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new takes on old tradition
edding day tokens of good luck come in many forms, but “the something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue (a sixpence in your shoe)” adage remains one of the most popular luck-enhancing wedding traditions. According to the bridal resource The Knot, this tradition stems from an Olde English rhyme. Something old represents continuity; something new is for optimism for the future; something borrowed stands for borrowed happiness; and something blue is for purity, love and fidelity. The sixpence in your shoe is a wish for good fortune and prosperity, but this is not a tradition widely celebrated outside of the United Kingdom or British territories. These traditions can add some creative flair and personality to wedding ceremonies. There’s no end to the inventive combinations of items brides can carry to increase their good fortunes. Something old Something old is one of the easier mementos to obtain. There is a good chance that someone in the family is willing to pass an item down to the bride that she can include in her wedding wardrobe. It also can be something the bride may have in her own memory box. Beads taken from a grandmother’s dress or a swatch of fabric from a beloved toy doll are creative ideas that can be sewn into inconspicuous places on gowns. Something new Brides already purchase many new items for their wedding day looks, so “something new” should not be too hard to find. Couples may want to work together to find something new they can both carry so they have a matching set upon tying the knot. Interlocking charm bracelets or keychains may work. What about the groom carrying a small padlock and the bride the key? Quirky couples can each wear one sock from a pair. Get clever and have fun.
Something borrowed Much like something old, something borrowed is yet another way to pay homage to a friend or family member. It’s also one way to add a sentimental twist to everyday items. Borrow a grandfather’s handkerchief to wrap around the stems of the wedding bouquet. Exchange vows with the original rings used by a distant relative at their own wedding. Flatter a close friend by wearing the same veil she did. Something blue There are many ways to incorporate “something blue” into your wedding ceremony. Brides can paint their toenails blue or wear blue shoes under their gowns. Sew a patch from a pair of denim jeans into the bodice of the dress. Paint the bottom of your shoes bright blue so they stand out when kneeling at the altar. Blue sapphire or topaz jewelry can add an exotic look to the wedding wardrobe. With a little ingenuity, brides can easily incorporate “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue” into their wedding ceremonies.
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symbols of commitment
ouples adhere to many traditions on their wedding days, including the exchange of wedding rings. Wedding rings symbolize the union of two people and their pledge to remain faithful to each other. No one is exactly sure just when the tradition of exchanging wedding rings originated, but some say it can be traced back to ancient Egypt, when the oldest recorded exchange of wedding rings was made. Reeds growing along the Nile were twisted and braided into rings and given during betrothal ceremonies. The round ring symbolized eternity, and the hole within the center meant a gateway to things unknown. Since reeds were not very durable, soon ivory, leather and bone were used to create wedding rings. As new lands were explored and territories expanded, traditions from one culture were adopted and modified by other cultures. The same is true with wedding rings. According to the Diamond Source, wedding rings were adopted by Romans and incorporated into Western wedding ceremonies. Romans’ rings were highly decorated, and some historians believe wedding rings were given to represent ownership over brides instead of symbolizing love. These rings were made of iron and called “Anulus Pronubus,” or “betrothal ring.” Rings have been simplified since those days and ultimately made of many materials. Throughout history, wedding rings were worn on various fingers and even both hands, whereas many married people in Western cultures now wear their wedding rings on the left hand and on the fourth finger. Romans once believed that this finger contained a vein, called the “Vena Amoris,” that ran directly to the heart. Though that is not true, the tradition has prevailed. Other legends say that, when blessing a Christian marriage, priests would bind the marriage by saying, “In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,” simultaneously touching the ring to the recipient’s thumb, index finger and middle finger, before
slipping it on the fourth finger while saying, “Amen.” Another theory on ring placement is that wedding rings are worn on the ring finger because that finger isn’t used as much as the rest of the hand, ensuring delicate ring materials won’t be damaged. Ross Simmons Jewelry states that gold is still the most popular metal choice for wedding rings, but couples are opting for some other metals that are more durable. Platinum is popular not only because it is long-wearing, but it also tends to be the most expensive. It’s also a dense metal and can feel heavy in hand. Tungsten carbide is another durable metal that has grown in popularity in recent years. These rings cannot be cut and resoldered, which means it’s important to size the rings correctly the first time. Titanium is both lightweight and durable, and it’s popular because it is hypo-allergenic, making it practical for those with allergies to other metals. Wedding rings continue to serve as symbols of a couple’s vows and union. Much like the marriage itself, they are designed to last the test of time.
