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Are You Mom Enough? How Dare You! by Michael F. Mascolo, PhD Have you seen the cover of the May issue of Time magazine? Of course you have. How could you avoid it? It displays a tall, attractive mother breastfeeding her 3 year old child. The child is standing on a chair so that he rises to the level of his mother’s breast. The bold caption reads, “Are you mom enough?” The article to which this cover refers addresses the theme of “attachment parenting” – the idea that “mothers and babies evolved to be close to each other” (May 2012 Time, pg. 32). I’m not a fan of this cover, but not necessarily for reasons you might think. I am not offended by long-term breastfeeding, co-sleeping, co-bathing or anything like that. I am offended by the ways in which the editors of Time

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chose to frame the issue. Instead of attempting to foster intelligent discussion about the benefits and challenges of different modes of mothering (fathering or caregiving), the cover foments a kind of competition about what it means to be a model mother. In framing the issue in this way, the cover deftly defines motherhood along a single, uncomplicated dimension with “attachment mothering” on one pole and other forms of parenting on the other pole. The implication, of course, is that the “mom enough” mom is the one who practices attachment parenting. The rest don’t measure up. The caption – “Are you mom enough?” – is an intentionally provocative question. It is not a neutral description about the relative

benefits of one form of parenting. It is not even an attempt to make the case for the value of one form of parenting among others. Instead, in the words of Stephanie Knaak1 (writing about current discussions of breastfeeding versus bottle feeding), it "is an ideologically infused, moral discourse about what it means to be a good mother" (p. 345). It exploits an already existing cultural belief and takes it to an extreme. If mothers are in the business of nurturing their children, then the mother of all mothers – the uber-mom – is willing to do anything for the sake of nurturing her child. Nurturing involves being close. The closer a mother is to her child, the better she is as a mother. The simple fact is that there are many ways to be a good mother, father or

caregiver. Articles like the one in Time do a disservice to parents who are already bombarded with conflicting moral messages about what it means to be a proper parent. The message is clear: If you are not practicing attachment parenting, you are not good enough. And that’s simply not the case. Of course, there’s more. Should we be offended by an image of a breastfeeding mother depicted on a magazine cover? In my view, absolutely not. Should we be offended by a magazine depicting an image of a mother breastfeeding a 3 year old? Again, in my view, for reasons that will become clear upon examination of the contents of this issue, this should not offend us. However, the Time cover image is different. The image has a quasisexualized dimension that flies just Continued on page 15

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There is No Such Thing as a Parenting Expert “Finally one night, out of sheer exhaustion, my wife, Martha, brought Hayden into our bed. From that night on we all slept better. We slept so happily together that we did it for four years, until the next baby was born!” – (Ask Dr. Sears1) “Though some babies are capable of sleeping through the night as early as 6 weeks old, for many it won’t happen until age 4 to 6 months. By then most babies should be learning to fall asleep on their own in their own crib, without being rocked, nursed, or otherwise coddled into slumber.” – (Kaiser Permanente2) There is no such thing as an expert. There are only people with various degrees of expertise. What’s the proof of this statement? Well, there are many forms of proof. First, experts disagree. One expert says that you should never sleep in the same bed as your child; the other expert says that co-sleeping promotes emotional closeness.

Second, that which is taken to be expert advice changes over time. In the 1970’s and 1980’s, it was common to hear experts state that self-esteem was the most important thing that one could cultivate in children. Many experts instructed parents to praise their children’s efforts and to withhold comments that children might experience as “negative” or

“critical”. Many feared that critical feedback or too much direction could damage a child’s self-esteem. Today, expert opinion is shifting. Experts now suggest that too much praise can foster a sense of entitlement in children. Too little direction runs the risk of incompetence.

psychologist is an expert in understanding why people do what they do. We often think of the knowledge that an expert has as “scientific”, “dispassionate” or “objective”. By virtue of the expert’s superior knowledge, he or she is in the position to dole out advice.

Most important, like all people, experts have values. Expert advice is rarely “neutral” or uninfluenced by the expert’s personal and cultural values.

If we accept this line of reasoning, we immediately run into a problem. When we give advice, we are saying, “this is the best thing to do” or “it is better to do this than to do that”. However, the moment we say that one thing is better than or preferable to something else, we are making a value judgment. Without even being aware of it, we have moved from what we take to be “scientific knowledge” to “moral judgment”.

