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Volume 9, Number 7 Publisher: MHS Publications, Inc., Member, M.I.P.A. Editor: Marilyn Tinnin marilyn@mschristianliving.com Associate Editor: Suzanne Durfey

8 The Way I See It Embrace Today!

10 Let’s Talk It Over Overcoming the Communication Gap

13 Salt & Light Healing the Soul After Abortion: Freedom 517

14 Single Still, Single Again Counting It All Joy—Some Days Are Harder than Others

16 The Middle Ages Windex the Windows of My Soul

18 Living My Call Our Journey to God’s Destination

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28 Food for Thought Comfort Soups

J.J. and Melanie Jasper A Story of Grieving Well and Celebrating Life

30 Artist Profile Christian Vocalist Catherine McMahan of Tupelo

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32 The Doctor Is In How Self-Awareness Impacts Recovery

36 Money Matters Cheerful, Sacrificial Giving

38 Legal Advice Just Do It—You Have Procrastinated Long Enough!

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Editor’s Letter Rave Reviews Events Calendar Quips & Quotes Advertiser Index

What’s Coming Next Month? Heart Transplant Recipient Beth O’Reilly Shares Her Personal Story of Prayer, Ta-Dah Moments, and a Miracle

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➺editor’s letter Great Expectations He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, my refuge and my fortress, my God in whom I trust. – Psalm 91:1-2 By this late date in life, I have turned quite a few pages on old years’ calendars, sung quite a few verses of Auld Lang Syne, and eaten my weight in good luck black-eyed-peas across several decades of New Year’s tradition. I love January. There is something cozy and comforting about a fire in

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Thou changest not. Thy compassions they fail not. Great is thy faithfulness, God, unto me.”

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– “GREAT IS THEY FAITHFULNESS” BY THOMAS CHISHOLM

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the fireplace and working from home in my pajamas. I do that as often as possible during this month! I never mind the gray winter sky and the sight of barren trees stretching their naked arms toward heaven. Spring will come in its own time. The changing of the seasons is certain, and the great blessing of growing older is the deep trust that springs from within, a result of a relationship with the Father who has demonstrated His faithfulness to me year after year after year. Isaiah 55:8 reminds us that God’s thoughts and ways are different from ours—a good thing to remember here on the threshold of a new year with all its unknowns waiting before us. That is also probably among the first and most difficult lessons a Believer learns. We may never completely get past asking an occasional, “Why this, Lord?” But as time goes by, most of us come to a peace and acceptance with even the bitter pills of life. I really think that other than the final victory over death that comes to us on our final earthly day, the second best victory we are awarded as Believers is the experience of knowing the truth of the words in Psalm 23, “For Thou art with me.” And THAT fact makes all the difference when the storms of life blow. On November 7, my new granddaughter, Vivian Owen Bailey, was born in Memphis. She was only a few minutes old when the nurse whisked her away from her mother and daddy and placed her in the NICU because of breathing difficulty. For two days she continued to grow weaker, until finally she was transported by ambulance to Le Bonheur Children’s Hospital in a critical state. Betsy looked at me and asked, “Mom, do you think she is going to die?” I had only one answer for her, and it was an answer that God has taught me over my personal journey, an answer that has been many years in the making. “Betsy, God sees what we can’t see. He knows things that we don’t know. All I know is that He is a good God, and we can trust Him.” I could almost hear my mother’s voice in my words. I may fall flat on my face with failure in the next ten minutes, but at that moment, I felt old and slightly wise. God’s grace, for sure. Vivi, by the way, means “full of life,” and at six weeks old, she is very much that. J.J. and Melanie Jasper, who you will meet this month in our cover story, will testify to God’s presence and strength in the middle of one’s worst nightmare. It seems like we can get through a lot of hard things, but when that hard thing involves losing a child—well, most of us cannot even imagine going there. It is no lame platitude to say, “God’s grace is sufficient” because they know that it has been. Amazing couple and an amazing story. But bring Kleenex. With all the usual New Year’s Resolutions and good intentions in mind, our contributors have done an outstanding job of providing timeless tips to help you launch the New Year. Whether you are in search of comfort food or comfort and wisdom for dealing with the latest challenge life has presented, you will find something that speaks to you in these pages—guaranteed. Oh, and I highly recommend pajamas and your favorite mug filled with your favorite hot beverage as you take your time reading it all. Happy New Year! Y

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➺the way i see it by MARTIN E. WILLOUGHBY, JR.

Embrace Today! hen I was young, my parents would hang up a special Christmas decoration for my sister and me to count the days until Christmas. Each day we were allowed to untie a candy cane to celebrate being one day closer to that magical morning. I remember that the month of December would drag on forever. It seemed like December 25th would NEVER arrive. As an adult, I have found the opposite to be true. The Christmas season is simply a blur. As with this year, I can’t believe another year has passed so quickly. As I look at my ninthgrade daughter, Ally, who seems all grown up, I can’t believe when I started writing this column she was just in kindergarten! Much has been written about the sense that as we get older, time seems to speed up. Psychologist William James, in his 1890 text Principles of Psychology, wrote that, “As we age, time seems to speed up because adulthood is accompanied by fewer and fewer memorable events. When the passage of time is measured by “firsts” (first kiss, first day of school, first family vacation), the lack of new experiences in adulthood causes the days and weeks to smooth themselves out.” Modern scholars have further studied this topic and put forth all kinds of theories about why time seems to speed up as we age. However, we don’t need to go much further than Scripture for a sense of perspective about time. David reminds us in Psalm 39:5-6,

“Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you. Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath!” He further said, “So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom” (Psalm 90:12). I think a lot about James’ reflection on time when he said,

What is exciting to me about a life in Christ is the potential for something extraordinary to happen in the course of our normal day. Often, it is a matter of just being available.

“What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes” (James 4:14). As I reflect on the Scriptures, I realize the preciousness of each day. I think about how every day is a bonus day. I am a creature of habit. I like my routine and can quickly get out of sorts if it goes awry. However, that routineness can also become mundane. I can easily shy away from new experiences or new challenges.

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As William James noted, I tend to lose the sense of wonder about life as there seem to be fewer and fewer “firsts.” I remember as a teenager my parents encouraging me to savor the moments of life and not to be in a hurry to grow up. They wanted me to enjoy each stage of the journey and the firsts that come along. What is exciting to me about a life in Christ is the potential for something extraordinary to happen in the course of our normal day. Often, it is a matter of just being available. It is easy to forget that we can experience the presence of Christ in the routine of life. While written over 300 years ago, Brother Lawrence in his timeless book, The Practice of The Presence of God, gives us a guide on how to walk with the Lord one day at a time. Each day we have opportunities. We have choices in how we treat people, whether we pray for others, or whether we share the joy we know in Christ. Each day is full of possibilities. While we can’t slow down the clock that seems to be increasing with speed, we can choose how we spend our days. I hope I will spend them wisely in 2015. Happy New Year! Y Martin E. Willoughby, Jr,. is Chief Operating Officer of Butler Snow Advisory Services, LLC located in Ridgeland. He and his wife, Nicki, have two children, Ally and Trey, and live in Memphis, Tennessee.

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Overcoming the Communication Gap

eedless to say, a gap exists between today’s generation of adolescents and adults. Chap Clark,

in his book, Hurt, states that “teenagers honestly seem to believe that adults are unnecessary. Yet it is an equally if not more deeply felt truth that every mid-adolescent is crying out for an adult who cares” (p. 62). The focus of this article is not the many ways in which our young generation has been corrupted by technology, social media, or a hyper-sexualized pop culture. The focus instead is the responsibility of adults to alter the way in which they interact with youth—in order to meet the needs of those youth. Why do I put emphasis on the adults? It is the responsibility of adults to meet the needs of children, not the other way around. If relational change needs to happen between a parent and child or teen, the initiation must start with the parent focusing on what is in his or her own power to change. What I’m about to say may sound like I am advocating for a laissez-faire style of parenting—by not giving instruction, correction, discipline, or boundaries. Withholding direction or correction is not what I am proposing. I am proposing an alteration on the timing of offering direction and correction. I am proposing that adults make an intentional effort to do what the prominent relational researcher, John Gottman, calls turning towards their teen which involves two components: Listening and Connecting. First, there is listening. This means hearing what your teen is saying and acknowledging it. It means summarizing to him what he said in such a way that he can then say, “Yes, that’s what I am saying.” Listening to him means momentarily withholding your response or your concern about what he has said. Listening tells your teen that you are willing to acknowledge his opinions, emotions, or experiences whether you agree with them or not. Here is an example of what I mean: Your son is frustrated about his curfew and tells you why he thinks he should be able to stay out longer. We might usually say, “I hear you—” and then launch into a

Here are phrases I hear from PARENTS of teenagers on a daily basis:

☛ “I sure hope he will open up to you because I can’t get a word out of him.”