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tasteful and personal are favored choices
s a rite of passage, the bachelorette party has long gotten a bum rap. Stereotypes persist of the bride’s night-before-the-wedding gathering as a ladies-only version of the raucous bachelor party. Yet the truth is, a growing number of brides crave a tasteful, relaxing and deeply personal send-off for their single days. In fact, a relaxing getaway ranked high as an ideal bachelorette party for 59 percent of brides-to-be in the Ultimate Bridesmaids Census. Sixty-seven percent wanted dinner, dancing and time spent with their closest friends, and 23 percent wanted something non-traditional that really reflected their personal interests. “Bachelorette parties are as unique as the women they celebrate,” says Michael Belot, general manager of Destination Kohler home to AAA five-diamond and Forbes five-star hotel that hosts scores of brides, bridesmaids and weddings each year. “We’re seeing an emphasis on relaxation for the bride and companionship with her friends in today’s bachelorette parties. Brides want to spend their special night - and often an entire weekend - in a soothing, stress-free atmosphere before the hectic pace of their wedding day.” So what are the things that brides and bridesmaids tell the Destination Kohler team they must have for their bachelorette soirees? Belot points to five in-demand elements:
Spa time
Whether it’s a group mani-pedi, a yoga class or a lunch of delicious, healthful spa cuisine, bachelorette groups crave spa time. Parties are looking for spas that offer a comprehensive list of salon services, familiar and new massages and body treatments, and easy access to luxury accommodations. For example, at Destination Kohler, bachelorette groups often book rooms in the Carriage
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choose. “Kohler Waters Spa is by far the most popular request and activity among bachelorette parties, and is often the center of the trip,” says Garrett Mersberger, manager of Kohler Waters Spas. Playing to this trend, many resorts have created femalecentric spa packages like the Girls Getaway.
Great food
Forget the pigs in a blanket, deviled eggs and other de rigeur finger foods long associated with bridal showers. Modern bachelorette groups are looking for dining options that are luxurious and delicious, or that accommodate lifestyle needs such as gluten-free or low-calorie diets. Spa fare often fits well with this preference. Resorts with multiple dining options afford bachelorette guests the opportunity to dine lightly for lunch and then enjoy a more indulgent dinner.
Bonding activities
Hitting the bar and dancing the night away are no longer the only bonding activities for bachelorette groups. From yoga classes and golf outings to wine and chocolate
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pairings, brides-to-be are looking for more diverse, sophisticated activities they can do with their girlfriends.
A location “away from it all ”
Nearly a third of respondents in the Bridesmaid Census said they didn’t want to go crazy for a bachelorette party, they just wanted to enjoy time with their friends. Perhaps it’s because their lives are about to change dramatically. Maybe it’s a need to reaffirm the girlfriend bond that has seen them through life’s ups and downs to reach this happy point in their lives. Whatever their reasons, a growing number of brides are looking for a bachelorette experience that transports them and their closest friends far away from their daily routines. Some fulfill this wish by choosing a resort location far from home. Others may choose accommodations that are more intimate. At Destination Kohler, bachelorette parties can also opt to stay at Sandhill, the resort’s luxury private cabin that sits on 350 natural acres just a 10-minute drive from the resort.
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Rehearsal Dinner
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the pre-wedding celebration
ehearsal dinners are a fun wedding tradition that typically take place the night before a couple walks down the aisle. The immediate families of the bride and groom as well as any additional members of the wedding party are on hand for the rehearsal dinner, which often follows a walk-through of the wedding ceremony. Some of the popular Owensboro restaurants that are known to host rehearsal dinners include Moonlite Bar-B-Q Inn, The Briarpratch, Colby’s Fine Food & Spirits and The Miller House. While most local restaurants will host a rehearsal dinner, be sure to call and reserve a room and include how many people will be attending. For a full list of Owensboro restaurants check out visitowensboro.com. The rehearsal dinner is usually a laid-back affair, but there are some things couples must navigate as they sit down to their last dinner together before becoming husband and wife.
Guest list
It is customary to invite anyone participating in the wedding, including bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girls, and ring bearers, to the rehearsal dinner. In addition to those in the wedding, family members, such as parents of both the bride and groom and their respective siblings who are not in the wedding, also are invited to traditional rehearsal dinners.
Menu
If your rehearsal dinner will take place at a restaurant, then try to find a restaurant that can cater to various tastes. Rehearsal dinner parties tend to be large, and within your party you may have guests who are vegetarian or on gluten-free diets or those who need to avoid certain foods. The more versatile the menu, the more capable an establishment is likely to be with regard to meeting the various needs of your party. While many rehearsal dinners are held at restaurants, it’s not unheard of to host a
dinner party at home or at the home of the bride’s or groom’s parents. If you plan to go this route, just be sure to provide a variety of food so no one goes home hungry.
Booking
If you are hosting a rehearsal dinner at a restaurant, booking a reservation should be near the top of your priority list once you have chosen a date for the wedding. It’s not always easy to find restaurants that can accommodate especially large parties, nor is it easy to find restaurants that can accommodate the unique diets of potential party guests. So try to book a reservation three to six months in advance of the dinner. If you are getting married during an especially popular month to tie the knot, such as June or October, try to make the reservation even earlier, as the longer you wait the more likely other couples will have booked the restaurant for their rehearsal dinners. Starting early also gives you more time to find the ideal restaurant to host the dinner.
Tab
Many wedding traditions have fallen by the wayside over the last several decades, and that includes who is picking up the tab. In the past, the brides’ parents paid for the wedding while the grooms’ parents were expected to pick up the tab for the rehearsal dinner. But many couples now pay for their own weddings, and those that are footing the bill should include the rehearsal dinner in their wedding budgets. If parents offer to pay or split the tab, you can take them up on their generous offer. But it is still to a couple’s advantage to expect to pay for their rehearsal dinners. Rehearsal dinners are an enjoyable tradition that affords couples the chance to sit down with their closest friends and family members and enjoy a great meal together. Planning ahead can make the dinner even more enjoyable.
