WESTSIDE
November 2015
WIN tickets to santa’s magical kingdom Fashion & beauty Nat is Chi Khi Justine Clarke Summer skin Create your style
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fashion baby This month we’re all about fashion. Although I’m no fashionista myself, I know what I like and usually have an eye for what looks good on me and I’m lining up to buy from two great brands in this month’s mag. Our Mama of the Month is Kathryn Stary from Blossom and Glow—gorgeous clothes for mums through pregnancy, breastfeeding and beyond. You’ll seriously be wishing you were pregnant when you see how stylish their maternity clothes are. And Alison Long from Feather and Noise has given us a round up of monochrome looks for the coming season. I’ve totally got my eye on her range of comfy and stylish looking jeans… and maybe a couple of tops... and… We have some pics from the Melbourne Frock Swap women’s second hand fashion market to inspire you to check out their next event in February. So much fun! And to round us off local blogger Kel from Little. Different. reminds us how much fun op shopping is. “What about the kids?” I hear you say. We’ve got them covered with the low down on Nat Bassingthwaighte’s kid’s clothes brand Chi Khi. She has created an entirely monochrome range with many pieces made from lovely, soft bamboo fabric. And Alison from Eden Baby talks to us about drool and bibs—lovely and funky fashion accessory type bibs. With spring comes event after event. We enjoyed the Dandenong Festival of Light and we always look forward to free music in the park, carols (yes I love a good singalong) and school fete season. Check out the Maribyrnong Council’s festival directory on the back cover—so much on! We headed to the Career Ideas for Mums Expo to run the kids activities and just loved talking to all the mums—we have so much love for our readers and it was wonderful to meet some of you in person. The new year is almost upon us and we’ve got big plans here at MamaMag. Stay tuned it’s very exciting!
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Cover image: Nikole Ramsay. Model wears Chi Khi Animal Print Pocket Dress $69.95 www.chikhi.co
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Contents #Iwokeuplikethis 6 Tips from She is Sarah Jane In our PJ’s with Justine Clarke Q&A with our Play School favourite
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In the village Out and about in Willliamstown
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Monochrome madness Timeless Summer fashion tips
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Turn the page Top picks from Book and Paper
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Summer skin Skin and beauty tips
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Nat’s getting Chi Khi 18 We chat with Natalie Bassingthwaighte
1 of 3 family passes to santa’s magical kingdom
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Create your own personal style Personal styling tips from an expert
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I shop therefore I am The humble op shop
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Mama can cook Some sweet treaties
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Mama of the month 28 Kathryn Stary from Blossom and Glow
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How much dribble can you take? A mama’s story
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Swap ya frock Second hand market fun
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Battery Safety Keeping kids safe
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HypnoBirthing 36 A mama’s story Separated? 38 Not sure what to do next? Kid’s colouring comp
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Parklife 42 Ron Barassi Snr. Park Docklands
MamaMag November 2015
Editor in Chief: Sarah Cavalier Westside Editor: Rebecca Gelsi Sales and Marketing: Leah Smith Design and layout: Grizzle Design Like to contribute an article submission or products for Facebook giveaways? submissions@mamamag.com.au Like to advertise in our next month’s issue? info@mamamag.com.au or download our media kit from www.mamamag.com.au The opinions expressed herein are not necessarily those of the publishing staff. Reproduction in whole or part is prohibited without permission of the publishers. Health related articles are designed to be informative and educational. They are not intended to provide specific medical advice or replace one-on-one advice from your health practitioner.
#iwokeuplikethis I am sure many of the new mummy clichés resonate all too-well in the first few (or more!) months of our little people’s lives. From somewhere between maternity clothes to pre-baby clothes to stained tops and yoga pants, it’s easy to fall into a style rut. However, there are also no hard and fast rules that say we should actually conform to these either. Not showering before sundown or rocking day eight of your fave pair of trackies, does not make you any more ‘real’ as a mum. There are no medal (or rose!) ceremonies at the end of each day if you haven’t noticed, so I say whatever makes you happy is the right decision. Between explosive boobs, sleep deprivation, cleaning bottles and trying to remember what day/month it was, the first few months of my daughter’s life are a blur. Of course it’s also a blur of raspberries, edible baby rolls and a love like no other – but a blur nonetheless. As I felt my hours rolling into days and my days rolling into just another day, I had an epiphany that the key to this motherhood thing is balance. Nothing ground-breaking I know, but it was my lightbulb moment. From then my days became all about clever time management. Whatever the task at hand, I now work backwards from my goal. That goal is feeling and looking semi-back-to-normal. This method of working backwards always worked well for me B.C, so why should it be any different now? It was time to crack the mamma whip, on myself! As a lifestyle blogger who has recently entered the ‘mummy blogger’ space, I’ve already experienced my fair share of negative and hurtful commentary – mostly in response to my grooming routine. The online world hey, everyone is an expert behind their keyboards right? Wrong. Much like pregnancy, I believe motherhood is a unique experience and style that every mummy will naturally find for herself. I at times was criticised for not being a “true reflection of a mother”, because I chose to 6
style my hair (once a week!) and put on some face. Throughout my pregnancy I was also a big campaigner for using the English language in whatever capacity you are comfortable with. I often described myself as ‘huge’ or ‘massive’ and did so with love. My belly was huge compared to my pre-baby state, and I don’t believe we should ever fall into the trap alienating certain words – especially when we are describing our own bodies or feelings. This then evolved into a philosophy of each to their own and a happy mummy makes the best mummy. While there are absolutely days where I literally will stay in my PJs for 48 hours, there are also days where I put together a gorgeous outfit, style my hair and put on some make-up. I don’t know why anyone (online or in person) should be judged or shamed for doing so. Being at home with our children can leave us feeling very isolated at times, so whatever makes you feel better I say go for it – trackies or couture!
- not Beauty, Fashion and Time Saver Tips:
Between explosive boobs, sleep deprivation, and trying to remember what day it was, the first few months of my daughter’s life are a blur.
• Dry shampoo and a top knots are your besties • An illuminating primer is always a good idea and will ensure you look fresh as a daisy (even if you are falling apart on the inside!) • If you can be bothered, eyelash extensions are also a fab idea and can last up to three weeks (I recommend Miss Eyelash in Elwood). You would be amazed at how much time not applying mascara saves you! • Self-tanners are a great beauty pick-meup for the warmer months (I use Pure Tan which is safe for pregnancy and nursing). Apply this the night before to save time and dribble stains the next day! • For spring/summer when I find a great dress that flatters my new curves I buy a few in different colours (check out Revolve Clothing). This also makes outfit planning ahead simple as you know what to expect! • Don’t shy away from shapewear, nobody but you knows you are wearing it (Target have a great range and are very reasonably priced) • Spring clean your wardrobe into sensible sections – things you wear most, less and then maybe boot the rest! • Dress to your strengths I like to say – I personally prefer showing some leg and covering my arms, so a bell sleeved dress is a great option. Find what works for you and rock it! By Sarah Jane Young Lifestyle blogger and new mama www.sheissarahjane.com.au / @sheis_sarahjane Photos by kellyjordanphotography.com.au
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In our pj’s with justine clarke Australia’s favourite childrens entertainer, Justine Clarke, gets set to tour Melbourne this November. A regular on our Play School screen and familiar face on our favourite shows such as Love My Way and Offspring, Justine is one lady who has proven longevity and diversity in an industry that challenges many. A natural entertainer and Jazz vocalist, Justine took a moment to answer all our MamaMag crush questions! We are in awe of all this talented Mama’s achievements, but at the core Justine is just a happy mama who loves to hang out with her family.