We often think of an expert as someone who is in possession of a clearly established or “objective” body of knowledge in some area. A mechanic is an expert in fixing automobiles. A pediatrician is an expert in children’s medicine. A

to them in bed, who wish to breastfeed through the night and so forth, may decide that they value cosleeping with their children. How Values Shape Our Judgments

Knowledge and values are not the same. Scientific knowledge, for example, tells us “what is”. It does not and cannot tell us “what we should do”. These are two quite different issues. A psychologist may have access to scientific knowledge about the effects of different ways of organizing a child’s sleep schedule on his or her capacity to sleep through the night. She might be able to say, for example, “Children who are allowed to cry themselves to sleep tend to be able to put themselves to sleep and to sleep through the night more quickly than children who share a bed with their parents.” However, while parents may use this finding (which is true) to inform their decision about their child’s sleeping arrangements, the scientific knowledge implies nothing about whether or not it is better to allow children to “cry themselves to sleep”, to co-sleep with children, to rock a child to sleep or to choose some other form of sleep arrangement. Given appropriate information, parents can make choices about what they value most. Parents who value their privacy in the bedroom, who want their children to be able to sleep through the night earlier rather than later in development or who value independence and self-soothing in their children might decide that “letting a child cry themselves to sleep” is the best choice for them. Parents who value emotional closeness, who do not mind waking up during the night with a child next

Experts, like anyone else, have personal and cultural values. Experts, like anyone else, filter their judgments through their personal and cultural values. And further, experts, like everyone else, are often unaware of how their personal and cultural values shape the judgments that they make. This is not surprising. Does a fish know that it’s in water? How could it? Being in the water is the only environment that a fish ever experiences. It’s not until the fish is taken out of the water that the fish has any sense (if it makes sense to speak of fishy experiences at all) that there is a difference between being in water and being out of water. The same is true of ordinary people and experts. We ordinarily are not aware of what our values are (or even that we have them) until they are challenged by our experiences with different others. A Catholic child may grow up believing that everyone is Catholic, and is surprised to find that there are Jews, Hindus and Muslims in the world. A child with an authoritarian father visits a friend to find that not all fathers endorse authoritarian values. A Western mental health professional is surprised to learn co-sleeping, co-bathing and long-term breastfeeding are actually the norms in many cultures. Such beliefs challenge established orthodoxy. So, What’s a Parent to Do? Those who we call “experts” are simply persons who have developed depth of knowledge and skill in some area. Their knowledge and skills are Continued on page 6

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Parenting Choices “must”, “better”, “best”, “good”, “bad” and so forth. If someone makes a factual claim, read and check the facts. If someone offers an opinion, seek to clarify the nature of the value judgment behind the opinion.

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valuable. However, knowledge and wisdom are not the same. It’s what we do with knowledge available to us that matters. And so, here is some advice from someone with some expertise, but from someone who does not care to count himself as an “expert”. 1. When it comes to any parenting issue, learn as much as you can. Read widely. Talk to many people. Talk to experts, friends and grandmothers. Especially grandmothers. Then talk some more. 2. Differentiate “factual” claims from “belief ”, “opinion” and “values”. Factual claims simply describe what is. Value judgments will contain words like “should”,

3. Articulate your own values. Compare them to what others say. Examine how your values influence the decisions you make. Examine how the values of others influence their decisions. Be open to changing your values if it seems appropriate – but only if you are truly convinced that your values need updating. 4. Question the basis of all advice – including the basis of the advice offered here. 1

From www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/ co-sleeping-yes-no-sometimes 2 From www.permanente.net/homepage/kaiser/pdf/4963.pdf)

A Critique of “Attachment Parenting” Attachment parenting is based on the idea that optimal child development occurs when parents form close emotional connections with their children. Attachment Parenting International (API), an organization dedicated to promoting attachment parenting, describes the principles of attachment parenting on their website (www.attachmentparenting.org). This article contains a description of the eight principles of attachment parenting as elaborated on the API website. It also contains a critical analysis of the extent to which the principles and practices of attachment parenting are supported by classic and contemporary research in developmental psychology. A large and growing body of research conducted by developmental psychologists supports some of the central claims of attachment parenting. These include the idea that the development of a secure and emotionally close relationship to caregivers is important to the healthy development of children. However, while advocates of attachment parenting can claim scientific support for some aspects of attachment parenting, their use of the available research is selective. Advocates of attachment parenting tend to ignore a complementary and equally compelling body of research that also establishes the importance of parental

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Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting API encourages caregivers to learn as much as possible about pregnancy, childbirth, parenting, and diverse parenting philosophies. Parents are encouraged to become familiar with stages of child development so that parents can set realistic expectations and attainable goals for children. They encourage caregivers to anticipate not only positive emotional experiences, but also to explore the negative emotions that arise during pregnancy and childbirth. Parents are encouraged to stay active and fit and to seek assistance with childbirth and early parenting, perhaps with a birth doula. A doula is a professional who is trained to provide emotional support for a woman either during or after childbirth, and who facilitates or mediates communication between the woman and other health care professionals. Pros. Few would argue against the suggestion that impending parents seek to learn about and prepare for pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. Pregnancy can be very stressful; exercise, diet and emotional support – from both family and trained professionals – can be very helpful to a pregnant woman and her family. Cons. Learning about the stages of child development in order to set realistic expectations for infants and children is an important goal. However, one might then ask, at any given stage of development, just what constitutes a “realistic” expectation? Some theories of development suggest the importance of involving children in structured tasks in order to orient them to higher levels of behavior and emotional control; others suggest that it is more preferable to “follow the child’s lead”. The general thrust of API’s approach appears to be one in which the parent accommodates to the child rather than vice-versa.

