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columns 8 The Way I See It Following God at the Fork in the Road

10 Living My Call Paul Gallo Fighting the Culture War

12 Modern Motherhood How Long, Oh How Long?

16 Chewed Petunias Recognizing Idolatry

18 Let’s Talk It Over Being Smart with Smartphones

21 Single Still, Single Again Do You Have a Grateful Heart?

features

26 Salt & Light

28 Education Connection

MadCAAP Fights Poverty

Sister Trinita’s Legacy

Learning Styles—What’s Yours?

A Heart for God

30 This Is My Story Don’t Take Life for Granted

32 Food For Thought Gluten-Free Recipes

35 Legal Advice What Does Anyone’s Will Actually Do?

36 Sports Victories

Doug Lycette Northwest Coach is Bold for Christ

39 Outside In Overextended

in every issue

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Editor’s Letter What’s Going On Rave Reviews Event Calendar Quips & Quotes Advertiser Index

What’s Coming Next Month? Aaron and Felicia Kent, Kent’s Cajun Kitchen: A Journey of Faith

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Volume 8, Number 3 Publisher: MHS Publications, Inc., Member, M.I.P.A. Editor: Marilyn Tinnin marilyn@metrochristianliving.com Associate Editor: Suzanne Tanner Durfey Art Direction/Graphic Design Sandra K. Goff Sales Marilyn Tinnin, Kimberly Stephens, Suzanne Tanner Durfey Contributing Writers Ariel Anderton, Lydia Bolen, Shawn Dean, William B. Howell, Amy Ingram, Maggie Ingram, Carlisle Koestler, Robin O’Bryant, Susan E. Richardson, Neal Stephens, Martin E. Willoughby, Jr., Robert Wilson Cover Photography Stegall Imagery Distribution Assistants Laura Kidder, Randy Fortenberry, Andrea Sabillion, Rachel Schulte, Jerri Strickland, Priscilla Sullivan, Bob Whatley, Amanda Weems

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➺editor’s letter It’s All About the Heart “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life,” (Proverbs 4:23).

A grandmother is a ❝ mother who has a second chance.

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– Author Unknown

I’ve just returned two granddaughters to their parents after 12 days of what we have come to call “Camp MaeMae,” (i.e. their annual visit). I generally see

them a few times over the course of a year, but it is in this concentrated time of togetherness we nourish our relationship—hopefully with memories they will hold dear the rest of their lives. As I apologized to a friend by email the other day for taking so long to reply to her, I explained that I had been totally immersed in grandmothering and although I tried to get in a little work here and there, my futile efforts were something akin to herding cats or nailing Jell-O to the wall. But there are some times, I have learned, when we just have to choose between the urgent and the important, and this annual visit with Allie and Charlotte is definitely in the latter category. For me, their little hearts are the focus of grandmothering. I love to tune in to their interests, but in the back of my mind all the time are their hearts, and I am looking and praying for every day opportunities to give them those spiritual nuggets that Jesus was talking about when he told Martha, “But only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken from her,” (Luke 10:41-42). I yearn to know that they know that our God is faithful and that He is the friend who will stand beside them always and forever and in every circumstance. What a freedom there is in this role! I don’t have to worry about their accomplishments or their report cards or their vaccinations. I can zero in on their hearts. Parents have such a full plate these days. A grandparent has a great opportunity to be a “life giver” in the midst of the “life sapping” experience on the treadmill that has become modern life. The last two weeks have refreshed my spirit even as the activity has exhausted my body. Their sweet and tender bedtime prayers, the funny and truthful way they express themselves, and the countless conversations we shared over breakfast, lunch, dinner, and in the car, have shaved the cynicism and the pessimism off my exterior for the time being. Allie and Charlotte have been like a conduit back to realities like, “Jesus loves me, this I know.” And from that truth does indeed spring everything that gives meaning and purpose to life on earth. Heart—I think we have filled this issue with lots of it. Enjoy Sister Trinita’s story. As I have come to know first Sister Dorothea, and now her dear friend, Trinita, I am not quite so intimidated by their habit or their titles as Dominican sisters. Authentic hearts—they are hard not to want to just snuggle up close to and enjoy the friendship. Martin Willoughby in, “The Way I See It,” has just gone through a major life change, and he reflects on it through the eyes of his heart. The view is always best that way as God makes sure you notice those things that are—what else—but truly God things. There is a sense of gratitude that comes with a full heart. And then, by all means, whether you are single or married, read Amy Ingram’s (“Single Still, Single Again”) reflections on a Grateful Heart. Sometimes you have to dig down and look for them, but when you start counting your blessings, your outlook on life can change even though your circumstances remain the same. School is already in full swing, and fall activities are gearing up. Autumn is almost more the New Year than the real “New Year!” Take a deep breath. Embrace it all, and by all means guard your heart all the way! Y

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Following God at the Fork in the Road

We all face forks in the road in life. These are the times when we have to make hard decisions that have long term implications for our future. I

recently faced one of those “forks” as I wrestled with whether to move my family from our home in Madison to Memphis, Tennessee. Besides a brief period living in California, I have spent my whole life in Metro Jackson. My kids have gone to the same school, and we have lived in the same neighborhood since we began our family. We were comfortable with our routines. While my work brought us to Memphis, I have a much deeper sense of call that I was supposed to move my family and take them on this path. For me, this has been a spiritual journey that has drawn me closer to God. I have made some observations on this path that I hope will encourage you in your own journey in life.

Following God’s Will As a follower of Christ, you want to remain in God’s will for your life. When we face hard decisions about school, marriage, career, etc. we want to know God’s will for our lives. I found Henry Blackaby’s Experiencing God and Hearing God’s Voice to be helpful books in this process. Many hours of prayer and the counsel of wise believers helped me to get clarity on my path.

out of their way to embrace our family and make us feel at home. New friends have made sure that my children are “connected” with others kids their age. One of the wonderful parts of being a follower of Christ is that you are instantly connected with other believers. No matter where you were born, went to school, or what you do for a living, when you share a love for Jesus you have a bond. It has been a great experience to connect with other believers and to see how they share the love of God.

Learning What is Essential

shared the life experiences of raising our kids together. What if my kids don’t respond well to the move? What if my wife Nicki does not find the kind of friends she enjoyed in our hometown? While these are obvious concerns with any type of change, what I learned about myself is where I put my trust. I realized that I wanted to be in “control” and make sure all of our lives were confortable and happy. I will not always be there for my children to make sure their world is “perfect.” I have learned that I need to really believe God is in control and that we “walk in faith, not by sight.”

