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contents MAY 2012

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columns 12 The Way I See It LESSONS from My Mom

14 Modern Motherhood Nothing Quite Like a Soul Sister

16 HomeWorks 18 This Is My Story

Art Direction/Graphic Design Sandra K. Goff

Anybody Need Any Help?

22 Salt & Light She-ciples: Make a Difference

32 Think Tank

features

Uh Oh, There’s a Burning Bush Ahead

39 Family Focus If the Sweater Fits, Wear It…Again and Again

The Art of Being God’s Child

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40 Let’s Talk it Over

Special Feature

A Father’s Wish for His Daughter

Mentoring…To Bless and Be Blessed

41 Legal Advice For Caregivers,Writing it Down is Essential

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departments 28 Food For Thought Cold Entrees

34 A View From You

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Readers

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36 Fresh Finds Gift Ideas for Mom!

38 The Doctor is In Women’s Sleep Needs

42 Christian Commerce Center Alyssa Farmer of Lace Boutique

43 Healthy Living

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Summer Body Tips

44 Rave Reviews Books, movies and music

What’s Coming Next Month?

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Editor: Marilyn Tinnin marilyn@metrochristianliving.com Administrative Assistant: Carol Rodgers carol@metrochristianliving.com

20 All in the Family

Celeste Zepponi

Publisher: MHS Publications, Inc., Member, M.I.P.A.

10 Time Savers Holding on to Faith When Life Doesn’t Make Sense

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Editor’s Letter Event Calendar Quips & Quotes Ad Directory

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➺editor’s letter Mother Musings

God can give ❝ allAnofinfinite Himself to each of His children. He does not distribute Himself that each may have a part, but to each one He gives all of Himself as fully as if there were no others.

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– A.W. Tozer

As our contributing writers and I gave some thought to mothers this month, I looked back on six decades of either being one or having one in my life! I was blessed to have a mother who loved the Lord and lived a life before me that made me want to love Him, too. Marie Hemphill died ten Marilyn, Marie and sister Anne Lamb years ago, the very week the first issue of my first publication hit the streets. I’ve always been sorry that we did not get to share this journey.

Almost every time I speak publicly, I mention that all I know about journalism, I did, indeed, learn in kindergarten as my mother carted me all over North Mississippi writing feature stories for the Commercial Appeal, The Clarion-Ledger, and the Delta Democrat Times.

So, here I am, slightly past middle age, wearing my mother’s shoes and wondering all the time if she would be pleased with me. I can’t tell you the number of times I sit down to write, hit a creative block, and wonder, “WWMD?” (What would Marie do?)

I recently had a real déjà vu experience as Kate and I traveled to Clarksdale for our cover story this month. Riding over the once familiar Delta roads of my childhood, I was surprised that as much as things had changed, just as much had not changed at all. I was already deep into nostalgia by the time we arrived at Celeste Zepponi’s, so my heart was already in “tender” mode.

I’m glad because it made me so attuned to her story and her belief in coming to God with the heart of a child. She touched both my childhood past and my own once-upon-a-time role as a mother with young children whose hearts were also tender.

Mothers are our first mentors, our earliest influence. But the influence lingers long after death parts us, and when a mother leaves behind a strong spiritual legacy, she seems to be forever present with her daughters, granddaughters, and even daughters-in-law. We Southern girls do love our silver patterns and family heirlooms, but the treasure of having known the love of a godly mother is worth far more. I can’t help thinking of Matthew 6:19 that says, “Lay not up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt and where thieves break in and steal. But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

One of my favorite authors, John Ortberg, says “Value what God values.” A wise mother will take those words to heart, write them across her life, and discover at the end of her days that she has successfully passed the baton to the next generation. Amen. Y

Marilyn H. Tinnin, Publisher and Editor marilyn@metrochristianliving.com

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➺the way i see it

by MARTIN E. WILLOUGHBY, JR.

LESSONS from My Mom fear and concerns aside and be strong for me when I needed it most.

My mom also modeled for me how to handle adversity. We all have or will go through challenging times, but how we deal with those was curious so I asked him his opinion, and he circumstances speaks to our character. When unequivocally said, “I think Mom because our family furniture business declined in the being a momma is a harder job.” Well, I could 1980’s and eventually went out of business, my not dispute his conclusion. Being a great mom mom stepped in and did what she could to help is about the toughest job I can think of. I know support the family. She worked long hours in how blessed I have the family business, and been to have a great later went back to mom who has being a full time taught me so much teacher and also about life. tutored after school all My mom and dad trying to help with the married fairly young family finances. I by today’s standards. never remember her My mom graduated complaining about any early from Millsaps of this, and she taught and tied the knot at me the importance age 21 with my dad of hard work who was a and dedication. professional baseball As we go through player. By age 23, I the seasons of life, one Margaret Vinson (Mom) came along, and we of the challenges is always joked that she losing those that we told my dad it was love. My mom first time to hang up his cleats and take a lost her husband, my real job. Whether that was fact or dad, when she was fiction, he did retire from baseball 46 after 25 years of and became a CPA and later an marriage. She later entrepreneur. As I look back, I marvel cared for her mom at the level of responsibility she had and dad in their later at such a young age. When I was 23, I Martin, Mom and sister Meg Swayze years. I have learned could barely take care of myself much many valuable less an infant. My mom has modeled lessons from watching her go through these this type of responsibility my whole life. She taught me what it means to make tough choices seasons of life including how to deal with grief and live out our faith daily. I also learned about and do the right thing in life. obedience and duty. It is easy to just be selfish From birth, I had a genetic defect with my and focus on our own needs; however, the sternum, also known as the breastbone, which challenge is to be obedient in our faith and to caused it to be concave. By age five, I was serve selflessly where we are called. On this starting to have problems with this situation, Mother’s Day, I will be celebrating all that my and my parents decided to have this surgically mom has done for me, and I will be in firm repaired. Unfortunately, the doctors had to agreement with Trey’s conclusion about how crack me open like a walnut to do the surgery hard a momma’s job is. Happy Mother’s Day! which led to a long recovery. Because of some complications, I had to repeat this process Y when I was eleven, and once again, my parents Martin E. Willoughby, Jr. is Chief had to watch their child go through a very Operating Officer of Butler Snow challenging situation. As I consider how Advisory Services, LLC located in worked up Nicki and I get over minor Ridgeland. He and his wife Nicki have procedures with our children, I can’t really two children, Ally and Trey, and live in imagine how they must have felt. I am thankful Madison. that my mom showed me how to put her own

y six year old son Trey is full of random questions. He asked me one day recently, “Who works harder, you or Mom?” I

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➺modern motherhood

by ROBIN O’BRYANT

Nothing Quite Like a Soul Sister knew when we moved to Mississippi almost three years ago that I was going to be living near Lizzie, one of my dearest friends, but I had no idea that God had assembled an army of women who would wrap me in their protective arms and change my life in every conceivable way.

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I was a walking zombie when my first book, Ketchup is a Vegetable and Other Lies Moms Tell Themselves was published. Not that I was so busy talking to Ellen and Matt Lauer and being fabulous or anything. But the sheer stress of knowing that for the rest of my life, my words would live on beyond me nearly killed me. I obsessed over what people would think about me while knowing that it shouldn’t matter. I worried that I would offend people I didn’t even know. I worried that my words would scar my children for the rest of their lives and they would never speak to me again.

I worried that the book would flop and I’d be a failed writer. I worried it would be a screaming success, that the book events and travel required would pull me out of my home so often that I’d fail in my most important job as wife and mother.

I’ve never in my life felt such physical anxiety and fear. I realize that in the scope of human tragedy there are more horrible things that go on every day but I was terrified nonetheless. I was physically worn out from worry and I isolated myself. I wanted to bury my head under my covers and come up when the entire world had forgotten that my book and I even existed.

But my friends had other plans. My girlfriends were determined to take me to dinner for my birthday and because they are the most amazing group of women I’ve ever known, I couldn’t say no. Even though I was broken.

Even though I just wanted to cry myself to sleep out of exhaustion, I got dressed and went.

My husband dropped me off at Lizzie’s house so I wouldn’t have to drive and I nearly fell over laughing when we walked out of her front door and there in her driveway, sat the director of our rec center, Ms. Debbie in her 15-passenger van. She burns up the carpool lines every day in that van but on my birthday, Ms. Debbie was our chauffeur. She drove us to my favorite restaurant in town and after appetizers, a glass of wine and a few minutes of conversation about normal things, I started to feel like myself again.

