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From Worrywort to Warrior
Help Your Children Conquer Their Fears
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Happy Back to School, Moms! I’m so happy to be back on a good schedule, you too?
When the kids are away, mommies should play! Time for us moms to get that mani-pedi we’ve needed all summer long, set that hair appointment that was put on hold, buy a few back-to-school gems for ourselves after the stress and small fortune that was spent on supplies (I bought a new pen, a pair of rockin’ jeans and a new lipstick on my credit card - yeah, no money left for me either!) and turn the iPod on in the car to bust a move to some 80s/90s tunes with the windows down. This morning’s tune for me was Blinded By the Light - that’s telling! My 10-year-old said, “Geesh, Mom, what in the world is this song? Do you have to play it so loud?!” Now, that made me laugh. Time for us to feel alive and fresh again too.
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As much as I enjoy the grey areas of being a mom, I really do love having a set schedule. In the spring, I am so ready to have “no plans” with the summer months but now, I am so ready to get off the no-plans mode. I definitely need a set schedule and I get cranky around the end of July while I wait for early autumn and back-to-school time to come around for me to get the new schedule in ink and on the books. With a schedule, I am so much more productive and organized and my kids are too.
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Speaking of being more productive, we are certainly enjoying our new schedules (most of us here are working moms!) and we have been very busy at the Magazine offices so I am so happy to share that we have added three key people to our small but mighty team over the last few weeks: Stephanie Salisbury, Executive Editor; Nicky Graham, Account Manager; and Zuzanna Zmud, Graphic Design Manager. All three have already added a great new energy to our team and I am very pleased with their wonderful work ethic and ambition.
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We are also in the midst of creating a new Promotions Department so you will see The Family Magazines much more out and about in the community! Our former Creative Director, Jena Bontrager (May 2012 Family Magazine Cover Mama), recently returned from maternity leave and is now developing this new department and initiative as Creative Promotions Manager. Did I mention our new magazine? With the addition of BOOM Magazine, a bi-monthly lifestyle publication for the Michiana baby boomer, we are quite busy! Watch for the first issue to release on September 14th all over Michiana. This magazine has been designed to interest men and women that should be enjoying the best years of their lives. I’ll be anxious to hear your feedback on our new addition to the FAMILY.
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F R O M T H E E D I TO R Dear Readers, It is fantastic to meet you, even though we’re not looking eye to eye at the moment. My name is Stephanie Salisbury, and I am the new Executive Editor for The FAMILY Magazines. I have been a reader of Family Magazine for several years, and a writer for the last two. I am overjoyed with my new role here, and have spent the last couple of weeks diving in with both arms. I graduated from the University of Michigan which, I’ve noticed, is a fabulous asset on one side of the state line and I get a lot of flak for on the other side, but usually only during football season (which is my favorite season, incidentally!) Our family is all about balance, and my husband Stephen is a die-hard Notre Dame fan, so it all evens out. Our two boys, Zachary and Michael, are ND fans, but our daughter Aria is a Wolverine like me. I keep telling the husband if we have another baby, it’ll be Maize and Blue clothing all the way. I don’t think he believes me. He’ll see.
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Or, if he decides to carry a baby for nine months, he can dress it in any team’s gear he likes. The team here is wonderful, and I am excited to be a part of it. The name of the magazine is the feel around the office – it’s as if, all at once, we’re sisters and coworkers and friends. I might be the new girl, but it only took an instant for me to feel as though I’d been here forever. I am excited about our new growth here as a team and as a magazine. It’s challenging to stay fresh and exciting in such an ever-changing world, but I know we’re more than up to that challenge every day. I’m proud to be a part of something so close to my heart – Family!
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Book Review: 10 The Paris Wife
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Reviewed by Billie Clements
Special Events:
SPECIAL FAMILY FEATURES 26 The Family Fight
A Story of a Mother and Daughter Battling Breast Cancer Together By Meagan Church
28 Super Mommies Who Live With Pain And How to Kick Pain to the Curb By Michelle Wegner
30 From Worrywart to Warrior
Help Your Children Conquer Their Fears
16 Kids Expo
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Family Fashion:
36 Sky’s the Limit
18 Avoid Mommy Frump
A Checkup on Your Style, Body, Hair and Makeup By Kathy Friend
Why Juvenile Diabetes Doesn’t Have to Control Your Kid’s Life By Stephanie J. Salisbury
38 Navigating Care?
Family Matters:
How a Geriatric Care Manager Can Help
Tips to Keep Your Kids Safe This School Year
Calendar of Events:
20 Back-to-School Safe By Sgt. William Redman
Family Fun:
22 Apples From Our Past
Get to Know Heirloom Apples By Evelyn Kirkwood
Family Travel:
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How Prepared Are You to Bring Home Baby? By Meagan Church
Mommy & Daddy: 50 Pocket Diapers on a Budget
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“Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.” ~Albert Camus
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54 Three Ways to Avoid the “Busy Mom” Trap By Meagan Francis
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Advice on How to Sport Your Baby as your Latest Fashion Accessory By Meagan Church
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Take This to Heart We have two Heart Walks in our area on September 15th and 30th. These Heart Walks raise critical funds for the American Heart Association’s research, educational and awareness programs in Indiana and across the country in the fight against cardiovascular disease, the nation’s No. 1 killer. Keeping your heart healthy is important. Someone in the United States dies from a heart-related problem every minute. Risk factors not only include high cholesterol, high blood pressure, smoking and obesity, among others, but inactivity is also a factor. So be sure to get motivated this fall and find an exercise routine that gets your blood pumping!
Feed the children Growing Kids Learning Center was pleased to be able to teach their students some important life lessons while helping those less fortunate. By spending a day at “Feed the Children” during summer camp recently, nearly fifty kids learned to pack food and hygiene boxes to be shipped to Detroit. “They learned teamwork, how to give encouragement, appreciation for what they have, and what the true meaning of service is,” said Dana Query, a Summer Camp teacher for the Elkhart center. Carla Putrich, Marketing Director for Growing Kids, said, “What was the most fun to watch was how the kids really worked together, and helped each other out. One child showed she had management skills as she encouraged and organized another group of kids. These are just some of the life skills, and life lessons, the kids learned this summer that they will carry with them through life. The best part is they had fun doing it!”
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Ripe fruit, old footballs, Burning brush, New books, erasers, Chalk, and such.” ` ~John Updike, September Fun Events Lake Cliff Garden Tour On Sunday, September 9, head on over to Lake Cliff Gardens in St. Joseph, Michigan. Lake Cliff Gardens is a 5-acre botanical wonder located on a dramatic cliff overlooking Lake Michigan, with a focus on tropical plants from all over the world. These plants, which are dug each fall and moved to a greenhouse, are supported by over 2500 additional plants that Barbara and Ron Weirich start from seed each year, along with outstanding exotic specimens of trees, shrubs, and perennials. With this almost unlimited plant palette, the garden is designed around a series of garden rooms dedicated to various specialties, with sculptures. Featured three times in Fine Gardening Magazine, Lake Cliff Gardens is an amazing showcase of garden and landscape art at its best. Cost $10. From 9 AM to 5 PM. For more info, call 269.429.9741. Maple City Walk Get the blood pumping on September 29 at the fourth annual Maple City Walk at Powerhouse Park in Goshen. This year, the route will include the Maple City Greenway and feature the Pumpkinvine Nature Trail as the core of its 13.1 mile course, which is equivalent to a half-marathon. A full marathon walk is also available by walking the course twice. For pricing and more info, visit cityonthego.org.
Grandparents Are The Best
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“The reason grandchildren and grandparents get along so well is that they have a common enemy.” ~Sam Levenson Our Challenge: Ditch the Soda How much soda pop do you consume in a day, or even a week? According to a recent Gallup poll conducted in July of this year, 48% of Americans said they have at least one glass of pop a day. The average amount of pop guzzled by these pop lovers measured to be 2.6 glasses; 28% of the 48% said they had one glass a day, while the remaining 20% admitted to having two or more.
“A grandmother is a babysitter who watches the kids instead of the television.” ~Author Unknown “What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies.” ~Rudolph Giuliani
It all adds up! Soda can contribute to weight gain and a bunch of other health issues, so our challenge to you “A house needs a grandma in it.” ~Louisa May Alcott is to ditch the soda pop for the month of September and see how much better you feel at the end of the month! Are you in? Baked Apple Pie Donuts Looking for a special treat this fall? Try out this recipe from Amy Allen Clark of momadvice.com. Recipe 1/4 cup of lightly packed brown sugar 1/4 cup of white sugar 1 1/2 cups of bite-size chunks of apple, peeled and cored (approximately 2 apples) 1 1/2 cups of all-purpose flour 1 3/4 teaspoon baking powder 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 1 teaspoon nutmeg 1/3 cup of cold butter, cut into small pieces 1 egg 1/4 cup of milk For Sugar and Cinnamon Topping: 1/4 cup of butter, melted 1/3 cup of sugar 1 teaspoon cinnamon powder
Directions: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Whisk flour, baking powder, sugars, salt and nutmeg in a bowl. Add cold, chopped butter, cut into tablespoons. With a pastry blender or fork, cut butter with flour mixture until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. In separate bowl, beat the egg. Mix in milk and fold in chopped apples. Add egg mixture to flour mixture. Stir using a spatula or spoon, making sure not to overmix. Place two spoonfuls of batter into a greased donut mold pan. Bake 15-18 minutes or until donuts are just golden. Allow to cool for five minutes. Unmold each donut and lightly brush with melted butter. Dunk in a bowl with sugar and cinnamon mixed in. Shake off excess sugar and serve immediately.
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The Paris Wife By Paula McLain
Reviewed by Mary Czarnecki, St. Joseph Public Library, St. Joseph, Michigan This fictionalized story about Ernest Hemingway’s first wife, Hadley Richardson, whom he meets at a friend’s party, takes a journey from the families and friends of the Midwest to an expatriate life in Paris, among their generation’s most glittering artists and authors. Shedding a little more light on the reason it was called “The Lost Generation,” we meet Gertrude Stein and Alice B. Toklas, Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald, Ezra Pound, Sherwood Anderson, James Joyce, Ford Maddox Ford – a multitude of talent on a continual drinking and partying binge in response to the Great War. Hadley hangs on to her husband and revels in the closeness of their mutual love. They start off their marriage committed to each other, positive that nothing would come between them. Of course, hard living, the ravages of writing and writer’s block takes its toll, as well as the ego of the artist himself, surrounded by free-living, free-thinking friends, not all of whom are so devoted to Hadley and Ernest’s well-being. Hadley was a strong, supportive wife, unused to the sometimes amoral sophistication of post-war Europe. She watches as her life with Ernest slips into a continued neediness for her support of his tender ego, his boastful insecurities, his endless fretting over his real and imagined shortcomings as a man and as a writer. She gives birth to their son, John (called Bumby) and they travel throughout Europe and back to the States several times with him in tow. We read about the couple’s travels with their group of hard-drinking friends, such as when they spent time in Pamplona watching the running of the bulls and the bull fights, which fascinated Ernest. He eventually wrote his classic, “The Sun Also Rises” about the extraordinary courage of those bull fighters, ending up in the ring himself as an amateur several times. This fascinating novel exploring this time in the lives of expatriate Americans is all filtered through Hadley’s eyes and heart as she comes up against the result of her husband’s aggressive infidelity with her closest friend. Hemingway married a total of four times, with numerous women in between, but as he writes about Hadley in “A Moveable Feast,” “I wish I had died before I loved anyone but her.” His heart was broken, even though his behavior was the cause of their ending – as though he had no choice but to follow his darker instincts where vice was concerned. They both came from startlingly similar families, with an overbearing mother and kowtowing father. And in some eerie shadowing, both fathers ended their own lives with a gun. Seeing this story through Hadley’s eyes makes for a wonderful read; the writing is first class and engaging throughout. McLain breathes life into these famous characters. It may be easy to fault someone with such a huge and tender ego as Hemingway’s and to scorn the wild partying of a group of people bewildered by the horror and waste of war, but as Hadley herself says in the book, “To keep you from thinking, there was liquor, an ocean’s worth at least, all the usual vices and plenty of rope to hang yourself with. But some of us, a very few in the end, bet on marriage against the odds.”