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ring-bearers & flower girls
ngaged couples often ask their closest friends and family members to be part of their wedding ceremonies. Children often participate in weddings and can add joviality to this special occasion. However, it’s important to consider a child’s age and maturity before having him or her be part of the wedding. Some houses of worship restrict child participation to kids of a certain age, so it’s best to check with clergy regarding their rules before including kids in the wedding party. If children need to be coaxed down the aisle or are prone to disruptive behavior, it may be best to give them another role, such as handing out bubbles or birdseed after the wedding.
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easy ways to trim costs
ouples planning their weddings realize pretty quickly just how expensive weddings can be. Depending on where couples tie the knot, the costs can stretch into the tens of thousands of dollars, leaving many young men and women to scramble to find ways to trim costs without trimming quality. Many couples look for ways to cut wedding costs, and couples facing that very dilemma should know that there are several ways to save money but still host the wedding of their dreams.
Guest list
Guest lists can consume a significant portion of couples’ wedding budgets. When compiling the guest list, couples should keep in mind that guests will need save-the-date cards, invitations, catered meals (including cocktail hour, dinner and dessert), drinks, and gifts (including hotel gift bags and wedding favors). So the cost per guest will be more than just the per person cost of the meal couples negotiate with their caterer. Couples who can pare their guests lists down to just family and close friends can save a substantial amount of money without affecting their ceremonies.
Reception
A couple’s wedding reception also will chew up a lot of their wedding budgets. But there are ways to reduce the costs of receptions, too. Couples planning on having a morning wedding can shift their receptions from the evening to the afternoon, when the cost per meal will be considerably less. Afternoon receptions also can be alcohol-free, saving couples even more money. If a nighttime reception is a must-have, choose a limited cash bar instead of an open bar. Limited cash bars often provide guests with free beer and house wine while guests who prefer liquor or mixed drinks must pay for their own libations. If you are planning an outdoor wedding reception, you may even be able to provide your own alcohol, which can save considerable amounts of money. Couples also can trim reception costs by
choosing the least expensive meal package. Packages often differ greatly in price but are not always so different with regard to their menus. If you find the packages offered by your venue are similar, choose the least expensive option.
Arrangements
Floral arrangements are a big and potentially expensive part of many couples’ weddings. The bride needs her bouquet, as do her bridesmaids. In addition, many couples decorate their ceremony space with flowers, and of course reception table centerpieces typically include flowers as well. When working with your florist, request in-season flowers, which will cost considerably less than exotic flowers that are out of season. In addition, let your florist know your budget and ask that he or she recommend flowers that won’t break the bank.
Gifts
While it’s become customary to prepare gift bags for guests staying in hotels, couples should not go overboard with such gifts. Gift bags need not include more than a snack, a bottle of water and a homemade thank-you card. Couples also should not break the bank with regard to reception gifts, which have also become a standard offering. Keep such gifts simple and inexpensive, even opting for homemade gifts if you and your future spouse are skilled with crafts. Wedding costs can be eye-opening for couples preparing to walk down the aisle. Fortunately, there are many ways to cut costs without cutting quality.
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look your best for your bride
rides might garner most of the attention on a couple’s wedding day, but dashing grooms also will get their share of attention. As a result, grooms must be just as diligent as their blushing brides with regard to grooming and appearance on their wedding days. To look picture-perfect, grooms may want to include these grooming tips in their wedding day preparation.
Hair
Schedule a haircut with a professional stylist roughly a week before the wedding to get your hair shaped and trimmed. Although trendy hairstyles may show off creativity, keep in mind that photos last forever, and it’s often better to stick with a classic cut. A barber or stylist may suggest styles that best suit your face shape and hair texture. Above all, the haircut should be neat. Resist the urge to wash your hair every day before the wedding. Allow some natural oils to build up and make your hair shine in a healthy way.
Shaving
Hands
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Make sure your teeth have been thoroughly brushed and that you have used a minty mouthwash so you’re primed for that first kiss. Many grooms also opt for whitening treatments prior to the wedding so they have a dazzling smile. On their wedding days, grooms will likely be photographed more than any other time in their lives. That means putting extra effort into personal grooming to look their best.
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Grooms also may want to book a manicure. Keep in mind that salons will do men’s nonpolish manicures and pedicures, and they can be well worth the investment. Photos of entwined hands or close-ups of the ring exchange will have guests zeroing in on your fingers. Have hands look their best with clean, shaped fingernails and trimmed cuticles.
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Shaving is another thing grooms must consider. If you have a beard, make sure it is clean, combed and trimmed. Men who shave the day of their weddings may find their skin is sensitive and irritated, which can lead to redness. Unless your facial hair grows especially fast, shave the evening before.
enjoy the day even more. The day of the wedding, shower using water and a mild soap. Avoid any skin irritation by patting your face and body dry, rather than rubbing it with the towel. Moisturize your skin to avoid dry patches.