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the Bistro. She turned to me and said, “Well, we were supposed to walk down to the river to do this but since it’s raining we’ll just do it here.” She reached into her purse and pulled out the biggest sparklers I had ever seen. And I’ll admit it, for a second I was skeptical—we were going to play with sparklers?

The wind was blowing around us and cold rain misted our faces. Lizzie held a lighter in her hand but the gusts made her attempts sputter and fail. Several girls walked back into the restaurant to light the firework starter on a table candle and lit a sparkler instead. It smoked and flamed around them as they ran out the door squealing with laughter. Lizzie wouldn’t be dissuaded with the lighter and one by one, hands cupped around hers to shield the flame from the wind and the rain.

There was a moment, right as the first sparkler caught fire that triggered a memory of a Girl Scout Camp song from my childhood and I jokingly sang, “It only takes a spark...”

My girls didn’t miss a beat, “...to get a fi-re going. And soon all those around...will warm up to it’s glowing...”

We burst into laughter as our sparklers burst into flames and it was no longer the icy rain that made my eyes mist over.

“Every time you cross my mind, I break out in exclamations of thanks to God. Each exclamation is a trigger to prayer. I find myself praying for you with a glad heart.” Philippians 1: 3 The Message Y Robin O’Bryant is mother to three daughters, wife to one husband, and debut author of Ketchup Is A Vegetable And Other Lies Moms Tell Themselves, available November 2011.

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➺homeworks

by CATHY HAYNIE

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walked into the store today hearing someone greet an old friend and answer the “How are you?” question with the all to common,“Too busy! We are just going from one thing to another.” I smiled and thought that sounded about like all of us.

Are you just going from one thing to another?

Over the years I have come to believe that when I make conscious decisions to make improvements in my organization, the key is to focus on the small habits, like putting my keys in the same place everyday when I walk through the door. Of course I learned this the hard way, all too many times sorting through my purse, my workbag, under the mail, and every place possible just to get out the door. A place for keys by the door and habitually leaving them there: problem solved. Whether you find a new habit in this top ten list or just an idea to try, keep looking for ways to make life simpler.

Then, maybe the next time an old friend asks how you are, “too busy,” won’t be the first thing that comes to mind.

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Presort the silverware. As you load the dishwasher, keeping like items together makes putting them away just a little faster.

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Keep a running grocery list on the refrigerator. A magnetic note pad is a great place to write down things as you run out of them, and it makes your grocery shopping far more efficient than trying to remember if you have eggs…

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Dot-to dot your children’s clothes in a larger family. Using the dot system makes handing down clothes and sorting clean laundry much easier. One dot in the oldest, two in the next, and three dots in the youngest for a family of three children. When the oldest child outgrows that cute Sunday dress, add a dot and pass it down.

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Set up a coffee station. Having everything you need within arms reach to make the coffee and fix yourself a cup is just really wonderful! If this works for you, consider other “stations” in your kitchen: a cookie jar with grab and go breakfast items or snacks, a basket full of lunch box items, etc.

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Create a loading zone. A place for your keys, purse, computer bag, jacket, whatever goes out the door with you, should have a usual spot, preferably in a loading zone near the door.

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Reuse your grocery sacks for time savers. A few tucked in your car makes for quick clean-out and a stash under your kitchen sink for dinner prep saves on trips to the trash. While cooking, keeping a sack on your counter for everything from eggs shells to pasta wrappers.

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➺this is my story

by ELISE BELL

Holding on to Faith When Life Doesn’t Make Sense hrough my husband’s diagnosis and eventual death of cancer, my mother’s death of cancer, my stepfather’s accidental death, and my own diagnosis of cancer, all within a 7 year span, I learned about brokenness and life.

June 15, 2001 my husband, Walter, was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. Our sons Earl and Benton were 16 and 13. This news came to us on Benton’s 13th birthday. I was devastated! My world was falling apart and there was nothing I could do to change it. For the first time in my life I realized “I” was in control of nothing. I just thought I was.

Our family, church, and friends rallied around us and showered us with love, calls, visits and prayers. Walter received standard treatment, surgery and chemo, but a year later his cancer returned. This time Walter went on his knees to God and prayed his deepest heart’s desire—to see his boys graduate-. We always praying to God, but this prayer was deeper than deepest, from deep in the heart and soul. To me, it’s something different

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about that prayer. This prayer was like the prayers of Hannah and Hezekiah.

At this time Walter decided to follow God’s Way to Ultimate Health, a book our pastor’s wife had given him, previously. This was a drastic change! Many supported Walter’s change, some thought he was crazy, and others admired his discipline. Only through daily prayer and focus on God was Walter able to do this. Some said, “I could never give up my foods.” Well, you don’t know what you can or will do when you are in a losing battle and asking God’s help. If you ask God for help, you better be ready and willing to make some changes and sacrifices yourself. He lost over 80 pounds and ran 2-3 miles almost every day, all while taking chemo. His doctors told him he was the healthiest cancer patient they had.

One doctor told us the “Cancer needs to become your best friend”. And to some degree it did. It never left us. But we came to a point where we decided to not let cancer control our lives.

Mother’s cancer returned and she passed away in 2002. In 2006, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My sister had breast cancer but I never thought it would happen to me…Well, it did! I had surgery and then Walter and I began taking chemo at the same time, all the while our sons were still growing. In the Spring of 2007 I finished my treatments. In the fall my dad was killed in a tractor accident.

In 2008 I retired and Walter died in the fall. His death has not been easy. I miss his presence. He was always someone to help make decisions, someone to call and check on me, someone to come home to. I even miss the scent of his cologne. His boys miss him too.

God answered Walter’s earnest prayer. He even saw his oldest son graduate college.

God granted my request for us to reach our 25th anniversary.

I’m still taking medication and visiting the doctor. Earl earned a Masters of Arts in History-War and Society and Benton is currently pursuing an Engineering degree.

They have had a lot to overcome, and it took about 18-24 months for all of us to, as I say it “get back on track”. Except I now live the life of widowhood, and that is a story within itself.

God has given me a perspective about life on earth. To put it plainly, “we are all terminal.” We are going to die, but when you come face to face with death and live, it really becomes reality. You realize how small and

unworthy and undeserving you are and how BIG God is. It’s what we do on this earth that determines what happens after this life. Some things you thought mattered really don’t matter in the big scheme of things.

We live in a fallen world where bad things happen. Focusing on God, meditating, and praying gets you through tough times. So make the best out of every moment with family, friends, and even strangers. Engage in activities. Helping others is a great way to help in your grief. Doing these things builds relationships, and God is all about relationships. Sit and be still, and above all

We live in a fallen world where bad things happen. Focusing on God, meditating, and praying gets you through tough times. else, focus on God and the things above. I still have peace in my heart and, yes, it does pass all understanding. I no longer try to handle nor fix everything. I sit back more and watch how circumstances and situations evolve without my interference and know that God had a hand in it. When I get anxious about things, I pray for wisdom and patience.

Someone once asked me what would be my best advice.

1. Don’t think about your problem more than God. 2. Don’t look too far back, don’t look too far ahead, just seize the moment. That is all we have anyway.

I found comfort and strength, and still do today ,in Philippians 4:5-7, the Serenity Prayer, the song “The Anchor Holds” (that was our song), and the hymn “Take Time to Be Holy”.

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Elise Bell is a resident of Wesson. Her desire is to encourage and help others who face similar challenges of illness and grief.

She has found strength, purpose and even joy through God’s grace.

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➺all in the family

by DR JOHN L. COX

Anybody Need Any Help?

W ho can name all the great stuff we receive from wives and mothers? We could pass a sign-up sheet... ask for a show of hands. Let’s take a shortcut this year and ask the Bible.

The Bible describes tons of women. Sometimes we see them making powerful choices.

Sometimes we see them showing the men around them what real faith looks like.

Sometimes we see them modeling humble submission like their Savior. Making business decisions, mentoring, parenting - Bible women are busy! But there is one job description that caught my eye recently. I heard someone speaking who mentioned the fact that the woman’s original job description in Eden was to be a “Helper.” Remember, God says, “...I will find a Helper suitable for him.” Now, when I first heard that I gotta admit, I kind of cringed. I mean, who wants to be a “Helper”! In our culture, when we think of a “Helper,” we tend

“...being the HELPER doesn't refer to some kind of sidekick but to a strong powerful person who comes in a context of great need to someone who needs HELP.” to think of some kind of junior assistant, like Robin to Batman, Watson to Sherlock Holmes, Chloe to Jack Bauer, BooBoo to Yogi. One is the real star, and the Helper is just along for the ride, someone to hand him his tools while he’s doing the important stuff, someone to adoringly follow along behind the hero.

