flashes every 20 seconds was introduced and is still retained today. North Foreland lighthouse was the last lighthouse to be fully automated in England with the keepers leaving for the last time in 1998 at a ceremony presided over by the then-Trinity House Master, the Duke of Edinburgh.
The lighthouse remains operational today and is monitored by the Trinity House Planning Centre in Harwich.
North Foreland Lighthouse
Winter updates at CHOG
by Tom (CHOG)
New harbour species
2024 was an exciting time as it saw a new species of butterfly in Christchurch Harbour. After first being found just outside the harbour area along Southbourne Undercliff on 18 September 2024, the following day two Long-tailed Blue butterflies were seen and photographed at the end of Southbourne Promenade just within the harbour recording boundary.
The Long-tailed Blue is a rare migrant to the British Isles from the continent where it is a common butterfly, and recently sightings have been increasing along the south coast and the Channel Islands — I was fortunate to see some on a trip to Jersey in October 2023.
White-tailed Eagle update
In an update to our articles in the April and May 2024 issues, it has been confirmed by Forestry England that the White-tailed Eagle, which has been around the harbour since early October, is G818. She is a near-adult female and spent much of last winter visiting Stanpit and fishing in the harbour. Prior to her arrival back in the area, tracking shows she spent the summer in Scotland (see map).
Ideal time for birdwatching
The winter influx of birds to the area makes December and January an interesting time to be out for a walk around the harbour, as
the lack of leaves on the trees makes it easier to spot some of Britain’s smallest birds. The tiny Goldcrest and its scarcer relative, the Firecrest, add a splash of colour to the wintry tones. Look out for them amongst flocks of Long-tailed Tits and other smaller species as they undertake their search for food. Overwintering Chiffchaffs also join the mixed groups and can be found near water or flitting about in sunny patches of vegetation.
Christchurch Harbour Ornithological Group, known as CHOG, is an independent organisation and registered charity, which is dedicated to recording, promoting and conserving the wildlife of the Christchurch Harbour area.
To find out more about CHOG, please scan the QR Code or visit www.chog.org.uk for the latest daily sightings, photographic archive (including photos of the species mentioned above) and to order a 2025 CHOG calendar showcasing the best of our local birds.
The calendar is only £9.99 including UK delivery, with profits raised from sales going towards conserving the birds and wildlife of the area, including Hengistbury Head, Stanpit Marsh and Wick Fields.
Long-tailed Blue butterflies. Photograph by Mike Gibbons
G818’s journey, courtesy of Forestry England
Puzzle solutions
Get ready for the Year of the Snake
The winter festivities don’t have to end with Christmas and New Year, there is also the Chinese New Year to look forward to at the end of January.
The traditional Chinese calendar is based on the lunar cycle, and so the date of the new year changes each time, falling between late January and midFebruary. In 2025, the new year falls on Wednesday 29 January.
2025 is the Year of the Snake, one of the 12 Chinese zodiac animals, with each year
corresponding to a different animal sign. Previous Years of the Snake include 2013, 2001, 1989 and 1977.
People born in the Year of the Snake are considered to have characteristics associated with wisdom, intuition, and intelligence. They are said to be cautious and mysterious but can come off as cold or selfish.
While snakes are often associated with treachery and evil in western cultures, in China the snake is held in high
regard. Snakes are seen as a symbol of the power of nature, and the gods and dragons of Chinese mythology often have snake-like features.
Also known as the Spring Festival, Chinese New Year is celebrated by communities around the world, including in the UK, with parades featuring long, colourful dragon and lion puppets, as well as by setting off firework displays. Look out for Chinese New Year celebrations in your local area.
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Charity
the Year
Skydivers raise over £23k for hospice care
On Saturday 21 September, 28 brave souls gathered at Old Sarum Airfield in Salisbury to take to the skies and leap from 10,000 feet to support LewisManning Hospice Care nurses.
The charity skydive raised over £23,000.
