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By Marco Junior www.approachanxietysecrets.com
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Table Of Contents Prelude: Principles behind failure-proofing your approach ...................................... 3 Where does approach anxiety comes from? ......................................................... 6 Social anxiety/toxic shame ............................................................................. 6 Evolutionary reasons ...................................................................................... 7 What you can do about this? ........................................................................... 8 To read more about conquering your fear of approaching women almost within minutes… go to http://www.approachanxietysecrets.com now! ........................... 9
Prelude: Principles behind failureproofing your approach “Make it conscious. Make it a game. Make it competitive. Make it small and temporary.” - Tim Ferriss, 4 hour body I bet this is not even this the first time that you are considering how to actually successfully approach women on the streets, without the anxiety holding you back. Most of you by now should have read at least a dozen over articles about how to approach that girl. Some of you might have invested in a ton of other ebooks on meeting women, getting rid of your approach anxiety, pickup artist books (sounds familiar?) etc. I personally have done that and the weird thing is that I felt extremely motivated! And, I can explain to my friends what they are doing wrongly, how women actually think and how guys can take steps to get rid of their anxiety and just approach any pretty women. Wow, how liberating is that? 3 Approach Anxiety Secrets™ by Marco Junior
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I could talk about it logically, and boy was I happy to vomit this ton of knowledge out to my friends. However… I couldn’t do it myself. I understand every single bit of information that I learnt from those information but nothing could stop the great powers of approach anxiety to hold me by my balls. You wouldn’t believe that I got stuck in this stage for 4 years, and not surprisingly, most of the guys never got out of that stage in their entire life. The simple answer is: logic fails. Just because you understood the knowledge logically doesn’t mean you can do it. We are extremely complicated people and in that sense, there are many reasons why you just can’t approach women on the streets. And that 200 page ebook that you bought plus tons of free articles or forum postings that you read only serve to complicate you even more with 101 things to remember when you are talking to a girl on the street. You are left with no clear plan... It is very simple: Multitasking doesn’t work when you are not efficient in any tasks that you are doing. Just so because you can watch TV and surfing Facebook doesn’t make you someone who can multitask extremely well. It just means that you are proficient enough in both tasks to allow your subconscious mind to take over the wheels from you. Given your circumstances whereby you are not even comfortable approaching women, no amount of pickup women knowledge will serve to help you. All these knowledge are being built on weak foundations of approach anxiety. Dump all that information for the time being and follow the new rules for tackling approach anxiety: - Make it conscious - Make it a game - Make it competitive - Make it small and temporary
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We will be talking about how you can carry these 4 attitudes off with a chapter talking about implementation of approaching women. We are going to make approaching women your number one goal for now and only when you are proficient at doing that then you can “multitask” can start to implement all the other meeting women strategies that you have learnt about from dating gurus. Just remember, anything that is too complicated, too confusing and too detailed will be left out of this guide. Just remember that paralysis by analysis is the same as inaction and any action that causes you to start talking to girls on the streets is better than inaction. Occam Razor: The simplest explanation is most likely the correct one. And this will be the basis of our whole AAS blueprint. You could read Tim ferriss book:4 hour body to find out about these interesting insights on how to create new empowering habits and break your old habits. Although it’s in the context of your physical health and body, you could learn a lot from the principles and research behind it.
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Where does approach anxiety comes from? Social anxiety/toxic shame A lot of guys think that there’s must be some secret realizations that could suddenly trigger off all your approach anxieties. So they went on a journey to find out some secret information to get rid of your approach anxiety. There might be 101 different techniques plus theories of how to attract women coming from all the information that you studied, and, they all seem important and make sense too. However, most of the time, it is not applicable to you because you just couldn’t do it. On the surface it looked like its approach anxiety. But, on a deeper level, it is about social anxiety. There is this toxic shame inside you that makes you either afraid of women on a subconscious level, or afraid of putting yourself out there and getting reject. There is this toxic shame inside you to think that you are either less than human and that you need to create a “fake” personality of yourself in order for you to feel better. You are afraid of showing your vulnerable side to people and to ask you to approach women makes you uncomfortable.
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So, no amount of attracting women knowledge will be useful for you as they are built on your toxic shame. These bad foundations will not support you using any of the information that you learn. To know more about conquering your toxic shame, click here: without embarrassed
Evolutionary reasons It is kind of weird to know that approach anxiety is one of the scariest things a guy could do. It is as scary as it is to ask you to fight with the person who points the gun at you. But… if you know, the worse that she can do to you is simply to say “No” to you. I highly doubt that she will inflict serious physical injury on you. Most women are polite, they will just politely rejects you, and not scream at you or what. Approach anxiety is a defence mechanism. Fear is something that our human brain gives in order to protect ourselves. It also exists to protect us from abnormal behaviors. We are born afraid of both loud noises and heights. When we are climbing high mountains, the fear of heights put us in a body condition that we become careful and “in defence” in order to prevent ourselves from falling off the cliff. But if you learn that if you condition yourself long enough to turn that abnormal behavior into a common one, your brain will be accustomed to it, and your fear will not be so paralyzing. It is said that approach anxiety came because that back in the tribal times, we humans live in small groups of tribe. This means that our social circle only evolves around 30-50 people max per tribe. So the moment someone got rejected by another women, the news will be spread throughout the tribe and this will cause much disturbance to the guy that got rejected. Thus, throughout the evolution, we still have this fear implanted in us. However, the situation now is different. We all live together as a huge planet with different countries and every people are able to move around. We no longer stay in our little tribe. The girl whom you just approached and got rejected by her… you might not see her ever again.
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www.approachanxietysecrets.com So as you can see, this fear is irrational and irrelevant in our current society. My first advice is to let you know that do not resist fear or hope that it will be completely gone. Fear is there for a reason. And if you want to run away from fear, you are showing signs of cowardice. Instead learn to face it. Accept it. Although some are evolutionary kind of fear, there are others that are conditioned into you by your parents, teachers, clergy, peers or people you looked up to while growing up. Remember the times when your mum says: “Do not talk to strangers?” This is because when you are young, your parents want to make sure that you are safe and protected. They do not want anything to happen to you. And when you were young, you do not have the maturity mind to think rationally. And things that are too complicated will make not sense to you at all. So, what parents do is that they tell you absolute statements which will get the idea into your head. And while growing up, although you might have grown up and learn about lots of things, this conditioning from you will still stick in your subconscious mind. Nope, I am not asking you to blame these people or what. You must know that their intention was good. What you need to do is to forgive them and yourself and move on.
What you can do about this? The first step on the road to recovery is to get out of this denial. If you have bought this course, and started reading this ebook, you have already got past that. I still have friends who firmly believe that there’s no need to change and they are willing to stick to this anxiety because this is “being himself”. They are still in denial, and if they do not want to change, we can simply do nothing to help them. The second step to overcome the source of your approach anxiety is to bring them out of your subconscious darkness and into your consciousness. Only then we can see what is it that forms your limiting mind, notice how it works and then create exercises and rituals to nullify it. Lastly, just simply knowing these reasons might be enough to tell yourself that it is normal. You don’t necessarily need to solve it according to what these “reasons” is telling you. So, don’t harp on it too much! Before we continue, let’s do a short exercise! 8 Approach Anxiety Secrets™ by Marco Junior
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