At school, what did you want to be when you grew up?
It was a changing of the guard as these new emerging writers were able to speak of their generation in a raw, powerful and sometimes brutally honest way. The combination of young and talented directors like Garth Davies and Emma Freeman (to name a couple) working with this unique material and with very fine actors, plus cable TV was just taking off here, made it a defining moment in the history of TV and look at what it has bred since! Yes, ground breaking I’d say. Thank you Claudia Karvan and John Edwards!
I started acting when I was 7 so I never thought about it beyond that. I was already doing what I wanted to do.
What’s it like being on the set of House Husbands?
What have been your 5 favourite career moments to date?
Like being at a party! They all have wicked senses of humour and are louder than the kids when they’re on set!
In no particular order
How do your children respond to you being on TV?
- Being introduced to the toys on my first day on the Play School set - Becoming an Indigenous Literary Foundation Ambassador - Taking an Australian adaptation of the play Hedda Gabler to New York audiences
Thankfully they are mildly proud of me and my littlest one is fairly indifferent which I’m also grateful for.
- Look Both Ways
The best day on the Play School set was…
- Meeting Jack Finsterer at the Sydney Theatre Company 17 years ago
Meeting the toys on that first day. Nothing can top that.
As an actress and performer, your role is to… Connect 8
We are huge fans of Love My Way – how important was the series to Australian drama?
With such a busy schedule, how do you find balance? I try to stay healthy and I keep asking myself if I have balance.
If you had a day completely free, what would you do? I would finish reading my book in a comfy chair in a sunny spot with a cup of tea.
Favourite fashion piece in your wardrobe? New Ginger and Smart dress for summer, can’t wait to book the perfect night to wear it!
What is your parenting style/ philosophy? They need love, water, fresh food and they need to be physical in whatever way suits them! Lots of imaginative play and general play time together (that means me on the floor with the toys), lots of reading and dinner always together at the table. Screens are always an issue and always will be, we just try to balance it with real adventures.
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What are the most requested bedtime songs in the Clarke household? Bobby The Tractor (from Pyjama Jam) was originally a lullaby for Max but now it’s a pretty rockin’ little number so it’s not total wind down but it helps with the ritual of going to bed.
Do you get recognised by more adults or kids? Both! Usually it’s parents pointing me out to their kids but every now and again a child will catch my eye and their face will light up, it’s heart melting.
Favourite thing about Melbourne? It’s kind, it’s classy, it’s easy, it appreciates and respects the arts, it’s built for families and it values community. And it’s the home of the greatest game in the world.
If there were one lesson or gift to pass on to your children, what would it be? Be silly, be kind (and kick straight)!
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You feel happiest when… I’m with my family and it’s the weekend
Spring carnival dress up or girls night in pajamas? Girls night in pyjamas!! I’ve always enjoyed that way more than the party.
Justine’s Pyjama Jam tour hits Melbounre on November 15th for 4 action packed shows at the Arts Centre Playhouse. Children are encouraged to come in their pyjamas, or bring their favourite cuddly toy; or both! In this pared back live and intimate show Justine will bring her unique brand of engaging performance and live music to families; singing familiar favourites and new material from her much anticipated album, with titles like Pyjamas and Shufflin’ Off To Bed. Find out more at www.justineclarke.com.au
in the village Ferguson Street & Douglas Parade Williamstown
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1. Boutique and gorgeous - Enchanted Years An enchanting store filled with toys, children’s clothes and books. Laura chooses her stock with such care and her store is a delight to browse. This place is a real go-to for a gift, including the perfect range of baby clothes, and show stopping costumes. 30 Ferguson Street www.enchantedyears.com.au
2. Cupcake delight - The Cupcake Queens
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This café is a very sweet space – the décor and the cupcakes. You can also sit in the funky colourful laneway. During school holidays they run cupcake decorating classes for kids which are very popular with our smalls. You can also get giant cupcakes and dolly varden cakes made. 12 Douglas Parade www.thecupcakequeens.com.au
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3. So much to enjoy - Playwell Toys A traditional toystore – I didn’t see any Shopkins in here. The store stretches back and back with a great range. There’s educational toys, puzzles, and craft supplies, including a good selection of paint. A good range of Playmobil, Schlech and many other favourites. 74 Douglas Parade www.facebook.com/playwelltoys
4. Serious about books - Book and Paper Another shop that never fails to come through with the perfect gift. They have a huge selection of cards to go along with it too. We found a great range of adult colouring books and of course there are books for children of all ages.
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36 Douglas Parade www.bookandpaper.com.au
5. Interior wow - Bloom & Co
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The store Bloom & Co is brought to you by the team from interior design company Bloom. They have all the rugs you could want to choose from, cushions and throws, and a carefully selected range of women’s clothing. Of course they can help with styling advice and they offer a gift registry service too. 51 Ferguson Street bloomandco.com.au
6. Oh so quaint café - Café Bon Bon Come here for a warm welcome and yummy home cooked goodies served on vintage china—so pretty. They’ve just started doing high tea, including a princess high tea for the little ones. Much of the baking is done onsite by Kristie from Enchanted Baking who can also help you with gorgeous special occasion cakes.
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monochrome madness Hi, I’m Ali the founder of the ladies online clothing boutique Feather & Noise, and a local Melbourne Mother of two girls. Join me for my top 5 ‘Monochrome madness’ looks for Summer. I love all things timeless, effortless, stylish & black + white!
Easy wearing tees
Jeans that fit
We’d be lying as mothers if we didn’t wake up most days needing [the obvious caffeine hit] but more importantly a selection of great, basic, flattering, comfortable, easy wearing tees! Once you own one, you come back for another… and another! A great tee will take you from park hopping with the kids to your Yoga class. My hot tip is keep a black one [that you don’t wear everyday] aside for drinks with the girls or for date night to tuck into your high waisted jeans with heels for that effortless [but totally styled] urban chic sense of style.
Jeans with a great fit that flatter your body are a must have. High waisted jeans are so comfy and perfect for all the necessary bending with a new born or perfect for chasing busy toddlers.
Something spotty
IRIS SPOT SHIRT $49.00
Every wardrobe needs something spotty! This season we are completely spot-crazy! A great monochrome shirt is a timeless piece that you’ll forever receive complements on. And button up shirts are perfect for our breastfeeding mothers who are looking for both practicality without compromising on style.