Anyone offended yet? Well I was, but then I did a little reading. Dr. Jim Hurley in his book, Men and Women in Biblical Perspective tells us that this notion of a Helper as some kind of “junior assistant” is way off what God intends to communicate in describing this aspect of the role of women. To the ancient Hebrew ear, to 20 MAY 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living

the original readers, being the Helper doesn’t refer to some kind of sidekick, but to a strong powerful person who comes in a context of great need to someone who needs HELP! In fact, in the Bible, this same Hebrew word, “helper” is most often used to describe, not some “Tonto,” but to describe God himself in his relationship with Israel. Think about Psalm 46, “God is our refuge and our strength, a very present help in time of struggle.” And what does Jesus describe the Holy Spirit as in John 14? “I will ask the Father to give you another Helper...” Who’s the sidekick here!

In essence, God is saying to Adam, “I will give you someone who is equal to you, but she will share with the God of Israel the role of loving presence and Helper in your life because, heaven knows, you need it, man!” (Spend any time in a single guy’s apartment, and you’ll learn that it is obviously NOT GOOD for the man to be alone!)

God says, “I will send a person to embody the nature of His own love and help and care in the life of her family.” This is not being a mindless follower. It is being a powerful, rich incarnation of the image of God, bringing wisdom and strength and good to those who need it.

I think this has all sorts of interesting implications to what we call marital submission.

You know how Paul tells us over and over that men are supposed to lovingly lead, and wives are to submit to their husbands? Well, I don’t know about you, but I find that these concepts are often interpreted in some pretty wacky ways.

Sometimes submission is taken to mean that a wife should leave her brain at the altar and just

follow her husband’s direction on everything. Or that if there is a disagreement in the marriage that the “tie goes to the husband.” (“We aren’t going to redo those drapes because I’m the head of this house.”)

I think this view of a woman’s role in a family misses God’s point when he said that men need “Help.” This is what I mean: I saw the following scene one morning as I walked into our kitchen.

One of my children (about four years old at the time) was poised on a chair that she had pulled up to the kitchen counter (Picture the Little Mermaid nightgown...tiptoes, etc.) In her hands she hoisted a giant gallon of milk. Below her on the counter was a bowl of cereal, overflowing with something like Sugar Chocolate Zany Bombs. Her hands shook. The milk began to slosh. Almost in slow-mo I rushed to prevent disaster. And what did I say to her? “Here Honey, you need some HELP!” That is sort of what God says to Adam when he creates Eve. Help is for the needful! Help is for those who don’t have it all together. Smart husbands and families treasure the wisdom, strength and insight that their wives and mothers bring to the table. We can thank the Lord, this Mother’s Day that God gave us Helpers, who, like Him, give us things we cannot give ourselves. Otherwise, there would be spilt milk everywhere! Y Dr John L. Cox is a clinical psychologist in practice here in Jackson.

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by MARILYN TINNIN

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Girls who fall within the age range keep coming back, excited to see what new things She-ciples has in store each year. Returning “alumni” get to be “big sisters” to the younger girls. The “bonding” and the strong sense of camaraderie among the girls last long after the mother had a neighborhood child evangelism program that, for years, summer is over. It is a goal of the ministry that “she-ciples” become met weekly in their home. She also worked beside her father in “she-ciples” to others.

Christian community development projects for a Kimberly Lewis, decade, including after school programs for at whose middle school risk children and youth. Her passion and her daughter, Kimeshia, heart’s desire is to help young people – attended “She-ciples” especially young women - navigate the rocky for the first time last road of adolescence with good decisions, a summer, saw firsthand strong faith, and a healthy self-image. the impact the six week Three years ago, she put together a summer session had on her camp program for girls, ages 12-19. Elizabeth daughter.

“You’d think was keenly aware of the unique challenges and Elizabeth had raised a temptations that confront this age group, lot of children because especially in today’s broken culture. This is the of the way she interacts age group least likely to participate in after with them,” Kimberly school or summer programs. Research says said. “She loves these they receive little girls and they know it. guidance and are She has a lot of prone to struggle Varah Potter, Jasmine Ward credibility with them and (Intern), Kimeshia Lewis, with peer pressure, Vicky Hobbs, Joy Gordon, they want to follow her.” family issues, identity Nadia Sampson, Tenira “Kimeshia would crisis and issues Stubblefield, and Jazstiny come home each day and associated with Bailey pose outside the open up to me about the making the transition Birmingham Civil Rights Institute. things they were to womanhood. discussing.

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The Art of Being God’s C

…Come with us, and you will see, God seeks the child in you and in me And praise Him, worship Him, jump for joy, just run to Him His loving arms will always lift a child

by MARILYN TINNIN He really wants to love you as His child…. photos by KATE THOMAS o go a portion of the lyrics in one of the original songs in Celeste Zepponi’s album Inside the Rainbow. Like the whimsical colorful angels that adorn so much of her painting, there is a very childlike lightness and a playful rhythm to her tunes, but it would be disingenuous to classify them as “childish’ or even “for children only.” Nothing could be further from the truth.

One of the profound and precious realities of the faith is that the heart and soul of the gospel bears an uncluttered simplicity. Celeste’s personal journey with Jesus is itself the perfect illustration of a trusting child with a loving Father. Her “return” to childhood began partly as a search for the spontaneity and freedom she saw in the artwork of her young students. What she experienced, however, as she relinquished the rigidity of her adult confines, was a depth of relationship with her Lord that transformed every aspect of her life.

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Beginnings

Celeste is the sixth of seven children born to Iris and Seddon Jacob of Clarksdale. Her earliest memories include crawling behind her mother’s sofa with her crayons and using the back of it for her canvas. There was never a time she did not love to draw and to paint. “Art was so natural to me that I just really didn’t think of it as anything special. I just always did it,” she says.

Deciding that positions for art teachers were few and far between, Celeste chose elementary education as her major when she enrolled at Delta State University. And yet, she says, “I never could get away from art.”

She was frequently commissioned to paint murals in peoples’ homes and also had a side business of painting faux finishes. “I did a lot of art in my classroom and eventually set up a studio in my back yard where I taught art lessons after school.”

It was there on an ordinary afternoon that Celeste’s unexpected new journey with Jesus

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began. She had become increasingly conscious of the characteristic freedom with which her young students approached their art. Celeste saw a certain honesty and purity in their work that she did not see in her own. At that point most of her own art involved pleasing a client or a decorator so there was really limited leeway for her personal unfettered creativity to just let go. On that afternoon she said to her eight year old student, “Today you are going to teach me to paint,” and his advice was this. “Mrs. Zepponi, you just paint anything you want to paint and pretend like you are eight years old.”

For Celeste everything else seemed to stop.

She felt that God was speaking to her through the advice of this child. Being the responsible and task-oriented adult that she was, she had to justify in her mind the time slot she would give herself each day to “paint like an eight-year-old,” so, she decided to incorporate this creative time into her prayer time, her time of meeting Jesus, sharing with Him the joy of the most favorite

thing He had given her to do. “…And that was art for fun. I wanted to have fun with Jesus. We always pray to the Lord for our needs, and we always go to the Lord with our ‘lists.’” Scripture tells us from Genesis through Revelation that God desires fellowship with his children. Celeste began to take to heart the admonition in Matthew 18:3 to “become like little children.”

She would take her sketch pad, and with no pre-determined plan begin to “doodle” as she called it. In the beginning the drawings were “round and buggy,” but then she began putting wings on them. Eventually, the angel figures seemed to be worshiping. Celeste realized that her drawing and sketching was indeed worship for her and scripture evoked this great desire to meet with Jesus, use her gifts and let Him direct the “doodling.” She never intended that anyone else would see these sketches. Her art was simply part of her offering and worship and alone time with the Lord.

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ministry opened up and Celeste found herself performing her ❝Assongs,a speaking painting her angels, and sharing her faith journey, it became all joy and all fun, much like those first encounters with Jesus and the “doodling.” ❞

Her preference for angels was something that evolved. Since no one really knows what an angel looks like although scripture records numerous instances of their appearing, Celeste was free to draw them with great freedom and choice of color.

And God Gave New Gifts

One evening as Celeste was about to end her “doodling” she began to write words of praise into the painting and then she began to sing, just making up the words as she went along. For the next year of her life, she would paint an angel and then write another song. “It didn’t happen every time,” she says, “but it happened a lot. I didn’t know the notes of music; I had no background in music at all, but I would write down the words and the melodies stayed with me. I just did it and I am convinced it was a spiritual encounter. What I believe is that when we are in the presence of the Lord, our heart

cannot help but sing.” Could it be that in her child-like posture of complete worship and total trust in His presence, she was free to receive these songs as God gave them to her?