Embracing Others in God’s Love Fear and Faith As a husband and father, I feared that this move would not go well for my family. My children went to a wonderful school and had many friends. We enjoyed neighbors that we

I have simply been overwhelmed by the love that has been shown to my family in this move. Our friends and neighbors showered us with kindness as we were leaving our hometown, and relative strangers have gone

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While we patiently wait for our house in Madison to sell, the four of us, and our two dogs, are living in a VERY small two-bedroom apartment. Besides the obvious family bonding (and chaos!) that occurs in close quarters, it has also taught us about what the essentials are for living. We live in a consumer and materialistic society. As I packed up my house of 13 years, I was embarrassed at the amount of “stuff” that we had accumulated. For my family and me, we are reminded that the real treasure in life is our relationships, not our possessions. I look forward to continuing being a part of the ministry of this magazine from our new home in Memphis! Y

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least once—to tap every last emotion a human being can muster. From high-octane humor to serious social and political issues, his fans see him as a sort of “patron saint” of the proverbial Culture War. His enemies—well—they don’t see him exactly that way. He is more like a “thorn in the flesh.” Armed with a quick mind and masterful verbal skills, few can expect to win a debate against him! He wields a hefty platform of influence, but the reality is that he did not start out with that goal in mind. However, because God has seen fit to gift him with it, he embraces it with a mix of humility, gratitude, and a sense of great responsibility every time he sits behind a microphone. It’s definitely not just a job. It’s a calling, and he is dead serious about it. The late Jim Beavers, former News Director at SuperTalk Mississippi, made an observation that Paul has never forgotten. Beavers said, “All of the stuff you have done in your life has prepared you for this moment— all of the stuff you have gone through—being in business, being in sales, with your children—you’ve brought all of these things with you into this {talk radio}. What you do best is that you bring yourself and you tell me things I did not know.” And if there is a formula, that is it. He brings himself—heart, soul, experience, and a deep Christian faith that informs his opinions on the hot social issues of the day. A devout Catholic, Paul is, among other things, an outspoken opponent of abortion, same sex marriage, and big government. He certainly does not lose sleep (he doesn’t sleep much anyhow) over the fact that he is quite politically incorrect. He is fine with that. What he is, however, is a tenacious student of current events, a lover of history, and a guy who cannot even remember when he was NOT interested in government. His interest in politics probably began in elementary school when he discovered his local library’s collection of American biographies. He read them all and absorbed a knowledge of government and a love for country. That, too, probably impacted his eventual career in talk radio and specifically, a program geared to upto-the-minute political reporting and editorial. 10 SEPTEMBER 2013 ❘ Metro Christian Living

A native of Shaw, Paul says that he was very much the class clown. That is not at all hard to believe considering the humor he so effectively interjects in between the not-souplifting facts in the daily breaking news. He credits a high school English teacher somewhere along his late high school journey that praised him effusively over an essay he wrote as a class assignment. He was not terribly accustomed to being singled out for his academic prowess. That event must have been a defining moment for this class clown, as he realized he could do more than just make people laugh! He has been doing the early show for 15 years now. Aside from the rigor and unrelenting regularity of studying news 24/7, his waking and sleeping cycle is dictated by the demands of the show. In bed by 8 p.m. and fast asleep by 8:30, he is up about 2 a.m. Showered, dressed, and to the station by 3:00 or shortly thereafter, by 3:30 a.m. he is hunkered down at his desk, glued to his computer, and digesting all the breaking news of the past 24 hours. But he thrives on it all. When he finds a cause he believes in deeply, it is just no telling how far he might go to help. Recent case in

point—he threw his support behind Palmer Home, the historic orphanage in Columbus, Mississippi, hosting an on-air fundraiser. Such a format was new for The Gallo Show, but his heart was moved by the stories of the kids Palmer helps and the deplorable circumstances that these rescued kids overcome. The cause melted his heart. He set a goal to raise $20,000 and thinking that was rather bold; he prayed they would raise a respectable amount. The end result was $85,000 in donations—largely because Paul’s listeners respect and trust Paul. It was obvious, as it always is, that he brought all of himself to the effort. His passion for America bleeds through everything—from the humorous and inspiring to the issues that scare the bejeebers (his word) out of us. If he could wave his magic wand and “fix” every broken thing in American culture, how would he begin? “Prayer,” he says, “And not just the kind you utter inside the bricks and mortar of the church building. Individuals praying and then understanding the little things—the everyday things—that every person can do.” Those little things Paul calls “first steps” involve bringing yourself fully to the things you believe in. It may mean contacting your school board and administrators, contacting business leaders or store owners when you notice an ad campaign or a sponsorship of something that you believe offends the tenants of morality and good taste. There is always a polite way to voice one’s opinion, and as he says, “You may not realize the impact your words can have.” And he would know. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver,” (Proverbs 25:11, ESV). Y

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How Long, Oh How Long?

Our school year has started off so smoothly it almost looks like it was scripted. All three girls were thrilled to meet

their teachers on the first day of school. Everyone has laid their uniforms out the night before, gone to bed early, woken up easily, dressed themselves and had time to spare before getting in the minivan to head to school. I haven’t stayed up too late watching TV or reading and had to drag myself out of the bed the next morning either. I’ve gone to bed early, gotten up early—and in an almost unprecedented move—started cooking actual food before 7:00 AM in the morning. We are big believers in a bowl of cereal at the O’Bryant household, but I’ve made French toast and eggs. I’ve braided hair, made pigtails and packed healthy lunches—I’ve even given up coffee and yet somehow have been able to be downright civil to my entire family while getting everyone ready for school. I set up the corner of my kitchen especially for packing lunches. I have two separate bins—one for bread and one for snacks. I line up lunch boxes and make assembly line sandwiches, dropping a fruit, veggie, and a snack into each box before zipping them up and tucking them into backpacks for the girls. I found myself wondering on the first day of school, if anyone would actually believe me when I wrote about it. Calm, organized behavior— at the O’Bryant’s?!? Impossible. Then as my mind wandered further, I wondered if there was a way for people to place bets online. Maybe on my Facebook or Twitter streams. “How many days do you think it will be before Robin O’Bryant is spraying Febreze on her nine-year-old daughter’s school uniform (for the second day in a row) and trying to convince her that it was washed?” Place your bets now! “How long will it be before Robin is assuring her seven year old that the chips in her lunch box are NOT the ones left over from yesterday’s lunch, but just ‘look a lot alike’?” Grab your credit card! “How many weeks until Robin is woken up at 7:30 AM by her four year old smacking her in the head with an empty juice cup and asking for breakfast?” Don’t miss your chance to win big! She can’t keep up this pace forever! “How much longer until Robin uses dry shampoo in her four-year-old

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daughter’s hair because she can’t remember when she washed it last?” I snickered to myself as I dished up another round of French toast, then grabbed the dry shampoo and touched up a few oily spots in Sadie’s pigtails—whoever said more than one day on that one? They lost everything. Y Robin O’Bryant is mother to three daughters, wife to one husband, and debut author of Ketchup Is A Vegetable And Other Lies Moms Tell Themselves. She shares the drama and hilarity of motherhood in her syndicated family humor column, “Robin’s Chicks” and on her blog by the same name, robinschicks.com.

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Recognizing Idolatry “Rebellion is as bad as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as bad as worshiping idols” (1 Samuel 15:23). “Of course, we don’t have problems with idolatry these days, right?” Ken was up to his usual teaching style and we in his Sunday School class knew better than to answer a rhetorical question like that. “You don’t have a little shrine in your house with a statue of Zeus or some other god, so you don’t have a problem with idolatry, right? But what about the idol sitting in your driveway?” The room remained still and quiet. “Or the one that you live in or that you keep in the bank? We may not make statues, but if we’re not careful other things can become idols in our lives.” Since my car was several years old, I didn’t have much in the bank, and my house was older than I was, I found it easy to take the point but not worry too much about how idolatry might be in my life. But then I came across this verse from 1 Samuel in my Bible reading one day. I’d been guilty of both rebellion and stubbornness. I’d rebelled against the Lord for years, and I was still guilty of being stubborn as I refused to let go of the things I needed to release. Having rebellion and stubbornness compared to witchcraft and idolatry brought home how seriously God sees these things. Maybe the comparison puzzles you, too. Why would God compare these issues to sins as serious as worshiping idols or practicing witchcraft? Perhaps because rebellion involves turning away from God and demanding to do things our way. Witchcraft includes the same thing: making things come out according to our desires rather than trusting God. Either one is a refusal to trust. The second part of the verse gave me more food for thought. At first glance comparing stubbornness to idolatry seemed a little extreme. The more I considered the verse, though, the more I began to see why the prophet compared it to idolatry. Perseverance can be good. We need a lot of that to get through the journey to recovery. But when stubbornness involves refusing to let go of things we need to relinquish, those things are more important to us than God.