Maxi skirts Elastic waist, maxi length, POCKETS! Need we say more! We all know how fabulous a maxi skirt can be for busy mamas. I mean I personally know that when I dive in the shower at the end of the day once the kids are in bed, toys are packed away & dishes are done, then if I have the choice between catching a few extra ZZZZ’s OR shaving my legs, well … er … it’s shower & sleep I choose every time! So YES trust me you need a maxi this summer. Think Christmas parties, your Mother’s group drinks, work parties, OR why not team back with a casual white tee tucked in for day-time coffee and baby chino dates with the kids! Nothing beats the breeziness of a free flowing maxi skirt!
Classic stripe tanks How could we not finish off our top 5 monochrome madness picks with out a classic stripe tank. A wide tank shape is exceptionally flattering to cover any style bra straps. A great tank really can take you from day to night, [or as Summer arrives beach to bar!] All these great clothes are available online at Feather and Noise who bring stylish and affordable trends with busy mums in mind. www.featherandnoise.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/featherandnoise Instagram: @featherandnoise
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MANHATTAN TEES $39.00
COCO JEAN $69.00
SIENNA SKIRT $69.00
LULU TANK $39.00
turn the page Find Me a Castle by Beci Orpin Find me a Castle is a gentle, educational book perfect for engaging your 3 – 6 year old while sitting on the couch. This Melbourne designer and illustrator has reframed the ‘look and find’ book with gentle rhyming text and beautiful simple illustrations.
The Day the Crayons Came Home by Oliver Jeffers Oliver Jeffers has done it again, with his hilarious sequel to the best seller The Day the Crayons Quit. This is a laugh out loud book that will delight both adults and kids. The illustrations and text will keep everyone re-reading this book to see how the grumpy crayons cope with being forgotten, lost or even melted in a clothes dryer!
One Thing by Lauren Child This is such a great book by the wonderful creator of Charlie and Lola. It introduces children to counting and sums in a fun, imaginative way as Charlie and Lola head to the shops with their mum. Of course, it is about negotiation too as they try to make the most out of an opportunity to have a treat. Perfect for 4 – 6.
My Dog Bigsy by Alison Lester It wouldn’t be right to talk about beautiful books without mentioning My Dog Bigsy by Alison Lester. This gorgeous book is right up there with Alison’s best selling books Noni the Pony, Imagine and Magic Beach and has just been released. We were lucky enough to have Alison read at the store for its launch in October.
Book and Paper is a small independent bookstore in the heart of Williamstown (opposite Coles). We carefully select all the books that come into the store and our kids section is full of beautiful picture books, junior readers and Young Adult books, both contemporary and classics. We also have a extensive selection of gorgeous greeting cards and wrap. We look forward to seeing you in our shop. Book and Paper - 36 Douglas Parade Williamstown. t: (03) 9397 7784 14 14
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summer skin Skin & Beauty Tips for surviving the Summer heat Melbourne’s hotting up early this year and it’s given us a not so gentle reminder that we need to make an extra effort to protect our precious and largest organ of our bodies….our skin. Summer heat poses a few problems for us busy ladies. Not only do we want to keep our skin safe, silky and smooth, we also want our makeup to withstand the heat and last into the balmy summer nights. Here are my top tips and product recommendations to do just that.
Protect
Wear SPF every day. We should be doing this every day of the year but summer really is the time to make sure you are at the top of your game when it comes to skin protection. Choose a broad-spectrum protection against UVA and UVB and in my opinion go for the SPF 50+ the skin on our faces, neck and décolletage is so fragile we want to try our best to continue to protect it. As busy mums we often forget about our own sun protection but would never send out the kids without it. A good tip is to swap out your after shower body lotion for a high protection sunscreen, that way you know you are covered as soon as you leave the house. A chic wide brim hat and dark sunglasses will ramp up style and skin saving properties. With new skin care technologies it’s now much easier to find a facial sunscreen that sits well under makeup. My choice is MECCA Cosmetica’s “To Save Face Superscreen” SPF 50+
Mix it up
Summer means we can just generally lighten up when it comes to our make up. The heavy foundations of winter can be put to the back of the vanity and we can embrace the
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lightweight sheer bases that let our skin shine through! Choose lighter bases such as CC creams or tinted moisturisers. Add a sweep of light reflecting bronzer and fall in love with highlighter (my favourite places to wear it is tops of cheekbones, down the nose and cupids bow). A great DIY tip for a lightweight dewy look is to mix up a good quality concealer (try MAC Select Cover Up) with a brightening radiance boosting balm (such as Clarins Beauty Flash balm) or if you can’t face the beach with no coverage mix it in with your facial sunscreen and off you go.
Prime
Heading to the races or a summer wedding? Then you want your makeup to last so you must put in the ground work and for that reason invest in a hard working primer. Primers have been around for a while but you can be strategic with the primer you buy. If you have oily skin you might want to go for a mattifying formula such as Hourglass Veil Mineral Primer SPF 15 or if you are more on the dry side opt for a moisture boosting finish for under your makeup. MAC’s Lightful C Marine- Bright Formula Serum packs a punch of moisture. Or if you are a combination of both use a combination of different primers targeting different things on those particular areas on your face. Opt for a eyeshadow primer to prevent creasing even through the hottest temperatures. Urban Decay Primer Potion has a cult following for this reason and can be used lightly through eyebrows and under eye area to keep filled in eyebrows and under eye concealer in place. For long lasting lips it’s a good idea to keep lips exfoliated and moisturised. Nursing mothers may have experienced the skin saving benefits
of Lansinoh before and it’s the same magic formula I use to moisturise the lips of my clients when I start their make up. To exfoliate your lips you can use a towel/face cloth then pop on some of this when you hop out of the shower. By the time it comes to doing your lips they will be perfectly smooth. For a long lasting lip press a small amount of foundation all over your lips (you can use what’s left on your foundation brush), line and fill in the lips completely with a long lasting lip liner (try Rimmell 1000 Kisses Stay On Lip Liner) and then apply your lipstick. As the lipstick wears off, your liner remains underneath.
Hydration
Last but not least keep hydrated. Drink water. There’s no way around it your skin and body will thank you for it. Amy Hughes is a professional makeup artist and beauty writer at www.madeoverandme.com where she blogs a mixture of beauty, real life and weddings. Amy is available for wedding makeup, special occasion makeovers and makeup lessons in the comfort of your own home or venue across Melbourne.