Bad weather caused delays which meant that 22 completed their skydive on the day, while six others had to jump on a rescheduled date. The event paired each skydiver with one of the hospice’s dedicated nurses, ensuring that everyone involved had a personal connection to the cause they were supporting.
By the afternoon, the sun broke through, and the skydivers took to the air. Cheered on by an enthusiastic crowd of family, friends, hospice staff, and patients, the atmosphere at the airfield was electric with excitement and pride.
One of the participants was Dorset Chamber of Commerce CEO Ian Girling. He said: “It is fantastic to be here and be part of this incredible day. I felt so nervous, but
of the Year 2025
the skydive was fantastic.
“I can definitely say I have faced my fear of heights. Leaping out of the plane was the most terrifying thing I have ever done but the free fall was incredible! I am so proud to support the charity and am very grateful to all our supporters.”
For hospice nurse Hannah Quick, the jump held extra significance as she leaped to celebrate both her upcoming 30th birthday and the cause she works for every day. She said: “It was surreal — an experience like no other. I was nervous, excited, and queasy all at once, but looking out at the clouds and knowing I
was doing it for our patients made it unforgettable. I’m so proud to be part of this and incredibly thankful for everyone who donated.”
Head of Fundraising Vicki Gray said: “We are thrilled with the support and energy that this event has created, reflecting the strength and generosity of the community in which we serve, we are extremely grateful to everyone involved.”
Among the participants was our Lead Designer Louis Pulford, who raised over £800 including gift aid to support the hospice. You can read his account of the day elsewhere in this magazine.
L–R: Paula Woods, a health care assistant at LewisManning Hospice Care, Dorset Chamber’s Ian Girling, Nurse Hannah Quick, and Vicki Gray, Lewis-Manning Hospice Care’s head of fundraising
RNLI Mudeford Fundraising Crew Newsletter
2024 was a very busy, but successful, year for the RNLI’s 200th anniversary. We wouldn’t have been able to achieve what we did without the help and support of everyone who came along to our events, and to the local businesses who donated raffle prizes, sponsored events or allowed us to advertise on their premises. A big thank you to all, but especially to:
• Alex Aitken and his team at The Jetty for supporting our Fundraising Dinner
• Winkworth (Mudeford & Highcliffe) and The Haven House Inn for sponsoring our Blue Light Day
• Chewton Glen Hotel for having RNLI as their charity of the year
• The Wareham Whalers for two brilliant concerts
• Nisa Local/Stanpit Wines for their generous donation
Join us
Further thanks to all of the businesses who bought advertising space for our Blue Light Day: Brown’s Fish and Chips, Highcliffe Coach Holidays, MFP Wealth Management, WiseGuys Coffee Lounge, Mudeford Rocks Café, Cuckoos Coffee Bar, Highcliffe Sailing Club, The Nelson Tavern and so many, many more. Thank you so much for all your help and support.
Of course, nothing would be possible without the many volunteers who give up their time to help, whether it’s organising an event, manning a stall or baking a cake. Our bucket collectors can be found at Avon Beach, thanks to The Noisy Lobster, every weekend all year, weather permitting. And our team manning the Souvenirs and Book Stalls can be seen on Mudeford Quayside during the summer months. If anyone would like to come and join us, you would be very welcome.
For more information on our events or monthly meetings, or to get involved with our Fundraising Crew, please contact Adele at adele.orr.63@gmail.com. We are always pleased to welcome new volunteers for our fundraising team.
Photos by Chris Harris
Short Story
People pleaser
by Janine Pulford
Breathless from running, Emma stared with disbelief as the bus pulled away. The driver had blatantly seen her, so why hadn’t he waited? She was livid.
There was no hope now of getting to her first job interview since leaving school, and though being a receptionist in an accountant’s office didn’t appeal, her mum had suggested it. Emma had applied for the job to please her. She always tried to please people as she found it hard to say ‘No’.
Well, her mum wouldn’t be pleased now. It crossed Emma’s mind to gloss over the truth and say she didn’t get the job. This was playing on her mind when a blue Audi pulled up and a goodlooking young man opened the passenger window.
