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Detroiters Vote on Council Representatives and City Clerk in General Election By Sherri Kolade During the Tuesday, November 2 General Election, voters went to the polls to select the top candidates in various City Council races and the City Clerk’s office. More than half of the city’s districts were reporting at the Michigan Chronicle’s press deadline. Detroit City Clerk The Michigan Chronicle endorsed Janice M. Winfrey for re-election for Detroit City Clerk. The incumbent was headed to victory with Winfrey receiving 61.9% of the vote to challenger Denzel McCampbell’s 38.1% at the Michigan Chronicle’s press deadline. At-Large City Council At the Michigan Chronicle press deadline Young and Ayers were both winning with 32.3% of the vote and 25.1%, respectively.
Mayor Mike Duggan Mounts Victory in General Election
District 1 At the Michigan Chronicle press deadline, Michigan Chronicle endorsee James Tate was reporting with 69.5% of the vote over challenger Krystal Larsosa.
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Mayor Duggan has spent eight years trying to keep ayor Mike Duggan mounted a triumph win in the city’s budget balanced, render essential city serTuesday night’s general election. The incum- vices, and persuade businesses to set up shop and bent official was reporting 64.5% votes over bring jobs for Detroiters. opponent Anthony Adams reporting with 35.5% votes. Some critics have questioned the mayor’s apDetroit’s general election race has been interestingproach and policy — noting that Black residents are ly lowkey this year. The race for the city’s next mayor left out of economic development. However, Dugcame down to Duggan and Adams. gan’s administration has argued that it understands Duggan’s victory is not shocking to some across the gravity of providing good-paying jobs and touts the city, including prominent backers who see the in- it has done so by Duggan’s appointment and leadercumbent official as deserving of a third term. ship of Nicole-Sherard-Freeman, an African American Since January, the mayor raised more than $1.1 woman who serves as Group Executive of Jobs, Econmillion for his reelection campaign compared with omy, and Detroit at Work. Anthony Adams, the second-highest candidate at “The incredible success of Detroit at Work under $160,575, according to submitted campaign finance Nicole’s leadership has become our most effective records before the August primary election. selling point from an economic standpoint,” Duggan Weeks ahead of the November election, Duggan’s said in a written statement. “Major corporations are team reported $361,880 in campaign donations. looking at Detroit now as a great place to locate based Adams failed to file his campaign finance report by on the strength of our workforce and our ability to produce a list of job candidates.” the October 22nd deadline.
District 2 At the Michigan Chronicle press deadline, Angela Calloway was in the lead with 55.9% over Roy McCalister District 3 Incumbent Scott Benson did not face a challenger. District 4 At the Michigan Chronicle press deadline Latisha Johnson had a strong lead reporting 63.4% of votes over challenger journalist M.L. Elrick. District 5 Incumbent Mary Sheffield did not face a challenger District 6 At the Michigan Chronicle press deadline, Gabriela Santiago-Romero was leading 72.9% over Michigan Chronicle endorsee Hector Santiago.
The Michigan Chronicle Editorial Board endorsed Duggan for a third term. Duggan’s journey as mayor began when he took office in January of 2014. The city was gripped under a cloud of municipal bankruptcy and state emergency management. Duggan’s plan included installing 60,000 LED streetlights, trash collection, public transportation, improving response time for the police and fire departments, and demolishing abandoned struc-
District 7 At the Michigan Chronicle press deadline, Michigan Chronicle endorsee Fred Durhal holds a very close lead with 52.4% over challenger Regina Ross.
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Duggan has previously stated he would like to be judged on decreasing the city’s population loss. His first term he says was focused on restoring basic city services, a second term on bringing back jobs, and a third term on investment reaching all Detroiters. The next full mayoral term will kick off at the beginning of the new year, January 1, 2022. The conclusion of Duggan’s third term would mark 12 years he has served as Mayor of Detroit.
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Detroiters Vote Yes Proposal R and E on Tuesday’s Ballot By Sherri Kolade
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www.ballotpedia.com. The Michigan Chronicle also supports the “yes” vote of Proposal E, which would legalize the therapeutic use of entheogenic drugs, according to Ballotpedia.