Set & Refresh
I personally don’t love a heavy powdery finish for summer makeup but I do like to set my makeup to ensure it’s longevity. I use a small brush or damp beauty blender to set with powder only in the areas I know get shiny (typically inner corner of nose, chin area, forehead). Alternatively if you want to set with powder all over the face opt for a fine light reflecting powder to set your make up and provide glow try HOURGLASS Ambient Lighting Powder which boasts “photoluminescent technology that makes you appear as you have just stepped into your perfect light” well when you put it like that who wouldn’t want to use it!? As the night goes on and you feel you want to top up your make up I always advise my clients to buff their skin before adding more product. Using a buffing brush (such as Urban Decay Good Karma Optical Blurring Brush) to buff the areas of the face where you feel maybe the make up has moved out of place (eg, around the nose, chin and forehead). That may be all you need or if not go ahead and reapply. More often than not, when you are embracing a dewy summer skin look you can set your makeup with a beautiful refreshing make up spray. You can also use this later in the day to refresh your skin...I often take one on summer girls nights out and we all have a spritz! I personally love Avène Thermal Spring Water Spray, although not necessarily a makeup setting spray it’s soothing and gentle for even the most sensitive of skins.
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nat’s gettIng chI khI Whilst most of us know Natalie Bassingthwaighte for her many public accolades, including her role on Neighbours 10 years ago, fronting iconic electro-pop band Rogue Traders and her own solo artist career, as well as many other TV appearances, it was her role of ‘Mother’ to two gorgeous kids that brought about her latest career direction, launching the stunning monochrome children’s brand ‘Chi Khi’ in 2014.
What I love about Nat is the fact that despite all the glitz and glamour we see on tv and in magazines, she is really just another local mum juggling kinder drop offs, toddler tantrums and finding time to manage work and play, just like the rest of us. So I was really looking forward to meeting her properly and finding out more about her and her gorgeous new kid’s clothing range and what life really is like for such an indemand personality. Her publicist arranges a coffee meeting for us to have a chat and we meet on a sunny Wednesday morning at The Pantry in Brighton, a local favourite of Nat’s. She greets me like and old friend then insists we order some scones to share, because Mama always deserves a little treat. And it truly was like chatting with an old friend. I think her familiarity makes me feel like I have known her for ages and the fact is we have a lot in common. We both have daughters in 4yo kinder, both live locally and both run businesses aimed at parents/children. We start with a bit of chit chat about the kids, how is kinder, what schools we have chosen next year, and then she starts asking me all about how MamaMag is going and if we have any new plans in the pipe-line. I’m thrilled to be able to bounce some ideas off her, but hang on a minute... I’m here to talk about your business not mine! But it’s lovely to know she is interested in my MamaMag journey, that she grabs the mag each month from her local kinder in Wilson Street and that she is truly interested about my success and plans for the mag.
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We finally get onto Chi Khi and I’m thrilled she has brought along some samples. The products are divine. The fabrics are so soft, I joke that I wished she made them in my size to which she confesses she had the new Slouch Summer Knit made as a one off in her size (check out the gorgeous pic bottom right!). Chi Khi is a unisex range of children’s clothes for ages 0-7. The brand is a creative outlet for Nat but is also part of a broader strategy for Nat and her husband (Rougue Traders band mate Cameron McGlinchey) to ensure long-term financial security for their family. They decided quite early on that in their industry you never know when you will no longer be the flavour of the month. So together they have created a portfolio of business ventures like Chi Khi, as well as investing in property and pubs (she is part owner of the Brighton Hotel, a MamaMag favourite). A self-confessed non-girly girl, Nat has created the Chi Khi brand true to her own style in a monochrome palette, which gives her products a point of difference in an overcrowded market. Most items in the range are made from gorgeously soft bamboo and are fabulous for kids with sensitive skin. And her style? Today she is sporting an cute black fluffy sweater, blue jeans and funky white sneakers, such a casual look, but naturally she still looks amazing. Editor-in-chief Sarah Cavalier get’s the low down all things Chi Khi in this little Q&A...
Photo credits: Summer collection: Nikole Ramsay, Behind-the-scenes: Nico Bernadi.
Most people only know the public/famous ‘Nat’, but in reality you are a local Bayside mum juggling kids, a career, trips to the supermarket and kinder drop offs just like the rest of us! Tell us a little bit about your two kids. Harper and Hendrix have changed my life. They are just so wonderful and yes at times a little crazy. Harper is a little chatterbox and loves structure and order and Hendrix is a typical little boy who loves diggers and dirt… oh yeah and the vacuum cleaner!!! What was your inspiration behind launching a fashion brand for kids? Obviously my kids… but I also wanted to see what I was capable of as a woman. In this industry you are always waiting for the phone to ring for the next job and I felt like taking matters into my own hands! For mamas yet to discover Chi Khi, what can they expect? A super cool unisex clothing range made primarily from bamboo. Perfect for, but not exclusive to, those with sensitive skin. Plus skincare that is unbelievable for those with eczema, dermatitis and dry red skin… us mums can use it too!! What was most important in your vision for Chi Khi? To create an uber cool brand that could go global. A brand that people love and cant wait to get their hands on. A brand that is considered in design and has a social awareness. Are there any lessons you’ve learnt on your business journey so far that could help other inspiring mamas? Never be afraid to take a chance. Anything you don’t know you can always find out. Ask as many questions as you can to as many people who know more than you. You obviously travel a lot between various commitments. How do you juggle all this around the kids? It is never easy but I have a great support network, my husband really is one of a kind. Our kids are the priority so we work around them. They are only little for such a short amount of time... a lot of work is done after hours when they are asleep.
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You’ve just added a kid’s skin care range to Chi Khi and launched your new collection just in time for Summer. What can we expect from Chi Khi next? This range has blown my mind it is so delicious. I want all the pieces for myself. Cool monochromatic, unisex designs that last! Edgy but playful, comfortable and kid friendly. Our skincare range is getting such amazing testimonials on our website... it is super exciting Where do you see yourself in 10 years? Ahhh on an extended holiday... hopefully not as busy... helping my kids through school. Watching Chi Khi take over the world and still acting and performing in one way or another... I think I will always be doing something! Any funny motherhood stories that you can share? Mmm most recently my son has mastered the technique of tantrums. So much so I was in the middle of a shopping centre the other day and my son spied a little electric bus that you pay two dollars to sit in whilst it moves around... he loved it… BUT as soon as it was done he would not get out. He wanted to go again… I said no buddy we have to go… he wouldn’t get out so I pretended to leave and said ‘bye mate’... he still didn’t budge. I had to pull him out kicking and screaming and I carried him out horizontally in one arm with the pram in the other just smiling through gritted teeth. Your dream travel destination would be... Right now the Maldives please! And finally, what’s your guilty pleasure? Red wine and chocolate Check out the gorgeous Chi Khi range at www.chikhi.co
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create your own personal style How many times have you felt that you had nothing to wear standing in front of your wardrobe full of clothes? How many times have you dressed in the morning just to have a glance in the mirror and not like what you see? How many times have you bought an item that looked fabulous in the store but it has been sitting at the back of your wardrobe ever since? The good news is, it doesn’t have to be like that. I am going to share with you the 5 key steps to create your own personal style that will allow you to feel confident and happy about your look. Your appearance – the way you look, the clothes you wear – determines how you feel about yourself and how others see you. The clothes that you own and the outfits you wear should represent who you are. Start now and make changes to feel confident and happy about the outfits you wear and the way you look! Here are the 5 key steps to find your very own personal style:
1. Know your figure To dress your body right, you should know your body shape. For some this can be quite tricky, as most of the styling books and sites suggest you should fit into one of the main 5, 7 or 12 body shapes. But as no two women are the same in any way, their bodies are also hard to categorise into a few certain types. A good exercise to start with could be to go through all your body parts (in front of a full length mirror) and write an honest list about which parts/aspects of your body you like and are happy about and which ones you are not that comfortable with. The most common body issues are narrow, broad or round shoulders, full or small bust, flabby upper arm, “mummy tummy”, flat or big bottom, big thighs and hips, no waist, short legs, and thick ankles and calves, just to name a few.