Feed with Love and Respect Feeding is understood not only as the provision of nutrition but also as an act of love. Based on the notion that infant rooting, sucking and crying are inborn signals of physical and emotional need, API advocates feeding on demand and avoiding feeding schedules. Breastfeeding is advocated over bottle feeding to provide optimal nutrition and to facilitate mother-child attachment. Pros. Research strongly suggests that the nutritional benefits of breastfeeding exceed those of bottle feeding. Long term breast feeding is the rule rather than the exception in many non-Western cultures.Theory and research in child development support the idea that infant emotional behaviors act as signals of physical and emotional need, and that sensitive attention to an infant’s signal is crucial for healthy development. Cons. The fact that breastfeeding is nutritionally superior than bottle feeding does not mean that breastfeeding is optimal for all parents of all children. Some studies suggest that breastfeeding in infancy is associated with higher levels of cognitive functioning later in development. However, more recent research that uses more sophisticated methods suggests that Continued on page 8

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is only the case for premature infants or low birth weight infants. Research does not support the idea that breastfed babies form stronger bonds or attachments with their caregivers than bottle fed babies.

Respond with Sensitivity Infants and young children express their emotional needs through subtle and not-so-subtle facial acts, vocalizations and other emotional responses. Secure attachment develops when parents respond sensitively to children’s emotional needs. Parents can nurture attachment and empathy by learning the meaning of their children’s emotional cues and ensuring that needs are met in a comforting fashion. Pros. Research unambiguously supports the claim that secure attachment develops in response to emotionally-sensitive caregiving. Cons. There is a distinction to be made between emotionally sensitive caregiving and indulgent caregiving. The API website includes suggestions that parents structure activities around the child’s natural biological rhythms; prolonged crying can produce harmful chemical imbalances in the brain; parents should respond to tantrums primarily by calming a child. These conclusions suggest a bias toward the idea that placing demands on children is inherently stressful. Research suggests that children are much more resilient than advocates of attachment parenting seem to suggest.

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Use Nurturing Touch Drawing upon the idea that skin-to-skin contact is important for stimulating physical, intellectual and emotional growth, API recommends high levels of physical contact. Such contact is facilitated through breastfeeding, massage, close carrying (rather than using carrying devices), physical affection, wrestling, tickling and so forth. Pros. Research clearly supports the claim that physical contact and skinto-skin touch are important for a child’s physical and emotional development. Physical touch is an essential contributor to the development of emotionally close parent-child relationships. Cons. Attachment theory was originally developed by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1960’s. Bowlby suggested many behaviors that infants and young children produce serve an evolutionary function – namely, to keep the child near the parent so the parent could protect and nurture the child. Research shows that crying, smiling, whimpering, looking afraid and related behaviors do, in fact, bring parents and children physically closer. However, it is one thing to say that children naturally signal caregivers when they need care and protection; it is quite another thing to say that children are born with a desire for physical contact that is so intense that they require long and sustained periods of physical contact. This latter claim is simply not supported by research.

Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally API maintains that infants have emotional needs at night just as they do during the day. These include dealing with hunger, loneliness, fear and heat regulation. Co-sleeping and bed sharing are recommended to allow parents to meet children’s emotional needs through the night.

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Provide Consistent and Loving Care Advocates of attachment parenting suggest that infants and young children experience an intense need for physical and emotional closeness to their caregivers. They recommend that one parent act as a full time caregiver, or that parents should recruit a third person with whom children can establish a secure attachment. They further recommend building family schedules around children (rather than vice-versa), avoiding separation between parent and child (e.g., bringing a child along on “date night”) and avoiding the use of shame, fear or intimidation.

Pros. A caregiver who has the desire and luxury to act as a full time parent has more time to nurture a close and loving relationship with his or her child. Cons. The idea that parents and children should spend long periods of time in close physical contact is contradicted by attachment theory itself. According to John Bowlby and Mary Ainworth, a secure attachment relationship is one that establishes the caregiver as a secure base from which to explore the world. The secure attachment relationship strikes a balance between connection and separation; between emotional closeness and secure and confident exploration. A secure child develops the confidence to branch out and explore the world (be separate) because he knows that his caregiver will be there for him if things go wrong. Attachment is not simply about physical or emotional closeness – it’s also about preparing a child for independence and confident exploration. Research also suggests that, within limits, children are no less securely attached to working parents than they are to nonworking parents. Research suggests that quality daycare and preschool involvement does not have detrimental impact on children’s development.