With more than half of the districts in Detroit reporting at the Michigan Chronicle’s press deadline — Detroit residents were trending towards a “yes” on Proposals R and E during the November general election with 62% of voters saying yes on Prop E and 81% voting yes on Prop E. Registered Detroit voters made critical decisions that impacted the future of their city, and surrounding area, for years to come. The Michigan Chronicle fully endorsed “yes” votes on both Prop R and E with the primary reasons being to better economic opportunities for Black residents from reparations to the decriminalization of entheogenic plants. On July 21, Detroit City Council unanimously passed to have a ballot question proposed to citizens in the November general election. Per Ballot-
pedia, the ballot question appeared as: “Should the Detroit City Council establish a Reparations Task Force to make recommendations for housing and economic development programs that address historical discrimination against the Black community in Detroit?” A “yes” vote supports creating a city reparations committee tasked with making recommendations for housing and economic development programs for Black Detroit residents, according to
A “yes” vote supports the measure by ballot initiative to decriminalize the possession and therapeutic use of entheogenic plants, including psilocybin mushrooms, peyote and iboga, and declare that police shall treat the possession and use of entheogenic plants by adults among the lowest law enforcement priorities. The Michigan Chronicle supported a “yes” vote for Prop E with one primary reason being that decriminalizing the use of magic mushrooms, especially for medicinal purposes, is what the Black community needs. Please visit MichiganChronicle.com for updated results.
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Renting Blues - Programs Preventing Eviction By Megan Kirk
must find a way to remain in their homes.
In 2019, 41,439 families were evicted from rental properties in Michigan. The pandemic helped to drive the number of evictions down, but it also created issues of housing stability and a potential for influx in homelessness. Still, organizations are working to ensure Michigan families can stay in their homes.
Lakeshore Legal Aid provides free civil legal services for those who qualify for low-income housing including senior citizens and domestic violence and sexual assault survivors. In the last year, Lakeshore has been one of the leading voices assisting families in legal proceedings concerning evictions. Actively serving Wayne, Macomb and Oakland counties and others, Lakeshore has witnessed the ups and downs of the eviction process.
Lasting more than a year, the federal moratorium on evictions was enacted in September 2020. Causing an immediate stop to evictions, landlords were legally bound from requesting tenants to vacate. Court closings and social distancing measures also aided in keeping eviction cases out of chambers. However, courts have resumed proceedings putting thousands of families across Detroit at risk of being displaced. As winter nears, the amount of eviction cases have begun to climb as the CDC’s eviction moratorium was lifted in September. Now, families
“It’s been kind of a wave. What we’ve seen has changed throughout the last year and a half. Shortly after the shutdown, in the beginning of the pandemic, there was very limited activity in the eviction courts and then we had the eviction moratorium that just ended. During that time, there was very little activity. A lot of landlords were waiting until the moratorium was lifted to file their eviction case. It’s not to say evictions weren’t filed, but the volume was nowhere near the normal
volume,” said Ashley Lowe, chief executive officer of Lakeshore Legal Aid. At the height of the pandemic, eviction numbers began to see a decline. Reporting 40,612 total pre-pandemic evictions across Michigan, the State reports 7,133 families were evicted during the pandemic with 63,333 new eviction cases filed. “We are starting to see a little bit more by way of evictions, but luckily it is not a huge number,” said Kelly Rose, chief housing solutions officer with the Michigan State Housing Development Authority. Families seeking assistance should know there is still assistance available to counter an eviction case. CERA, or the Michigan Covid Emergency Rental Assistance program, is in place for eligible renting families and individual households that earn an income less than 80 percent of Area Median Income, or AMI. “There’s a lot of rental assistance that’s still available. The same amounts that were avail-
How Mentors Help Shape Detroit’s Youth By Megan Kirk Mentoring programs have helped to establish structure and guidance for youth for decades. Serving to provide fundamental building blocks for character and success, mentors act as role models and help steer youth towards a lifetime of opportunity and achievement. The importance of youth mentoring programs continues and organizations are meeting kids right where they are. According to statistics, one in three children will grow up without a mentor. With 31 percent of Detroiters being under the age of 18, the opportunity for mentorship is great. Across the city, several programs catering to young men and women have been established and have provided Detroit’s youth, in some cases, a second chance. Friends of the Children intentionally targets at-risk youth and kids who may be facing grave adversity. Originally based in Oregon, the organization reached Detroit just over a year ago and has established roots in the city and is lending a hand to Detroit youth. “I think there are two different categories. For one, the children we serve, because a lot of them have been affected by trauma, it’s important for them to have a relationship with a caring adult. It’s also transferable to children who do live in stable homes,” says Nicole McKinney, executive director of Friend of the Children. “Another category is for Black children who are enrolled in a predominantly white institution. It’s important to have mentors who look like you.” In Black communities, economics create barriers in education, access and, in many cases, success. Schools offering mentoring programs sometimes are first to see funding cut for extracurricular activities. Organizations that are independently run saw a dip in attendance. IMAGINE Mentoring, a Detroit-based program, had 70 girls during its peak in 2020. Now, standing at just 15 girls, the organization is recovering from the pandemic. “COVID hit and we started going virtual and of course the virtual fallout has been an extreme challenge for the kids because they don’t want to be on the computer. With COVID, I couldn’t get them to come in,” says Latonya Garth, founder of IMAGINE Mentoring Program. With more than 10 years invested into Detroit youth, the IMAGINE Mentoring Program began as a group for adolescent girls. Rapidly expanding to include a wider age range, the organization grew.