Over the next several months Celeste wrote numerous children’s songs. She would wake up in the morning and they would just come to her.

She had no plans to share the songs with anyone else. They were simply a very special overflowing blessing that resulted from her fellowship times with the Lord, but she was indeed aware that she had been given a gift and she questioned whether or not there was something she was supposed to do with it.

Her priest, Father Brian Carroll, gave this advice. “Look, Celeste. If this is from the Lord, He will use it. If it is not from the Lord, do not worry about it.”

“And I took his advice,” she says.

When St. Elizabeth’s Catholic School in Clarksdale approached her about teaching an art class, she accepted the invitation even

though she had declined their requests several times previously. “I just felt in my spirit,” Celeste explains, “that this was something God wanted me to do this time.”

Being the conscientious person that she is, she wanted it to be the best art class she could possibly put together. The very first thing she did was to research art programs in Catholic schools and discovered that the premier expert on the subject was a Catholic nun named Sister Marie Vianney who had written a book on the very subject. She just happened to live in Memphis, about sixty miles north of Clarksdale.

Celeste made an appointment with her intending to get Sister Marie to guide her efforts.

The Holy Spirit had other ideas. As Celeste sat down with Sister Marie, the sister said, “Now, first let me explain my chapter on color.”

Celeste said, “Oh Sister Marie, I wrote this song about color.”

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Can you see the colors? They’re on your face, they’re in your hair The colors you wear reflect the light The way the stars do through the night The colors are for us to see, a world of color for you and me…

For the next 45 minutes Celeste sang her children’s songs for Sister Marie, who was so excited she called the music director, had Celeste record them and told her she would be taking them to Nashville where she had some connections in the music industry.

Surrender

Celeste returned to Clarksdale, taught her art classes, continued to enjoy her meaningful fellowship and worship and was still quite content if no one except herself ever knew about her surprise gift of song writing.

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One day she got a call from Scott Goudeau, a producer in Nashville.

He introduced himself and said, “There is a Catholic nun who will not leave me alone until I call you.”

And all of a sudden, everything—the money, the producer, everything she possibly needed to produce an album was there.

Celeste was slightly reluctant.

Even if she made a CD, what was she supposed to do with it? She wasn’t a musician, and she didn’t Celeste loves to encourage her granddaughters in “Mimi’s” consider herself a singer either. She studio. Grace, Natalie, and Emma are promising students! was a wife and mother and art One morning during her prayers as she was teacher and that was pretty much more than gazing at a picture of Jesus on the wall of her enough for her. room, she realized that the reason she had not Her husband Fred reminded her that the figured out what she was supposed to do with Bible says gifts aren’t given for an individual— the album was that she had been so busy telling they are meant for community, to be shared.

God, “No” that she had shut Him out of the Even though they did not know what God equation. It was her very own self-consciousness possibly wanted to do with her little songs, they that was in the way. decided to take this next step since it had She realized that when God gives a gift or presented itself. Celeste remembers telling God calls a person to do something, He is not going during mass right after she finished the album. to give their gift to someone else. Therefore, if “Okay, Lord, I did the album. But you know I that person refuses to use the gift, it goes am not a solo singer, a speaker or anything like unused. Remembering the joy and happiness that. Whatever it is that you want to do with that had come to her with each song, the very this, do it…but basically let someone else sing thought that she would ignore God or refuse to them in public. I’m not your girl for that.” share the songs He had given her broke her A year and a half went by. Celeste had not heart. She went into the chapel by herself, done anything with her album She had no literally lay down before the cross and wept as burning desire to market it, but it bothered her that God had not made it clear to her what she said, “Okay God. If it means that much to you that I go sing these little songs…if it blesses He did want her to do with it. She decided to you and brings worship to you and you won’t spend a week at the Dwelling Place, a retreat give them to someone else and I’m asking you center in East Central Mississippi, where to…well, I’ll do it. I’ll do it afraid.” silent reflective retreats are offered. Celeste Only someone who has ever experienced the hoped that in that quiet setting, away from all debilitating and engulfing panic of stage-fright distractions, God would guide her next steps. can fully appreciate what happened next. Her And He did, but not the way she had fear evaporated and she felt only peace. expected, or planned, or wanted.

The Zepponi Family, left to right: Son Fred, III; Fred, Celeste, Daughter Lana, Son Chris Blaylock.

Celeste’s explanation is that God healed her of her fear that instant—because in those moments she truly loved Him more than she loved herself. It was not about her at all.

Letting God Direct the Path

As a speaking ministry opened up and Celeste found herself performing her songs, painting her angels, and sharing her faith journey, it became all joy and all fun, much like those first encounters with Jesus and the “doodling.”

I think the Lord said to me once in prayer, ‘Celeste, if you want to follow me, you have to understand you have to let me go first,” she says with a smile.

Celeste finds great delight these days in letting the Lord go first!

Lesson learned. Celeste has a sort of serenity about her. Nothing is forced. Nothing is pretentious, and although she has this easygoing countenance, she also has a twinkle in her eyes and an enthusiastic sense of adventure about her unique journey with Jesus.

Her retreats, steeped in prayer and scripture, focus on helping women discover their

Celeste’s grandsons Hazard and Charlie.

individual gifts and offer them to Jesus in worship as well as in community as God directs. The resulting joy, blessing, and intimacy with the Lord keep one’s cup overflowing—something like a wellwatered spring.

Celeste does not promote herself. She continually seeks to draw close to Jesus so that she stands ready whenever she is called. God is pretty much her agent and she continues to be amazed at doors He opens. Initially, in those first days after God healed her of her selfconscious fear, she thought perhaps He was going to open the way for some grand ministry, but she says she realized that was not what He wanted to do at all. “What He wants for me is for me to wait till He opens a door and then for me to do what I do. He’s kept me little, very simple and when He calls, I go. And in the in between times, I’m supposed to clean my house, take care of my family and paint as worship…and that’s it. Just as I started out on day one, to sit and do art with Him as worship.”

On those occasions, however, when she is

called to speak, she knows the Holy Spirit has a purpose. She blocks out weeks for preparation and much prayer, and her prayer is always, “OK, Lord. You’re doing something and I’m thankful that I can be a little part of it. We’re not worthy to proclaim, but Jesus, your son, is worthy to be worshiped. So dear Father, overlook my inadequacies, my unworthiness so that Jesus is praised. And because of that, Lord, bring your Holy Spirit to do what you want to do.”

She adds, “And it happens…and it’s wonderful.”

For more information on Celeste, her works and her testimony, visit CelesteZepponi.com.

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➺food for thought

“My food,” said Jesus, “is to do the will of Him that sent me, and to finish His work.”

by LYDIA BOLEN

– John 4:34

Cold Entrees he month of May is a busy month with school parties, club meetings and various get-togethers. Cold entrees are the answer for a make ahead dish for a time saver meal. Fresh shrimp salad is my favorite all year cold dish and can be pared with other dishes or served as a main course. Cold Pasta Salad with a Lime Vinaigrette is a

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new recipe I found on Beth Bryson’s blog called www.flair-for-home.com Check out Beth’s interesting blog for more everyday inspiration for living with flair. She has some great recipes! My all time stand alone cold entrée is Chicken Artichoke Salad. It can be enjoyed with a tray of cut tomatoes and hot rolls for a delicious lunch.

SHRIMP SALAD 2 to 3 2 1 to 2

pounds cooked, chopped shrimp Salt and pepper to taste hard boiled eggs (chopped) Pepper relish or chopped pickle (desired amount) teaspoons each of celery seed, dill weed, and tarragon (or to taste) Mayonnaise (about 1/2 cup)

Mix all ingredients together. Adjust the amount of mayonnaise desired. Chill. Serve on a bed of lettuce. Serves 4-6. Can be served as a side dish or the main course.

PASTA SALAD WITH LIME VINAIGRETTE 1 1 1 1 4 1 1 1/2

package bow tie pasta (Farfalle) (add 1/4 cup olive oil to the water) small can sliced black olives, drained (optional) jar sliced pimentos, drained (can substitute one chopped red pepper) can small artichoke hearts, chopped and drained tablespoons pesto (this can be purchased in a jar at the grocery) cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese teaspoon ground sea salt teaspoon coarse ground pepper (or more to taste)

LIME VINAIGRETTE (Mix all in a salad dressing shaker)

3/4 1/4 1 1/2

cup olive oil, extra virgin cup white wine vinegar teaspoon ground sea salt teaspoon coarse black pepper

2 tablespoons pesto Juice of 2 limes Shake well until blended.

