Pregnant Issue 47 by pato kalish

The pregnancy and birth magazine for today’s woman—and her man! Issue 47

PAIN FREE BIRTH

SEX - JOYFUL POSITIONS

FASHION THAT TURNS HEADS

DAY CARE

pros and cons

traditional 'mid-husband'

sharper child?

10 WAYS to be baby ready

BIRTH SPEEDING POSITIONS D-DAY MUST HAVES

Suzie Wokabi “I plan to lose at least 10 kilos...through Zumba dance,' says founder of Suziebeauty Cosmetics

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inside 52 what’s

Cover Story 16 Suzie Wokabi

Preggy Bits 2 First word 5

Rib cracker

6 Dear Doctor P

Expectations & Expectancy 10

10 ways to be baby ready

Your baby's soft landing

Mja Mzito Journals

Health Fitness and Fun 20

Best time to exercise?

Tackling heartburn

Constipation — Dealing with it

Sex — Joyful positions

Labour and Delivery

D-day must-haves

Traditional 'Mid-Husband'

Birth speeding positions

Nutrition 27

Feeding the bump

Egglicious equals healthylicious

Recipe — Egg delight

Style 30 31

Be the looker! Turn those heads

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Baby bits

Boost your child's confidence

The first birthday

Soy no-nos

Upper Room 50

Smile

Daddy's arms are the best

Day care — Sharper child?

First impressions

32-37 MjaMzito Fashion

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First Word

Love...Saying I love You...in colour. From the obvious, red is the colour of blood and a ruby. From philosophic perspectives, besides danger – so you stay away from it, red spells beauty, passion, fire, sacrifice, socialism and communism (in this case togetherness and selflessness). The Chinese and many other cultures make it the face of happiness. Scientists have linked the red in food to long life. Foods that have red – beetroot, strawberry, carrots and others are believed to reduce incidences of cancer. In today's world, it’s the colour of LOVE. Well, if you represent the ‘very modest’ fraternity your head could be ringing - Cliche, cliche, cliche! But for the sake of the people you so love – like the little one stroking you from the inside, why not tell the world there is LOVE inside you love that makes your heart pump more excitedly. Get that red dress, sandal or bracelet. Our fashion felt for the ‘modest’, and went softer on the red. But the ladies could be having some hot red going on, don’t you think? The rest of Pregnant is well arrayed with things that make you see, feel and hear love – within and without. Some yummy yoghurt – blended with fruits and crowned with fibre-rich cereal and some ‘egglicious’ on page 28 shall treat your taste buds to some love, as they smack you and the baby with health. The rest of the stories are ‘un-put-downables’ – The Mja Mzito journals, Health, Fitness & Fun, Labour and Delivery columns all put your life in a LOVE-ly state. Peep into Dad's Diary's First Impressions on page 56 and let me know what you think. Happy 'LOVENTIMES'!

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Men in labour? Can daddy take the heat in the delivery room?

Men in labour

Can daddy take the heat in the delivery room?

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some are enthusiastic partners, others nervous and sweating, reluctant watchers. Is father’s presence in the delivery room a good idea?

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Battle with infection

One woman's ordeal after delivery

‘My pregnancy was enjoyable. I was very friendly, no mood swings, no nausea… and no pimples! My appetite was great and I ate healthy foods. As for cravings, sugarcane, boiled and roasted maize were my delicacies. If all pregnancies were like this, I wouldn’t mind being pregnant year in, year out,’ confessed Judy. With such a smooth ride, her earnest prayers were to bear a healthy child and to deliver normally — prayers that the Lord answered, ‘but there was drama,’ she quickly interjected. One day, during her 38th week at around 5:30am, Judy experienced the first signs of the baby’s coming – breaking of water. She reported to hospital at 11:00am but the baby came the next day at around 8:30am. Since her husband accompanied her to the labour ward, Judy says she was ‘pretty composed during labour’, quietly writhing in pain with minimal groans while tightly squeezing her husband’s hand. ‘It was in the final stages of delivery that I feared something was going wrong. I realized the doctor was neither giving me regular, sufficient instructions nor even chatting with the nursing team. When I said that I felt like pushing the baby, the only instruction he gave was “don’t push!”’ ‘I screamed back “but the urge to push is too strong, I’m pushing now!” He hadn’t even finished dressing up for delivery! I pushed once, twice and then he was ready to deliver the baby,’ recalls Judy. ‘I have never felt so helpless in my life. What should I be doing or not doing? I was clueless. I guess the paediatrician noticed my frustration. She softly, yet firmly said, “the next time there is a contraction, breathe in, then push — don’t talk, ok?’ “‘Yes,” I responded.’ ‘The doctor attempted to assist the baby out but to no avail. The next thing I felt was a long cut on my

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‘Mine was a normal delivery but the healing processexcruciating!’ exclaimed Judy, and I could almost feel the pain she underwent.

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sore perineum. The sound compared to that of a tailor tearing apart a new material with his bare hands. I remember thinking, “did he just cut me?” but uttered no word. Something’s wrong, I said to myself. Fear grew in me as the doctor took close to an hour stitching. ‘Occasionally, I felt the needle pierce the skin, and the thread running through the flesh in all directions as though he was constructing a wire mesh. I twitched my eyes, clenched my teeth and grasped the bed as though that would take away the pain. As he worked on I wondered, is this normal episiotomy? Never mind the fact that I didn’t know how an episiotomy is done.’ In her recovery bed, she was eagerly waiting for her friends to compare her experience with theirs but upon sharing, they laughed it off pointing that she was exaggerating. Five days later (back at home), when healing became elusive she knew something indeed was wrong. A visit to her gynaecologist resulted to weekly appointments and by the fourth week she sought a second opinion. The general symptoms were: a characteristic walking style (leaning forward, legs apart), difficulties in sitting down (so she breastfed while lying on her side), pus oozing along the perineum and “an itchy anus that drove me to tears.”

Battle with infection On woman's ordeal after delivery Featured in Pregnant Issue 46, page 28

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Two weeks of treatment with the new gynaecologist proved fruitless. ‘No amount of antibiotics, antiinflammatory drugs or suppositories reduced these symptoms, not to mention salt baths. The doctor informed my husband and I that I had to go to theatre for corrective surgery,’ shared a sad Judy. ‘That word “theatre” triggered a myriad of fears, emotions, thoughts, and plans that clamoured for my attention all at once. On one hand, anger towards the negligent doctor, fear of never waking up from theatre and on the other hand worry over the baby’s upkeep,’ continued Judy. For the baby, she planned to call her best friend to take charge until she returned from hospital. At the background she could hear the

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"Before I got married, I had six theories about bringing up children. Now, I have six children and no theories." By John Wilmot

"Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them." P. J. O'Rourke

When you get a baby, the hospital asks for your wallet, in a modest "how are you paying", question. Once you get discharged from maternity, the supermarket asks for it, in a bolder statement "everything baby available here". Then baby starts to grow and it is the school's turn to offload you. But the big wallet attack comes when your son or daughter becomes a teen. "Can I keep your wallet," comes the cunning question with a broad smile... The number of visitors you receive after giving birth may be astounding; but what is even more amazing is the fact that few, if any, of the visitors come to see you. It's all about baby! "My friend has a baby. I'm recording all the noises he makes so I can later ask him what he meant." Stephen Wright "A baby is an angel whose wings decrease while his legs increase.â&#x20AC;? By Unknown Author "Having one child makes you a parent; when you have two you are a referee." David Frost

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Dear Dr. P Am I pregnant?

I recently got married and I am anxious to know whether I am expectant. How long, after conception, does the fertilised egg implant and what is the most accurate pregnancy test to use? The fertilized egg will implant by the fourth to fifth day after conception. The best indicator that you have conceived is a missed period. After you miss your period, a urine pregnancy test done in a hospital or at home is usually accurate enough. If in doubt, an ultra sound which will show a gestational sac (an early pregnancy) can be done.

Pains and spotting I am two months pregnant. I have been having pressure and dull pain on my lower abdomen. Most of it is on the left side and I have been spotting for six days now. Other than that I feel quite bloated. What could that be? Kindly advice. Congratulations on your pregnancy. The discomfort on the left side with spotting needs to be investigated. It might be nothing to get you worried, but could equally point to an ectopic pregnancy. Please visit your doctor who will examine you and may request you to take an ultra sound scan, which can confirm the location of the pregnancy and also find possible causes for your discomfort.

Too tired I am a working mum in Nairobi. I’m months pregnant, the hustle and bustle of the city gets me too tired. Is this tiredness normal and if so, what can I do to cope throughout my pregnancy? Yes, it is normal to feel more tired than usual in your first trimester. Resting as much as you can is a good way of coping. If you have a busy schedule and can’t afford to rest for long periods, then have a few naps in between work. Putting your feet up, even for a few seconds, can reenergise you. Aerobic exercises such as swimming and running also help in increasing your stamina. Finally, ask your doctor to check you and confirm that you are not anaemic.

My baby is not kicking as usual I am eight months pregnant. My baby has been kicking twice a day, at most, for the last one week. Is that normal? What can I do about it? The ultimate judge for baby’s normal movements is the mother. Now that you have noted reduced activity, you need to see a doctor and have a special ultra sound called a biophysical profile. This will give information about your baby’s condition in the womb. There could be a problem that is causing the baby to kick less, or it could just be that there is limited space. Either way you need to be evaluated.

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Avoiding rapid and excessive weight gain during pregnancy helps minimize stretch marks.

It is very important that you avoid any medications that are not necessary during the first 8 to 10 weeks of your pregnancy.

TIPS Stick to tops that donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have buttons if your bust is growing rapidly.

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Take fertility drugs only when it's absolutely necessary and under guidance of a doctor.

Take it slow in the morning. Allow yourself extra time to get out of bed and get ready for work. Rushing around can contribute to nausea.

