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• Fact or Fiction? Baby myths unraveled • Know the signs of Postpartum Depression • Preparing for your new bundle of joy

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The Baby Issue 44 Calendar Events and activities

18 Character First Trait of the month: patience

Dear MetroFamily Editor’s Note

34 Exploring Oklahoma Paintball adventures

Family Finances Preparing for Baby

It’s all about babies this month! From preparing financially (page 8) and emotionally (page 42) or learning how to ask for help (page 32), we’ve got you covered.

10 Family Shorts

Also, find our handy Spring Break Camp Listing (page 29) full of activities for your older kids.

42 In Touch with Relationships

News you can use

Life with baby

40 Iron Moms Slow down!

22 Let’s Eat The Wedge Pizzeria

24 Oklahoma Reads Book reviews

Baby myths uncovered: is it an old wives’ tale or is there some truth in the advice being given?

Postpartum depression: learn the signs and how to help

32 Q & A with the Beasleys Mom—don’t try to do it all yourself

16 Your Healthy Family

Our photo above: Expectant mom Mychi Davis of Oklahoma City shares books with her children, Everett, age 4, and Langli, age 2.

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Dear MetroFamily, Ahh, March; spring is coming, and along with it, the promise of milder (although also sometimes wilder) weather. March also brings MetroFamily’s big babythemed issue. I’m reminded of when my own son was born, coincidentally in March, seven years ago. I remember what it felt like, anticipating his birth. I was excited and terrified, my emotions ran the gamut from good to bad. I read every book and magazine I could get my hands on, trying so hard to prepare for his birth. Friends would laugh when I began each conversation with “well, the book said ...” and these friends, all of them mothers already, would make an effort to hide their chuckles. I’m so grateful that they tolerated me! That photo is from March 2002, taken when we left the hospital, bringing our son home to start a new adventure as parents. Babies bring so much change to our lives, and while I doubt any of us can truly be prepared for a baby’s arrival, I do hope that this baby-themed issue gives you information that you can truly use if you are an expectant parent or know somebody who is. Cheers,

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Graphics Assistant Kathryne Taylor Kathryne@MetroFamilyMagazine.com Contributing Writers Drs Lori & Stewart Beasley Tiffani Hill-Patterson Jacqueline Bodnar Clint Lewis Devonne Carter Karen Mitchell Mary Beth Cox Annie Nashert Mari Farthing Gayleen Rabakkuk Shannon Fields Sue Lynn Sasser Elizabeth Harvey Terri Schlichenmeyer Circulation 35,000 – OKC, Edmond, Nichols Hills, Norman, Moore, Midwest City, Yukon Also available as a digital edition at MetroFamilyMagazine.com. Articles and advertisements in MetroFamily do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the magazine or Inprint Publishing, Inc. We do not assume responsibility for statements made by advertisers or editorial contributors. The acceptance of advertising by MetroFamily does not constitute an endorsement of the products, services, or information. We do not knowingly present any product or service which is fraudulent or misleading in nature.

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Family Finances Prepare Financially for Baby

ittle boys are made of snips and snails and puppy dog tails while little girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice.

there is something you can’t resist! • Focus on the basics. While it’s tempting to buy all the latest gadgets, gizmos and designer brands, your baby will be just as happy with the basics from discount stores. Baby clothes may be the cutest thing in the store, but babies grow rather quickly and only wear those newborn onesies for a short period of time.

Most people have heard those old rhymes many times. If only it were that simple! While bringing home the new baby is a special time, it can also lead to emotional spending and expensive choices.

• Borrow items. Check with friends and families about what they have available. Many baby items have limited use and can easily be borrowed for the short period of time you need them. The same is true for maternity clothes. Friends and families may be glad to pass them along instead of storing them in the garage.

Today’s baby product industry pumps about $4 billion into our economy.

Marketers are aware of a new parent’s state of mind and do everything possible to feed those emotions by enticing them to spend, spend, spend. Today’s baby product industry pumps about $4 billion into our economy, providing a variety of necessities and luxuries for those bouncing baby boys and bubbly baby girls. When making plans for that new arrival, most families spend much more than originally planned because those little pink or blue products are just too cute to pass up. Following are a few suggestions for new parents and grandparents to consider before lavishing the latest family addition with the latest cute products that significantly add to the cost of raising a child. • Make a budget. Studies show that families spend an average of $6,000 preparing for baby’s arrival on top of the hospital bill. However, families can certainly spend much less by being creative and cost-conscious. For example, instead of buying coordinated sets of linens and crib sets, buy items separately. Complete sets often include things such as pillows and pillow cases that cannot be used by an infant. Eliminating unnecessary purchases will allow you to build in a few splurges, just in case 8

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• Shop second-hand and consignment stores. Having new is not always necessary. Shopping second-hand stores and consignment shops for strollers, furniture, baby clothes, maternity clothes and other items can save a lot of money. However, be sure to research potential unsafe products such as strollers for possible recalls. Taking your items to similar stores once your baby has outgrown them is also a great way to generate income for future purchases. Keep in mind that experts recommend never buying a car seat or crib second-hand. • Use cloth diapers. Believe it or not, paying for a diaper service is generally less expensive than buying all disposable diapers. The same is true for using washcloths instead of paper towels when cleaning up your baby’s messes. • Keep receipts. Because emotions run high when shopping for babies, you may purchase items on a whim, things that really are not needed once you come home from the hospital. Keeping tags on products and storing receipts in one place makes it easier to make returns and get full refunds. • Establish a college savings fund. Encourage friends and family members to make contributions to your child’s future instead of buying

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more things that you and your little one may or may not need. Be sure to keep the college fund in your name, however; money put into an account in a child’s name can reduce their eligibility for some scholarships, loans and grants. Plans like the 529 College Savings Accounts are good options because the funds remain in the name of the person who opened the account and, in Oklahoma, contributions to the Oklahoma College Savings plan are tax deductible. • Remember your retirement fund. Because parents often get wrapped up in the excitement of a new baby and their child’s future, they may need to be reminded to take care of their own future needs. Saving for a child’s college education is important—but not as important as saving for retirement. College students have more options available to pay for their education than parents who want to retire. Basically, children need to be clothed and fed. They need a place to sleep and a safe environment. And most importantly, they need your love and attention. That’s priceless.

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March of Dimes

Did you know that premature birth is the leading cause of newborn death and lifelong disability? The mission of the March of Dimes is “to improve the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth and infant mortality.” This mission is carried out through research, community services, education and advocacy to save babies’ lives. According to the March of Dimes website, every week in Oklahoma: • 130 babies are born preterm • 20 babies are born very preterm • 79 babies are born low birthweight

• Oklahoma City—May 2 • Duncan—May 2 The March of Dimes Prematurity Campaign seeks • Wewoka—May 9 to raise awareness about premature births. An online • Norman—May 16 Petition for Preemies urges the federal government to to support prematurity-related research in order to • Stillwater—September 11 lessen the number of families affected by prematurity. • Shawnee—September 26 Find the petition online at MarchOfDimes.com/ • Sulphur—September 26 Prematurity. • Perry—October 3 One way the March of Dimes fights prematurity • Ada—October 10 is through the March for Babies. There are 20 • Chickasha—October 22 walks scheduled for 2009, including several in the To learn more about the March for Babies events, Oklahoma City Metro and areas nearby: visit the March of Dimes Oklahoma home page at • Lawton—April 25 MarchOfDimes.com/Oklahoma, or call 405-943-1025. • 14 babies are born very low birthweight

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Infant Crisis Services in New Location Oklahoma City’s Infant Crisis Services (ICS) supplies basic needs to families including formula, food, diapers and other basic needs. Each month, over 1,000 babies and toddlers in Central Oklahoma are helped. ICS has now moved to a new location, 4224 N Lincoln Boulevard in OKC. Potential clients can contact ICS for details of items that can be provided and requirements for receiving benefits.

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Infant Crisis Services is always in need of volunteers and donations to meet the needs of babies and toddlers. Whitney Fleming of Edmond recently donated her sons’ gentlyused baby items. “They were so appreciative of my donation and it made me happy to know that these items would be put to immediate use.” Call 405-528-3663 or visit InfantCrisis.org to learn about donating time or resources.

The Lion King in OKC The Oklahoma City Civic Center Music Hall hosts the North American National Tour of Disney’s The Lion King for a five week limited engagement, April 21 through May 24. Now in its second sold-out decade in New York, The Lion King is the winner of six Tony Awards including Best Musical, eight Drama Desk Awards, six Outer Critics Circle Awards, the New York Drama Critics award for Best Musical. Performances will be held Tuesday-Thursday at 7:30pm; Friday at 8pm; Saturday at 2pm and 8pm; and Sunday at 1pm and 6:30pm. Special performances are scheduled for Thursday May 21 at 1pm and 7:30pm and Sunday May 24 at 1pm. Tickets, $25 and up, are available now. Find out more by contacting the Civic Center Music Hall at 405-297-2264 or online at CelebrityAttractions.com. Enter to win the Grand Prize of four Lion King tickets at HeyDay Entertainment, I-35 and Indian Hills Road between Norman and Moore. Deadline is March 31. Contest is supported by MetroFamily, HeyDay, Celebrity Attractions, Disney, and Il Trattoria Centro. Find details about the contest on page 23.

Oklahoma Sustainability Conference The Oklahoma Sustainability Network’s (OSN) mission is to connect and educate the people of Oklahoma concerning the many aspects of sustainability. The 8th Annual OSN conference will be held at the University of Central Oklahoma campus in Edmond, March 20-21. Conference participants will learn how to live an eco-friendly life, reduce consumption, increase profits and preserve the environment. “Today’s global challenges have caused our society to become increasingly aware of the need to utilize resources more sustainably,” said Oklahoma Secretary of Environment J. D. Strong. The two-day conference features speakers from Greenburg, Kansas, the town rebuilding itself “green” after being nearly leveled by a May 2007 tornado. Admission is $75 for both days or $42.50 for one. Registration begins at 8:15am daily. Visit OKSustainability. org for details about the OSN or for conference registration.