“IMAGINE has been my sanity. It is an organization that I founded based on seeing young people who have experienced trauma. At the time I was experiencing adversity myself and that was my way to serve my way out,” says Garth. “It started as a girl’s group with the Detroit Job Corp Center. I started with five to ten girls and then all of a sudden it got bigger and bigger.” IMPACT, the male-based mentorship program within IMAGINE, received its name after a roll-over car accident with a young Black teen where he fled the scene of the accident. The program is intended to affect significant change in young Black men across Detroit. However, taking a personal hit during the pandemic, IMPACT lost its leader and head male mentor due to the coronavirus. Opening the door for another version of mentoring in helping to steer the emotions of the young, the founder decided to take a step back and allow healing to take place. “I ended up recruiting a male mentor to lead the IMPACT piece. Unfortunately, we lost him to COVID last year and it was devastating. I couldn’t do it, so I put IMPACT on the shelf,” says Garth. “I know he would want me to keep going and continue mentoring the young men.” Creating lifelong bonds, mentoring programs help develop social and practical skills giving youth the tools needed to navigate life and increasing the chance mentees will grow to become leaders. MENTOR National reports 55 percent of young adults who are mentored are more likely to go to college. “Everyone needs a mentor in their lives. You’re never too old for a mentor. Mentoring allows you to learn from others and benefits both the mentor and the mentee because the mentor is able to share a piece of them[self] and pay it forward and a child benefits from it. The child will grow and hopefully pay it forward in the future,” says McKinney. For a lot of children, seeing is believing and mentorship allows youth to see an alternative to current circumstances. While education, career and accolades can make for a good mentor, the quality of a mentor is measured in their life experiences and the need of each child. “When I recruit my mentors, I always tell them ‘You can have educational experience or none at all. I just need you to have life experience.’ If you can pour into these kids and have the heart to serve, I need you. I don’t discriminate. I don’t care what color you are, what your background is, I need people with life experience,” says Garth.
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“If a tenant has applied for the CERA program, there is an automatic 45-day stay to their case; or a continuance. That gives time for their application to be processed and for payment to be made to the landlord,” said Rose. Under the program, according to Lakeshore, tenants can get up to 18 months of rental assistance dating back to March 2020. Families can also receive assistance with utility payments under the Act. “The program is great but it is slower than anyone would want it to be. People apply and it can take from a couple weeks to months to get the applications processed and money in the hands of the landlords,” said Lowe. While landlords reserve the right to file for eviction, leasing offices and agents are also able to apply for the funds on behalf of a tenant. Landlords can begin the process by filling out their application for CERA. “They can apply for the program, the tenant has to agree with it, but the landlord can start the application process. If they believe their tenant hasn’t paid, but the money is out there, they can go ahead and start the process and then the housing agencies will reach out to the tenant,” said Lowe. Tenants and landlords seeking to take part in the CERA program are encouraged to complete an application online. For those who face issues with access to the internet or a computer, there is a phone number to apply.
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By Megan Kirk The connection between the Black community and the healthcare industry has been strained for generations. Experimental testing and vaccinations, lack of representation in health professions and general mistrust have all contributed to the breakdown. For Black women, disparities concerning uterine fibroids is an ongoing fight and healthcare professionals are looking to do the work to protect Black health. Non-cancerous growths on the uterus ranging in size, fibroids are the most common form of pelvic tumors in women. Black women, however, account for more diagnosed cases, resulting in higher rates for hysterectomies and other methods of treatment and removal. Medically, African American women are three times more likely to develop uterine fibroids than any other racial group. While research as to why is still in progress, rates continue to climb.
