SURVIVING A PANDEMIC It’s called a pandemic and it’s not normal. So we should not and will not expect you as a mum or dad to be able to parent the way you normally would. Did I tell you that this is not normal? Your children’s routines have been unravelled, your routine has changed. Life has changed and it may not return to the normal we know. We don’t know how long this sudden change in lifestyle will last and when our routines will return to somewhat normality. You may have lost your job, you’re worried about what the future will be like and yet we are expected to continue parenting, as if this is normal. It’s not normal. More than anything we need each other, and it’s ok to put things aside and focus on just that. Restrictions the second time round may present more challenges than before. My 4.5 year old daughter told me early on that she’ll miss her friend’s this time. It’s tough on them as it is tough on us. So how can we still meet the needs of our children while we try to look after our own emotional needs? Here are some ways that might help:
PRIORITISE - what is important and
what needs to be done? Is there anything that can wait? Can I plan sometime during the day where I am focused on just my child and what they want to do? As well as time for myself, whether it’s going for a walk or reading that chapter of my book.
PREPARE - can I organise snacks,
lunches and dinners the night before or on the weekend? So I don’t need to think about it during the day/week. Write a list of all the activities your child can do independently (can include screen time), this will help give you some quick ideas when you need some time to yourself. If you wanted to be super organised, you could set up some toys the night before so your child has something to do first thing!
PLAN - write yourself a To Do List and break the list up to smaller achievable goals. Prioritise those goals.
PLAY - allow opportunities in the day to play, turn off the phone and just be in the moment. Put music on, dance like there is no tomorrow, sing with your child or go jump in some puddles. Create some time to have fun, work and cleaning can wait! Sometimes scheduling in playful opportunities, allows you to be present and available to your child. And you’ll be surprised you will not only be filling your child’s emotional needs, but you will be filling up your cup too.
CONNECT - and most importantly make
time to connect with friends and family on a regular basis. Schedule in zoom or phone calls weekly or organise a group together and schedule in a trivia night. There are some good free online trivia programs such as Kahoot that are easy to use and lots of fun with friends and family. And remember, we will get through this together. We are in some very challenging times, and we need to do what we can just to survive. We might have days where the TV is on more, we may have more work to do than play, and remember that that is ok. If you find that things are challenging please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or for specific support in Perinatal and Infant mental health contact PANDA or COPE. The Early Parenting Village can help with support around behaviour strategies, ideas to create play spaces or brainstorm some new and exciting activities that may engage your child. And remember you’ve got this mum & dad! By Zoe Guthrie, Founder of The Early Parenting Village. www.earlyparentingvillage.com.au
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