“Looks like you missed it.”
“I did,” agreed Emma. “It was early!”
“I’ve got an appointment in Bournemouth. I could drop you there if that’s any help?” The man smiled encouragingly.
Emma’s interview was in Bournemouth. If this man took her straight there, she would be in plenty of time. She knew not to accept lifts from strangers, but she was an adult now, and what about the job? It would please her mum no end if she got it and this guy looked friendly enough. It might be nice to please him too, by accepting his generosity.
“I have to go,” he said, checking his watch. “Do you want to hop in?”
“Okay, thanks.” She got into the front seat. He indicated to pull out and accelerated into the traffic.
Emma heard the automatic door lock activate and immediately wished she hadn’t accepted the lift. “Actually,” she said feeling vulnerable, “if you manage to get past the bus, you can drop me at the next stop.”
“Sure,” he said. But he slowed to a ponderous speed and Emma knew he would never catch up. Oh well, at least he was a careful driver, and was following the signposts to Bournemouth.
She glanced into the wing mirror and was surprised to see a bus lumbering up behind. She
swivelled round to have a proper look. It was her bus. The earlier one couldn’t have been in service. No wonder the driver didn’t wait.
“What’s your name?” the guy broke into her thoughts.
“Jane,” she said erratically not wanting to own up to being Emma – stupid Emma who got into a car with a stranger. Then it dawned on her that she had the perfect excuse to get out.
“If you pull over at the next bus stop, I’ll catch my bus. It’s behind us. The first one must have been a training bus. Thanks anyway, but I don’t want to put you to any trouble.”
“It’s no trouble,” he focussed ahead. From a snail’s pace he accelerated past a bus stop.
Emma’s heart thudded. Why had he done that?
“Please could you pull in at the next stop. You just drove past the last one,” she kept her voice steady.
He didn’t take any notice and drove on, past every bus stop with no intention of stopping. Emma’s life shot before her. She was being abducted.
Trying not to shake, she pulled out her mobile to dial 999. He surely couldn’t stop her while he was driving.
“Let me see that,” he stretched over and snatched the phone. “iPhone isn’t it?”
Emma nodded, scared of what he would do next. She was trapped. Her only means of escape was out of the door but the horrible man had probably put the child lock on. The car was moving too fast for her to get out without hurting herself, so she opened the window and took a deep gulp of air. Perhaps she could shout for help.
“It’s chilly,” he said putting her mobile in the centre console. “Will you close the window.” It was an order.
She didn’t react. For once in her life, Emma was not going to please, and she left it down. Within moments he pushed the button on his door and forced the window up and locked it. She was his prisoner.
With fear clenching her stomach, she glared at the man’s clean-shaven face. He was staring intently at the traffic, probably trying to work out how to avoid it, although he was still heading for the town centre.
She studied his features in detail, hating the straight line of his nose, his neat brown hair and squared chin. Unnervingly, he turned towards her, and she disliked him even more.
Then her heart leapt. There was a red traffic light ahead. The cars in front had stopped, soon he’d have to do the same.
“I have to get out now,” she said loudly, staring at the man. “NOW!”
His foot hit the brake nearly causing an accident. Emma took her chance, grabbed her phone and wrenched the door handle. To her relief the automatic lock disengaged, and the door flew open. She jumped out and ran along the pavement, terrified he would chase after
her. She didn’t dare stop to look back. She was just glad to be free of her captor and blend in with those around her who were caught up in their own lives.
When she felt safe, Emma turned to see where the car was. It had crossed through the lights. She watched it disappear as her bus trundled up and stopped a few metres away from where she was standing. People were queuing to get on and she joined them on autopilot. There was still time to make the interview and please her mum. She put one foot on the bus but seconds later was aware of the driver saying, “Could you get on, young lady? You’re holding me up.”
This was her second chance today to do something for herself – something that went against the grain of pleasing others.
“No,” she said bluntly, and with a deliberate step she walked away in the direction of the police station.