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For children, Easter and bunny rabbits are inseparable. But real bunnies can present a lot of challenges that last long after the candy is gone. Despite being small, cute and cuddly, rabbits are a breed apart from hamsters, guinea pigs and other small mammals kept as pets. Though providing care for these adorable creatures isn’t difficult, rabbits have a long lifespan—more than 10 years— and many specific care requirements. Anyone considering adding a rabbit to their family should carefully research books and web sites on rabbit care before making a decision.

All Things Baby All Things Baby is a faith-based non-profit organization in Edmond, supplying children in need with clothing (sizes newborn-8), toys and books. There are no requirements for qualifying, and there are no fees involved. Open by appointment to single mothers, families, and foster families, All Things Baby can provide items of all kinds, from diapers for baby to clothing to big brother or sister. Founded by Courtney Gregg to give expectant mothers an alternative from termination, this ministry has grown into a nationally-recognized 501(c)3 non-profit organization. The organization runs on donations of new or gently used items for babies, pregnant mothers and children. Monetary donations are also welcome, and volunteering opportunities are available. To learn more about donating, please contact Courtney Gregg at 405-834-3251. To learn more about All Things Baby, visit their website at AllThingsBabyOK.com. Those interested in receiving benefits should call 405-996-0949.

Creating a safe environment for a pet rabbit can be challenging, especially with small children in the house. The “Make Mine Chocolate!” campaign urges consumers to stop and think about the care and attention rabbits require before buying or adopting one. The goal of the campaign—launched in 2002 by the Columbus, Ohio, chapter of the House Rabbit Society—is to help reduce the numbers of rabbits who are relinquished by their owners, particularly in the weeks following Easter. “Animal shelters and rabbit adoption groups receive calls every day from people who want to relinquish their pet rabbit,” said Karalee Curry, chapter manager of the society. “Rabbits are the third most frequently relinquished pet at animal shelters,” said Curry. After doing your homework, if you decide a bunny is the right choice for a pet, local animal shelters are an excellent place to find one up for adoption. For more information on caring for pet rabbits, go to humanesociety.org/rabbitcare. March 2009

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More Than a Playground It looks like a great way to find a fun park to play at with your kids. But it’s so much more. KaBOOM!, a national non-profit, began in 1995 when Darrell Hammond read a story in his local paper about children who suffocated while playing in an abandoned car because there was no place else for them to play. KaBOOM!, which Hammond began with friend Dawn Hutchison, quickly grew from a group that helped to build parks and recreation areas to a nonprofit organization with a goal to have a safe play area within walking distance of every child in the country. Visit KaBOOM.org to learn more. KaBOOM! also hosts an online database of playspaces. Visit PlaySpaceFinder. Kaboom.org to access a search by location. Whether you are searching for a local park that you’ve not yet discovered, or you are seeking a playspace for your kids on your next family trip, this database provides a valuable resource.

Keep Baby Safe

The ChildMinder system ($89) is a passive child safety seat monitoring system designed to monitor your child in his seat. The one mm thick pad is placed in the childseat, and the key ring attaches to your keys. The system is activated when your baby is in the carseat, and if you move over 15 feet away from the carseat with the baby in it, an alarm will sound after six seconds. The system works for babies 5lbs up to preschoolers. Visit BabyAlert.info to learn more about this product and others designed to keep babies and children safe.

Reducing Infant Mortality By Mary Beth Cox

Most people don’t want to think about the risk of a baby dying in the first year of life. Sadly, the reality is that approximately 100 Oklahoma County families experience the death of their new baby every year. In Oklahoma County, the infant mortality rate (or the number of babies who die per 1,000 live births) is higher than both national and state averages. In addition, African American babies die at over twice the rate as white babies. The Fetal and Infant Mortality Review Project (FIMR) of Central Oklahoma is working to prevent families from experiencing the loss of their baby. The goals of the project are to reduce the rate of fetal and infant deaths in Oklahoma County and to eliminate racial and ethnic disparities. The project’s vision is that each woman in Oklahoma County will be healthy when she gets pregnant and will have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby who will live to celebrate his or her first birthday. The FIMR Project collects and reviews medical records on selected infant deaths and conducts home interviews with the mothers to listen to their story about what happened. Case summaries, without names, go to a Case Review Team that reviews the information and recommends how services could be improved to help families. Then, a Community Action Team, comprised of influential community leaders, works to make change happen in the community. To learn more about the FIMR Project or get involved, please contact Mary Beth Cox, FIMR Coordinator, at 405-425-4406. 12

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Green The Environment and Your Baby How big is your baby’s carbon footprint? Yes, it may sound humorous, but babies create a huge negative environmental impact, from diapers and plastic toys to natural resources and detergents. Parents seeking natural or environmentally-friendly options have more choices than in the past. One immediate eco-friendly option for feeding your baby is breastfeeding. Visit La Leche League (LLLI.org) to learn more. As baby ages, introduce foods that you make yourself, cutting down on the packaging and waste involved in pre-made baby foods.

It’s a sad reality, but every year babies die after being left in hot cars. On a summer day, temperatures can reach over 130º in minutes. Baby Alert offers products to help keep babies safe at home and in the car.

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With the recent worries of dangerous chemicals in traditional plastic baby bottles, glass bottles are making a comeback. Companies like Medela are marketing durable glass bottles ($16.99/2 8-ounce bottles) to meet this need. Medela also offers eco-friendly Bamboo Nursing Camisoles ($34.99) to address the needs of mothers seeking eco-friendly fabrics. Visit Medela.com to learn more. Cloth diapers are another way to decrease your baby’s carbon footprint. An estimated 10,000 tons of disposable diapers go into landfills every day. Cloth diapers require an initial investment and a bit of work, but in the long run will save money. Cloth diapers are widely available at local or online retailers. Diaper services that deliver clean diapers and pick up the soiled ones are available in some areas; check your phone book for available options. Visit Carbon-Balanced-Baby.org to learn more about your baby’s carbon footprint and what you can do to help make a difference. Don’t forget—when you finish reading this issue, pass it on to a friend or drop it in your recycle bin!

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“Raising teenage girls is a challenge,” said Laurie Sliva, BRIDGES Camp director, founder and life-skills trainer. “It’s typically when young women begin to lose confidence and ambition, making parent-daughter relationships difficult to maintain. Adolescent girls need opportunities to connect with peers, practice selflessness, develop leadership and communication skills, and discover their true selves.” Session one (for high school girls) will be held June 21-27; Session 2 (for middle school girls) will be held July 19-25. For more information and registration, visit BridgesCamp.com.

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Your Healthy Family Understanding Cholesterol: Reading Beyond the Numbers

holesterol is an important indicator of overall health and cardiac risk. Cholesterol testing is often required in assessing risk for a new life insurance policy. In the United States, cholesterol is big business, with cholesterol-lowering medications consistently appearing among the 100 most prescribed medications in the country. Having a background in pharmacy, this knowledge is not new for me. In fact, I had given lipid panels little thought, beyond knowing that cholesterol levels of 200 or below are best, but a recent visit to my own doctor had me questioning some of my own preconceived notions about cholesterol. I recently went to a new family practitioner, and had returned for a follow-up to my initial visit to review all of my new-patient blood work. She sat across from me, looking over my labs, and mentioned that my cholesterol was a little elevated. My generally healthy thirtysomething self was a little taken aback by this information, but not nearly so much as what she followed up with. “However, your HDL is fantastic, so let’s not worry about this,” she said. WHAT? With my high level of good cholesterol, my risk ratio was extremely low, which made my total cholesterol number less important. Fascinated by this information, I did what any good writer does: I came home and began researching.

Cholesterol is your Friend! Cholesterol has long gotten a bad rap, due in part to direct-to-patient advertising campaigns that drug companies have been using in recent years. In fact, our bodies need cholesterol to be healthy. Cholesterol is required for hormone production, and is used by the body to produce cell membranes and protect nerves. Highdensity lipoproteins have antioxidant effects, helping to prevent and fight disease. So exactly what is all the negative buzz about, anyway?

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all the cells of the body. Cholesterol can’t be dissolved in the blood. It has to be transported to and from the cells by carriers called lipoproteins. Most of us know there is “bad” and “good” cholesterol. Low-density lipoproteins (LDL) carry the cholesterol throughout the body to its organs and tissues. If there is too much cholesterol circulating in the blood, over time, LDL cholesterol particles begin to oxidize or shrink in size. These smaller particles can then enter the blood vessel wall and begin to build up beneath the blood vessel lining. Deposits of LDL cholesterol are known as plaques, and plaque buildup can eventually crowd the blood vessels, obstructing blood flow. LDL cholesterol levels below 100mg/dL are considered optimal.

In a lipid panel, triglyceride levels are tested along with LDL and HDL levels as a means of assessing risk of heart disease. Triglyceride is a form of fat produced by the body. Elevated triglycerides may be the result of excess weight, physical inactivity, cigarette smoking, excess alcohol consumption and a diet very high in carbohydrates (60 percent of total calories or more). High triglyceride levels appear to increase the risk of stroke, heart attack, and heart disease. Normal triglyceride levels should be below 150mg/dL. Unfortunately, many of us fixate on the total number, and haven’t been looking at the breakdown. Lipid panels often include a cholesterol risk ratio, as mine did. A ratio of less than 3.2 indicates a low risk for developing heart disease. Many clinicians, mine included, feel this is a much better indicator of risk than total cholesterol. In my case, while my total cholesterol was considered borderline high, my HDL level was so

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Character First Patience

irds are singing, flowers are blooming and the stiff Oklahoma wind is kicking up the red dirt on the softball field. It’s your child’s first game of the season and she is finally up to bat. You hold your breath as she waits for the pitch. The ball sails through the air and over home plate as she swings too late.

“Strike one!” “It’s okay, honey. Try again,” you yell. She stomps her foot and shakes her head. The pitcher winds up and once again the ball flies toward her. This time she swings much too early. “Strike two!” Your daughter shakes her head and kicks at the dirt, a familiar frustrated look colors her features. The third strike comes as no surprise. She makes her way to the bench, her teammates glancing away as she passes.