2. Dress your figure The secret of looking great is choosing clothes that flatter your figure and look like they were designed around your body. They should make you feel good in them. So after learning what your body shape and your main issues are, you have to learn how to dress them. To make you feel good looking in the mirror, you have to learn what cut, style, fabric, pattern, colours flatter your body the most, how you can hide the areas you are concerned about and how you can show off those features that make you feel confident. The rule is always the same: show off your best features and hide those that you are not happy with. It’s all about balance.
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3. Dress for your lifestyle Working from 9 to 5 in a corporate office? Have a creative job or your own business? Work from home? Having children? Expecting a baby? Working outdoors? Spending the weekends in nature? Travelling a lot? Living near the beach or the mountains? These are only a few aspects that affect (influence) the way you should dress. A lot of times my clients ask me to help them with their wardrobe and shopping because their lifestyle has changed: they had a baby and no longer work and spend most of their time in playgrounds and their previous corporate wardrobe no longer works for them. Or they are back to work after being on maternity leave, but their body has changed after having children and their previous workwear no longer fits them. Some have moved from a busy city to a relaxed beachside town or the opposite. No matter what your lifestyle is the clothes you buy and wear should be appropriate and you should feel comfortable and confident about them.
4. Express your personality And after learning what clothes flatter your body and suit your lifestyle here comes the fun part: determining your likes and dislikes. Don’t forget that dressing should be fun and developing your very own personal style is all about mixing and matching, wearing old with new, vintage with modern, designer with department store labels. Great places to look for inspiration are fashion magazines and blogs, pinterest, movies, celebrities, friends and the everyday people on the streets. Make notes, pin and learn what you really like. Don’t be a victim to fashion, instead make fashion your own by selecting only a few super-trendy pieces each season to up-date and compliment your existing wardrobe.
Find a signature look or a favorite, signature piece (a black leather jacket, a delicate designer silk scarf, a pair of suede boots) that you can wear with almost anything from time to time. When it feels right go ahead and break the rules and develop your own distinct brand of chic.
5. Build a wardrobe that works for you Now with all this knowledge it’s time to go through your wardrobe and take a look or try on each piece you have. Does it flatter my body? Is it the right size? The right colour? Does it suit my lifestyle? Do I have any occasion to wear it? Do I have anything to wear it with? Do I LOVE it? These are a few questions you should ask yourself. If the answer is NO, give it away. With some pieces alteration could be the answer. Take photos of new combinations to remember. Make a shopping list with items that are missing from your closet so next time you go shopping you can buy pieces that you will actually wear. Remember: your wardrobe should be filled with clothes that you love and feel good wearing, flatter your body, suit your lifestyle and reflect your personality. This way you will save time, money and energy. Dressing will be fun and you will have your morning coffee feeling fabulous and confident each day. By Agnes Villanyi - Paper Doll Personal Styling Agnes is a professionally qualified stylist and personal shopper based in Melbourne. Her passion for being well dressed is matched by a genuine commitment to help others feel good about themselves. www.paperdollstyling.com.au
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I shop I am therefore
By Kel from Little. Different.
While many ladies are busy frocking up for Flemington and trying to have a win this time of year, when it comes to affordable, interesting and eco friendly fashion, for me there is another clear winner - op shopping.
Top tips for op shopping for clothes:
My love affair with op shopping started as a cash-strapped teenager trying to make those meagre pay checks stretch further than rent and two minute noodles. But even now, on the other side of thirty and with the means to purchase noodles that take significantly longer to cook, the op shop is still my go to for clothes. It’s only gotten to be more fun since the arrival of my little ones who have enjoyed a rotating wardrobe of pre loved clothes of every style and shade imaginable.
Staff do a great job but have a lot to go through so double check before you buy.
Kids grow so fast and go hard on clothes so it makes sense to seek the most affordable option and it certainly gives them much more freedom to play if there is no one shouting out after them to take care of their new designer jeans. My daughter has been known to whip up a mean mud pie in what was likely to have been a flower girl’s dress, now that’s living the pre-school dream. Thankfully there is growing community awareness of over consumption and the great need to reduce, reuse and recycle and op shopping is a fantastic way to break to the consumer cycle. 24
1. Shop outside the season. People often do their clear outs at the end of the season so pop in and buy for next year. 2. Check clothes carefully for wear and stains.
3. Think ahead. You are not always going to find the perfect size but the little ones grow so buy some bigger sizes and put them away for later. 4. It’s not just clothes. You can also find great hats, sunglasses and accessories to complete their unique style. 5. Donate when you buy. Keep the system going by dropping off what you no longer need on your way in. Savers even reward you with a discount card for donating which is a win for everyone! Savers’ tag line is ‘Fight Boring!’ and I think that sums up the fun you can have. No one wants to be exactly like everyone else, so go find some awesome fashion treasures and feel good about saving a few bucks. Oh, and the planet.
MamaMags’s favourites in the West are:
Lighthouse, Laverton
Savers, Footscray
Popping in here reminds me why I love op shops—little baskets filled with goodies that you never expected to see. There’s even some new treasures—I picked up some sweet felted heart keyrings.
The flagship of op shops, huge, clean and well labeled stock. They have discount cards for those who donate and run promotional days where you score 50% off clothing.
The Brotherhood of St. Laurence, Moonee Ponds Great prices and a hipster’s paradise. Plenty of retro treasures here. Easy to get to with free parking or a two minute walk from the train station.
Salvos, Hoppers Crossing Plenty of clothes to browse here along with the other op shop treasures you didn’t know you always wanted. It’s also right next door to another op shop so it’s a two for one.
Vinnies, Ascot Vale A very well kept treasure trove. Great for fabric and other crafty items as well as old china. Also a go to for plasticware and other homewares. You’ll never leave empty handed here.
Brotherhood of St Laurence and Salvos, Deer Park Another great double up, these two large op shops are right next to each other. The Salvos is absolutely huge and sells furniture. There’s lots of really quirky stuff too including an enormous stash of LPs. The Brotherhood of St Laurence is great for whitegoods.
