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The Decisive Action Guide to Awesome Relationships
We relate to everything. Part of being human is growing up with the concept of ‘me’ as opposed to ‘you’ or ‘it’. Where there are two there is a relationship. Our relationships can be great or not so great. What makes the difference? Think of your best friend – what makes that relationship great? What makes that person your best friend? With that in mind, let’s go through your top ten relationships.
Relationship #10, your Work
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You may love your work, hate it or be indifferent to it. The problem is that by default you will always see in it things that reflect how you feel about it. If you love your work you will tend to recognize what’s great about it. If you hate it you will see everything that’s wrong, and if you are indifferent, well, “it’s a job.” To make your relationship with your work the best ever, make it a point to find one thing that’s great about it every day and watch how your works becomes lovable.
Relationship #9, Your Money
Who do you like to hang out with? Do you like to be around people who are constantly worried, feel lack and want to dominate and keep you just to themselves? Having people like that in your life isn’t a great experience. If you are constantly worried about By Yoram Baltinester
money, live with a constant sense of scarcity and do your best to hoard it, it will start slipping away. Money wants to be useful and do great things. The more inspiring projects you give your money, the easier time you will have attracting more money. Money likes fun too!
Relationship #8, Your Time
If you could meet Oprah Winfrey or Warren Buffet for just five minutes, how would you behave in that meeting? I would milk every second and make it count. You would too, right? Time is unique in that it cannot be renewed the same way money or energy can be regenerated. Time wants to be respected and spent wisely, just like Oprah would if she made herself available to you. Make every minute, hour and day count, and time will become your friend.
I’ve never had a client that did not become a friend. Maybe we did not go out and party, yet coffee dates, meals, golfing or even boating were certainly part of these relationships at times. When you don’t have a friendly relationship they don’t stay clients for long. Your friends, whether it is your besties, or just an acquaintance, or even a Facebook friend that you are unlikely to ever meet face-to-face
all make a difference. Treat them as you would like to be treated and you will find that your friendships go far and deep.
Relationship #6, Your Environment
Your environment includes your office, home, your back yard and, your car. It also includes your backpack, the trunk of your car, your drawers and refrigerator. It includes your virtual space such as your computer desktop and your hard drive file storage. Your environment is a special relationship that induces emotions in you. If you live in a state of constant mess, do you feel confident and fluent, or hesitant and careful? When your environment is efficiently organized, how do you feel then? When it is downright beautiful, how does that make you feel? If your visible spaces are organized yet your private spaces such as your computer and garage are a mess, don’t you feel a bit like a fraud? Effective and organized environments will bless you with flow and confidence.
Relationship #5, Your Body
Do you love your body? This is one of the most emotionally charged questions I know. Like me or dislike me for asking, I don’t mind, just consider the question and answer it for yourself. After all, you live in it and it hosts you for as long as you live. We all ask and pray that our bodies don’t quit on us. Think of it as a combination of a friend and your car. If you do not maintain your car properly, it will quit on you. If you mistreat your friend the same will happen. Maintain your body with healthy food and exercise, and love it as you love your best friend, and your friendship will last long.
Relationship #4, Your Family
Here is the thing about family… we get used to having them around, and we start taking them for granted. We get a rude reminder when they leave us. We all got a rude reminder of the fragility of Life during this COVID-19 pandemic. Reminders like these come at a great cost of suffering, inflicted on everyone. Celebrate your family every day as if it was your last.
Relationship #3, Your Significant Other
Your significant other is the one you said or may soon say that you shall live with forever. That is a long time! I have been married to my sweet wife for 27 years, and we dated for a couple of years before that. Every day remember these three things: What you love about your significant other, what you love about the couple that the two of you make, and why he or she is the perfect match for you. Remember these three things, remind your partner of them often, and as a bonus, bring flowers home.
Relationship #2, Your Soul
Chances are you agree that you have a soul. You know that you can lose your limbs, get a heart and liver transplant, lose parts of your brain and you will still be you. That ‘you’ is your soul. Your soul is sensitive to how you keep your promises and stay true to your values. When you say you will do something, your soul hears it as a promise. If you break your promise, you stop trusting yourself. It’s that simple. Stay in integrity with your soul, and you will experience self-trust, self-respect, and self-confidence.
Relationship #1, God
This is the most important relationship you will ever have. You may refer to God as Spirit, Life, or Nature. Whatever name you use, you may believe that there is something you are meant to do in this life, which is your life purpose. Since God chose you to do this, then (1) you can do it successfully (2) It is your job to figure out what it is, and do it. Let God lead you and your life will fill with meaning and success.
Yoram Baltinester founded Decisive Action Workshops to partner with high-performing leaders. Together, they drive better business results, develop teams, and improve their leadership. Yoram helps these successful professionals to align purpose with decisive action and reach a next level of personal success. yoram@baltigroup.com, HeyYoram.com, 858.356.6751.
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