Sober Girls Yoga Magazine - Issue 02 - February 2023

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A Note from Alex

This Valentine's Day...can we change the narrative women's worth, relationship status, heartbreak and alcohol?

Welcome to Issue 02 of the Sober Girls Yoga Magazine! I can't believe how much energy and momentum has appeared around this publication since we launched in December. So many of you wanted to contribute to this magic...that we have 100 pages of content for you already, and it's only Issue 02!

There are many standout articles - from Jami Hana's story about her journey losing her son, finding the Sober Girls Yoga 30 Day Challenge, and coming on the Bali retreat... to Rachel Brady's piece about Essential Oils. We interviewed Kate Seale, one of our recent Challengers, and teachers Kristen Hutchinson and Rachel Brady. We talked to the Sober Yoga GuysKhaled, Dan, Yasir and Matt. We heard from Izzy Van Zuilen about her sobriety tattoo. Sarah Williamson officially has a "Dear Sober Coach" column. And....SO MUCH MORE! But I won't tell you all about it..I'll let you flip through the pages and discover it for yourself.

Sober Girls Yoga

A Note from the Editor

This month, given that it's Valentine's Day...I've been thinking a lot about romance, relationships, etc. Along with my sobriety, I think I'm in recovery from the Disney Princess narrative that so many of us are pushed on from childhood. Our society places so much emphasis on romantic partnerships - especially as they relate to women and our worth. The biggest celebration seems to be when a woman gets engaged, or married.

At age thirty, I'm in the era of marriage right now. All my friends from high school and university seem to be tying the knot. (Fortunately for me, I married and divorced in my twenties, so I don't really feel excluded...lol).

I was catching up with a friend from high school a few weeks ago, and she said, "I feel like it's Grade Twelve all over again, and everyone's asking you if you have a Prom Date."

The unbalanced emphasis on women, partnerships and marriage can feel overwhelmingespecially in the month of February, with Valentines Day. For single women, over time, Valentines Day has seemed to evolve into a "Drink-Away-Your-Loneliness" holiday, with women downing bottles of wine and bubbly while sitting on the couch in sweatpants, watching reality TV.

Can we change the narrative this Valentine's Day?

Love is not limited to romance.

Your worth is not defined by your relationship status.

And the solution to heartbreak is not at the bottom of a bottle.

In the words of Love Actually, "Love is actually all around us." We don't need to be in a partnership to find it. It's written in the pages of this magazine, it's woven through our sober circles and yoga classes, and it's found in the posts in our Facebook and WhatsApp group.

Where can you find love on this Valentine's Day that's not in a significant other or spouse? And how can you fill your own cup with love (whether you're single or in a relationship) without relying on someone else?

Let's change the narrative. I can't wait to find out what you discover. Share it with me in the Facebook Group or in the WhatsApp Group!

Love, Alex

P.S. Our deadline for contributions for the March issue is February 10th, 2023.

Table of Contents

In This Issue

Sobriety Tattoo

Interview with Kristen Hutchinson

Meet the Sober Yoga Guys

What to Do in Bali: Alex's Top List

Essential Oils for Holistic Healing

Interview with Kate Seale

Celebrating our YTT Graduates

Dear Sober Coach

What Came First, the Drinking or the Friends? Sober Poetry

Interview with Rachel Brady

Provocative Grief Yoga from Around the Globe Happy Hips Upcoming Events

SoberGirlsYoga

Yasmine

Rachel Brady

Jami Hanna

Sober Girls Yoga

Sobriety

By Isabel van Zuilen

Do you see my happy face to the left?

This was right after 30 minutes of pure torture, but how excited was I

for this brand-new start. I tried for years (or decades even) to moderate my alcohol intake. It´s killing me when I think about the number of days/weekends wasted away due to horrific hangovers. This and the constant stop on my personal development due to feeling, both physically and mentally, like utter crap made me decide to stop completely No more alcohol for me, ever!

This was a while ago and today I´m proud to say that I´m 418 days sober.

So this is it, the Tt logo (which stands for Teetotal), inked on my wrist, that shows my dedication to sobriety:

And I haven´t had a single day that I regretted having this tattoo done Besides the fact that it is a great and constant reminder of my newly found, happy sober life, it also makes me talk about it – quite a lot! With family and friends, but also with complete strangers The tattoo is quite visible on my inner wrist, and people sometimes ask what it stands for, Tt And when they do, I raise my arm and say, proudly and happily, “I stopped drinking alcohol!” I have received many different responses to this Most of them are very positive People seem happily surprised to se an Bu ar th pr alc wh qu wi ha To les m wa nig ha

hour. Shortly thereafter, I, more often than not, started worrying about many different things – Should I be drinking tonight? How much more should I drink tonight? How much of the bottle is left? Should I top up myself a bit more than usual and then stick to 3 glasses? What do I have to do tomorrow morning? Can it be canceled? – I was no longer fully enjoying it, that´s for sure And then I haven´t even gone into the horrible, depressing hangovers, oh man

At some point, the advantages of drinking were no longer winning it from the

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Sober Girls Yoga Teacher Interview

Kristen Hutchinson

By Yasir El Mahdi Questions by Alex McRobs

Meet Kristen! Our awesome team and community member from Canada. Kristen joined us first last year as part of our Dry January 30 Day Challenge. 2022 was a big year for Kristen. During 2022, she was a student in both the 200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training with the MLPC (The Mindful Life Practice), and completed another YTT in Costa Rica. She's also completed the 30 Hour Sober Curious Yoga Teacher Training, and is now a student in the Yoga Sutra Studies. I love taking her classes. She usually has a deep theme that makes the class meaningful. A few months ago I interviewed Kristen as one of our members and this time I’m interviewing her as a yoga teacher and team member. Here’s what she said…

Tell us a little bit about you:

Each day that passes I’m learning more about who I am, which is just a beautiful experience. I am an empath, highly sensitive person, but I see this as a gift as I feel emotions deeply. I love yoga. I have a beautiful kitty, Jake, who is 15 years old He’s been with me through all of my ups and downs. I’m also an April baby - Aries! I love meeting and learning about new people, and connecting on deeper levels. I love to read, am passionate about skincare, and love herbal teas…and coffee.

How long have you been alcohol free for?

My alcohol free journey started January 1, 2022, and although I have had a blip a long the way, it has been a beautiful and transformative journey I love living an alcohol free life.

disconnected from myself and life - it sort of felt like I was just going through the motions of each day but not actively participating in my life

Honestly, definitely Alex I started following her on Instagram after coming across her page and that is what started my sober curious movement prior to joining. Little did I know how much my life would change for the better in 2022 thanks to her and the Mindful Life Practice (The MLPC)!

I was sober curious for about 6 months before I joined the 30 Day Challenge in January 2022 My mental health was suffering significantly, I was so

I had a yoga practice before sobriety, however it definitely deepened after removing alcohol from my life. I completed my YTT in 2022 and yoga philosophy is something that I am deeply passionate about and I would not have had the clarity or space to learn and absorb this into my life if I was drinking

I started yoga for mental health and have tried multiple different studios/teachers It deepened as I started going to yoga retreats in Costa Rica with my teacher, Lola Rephann, and then as I joined MLPC, it has been an honour to learn from Alex

Who and what inspired your sober journey in the early days?

What was the point that made you want to quit drinking?

When did your yoga practice come into your journey - was it before or after sobriety?

Who and what inspired your yoga journey in the early days? continue

"Little did I know how much my life would change for the better in 2022 thanks to her [Alex] and the MLPC!"

How has yoga enhanced your sober journey?

It allows me to drop into my body and mind within the safe space of the 4 corners of my mat, and truly check in with how I am feeling, what is needing to come to the surface and be released I also practice daily now, whereas when I was drinking it was very inconsistent

What differences have you seen in your yoga practice over the years?

Consistency, deepened mind, body and soul connection, how yoga philosophy now informs not only my day to day life, but also my physical asana practice

What made you want to become a yoga teacher?

deepen my own practice and understanding of yoga philosophy and history It has evolved over time to wanting to share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that I can positively impact the lives of others and bring joy and peace to them

What does yoga mean to you personally?

Yoga means connection - connection to the self, and connection to others. Another way I think of yoga is awakening of the true self

Has anything changed about your perspective on yoga since becoming a yoga teacher?

Absolutely - I am forever a student of learning about yoga and as I learn and grow, I always incorporate it into my practice and my teachings.

At first, I wanted to be a yoga teacher to continue

QUICK Q&A

Favourite yoga, spiritual or self-improvement book?

I really loved quite a few - Sober Diaries, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Siddartha and Inner Engineering - a Yogi’s Guide to Joy

Go-to health food or drink?

Eat the rainbow! Whole foods (fruits and veggies) are always my go to and I eat them daily.

Holistic remedy you swear by? Herbal teas and peppermint oil for headaches!

Favourite/most inspiring quote?

“It was when I stopped searching for home within others and lifted the foundations of home within myself, I found there were no roots more intimate than those between a mind and body that have decided to be whole” - Rupi Kaur

If you could take a class as a student with any teacher from anywhere and from any period of time who would it be with and why?

I can’t choose just one - there are so many beautiful and inspiring teachers out there. I would say all my current - Alex and Lola. And then, Rolf Gates - I’ve been interested ever since Alex told me about him!

Kristen currently leads the 30, 60 and 108 Day Yoga Challenge

Practice on Monday nights at 5pm PST/8pm PST. If you sign up for our February 30 Day Yoga Challenge, you get a chance to practice with her! The link to sign up is here

What are your hopes and dreams for your sober yoga journey in 2023?

2023 I picked the words transformative / heal. My hopes and dreams for 2023 are to continue to deepen my connection to myself, and my yoga practice, through living an alcohol free lifestyle, so I can heal and give extra love to the parts of me that need it Being fully present with myself and those around me

What impact do you want to have on the world with your work?

My goal in life is to always bring positivity and joy to those around me, and to be a safe space for anyone who needs it I strive to share my journey, in the hopes that it may help even one person.

What do you love to do when you’re not doing yoga?

I love to read, I am currently working towards becoming a Certified Holistic Nutritionist which couples so beautifully with yoga and alcohol free lifestyle I also love spending time with family, friends and my beautiful kitty, Jake. I meditate daily and love all things skincare

What are some of your self care practices?

Bubble baths, reading, at-home facials, nourishing meals, rest, yoga, walks in nature, nurturing podcasts, massages, therapy I could go on :)

What advice would you have for someone who is just sober curious and dipping their toes into sober curiosity?

If you ’ re sober curious, trust that instinct and explore! It is a beautiful journey, and you have absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Dive in, join a beautiful supportive community, make deep connections and friendships

Anything else you want to share?

I just want to thank MLPC for a beautiful 2022, and I am ready for another beautiful transformative and healing 2023!

A safe place to connect and share your sober journey

Even though a big part of our community is Sober Girls Yoga, we have four men on the team - who I've decided are now officially the "Sober Yoga Guys!" If you see them around in the Sober Girls Yoga Facebook Group, that's who they are! I wanted to introduce you to them so you can get to know them better in this article.

Dan Kumar

Dan and I met in 2019 when he provided me a psychic healing reading that changed the entire course of my life. He is basically the reason why this entire platform exists I met him when I was one month sober, and he told me I was going to create this community. He is my biggest support and we go live together every week on Instagram at 7pm Bali Time on Sundays Tune in to hear Dan's magic and book a call with him here.

How did you get connected to the Mindful Life Practice?

I’ve always felt like I was part of the inception of Mindful Life Practice... :) one of Alex’s inspirational donors :)

What’s your relationship like with alcohol? (Are you sober - a mindful drinker - did you ever drink - etc?)

I’m a mindful drinker and don’t believe in having any type of substance to change my mood or feeling

What services do you offer on the Mindful Life Practice? (Describe what you offer so people can understand what it is)

Im a natural born psychic with over 18 years ’ experience in the fields of psychic readings, holistic healing, and providing spiritual guidance to people across the world.