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On the bench, she seems more interested in the laces on her shoes than the plays of the game. After the final inning, you walk to the car together. She doesn’t have much to say about her first real softball game. But when she closes her door, she makes an announcement. “I’m no good. I’m quitting softball.” It would be easy to agree and let her quit. But then you would be sending the message that it is okay to give up when things get hard. The situation also gives you the opportunity to discuss the character trait of patience. Patience means accepting that some things may be difficult—and it may be some time before they improve. Very few of us master a skill on our first try. And for many of us, accomplishments can take a very long time. Consider this quote from Thomas Edison regarding his trial and error with the lightbulb. “I have not failed seven hundred times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those seven hundred ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.” Edison mastered the art of patience long before he discovered which filament would glow inside the glass orb without burning up.

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Mammograms for All Oklahoma Women Spotlight on Character Winner Malek Ham frequently demonstrates the character trait of compassion. Compassion means investing whatever is necessary to heal the hurts of others. Malek’s mother shared two recent examples of his compassion with us. While waiting at the dentist office, Malek struck up a conversation with an elderly woman who was there all alone. He told his mom the lady had a “beautiful spirit” and when she asked how he knew that, Malek replied, “because I listened to her.” Malek and his family participate in Christmas charity programs and buy gifts from a wish list for underprivileged children. They were having trouble finding some of the items and Malek’s mom said they would substitute some other things the kids would enjoy. But Malek didn’t like that idea. “They are trusting us to come through for them. If we don’t who will?” Malek’s determination prompted them to visit more stores until they found every gift on every child’s list. Malek then used great care and love to bag and prepare the gifts for 10 children he had never met, investing time and energy to show them compassion. Malek is the son of Dr. Kelly Moyers and Jamie Ham of Edmond. He is in the 5th grade at Faith Christian Academy.

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Most new moms have been given advice on the do’s and don’ts of caring for an infant. Some of it is relevant and helpful, while some is a load of hogwash. And since most of the advice comes from well-meaning family and friends, it can sometimes be hard to tell the serious from the silly. Dr. Carden Johnston, former president of the American Academy of Pediatrics and Professor Emeritus of Pediatrics at the University of Alabama at Birmingham School of Medicine helps us separate fact from fiction. Not only has Dr. Johnston been practicing medicine since 1966, he and his wife have also been foster parents to 18 newborns, so we’re pretty sure he knows what he’s talking about. TALE: What a breast-feeding mom eats can upset baby’s tummy. TRUTH: “Some medicines that mom takes can cross over to the baby,” Dr. Johnston says. “So it would stand to reason that some food products would pass through, too. As far as certain foods upsetting a child’s stomach, there’s just no good data. It’s all just what grandparents have told children and grandchildren. “If the foods upset mom’s stomach, they may upset baby’s, too. But very rarely, if ever, do foods that mom eats bother the baby.” TALE: Picking up a baby too much will spoil him. TRUTH: Dr. Johnston says this tale likely started during the Depression era. “Parents who were stoic and came through the Depression had a different view of raising children and pain and suffering. The thought was, ‘You’re supposed to hurt a little bit.’” Therefore, it didn’t harm a child to let him “cry it out.” “Children cry, and they’re supposed to cry; that’s the way they communicate,” Dr. Johnston says. “Picking them up is a tremendous positive reinforcement, and it slows the crying. When a child cries, you think that something is going on with that child. They’re feeling anxiety or need something. If 20

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a child is feeling anxiety, there is some scientific evidence that it slows down some brain development. So it’s probably beneficial to hold the babies a lot, whether they’re crying or not.” One caveat: If the child is crying, crying, crying, and you’ve fed him, changed his diaper, and tried everything to comfort him, but nothing is working, it’s a good idea to put the baby down before you get too frustrated. “Parents have to take care of themselves,” Dr. Johnston says. “If you’re getting frustrated, it’s good for you to take a break. Lay baby in the crib, get some rest, then come back and try again to comfort baby. “Bottom line is: Picking babies up every time they cry won’t spoil them. But don’t feel guilty if you’re not picking baby up every time there’s a whimper.” TALE: Teething can cause diarrhea and/or fever. TRUTH: “Parents often tell me their child is upset and having diarrhea and running fever when they teethe,” Dr. Johnston says. “It’s persisted so much in the common myth area that studies have been done, and all the studies showed no relationship between teething, diarrhea and fever (less than 100.6 degrees).” However, in judging between science and what parents say, Dr. Johnston leans toward a more practical view. “My wife says teething does cause loose stools, and I hear that quite often so I tend to believe parents. There is a change at some point in teething and it may be different for different children.” TALE: Feeding cereal at a very early age will help babies sleep. TRUTH: “That’s common vernacular, and studies have been done and it doesn’t seem to work,” Dr. Johnston says. “What we’ve found is what children need in the first 6 months of life is breast milk. If you start adding other proteins, that could set up allergies and problems later on. There are some disadvantages to feeding children cereal at an early age and no measurable advantages. And that’s a change from when I started in the practice and we started cereal at 2 weeks or 4 weeks. “Breast milk is best, and that or formula alone should satisfy all their needs until about 4 1/2 months when we start complementary foods.”

TALE: Reading to your fetus will make your baby smarter.

TALE: Cats will suck the breath out of an infant.

TRUTH: “Reading to baby or playing soft music after they’re born seems to keep baby calmer. And the calmer you keep the baby, the better the brain’s neurons grow,” Dr. Johnston says. But those benefits do not extend to time in the womb.

TRUTH: In his more than 40 years as a pediatrician and working in an emergency department with 60,000 visits a year, Dr. Johnston, who also started the emergency department at Children’s Hospital in the 1970s, says he’s never seen nor heard a report of this feline phenomenon. Yet, it’s a tale that has persisted for more than 400 years.

“It makes a little sense that parents who are concerned about their baby in the uterus and are singing to the baby are paying more attention and learning more about the baby.” And once the child is born, this may help the parents feel a stronger connection to the infant. “It’s the same old story: The more attention you give your children, the better they’ll develop. It’s not cause and effect on the reading; it’s just paying attention and being concerned about the baby.” Dr. Johnston offers this anecdote: He once had a patient whose parents sang “Puff the Magic Dragon” to their baby throughout the pregnancy. After the baby was born, the parents swore the child would calm down when he heard the song. “The familiarity of the noise was recognized by the baby,” Dr. Johnston says.

According to the urban-legend-busting Web site snopes.com, this far-out feline myth was seen as early as the 1600s. The site says printing sightings of the superstition date to 1607, and in 1791 a jury at a coroner’s inquest in England ruled that a cat had indeed sucked the breath out of a child, killing him. The second part of this tall kitty tale is that the cat will try to suffocate the new baby out of jealousy. (snopes.com/critters/ wild/catsuck.asp) “Some cats or other animals like babies and usually treat babies with a lot of deference,” Dr. Johnston says. “Very rarely will you get one that’s jealous of baby. Cats are agile and can jump into the bed because they enjoy being close to baby; it’s like a new kind of toy. If a child dies of SIDS, and there’s a cat in the house, it’s easy to say it’s the cat’s fault, that it laid on top of the baby or got too close to the baby. But there’s just no way to suck the breath out.

“Reading or especially singing to the fetus calms the parent and with a calm parent the growth facility of the baby is enhanced,” he adds. “There’s less fight-flight-fright hormone “People who have studied SIDS have looked at that question circulated in the mother, and if there’s less in the mother, pretty hard, extremely hard, and there’s no association. That’s there’s less in baby, too. Because mom is singing, those sounds one myth that is easy to dispel.” are transmitted throughout the body’s fluids and can get to baby’s auditory network better.” However, you should keep animals away from your newborn, especially out of the baby’s bed. There’s a remote possibility TALE: An infant’s thumb-sucking or pacifier use will that, while cuddling with a baby, your pet could accidentally cause “buck teeth.” smother the child. TRUTH: “If this were true, there should be lots of folks “We see lots of dog bites. If a child crawls over to a mama dog around with buck teeth,” Dr. Johnston says with a laugh. who’s feeding or ready to eat, that dog can easily take a snap According to the American Dental Association’s Web site, at the child,” Dr. Johnston says. “We see a lot more trouble “After the permanent teeth come in, sucking may cause with cats when the 2-year-olds come along and don’t know problems with the proper growth of the mouth and alignment how to be gentle with animals and they get scratched.” of the teeth. Children should have ceased sucking by the time the permanent front teeth are ready to erupt.” If someone offers advice that you’re not quite sure about, ask your pediatrician. Your doctor can help you figure out whether “Fortunately, most people quit sucking their thumbs when it’s fact or fiction. they get exposed to a lot of peer pressure when they get to Kindergarten. There are a lot of testimonials of people who were thumb-suckers or paci suckers who end up with normal Tiffani Hill-Patterson writes about parenting, health and fitness. teeth to dispel this theory,” Dr. Johnston added, chuckling. On a serious note, “There’s early development of the maxilla of the teeth area, and then as you go through adolescence there’s another growth period. I think that secondary growth period has a lot to do with avoiding buck teeth as well.”

She blogs about her family’s experience with deafness and cochlear implants at soundcheckmama.blogspot.com. Reach her at patterson1723@mac.com or visit TiffanihillPatterson.com.

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Let’s Eat: Restaurant Review The Wedge Pizzeria

hen you enter through the door of The Wedge, stop a moment and take a long, slow breath to enjoy the aromas. This is a small, intimate pizzeria with approximately 11 small tables and bar seating. You may need to be prepared for a wait if you enter during the rush hours but don’t be deterred; it’s worth the time. While waiting for your order, take in the bobble head doll collection and the brick pizza oven in the corner. My daughter Mandy was a willing participant on this restaurant review. We had heard of The Wedge but were under the misconception that they served pizza by the slice, or wedge; they don’t. Their ingredient choices are a little more Italian than most places. Mandy was hoping for some Hawaiian-style pies, but not this time. Some of their toppings include roasted fennel, arugula, truffle oil, sage, fig and capers. Salads are featured with fennel, or roasted beets and oranges, not just traditional lettuce.