Pontiac resident Terese Teasley shows others their worth after finding her own. Photo provided by Terese Teasley
In fibroids, age is not necessarily one of the factors that contributes to development. At the start of puberty, a woman’s chances of developing a uterine fibroid increases. It is important to note that uterine fibroids will not develop before the start of a menstrual cycle. Black women are being diagnosed at earlier ages. “It can be diagnosed early in the reproductive years. If a woman starts her period early, this could lead to early predisposition to fibroids,” says Dr. Omar Zwain, a minimally invasive gynecologic surgeon with Ascension Providence Hospital. “Fibroids can be asymptomatic, but there can be menstrual irregularities, pain during sex, bleeding between cycles, abdominal cramping, urge to urinate and can cause issues with fertility.” Fibroids are sometimes to blame for women who have suffered from infertility or the inability to carry to full term. If a fibroid exists and pregnancy is the goal, watching for symptoms of worsening or improvement can help conception. “First, not all tumors need to be treated. However, what is important is monitoring your symptoms,” says Dr. Zwain. African American women over the age of 40 have some different experiences with fibroids. Black women in this age group see fibroids more frequently and the tumors can grow more rapidly. Preserving the uterus is typically the goal, but pain and other health issues can lead to a total uterine removal. “Many patients have reached a point where fibroids are too large and pass the threshold for minimally invasive procedures. Hysterectomy is the definitive treatment for the fibroids. If we remove the uterus, there will be no growth of fibroids. We try other forms of treatment before hysterectomy is the last result,” says Dr. Zwain. While little is known as to why fibroids affect Black women at higher rates, research has led to speculation that nutrition and diet, vitamin D deficiencies and family history are all likely to play a role. While it is not thought fibroid tumors are genetic, it is said to have ties to genetics and chromosomes. “Unfortunately, as of now we don’t know the reason for growth, but it’s not an inherited issue. It can have something to do with genes. We don’t know why, but it could also have
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Coaching It Forward: Survivor Turned Life Coach Now Empowers Others
By Sherri Kolade The little girl didn’t have anyone to protect her from vicious abuse (from someone who knew better), and was only four years old when a female family friend inappropriately touched her decades ago. “I lost my innocence and voice at the age of 4 by an individual that my parents believe would provide care for me,” Terese “Tea Nicole” Teasley, 41, told the Michigan Chronicle. “For many years I cried out for help while suffering silently but no one listened. I learned at an early age how to protect myself, fight, put up walls, lie, and how to adapt to
things that were not normal because I was numb.” Teasley said that as a side effect, she also suffered from imposter syndrome because she didn’t truly know who she was, where she belonged or who to trust for years. “For many years I thought I was all alone and that I was the only one that experienced this type of abuse,” she said. Teasley, unfortunately, is not alone. According to RAINN, the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization, one in nine girls and one in 53 boys (under the age of 18) experience
sexual abuse or assault at the hands of an adult. Just over 80 percent of all victims under 18 are female. The organization also reported that the child victims often know the perpetrator, like Teasley did. Today, the Pontiac native allowed the pain, confusion, internal struggles and battles she carried for years to be worked through, no longer pushed down in the pit of her stomach -- and now, Teasley is helping others do the same as the founder of her health and wellness services program, Driven By Purpose, LLC.
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Brink of Death to BET Detroit Woman Defines Her Healing Journey
She was on the verge of death more times than she would like to count – but that hasn’t slowed her purpose down it’s actually fueled it. Detroit native Dr. Missy Johnson has felt the chill of near-death situations that tried to paralyze her with fear.
Detroit native Dr. Missy Johnson defied death three times and shares her story to empower others. Photo provided by Dr. Missy Johnson
Johnson, in her 50s, faced death in the face four years ago when she was given a three percent chance to wake up from the coma she was in for nearly 50 days. Her healing journey, to say the least, was atypical. When she beat the statistics, she also went on to write a movie short The Waiting Room episode called The Party for the BETHer Channel which aired on October 9 and is available for streaming on BETHer. “To actually see it -- it was like amazing,” she said, adding that “people have journeyed with me” through her cancer diagnosis. The Waiting Room is part of a series of two short films that follows the lives of two women in a doctor’s waiting room as they find out to hear if they have breast cancer – something not new to Johnson. After beating the odds and finding the strength to live through sepsis, 25 surgeries, and a coma, Johnson was faced again hit with another scary situation in her life, when she was diagnosed with Stage 3c
breast cancer. Johnson, who didn’t easily accept defeat, went on to live her life by her terms. “Every time I was moving forward, I got an interruption in my life,” Johnson said. “If you can’t fly, then run. I don’t care what happens, if you can’t fly and I have to crawl this movie is going to come out.” Johnson, who has had 25 surgeries in the last two years, also battled stage three cancer as she learned her sister also had cancer. Johnson stayed strong for both herself and her sister. She did not let the health crisis pull her spirits down, and she continued writing her movie with a determination that someone would produce it. Knowing what she does about fighting when the odds are not in your favor, it is no coincidence that the movie is about an executive, socialite magazine editor battling breast cancer for the second time, according to a press release. It was in the middle of writing the movie that Johnson’s sister lost her battle with cancer. “I lost nine people in my family to cancer including my sister, Johnson added. “My sister died as I was writing the movie and though I tried, I couldn’t save her. So this is bittersweet. Instead, I had the opportunity to cre-
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“We focus on the whole person mentally, physically and spiritually,” her slogan reads. “We believe in the impossible.” Teasley, who overcame the impossible, is also the author of “Breakthrough Awaits Empowerment Journal” and co-author of “The Coaches Connect” told the Michigan Chronicle that before her healing journey started, she held fastidiously onto the belief that no one could protect her because she did not tell anybody about the abuse.