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Breaking Beautiful By Jennifer Shaw Wolf
Reviewed by Billie Clements, Reference/Young Adult Librarian Harris Branch of the Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Public Library “Breaking Beautiful” by Jennifer Shaw Wolf is a suspense and mystery story that offers the perfect blend of triumph and heartbreak. The town’s golden boy is killed in a terrible car accident, but his date survives. Clues are given, but there is never enough to reveal the entire picture until the last pages. Allie is overwhelmed when her boyfriend, Trip, dies in a car accident in which she was a passenger. Left scarred and unable to recall what happened the night of the accident, Allie feels a need to uncover the events of the evening. She has memories of conversations that took place that night, but is uncertain whether they are real or imagined. Finding out the truth could hurt the people who tried to save Allie from an abusive relationship, but she feels she must learn the truth. The all-encompassing message in “Breaking Beautiful” is that appearances can deceive. Trip’s mother always wears a mink coat, ostensibly because it reflects her family’s wealth and power. Allie distrusts some schoolmates, but they may not be as bad as she thinks. Repeatedly, Allie is told to avoid Blake because he spent time in “juvie” and looks like trouble. Remember, nothing is as it seems in this book.
all, her memory. Even the police want to know what happened. Also, the pressures from Allie’s parents, the demands of Trip’s parents and notes in Trip’s handwriting intensify the situation. Allie is a mess! Abuse and pain inflicted upon Allie by Trip are revealed through fragments of Allie’s memories. Did Allie cause Trip’s death? Who does Allie keep seeing in flashbacks? The only person who can provide the answers Allie needs is Allie, who unfortunately has the answers locked somewhere in her memory. This book had me hooked on the first page. It is an incredible blend of mystery, thriller, loyalty and bubbling romance. However, the ending was a fantastic revelation that caught me completely by surprise. Fantastic! This intense emotional roller coaster ride of a story is recommended for high school teens and adult readers.
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My “little one” is 10 now. She is confident she can walk to the bus stop in the mornings by herself. Being the 007-type mom that I am, I allow her to think she is walking alone when, in reality, I am stalking her from behind bushes and cars, watching her cross the street and wait for the bus. The other day, as I was doing my morning sleuth detail, I noticed she was crossing the road alone – a big NO-NO in our house. I compromised my undercover antics and went to the bus stop to tell her it would be a good idea for her to wait and cross with other kids. The look on her face as I approached the bus stop was one of horror. Under her breath, she said to me, “Please go away. Your clothes are embarrassing.” I looked down to see what she could be embarrassed about. Gee, I have no idea what was so embarrassing: red workout pants with a red and black sweatshirt. Okay, maybe my hair was a bit out of control, and maybe my glasses were halfway down my nose. My darling daughter went on to inform me, “You don’t wear sweatshirts like that. You look ridiculous.” She was right. I did. This exchange got me to thinking. Our kids do pay attention to what we are wearing. Being a Mom who works from home, there are days it is hard to pull myself together and be presentable. I can completely understand falling into the dreaded rut known as “Mommy Frump”. Now that the kids are back to school and you have a little time to yourself (and even if you don’t…make time!) I would like to challenge you to take a pulse on your style, your bod, and your hair and skin care regime. 18 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
Determine your Style Personality
As you consider who you are, remember “I am a ___________”. Each day remember who you are and don’t waiver. This will make shopping, both from your closet and from the store, much easier. SUPER MOM – This mom loves trends. She has no trouble mixing
new trends in with her jeans from years ago. She loves big, bold jewelry, and seems to stand out in a crowd because she knows what to wear and how to wear it. GLAM MOM – This mom gets noticed for her sense of style. She wears colors, textures and patterns that you would never think to put together but, for some reason, they look great on her. She might love shopping at thrift stores or consignment shops because of the one-of-a-kind finds. SASSY MOM – This mom lives in natural fabrics like cotton. She will always wear a t-shirt and jeans, and might get a hive if you ask her to wear a dress and heels. Comfort is the key for a Sassy Mom! CLASSIC MOM – This mom loves tradition. She loves brands like Kate Spade, and feels most comfortable in jeans and a sweater set.
Determine Your Bod
Take a real look at yourself in the mirror. Get a tape measure out if need be. Determine what your real figure challenges are and disguise them with clothing. Remember, extra-long necklaces create a leaner line on your entire top half, resulting in a slimmer look. Why not buy one long chain and lots of pendants for variety?
THICK MIDDLE –
When jacket shopping, you can create the illusion of a waist with a curved shape or a belted back. Also, look for seaming on jackets to give a soft silhouette.
HIPS and THIGHS – Brave
enough to bare more? Trying a swimsuit with a highcut brief or bottom will give the illusion of longer (and therefore slimmer) legs. A boat neck tee creates a horizontal line and broadens your shoulders, making your hips look more narrow.
them! The way to tell if you are using the right kind of skin products is simple. Wash your face, rinse, and pat dry. Wait about an hour and see how your skin feels. Don’t put on any toner, moisturizer or makeup during this time. Does your face feel tight? You probably need more moisture in your skin care regime. Get out a tissue, and press it on your cheeks and forehead. Do you see oil on the tissue? Then you need something to help counterbalance the oil in your skin. If, after the hour, your skin doesn’t feel tight and there is no oil on the tissue, chances are you have normal skin. Just by trying these few simple tips you, too, can avoid Mommy Frump!
Scoop neck tees with their deep, wide necklines work to break up an ample chest area.
BUSTLINE –
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Do a Hair and Skin Care Check
As a Mom, I know that hair and makeup are two of those maintenance things that get pushed to the side. One mom said to me, “Heck, be happy I used soap today!” Okay, I get it. We have no time. But, why not? MAKE TIME!
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OVAL: (face is about half as long as it is wide) – Any hairstyle looks great on you. Be sure to keep the color close to your natural hue. SQUARE: (forehead, cheeks, and jaw are about equal) – The best for you is one with movement. A soft cut will help to draw attention to your cheekbones. ROUND: (face is as long as it is wide) – Straight styles work best for you with an off-center part.
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Back-to-School Safety Tips to Keep Your Kids Safe This School Year By Sgt. William Redman
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ith the busyness that comes with the start of a new school year – buying school supplies, packing lunches, getting the kids back into a routine – it’s crucial that parents also remember to speak with their children about the importance of back-to-school safety. And it’s important that parents and drivers remember the rules of the road as well. With the start of school, the St. Joseph County Police Department wants to remind parents and drivers to do their part in keeping our community safe. To start, we would also like to encourage parents to walk with their children along the path to and from school or the bus stop. This will allow parents to familiarize their children with the route and point out safe places if needed.
Sharing the Road
There are plenty of distractions that can take your mind, and your eyes, off the road. That’s why, with the start of the new school year, we want to remind all drivers to obey the traffic laws and to remember that pedestrians have the right-of-way. Drivers are obligated to exercise great care while driving a vehicle, especially in a school zone. Here are a few reminders to help keep you and our kids safe this school year: Slow Down: Remember to slow down in residential areas and school zones. Stay Vigilant: It’s easy to drive on autopilot, but doing so can
have life-changing consequences. Take time to look for children near the road, sidewalks and crosswalks.
Don’t Block: Don’t stop in or block crosswalks with your vehicle. This forces children out into traffic further, making it more dangerous. Watch for Lights and Signs: Obey all school zone yellow flashing lights and speed limit signs. 20 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
Move with Care: Enter and exit driveways and alleys slowly and
carefully.
Stay Focused: Reduce all distractions inside your vehicle to allow you to concentrate on the road and your surroundings. Put down the cellphone.
Sharing the Road with School Buses
School buses are one of the safest modes of transportation available to our children. But to help keep our children safe, drivers must also know all laws pertaining to school buses. Here are some rules to know and follow:
• All 50 states make it illegal to pass a stopped school bus while
loading or unloading children. • School buses use yellow flashing lights to warn drivers they are about to stop to load or unload children. Red lights and an extended stop sign warn drivers to stop. All lanes of travel must stop; the only exception is a divided highway, such as a concrete barrier or grass median. Stop your vehicle far enough away from the bus to allow • children a safe zone to enter or exit. • Never pass a school bus on the right.
Stranger Danger!
With kids gone much of the day at school, parents need to remind children about stranger safety. What seems like common sense to us will likely not seem that way to your child. With our children being out in public more, the chances of being approached by a stranger also increases, so go over these dos and don’ts with your children, repeatedly. Don’t Follow: Remind your children not to go inside a stranger’s home or vehicle, no matter what. Strangers can be tricky and convince a child that they know you or the family. Prepare your
child for any excuse or contingency. Don’t Take: Don’t take anything from a stranger, such as money, candy or toys. Do Make Noise: Remind your children to
make a lot of noise to bring attention to the situation. This is one scenario where you can encourage yelling and screaming.
Do Run: Walk or run away from the
stranger. Tell your child to go to a designated safe place nearby, such as a police station, fire station or store.
Do Tell: Report all suspicious activity to school administrators and/or the police immediately.
Our department will have an increased police presence in all school zones within our jurisdiction. Please report any concerns pertaining to school safety to your local police department.
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Apples Past From Our
Get to Know Heirloom Apples By Evelyn Kirkwood
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runch into a bite of a just-picked heirloom apple. The flavor sings and the juice dribbles. I used to be bored with typical apples purchased at a supermarket, but as backyard vegetable gardeners often know, the rich flavors of old varieties of fruits and vegetables surpass their mass-produced counterparts.
The word “heirloom,” as it relates to produce, refers to antique or older varieties often originating before 1940. Orchardists sometimes narrow the timeline for apples, indicating varieties propagated prior to the proliferation of refrigerated train cars – around the mid1800s. The ability to move fruits and vegetables cross-country launched the breeding of varieties that could withstand long-distance transportation, with little focus on flavor.
A Few Favorites
Winter Banana is not a tropical fruit. It is a large, pale yellow apple, with a waxy skin that originated in Indiana in 1876. Its juice reminds me of both banana and pineapple.
Beth says there are some differences in growing older varieties of apples. “Newer hybrids are bred with disease resistance, so older varieties require more vigilance,” she says.
I adore the Russets. These gold-skinned apples are usually small, with a slightly textured skin. Hudson’s Golden Gem, originating in Oregon around 1931, has a nutty flavor. Golden Russet, an 1845 variety from New York, is crisp and sugary and well suited as a dessert apple, or for cooking. It ripens late, thus extending the good apple eating season.
Spirit Springs is committed to Integrated Pest Management, a holistic approach using close monitoring and care for the orchard to reduce the use of chemicals. Beth says that sometimes results in apples with a few blemishes – not as pretty to look at as a waxed Red Delicious in the supermarket. But beauty is in the eye of the taster. Beth’s variety of choice is Lysgolden, a sweet keeper that originated in France.
Some accounts say Thomas Jefferson’s favorite apple was Spitzenburg, another apple probably from New York created in the 1700s. It’s the apple that turned me on to heirlooms, with its somewhat spicy, aromatic flesh.
Growing Heirlooms
Beth Sampsell manages Spirit Springs Farms in Marcellus, Michigan. They grow about 80 heritage varieties of apples, a project that began with her father, the late John Claridge, who knew old varieties have better flavor and make great cider. 22 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
Inside the blue pole barn at the farm, visitors can sample slices from a varying smorgasbord to become familiar with the different flavors and textures of apples. Still, some folks just turn on their heels when they hear Spirit Springs does not sell a new popular type like Honey Crisp. Beth just smiles. She and her sister Amy traced the heritage of Honey Crisp and discovered they carry most of the varieties that were cross-pollinated to create that apple.
From year to year, the offerings of apples at Spirit Springs Farms changes depending on which trees produced well, or not at all. This year is a particularly tough year due to the late freeze and the drought. Their normal production is about 18,000 bushels, and it is likely that only about 20 bushels will be harvested. Still, Beth encourages folks to watch and ask for heirloom apples at farm markets. Their many different flavors and textures will reward you!