Completely free of any particular religious beliefs, my readings are a reflection of your current situation, identification of the cause of certain situations or patterns in your life, and a practical guide to action-steps you need to take to realize your desired outcomes

It supports them by giving the tools and the answers for the next few steps Intuitive healing is showing yourself how you can use basic principles and steps to create the desired result; mindful, emotional and spiritual

QUICK Q&A

1. What’s your favourite food?

Fruit! Any type of fruit but when I’m naughty it’s french fries

2. What’s your favourite book? The colour purple by Alice Walker.

3. Where’s your favourite place in the world you’ve visited? Beirut, Lebanon

4. What are your hobbies?

Cooking, hearing the voices of nature and listening to music

5. If you could go out for dinner with anyone in the world - doesn't matter if they're still living or have already passed away - who would you have dinner with and why?

Right at this moment it would be my father, he passed away over 18 years ago and is the main reason I started my holistic practice. I would want him to hear about what changes I’ve helped create in peoples lives and how he is a part of that expression of love.

How can intuitive healing support people in sobriety?

Khaled Bayad

through Hypnosis but also through coaching sessions.

How can hypnotherapy support people in sobriety?

Khaled is our hypnotherapist and many of you have joined for our weekly yoga and hypnotic meditation session If you haven't tried it yet, it's free and you can book it here! Khaled does one-on-one sessions with individuals here. Read on to learn more about who Khaled is!

How did you get connected to the Mindful Life Practice?

I met the founder of MLPC, Alex, about a year ago through a Facebook group where she shared her beautiful journey of hers and I found it so resonating. That was where we connected and today through the work that we do together, we are truly inseparable. What’s your relationship like with alcohol? Thankfully, I've been sober for the past 6 years and I'm loving it.

What services do you offer on the Mindful Life Practice?

I'm a clinical Hypnotherapist certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists -USA (NGH) and a Trauma Coach at MLPC I help people to train their subconscious mind to create the life they're worthy of, by finding the "Root Cause" of their current challenges. In my one-to-one sessions, I guide members to heal a variety of mind - body connection matters by effectively releasing suppressed emotions and unwanted blockages from the past. I also help individuals to release their traumas in a very safe space not only

Hypnosis is a century-old technique that uses a progressive relaxation method in order to find the root cause of your addiction/drinking by accessing some very old memories which have caused you to your current challenges. By revisiting these events through Hypnotherapy, not only you'll realize what made you start drinking, but it will also help you to release suppressed emotions and unwanted experiences This emotional release and making peace with your past will create enhanced creativity and long-lasting positive changes in order for you to control your drinking addiction easily

QUICK Q&A

1. What’s your favourite food? Definitely Persian Food. (Not saying this because I'm Persian :))

2. What’s your favourite book? "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk

3. Where’s your favourite place in the world you’ve visited? New Delhi, India

4. What are your hobbies? Since I live in Bali, riding a bike through unknown places and beautiful scenery while listening to music is not only my hobby but it's also my kind of therapy.

5. If you could go out for dinner with anyone in the world - doesn't matter if they're still living or have already passed away - who would you have dinner with and why?

I would say Dr. Gabor Mate. He is a very well-known Hungarian-Canadian physician and author. He has a background in family practice, childhood development, and trauma. His approaches, books, and speeches made a great impact not only in my personal life but also in my professional career.

Matt Ellis

One of the first people to ever graduate the Mindful Life Practice Yoga Teacher Training, Matt aka Sober Yoga Dad is based in London, England! He has been working with us ever since he graduated and teaches the classic "Fri-YAY!" class at 6am Friday UK time (10am Dubai Time, 2pm Bali Time.) Join Matt and the UK crew for class here.

I do a 6AM UK class and call it "Friyay" yoga.

How did you get connected to the Mindful Life Practice?

I met Alex through One Year No Beer, I can't remember who befriended who, but it was very early sober days for me and I had started thinking about yoga and could I do it. I could never at the point We started chatting imagine what it would lead to I had tried yoga before when I was drinking and I never could like it I get motion sickness and a down dog was like a hard NO! Anyway as I started doing more and more yoga with Alex knew it was for me. In April 2021 during one of Alex's classes I had this powerful feeling that I had to become a yoga teacher and there and then I knew I had to train as a teacher I became one of Alex's first ever students, I'm proud to teach at MLPC. What’s your relationship like with alcohol?

I'm sober and on my birthday I will be 1000 days sober. I knew I would do a year, but 1000 days seemed like a great challenge. When I hit it, I honestly am not sure what is next..

My yoga is calm, starts off slow and gentle with a mini vinyasa flow thrown in followed always (probably) by Pigeon pose which I adore

What's the benefit of yoga in sobriety?

Yoga for me is pure mindfulness, it can take you to a place of calm and away from thoughts of numbing out the world, which alcohol definitely did for me

QUICK Q&A

1. What’s your favourite food? Asian probably

2. What’s your favourite book? The Comfort Book, by Matt Haig 3. Where’s your favourite place in the world you’ve visited? Mexico or Japan

4. What are your hobbies? Yoga, playing bass or Ukulele, surfing

5. If you could go out for dinner with anyone in the world - doesn't matter if they're still living or have already passed away - who would you have dinner with and why?

Bono, from U2, I do kind of love him! He's not for me, but has been a constant in my adult life.

What services do you offer on the Mindful Life Practice?

Yasir El Mahdi

Yasir is our Operations Manager, and also the layout editor of this magazine. He does everything behind the scenes If you have any issues with anything...don't hesitate to reach out!

How did you get connected to the Mindful Life Practice?

Through Alex. I feel like yoga was always calling I was always intrigued by it but didn’t have the time or space. One day a friend invited me to a charity yoga class for Make a Wish Foundation during International Yoga Day where Alex co-taught the class in a yoga studio here in Abu Dhabi. This was during the time Alex was still a full time grade one school teacher A few months later Alex was posting quotes from the book Meditation from the Mat by Rolf Gates I read the book and it changed my whole perspective on life. That’s when I made the promise to stick to my yoga practice. Fast forward to the pandemic 2020 when Alex started offering classes over zoom and I asked if I can join, a month later I offered to volunteer and that’s when I started working for the MLPC I always wonder what would’ve happened if I never asked to join her sessions

What’s your relationship like with alcohol?

I actually never tried it. I was always the athletic guy so I was never into it Actually, this is the first time I share this, but when I was at the age of drinking, when many people at my high school started drinking,

I remember one day a relative who was staying with us coming late one night stumbling and unable to get his keys into the key hole and barley able to walk to get to bed. Back then I made the promise to never touch a drink because I never wanna be in that situation. It gives me so much purpose working for the MLPC and Sober Girls Yoga and help anyone trying to explore the sober life. You guys rock!

What services do you offer on the Mindful Life Practice?

I work for the MLPC, my job is mostly all the behind the scenes including the on demand, bookings, organization, social media and all the tech stuff. I love this job and I enjoy doing it so much! If anyone has a problem or question please contact me and I’ll try my best to answer you.

QUICK Q&A

1. What’s your favourite food? Anything Italian, especially pizza!

2. What’s your favourite book?

Meditation from the Mat. Honorary mentions; The Art of Thinking Clearly & what we read recently in our Book Club, When you’re Ready, This is How to Heal.

3. Where’s your favourite place in the world you’ve visited?

Maryah Island, Abu Dhabi. I can’t get enough of it! I’m manifesting living there one day!

4. What are your hobbies?

Yoga, walking, cycling, making Instagram Reels and reading. I’m also adding cooking this year.

5. If you could go out for dinner with anyone in the world - doesn't matter if they're still living or have already passed away - who would you have dinner with and why?

Emma Watson. She’s elegantly smart. Fun fact: did you know that she’s a registered yoga teacher?

What to Do in Bali

By Alex McRobs

l e x ' s T o p L i s t

When people find out I live in Bali.. I get messages a lot about what I recommend to see or do while here!

I honestly find it a difficult task to give recommendations because everyone ’ s taste & budget for travel is sooo different.

However, I do want to give you some of my favorite spots, activities, etc and put it on one blog

a one-on-one mini day retreat with you. My schedule changes periodically as I travel frequently in and out of Bali, and I also am often hosting retreats My schedule will be visible at this link! Please send me a DM, an email alex@themindfullifepractice com or a Whatsapp +971 54 598 7373 if you have any questions for me!

UBUD

First of all...if you're thinking about coming to Bali...please check out one of my upcoming retreats or yoga teacher trainings! You can find my schedule here.

If you don't have a full week to stay, or the retreat is out of your budget...I also often do Sober Girls Yoga pop-up classes, and can do

I live in Ubud and it’s always been where my home & heart is which is why that’s where most of my recommendations are!

YOGA

First of all, Yoga Barn!

One of the reasons I moved to Bali was because I fell in love with Yoga Barn The classes are packed with more than 60 people It’s right in the center of the town,

This is the Yoga Barn Can you believe it's right in the middle of Ubud centre? It's like stepping off a busy street and into the magic of the jungle

UBUD YOGA CENTRE:

My favorite classes: Byron. I discovered Byron’s classes in January 2022 and he quickly became my fave. Byron always has wisdom, tied together with humour, challenges & fun! I go to Byron’s classes a few times a week (when it works with my schedule!) My favourite are his Power Yoga classes

UBUD YOGA HOUSE:

Paul I went to my first class with Paul in 2017 and got hooked! Right now I’m more into his Yin & Yang class on Wednesday afternoons, but all are great. If you go to the Wednesday class make sure you go early because there’s been a handful of times I’ve showed up and it’s already been full. My second favorite yoga spot in town is Ubud Yoga Centre, but that’s because I’ve weirdly entered this new Bikram Yoga phase of my yoga journey. It is completely different than the yoga I do with Byron & Paul at the yoga barn, but I love it! I go to regular Bikram classes at UYC with all the teachers on my days off from Yoga Barn. What I like about UYC is that it’s smaller, family oriented and classes usually have between 12-20 participants, making me feel really part of community but set back from the road enough that you truly feel like you ’ re in the middle of the jungle

I've connected with Sheila, the owner of Ubud Yoga House, and I really love her What I love about this place is that it's literally her house - the yoga space is a balcony overlooking the rice terraces. Sheila is so kind and sweet. She's let me use her space to run Sober Girls Yoga classes in the past I highly recommend checking out this placesmall, intimate classes and deep connection and friendships!

One of my Sober Girls Yoga Groups together after class at Ubud Yoga House.

HEALING:

I haven't actually been to the Pyramids of Chi yet for sound healing, but on the last retreat I taught on, the group loved their sound healing so much that many of them went back for a second experience! I did meet the group for lunch after, and was blown away by the delicious vegan and gluten free options I highly recommend checking this place out.

CAFES:

Ubud has THE best food scene in my opinion! I am vegan & gluten free, so my cafe choices

are somewhat limited. Here’s where I like to go:

ALCHEMY:

Alchemy is my top choice, and I go a few times a week I really like the champion breakfast plate They also have an amazing smoothie bar, really good salads, etc I like the halloumi cheese!

ZEST:

SAYURIS:

Sayuri's has a super chill vibe I like to find a spot in the garden cafe and work. Try the Norwegian-Style “Gravlax” Open Sandwich It's super yum!

Here's a picture of me and Maree at Sayuri's Maree is another amazing Sober Entrepreneur She co-ordinates sober retreats that I teach yoga on.

A yummy smoothie bowl at Zest (rom back in the day when I used to eat smoothie bowls - now I don't because the sugar in them caused me acne!)

Alchemy is my top choice, and I go a few times a week. I really like the champion breakfast plate. They also have an amazing smoothie bar, really good salads, etc. I like the halloumi cheese!