Mr. Aaron McDaniel, Yolanda Scott and Dr. Shaun and Elizabeth Cooper are pleased to announce the marriage of their children. Nikole Renee McDaniel and Joshua John Philip Cooper were wed in a lovely intimate ceremony on September 25, 2021, at Westminster Church of Detroit. The couple honeymooned in Florida.
Fibroids From page A-3
something to do with chromosomes,” says Dr. Zwain. Currently, there are no proven methods of prevention. Hormones and changes in hormonal levels are attributed to the continued growth of fibroids, but gives doctors some methods to help patients. “There are no certain preventative measures. For some women, birth control pills can decrease the level of hormones and growth of the fibroid. The fibroids grow as a result of the hormones,” says Dr. Zwain.
Women who suspect fibroid tumors are encouraged to reach out to their healthcare provider for treatment and an official diagnosis. Ascension Health has become home to one of the country’s leading centers for fibroid treatment. Opening the first multidisciplinary fibroid center, Ascension Providence Center for Fibroids and Minimally Invasive Gynecologic surgery includes surgeons, radiologists and hematologists. “Your healthcare professional is here for you and will advocate for you. If you feel like you’re not being offered all the options, there is no harm in seeking a second opinion,” says Dr. Zwain.
“For years I carried a lot of weight, hurt, guilt and shame, which lead to health problems, anxiety, fear, low self-esteem and me not knowing my worth,” Teasley said, adding that for most of her life she has been overweight. “Because I carried secrets of being molested, touched by people I trusted, seeing abuse in my home and because of family secrets. In 2005, I fell into depression and wanted to take my life, but I called out to God and began my spiritual journey. It was not easy, but I told God if He showed me who He was and what I had to do I would turn my life around.” From having a healthcare scare in 2020 that ended up with her los-
Missy Johnson From page A-3 ate this movie about breast cancer awareness.” Johnson says that the doctors at Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit saved her life twice. “When I found out I had cancer after my coma, I didn’t have a lot of hope,” she said. It was Dr. Randa Loufti, an oncologist at HFHS who said, “If anyone can survive this, it’s you. You have fearless faith.” Before the sepsis, Johnson was also in a serious car accident that almost took her life, but once again she had the determination to live. Johnson, now a professional screenwriter, is also a speaker, author, and coach. She has a women’s empowerment organization called Fearless Women Rock LLC. Johnson and her husband Lee, have a son. Today Johnson likes to remind people, “Tomorrow is not promised. Live life to the fullest as the best version of who you are. You don’t
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ing nearly 60 pounds naturally (and taking back her power, strength and health) to gaining a new lease on life and quitting her job in February – Teasley said that her “story is still being written” with the pen firmly held in her hand this time. “I am a Brown girl that rocks that looks to show individuals how to be their unapologetically dope seIf,” she said, adding that as an ICF Certified Holistic life Coach (that specializes in wholeness, wellness and health) she is on a mission to educate, empower and inspire others to live healthier and whole lives and live life on purpose by “tapping into their greatness.” Teasley added that she was up to the task of having to break through generational curses, and she heavily leaned on God for help in that process. “I said, ‘God, I just want to help people,’” she said. “I reversed the curse and didn’t even know what I was saying. As I got older … now I understand. Now I identify as a breakthrough.” She added that she got to her place of happiness by walking in her truth because as a child she lost her voice and she began having digestive tract issues. “I didn’t know how to express the things I liked, didn’t like so I would hold it in my stomach; hold
need acceptance or approval of anyone.” Johnson, who also overcame a severe COVID-19 diagnosis last year, has a female production company, MegaMind Media and Tressa Azarel Smallwood of Maryland.
it inside,” she said, adding that she knows where her feelings are at her stomach, which was physically painful. When she began to identify her feelings and grew out of just feeling numb, Teasley said that she began speaking up, and she wants other people to speak up for themselves, too. For her, speaking up looked like finally telling her mother what happened, and she’s been speaking out ever since and helping others with their own journey to do some inner healing by first identifying that they might have a problem. “In order to heal you have to know something is wrong, then once you have identified it you have to accept it,” she said. “Then in order for you to heal you have to learn how to find out what the root cause is. Getting to the root of the problem ... I believe is to remove it or release it.” She said that she had to heal the inner child that was crying out to her. She then wrote down what was bothering her, then talked to others who helped her finish the work. “This is how you overcome,” she said. For more information visit www. tereseteasley.com. Find her on Facebook, Instagram & YouTube at Driven By Purpos3. Keep crafting your stories... whatever (is) the thing you overcame is the thing you got to teach.” Johnson can be reached at hello@askdrmissy.com and you find out more information about her at www.askdrmissy.com.