Family Activity
Make your own applesauce! The key to tasty apple pie, cider or applesauce is to use a mixture of apple types to yield full-bodied flavor. Homemade chunky applesauce is very different from store-bought and is a simple family project. Choose at least three different varieties of apples. Peel, remove the core and slice them. Put the slices into a sauce pan with a small amount of water or fruit juice. Cover the pot and cook the apples on medium heat until they are soft, periodically smashing and stirring them with a spoon. Keep some chunks in there! Depending on the apples, your sauce may be done in as little as 15 minutes. While it is still warm, taste it. You may not need to add sweetener, but if you do, try honey or pure maple syrup! Hint: Warm applesauce is a wonderful fall breakfast treat! *A special thanks to Beth and the Spirit Springs family for sharing their expertise for this article. Much of the historical information concerning apples was pulled from a booklet Spirit Springs Farms produced in 2005.*
Evelyn Kirkwood is Director of St. Joseph County Parks in Indiana and host of Outdoor Elements, which is broadcasted Sundays at 9am and Wednesdays at 5:30 pm on WNIT Public Television. THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
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family travel
Exploring Saugatuck
By Amy Allen Clark
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ur family spent the most glorious week in Saugatuck, Michigan, and we wanted to share with you our experience traveling to this fun little Midwest destination. Words like epic, most relaxing vacation ever, and best vacation of our lives may have flown out of our mouths. Sometimes the sweetest destinations are the simplest and are practically in your own backyard.
Saugatuck is a little harbor village that celebrates diversity and offers a fun artsy community for visitors to explore. Recently, The National Trust for Historic Preservation selected Saugatuck/ Douglas as one of the “Dozen Distinctive Destinations” in the U.S., and the writers and editors of Midwest Living Magazine ranked Saugatuck/Douglas fifth among the top 100 vacation destinations in the Midwest. Saugatuck happens to be just an hour and a half from our home, yet it seemed a world away and happened to be our first visit to the town. Rental properties abound in this town, and it is just a matter of selecting your house early enough and finding one in your price point. We searched on homeaway.com to find our own dream property. I took on a freelance job and squirreled the money away for our vacation, and when we saw this rental in Kingfishers Cove, we knew it would be perfect for us. Our heart’s desire was a gorgeous little log cabin with modern amenities, and we made it happen. To save on this expense, you could definitely split the property with another family, book during the week instead of paying for weekend rates, or cut expenses by selecting a smaller size property. Remember that the properties book quickly, and you need to plan a couple of months in advance to grab the premium spots in town.
Swoon Over Retro
The antique stores in Saugatuck are phenomenal and full of thoughtfully curated antique items that will have you wishing that you brought a moving truck to take it all home with you. We stopped at so many fun little shops along the main drag, but our favorite was the Blue Star Antique Pavilion. You could literally walk the store for miles and miles and never see the same thing twice. The store is over 50,000 square feet, and it was 24 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
named the best of the best in Antique Mall in Michigan, Indiana, Illinois and Wisconsin by Lake Magazine (July 2005). You can end your visit with a delicious lunch next door to their building at the Saugatuck Brewing Company. This award winning micro-brewery has two chefs delivering fresh and innovative food that serves as the perfect way to end a day of antiquing. There are always 12 different beers on tap and a Hard Cider that tastes like champagne, and loads of other fun drinks.
Head Downtown
Downtown Saugatuck is full of cute little shops to visit and spend an afternoon of browsing. Many of the shops seemed very tourist geared, but there were some hidden gems along with lots of shops offering wine tastings and food samples to try. We visited the Saugatuck Drug Store and grabbed ice cream at the soda fountain counter for a midday pick-me-up. The cone pictured in this article is a small, so we recommend ordering a kid size cone so you don’t end up with a belly ache from all the ice cream. There is nothing like sitting at an old-fashioned ice cream counter, and the kids loved their delicious treats. Marro’s Restaurant was on our family’s agenda for our last night of vacation celebration feasting, and it did not disappoint. You can order small/lighter portions to save a little money, or order the regular size portion (seen in my picture) and split it between two people. We ordered the Linguine Ala Pescatore, and it was a generous portion of mussels, clams, shrimp and scallops tossed in a spicy red sauce that was absolutely divine. My daughter ordered the mac-and-cheese, which came out on a platter and looked like chicken nuggets. Deep fried macaroni – perhaps the world’s most delicious kid food ever? We ended our downtown visit with a stop at Tuck’s Treats and grabbed a cupcake ($3.99 each) to split for our dessert that
evening. It was rich, moist and decadent. It is a cupcake that you can share among two or three people due to its richness and size.
Catch a Sunset
The sunset was absolutely breathtaking and worth catching in the evening after a great meal together. We caught a sunset over at Pier Cove, and it was worth every moment of effort. My daughter actually said this was her favorite part of our trip and, as you can see from the photos, the view was absolutely stunning. We are adding more sunsets to our family’s travel agendas since this is such a fun and free activity to enjoy. The sunset in Saugatuck did not disappoint, and the kids loved dipping their toes in the water.
Head to Holland
Holland, Michigan, is just thirteen short minutes away from Saugatuck and happened to be one of the highlights of our trip. The shopping in Holland offered fabulous unique boutique options that could have you window shopping for days. I actually enjoyed the shopping in Holland more than Saugatuck
because of the variety of shops they offered and how cute the town was itself. They offer an amazing Farmers’ Market (Open Wednesdays and Saturdays 8 a.m. – 4 p.m., May 16 – November 24 and Saturdays only thru December 15) that had just about everything your heart could desire. New Holland Brewing Company is a fantastic spot to visit for a great sandwich and pint of their Mad Hatter Beer. The sandwich options were so delicious that my husband and I ordered the two we liked best and split them. The kid’s menu offered generous portions for big appetites. We ended our feasting and took back slices of pie from Crane’s In The City (located in downtown Holland) for dessert and did a pie taste test. I loved the cherry while my daughter was in love with the red raspberry. It was the perfect way to end a day of fun shopping and eating.
Go On a Dune Buggy Ride
We ended our travels with a dune ride together, and I have to say that the Saugatuck Dune Rides was one of the highlights of our entire trip. The driver shares the history of the dunes along with a fun comedy routine that keeps families engaged with the historical information. The buggy ride is like a fun roller coaster, and you can ride up to 60-65 miles through the hilly dunes. The ride takes you to the highest dune where you have ten minutes to let your kids run around like crazy down the dunes, where you are able to take pictures of the prettiest scenery I have ever seen, and where the driver will even happily take your family portrait for you. We ended our trips with sand in our mouths and aching faces from smiling so hard, which is the way all vacations should perhaps end.
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Health & Medical in our Community
Family
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A Story of a Mother and Daughter Battling Breast Cancer Together
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By Meagan Church
uring a routine self-examination of her breasts, Heather Grontkowski felt something unusual. “I felt a lump that was the size of a plastic Easter egg. I thought, how could I not have noticed that before?” At that time, Heather’s family had no history of breast cancer. Given that she was in her thirties and that she also breastfed, it seemed unlikely that the lump she felt was cancer. Her family doctor examined it and decided to give it a few weeks to see if it changed. During that time, Heather’s husband noticed that the lump was bothering her, so he encouraged her to seek another opinion. She decided to go to her OB-GYN. Again, the doctor was hopeful that it was merely a cyst that could be drained, but they scheduled an ultrasound to get a closer look. “They were having a hard time getting a good picture of it since it was on the underside of my breast. They kept calling me back to take more pictures. There was a pregnant lady there who they bumped to get me into the ultrasound room. You know how much water you have to drink for a pregnancy ultrasound. That’s when we knew it was urgent.” Throughout the process, the technician was very calming, but Heather sensed that things were serious. “When she asked how old I was, I saw her eyes watering,” she recalled. “The doctor was very urgent and was explaining to me this thing we were seeing. He showed how inside it was jagged and there was a tail on it. There was something about the way he said it. I knew right then. What we were seeing was the cancer breaking out of the tumor. The doctor explained that whatever it is, it had to be removed in the next couple of weeks. I was terrified. No one said cancer, but I lost it.” The following week, she received the results of her biopsy and learned that she had breast cancer. “I freaked out. I will never forget it. I cried. I didn’t want to because my baby was there with us. I cried for a few minutes and then said, ‘Okay, what do we do?’” They went on to discuss Heather’s treatment of chemotherapy, and her choice of a mastectomy or lumpectomy. “As we were walking out, I saw the doctor. I stopped him and asked, ‘Am I going to die from this?’ I couldn’t leave without asking that. I wanted to know. 26 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
He told me I wasn’t going to. He said it seemed like we caught it early. He said it would be a hard fight, and I’d have to go through a year of bad stuff, but I was not going to die from it. That made me feel better, but on the drive home, I was just bawling.” Heather spent a lot of time crying that first day. “I cried and cried and thought of all the terrible things you think of when you have kids and you are faced with a life-threatening illness. I just let myself freak out that night, and the next day I told myself I couldn’t get through it by crying.” Instead, she focused on staying positive. She had decisions to make concerning her treatment and she had two daughters to care for. She wanted to be strong for them. She also wanted to be strong for her parents, but little did she know at that time that her positive attitude and strength would be a source of inspiration for her mother when she received her own breast cancer diagnosis a few months later. Sharon Kaylor, Heather’s mother, had a routine mammogram when the doctor noticed a change. The doctor asked her to come in for an ultrasound. Heather, now bald from the first couple of chemo treatments, went with her mother. “It was the same tech and doctor. They kept calling her back and in my heart, I knew it was probably cancer. That’s when I realized that she probably has cancer and we probably have the gene and we’re just finding out all of this.” A few days later, Heather returned with her mother and father to hear the results. “I wasn’t thinking breast cancer because I always self examined and felt no lumps at all,” Sharon recounted. “I heard what the doctor was saying, but at the same time, I didn’t hear what he was saying. I was in another place. Heather and my husband were there, but I was in a place all by myself.” For Heather, the situation was all too familiar. “The doctor said the same thing, that unfortunately it was cancer. I sat in the room with Mom and Dad and cried. The one thing I’m really grateful for, I’m so grateful I was diagnosed first. My mom saw I was doing okay. I had my surgeries, my pathologies were good and the
cancer was completely removed when I had my mastectomies. She was seeing it wasn’t as bad as the cancer and chemo that you think of. She had been watching the kids and helping out at the house when I slept because the chemo wiped me out. She had been seeing first hand what it was like. I think it did make it a lot less scary.” And so began a journey that no mother or daughter ever wants to face. “The thing that bothered my heart the most was that I passed this on to my daughter. That was very hard to deal with,” Sharon said. Heather has since had genetic testing and has found that she has the gene mutation that increases the likelihood of having breast and other cancers, which gives her daughters a 50 percent chance of also developing breast cancer. Heather realizes that in the future, there is a possibility that one of her daughters will have to battle breast cancer, but she is doing all she can to educate them. Her oldest daughter, Camryn, has taken to heart all she has learned. “She was my biggest cheerleader through it all, and now she’s a little activist.” Heather and Sharon had a close bond before their diagnoses, but after fighting a life-threatening illness together, that bond has grown and deepened in indescribable ways. This journey has created an understanding that no one else shares. As Sharon said, “People think, well, you had cancer, you went through chemo and said they got it all. You went through radiation and you should be
back to normal. But you are never, never the same. Nobody knows that unless they have gone through it. You are never the same.” Heather agreed. “You can’t know what it’s like. You can read side effects, talk to others about a cancer diagnosis and chemo, but it really is something you cannot possibly understand unless you are faced with thinking those thoughts and the physical stuff that goes with it. We have an understanding with one another of having faced those fears and frustrations. Sometimes my husband or friends won’t quite understand. After all, I finished treatment so long ago, how can I still feel this or be frustrated with chemo brain? My mom gets it.” Heather and Sharon had chemo treatments together and spent hours recovering side-by-side. They even received a Hello Gorgeous! makeover together thanks to the efforts of their husbands who arranged it. “We were each other’s sounding board and support and comfort. It took a lot of inner strength to get through it, the sheer frustration, the aches and pains. We understood each other. We could be miserable together,” Heather said. “It was a sucky thing, but we did it and we got through it.” Meagan Church is a writer and mother of three kids. Her current projects include DefiningMotherhood, and Unexpectant where she explores the realities of modern motherhood for her book project.