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bridal party responsibilities
eing asked to join a bridal party is both an honor and a responsibility. When asked to take on such significant and meaningful roles, men and women may recognize the honor but be unsure of what their responsibilities are as couples move forward with their wedding plans. Bridal party roles can vary depending on certain circumstances, but many couples still want their bridesmaids and groomsmen to perform many of the more traditional tasks associated with their roles. The following are some of the tasks bridesmaids and groomsmen can expect to perform in the months leading up to the wedding and during the wedding itself. • Maid of Honor: The maid of honor serves as the bride-to-be’s right-hand woman as she plans her wedding and gets ready on her big day. Maids of honor typically go gown shopping with the bride and may even choose or offer suggestions about the color and style of the bridesmaids’ dresses. Once a dress style and color has been chosen, the maid of honor will make sure everyone is fitted on time. A maid of honor will also plan the bridal shower, sending invitations and arranging for lodging for out-of-town guests if necessary. Many brides want the details of their bridal showers to be a surprise, and maids of honor should honor those sentiments when possible. A maid of honor also plans the bachelorette party, though many brides do not mind being involved in the planning of such parties. The maid of honor may be asked to help address save-the-date cards and envelopes as well. Come the day of the wedding, the maid of honor will ensure the bride’s day is as stress-free as possible, helping to address any last-minute issues that may arise. Maids of honor may be asked to serve as the legal witness to the wedding and sign the wedding license before the reception. At the reception, the maid of honor will toast the bride. • Best man: The best man is the maid of honor’s counterpart, helping to plan the bach-
elor party and toasting the groom at the reception. The best man also tends to hold the rings during the wedding ceremony, and during the day of the wedding, he will coordinate the groomsmen to make sure everyone is ready to go
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on time. The best man may arrange transportation for the groom and groomsmen on the day of the wedding and may also return the groom and groomsmen’s attire the following day if the newlyweds are departing on their honeymoons. • Bridesmaids/Groomsmen: The bridesmaids and groomsmen serve similar functions, acting as sources of support as couples plan their weddings. Bridesmaids and groomsmen help to plan the bachelorette and bachelor parties and may also be asked their opinions as couples make decisions regarding their weddings. Bridesmaids and groomsmen must be prepared to take pictures once couples have officially tied the knot. They also must help the brides and grooms with any issues that may arise in the hours before couples become husband and wife. • Flower girl/Ring bearer: Flower girls and ring bearers are often young relatives of the couple, whether they are a young brother or sister or a niece or nephew. The responsibilities of the flower girl and ring bearer are typically limited to the ceremony, during which they will walk down the aisle, either together or individually, before the father of the bride escorts his daughter
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to the altar or stage. • Father of the bride: The father of the bride walks his daughter down the aisle during the ceremony, and, along with his wife, may pay for the wedding, though many couples now finance their own nuptials. The father of the bride will dance with his daughter during the reception, and some fathers may even share a special toast for the newlyweds during the reception, though such a toast is not traditionally required. Bridal parties play a big role on couples’ wedding days, and those roles are both an honor and a responsibility.
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12-Month
Use this handy guide to keep important notes as you decide the details of your event. Keep these notes for reference so no details are missed!
Reception site (12 months before wedding)
Headpiece_____________________________
Address_______________________________ Contact/phone__________________________ Setup date/time_________________________ Reception time/length____________________ Minimum/maximum # guests_______________ Size of tables___________________________ Tables/chairs rental fee___________________ China/linens rental fee_ __________________ Parking_______________________________ Handicap accessible?____________________ Total cost of venue_______________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________
Gloves________________________________
The Gown (9-12 months before wedding) Store_ ________________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Style__________________________________ Train length____________________________ Color_________________________________ Size_ _________________________________ Order date_____________________________ _____________________________________ Expected date_ _________________________ _____________________________________ Fitting dates_ __________________________ Total gown cost_________________________
Shoes_________________________________ Earrings_ _____________________________ Necklace______________________________ Lingerie_______________________________ Slip_ _________________________________ Hosiery_______________________________ Total accessory cost _____________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Food and Beverage (9 months before) Caterer_ ______________________________ Contact/phone__________________________ Price range of menu_____________________ Menu_________________________________ Price each_____________________________ Child price_ ___________________________ Punch and soft beverages_________________ Alcohol_ ______________________________ hors d’oeuvres__________________________ Total cost of food _______________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________
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florals (9 months before wedding) Florist_____________________________ Contact____________________________ Address____________________________ Phone_ ____________________________ PHOTOGRAPHY (9-12 months before wedding) Photographer_ _________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Arrival time/place_______________________ Hours of work__________________________ Photography cost_ ______________________ Film/developing cost_____________________ Travel cost_____________________________ Wedding albums_ _______________________ Additional prints________________________ Engagement photo_ _____________________ Wedding announcement photo_ ____________ Special requests_________________________ Who owns negatives?____________________ Total cost of photography_________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Date album will be ready_ ________________ Bridal attendants (6 months before wedding) Store_ ________________________________ Dress_________________________________ Style__________________________________ Color(s)_______________________________ Sizes_________________________________ Headpiece_____________________________ Shoes_________________________________ Sizes/colors____________________________ Gloves________________________________ Jewelry_ ______________________________ Order date_____________________________
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Expected arrival________________________ _____________________________________ Fitting dates_ __________________________ Total attendant cost _____________________ Wedding CakeS (6 months before wedding)