Add more salt and pepper, according to taste

Boil the pasta until soft, and drain. Let cool to room temperature. Place pasta in a large salad bowl. Add the olives, pimentos, artichoke hearts, pesto, cheese, and salt and pepper. Toss all together and cover. Chill 1-2 hours before serving, or overnight. Toss the dressing (desired amount) with the salad right before serving. Refrigerate leftover dressing. Serve with rolls or muffins.

CHICKEN ARTICHOKE SALAD 2 2 1 6 4

(6-ounce) packages long grain and wild rice mix (6-ounce) jars marinated artichoke quarters medium red bell pepper, chopped green onions, chopped cups cooked chicken, chopped

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celery ribs, thinly sliced small can sliced ripe olives, drained cup mayonnaise teaspoons curry powder

Cook rice mix according to package directions. Drain artichokes quarters, reserving 1/2 cup liquid. Microwave bell pepper and onions for 2 minutes. Slice celery and refrigerate in cold water to crisp. Stir together reserved rice, artichokes, chicken, pepper and onions. Stir together reserved artichoke liquid, mayonnaise and curry powder; toss with rice mixture. Drain celery and add to mixture. Cover and chill for 8 hours. Serves 8. Y

Remember to make memories through the kitchen… “the heartbeat of the home” Go to my blog at lydiasapron.blogspot.com for more recipes, or email me at lbbolen@gmail for any questions.

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Ment oring…

To Bless and Be Blessed

by SHIRLEY WINDHAM, MARILYN TINNIN, and ELIZABETH PERKINS

One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts…Psalm 145:4

MY FRIEND, MARY JAMES BLAKEMAN

One thing I’ve learned about the South is the importance of family history and heirlooms. Our family history is a covenant family history.

What happens when you trade Milwaukee, the Beer Capital, for The old phrase “blood is thicker than water” works well for some, but King Cotton? Bratwurst for fried okra? You guys for y’all? I can tell “Christ’s blood is thicker than any other” is what has brought and you one thing, that kind of seismic shift is not pretty. Moving south the bound Mary James and me together and places our family history in day after my high school graduation forty-two years ago ended my life the context of thousands of years with God’s people. My grandchildren as I knew it. I became a catfish out of water in the Mississippi Delta. I rock in great-grandmother’s chair, drink from Mary James’s couldn’t understand the accent and they hated mine. I had no grandmother’s goblets, eat with her Aunt Margaret’s flatware, all understanding of southern culture and no culture of my own other treasures she has shared with us. But we’re living with a mighty fine than the fact Michael Jackson and I were born in the same hospital. I heirloom, her. And we are together heirs of the greatest inheritance, had no idea what a transitional dark-colored cotton wardrobe for fall Jesus Christ. was and I knew I was in trouble as soon as I asked, “Who is Boo It’s not just boiled custard, fluffed pillows Ferris?” I also didn’t know Jeremiah 29:11 and teaching me the scientific name of every “For I know the plans I have for you, says green plant on earth (which she absolutely the Lord, plans of peace and not of evil, knows). “Some folks just don’t do right,” was to give you a future and a hope.” a favorite phrase of one her late husband’s Ten years and three children later a friends. I can count on Mary James to jerk a lady from the church holding a jar of knot in my tail when needed and I know of a soup showed up at my front door. In few others who have received a summons to my way of thinking that lady must want her Pickwick-paneled den. Hebrews 12:8 something. She did. She wanted me to says that faithful chastening is the mark of know the truth of 1 Thessalonians 2:8 legitimacy in the life of a Christian and “We loved you so much that we were when I need it, how grateful I am that she is pleased to not only share the gospel willing to point me to the direction of our with you, but our lives as well.”

Heavenly Father whose image and name we Through that jar of soup and that bear. That is the good stewardship-of-thechurch I met Jesus and then Mary Shirley Windham, granddaughter, Shirley Cate Miller, gospel life of a mentor.

James Blakeman.

Then there was that cloudy spot on a CT scan Mary James never set out to mentor me. Mary James Blakeman, and daughter Erin Miller a year or so ago. After two weeks in the hospital she and I sat in the It just happened, that magnetic north meets south. Literally. As much doctor’s office, Mary James in her black patent leather motorcycle as I needed her and loved her, she somehow just as much needed and jacket and I in a cold sweat. The doctor nervously shifted the scans loved me. “James” showed me with her life what it means to admonish from one hand to the other searching for the words to say and ever the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be discreet one to assure and reassure, Mary James leaned, put her hand on his, and chaste, and a homemaker. She needed the chatter, antics, and and said, “You can tell me what I need to hear. I’m not afraid. What spirit of three little girls while their mama needed to learn the ropes ‘ere my God ordains is right.” There she goes again, reassuring before she ended up hanging herself with one. As I look back I see everyone else and fearlessly speaking of Whom she has believed. She what an adventure she signed on for. reads me the stack of notes that fill her mailbox and asks me to pull up James faithfully talked and prayed me through dark providences, Octavius Winslow on my I pad so we can read what other articles of always encouraging me with the truth that “what ‘ere my God ordains spiritual encouragement he’s written. is right.” Her trust in God’s Sovereignty became my trust. Her Mary James is a living article of spiritual encouragement. As we confidence in God’s purposes became my confidence. Her faith that pulled out of the parking lot at the doctor’s office just about one year all things work together for good became my faith. Hers has not been ago today she smiled at me, “Remember, Shirl, this is our big an encouragement toward self-reliance but encouragement toward adventure!” Yes, it truly is. For He knows the plans He has for us, plans dependence on the faithful God of the Bible. of peace and not for evil, to give us a future and a hope. What’er my She rejoices along with me in the brighter days and reminds me God ordains is right and all things have worked together for good, for that every blessing is worth counting. My children and grandchildren my good, for Mary James loves Jesus and has been called according to rise and call her blessed and “Grammuvver,” too. In sharing the gospel His purpose. and her life we have become her family and she has become ours.

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KATE AND CYNTHIA THOMAS Kate Thomas, Metro Christian’s Graphic Production Assistant, is a talented up and coming designer who operates an online shop called Little Things Studio (www.LittleThingsStudio.com) She ships all over the country and since being “discovered” by How magazine and a few industry celebrities, the “business” end of business has been slightly overwhelming at times.

Mom Cynthia, whom Kate likes to refer to as her “momager,” handles day to day correspondence, shipping, inventory and most anything else her budding entrepreneurial daughter asks her to do.

Asked to describe her mother’s influence, she says, “One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from my mother is serving others. There is a big trend in our society to just forget about the elderly and focus on youth. But that is NOT my mother. She has a special love for elderly people. I think about how Jesus came to serve the people that go unnoticed. Jesus uses my mom to take people to the doctor, make meals, and change light bulbs.”

CAROLINE AND “GAGA” MAY Caroline May participates in Jackson Prep’s Global Leadership Institute.

The goal of the institute is to develop world-class leaders who “excel in academics and demonstrate integrity, vision, and compassion.” Mentoring is a huge part of the program. Tenth grade students select adults who will serve as personal and/or professional mentors throughout their high school experience.

The program provides many regular activities that help mentor and mentee maintain a close relationship.

Caroline could think of no one she admired more than her grandmother Jan May, known to her seven “real” grandchildren and a host of others who would like to belong to her, as “Gaga.”

As for “Gaga,” she has a self-deprecating manner about her and insists that she is no role model. She is the kind of person who brings out the best in others, who rarely uses the words, “I, me, mine,” and who has mastered the art of loving others.

Caroline says that she chose her grandmother for several reasons—she knew she would get to spend a lot of time with her. Aside from being one of the wisest people she knows, she is also one of the most fun. Caroline’s goal is to develop that same easygoing spirit that blends a great sense of humor with deep love and service to others.