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Super Mommies Who Live With Pain
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And How to Kick Pain to the Curb By Michelle Wegner
live with a monster. He is always following me around, sneaking up from behind walls and closets. He follows me all day long, until I can kickbox him to the curb, only to find the next morning he’s been jumping on my back all night long, sticking pins and needles in my feet and fingers and keeping me in a headlock until I wake up and find him standing there. The monster’s name is Pain, and I hate him.
About five years ago, Rob and I took a weekend trip to Chicago for our fifteen year anniversary. We love the city. We were both born and raised in Chicago, and it always feels like home to us. We were like kids again – so excited. Every picture from that weekend has one of us caught with Gino’s East Pizza, Garrett’s Popcorn, or a Chicago hot dog stuffed in our mouths in between big smiles. Throughout our many food stops, my feet started hurting. Not just heavy feet from walking around too much. Aching – the feeling of walking on glass, along with a huge bout of nausea and a weird feverish feeling. The next day I noticed my fingers and wrists were really sore, so I decided I should probably have my normally healthy self checked out once we got home. Long story short, I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) and referred to someone I now refer to as the best doctor ever in the world, Dr. Natali Balog at the South Bend Clinic. Dr. Balog taught me a lot about the disease; it’s not a very nice disease. It doesn’t play well with others, and it often doesn’t cooperate with doctors. Every patient who suffers from RA is different because the disease attacks individuals in unique ways. It started out very progressively for me, leaving me feeling tied in knots while trying to juggle the normal routine of three girls, a husband, a few dogs, and trying to save the world all at once. With all that said, it’s been a few years now of adjusting my lifestyle, medications, expectations of myself or others’ expectations of me. The biggest shift I have had to make has been in my own perception of myself as a Super-Mommy. I have realized that I can’t do it all. I can’t get it all done. I have to ask for help from others around me who are already worn out, and that is not easy for me. On most days, I’d rather not ask for help, so I end up exhausted by the end of the day and have nothing to offer my family except a grouchy face and a messy house. 28 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
So, I felt sorry for myself. And I pouted. And I got mad. But none of that really helped. I started reading some books about people who live with pain. I also discovered that there are a lot of moms like me, trying to keep their Super-Mommy game face on while trying to deal with chronic depression, back pain, extreme fatigue, cancer, the list goes on. Once I started talking about it, I realized that many people hide behind their pain and suffer in their own homes because it seems easier that way. Our culture often views people struggling with pain as “weak.” I think quite the opposite is true. Super Mommies kicking pain to the curb takes a lot of strength. Some of my friends who have dealt with way more pain than I ever have are some of the strongest people I know. Advice for Super Mommies As I am ever trying to be a student of life and taking every opportunity to learn, I was able to ask Dr. Balog, who sees lots of patients who deal with chronic pain at severe levels, a few questions about Super Mommies dealing with chronic pain: Q: For a mom living with a chronic pain condition such as RA or other pain-causing illnesses, what are a few things you would offer as helpful information to their spouse or partner, children and other family members or close friends. Dr. Balog: As with any chronic disease, it is most important for patients and families to understand the disease process. When a spouse has been diagnosed with diabetes, the family unit typically, or should, change eating habits of family meals to support the family member; it’s the same with arthritic conditions. The family is a team and works together. When we are doing something with my daughter, and she is not particularly happy with the situation – for example: a meeting or an extra day of work, working late, etc. – I let her know that she is part of our family team, and being a willing participant improves everyone’s situation. Same with the home front; the
family needs to be willing, helpful participants in home chores and duties when a member of the family suffers a chronic disease like an arthritic condition. There also has to be some understanding. Like a bad day at the office, there can be bad emotional days for folks with chronic arthritic conditions, not just from the pain, but also from the inability to perform up to that individual’s standards with certain tasks. Q: In what ways can a Super Mommy (a mom who is trying to “get it all done” and still be a nice person to her spouse and children) take care of herself, to live in a way that the pain does not get in the way of everything else? Dr. Balog: When suffering from chronic conditions, be it arthritic
or any other, we have to accept our limitations and not let our disease define us or keep us from doing things, but do it in moderation with reasonable expectations. “Super Mommy” is a newer phenomenon with women putting pressure on themselves to have the perfect home, family, body, etc. We collectively as a society allow ourselves to be too busy to take care of ourselves. Sunday was created as a day of rest, but rarely do we rest. Life is too short, be it in perfect health or with disease. Time with our children is short. The best “Super Mom” is the one who sets a good example for her family. We put our family first by nature, but also must care for ourselves with good eating and exercise habits. Know your own limitations and do not overextend with activities.
Dr. Balog: I have learned from some of my sickest patients, one who lost her eyesight from a rheumatologic disease. The quotes that I keep in my mind from my patients are “Life is Beautiful!” and the other is “Make it a great day!” It is easy for all of us to dwell on the negative. Negative energy usually makes us feel worse. Many of my patients with the worst diseases that make me think how do they do it? count their blessings every day. They don’t focus on what they have lost; they focus on what they have.
Life Lessons Although I hate living with Pain, I love a lot of what it has taught me, including the things I have learned about it from wonderful doctors like Dr. Balog. I know I can’t be a Super Mom without the help of others. I know my family needs me. I need to be a team player, but I need to expect that from them as well. Most importantly, I kick Pain and all his dumb sidekicks to the curb by taking the time to make myself strong so I can help others who are weak.
Q: There is a fine line somewhere between “Really hurting and just frustrated” and “feeling sorry for myself.” In what ways can a Super Mommy keep herself from going over that edge into a gloominess that brings everyone around her down?
Thoughts From Facebook
I asked some of my friends on Facebook their own thoughts on Supper Mommies and Pain. Here’s what they shared: “I have learned that people actually want to be wanted. It’s totally okay (and even desired) to ask for help. I love it when friends need me. Turns out they feel the same way.” ~Leah “Fourteen of the years I raised my kids, I had psoriatic arthritis, and learned that I had to take time to take care of myself as well as my kids. My son was with me one time at the rheumatologist and the Dr. told him to help me around the house.” ~Michelle “From what I have learned dealing with chronic pain, I would say: Learn to live with a less than spotless home, or figure out how to budget for cleaning help. Make time for exercise that increases your function. Don’t feel guilty if some nights you serve the kids frozen chicken nuggets, pizza, or boxed mac-andcheese because you don’t feel up to standing in the kitchen making a made-from-scratch meal.” ~Ellen
Michelle Wegner is a wife, mom, freelance writer, and author of the book Share the Well, stories about life in Southern India. She and her husband Rob have been married for 19 years and enjoy living in Granger with their three delightfully spirited teen and tween girls, Maddie, Whitney, and Isabelle. THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
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Health & Medical in our Community
Worrywart to
From
Warrior
Help Your Children Conquer Their Fears By Stephanie Graham
Anxiety is a confusing, muddled, sometimes agonizing state of mind, and one from which we often try to shield our children. However, sometimes we can’t keep them from worry-producing situations and, some would argue, we shouldn’t necessarily try. Worry is part of life; there will always be something cropping up to cause it, so helping your children learn to deal with it and become more confident and calm is an incredibly important responsibility. This is particularly true because a 2010 study lead by Jean Twenge at San Diego State University shows that children, teens and young adults have become increasingly more anxious and depressed over the last 50 years. Anxiety is no respecter of persons or causes. Triggers can be anything from the constant push toward achievement in sports, music and academics to traumatic situations such as getting caught in a storm or witnessing an accident. Some people have a genetic predisposition, while others experience an uncertain home environment or huge life changes. Whatever the reason for the general increase in fretful kids, if you have an anxious child, it’s best to be proactive.
It Takes You, Baby
Their response to anxiety starts with you – not only what you tell them about it, but how you respond to it yourself. Both handling your anxiety poorly and pretending there is nothing wrong can have the same end result in your children, a lack of understanding in how to handle their own anxiety as they grow. “Children learn a great deal of things from watching and listening to their parents. Just as they have learned from your routine daily activities to grow and develop, they will learn from how you deal with the obstacles of everyday life,” says Daniel Kinney, pediatrician at Navarre Pediatric Group in South Bend, Indiana. In age-appropriate increments, letting your children know what is bothering you can help them understand and observe how you deal with it. Along with giving them a front-row seat to your reactions, watch how they respond to different situations that arise for them. Whether it’s a monster under your younger child’s bed or a scary social situation for your teenager, ask questions and take their 30 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
answers seriously. Though it may seem small to you, “kids are more complex than we give them credit for,” says Bill Schnell, limited license psychologist of Neurofeedback and Counseling Center in St. Joseph, Michigan. As they grow, their reasons to fret will grow in number and complexity as well. Helping them deal with the little things will go a long way in helping them deal with big things later.
According to Kinney’s research thus far, it appears that the stress on the body can increase the level of cortisol which can hinder growth, physically and mentally. Kids who are abused and neglected, for instance, often do experience poor growth. Schnell adds that, though it hasn’t yet been clarified through research, long-term anxiety can be a factor in hypertension.
“Avoid telling your child that worry won’t do them any good,” Kinney says. Instead, explain to them that it is a normal reaction, and guide them in dealing with it productively. Encourage them to talk about it, rely on friends and family, and if they’re old enough, to write about it in a diary.
Schnell often tries to take a less medical approach to treating children with anxiety disorders. “From my point of view, I looked at it as helping somebody train their will so they’re not led by their symptoms.” He says that increased anxiety can come from rewarding the symptoms when people let it lead them, so a lot of the techniques used in psychology are cognitive training and will training.
Another key is to help them understand that there’s a difference between worry and concern. The word worry carries a meaning of torment and suffering, whereas concern is the lite version, so to speak – slightly disturbed by a situation. Also, concern usually moves to action, such as taking food to a sick friend or getting another job to help pay bills, while worry paralyzes.
Extra Ordinary Anxiety
Some parents will diligently guide their kids in dealing with worry, yet one of those kids will still seem to be mastered by it. Fortunately, if an anxiety disorder is suspected, some of the symptoms to look for are tangible. Kinney says, “The difference would be something that causes disruption in the personal family’s day-to-day routine – problems with schoolwork, ability to make friends, and their ability to be a compliant part of the family.” Schnell agrees. “A person who is incapacitated by their worry where they don’t go out, where they’re symptom-led, don’t go to school, get sick all the time but there is no physiological cause for this sickness, those kids are more likely to have severe anxiety disorder.” This means that usually the best time to diagnose is in the school years. While some symptoms can show up earlier, Kinney points out that even at ages 3 through 5, it is difficult to diagnose because this age group is inherently more skittish, some kids still having a normal level of separation anxiety, for example. “By kindergarten and first grade, it gets a little easier to diagnose,” he says. He also finds it to be a more common phenomenon around the ages of 10-11. This is typically the time when kids transition from having recess to a more academic, less active focus at school. Inherent in these years is an increasing demand to achieve and get good test scores, not to mention the heightened social pressures. This consistent fretting can cause quite a bit of stress on the body. When anxious, muscles can’t fully relax, which can cause tension headaches and chest pain, Schnell says. Also, people often subconsciously take shallow breaths or hold their breath in an attempt to control fear.
Where There’s a Will…
He is generally conservative with oral medications, depending on the age of the child. “When treated by a psychiatrist,” he says, “they can be prescribed meds that lower arousal of certain parts of the brain through use of serotonin reuptake inhibitors in extreme cases, but we typically don’t use these with children because of side effects.” Don’t feel that your job is to stand back and watch; you still have a huge impact on your children’s outcome even if they are receiving professional help. Ask your kids’ doctor, psychologist or psychiatrist what you can do to implement at home what they are learning in therapy. They are with you a significant amount of time during the week, and only in therapy a few hours at most. You can always provide extra support for them when they experience a stressor. Many anxiety disorders can last into adulthood. Kinney says, “They are a lot better able to cope with anxiety, but usually I think it’s still there. In certain situations, certain stressors can bring it out.” Generally, though, especially if they are treated in therapy and by proactive parenting, their day-to-day symptoms can diminish dramatically. Perhaps as more and more parents are equipped to help their children deal with worry, 50 years from now, studies will show that childhood anxiety has decreased. What a privilege you have as parents, this influence over your children and how they see and react to the world. Make it a point to help them see it as a great adventure, and one day at a time, you can turn your worrywart into a warrior.