Johnson said that it’s God’s grace in her life that helps her overcome and be the motivation she is today. “Someone told (me) I don’t look like what I’ve been through -- I got papers,” she said of her scars on her body and constant physical pain that tells her story. “Every day I am in pain; I don’t complain.” Johnson, who has an organization called Fearless Women Rock (which she started in 2017) said that the women-empowerment organization is helping her share her story, which she said is not about her. “(It may) be for somebody else,” she said, adding that people don’t have to have gone through neardeath experiences like she did to tell their own stories. ”If you overcame anything in your life and could help somebody make a difference, your story needs to be told.
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Is Bankruptcy Right For You? By Ethan D. Dunn What type of bankruptcy is right for me? Understanding the difference between a Chapter 7 and a Chapter 13. Bankruptcy is often seen as a scary proposition. But the truth is, bankruptcy is just another tool you can utilize on your road to success. Understanding the bankruptcy options available to you and what they would mean for you or your business is essential to removing the fear and recognizing what is actually possible in bankruptcy. Bankruptcy can generally be understood as having two possible types: Reorganization (Chapter 13) and Liquidation (Chapter 7).
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First, let’s get a basic understanding of each. In a Reorganization, you are creating a plan to pay back your debts using a carefully planned budget that allows you to meet your basic needs and use the leftover cash to pay your debts. In order to successfully reorganize, you need to generate enough income to not only pay for basic needs, but also have some money left over that will be used to pay your debts. The money that is left over will be used to create a plan for repaying your creditors as much as you can afford. If you put together a budget and it shows that you don’t have any money left over after paying for your basic needs, then a Liquidation is an option. In this type of bankruptcy case, you are using your assets to pay your debts. The Bankruptcy Code allows you to keep many of the items you will need for your basic needs, but any items that you are not allowed to keep are sold for cash and that cash is used to pay as many of your debts as possible. Reorganization is typically what you’re doing when you file a Chapter 11 or Chapter 13 bankruptcy. With few exceptions, a Chapter 11 bankruptcy is usually how businesses reorganize (think General Motors) and, although interesting, is not within the scope of this article. Individuals likely would reorganize their debts by filing a Chapter 13 bankruptcy. In fact, Chapter 13 bankruptcy is only for individuals – companies cannot file a chapter 13.
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The Chapter 13 bankruptcy lets you restructure your debts, while providing protection from creditors who may try to garnish your paycheck, levy your bank account or seize property that you own. The plan that you create with your attorney allows you up to five (5) years to repay your creditors as much as you can afford.
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and follow the format of similar sized stores around the country.
ity Club Apartments, a 100-year-old Detroit company, and the City of Detroit jointly announced today that Target will become an anchor tenant in the newest City Club Apartments mixed-use community in Midtown. The announcement was made by City Club Apartments CEO Jonathan Holtzman, Detroit Mayor Mike Duggan and Midtown Detroit Inc. President Sue Mosey.
“Any day we get to announce that a respected national retailer like Target is choosing to locate in our city is a great day,” said Mayor Duggan. “Over the past decade we have seen Midtown develop into a vibrant, diverse, mixed-income neighborhood. Adding this Target store will provide an anchor retail presence to serve residents in the area and across the city. I’m deeply grateful to Target, City Club Apartments, Midtown Detroit, Inc., and the dedicated City of Detroit staff that helped make this happen.”
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“I would like to thank Target for choosing Detroit, Midtown and our next new mixed-use apartment hotel community in the city,” said Holtzman. “This important announcement is a testament to Detroit’s strong leadership and continued momentum. I applaud Mayor Mike Duggan, the planning and other departments, City Council President Brenda Jones, City Council, the Midtown neighborhood and Sue Mosey. It has been a major and coordinated effort to secure approvals on our initial plans from the planning and zoning departments, attract Target as an anchor tenant and complete our agreement with the landowner.” “The next stage of the development process is to develop and receive approval for a complete set of architectural plans and specs,” said Holtzman. “This development requires continued collaboration on many additional critical components. This will include approval of a Brownfield Tax Increment Financing (TIF), approval to be included in the surrounding New & Rehabilitation Neighborhood Enterprise Zone (NEZ), and additional approvals from various City of Detroit departments. We are actively in the process of meeting with general contractors. This is a highly complex mixed-use residential and retail development, and we are interviewing companies with the depth, experience and expertise commensurate with the development. We continue to be in an environment with significant labor and material shortages.”