Hot tubs and saunas are discouraged while you are expecting because their extreme heat might affect your baby’s inutero development.

After delivery, it’s best to wait for any bleeding to stop before having sex so as to minimize the risk of infection.

When pregnant, bend your knees (squat) to pick things up from the floor or low places. Avoid picking heavy stuff.

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10 ways to be baby-ready!

Talk with your doctor in advance

Take enough water â&#x20AC;&#x201C; eight glasses a day

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Get off contraceptives at least three months in advance.

Eat healthy

1. Talk with your doctor in advance 2. Work towards the correct weight 3. Avoid stress – stay positive 4. Sleep well – eight hours 5. Take enough water – eight glasses a day 6. Take your recommended dose of folic

acid, calcium and other minerals 7. Get insurance that covers your pregnancy 8. Plan your money accordingly 9. Get off contraceptives at least three months in advance. 10. Eat healthy

Avoid stress – stay positive

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Expectations & Expectancy

Your baby’s soft-landing

You're expecting. Congratulations! What an exciting, and perhaps overwhelming time. There may be a million thoughts running through your head. These may include wondering if your baby is a boy or girl, thinking about how and when to share the news with family and friends, to worrying about the financial implications. While parenthood is occasionally unexpected, a large number of women and their partners plan and prepare for it. Well, here is what you should not miss in your preparation itinerary: Health-care. It’s the most important. Regular pre-natal examinations are key. Towards the end of your pregnancy, these check-ups may be as common as once or even twice a week. If you are still planning to get pregnant, make sure your health insurance covers pregnancy and pre-natal care. That will keep your wallet less strained. Money. It is no secret that raising a child can be costly. Cut back on unnecessary spending to boost your savings. If you have the energy and know-how to invest, go ahead and do so. If push comes to shove – and

you don’t have the financial resources, note that your health and that of the baby are more important than your image. So, feel free to take a reasonable loan to attend to this important situation. Living arrangement. Do you have enough space for your child? Do you have room for the baby cot? The baby’s wardrobe? Crawling/toddling area? How about some space for the nanny? The visitors who are likely to come flocking? How about when the baby will need to move to another room (If you like to have yours in your bedroom from day one)? Making room for the baby will save you some energy as it makes room for more order. Go ahead and involve your partner in the planning. There is a good chance that he will be just as excited – making the adjustments less taxing.

NB: The planning doesn’t have to be grandiose. Involve creativity to make the best of the resources at hand.

On a light note Q: What should I keep away from while recovering from childbirth? A: Pregnancy.

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A full blessing Angie Mwamigi

“My pregnancy was unexpected, considering it was in my honeymoon phase. It took a whole month for it to sink in that I was going to be a mother,” Angie narrates. But her partner was besides himself with the news. The thought of becoming a daddy was exhilarating for him, she says. She says morning sickness was the worst bit about her pregnancy, other than watching kilos piling on her – thanks to the junk food she craved. The healthier cravings were cabbage and avocados. She went to work as usual but had to take some time off for bed rest after fainting at some point. The second trimester was fun, Angie gathers. She was full of energy, happily going about her first baby’s shopping – now that she even knew the gender. By the third trimester she was so heavy, everyone kept asking if she was expecting twins – So full! Angie says.

D-day She was home alone, a few days past her EDD, when the labour pangs struck. She took a cab to Uhai Neema Mission Hospital where she laboured for four hours before they opted for a Caesarean Section, when the baby’s heartbeat could not be felt. She says she both laughed and shed tears of joy when she first heard her baby, Jabali, cry, “Till my blood pressure rose, I’m told,” she laughs. Jabali, a calm four months old, is the spitting image of his father. Angie plans to exclusively breastfeed him for six months before weaning him. “I will make sure I do what is right for him,” she remarks. She insists that every new mother should trust her gut. She says careers don’t go anywhere. “Start raising your family first, then the rest will follow. Life is too short,” she says adding that if it were up to her, she would have another baby next year, “But under the current circumstances I will have to wait,” she smiles.

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I love being a mum

Perpetual Wamboi By Hellen Olilo

Her husband was the first to point out that they were having a new entrant in the family. And has not stopped being very supportive – all through labour and seeing baby Mugure grow by the day, says Perpetual. “Mugure gave me cravings for healthy foods such as melons and grapes during my first trimester,” she recounts. Her most challenging time was the last trimester where she experienced very painful cramps and heartburns. “I was finally admitted for a week due to painful contractions which came at week 35, and had to go for an emergency Caesarean Section,” she recollects. Then she gained quite some weight, which she looks forward to shedding off. “I would advise first time mothers to get great gynae/obstetricians who will be there for them throughout the pregnancy,” she says. Does she plan to have more kids following the trying pregnancy? Yes, she admits. That would serve to ‘complete’ her family, she says. “I must say it feels great being a mother,” says Mugure Karanu. “And Family support is one of the best things in pregnancy.”

“I would advise first time mothers to get great gynae/obstetricians who will be there for them throughout the pregnancy,” she says.

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Suzie

Wokabi

Beauty and the boys

By Hellen Olilo

She received me at her door after I was ushered into the compound by the security guard at her chic home in Nairobi. “Karibu sana,” said the entrepreneur, mother and wife, as I took off my shoes, “let me take this phone call, then I will be right with you,” she welcomed me. Her mum appeared, holding baby Nathaniel Njenga, the newest addition to the Wokabi family. “How did I discover I was pregnant? I took a test! We DID try to get pregnant, so it wasn't a mistake. The tests went positive in February – very fortunately!” she beams. The pregnancy was not bad, she goes on to say. “The second time was more difficult than the first because my life is much crazier now; running my grown company. I'm usually pulled in many directions. So with a pregnancy, it was more taxing. It felt very long, I felt very heavy. I didn't really get sick though, thank God. I just felt very uncomfortable.” Her work remained unaffected – nevertheless, she quips. “I did not take a maternity leave – until D-day, 19th November 2012,” asserts the 36-year-old founder and chief executive of SuzieBeauty Cosmetics. "It was a scheduled C-section as my first was an emergency one," she recollects. Interesting: “I craved raw tomatoes and salt,” she says – something she never thought of eating. “I plan to lose at least 10 kilos of the 14 I gained soon

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through Zumba dance. So I have begun light exercises,” says Suzie.

Maceo Njenga Wokabi was born via C-section after 13 hours of intense labour pains. Now three years old, he is overprotective of his younger sibling. My family is now complete,” chuckles Suzie.

as a beauty expert in various TV shows such as Idols ‘08, Face of Africa ’09, Tusker Project Fame 2010 and the Patricia Amira Show, made her realize there was a real need for products for African colour and skin texture. “I wanted to develop a product line that offers quality at an affordable price to the Kenyan woman.” Suzie Beauty Ltd consequently launched in December 2011.

‘Baby three’

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Suzie, the last born of four children was raised in Nairobi. Her career started taking shape at United States International University (USIU) Nairobi, where she embarked on a degree in International Relations before going on to USIU, San Diego, where she graduated.

She met Eric Wokabi while completing her degree in the states. “Our families knew each other so we were great friends. This later blossomed to love,” she smiles. The couple moved to Kenya, got engaged in 2007, and married on 8th August 2008.

She set off working for an eye-wear company in New York City and, bham! discovered something different about her. She just loved cosmetics. “I immediately enrolled with MAC Cosmetics for initial training which led to further studies at a make-up school in Los Angeles,” she says.

Suzie says her husband has been a priceless motivation.Though in the corporate world, he has always believed and supported her – including investing in the beauty company.

Baby One

For five years, Suzie kept pushing the odds aside focusing on acquiring the much needed skills to perfect her trade in beauty and cosmetics. “When I returned home in 2007, I embarked on a full time job with various local magazines and television shows,” she narrates. Working

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Being self-employed has allowed her to put her family on top of all her priorities. “It comes first,” she states. She recalls how tricky it was with her first son Maceo. A first time mother and baby company was a super juggle. “Family comes first,” restates the attractive African woman with some Indian roots, “I will make sure my three boys fit well in my schedule.”

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Health, Fitness & Fun

Best time to exercise? Wait an hour after a big meal before engaging in any physical activity. After eating, blood flow to the stomach and intestines increases to help the body digest the food. Working-out right after eating makes the blood flow toward the heart and muscles, instead of moving to the digestive system. Since the strength of the gut's muscle contractions directly relate to the quantity of blood flowing in the area, less blood in the gastrointestinal tract means weaker intestinal contractions, fewer digestive enzymes, and the food waste moving sluggishly through the intestine. This can lead to bloating, excess gas, and constipation.

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Tackling heartburn Pregnancy relaxes your muscles including the ring of muscles above your stomach. So time and again acid makes its way up your aesophagus, which causes a burning sensation around the middle of your chest area up to your lower throat. That’s heartburn. To evade it: •

Take many small meals instead of the regular three large ones.

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Avoid foods that are known to aggravate heartburn. These include citrus fruits, chocolate, coffee and spicy foods.

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Catching your elusive beauty sleep A compressed bladder, a bigger belly, hormonal changes and anxiety about the EDD can result in sleeplessness at night. Here’s how to counter that: •

Eat a light healthy snack before sleeping to avoid waking up from hunger. This is after eating healthy and sufficiently during the day.

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Communicate your anxieties to your partner, close well-informed friends or your medical practitioner. They will help allay your fears – which tense up your body, denying you sleep.

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Enjoy your morning or evening walks. Walking exercises relaxe your muscles and mind allowing you some beauty rest at night.

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A hot bath in the evening will as well soothe your nerves relaxing your body, giving you off to sleep.

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Total darkness and total silence is also good for quality sleep.

Avoid lying flat on your back. Use pillows to prop yourself. Lie on your right. This way, gravity will help empty your stomach.

Beating nausea

Wear comfortable clothing that keeps your belly free.