Hosea 7:13-14 says, “Woe to them, because they have strayed from me! Destruction to them, because they have rebelled against me! I long to redeem them but they speak lies against me. They do not cry out to me from their hearts but wail upon their beds.” The phrase “they speak lies against me” grabbed my attention with this passage. As if that wasn’t enough, I came to the next part of the verse, where God longs to redeem, but could not because they spoke lies against Him. I wanted to deny having spoken lies against God, but I couldn’t. The fear and the idols and the lies I believed all worked together. I had to admit how much I had strayed and rebelled before God began bringing me healing. I had repented, repeatedly, with tears, each time I realized how far away I had turned. Finally I was opening my heart, and the Lord was bringing pieces to me where I needed to repent more deeply. If we’re not worshipping statues of some kind, we may think we’ve escaped idolatry. God looks more deeply. He wants to be the focus of our heart and resents anything else in His place. Nor is idolatry easy to relinquish once we’ve recognized it. Following Jesus runs counter to everything we’d normally choose to do, especially those of us who have experienced being hurt. But God loves us too much to leave us where we are. He is merciful, working only as much as we can stand, yet continually calling us closer to Him. As you spend time with the Lord asking Him about these things, write down the issues He begins bringing to mind. You may find that each one opens up into a whole set of subjects you need to deal with. Piece by piece He will work in you.

Lord, the change may be beginning to come. Thank You that you’re patient with us, even though You abhor this sin. Thank You for the fact that You keep loving and encouraging us even as we refuse to change. Continue to give us Your strength for the journey. Y (*To get started with the full chewed petunias story, please visit www.chewedpetunias.com. You’ll find the story plus other material that may help you along the way.)

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remember a summer Saturday in Virginia where I grew up with my younger brothers. My dad was doing

yard work and we kids were playing outside. Sometimes we would play in my dad’s ‘75 Ford truck that had a covered flatbed that felt like a fort. This time my little brother, who was barely three years old, wanted to play with dad’s keys too. Dad gave him the keys and returned to his task until he heard the grumpy sound of a truck engine starting. How did a three-year-old boy manage to start a truck by himself? There must have been at least 20 keys on dad’s ring. Maybe he succeeded by mimicking how dad did it. Maybe it was perseverance trying each key, or maybe just luck. No matter how he did it, my dad had not anticipated his child could figure out how to make that scenario dangerous. Up until that point, my brother was amused and occupied while dad got some work done. This reminds me of today’s parents, kids, and smartphones. With touch screens and high speed Internet, our kids can accidentally or intentionally participate in dangerous scenarios and be exposed to harmful material such as erotica, bullying, and interaction with predators. And there is not the sound of a truck engine to alert you the moment it is happening. In my practice, I am seeing a rise in issues complicated by Internet use by children and teens that go unnoticed by parents, until the exposure or situation has been going on for a while and infected other areas in their life. This is not just a problem for unengaged parents, but happens with the best of intentions and responsible steps by parents.

You might be thinking of the filters and monitoring systems you can have, the fact that you check your child’s phone periodically, or take it up altogether before bed. These are all helpful tools and strategies, but I see them giving us a false security that it is enough protection to make smartphone use “safe.” We would not let our kindergartener drive a truck even if it could only go up to five miles per hour, or only drive on a certain street, or only if no peers were in there with them—because the danger of the car is still greater than the developmental readiness of our child as the driver. Driving is an essential skill we all need to have, just like learning to use the Internet and other technology, but we wait until the right age, stage of maturity, and with thorough

guidance and training. Overall, I think we are giving our kids the “keys” with smartphones (or any of the other devices with internet access or texting capabilities) much too soon. As technology becomes more advanced and easier to access, the way to guide and train our kids into responsible users will likely feel increasingly daunting as it can so easily surpass our own tech skills. But at the same time, I think the best way to approach this parenting hurdle is like most other situations—with thoughtfulness and intentionality, not falling for the allure of what “everyone else is doing,” not following what our kids want only because they want it, or hanging on to the practical convenience of it. Let’s be honest. It is tough to say “no” to something our kids want and that many of their friends already have. It is tough not to have the ease of texting our child to arrange the exact pickup time. It is tough to find time, energy, or desire to go through the oftentedious steps to teach, guide, or monitor. However, the danger is greater than the perks without your child’s maturity and training. If you do not feel comfortable giving your child car keys, I encourage you to question their readiness for an Internet device. Check out www.covenanteyes.com for more resources on Internet safety and how to discuss it with your kids. Y Ariel Anderton, MT, MA, LPC, LMFT, is the child & adolescent therapist for Summit Counseling. She and her family have lived in the area since 2006.

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Do You Have a Grateful Heart? bout a month ago, I sat quietly with my family at lunch in Blue Ridge, Georgia. I didn’t say much and didn’t engage in the conversation much. Lots was going on, but mainly there were two factors: (a) I was exhausted. (b) I was having a difficult time adjusting to my new job. I remember them asking what was wrong, me saying I was overwhelmed, and one of them saying, “You need some joy.” Nothing like your family to help bring you back from a sulking, selfish place, right? I read a quote shortly thereafter that said this: No, it’s not the truth of scripture, but yes, it is true. It covered me. I had been flat out rude, irritable, selfish, and sadly, ungrateful. And y’all, no part of me wants to walk back into a rebellious period toward God. I’ve been there in the past five years and got a very ugly t-shirt. I began to really process where I was with my attitude, and how I could change that downward spiral quickly. So I started slowly, I woke up in the morning and became intentional about thanking God for his provision over my life. After all, he was the one who brought me here and has orchestrated a great plan for me here. Over the next few weeks, that attitude shift, and time focusing on what it looked like to be thankful gave me guidance, a new perspective, a quieter mouth, and just a more grateful heart. I decided to list out a few areas where I was truly grateful for this move and came up with the following (this is a limited list—there are abundantly more where this came from): (1) The Lord brought me here. He’s placed

me in my current situation for me to grow. To become more sanctified. More beautiful. And most importantly bring him glory. (2) I love Birmingham. The city is beautiful and I live in a quaint area close to everything. (3) The weather is amazing. It’s not really been over 90 degrees and the humidity isn’t as bad as Mississippi. And my allergies are doing so much better! (4) A few very good friends over here have taken great care of me and I’m starting to slowly make new friends. (5) I think I’ve found a solid church. (6) I’m getting to work on fun accounts. (7) And many other great things I’m not going to mention. Making that list helped me focus on the positives of where I am in life rather than dwelling on the negative. Do you find yourself in this place? Particularly with your love life, or lack thereof? I know—believe me I do—that it can be very difficult at times to be grateful in the season we are in. To truly tell God, “thank you for this time of singleness.” But we need to. Our hearts align with God’s heart for his people when we come before him with a heart of praise and thanksgiving. “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” (Colossians 3:15). Let peace rule in your heart—and BE THANKFUL! Y Amy Ingram is a Senior Account Executive at a branding and marketing firm in Birmingham, Alabama, where she lives with her dog, Mabel. Feel free to contact her at amyeingram@gmail.com.