Practice Positive Discipline Positive discipline is based on the principle that “parents should treat their children the way they would want to be treated”. Positive discipline is achieved through the establishment of the close attachment relationship itself. Continued on page 14

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Parents are advised to avoid harsh, controlling or manipulative discipline – techniques that invoke fear; parents are encouraged to create a “yes” environment; offer choices; work out solutions jointly with respect and empathy; to refrain from asserting parental power; and to use natural and logical consequences. Pros. Children develop through relationships. Perhaps the primary way that parents influence their children is by establishing a stable emotional relationship with their children. A child who is able to trust that his caregiver is available and emotionally supportive will be a child who is more likely to use the parent as a source of reliable guidance. In the long run, the use of any particular discipline technique “works” because of the meaning that it takes on within the relationship between the child and the parent. A stranger cannot discipline a child the way a parent can because no relationship exists that supports the discipline strategy. Cons. Attachment parenting is organized around the “positive” rather than the “negative”. Who could argue with that? We all want to be positive. However, the idea that we should work to promote the positive (e.g., create a “yes” environment”) is based on a false premise, namely that infants and children are fragile and that “negative” encounters can therefore cause emotional damage to a child. However, humans, like other organisms, develop by adapting to environmental demands. Hundreds of studies on parenting and child development show that children profit from both high expectations

Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life Attachment parenting focuses on meeting emotional needs. Extending this notion to the family, API advocates developing systems of family interaction that, as much as possible, acknowledge respect and balance the multiple needs of all family members. Self-care is important in order to create such a balance and to avoid parent “burn-out”. Pros. Balance both between and within family members is essential. Parents quickly get “burned out” if they do not find ways to coordinate their needs with those of their children, spouses and others. Similarly, healthy child development demands that children acquire the capacity to coordinate their needs with those of others. Cons. While essential, the need to strike personal and family balance seems at odds with other API principles. Attachment parenting is extremely child-centered. It is difficult to understand how bringing an infant or young child along on “date night”, how prolonged periods of skin-to-skin contact or how adjusting schedules to a child’s biological rhythms strikes a balance between the needs of the parent and the needs of the child.

Assessing the Value(s) of Attachment Parenting Does attachment parenting have value? As is the case with any complex issue, it depends. Attachment parenting is not so much a scientifically ground system as it is an ideology or system of values. Attachment parenting seems organized around the values of nurturance, child-centered communication, emotional closeness and interdependence. This is not to say that there is not scientific support for many of the practices of “attachment parenting”. There is. However, advocates of attachment parenting tend to select and perhaps stretch the available evidence to conform to their values. If advocates wish to promote attachment parenting, they will have to do so by appealing to the merits of their values rather than through strong appeals to scientific evidence.

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School will soon be out – so please drive even more slowly so we can all help to keep our children safe. Remind your children (and remember yourself!) to be smart and play safely while having fun – and we can all enjoy the magical months of summer.

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This issue that you are reading is our Summer issue – and it covers two months – June and July. We will not have a separate issue in July. Our next issue will be our August issue, which closes for advertising space reservations on Wed., July 18, if you require our ad production assistance (or by noon, Fri., July 20, if you will be submitting a completed ad that does NOT require our assistance by Tues., July 24) . Don’t miss our contest this month! You could win a pair of tickets to see Cirque du Soleil’s Totem in Boston! See page 21; it’s easy to enter online – and win great

Whether you or your children are at the beach, the park, at camp or on the field – remember to be kind, fair and sportsmanlike and to treat others the way that you like to be treated. Be a good friend – and choose kindness whenever you can. Happy 51st Anniversary, Mom & Dad! I’d like to take this opportunity to wish my parents, Sally & Joe, a very Happy 51st Anniversary on June 4! Happy 50th Birthday to Miss Wendy on June 12, to my cousin, Judi, on July 1 and to me on July 10! Fifty is nifty – so cheers to all of us who are celebrating the BIG ONE this summer!