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Fragrances, smells of fuel, food, and body odours

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Oily and spicy foods

When it’s more than nausea

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Damp un-fresh air

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Exhaustion from sleepless nights

The harshest nausea inpregnancy is known as hyperemesis gravidarum. It brings about persistent nausea and extreme vomiting – not being able to keep food and liquids down; and often goes past the first trimester.

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Accumulated acid in your stomach.

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This can result in dehydration and an electrolyte imbalance in the mother, causing dangerous weight loss. See your doctor if you feel your nausea has gotten out of hand.

The Triggers

Remedies •

In case of sleepless nights, take plenty of naps during the day to catch up with your rest.

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Eat small frequent meals that are high in fibre and protein. Avoid oily foods as fat takes longer to digest.

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Avoid spicy foods.

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Have snacks in your car, desk and bag to munch on whenever you feel like eating. That will help put your stomach at ease.

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Take anti-acids when nauseated or after throwing up. They help balance out the risen acidity in your stomach – making you less nauseated.

No sex Placenta praevia (the placenta is lying over the cervix), is one of the very few reasons you should NOT have intercourse while expectant. The thrusting involved may cause harm to the pregnancy.

Yes sex Sexual health therapists say a supportive partner, who can barely keep his hands off you and keeps telling you how ‘HOT’ you look, is likely to soar your sex drive.

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Constipation — Dealing with it Constipation is quite common in pregnancy and just after the birth, writes Kepha Nyanumba – Nutritionist, AAR Healthcare.

As a pregnant woman’s body prepares for the birth of the baby, weight gain, food cravings, and hormonal changes can make pregnancy difficult. Constipation during pregnancy is probably the last thing you want to worry about. It happens differently to different people. Some mums strain during a bowel movement. Others just feel bloated. In the world of medicine, constipation is defined as less than three bowel movements per week.

What causes constipation in pregnancy? As the body adjusts to the growth of the baby, it begins to produce higher levels of the hormone Progesterone. As a side effect of the increase in progesterone, the body slows the digestion of food, causing the intestinal muscles to relax. This affects bowel movements resulting to constipation. Medication and vitamin supplements prescribed to expectant mothers to boost their immunity can also cause constipation during pregnancy. Iron, calcium and other pre-natal vitamins are known to cause constipation. And when taken together, there are increased chances of developing constipation. As pregnancy progresses, pregnant women become less physically active and more prone to eating fatty food. Both of the mentioned have been linked to constipation – especially during pregnancy.

What are the nutrition recommendations for constipation management during pregnancy? Take more fibre rich food as they promote peristalysis (bowel movement) thereby preventing constipation. Increase your fibre intake gradually. Start by adding 5 grams of fibre every two to three days until you reach a goal of 25-30 grams fibre daily. Increasing your fibre intake quicker than this can cause discomfort such as increased gas or bloating. Examples of foods rich in fibre include: fruits, green leafy vegetables, whole meal bread, breakfast, cereals and prunes.

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Health, Fitness & Fun

Sex – Joyful positions Can pregnancy-related constipation affect metabolism? Metabolism refers to the breakdown of food and absorption of nutrients. Constipation causes “slow metabolism”. This can lead to nutrient deficiencies during pregnancy. The food eaten is the source of energy for the body. This food, as part of the process of the metabolism, gets digested, and then absorbed in the intestines, and finally goes through the process of elimination. If any of these processes are affected, the metabolism suffers.

Why is constipation common in pregnant women with hypothyroidism? Pregnant women with hypothyroidism suffer from constipation because the thyroid gland controls all of the body’s movements as it controls the body’s energy. To move anything you must have energy. Pregnant women suffering from hypothyroidism have little energy and this causes them to have less movement in their intestines. When there is insufficient intestinal movement, elimination slackens too — thus constipation.

Some expectant women turn into sex queens come pregnancy. More blood flows to the pelvic area increases sensitivity of the vagina and clitoris, causing many of such to have even more orgasms. For others, a sore bust and terrible nausea makes them hanker for sleep, not sex. But if that’s the case, all’s not lost. Talk to your partner about it and consider some adjustments, say, the following fun evoking; Lady on top: This puts you in control of the depth of penetration, the speed and movement.

Aerobic exercise accelerates your breathing and heart rate. This helps to stimulate the natural contraction of intestinal muscles.

Sideways: Avoid lying on your back as the baby can put pressure on the big vein running through your belly (vena cava), making you feel faint. So face your partner, slightly rolled over. It will help keep weight off your belly while it secures your uterus. It is intimate too.

How can exercise prevent constipation?

Spooning: Lie on your side with your partner facing your back. The position puts no pressure on your belly and allows for the shallow penetration which is sometimes recommended in your third trimester. Deep penetration in the last trimester can be uncomfortable.

According to experts, exercise does more than tone your heart and other muscles. Exercise is essential for regular bowel movements. In fact, one of the key causes of constipation is inactivity. Aerobic exercise accelerates your breathing and heart rate. This helps to stimulate the natural contraction of intestinal muscles. Intestinal muscles that contract efficiently help move content out quickly. Simply getting up and moving can help fight constipation. A regular walking regimen – even 10 to 15 minutes several times a day – can help the body and digestive system function optimally. 24

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From behind: Get on your hands and knees – having the pillows support your tummy and chest. Your partner kneels behind you, and moves in from that position. Also known as ‘doggy style’, this allows for deeper penetration and is often very pleasurable for both of you.

'No sex' verdict Well there are times, intercourse is a complete no-no. If you have had preterm labour, miscarriages, early uterine contractions, inexplicable cramping, lots of discharge or bleeding, you may consider not having sex. Confirm with your doctor if you are carrying many babies, have an incompetent cervix or placenta praevia, you may also be told to hold it.

Nutrition - Eat Right

A Tall glass of health

A tall glass of plain, low-fat yoghurt has more calcium than milk. It provides 25 per cent of your daily calcium requirement. It is rich in protein and has lots of vitamins and minerals. It has no added sugar, helping you watch your weight. If the label reads â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;live and active culturesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; , you'll be equipped with probiotics. These are helpful bacteria that help in digestion and protect your digestive tract. Some fruit or crunchy whole-grain cereal in it would make great taste.

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Olive oil a day! Yes! A tea spoonful of olive oil a day is healthy for you Antonio Capurso, Professor of Gerontology at the University of Bari says that olive oil is a powerful antioxidant, which, in particular, appears to prevent colon cancer. It is also known to contribute to ideal child growth right from the foetal stage – physically and mentally.

• Too much caffeine also cuts down the blood flow to the placenta, and you don't want to do that because the baby won't be getting as much oxygen and many nutrients. ‘Eating for two’ – watch the term “I am eating for two” that has been a common line for many pregnant and lactating mums. According to researchers at the Cornell University Division of Nutrition in Ithaca and the Research Institute of Bassett Healthcare in Cooperstown in New York, women tend to get obese during pregnancy. In their study, 38 women, who were not obese in early pregnancy, had become so by the end of pregnancy. Then once your baby arrives, you are likely to gain extra kilos with each coming child and year – earning your way into obesity; which exposes you to the likes of diabetes, high blood pressure and even heart diseases. Shedding weight gained during pregnancy has proven to be a task, to most mothers. And if you don’t breastfeed, the challenge is even greater. So think twice before reaching out for that second helping of mashed potatoes, chocolate milk-shake, nyama choma and extra slices of cheese because obesity looms on the horizon. Instead of the normal three meals a day, eat bits of rich wholesome food in intervals. Continue with your exercises too – unless your doctor tells you otherwise.

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Delicacies to keep off • Avoid vitamin A during pregnancy because it may cause damage to the embryo. Foods containing large amounts of vitamin A include liver. It should therefore be eaten on occasional basis only. • Blue-veined cheeses, unpasteurized cheeses, and pâté are also not recommended because of the possible risk of transmitting diseases like listeria.

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Watch your portions Fried Liver

Feeding the bump Now that you're expectant, you are the main source of nutrients for your growing little baby.

You need protein and calcium for the baby’s tissues and bones. You’ll also need extra folic acid to protect against neural tube birth defects, and more iron to help red blood cells carry oxygen to your baby. Here are foods you should not miss out on:

Eggs These make for a quick fix. They are a rich source of protein which provides amino acids that you and your baby need. They have more than 12 vitamins and minerals, including choline, which is great for your baby's brain growth. However, do not, by any means, eat undercooked or raw eggs as they could have salmonella – which your pregnancy can barely stand.

Whole grains Whole-grain bread and cereals fortified with iron and folic acid have more fibre and nutrients than the popular white bread and white rice.

Fix whole grains into your day – oat porridge for breakfast, a rich sandwich with whole-grain bread for lunch, and brown rice with some sumptuous veges for dinner.

Beans Include all sorts of beans into your diet – kidney beans, soy beans, black beans, white beans, lentils, blackeyed peas and others. Stew them, bake them – however you like them. Besides the fibre they provide, they are rich in calcium, iron, folate, and zinc.

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Low-fat yogurt One cup of plain, low-fat yogurt has more calcium than milk, is high in protein, and with no added sugar. Dress it up with fruit or crunchy, whole-grain cereal.

Berries Strawberries, raspberries, and blackberries are refreshing snacks and taste great in cereals and when blended in drinks like smoothies. Berries are laden with vitamin C, folate, potassium, and fibre. Go ahead pop them in your mouth when feeling a little bored.

Omega-3 fatty acids are good for your baby's brain and eyes, and salmon is a great source. It provides protein and B vitamins too. You can simply boil it, grill it, or stew it. Up to 10 ounces of low-mercury fish, such as salmon, per week is fine.