Bakery________________________________ Contact/phone__________________________ Setup date/time_________________________ Cake flavor/shape_______________________ Filling/Icing_ __________________________ Side/Icing toppings______________________ Decoration/Top_________________________ Tiers/servings_ _________________________ Groom's cake flavor/shape________________ Servings_______________________________ Total cost of cakes_______________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Transportation (6 months before) Limousine service _______________________ Contact/phone__________________________ Make/model____________________________ # of vehicles/passengers__________________ Hours needed_ _________________________ Total transportation cost__________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due ______________________________ Printing (6 months before wedding) Printer________________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Invitation style__________________________ Enclosures__________ Responses __________ Announcements______ Envelopes __________ Thank you cards_ ____ Stationery __________ Pew cards___________ Programs __________ Change-of-address cards_ ________________ Date ordered___________________________ Date expected__________________________ Total printing cost_______________________ Deposit due__________ Date due __________ Balance due__________ Date due __________ Total postage cost _____________
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Gift registry (6 months before wedding) Registered at___________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Items registered _ _______________________ ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ Registered at___________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Items registered _ _______________________ ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ Registered at___________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Items registered _ _______________________ ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ Registered at___________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Items registered _ _______________________ ________________________ ________________________ HONEYMOON (3-6 months before wedding)
Travel agency_ _________________________ Address_______________________________
Phone_ _______________________________ Destination____________________________
Passport or Visa needed__________________ Departure date & time_ __________________ Airline________________________________
Flight Number__________________________
Cost__________________________________ Car rental company_ ____________________ Cost__________________________________ Estimated taxi cost_ _____________________ Hotel name_ ___________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Meals included_ ________________________ Spending money estimate_________________ Total cost of honeymoon__________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due ______________________________ Tuxedos (3 months before wedding) Store_ ________________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Contact_______________________________ Jacket style/color_ ______________________ Shirt style/color_________________________ Cummerbund/Vest style/color______________ Tie style/color__________________________ Shoe style/color_________________________ Total Tuxedo Cost_______________________ Deposit due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Balance due____________________________ Date due_ _____________________________ Ceremony Music (3 months before wedding) Recorded Music_________________________ Soloist/group___________________________ Contact_______________________________ Address_______________________________ Phone_ _______________________________ Time of arrival_________________________ Song details_________________________ Total cost of ceremony music_ __________ Deposit amount______ Date due_________ Balance due_________ Date due_________
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Reception Music (3 months before wedding) Recorded Music______________________ Band/DJ_ __________________________ Contact____________________________
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Delivery Times_ ___________________
Altar_ ___________________________ Pew markers______________________
Bridal bouquet_ ___________________ Attendants’ bouquets________________
Flower girl bouquet_ _______________ Groom’s boutonniere________________
Address____________________________
Groom’s attendants’ boutonnieres______
Phone_ ____________________________
Fathers’ and grandfathers’ bouton-
Time of arrival______________________ Hours of play_______________________ Total cost of ceremony music_ __________ Deposit amount______ Date due_________ Balance due_________ Date due_________
Ring Bearer boutonniere_____________ nieres____________________________ Mothers’ and grandmothers’ corsages__
Officiant
Reception Room/Hall________________________ Head table________________________ Guest tables/number________________
ENGAGEMENT ANNOUNCEMENT (6 weeks before wedding) Contact the Messenger-Inquirer to_ announce your engagement
Cake table________________________ Beverage table_ ___________________ Tossing bouquet____________________
Going-away corsage________________ Others___________________________ Total cost of flowers_ _______________ Deposit due_______________________ Date due_ ________________________
Hair and makeup (6 weeks before wedding) Hairstylist__________________________ Makeup artist_ ______________________
Balance due_______________________ Date due_ ________________________ Gown Maintenance (after wedding) Cleaning cost_ ______________________
Address____________________________
Storage cost_________________________
Phone_ ____________________________
Wedding ANNOUNCEMENT
Appointment time_ ___________________ Total hair and makeup cost_____________
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Undergarments
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underwear can make or break the look
s guests’ eyes are trained on couples come their wedding days, it is no surprise that both the bride and groom want to look flawless on their big days. Men and women will spend thousands of dollars on clothing, hairstyling, makeup, teeth whitening, fitness classes, and more to ensure they look their best. While couples may be particularly concerned with their wedding day appearance, what they wear under their clothing — particularly for women — can impact how clothes fit and look. Choosing the right bra or supportive undergarments can play a crucial role in how a gown fits and whether or not brides achieve that picture-perfect look. Wearing the wrong undergarments can negatively affect a bride’s appearance and make her extremely uncomfortable. According to a study done by Swiss lingerie company Triumph, a large number of women are choosing their bras incorrectly. The international survey of 10,000 women found that 64 percent of them are wearing the wrong size bras. If women are wearing the wrong undergarments for everyday looks, it stands to reason that their wedding choices may not be spot on, either. Undergarments should be purchased and brought to all fittings as soon as a gown is selected. In fact, it often is a good idea to ask the bridal store employees to suggest a bra or corset that will complement the gown and remain invisible beneath the dress. Some shops will make bras available when trying on gowns. Brides are not obligated to purchase undergarments where they purchase their gowns, but take note of the brand and style and find a similar one elsewhere that fits with your budget if you don’t want to buy at the store. Pay attention to the gown’s fabric and how dense it is. Certain shapewear, including bras, that have a lot of boning in them to
shape and support the body can show under bridal dresses without a lot of layers. Always try on the bra with the gown to gauge the finished look. You may opt for simpler and plain lingerie styles so that you will be guaranteed a seamless appearance. Nude-colored bras tend to be less noticeable than white. You always can purchase something with more pizazz to change into for the wedding night. Some dresses with plunging necklines or backless designs may necessitate other options. Sew-in bra cups are another option that can lend invisible support. Women with more ample busts may want to select gowns that will allow for bras with supportive straps to be worn. This way there is no worry about strapless bras or other style lingerie slipping down. In addition to bras, other types of shapewear can enhance certain areas of the body or downplay perceived flaws. Shapewear can smooth and pull in stomachs. Choose boy shorts or thong-style cuts for a seamless finish. Shapers can smooth out bulges on the back, legs and hips, too. There also are special shorts that have some padding in the rear to create a more curvy look. Bras and other shapewear can make a world of difference in how wedding attire looks and feels. Invest in some quality pieces that will highlight wardrobes to their fullest.