With one of my friends in Ubud

KAFE & GARDEN KAFE:

I list these two restaurants together because they share the same owner (along w/ Yoga Barn, Fresh, etc!) And they have similar menus. The Garden Kafe is attached to Yoga Barn and has many more vegan and GF options. I like the Tofu Scramble, The Cashew Ginger Tofu, and Rainbow Buddha Bowl.

FOR A NIGHT OUT:

FULL HOUSE UBUD:

My friend Kadek opened this bar in Ubud I personally don't go as it all seems to kick off past my bedtime, but from the Instagram stories, it looks like a good time.

OTOKAFE:

Otokafe has great live music in town. Check them out for Friday, Saturday and Sunday live music It's classic sing along songs!

MASSAGES/SPAS: ASIAN PROPHECY:

I started going to Asian Prophecy maybe six months ago - what I like about them is they're clean and close to my house I go for the Creambath there - it's a wash, head and shoulder massage with cream for your hair, and blow dry. I always come out of it feeling like a new woman!

FRESH SPA:

I LOVE Fresh Spa for Manicures, Pedicures, Massages, etc I love that it is retro styled, smells good...and the tea, snack and face mask they bring you is always a welcome treat! If you're looking for a spa while here I highly recommend it.

SKIN:

If you need a waxing while you're in Bali...highly recommend Skin!

PLACES TO STAY VILLA PECATU:

I am personally friends with the owners at Villa Pecatu I stayed there when I first came to Bali in 2021. It's great because its in the continue

This photo was taken when we shot one of the yoga series at the Royal Pita Maha That was my private pool! It was magical!

centre of town, walking distance to everything, and cheap and cheerful The family is so lovely and even invited me to their son's wedding a year after I'd stayed with them.

PITA MAHA & ROYAL PITA MAHA:

I stayed in these resorts to film the On Demand Yoga Classes that you can watch if you become a member of the platform here! It was absolutely magical. I got villas with private pools I think it's pricier now that covid is over and the quaratine is done, but it was definitely magical!

SANKARA:

I stayed at Sankara with one of my ex boyfriends when he came into town (lol). We loved it It was a magic hideaway, just off the beaten path, but still central. Highly recommend

I took this selfie at Sankara where I stayed with my Ex!

DRIVERS:

My friend Kadek Angga is always my go to driver around Bali If you need a driver, feel free to DM him on Instagram: @anggapecatu Tell him I gave you his contact information!

HIKES:

The Camphuan Ridge Walk is a nice short 2km hike which is right in the centre of Ubud

CANGUU

I liked to head down to Canguu from time to time on my motorbike Here's what I do while I'm there:

ZYCLE:

Zycle is the only spin studio on the island and has great spin classes. Definitely check it out if you're into that kind of thing!

ZIN CAFE & ZIN HOTEL:

I LOVE Zin Cafe! It is a fantastic co-working space, and I always make good connections while there. I like the Scrambled Tofu and the Zin Garden Vegetables I haven't stayed at the connected hotel, but it looks lovely.

UDARA: continue

Udara is a magical yoga retreat centre right on the ocean I actually haven't taken any classes here, but I did come down and meet a friend who was staying here and did a spa day. It was lovely!

I AM VEGAN BABE:

This is a great Vegan restaurant, with really yummy dishes

KUTA:

When I was learning to surf when I first

another branch of Alchemy Cafe, which again is a great gluten free, vegan spot

SIDEMAN:

Sideman is a remote area up in the jungle I stayed at Samanvaya while I was there and had a wonderful time TOURIST BUCKET LIST (These are all the activities I take my retreat groups on)

MOUNT BATUR SUNRISE HIKE:

arrived in Bali, I was taking Surf lessons down at Up2U Surf School. This was great. I enjoyed staying at the Pullman Hotel, eating at the Hard Rock Cafe, and doing typical touristy things!

ULUWATU

While in Uluwatu, I stayed at the Radisson, which I really liked. Uluwatu just opened up

This is absolutely magical! Do not miss it! I always take my retreat groups here. We do the sunrise hike followed by a soak in the hot springs

Alex first moved to Bali in October 2020 and has been living there ever since She always dreamed of living in Bali and working as a full time yoga teacher She was able to do so after quitting alcohol.

Here's me surfing in Kuta Watch the Youtube Video and see me epically fall and fail here!

I took this photo in 2020, when I visited with my friend Michelle.

THE MEDICINE MAN FROM EAT, PRAY, LOVE:

You can actually go and meet the Medicine Man from Eat Pray Love and get a palm reading. I take every retreat group here

WATER TEMPLE:

Go to the water temple to do a balinese purification ritual.

GATES OF HEAVEN:

this is where you can get your iconic photo with the mountain above you, and stunning reflection (which unfortunately is fake, with a mirror - lol). Here you can see a beautiful sunset and watch a fire dance A must see for a cultural experience of Bali!

Ok I think that is it for my Bali recommendations!

ULUWATU FIRE DANCE:

Please reach out on Instagram, Whatsapp or alex@themindfullifepractice if you're curious about joining for a retreat, doing a one-on-one mini retreat, or joining for a Sober Girls Yoga Class while you're here!

Love, Alex

This photo was taken with my cousin when she came to visit me in Bali.

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Sober Girls Yoga

Sobriety

The scent of lavender has always been something I’ve loved. When I was 13 I made a piece of art to illustrate all of my favourite things. Alongside artistic representations of guitar bands and a cherry lip gloss, I included a drawing of lavender! Something about essential oils I have always found slightly beyond words. The scent powerfully interacts with your cells in a very different way to say, a perfume. It’s not just about a nice smell; you feel a shift happening.

Essential Oils came into my life properly a few years ago. I was depressed, and I’d shared this on social media. An online friend sent me 3 small bottles of essential oils. They immediately made a positive impact on me. Did they cure me? No, of course not, but there was a lift, an immediate deep relief upon inhaling, and that, for the briefest of moments, was extremely supportive. I wanted more!

In one of my favourite songs that has helped my recovery, Sit Around the Fire by East Forest and John Hopkins featuring Ram Dass, Dass talks about an ‘ember’ This moment was a bit like discovering an ember in the ashes

"Within each of us there once was a fire. And for some of us it seems as though there’s only ashes now But when we dig in the ashes we find one ember and very gently we fan that ember Blow on it, it gets brighter. And from that ember we rebuild the fire. The only thing that’s important is that ember ”

The ember was self care. I started to do yoga on YouTube I read voraciously about mental health and

and spirituality. Then I decided to train in yoga I developed a spiritual practice, all the while growing my oils collection every month instead of buying wine, and learning more and more - mainly through my own use

I have to say (there is no learning to be done which betters that of your own experience)

I trained as a holistic coach. Then in Reiki… All the time using oils to complement each modality. Things started landing and I felt big shifts. Before I knew it I was on a healing path, quitting alcohol once and for all, and completely retraining in holistic wellbeing. Not only was I using oils to calm my 3 kids (lavender), to apply to my skin (frankincense, cedarwood, copaiba), to add to my tumble dryer (wild orange), plus to my daily water (lemon, peppermint, grapefruit), to bring focus to my ADHD-brain (Lemon, Rosemary), to do yoga with (Patchouli), or to meditate (again Frankincense) - and of course for sleep (Vetiver, Chamomile). But I was also investigating them to use energetically; as a pathway to greater expansion of the mind.

Adaam Barallet, in his book Gifts of the Essential Oils, says

“In times when new pathogens are finding ways to evolve beyond the capacities of pharmacology essential oils are here as guardians and allies to guide you through times that challenge you physically, emotionally and spiritually… a potent gift from Mother Earth bestowed upon us to guide us home to love, reclaim our birthright to health, vitality, joy, mental harmony and spiritual awakening, just as the universe and our soul intended.”

Howdoessential oilswork? continue

Essential oils are the essence of a plant, distilled and used for health and energetic benefits. Inside roots, seeds, flowers, bark, are highly potent chemical compoundsessential oils. They give a plant its scent, protect it from hazardous environmental conditions, and even assist it with pollination, among other important functions and benefits Through the careful process of distillation or extraction, the same properties that protect or regenerate in the plants themselves can be utilised by us

Each essential oil varies in its natural makeup, so aromas and benefits are also unique Used around the home or on the body as an alternative to often very harmful synthetic materials, they provide a holistic and highly effective solution for those looking to be healthier in a more natural and safe way This is really important as we learn more about the root causes of disease and find ways to live better, for the highest good of all - especially the planet.

What I have always been most drawn to when working with oils is their emotional evel

(by energetic I mean harnessing the plant wisdom as a conduit to ‘higher plains’ when meditating, doing Reiki or yoga).

Essential oils directly impact the limbic system in the brain, which is where our emotions and memories come from By using oils, we can kind of ‘hack’ the inner systems of how we behave, creating a useful tool for helping soothe or relax, or even building aromatic anchors in situations that previously caused us stress.

All essential oils are not created equal

This is so important - a brief interlude on safety and purity. A very cheap ‘oil’ on offer at the local pharmacy for a few coins is not the same thing as a 100% pure, natural essential oil, farmed sustainably - and extracted carefully and respectfully Anyone is allowed to put the words natural and pure on their labels, sadly So many oils are synthetic and have no trace of pure oil in them, or very, very little Using these types of oils on our skin and even in the air can be very harmful so choose wisely when purchasing Remember, a little goes a long way. Internal use is only ever advised with top quality oils Start with just one if budget is a priority. (Only choosing one? Lavender, Lemon or Peppermint are inexpensive and multi purposeful)

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word on hot and citrus oils…

Some oils are ‘hot’. This means they must be diluted and never taken internally Oregano, cinnamon, clove, cassia are examples. Citrus oils are phototoxic which means you can burn badly when putting them on the skin, even diluted, and going outside - so please use caution Aromatic dressing (anointing the skin directly is great, but do so under clothes to be sure of safety)

How to use oils

You can use oils 4 ways

By simply inhaling an oil, you are, in fact, ‘taking’ it into your body. Your nose has glands which receive the oils (remember they are volatile compounds so that means they evaporate into the air immediately on leaving the bottle). Oils do benefit from dilution, as the carrier oil prevents them from entering the atmosphere - and instead into your skin Also it means they last longerthese are potent oils so remember less is more So using them topically directly on your skin, either on pulse points or on acupressure points, is a great (my favourite) way to use oils I make up rollers with all my oils - 25 drops to a 10ml roller and top up with fractionated coconut oil.

Diffusing oils is becoming more and more popular - and great for when doing yoga or working at your desk. Simply add a few drops to your diffuser and add water to create an ambience in your room to energise, relax or inspire

Lastly, and please use caution hereand only ever with advice from someone who is educated on essential oils as to which oil, from which quality assured brand to use - internal use is sometimes appropriate I take a drop of lemon oil in my large (metal or glass only) bottle of water every day. If concerned, simply use them in other ways

Essentialoilsfor sobriety

My journey into alcohol use disorder recovery began about 5 years ago. My actual healing journey in earnest I would say only started 3 years ago I started to use essential oils as a pathway into that. They have been a catalyst for me into wellbeing, and ultimately into a more steadfast recovery

I would imagine myself, tucked up in bed at night, using my oils, journaling As opposed to room spinning, stinking of alcohol and cigarettes!

Essential oils came to represent this new version of me This health loving, meditator, yogi, coach - lover of a low tox life - hater of toxic chemicals So when I stumbled occasionally and went back to drinking, it was very much out of alignment with this ‘ new me ’ I had extreme cognitive dissonance. Until I finally let go of my addiction and threw myself into holistic wellbeing, thanks in no small part to the oils.

Oils become a symbol for me of purity, health, nature - and freedom. I would apply my oil protocols (daily routines) in the morning, all day and in the evening, and they would hold me steady. Like a healthy crutch that nourished, rather than poisoned.