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Egglicious equals healthylicious

Eggs are delicious. They save the day when you have no time to cook – or don’t want to. You can store them for long and they are fairly affordable. There’s more:

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Studies show that eggs are good for your eyes, thanks to their carotenoid content. The zeaxanthin and lutein in them are known to preserve vision loss. If you want to remain alert and brilliant, an egglicious meal is the way to go. This is because the choline found in eggs is known to preserve memory. The choline is great for your baby's brain development too. It is only eggs that contain natural vitamin D – a nutrient that is known to keep away the likes of osteoporosis, diabetes type 1, hypertension and cancer. You want long beautiful hair and natural nails that are so great they look artificial? Do not ignore the egg. The vitamin A therein will help your skin glow. It makes it even easier for you to drive at night – as it improves your night vision. Recent research has it that heart disease is not

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associated with eating eggs. Eggs have actually been found to lessen chances of heart attacks and strokes. A study shows women who take an egg a day lower their chances of breast cancer by almost 50 per cent. Eggs contain the ideal fat. Of the five grams of fat, only one and half grams are saturated. However, should you be having a heart condition, diabetes or high levels of ‘bad’ cholesterol, consider taking more of the egg white which has no cholesterol. Have the yolk as your health practitioner prescribes.

Stay safe Eggs, are once in a big while, contaminated by salmonella bacteria. The throwing up and running stomach spells it brings is not good for your pregnancy. To make sure this does not happen, clean the eggs well before storing them in your clean fridge. Cook them thoroughly and eat them soon after the cooking.

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Egg delight Some children struggle through breakfast or avoid it altogether – because the meal just doesn’t look or taste great. Eggs can make that finger-licking breakfast. Before you are done, the aroma would have them run to the table, where they’d keep asking, ‘How many more seconds – please?!’ Ingredients • • • • • • • •

8 large eggs 1/4 cup milk 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper 2 tablespoons butter 1 large tomato - chopped Vegetables 2 tablespoons ham

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In a mixing bowl, beat the eggs, milk, salt, and pepper together until well-blended. Melt butter in skillet over medium-low heat until hot; pour in the egg mixture. Reduce the heat. As the mixture begins to set on bottom and sides of skillet, lift and fold over with spatula. Cook until the eggs are almost set; fold in tomatoes and ham. Heat the scrambled eggs through; serve immediately. The scrambled eggs recipe serves 4. Serve with vegetables.

Recent research has it that heart disease is not associated with eating eggs. Eggs have actually been found to lessen chances of heart attacks and strokes.

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Style

Your pregnancy hormones may have altered your look. Worry not. All you need is a few adjustments on your dressing table. • If your skin is getting acne or has become too oily, go for oil-free, noncomedogenic foundation and moisturizers. • For a ‘slimmer’ nose, apply a darker shade (than your natural complexion) of concealer or foundation along the outer edges of your nose. Then, pat on a little blush up the centre. Blend edges with your finger tips for a flawless finish.

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Be the looker!

• If your cheeks look fuller than you like, and you long for your previous slim look; pat on a lighter shade of blush on your cheek apples. Wear a slightly deeper shade on the line of your cheekbones (At least where they are located). Blend the two; and you are ready for your lip and eye make-up.

NB: Wash off all make up before going to bed.

Turn those heads… Pregnancy is exciting. It’s not just about the new baby but a time to go shopping. Not just for the baby, for you! So there is no excuse to let go. In tandem with your recommended walking exercise, take some time to get yourself outfits that will make people go, ‘Who’s that girl!’ Here are 10 tips to carry along. Get ‘comforbratable’ Your breasts are most likely fuller and larger, maybe by a cup size. You know the kind of brazier that fits so well making your chest look like a 'nice' movie star’s – yet keeping you very comfortable. In other words, comforbratable.

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Inner-wow!

For a flattering pair, pay close attention to the cut. This makes the difference between looking slim and fashionable, and round and helpless. Your best bet is a stretch with a bootleg-cut. Once again, go for different colours – to keep your days bright! NB: The waistline must be well attended to, with ample stretching fabric.

While you're at it, fit the panties until the mirror says you are the fairest of them all. And not just say so, the inner-wears should make you feel comfortable too. If you can afford, get them in different colours and designs – matching your braziers. The great feeling will permeate inwards – to your baby!

Hubby’s Closet There has been a trend – expectant mums raiding their hubbies' shirts, t-shirts and pants. Don't give in to this temptation. You deserve to compliment the glow that pregnancy has adorned you. Wearing clothes that are not cut to flatter your new wonderful figure could dampen your spirits. And note that hiding your bump in oversized pants and shirts or shapeless dresses won't make you smaller. The opposite is true! So go shopping!

Blouses that accentuate your bump are flattering. Consider those with an empire waist, a low-cut neckline, side-ties, or a ruched gathered hem under the tummy.

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Crown it! Get a new hairdo – that complements your face structure. It could be braids or a face flattering haircut. And while at it, stretch out your hand and foot for some manicure and pedicure. You know how you like your make up. Do it. Then don’t forget to smile.

Trendy flats Wearing your normal shoes during pregnancy is a bad idea. Not only are your feet likely to swell as you approach your EDD, you destabilize yourself further as the baby grows. Pregnancy challenges our sense of gravity, remember. This doesn't mean you settle for fuddy-duddy shoes. Invest in attractive flats that are comfortable and blend your new funky maternity wardrobe.

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Get chic get comfy! The bump does bring a special poise. It makes you delicate – in an attractive way – when you know what to drape on it. This fashion works with the sleeves to say something about that special curve. It’s about you looking rested and confident. Go bustier, sleeveless, off-shoulder, peepshoulder, bell sleeves, shoulder-free… – the rule is to flaunt part of your arm – even better, the whole of it. If it’s a top, you may just not go wrong with comfortable tights. Then let your sandals do the walking.

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Left: Orange balloon top - Roc A Lady Maasai sandals - Fashion Spot Chain earrings - Shee Jewels Black leggings - Model's own

Above: Off shoulder turqoise maxi dress - Roc A Lady Indian small hanging earrings - Shee Jewels

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Suzie Left: One strap burgandy dress top - Roc A Lady Loop earrings - Shee Jewels Black leggings - Models own

Above: Purple Indian detail free top - Roc A Lady Purple strap sandals - Fashion Spot Diamond studs - Shee Jewels Black leggings - Model's own

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Angie Left: Animal print sun dress – Roc A Lady Diamond studs – Shee Jewels

Above: Pink single – shoulder dress with yellow bel – Roc A Lady Yellow plastic bangle – Shee Jewels

Photoshoot Stockists Photography by: David Namu Make up and styling by Rose Ntong'ondu

Jewellery and accessories by Shee Jewels – Excell Building, Dubois Road, Stall No. D6 Wardrobe by Roc A. Lady - Jamia Mall, Stall No. F47 Shoes by Fashion Spot – Jamia Mall, Stall No. F85B

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Labour & Delivery

D-day must-haves If you can hardly see your toes, have to sit with your feet apart and almost require assistance to stand up, you ought to have a bag sitting pretty in your house – ready to accompany you to hospital. Neatly arranged therein should be… Your stuff Legal documents required by the hospital Relaxation items like your mini tablet or I-pod Washcloth or face towel Your labour-ward clothes, for example, pyjamas. Comfortable cotton underwear Nursing braziers Baby clothes and other essential supplies Disposable panties and towels Massage oil Slippers Snacks – especially those high in fibre Sanitary towels Toiletries – toothpaste and toothbrush, comb Emergency phone numbers Fully charged camera/video camera - plus extra batteries Maternity clothes to go back home in after being discharged.

Baby stuff Baby’s outfit to go home in Baby shoals/Receiving blanket Baby car seat Diapers Hubby stuff Toiletries A new set of clothes Snacks Legal documents 38

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Delivery bits

Sure words

C-section woe According to the Norwegian Institute of Public health, pregnant women are opting for elective Caesarean section – without medical reasons. Increased pregnancy-related pelvic girdle pain is thereby being linked to this preference.

Preeclampsia and fatality One of the three leading cause of maternal death worldwide is Preeclampsia according to the World Health Organization. They say that it is marked by high amounts of protein in the urine as well as sudden rise in blood pressure.

Birth is the sudden opening of a window, through which you look out upon a stupendous prospect. For what has happened? A miracle. You have exchanged nothing for the possibility of everything.” – William MacNeile Dixon The only time a lady should be in a hospital because of a man is because of giving birth, not because of physical abuse. – Unknown author.

Hypertension and renal disease "We found that women with hypertensive disorders during pregnancy were at higher risk of end-stage renal disease than women without complicated pregnancies," Dr. I-Kuan Wang of China Medical University in Taiwan and co-authors said in an issue of the Canadian Medical Association.

We have a secret in our culture, it’s not that birth is painful, it’s that women are strong. – Laura Stavoe Harm

Pain Free Birth

Spine and epidural anaesthesia – how pain free is it? You get epidural and spine anaesthesia to numb your birth pangs. This is administered through an injection on your lower back - around or on your spinal cord. You are then given fluids intravenously to keep you hydrated. This common anaesthesia has good things to its name, and challenging ones too.

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An epidural gives you a restful feeling – especially if your labour is prolonged. It reduces the discomfort that comes with labour making mothers who opt for it have less horror stories about birth. Unlike the case in overall anaesthesia, where you lose consciousness, you have the privilege of being aware of what is going on – without the pain. Your after-birth period is likely to have less fatigue and less irritable too. Exhaustion and irritability are common for mums who endure labour pains. Your recovery is marked with less pain.

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There are tendencies of getting brutal headaches. This happens when the spinal fluid leaks, which is rare though. But if that is the case, an injection of your blood into the epidural space ‘Patching’ is done. The headache then fades off. Backaches, fever, pain at the injected place, discomfort when peeing, ear sounds, and nausea are other common symptoms. Your blood pressure could also suddenly drop. So you may need medication, IV fluids and oxygen to bring it to the ideal. Epidural may also make pushing more challenging. This usually calls for help such us forceps, vacuum or even Caesarean section. After birth, you may not move around easily as you may have seen other mums who’ve gone without epidural do. Your waist down is likely to be numb – making you need help to move about. Research about the spine and epidural side effects is still going on.