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Sister Trinita’s Legacy A Heart for God

It was a blustery November day in the heart of Springfield, Illinois, when baby Carol Marie Eddington came into the world. The year doesn’t matter, and, anyway, she is not going to share that with us. However, a quick look at her resume

Sister Helen Marie, who was the hospital administrator at the time, quizzed Sister Trinita on her skills and areas of expertise. Are you a nurse? No. Are you a respiratory therapist? No. Do you sing? No. Do you play a musical instrument? No. The “Do you” questions continued, as did the “No” replies. Finally, Sister Helen Marie asked, “Well, what do you do?” to which Sister Trinita replied, “Nothing.” Sister Trinita (Second from left) Sister Trinita was first assigned to help was the “middle” child of 10! in the pharmacy under the watchful eyes of Sister Mary Carl. Eight months later she was enrolled in the nursing school and well on her way to being one of the pillars who have helped shape the remarkable growth and development of St. Dominic’s multi-layered healthcare system.

and her career achievements reveal this obvious truth: She arrived with an innate spirit of adventure and an unflappable courage that was not what one might expect in the sheltered confines of her loving and devout Catholic home. She was sixth in birth order, and four younger siblings eventually rounded out the family. A family portrait reveals ten perfectly graduated little stair-steps. Trinita as a high Nurturing others came instinctively school senior. to her. In fact, when her mother brought baby number ten home from the hospital, Carol was 13 years old. She was not just kidding when she asked her mother if she could please have that one. To this day, she and her little sister, Judy, share an extra close bond. Carol Marie became Sister Mary Trinita on the day she took her vows as a Springfield Dominican sister. She was eighteen years old and eager to jump into her sacred calling. Her first assignment was to Jackson, Mississippi, where the Dominicans operated a small hospital in an ancient refurbished facility on President Street in the heart of the capital city. She had never been out of her home state and had never been on a train at all when she boarded the Illinois Central en route to this brand new life. Sister tells the humorous story of arriving at the convent around midnight completely unannounced, her papers in hand and eager to go to work. She explains that communication in 1954 was primitive by today’s standards. Long distance phone calls were considered outrageously expensive, and so, of course the sisters here in Jackson had no idea the Mother House in Springfield was sending this fresh faced young girl to join their ranks.

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Early Years Growing up on a farm on the outskirts of Springfield, Sister Trinita was never at a loss for companionship, adventure, or hard play as well as hard work. She had the reputation among her siblings as being somewhat a “fearless adventurer.” Deuteronomy 11:18-21 is the passage where Moses commands the Israelites to teach their children the scripture, to live it, to speak it and to make it the focus of life. Sister’s parents, Joe and Rose Eddington, apparently took that Sister Trinita in her passage to heart because they did just that. elementary Rose, who Sister describes as very Irish, looked years—the smile to scripture for the rule and standard on as real as ever. everything. Sister Trinita says, slightly tongue in cheek, “We were to abide by scripture’s teachings…or at least to how she interpreted it!” Joe Eddington was reserved, but always in agreement with Rose. He frequently stressed to his children Matthew 10:8, “Without cost

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She says, “I remember my father, who was a loving yet reserved professional man, gently telling me that a life without faith was not meaningful. After I announced my decision to join the Dominican sisters, my mother wrote me a tender, poignant letter telling me she approved but if I ever changed my mind I could always come home. I still have her letter.”

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Sisters Trinita and Dorothea have been best friends over decades and they share a love for travel. Canada was one of many trips they have loved taking together.

you have received and without cost you must give to others.” That particular verse took on a life of its own for Sister Trinita when she saw her father live it again and again. “I saw many people come into our farm when I was a child, and he would give them all kinds of vegetables. He would even give them money, and my mother would ask him why he was giving so much away when we were barely making ends meet ourselves. My dad was always very positive and he would tell her, ‘we’re going to make it fine.” Sister says that consistent generosity and faith her father demonstrated profoundly affected her. She saw that her parents’ walk matched their talk, and she wanted to be sure she followed that example. It was during her eighth grade year that young Carol Marie was certain God was calling her to be a Sister. She begged her mother to let her enter the convent, but a very wise mother told her she was just too young right then, but that she would support that decision in a few years if she was still so sure of it. Sister’s blue eyes and deep dimples still give a strong clue that she probably enjoyed a busy social life as a teenager! She A young 18 year old Trinita on the does say that upon entering high school, there was a brief period day she took her vows as a when she discarded the idea of Dominican sister. One day later she headed to Jackson, Mississippi entering the convent because and a life that has impacted so she was temporarily distracted many over the last five decades. by all the things that make for distracted teenagers! It was during her senior year, however, that the sense of calling became quite strong. She says it was not so much a “surrender,” but something she wholeheartedly desired. “My faith was always such a natural and central part of my life even from my earliest memories, so I guess you could say His loving presence gently eased me along my path.” 24 SEPTEMBER 2013 ❘ Metro Christian Living

When Sister Trinita entered the novitiate* of the Dominican Sisters of Springfield, Illinois, she encountered another postulant*, who was a nurse. She had brought all of her books with her, and Sister Trinita spent many hours reading them—often when she was supposed to be reading her holy books instead! Suddenly there was a struggle going on inside her as she thought, perhaps she would rather be a nurse instead of a sister. She went to Prioress General*, with this news, and she listened, but told young Sister Trinita to pray about it. Shortly thereafter, the nurse books mysteriously disappeared. Sister Trinita went on to complete her preparation and to take her vows. What a joy it was when she got those first orders! She knew the assignment to St. Dominic’s Hospital in Jackson meant that she was going to enter the healthcare field. God had certainly had a hand in that story! When Sister Trinita first set foot in St. Dominic’s Hospital, it was located in the old building on President Street. However, the first building on Lakeland Drive was under construction. Five months after she arrived, she was part of the team transporting patients and equipment down the bumpy gravel road to the new facility on the outskirts of Jackson. That location was not the sisters’ first choice, but they believed the city would soon grow Trinita (above) a new and very up around them. proud graduate of the St. Dominic They had no way of knowing Nursing School in 1957 and that the I-55 corridor would run (below) the same very proud right beside their hospital, that Trinita, now a Nurse Practitioner, the unpaved Lakeland Drive greeting patients in her clinic for would be the busy thoroughfare the underserved. it is, or that the 20+ surrounding acres would become a sprawling village of physician’s offices, comprehensive clinics, and a state of the art hospital, all of which represent just a part of the St. Dominic mission. By the time Sister Trinita completed her first nursing degree, she had been in Jackson three years. She began her career as a staff nurse advancing to the position of Head Nurse, Assistant Nursing Director, Nursing Service Administrator, and finally Vice President of Patient Care Services. With each new position came new responsibilities and frequently requisite training. While going back to school can be a daunting assignment for most of us, Sister embraced the opportunities that came her way, receiving a Bachelor of Science Degree in Nursing from Marycrest College in Davenport, Iowa, and a Master’s Degree in Nursing Administration with a minor in Community Health Nursing from Indiana-Purdue University. When she stepped down as Vice President of Patient Care Services

in 1993, she says, “I was just getting warmed up!” The previous 36 years, with all of her varied responsibilities, had opened her eyes to just about every strength and weakness of every phase and level of healthcare in the metro area. She took great pride in the strengths, but she could not rest without tackling some of the weaknesses! So, in true Dominican form, she rolled up her sleeves and began!