North Shore Children & Families As always, thanks so much for spending some time with us again – and Happy Father’s Day, Dad! I hope you enjoy your Summer! Until August – Suzanne

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under the radar. The sexual suggestion is subtle enough to allow the editors to proclaim their innocence in seeming to portray anything other than innocence in their cover photo. In this way, the cover exploits yet another cultural controversy – namely the circumstances under which the female breast should be regarded a natural expression of motherhood or as an object of sexual desire. Another issue raised by the Time piece has to do not so much with mothering, but with the nature and quality of what passes for news in contemporary society. Remember, Time views itself as a news magazine. It is both desirable and appropriate for a

news magazine to provide analysis of issues in the news. It is appropriate for news magazines to examine provocative issues that are in the public interest. However, when the media frame issues in intentionally provocative ways, they cross the line – now all but non-existent – between analyzing the news and making themselves part of the news. Sadly, this trend is ubiquitous and unsurprising. (Witness Newsweek’s unforgivable cover depicting Obama as “The First Gay President”.) After all, magazines like Time are in the business of selling magazines. While titillation may be good for business, it is inconsistent with the mission of the news media. In a time when the market for print media is diminishing, we can readily expect the line between news and entertainment to continue to be trampled upon until it is lost from sight altogether. The antidote? Eternal vigilance. 1Knaak, S. (2010).

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My Battle with King Video by Justin Travers Video is King. So is the computer, the iPodtouch, the TV and the cellphone. Movies and TV and video, oh my! I fear that it is a form of pollution. It is deteriorating Zack’s brain. But wait – I really do mean it. I mean, I know that any single TV show isn’t such a big deal. I know that one videogame is not going to kill my kid. But if I let Zack have all the video he wanted, that’s all he would do. And so, I’ve decided to do something about it. This is very hard. There are a thousand problems that come up when I attempt to limit Zack’s video time. Let’s say that I say: “Okay, only 1 hour of video time per day.” (Gee, I feel like a permissive sap just saying

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that!) Let’s see what happens: So, he gets on the computer and doesn’t get off after an hour. I say, “Put a sticky note” on your computer to tell when you are done. He forgets the note. Or when he puts one up, why do I feel that the starting time isn’t quite right?

So how did it work? Zack starts out reading. Great! He reads for an hour. And then on the computer. Then he’s off after an hour. “How about you start your homework project?” Zack complies. He spends an hour on his homework. Then back on the computer. Off again after an hour.

He’s done with his hour. He’s done with his homework. He goes to his friend’s house to play. What do they play? You guessed it. And for how long? Different day. He’s done with his one hour. Then I see him on the computer again later in the day. Why are you on the computer? “I’m just syncing my iPod”, “I’m just checking my email”, “I’m just...”, “I’m just…” Well, I’M just ready to toss the computer out of the window!

More homework.

Okay – so this isn’t working. What do I do? I know! I’ll have him earn his computer time! For every hour of constructive work you do – I don’t care what it is, as long as it involves something that will build skills in some way – you’ll get a full hour of computer. How about that? Then we both win. Oh, he was so into that idea. And I was ready to trade all that computer time for all that creative work.

I did it! This is working so well! Oh how clever I am. Yes, he’s on that computer for longer than I want. But he’s doing more homework than he has ever done before! “Zack, let me take a look at your homework before you turn it in tomorrow.” Zack shows me his work. I look at it. I read his “essay”. I look at the drawings that accompany the essay. “Oh my God,” I think to myself. “This is the

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most pathetic pile of poop that I’ve ever experienced”, I continued to think to myself. Except I didn’t think “pathetic pile of poop”. It was more like a “shabby shower…” Okay. So I’m not so clever after all. It became clear that Zack was simply going through the motions of doing “constructive” work. It became very clear that Zack is so obsessed with his computer games and Youtube and email and movies and… Ack! He’s not even old enough to get onto Facebook! He’s so obsessed with this stuff that nothing else matters. I thought about what happened last winter. I carved out an igloo of sorts in the big pile of snow that we made from shoveling and reshoveling and reshoveling the driveway. (Zack helped. Under threat of life in an undisclosed prison.) I showed Zack and his friend Peter the igloo. They thought it was cool. Really cool. And they actually played in it. They played in it for minutes at a time! Well, only one time. For a minute. And then they went inside to seek out some screen. When I was a kid, I remember I would spend hours… Oh, never mind… I know what you’re thinking. You’re saying, “Justin, just stop. You can’t win this battle. You can’t kill King Video. This is here to stay. You are just going to have to accept it.” Well, no, Dr. Strangelove, I am not going to learn to love the bomb. There’s something wrong going on here, and I can’t be a part of it. I’m not willing to suffer the slings and arrows; instead, I’m going to take arms against what seems to be

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troubles, and by opposing, end them. What’s that you say? Hamlet dies in the end? I’m putting fingers in my ears and I’m humming. I CAN’T HEAR YOU! And so, that’s it. No computer time beyond homework during the week.

None. Zippo, Zack. “Oh, how about 30 minutes per day?” Nope. Nothing. Two hours per day on weekends only. That’s it. I’ll keep you up to date.