LIVE ON STAGE
BOURNEMOUTH CONCERT BRASS: NEW YEAR VIENNESE CONCERT
Sun 5 Jan: 15:00
Join us to celebrate the music of Vienna, featuring music by composers associated with this wonderful city and, of course, the Strauss family.
PRIESTLANDS SCHOOL PRESENTS: THE ADDAMS FAMILY MUSICAL
Thu 9 Jan: 13:30 & 19:00
Get ready for a night of ghoulish fun at Priestlands School’s electrifying production of The Addams Family musical.
SEXBOMB: CELEBRATING THE MUSIC OF SIR TOM JONES
Fri 10 Jan: 19:30
This first-class celebration to Sir Tom is accompanied by an outstanding band playing two hours of his iconic hits
GRAFFITI CLASSICS
Fri 17 Jan: 19:30
Graffiti Classics burst the elitist boundaries of the traditional string quartet with their hilarious allsinging, all-dancing musical comedy show.
BOWIE EXPERIENCE
Sat 18 Jan: 19:30
Direct from London’s West End, Bowie Experience is a spectacular concert celebrating the sound and vision of David Bowie.
HIGHCLIFFE CHARITY PLAYERS PRESENT: GOLDILOCKS AND THE THREE BEARS
Fri 24 Jan: 19:30 | Sat 25 Jan: 11:00, 14:00, 19:30 | Sun 26 Jan: 14:00, 18:00
Roll up, roll up, as the circus comes to Christchurch in Highcliffe Charity Players’ annual panto! Prepare for another laughter-packed adventure with this dazzling, brilliantly costumed, musical and dance extravaganza.
SPACE COWBOY: THE ULTIMATE TRIBUTE TO JAMIROQUAI
Fri 31 Jan: 19:30
Experienced musicians, amazing visuals and authentic outfits combine to produce a breath-taking show, featuring studio and live versions of such hits as Virtual Insanity, Cosmic Girl, Canned Heat, Deeper Underground and many more.
THE KAST OFF KINKS
Sat 1 Feb: 19:30
This great line-up features former members of the legendary band The Kinks, performing over two hours of back-to-back hits.
To see our upcoming film titles, please visit our website www.theregent.co.uk or pick up a film list in-person on your next visit.
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Do what YOU want to do
By Elizabeth McPherson
With a new year upon us, and with the New Year’s resolutions we put upon ourselves either already fallen by the wayside, or in full action mode, it has made me think of a conversation I had with my homeopath last year about the word ‘should’ and by using it, how much pressure you put on yourself.
Once upon a time, life was simpler, and we did not heap strain on ourselves in the same way as we do now. The word ‘should’ is used a lot these days to indicate something that we are not doing but that we feel we ought to be doing, either recommended by others, or feeling pressured by the goals we set ourselves. Surely, it’s not a case of what we ‘should’ be doing but rather, what do we ‘want’ to do?
To me, self-care is the only ‘should’ we need to focus on. After all, life, in all its glory, can be found in the simplest of pursuits.
Let me explain what I mean. Last autumn, my friend asked if I could help her in her father’s shed, with a bit of sorting and tidying. I was happy to help. Not only does outside work in the autumn sun make me happy, I also love the camaraderie between us. It turned into such a pleasurable day, not least of which, because we came to realise how brave we were around spiders these days. We shrieked when one was spotted, temporarily holding
our breath and then springing back into action. We had the best fun, especially when we rewarded ourselves with Bakewell tarts and a cuppa at the end of the day and reminisced about the foods we used to eat as children. As we laughed, it felt like we were children all over again.
It made me realise that self-care has nothing to do with any kind of pressure at all. Selfcare is so simple:
• hang out with friends you love
• enjoy the simple moments that life produces
• drink lots of water
• exercise
• eat the right foods (in the majority) and throw in a cake or two once in a while
• belly laugh
• breathe deeply
• watch and listen to nature as often as you can
Most importantly of all, remove any pressures of how you ‘should’ be and allow yourself to just ‘be’.