A Heart for the Poor “I found it hard to accept that in a country so richly blessed by our divine Savior that we would have such a level of poverty and need.” Part of the DNA of the Dominican order is their deep commitment to community, to integrate into the community around them, and to represent the love of Christ everywhere they go to every person they meet. Sister Trinita’s volunteer work in community outreach programs had exposed her to the difficult health challenges of those living in underserved areas of the city. In most instances, they are a stone’s throw from some of the best healthcare in the nation, but they face such obstacles as lack of money as well as lack of transportation to get to it. Sister’s burden was St. Dominic’s opportunity for ministry! The homeless had “carved out” their own community around Stewpot ministries on West Capitol Street. It seemed a natural spot for a free clinic. This is truly Sister Trinita’s “baby.” After going back to school yet another time to obtain her nurse practitioner’s degree, she opened the St. Dominic Community Health Clinic in 1996. In the middle of a west Jackson neighborhood that exhibits few clues to its former prosperity, Sister’s clinic is as pristine and immaculate as any 5-Star healthcare facilities you can name! She and her small staff, Alexander Young and Felita Brown, see as many as 40 patients in a It was a very proud day when the day for physical exams, Community Health Clinic opened at the routine screenings, Stewpot location on West Capitol! hypertension treatment, diabetes, or skin conditions. However, she has a cadre of nine specialists who volunteer their time on designated days making it possible to care for cardiac patients, those needing eyeglasses or hearing aids, those with gastrointestinal dysfunctions, or those who need a podiatrist, or a psychiatrist. Sister also has a network of physicians who will take her referrals when a critical diagnosis like cancer requires treatment far beyond the capabilities of her clinic. Seventeen years and several thousand patients later, Sister’s enthusiasm and her commitment have not waned. In its first year of operation, the clinic saw 3000 patients. Last year it served 13,000. “Hope is as important as any medicine we dispense at the clinic,” Sister says. It is incredibly fulfilling when she sees lives change direction, and she does frequently see addictions overcome, families reunited, and patients who find employment. The clinic strives to treat the whole person, to understand the many reasons that contribute to the lifestyle some of their patients have adopted, to judge less, to love more, and to treat everyone who comes through their doors with dignity even when the favor may not be returned!

A Ministry to the Elderly At the same time Sister Trinita was going back to school to become a nurse practitioner and putting her plans in order for the health

Felita Brown, Sister Trinita, and Alexander Young work side by side every day to give the very best to the patients who come to the Community Clinic.

clinic, she was also busy designing and developing a program for a residential Alzheimer’s facility. As she says in her soft-spoken and unassuming way, “Industry is the enemy of melancholy.” She definitely lives by that adage. St. Catherine’s Village, one of the numerous subsidiaries under the St. Dominic umbrella of services, is a residential retirement and continuing care community in Madison. Opened in 1988, the sisters soon recognized the need for a Dementia unit where the care was specifically designed to meet the needs of the individual in the most loving, compassionate, and skillful way, one that would offer meaning and superior care to those whose lives have been impacted by Alzheimer’s. Sister Trinita’s thumbprint is everywhere. From the many windows and the natural light that comes streaming into the common areas, to the open kitchens and the caregivers who radiate a sincere concern that is much like Sister Trinita’s, it is clear that every detail of this unit was created by loving hands and the bar was set extremely high. Campbell Cove began receiving residents in 1997. Sister Trinita continues to provide consultative services and spends a portion of each Friday there on its campus. Looking back on more than five decades of service—you could say, “in the trenches”—Sister Trinita, along with her Dominican sisters, has made astounding contributions across the entire spectrum of healthcare in the area. And oh, yes—they are not finished. I asked Sister what she does in her “downtime.” I’m not sure she has much of it, although she says she does like listening to “soothing music, watching movies, and spending time with family.” That “family” would include her biological family scattered from the Midwest to Maryland and Colorado and her Dominican sisters who share her very tangible love for others. There does not appear to be a retirement plan on the drawing board anytime soon. Her energy, her mission, and her passion continue to be strong. “It has been such a pleasure and blessing to serve at St. Dominic’s and our ministry in Jackson,” she says. “I never considered it work. I remember a line from the writings of St. Augustine. It goes like this: ‘Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you!” Amen, Sister. Amen. Y *Novitiate is the place where those who are in training live. *A postulant is a candidate for a religious order *The Prioress General is the head of the congregation. metrochristianliving.com ❘ SEPTEMBER 2013 25

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to fit their needs, and the Krista Cottage was born. We’ve built 32 houses.” MadCAAP builds one of the 1,100 square-foot cottages at a time, and each one costs $38,000. MadCAAP recently moved into a new home of their own in Canton, tripling their space and ability to provide services. With 12,000 people coming through the doors each year, they needed a bigger facility. “We’re a revolving door,” said Judy Miller, a retired schoolteacher who serves as education director. “We have a lot of people coming in and out.” Two thousand square feet is dedicated to New Attitudes, the education program that is the backbone of the operation. “Education is really key to getting people out of poverty,” Robison said. “One of my goals is to grow the education programs.” In order for families to receive assistance, they must attend classes provided by MadCAAP that cover health and nutrition, parenting skills, money management, and computer skills. “Many of our clients have never sat down at a computer,” she said. All classes are free and mandatory for the clients. “Everything we do is for people who live below the poverty level so there’s never a charge.” Robison said their main goal is help people get back on their feet. “We don’t want to enable people. We ultimately want to see people thriving,” she said. “We want to be there to help when people are down.” Food for Thought: October 1 – 6 pm-8:30 pm Plantation Commons Tickets are $50 each and $60 at the door and may be purchased at www.madcaap.org. For information on becoming a volunteer or becoming a client, call 601.407.1404. Y Maggie Ingram teaches at Christ Covenant School in Ridgeland. She and her husband, Brad, live in Madison with their three children, Caroline, Parker, and John Harmon.

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Learning Styles—What’s Yours?

ducation is no longer a linear, singular experience—and, in fact, it never really has been. Once thought lazy or less intelligent, individuals with learning difficulties like dyslexia or ADHD are no longer being seen as less capable than their “average” peers. Did you know that individuals with dyslexia most often have average or above average intelligence?! In fact, an individual cannot be recognized as dyslexic without displaying a discrepancy in reading not explained by a lack of intelligence or access to adequate reading instruction. What do the following individuals have in common? Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Charles Schwab, Ted Turner, Albert Einstein If you guessed that they are smart, successful, or famous people, you would be correct! But, would you have also guessed that each of these individuals has dyslexia? Not likely. These are highly gifted and, yes, highly intelligent individuals! Each of them would be recognized as contributing greatly to our society in different ways. Let’s try again. What do these individuals share? Pablo Picasso, Ernest Hemingway, Bill Gates, Isaac Newton, Elvis Presley While this group is also comprised of talented, successful, and famous people, the answer, you may have guessed, is these individuals all have ADHD! Wow! Every day, we learn more about the way people learn. Interestingly, our brains all learn differently, but what we know is that it takes a coordinated effort from many parts of our brain to allow us to successfully master information and move forward in our learning process. Consider the process of learning. First, we are presented with information. Then, we take this information, and we gain something from that exposure. Next, we absorb this information through practice and repetition. After a while, we master the information and move on to the next task. If the example were reading, we would learn letters, then words, then sentences, paragraphs, and so on, until we had mastered the process of reading such that we could absorb the information on paper! All learning follows a similar trajectory, and what we are finding is that a specific area of the brain—our cerebellum—helps us to make practiced processes automatic. By doing so, we are able to master skills and then move forward in our learning experience. Similar to the way a computer displays a user-friendly interface yet runs complex background programs to make this