VERA ELIZABETH PERKINS AND VERA MAE PERKINS Elizabeth Perkins’ (see page 22) has definitely followed in the footsteps of her famous father and amazing mother. When asked what most inspires her about her mother, she says she could write several volumes on the subject. For us she sums it up this way: “My mother has inspired me in so many ways. She raised eight children, worked day and night and each evening she still cooked and sat us down for a hot dinner. The thing I am most grateful for is her holding a Good News Club in our home every week. I was six years old when she led me to the Lord. My mother gave me life and introduced me to the one who gives eternal life. Watching my mother love and care for children, I gained a passion for children and for the last 25 years have committed my life to working with youth. I consider my mother a Proverbs 31 woman. She has shown me wisdom, strength, courage, and we do call her “blessed”.” Y metrochristianliving.com ❘ MAY 2012 31

➺think tank

by ANDY WIMBERLY

Uh Oh, There’s a Burning Bush Ahead ast article we talked about finding your purpose. Moses had a purpose.

At age 80 GOD told him to lead his people to freedom and he did! If you haven’t read the Moses story, you ought to. Now, how about you? Found your purpose in this life yet?

Are you even looking for it? Or is your life purpose to play golf three times a week, work daily crossword puzzles, have the best garden in the neighborhood, travel to the beach, read the latest best seller, or just kind of lean back and enjoy the days of leisure and relaxing? After all we’ve earned it, right?

First, there is nothing wrong with any of these activities. They are fun and interesting. Over the years I’ve tried my hand at some of these, and here is what I learned: golf and gardening are too hard for me to figure out and master. Both require a lot of patience, thought and follow through, three things I am well short on!

Maybe there is a way to do the fun and exciting things in life and, in addition, have the purpose that GOD intended for you. Here are a couple of thoughts from two guys way smarter than I am.

“It’s been said that our potential is God’s gift to us, and what we do with it is our gift to him.

But at the same time, our potential is probably our greatest untapped resource. We have nearly limitless potential, yet too few ever try to reach it. Why? Here’s the answer: We can do anything, but we can’t do everything. Many people let everyone around them decide their agenda in life. As a result, they never really dedicate themselves to their purpose in life. They become a jack-of-all-trades, master of none— rather than a jack-of-few-trades, focused on one.” John Maxwell Man is still confused about this life— Even though the Dalai Lama and I are not on the same page when it comes to priorities in life and his perception of who God is and who is actually in control of all things, he does provide some interesting and right-on info when asked about humanity. When asked what surprised him most about humanity, he answered, “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present, the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

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• Read your life backwards—that’s right, keep turning your life clock back and back until you recall that special something you were doing that really turned your crank, energized and excited you. I had to go all the way back to Davis elementary school in the 3rd grade, when I was standing in front of the class telling stories and trying to convince my classmates of what I was doing and talking them into doing it with me. I guess I’ve been doing that since then.

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Despite large shifts in hormone production across a 28-day cycle, sleep is remarkably stable during a normal menstrual cycle. Over years of normal menstrual cycles, iron-deficiency anemia can develop and is associated with restless limb syndrome. Restless limb syndrome is the irresistible need to move one’s arms or legs associated with an uncomfortable sensation in the extremities. This movement occurs when one relaxes including in the early evening. It can delay the ability to get to sleep.

Each trimester of pregnancy brings changes to sleep quality and character. Fatigue and daytime sleepiness are common during the first trimester because of the increased female hormone progesterone’s affect on the brain’s function. During the second trimester, sleep disturbance is decreased, and sleep is more continuous.

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Menopause, a transitional stage of the normal aging process, is associated with changes in sleep quality.

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lot of time has passed and a lot of water has gone under the bridge.

My red and blue sweater had been hiding on the back side of the closet. Not long ago I found it—still looking bright and wearable. I tried it on and, believe it or not, it was a perfect fit. How did this red and blue slipover sweater become mine?

Step back in time: the airport in Memphis.

One summer day in 1953 my parents met me for a homecoming after I had spent almost two years in the Far East. Mother gave me a big hug after she spotted me in the crowd. My weight was below normal and she, on greeting me, said, “I only recognize your blue eyes.” Yes, I had lost a lot of weight t two years.

I did not tell Mother, because it would have made matters worse, but I had just rotated from the coldest spot in North Korea. I do remember the Yellow Sea was frozen some three to four feet thick in mid-winter.

No small Navy vessels could plow through that ice, so our food (K rations and C rations) was dropped by the DC-3 planes flown by the Royal Hellenic-0Greek Air Force—known as the “Blue Tail Flies.” No doubt that was the reason for my appearing so frail and under-nourished.

Once in the car and on our two hour drive home, Mother began to pull red and blue yarn out of a bag and displayed her knitting skills— something I had never seen. Our conversation was about everything under the sun. I knew I would be home for a few weeks’ leave, so Mother cooked everything I liked and had missed for those several months. Whatever I wanted to eat, she would cook. Mother had a secret recipe for pineapple upside-down cake and, since it was my favorite dessert, it was on the table after each meal.

My leave time had come to an end, so Mother pulled out this red and blue sweater as a surprise. The sweater fit in 1953 and it still fits me today. Many people have admired my sweater saying, “Is that your Ole Miss sweater?”

I usually ask that person to take a look at the label in the neckline which reads: “Especially

Hand Made by Mother.” I must admit many comments have been uttered: “Beautiful sweater” and “And you can still wear it?” are the two most common sayings.

I cherish my red and blue sweater today. It does look like an Ole Miss sweater, but Mother did not really choose Ole Miss colors—she just happened to choose red and blue. I have had a lot of fun with my sweater because most people just cannot believe I can still wear a sweater made for me in 1953. How about your waistline?

Parents’ ABC’s A – Always trust your children to God’s care.

B – Bring them to church.

C – Challenge them to high goals.

D - Delight in their achievements.

E – Exalt the Lord in their presence.

F – Frown on evil.

G – Give them love.

I – Ignore not their childish fears.

J – Joyfully accept their apologies.

K – Keep their confidence.

L – Live a good example before them.

M – Make them your friends.

N – Never ignore their endless questions.

O – Open your heart to their love.

P – Pray for them by name.

Q – Quicken your interest in their spirituality.

R – Remember their needs.

S – Show them the way of salvation.

T – Teach them to work.

U – Understand that they are still young.

V – Verify your statements.

W – Wean them from bad company.

X – Expect them to obey.

Y – Yearn for God’s best for them.

Z – Zealously guide them in Bible truth.

My parents followed these guidelines rather closely as I grew up.

Solomon said in Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go. Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Teaching is a long, long process! Y

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A FATHER’S WISH FOR HIS DAUGHTER

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y two year old daughter loves to pretend she is “Mommy”.

With toy grocery cart in hand, she strolls around the house with her favorite baby doll securely fastened.

As she and “Bitty Baby” make their way through our home, she shops and talks into any rectangular object that will serve as her cell phone. Why does she do this? Because she adores her mother, and she already dreams of one day being a mommy. While she has so much fun “playing mom” right now, there will come a day (Lord willing) that she will get to experience motherhood. When this happens, there are two lessons that will await her: Being a mother is one of the most rewarding things she will ever experience. It will also be one of the most challenging things she will ever do.

As she grows up, my greatest wish for her is to know who Christ is and to have her identity secure in Him. Why is this so important? Well, from the looks of it, being a mom is no easy task. There will be days when she will be tested to her core. There will be many times when she will come to the end of herself, and there…there is where she will need to know who Christ is and who she is because of Him. Her value as a mother will not be determined by her circumstances or in what she can or can’t do. Rather, her value as a mother will be determined by what Christ has done and continues to do in and through her. There will be moments when she will be tempted to look at other mothers and get caught in the comparison trap. In her flesh, she may say “I wish I was more like _______” or “I’m not as together as _________”. In those moments, I hope she remembers some of the names that God has bestowed upon her as His child: mighty one, beloved, forgiven, redeemed, blessed, chosen, a royal priesthood. When

she is tempted to give more and more of herself, believing that is what her children and family need, I pray she remembers that Christ is the greatest gift she could ever give them.

Right now, her greatest challenge while “playing mom” is pushing “Bitty Baby” in the outdoor chair swing. I have to laugh when I see her doing this. She stands on her tippytoes like a ballerina, stretching her sweet little hands out, barely reaching the back of the swing. As a real mom one day, I already wonder about the challenges she may face: A wayward child, financial uncertainty, health issues, unfaithfulness. Only God knows what awaits my precious girl. Whatever she goes through, I pray her faith brings her to the One who promised to never leave her or forsake her. Isaiah 43 promises her that when she passes through the rivers, they will not sweep over her. And, when she walks through the fire, she will not be burned because He is the Lord—Her God!!

To all the mothers reading this, may God richly bless you and fill you with His love.

May you be reminded of who you are in Him today. Whether you are on a mountaintop or in a valley, know that God is right there with you and is sufficient for all your needs. Y Lee Smith is a pastor at Pinelake Church and is a Licensed Professional Counselor with Summit Counseling.