☛ “Since she got her driver’s license the only time she is at the house is when she is sleeping.”

☛ “I don’t even know who my son is anymore. When I suggest we spend time together, he looks at me as if I’m asking him to voluntarily attend school on Saturday.”

☛ “Any time I give him advice or a suggestion, he just blows me off like I’m the most ignorant person to have ever lived.”

Here are phrases I hear from TEENAGERS on a daily basis:

☛ “It’s like I can’t do anything around my parents without getting a lecture.”

☛ “I’m so tired of adults giving me mindless directions and then flipping out when I ask why or point out the stupidity in what they are telling me to do.”

☛ “There’s absolutely no way I would talk to my mom about this. She would completely freak out and not understand anything about where I’m coming from. It’s like she forgot that she was in high school once and did the same thing.”

☛ “My friends are the only people I go to when I am having a hard time. My parents never understand.”

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response. Merely stating, “I hear you,” is not sufficient. We must demonstrate that we have heard him. An alternative listening statement would be something like, “Son, you are saying that you believe that you have shown me that you are trustworthy enough for me to extend your curfew.” The purpose of listening is to ensure that you accurately understand what your teen is trying to communicate. This first step is so important because it is surprisingly easy to repeat what your teen says back to him and have him say, “No, that’s not it.” I’m sure you’ve felt the frustration of someone misjudging what you say and then giving you advice or condemnation based on this misjudgment. To immediately respond with a comeback or answer without first listening usually sends the message, “I know what is better for you and I don’t care what you think, feel, or have experienced.” If you want your teen to believe that you know what is best and have his best interest in mind, you must first develop his trust by communicating that you hear what he says. After listening and repeating to your teen what he or she has said, the second step is to connect with the experience. This means putting yourself in her shoes and imagining what it would be like to see things from her perspective. This is the basic idea of empathy. Empathy is different from thinking about how you would respond if you were in her situation. People respond differently to similar situations and there is not always one singularly correct way a person should respond. Empathy is imagining what it would be like to respond the way that she did in the situation. An example would be that your daughter is angry with a teacher after receiving a bad grade. Your daughter believes the teacher is

showing favoritism. Connecting with her experience would mean thinking about a time in your life when you have felt similar emotions to what she is describing and recalling what it is like to experience those emotions. Now would be the time to withhold your opinion about the accuracy of her perception (I know. Easier said than done!) Connecting by being willing to imagine what it would be like to feel your teen’s emotions sends the message that she is not alone in the world and that you have compassion without condemnation for her. For any person to be willing to talk about her inner world, there must be an established sense of safety. For your teen to share what is happening inside of him, he must trust that you not going to use what he shares to ridicule, condemn, dismiss, or harm him whether you agree with him or not. Again, I am not advocating that parents should withhold their assessment of the rightness or wrongness of their child’s behavior or perceptions. I am advocating that for them to hear us, we must first build within our teens an internal belief that, “My parents understand me, care about my thoughts/desires/emotions, and love me as I am.” Closing the gap between your and your teen will take many small experiences of demonstrating that you are a safe person. The more you model and embody that you care about listening and are safe, the higher your chances are at being let in. Trust takes time. Y

Will McNeese, LPC, LMFTA, is a counselor at Summit Counseling with experience working with families and individuals, including children and adolescents. He can be reached at wmcneese@fbcj.org.

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I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…My frame was not hidden from you, when I was made in secret…Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were all written. The days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them. – PSALMS 139:14-16

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Freedom 517 Healing the Soul After Abortion often burden the post-abortive individual. This guilt, shame, and regret can manifest into different coping mechanisms that include, but are not limited to, the following: nightmares, addiction, depression, and eating disorders. This is a sensitive topic that can be intimidating because of the political undertones and deep secrecy that comes with it. However, when the topic is not discussed, it seems “unmentionable” to the very people who struggle with this secret. The group of women who makes up the leadership team for Freedom 517 has a unique perspective. Each woman is postabortive and each has walked the road to

n Spring 2014, several ladies sat around Barbara Beavers’ dining room table. Mrs. Beavers is the director of the Center for Pregnancy Choices for Jackson. The diverse ensemble of women had something in common— their calling.

Throughout the metro area, a handful of women have been called to minister to the post-abortive. The statistics show that one in three women have had an abortion, yet very few go through recovery. As the group began to discuss their needs and desires for this ministry, everyone noticed a consistent theme of getting the word out. The question was posed, “How can people receive healing if they don’t know it’s available?” God had brought together a group of women and revealed to them His mission. That evening, Freedom 517 was formed. Freedom 517 is a council of women who desire to remove the stamp of “taboo” from the topic of abortion. Their desire is to assist pastors, ministry leaders, and counselors with resources and training. Many understand that they have been forgiven for the sin of abortion, but they do not understand that there is freedom and healing available. Freedom 517 stands on the promise held in 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” God never intended for anyone to continue to carry the guilt and shame that

The group of women who make up the leadership team for Freedom 517 has a unique perspective. Each woman is post-abortive and each has walked the road to healing…

healing and now facilitates recovery groups. This is important because the team is able to help church leaders and counselors find the balance of sensitivity and boldness that is often tricky, yet necessary, when it comes to the topic of abortion. The team members are able to share what helped them open up and seek healing, and what would’ve scared them away from seeking healing. Freedom 517 offers training, resources, literature, and speakers to ministries, churches, and counselors. All services are free of charge, although the group does accept donations through the Center for Pregnancy Choices. To find out more, please visit www.freedom517.org or at Freedom 517 on Facebook. Y Leigh Ramsey home schools her 5 children and is founder of Out of the Dust, a ministry for post-abortive recovery.

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➺single still, single again by AMY INGRAM

Counting It All Joy…

Some Days Are Harder than Others

recently had a friend tell me that my life could easily be a sitcom and they would be first in line to watch. I think if we stop to think about it, at some point, we could all be on sitcoms. It seems when we are delivered

from crisis there is always something to look back and laugh about. I’m bringing y’all along on my most recent moment of terror, which has turned out to be extremely entertaining now. This past weekend my mom, sister-in-law (Maggie), and I ventured off to New York City for a long girl’s weekend. Mom and I flew from Birmingham on a direct flight and Maggie flew out of Jackson. My mom and I left the house at 5 a.m. for our 7 a.m. flight. I could tell my mom was super tired and she seemed a little “off” but I just chalked it up to being up so early. She ate a little bite of breakfast and drank a tea from Starbucks and we loaded on the plane. About

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an hour into the flight I asked her if I could get up to go to the bathroom and when I came back she had moved over to the window seat and was asleep. About 15 minutes passed after I returned to my seat and we hit some rough air. The airplane was warmer than usual, and my mom woke up and said, “I think I’m going to be airsick.” She reached for the airsickness bag and when she went to vomit it was full from someone else’s vomit (GAG!). At this point, she handed the bag to me and I thought she wanted me to help her get it open, so I stuck my hand down in it to open it—yeah, NASTY. Meanwhile, as I was trying to find another bag for her to use, I stopped to check on her and she had passed out. I stood up in true form and yelled “I NEED HELP, OH MY GOSH, I NEED HELP.” Of course this brought great alarm to the staff and people on the plane, as they thought I had LOST MY MIND. I finally realized after noticing the man near me clinching his seat, white knuckled, that I had to be a little clearer, so I noted I needed a doctor or a nurse for my mom. As the nurse came to care for my mom, I took off running to the bathroom (with the vomit bag in hand, and vomit ON MY HAND) yelling “sweet Jesus, sweet Jesus, sweet Jesus.” I washed my hands quickly and came back to my mom and they had slapped her into consciousness. She looked at me and said, “Did someone slap me really hard?” Um, yes. Lots of times. I sensed from the nurse that she was really concerned about my mom and they were doing their best to get the plane on the ground and get my mom some help as quickly as possible. (We landed 45 minutes early). The oxygen was on, but my mom was pale as a ghost. The nurse told me to not let my mom go back to sleep, so I asked questions all the way down to the ground—and all my mom wanted was a little shut-eye. I rested my head on the seat at one point and wept. I honestly thought when they couldn’t get her awake at first she was dying and it was the scariest/saddest moment of my life. We were greeted on the ground by seven of NYFD/NYPD’s finest and they took such good care of us. Mom was wheeled off to the ambulance and NYPD (three officers) escorted me through special doors to get our