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adm., 10:30am. Fun, interactive program with books, movement, music, art & hands-on activities.Visit www.pem.org/calendar for specific dates. Lunch ‘n Read, Wednesdays at noon, July18-Aug. 8, outside at Amesbury Public Library (inside if raining). For all ages; bring your lunch & enjoy stories. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place FRIDAYS: Mother Goose on the Loose, Fridays at 9:45am, June 29-Aug. 10, at Amesbury Public Library. For ages 0-23 months with caregiver; space is limited. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place Stargazing at the Gilliland Observatory, free, every Friday 8:30-10pm, weather permitting; at Museum of Science, Boston. Call 617.589.0267 – updated every Fri. at 5:30pm, with info. about that night’s observing session. www.mos.org SATURDAYS: Bring your bottles & cans to Stone Zoo, Stoneham! 10am2:30pm, parking lot. Help the environment and a worthy cause – held the 2nd Saturday of each month through October. All proceeds benefit conservation efforts supported by Zoo New England. www.stonezoo.org

be on leash or in a carrier for safety for all. Teddy Bear Check-Up Day at Stone Zoo, Stoneham, 10am-3pm. For tix & info.: www.stonezoo.org

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Remembering Brannydoon (Brandon).

Egg Day, First US Spacewalk in 1965, Repeat Day Open House & Summer Program Registration, 10am2pm, at Little Harbor Boathouse, 40 Doaks Lane, Marblehead; kayak, row, standup paddle – sales, rentals, instruction for all ages. Group rates available for K-12 camps; birthday parties. Free parking. See ad on page 2 and visit www.rowingforall.com.

Full Moon, Hug Your Cat Day JUNE 5:

Remembering & missing my dear friend & neighbor, Estelle. Blessing of the Pets, 10am, free at Carey Park, 111 River Rd., Merrimac; hosted by the Merrimacport United Methodist Church. In case of rain, event will be held at the church (one block up from the park). Pets should

JUNE 12:

Ball Point Pen Day, Iced Tea Day, Race Unity Day

Red Rose Day, Magic Day

Start of Summer Enrichment Classes at St. John’s Prep, 72 Spring St., Danvers; classes are $60 & up. For students in grades 6-12; late

Rockport Music presents: the Composer-Performer-Repertory Ensemble, 7pm, free performance & discussion for all ages/no RSVP required. At Shalin Liu Performance Center, 37 Main St., Rockport. www.rockportmusic.org

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JUNE 6: National Gardening Exercise Day, National Yo-Yo Day JUNE 7: National Chocolate Ice Cream Day

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Open houses at Plumfield Academy, 123 Dayton St., Danvers; 10:30am-noon AND 5:30-7:30pm; for parents with children ages 5-10 years. www.plumfieldacademy.org Happy 50th Birthday to Miss Wendy!

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Used Book Sale, June 8, 1-4pm and June 9, 9am-1pm; free for all ages at Cape Ann Waldorf School, Moraine Farm, Rte. 97, Beverly. Buy used books, CDs, DVDs, games, puzzles & more! www.capeannwaldorf.org

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JUNE 8, 9 & 10: Anything Goes, musical production by Sparhawk Spotlights, at The Sparhawk Theatre & Centre for the Arts, 196 Main St., Amesbury. Performances at 7:30pm on 6/8 & 9 and at 2pm on 6/10. Tickets are $10/advance, $15 at door; group discounts available, credit cards accepted. www.sparhawkschool.com/theatre.htm For groups & to purchase tickets,

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JUNE 10:

Happy 51st Anniversary, Mom & Dad!

Family Tours & Gallery Explorations at PEM, Salem, 11:30am-noon. Free w/museum adm.; www.pem.org.

Stand for Children Day, Dare Day, Flip a Coin Day

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Fresh Veggies Day, Nursing Assistants’ Day, National Hollerin’ Contest Day, World Jugglers’ Day

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Forgiveness Day, Beauticians’ Day

Go Skate Day

Little Scientists: Earth Exploration, at 10:30am at Amesbury Public Library. For ages 3-5 years with caregiver; registration is required. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place

Deadline to enter to win tickets to see Totem by Cirque du Soleil at Boston Marine Industrial Park on the Waterfront! To win tickets, see page 21! To buy tickets, see back cover!

Rockport Music presents: Parker Quartet Family Concert, 10am, free for all ages/no RSVP required. At Shalin Liu Performance Center, 37 Main St., Rockport. www.rockportmusic.org

Weed Your Garden Day JUNE 14:

Happy Father’s Day to All North Shore Fathers!

Flag Day

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Celebrate Father’s Day at the Zoo! Franklin Park Zoo (Boston) & Stone Zoo (Stoneham), 10am-6pm. For tix & info.: www.zoonewengland.org.

Registration deadline for St. John’s Prep Aspire Program; for 7th & 8th grade boys & girls $600/person. 2 week, all day program where students will experience life at a prep school in a program designed to strengthen academic skills, spark imaginations & develop interests; at St. John’s Prep, 72 Spring St., Danvers. For info. & to register, contact Sandra Martin at smartin@stjohnsprep.org.