Kel has a website and blog you’re going to love! Little. Different. is a parent and carer’s guide to arts, culture and quirk in Melbourne. We love all her gorgeous photos. Swing by and have a read www.littledifferentmelbourne.com and follow her on facebook at www.facebook. com/little.different.melbourne
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mama can Cook! Healthy Chocolate Crackle Slice Serves: 10 | Prep: 10 min | Cool: 2 hours
Method:
Ingredients:
Melt the Sweet William chocolate in a heatproof bowl over boiling water. Once melted, add the rice malt syrup and tahini, stirring to combine.
1 Sweet Willam I’m Sweet Enough No Added Sugar Dark Velvet 50g bar ¼ cup rice malt syrup ¼ hulled tahini 4 thick brown rice cakes ¾ cup desiccated coconut This Sweet William dark chocolate is a great, dairy-free alternative to traditional chocolate. It’s 70% cocoa and is sweetened slightly with stevia rather than the refined white sugar found in traditional bars. Pick it up in the health food aisle of your local Coles supermarket or a good food store.
A healthy alternative to a favourite party snack from Stacey Clare - A Healthy Mum www.staceyclare.com
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Meanwhile, crumble the rice cakes into small pieces with your hand. Stir the rice cakes and coconut through the melted chocolate mixture. Press the mixture into a lined container (mine is a pyrex that is 20cm x 12cm) ensuring it’s well compacted. Allow it to harden in the fridge for 2 hours before cutting. Serving Suggestion: This slice takes all the hard work out of making chocolate crackles. It’s a great slice to make in bulk and store in the freezer so you can easily add it to the kids’ lunchboxes.
This is an awesome treat to get the kids involved in making. It comes from the team at babybistro.com.au
Banana Choc Muffins Makes: 14 | Prep: 5 min | Cook: 18 min Ingredients: 100g macadamia oil 2 eggs 120ml milk of your choice 3 bananas peeled 80g rapadura sugar 350g wholemeal spelt flour 1 tsp baking powder 1 tsp bi carb soda 1 tsp ground nutmeg 100g choc bits Method: Pre heat your conventional oven to 190 degrees. In a mixing bowl bring together the oil, eggs, milk and banana (the banana will self-mash as it is stirred in). 27
Hand over to small Sous Chef for customary sharing of the stirring. When the bowl is returned to you, actually blend the ingredients together whilst simultaneously complimenting Sous Chefs on the fantastic job they did. Add dry ingredients to the bowl - sugar, flour, baking powder, bi carb and nutmeg and blend until mixed well. Attempt half-heartedly to convince Sous Chefs that further stirring is not really needed, then hand over the bowl and allow all present Sous Chefs to stir. Allow little fingers to sprinkle choc bits to the bowl, then give it a good final stir. Spoon into muffin cups and bake for 18 minutes or until a skewer comes out clean. (Avoid trying to convince yourself the skewer is clean when it isn’t because you want to eat them sooner. Cooked muffins are worth the wait – trust me). Allow to cool and enjoy. 27
MAMA of the month Kathryn Stary runs online clothing store Blossom & Glow which was born from her desire to help women feel gorgeous during pregnancy, breastfeeding and motherhood. She is working from home with her children and gives us the lowdown on the guts and the glory.
Tell us a little bit about yourself. In between running Blossom & Glow, and studying, I am raising two amazing boys. Aged four years and 20 months, they are energetic, inspiring, boisterous, and cheeky! We live in Melbourne’s inner west, which we just love. I’m completely addicted to Instagram, am a bit of a stress head, have an unhealthy obsession with reality TV, and am a recent meditation convert. I’ve also tried really, really hard to start doing regular yoga, but I’m not going so well with that at the moment! What inspired you to start Blossom & Glow? My journey to creating Blossom & Glow began during my two pregnancies. I envisaged wearing stylish maternity pieces that would see me through pregnancy and breastfeeding. Alas it was not meant to be – I could not find a thing that I liked that wasn’t exorbitantly priced, and I wore clothing that was a couple of sizes too big and stretched my everyday clothes over my bump. Suffering from severe morning sickness, I felt horrendous all day, every day, and wearing uncomfortable clothing just made things worse. When the time came for breastfeeding attire, particularly with my second son who fed anywhere and everywhere, I was disappointed again (and really frustrated too). I wanted to avoid the typical cross-over feeding tees and went on the hunt to find stylish tops where I could look good (and not pregnant!), and feel comfortable. All whilst adjusting to my new post-baby body. Who would have thought that would be such a hard find? And that’s when my third baby, Blossom & Glow was born! 28
What makes Blossom & Glow different from other maternity stores? Blossom & Glow has beautiful, on-trend clothing for women of all shapes and sizes, and all stages of motherhood. We have affordable, yet stylish pieces, and have really stayed away from traditional maternity clothing (and prices). We also provide clothing for post baby mamas! I love stripes, denim and basics! I also love to support other mothers in business, and lots of the labels that we carry are by other amazing Australian women. What does an average day look like? No two days are ever the same! And I love that. As I’m at home with the boys, I usually start my days before the boys wake up to respond to emails, pack orders or just enjoy a little peace and quiet. Once the boys are in bed for the evening, it all starts again; studying, ordering new stock, emails, social media planning, and packing the day’s orders. How has it been juggling your work and your personal life? Trying to juggle work and my personal life has been one of my biggest challenges. I try really hard not to do too much during the day when I’m at home with the boys, but sometimes that’s tough. Getting up before the boys each day has really helped, and I’m very fortunate to have a supportive partner who looks after the boys for a few hours on the weekends so that I can catch up on work. I’m trying really hard to minimise the late nights, but haven’t found a way to avoid them completely – YET!
What’s the best thing about what you do? I love this business! It has allowed me to connect to some incredible women, as well as giving me the flexibility to be at home with my boys. Running a business from home is a thousand times harder than I ever thought it would be, but the rewards definitely make it all worthwhile. What have been some of your proudest moments? I absolutely love receiving amazing feedback from my customers. It’s amazing to hear that by wearing my pieces I have somehow been able to help women feel comfortable and confident with their new bodies, whether pregnant, breastfeeding, or post babies. I also reached 10k followers on Instagram last month which was a huge milestone for my business. Lots of my customers come from social media, and it’s a great platform as I can then see them looking gorgeous in their Blossom & Glow gear! What is your guilty pleasure? Reality TV! Yep, everything from the Bachelor (and Bachelorette of course), to The Block, to The Kardashians, I love it all. I’m also quite partial to decent chocolate. Reality TV and chocolate – what more could a girl ask for once the kids are in bed! What’s next? Along with continuing to provide gorgeous clothing for women during motherhood, I am collaborating with some incredible women to show support to other mothers (I can’t give too much away at this stage, but it’s very exciting). I have some fabulous giveaways in the near future; some Christmas specials; and some gorgeous new models. Where can we find you? Blossom & Glow is online at www.blossomandglow.com.au. We are also on Facebook and Instagram.