With Love
Photo by Max Goncharov on Unsplash
What have I got myself into?
Our lead designer Louis Pulford jumped 10,000ft from an aeroplane in September in aid of charity. Here is his story.
On Saturday 21 September, I arrived at Old Sarum Airfield in Salisbury at 7am to skydive in aid of Lewis-Manning Hospice Care, Pulford Publicity’s charity of the year.
Once the clouds cleared, the aeroplane was fired up and names started to be called over the loudspeaker. As the first flight took off, we watched the sky until we could see the divers floating towards earth. It was magnificent to watch.
When my name was called out, I walked towards the waiting area for the aeroplane and met my tandem diver, who had raced across the field after just landing from his last jump. He said a quick hello and we loaded into the plane. This is when it all became very real.
My instructor was asking me various questions about why I was doing the jump, while I stared at the plane’s roller door thinking “Oh no, I’m about to be thrown out of that!”
But morale was high. The cameraman for someone else’s jump climbed out and held onto the wing like a madman as the first jump exited the plane.
It was then my turn, and as we sat on the edge of the plane, I just refused to think about what was happening and closed my eyes.
Then we left the plane and started our free fall. I opened my eyes and looked directly down at the ground which was 10,000ft away from me. I started screaming at the top of my voice.
After 30 seconds, my instructor – whose name I still don’t know – pulled the chute and suddenly I was dangling in mid-air, still thousands of feet above ground and my stomach churned in a way which made me feel very sick, not out of nerves, or excitement, just from the shock of dangling in a harness and having no control or ability to stop the ride.
I explained this to my instructor, and he started chatting to me and even let me fly the parachute. I guess he knew all the tricks to calm people down.
I did a few turns, we checked out the landscapes and he then said, “Do you want to surf a cloud?”
Of course, I said yes.
He pulled the left string, we turned and surfed along a cloud. We went straight through it and came out underneath, which meant I could see the distance to the ground again and I felt sick once more.
As we pulled around and came into land, I wasn’t shaking or feeling nervous – in fact, I felt very safe with my instructor – but I did have this weird feeling in my belly.
The skydive was incredible and I would do it again. I would recommend it for anyone. It was a mind-blowing, stomach-churning and death-defying experience. Strap in, hop out, free fall then hang like a baby in mid-air and take in the sights of the surrounding area.
In total, I raised over £800 including gift aid for Lewis-Manning and would like to say a massive thank you to everyone who supported me. Turn to page xxvi for the overall total raised on the day.
Sing your heart out in Southbourne
Looking to try something new in 2025? If you love singing, then Southbourne is the place for you as there is an impressive choice of choirs to join.
The Sounds Like Fun Choir meets on Tuesday evenings from 7.30pm to 9pm at Immanuel URC Church. Running in term time only, for more information contact Jayne, the musical director and co-founder, on 0773 9733799 or email slfsobo@hotmail.com.
Also meeting at the Immanuel URC Church is Wessex Chorus, which was founded in 2008. Rehearsals are on Thursdays from 7pm to 8.30pm and no audition is necessary.
Southbourne Community Choir is an adult mixed gender choir which rehearses at St John’s Church Centre, Main Road,
Southbourne PO1 8LB. For details, visit their website: www.communitychoirsuk.com/join. Singing and socialising with others is good for our mental health. So consider joining a choir as your New Year’s resolution.
Members of the Sounds Like Fun Choir
Discovery Village, Merritown Lane, Christchurch
By Luke Graham
There’s perhaps no better endorsement I can give for Discovery Village, Dorset’s new immersive role play centre, than telling you that at the end of our two-hour play session, my daughter burst into tears saying that she didn’t want to leave.
Located in Christchurch near to Bournemouth Airport, Discovery Village offers a theatrical and imaginative experience for children aged eight and under. Children can explore and play in eight different shops which include a hair salon, restaurant, vets, post office and more. Each shop contains appropriately themed toys, costumes and props, so that children can pretend to work in that shop, be a customer, or simply play!