*These practices are taken from Gifts of the Essential Oils book, by Adam Baralet

Grapefruit: Oil of Self Love

Grapefruit Oil is great for cravings. Add a toothpick drop of it under your tongue or add a drop to water. A good oil to aid breast health Use diluted after a shower

*Add a few drops of grapefruit to carrier oil or plain lotion and anoint yourself Affirm that you love yourself and you are beautiful. Be careful in sunlight as grapefruit is phototoxic Spearmint: Oil of Deeper Seeking

Use spearmint diluted on the throat when you wish to speak your truth

A wonderful addition to a diffuser with grapefruit and clary sage

*Inhale Spearmint in times of heavy emotions Visualise green light washing over you, washing away your sadness.

Wild Orange: Oil of Joy

A drop of happiness. Wonderful for depression Try one drop rubbed in your hands and inhaled to remember your worth Affirm, I am enough (simply because I am alive).

Orange is also the oil of abundance - I like to diffuse with Frankincense when working to attract and magnetise wealth

*Take off your shoes and socks and ground yourself on grass or similar Inhale Wild Orange and affirm that ‘life is joyful’. Notice a shift

Vetiver: Oil of Stillness

Vetiver is a gorgeously scented sedative. Use 1 drop on the soles of your eet for a deep sleep Vetiver is lovely for meditation too.

working with Smokey Quartz and Vetiver ther Whisper concerns into the crystal release the concerns.

ess Oil of Flow (and Let Go)

nhaling Cypress is like forest bathing when you can’t do it! Close your eyes and imagine you are surrounded by rees

Try on the soles of your feet to ground

and keep your emotional balance. Brilliant for stressful mornings getting kids out the door!

*When you wish to let go of something or someone that is holding too great an attachment for you, light a candle and visualise them Inhale cypress and then blow out the candle to release.

Clary Sage: Oil of Perspective

In the moments when you can’t remember why you are doing this or perhaps you are being triggered go to Clary Sage for clarity and perspective

Add to the diffuser with spearmint and grapefruit for a blend called ‘Pixi Dust’

*Try being creative in some way and working with Clary Sage Engage with less the physical shape of what you might sketch, but the vibrational elements Have fun!

Arborvitae: Oil of Steadfastness

Frankincense - Oil of the Divine Masculine

Frank is a powerful oil to remind us of our innate divinity. Often used for meditation, it’s also a very powerful oil to aid in cellular support Try adding one drop to a glass of water or adding one drop to your third eye chakra for brain support and increased intuition

Remember that each of us has the divine masculine within us This is a powerful and loving force. Inhale Frank when you need to remind yourself of the loving protection that the Universe offers us all, unconditionally.

Also recommended: add a fractionated coconut oil and a diffuser

Reach out to Rachel on her Instagram @iamrachelbrady or by email with any questions: hello@rachel-brady.com

This oil fends off distractions and negativity and all that is not for you. (Just as the tree does to insects that try to feast on its bark). Try adding a drop to your crown chakra (the spot on your scalp) and meditating when you feel drawn to addictive behaviours - or you are about to enter a space where those things are present. I love to work with Petitgrain when considering my higher purpose. It also has a wonderful, mellow citrus scent - and it is lovely as a ‘purefume’. When planning things around your sobriety or a recovery plan, work with Petitgrain to give a feel of solid foundation

Petitgrain: Oil of Solid Foundation and Purpose

Sober Girls Yoga Community Interview

Meet Kate! 30, 60 and 108 Day Challenger. We caught up with one of our amazing students and

interviewed her for our second issue. Kate joined us in September of last year and is currently part of the 108 Day lovely group Get to know our start for this month…

Hi Kate! Tell us a little bit about yourself! Who is Kate?

Hello MLPC community - I'm a 45 year old, marketing technology leader, wife and mom of one, almost seven-year-old girl named Juniper. I moved from New York, NY to Austin, TX 15 years ago while following some career goals, and after living here for about a year, I met my soulmate, Jason - the only Texan I've ever met who was a tried and true Boston, Red Sox fan - and his hat caught my eye! We married in 2011 and we've lived here in the Austin area ever since.

How did you meet Alex?

I came across the MLPC and Sober Girls Yoga through another provider I was working with focusing on drinking less I had began thinking about taking a yoga retreat

and told this person how I was frustrated in not finding the type of retreat I was looking for. She said another client of hers had shared that they had found the MLPC and they loved it! Together we pulled it up online It was truly, exactly what I was looking for - and I signed up for the 30 Day Sober Girl Yoga Challenge with Alex the very next day

What inspired you to start practicing yoga?

I had always loved yoga from a very young age When I moved to Austin and didn't know anyone and needed to build a community - I took an Ashtanga beginners series and fell in love! Sadly, the studio I was connected to has since closed down There have been many peaks and valleys in my practice over the years, and yoga is always there when I need it the most During one period of intense grief, I channeled my grief by taking my 200 hr YTT - I graduated with that in 2017. Then, I hit another low of not practicing as much as I'd like and of course, the pandemic had its own series of continue

challenges - I so wish I had known about this community then - but, at least I'm here now!

Have you ever had any experience with yoga before joining the MLPC?

Yes, although I'm coming back after a pretty low, low in terms of practicing and feeling good about myself and my practice I know it will come back, and that is why I'm even more motivated and excited for the upcoming retreat at the end of January.

What’s your connection to the MLPC?

It's all new to me since September, 2022 when I started with the 30 Day Sober Girls Yoga challenge. Once I was near the end of that, I extended to the 60 day and now I'm currently in the 108 day challenge. I will also be attending the Sober Girls Yoga Bali Retreat this coming Jan/Feb!

How did you end up being so committed to yoga?

I think based on the ebbs and flows of my practice, a better question for me to answer, is "why do you keep coming back to yoga?" - and for me, I didn't know the words to put to it specifically - it has always been more of a feeling. I feel safe and happy. However, I recently read a passage from Kino MacGregor on her facebook page, and

said out-loud, "that's it!" - that is why I always go back to yoga. From Kino, "There are places within each of us that remain eternally private. It's almost like a blanket of quietude that can never be pierced Entering that inner sanctuary, where really truly only you as your true self can be, is the work of yoga yoga is a personal practice So take the time to dive deeply down into the layers of yourself that only you can penetrate "

Did you face any challenges?

I have been saving this email for months, so I'll update the question to include challenges from the month of December - and the answer is yes! I'm working through many challenges - between prepping for the holidays, managing people's expectations about gifts and visits for the holidays, as well as everyday challenges of managing my career, motherhood and everything that comes with those things. My biggest area of opportunity to is to better manage my time, and use that time on the things I really want to accomplish. I have not made as much time for yoga or connecting with the MLPC community this month, but I hope to do better in the coming months Specifically, I continue

hope to do more yoga! My biggest goal is to wake up earlier and use that time in the mornings more productively. I know I can do it, I just need to get started!

What are the biggest benefits you’ve reaped from your yoga practice?

I think this has evolved over time as wellthere has always been the physical benefit of better flexibility and fitness, but currently, the biggest benefit has been reconnecting to something that I love and helping me work through my desire to stop drinking. I think reconnecting with yoga and this community has helped me reach a goal that I was previously not able to commit to I think the breath work, meditation and nervous system regulation have helped calm my anxiety and reduce my desire to want to drink - then there is the accountability and connection with the group that helps maintain the ability to not drink!

What’s your favorite posture?

Right now, while still working myself back into a more consistent practice, my current favorite posture is Svasana :) When I'm more consistent with my practice I really love seated twists, (mariachyasan c) and supine twists (supta matsyendrasana)

What’s your most difficult posture?

I'm always trying to perfect my downward dog - and I haven't ever done headstands!

What is your favorite type(s) of yoga? And why?

While my most intense work with yoga was Ashtanga, there is a time and a place for that type of intensity, and that is not where I'm at right now. These days I prefer a general hatha yoga with some vinyasa flow I particularly love our evening yoga with MPLC that is much more yin focused and totally relaxing!

Any words of wisdom to those just starting out?

Be gentle with yourself Do what you can and keep practicing! Yoga isn't a competition - it is a practice, and the more you do it, the more your confidence will grow! Connecting breath and movement is yoga, you don't have to be flexible or master a posture to be a yogi!

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Dear Sober Coach

MEET SOBER COACH SARAH.

Sarah has spent the last 12 years coaching and mentoring people who've struggled with their addictions and mental health, she knows that choosing to change your relationship with alcohol before you hit rock bottom is a powerful and positive choice to make

Sarah is passionate about spreading the message that our lives can be joyful and fun on the other side of our drinking careers and there's no need to feel lonely, stressed or bored on this journey.

Dear Sober Coach Sarah,

I would like to know how you navigated friends invites? Birthday nights out being arranged months in advance? Or meet up for drinks and a catch up at the pub? These are the things I find hard, I don’t really want to be around other people drinking, but so much of my life is around the pub and nobody really wants to meet for a coffee on a Saturday morning, they want to meet for a drink on an evening after work. How can I approach these situations?

Thank you, NH

Dear NH,

Thanks so much for your question/s All of these old circumstances need a fresh approach once we make the choice to take alcohol out of the equation I cannot tell you exactly what is right for you but I can certainly share some of my experiences and insights.

I find it difficult being out in the evenings at this time of year and double difficult meeting people in the pub for drinks I no longer love drinking cold drinks in the eve especially when it's cold outside (I'm making the assumption that you're in the Northern hemisphere), I'd rather be drinking tea and not have to travel!

I started inviting my friends to do new activities once I had decided I was going to stick with sobriety for an extended period I totally

appreciate your friends might not want to do a coffee on a Saturday morning so how about one of these: A dog walk (borrow one if you need to), a cinema trip (I know not great for a chat but still good for spending time together and enjoying a shared experience), bowling (where the focus might not be quite so much on drinking), an escape room, brunch out in a cafe or invite people to your house. You could invite a friend to call round on their way home from work for a cuppa and piece of cake or for dinner If these relationships are really important to you you will find a common ground to meet on it might just take a period of adjustment

I now accept that one of the reasons I used to drink so much was that I'm an introvert, I used alcohol to make uncomfortable situations more bearable and, for me, I often needed the alcohol to 'enjoy' group get togethers I now prefer to socialise in much smaller groups, or 1:1 and most of my socialising tends to be done during the day (I realise I might sound like a Granny as I say this but I'm prepared to tell you the truth)

One of my greatest joys in sobriety has been making new friends, sober ones Use the Sober Girls Yoga Facebook group post that everyone adds their location in Scroll through and see if anyone lives anywhere near you then make contact and see if they want to meet up If you are on Instagram use appropriate hashtags to find local sober people Eventbrite lists sober events Google search sober/alcohol free listings.

Over the last few years there are more and more of us out there living our sober lives, supporting others who are coming behind us to do the same I thought I had all the friends I was ever going to need before I stopped drinking and now I have many more amazing people in my life that I never expected.

If your old friends don't want to leave the pub setting then be brave and try some new activities yourself. What have you always wanted to do but never quite found the time, energy or money for? If you are saving money by not spending it on alcohol is there a lovely evening class you'd like to join, a dance class, singing, painting, drawing... anything where you will meet new people where the activity is creative or educational and not based around what we are drinking is a good spend of your time I started pottery classes last year and I am rubbish at it but I LOVE it!

Good Luck NH and remember if your friends don't/won't/can't cheer you on in your sobriety you've got the whole SGY community to do that for you

Best wishes, Sarah

Dear Sober Coach Sarah

I'm really enjoying Dry January and will probably choose to have a Dry Spring this year too but I am worried about telling my friends and family about this - I think they will probably judge me. Do you have any advice?

Dear FR,

Congratulations on your Dry January and I'm delighted to hear you are considering a Dry Spring! Good for you! When I was newly sober I struggled with telling my social circle I found myself over explaining my choice to colleagues, oversharing on a mums night out and justifying my choice to a waitress in a bar! I'm never normally like this!

And why?

Maybe because I like to people please? Saying 'yes' comes so naturally to me I had these ridiculous thoughts that turning down a G and T at a leaving party felt unsociable, saying no to fizz at a birthday felt rude and that replying that I’d prefer a soft drink at the races was not playing the hospitality game correctly.