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beautiful symbols of love
any people feel the type of flowers chosen for wedding ceremonies symbolize different things. While some couples may make their final decision on wedding day flowers based cost, they may be surprised to know what different flowers have traditionally symbolized. For example, according to TheKnot.com, a multi-platform resource for all things nuptial, roses have long been considered a symbol of beauty and love. Writers and poets alike have long relied on roses as metaphors for emotion, beauty and true love. Lily of the valley is another popular flower that’s more than just a natural beauty. Though lily of the valley is one of the more expensive flowers couples can choose for their weddings, some legends link the flower to happiness, while followers of England’s royal family no doubt remember that lily of the valley was the flower chosen by Duchess of Cambridge Kate Middleton for her 2011 wedding to Prince William.
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creating a wedding reception playlist
ouples can leave their wedding reception playlists to the professionals, but they should also know that they have a say in which songs are played. In addition, couples can have a “no play” playlist that prohibits certain songs they dislike from being played. When mulling the musical choices for your wedding reception, consider the following advice. • Begin by making a list of your favorite songs. Make this list during different days and at different times and moods so you get a good cross-section of your favorite tunes. But remember not every song is a good fit for a wedding reception. Melancholy songs or those that include suggestive lyrics are best left off the playlist. • Aim to get as many guests on the dance floor as possible. Well-known songs and upbeat dance music will inspire more guests to cut a rug than lesser known tunes you may be fond of. Music that spans the decades and various genres will appeal to guests from all age groups, encouraging dancers young and old to cut a rug. • Avoid songs that are difficult to dance to. Some songs just are not meant to be danced to. If your favorite songs fit that bill but you still want to hear them on your wedding, ask the DJ or band to play them during the cocktail hour or while everyone is eating dinner. • Give the music vendor some leeway. Disc jockeys and bands have no doubt performed at many a wedding before yours, and they may have a better feel for crowds than you do. Let them know they have some leeway to play songs that did not make it onto the playlist if guests seem to be avoiding the dance floor. That professional expertise is why you hired them, and it can make for a more memorable night for everyone. • Don’t stress out about the music. The playlist can set the tone for a positive reception, but don’t stress out if you’re struggling to come up with songs you want to hear.
Your vendor is no doubt capable of creating a playlist that will ensure everyone has fun. Hiring a band or disc jockey to perform at your wedding reception is a great way to make sure everyone enjoys a fun night. Adding your own favorite songs to the playlist can make the reception even more special. Bryon Hinton of J&B Sound & Light said often times a disc jockey is the smallest expense of the evening but is also the one who keeps the night running smoothly and makes sure the bride, groom and guests have fun. “We at J&B realize this and we have packages to fit numerous scenarios from a small backyard wedding with only 45 or 50 people up to 1,000 people at some of our larger area venues such as Hines Center or The Convention Center,” Hinton said. “Lighting can also play a factor in pricing. We offer simple wash lighting and effect lighting, which we include at no additional fee, so you can add on lighting to make your venue even more beautiful.” Some dj’s even offer payment plans to help couples with the expense of a hiring a music and lighting professional. Hinton encourages wedding parties to not be shy when calling a DJ. “We understand the troubles people go through,” Hinton said. “With us doing this full time, we have no problem helping people make their day less stressful.”