My daughter loved pretending to be a hairdresser in the salon, while my son spent most of the play session making pizzas and ice creams in the Italian restaurant. My wife and I were impressed by the high quality of the toys available and the level of design. I especially appreciated the little jokes for adults added to the posters and artwork around the Village.
Sessions are capped at 30 children, which ensures that the play space does not become too busy. Our session was at
capacity, but there was still plenty of space to move around and lots of toys available for every child.
Best of all, the play sessions are performerled. Two actors came out to play, perform songs and read stories to the children, giving adults a chance to sit and have a coffee and cake in the adjoining cafe. The actors are not only there to keep children occupied but encourage their imaginative play. My daughter loved interacting with them.
Discovery Village is an impressive piece of work that young children will love. We had so much fun that we booked to go again!
Dorset author publishes new children’s book
What would you risk for the chance of a better life? That’s a question posed by ‘Don’t Look Back’, a new children’s book by Christchurchbased writer and illustrator Becca Perl.
Based on the real-life story of her family’s escape from Czechoslovakia in 1949, it is a story of danger and adventure. Perl has pledged to donate 50p to The Refugee Council for every copy sold. We spoke to the author about her new book:
Becca, what made you decide to share your family’s story?
It’s such a brilliant story! When I was studying for a Masters in Creative Writing, we had to work on an ongoing project and I didn’t even stop to think about my subject. I knew it had to be my family story. It has everything – tension, danger, adventure, suspense and ultimately, a happy ending. I was originally planning to write the book as a present for my dad, which I did, and didn’t imagine it would go on to be published and to be of interest to a much wider audience. But as I say in my author’s note, it’s not just our story. It’s a timeless story of so many displaced people.
What were some of the challenges of adapting this real-life story to an illustrated picture book?
The biggest challenge for me was creating the illustrations. I’ve discovered that there’s a BIG
difference between being good at drawing and illustrating a book! I wanted to make sure the characters conveyed the emotions of the story, as it’s full of drama and suspense. That was more important to me than trying to get a likeness with the real people. There were times when I felt like giving up, that it was beyond my skill set, but I am nothing if not stubborn!
What’s been the most memorable reaction to this story?
One of my friend’s children was very concerned that I’d had to colour them all in by hand, one at a time! I think my favourite reaction came from my youngest son, Joe, who said “I’m so proud of you, mummy.”
Goldilocks and the Three Bears
Highcliffe Charity Players, The Regent, Christchurch 24–26 January 2025
Panto season isn’t just for Christmas. In late January, why not go and see a spectacular circusthemed version of this well-loved pantomime.
The Highcliffe Charity Players are performing this one-act version of the classic fairytale at The Regent Centre in Christchurch.
In this version of the tale, Dame Gertie’s circus is the craziest in town, but the wicked Ringmaster Heinkel, helped by his silly sidekick Snot, plans to shut it down and replace it with his rival Circus of Horrors!
Can Goldilocks, with the help of Gertie’s son Silly Billy and three porridge-hungry talking bears save Dame Gertie’s circus?
The director and chairman of the Highcliffe Charity Players, Pete Whitaker, said: “Goldilocks was the first pantomime the Players ever performed at The Regent back in 1986, and it has
remained a firm favourite ever since, enchanting generations of panto-goers. Our new production not only has the ‘Bear’ essentials, but a menagerie of animal magic.”
Goldilocks will be played by 17-year-old Laila Judge. She said: “I have always loved performing.
“I’m thrilled to be playing my first ever principal role and can’t wait to share my passion for performing with the audience – I truly hope they enjoy the performance as much I do!”
The show (sponsored by Innovus) will feature a live band, dancing, music, and plenty of slapstick humour. All profits from the show will go to local charities and worthwhile causes.
Tickets: £17 (£16 concessions)
Book via The Regent box office (01202 499199) or online: www.theregent.co.uk
Laila Judge as Goldilocks and Malcolm George as Dame Gertie