We thought we would start our visit with an order of handmade meatballs ($6) and Wedge flatbread ($3.50). The meatballs were an order of five meatballs topped with marinara sauce and slices of parmesan cheese. These had a fine texture (more so than those I make) with a good flavor. I was thrilled there was not a strong fennel taste as there can sometimes be in traditional Italian cooking. The flatbread was the size of the pizza topped with herbs (oregano and rosemary) and parmesan cheese. This was tasty dipped in olive oil and balsamic vinegar. Should you

have any left, be sure to take it home and enjoy with soup or salad. Now let’s talk about the pizzas! For the manly man, you might order The Italian Stallion ($14) with port wine and sun dried tomato sauce, mozzarella cheese, roasted fennel and Italian sausage. For the vegetarians in your group, the Vedge ($13) is topped with garlic, red bell peppers, artichokes, crimini mushrooms, pine nuts, ricotta cheese and mozzarella. For those with a European flair, try the Truffle-Shuffle ($15) with truffle oil, sage, crimini mushrooms, spinach, roasted chicken, parmesan cheese and mozzarella. Mandy wanted to try the American Pie ($14) and I wanted to try the Perfect Margherita ($13), so we got half of each ($14). The American Pie has marinara sauce, chopped meatballs, oregano, onion, parmesan cheese and mozzarella. The Margherita pizza has freshly sliced Roma tomato, basil, roasted garlic and mozzarella. I thought both pizzas were very good. The crust was thin and crispy, topped with yummy flavors. If you need a bite of something sweet, they offer traditional gelato ($4). The flavors vary by day. On the day we were there, it looked like they had chocolate and vanilla. We saw it pass by our table and fought the urge to grab it. The Wedge has been open almost two years. It is nice to see that it seemed booming with customers, the staff was very friendly and it makes you feel good to see them washing their hands behind the counter. Your sense of sight, sound,

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Oklahoma Reads Book Reviews Picture books for Preschoolers Clean Up Time, Naptime, Bye-Bye Time, Listening Time (Free Spirit Publishing, board books $7.95 each) Preschoolers love to learn, and this Toddler Tools series of books provides many lessons. Children will enjoy the brightly-colored pages and rhymed verse. Parents and caregivers can get tips from the back page of the book, which also includes an activity or game to use to reinforce the lesson of the book.

book encourages even reluctant readers to become engaged. Some parents may find the text to be a bit sassy in places, but overall the book is a fun read.

Non-fiction for grades 5 and up Middle School Confidential: Be Confident in Who You Are by Annie Fox (Free Spirit Publishing, softcover, $9.95)

Non-Fiction for grades 1-3 Kaliedopops: Oceans (Silver Dolphin Books, hardcover pop-up, $15.95) This brightly-colored pop-up book provides page after page of colorful ocean scenes, stocked with details about a wide variety of ocean-dwelling animals. From the darkest ocean depths to coral reefs; color-changing fish and poisonous varieties, kids will love the vibrant illustrations.

The engaging story of Jack, Jen, Chris, Abby, Mateo and Michelle is told through cartoon panels, quizzes, and quotes from teens and tweens. First in a series geared toward tweens, this book includes lessons on things that middle schoolers are concerned withâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;such as peer pressure, controlling feelings, and staying healthy.

Cookbook Cooking for Baby by Lisa Barnes (Simon & Schuster, hardcover, $19.99) This is a great resource for anyone interested in either making their own baby food or making more diverse options than what is commonly found on store shelves. Over 80 recipes include eggplant, hummus and avocado. Recipes are organized by baby age (6 months, 7-8 months, 9-11 months, 12-18 months) and include tips for appropriate options by age, feeding tips and nutritional guidelines.

Fiction for grades 4-6 Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Last Straw by Jeff Kinney (Amulet Books, hardcover $12.95) This third volume in the popular Wimpy Kid series (soon to be turned into a movie) introduces new characters and continues the story of Greg as he navigates through life. Written in diary form with drawings and sketches, this

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Labor of Love: A Midwife’s Memoir by Cara Muhlhahn (Kaplan Publishing, $25.95)

That’s the bad news in this otherwise good book. Author Cara Muhlhahn tends to tell us all the wonderful things she did and how much people loved her. Self-confidence ain’t lacking for a second here.

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But give Muhlhahn her due and look beyond the braggadocio. The reason to read this book is because the author gives mothers-to-be a lot of solid advice and reassurance. Her experiences are empowering and the stories are beneficial: labor in the way that’s comfortable for you. Trust your body to do awesome things. Listen to your intuition. Remember this, as Muhlhahn says, “… I often feel it’s disempowering to a mother for me to say that I’m delivering her baby. No, she is.”

The stick said “+”. It was official. You’re pregnant.

While “Labor of Love” is a decent read, if you’re a mom-to-be or a mom-wanna-be, you’ll get more from it. For you, this is a book to push for.

At first, you were afraid to look. You couldn’t wait, but you couldn’t peek, either.

Aside from all the preparation, the crib, wipey-warmer, changing table, blankies, sleepers, mobiles, and a gazillion diapers, you now have to get ready for the actual act of bringing your baby into the world.

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As the second of five daughters, Muhlhahn was able to help her parents with her younger siblings. Later, she says she took on babysitting jobs, caring for cousins and other neighborhood children. At 19, she traveled to Europe to see the world and while visiting her sister in Denmark, Muhlhahn heard the word midwife. Believing that the best place to study midwifery was on the West Coast, she flew to Oregon, where she apprenticed with a woman who taught Muhlhahn the basics of birthing. Later, she worked at a clinic in El Paso, Texas. After a brief careerburp with a California cult, Muhlhahn went to Columbia University in New York, worked in several hospital settings, and eventually set up shop literally in a corner of her own bedroom so she could put into practice all that she had learned from so many. Oh, and along the way, she fell in love, had a son and became a single mother. In this book, Muhlhahn remembers some of the mothers she assisted and the babies she delivered, including the one infant she lost and how the child’s death affected her and her career. She gives nods to mentors and to the people who made her a movie star (the film, “The Business of Birth,” stars several women, Muhlhahn, and Hollywood’s Ricki Lake). And she boasts. A lot.

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Oklahoma Reads Book Reviews We see it everyday…as we flip from channel to channel, the same negative stories of tragedy and gloom seem to saturate the news. We are often left wondering if anything good ever happens in the world anymore. Does any good ever come out of all this bad? Are there ever any happy endings? In a world filled with dark clouds, wouldn’t it be nice to hear a little more about the silver linings? In her incredibly uplifting book, “Class Act,” licensed professional counselor and awardwinning journalist Dorian Leigh Quillen, presents eight stories that will stir your soul and change the way you look at adversity. These stories feature eight young people from Oklahoma who overcame amazing odds and “turned tragedy into triumph.” Quillen refers to them as “reluctant heroes,” as they never sought the spotlight. They simply rose above the great misfortunes that life dealt them. Take for example the story of Jennifer Matli Wright. On the last day of Christmas break in her senior year of high school, she watched as a drunk driver plowed into her entire family, killing them all. Five months after the accident, she went on to deliver the valedictorian address at Piedmont High School.

She married one of her classmates and worked as an operating room nurse before becoming a stayat-home mom of two. Then, there’s Savanna Petricek—a beautiful girl who suffered physical and emotional abuse and was burned over thirty-eight percent of her body at the age of five when she was standing too close to a fireplace and her dress caught on fire. Abandoned by her family, Savanna was adopted in 2000. Her adoptive mother was told she would always be delayed in school and would have a lot of psychological issues. Savanna defeated all of the odds and went on to graduate in the top five percent of her high school class. She plans to major in pre-med and biology at the University of Oklahoma and works as a counselor for the Oklahoma Firefighters’ Burn Camp. “There is such a lack of encouragement and hope in our society today,” says Quillen. “I wanted people to know that, whatever age, whatever you may be facing, you can get through it and that you can not only survive, but you can still go on to have success and have a good life.” Quillen says she is saddened by the fact that many kids think there are

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Q & A with the Beasleys

How Can a Mom Do It All? Dear Beasleys, I am the mother of a 16 week old infant girl. She is my first child and I looked forward to her birth from the day I first confirmed I was pregnant. But I can’t enjoy her. I’m exhausted! She’s not a difficult or demanding baby, but I just can’t find enough hours in my day to get everything done and tend to her needs also. My husband recognizes that I am stressed out and offers to help me, but I think I ought to be able to do it all without help. I guess I’m just wondering how other moms meet the needs of their baby, their husband, and themselves at the same time. Can you help me?

Dr. Lori: As Stewart suggests, we women sometimes need to take “turtle time,” a time when we figuratively pull into our shell, shut out the outside world and recharge our emotional batteries. It takes a lot of energy to do what we do day after day, week after week, and our emotional reserves get depleted. Taking time for yourself to exercise, rest, visit friends, or sit back with your feet up for a few minutes each day may seem selfish, but in the grand scheme of things, doing these things results in a recharged mom with more energy and vitality to give away.

Tif Dr. Stewart: There are plenty of research studies showing the effects of stress on our bodies. Stress has been linked to depression, weight gain, chronic fatigue, and a myriad of other health-related problems. Just being pregnant for nine months and delivering a baby is enough to stress out a woman. And it is not unusual for you to feel overwhelmed and ineffective. You are not alone. But it is important that you find ways of coping with the stressors in your life. Dr. Lori: Stress also has a “trickle down” effect in families. Babies aren’t born with stress management skills and growing up around a parent who is frazzled tends to result in frazzled kids. We don’t want our children stressed, but unless we as parents teach our children how to cope with stress, our children will be unprepared to tame the stresses of life. Dr. Stewart: One of the first things I would encourage you to do is to sit down in a quiet place where you can afford the luxury of thinking without being disturbed. This may be where your husband’s offer comes into play. Ask him to stay with your daughter while 32

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you take some time for yourself. Then sit down and ask yourself these questions: (1) Am I realistic in my expectations of myself or do I have expectations of being Super-Mom? (2) Do I adequately take care of my physical, mental, and spiritual needs or do I rely upon catching opportunities here and there whenever I can? (3) Why is it difficult for me to ask for help—especially when it is freely offered? and (4) What healthy (and unhealthy) coping skills am I modeling for my child?