how much dribble can you take? When I began researching for this article, I Googled the word ‘dribble’ and was amazed to discover that along with the basketball-type-of dribbling there is also dribbling in water polo and dribbling in billiards. There’s also the metaphor that if one talks nonsense, they are a ‘dribbler’. So many uses for the one word! Who would have thought? I’m not here to discuss the sports dribbling though. That would just be weird. I’m here to investigate the OTHER kind of dribbling. The type of dribbling that can lead to anything from a little bit of a wet chin on baby, to an extremely-moist mouth, chin, neck and even welting, red, raw chest. I am quite the expert in this area, thanks to my beloved second-born child. When Archer was about 4 months old, he started to dribble a little bit. It was enough for me to place an extra bib on him for part of the day. But as he wasn’t yet sitting up, he would be laying on his little play-mat, with his teensy legs flapping around, and his arms making random movements, and I’d turn away for a moment, and when I turned back, the bib would be covering his face. He would be frustrated and upset – as you would be if you suddenly couldn’t see anything thanks to that big annoying bib. Dribbling is most commonly related to a baby’s teething – their mouths must be really sore with those little pearly whites pushing through those gums. What I didn’t know before my having my son, is that some babies are simply more prone to having weaker muscles around their mouths, and therefore don’t have the control to keep it in their mouth, and swallow it. In my initial research, I also discovered that it is quite a healthy quirk for these babies, as the saliva is continually renewing and removing germs from their mouths. 30
So, it was a good thing. Until he started to sit up and become a bit more mobile, and his dribbling went from a small wet patch to what seemed like the Murray River on a particularly rough day. His entire chin, neck and chest were continually wet, or at the very least damp. It sometimes got to the point where he developed welts that would bleed. I took him to the GP, who prescribed a steroid cream. This was helpful, but not ideal. It cleared up the scabs but only until the next time it got wet and damp. I was SO sick of changing his tops every twenty minutes. It was literally this often when his Niagara Falls spit was at its worst. So I had a little hunt around for a product that would soak up this seemingly endless supply of drool, that was stylish enough to be a part of his everyday outfit and easy to change throughout the day. When I couldn’t find anything at the shops or online that would solve this problem I turned to my trusty sewing machine. I also discovered some online organic bamboo fabric stores and of course visited my favourite haunt Spotlight. It wasn’t long before little Archer had a dry (and unblemished) chest all day, AND a very stylish accessory to his vast wardrobe – much to his and my delight. The name Drib Bib was actually my dad’s idea – I really liked it and it stuck. Dribble was the enemy and I combatted it by creating the Eden Baby Drib Bib. Now my boy is two years old and I still occasionally pop a Drib Bib on him - sometimes for dribble, sometimes for messy food-eating, sometimes for warmth and sometimes to give that cute little outfit a little something extra! Alison Bischa owns Eden Baby where you can buy hand made drib bibs for your little dribbler www.edenbabyaustralia.com.au www.facebook.com/edenbabydribbibs
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swap ya frock If you are anything like MamaMag sisters Rebecca and Sarah, then you’d be mad for a bit of second hand shopping. You can only imagine our delight when we discovered a Williamstown market with 70+ women’s second hand stalls. Feast your eyes ladies; vintage at its best. www.melbournefrockswap.com
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battery safety It has been indicated that four children a week in Australian present with battery ingestions The adventure of becoming a parent can be daunting at times, and throughout this journey we learn many things along the way. One of the biggest issues we face is how do we keep our child safe. Although we can never completely eradicate all the dangers our child may face, we can certainly minimise the risk of harm and also be prepared to know what to do in an emergency. One of the issues I would like to raise in this particular article is the dangers around batteries. We live in a day and age where we are surrounded by technology and many of the items in our house require batteries. Some of the things just to name a few are - toys, greeting cards, garage remotes and television remotes. Alongside these items presenting as a choking risk one of the biggest concerns is the actual digestion of coin sized batteries! It has been indicated that four children a week in Australian present with battery ingestions and most commonly this is for children under the age of 5. The main concern with battery ingestion is that once it has become obstructed a chemical reaction between body fluids and the battery will occur, which results in burns in the soft tissues of the body. This reaction takes as little as 1-2 hours to occur. Another concerning factor and presenting danger is that batteries we consider to be “dead” can still have the same reaction and cause the same amount of harm. The worrying part of the ingestion of batteries is that after the ingestion of a battery this may not become known for a long period of time and the consequences of the chemical reaction are very rapid. The reason that this can go un-noticed is due to the scary fact that the signs and symptoms are often also related to the common cold. Some signs and symptoms are: drooling, coughing, discomfort and pain. 34
The result of ingesting a battery can be extremely severe and the after effects can be long term and chronic health implications that can arise even after removal. The chemical reaction can burn a hole right through the oesophagus right through to the trachea (windpipe), ultimately effecting your child’s ability to eat and drink for a period of time. Although nothing replaces the importance of attending a first aid class, if you are concerned that your child has ingested a battery please follow these first aid steps: • Seek urgent medical attention • Seek advice from the Poison Information Centre on 13 11 26 • Do not induce vomiting • Do not give drinks or food
In order to reduce the risk for a child to ingest a coin sized battery it is essential that we are aware of the dangers and put measures in place to reduce this risk. This includes ensuring that items that have batteries are out of reach and that we recognise that old batteries produce the same risk, and therefore should be disposed safely. Creating awareness about the presenting dangers in our household is essential to carers gaining the right knowledge and preventing these horrific encounters. A big thanks to ‘The Battery Controlled Campaign” produced by Energiser, Kidsafe and ACCC for your resources and knowledge! For more information please visit: www.thebatterycontrolled.com.au www.batteryrecycling.com.au www.kidsafe.com.au By Nataly Tormey - wonderwomanchildren.com 34
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hypnobirth a mama’s story I share my story to inspire, give hope and release fear, “Do you know what you said to me last night?” said my husband. Still waking up, I replied, “What, No, What are you talking about”? “You woke me up and said, “I am pregnant, we are going to have a baby” and then you went back to sleep. Apparently this is what I did, but I did not remember a thing. I thought how strange but did not give it much more thought. Three weeks later, my period hadn’t come, but I blamed it on being busy, as I had just done my book launch. However in the back of my mind I remembered what my husband had told me a few weeks earlier. On the 19th of September i did a pregnancy test and it was…….positive. I was quietly excited as I felt deep down this was meant to be and this will be a viable pregnancy. I felt quietly confident even thought I had a few miscarriages previously. I knew this was going to be ok. It wasn’t until my first appointment with the Dr that I felt doubt and fear. When I told him I was 44 he raised his eyebrows and preceded to tell me the risks that increased because I was older. I left his office with fear and questions, will I go full term, will i have a healthy baby, will i get pre-eclampsia, will I get gestational diabetes, will there be complications and so on. As the weeks passed and the pregnancy progressed passed week 12 I worked through my fears, had all the genetic testing I could have and decided i needed to hope for the best rather than think the worst. I connected to my original feeling which was all was going to be ok. 36