work, our brains are designed to allow us to focus on new, unique information while carrying out the already-learned processes which still need to be accomplished. As adults who have experienced years of learning and skill mastery, we can all relate to the experience of automaticity. Think about how little you actively think about the process of driving your car: Do you think about pressing the gas or brake pedals? How about turning the wheel each time you wish to direct your vehicle left or right? And have you tried riding your bike lately? Chances are, if you have ever learned to ride a bike, hop back on one now and notice how quickly the skill will return to you! Thankfully, our cerebellum controls these learned, automatic skills seamlessly for us. So, how does this relate to education? Teachers, more and more, are beginning to differentiate instruction for early learners to reflect the current understanding that what may appeal to one student may not fit the learning method of another. While I may learn through auditory exposure to new information by listening to my teacher speak to me, my classmate may absorb information more quickly when she sees the information presented graphically through a handout. Teachers, then, are beginning to take these approaches and are engaging with students who may demonstrate a difficulty with one method of learning and offsetting this with another— more student-friendly—approach. Some may be thinking, “Are we not dumbing down learning by doing this? If a student cannot absorb the information the way it is being presented, doesn’t that mean he or she has not learned that information?” Not at all! Recall the examples of famous individuals with a history of struggling with reading or focus. Have we not all benefitted from Bill Gates’ ability to learn in the way that appealed the most to him? How about Einstein? Or Elvis? It is in all our best interests to educate children in the way they learn. As they learn, so do we all. So how do you learn? Take this newfound information and apply it to your own educational experience, and be empowered by the possibilities. We are all learners. How do you learn? And how can you help others learn?

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Don’t Take Life for Granted ometimes we take some of the most important things for granted. Like a good family, a home, the ability to play sports, but one of the most important of these is waking up each and every day. God has a funny way of reminding you that He is in control of every aspect of your life and you need to constantly thank Him for just being able to be alive. Some events shape the whole way your life pans out. Some just remind you that you’re not invincible. One event that shaped my life happened when I was just 12 years old. It was my first year at St. Aloysius; I was in the 6th grade. My sister Katie came home one day and was complaining that her coordination in her left hand had gotten bad. My parents didn’t really think anything of it, but eventually it got worse so my mom took my sister to the doctor. Then later in the week my sister got the call that changed her life. My sister and I had just gotten out of school when we heard the awful news. She got a phone call and I knew something was wrong when she started crying on the phone. The doctor told her that they thought she might have brain cancer and she would need to go to the hospital for some more tests, and we were all crushed. After many tests, the doctors came to the conclusion that a blood vessel had exploded in the middle of her brain and was bleeding. They said she would need surgery as soon as possible. At moments like this, you don’t have time to think about what’s happening—you just have to be strong enough to trust that the Lord will get you through any situation that life throws at you. After the first surgery, the doctors said they thought they had stopped the bleeding, but they also said she may never be able to use the left side of her body again. My sister was a great basketball and softball player and her having to miss her senior season was devastating. The doctors told her she would have to start rehab to even walk again. After months of rehab, something special happened.

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The doctors said they couldn’t explain it, that they had never seen anything like it. It was a miracle—the grace of God. My sister had gained full mobility and coordination back in the left side of her body—now that certainly shows you the power of God. Then, that my sister got to repeat her senior year and play basketball and softball. Not only did she get to play, she got a scholarship to play basketball at Mississippi College. Eventually, she had to quit because she started to get really serious headaches. After almost four years, five brain surgeries, and so many prayers you can’t even count them, my sister is now on track to graduate from college and is living a normal and healthy life. It’s not unusual to find a miracle in the Bible, from Jesus walking on water to Jesus turning water into wine. But very rarely do we see a miracle in the day and age we are in. My sister’s miracle is a lesson that shows all of us that you can’t take any day ever for granted, because you never know what God has in store for you. These four years have impacted my life so greatly that no one will ever know. You may be in debt, have no family, or even be homeless, but every day you wake up is a gift from God and there is a reason He has given you this gift. Whatever your purpose in life is, live it to the fullest and give God the glory, because He is the one that died on the cross to save sinners like you and me. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life,” (John 3:16). Y Carlisle is a Senior at Warren Central High School in Vicksburg. He is a member of Immanuel Baptist Church, a member of the youth group, and helps with Children Church. Katie is a Senior at Mississippi College and majoring in Kinesiology. She is a member of Broadmoor Baptist Church.

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“My food,” said Jesus, “is to do the will of Him that sent me, and to finish His work.” – John 4:34

by LYDIA BOLEN

gluten-free diet excludes the protein gluten. Gluten is found in grains such as wheat, barley, and rye. Most people have no need to cook gluten free. For those with wheat allergies or celiac disease, however, gluten-free cooking must become a way of life. Following a gluten-free diet can be initially frustrating. But with time, patience, and creativity, you’ll find there are many foods that you already eat that are gluten free. You will also find “substitutes” for gluten-containing foods you can enjoy. Don’t feel deprived by the restrictions, but stay positive and focus on food you can eat! Kaitlyn Renfrow has graciously shared three of her favorite gluten-free recipes with our readers. I hope you will prepare them and enjoy! Y

Gluten-Free Recipes

OATMEAL COOKIES 1 cup gluten-free all-purpose flour (I use King Arthur’s) 1/2 teaspoon baking soda 1/2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon baking powder 1/2 teaspoon xanthan gum 3/4 cup gluten-free rolled oats 1/2 cup unsalted butter (room temperature) 1 large egg 1/2 cup light brown sugar, firmly packed 1/4 cup granulated sugar 1 teaspoon vanilla 1/2 cup walnuts, chopped 1/4 cup dried cranberries 1/4 cup white chocolate chips

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. In a bowl, whisk first 6 ingredients and set aside. Beat butter, egg, sugars, and vanilla till creamy. Gradually add flour mixture and mix until fully incorporated. Stir in nuts, cranberries, and white chocolate. Drop dough by rounded tablespoonsful onto the lined baking sheet. Bake 10-12 minutes until golden brown around the edges. Transfer to a wire rack and cool. Yields: 18-20 cookies

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package gluten-free tortillas cup shredded Monterey Jack cheese (more if needed) Queso Fresco cheese 1 bag frozen chopped bell peppers 1 small onion, sliced 2 to 3 cups baby spinach 2 to 3 cooked chicken breasts, shredded 1 container Philadelphia Cooking Creme, Santa Fe Blend 1/4 cup Salsa Verde

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. In a slightly oiled pan, over medium heat, sauté peppers and onions until soft. Lower heat and add spinach. Continue cooking until spinach wilts. In a bowl, combine chicken, peppers and spinach mixture. Add 1/2 container of cooking creme. In a slightly greased 9x13 pan, place a couple of large spoonsful of chicken mixture on each tortilla. Top with Monterey Jack cheese. Roll tortillas and place seam side down in the pan. Mix Salsa Verde and the rest of the remaining cooking creme. Spread on top of each tortilla. Sprinkle with more Monterey Jack cheese and Queso Fresco. Bake at 375 degrees for 20 -25 minutes. Yield: 4 to 5 enchiladas

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Mix all dressing ingredients. Toss lettuce with a small amount of dressing in a large bowl. Add apples, walnuts, raisins and cheese. Drizzle with additional dressing and serve. This salad is great as side dish or a light lunch or dinner. It’s also delicious topped with grilled chicken!