Dr. Stewart: Speaking from a man’s point of view, I think many wives think we husbands might expect more from them than we actually do. Men tend to compartmentalize life into manageable units and approach tasks differently than women. But a truly loving and supportive husband realizes when children are in the family that more cooperative efforts have to be implemented to get things done. Sometimes we are slow to recognize that by being more giving, the result often is receiving more. By helping with the household duties or child care, our spouse has more energy and more zest for life, which they can then share with us. Dr. Lori: It’s important that you realize that help is available to you and that it is not a sign of weakness or inability to utilize the resources that are available to you. Your husband has offered to help. Make a list of things he can do to

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help and sit down with him and go over it. Raising a child is a team effort and you are not approaching it that way. In a way, that robs your husband of being an integral part of the team and developing a good feeling about being actively involved in his marriage and in his child’s upbringing. Dr. Stewart: And I would just reiterate the need for balance in your life. There must be time for you; there must be time for you and your husband; there must be time for you and your child; and, there must be time for you and your family. It’s all a balancing act, but you can do it. Just think of yourself as an important and critical part of your family that needs self-awareness of your own needs so that you will be aware of the needs of other members of your family. Dr. Lori: Even the President of the United States finds time to exercise daily and play on the weekends! If he can do that with all he has on his plate, you can also. He does it so that he can maintain adequate stamina to meet the demands of his job; you do it so you can maintain adequate stamina to meet the demands of your roles of Mom, wife, and person! You—and your family— deserve that. Good luck.

Lori Beasley, EdD is Asst. Vice President of Academic Affairs and Professor of Family Life Education at the University of Central Oklahoma. Stewart R. Beasley, PhD is a licensed psychologist who practices in Edmond and Oklahoma City and is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences at the University of Oklahoma College of Medicine.

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Exploring Oklahoma Adventures in Paintball

rying to come up with a fun 16th birthday celebration or a way to keep teenagers entertained during spring break can be pretty challenging. But, I found one—paintball. My husband and I took ten boys to Adventure Zone, a paintball field in Guthrie, for our son’s 16th birthday and they had a blast. Now, you may be wondering what paintball is and what it has to do with our Exploring Oklahoma series. Read on.

What is paintball? Paintball is a sport in which participants eliminate their opponents by marking them with colorful water-soluble paint discharged by a compressed air, carbon dioxide or nitrogen powered gun called a marker. Usually, the participants are placed on teams, so teamwork and communication become important skills for winning. Paintball is played on fields designed solely for the sport. These fields typically have several courses ranging from wooded acreages for longer recreational games to small open fields for fast tournament-style play. Along with fees to use the field, supplies can be rented. In our case, several of the boys brought their own equipment. While you are welcome to walk on to fields, reservations are usually necessary for groups of ten or more. 34

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“Paintball has become one of the fastest growing sports in the last ten years rivaling baseball in its popularity,” said Chris Angier, co-owner and general manager of Shaggy Brothers Paintball Supply (and Adventure Zone). The sport is especially popular with church groups, business groups and for birthday celebrations. Paintball is played by all age groups from about ten years old and up, from beginners to advanced tournament level players. With paintball’s growing popularity, the number of paintball fields has grown since the sport’s inception in the 1970s. Currently, Oklahoma has approximately 24 fields according to paintball websites. While most are located on outdoor acreages, there are a few indoor fields.

How safe is paintball? Angier says that paintball is one of the safest sports with fewer reported injuries than even bowling. However, safety practices are an important consideration when choosing fields. While the industry is not formally regulated, there are a few practices to watch for, according to Angier. First, players should receive a safety briefing before each session. Referees must be on the field of play at all times to ensure fair play and adherence to safety rules which include the wearing of specially designed masks that protect the face

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and eyes and the use of barrel plugs when not in active play. Also, the field should be insured. One warning! Paintball is not for the faint of heart. Agility and speed are necessary as players run from cover to cover and dodge their pursuers. The paint pellets can also sting when they hit (something our boys confirmed— especially when playing in the near freezing condition as they were), so participants are well-advised to wear layers for padding. Paintball supply stores offer equipment including protective gear for those who decide to get serious about the sport. Paintball is a great team-building and bonding activity, especially for the males in your group. My husband enjoyed playing “Rambo” as the referee made him a one-man team against the boys’ two five-man teams. I chose not to play and returned to the warmth of our home (someone had to prepare the cake). I do recommend bringing a cooler with drinks and snacks as play lasts for several hours. Our boys devoured all we brought to eat and drink in the four hours they played. I believe our son is hooked and I’m sure we’ll be returning to Adventure Zone and exploring some of the other area

paintball fields. So, if you are looking for activities to entertain your teenagers (or husband) this spring break, take them paintballing at one of the many Oklahoma paintball fields. Youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll have a reason to see other areas of the state that will even excite your teenagers about exploring Oklahoma.

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According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 4.3 million babies were born in the United States in 2006. For most new parents, it’s a joyous, albeit exhausting, new time in their life. For 5080 percent of the women giving birth each year, however, they go through a short period of feeling down or depressed. This condition, according to the National Institutes of Health (NIH) is referred to as the “baby blues.” While the usual baby blues tend to last for roughly the first two weeks after the baby is born, many women go on to experience something that lasts much longer. “In contrast to baby blues, postpartum depression is a more intense depression that begins within four weeks of delivery, lasts for more than two weeks, and causes significant distress or impairment,” explains Dr. Stephen Scott, a psychologist from Norman.

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In fact, according to the NIH, 10-15 percent of all women giving birth will experience postpartum depression, and that quickly adds up to a sizeable total. Postpartum depression is a serious condition that can have an impact on the mother’s ability to bond with her baby and participate in life. Understanding this condition, identifying it, and seeking treatment can make all the difference.

Bonding Issues As most mothers know, bonding with the new baby is an important part of giving birth. After spending nine months creating this new life, it’s hard to imagine that you suddenly want nothing to do with it. Yet, for women suffering with postpartum depression, that’s often the case. After Linda Smith of Naples, Florida, gave birth to the first of her two children, she had postpartum depression. “I just didn’t bond with him. I felt totally disconnected from him, even though I was nursing,” she says. “I remember sitting in a rocking chair, listening to him cry on the first day home, and wondering why the cries didn’t really bother me.” Like many mothers that suffer from the condition, she also experienced thoughts about bad things happening, such as the baby being in a car crash or falling out of a window. “I imagined that he would be better off with another mother, or that I would be better off without having any children, that I didn’t deserve to have children,” adds Smith. In her case, she realized within a couple of weeks that there was a problem. Although it took several months for her to feel normal again, she found help through an online support group where she could discuss what she was experiencing. She also began forcing herself to take showers, talking with others about it, and taking frequent walks.

and especially in those with bipolar disorder, it can lead to postpartum psychosis, where the person may become frantic and exhibit erratic or even harmful behavior. When Michelle Buckley of Naples, Florida was pregnant with the first of her two children, she was under a great deal of stress and experiencing changes in her life. Moving and going through a stressful pregnancy didn’t offer much in the way of comfort. “A tremendous amount of stress came over me, knowing that I was pregnant, having to move to a new town, planning a wedding and learning how to become a mother,” she says. “I was worried about whether I was going to be a good wife and a good mother. Actually, ‘terrified’ would be the word.” To add to the stress she was experiencing, she developed heart trouble and needed to wear a heart monitor on a daily basis. She was having breathing difficulties, and acquired anemia. She became depressed, and that depression continued after the baby was born, but luckily did not reoccur when she gave birth to her second child, years later. “My depression got worse. I didn’t sleep for 24 hours at a time,” adds Buckley. “My postpartum lasted exactly one year, to my son’s first birthday. Seeing him celebrate his birthday made me realize that I am a good mother, my son and husband love me, and I can handle this.”

Getting Help Lynne Hurley Norris experienced depression after giving birth to her daughter who, within the first eight weeks, was diagnosed with jaundice, thrush, colic, and a dairy allergy. “Things were piling up and nothing was getting solved,” says Norris. “It pushed me over the edge.”

“Over a couple of months, it just slowly got better,” says Smith. Upon going for her six-week postpartum checkup, she expressed the hard time she was having to her OB/GYN, who “The more I talked to others, even if they were strangers, the then began monitoring her condition. less alone I felt, the less disconnected I felt, and finally my son and I were bonded.” “In just ten days, I went over the edge. I was sleep-deprived. People say to sleep when the baby is sleeping, but that is easier said than done,” she observed. Stress and Changes Postpartum mood disorders, which take place during the first year after the baby is born, can happen without the mother ever being aware that there is something wrong. Often times, it’s someone around them who notices there is a problem and suggests that the person seek help. Those experiencing the disorder may experience feelings of uselessness, anxiety or worthlessness, and may have thoughts about hurting the child or themselves. They also have trouble sleeping, seem sad and have strong emotional reactions. “Another thing that is unique to postpartum depression is that women often feel guilty about the way they are feeling and try to hide it from others,” says Dr. Scott. “New moms are given frequent congratulations and often believe that this should be one of the happiest times of their lives. When high expectations clash with negative internal experience, the confusion and distress are even more troubling.” The condition is caused by the changes in hormonal levels as they begin to go back to normal after being elevated during pregnancy. Those hormonal changes can trigger depression. Even worse, in about one percent of all women giving birth, 38

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After breaking down and crying uncontrollably for hours, one day, she called her husband, who immediately took action that set her on the road to recovery. “He called my doctor right away, and things got diagnosed quickly,” adds Norris. “When you are depressed, it is hard to see the light at the other end of the tunnel. It really messes with your mind.” For those who have a loved one suffering from the disorder, it is recommended that they first take care of themselves, and also that they maintain a normal relationship with the person. Also, before you can help a loved one, it is important to educate yourself about the causes, indicators, and treatments of depression. Understanding is the key. “If a new mother finds that she is becoming depressed to the point where it is causing distress, impairing her ability to function, or affecting how she cares for her child, she needs to get professional mental health care,” adds Dr. Scott. “A good psychologist can help you with depressive symptoms, help you adjust to your new roles and responsibilities, and even give you tips to improve your parenting style.”

SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION • Crying a lot or uncontrollably • Feeling sad or helpless • Restless, irritable • Loss of interest • Trouble focusing or making decisions • Feeling worthless • Withdrawing from activities • Headaches • Sleeping disturbances • No energy or motivation

WHAT TO DO • Speak with your doctor • Join a support group • Rest/nap when possible • Cut back on duties • Ask others for help • Talk to others about feelings • Find time for yourself each day

POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION TREATMENT According to NIH, there are two common treatment options for postpartum depression. The first is therapy, which involves talking to a therapist or psychologist. The second is medication, which involves taking an antidepressant.

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industry as driven by basic changes in American societyâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;specifically, two parents working outside the home. In 1975, about one-third of US mothers with young children went to a job outside the home; today almost twothirds of mothers are employed. If we look at the growth of the fast food industry and the weight gain of Oklahomans (and Americans in general), they correlate. It adds up to time and simplicity. After an eight hour day of work, tired parents might come home to a full house and a full schedule of homework, church activities, childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s extracurricular activities; and donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t forget to make time for your spouse and friends, hobbies and chores. Whewâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; who has the time to cook? Simplicity comes into play as well. After a long day of managing grouchy customers, many moms and dads donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have enough energy to manage a grouchy family who wants to be fed. It

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In Touch With Relationships The Babies on the Bus go “Wah, Wah, Wah”

he babies on the bus go “wah, wah, wah…” The people on the bus go “shh, shh, shh…” These are a few verses from my 18 month old son’s favorite song and enormous picture book, The Wheels on the Bus Go Round and Round. As we eagerly await the birth of our second child, I am gearing up for more joy, love, excitement, and of course more “wah, wah, wah.” By the way, the crying is not just on the part of the infant. There will also be cries heard from me, my wife, my son, our dog and extended family. Crying or complaining is commonplace when we are faced

The changes brought by a new baby require thoughtful accommodations by everyone in the family.

with making major accommodations in our lives. Over 60 percent of new mothers report experiencing sadness after giving birth to a child. Certainly much of this is due to physical changes in the mother, but environmental and psychological components should not be underestimated. A new child, beautiful as she is, certainly requires accommodation.

Wah, Wah, Wah Complaining usually surfaces when we feel we are having to give up something we believe we need to be happy. For instance, you may hear a father “wah, wah, wah” when he feels he is going to lose out on sexual intimacy with his wife or perhaps a cherished round of golf. A mother may shed a tear when she feels she is going to be deprived of adult interaction, her work or attention from her husband. A child may throw a tantrum when he believes he might lose undivided attention. A dog may mope around or refuse to listen if he fears losing walks to the park or belly rubs. Truly, all above-mentioned parties have legitimate gripes. These things are important. Should we just act as if they are not?

Shh, Shh, Shh “The people (adults) on the bus go shh, shh, shh.” The song reminds us that the role of the parent is to quiet or comfort the baby. But sometimes the most difficult challenge for parents is to quiet their own fears. Quieting does not mean dismissing the fear or hurt—a parent is not successful in telling a child that their perceived boo-boo does not really hurt. It is more valuable for a parent to acknowledge the child’s pain and assure the child that there can and will be relief from the suffering. Relief from the pains of change may come from planning, healing, or re-interpreting.

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for healthy couples. A couple would do well to acknowledge the importance of emotional and sexual intimacy and plan time to fulfill those needs. There is still room for spontaneous bonding, but for more regular connecting time you will need to figure out timing. Acknowledging what is lost is an important step in developing a new rhythm in the family. Missing adult interaction time, a new mom may need to “state the obvious” so outings without baby can be arranged. First born children will certainly miss quality snuggles with mom when her lap is full of the new baby, but labeling and comforting these jealous feelings can go a long way toward healing the hurts brought on by change. Perhaps the most powerful tool we have to bring about peace and happiness in the face of change is re-interpreting. However, it can be a little tricky and will likely take some time. For instance a father is not going to immediately say, “I love missing golf with my friends.” A mother will likely not say, “I am so happy to be without the gratification that came from my work.” A child is not going to say, “It makes me warm and fuzzy when mom shifts her attention from me to the new baby.” And the dog will not think, “I jump for joy when daddy changes a diaper instead of rubbing my belly.” However, every party can come to realize that there are new joyful experiences that fill the void created by loss of some of the old experiences. The changes brought about by a new baby require thoughtful accommodations by everyone in the family. Ongoing problem solving and dialogue can help the wheels on the bus go round and round a little easier, with less “wah, wah, wah.”

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Quick Reference City Arts Center Fair Park, 3000 Pershing Blvd, OKC 951-0000, CityArtsCenter.org. Fine Arts Institute of Edmond 27 E. Edwards, Edmond 340-4481, EdmondFineArts.com Fred Jones Jr Museum of Art 555 Elm Ave, Norman 325-3272, ou.edu/fjjma Little River Zoo Hwy 9, Norman 366-7229, LittleRiverZoo.com

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Children’s Story Time at Edmond’s Best of Books, Saturdays, 11-11:30am. 340-9202. Make & Take craft activities at Lakeshore Learning (6300 N May, OKC) 11am-3pm every Saturday. Free for kids 3 and up. 858-8778, LakeshoreLearning.com. Family Fun Night at JumpZone (SW 104th & Western) 4:30-8pm every Tuesday and Thursday. 2 adults, 2 children, 1 large pizza, 2 liter pop for $25. For open play hours call 200-1691, JumpZoneParty.com. StoryTime at Gymboree Penn Square, first Friday of every month, 10am. 842-7540.

Myriad Botanical Gardens 301 W Reno, OKC 297-3995, MyriadGardens.com

Silly Sundays at Unpluggits Playstudio (575 Enterprise Dr, Edmond) Every Sunday, 1-6pm. Free face painting with paid admission or craft purchase. 340-7584, Unpluggits.com.

National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum 1700 NE 63rd St, OKC 478-2250, NationalCowboyMuseum.org

Tired GrownUps Night at Unpluggits Playstudio. Every Thursday from 4-8pm. Reduced admission price, free snacks. 340-7584, Unpluggits.com.

Oklahoma Aquarium 300 Aquarium Dr, Jenks 918-296-FISH, OKAquarium.org

The UCO Jazz Lab features performances each Friday and Saturday at 8pm. $7 adults, $5 age 12 and under. 359-7989, UCOJazzLab.com.

OKC Museum of Art 415 Couch Dr, OKC 236-3100, okcmoa.org

Children’s Storytime at Full Circle Bookstore (1900 NW Expressway) every Saturday, 10:15am. 842-2900, FullCircleBooks.com

OKC National Memorial 620 N Harvey, OKC 235-3313, OklahomaCityNationalMemorial.org

Drop in Art at the OKC Museum of Art. Held every Saturday 1-4pm. Create art inspired by the Museum’s collection, exhibitions, and special occasions. Free with paid admission.

OKC Zoo 2101 NE 50th St, OKC 424-3344, OKCZoo.com Oklahoma Children’s Theatre 2501 N Blackwelder, OKC 606-7003, OklahomaChildrensTheatre.com Oklahoma Heritage Center 13th & Shartel, OKC 235-4458, OklahomaHeritage.com Oklahoma History Center 2401 N Laird Ave, OKC 522-5248, OklahomaHistoryCenter.org Sam Noble Oklahoma Museum of Natural History 2401 Chautauqua Ave, Norman 325-4712, snomnh.ou.edu Science Museum Oklahoma 2100 NE 52nd St, OKC 602-OMNI, ScienceMuseumOK.org

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Sunday Nature Hikes at Martin Park Nature Center. Guided park tour and nature hike each Sunday, 2:30pm. Reservations and a fee of $2 are required. 755-0676. Thursday Noon Tunes at the Downtown Library, 11:30-1pm. Free live music each Thursday. Toddler Storytime at the Norman Library. Every Monday 9:30-10am. Wing Chun women’s self-defense classes, Saturdays at 9am. $60 per month. 314-6727, WingChunOKC.com.

Through March 14

Edmond’s Melodies: A Music Exhibit at the Edmond Historical Society & Museum. Features Edmond’s musical past and explores just how much music affects our everyday life. EdmondHistory.org.

March 28-May 17

Gathering Fragments: Edward S. Curtis in Oklahoma Exhibit at the Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art. Includes more than 100 images of Oklahoma tribes in a subsequent volume and portfolio published in 1930. A guest lecture by curator Byron Price and Eugene B. Adkins curator Mark White will accompany this exhibition’s opening on March 27, 6pm.

Through March 29

Arts of the Amazon from the Museum of the Red River at Mabee-Gerrer Museum of Art, Shawnee. Opening reception February 6, 7-9pm. Free. 878-5300, MGMOA.org.

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Touch the Sky: Prairie Photographs by Jim Brandenburg on exhibit at the Sam Noble OK Museum of Natural History.

Through April 19

Harlem Renaissance at the OKC Museum of Art. Explore African American art of the 1920s and 1930s and its lasting legacy. Includes more than 100 paintings, sculptures, and photographs.

Through May 1

Gardens in Focus photography exhibit at the Myriad Botanical Gardens features works by local artists of all ages and skill levels who placed in the Gardens in Focus photography contest.

Through July 12

Did She Kill ‘em All?! Martha Maxwell, Colorado Huntress Exhibit at the National Cowboy and Western Heritage Museum. Exhibit explores Maxwell’s life and career.

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March 1 • Sunday

Gymboree of Norman Family Arts Studio is held the third Saturday, 11am-noon. Includes arts & crafts for children 18mos–5 years. $5 per child. Reservations required; 307-8454, GymboreeClasses.com.

Portrait Painting at the OKC Museum of Art, 2-4pm. Discover how to transform your portrait drawings into acrylic paintings on canvas. For ages 10-13. $10 members, $15 nonmembers. Pre-registration required.

March 13-June 30

Musical Theatre Workshop at Norman’s Sooner Theatre, (101 E Main) 4pm. Learn how to help your child through the audition process, choosing the right audition song, what “callback” means, dressing for an audition, the difference between professional, community & educational theatre. Free. Also held 3/28. 321-9600, SoonerTheatre.org.

Dinosaurs Unearthed at the OKC Zoo, 9am-5pm. Come face-to-face with the prehistoric rulers of the animal kingdom. Meet such life-like animatronic creatures as the Tyrannosaurus Rex. Free with regular Zoo admission. March 2009

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The 8th Annual Respect Diversity Symbol Exhibit will be on display at Science Museum Oklahoma. 359-0369, RespectDiversity.org.