A Chapter 13 plan can be intricate as a result of the numerous competing interests of the debtor, creditors, and other interested parties. However, once the plan is approved by the courts and implemented, your old debts become part of the plan and as long as you make your plan payments and meet the other chapter 13 legal requirements, you will, with few exceptions, come out of the bankruptcy debt free.
The new 32,000-square-foot store will be located at the SE Corner of Mack Avenue and Woodward Avenue
Liquidation, on the other hand,
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SGRX Turns 20
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can and Minority Owned Businesses in 2021.
Worldwide, the pharmaceutical industry generated a total of 1.27 trillion dollars in 2020. Responsible for distributing, producing and managing medicines, the pharmaceutical industry continues to involve and so do the companies it serves. A Michigan-based pharmaceutical company is celebrating 20 years of service and plans to impact the community with more than just medicine.
In its 20 years, SGRX has continued to grow its network. A year riddled by a pandemic proved to be one of the most successful years for the company. Earning more than 100 million dollars in prescription benefit drug spend in 2020, SGRX also added customers in the State of Carolina, increasing the number of States with customers to 12.
Headquartered in Grosse Pointe, Michigan, ScriptGuideRX, Inc, or SGRX, is one of the leading names in pharmaceuticals. Privately-owned, SGRX provides Pharmacy Benefit Management and Third Party Administration to companies across the United States; both private and public. Originally founded in 2001, the minority-owned company has acquired a growing reputation and has graced Crain’s list of African Ameri-
Tackling the fight against COVID from a different front, SGRX got a firsthand look at how the virus had begun to affect the pharmaceutical industry. SGRX was able and how employers struggled to keep their employees covered. “We also lost customers because of the pandemic. Our business is such that we’re constantly competing with organizations in our space and our
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Ime Ekpenyong, CEO of ScriptGuideRX
“Midtown Detroit, Inc. is thrilled that Target is coming to Midtown,” said Mosey. “This store will offer grocery, general merchandise and other amenities for our growing downtown/ Midtown population of over 25,000 residents and 30,000 college students. We anticipate residents from other Detroit neighborhoods will also find this store a convenient shopping option.” Located on 2.4 acres at the SE Corner of Mack Avenue and Woodward Avenue, City Club Apartments Midtown will include 350 apartment and penthouse apartments in three distinctly designed and cohesively connected buildings with 186 underground parking spaces. Twenty percent of the apartments will be affordable at 80% AMI. The street level retail space will include the Target store, an international bank branch and a restaurant and café with dedicated outdoor seating. The apartment hotel will feature a lobby lounge library, indoor and outdoor theaters, Sky Park with rooftop pool, Bark Park, Sky Club outdoor terrace, 24/7 whole body fitness center, multi-function yoga and wellness room, business center and conference rooms. The new community will also include 24/7 time saving concierge services, weekly events and social programing and the fastest connectivity technologies. Available in four finishes, the unit floor plans will range in size from studios to three-bedroom penthouses,
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Don’t Fall for the Trap – How to Tell if You Are Being Gaslit at Work By Sherri Kolade
how the individual feels and be vigilant to pick up on the signs of being gaslit.
You’re being too sensitive. They didn’t mean it like that. Toughen up. Don’t overthink it.
“Continue to make your voice heard -- continue to speak up,” she said, adding that the biggest thing in the workplace is always finding an ally or allies to “help you raise your voice, thoughts, opinions and ideas.”
Sound familiar? These are common phrases used by people who gaslight to throw their victims off balance mentally -- not to talk of on the job.
She also added that it’s important to note if being gaslit is a common occurrence and if the job is worth sticking around for.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person (or group of people) secretly plant seeds of doubt in the mind of a targeted person (or group) to make them question their own memory, judgment or perception of an event, according to various definitions.
Jay also said that Black employees are often susceptible to being gaslit on the job. “It is extremely common in the Black community and minorities, period,” she said. “We’re afraid of being seen as too aggressive if we’re too loud or vocal.”
Lansing-based Chelsea Jay, a career coach and employee advocate who is “unapologetic” about her approach to getting people’s careers all the way together, posted about those phrases in a LinkedIn because she knows firsthand about being gaslit at a job time and time again.
Jay added that she encourages her minority clients to find an organization that allows one to thrive, embraces their culture and who they are. “Our job is not to make other people comfortable,” she said. One of Jay’s clients, Kaljah Adams, a full-time college counselor and resume writing business owner, said that she has been gaslit at work before.