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After the epidural, expect to be asked to interchange your sleeping positions; as they monitor your baby’s heart rate. Otherwise your labour can slow down or stop altogether.

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Facing Life

Traditional 'Mid-husband' In the business of deliveries

Midwifery is the preserve of women among the Turkana, just as in many African communities. But Noah Esekon’s role has been accepted in the Turkana community. Esekon is indeed the only man in this neighbourhood, if not the entire community, allowed to touch a woman in labour. Two years ago, Esekon was trained as a midwife in the Isiolo District Hospital. As such, today, Esekon is the link between home and hospital deliveries here. “My role is to ensure that both the mother and the child are in good health condition,” Esekon says as a matter-of-fact. He adds that he has won the support of many women in this role, after the realization that he was helping them achieve safer deliveries, not fight their preference to deliver children at home. Esekon has not only broken cultural barriers, but also

He also advises women with a history of blood pressure to deliver in hospital and present themselves at least two months before the due date. “This gives doctors adequate time to monitor them and make a decision of when and how they should labour – as some cases might require Caesarean section,” he says.

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Esekon has also been trained on how to check the vitals of the mother during delivery in order to act on any complication early enough. He knows too

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well the signs of a complicated labour. “If the cervix is taking too long to open, the woman is bleeding or she is going into labour months before her due date, I organize for her to be immediately taken to hospital,” he says.

To avert emergencies from complicated labour, Esekon starts visiting a woman at her home to check on her baby by feeling at her abdomen whenever he is informed of the pregnancy. He massages the abdomen to make sure the baby is in correct "polythene bags that had been earlier used position as she nears the to store sugar were washed and then used due date.

revolutionalised home deliveries amongst Traditional Birth Attendants (TBAs) in the area. He has introduced the use of new razor blades, gloves and cord clamps in the neighbourhood, which he says promotes health as it safeguards against infections like HIV. “Sometimes I ask the pregnant mothers about their HIV status, but none of them tells me whether they have it or not. So I always make sure I use gloves,” he adds. A few months ago, before Esekon was certified as a midwife, polythene bags that had been earlier used to store sugar were washed and then used as gloves during home deliveries.

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He also advises expectant mothers to walk frequently throughout the pregnancy so as to exercise their pelvic muscles. “This helps to make the pains bearable,” he informs. He lauds his skill as tested: “I have been a traditional midwife for over eight years and none of the women I have attended to have had any problems.” The father of seven says that he learnt the skill from his mother and he is training some interns to make sure that his skill – which is a cultural rite, is passed on to other generations. Whenever he comes across complications, Esekon arranges for the labouring mother to be transported to Isiolo District Hospital, about 20 kilometres away. He however says that relatives sometimes insist on the woman delivering at home.

In such cases, he says he is always ready to offer some education on why it is important for the mother to be seen by a health expert. He recalls an incident where this strong cultural bond led to the death of the newborn. It is for this reason – the reduction of maternal and neonatal deaths – that the 2010 Kenya Service Provision Assessment report acknowledges the growing demand for the likes of Esekon across the country. The health fraternity has seen the need to incorporate these traditional birth attendants into maternal health programmes, largely because they are highly regarded in their communities. In addition, the Kenya Safe Motherhood Demonstration Project has acknowledged the role of the attendants in maternal health and believes they can be incorporated into a national plan for maternal and neo-natal health during the transition to skilled attendants. The survey notes that, in general, preference for traditional birth attention is based on local practice they are familiar with and the TBA’s friendly nature. In a discussion with a group of women from Nairobi Province, one of the women explained that most women go to TBAs because they “pamper us and make us feel at ease,” as opposed to hospital settings where “you may even end up being beaten.” She added: “I was mocked by the attendants at the hospital for crying.” However, the Isiolo District Hospital obstetrician, Simon Kigondu, warns that even though TBAs are perceived as ‘friendlier’ by women in labour, problems can arise when TBAs fail to seek skilled care for women in difficult labour. It is estimated that 15 per cent of all pregnant women experience problems and require access to essential obstetric care. According to Dr Kigondu, some of the complications received at the Isiolo District Hospital include anaemia, retained placenta where the ‘after-birth’ fails to be delivered, continuous leakage of urine (fistula), cerebral palsy and even neo-natal deaths. “Isiolo County has challenges of distance to the nearest medical facility, poverty and aridity. As a result, the interior zones may actually have a higher maternal and infant mortality and ill health rate than documented,” Dr Kigondu says. However, some of these poor health rates and mortalities are the products of late referrals from areas like Merti, Garba Tula and beyond. And although certified birth attendants like Esokon assist women in labour, Dr Kigondu emphasizes that educating the community on the benefits of hospital delivery, improving staffing and staff attitude towards mothers and encouraging retired nurses to assist in deliveries and referrals will improve maternal health.

Birth speeding positions In Turkana, just like in any other rural settings where medical care is not easily accesible, traditional birth attendants advise their patients to get on these positions during labour. The positions have been adopted into modern medicine.

SITTING CROSS-LEGGED: This position also helps make your baby face down - at your spinal cord; it's the best position for birth. The position which stretches the inner thighs, sees the uterus move forward, increasing blood circulation.

LYING ON YOUR LEFT: Your tummy and legs are secured with soft clothing, as you lie on your left. This is flow likely to increase the flow of blood to your baby as it also lessens your back pain.

ON FOURS: Eases back pain and helps the baby turn around face down – the best delivery position.

SWAYING: The picture is similar to what you see in two people slow dancing – swaying back and forth. Your partner can help sway you back and forth – with his arms around you.

ROCKING: Sit at the edge of a seat or bed gently rock back and forth.

FORWARD LEAN: Here your chest is laid on a propped item such as pillows making the contractions move the baby down faster.

SQUATING: Shortens labour’s second stage (pushing phase). It lessens the need for episiotomy and labour assisting gadgets such as forceps and vacuum deliveries. It widens the pelvic diameter by more than 10 per cent and works with gravity to make the baby come down faster.

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There are a few things that happen when you first lay your eyes on your dear child: A common one is that you appreciate your parents much much more. Another is love at first sight. Some mums and dads receive their babies with trembling hands (with joy), some in tears (of joy). Some are so so so thankful! – they just pray. And well, just like there are people who don’t believe in love - at - first sight, some people feel none of the above. For them, it takes a while, which is just fine. Either way, brace for some trying times. There may be toddler tantrums and teenage surprises that may blow you off the course. That does not mean you love your child less. It’s normal. So take it easy. Everything done with a calm positive attitude should bring the best out of whichever situation. Happy Parenting!

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Baby Love

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A baby's first word is usually one that he can make using the consonants made by the front of his mouth and a couple of vowel sounds. It is because of this that a baby's first word is usually "dada" and not "mama": dada is easier to imitate and is almost always a surprise to both the parent and the baby!

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Did you know that a child does not grow while it has a common cold; and your six month old baby can breathe and swallow at the same time while you cannot? http://www.ilovemybaby.org

Newborns are more likely to turn their head to the right than to the left. http://facts.randomhistory.com/baby-facts. html

It is easier for babies to learn how to communicate with their parents physically than it is for them to learn how to do so verbally. This is why so many parents teach their children sign language when they are babies. Signing programmes teach babies how to use physical actions for things like hunger, thirst, tiredness, needing a diaper change, etc., which helps them communicate better with their parents. http://www.articlesnatch.com/

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Boost your childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s confidence By Annie Waweru

In this picture: Baby Simbine

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Confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities. It is the belief that one can have faith or rely on someone or something. - Oxford Dictionary 'Teachers can easily identify kids that have or lack confidence. They observe the children’s level of involvement in activities such as games and drama as well as answering questions in class, being able to lead others when appointed as prefects and so on,’ says Bridget Wangeci, a teacher at Bright Hope Junior School in Nairobi. ‘Confident kids will always be on the front line pleading with teachers for chances to participate. We give those chances because for some, it is a career in the making. And during presentations, these kids put their best foot forward and really seem to enjoy. Confidence is brought about by believing in one's abilities. When you starve your fear, you satisfy you confidence,’ she adds. While teaching children self-confidence, we emphasise on total self-acceptance and total belief in ones’ abilities,’ says Wangeci. " Looking good According to her, the following tips are helpful:

Negotiate, don’t dictate: Don’t always decide for them; give them chances. For example, a child might be very good in modeling and not acting. Listen and observe them keenly as they go about what they like doing. Good environment: Their surroundings should have positive influence. For example, take your children to a school where they are given a chance to do what they love and can do best. Walk fast: You might not be in a hurry but it is always advisable to walk faster. It helps your child set a positive energetic life pace. Speak up: Be audible whenever you are talking to someone. Your child will take it up. We reinforce this when children are answering questions in class.

Good posture: When in a meeting, conference or class, always sit upright and focus on what is boosts your self being discussed or said. esteem and the quality of your Note that your child is interactions. Bathing, shaving and emulating.

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Be a role model: Be is must. Once again, your child is Look great: Looking confident so that child noting every detail." good boosts your self imitates you. Kids will esteem and the quality always do what their elders of your interactions. or people who are around Bathing, shaving and wearing clean crease-free them do. ‘We sometimes assign a pupil to conduct clothes is must. Once again, your child is noting hymns at the parade, give a word of encouragement, every detail. and the like – the way they have seen a teacher do. At the end of it all, the child’s confidence grows.’ Confidence results in: Teach them. This can be done by, for example, delegating duties when you have visitors – welcoming them, serving food and or drinks, among others. If a certain child understands something better than the others, we ask him or her to explain it on the board. The child builds their self-confidence this way. Appreciate/ compliment: Clap for them, say ‘wow!’, ‘brilliant!’ when they do something good. This will boost their morale making them confidently repeat the action any other time. Love: The words that you utter to your child are highly influential. When you verbally abuse them, they will feel neglected and will always focus on their weaknesses instead of their abilities. Say, ‘I love you’, ‘I care for you’, ‘You mean a lot to me’ more often.