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Go Fishing Day, National Splurge Day, International Picnic Day

National Columnists’ Day, National Pink Day,Take Your Dog to Work Day

Power of A Smile Day, Fly A Kite Day JUNE 15 & 16: The Children’s Theatre Workshop of Wilmington presents Narnia, 6/15 at 7pm; 6/16 at 2pm & 7pm. At Wilmington Middle School, 25 Carter Lane; tix $8 in advance & at door. www.ctwkids.org

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Cheer Up the Lonely Day, World Population Day

Summertime Story Hour for children ages 3-7 at Cape Ann Waldorf School, Moraine Farm, Rte. 97, Beverly; $5 drop-in fee/family. Offered Tues. mornings, 9:30am-10:30am in July. Children can explore our Kindergarten playground, enjoy a story or puppet show and experience one of our early childhood classrooms. No RSVP necessary; see ad on page 10. www.capeannwaldorf.org

Teddy Bear Picnic, noon, outside at Amesbury Public Library (inside if raining). For all ages; bring your favorite teddy & lunch! www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place JULY 13: Embrace Your Geekness Day, Fool’s Paradise Day Musician Charlie Hope, 6:30pm, outside at Amesbury Public Library. For all ages; bring a picnic. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place JULY 14: Pick Blueberries Day, Tape Measure Day

Joppa Flat presents Owls, 3pm, at Amesbury Public Library. For children in grades 1-6; registration required. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place

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22 North Shore Children & Families Community Calendar Continued from page 21

JULY 20:

AD DEADLINE: FINAL Advertising Space Reservation DEADLINE at NOON for ALL ADS in our AUGUST issue! To advertise, contact suzanne@northshorefamilies.com! If you need our ad production assistance, please confirm your ad size and submit your ad materials by July 18 at noon! You can see our regular display ad rates, sizes, available discounts & more at www.northshorefamilies.com. Ramadan begins. Moon Day, Ugly Truck Day, Chess Day JULY 20 & 21: The Children’s Theatre Workshop of Wilmington presents Bye, Bye Birdie, 7pm on 7/20; 2pm & 7pm on 7/21. At Wilmington Middle School, 25 Carter Lane; tix $8 in advance & at door. www.ctwkids.org JULY 22: Parents’ Day, Hammock Day, Summer Leisure Day JULY 23: National Hot Dog Day, Vanilla Ice Cream Day, Mosquito Day Museum of Science: One Sky, Many Stories, at 3pm or 3:50pm at Amesbury Town Hall Auditorium; for ages 7 & up; registration required. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place JULY 24: Community Calendar listings’ DEADLINE at NOON for our August issue! Please submit your listings for AUGUST events directly through our website (see beg. of this Calendar for details). Cousins’ Day, Amelia Earhart Day Summertime Story Hour for children ages 3-7 at Cape Ann Waldorf School, Moraine Farm, Rte. 97, Beverly; $5 drop-in

fee/family. Offered Tues. mornings, 9:30am-10:30am in July. Children can explore our Kindergarten playground, enjoy a story or puppet show and experience one of our early childhood classrooms. No RSVP necessary; see ad on page 10. www.capeannwaldorf.org JULY 25: Culinarians’ Day, Threading the Needle Day JULY 26: Aunt & Uncle Day, All or Nothing Day Stuffed Animal Sleepover at Amesbury Public Library; drop off your stuffed animal – then pick it up on 7/27 to see what fun they had! Sleepover is for stuffed animals only; all ages welcome. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place

Service Directory APARTMENT FOR RENT

ENTERTAINMENT

Just in Time for Summer! 2 bdrm. apartment available in Nahant – across from ocean! See ad on page 21!

North Shore Music Theatre Beverly 978.232.7200 www.nsmt.org See ad on page 7!

CHILDCARE

FUN & FITNESS

Miss Wendy’s Childcare Salem 978.745.6728 See ad on page 16!

The Little Gym Danvers and Woburn www.tlgdanversma.com www.tlgwoburnma.com

COACHING

Little Harbor Boathouse Kayak • Row • Standup Paddle Marblehead 781.990.3552 www.rowingforall.com

Coaching for Couples, Parents Life Coaching See ad on page 17!

JULY 27:

COLLEGE SAVINGS PLANS

Remembering Aunt Shirley on her birthday.

Clear View Wealth Advisors, LLC Several North Shore locations 978.388.0020 www.collegecashpro.com

Summer Olympics begin. Good luck, USA! JULY 30: Happy 27th Birthday to my Godson & Nephew, Ryan! Father-in-Law Day, National Cheesecake Day JULY 31:

DANCE INSTRUCTION Boston Ballet School/NS Studio Marblehead 781.456.6333 www.bostonballet.org/school

Mutts’ Day (Every dog has its day!)