luggage. I made the call to take my mom to the Emergency Room in Queens—the fourth busiest ER in America—and I’ve never in my life experienced anything like it. I can’t write about it due to privacy violations, but if you ever ask me I’ll give you some good laughs. (Note: My mom received great care at this hospital and they moved quickly so we could get out and enjoy the city.) Turns out my mom was super dehydrated—and being airsick plus dehydration plus lack of sleep made her have a reaction that caused her to pass out. Cold. There are two very important things to note in the midst of all of this and what God was doing: 1. Prior to leaving on our trip, I had an intense prompting from the Holy Spirit to pray specifically for my mom’s health as we traveled and on this trip. Even the morning we left, I woke up offering her health back to Jesus. I know this is a prayer God had laid before me to offer back to Him, and was one of the reasons why she was okay after this episode. If you are prompted to pray for specific things, do it. Do not hesitate. 2. Due to my journey as a single woman, I have learned great independence as I travel. It was this independence that kept my mom (and dad) calm during this time of uncertainty as we were taken to an area of the city we knew nothing about. It also kept my father from making a rash decision and hiring a private jet to get him to NYC stat. I encourage you to take a look around you and find the good things you are learning in your season of singleness. There is good in this time. I promise. Be loved, beloved, for you are most definitely loved. Y Amy Ingram is a Senior Account Executive at a branding and marketing firm in Birmingham, Alabama, where she lives with her dog, Mabel. Feel free to contact her at amyeingram@gmail.com.

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➺the middle ages by SHERYE S. GREEN

Windex the Windows of My Soul n a bright September day my life changed forever. Even now, I don’t know exactly what happened. One day everything was fine, and the next it was if someone had flipped a switch. What began as a

seemingly routine eye infection morphed into a chronic eye condition. Wonderful ophthalmologists—Dr. Terrel Williams and Dr. John Milam— provided excellent care and moral support during this very frustrating season. How grateful I am to them both. I’ve worn glasses as long as I can remember. Contacts—thick, hard plastic discs the color of emerald green glass—came at age eleven. For over forty years I’ve had an image of myself, at least how I thought other people saw me, and it didn’t include a pair of glasses perched across the bridge of my nose. Upon diagnosis of Dry Eye Syndrome in February 2011, Dr. Milam asked that I comply with a specific regimen for two weeks, and then return to his office for a follow-up eye exam. Five steps were to be followed every day during this period, including treatment with ophthalmic drops, the application of hot compresses on the eyes, and the use several times a day of preservativefree tears. As Dr. Milam explained each of the five steps, he took a lengthy pause before pronouncing the last one. My overactive imagination had already taken flight. I jumped into the conversation, asking him a question I’m not sure I really wanted an answer to. “Am I about to lose my eyesight?” Dr. Milam, who had been looking over my chart, now looked over at me in amazement and said warmly with a broad smile, “No, Mrs. Green. There’s no danger of losing your eyesight.You only need to refrain from using eye makeup for the next two weeks.” Relief flooded my heart like cool rain on parched ground. I wanted to leap out of that exam chair like a Roman candle. “Is that all?” I asked. Makeup, schmakeup. Who needs makeup when you can see! That conversation, funny as it is now, was incredibly frightening to

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me at the time. The fact that I still have my eyesight, no matter how dry, red, or irritated my eyes may get, is something for which I’m immensely thankful. I’m learning to adjust to a “new normal” in my life. Now almost five years down this road of living with dry eyes, I’ve come to grips with the fact that my eyes will never be the same, that dry eye is a condition I will and can live with, that on most days I’ll wear glasses and not contacts, and that I will not let my self-image be defined by my outward appearance. What has enabled me to reach these conclusions? One simple word. Perspective. The online version of the MerriamWebster dictionary defines perspective as “the capacity to view things in their true relations or relative importance.” In this middle season of my life, I’ve discovered if I’m not careful, my perspective on any given issue can become stodgy, even jaded at times. As a daughter of the King, I have a responsibility to take “every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.” Ephesians is a favorite New Testament book. Written by the Apostle Paul, this letter reminds fellow Christians that we not only have physical eyes, but spiritual ones as well. Paul calls them “the eyes of your heart.” The Message version of Ephesians 1:18 shares Paul’s poetic prayer for believers, “I ask—ask the God of our Master, Jesus Christ, the God of glory—to make you intelligent and discerning in knowing Him personally, your eyes focused and clear, so that you can see exactly what it is He is calling you to do…” Just as my eyes get dry and cloudy, so do the eyes of my heart. Perspective, the kind that only God Himself can bring, is like Windex to my soul. This heavenly cleaner strips away the grime of complacency. Perspective wipes off the soot of negativity. It polishes and shines the panes of the windows of my soul so that I can view life as God would have me see it, that I can appreciate His purpose in all things, and that I will focus on sharing His love and grace with others. Godly perspective means the difference between viewing my glass as half empty or half full, the appointments on my social calendar as obligations or opportunities, my dry eye condition as a curse or a blessing. Challenges of this life when perceived through the lens of perspective can make me bitter or better. Wherever you are on your walk of faith with the Lord, remember that God wants us as His children to be able to “grasp the immensity of this glorious way of life He has for His followers.” A brand new year is before us—365 blank canvases upon which God wants to use our lives to paint a picture of His love for this tired world. Let Jehovah Rapha, the Great Physician, perform His own miracle in your life. Allow Him to Windex the windows of your soul.Y Sherye Green is a Jacksonian, a teacher at Hinds Community College, and a wife, mother, and grandmother. Sherye and her husband, Mark, are members of First Baptist Church Jackson. She is also the author of Abandon Not My Soul.

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➺living my call by MAGGIE INGRAM

Our Journey to God’s Destination building he was leasing wanted the space back. He had also heard about “the old Smith Bakery building” in downtown Hattiesburg and sneaked in one day for a peek. The 1920s building had been heavily damaged in Hurricane Katrina, but what most people say it is a call to obedience, a long and steady would see as salvage scraps, Rodney saw road God lays for His people as potential. to follow. “I was overwhelmed by the size of the The Richardsons met in their hometown of building as well as its pitiful condition, but the McComb, and married during their last year of vision was totally and literally from God,” he college at the University of Southern said. The floor of the main Mississippi. He studied fine arts room was covered in ceiling with an emphasis in graphic tiles that had fallen to the floor. design, and she studied speech He looked up through the holes communication. They lived in and could see the original Hattiesburg for two years until vaulted ceiling with exposed Rodney had an opportunity steel trusses. Instead of to work with Nike in disaster, he could see offices, Portland, Oregon. retail space, events, weddings, “The move to Portland was a celebrations, worship, and tremendous time of growth for ministry. He could see past the us,” said Rodney. “It caused us to rubble to a space for learn to rely on each other authentic hospitality. rather than the friends and “I saw the building as a family that each of us, microcosm of life; work, eat, individually, still very often first shop, celebrate, fellowship, and turned to when living so close most importantly worship! I to home. didn’t know how God would “Moving to such a pull it all together, but I completely new place where no committed to follow him down Back from left: Henri and Rodney; Middle from left: Ainsley, Christy, one knows who you are, your Peacy and Harry; Front: Ella the path. If he would lead, we successes, your failures—and would follow.” not being defined by those But it was very far from easy. things—caused us to see that it was In time, the economy tanked. Tenants and also redefined missions for them. “They up to us to determine and define the adult businesses that were in the space were actually did things in real and passionate ways people we’d grow to be and the character and defaulting on loans. Renovations on the we’d never seen before, and they did them out values that we’d live and be known by.” building became completely stalled. His own of a zeal for worship.” That time gave them a strong foundation of design firm that had set up offices in the Unknown to Rodney and Christy, God was oneness in their marriage. Although they were building had lost 60 percent of their business. using their time in Portland and preparing living what many would consider a dream job “I was crushed. I had thought this was God’s with an international corporation, they saw God them for missions around the world and plans vision, and yet it was utterly failing. I had done to expand His kingdom, but they were plans humbling them and drawing them closer to everything I could possibly do to no avail,” that would not unfold for many years to come. Him. “It was exhilarating, adventurous, Rodney said. Christy soon gave birth to their daughter, affirming, empowering, and scary all at the They had scheduled a date with a Ainsley, and they began to feel the pull back to same time,” Rodney said. “It was also the first bankruptcy attorney, and two weeks before Mississippi. Leaving Nike did not seem like a real experience outside our comfort zone.” the meeting, Rodney poured out his heart Living in such a different culture made them wise career move, but living near the rest of before God. “I told Him that I was tired of see their faith differently. “As Southerners, you’d their families was valuable to the young trying to do it all myself. That was my parents. Most importantly, they felt it was what think we’d have this one down already, but problem. I was doing it all in my power. I was through the graciousness of others, God began God was calling them to do. In 1999, they ashamed and repented for the pride of moved back to Hattiesburg and opened to open up and reveal to us genuine, authentic thinking I could. I was at my end, and I fully, RARE Design. hospitality,” Rodney said. They joined a church and only, needed Him.” Lovingly, He gave. The couple had two more children, Harry, that had members from many different cultures “My vision for the building was to remove now 14, and Ella, now 9. After seven years in and countries. It was through getting to know all the junk that had been added in over the business, Rodney found out the owner of the believers from all over the world that they

takes guts to swim against the current, but Rodney and Christy Richardson make it look like a day at the beach. That’s not how they would describe it, though. They would