He and his wife, Jenni will soon celebrate 13 years of marriage. They have two children and are eagerly awaiting the adoption of their third child from Ethiopia. He can be reached at 601.949.1949.

legal advice

by WILLIAM B. HOWELL

For Caregivers,Writing it Down is Essential If the day ever comes that you are called upon to become a take on these new obligations? You will, because you have to. But having as caregiver, whether it be for a parent or your spouse, you will likely much as possible in writing will be a great aid to handling those hectic time feel at the very least overwhelmed if not completely lost.What do you demands. Many people find that a notebook that you can jot things down as do first? Many times these situations begin with an emergency. Who would they come to your attention would be very helpful. you call other than 911? Do you know the phone number of the doctors or And don’t forget those minimal legal documents that you need in order even the names of the doctors that have given treatment in the past (and to have authority to act on behalf of the person for whom you are giving who has the medical records)? care. At a minimum you are going to need a good advance healthcare In an emergency situation, when you get to the hospital there will directive with HIPAA provisions. This latter set of letters refers to the be a lot of questions to be answered. There is the medical federal medical privacy regulations that may well interfere history to be given, possibly information about any prior Having it in writing with your ability to give good care decisions for your surgeries and approximately when they took place, are loved one, especially if you are prevented from is essential for you and communicating on their behalf. And you will need a there any allergies involved and if so, what type. The question is: Do you know? Have you asked about these good and thorough durable power of attorney that for the well-being of the gives issues when you had the opportunity? you the necessary specific authority to act in one you care about. business matters as well. But even a well written power Even when there is not an emergency, there will be numerous additional demands upon your time. There will of attorney may not be honored. Then you are left with only be the inevitable doctors’ appointments to be kept, prescriptions the alternative of going to court for authority. A living trust could to be filled or refilled, caregivers to be scheduled, and you have probably be more effective. taken over paying the bills and they have to be attended to in a timely Writing is essential. Having it in writing is essential for you and for the manner. Again, you need to know the information regarding these various well-being of the one you care about. It will pay dividends in your peace of obligations as well as where the financial accounts are located and who has mind as well as your efficiency in caring if you spend just a little time and access to them. If your loved one is in the hospital rather than ambulatory, put as much as you can in writing. Y your presence will be required for comfort, for decision making, and to try William B. Howell is a member of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys to keep informed of what the prognosis may be. and practices law in Ridgeland.

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WHY THROW IT AWAY? We are all living longer. But we are not all going to be in good health, or aware of our families, or both. Then what happens? Someone has to take over. The question is: Will this be someone you chose? And will it be outside of court or in court? The same with the distribution of your assets after you pass away: In court or out of court? The choice is yours. What about protecting your assets from lawsuits, or a child’s inheritance from a divorce? And will most of your hard-earned savings go to the nursing home? Or have you planned? Here are a few ideas for you to consider:

Living Trust – Allows the person you choose to take over for you in the event of your incapacity, without any court involvement. At your death the person you have chosen makes the distribution of your assets the way you have instructed in your Living Trust, and to do so promptly, inexpensively and privately, without going through probate in the court.

Asset Protection – Lawsuits are filed every day. If you get sued, are your assets protected? They can be, and probably should be. Also, the divorce rate has never been higher than it is today. Will your child’s divorce cause them to lose half of what you leave them after you are gone? Not if you plan now. The level of protection (or not) is up to you.

Nursing Home Planning – Don’t qualify for long term care insurance, or can’t fit it in your budget? You don’t have to spend everything that you have in order to become eligible for nursing home benefits. There are legal and ethical ways for you to save well over half of your assets in most cases, even if you are already in the nursing home.

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➺christian commerce corner Alyssa Farmer of Lace MCL: Tell us a little about your background and your family.

Alyssa: I was born and raised at the Reservoir, graduating from Northwest Rankin in 1988. While attending MSU and majoring in business administration, I met my husband, Paul Farmer. We graduated and married in 1992. After two initial jobs out of the area, we returned to Rankin County in 1995 to open Animal Medical Hospital. We operated this business together, he practiced veterinary medicine and I saw to business operations. We have two children, Ally, 17 and Brayden, 12. We worked, lived and raised our children together.

Paul was diagnosed with a rare form of pancreatic cancer in 2007. We battled this monster called cancer for three years. During this time we grew closer to each other, our children, and the Lord.

Even through the most difficult time in our lives, God placed angels all around us and we learned to stop and recognize His grace and love. We lost Paul January 30, 2011. I was so blessed to be his wife; I had what most people never find. We shared a wonderful marriage, loved each other unconditionally, wanted to share everything with each other, and discussed every opportunity and difficulty to make each decision together. We were a perfect pair in so many ways.

MCL: What made you want to open a bridal boutique?

Alyssa: Paul and I had begun discussing what I would do and thinking of selling his business. We had discussed my love of weddings. I spent some weekends during college directing weddings or giving modeling lessons for pageants. Such happy times in girls lives and I had a heart for brides, young girls and pretty dresses.

But as his disease unexpectedly progressed plans were put on hold.

After we lost him, I was truly lost too. But I had our children looking to me for strength so I knew I had to get up and figure things out. I wasn’t ready, but felt the Lord calling me to something… As I worked through the sale of the animal hospital, He started putting opportunities in my path. Tax advantage of opening another business was the first sign, and then a building I have always loved had been on the market for almost a year. I started looking at the process and found that bridal market was in New York within two months time (a city I had visited often for Paul’s oncologist

and loved, also some good friends live there). So I put an offer on the building and booked a trip to NYC! I truly feel like the Lord called me to be here now. This is not my timing but His. Part of my call is to love on brides and girls during other special events in their lives.

MCL: Why the name LACE? As plans for the shop progressed, my daughter asked me what I would call it... my response, “ I don’t know maybe lace… Love After Christ’s Example. God given - I don’t even remember thinking about it - it just came.

MCL: How do you incorporate your faith into your business?

Alyssa: I have learned to try to just be still and listen—Listen to what people need and want and often times, God will give opportunities to share. I try not to pry or be overbearing, but as these opportunities come, I will freely share my story and more if asked. I do love to talk!

Whether it is just telling brides they are beautiful (and they are) or sharing a Bible verse their story reminds me of, or praying with a mom who is also a widow and struggling right now. I am honored to be able to hear each story and share a small part of their special day, whether it is a high school prom, military ball or wedding day.

Part of incorporating faith into business is to just to be kind to everyone and try to always be fair, straightforward.

MCL: Is there anything else you would like to share?

Alyssa: Most people ask how can I do this so soon after losing my husband. My reply: it wasn’t my timing but Gods timing, so how could I not. And what a blessing it has become to me> Already I find strength at lace.

My days can be sad and I struggle with why, and I often fail, stumble through, and mess up, but God gives me strength everyday to try again.

It is hard, but peace is when I can help find a dress to compliment a beautiful bride. Whether a size 2 or 32 each girl deserves to find a dress that makes her feel special and beautiful for her day. Y

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healthy living

by KEN CLEVELAND, MD

Summer Body Tips “Now learn this lesson from the fig tree: As soon as its twigs get tender and its leaves come out, you will know that summer is near.” – Mathew 24:32

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here’s no doubt about it: summer is coming. I would know this even if I hadn’t looked at a calendar for months, taken a step outside or even turned on the television. Why? Because my medical clinic specializes in weight loss and aesthetic services, and business is booming. In reference to the Bible verse above, my patients are my fig tree. They’re thinking about what they’ll look like in their bathing suits—wanting to lose weight, take advantage of our hair removal services for their bikini lines, and perhaps take care of a few wrinkles and blemishes while they’re at it—so of course “summer is near!”

If you’re as worried as some of my patients are about how presentable your body might be this vacation season, here are a few steps you can take to ensure that you won’t be too self-conscious at the beach.

❋ If you want to lose weight, cut your carbohydrates. When it

❋ Speaking of wrinkles, avoid direct sunlight. It’s not an easy

comes to weight loss in our modern society, carbs are the enemy.

They provide more energy than your body can use, and the rest gets stored as fat.

thing to do in the summer, but it’s valuable advice. Too much sun can dry out your skin and darken spots and blemishes. Plus, the ultraviolet radiation in sunlight can cause the collagen that keeps your skin firm and elastic (and thus wrinkle resistant) to weaken and break down faster than it would naturally as you age.

❋ Eat more proteins and fiber. Proteins and fiber-rich foods such as whole grains, green vegetables, beans and nuts are more filling and take longer to digest, so you won’t get hungry as often.