Stephanie is a freelance writer and loves writing about some of the most important privileges in life - parenting and family. She and her husband have been married for 7 years and have a hilarious 19-month-old son.
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100 doctorS 5 locationS 1 name to remember: South bend clinic Good health is the journey of a lifetime. One of the first and most important steps along that journey is the care of a highly skilled and dedicated pediatrician. Providing compassionate care for Michiana kids has always been a hallmark of the South Bend Clinic. That tradition lives on through outstanding physicians like Dr. Glen A. Davis and his colleagues in the pediatrics department. In all, the South Bend Clinic provides 100 doctors representing 22 specialties and five locations throughout the Michiana area. No other medical group has as many skilled physicians and specialties in a single organization. That’s why we say, for a lifetime of care, there’s only one name you need to know. The South Bend Clinic.
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Niles Haunted House Scream Park
Hey Kids!
Color this page and win! The coloring contest winners of the two younger age groups will receive a coloring and sticker set, valued at $25. The older age group winner will receive one all-inclusive ticket to Niles Haunted House, valued at $27.50. One winner will be selected from each of the three following age categories: 3-5, 6-9 and 10-12 years of age.
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For your chance to WIN, color your best picture and mail entries to: Niles haunted house • 855 Mayflower Road • Niles, MI 49120. Coloring contest is open to children 12 years and under, and entries must be mailed by October 2nd. Winners will be notified via phone or email service by Niles Haunted House by October 7th, and their artwork will be featured in an upcoming issue along with their first name and age. For additional coloring contest entries, this coloring page may be photocopied and printed off. THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
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Niles Haunted House Scream Park
Niles Haunted House 855 Mayflower Road Niles, MI 49120 www.haunted.org
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Enjoy healthy snacks, live entertainment, health information, and Kid’s Zone. Join the community celebration of survivors and those that have made successful lifestyle changes. Strollers, wagons, and dogs welcome!
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Sky’s the Limit Why Juvenile Diabetes Doesn’t Have to Control Your Kid’s Life By Stephanie J. Salisbury
W
ith the overwhelming wave of obesity in the United States, there’s quite a lot of talk about diabetes and what changes to make in your lifestyle to avoid or lessen the effects if you have it. However, people often do not realize that there is more than one type of diabetes, and the other is not preventable, not linked with any lifestyle changes, and, thus far, there is not yet a cure. Type 1 diabetes (T1D), often called “juvenile diabetes,” is a genetic autoimmune disease. When the pancreas creates insulin, the body destroys it, so insulin must always be given externally via injections or a pump so the levels in the body can be balanced, as the body is unable to do it on its own. Noreen Mackiewicz, RN, CDE, CPT, is a pediatric diabetes educator at Memorial Children’s Hospital. She works daily with children and families dealing with T1D and has plenty of information and advice for us. Finding a cure is near and dear to her heart, and she is more than passionate about everything she does for the cause. The first step in deciding whether or not your child needs to be tested for T1D is to watch for symptoms. “The symptoms are associated with a rising blood sugar level and the body being in a starvation mode because the food that is eaten cannot be used by the body without enough insulin,” Mackiewicz explains. “Excessive thirst, excessive urine production, hunger, weight loss, ‘flu-like symptoms’... if a child that has previously been dry at night starts wetting the bed, these would be reasons to have the child evaluated.” Usually the first test will be a simple urine test to check for a high level of sugar. If that comes out negative, then T1D is highly unlikely at that time. If positive, then further testing and evaluations are done. Should your child be diagnosed with T1D, Mackiewicz always tells parents something very important right away: “This is not your fault. This could not have been prevented.” Often, as parents, we fault ourselves for anything we think might be wrong with our children, so hearing these words can allay many fears right off the bat. She continues with more words of wisdom: “You may feel overwhelmed, but take a deep breath and remember that your child is still a normal child and can live a long and healthy life.” Natalie MacRae is living proof of this. MacRae was 10 years old when she was diagnosed with ‘juvenile diabetes’ and has been 36 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
managing it daily for the past thirteen years. “When I was first diagnosed, my understanding of it was more than most because my grandmother has diabetes,” explains MacRae. “What I was not aware of, though, was that the way my grandmother controls her diabetes is an older approach. I was under the impression that I would not be able to have any sugar because that was what my grandma did, but I found out quickly that there were different approaches and techniques to controlling my diabetes.” MacRae began almost immediately on a fixed carbohydrate plan with insulin shots given to her every day, certain doses for each meal. She was also quite athletic, very involved in soccer, and had to change her dosage depending on her anticipated level of activity throughout the day. There was a carbohydrate/blood sugar ratio with a formula that she and her parents had to figure out every single time she was given a dose of insulin. Mackiewicz indicates that this was typical of the older plans for management. “Years ago, older insulins were used so the child needed to be on a strict, consistent meal plan and a strict daily routine. There were many forbidden foods. Also, before 1980, there were no home meters, so urine testing was done, which basically just confirmed that they still had diabetes.” These days, a revolutionary piece of equipment has changed the lives of many children and young adults with T1D: the insulin pump. Fast-acting insulin is still given with each meal, and a longerlasting insulin is typically used in the evening, but once a family has gained a greater understanding of what they are dealing with, an insulin pump is used instead of giving individual shots. The mathematical formula to decide how much insulin should be given with each meal is now calculated by the machine; all you have to do is plug in the numbers. The home meters are so simple and easy to use, older children can often do it themselves. Milo Nichols, a 4-year-old with T1D, pokes his own finger several times a day, tells his parents if he feels ‘high’ or ‘low’ or whether he thinks he needs something to change his sugar levels. The blood is placed on a test strip, the strip is read by the meter, the meter gives the numbers, the numbers go into the pump, and a remote control on the pump feeds the insulin into his body. Just like any other child, he can run, play, wrestle, swim, have candy in controlled amounts at the right times, and have a long, healthy life.
Episodes can occur if things are not managed properly. “One time, an episode happened after a soccer game where we had no subs and played out in the high heat,” says MacRae. “I collapsed when the game was over, and my monitor could not pick up a blood sugar. I was able to stay conscious though, so my mom came over and filled me with juice and cookies. I was very mean and short with her though,” she laughs now. “I didn’t want to eat!” Low blood sugar will have short-term effects such as this, whereas high blood sugar has more long-term consequences. One of MacRae’s health care professionals did not do some of the proper tests, and she ended up with elevated liver enzymes. “The doctor didn’t work with me on my ratios,” she explains. For two years, her Hemoglobin A1C was too high, and then her doctor signed off on a medication for acne which sent her into liver failure due to the already high levels. “I went to a new doctor and almost immediately got put on the pump,” MacRae says. The right health care professionals and a positive, strong attitude can go a long way. MacRae has that very attitude. “Right from the very beginning, I was adamant about not letting diabetes be the reason I could not do anything. I do way more than most diabetics do. I continued to play soccer on many different competitive levels, and choir, and theatre. I loved that I was adamant though, because I have talked to many kids who have been just diagnosed or are fighting a crossroads when it comes to their diabetes, and I can tell them that it is possible to do anything the next person can do.”
Mackiewicz more than agrees. “There is no vacation from management. But it can be managed, and these ‘sweet kids’ can grow up to be healthy, productive adults that can do almost anything they want to do – with daily preparation, playing and care as we continue to work for the cure.” Speaking of a cure, JDRF (Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation) is a diligent and lean organization, so a high percentage of the donations go directly to finding a cure. It is precisely such organizations that are able to make the leaps and bounds toward changing lives for the better, one day at a time. If you would like to help, please contact the Northern Indiana Branch of JDRF. Branch Manager Beth Ernsberger can be reached at 574.273.1810. September 16th will be the annual Walk For a Cure at Beutter Park in Mishawaka, so contact Beth to find out how you can walk or support those who have already signed up.
Stephanie J. Salisbury, University of Michigan graduate, has published two books and maintains a well-followed inspirational blog. She and her husband sing, act, direct and work together.
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Navigating
Care?
How a Geriatric Care Manager Can Help By Mary Carroll
The hospital called. Mom had a fall in her home, and the EMS took her to the ER. It became apparent that Sue’s mom could not return to her home due to her declining health and unsafe conditions. Sue was shocked – she called her mom weekly and everything sounded okay. But she realized that she had not visited her mom in over three months. How was she going to help her mom get the health care and home support she needed when she lived over five hours away and could not leave her own family and job for more than a few days? What local programs and services could help her mom? Sue’s lack of time, lack of energy and lack of knowledge was evident. She didn’t know where to turn for help in caring for her mom so many miles away. Caring for our aging parents and family members is often a stressful and emotional time. Caregivers are often overwhelmed with questions and concerns including: • How do I know Mom is talking with her doctor about her health problems? • Dad has had several accidents recently. What do I do about his driving? • What kinds of services can be provided in the home to help keep my mom safe and help her maintain her independence? • Is my uncle depressed, or is his isolation from the family a normal part of aging? A geriatric care manager (GCM) can assist in addressing the above concerns as well as many other problems that may arise when caring for an aging family member.
What is a Geriatric Care Manager?
According to the website for the National Geriatric Care Management Association caremanager.org, “A Geriatric Care Manager is a health and human services specialist who acts as a guide and advocate for families who are caring for older relatives or disabled adults.” They assess living situations, review medical and care needs and quickly sort through the available services to find options for a client and/or their family. Due to each family being unique, the level of care depends on each family’s needs and is often ever changing due to variations in health, abilities and even finances. GCM services are especially vital when your loved one lives in another state or across the country. Many families are unable to 38 THE FAMILY MAGAZINE | SEPTEMBER 2012
travel or stay with their family members long term to ensure that they are getting the appropriate care and that they are reporting any problems or struggles that they are having. The GCM often acts as a surrogate family member to address issues and to make sure that the person is getting the correct care for their needs.
What do GCMs do?
Geriatric care managers offer many different types of programs and services depending on the family’s needs. Some of the things that GCMs can provide include: • Initial care consultation, assessments and care planning in areas such as medical, end-of-life planning, legal, financial, mental health, social and safety in the home. • Ongoing care management, crisis intervention and advocacy. • Counseling, support and education for the aging adult and family members. • Arranging and overseeing helpful services such as home health care, meal services, housekeeping and bill paying. • Assistance with relocating a loved one (including assistance with facility options, coordination of services and coordination of service providers). • Ongoing monitoring of medical care and services. • Evaluation of current benefits in order to connect the family with other programs that could provide assistance.
How does the GCM Benefit a Family?
Saves time and energy. With expertise and resources, a GCM gives families insight and direction and can save time searching facilities, programs or services on their own. Saves money. GCMs can help the family weigh all the options and help with a less costly solution. They help avoid costly mistakes and can assist with obtaining federal, state and local benefits and services that can help with the costs of ongoing care.
Saves family relationships and supports caregivers. GCMs provide education, support, advocacy and negotiation assistance among family members when moving forward with difficult decisions. They help lead family meetings when sensitive subjects need to be discussed and resolved, and provide peace of mind during tough decision making.
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How do I know I need a GCM?
If you have attempted to handle the ongoing care on your own but have hit a roadblock in care or care has become too complex to handle, hiring a GCM can provide guidance and support through your journey as a caregiver. Ideally, services from a GCM should be established before there is a crisis so that recommendations can be made to help prevent a fall or accident. It is better to be proactive, but there are many times that crises occurs and help is needed immediately. The GCM can be an advocate and support during these times as well.
How Do I Find A GCM?