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tame your wedding day tension
hen couples tie the knot, many changes are in store, many compromises will be made and many lasting memories will be created. But in the weeks and months before their big days, couples can easily get caught up in the whirlwind of wedding planning, never taking inventory of their feelings until their wedding days have arrived. Come their wedding days, couples should not be surprised if some nerves set in. A survey from the anxiety self-help resource The Fear Source indicated 71 percent of brides-to-be suffered from some type of nerves during the lead-up to their weddings. Ninety-two percent of brides experienced nerves on the day of the wedding or the evening before, while 66 percent reported that it affected their daily lives prior to their weddings or hampered their performance and enjoyment during the day itself. The following are some ways to tame wedding day nerves. • Keep an open dialogue. Speak with your future spouse about the things that may be causing your anxiety. Maybe you have doubts on financial choices or where you will be living after the wedding. Communicating openly and honestly is one of the foundations of a strong relationship. • Slow down and breathe. Wedding planning involves making many decisions, and sometimes couples move at breakneck speeds. Make slowing down a priority. Try to enjoy a quiet dinner with just the two of you. When enjoying peaceful moments, take deep breaths, which can be calming and revitalizing. If need be, consider signing up for a yoga or tai chi class to force you to slow down. • Address performance anxiety. It’s easy to build up the big day in your mind and hope that everything goes according to plan. But it’s impossible to plan for each and every outcome on your wedding day. Focus on everything that can go right, rather than worrying about what might go wrong. Also, realize that your guests are your friends and family members who will be forgiving of any hiccups along the way. You’re bound to recover gracefully from
any mishaps. • Work on confidence. Wedding fears may stem from inadequate self-confidence. Give yourself a pep talk and surround yourself with positive people. Keep the worry-warts at arms’ length for the time being. • Recruit more help. Weddings are huge undertakings, so it’s no surprise that couples sometimes feel overwhelmed. Ask reliable relatives or friends to double-check all of the lastminute details. This way you don’t feel it is all on your shoulders. Wedding days nerves are to be expected and often have little to do with the decision to get married. Planning such a big event can be nerve-wracking, but there are ways to combat any anxiety that builds up as the big day draws near.
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tips for how to beat the heat
ay, June and July consistently rank among the most popular months to get married. These months typically provide pleasant weather, and if it does rain, it’s often in the form of a brief thunderstorm. But summer weather can be extremely hot, and while a sunny, warm day may be perfect beach days, such conditions are not always ideal for weddings, especially weddings that take place outdoors. If wedding-day weather threatens to be very hot, explore these methods to staying cool. • Choose a later start time. A lateafternoon wedding may be the way to go in the summertime. The temperature usually drops a bit in the early evening, even though the sun won’t set for a couple of hours. That lingering summertime sun allows the bride and groom to enjoy an outdoor ceremony and still take beautiful outdoor photos. • Rely on shade and proximity to water. Shade can be your friend when the sun is blazing. If your outdoor wedding is in the early afternoon, keep temperatures under wrap by seating guests beneath umbrellas or inside a tent. • Tie the knot near the water. Breezes off of the water also help combat the heat, so a lakeside or beach wedding can make hot temperatures more manageable. • Wear breathable fabrics. Opt for lightweight fabrics instead of heavy gowns and full tuxedos for the bride, groom and wedding party. Cotton and linen allow air to flow through clothing, helping people to stay cool. Light colors also will help deflect the sun. Bridal gowns made of chiffon, silk or satin may feel luxurious and help tame the heat. • Have beverage tables. Keep canisters of cold beverages at the ready so guests can easily quench their thirst. Fresh lemonade, iced tea and water with a few sprigs of mint
can help guests ward off dehydration. • Make fans and hand these out to guests. Homemade fans of thick cardstock and popsicle sticks can keep guests comfortable. Such cards can double as thank-you messages or ceremony programs. • Tailor the reception menu to the weather. A large, heavy meal may not be what guests are hoping for when temperatures are especially hot. In such situations, provide some cool, light fare, such as chilled salads or cold soups, as first courses. Sorbet can be a cool palate cleanser, and grilled meats and vegetables will make for a satisfying, light main course. Ice cream cake may be a decadent option in lieu of more traditional wedding cake. • Choose hairstyles and makeup wisely. Brides may prefer up-dos to keep hair off of their necks and allow for breezes to cool their bodies. Rely on makeup primers and powdered foundations so that makeup does not melt in the heat. Waterproof cosmetics are adviseable so that perspiration won’t cause makeup to run. Summer weddings are preferable, and couples can take several steps to make sure they’re both beautiful and comfortable.
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lodging for your out-of-town guests
ne of the more enjoyable aspects of wedding planning is finding lodging for out-of-town guests. Hotels come in all shapes and sizes, and visiting various hotels and seeing what each has to offer can be fun. As couples set out to find lodging for their out-of-town guests, the following factors should be taken into consideration. Elissa Payne, Director of Sales at the Holiday Inn Owensboro Riverfront, said wedding couples are encouraged to call the hotel directly to arrange a block of rooms reserved for wedding guests. “Depending on the date, I usually begin with 10 rooms within the block, then add more, based on availability, when those 10 rooms are booked,” she said. “I always encourage my bridal couples to reach out to those guests who they know will be traveling and book their rooms sooner than later.” Payne said she often suggests to brides they consider booking a Suite for Friday and Saturday nights. “On Friday, I suggest the bride and her bridesmaids stay in the suite, which allows them to get ready in the room the following day without the hassle of checking-in or checking-out,” she said. “Being a full-service hotel, we can offer room service for fruit and cheese trays, champagne and other goodies throughout the day to be delivered directly to the suite. Then, after the bridal party departs for photographs and the Grand Event, our team can clean the room and have it ready to go for a Honeymoon Suite--something extra special for the bride and groom’s first night as a married couple.” While many hotels have a booking fee, the Riverfront Holiday Inn does not. Some other factors to consider when suggesting hotels for out of town guests are:
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Location bears considerable weight when choosing a hotel for your out-of-town wedding guests. If you are tying the knot in a large city, guests are less likely to rent cars for the weekend, so look for a hotel with access to restaurants and other attractions your guests can enjoy while they are in town.