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began to examine their own hearts. “People in Portland don’t have the same cultural expectations we do in the South. In Portland, people didn’t care if you were a Christian or not. As a result, the Believers we met seemed to be more genuine. This caused us to examine our own lives and ask, ‘Is our faith genuine, or is it a product of the culture in which we grew up?’ “Or even more poignantly, ‘Do we truly believe’?” said Rodney. The church in Portland

years. When I saw the beautiful, original character behind those cheap add-ons, the character that had been exposed by the storm, that’s what I wanted to reclaim for that space. And it wasn’t about renovating to serve its original purpose. This place would never be a manufacturing bakery again. It was about new life. It was about reclaiming the deep, original character, and through a spirit of rejuvenation, see it experience new life for today’s world.” Rodney and Christy see the building as a metaphor for what God can do with our hearts. “All that junk that we pursue, that we add on, that we cover up with—all that weight and burden and irrelevance—He removes all that. He clears it all away to get us back the uniqueness and beauty that He created us to be. But not just to be that something that we were in the past—to be a new creation in Him. To be used for new purposes and new life.” Now, the building houses RARE Design, a coffee shop, a yoga studio, and a garden shop. It also is home to Venue Church and The Venue event space. The Richardsons talk often with their kids about obedience to God, and they know that their words mean nothing if they are not backed up with actions. When God began working in Christy’s heart to homeschool their three children, she knew she needed to listen. “When the economy tanked, everything took a huge hit. We were perfectly happy at the awesome Christian school here in Hattiesburg, but we knew we had to cut corners,” she said. They decided to try homeschooling for one year, but kept the kids uniforms in the closet just in case. “What a surprise blessing it has been!” she said. “It has given us freedom to do what we are passionate about. We were able to go to Africa twice and take our books with us. Our kids get to go to work with dad

some days and do their schoolwork and be around all these creative amazing people. It is one of the many tools the Lord has used and is continuing to use to blunt our edges.” Christy is also involved with young women in their community and what started as a mission trip to Uganda evolved into two huge family additions! The women in her group spent a summer in rural Uganda at an orphanage and blogged about their time there, which inspired the Richardsons to begin praying and financially supporting the children and their director, Ms. Agnes. Over time, their love for the kids deepened and

“All that junk that we pursue, that we add on, that we cover up with—all that weight and burden and irrelevance—He removes all that. He clears it all away to get us back the uniqueness and beauty that He created us to be. But not just to be that something that we were in the past— to be a new creation in Him. To be used for new purposes and new life.” through Ainsley’s urging, they knew it was time to meet these kids face-to-face. Adopting was not on their radar, but they were willing to be obedient. “We weren’t going to build something or paint something or hold clinics. He simply was prompting us that it was time to go. Out of love, and for the relationships, it was time to go. If he had more for us, we believed he’d show us. So we went. And it was one of the most amazing, exhilarating, worshipful experiences of our lives,” Rodney said. “We ministered and were ministered to. We loved

and were loved on. We met people whom we will cherish for the rest of our lives. We shared the gospel with our lives and had folks share it back with us through theirs.” The two youngest children at the orphanage were named Henri, 5, and Peacy, 4. God began opening the doors for the Richardsons to adopt them, and in December 2013, the family of five became seven. “God has taught us so much about utter and complete dependence on Him during this adoption process,” Christy said. “A scripture the Lord would bring to mind over and over was Luke 1:37, for nothing is impossible with God. Going through this adoption has been such a tangible picture to us of God adopting us into his family. “We are in awe that the Lord took us to this little orphanage in Uganda, grew our families heart for these two children in our time spent with them there, and then moved miraculous obstacles to put them in our family here in Hattiesburg!” Going forward, the Richardsons want to be available and open to what God has planned for them. “Our prayer for our children is to know God and make Him known and to glorify Him and enjoy Him forever. We desire to be good stewards with the resources the Lord has given us. Our building is His! It is on loan to us,” said Christy. “We just pray to be faithful with it and that it would be a source of encouragement to others. We pray it would be like a sort of Lighthouse to our city, where people can come and taste and see that the Lord is good.” Y Maggie Ingram lives in Madison with her husband and three children. She is a homemaker and loves a good book. Feel free to contact her at maggiepingram@yahoo.com.

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J.J. and Melanie Jasper

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J.J. and Melanie Jasper have lived every parent’s nightmare—the sudden loss of a child. Five-year-old Cooper Jasper lost his life on a beautiful summer afternoon in the middle of a special father and son activity the two had enjoyed countless times on the family farm. With Cooper shouting his favorite super hero mantra, “Flame On!” and his dad behind the wheel of their dune buggy, the two were laughing with delight as they made trips up and down the level path, almost slowing to a stop and then flooring the accelerator. J.J. remembers thinking how very much he loved this little boy with the blonde hair and the infectious smile. The low-to-the-ground vehicle had a wide stance and was equipped with a full roll bar and seat belts. It was highly unlikely to flip. And yet, on that July afternoon in 2009, it did flip. Cooper died in his father’s arms. And life would never be quite the same again. The story of how the Jasper’s put one foot in front of the other day by day is a completely non-sugar-coated, real life experience of God’s grace in meeting them at the point of their need and His ability to answer their first raw prayers to teach them to “grieve well.” The Family Tree J.J. is well known as an American Family Radio on-air morning talk show host. He is an in-demand author and comedian whose background would make all of his career accomplishments seem unlikely. Growing up in Owensboro, Kentucky, in a dysfunctional home with a lineage of alcohol abuse, he describes himself as “out-ofcontrol; drinking, smoking pot and running with wild, reckless friends” when he went to live with his grandmother at age 19. He was doing odd jobs in construction, had dropped out of school, and says he was an “absolute train wreck.” God chose to use his little grandmother’s love and example, along with the godly influence of an uncle whose life had been radically transformed. J.J. had walked the aisle of a Baptist church as a twelve year old—but there on the cusp of twenty, he rededicated his life to the Lord and understood for the first time what the new life in Christ could be. J.J.’s conversion opened an immediate platform for him in youth ministry. He had always been the class clown so being in front of an

audience came naturally to him. But now, he had a story with meaning and purpose to tell.Youth responded to his honest testimony of personal experience with two opposite lifestyles. His “checkered” past gave him credibility with teenagers. They recognized his honesty. Eventually, he received an invitation to a weekend retreat in Tupelo, Mississippi. That weekend led to an invitation to remain there for the entire summer discipling the youth in that church. One relationship led to another as his sphere of influence enlarged, and by the time the summer was over, he had begun working in the local Christian radio station. That was 1985, and Tupelo has been home ever since. A decade passed. American Family Radio launched in 1991, and J.J. was the first voice on the air on the very first day. His multi-faceted career was in full force. He loved what he was doing between radio, speaking, and working with youth. There was no Mrs. J.J. Jasper. She simply had not come along. However, being around Christian radio so much, J.J. had frequent opportunity to listen to Dr. James Dobson’s daily

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programs. Conscious of the fact that he had no firsthand experience observing a vibrant and loving relationship between his parents, he made mental notes of Dr. Dobson’s advice thinking, “I’m going to remember that. And if the Lord ever sends me a bride, I am going to try to put in place these things I’m learning from Dr. Dobson.” One of J.J.’s great joys is that he did eventually meet Dr. Dobson and let him know how much he gleaned from his wise counsel. In 1997, J.J. was invited to Gulfport to do a night of comedy at Michael Memorial Baptist church. It was there that J.J. and Melanie met, and the rest, you could say, is history. Melanie was a young single mother of a twoyear-old daughter. Recently divorced, she was living with her parents and working hard to put life together for herself and for baby Lauren. She had recently come to a new plateau of surrender in her life as she realized how dependent she was on the Lord’s guidance for wisdom as a breadwinner and as a mother. She read Psalm 37:4 with new understanding. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Melanie decided to do that—to learn to make her relationship with the Lord her greatest delight and to trust Him with everything beyond that. Two months later, she was helping host a fish fry in her parents’ back yard in connection with their church’s comedy event. It was as if she and J.J. had known each other their entire lives. Six months, many huge phone bills, and many prayers later, Melanie and J.J. married. As J.J. says, “You could call me a ‘microwave’ dad. I got a wife and a two-year-old daughter on the same day.”