• Visit caremanager.org or call 520.881.8008 – National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers will assist in finding a GCM by your city, state or zip code. • Check out n4a.org – National Association of Area Agencies on Aging website can help with finding an Area Agency on Aging in your area to see if they have information about geriatric care managers and other supports near your loved one. The fees that GCMs charge vary depending on the program, the services offered and the geographical location. The hourly average is between $60-$200 per hour, and some care managers will offer package rates for assessment and monthly follow-along. This is often a private pay service and is not covered by Medicare, Medicaid or other insurances. A geriatric care manager provides a higher quality of life for your loved one. It saves money, time and energy for you as the caregiver and is an investment in a good quality of life for your loved one and you. Mary Carroll, MSW, is a geriatric care manager at REAL Senior Solutions through REAL Services and the Area 2 Agency on Aging. She is a lifelong resident of the Michiana area and currently lives in South Bend with her husband and daughter.
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September 2012 September Wednesday, September 5 Fall Storytime Sign-ups
Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, All Locations
Mark your calendars! Registration for Preschool Storytime, Toddler Time, and Lapsit begins September 5 at all MishawakaPenn-Harris Public Library locations. Register in person or by phone at the downtown Mishawaka Library, 574.259.5277, ext. 242 and the Bittersweet Branch Library, 574.259.0392. Registration at the Harris Branch Library begins in-person only from 5:30 to 7:30 PM in the Children’s Activity Room. Registration continues September 6 by phone at 574.271.3179 and in person at the Children’s Services desk of the Harris Branch Library. The library cannot accommodate groups in this series of programs. For more information, contact Children’s Services at any MPHPL location.
Friday, September 7
Grandparent’s Day Walk-in Craft Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown Branch
Grandparent’s Day is Sunday, September 9. Stop by the downtown Mishawaka Library on Friday, September 7 anytime between 10:30 AM and 4 PM or Saturday, September 8 anytime between 1 and 4 PM to make a special gift to give grandma, grandpa, or both! Registration is not required. For more information, call 574.259.5277, ext. 242.
Saturday, September 8
Saturday Morning Stories: Cereal Month Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown Branch
Rise and shine Saturday morning at the downtown Mishawaka Library at 10:30 AM. Children aged 2-7 will try to identify their favorite cereal, and then make a craft to take home. Saturday Morning Stories is a nonregistered program that provides a sampling of the materials used in our Preschool and Toddler programs. Enjoy stories, songs, finger plays, and more! Adult caregivers are expected to attend with their children. For more information inquire at the Children Services desk or phone 574.259.5277, ext. 242.
Lake Cliff Garden Tour Lake Cliff Gardens, St. Joseph, MI
Lake Cliff Garden is a 5-acre botanical wonder located on a dramatic cliff overlooking Lake Michigan, with a focus on tropical plants from all over the world. These plants, which are dug each fall and
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moved to a greenhouse, are supported by over 2500 additional plants that Barbara and Ron Weirich start from seed each year, along with outstanding exotic specimens of trees, shrubs, and perennials that are hardy in a Zone 6 garden. With this almost unlimited plant palette, the garden is designed around a series of garden rooms dedicated to various specialties, with sculptures. Featured three times in Fine Gardening Magazine, Lake Cliff Gardens is an amazing showcase of garden and landscape art at its best. Cost $10. From 9 to 5 AM. For more info, call 269.429.9741.
Tuesday, September 11
Diggin’ in the Dirt: Kids Garden Club Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Bittersweet Branch
Children entering grades 1-6 are invited to have fun gardening at 4 PM. Children will learn about fall planting. Garden gloves are optional, but dress for a mess to plant bulbs at the library. Adult caregivers must attend to help with the planting. Space is limited. Registration is required. For more information, contact Children’s Services at the Bittersweet Branch Library or call 574.259.0392.
Thursday, September 13
Goodwill Loves Moms Celebration Lunch September 13 at Windsor Park Conference Center in Mishawaka September 14 at Strongbow in Valparaiso
Don’t miss the launch of Goodwill Loves Moms with this Celebration Lunch. The guest speaker will be Lorie Marrero, a certified professional organizer and author of “The Clutter Diet.” When you attend one of the celebration lunches, you’ll receive a free re-useable Goodwill Loves Moms Donation Bag and Lorie’s book: “The Clutter Diet!” At 11 AM, you can browse vendor booths and at 12 PM enjoy a delicious lunch. Lorie will share her secrets to getting your house clutter free, and at 1 PM she’ll be available to greet you personally and sign your free copy of her book. For more information, visit: GoodwillLovesMoms. com or call 574.472.7300. Purchase tickets on-line at: http://tickets.goodwill-ni.org.
Saturday, September 15
Michiana Heart Walk: St. Joseph County Heart Walk Robert C. Beutter Park, South Bend
The St. Joseph County Heart Walk is the first of two walks being held in Michiana. The Heart Walk features a free family-friendly health festival that includes health information and giveaways. The Heart Walk raises critical funds for the American Heart Association’s
research, educational and awareness programs in Indiana and across the country in the fight against cardiovascular disease, the nation’s No. 1 killer. 9 to 11 AM. Free. For more info, call 574.274.1783.
We Are the Ship: The Story of Negro League Baseball South Bend Museum of Art, South Bend
This traveling exhibition features a collection of thirty-three paintings, thirteen sketches and educational materials from the book, We Are the Ship: The Story of Negro League Baseball, by award-winning artist and author Kadir Nelson. The New York Times named this book one of the Best Illustrated Children’s Books of 2008. Nelson spent seven years researching, writing and creating handsome paintings to be included in the brilliantly illustrated book, which is dedicated to the preservation of the history of Negro Leagues. Exhibit opens September 15th and lasts through November 11. For more information, visit southbendart.org.
Create with Play-Doh Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown Branch
National Play-Doh Day is almost here! Stop by Children’s Services on September 15 and see what you can create. Children in grades pre-K -1 will have their opportunity to create at 10:30 AM. Children in grades 2-6 will have their turn at 2:30 PM. Pieces will be displayed in Children’s Services through the end of September. Children can pick up their creation beginning Monday, October 1. Registration is required and begins Wednesday, September 5. For more information, inquire at the Children’s Services desk or phone 574.259.5277, ext. 242.
Sunday, September 16
Bonneyville Millers Vintage Base Ball Match Ox Bow County Park, Elkhart
Come see your Elkhart County Vintage Base Ball Team take on the Deep River Grinders in a “gloveless” game of baseball. The “ballists” play in Civil War Era attire with rules from the 1860s. Fan participation is encouraged. Fun for the whole family! Cost is free (but there is a $3/ car fee to enter Ox Bow Park by vehicle). From 2 to 5 PM. For more info, visit elkhartcountyparks. org/bonneyvillemillers.htm.
Tuesday, September 18 Free Prostate Cancer Screening Lakeside Urology, St. Joseph, MI
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showing their support of National Prostate Cancer Awareness Month by offering free screenings in September. For men over 50 or 35 with family history of prostate cancer. All screenings 5 to 7 PM. No appointment or insurance needed. For more information, call 269.556.2872 or 866.260.7544.
Wednesday, September 19
Lose Weight...Find Health: Free Education Seminars Lakeland Comprehensive Weight Loss Center, Niles
The Lakeland Comprehensive Weight Loss Center is offering free seminars to learn about solutions to permanent weight loss. Dr. Michael Schuhknecht and staff members will discuss programs available for losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight for years to come. The Lakeland Comprehensive Weight Loss Center specializes in working with each person to create a customized lifestyle plan, including medical weight loss management through diet or bariatric surgery, nutrition counseling, individualized exercise programs, and monthly support groups. From 6 to 8:30 PM. For more info, visit lakelandhealth.org/weightloss.
Thursday September 30 Third Thursdays at the Snite
Snite Museum of Art, University of Notre Dame
Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown Branch
Parents, grandparents and caregivers of children are invited to a special workshop at 6:30 PM. The workshop will cover the five early literacy tools (talking, singing, reading, writing, and playing) to prepare children for reading. This workshop is not intended for children. Registration is required and begins Wednesday, September 5. For more information stop by the Children Services desk or phone 574.259.5277, ext. 242.
Saturday, September 29 Maple City Walk
Powerhouse Park, Goshen
It’s the fourth annual Maple City Walk, hosted by Downtown Goshen, Inc. Again this year the route will include the Maple City Greenway and feature the Pumpkinvine Nature Trail as the core of its 13.1 mile course, which is equivalent to a halfmarathon. A full marathon walk is also available by walking the course twice. Cost: adult ($15); 15-18 ($8); marathon adult ($25), 15-18 ($15), under 15 free. For more info, visit cityonthego.org.
South Bend Symphony Orchestra “The Dream of America, Peter Boyer Ellis Island”
4:30 PM in the Annenberg Auditorium Mary Cassatt: A Woman of Real Genius Lecture by Mishoe Brennecke, associate professor of art history, University of the South. Abigail May Alcott’s tribute to the artist’s talent is also a reminder that Cassatt’s gender was a defining and sometimes limiting element in her career. 5:00 PM in the Atrium Reception. 6:00 PM in the Sculpture Courtyard. “Sons of Daughters” jazz trio amid contemporary sculptures from the Snite’s collection
The Morris Performing Arts Center, South Bend
Saturday, September 22
Sunday, September 30
Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Bittersweet Branch
Ox Bow Park, Goshen
An evening of music by Berlioz “Roman Carnival Overture,” Bizet Symphony No. 1 followed by Ellis Island “The Dream of America,” with texts from Ellis Island immigrants and music echoing the hopes and dreams of a new life in America featuring guest artists from South Bend Civic Theatre: Ted Manier, David Chudzynski, Deborah Girasek-Chudzynski, Matthew Bell, Melissa Manier and Mary Ann Moran. Starts at 8 PM. For more info, visit morriscenter.org.
Jetta and the Jellybeans: Back to School Blast
Michiana Heart Walks – Elkhart County Heart Walk
School has started, and it’s time to bring the family and have fun with Jetta and the Jellybeans: Back to School Blast on September 22 at 2 PM. Enjoy a mixture of pop, rock, comedy, dance, and audience participation. In the event of rain, the performance will be held on Saturday, September 29. Registration is not required. For more information, contact the Children’s Services desk of the Bittersweet Branch Library or call 574.259.0392.
The Elkhart County Heart Walk is the second of two walks being held in Michiana. The Heart Walk features a free family-friendly health festival that includes health information and giveaways. The Heart Walk raises critical funds for the American Heart Association’s research, educational and awareness programs in Indiana and across the country in the fight against cardiovascular disease, the nation’s No. 1 killer. From 1 to 4 PM. Free event. For more info, call 574.274.1783.
Monday, September 24
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Saturday, October 6
Babysitting with Confidence Lakeland Community Hospital Watervliet, MI
Created specifically for adolescents, this course covers a variety of topics intended to give participants the confidence and knowledge for caring for small children, including: questions to ask before taking a job, expectations of a babysitter, telephoning in an emergency, home and fire safety, infant and toddler care, first aid and choking, discipline, food preparation. From 8:30 AM to 12:30 PM. Participants must have completed the fifth grade or be 11 years of age or older to register. Reservations are required, and class size is limited. For more information or to register for this free class, call 269.556.2808 or 866.260.7544.
Monday, October 8
Embroiderers’ Guild of America Meeting Prince of Peace Church, South Bend
Please come join the South Bend/Michiana Chapter members of the Embroiderers’ Guild of America, Inc. for their monthly meeting on the 2nd Monday of each month at 9:30 AM at Prince of Peace Church, Ironwood and Cleveland Road, South Bend, or the 4th Tuesday of each month at 6:30 PM at the Harris Branch Library, Granger. It is not necessary to be an accomplished stitcher; we welcome everyone that is interested in learning or furthering their knowledge of needlework. Cost is free of charge for the first 2 meetings. For more info, email blies@att.net.
Friday, October 12
Our Bountiful Harvest Quilt Show Vineland Center, St. Joseph, MI
Over 150 home-made quilts will be featured by talented crafters and artists. Participate in the mini-quilt silent auction with proceeds going to Feeding America West Michigan Food Bank. Take time to browse the selection of hand-made American Girl Doll clothes for sale. Stop by the many vendor booths and our guild Boutique for quilting and craft items. Appraisals are available by appointment. From 2 to 8 PM. Cost: $6 Adults, under 12 free. For more info, visit btcquiltguild.org.