❋ Skip dessert. Talk about your carbs! The less sugar the better. Save dessert for a summer vacation indulgence.

❋ Boost your metabolism with exercise. Muscles constantly burn calories, even while you’re asleep. So taking part in some aerobic exercise will give your metabolism a boost by helping you burn extra calories—and create more calorie-burning muscle cells as a bonus.

❋ Avoid alcohol. It slows down your metabolism and contributes to

Now following these tips won’t get you on the cover of People Magazine, but they might make you a little less critical of the person you see in the mirror each morning. At the very least, they might keep you out of my clinic. Just remember: nobody expects you to be as skinny as a twig on a fig tree—they’re more worried about how their own body looks than they’ll ever be about yours, especially at the beach. Simply treat your body as a temple as the Bible commands and you’ll be all right.

Relax and have a good summer! Y

fat storage. So the less alcohol the better.

❋ Above all, drink more water. Drinking plenty of water makes you feel full, lubricates your digestive system and aids your metabolism. There’s no need to spend your hard-earned money on the bottled stuff, tap water with a few cubes of ice will do just fine.

Water also keeps your skin properly hydrated, which can minimize the appearance of wrinkles as you age.

Dr. Ken Cleveland is a longtime resident of Northeast Jackson, a former surgeon and founder of Remedy True Health, a weight loss, aesthetics and anti-aging clinic in Ridgeland. He is married to Jackson native and oncology physician Dr. Nikki Cleveland. He can be reached through the Contact Us link at www.remedytrueheatlh.com.

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Reviewed by Susan E. Richardson Following her father’s death, nursemidwife Lexie Jaeger investigates the carved wooden box he told her about on his deathbed. She knew her parents adopted her, but never had any clues to her true background. Now she holds enough information to begin the search for her past.

Lexie’s friend Sophie helps her take the first steps by suggesting she work with a lay-midwife in Pennsylvania.

Marta Bayer is having legal problems and needs assistance with her practice in the Amish community, but Sophie also suggests she may be blood kin to Lexie. Though reluctant because of the legal issues, Lexie finally agrees to meet with Marta.

Marta is no happier to meet Lexie despite the fact that she needs her help. In their initial meeting Lexie can tell that Marta mistook her for someone else, but she isn’t willing to talk about the issue. Their similar careers draw Marta and Lexie together, but getting more information about anything but delivering babies is a challenge.

Authors Mindy Starns Clark and Leslie Gould create a mystery full of twists and turns in The Amish Midwife. Those who enjoy Amish fiction will find plenty here to like, but the mystery will keep other readers guessing until the end. Toss in a little romance with a choice of potential mates and you’ll find something for everyone.

This well-plotted mystery with realistic characters would be a good choice for a Mother’s Day gift for fiction loving moms.

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Susan E. Richardson is a writer, critique reader, and former Christian retailer with a passion for meeting people’s needs through the written word. You can reach her through her website www.nextlevelcritiques.com.

After the worship style of the group Passion, Florida-based worship team Eleven22 releases their sophomore album The Reason on May 15. The project is a tribute to fifteen-year-old McKenzie Noelle Wilson’s life, with all proceeds going to benefit construction of an orphanage, sponsored by The McKenzie Noelle Foundation, in Uganda, Africa.

Birthed out of Beach United Methodist church in Jacksonville, Florida, Eleven22 is a worship band that draws young people in droves, encouraging them to reach for a more meaningful worship experience. One of those young people, McKenzie Noelle Wilson, attended an Eleven22 worship service where she dedicated her life to Christ before suddenly passing away one month later.

Wilson’s untimely death rocked the entire community, but it was discovering her life and the passion with which she lived it that inspired Eleven22 to write its new album. Eleven22’s Ben Williams recalls, “Stories about McKenzie’s love and compassion for others just started spreading like wildfire. The more we heard, the more we wanted to know. It wasn’t long after that, her dad gave me her Bible, and I began to read her notes inside.”

These notes served as the foundation for songs like album opener, “I Found a Love,” a triumphant celebration of all who have made their way through life’s storms to discover God’s true love – a song made particularly poignant after it was found written in Wilson’s Bible.

Twelve original songs will have you singing along. The proceeds, going to honor Wilson’s compassion for orphans around the world through the establishing of a boy’s orphanage and an abandoned baby home in Uganda, make this music even more special. See www.eleven22worship.com and www.caregivegrow.org. Y

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May 4-5 The fourth annual Arts Alive! Fine Arts & Crafts Festival is coming to Jackson’s Smith Park with the fun beginning at 10:00 a.m. thru 5:00 p.m. The festival will have entertainment throughout each day as well as food and fine arts vendors throughout the park. For additional information go to www.artsalivejackson.com.

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May 5 Parkway Hills United Methodist Church is hosting their SpringFest 2012 from 10:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m. with activities for young and old alike. Enjoy a day filled with music, art, food, and fun. More than 30 local artisans of the Craftsman’s Guild of Mississippi will be on hand to display and sell their work. For more information go to www.parkwayhillsumc.org.

RAYMOND May 5 Raymond’s County Fair and Arts Festival around the Raymond Courthouse.

Cannonball 5 and 10K race with 1-mile fun run for the kids. Free admission. Don’t miss the “Garden to Fire” artisan wood fired pizza. More info available at raymondchamber.com or 601-857-8942. A fabulous family outing!

May 7

CLINTON

Baptist Health Systems is hosting a “Girls Just Want to Have Fun:” A High School Graduation Party that will help acclimate young women into life after high school.

Topics such as “Decorating your Dorm Room”, “Avoiding the Freshman Fifteen”, and “Mom’s Not Here: Health and First Aid Away from Home” will be discussed. This event begins at 5:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. and is free to the public. For more information call 601-948-6262.

May 5

The annual Sonny Fountain Memorial Golf Tournament for Kids will take place at Annandale Golf Course beginning at 11:00a.m. with tee time starting at noon. Money raised from the tournament will go to support Southern Christian Services and Youth, Inc, a ministry that was dear to the heart of Mr. Fountain. For more information call 601354-0983.

May 17 Livingston Market 129 Mannsdale Road, Madison 39110. Fresh produce, food, exhibitors. Taste “Garden to Fire” artisan wood pizza. 4-8 p.m.

The Real Girl Magazine Spring Celebration sponsored by The Arts Council of Clinton and the Quisenberry Library will play host to a free fun filled event for girls ages 12-18 and their moms. Activities begin at 2:00 p.m. at the library located at 605 E. Northside Drive, Clinton and will include arts and crafts, a dance with a Zumba instructor, a spa hand scrub and more!

May 12 Olde Town Market in Clinton. Arts, crafts,

May 12 Stray at Home Art & Music Festival debuts in Fondren. The festival will be in the grassy area (next to Babalu) on the corner of Duling and Old Canton in Fondren, May 12, 2012. This all-day event will be held from 10 am-6 pm; adults and children of all ages are welcome to attend Stray at Home Art & Music Festival: Fondren. There will be local visual artists and craftsmen showing and selling their creations, live music from local and regional bands, and a cornhole tournament!

They are also partnering with Parish Furniture based out of Trujillo, Peru. Founded in 2008 by fellow Jacksonian, Brad Ball, along with others, Parish exists as an economic development arm of Peru Mission. For more information, visit www.strayathome.com.

RIDGELAND May 11 Old Trace Park at the Ross Barnett Reservoir will be the place to be for the Pops III: Pepsi Pops sundown concert.

Pack the picnic hamper, get the lawn chairs and blankets and plan to enjoy a family event featuring patriotic music followed by a fireworks show. The fun begins at 7:30 p.m. but get there early to reserve your spot. For additional information call 601-960-1565. Y

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BARIATRIC SURGERY OPTIONS

· Roux-en-Y gastric bypass · Adjustable gastric banding (LAP-BAND®, Realize®) · Vertical sleeve gastrectomy MEDICAL PROGRAM OPTIONS

· Customized medical weight management · OPTIFAST® or meal replacement therapy · Lifestyle and behavior modification · Nutrition education

SEMINAR: SECOND & FOURTH TUESDAY OF EACH MONTH REGISTRATION, 5:30 P. M. SEMINAR, 6:00 P.M. Reservations are required.

Call 1-877-907-7642 to reserve your spot.

Comprehensive Weight Management, Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery Center at River Oaks Hospital

Riverchase Medical Suites · 2550 Flowood Dr., Suite 403 · Flowood, MS 39232 TransformationsRiverOaks.com