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or most of our lives we have all been told that we need a Will. What does it accomplish? The answer is—by itself,

not much. Because a Will is only your expression of your desire (your wish) as to what you want to be done after you are deceased. It names who you want to be in charge (the Executor) and to whom you want your assets distributed (the Beneficiaries). Notice in the preceding sentence the term “you want” is used twice. That is because these people are named in your Will expressing your desires, but the Will does not appoint your Executor nor does your Will distribute a penny’s worth of your assets to Beneficiaries. Those two things may only be done through an order of the Chancery Court in the process called probate. It takes a court order to appoint an Executor and to make distribution. The Will does not perform that way. A Will must go though the probate process in the Chancery Court to accomplish anything. An unprobated Will has no legal effect whatsoever—it is just a used piece of paper. You say, “But my father’s Will was not probated, and my mother wound up with everything. In his Will he left it all to her, but it didn’t have probate involved.” Like most married couples, they probably owned their home as “joint tenants with full rights of survivorship and not as tenants in common”, which means that when one of them passed away the other spouse owned the entire home with no probate, no delay, and no expense. The same rules apply to joint bank accounts or any other assets they held that way, sometimes abbreviated as “JTWROS.” What if the joint tenant spouse does not pass away, but has a stroke or dementia and is unable to do anything about the asset? The Will does nothing, because it is only for what happens at death. It is the same with the joint tenancy survivorship language. It only works at death. What do

they do then? This is the point at which “living probate” comes in. That is a conservatorship, which takes place in the same court as death probate and has many of the same requirements. Just like death probate, it is expensive and time consuming. Also, with both of these, your privacy is completely lost. Your court file at the Chancery Clerk’s office is open to the public to look at and copy. This includes details of your assets, your indebtedness, your income and expenses—and at your death, where your assets went. Can you solve the incapacitated spouse problem with a power of attorney? Perhaps. The difficulty is that if we are dealing with homestead real property and the person named as the power of attorney holder is the “well” spouse, then nothing can be accomplished, because Mississippi has a statutory prohibition against one spouse dealing with homestead property using a power of attorney from the other spouse. That is the first problem. Secondly, no one is required by law in our state to honor a power of attorney. Some will, many will not. Most banks today will not honor a power of attorney. If that should be the case, then that “living probate” will be required to obtain a court-appointed conservator to act for the incapacitated spouse. To solve these problems and keep your family out of court, you can use a Living Trust rather than a Will. The Living Trust cannot be turned down like a power of attorney can be, and the Living Trust will bypass both living probate (conservatorship) and death probate, with all of their delays, expenses, and loss of privacy. Make things simple for your family, not complicated. At the time of your incapacity or death, they need to be caring for you or grieving, and not be tied up in court with unfamiliar and unnecessary procedures. Put in place a good plan. You will sleep better knowing that it is done, and your family will thank you for it. Y

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➺sports victories by ROBERT WILSON

Doug Lycette Northwest Coach is Bold for Christ orthwest Rankin High School coach Doug Lycette got out of the boat for Jesus Christ 16 years ago.

Like Peter did when he got out of the boat and walked on water after Jesus’ instructions, Lycette got out of his comfort zone and became an even better disciple for Christ than he had been before. “I was inspired by an assistant coach at Provine (Pat Henderson) after we had beaten them by one point (28-27 in the regular season final game in 1997),” Lycette said. “It was unbelievable that we had just beaten them and here he was telling us that there were bigger things to worry about than football, things like making sure God was on their side. He led us in prayer.” Lycette followed Henderson’s example, and started leading postgame prayers for both teams after Northwest Rankin games. Regardless of the outcome or site, Lycette gathered the teams together as one unit for prayer. He also took it a step further. As an assistant under Jeff McClaskey in baseball, Lycette began having prayer at home baseball games. “I’ve been doing it for 16 years and I’ve hardly ever had a football or baseball coach say no when I’ve asked them to tell their team to come pray with us,” said Lycette, who also is a Fellowship of Christian Athletes sponsor at Northwest Rankin. Lycette, a Woodland Hills Baptist Academy

and Belhaven College graduate, is in his 28th year of coaching. He started coaching at Woodland Hills where he coached for eight years—five as head baseball coach and three as head football coach. Lycette led the Wildcats to the Mississippi Association of Independent Schools Class AAA baseball titles in 1992 and 1993, and was named The Clarion-Ledger’s Metro Coach of the Year in 1993. Lycette was at Kirk Academy as head baseball coach and assistant football coach for two years, and has also been head baseball coach and assistant football coach at Jackson Academy for three years. But the majority of his career has been at Northwest Rankin. Lycette was at Northwest for seven years before going to JA, and has been back seven years. He is beginning his third season as freshman baseball coach and his second season

as freshman football coach, which gives him more time to spend with his wife, Karen, and their four children, Jake, 13, Luke, 11, Lynden, 9, and Emerie, 6. One of his most emotional post-game prayers was in 2002 when Northwest Rankin upset number one Brandon before an overflow crowd at Brandon. Even though the scene was very intense and emotions were high, Lycette gathered both teams’ players and coaches together. It was the first time Northwest Rankin had beaten Brandon since 1985, but Lycette was able to get everyone’s attention and focus on God. “I looked at both teams. We were able to explode with joy. They were dejected. Many were crying,” Lycette said. “It was an awesome situation and God was right there in the middle of it. I told the teams that God created us all as one group and we should honor Him and use the talent He gave us. It was a wonderful moment.” “You won’t find many finer people than Doug Lycette,” said McClaskey, who has coached with Lycette in all of his 14 years he has been at Northwest Rankin. “His Christian

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personality has rubbed off on me and our players. He’s been a very big influence on our program. He comes with a positive attitude every day. Doug doesn’t get upset much. He’s pretty laid back and even keeled. I know I’ve grown a lot by being around him.” Lycette is happy he followed God’s call to broaden his witness for Christ. “I’ve always felt that God gave me a gift,” said Lycette, who became a Christian and was baptized by Dr. David Grant at Broadmoor Baptist Church in Jackson when he was eight years old, and has been a member of Pinelake Church in Brandon for 14 years. “I’ve always tried to put things into perspective for our