Wednesday, October 17 Fresh Beat Band
The Morris Performing Arts Center, South Bend
The Fresh Beat Band, Nickelodeon’s popular preschool music group and stars of the hit TV series of the same name, are adding a second leg (50 cities, 70 performances) to their current sold-out nationwide concert. More than 200,000 fans will have seen the live show by the end of the first run, making it one of this year’s most successful music tours. Show starts at 6:30 PM. For more info, visit morriscenter.org.
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Looking to cuddle up with the little ones and enjoy a movie day? Here are some great films for you and the kids to check out!
Reviewed by Linda Hickman, Media Services Assistant, MishawakaPenn-Harris Public Library
Alvin and the Chipmunks: Chipwrecked
Journey 2: The Mysterious Island
Young adventurer Sean receives a coded distress signal from a mysterious island where no island should exist – a place containing strange life forms, deadly volcanoes, mountains of gold and astonishing secrets. Sean’s new stepfather along with a helicopter pilot and his daughter, join in a quest to find the island, rescue its lone inhabitant, and escape before volcanic shockwaves destroy the island and its treasures. Rated G, this adventure film is a followup to the 2008 hit “Journey to the Center of the Earth.”
Kiara the Brave
Evil Dreadmis captures and imprisons his brother, King Maximus of Dreamzone, ending the King’s peaceful and magical reign. When Dreadmis unleashes his vengeance on the kingdom, Princess Kiara joins her best friend Super Kloud on a magical journey to conquer the evil Dreadmis and free her father the King to restore harmony in Dreamzone. This animated DVD is rated PG.
Flicka: Country Pride
Toe-tapping music, adventure and mischief accompany Alvin, Theodore, Simon and the Chippettes – Eleanor, Jeanette and Brittany – as they vacation on a luxury cruise liner. However, when they become stranded on a remote tropical island, they discover their new playground is not as deserted as it seems when they attempt to be rescued! This rockin’ animated DVD is rated G for all viewers.
Trinity Goodheart
A visit by an angel who gives her a pendant belonging to her long-lost mother convinces 12-year-old Trinity Goodheart her mother is in danger and needs help. Trinity’s effort to reunite her nontraditional family teaches them the value of love, faith and forgiveness. This DVD is not rated, but carries the “Family Approved for all ages” stamp from Dove.org.
Toby (country star Clint Black) takes a job as stable manager at a struggling horse training and boarding farm, bringing wild Flicka with him. Kelly, the owner’s teenage daughter, bonds with Flicka and hopes to break her to ride in competition. Her mother disapproves, not trusting the new horse can win a competition that would save their farm. Toby steps in to help Kelly and her mother resolve problems created by training Flicka, the competition and the growing fear they may have to sell the stables. Rated G, this DVD is family fun for horse lovers.
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How a Little Dirt Can Help Your Kids Live Healthier, More Creative Lives Dirt is a four-letter word to many moms, but letting your kids get dirty is actually good for them according to a new report from the National Wildlife Federation, “The Dirt on Dirt: How Getting Dirty Outdoors Benefits Kids.” Fears about dangers lurking in the muck – microbes, parasites and amoebas, oh my! – keep some parents from letting kids do what comes naturally, which is to go outside and get dirty. But here’s a dirty little secret: Children who spend the better part of their free time in the company of their sterile hi-tech gadgets rather than playing outside, are more vulnerable to obesity, vitamin D deficiency and depression.
Be an Artist
• Give your child a stick and a muddy surface to draw on. Mistakes are no problem. Just smooth them over and start again. • Mud balls can become out-of-season snowmen or abstract sculptures. If your child’s creation isn’t sticking together, just add more water.
Be a Builder
• Your children can make buildings of all shapes and sizes if they
use sticks to create a frame and pack mud onto it. Houses or forts perhaps, a castle with a moat, or a stable to put toy horses in. If they also like the idea of large-scale public works, have them make a river by digging a trench in the mud or dirt. Then, add water as needed. Most importantly, build a dam to protect the town.
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There’s a growing body of research that suggests overprotecting kids from dirt and germs may actually inhibit their physical health and resilience. Activities kids love, such as making mud pies, splashing in puddles and rolling down hillsides are actually a grubby prescription for health and happiness.
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stress levels fall within minutes of seeing green spaces, according to a 2004 study in the American Journal of Public Health. When children are exposed to germs and pathogens during infancy, their risk of cardiovascular inflammation in adulthood is reduced, according to a 2010 Northwestern University study. A friendly bacteria found in soil helps produce serotonin, which enhances feelings of well-being, much the same way that antidepressant drugs and exercise do, according to a 2007 Bristol University study.
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While common sense sanitation practices like washing hands and using hand sanitizer when soap and water aren’t available shouldn’t stop, you’ll be doing your children a favor if you encourage them to go outside and get dirty. Here are some fun – and messy – ideas from the National Wildlife Federation that will let your kids have some good, clean, dirty fun outdoors:
• When it rains, take a walk through your neighborhood to see which
animals go under cover and which come out in wet weather. You may also see birds swooping down to take a bath in nearby puddles. This is also a fine time to study worms that surface to breathe when their burrows fill with water. Then, enlist the kids in a Worm Rescue Squad and move any worms they find on the sidewalk back to the dirt so they don’t dry out.
Be a Chef
• If you’re going to play in the mud, why not make some mud pies?
If you have some old cake or pie tins, great. Otherwise, shallow plastic containers work just fine. Once the pies are “baked,” it’s time to make them beautiful. Encourage your children to scour the yard for pebbles, petals and leaves that will make perfect decorations on top. Collect dirt, grass, leaves, twigs and acorns in a large container, and you have a bountiful nature salad. Add some water, and it’s mud stew.
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Maternity Ward How Prepared Are You to Bring Home Baby? By Meagan Church
When our firstborn decided to arrive 10 days past his due date, I enjoyed having some extra time to prepare for his arrival. Honestly, I hoped he’d stay in utero for a long time. Why? Because I knew how to care for him there. I didn’t have to worry about changing diapers, getting the hang of breastfeeding or soothing his cries. He was compact, portable and quiet. When he did arrive, I was happy to meet him, but I was still anxious about what to do with him. His doctor asked us in the hospital, “Do you have any questions?” I said, “Yeah. Are we really supposed to take him home with us?” Everyone laughed, but on the inside, I meant it. What did I know about babies? I’d only ever held a few in my entire life, and I had never changed a diaper. The realization that I had no clue set in the morning after my son was born when my husband left the hospital to tend to our animals at home. There I was, alone with a tiny stranger who was looking to me for survival. Of course he chose that moment to fill his diaper. There I was, less than 24 hours postpartum, tenderly negotiating my way out of bed, while holding a screaming newborn. I placed him in the bassinet and attempted to change his diaper for the first time. During the process, he stuck his sock in the mess. I began to search for a clean one, as he continued to wail. I came up empty-handed. Then my midwife walked in. “How’s it going?” she began to ask. I turned and said through tears, “I need a sock!” She hurried away and came back moments later with a handful of socks. She helped me get him dressed, swaddled and situated. And then she hugged me. While pregnant, I did plenty of research on pregnancy, labor and delivery. I knew what to eat and what to avoid, while growing a little person. I developed my birth philosophy and knew how I 46 MI CHILD SPECIAL SECTION | SEPTEMBER 2012
felt about different forms of pain management during labor. But thankfully I didn’t stop there. Too often women view babies as such a natural event that surely they can wing it and figure things out. A friend of mine once said, “I was obsessed with labor and delivery, but I never thought about bringing the baby home. Oh, my gosh! What do you do with this baby? She cries all the time!” The reality of life with baby hits many moms harder than expected. While having a baby is a natural event, many in our culture are removed from the process until we experience it for ourselves, making the learning curve quite sharp. Since I had yet to change a diaper before that stressful hospital scene, I knew the transition would not be easy for me. To lessen that curve, I read not just about labor, but also about breast feeding and baby care, and I took classes on both topics at my local hospital. Sure, I still found myself standing in the hospital room crying over a sock, but imagine how much more lost I would’ve been without even doing that much. So here are a few tips for parents-to-be when it comes to preparing for life when the labor pains stop:
Observe
Watch friends, family and even complete strangers who have babies. I learned a lot by watching others and how they cared for their children. I made plenty of mental notes on things that surprised, encouraged or completely scared me.
Read and Listen
Books, magazines, websites and podcasts on this topic abound. It’s not necessary to take an obsessive approach and read
every parenting manual out there. Explore different authors and different perspectives so you can understand what you do and what you don’t like. Also check to see if your local hospital, birthing center or area doulas offer informational classes.
Practice
I rarely babysat as a teen or an adult. No wonder I had no clue! Get involved with the kids you know. Their parents will be grateful for your help. If you’re not certain about going it alone, offer to lend a helping hand, while the parent is still in the house. Even offering to tackle a diaper change is a blessing to a tired parent.
Volunteer
Get hands-on practice by giving your time to a local church, homeless shelter, women’s center or the like. They can always use the help and you will receive great rewards in return. Plus, once your little one arrives, free time will become a thing of the past, so enjoy these opportunities while you can.
Breathe
In all you see and learn, remember to stay flexible. It is easy to develop a parenting philosophy before your house is filled with an inconsolable newborn. Years before having kids, I rolled my eyes at my sister-inlaw who co-slept with her child. Then I had a baby who decided he’d rather not sleep for the first year of his life. Let’s just say rules are easily changed in the wee hours of the night. But at least by witnessing her example, I had a solution to turn to in those wee hours. So don’t spend those nine months preparing for just one day. Also consider the lifetime to come and how you’ll make it through those early days, weeks and months. And be sure to pack extra socks.
Meagan Church is a writer and mother of three kids. Her current projects include DefiningMotherhood, and Unexpectant where she explores the realities of modern motherhood for her book project. MI CHILD SPECIAL SECTION |SEPTEMBER 2012
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Mommy & Daddy
Private Arts By Jane Suter
Recently, my son handed me a picture he had carefully worked on for hours. The image I beheld looked like a…well…how do I put this? Ummm…it looked exactly like a body part I do not possess. With my lips pursed, doing my best not to laugh out loud, I asked him to tell me about his masterpiece. “It’s a Mongolian Death Worm! See it’s big, brown head and long body. It’s shooting out mud balls. Pretty cool, huh!” Yeah, it was pretty cool. I especially appreciated its large, bulging base with the little stick figure man to the side. “Do you love it, Mommy?” “Oh, yes honey. It’s gorgeous!” I gushed. Fifteen minutes later, he presented me with four more similar worm drawings, each one more phallic than the last. And did I mention how super shiny they were due to the brown Crayola he liberally used on each one? “My, my, they almost glow,” I remarked. Then he told me the wonderful news as he placed each picture, one by one, on my lap. “This one is for you. This one is for our neighbor. This one is for Grandma, and THIS ONE is for my Sunday school teacher!” Oh no. You would think these soon-to-be distributed, x-rated works of art, would cause me some concern, but they barely blipped on my radar. That’s because I live in a house full of boys. As the only female, and that includes the dog, I find myself being the sheriff of Testosterone Town. You would not believe the questions little guys have about their unique anatomy. I’ll tell you, not too long ago, I would have stammered and choked on my tongue if asked about specific human body parts. These days, I can talk about them as effortlessly as the weather because I’m forced to speak on the subject so often. Yes, little boys, just like grown men, are obsessed with their man-parts. They adjust them, scratch them, move them around like living room furniture and, like a newborn baby, cradle their giblets while sleeping. So, I spend my days saying ridiculous things like: “Stop grabbing yourself. Get your hands out of your pants. Put your clothes back on. Your private parts need to stay private. I know, Mommy is the only one in the house who doesn’t have one. No, I don’t know why God gave Mommy a ger-china.” And, “Remember – hold it way down when you go to the bathroom, please...” I’ll admit, once in a while they ask me something so entirely perplexing that I have to write it down for the bald man to answer later. Fortunately, most of their questions I can answer. Especially the ones about blimples. Yup, those bumps on everyone’s chest. 48 MI CHILD SPECIAL SECTION | SEPTEMBER 2012
For a solid week, nipples were the topic du jour in our house. “Mommy, why do boys have blimples? Why can’t we feed babies? If I squish ‘em real hard, will milk come out?” Round about this time, I was starting to freak out, even though every book I read said this was a normal stage children go through. And, sure enough, just like the books said, as quickly their biological bombardment started, it all slowed to a trickle. I had made it through alive! Lately their top-ten questions involve the noises people make. “Mom, do girls fart?” “Pass gas,” I correct. “Well, do they?”