Bigger self-esteem: Your child gets the ‘I can do anything!’ attitude. Decisiveness: Your child may not shine in all areas. For example, they may do well in their social life and fail to achieve much academically and vice versa. Self-confidence helps them to excel in whichever career they choose. Development consciousness: Being settled in yourself makes room to help others achieve their best. Excelling in their chosen career, shall in turn bring positive change in their community – boosting their morale further. Positive Individualism: Self confidence keeps peer pressure (common in teenage years) at bay.

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The first birthday

It has to be memorable!

Even though the baby may not understand why there are too many guests around the home, it will have meaning when they see the pictures or watch videos of the event, later in their lives. Since this is something you might have been longing for, you do not want to have a party that will leave you tired or disappointed. Plan in advance the venue of your party, surprise gifts, cakes, photo shoot, foods, decoration and invitations.

Invitations Before laying out a budget, have a list of guests you intend to invite. Limit the number of guests so as not to overwhelm the baby by many faces, especially when the baby is not used to seeing many people. Ideally, close friends and relatives should be the group to consider. Do personal invitations. You can send your guests invitation cards. When designing the cards, you can use the baby’s first pictures at the front and write the birthday details inside the folded card. Your invitation details need to include your child’s name, name of the child you are inviting, date, time and venue

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By Boniface Kagumba of the party. Make the card as attractive as you can.You can also send invites to your friends through social sites such as Facebook and Twitter. However, make sure you keep reminding them about it. Be sure not to forget friends that are not in these sites. All invitations should be done early – at least two weeks before the event.

Decorations While at this, consider your child’s gender and favourite colour. You can have it as the theme for the day and have the decor rally around that. Well, though a theme may not make sense to a one-year-old, it will make good shots for your camera. But do not over spend; your one-year-old will not notice that you went an extra mile on the decorations, anyway.

Costumes Ensure the child’s attire suits the occasion. You can select a nice costume depending on what interests your baby. Most one-year-olds will appreciate a fancy outfit. For example, if they like animals, pick the costume of the animal they seem to like the most. Just ensure whatever you choose is comfortable for them and does not scare the guests.

Venue It is always a good idea to hold your baby’s first birthday party at your house or that of a relative. If you want to do something different and want to avoid cleaning, you can try a park or soft play centre.

Birthday games and activities Most guests are likely to be children. So, plan a party that will not go for more than four hours – considering your baby’s nap time. You do not want the party to go on while the birthday boy/ girl is asleep. This is because children lose their attention fast and get grumpy when they feel caged in.

gums/ few teeth into it and grope for more. Go for the icing that will look and taste great. If you are using a cake expert, they could doll it up; shape it to number ‘1’ – your child’s age, or with a copy of his/her birth certificate on it. Make the cake cutting ceremony exciting. Involve the other children in blowing the candle, eating the cherries on the icing, distributing the cake, and others.

You can have a collection of pictures of your baby when he/ she was younger. Stick them on the wall or in an album for the guests to have a look, as you ask them to guess the circumstances in which the pictures were taken. There could be a dance competition among the guests, or children reciting poems for the baby. Bouncing castles, face painting, would make a lively celebration too. Here, you will need several adults to help you monitor them. Have someone clicking on the camera as you may be wrapped up in duty the entire day. Babies like unwrapping stuff; so wrap the gifts in small boxes and let the little one unwrap them as you help. When choosing presents, note that your one-year-old is likely to appreciate stuff that produces sound and lights. They may also be interested in colourful books. Reading toys can also be good presents too. Have a baby memory book for the guests to share their party memories and best wishes for the birthday boy/girl.

Food Food is the other bit that makes a party fun. Include yummy mashes for kids who cannot chew. Coloured fruit smoothies, fun jelly and ice-cream combos will sure excite the children. A simple homemade sponge cake can do. Your baby can sink her

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Soy no-nos Replace it!

‘When I stopped breastfeeding my son at 12 months, I decided to put him on soy formula. Within two weeks of giving him the milk, he started wheezing, having trouble breathing and experiencing a persistent running nose. He also developed a rash. I took him to a doctor who did tests on him and diagnosed soy allergy. The doctor said that the allergy was enough to upset my baby’s immunity and advised that I keep him off soy milk completely,’ shares Amanda Kwamboka, a first-time mother. Which makes one wonder how soy, believed to be among the healthiest baby foods, can cause an allergy. Dietician Gladys Gesare of the SDA Health Clinic in Milimani, Nairobi, explains that soy is actually a product of the soybean family that causes allergic reaction in children and even

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adults sometimes. Soy allergy occurs when your baby’s immune system responds negatively to the protein components in the soy. ‘This happens when the body wrongly perceives that the soy protein your baby has ingested is harmful. The body then goes on to create specific antibodies to fight or rather act as a defence line against the allergic reaction,’ explains Gesare. Therefore, next time your baby consumes soy formula or ingests soy in any other form, just know that his immune system will react negatively by pulling up barricades in the form of a chemical release, which triggers a myriad of symptoms that may end up affecting his respiratory system, skin, gastrointestinal tract or the cardiovascular system.

Baby Love Soy allergy is very common these days. A child that has soy allergy will most likely react to legumes like peanuts, peas and other beans as well as lentil. Some children develop tolerance while others are forced to keep off the product altogether.

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notice of the same on the fridge or on the wall above the kitchen’s working surface. And since you are eliminating a very vital component of your baby’s food, consult a dietician to help you plan for proper and balanced nutrition for the baby; foods that will replace those vital components in soy. Keep in mind that:

Symptoms of soy allergy usually vary from one child to • If your family has a history of allergies like asthma, another. Your baby may display very mild symptoms that eczema among others, your baby may be at a greater may only be very uncomfortable to bear while other babies risk of being allergic to soy. get serious attacks. Some of these signs include hives, • Soy can be found itchiness and swellings on in many packed foods the skin. Your baby could " Everyone in your house should know and its components are also vomit, diarrhoea or mostly in canned tuna, that the baby’s food needs to be soyexperience abdominal cereals, crackers, infant free. You can put a notice of the same pains. He or she may also formula, sauces and on the fridge or on the wall above the experience coughing and soups. shortness of breath. kitchen’s working surface..." • Soy allergies are In rare cases and when the more common among symptoms are severe, the toddlers. As they grow older, their digestive system baby could experience a fatal allergic reaction known as matures and their bodies may no longer absorb food anaphylaxis. This occurs mostly to asthmatic children components, hence lowering the incidences of the and is considered life-threatening. Therefore, consult your allergies. doctor if you notice the following symptoms in your baby: •

Rapid pulse.

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Difficulty in breathing.

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Dizziness or unconsciousness.

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Swelling of the face, tongue, lips or throat.

Also, seek the help of a doctor as soon as you notice the symptoms after he or she has taken soy formula or eaten any food that has soy components. It would add value to the diagnosis if you take him or her to the doctor while the allergic reaction is still on. To treat the allergy, the doctor would in most cases recommend eliminating the exposure to the inciting foods. When your baby has severe symptoms and exhibits signs of shortness of breath, the doctor may put him or her on oxygen. Sometimes antihistamines are administered to counter the action of the allergy-causing histamines. Apart from limiting the allergic reactions, antihistamines also help to prevent recurrence.

To prevent soy allergies Always read food labels when buying food for your baby because soy beans are a major part of many processed food products worldwide. Confirm with the waiter, when eating out or your host when visiting, that the food does not contain soy. Everyone in your house should know that the baby’s food needs to be soy-free. You can put a

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S-m-i-l-e… They say a smile can soften a rock? When you are pregnant, it does more.

Studies have shown that smiling releases natural pain killers, endorphins and serotonin (‘Feel-good’ hormones). A smile is known to reduce stress. If you are anxious for example about going through labour, first smile. It puts you at ease to tackle your concerns accordingly. A smile boosts the immune system too. When you smile, your immune function works better – possibly because you are more relaxed. It tends to reduce blood pressure – if the pressure is higher than normal. Then, the muscles we use to smile lift the face, making us appear younger. Instead of an expensive, painincurred face-lift – go for the cheap, natural, trouble-free option – smiling your way through the day. You'll feel better about yourself too.

You need a smile, give one!

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Sure words • When we are truly confident and secure, the opinions of others cannot control us – Joyce Meyer • Chance favours the prepared mind – Richard Branson Research reveals that having more money does not necessarily make you rich. Giving out the money does. Data from a Gallup World Poll says the more money you give to charity or for a good cause, the better you feel about yourself and the less depressed you get – putting you at ease to generate wealth.

• Love, pregnancy and riding on a camel cannot be hidden – Arabic proverb

Donations also seem to increase the donor's sense of power, the research continues to state.

'Post-purtam-ly' depressed? Are you: • A new mum? • Unsatisfied in almost every way? • Finding it difficult to concentrate? • Hardly hungry? • Too hungry all of a sudden? • Too sleepy – Sleeping throughout the day? • Having trouble to sleep? • Extremely irritable? • Very tearful? • Perpetually fatigued? • Feeling worthless? • Feeling guilty unnecessarily? • Feeling hopeless? If yes, you could just be going through post-partum depression. Report this to your medical practitioner immediately, take your treatment accordingly and: • • • • •

Share your fears and worries with your family or friends. Exercise, eat well and get your beauty sleep. Harsh out thoughts of frustration and anxiety. Focus on the positive. Have quality time with your partner or loved ones. Ask for help with the baby whenever you need it. It’s okay to give yourself priority – so you can attend to the baby better.

1, 2, 3 about your budget 1.