Amenities
Out-of-town guests will have more free time on their hands than the bride and groom-to-be, so consider the amenities each hotel you visit has to offer. On-site exercise facilities, pools and outdoor lounge areas all can help guests fill the hours before the wedding and enjoy some rest and relaxation.
Cost
Like location, cost is a significant consideration when choosing a hotel for your out-of-town guests. Whether such guests are driving or flying in, the cost of travel is already hitting them in the pocketbook, so finding hotels that offer budget-friendly rates for wedding parties should be a priority.
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tips for saluting the bride & groom
hile guests might enjoy wedding toasts, best men and maids of honor may be nervous about honoring the brides and grooms in such public settings. That anxiety is perfectly normal, especially for those who have never before been asked to serve as maid of honor or best man. Those tasked with toasting the newly anointed husband and wife can consider the following tips to make the task a little easier. • Keep it brief. While there might be many things you want to say, try to express yourself as concisely as possible. Convey your relationship with the bride and/or groom, but avoid lengthy histories that might come off as rambling. While personal anecdotes that shed some humorous light on your relationship are great additions to wedding toasts, avoid going into too much detail when telling such stories, focusing instead on the parts of the stories that illustrate your feelings and generate a few laughs. • Avoid being too formal. Even the most formal wedding can benefit from a toast that veers more toward the spontaneous. While you want to thank the parents of the bride and groom for hosting the wedding and the guests for being on hand to celebrate, don’t feel as though you need to be especially formal. Giving a less formal speech also may help calm your nerves. • Practice, practice, practice. Practice your speech ahead of time so you are not reading from cards or notepads during the toast. Reading from a piece of paper is less likely to engage the audience than if you are speaking to them directly and sharing some heartfelt thoughts about the bride and groom. It’s alright to hold onto some cue cards to keep you on track as you deliver your toast, but practicing your toast as the wedding draws near will boost your confidence and make you more comfortable once you have the microphone in hand. • Stay appropriate. Humor adds a lot to wedding toasts, but make sure to clean up any humorous anecdotes so they can be shared with
all wedding guests, including kids. In addition, avoid stories that, while humorous, may end up embarrassing the bride and groom. • Share well wishes. Before you raise your glass and ask guests to do the same, express some heartfelt well wishes for the bride and groom. Doing so is a fitting end to a tradition that’s meant to highlight the special relationship brides and grooms have with their maids of honor and best men. Maids of honor and best men making their first wedding toasts may be nervous in advance of the big day, but there are ways to calm those nerves and deliver heartfelt, memorable toasts that will be remembered for all the right reasons.
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when to visit honeymoon hotspots
honeymoon provides a welcome retreat for couples after months upon months of budgeting, planning and ironing out the details of their weddings. On their honeymoons, couples get the chance to escape the pressures of everyday life and simply enjoy being alone with each other in special locations. Honeymoon vacations can be expensive, and many couples want to ensure they get the best value for their trips. A honeymoon that is overshadowed by inclement weather can make this oncein-a-lifetime trip memorable for all the wrong reasons. While not every hiccup can be avoided, couples can plan their honeymoons for those times of year when specific locales experience their best weather. • Jamaica: Couples tying the knot in the earlier part of the year may want to honeymoon in Jamaica. With average temperatures in the 80s year-round, Jamaica makes for a great honeymoon destination. January through April see less rain than other times of the year, and keep in mind June through the end of December is hurricane season. • Australia: People opting to get married in the winter in the Northern Hemisphere might want to escape the cooler temperatures and shorter days with a honeymoon south of the equator. Australia and New Zealand are beautiful spots to visit and enjoy summer when those in the Northern Hemisphere are mired in winter. • France: Paris and other French cities can be enchanting to visit any time of the year, but locals advise honeymooners visit in September when the climate is quite comfortable and tourism is minimal. Spring is another great time to visit France, especially for those people who want to spend plenty of time outdoors.
• Mexico: Areas of Mexico, such as popular Cancún and Cozumel, tend to stay warm all year long, but they can be particularly hot in the summer. Spring brides and grooms may want to venture there before the summer season is in full swing. Couples might want to avoid vacationing in certain areas in March, as students visiting for spring break may compromise the romantic atmosphere honeymooners are hoping for. • Hawaii: Spring and summer can be ideal times to visit the islands of Hawaii, as the weather can be beautiful and travel tends to be less expensive during these times of year. Rains increase as autumn sets in, and Hawaii often sees the bulk of its vacationers during the winter, meaning higher costs and bigger crowds. • Italy: April through June and September through October are some of the best times to visit Italy. Be aware that Venice tends to be misty and damp during the late fall and early spring. Italy, especially southern Italy and Sicily, can get quite hot during the peak summer months. Weather and tourism should be considered as newlyweds choose where to go on their honeymoons.
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