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➺rave reviews WHAT’S GOING ON Southern Christian Services for Children and Youth Celebrates 25 years Southern Christian Services for Children and Youth holds its annual Bottom Line for Kids Benefit Dinner and Auction on Tuesday, September 24 at the Country Club of Jackson. (See information on page 27.) Twenty-three individuals who have had a long-term impact on the Agency through their love, support and leadership positions will be honored and inducted into the 1988 Cornerstone Society. SCSCY celebrates 25 years as it welcomes new Executive Director Jerry Jackson, LMFT. Retiring Executive Director Sue Cherney has led the agency since its beginning in 1988. Her legacy is one of hope and constant commitment to significantly improve the outcome for high-risk children and youth in Mississippi. SCSCY has provided long-term care and support for homeless youth. Services include independent living preparation to all teens in the foster care system, the only large annual training conference for individuals who work with children, youth, and families, and the only comprehensive post-adoption series program in the state. Last year, SCSCY served 238 youths helping them work on educational goals, gain independent living skills, develop job skills, and participate in counseling to deal with past issues of abuse and neglect. Reflecting on the rewards of her leadership at SCSCY, Sue says, “It is so hard to pick one thing that has been more rewarding than others. I have experienced God’s grace throughout the 25 years and been so blessed to lead this agency. There have been so many challenges and so many obstacles, but the goodness of God has surrounded me.” Jerry, who comes from a 30-year career working with children and youth and families in various capacities, sees God’s hand in ordering each step of his journey to help prepare him to serve SCSCY. Serving churches in Mississippi, the Baptist Children’s Village, Mississippi Children’s Home Services and at Lake Forest

Ranch Christian Camp, and teaching at Mississippi College and at Belhaven University have given him a broad understanding of the challenges confronting the children and youth served by SCSCY. He shares Sue’s warm heart and sincere commitment to tackle the tasks ahead. “I am truly hopeful about the future for Mississippi’s vulnerable children and youth. There is a lot of work yet to be done and still far too many children that face what may seem to be insurmountable challenges.” If you are interested in learning more about Southern Christian Service for Children and Youth ministry and programs or looking for ways to make a difference in someone’s life, visit www.scscy.org or call 601.354.0983.Y

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Reviewed by Susan E. Richardson

The old cliché says that opposites attract, but what about when opposites are members of the same family? Can a disorganized mother and a neat freak daughter survive together? Becky Johnson and Rachel Randolph answer, “Yes!” in We Laugh, We Cry, We Cook. They’ve learned to negotiate the challenges their differences provide by adding heaping helpings of love and understanding. Cooking brings them many opportunities for applying those extras. Becky styles herself a bacon-and-butter-loving mama while Rachel and her husband eat vegan. With humor and a little thought for the others’ preferences, they manage to cook meals the entire family will enjoy. Overall, the book is rather like a good casserole: a delectable mixture of humor, recipes, and insights. Some pieces are laugh out 40 SEPTEMBER 2013 ❘ Metro Christian Living

loud funny while others are more poignant. The sauce of family acceptance pulls everything together. The recipes vary throughout the book. The authors offer suggestions to make some recipes vegan or vegetarian friendly, while others already meet those criteria. The emphasis is on good food you can share with friends and family, not what ingredients you may choose to use. Women of all ages will find something to relate to in We Laugh, We Cry, We Cook, whether you’re a mother, a daughter, or both, and wherever you are along the journey in those roles. You may be a messy or a compulsive organizer, a vegan or meat-eater. There’s room for everyone at the table here. Y Susan E. Richardson is a writer, critique reader, and former Christian retailer with a passion for meeting people’s needs through the written word. You can reach her through her website www.nextlevelcritiques.com.

events calendar September 6-8 CelticFest Mississippi, an annual celebration of the music, dance and culture of Celtic nations celebrates 22 years at the MS Agricultural and Forestry Museum. Events begin on Friday from 7 p.m. till midnight and run from 10 a.m. to midnight the following days. www.CelticFestMS.org for time and more info.

September 12 The Mississippi Center for Public Policy celebrates 20 years. Former Senator Jim DeMint, now President of the Heritage Foundation is the keynote speaker. 7 p.m. at the Jackson Convention Complex. $50 per person. Sponsorships available. See www.MSpolicy.com for details.

September 14 Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s 2013 will begin at the Mississippi Museum of Art. 3 mile walk/run. 800.272.3900 for more information.

Jackson. All proceeds from the fundraiser benefit the programs of SCSCY, Inc. For ticket information please call 601.354.0983 or visit www.scscy.org.

September 24 Wellsfest Art Night at Duling Hall in Fondren. Opens at 5:30 p.m. and admission is free. Great local artists..

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September 26

Actor’s Playhouse at 121 Paul Truitt Lane presents Charlotte’s Web. Purchase tickets online at www.brownpaper tickets.com.

Bethany Christian Services Annual Fundraiser and Dinner. Call 601.366.4282 for details.

Mississippi Crafts Center at 950 Rice Road presents the Greater Jackson Quilt Celebration. The three-day show features workshops, demonstrations and talks with experts; a silent auction of miniature quilts; door prizes and more. Admission is $5. More info on website www.mscrafts.org.

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September 24 Bottom Line for Kids Benefit Dinner and Auction sponsored by Southern Christian Services for Children and Youth. 25th anniversary dinner at the Country Club of

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Champagne and Chocolate Garden Party benefitting the Mississippi Burn Foundation. 7-10 p.m. at the Country Club of Jackson. Retro 60’s theme with music and dancing. $50 a person. 601.540.2995 for more detail. www.msburn.org

Ice Island by Marjorie Duffield Thursday–Saturday, Wednesday–Saturday, 7:30 p.m., Saturday Matinees–September 21 and 28 at 2 p.m., Blackbox Theatre at Belhaven University Fine Arts Building.

Guest Artist Guitar Concert featuring Andrew Stroud at Belhaven University Concert Hall. 7:30 p.m. Doors open at 7 p.m. Complimentary admission.

September 26-29

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Wellsfest begins with a 5K Run/Walk and 1 mile Fun Run at 8 a.m. at Jamie Fowler Boyll Park. The day includes live music, good food, a silent auction, great children’s activities and a stroll through Vendor’s Village where artists and craftsmen display their wares. All proceeds benefit The Good Samaritan Center. www.Wellschurch.org for details.

September 19-28

Teens for a Better MS presents First-ever, Faith-based and Community Youth, Parents & Guardians Conference. 9:30–3:30 p.m. at St. Mark’s UMC, 400 Grant’s Ferry Road in Brandon. Free! www.healthyteens.ms for more info.

Community Dance Concert presented by members of Belhaven University dance faculty, students and alumni and other local dance artists. 7:30 p.m. in Belhaven University Concert Hall. General admission $10. Seniors/students $5.

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September 14 Sponsored by the First Baptist Church of Byram at 7541 South Siwell Road. Sanctioned by the MS Track Club, there is a 7 a.m. run/walk and an 8 a.m. 1 mile run. Proceeds go to benefit Byram Parks and Recreation. See www.mstrackclub.com for details.

CRYSTAL SPRINGS September 28 Rock the Park 2013! Sanctus Real, Kerrie Roberts, The Neverclaim and Everfound perform at Chautauqua Park. 6 p.m. Tickets $15 in advance or $20 day of show. Rocktheparkcrystalsprings.com for more information. Y

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Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones. – Proverbs 3:7-8

– Psalm 23:4

People who look to God for a purpose for living never grow old in spirit. – Anonymous

“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“There’s always a lot to be thankful for if you take time to look for it. For example, I am sitting here thinking how nice it is that wrinkles don’t hurt.” – Author Unknown

You can retire from a job, but don’t ever retire from making extremely meaningful contributions in life. – Stephen Covey

“Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young.” – Ben Franklin

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“The only thing in life achieved without effort is failure.” – Author Unknown

Hear my prayer, O Lord; listen to my cry for mercy. In the day of my trouble, I will call to you, for you will answer me.

– Matthew 7:24-25

– Psalm 86:6-7

“Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.”

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