Budget for your money before you start spending. Have a book/work sheet set apart for this. 2. Make a weekly review of your spending 3. Your budget should have slots for savings, charity, day to day needs – starting with most important. It should as well include treats, however small.

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Daddyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s arms are the best If you want to reduce gang membership, teen pregnancy, dropping out of school, abuse and neglect of children and substance abuse, you can do it by engaging fathers early and often in the lives of their children...â&#x20AC;&#x2122; - Dr. Kyle Pruett, Yale University Child Psychology professor

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As women take more competitive places in professional fields and men readjust their outlook, families begin to evolve and the practice of being a 'house-dad' becomes more common. However, the role of the stay-at-home father is difficult for the man who feels as if he has no option. The African stereotype has relegated the man outside the home, and for the man who is constrained by circumstances, it makes it hard to adapt from being a financial provider to being a houseman. Friends and acquaintances will make him sweat to explain what he does. Housewives will cast narrow eyes at him, and the police may find it suspicious to see him hanging around the playground. Another man, also in his shoes, may be lonely because he spends most of his time hiding indoors. Ideally it is not likely to find an African man who stays home with the children.

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day-care costs, either permanently or for the duration of the role. And for that, you can save some cash for other purposes. The mother can then work without having the hustle of finding trustworthy childcare or doing background checks. With the father close at hand, he can ensure that the family’s religious and moral values are upheld and instilled in the children, right from the start. And being free from anxiety, working mothers are able to focus on their careers. Because this role requires that the father be fully immersed in his children's lives, many of the "manly" activities he could have been involved in are sacrificed for the sake of the children. This allows children, especially boys, to grow up without a chauvinistic outlook on life.

The big picture Really, there is no shame in this role. Such a man knows that he is fulfilling a worthwhile vocation. Soon enough, he will serve as a close friend of his teenager. And later on, as the children go on to begin families of their own, he will not only be a chummy grandpa but also a deep well of good and practical advice on raising children.

Studies have shown that a father's parenting approach is favourable for a child's cognitive, physical and emotional development. Mothers are reassuring during frustration while fathers encourage the management of frustration. The child, therefore, grows up able to Many people believe that success or happiness adjust to different is kinds of stress ─ determined " If your wife respects you and considers social, academic, by you the man of the house (no pun professional and so contentment intended); then anyone else’s opinion is of with our forth. stations no consequence. " Dr. Kyle Pruett, a Child in life. And Psychology professor, that is just conducted a study that confirmed that a what a lot of modern men are finding in opting father's active involvement in his children’s lives to stay at home with the kids. Not only a very promoted greater emotional integrity, healthy demanding career, but being a stay-at-home curiosity, aptitude, and a resilient sense of self dad is often one of the most rewarding jobs that in the child. any man could accept. Studies have shown that partenal participation helps children to develop empathy. One study, by Gills University in Canada, concluded that fathers who spent time bonding with their children more than twice a week brought them up to be the most compassionate adults, kind neighbours, considerate bosses or the guy who stops and helps out at the scene of a road accident. These are confounding statements given that men, as the stereotype goes, are said to be inept as far as being useful to their child’s emotional life is concerned.

In the end, he will have no regrets in choosing childcare over a payslip. Incidentally, the term husband, from its Middle-English root, literally means a “house-holder” or, the one who keeps a house together. If your wife respects you and considers you the man of the house (no pun intended); then anyone else’s opinion is of no consequence. You can focus on settling in your role and making the best of this opportunity with her support. When the run is lonely, she can be your greatest companion. Remember to schedule time with her; after all, a happy marriage makes for happy children.

Another advantage of this arrangement is that it can dispense the need for a house-help or

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Day-care Sharper child? By Zachary Ochuodho

Day-care centres (also known crèche or nursery) are gathering more favour with the parents.

Today, more than ever, mothers particularly those in urban centres take their children who have not reached school age to day-care.

requisite children skills. The services mostly include formal learning, sports, excursions, exciting play equipment, singing, dancing, story-telling and others. Some of the centres also offer piano and swimming lessons.

school. Some include transport for the child, meals and snacks taken with warm milk during break time.

Dr Rachel Kangethe, the Indeed, some parents admit chairperson in the Department that taking care of a child can be of Early Childhood Studies at frustrating and a nanny Kenyatta University, can as well find it says whereas day-care stressful. So, to shove institutions have not " Joyce Nyambura, a mother, says off the worry about fully embraced by she chose to take her baby to a day- been a nanny mishandling families in Kenya, the care centre so that she does not their child when they objective is to ensure are at work, parents go have to work around someone else’s that the institution for the day-care centre provides services that sick days and vacations. solution. are geared towards development of the Although in many child’s mental and cases the care that physical capabilities. the centres provide is Classrooms are ideally spacious, not as good as the parents would She says another advantage is with a teacher to child ratio of give, experts say the concept has that taking children to the day-care 20-25, with reading and writing many advantages. The children could go a long way in improving materials being provided at the are taken care of by people with the status of the child’s health,

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care and nutritional needs by linking them with health services such as immunisation, check-ups and growth monitoring and promotion. In addition, the place would enrich the child’s experience to enable her cope better with school life thereafter by giving the child the opportunity to socialize and interact with other children. All these cannot be done by a nanny at home. Experts believe that giving a child a good foundation contributes very much to later life when he or she is in primary, secondary school or college. Kabarak University lecturer Dr John N Ocholla, an expert in Early Childhood Education, says most parents prefer day-care centres because they offer their children a formal, structured environment which is good for their growth. Dr Ocholla says a good day-care centre needs to be inspected for licensing purposes and caregivers supervised just to ensure that classrooms have more than one teacher and a director oversees the entire operation. Another advantage of the centres is that the arrangement is more stable compared to, say, nanny or relative care. This is because the centre takes care of your child regardless of whether the appointed teacher is unwell or unavailable. Joyce Nyambura, a mother, says she chose to take her baby to a day-care centre so that she does not have to work around someone else’s sick days and vacations. She says staff members at good daycare centres are usually trained in early childhood education so they know what to expect from your child and are able to nurture the child’s growing skills accordingly. Nyambura, whose three-year-old daughter, Jane, has attended day-care at All St Cathedral Kindergarten in Nairobi West since she was two months old, says she likes the fact that her daughter spends her day doing projects and honing skills in a structured setting. If the centre you are considering taking your child to does not hire staff with such knowledge, it is advisable to keep looking.

"Many of the instructional projects are a good mix of left and right brain activities, usually made of simple objects like blocks or beans or vinyl letters for creativity, but presented in an organised, structured, and methodical way," says Nyambura. Ongoing research by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development in US suggests that children in quality day-care centres

John Kirimi, CEO of Sterling Investment Bank, says sending a child to day-care is not cheap but all the same adequate investment is required to give a child a solid foundation in life. He says despite the expense, the cause is worth it as at the end when a child enters primary school his or her performance is likely to be above average.

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First Impressions

By Desmond Gichuru

The lift doors were closing when Mremi covertly observed him, him. If only he can find some lame suddenly a hand slipped between promising herself not to make a excuse to say something―or look at them and they parted. A man, in habit of it. He was just a curiosity me?! she thought. a shiny dark copper-ish suit and that she had to explore. His suit “Hey, you know what time it is?” she handsome features pranced in and moulded over the form of his sturdy asked coquettishly. threw curt nods at every other male body, which exuded strength and in the lift car. Then smiled at Mremi restraint at the same time. His lips As he glanced at his wrist watch, a in greeting. She feigned indifference, and teeth were made for smiling. He gold band on the ring finger glinted, determined to ignore him. Then spoke with a ragged baritone, and and to her own consternation, she a wave of his woody cologne hit his eyes had looked at her with the cursed inwardly. He answered her her, and, against her but she did not hear. resistance, she enjoyed it. How can he be married?! " Jack, she savoured the name indulgently With his back to her, he His resistless charm was in her mind as she stepped out of the lift. " thrust one hand into his obvious, and it no doubt trouser pocket and talked besotted the fatuous with another man. women at the office. But guileless interest of a child. Before here she was almost throwing off all On almost every floor, as people Mremi realized it, a grin had been dignity and pride to fall at his feet streamed in and out of the lift, he tagging at her lips. Careful, Remie with that harem. Marriage for him was greeted, called out or waved thought to herself. must’ve been a tragedy. Men of his at. Mremi thought that she heard make kept marriage plans vague and someone call him ‘Jack’, but then After the 22nd floor they were indefinite for as long as possible. used that name in the third person alone in the car. He remained as She resolutely dragged her eyes as though this Jack was entirely perfectly still as a bronze idol, away from him. someone else. What kind of holding his gaze up at the glowing worshipful awe did they have for digital counter with mild impatience Suddenly the lights in the lift went him?! Who was he? He seemed quite showing on his profile. He seemed to out and the car jerked. Mremi well known and well liked. have forgotten that he wasn’t alone faltered, shrieked and clung to the in this lift. She continued to appraise sidebars.

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“What happened?!” she cried staring into the darkness. “Power’s gone out,” the man said, hardly startled. “Happens here sometimes.” “Would you signal someone to let them know we are trapped!” He chuckled, “We aren’t trapped. They know we are in here. Don’t worry, these elevators are well maintained, inspected and certified. Nothing to fear, except if you are claustrophobic.” “I am not!” Mremi said with so much spirit that it sounded defensive. “We’re on the twenty-something floor. What if… whatever is holding us up… fails….”

tittered. “Sorry, I’m a bit nervous.” He chuckled again. “Management, very nice. Finance – labour?” Mremi was about to answer when the lift jerked down an inch and she screamed. “We gotta get out of here!” she cried and he chortled. “Yeah,” he said, “and when we have our feet on solid ground, we’ll smoke the caretaker out of his penthouse and throw him off the building!” Mremi chuckled. No need to rush, she thought. She heard some swishing from his direction and then saw a bright pulsating glow. He was answering his phone.