I didn’t want anyone else to feel uncomfortable I was in discomfort myself and didn’t want to share it. I didn’t want anyone to have to make a special effort for me and I didn’t want a light shone on my choice or anyone to ask me any questions about it

I was NERVOUS and a bit SCARED BUT This has all been a gift of a lesson. With the passing of time I’ve become so much more practiced and therefore better at saying no

to the alcohol pushers (and I used to be one of the worst alcohol pushers – "go on surely one won’t hurt")!!

People displeasing has become so much easier (and of course no one is really displeased – that was all my own interpretation of a situation that simply only existed in my overworked mind and not reality).

Being alcohol free has allowed me to stop worrying so much what others think in all areas of my life and I am crystal clear about the fact that my choices are about me and not about anyone else – and I’m pleased about that.

If you'd like a book recommendation The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban is an excellent read and very helpful on this subject.

Good luck and best wishes, Sarah

The question should not be, "am I an alcoholic?"

The question should be, "is alcohol helping me be who I want to be or is it getting in the way?"

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Sober Girls Yoga Sober Journey

By Yasmine Dalloul

And like a true Millennial, how social am I really? I never think about alcohol when I’m curled up on the

dinner I never think about alcohol after a long, hard day at work - no, I’m thinking about marching to the Italian deli down the street and getting myself a personal pizza Carbohydrates, dairy, and charcuterie have always been more an addiction to me than spirits, beers, and wine.

But, when the party starts, it’s hard to want it to stop. Especially when said party consists of nobody but the people you like best: your friends. Does this mean your friends are your vice?

I was about to find out because one week into my Dry January journey, I decided to put my newfound sobriety to the test. I was going to hang out with my friends on a Saturday night.

This particular group of friends happens to be my main crew, and we LOVE drinking together That being said, that isn’t all we do: we also enjoy meals, spill tea, read tarot cards, go for walks, dance, laugh, go on cottage trips, and frolic together while sharing news - both global and menialevery day across several different social media and communications platforms But a lot of the time, we do these things with

This is my first sober journey in a long time. I’ve never had much of an issue with alcohol, as I only drink socially.

several bottles of wine in hand, especially on a weekend night, during a holiday, or in the summer. But they knew what my January was looking like, and I’ve seen glimpses of support they had towards our other friends who attempted dry Januaries, Februaries or Novembers in the past I was not the first to do this, nor would I be the last They insisted it would be fine, and I knew I had to find the balance between learning how to hang out with my friends sober and accepting the fact that they can totally drink!

I was nervous, going into it with jokes: “I’m over January already, guys I can’t believe I have to be sober for a whole month.” I wasn’t sure I actually meant this, but the smell of full-bodied reds spilling out of the bottle and into large-bowled wine glasses was enough to make me about ready to ditch my selfproclaimed challenge and a new search for a better life and curl up with a glass of wine with my two pals. I wanted to laugh with them and gossip and be part of what our triad had always embodied.

“Oh, babe, I brought you this juniper berry tonic. It looks really good!” One of them told me as we walked into our host for the evening’s apartment. On top of that, our host greeted me with an array of sparkling water in his fridge, telling me he could make me an alcohol-free cocktail. I was touched, needless to say

And when a fourth friend popped in after having journeyed from across town in the deep freeze of the Canadian winter toting several cans of refreshing alcohol-free mocktail mixes, I was ready to burst with gratitude My friends were so supportive, and I knew that it made no difference to them whether I would drink or not

And it didn’t - we laughed till we cried, frolicked, ate delicious snacks, made fun of an old 90s movie we had playing in the background, did tarot readings, and hung out like normal and it was still just as fun. And, I felt the added warmth of their support, knowing that we can always have a good time like always even if I’m not actually drinking.

But the most interesting part of it all? I always heard this would happen: when you ’ re hanging out with people who are drinking while you ’ re forgoing the alcohol, you notice the difference The initial

Littlefacts:

Yasmine is one of the original members who joined during the pandemic She also was the co-host of Alex’s first podcast Chaturanga.

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Poetry

Sober Poetry

By Elizabeth Gade

Elizabeth Gade is a US based bisexual writer, certified peer support worker and yoga teacher in training. As a human trafficking survivor, her lived experience of abuse and incarceration drives her to write and serve her community. She views writing as a radical way to

show up in the world while connecting to fellow survivors. Her poems have been published or are forthcoming in The View Magazine, The Elevation Review, 300 Days Of Sun, Other Worldly Women Press, The GroundUp, The Lindenwood Review & Nine Cloud Journal.

Alcohol Free

Every day I drank to drown a story of shame now I write every day to share an authentic message of hope of survival

I made it and so can you

I believe in you and those shaking tentative steps into the unknown even when the fear threatens to pull you under with clarity comes connections and I’ll wait for you, my dear friend for as long as it takes until we are both standing in the sunlight

Body Of Mine

This poem is for my body what anchors me to this earth keeps me grounded in this world

my most hated possession what holds all my hate and resentment stores all the trauma works even when I’m tired and I haven’t told it thank you or I love you in a very long time maybe it’s been forever since I allowed my body rest and appreciation this beautifully wretched body of mine prone to decay and destruction how many days borrowed against time how many favors owed

and still it persists this body of mine even as it’s undervalued and overused

viewed as mundane this poem is for my body a recognition olive branch finally extending I see you body and it’s an honor to call you mine I invite you body to come and sit still with me to be with me body of mine the meeting of self

Sober Girls Yoga Teacher Interview

By Yasir El Mahdi Questions by Alex McRobs

Meet Rachel! A true power horse. Rachel first joined us in 2021 Ever since she’s been involved in so many

programs including the 200 Hour YTT, Sober Curious YTT, 300 Hour YTT and now Yoga Sutras Study She also joined the amazing group of women in the Mexico Manifestation Retreat last year! We love how committed she is to her healing journey Read more about our recent 300 Hour Yoga Teacher Training Grad!

Tell us a little bit about you:

I’m Rachel, I have 3 kids aged 12, 10, and 4. I live in the beautiful Peak District in the UK, where we renovated a farmhouse several years ago. I’m married to Adam who I met at university and I have a dog, 2 cats and a rabbit! I’m a digital marketer and blogger/YouTuber, turned holistic coach, yoga teacher, reiki 2 practitioner and

essential oils guide. I teach with the MLPC and trained with Alex in 200hr, then 300hrand also the sober curious YTT 30hr I have even been on the Mexico Retreat with the MLPC - and consider the MLPC a big part of my life, and my sober community.

How long have you been alcohol free for?

I recently changed how I use my words around this topic. I have been in recovery for 5 years, i e I started my sober curious journey in 2017. As I write, my day count is 45 days And I fully intend this day count to keep on clocking up and up! I have done so much work leading up to this. For me it’s happened in spirals, which is something Alex taught me - we learn in spirals - we keep encountering the thing, and then one day it just lands. Well, it’s landed, not to say my journey has stopped, though And the MLPC has been a big part of that for me

What was the point that made you want to quit drinking?

There have been many I consider myself a former binge / grey area drinker. My addiction was less physical (in that I didn’t need to detox), rather it was primarily psychological and spiritual - my brain had hard wired itself to crave when in certain situations, good or bad - or even ‘meh’ situations! Did I have a rock bottom? Not really. But I definitely had moments when I was hurting loved ones with my behaviour and also putting myself at risk. My daughter also had started to speak about it, and I’d promise her I was done - and then I wasn’t That scared me - I was choosing wine over my kids This gave me a big wake up call Ultimately though, as one of my favourite writers, Elizabeth Gilbert (also sober) said, ‘ one day you just tired of your own b*llshit’.

Who and what inspired your sober journey in the early days?

Sober groups, most of which I no longer belong to - as I really did find my people when I came to the MLPC. I also would find it helpful to think of cool people that I admire in the public eye that got sober - like musicians, comedians, writers, celebrities That still helps me Quit Lit I found deeply supportive, and sober podcasts too. Someone in the MLPC actually said once, “Wallpaper your world in sobriety” and that is so true in the early days The biggest inspiration though is waking up early on a Saturday morning and taking your fresh coffee outside to birdsong I mean, that never gets old.

When did your yoga practice come into your journey - was it before or after sobriety?

I had dabbled in yoga on and off over the years. In lockdown (the first one I did

drinking a lot and the second one I did sober) I started to do yoga on YouTube daily. For the first time ever I completed a 30 day yoga challenge After that a friend in the UAE introduced me to Alex on Instagramshe had been practising with Alex in person when Alex lived there, then had transitioned to online with the MLPC in lockdown Almost immediately I signed up to do the YTT! It was pretty mad, I’m not even sure what drove me to do that I blame the universe!

Who and what inspired your yoga journey in the early days?

I loved Yoga With Adriene to start with Then Elena Brower, who is now my essential oils mentor Mostly though? Alex She is an amazing teacher. I once told her that I often found other people’s classes ‘dry’. By that I mean no connection No music No emotion. Even today I will practise online occasionally with very well known sites and famous teachers and turn the class off halfway through if I just haven't connected with it. For me, yoga is a deeply emotional and healing practice. I have to feel inspired, and Alex embodies that for me She will make you laugh, cry - all the things. I hope my classes are similar in that respect A yoga class should be like art – it should be confronting and create a reaction

How has yoga enhanced your sober journey?

It’s been at the core of my recovery The idea of holistic healing is very important to me and that’s what my business is now focused on. We have all heard about mind, body and soul But to be on the healing or recovery journey and then for that concept to actually start to land for you? It’s amazing. The idea of integration Embodiment Coming together of mind (awareness of thought), body (stretching and movement as a way to release trauma and stuck emotion), and soul (discovering a deep sacredness and connection to the universe) Yeah, it’s pretty cool! True Yoga (the eight limbs, of which Asana - the posture practice is only one) is what Alex teaches. Even in her asana classes she subtly does that With reference to sobriety, addiction is a mind, body and soul problem. The only way to heal it (which is different to just ‘not drinking’) is with a holistic solution in my opinion. Your mind is likely anxious and depressed; your body is physically craving, and also holding onto some trauma - and your soul? You may feel disconnected - probably fairly cynicaland also separate to others. There might be judgement, tribalistic tendencies - an ‘ us and them’ mindset. Like, ‘I’m right and you ’ re wrong ’ In Yoga, we dissolve separation It is a system for living, and offers a solution to those things It’s very simple, but also incredibly complex.

How has yoga enhanced your sober journey?

I always say, I’m not a ‘spinning on my head’ type of teacher (I mean, that’s not actually a pose but you get my point!) My yoga is slow and stretchy. It’s about coming home to your body Quieting the mind Listening to your body - where are the niggles? I cry

sometimes on the mat. Showing up is yoga. It’s more and more about my life off the mat This may sound like mumbo jumbo, just hippy dippy words, but keep showing up and you’ll start to understand. At least that’s my hope for everyone who tries yoga

What made you want to become a yoga teacher?

Honestly, divine inspiration or something made me sign up to Alex’s training! I had recently quit an in-person YTT. It was very triggering for me I did most of the intensive week, but in the studio I found myself feeling inferior, less than Looking back I was very much still hurting, and in the early stages of my healing and recovery. I was still fragile It was right that I left When I trained with Alex I was lucky enough to get her 121, so it was awesome Like a friend teaching you. I am so lucky. She gently brought out my confidence I found my voice I even sang to her in the throat chakra module!! I was so scared. But she inspired me. I sang Joni Mitchel’s River with my eyes closed I was so nervous - and then she said she had actually dropped out (of Zoom) at the beginning. I laughed so hard! She’d missed the whole thing! Like I say, the MLPC is not a normal teacher training ground!

What does yoga mean to you personally?

Yoga is about integration. It means Union. Literally the bringing together of mind, body and soul. Recognition of our innate sacredness Ending separation

Has anything changed about your perspective on yoga since becoming a yoga teacher?