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I wrote back in 2009, in my post “Do You Suffer from ‘Busy-itis’?” : There are some mothers I know who claim to be so chronically over-run with items on their to-do list that I sometimes wonder: how is it even possible to have so much to do, not just sometimes, but constantly? If you were unhappy with your level of busy-ness six months ago, why are you still at that same level? Re-reading that post, I had to laugh. I think I was starting to feel some external pressure to “busy-up” my life. Which is silly, right? I was already running a business, raising five children and caring for my home. Where on Earth would I fit more activity, and why would I want to? Three years after I wrote my original “Busy-itis” piece, I’ve fought my share of busy battles and have figured out where some of that pressure comes from – and how to resist it. Here are three of my hard-won pieces of advice:
1.Differentiate between “busy” and “productive.”
I can be in motion all day long and, at the end of the day, have nothing to show for it. By contrast, I can sit down for a superfocused hour and knock seven things off my to-do list. I call the first kind of busy-ness “spastic wheel-spinning” because I jump from activity to activity, fueled by anxiety, never settling on any one thing long enough to make headway. It takes up a lot of time, and can make you feel very busy indeed. While I think the spastic wheel-spinning stage can be a natural part of the work cycle, for me it’s usually a sign that I need to step away for a while. Maybe I need to rest my mind and energize my body by taking a brisk walk. Maybe I need make a physical list of all the things rattling around in my head. Maybe I need to paint a rainbow with my daughter’s water colors. One thing is for sure: once I start feeling 50 MI CHILD SPECIAL SECTION | SEPTEMBER 2012
anxious, like I have a million things to do and am circling around them all but can’t land on one, I definitely need to stop whatever I’m trying to do. There’s just no point in being “busy” if I’m not actually doing anything.
2. Avoid the knee-jerk “sure!”
Sometimes saying “yes” seems like a good idea at the time. That rummage sale you said you’d head up in the fall? That visit you promised in the middle of your favorite summer festival? Then the date approaches and you’re kicking yourself, wondering why you didn’t think it all through. I’ve definitely been guilty of committing to things I later regretted, and it’s much more awkward and difficult to extract yourself after you’ve given the “yes”. A 48-hour waiting period is really helpful in figuring out whether or not I can take something on. I try to consider all the factors: sure, I can technically fit that in, but do I really want to? What might the ripple effect be on the rest of my schedule? Will I have to give another part of my life short shrift to make it fit? Is the tradeoff worthwhile?
It’s not always possible to wait a full 48-hours before saying “yes” or “no” to an opportunity, but almost nothing is such an emergency that you have to sign on right away. Give yourself at least an hour – especially if it’s a big or recurring commitment – and reflect on what saying “yes” will really mean.
3. Consider your priorities and values first.
Your neighbor’s Save the Kittens silent auction is a worthy cause, but that doesn’t mean it has to be your cause. The world is full of organizations, charities, fundraisers, committees, and volunteer opportunities, but you cannot be involved in each one. Likewise, the world is full of opportunities for your child to perform, play, learn, and wow you with his brilliance, but you cannot take advantage of them all. When you make choices based on your own priorities, you can shape a life based on what really matters to you. That’s the happiest and most authentic kind of life to lead.
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A note on kids’ activities: Just because karate or drama is your child’s passion doesn’t mean it has to be your passion. It’s fine to miss a soccer game here and there, or to decline to sew costumes for the ballet recital. Support your child’s dreams where and how you are able, but don’t feel bad if you’re the mom who drops him off for practice and picks him back up when it’s over. Don’t feel guilty if all you can manage is signing the permission form and arranging a ride. And please, don’t feel bad if you tell your child you can’t squeeze in another activity this season. What really matters is that you create a joyful, functional home that supports your values. Sometimes that might mean coaching your daughter’s t-ball team, and sometimes it might mean opting for quiet evenings at home.
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Baby Wearing, According to Me
Advice on how to sport your baby as your latest fashion accessory By Meagan Church
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have a confession to make; I have a bit of an obsession. It started off innocently enough, but over the last few years (and three kids) it has progressed and grown without me even realizing it. So what is this obsession? Baby wearing.
It all started during birthing classes when I was pregnant with my first child six years ago. I had seen women wearing their babies and thought I would give it a whirl once my little one was born, but with the various slings, wraps and carriers on the market, I wasn’t sure where to begin. The instructor recommended baby wearing to help soothe the baby and improve bonding, and in her opinion, a ring sling was a great one to start with. I went home and began researching. Before long, I had placed an order for my own sling. The purchase ended up being a wise one. Once Jonas was born, we quickly realized that close contact was imperative to keeping him happy…or at least calm. In no time, I got to try out the sling and soon enough my husband and I were also sporting the Baby Bjorn in an attempt to keep him calm. Not to mention there was the added benefit of a greater calorie burn when he was strapped to us. We have since added two kids and four more carriers to the mix. They have been lifesavers in grocery stores, on trips, during neighborhood walks or just trying to get dinner on the table. Our first liked them most as a young infant. Our second appreciated them from age 1 to 2 when she was curious, but too small to see the action, especially in the kitchen. Number three? Well, she has spent plenty of soccer games, cookouts and even a Zumba class in one, often snoozing or otherwise just chilling out.
baby facing into you, or as she gains head control, she can face outward, which happens to be my baby’s favorite position currently. Pros: Super easy to put on and take off. This has been a lifesaver for us during shopping trips especially. We have no need to lug a stroller around. My husband has always preferred the Bjorn to other carriers as it doesn’t seem quite as feminine, in his opinion. I like how the baby can face inward or outward. Cons: As the baby grows, it can put strain on your shoulders and back. This has been the greatest complaint from other friends who have also used this carrier. Plus, you cannot position the baby on your back.
Backpack Carrier
These carriers have more structure and framing to them to make them more supportive for walking and hiking. They can often support a toddler’s weight. Pros: These are quite easy to get on and often come with a stand so the pack can stand-up, while you place the baby in it and then slip it onto your back. They are a great option for older kids, and their structure makes it possible to be more active with them. They definitely pass the dad test.
There has been plenty of trial and error through the three kids and six carriers, but we’ve gotten somewhat of a system down. The following is an overview of what I’ve learned along the way, the pros and cons, the good and bad, the his taste and her preferences.
Cons: They are bulky and are not suitable for infants under six months who do not have good head and neck control.
Baby Bjorn
This is another SSC that uses two buckles, one at the waist and one at chest level. Baby can be worn facing towards you on your chest, back or side. It comes with a napping hood that snaps into place to support a sleeping child’s head and protects them from the sun.
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ErgoBaby
Pros: Very quick and easy to put on. I especially like the zipper pouch in the front where I can put my keys, phone, cash, etc. It can support a toddler’s weight, while still feeling supported through the shoulders and lower back. The Ergo spreads the baby’s legs wider than the Bjorn, arguably creating a more comfortable ride for baby and perhaps better supporting his growing hips and legs. It also passes the hubby test, being manly enough for him to sport in public. Cons: Baby cannot face outward. While Ergo says a baby feels more secure when facing towards the adult’s body, my little one likes to face outward and see the world before her. Also, you need to purchase a separate insert for use with a newborn.
Maya Ring Sling
This sling consists of two rings and a long piece of fabric that is threaded through the rings. Baby can be positioned in a variety of ways, including on the front, back, side, facing inward or outward, with legs tucked or out. Pros: There are numerous positions to place a baby in this carrier, and it can support the weight of a toddler. Without the structure of a backpack carrier or SSC, you can place your baby in most any position, including the cradle hold, fetal with legs tucked or with legs hanging down. This is a great option for newborns with little neck control and can be a great option for babies who love being swaddled.
Cons: It does take practice to get a handle on proper positioning. It can take more time to put on until you are well versed in how to use it. For me, it doesn’t feel as secure as a SSC.
Moby Wrap
The wrap is a long piece of fabric that ties around your body in different ways to wear your baby in a variety of positions, similar to those mentioned for the Maya.
Pros: As with the Maya, there are endless positions and holds. I have found this to feel more supportive than the Maya, better distributing the weight throughout. It’s also a good choice for a newborn and can even support a toddler. Cons: The learning curve is quite high. It takes a lot of practice to get the tie right. It is a lot of fabric, which can drag on the ground, while you are tying it in place. Because of all the fabric, it can be quite hot for both you and the baby. In the end, I highly recommend baby wearing. It may take some practice, but the extra cuddles and ability to be hands-free are worth it. Did I mention the extra calorie burn?
Meagan Church is a writer and mother of three kids. Her current projects include DefiningMotherhood, and Unexpectant where she explores the realities of modern motherhood for her book project.
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Looking for some amazing events to keep your little ones occupied this fall? Here are a few coming up this September and into October that we think you just have to know about! Cereal and Grandparents
There are a few things kids love, and two of them will be showcased as fun events taking place at the Mishawaka-PennHarris Library, Downtown branch. First, let’s talk cereal. On Saturday, September 8th, the downtown branch’s Saturday Morning Stories will focus on Cereal Month. Head on over to the library at 10:30 AM for a cereal taste-testing extravaganza! Children ages 2-7 will try to identify their favorite cereal and then make a craft to take home. Saturday Morning Stories is a non-registered program that provides a sampling of the materials used in the library’s Preschool and Toddler programs. Enjoy stories, songs, finger plays and more! Adult caregivers are expected to attend with their children. Next, as much as kids love cereal, they love their grandparents a thousand times more. And with Grandparent’s day on September 9th, your little tikes are going to need to show their love through thoughtful cards and gifts. That’s why the Downtown branch is having their Grandparent’s Day Walk-in Craft. Stop by the Downtown Mishawaka Library on Friday, September 7 anytime between 10:30 AM and 4 PM or Saturday, September 8 anytime between 1 and 4 PM to make a special gift to give Grandma, Grandpa or both! Registration is not required. For more information on either of these events, call 574.259.5277, ext. 242. 54 MI CHILD SPECIAL SECTION | SEPTEMBER 2012
The Fresh Beat Band
If you’re looking for an event that will make your kids’ heads explode from sheer excitement, check this out. Nickelodeon’s popular preschool music group and stars of the hit TV series of the same name, The Fresh Beat Band, will be at The Morris Performing Arts Center from 6:30 to 8 PM on October 17th. They’ve added a second leg (50 cities, 70 performances) to their current sold-out nationwide concert. More than 200,000 fans will have seen the live show by the end of the first run, making it one of this year’s most successful music tours. The stars from the show will be performing hits from seasons one, two and three of the Nickelodeon live-action music series that teaches preschoolers about music appreciation. Songs performed include “Here We Go,” “A Friend Like You,” “Bananas,” and “Just Like A Rockstar,” among others. This is an event your kids are going to love. So to find out more, visit The Morris website at morriscenter.org or call 574.235.9198.
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Family Medicine Center welcomes Rachelina P. Kvietkus, MD Family Medicine Center welcomes internal medicine physician Rachelina P. Kvietkus, MD. Dr. Kvietkus received her bachelor of science degree from the University of Notre Dame and earned her medical degree from the Indiana Graduate School of Medicine in Indianapolis. She then completed her internal medicine residency at the Mayo Graduate School of Medicine in Rochester, Minnesota. She is a member of the American Medical Association and other professional associations, and is Board Certified in Internal Medicine. Dr. Kvietkus is accepting new patients at Family Medicine Center, located at 2120 Rieth Boulevard, Suite A in Goshen. To schedule an appointment, call 574-875-5126.