EARLY EDUCATION

Little Sprouts Several North Shore locations 877.977.7688 www.littlesprouts.com

Dream Big Pajama Time, 6:30pm, at Amesbury Public Library; come in your PJs for stories, songs & a craft. Best for ages 2-5. www.amesburylibrary.org/kids-place

Next Generation Children’s Centers Locations include Andover & Beverly 866.711.NGCC www.ngccenters.com ENTERTAINMENT Cirque du Soleil presents Totem! Opens June 10 at Boston Marine Industrial Park on the Waterfront. See ad on back cover!

Roller World Skating Center Saugus 781.231.1111 www.roller-world.com GIFTS/SPECIAL OCCASIONS Personalized Poems & Prose by Suzanne Speeches, eulogies, gifts, verses for invitations, etc. See ad on page 17! HELP WANTED Seeking technical/online help! See ad on page 3! IT SERVICES/COMPUTER HELP Prime IT Solutions Serving the North Shore 978.666.4906 See ad on page 16! SCHOOLS Austin Preparatory School Reading 781.944.4900 www.austinprepschool.org Brookwood School Manchester 978.526.4500 www.brookwood.edu

SCHOOLS

Cape Ann Waldorf School Beverly 978.927.1936 www.capeannwaldorf.org

Waring School Beverly 978.927.8793 www.waringschool.org

Clark School Danvers 978.777.4699 www.clarkschool.com

SPECIAL EDUCATION

Covenant Christian Academy West Peabody 978.535.7100 www.covenantchristianacademy.org

See ad on page 14!

Glen Urquhart School Beverly Farms 978.927.1064 www.gus.org

JLC Advocacy Lynnfield 781.334.4363

SUMMER CAMPS & PROGRAMS The Art Center Hamilton 978.468.7006 www.the-artcenter.com

Harborlight-Stoneridge Montessori School Beverly 978.922.1008 www.harborlightmontessori.org

Boston Ballet School/NS Studio Marblehead 617.456.6333 www.bostonballet.org/school

Plumfield Academy Danvers 978.304.0273 www.plumfieldacademy.org

Brooks School - Summer North Andover 978.725.6253 http://summer.brooksschool.org

Saint Mary School Beverly 978.927.3259 www.smsbeverly.com

Brookwood - Summer Manchester 978.526.4500 www.brookwood.edu

Shore Country Day School Beverly 978.927.1700 www.shoreschool.org

Camp Birch Hill Lakes Region, NH 603.859.4525 www.campbirchhill.com

Sparhawk School Amesbury 978.388.5354 www.sparhawkschool.com Tara Montessori School Manchester 978.526.8487 www.taramontessori.com Tower School Marblehead 781.631.5800 www.towerschool.org

North Shore Children & Families

SUMMER CAMPS & PROGRAMS

Glen Urquhart School Beverly Farms 978.927.1064 ext. 131 www.gus.org

Summer’s Edge Tennis School at Salem State University & in Lexington 781.391.EDGE

Kelley Greens Jr. Golf Camp Nahant 781.581.0840 www.kelleygreens.com

Summer at Tower Marblehead 781.631.5800 www.towerschool.org/summer

Keys for Kids Serving the Amesbury & Newburyport Areas www.keys-for-kids.com

Summer Programs at North Shore Comm. College community.northshore.edu/sod

The Little Gym Danvers & Woburn www.tlgdanversma.com www.tlgwoburnma.com Little Harbor Boathouse Marblehead 781.990.3552 www.rowingforall.com Mathnasium North Beverly 978.922.2200 www.mathnasium.com Northeast School of Ballet Melrose 781.662.5843 www.northeastyouthballet.org

Summer Quest at Crane Ipswich 978.380.8360 www.thetrustees.org/summerquest Tara Montessori School Summer Camp Manchester • 978.526.8487 www.taramontessori.com Waring School Summer Programs Beverly • 978.927.8793 www.waringschool.org

To advertise, contact Suzanne today! suzanne@northshore families.com

C-A-M-P (Creative Arts, Music & Performance) in the Berkshires 505.946.0488 www.c-a-m-p.net

North Shore Children’s Theatre Salem • 781.248.9458 www.northshorechildrenstheatre.org Phoenix Summer Adventures Salem • 978.741.0870 www.phoenixschool.org

August issue ad space reservation deadline is July 18!

Camp Quinebarge White Mountains, NH 603.253.6029 www.campquinebarge.com

Shore Sports & Enrichment Camps Beverly • 978.927.1700 www.shoreschool.org/summershore

Cape Ann Waldorf Camp Beverly 978.927.8811 www.capeannwaldorf.org

St. John’s Prep Summer Programs Danvers • 978.774.1050 www.stjohnsprep.org/summer

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