All of it I thought yoga was about doing headstands. It’s actually about living with love continue

What are your hopes and dreams for your sober yoga journey in 2023?

I’m working on a holistic healing program - a deep transformation in mind, body and soul as this is what I have experienced - and this is for ALL people in recovery I’ve learned that recovery doesn’t always mean alcohol recovery either Recovery from trauma, mental health challenges - we are all recovering from something I feel that my own sober yoga journey will deepen and allow me to better guide others through practices of yoga, reiki and working with essential oils as a conduit to their deepest self

What impact do you want to have on the world with your work?

I want to help people in their own healingand in turn to create healers, who in turn help others heal. I see healing as a ripple effect and I think it’s the most important work in the world. This may sound grandiose, but if we look at the last century and what it taught us, it’s that traumatised people (sadly, mainly men) start wars. If we are to evolve as humans, I believe healing is the most important thing on earth. Raising women up to take their place at the table, and allowing men to be ‘male’ in a new way. The patriarchy in particular I believe will dissolve. And we will collectively heal into a new way of being. I see spirituality growing and holistic practices being taken more seriously, which is great. This is about the planet, politics, economics, everything I think I have a role in that. We all do, actually.

What do you love to do when you’re not doing

yoga?

Walk my dog with my ear pods in, listening to a podcast by Russell Brand or someone like that Cook (I used to be a food blogger!)

"Showing up is yoga."

What are some of your self care practices?

I have a morning and evening practice which varies but is always there. In the morning at the moment, I do a Gabby Bernstein meditation and journaling, followed by a quick note in my Yogic Path journal I also pull a card from my beloved oracle deck by Kyle Gray who is a British angel guide. This has become HUGE in my life I never thought I would be someone who had a relationship with angels, but I do! There, I just ‘outed’ myself!I feel very strongly a connection to my angel guide And it’s the most beautiful thing Oils, too Daily, for my body and mind I journal every night in bed for quite a long time! Writing is how I get to know myself Gabor Mate, who is a huge influence on me, says “I need to write to express myself, not so others hear me, but so I hear myself". I totally second that!

Go-to health food or drink? What advice would you have for someone who is just sober curious and dipping their toes into sober curiosity?

Dig deep Explore spirituality - and what that means to you. It doesn’t have to be religious. Or angels Maybe for you it’s nature The stars. What gives you a sense of awe? Of magic? Reconnect with that part of you, that child There is absolute gold there Open your heart and mind and see how wonderful life can be That wonderment will guide you home.

Favourite yoga, spiritual or selfimprovement book?

Heart Minded by Sarah Blondin The audio is mind blowing. Her voice and words will have you in pieces I also love all of Gabby Bernstein’s work and probably The Universe Has Your Back is my favourite Her work really opened my eyes to spirituality.

I love a homemade juice - maybe kale, cucumber, apple, ginger - something spicy and fresh like that. Or a cup of cacao, all frothy and made sweet with some maple syrup.

Holistic remedy you swear by?

Many people know me as the oils girl! I am a huge advocate for essential oils and it’s even become part of my holistic business. The ‘energetic’ power for me of (only high quality - that is so important) essential oils has been a big part of my journey

My favourite oil is Petitgrain, which is a little known, stunning citrus oil that is great for when you are working on your purpose. Or Spearmint, which helps when you want to lean in and hear the whispers of your soul. Favourite/most inspiring quote?

When we were in Mexico, I had a full on mental meltdown midweek. The next day Alex led a yoga class and at the end played a song with Ram Dass’s words - I cried so hard through the whole class, sadness just enveloped me, and when I heard those words it changed my life - the idea that there is one ember (of hope) and that’s all you need: “Within each of us there once was a fire And for some of us it seems as

though there’s only ashes now. But when we dig in the ashes we find one ember and very gently we fan that ember. Blow on it, it gets brighter And from that ember we rebuild the fire. The only thing that’s important is that ember ” The song is by John Hopkins and East Forest and is called Sit Around the Fire.

If you could take a class as a student with any teacher from anywhere and from any period of time who would it be with and why?

I would love to sit with Ram Dass and just talk. I would love to talk to all the greats. That’s my absolute favourite thing, to hear wise words and life changing ideas

Sober Girls Yoga Poetry

Written by An Anonymous Contributor

I feel like shit.

My heads a shed.

Think I’ll just go back to bed.

Negative mood. Maybe I need food. Feel this bad every day. Something has to change. Got stuff to arrange Cancelled appointments Emails unsent. I had good intentions

At the start of the year. I’m stuck in this cycle. Of making plans Yet once again Getting on my bicycle Heading off to the shop

At midnight Oh what a sight. Thank god it’s only moonlight. I know what to do Put down the booze

Quit the cigs Whiten my teeth It can all be repaired

Once again my life is spared One day it will end Be found by a friend Surrounded by the mess

Of a month long binge Then sober life will begin How long will it last Time goes so fast

For all my friends Clocking up the years

They have no fears

For me it goes slow

The dark days below Two weeks feels like a lifetime

If I had a dime For every failed attempt I’d surely be rich by now I hate red wine With a passion Prosecco is more in fashion

It’s ethanol anyway You put it in your car every day We dress it up to be luxury A treat for all festivities

It’s bullshit loud and clear Poisoning every bone and cell The people making the money Think we can’t tell They will have you believe That it’s only a wretched few Sat on a park bench Bottle in hand That’s not true No way does it affect Only a few

It starts with party lifestyle That’s while you are in denial It ends just you All alone

Staring down your empty glass Thinking you wished you’d done better in class. Then maybe you would have never Picked up the glass. One day I’ll quit this And hopefully it will be forever.

IN LOVING Memory

Judson Hanna August 23,1982 - May 29, 2021

By Jami Hanna

How a Podcast, a Jungle in Bali, and an Angel Named Alex Changed the Trajectory of my Grief Journey

FOR JUDSON, WHO LEFT TOO SOON.

I am Jami. I have two children, one who walks, and one who soars. On May 29th, 2021, my precious son, Judson, died by suicide. The shock, trauma and aftermath took me to a place so low I do not have words to describe it I would never have believed that one year later, to the day, I would be in the presence of an Angel named Alex, surrounded by three other soul-sisters, Diana, Irma and Kayla, joined together by a yoga retreat. This is the s

COPING

So how did I cope with the loss of my son? Alcohol, of course! It has been my go-to my entire life You see, healthy coping was never modeled for me in my childhood. What WAS modeled for me was that alcohol was the magic potion - for every situation Sad-have a beer. Happy? Pour a glass of wine. Celebrating? Pop a cork of champagne And it was not just my household It is everywhere As Holly Whitaker so eloquently writes, we live in, “ ...a culture obsessed with alcohol ” Unfortunately, she is right Add grief, or stress of any kind, and it compounds the “obsession.” So when Judson died, I did what I learned from my parents and what I had l d i t f l it ti I d k DESPAIR

e a child, every breath, every waking ry thought is about the sorrow, loss, excruciating pain surrounding the , I was a health and fitness expert. eption of drinking too much when ad been extremely healthy, at least decades. Mentally is another story, Exercise, nutrition, spending time ancing, listening to music and ializing were my jam Until that day in bruptly stopped

Surrounded by photos of my son

It is hard to accept that I will never have new photos of him

I did not recognize my life without my son here on earth, and my debilitating grief, anxiety, and depression kept me from my life. I did not want to leave my house I did not want to accept invitations. The only thing I wanted was to crawl in a hole. And die. So I numbed myself by drinking IPA, eating junk food and binge watching television. It did not matter that I could not recognize myself any longer, as I did not want to look in the mirror anyway. Nothing mattered, except the next beer. I was starting to connect with other grieving mothers, and it was helping on a certain level, but I

Me with Candace, my amazing daughter, who was my lifeline after Judson died

GRATITUDE

I would not have been able to make it through this tragedy without my daughter Candace. She was there for me as I tried to navigate my radically altered set of life circumstances I had a complete psychotic break unable to make the simplest decision. Candace was my life-line. Even though she was deeply grieving her only brother, her only sibling, she was there for me. And for her love and support, I am forever grateful.

HELP

Six months into my grieving was my first holiday season without my son It was horrendous One of my oldest and dearest friends, Joni, checked on

Joni with her horse, Kira

— Joni, Lifelong Friend

me constantly She was one of the few You see, in our culture, there is a lack of “loss intelligence.” People in American culture, for the most part, do not know how to handle grief, especially around child loss. We live in a society that is not comfortable talking about it And so I learned quickly through grieving mom groups and they all said the same thing friends, even the closest of them, scatter into the wind after the funeral They simply can’t hear about your loss They can’t say your child’s name. They can’t fathom what you are going through and they do not even want to try It is too painful for them.

Let me just tell you how painful it is on the other side well, I can’t really Because again, no words So Joni called me during the holidays of 2021 and I shared with her about my despair. I told her I was not sure I wanted to be here any longer, though I knew I could not do that to my daughter. The grief was amplified by the holidays -everyone else is celebrating and having such a great time - and all I wanted to do was crawl into bed and never wake up again

Joni listened And in the way that only a true and honest friend could express, she said, “Jami, your future life needs you ” And that was it I realized that I had better learn to grieve better, to be here for my daughter, son-in-law, and two grandchildren

“Jami, your future life needs you."

I knew that my grieving was worse because of my dependence on alcohol as a coping strategy. I knew it was an unhealthy coping strategy, but I hurt so badly inside due to the acute grief I could barely function, let alone make a good decision at that point Since I did not want to leave the house, I searched for a podcast that may help.

ACTION

During the first part of January 2022 I found a plethora of podcasts about sobriety and tried them all And then I found The Sober Yoga Girl, and Alex McRobert, creator of the podcast and founder of The Mindful Life Practice Her podcast resonated I found her delivery to be calm, nurturing, caring, helpful, soulful, and authentic. It was not full of commercials or loud and distracting music It was honest with no empty promises and blaring or exaggerated solutions. Quite the contrary - this podcast was offering a safe place for guests to share their darkest moments while under the nfluence of alcohol, their deepest regrets and stories, and conversely their beautiful messages of hope, joy and beauty in the land of recovery. I listened, probably with a beer in my hand, but listen I did I binge-listened for hours, then days, then weeks. A month later, I perused her website and noticed that she was starting a 30-day Sober Curious

Yoga Class. I signed up for the class to begin in March 2022 I had no idea what to expect, and just hoped that I would actually follow through when the time came.

CURIOUS

I have learned, especially in the tragic world events of the last few years, that words are important Words matter.

Words like, “Sober Curious.” There are no labels. No judgments No calling myself a word or labeling myself with a word that will amplify how bad I already feel about myself. No need to add stigma

and shame. That is already felt deep within, so no, thank you very much. I figured I could commit to a sober curious yoga challenge for thirty days It sounded lovely. And it was via Zoom, so I could just turn off my camera if I had any adverse feelings. I could do this I would make every effort to join the March group. But in the meantime, the drinking continued, and the grief got worse. There were several days that I did not leave my bed for the entire day. Just crying. And reminiscing. And ruminating And wishing I weren’t alive I did not want to deal with this The wails of a mother who has lost her child are indescribable, especially when they are coming from inside yourself

“The wails of a mother who has lost her child are indescribable, especially when they are coming from inside yourself

This is what it looks like to lose a

child

ALEX

The day had arrived for the 30 day challenge to begin I opened the Zoom link and was admitted into the room From the first moment, I found it really comforting to meet Alex. Her assistant, Yasir, was equally gracious and welcoming They both seemed genuinely glad to meet me and the

others in class. It was an intimate, safe space where we introduced ourselves, shared a little about ourselves, and then we were invited to talk about our relationship with alcohol. Or not. I listened carefully and with great reverie to the personal stories of those in class They were heartwarming and profound, however, all I wanted to talk about was losing my son. Yes, I’m currently in a bad phase with alcohol, and I am here to get help with that, but I was there because I lost my son So that made me DRINK And drink

And drink. And drink

The Mindful Life Practice offers a safe, nonjudgmental space for the sober curious But, something amazing happened. They didn’t seem to mind. They listened anyway. They welcomed me anyway They cried with me They meditated – I turned off my camera; I was not ready to meditate. But I was in community with other hurting souls And I shared that thought with them I know a lot of people are grieving because of circumstances in their lives caused by alcohol –and we all just seemed to understand one another Okay, one class down. Maybe I can actually complete this challenge

DISRUPTOR

One night during the challenge, several people could not make it, so Alex and I had time to talk just the two of us. I told her how I was extremely nervous about Judson’s upcoming one-year Angelversary. I had just found out that my daughter was going to be out of town, and I needed to do something that would help disrupt my angst She put her hands to her heart, and gave me a look that showed me she was saying: I hear you. I want to help I don’t know what to say

Let ther side...well, I can’t really. Because again, no words. By this time, I had grown to adore this young woman, and I trusted her with my fragility and my pain Seeing this look in her eyes, and feeling her genuine concern for me and holding space for my pain, I blurted out:

“I wish you were having a yoga retreat in Bali on May 29th!” She responded, “Jami!!! I am!”