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The Oklahoma City Thunder play the Dallas Mavericks at the Ford Center, 7pm. Other home games this month: 3/4, 8, 18, 20, and 24. Tickets, OKFordCenter.com.

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Music Theatre Production Promises, Promises at the UCO Jazz Lab, 7:30pm. Also held 3/10-12. 359-7989, UCOJazzLab.com.

3 • Tuesday

Pianist Rosario Andino in concert at the Bruce Owen Theatre, OCCC Campus (7777 S May, OKC), 7pm. Tickets $10 and up. 682-7579, occc.edu/CAS. Preschool Story Time at Norman’s Sooner Mall, 1010:30am. Also held: 3/10, 17, 24 and 31.

4 • Wednesday

Teen Wired Wednesday at the Newcastle Public Library, 3:30-5:30pm. Gaming with DDR, Guitar Hero, and Wii games. 387-5076.

5 • Thursday

OKC Blazers play the Wichita Thunder at the Ford Center, 7:10pm. Other home games this month: 3/7, 17, and 21. Tickets, OKFordCenter.com. Children’s author David Lubar Author Visit at the Belle Isle Library, 9:15-10:15am. The writer of The Curse of the Campfire Weenies and other titles will discuss his books, writing and hungry carnival monsters. Children’s Workshop: Creature Creators at the Sam Noble OK Museum of Natural History, 4pm. For grades 3-5. Members $15, Non-members $20. Registration required.

A Powerful Noise film screening is held at Quail Springs 24, Tinseltown USA and Norman’s Spotlight 14. The film highlights women around the world who are making a difference. Visit APowerfulNoise.org for details.

6 • Friday

Sleep With The Sharks! at the Oklahoma Aquarium, 6pm. Activities, snacks, and movies. $50 per person, $5 discount for members. 918-528-1508, OKAquarium.org. Colorful Containers at the Will Rogers Gardens, (3400 NW 36th ) 9:30am-12:30pm. Learn how to grow fun and easy container plantings with practical plant choices and low maintenance techniques. Free; space limited, call to register. 943-0827 Collaborative Concert with American Choral Directors Association at the Civic Center Music Hall, 8pm. Tickets $18 and up. Play with Me! Play Group at the Downtown Library, 10-10:50am. Infants to 5 years with adult. A simple craft and a story are included. Registration required.

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Sesame Street Live presents Elmo’s Green Thumb at the Cox Convention Center. Showtimes vary; tickets $11 opening night, $13 and up other days. CoxConventionCenter.com.

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Midwest City, 8143 E Reno, 732-4828 Ralph Ellison, 2000 NE 23rd, 424-1437 Southern Oaks, 6900 S Walker, 631-4468 The Village, 10307 N Penn, 755-0710

FRIENDS Book Sale at the Noble Public Library, 9am5pm. Books, magazines, DVDs, VHS tapes, Audiobooks on sale. 872-5713.

Warr Acres, 5901 NW 63rd, 721-2616

Bluegrass Festival in Del City, (2300 S Linda Lane) 7-9:45pm. Family-friendly performances. 760-3064.

Jones, 111 E Main, 399-5471

Adult Workshop: Fins…Feathers…and Furs: Why Curate the Life Sciences? at the Sam Noble OK Museum of Natural History, 9am-1pm. Explore the fundamentals of ichthyology, ornithology, and mammalogy. Members $20, Non-members $30. Preregistration required.

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Craft Fair at Unpluggits Playstudio, 9am-4pm. Local artisians with a wide range of craft boutiques including from kids clothing, jewelry and scrapbooking supplies. 340-plug, play@unpluggits.com.

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Noon Concert at the Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art, features a performance by Percussion Studio. Also held 3/24 and 31.

Monkey Business Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Consignment Sale at the Shawnee Expo Conference Center, 10am-7pm. MonkeyBusinessOK.com.

Open house at Stella Maris Learning Center (1324 S Fretz, Edmond), 6-8pm. Includes performances and demonstrations by guitar, piano, dance, and Tae Kwon Do instructors and door prizes. 474-3982.

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Discovery Family Concert Seriesâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;Space Rocks! Far Out Music with the OKC Philharmonic Orchestra at the Civic Center Music Hall, 2pm. A concert complete with pre-concert activities, educational games, and musical fun for all ages. Tickets $6 children, $9 adults. 842-5387, OKCPhilharmonic.org.

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Amphibian Awareness Day at the OKC Zoo, 5pm. Look for and learn about amphibians on exhibit at the zoo. Free with admission.

UCO Wind Symphony & Symphonic Band in Concert at the Oak Tree Country Club in Edmond, 7:30pm. Free. 974-3375, CAMD.UCO.EDU.

Phillips 66 Big 12 Basketball Championship at the Ford Center, 11:30am. Tickets for all games are $72 and up. 602-8700, OKCAllSports.org/Big12/MensHoops.htm.

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OG+E Kids Day at the Oklahoma City Thunder game features special kids discounts and events. Ticketmaster. com/ThunderKids.

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Make and Take at the Moore Public Library, 1011:30am. Come and go activities for preschoolers ages 3-6. 793-4347.

Student Jazz Ensemble Concert at the UCO Jazz Lab, 7pm. Contemporary & Traditional Jazz. Tickets $7. 359-7989, UCOJazzLab.com.

The Art of Drawing Manga with Ink at the Edmond Library, 4-5pm. Local artist Alexandra Brodt will teach the class.

Author William Bernhardt Discussion at the Warr Acres Library, 11am. William will discuss his books and answer questions.

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St. Patty Printing at the OKC Museum of Art, 10-11am. Read a story and make a craft. For ages 3-5 with parent. $7.50 members, $10 nonmembers. Registration required.

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Just Between Friends Consignment Sale at the Cleveland County Fairgrounds, 9am-6pm. JBFSale.com.

New Deal Mural Sites Bus Trip with the National Cowboy & Heritage Western Museum. One day visit to several New Deal mural sites in Central Oklahoma. Tuition and reservations required.

14 â&#x20AC;˘ Saturday

Saint Patrickâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Day Parade in downtown OKC, 1-4pm. Free. 627-6555, OKCStPatsParade.com. Book Signing and Symposium at the National Cowboy & Heritage Western Museum, 1-4pm. In conjunction with the release of the new book Lanterns on the Prairie: the Blackfeet Photographs of Walter McClintock.

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Looking for Spring Break Camp ideas? Find them on Page 29 or on our website: MetroFamilyMagazine. com/Spring-Break Parentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Night Out at Unpluggits Playstudio, 6-10pm. An evening of crafts, pizza and organized playground games. $25 includes one craft, pizza, drink and dessert. Ages 6 and up. Reservations required. 340-PLUG, play@unpluggits.com. The Buzz Free Block Party at Santa Fe South Middle School (4712 S Santa Fe), 8am-4pm, features cookout, talent show, games, live music and substance abuse awareness information. 417-7688.

14-15

Spring Fling at the Martin Nature Center. A variety of outdoor activities and specialized nature hikes. Program times vary. $2 per person per hike. Space is limited. Call to register. 755-0676. (moved; was below the 16-17 entry below)

15-20

Zydeco music from Louisiana features Creole musicians Leon and Joseph Chavis at locations in the MetroLibrary system. Sunday: Downtown 2pm. Monday: Ralph Ellison, noon; Midwest City, 7pm. Tuesday: Southern Oaks, 1pm; Bethany 7pm. Wednesday: Choctaw 10:30am; Warr Acres 2pm. Thursday: The Village, 1pm; Belle Isle, 7pm. Friday: Edmond, 10am; Del City, 1pm.

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17 â&#x20AC;˘ Tuesday

Art Adventures: Through Georgiaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Eyes by Rachel Rodriguez at the Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art, 10:30am. Young artists are invited to experience art through books and related art projects for children ages 3 to 5 accompanied by an adult. Free.

18 â&#x20AC;˘ Wednesday

Blue Note Records 70th Anniversary Tour at Normanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Sooner Theatre (101 E Main), 8pm. Concert features an all-star band of jazz musicians. Tickets $30 and up. 321-9600, SoonerTheatre.org.

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19 â&#x20AC;˘ Thursday

Gaither Homecoming at the Ford Center, 7pm. Tickets $19.50 and up. 602-8700, OKFordCenter.com. Mad Rocket Science at the Del City Library, 4-5:30pm. Mad rocket scientist Kristi Adams will teach students how to create rockets from common household items. Teens. Registration required. Teen Healthy Eating at the Moore Public Library, 4-6pm. Learn healthy eating and simple cooking skills. Registration required.

20 â&#x20AC;˘ Friday

Natural Health and Home at the Newcastle Library, 4:30-6pm. Learn how to make and use natural health products for your home and then share what you know with others. 387-5076. Pizza and Pillow Party for girls at Unpluggits Playstudio, 6-10pm. $25 includes all supplies, pizza, drink and dessert. Ages 8 and up. Registration required. 340-PLUG, play@unpluggits.com

20-21

Big Bad Voodoo Daddy at the Civic Center Music Hall, 8pm. One giant step from the swing era of the 40s into the 21st Century. Tickets $12-$65. 842-5387, OKCPhilharmonic.org.

22 â&#x20AC;˘ Sunday

Lipizzaner Stallions at the Ford Center, 2pm or 6pm. Includes many of the traditional movements and exercises presented at the world-renowned Spanish Riding School of Vienna. Tickets $22.50 and up. Lipizzaner.com.

23-28

Just Between Friends Consignment Sale at the State Fairgrounds, 10am-7pm. $2 admission. JBFSale.com.

24-29

Sugar & Spice Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Consignment Sale at the Heart of Oklahoma Exposition Center. 275-2945, dana@sugarandspiceconsignment.com.

25 â&#x20AC;˘ Wednesday

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26 â&#x20AC;˘ Thursday

Taste of Yukon at the Robertson Activity Center, 5:307:30pm. Features local and area restaurants and food vendors. 350-8937, CI.Yukon.OK.US. Dirty Rotten Scoundrels at the Rose State Performing Arts Center, 7:30pm. Tickets $49.50 and up. 733-7673.