Growing a Family Despite the stereotypical stories of blended families, warring factions and difficult adjustments, the Jaspers found family life to be close to fairytale perfect. “For it to have worked so well, it had to be the Lord,” says Melanie. They agree that because both were at a place in their lives where they were committed wholeheartedly to Christ having both experienced a slice of life without His guidance, their shared values and priorities were in sync. They knew the Bible was going to be their guide, a Biblebelieving church was going to be a huge factor, and they would do their best to practice the love, respect, and forgiveness that Christ taught toward one another in their daily lives. “After that, things pretty much fell into place,” J.J. says. Melanie says, “I watched my mom and dad be madly in love with each other. I did not think I would ever find that kind of love. But I did, and I would think, ‘Is this a fairytale?’ When I waited on God and did not try to fit a square peg into a round hole—when I waited on God, He did give me the best.” That is a lesson she has often shared with her daughters. “God always gives the very best, and his timing is always the very best.” Melanie wanted more children although J.J. says he wasn’t looking 22 JANUARY 2015 ❘ Mississippi Christian Living

to have a lot of them. He had been a bachelor for so long that he wasn’t sure he would like the normal chaos that comes with lots of little people running around. For the next three years, it seemed that even one more baby was not to be. They came to accept that Lauren would be their only child, and though they were both disappointed that they could not have just one more, they really came to the place of being okay with that. Close friends continued to pray that God would bless the Jaspers with more children, and it was an incredibly joyous day when they discovered they were expecting. After the birth of Sadie, the babies kept coming as the Jaspers added one surprise baby a year for the next three years! Maddie, then Cooper arrived, and life was full, hectic, crazy, and wonderful. J.J., to his surprise more than anyone else’s, was beside himself in love with each one. He says, “For as long as I’ve been a Christian, I have been reasonably pro-life, but now I am radically pro-life. There is nothing more valuable than those little ones. When you stand there with your spouse and you look in and they go to sleep, and they’re in the crib, and the way they coo and those little tiny hands and tiny feet, well, how could anybody destroy that? With each child we considered what God’s word says in Psalm 127— they really are a gift.”

Cooper J.J., the bachelor, adapted quickly to his role as father of girls. Who would have thought? “Girls are so special,” says J.J. “There is something so special about the bond between a daddy and daughter. Girls have the capacity to make a dad feel 10 feet tall.” He admits, however, that as an All-American guy, he wondered what it would be like to have a son to hunt and fish and play catch with. When they discovered that their fourth (and surprise baby again) would be a boy, everyone was excited, especially the sisters. Samuel Cooper Jasper was born on February 24, 2004. His big sister Lauren, who was eight when Cooper entered the world, recounts the day of his birth in the book Losing Cooper. She says, “I had never felt so much love for something that looked so much like a potato…Staring at this just seconds-old, wrinkly little creature, I knew someone special had just been born…” And “special” was a word that followed Cooper everywhere for the next five years. Looking back, it seems as though God compressed in that short life all the components for a legacy that would influence, impact, and impress farther and longer than most of us who are much older, could ever hope for ourselves. Melanie and J.J. can laugh together when they recall Cooper’s

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unique personality. It was as though he was “born smiling,” they say. He was one of those rare individuals with a happy disposition, a desire to serve others, and a zest for life that was electric! His death left a gaping hole in so many hearts, but in the days and years that followed, his legacy has been one of love, joy, and peace—three qualities that just happen to be the first three listed in Galatians 5:22, the passage we call the “Fruit of the Spirit.”

Grieving Well In those first months after Cooper died, Melanie and J.J. woke up every new day with an almost debilitating shroud of pain engulfing them. The tears felt as though they would never stop. J.J. says, “When we finally got our composure, we would pray together, ‘Lord, help us grieve well. And we prayed those words over and over. I didn’t even know what that meant or looked like, but that’s all I had the strength to say.”

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Clinging to the God they loved and trusted, they took intentional steps toward their “new normal”—life without Cooper. J.J. was conscious of his personal past and the alcohol abuse that had plagued his family as a child. He remembered, too, his reckless behavior before he knew Christ. As much as he wanted to escape this heartache for even a few hours, he wanted even more to be there for Melanie and his daughters. “I would just continue to pray, ‘Lord, help me grieve well. I do not want to be a statistic.” And he adds, “God is that big and that wonderful.” Melanie describes getting supper on the table. Many nights she would find herself serving that sixth plate for Cooper before she would remember that he was gone. There were a million little things like that—expecting to see him walk through the door, looking in the rearview mirror for his blonde head, starting to call his name when it was time to load up the car to go somewhere—and then remembering, and the pain was without end. They saw only their grief and their pain. Others who loved the Jaspers, their friends and J.J.’s coworkers at American Family Radio, saw the family as working through their devastation with grace, strength, and a measure of faith that was inspiring to behold. It was a powerful testimony on so many levels.

“Flame On” Several months after Cooper’s death, some of the leaders at the American Family Association approached Melanie and J.J. about filming a documentary, something that would be a true resource for families dealing with the death of a child. Cooper’s story was even more poignant because he was in his father’s care at the time of the accident. How much blame and guilt could have been heaped on J.J.’s head because of that? As J.J. said, “At first blush people might think, ‘They are trying to exploit you,’ but that is not the case. Number one, they were going to give the DVD away. There was no money to be made here. Number two, they truly wanted to help hurting people.”

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AFA’s mission is to return this country to its Judeo-Christian roots and to encourage families. The fallout that comes in the aftermath of a child’s death often includes other broken lives and broken marriages, even among Believers. It is simply the most gut-wrenching loss there is. As Melanie and J.J. had realized in their own grief, there are few resources that tell you how to get through it. Apart from God, they seriously doubt they could. The goal was to offer the hope and future that God’s grace is sufficient even in a situation as devastating as this one.Yes, they were still in the grieving process, but that fact meant that families who were grieving would know that this was real. And so, Melanie and J.J. agreed to open their hearts to such an undertaking. Over 50,000 copies have been given away so far, and over 100,000 people have seen it online. (Find it on YouTube). J.J. says that he rarely goes to a speaking engagement that some couple doesn’t show up early while he is setting up or doing a mike check. They almost fall in his arms saying they have seen the DVD and they are just desperate for answers because they have also lost a child. They have come to hear him talk because whatever he has to say, they know they want to hear it. J.J. uses the word “ricocheting.” The story of Cooper is literally doing just that and offering hope to people that are hurting.You can almost see Cooper smiling about it. He would be overjoyed! There is a measure of redemption there. God does redeem our pain.Yes.