I knew in my heart this was meant to be Meant for me. This is exactly what this grieving mama needed.

Alex McRobert, Founder of the Mindful Life Practice

The Island of Bali, Indonesia

BALI

I knew an expensive trip that I could not afford was not going to bring my son back, but I also knew that

I was dying inside and I needed help. I can’t explain it but-I felt joining Alex on her retreat was going to help For the first time in years, I was looking forward to something. (I say years, because my son had been struggling with depression and other difficulties for four years before he died It was debilitating for me as his mom to watch him suffer. Sad beyond imagination )

So I really needed this experience Yoga Mindfulness. NO alcohol. Alex holding space as we sober- curious sisters embarked on a Sober Yoga Retreat in Bali? It was a no-brainer – I simply had to go.

Basundari, pool side

Ubud is often referred to as the spiritual and cultural heart of Bali, and has long been known as a mystical land rich in healing powers. After the release of Liz Gilbert’s New York Times bestseller ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and subsequent movie, Ubud became a full-blown wellness mecca.

Kadek dropped me safely at the retreat destination, Basundari. It was dark when we arrived, so I was really looking forward to checking everything out in the morning

GATHERING

Kadek is not only a great driver, he is a fantastic purse holder on excursions!

UBUD

After flying for two days with one layover, I finally landed on the magical island of Bali Exhausted and a little worse for wear, it was a joy to meet Kadek, Alex’s great friend and driver. I was not expecting the crazy driving and plethora of scooter bikes but Kadek, as well as the Balinese drivers, seem to have some unspoken language as they dart in and out, pass and allow people to merge in this incredible synchronistic flow of courtesy, respect, and rhythm. I had to shut my eyes a few times, but Kadek delivered me safely to Basundari, our retreat destination located in Ubud.

I was truly amazed at the beauty surrounding me in the morning. Surrounded by rice terraces, Barundari boasts beautiful grounds, amazing rooms, and two pools It is located on a small decline, so the steps walk down toward a creek, along the way are rooms and finally, the yoga Shala It is gorgeous, surrounded by insect nets and an incredible jungle view.

Alex reached out to check on me Even though our retreat did not start until the afternoon, she said, “I’m coming over to meet you in person Jami!” A little later, Alex drove up on her scooter We hugged and I felt like I knew her already from our Zoom circles and now I had the honor of meeting her in person Her presence was warm, welcoming and sincere. I was SO relaxed and...content. I felt safe Something I had not felt for years

The rest of the gang arrived later. It was a pleasure to meet Kayla, Diana and Irma They are all young enough to be my daughters. I was the old lady of the group Kayla was pregnant with her son I felt this was interesting – she would soon be happily bringing her son into the world, I was struggling to let my son leave this world

RITUAL

Later in the afternoon, we met for our first sacred circle, yoga practice, and meal together. It was profound. The food, the conversation, the connection, the company, the bonding – I had not known what to expect, but the experience far exceeded anything I could have imagined. It was an awesome first day

DAWN

Judson’s one-year Angelversary had arrived, May 29, 2022 This date had loomed for so long Full of anxiety, I woke very early. I sat in my room in the meditation chair and watched the lightning dance across the night sky. Something came over me –I can’t describe it – but the morning somehow seemed, glorious So at dawn, barefoot with journal in-hand, I quietly made my way down the steps, meandered down the little trail, through the vines and followed it around a little further to a secluded spot I had spied the day before. It was a serene meditation site where a hanging rattan egg chair suspended a little precariously over a steep hillside above the thick jungle foliage. I walked up a few more steps and then onto the narrow plank that lead to this magical spot

Lightning fills the night sky before sunrise

With a creek trickling below, I was surrounded by a thick canopy of trees of every size and shape: Banyan, Coconut, Banana, and Palm. Thick vines interlaced all around from the tree tops, intertwining in a network of beauty, all the way to the ground Giant ferns and umbrella plants filled in at varying heights below the trees And the jungle floor, covered in vines of varying thicknesses and interlacing with tropical flowering plants, creating a tapestry of varying textures, colors and providing protection for the critters below It is a stunning sight and experience. The place was teaming with life, beauty and vibrancy. I could feel the life around

Alex and me at Basundari, May 2022

The meals at Basundari were delicious and nutritious.

The crickets were sounding LOUDLY, and the birds were beginning to sing, punctuated by a lone rooster crowing in the distance. (Not to mention numerous sounds from creatures I didn’t recognize!) It was like a rain forest/jungle/nature concert producing absolutely beautiful music in this breathtaking setting. And as the light began to dance across the ever changing morning sky, the lightning that had been present just a few moments before, had moved along (to another distant land?)

I sat quietly, closed my eyes, and prayed I spoke to Judson I cried I tried to meditate Nope Still wasn’t ready. I had not been able to deeply meditate for a year So I gave myself permission to just...take it in. Just breathe. Take in the sights, the sounds and the vibe amidst the stunning backdrop o e I sat And sat. And jus e for yoga.

SACRED

Alex started by surprising me She told Kadek, Alex’s amazing friend and driver, about my Judson, and Kadek’s mom created special offering basketsspecifically for Judson’s 1st Angelversary She had made one for each one of us in the group. It was so moving. So unexpected. I was in a complete state of awe Alex started our circle with a special tribute to my son. We each lit an incense that burned during our time together. It was beautiful. I was blown away for two reasons: Alex, Kadek and his mom took the time to prepare and make this day special; and Irma, Kayla and Diana honored Judson, and me, by allowing us to add this ceremony to our morning. And there was more

Diana, Kayla, Alex and Irma, my retreat sisters, honored Judson, and me on his oneyear Angelversary

Alex had rearranged our itinerary, moving our day at the sacred water temple, Tirta Empul, so that we could honor Judson’s Angelversary and partake in a sacred Balinese ritual of cleansing and renewal And my yoga sisters were on-board! This was a watershed moment for me It was at that moment that I realized: this was not going to be any ordinary yoga retreat This was special And it was because of Alex I realized saw how truly angelic she is “ this was not going to be any ordinary yoga retreat...

Sunrise at Basundari

ANGEL

After yoga, I couldn’t close my eyes meditation, not only because it was impos me to meditate at this point in my grief jour also because I hungered to take in the wanted to soak them into my soul – so th reside in my bones and heart for eternity

When Alex sings in her lovely voice at the class, it is calming, restorative, and beautifu The Mindful Life Practice

At the end of each yoga practice, Alex sing beautiful angelic voice, adding an incredib and personal nuance to the experience T heard her and seemed to be enjoying it as we

interrupting with their loud calls as if communicating to all the other birds to come closer and listen. Their arrival was noisy as their wings flapped loudly all around us above the yoga Shala, and they squawked and communicated as they arrived and joined us from the trees above Then they quieted down, and listened to Alex’s sweet voice. It felt as though they were joining us in svanasana

Tirta Empul Temple, Bali, Indonesia

I could go on and on about our trip and fill a book, and I will definitely add more details to my story in the future But right now, my intention with this story is to convey to you about this angelic young woman, Alex, and how she helped change the trajectory of my grief journey. I want to be clear - I still struggle. A lot. It is excruciatingly painful to lose a child I still cry, scream, and want to hit something! I want my son back! But because Alex’s angelic ways go far beyond just hosting an alcoholfree yoga retreat, she helped me change my path I was on a dark path, and because of the empathy and grace she showed me, my path was sprinkled with little shimmers of light, enough for me to see which way to go.

“Jami, I read your blog last night EVERY WORD Alex McRobert

Not only did Alex honor my son ’ s day, adjust the itinerary and keep checking in with me, but she also read my March 2022 blog about Judson, where I shared what an incredible human he was and described my horrific and traumatic experience as a mother who lost her son to suicide. I will never forget that morning at breakfast, when things quieted down, Alex leaned in and said, “I read your blog last night, Jami. Every word. I am SO sorry. ” She was saying: I see you. I hear you. And I am so sorry

UNEXPECTED

As if she had not done enough, towards the end of our retreat, Alex arranged yet another previously unplanned stop on the way home from a destination. Kadek pulled over at Lebih Beach, a sacred site where the Balinese people spread the remains of their loved ones during, Ngaben, the cremation season. Again, a special stop so that I could spread some of Judson’s ashes at this sacred site. Alex is a kindred spirit, caring for the souls in her group. Her angelic ways while serving others, to m of living yoga on, an

Releasing some of Judson’s ashes at Lebih Beach

Alex had rearranged our itinerary, moving our day at the sacred water temple, Tirta Empul, so that we could honor Judson’s Angelversary and partake in a sacred Balinese ritual of cleansing and renewal And my yoga sisters were on-board!

This was a watershed moment for me It was at that moment that I realized: this was not going to be any ordinary yoga retreat. This was special. And it was because of Alex I realized saw how truly angelic she is.

LOVE

During this amazing retreat, I was able to spread Judson’s ashes in numerous places. During a visit to Tenungan Waterfall, I walked downstream to where there were hundreds of rock balance pillars Alex took my photo, and I was able to smile. And as I watched his ashes leave me, I cried And cried, and cried. Alex walked over and gave me a huge hug

Me with Alex in the Basundari Yoga Shala

Pain and loss are the same in all languages

A Balinese woman watched from above on the steps When I reached the landing where she stood, she started talking to me in Balinese She held her hands to her heart. Her face was sad for me She felt my pain Even though we did not speak one another’s languages, she grabbed me and hugged me and cried with me Another mother – seeing my pain, reaching out to me. It was one of my most profound memories of this magical trip. Love knows no boundaries And grief is painful in all languages.

VIBRANT Bali is a vibrant destination, and Alex made sure we saw as much as we could during our time there. Our excursions were many – we hiked a volcano, visited several stunning ancient temples, incredible waterfalls, walked on the beach, visited lush rice terraces, and ate the most delicious, healthy and fresh foods ever. Kadek drove us safely all around the island, sometimes blasting Taylor Swift while Alex and Kadek sang the lyrics loud and strong for all to hear. It was SO much fun. And I needed that I truly needed that experience to help pull me up from the hell I had been living for the last year.

GATHERING

Judson brought me to Alex. If I get really honest and provocative with my grief journey, I will admit that I did not want to deal with the pain of losing my son I needed to get down and dirty, to completely explore and excavate my deepest fears, regrets, and feelings Full disclosure and emotional expression with a positive social support system is helping me to deal with the immense pain and distress I am so blessed that I was held so closely by Alex, Diana, Irma and Kayla during my darkest hour Their love and acceptance gave me hope

PROVOCATIVE GRIEF

A podcast, a jungle, and an Angel named Alex, changed the trajectory of my grief journey. I know that, unfortunately, not every mom who loses a child can go to Bali, but I wish they could. I know I am very blessed that I was able to partake in this provocative, messy, ugly, and beautiful journey And my experience is still excruciatingly painful, and sometimes a little easier, because someone like Alex chose to hear me.