26-28

Sooner Theatre 2009 Summer Production Camp

Auditions, 4-7pm. Performers ages 8-18 should prepare 16-32 bars of a standard Broadway song. Please bring sheet music. An accompanist will be provided. Auditions must be scheduled in advance by calling 321-9600. SoonerTheatre.org.

27 â&#x20AC;˘ Friday

Family Night Out: Wild in the Garden at the Sam Noble OK Museum of Natural History, 6-8:30pm. Enjoy dinner and complete a project to take home. $10 members, $12 non-members. Space is limited; preregistration is required.

27-28

FUBAR: The Musical Part 4 at the Pegasus Theater, (UCO Liberal Arts Building) 7:30pm. Live musicians accompany the performers in this celebration of life. 974-3375, camd.uco.edu.

27-29

Ballet Oklahoma presents The Wizard of Oz at the Civic Center Music Hall, 8pm. Tickets $26 and up.

28 â&#x20AC;˘ Saturday

Arbor Day Celebration at the Festival Market Place in Edmond, 1-4pm. Edmond tree professionals conduct tree planting demonstrations and give out free trees and t-shirts. Also includes demonstrations and booths from various organizations and kidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; activities. Free. 3594469, EdmondOK.com. Kids Fair USA at the State Fairgrounds features familyfriendly fun, activities and information. Admission $5, under 2 free; 10am-5pm. 528-3548, KidsFairUSA.com. Guthrie Art Walk in Downtown Guthrie, 2-8pm. Focuses on individual artists who are the guests of participating galleries and businesses. New works by the

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Basics of Printmaking at the OKC Museum of Art, 2-4pm. Learn basic printmaking techniques. For ages 10-13. $10 members, $15 nonmembers. Registration required.

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2009 NCAA Division 1 Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Basketball Regional at the Ford Center, 6:30pm. Tickets $36 and up. Also held 3/31. 602-8700, OKFordCenter.com. Family Day at the Fred Jones Jr. Museum of Art, 1-4pm. Explore American art in permanent collection and temporary exhibitions, then enjoy a variety of art activities for the entire family. Free.

31 â&#x20AC;˘ Tuesday

Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Story Time at the Shawnee Library, 1010:30am. Books, music, stories and games for children older than two years. 275-6353. The Whole Green World at Belle Isle Library, 10-11am. Hear a story about the runaway garden and have a snack and activity. For pre-kindergarten. Pre-register. The 8th Annual Respect Diversity Symbol Exhibit opening reception at Science Museum Oklahoma, 5pm. Includes program, desserts, and exhibit. 359-0369, RespectDiversity.org.

April 3-5

Sugar & Spice Consignment Sale, 2240 N Broadway, Moore (off I-35 behind the Home Creations Building). SugarandSpiceConsignment.com.

April 4 â&#x20AC;˘ Saturday

The Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Hospitalâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Baby & Toddler Expo 2009 at the Cox Convention Center features vendors, contests and resources. Free; 9:30am-5pm.

April 4-5

The Tulsa Balletâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s production of Cinderella is held at the Rose State Performing Arts Center. Saturday 7pm, Sunday 2pm. Tickets, $15 and up, available at 808-1470, TulsaBallet.org. The 27th Annual RedBud Classic includes 5k & 10k runs, 10-, 33-, and 52-mile bike tours, childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s fitness run, 2-mile fun run/walk, 2-mile baby stroller derby, 5k wheelchair event, and pasta on the pond. Proceeds benefit the Boys Town Ranch. 842-8295, RedBud.org.

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There are as many support groups in the Metro as there are needs for them. To include your group in our listing, please email details to Calendar@MetroFamilyMagazine.com.

Childbirth & Babies

DACO (Doula Association of Central OK), 455-1500, DACOinc.org. La Leche League meets at Gymboree Play & Music in Norman the second Saturday of each month, 10am-noon. Family Gym is available at $5 per family for partners and children of meeting attendees. La Leche League breastfeeding information and support. Meetings in Moore and NW OKC. Visit the calendar at MetroFamilyMagazine.com for dates, times, and contact info. lllusa.org.

Counseling & Support

(825 NE10th), Suite 3500, third Thursday, noon-1pm. Lunch provided; register 271-8001, ext 48592, or 2718001 ext. 48527. Amputees’ Next Step support group, second Tuesday 1-3pm. O’Donoghue Rehabilitation Institute (1122 NE 13th, room 252). OUPhysicians.com. Parents of Children with Cancer support group, second Wednesday at noon (complimentary lunch). Children’s Hospital (930 NE 13th). 943-8888. Parents Helping Parents confidential meetings for parents of children who abuse drugs. First and third Tuesdays. Oklahoma Blood Institute in Edmond, 6428198, ParentsHelpingParents.info.

Divorce Recovery Group, Wednesdays at 7pm, Quail Springs Church of Christ (14401 N May), room 308. 755-4790.

Leukemia & Lymphoma Society-sponsored Family Support Group. First Thursday, 6pm, Integris Baptist Medical Center. 943-8888.

Free drug and alcohol addiction classes offered by A Chance to Change Foundation at the Last Frontier Council Scout Service Center (3031 NW 64th), 6:308pm Mondays. 840-9000, AChanceToChange.org.

Myeloma Support Group. Third Thursday, 6pm, 7th floor Conference room, Presbyterian Tower, OU Medical Center, 271-6557.

Grief Support Group, Wednesdays at 7pm, Quail Springs Church of Christ (14401 N May), room 110. 755-4790. H.O.P.E. Gynecologic Cancer Support at the OU Physicians Building, (5th floor) the first Saturday of each month at 10am. 271-8001 ext 48165, 672-1748. Mondays Friends Breast Cancer Support Group second Monday, 7pm. Midwest Regional Breast Care Center. 610-8872, jean.pitzer@mrmc.hma-corp.com. Birth Parent support group, first Monday, 6-7:30pm. Deaconess Pregnancy & Adoption Services (5300 N Meridian). 949-4200 ext 13. United Methodist Church of the Servant (14343 N MacArthur), holds Discoveries Program classes for adults. Call Gayle 720-8480 for full listing. Crossings Community Church (14600 N Portland) holds a variety of Care Series classes and support groups. 755-2227 or CrossingsOKC.org. Pancreatic Cancer support group, last Thursday, 6pm. O’Donoghue Research Building (1122 NE 13th Street), 3rd Floor Surgery Research Conference Room. 2712108 or ouhsc.edu/surgery/pancan. Breast Cancer Survivor support group, second Thursday, 6:30pm. Young Survival Coalition (for women under 40), third Wednesday, noon. Breast Imaging of OK (2601 Kelley Pointe Pkwy, Edmond). 844-2601 ext 1031. Breast Cancer awareness group for survivors and women who want to learn more. First Monday, 7pm. Eastside Church of Christ (916 S Douglas), 732-0393. Breast Cancer support group at the OU Breast Institute

Leukemia & Lymphoma Society-sponsored SpanishSpeaking Group. First Tuesday, 6pm at Integris Southwest Medical Center, 636-7560; and first Wednesday, 5pm at the 7th floor Conference room, Presbyterian Tower, OU Medical Center, 271-7930. Family Support Group for leukemia, lymphoma, and myeloma survivors and caregivers, second Tuesday, 6pm. Mercy Cancer Center, 943-8888.

Health

Women’s Yoga Center offers women’s, prenatal, kids and mommy & baby yoga classes. 607-6699, WomensYogaCenter.com. Daily Yoga Classes (adult, teen, prenatal, meditation, and senior) for beginning and advanced students. $12 and up. 203-8927, 3rdStreetYogaStudio.com. Prenatal & Postnatal Yoga. $8-$15 per class. 474-3302 or MamasteYoga.com for locations and times.

Parenting Groups

Mom’s Got Connections Christian group for moms with young children (birth-5yrs). Chapel Hill United Methodist Church, OKC, 9:30-11am Tuesdays. Nadinebryant@ sbcglobal.net or 359-9251.

Special Needs

Parents Fighting Autism third Monday of the month, 7pm. Olive Garden in Norman. Free. Location subject to change, contact ParentsFightingAutism@gmail.com. OKC Area Stuttering Support Group for adults. Third Tuesday, 6:30-7:30pm. First United Methodist Church, 303 E Hurd, Edmond. okcssg@yahoo.com. Grandparents Raising Grandchildren support group for grandparents and other relatives raising children. First and third Tuesday, 6pm, Trinity Church of the Nazarene. 634-4400 ext. 140. CHADD ADD/ADHD support meeting, second Tuesday at 7pm. Deaconess Medical Offices North. 722-1ADD, 419-4176, or CHADD.org. The free Talking Hands sign language class meets Thursdays, 6:30-7:30pm, 300 N Air Depot, Midwest City. Talkinghands@rocketmail.com. Hope Link meetings for parents of special-needs children or children with undiagnosed disorders. Integris Baptist Medical Center, first Thursday, 6pm. 271-5072, OKCHopeLink.org.

3 • Tuesday

Stuttering and Self-Esteem Workshop at the Warr Acres Public Library, 3:30-5pm. Free. Registration required. 425-4412.

10 • Tuesday

Tools for Effective Parenting at the Edmond Public Library, 6-7:30pm. Registration required. 425 4412.

11 • Wednesday

Prenatal Yoga hosted by Mamaste yoga and DACO, 6pm. Babies R Us, 1731 Belle Isle Boulevard, 840-2829.

24 • Tuesday

Pump & Go Breastfeeding information workshop at Babies R Us, 6:30pm. Clean & Bright daily care workshop, 7:30pm. 1731 Belle Isle Boulevard. 840-2829.

30 • Monday

Baby Sign Language Workshop at the Midwest City Library, 2:30-3:30pm. For parents of children 9-22 months. Registration required. 425-4412.

MOMS Club (Moms Offering Moms Support) activity groups meet in Edmond, OKC, Moore, Midwest/Del City, and Norman. MOMSClub.org. MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) support groups meet in Choctaw, Norman, Edmond, and OKC. Visit our online calendar for dates, times, and contact info. Edmond’s Mothers of Multiples, second Thursday at Edmond Hospital, 7pm. 285-5208 and 315-0338, EdmondMoms.com. March 2009

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