Making Sense of What Doesn’t Make Sense J.J.’s recent book, Losing Cooper: Finding Hope to Grieve Well, is a must for any grieving person. He records word for word the eulogy their minister, Robert Garland, gave at Cooper’s funeral. This short excerpt frames a perspective that comforts all who grieve. “Most often, in situations like this, the questions are asked: A missionary friend that was serving God on the mission field had a death in this family. He had to come home from that field for a while. While he was at the funeral someone walked up to him and handed him a small piece of a jigsaw puzzle. On the back of that jigsaw puzzle piece there was a reference. It was Romans 8:28. ‘We know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose.’ He looked at it a little bit puzzled for a moment. The man who handed it to him said, ‘We can’t see the

whole picture. But God can.’ The piece of the puzzle that we see oftentimes is a blank piece of the puzzle. Oftentimes it is a hard piece of the puzzle for us to comprehend. Often times that piece brings us heartache or it brings us tears. But we don’t see the whole picture. God sees the whole picture and God’s picture is beautiful. Our part is to trust Him to finish that puzzle in our lives…” The God of Surprises Kasie James Jasper was born a little more than a year after Cooper’s death. She is a true gift from God. With the birth of Kasie James, the Jasper’s decided their family was complete. Melanie scheduled an outpatient surgery to insure that there would be no more little Jaspers. On the day that she was to have her procedure early in the morning, the doctor was delayed by one emergency call after another. The day dragged on and late in the afternoon Melanie was still hooked up to an IV waiting her turn. Just before the orderlies came to wheel her back, she received a phone call from her brother that her mother had been in an accident. “I don’t know how bad it is, but they did take her away in an ambulance.” Melanie had the nurse disconnect the IV; she got dressed, and headed to check on her mom. Fast forward. Her mother was fine, but life with four girls just got busy and she had not quite gotten around to re-scheduling that procedure. And then the God who understands all the puzzle pieces surprised them again. The Jaspers are awaiting the birth of twins—a girl and a boy—in a few short weeks. Five years have passed since that July afternoon when everything in Melanie and J.J. Jasper’s lives changed forever. What they have discovered in these subsequent years is that God is indeed faithful, that his grace is sufficient, and that even though life does not look exactly the way they thought it would at this point in time, it is full, rich and wonderful. He is the God of Hope and He is faithful. Y For more information on JJ’s book Losing Cooper or the DVD Flame On contact American Family Association www.afastore.net

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teaspoons olive oil cup onion, chopped fresh garlic cloves, pressed cans (14.5-oz) chicken broth cup uncooked, cheese-filled tortellini (frozen, fresh, or dried) 1 can (14.5-oz.) petite-diced tomatoes, undrained 1 teaspoon dried basil leaves 1 package (10-ounce) frozen chopped spinach, thawed (use about 1/2 of package) Fresh Parmesan cheese, grated Salt for individual serving, if desired

In a large saucepan, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add onion and garlic. Cook until tender. Add broth immediately and bring to a boil. Add tortellini and cook according to package directions until tender. Do not drain. Stir in tomatoes, basil, and spinach. Reduce heat and simmer 5 minutes. Allow to cook on very low heat and covered until ready to serve. Grate fresh Parmesan cheese over individual servings of soup. Have each person salt to taste, if desired. Yield: 4 to 5 servings. (Adapted from Amandajanebrown.com)

anuary 2015 rings in another new year. This month marks fresh beginnings. We all need this time of renewal to reflect on

better health, new goals, and how we spend our time. This is typically a very cold month when we all tend to stay indoors more. Enjoy this time of year to refresh and reflect. I love comfort food, especially comforting soups of all kinds. Grab a cup of soup, sit by the fire, and remind yourself of all your blessings and many more to come. Blessings to you all in 2015! Y

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large baking potatoes cup butter cup all-purpose flour cups milk teaspoon salt teaspoon pepper green onions, chopped cups cheddar cheese, shredded slices bacon, cooked and crumbled 8-ounce container sour cream

Wash potatoes; prick with a fork. Bake at 400 degrees for one hour or until done. Cool. Cut potatoes in half lengthwise. Scoop out pulp and discard skins. Melt butter in large pot over low heat. Add flour, stirring until smooth. Cook, stirring constantly for one minute. Gradually add milk. Cook over medium heat, stirring until mixture is thickened and bubbly. Stir in potatoes, salt, pepper and 1 cup cheese, 1/2 cup bacon, and 2 tablespoons green onions. Cook until heated. Do NOT boil! Stir in sour cream and cook just until heated. Serve with remaining cheese, bacon and green onions as garnish. Yield: 4 to 6 servings.

tablespoons butter onion, chopped cup all-purpose flour cups chicken broth cups half-and-half cream teaspoon salt pounds crawfish tails, peeled teaspoon Worcestershire sauce Cayenne pepper, to taste

Melt butter in a large saucepan over medium heat. Stir in onion and cook about 8 minutes. Stir in flour until smooth, and cook until mixture turns a pale golden color. Whisk in chicken broth, stirring constantly. Mix in the half-and-half cream, salt, crawfish tails, Worcestershire sauce, and cayenne pepper. Reduce heat to medium-low and continue whisking as soup comes to a simmer. Let bisque simmer for about 5 minutes to slightly thicken. Do NOT boil! Yield: 8 servings.

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Christian Vocalist Catherine McMahan of Tupelo

”When words aren’t enough, add music.”

atherine McMahan, classically trained Christian vocalist and Tupelo native lives by her statement,“When words aren’t enough, add music.” From a young age

she loved music and performing. Her career began in her childhood home in Tupelo, Mississippi, where many days consisted of performing musicals such as, Down by the Creek Bank. Catherine often placed her cassettes in her Fisher Price tape player, hooked up the microphone and sang away on her playroom stage. Her younger siblings, Carrie and Graham, played the role of the adoring audience as she sang. At a young age, the ministry of Christian artists such as Sandi Patty, Amy Grant, and Crystal Gayle moved Catherine. Inheriting her parents talent and love for music, she began to take piano and voice lessons. As her love for music grew so did her love for Christ. He began using music and His Word to draw her to Him. After reading Isaiah 43:21 where the Lord says, “The people whom I formed for myself that they might declare my praise,” Catherine realized her purpose—”to bring Christ glory.” She believes, “Everything I do should bring Christ glory. This guides me daily and anything else is a waste of time and energy.” As a college student, she made a commitment before her hometown church, Harrisburg Baptist, to surrender to full-time Christian service. Though she was not clear on the exact service, she trusted in the Lord’s guidance. His

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“light unto her feet” would be sufficient. Catherine continued in her classical training in college and minored in Music. In 2000, she married Jeremy McMahan, and they began ministry on a church staff in Dallas, Texas. God soon blessed them with their first child, Caleb, in 2004, and later their daughter, Ella Catherine, in 2008. Jeremy had a burden to connect with the community “outside of the church through acts of service.”?So the McMahan family moved back to Tupelo and began “Good Works Tupelo.” This is a non-profit ministry to single moms, widows, and anyone in need. “We serve

people through Good Works in hopes of building a bridge on which to share the gospel with them.” People often ask Jeremy and Catherine if they will go back into the ministry. According to Catherine, “We never abandoned the ministry, we just go about it in a different way now. We look to Jesus and see that He taught in the Temple, but also at a well in Samaria, on a hillside where He explained the Sermon on the Mount, he cooked breakfast for friends, calmed a storm on the sea, and went to Lazarus? home.” For the past six years and through “Good Works Tupelo,” Jeremy and Catherine have faithfully served the Tupelo community together. In January 2013, Catherine had the opportunity to record her first CD, Let My Heart Sing. Afterward, she began traveling and sharing through music. In November of that year, she was asked to speak to a group of women on the topic of balancing the holidays. With those ladies, she shared a very personal conversation she had with the Lord that very morning. Catherine prayed, “Lord, I cannot go through these holidays the same way I have in the previous years. Make this year different. Help me to be solely focused on what truly matters.” In the next month, God answered her prayer and showed Himself sufficient in all circumstances. County Road 41 is a beautiful winding road off of Highway 6. Many Tupelo natives know this as the road that used to lead to Malone?s Fish and Steakhouse. In July 2013, Jeremy