Alex is an angelic human who lives her yoga, on, d I am forever changed for

Alex and Kadek singing Taylor Swift’s, “All Too Well.” Check out the video here.

Photos from our International Community Kristen Hutchinson in Costa Rica

Noura El-Imam in Dubai

Matt & Alex in London

Lauren C in Bosnia and Herzegovina

Lauren Pinney in Nicaragua

Yasir El Mahdi in Abu Dhabi

Leanne Golding in Camen Island

Sober Girls Yoga Poses

Happy Hips

By Yasir El Mahdi Photos of Alex McRobs

If there is one thing that we get the most requested in our class it sure is hips It’s where we store our

emotions. Here our founder Alex McRobs demonstrates some hip yoga poses you can practice to release stuck emotions We usually practice these during our Yin classes, you can join us for Mindful Yin Yoga and Mediation every Tuesday 8pm EST.

Child Pose (Balasana)

Butterfly Pose (Baddha Konasana)

Did you know that our YouTube channel is full of tons of free yoga classes with Alex and other yoga teachers around the world?

Check us out on YouTube by searching The Mindful Life Practice.

Fire Log Pose (Agnistambhasana)

The three principles of yin yoga:

1. Find your edge 2. Stay awhile 3. Commit to stillness

Half Happy Baby Pose (Ardha Ananda Balasana)

Low Lunge (Anjaneyasana)

Yogi's Squat (Malasana)

Cow-Face Pose (Gomukhasana)

Breathing is one of the body's strongest self-healing tools. It lowers blood pressure, reduces heart rate, decreases stress, exercises the lungs, increases energy, and improves immunity

According to a study done at Harvard University, establishing a 10 - 20 minute breathing routine every day can help with all of the above

Reclining Butterfly Pose (Supta Baddhakonasana)

Frog Pose (Mandukasana)

On DemandChallenges

With over 3,000 On Demand Yoga Classes filmed on Zoom over the past three years in different locations around the world.

WORDS FROM MINDFUL LIFE PRACTICE

MEMBERS

Check out some of the testimonials that our community shared with us.

"I met Alex through a mutal friend/fellow yogi, Emma Shanahan who had done her YTT with Alex, and who also has a pretty stressful job, so i though if Emma can fit in the YTT then so can I! The online forum suited me perfectly as I can't take a month out from work to travel to do a YTT." - Carolyn in Abu Dhabi

"I heard Alex on another podcast that I was listening to about sober curiosity and thought that she sounded really positive so I looked her up and found the MLPC " - Lisa in Malaysia

"I started [yoga] mostly with doing classes with free apps and YouTube but then decided to start practicing with the Mindful Life Practice. I love the class sizes and the tight knit community. Everyone is so nice and warm!" - Kelly in USA

"MLPC & Alex came up on my Instagram feed I’ve always wanted to do my YTT but for some reason this course spoke to me and I decided to sign up to the 30 hour Sober Curious Yoga YTT & 200 hour YTT & I’m so glad I did as it was definitely meant to be." - Anna in England

"I joined Alex’s yoga classes and love her sunny personality and lust for life!. I've loved watching Alex grow the MLPC right from the early days and am so happy to see it flourish " - Sarah in England

FEBRUARY WEEKLY SCHEDULE

Join volunteers daily on Zoom Monday - Friday for Sober Circles & Yoga Classes Book your classes here

MON TUE WED

6AM UK

10AM DUBAI

5PM

MELBOURNE

5AM VANCOUVER

8AM TORONTO

1PM UK

5PM DUBAI

FREE SOBER CIRCLE WITH JENNY IN AUSTRALIA AND ALEX IN BALI

FREE MINDFUL YOGA WITH EMMA IN ABU DHABI & ALEX IN BALI

FREE SOBER CIRCLE WITH SAUNDRA IN CALIFORNIA AND ERICA IN FLORIDA

6AM VANCOUVER

9AM TORONTO

2PM UK

6PM DUBAI

9AM VANCOUVER

12PM TORONTO

5PM UK

4PM VANCOUVER

7PM TORONTO

8AM PERTH (NEXT DAY)

5PM VANCOUVER

8PM TORONTO

9AM PERTH (NEXT DAY)

FREE SOBER CIRCLE WITH JAMI IN CALIFORNIA AND DARLENE IN VIRGINIA

FREE SOBER CIRCLE WITH KELLY IN DC AND CAROLYN IN UK

FREE MINDFUL YOGA WITH LEIGH IN PHILADELPHIA AND ANDREA IN RHODE ISLAND

FREE SOBER CIRCLE WITH STACEY IN MISSOURI AND ANNETTE IN INDIANA

FREE MINDFUL YOGA WITH SHAVON IN MARYLAND AND ALEX IN BALI

SOBER CIRCLE:

A check-in, meditation, and sharing circle, led by graduates of our 30 Hour Sober Curious Yoga Teacher Training (YTT) Open to anyone who is sober or sober curious

SOBER YOGA:

A check-in, followed by a yoga practice Open to anyone who is sober or sober curious Leaders hold both the 30 Hour Sober Curious YTT Certificate and the 200 Hour YTT Certificate.

MINDFUL YOGA:

A yoga practice Open to anyone in the community Leaders are graduates of a 200 Hour YTT

For members only classes, click here to get the membership Members also receive unlimited on demand access to our yoga classes, and access to our private members-only WhatsApp group,

THURS FRI SUN SAT

FREE MINDFUL YOGA WITH MATT IN ENGLAND AND ALEX IN BALI

FREE SOBER CIRCLE WITH BRENDA IN NOVA SCOTIA AND ERICA IN FLORIDA

FREE MINDFUL YOGA WITH DENIECE IN DUBAI AND LEIGH IN PHILADELPHIA

MEMBERS ONLY/$10 MINDFUL FLOW 2 WITH ALEX (CLICK HERE)

MEMBERS ONLY/$10 MINDFUL SWEAT WITH ALEX (CLICK HERE)

MEMBERS ONLY/$10 SOBER SPEAKER SERIES WITH ALEX & GUESTS (CLICK HERE)

FREE WEEKLY WORKSHOP - SEE NEXT PAGE FOR DETAILS

FREE SOBER YOGA WITH ANDREA IN RHODE ISLAND AND ALEX IN BALI

*6PM EST/3PM PST: GRIEF RELIEF YOGA WITH JAMII IN CALIFORNIA

February 5 - Beyond Dry January with Sarah Williamson Join Sarah for this interactive workshop to discuss your goals, commitments and intentions beyond Dry January Let's discuss the tools that have served you well through January and what additional support you need for February and further.

UPCOMING EVENTS February

AllMonth

Free Workshops on Sunda

9am PST / 12pm EST / 5pm BST / 9pm GST / 1am A

February 12 - The Healing Power of Creativity in Addiction with Brenda Bruce

Healing through creativity has a powerful role in addiction treatment Creative activities allow a person to tap into effective ways to change their emotional state Working on something creative like journaling, taking pictures, creating art, painting etc, are powerful outlets that can get you through that craving or the stinkin’ thinkin’ Through this we foster a sense of resilience which is so important to healing. Creativity can make the recovery process feel more personal and invigorating Recovery is full of new experiences; making creativity a regular practice may allow you to discover new interests

February 19 - Unblocking Limiting Beliefs in Addiction with Anneka Reece

How to notice, pick apart and re-programme the limiting beliefs that are standing in the way of you and your manifestations

February 26 - Holistic Healing for Recovery with Rachel Brady

In this 90 min workshop, we will explore what a 'Holistic Healing' approach to recovery means We will be exploring a few terms to dig deeper into their meaning, as well exploring the full spectrum of yoga, its components and philosophy, as well as some other complementary holistic modalities We will then practise asana, breathwork, meditation and journaling together. There will be optional sharing to close My intention is for you to leave better informed and excited to embrace a more holistic approach to your own and others' healing

UPCOMING EVENTS February

AllMonth

Free Workshops on Sundays

1st session is on Sunday, Feb 12th 8pm EST/Monday, Feb 13th 9am SGT

2nd session is on Sunday, Feb 19th 8pm EST/Monday,Feb 20th 9am SGT

Embracing Your Forever Valentine (hint:YOU!!)

When practicing Reiki, for myself or others, I used to wonder what is that, which flows through me and makes me so acutely aware of its presence, and inner me would repeat just two words: Unconditional Love!

This Valentine's Day, let Unconditional Love surround you, flow with you, and flow within you Let's make ourselves our valentine just as much as we make for our loved ones

Let's go one step ahead than sharing gifts, a box of chocolates or flowers, let's fill ourselves with love - for ourselves and those around us, love is that power which heals everything!

I invite you to come with the curiosity to explore and focus on your heart chakra (Anahata chakra - the fourth primary chakra - the major energy center of love) and get tuned into the subtle vibrations of loveReiki!

The premise is just one - through Reiki you take control of your life's journey, by seating yourself on the driver seat and heal yourself

Next meet: Sunday, Feb 19th 8pm EST/Monday, Feb 20th 9am SGT

We will reconvene for a Q&A session on Reiki as much as everything else you experienced since this session.

Looking forward to seeing you all!

Hugs, Aarti.

UPCOMING EVENTS February

Sober Speakers on Sundays - $10/Drop In AllMonth

5pm PST / 8pm EST / 5am GST / 9am AWST

r a check in and meditation led by Alex After that, the guest speaker will share their story

ebruary 5th - Carolyn Clark

arolyn Clark , in England, has been part of our community since spring 2022! She regularly ttends meetings and classes, and graduated from our 30 Hour Sober Curious Yoga Teacher raining in the spring Carolyn was a guest on a sober retreat here in Bali that Alex taught on in ovember, and is planning her own retreat for September 2023! Come join us to hear her story with sobriety

mi Hanna

wrote an article for this magazine about her story of grief and the loss of her has been part of our community since February 2022, when she participated urious Challenge Since then she's gone on to attend the Sober Girls Yoga Bali part in the 100 Hour Deep Dive program.

exandra Garcia

Garcia, in Los Angeles, joined the 30 Day Sober Curious Challenge in December of one year sober, Alexandra has started a Sober Account on Instagram and wants to word about sobriety! Join us to hear her story of how she overcame some of her and committed to sobriety this time around

February 26th - Rachel Brady

Rachel Brady, in England, joined our community in the fall of 2021 In this magazine you can read er yoga teacher interview and also her piece on Essential Oils! Rachel has pretty much joined very Yoga Teacher Training that we have to offer and she's currently a student in the Yoga Sutra tudies. Rachel also joined on the Mexico retreat last June.

You can book the classes at this link

UPCOMING PROGRAMS February

Sober Girls Yoga 30 Day Challenge (Online)

Starting January 29th, 2023

This is for you if you have:

Just started Dry January and want to continue, but are feeling lonely on the path Already sober and looking to add a daily yoga practice, sober women ' s community and journal practice into your sobriety Sober Curious but haven't done anything about it Have been trying to quit alcohol for a while now on your own but are struggling Realized you might actually have a problem with alcohol but traditional modes of recovery don't work for you

There are ten spots available in Two Groups, starting January 29th, 2023

Crimson: Every Sunday at 7:00am UK Time (BST) / 11:00am Dubai Time (GST)

Coral: Every Sunday at 6:30pm Toronto Time (EST) / 3:30pm Vancouver Time (PST)

You can learn more and sign up here

200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training (Online)

Starting February 12, 2023

This is for you if you want:

to become a yoga teacher to be a leader in our community leading circles and classes and give back to our community not necessarily want to be a yoga teacher, but want to add more spirituality into your sober journey.

You can learn more and sign up here.

Sober Girls Yoga