“Oh, I doubt that’ll happen. These elevators are designed with electroHe said, “You’re up already? Hm… magnetic clamps that grip to the elevator shaft "How do you propose to compensate faster than your best for that, given your… um, unattached reflex. You’re probably situation?” safer in here than the guy walking on the corridor of this floor. Not to worry.” Had breakfast? …Oh, you didn’t like “Yeah? Well, I’ll bet that’s what the my eggs? I know Benjie loves my builders of the Titanic said, ‘Not to cooking… No, not yet, imagine I’m worry’!” stuck in the elevator again –” He laughed good-humouredly Power came back on while he was but made no further attempt at still on phone and the lift descended conversation. Mremi was glad she to the next floor below and opened. was not in there alone, and his He ended the call. confidence and technical grasp of the situation was soothing. Maybe “Hey, there’s Mrs. Jack!” someone on this was not all bad after all, she that floor shouted and he smiled. thought – suspended some 150 feet Then three ruffians invaded the lift above the ground by “magnetic and roughly grabbed him. The car clamps”. It couldn’t be all that shook a bit. He looked over at her. unpleasant given her present “Your office entourage?” she asked company. She wished he’d talked and he shrugged his shoulders. “You more though, say anything so that better comply.” They noisily made she wouldn’t start to lose her nerve away with him. again. Jack, she savoured the name “So, do you like… work here?” she indulgently in her mind as she asked impetuously. stepped out of the lift. “Yeah, I’m a creative editor,” he said, An hour later Mremi was sitting in “but I have ambitions for something a squeezed conference room with more administrative. I don’t belong executives and department heads in editing. You?” who sat on the long table, and “I’m in management. My first day. part of their staff, some of who Heard that this place is a coop were standing. In the course of the for chauvinists! I mean, er...” she

meeting she was introduced and allowed a short speech. As she talked, she locked eyes with every man on the table as if to assert her equality with them. Afterwards she asked if anyone had any questions or concerns. There was silence for a year. Then a shy hand went up among the standing crowd at one gloomy corner of the room, she couldn’t meet those eyes. The ragged voice that asked the question left her dazed. Jack! Mremi mumbled a little then said, “Sorry, please repeat the question.” He then asked a rhetorical sounding question that set the room to laughter leaving her imbued with humiliation. Mremi smiled nonetheless and answered. Then asked if anyone else had a question. Jack’s hand went up again. She hesitated to give him the cue but she had to. He posed about her experience, but quite obviously challenging her competence because of her young age. She rallied all her nerves to avoid sounding offended – her interview was worse. So she gazed at his shrouded face and gave him a succinct overview of her extensive résumé until it was his turn to blush. This time, instead of asking for more questions and thereby tempting a bully, Mremi only looked inquisitively at the faces. She evaded that shadowy part of the room where he lurked. “Just one question, Ms. Mremi, before you sit down,” Jack said. “Previous holders of your present office have been people with families and children, a condition that rendered them compassionate and fatherly bosses. How do you propose to compensate for that, given your… um, unattached situation?” Her attempt at validating herself was a complete disaster and she made herself more unfit for the responsibility than Jack’s question had suggested. Twenty minutes later she was in the ladies room weeping. That afternoon, Mremi settled in her new office. She had sat for an hour

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at a luncheon with her executive peers and suffered their tedious political debates. They did not come around to apologizing for allowing her, one of their own kind, to be chewed up in their small reception ceremony earlier. She had to let that grudge go. But she thought of Jack and how she would draw his blood. A tap registered at her door and scattered her musings. She sat up and answered. “What do you want, Jack?!” she said with more petulance than was appropriate. “To make peace,” he said with a half smile. He did not expect much. “One of us is always picked to give the new guy the baptism by fire. Today was my bad luck. It’s been our company tradition. The idea is to use public mortification to make us all authentic. Of course, I’m not sure it really works – ” “Now is simply not the time. I have documents to sign, reports to review and meetings. Is that all?” Without waiting to be asked he sat down and said, “I’ll wait for you to finish.” Between shuffling papers, Mremi stole glances at him and saw that he was surveying her office. She waited in vain for a compliment. A moment later she saw him gazing fixedly at the ring on his finger that he kept turning round with the other hand.

birthday today, and she thinks I have forgotten. Last year I confused her birthday with our anniversary!” She said, “Wow, a month of the strictest penance is not enough to absolve a man of such an atrocity!” He smiled. “Well, it’s the fate of every married man. And with a sophisticated woman like my wife a gift has to be the brainchild of true inspiration, especially for a guy working as a creative editor! My bosses aren’t nearly that demanding.” And how was this man induced into a marriage? She was convinced that some villain was involved in his entrapment; he was too – Mremi realized that she had been ogling him. She shook her head to disperse the thoughts. “I bought her an outfit last year,” he said, “two sizes smaller and was accused of implying that she was fat! Then I tried kitchenware, she said she’d rather have the money – and money is not a gift.” “Lingerie?!” she said. And why not? He started the subject. He laughed sardonically. “She’s seven months pregnant! I will get the guillotine for sure and my child will be orphaned!” They laughed.

“Is that too tight?” she asked roguishly.

“Some women are easy to please and some are a creative challenge,” Mremi said. “A woman knows womankind.”

He looked up, sidetracked. Then smiled and said, “No. It’s my wife’s

They bounced ideas off each other for some moments then he

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rose to leave. Was he usually this candid with his acquaintances? Her woman’s instinct told her that he had not needed her help for a gift idea at all, but he used it to break the ice with her. That was clever, she had completely taken him in again, despite the humiliation he had caused her. He stopped in the doorway and turned, looking back at her quizzically. “Oh, by the way, my name is really not Jack.” “What?” she exclaimed. “Yes, you called me Jack in the elevator and in the conference room.” “You’re not Jack?!” He shook his head. “My name is Benjamin. ‘Jack’ is what everyone calls my wife, Jacqueline. She works down on the 25th floor with me.” “Hm. That explains the ‘Mrs. Jack’ tag I heard. And the guys laughing at the conference room when I called you – oh no. How embarrassing!” When he left, Mremi reclined to her swivel chair and smiled to herself as she indulged herself with harmless thoughts of him. He was aspiring for management, but he truly belonged in creative. She had to find a way to get above the adolescent infatuation, and, as much as she could, keep Jack... Benjamin on the 25th floor with his wife. They must call him Mrs. Jack because he openly and devotedly loved his wife.

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Heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hunted down demons, gone after ghosts fought with vicious monsters, but Jensen Ackles is diving into a whole new dimension: daddy duty. The 34 year old Supernatural star and his actress wife, Danneel Harris Ackles, 33, shall be having their first baby later in the year. The actress is best known for her roles as Shannon on One Life to Live and Rachel on One Tree Hill.

Beverly Mitchell And Michael Cameron Commonly known as Lucy from the longest family show, 7th Heaven, Beverley Mitchell and her husband, Michael Cameron, announced their pregnancy in November 2012. She didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know that she was pregnant, despite having a new and extreme sensitivity to scents. Apparently, she took seven pregnancy tests and confirmed with several doctors because she was so surprised. The couple, who are high school sweethearts, were engaged for three years and now married for four years.

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Mothers rock, too! By Kate Khasoa-Kole As a mature student at the university, I found that motherhood changed the way my brain worked. I knew I was intelligent, going by my exam results. Come pregnancy, I kept asked myself: Where is my mind? There were times I would feel as if the thinking material between my ears had somewhat shifted because the topics of my conversations had changed. There was a time I knew a lot about what was happening in France, Belgium, Mexico and the United States of America, just by reading and reading. My fellow students often reminded me of how I made some of them look not too good, especially during a visit to the United States. This makes a lot of sense now considering that the majority of those students were actually majoring in marketing while my two majors were in media. I remember a social debate we had after visiting a part of the twin cities with Mexican communities and the hosting lecturer kept on asking: Do you know what this is? The lecturer, of an American university, had of course prejudged that it was not possible for someone from Kenya to know anything about the world. The question would often be associated with a cultural object, lifestyles of the West, technology, enterprise, entertainment or simple plain culinary arts. The men in our group were especially disgruntled when the lecturer asked us what an item that was crafted of crepe paper and decorated with tinsel was. Remember this was a class of mature persons – some managers in diplomatic offices, banks, international organisations and the rest of us, your regular Kenyans. After a long silence from our group, I offered to answer the question. ‘The item is a piñata whose origin is Latinos and Chinese through Marco Polo. Among the Spaniards, it is called La Olla and was initially used by all people for religious purposes. The traditional design of a piñata is a clay ball with seven corns – each corn representing the seven deadly sins of greed, envy, gluttony, sloth, pride, lust and wrath.’

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‘Inside the clay ball would be candies and children were asked to use a stick, which represented virtue, to hit the ball until it broke and gave way to the falling candies. There are other myths surrounding the piñata but I think that will do for now. Thank you.’ The awe on the faces of the Americans was hard to explain, but for the Kenyans, some being their first time there, it was an aura of pride. For the men, their body language indicated that Professor Scholes should have asked something more intelligent than the history of piñatas. For the women, it was a beaming of pride while for the mothers it was a show for the world to know that they too rock. The mothers among us were over the moon shouting, ‘Wamama hoiyee… wamama ni washindi!’ (Long live mums… Mums are winners!) That afternoon, we visited an enterprise that produces piñatas and other child development toys. As we walked through the complex, I wondered how mature men would sit down and think of coming up with such an enterprise. It was good to know that the venture was making profit and the company was expanding from the Arlington area to other states. But the best part was that great psychologists, businessmen, behavioural scientists and even researchers had been involved in the making of such merchandise, just for children. Come to think of it, kids stuff is not just for nonstarters, but smart thinkers! As I picked out a rubber doll for my daughter and a rubber ball for my son, I knew that great minds had been commissioned to come up with these seemingly non-consequential items of pleasure for dear children.

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