McMahan was thrilled to win a bid on a beautiful piece of property on CR 41. The property was perfect for bonfires and four wheelers. The McMahan family began the tedious renovation work. They painted, changed out all the flooring, and installed new appliances. In July, they moved into what seemed to be a totally “new” home. By the end of November, they had settled into their house, unpacked the last box, and decided to host a large Hancock family gathering for Catherine’s side of the family. All their Christmas decorations were in place and the McMahan’s were feeling festive. The next day, December 1, 2013, their family headed to church and lunch. After lunch, while Catherine and the children went to choir practice to prepare for Harrisburg’s Christmas cantata, Jeremy returned home to finish some outside work. After musical practice, Ella went home with her grandmother. Catherine, her son, Caleb, and his friend, Ty Russell, headed home. While on their way, around 4:40 p.m., Catherine received a phone call that her house was on fire and that Jeremy was very sick from smoke inhalation. As Catherine and the children turned the corner onto CR 41, they immediately saw eight to ten fire trucks, along with smoke and flames billowing from their home. Catherine pulled into her neighbors’ driveway to drop the two boys off, and Caleb’s friend grew concerned over Caleb’s Legos and other toys possibly melting in the fire. Catherine recalls telling Caleb, “This is what faith is made of and this is how it is made stronger. If we have only our family and Jesus, we will be okay.” As Catherine crossed the street, she arrived on a horrific scene. Eight fire trucks, numerous firefighters, fifty or more concerned neighbors and bystanders, and her house burning into ashes before her eyes. “I watched the flames pouring off the roof and at the same time all the doors were melting.” An ambulance was on its way to treat Jeremy for smoke inhalation and lack of oxygen. Attempting to save valuables, he had made multiple trips inside the burning house. He made sure to show Catherine that he had saved the portraits of the children. Catherine recalls thinking, “Blessed is the man who knows how much portraits of the kids mean to his wife!” Although it seems strange, as Catherine watched her house burn she had never “felt more free and loved by God.” She felt free from possessions and free to love Him above

all. “He had chosen to bless us in such a way that He took away everything that was keeping us from him.” Forty-eight hours later, Jeremy was released from the hospital and they drove home to see what was left. Catherine remembers Colossians 1:17, “He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together” being a comfort for her. As they walked around the outside of the house, they stopped at their bedroom window. The McMahan’s saw everything in their bedroom was destroyed except for their wedding photo, which was surrounded by crosses. The only items left in the study were a file cabinet full of Jeremy’s sermons, and Catherine’s music. “We felt reminded of His protection over His clear plan for us to preach His Word and sing His praise.” As days and weeks passed many family members, church members, and friends pitched in to help Jeremy, Catherine, Caleb, and Ella Catherine with clothing and food. The family, who had ministered to so many others, now had the experience of being in need and receiving ministry. In the midst of it all, Catherine learned another valuable lesson—it is possible to “rebuild your life from Walmart”. Jeremy and Catherine are currently serving at Richmond Baptist Church, where Jeremy is the interim pastor. He still serves the local community through “Good Works Tupelo” and runs his website for custom design woodwork, driftingantler.com. Catherine is continuing to homeschool Caleb and Ella Catherine and tour with her music. She has had the opportunity to open for Jason Crabb and Adam Crabb. She is now a part of A&G Entertainments Artist Development Program. From the pain and blessings of losing her home and all her possessions Catherine has recorded her second album, Sacred Refuge. Catherine uses her love of music to exalt her love of Christ. “How Great Thou Art” is still her favorite song to sing, with her favorite line being, “Then I shall bow in humble adoration, and then proclaim, ?My God, how great Thou art!” In Christ’s strength, Catherine’s prayer is that her music would be used to bring only God glory not herself. “If God were to use my life as an example for others, I want my story to read like Habakkuk 3:17-19, “Though the fig tree should not blossom, nor fruit be on the vines, the produce of the olive fail and the fields yield no food, the flock be cut off from the fold and there be no herd in the stalls,Yet I will rejoice in the Lord; I will take joy in the God of my salvation.”

Through their experiences, Jeremy and Catherine have grown closer in their marriage, they have watched their children experience joy in Christ more than possessions, they have had restored faith in the kindness and generosity of the church, and they have experienced being in need and in total dependence on Christ. Catherine remarks, “He has burned away everything that was trivial and has left what mattered, my faith and my family.” “The Lord gave and the Lord takes away; blessed be the name of the Lord” (Job 1:21). Catherine’s CDs can be purchased by contacting chm415@gmail.com, 662.871.5255 or from local stores in Tupelo, such as Joyful Creations Gift Market,Yellow Lovebirds, Room to Room, Jody’s Flowers and Fine Gifts, Corner Shoe Store, and Silly Simpsons. Y

Tara Dowden is a proud graduate of Mississippi State University. She has worked in interior design and elementary education. She is currently an Account Executive for Mississippi Christian Living magazine, a classical ballet instructor, and a volunteer children’s minister. She and her husband, Landon, live in Tupelo where he pastors The Church at Trace Crossing. They enjoy attending soccer games and ballet recitals with their four children: Arabella, Adalaide, Adoniram, and Alastair.

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How Self-Awareness IMPACTS Recovery ollege students who seek treatment because of alcohol or drug dependency have to face reality head-on if they have any hope of making positive changes necessary to live a better life. Although

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the warning signs are always present, individuals who abuse alcohol and drugs tend to overlook them. With increased selfawareness, young people can learn to recognize the warning signs and make better choices before their lives spiral out of control. If addiction is present, it is important to note that by committing to a recovery program and developing a spiritual practice, most individuals are able to live productive and fulfilling lives. Additionally, young people, impacted by addiction, need a source of motivation to do the work that is critical to establishing a long-term recovery program. At Pine Grove’s Next Step program, college students are often a part of our therapeutic community. It is not unusual for them to

present for treatment with a great deal of denial around their alcohol or drug dependence regardless of the consequences. I have often noticed these young adults have created a fantasy of sorts about how life should go for them. Some young people have the impression college life should include lots of partying. Unfortunately, partying for some, involves alcohol and drug abuse. In treatment, they are introduced to the reality they can never use alcohol or drugs again. The thought of never being able to drink alcohol again creates a great sense of loss for these patients. It is frightening for anyone to hear the words, “I believe you’re an addict,” and this is the first step towards acceptance of the problem. When someone—especially a twenty year old—hears those words for the first time, the shock can be so great they may put off addressing the issue until life becomes so unmanageable, they are forced to do something about it. It would help them to understand that we receive the information we

need though our circumstances, and are often provided with the opportunity to change our behavior. It usually works something like this. If you have issues with alcohol abuse, a friend or family member might inquire whether you believe you are drinking too much. Initially, most people brush this feedback off and revisit it when they come in contact with law enforcement and receive a DWI, for example. The DWI is additional evidence a problem exists. If you do not make productive changes afterwards the cycle continues—things like being asked to leave school or having your doctor tell you that your liver enzymes are elevated. Prior to entering a treatment program like Next Step, most people will be given many opportunities to change their behavior. It is always more empowering to listen to the information you are receiving and to make a conscious decision to change on your own, rather than feeling like others are forcing you to change. Acceptance is not just about accepting you have a problem with alcohol or drugs. It is also about accepting the idea that you are receiving valuable information about your behavior all the time. Some people believe this information is guidance from their higher power. Acknowledging there is a power greater than us helps individuals develop a spiritual practice. Spirituality plays an important role in a 12step recovery program. It is also the source of resistance for some young people. It seems strange to these individuals, when the treatment team asks them to participate in a 12-step meeting or a book study for the first time. Through self-exploration, most

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individuals develop a spiritual practice that provides them with comfort and personal satisfaction. In my professional experience, I’ve found the best motivation for young people to get sober is to set productive, personal goals for the future. Most young people have a bulletproof mentality where the fear of death is less of a motivator, compared to obtaining a degree and working in the field of their choice. Through self-examination, the conclusion is they will not be able to maintain

their addictive behaviors and achieve their life goals. Focusing on positive milestones is important for people hoping to maintain a sober lifestyle on a college campus. Supportive resources are a critical component of the recovery process and there are colleges and universities in our state that have taken the initiative to be active participants in that support system. The University of Southern Mississippi, Ole Miss, and Mississippi State provide support to recovering students through their Collegiate Recovery Communities, or CRC initiatives. These programs meet the needs of students in realistic ways. Young people are able to continue their education in a safe, healthy, and supportive environment. I believe most of us want to protect young people from the harms and dangers of excessive alcohol and drug use, and I am also a believer in giving individuals the tools they need to take care of their selves. Treatment may be necessary for some people, and it does not mean the end of a student’s dreams of a college degree and successful career. Y Issac L. Boose is a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as well as a Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor. Boose is the Director of Pine Grove’s Next Step program, which treats men ages 18 through 54 who are struggling with substance abuse addictions. He is an active member of the Mississippi Association of Addiction Professionals. He has provided couples, family, group and individual therapy. mschristianliving.com ❘ JANUARY 2015 33