I had the perfect pregnancy, no gestational diabetes, no pre -eclampsia, I felt energised, all ultra-sounds were great, all blood tests were normal. As a Naturopath I have supported hundreds of women through pre-conception, pregnancy and post natal. Just a few months prior to becoming pregnant I had ran a group detox with my clients and participated in it as well. I was doing regular exercise with a personal trainer and felt in great shape physically, mentally and emotionally. You see I always wanted 2 children but when I turned 40 I accepted that it may not happen. This was a belief I accepted unconsciously that it is common for women over 40 to find it more difficult to give get pregnant. I was mostly disappointed for my daughter who was 8 and really wanted a brother. My beautiful baby boy was born on 11th May 2015, naturally, no drugs, no intervention, no tearing. My first stage was 8 hours. I birthed at home for most of that time then went to the hospital and I was 5cm dilated, second stage was 14 minutes and third stage was 4 minutes. He latched on eas-ily and breast-feeding was so much easier than when I had my daughter. Overall I feel like a much more relaxed mum and my baby Edson is also very chilled and I attribute this to his relaxed birth. I used HypnoBirthing techniques birthing my daughter and wanted to do the same for this baby. HypnoBirthing is a technique I teach my patients who want to give birth Naturally. It involves, spe-cific breathing techniques at different stages of the birth and teaches you how to work with your body during birthing and not against it. We are bombarded with fear and negativity about how painful birthing a baby is but if women got the opportunity
Rosanna Mosca is a naturopath and counsellor and owner of Feeling Healthy, a wellness hub in Yarraville. www.feelinghealthy.com.au
to learn about the physiology of their body they would understand that birthing is a natural process and it is fear that gets in the way. Women in Comas have given birth, the body was built for this. Unfortunately lack of understand-ing, incorrect information and uncertainty creates fear which then activates the sympathetic nerv-ous system and stress hormones called catecholamines and the blood vessels constrict and go into fight or flight mode. With understanding of physiology, relaxation techniques and fears dealt with and released the body will then have access to and activate the parasympathetic nervous sys-tem and release endorphins which are the feel good hormones and the body’s natural relaxant. I believe every woman needs to know about this and then how they choose to integrate it in their pregnancy and birth is their choice. Edson is now 5 months and I am thoroughly enjoying him. I know he will probably be the last baby I have and we feel so blessed to have him. I can’t say it’s easy but I can say that giving birth is so much easier. The every day care for a baby demands every bit of you and when sleep is com-promised looking after self, baby, family and a business, can become challenging. But I remember to keep it in perspective and that the job I am doing is an important one and if that means I devote my time to be present to him and have a cleaner to help me out then so be it. I arrange my priori-ties to have people in my life to support me. The old saying that it takes a village to raise a child is so true. I reach out to women to get support for themselves from pre-conception, pregnancy, birth and most importantly post birth. Don’t be afraid to ask for help until you get a “yes” you need it and you deserve it.
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separated? not sure what to do next? The end of a marriage or de facto relationship is one of the most difficult periods in a person’s life. It is not unusual to feel anxious and overwhelmed. It is a time when you need support and guidance. Each relationship breakdown is different, and there are different factors to consider when separating. Here I have given you eleven tips to assist you when separating. There may also be other relevant factors to be addressed in your particular circumstances.
1. Consider the care arrangements for your children. Family dispute resolution can help if it is difficult for you to speak to your spouse/partner direct. Tips received from an experienced family lawyer with a conciliatory approach may be helpful. Remember that how parents handle a separation can impact children. Consider this when speaking to or about your spouse/partner in front of your children.
2. If there has been family violence (the definition of which is not limited to physical violence), seek an intervention order. 3. Look after yourself. Get the support that you need. People often engage the services of a psychologist or family therapist to help them get through this time. Friends are great, but sometimes it helps to speak to someone independent. Exercise – endorphins are a great thing! Rest and be kind to yourself. 4. Contact the Child Support Agency and/or view their website (http://www.humanservices. gov.au/customer/dhs/child-support) to find out about child support. Notify Centrelink about the change in your relationship status. This may determine whether you are entitled to any payments.
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5. Change your passwords for all bank accounts and financial institutions, email addresses, and social media.
6. Review your Will and your Power of Attorney as well as checking your superannuation, insurance and other death benefit nominations.
7. Ensure that all of your financial documents and any other important documents have been put away for safe keeping.
8. Review your transactions for all joint accounts and loans you have with any financial or banking institutions to ensure that there have not been any large withdrawals of funds. Notify your bank or financial institution in writing that you and your spouse/partner have separated and that there are to be joint signatures for any withdrawal or redraws of funds. Alternatively, contact the bank/financial institution and notify them in writing that you do not agree to funds being withdrawn from any joint bank accounts and/or redrawn from any joint loans.
9. If you own property with your spouse/ partner and it is held in joint names as joint proprietors, consider whether you wish to sever the joint tenancy. Joint proprietors/joint tenants means that if one owner predeceases the other, the surviving owner will retain the whole of the property – it will not form part of their estate to be distributed in accordance with their Will.
10. Arrange title searches. If there are any properties held in your spouse/partner’s sole name, and you have concerns that he/she may dispose of the property, lodge a caveat.
11. Seek advice from an experienced family lawyer.
It is important to surround yourself with people who can support and guide you. Remember that every separation is different. What happened to your friend and/or neighbour, or the way they worked out issues, may not be relevant to your circumstances. Friends are an important source of support. However, it is also important that you receive assistance from suitably qualified professionals who can impartially assist you. By Lucy Padula – LP Family Law www.lpfamilylaw.com.au info@lpfamilylaw.com.au 0413 417 627 https://www.facebook.com/ empowermemelbourne This article is not an alternative to obtaining independent legal advice and does not constitute independent legal advice. Similarly attendance at information sessions does not constitute independent legal advice, nor does it constitute a solicitor-client relationship. Lucy is running two events in November to raise funds for the Safe Steps Family Violence Response Centre. The Empower me family fun day, Sunday 29 November 10am-3pm at 5th Footscray Scout Hall, 1A Bellairs Ave Seddon. Enjoy the stalls, art, dance and music activities, jumping castle, face painting, show bags, hot dog and coffee vans, silent auctions, raffle, guest cartoon character and more. The day will raise awareness about and make a stand against family violence. Gold coin donation for entry. The Empower me information session, Friday 27 November at Village Real Estate, Hall Street Spotswood. There will be sessions on steps to take if separating or considering separation, finances and small businesses, intervention orders and family dispute resolution. $20 per session if you book online or $25 at the door. Keep an eye on her Facebook page for more details.
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TIME: 10am–3pm LOCATION: Harbour Park Plaza, Maribyrnong TIME: 11am–5pm LOCATION: Footscray Park, Footscray
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