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Cheerful, Sacrificial Giving To return to our subject, it’s worth researching how giving in the Old Testament and New Testament may differ. Below is an excerpt from an article I recently read:

remember as a kid believing the story that swallowed gum stays in your stomach for seven years. Someone said it, and I received it as truth. At some point as I matured, I did

some brief research to conclude that although swallowing gum was not recommended, it did not stay in your stomach for seven years. (I still don’t swallow my gum, I might add). As believers in Christ, we hear messages preached often. Some messages we agree with; others we do not. The Bible teaches that we are to examine and know the Scriptures. We need to evaluate what is preached in light of what Scripture teaches. Whether you grew up in a church, or whether you profess faith in Christ or not, I feel confident that you are somewhat familiar with tithing. Let’s first define tithing. In the broadest sense, tithing can be defined as “a tenth of one’s increase,” (Deuteronomy 14:22). In the Old Testament, the tithe is referenced many times in relation to giving a tenth of produce to the Lord. But how is the tithe referenced in the New Testament? Well, that’s where the discussion gets interesting. Some scholars say that one-third of Jesus’ parables revolve around money and possessions, and that Jesus talked more about money and possessions than faith and prayer combined. So, it’s safe to say that Jesus certainly did not dodge this subject matter. But in all of his teachings about money and possessions, how often did Jesus speak about the tithe? To the best of my

“Under the old covenant, tithing was required for the support of the old covenant ministers. The Israelites were required to give 10 percent—and their blessing was only a physical one! Christians in the new covenant have much better blessings—spiritual ones. How much more willingly ought we to give in thankfulness for the eternal blessings we have in Christ Jesus?”

research, Jesus references the tithe only twice: Matthew 23:23/Luke 11:42 and Luke 18:12. And let’s just say the context of these passages is quite interesting. Let me shift here and focus on some common ground with believers. “The earth is the LORD’s and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein” (Psalm 24:1). I think all believers agree that everything, and I mean everything, is ultimately the Lord’s. However, I have found in my own life that I can easily preach this message, but in actual life, I practice that after I give a certain amount, the rest is mine. This contradicts what Scripture teaches. How often do we give, wipe our hands clean, then live as if the rest is ours?

The Israelites were commanded to give ten percent under a covenant that could not make them perfect (Hebrews 7:19; 9:9). How much more joyfully should we give to God under the new covenant? We have the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, which does cleanse our conscience (Hebrews 9:14). And yet it seems that in America today, even though we have so much more than the Israelites did, people give on average less than half the percentage the Israelites did. God calls on us to examine our hearts, to examine our priorities, and to be generous. A person who is transformed by Christ to be more like Christ is generous. Such a person wants to give as much as possible to support the gospel and to support members in need. Christians should give generously— but giving is a result of their relationship with God, not a way to earn it. We are given grace through faith, not through giving.

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Quick Scripture Reference New Testament giving could be characterized by being: 1) Willing and Cheerful 2 Corinthians 9:7 2) A Regular Pattern of Life 1 Corinthians 16:2 3) Proportionate to One’s Ability 2 Corinthians 8:3 4) Generous 2 Corinthians 8:2-3; 1 Timothy 6:18 5) Sacrificial Mark 12:42-44; Acts 4:32; 2 Corinthians 8:3 In conclusion, how much you should give is a personal conviction that you should lay before God. Pray for wisdom, study His Word, and act in faith as the Lord leads you. The message to the materially rich may be, “to whom much is given, much is required.” To the materially poor, the message may be, “my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Y

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✝ “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver” (2 Corinthians 9:7).

✝ “On the first day of every week, each one of you should set aside a sum of money in keeping with your income, saving it up, so that when I come no collections will have to be made” (1 Corinthians 16:2).

✝ “In the midst of a very severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity. For I testify that they gave as much as they were able, and even beyond their ability. Entirely on their own” (2 Corinthians 8:2-3).

✝ “Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share” (1 Timothy 6:18).

✝ “But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents. Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said,‘Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on’” (Mark 12:42-44).

✝ “All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had” (Acts 4:32).

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➺legal advice by WILLIAM B. HOWELL

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ere we are in a brand new year filled with promise and opportunity. In order to realize the promise and take

advantage of the opportunity, you have to do something. Neither of these comes to you automatically. Will you just continue to leave your family at risk because you find it more convenient to procrastinate rather than face the reality that something may happen to you in this New Year? What if it did and you had continued to procrastinate? What then? Your family will likely have to spend a significant sum of money going to court to get permission to deal with your assets and to take care of you (and them) if you are still alive but incapable of caring for yourself and handling your own business dealings. But what if you are not living? Court will again be necessary (with all its expense and delay) in order to give authority over your assets to your administrator who will then pay your bills and distribute your assets according to the laws of the state of Mississippi— probably not the way you would want it done. Have a spouse and children? The state considers the spouse as just another child, so he or she will get a child’s portion of your assets. And if one or more of your children are minors or disabled, then their share will have to be administered separately, resulting in even more expense and delay. While on the subject of minor children, if there is no surviving parent, then the court will appoint someone to care for the children until grown. It may well not be the person you would have chosen, but you had the chance to name that person and instead you procrastinated. By that time you are dead and can do nothing to correct this very large mistake. And let me give you a tip: it is often wise to have one person (or couple) rear your children and someone else to manage the money for them. Incidentally,

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Consider something different this New Year. Let author Kerri Weems suggest a new approach instead of resolutions and better time management: discovering God’s tempo for your life. Her new release, Rhythms of Grace, outlines reasons and process for looking at time a different way. Weems starts with shalom, a Hebrew word that has more depth than our usual translation as peace. Instead, shalom evokes a deeper sense of rightness and balance, a wholeness God included in His perfect creation. The Old Testament illustrates this balance with the Sabbath, which acts as a metronome for the week. The other holy days God designated further punctuate time with periods of rest and refreshment. Jesus then took this concept to the next step by inviting us to take up His yoke, one light and defined by grace. The author then turns to specifics for today, pacesetters and peace stealers: regular activities that help us keep our rhythm or throw us off. She does a good job of making these things compatible with a variety of personality types, so anyone can benefit. She also continues to illustrate the difference between scheduling and God’s rhythm for you. The last section gives practical guidelines for resetting your schedule, using principles from the entire book. Weems acknowledges her program is not a quick fix, but one involving a lifetime of learning. Since the goal is not performance and perfection, we all have time to discover a life of greater wholeness and better intimacy with God. Y Susan E. Richardson is a writer, critique reader, and former Christian retailer with a passion for meeting people’s needs through the written word.You can reach her through her website www.nextlevelcritiques.com.

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January 1–15

28th Annual Pro-Life Candlelight Vigil in the Rotunda of the Capitol at 6 p.m. Details at 601.956.8636 or by email at plm@prolifemississippi.org.

Lego Jackson Dr. Scott Crawford's version of a clean and pedestrian friendly City of Jackson, all created from Legos. 10 a.m.–5.p.m. At The Arts Center 201 Pascagoula Street

The 8th Annual Mississippi Blues Marathon and Half Marathon sponsored by Blue Cross Blue Shield of Mississippi draws runners from across the country. Register at 222.bluesmarathon.com

MS Museum of Art hosts Art in Mind, an art program, presented in partnership with the MS Chapter of the Alzheimer's Association, for persons with dementia and their caregivers developed from a growing body of research that recognizes the positive effects of art on the mind. Lasts for approximately one-hour, and includes art viewing activities in the galleries and hands-on experience in the studio. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Contact Sara Murphy @info@msalz.org or 601.987.0020. Free, preregistration required.

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The Mississippi Children’s Museum hosts a special educational presentation on bone health during Question It? Discover it! Dr. Lawrence Haber and the Pediatric Orthopedic team from UMMC will present an educational and fun event from 10 a.m.–2 p.m. 601.709.8964

Charity Taco Night at Jaco’s Tacos at 318 South State Street. Half of all sales from 5 p.m. until closing benefit the Crisis Pregnancy Center.

MS Symphony Chamber Orchestra presents Mozart & More by Candlelight at 7:30 p.m. at the Belhaven University Center for the Arts. Tickets are $16.

Madison County Chamber of Commerce hosts their new member breakfast from 8–9 a.m. at the chamber office at 618 Crescent Blvd., Suite 101. Come join! 601.605.2554.

January 24 2015 Maverick Stampede Race/Walk at Germantown High School at 200 Calhoun Parkway. Events include several races for adults, a Fun Run for children under 12, and a Kiddie Gallop for children 8 and under. 601.624.4763 or ghsstampede2015@gmail.com.

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January 30 First Presbyterian Church hosts the annual Mid-South Men’s Rally at 1390 North State Street with complimentary dinner starting at 5:15 p.m. A multi-generational gathering and evening of praise, worship, and fellowship anchored in the preaching of God’s word. Keynote speaker is Dr. Ralph Davis. Contact Billy Dempsey at bdmpsey@fpcjackson.org for details.

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Your laws are always right; help me to understand them so I may live. – PSALM 119:144, NLT

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Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for He who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. – HEBREWS 10:23-24

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

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