“This is a prime example of gaslighting,” Jay noted of her examples. “Just a reminder that you are entitled to your feelings, never let any boss/company invalidate them, and toxic behavior in the workplace is not OK. If you’ve been told this once… that’s too many times. You deserve better. Go get it.” Jay also posted a LinkedIn poll inquiring if others have been gaslit in the workplace. “Have you ever worked in an environment that made you question your sanity?” Her question on the professional social networking platform read and (out of 452 votes) 90 percent of her poll-takers have been gaslit on the job; nine percent have not. Gaslighting is an invalidating experience that is all too common in the workplace, too. On the job, a gaslighter can be a negative manager, a dubious coworker, a prejudiced workgroup, an angry customer/client, or even a business competitor. Psychology Today (PT) reports that “workplace gaslighting can also be the result of systemic, institutional bias, or negative media and social media coverage. A gaslighter may target and victimize groups as well as individuals.” Workplace gaslighting, according to PT, is different from other forms of job-related issues like: The difficult work situation is be-
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“To just feel that my experience of what I was going through [was not valid],” she said adding that once at her old job all of her coworkers [except for her] received holiday gifts. “I felt some type of way about it.” cause of a consistent individual, group or institutional bias and negativity, rather than solid proof, strong facts, established cases, and/or proven data. The harsh work environment creates a negative narrative about the gaslightee (contrary to evidence) and damages the gaslightee’s personal or professional reputation. The mistreatment persists over a period of time, despite a clear track record of the gaslightee’s positive collaboration, contributions and accomplishments. When approached on the matter, the gaslighter typically deflects and denies. “The result of chronic gaslighting is that it can make the gaslightee feel ‘lesser’ as a team member, contributor or provider of product or service,” PT reported. “One may even begin to question one’s own professional credibility and personal self-worth, wondering if the gaslighter is justified in their judgments and accusations (despite evidence to the
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groups are primarily employee groups also who are looking, over the past year, to survive. Some of them had to make some drastic changes to survive and get benefits which also impacted us,” says Ime Ekpenyong, CEO of ScriptGuideRX. “We lost some, but we also ended on a positive note and the net effect was positive for us and that’s what helped us hit that milestone.” Expanding their Pharmacy Benefit Management and Third Party Administration Services to include 340B Administration Services and Medication Therapy Management Services, the pharmaceutical brand has also expanded its Prescription Savings Program, SGRXSaves, to include all major pharmacy chain locations nationwide. “There are probably, nationwide, less than three organizations that we know of that are certified minority business enterprises in this space, so it’s something we’re very proud of. From a social responsibility standpoint, we do our part to make sure we also give
back by ensuing minority businesses get work. We’re intentional about supporting African-American owned businesses and minority businesses in our space,” says Ekpenyong. “We make sure every opportunity we have to work with vendors, we make sure we include organizations that are minority-based organizations. From a personnel standpoint, we make sure we’re intentional about including individuals of a minority descent.” Targeting the underinsured and those who have no pharmacy coverage, SGRX’s Prescription Savings Program aims to help individuals receive discounts on prescription drugs. “Our plan is to continue to grow. One of the blessings for our business is that we are a nationwide organization. We recently procured customers in Hawaii, and business in the US Virgin Islands. We have the infrastructure to operate nationwide. One of the greatest assets we own is our network. We have 60,000 pharmacies nationwide and our goal
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townhouses and terraces, and guests will be able to rent a furnished or unfurnished apartment or penthouse for a day, week, month or multiple years. “City Club Apartments Midtown will combine the service and amenities of a five-star hotel with engaging, connected and walkable urban apartment living,” said Holtzman. “The look and feel both inside and out will be stunning and our residents will have direct, walkable access to the city’s public transportation, arts and culture, parks and trails, sporting venues, retail, restaurants, and entertainment. We are in the beginning stages of meeting with the arts community to discuss the activation of our outdoor community Art Park. Our intention is to create the Eastern Market of art and culture inviting local artists, galleries and theater groups to participate in our Art Park weekly events.” City Club Apartments Midtown will be National Green Building Standard (NGBS) certified and Wellness Certi-
is to capitalize off that,” says Ekpenyong. “In addition, we’re expanding our Prescription Savings Program, which is one of the few products we have that targets individuals.”
contrary). Gaslighting is a form of psychological brainwashing.” Jay said that a lot of times people worry professionally about their job security and then fall into a trap of pleasing their employers and making sure they are happy while “neglecting their self-worth and happiness.” Jay said it’s important to always see
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is the form of bankruptcy that occurs in a Chapter 7 bankruptcy. Chapter 7 bankruptcy can wipe out many forms of overwhelming debt, but there are certain types of debt that a Chapter 7 cannot get rid of. In a Chapter 7 bankruptcy, you may have to give up or sell some of the things you own if the law doesn’t protect them. However, the good news is that in most cases you are able to keep everything that you own and still get rid of your debt.
Adams said that her previous job had constantly downplayed her feelings and she left for her new position, which treats her much better. “I’ve used Chelsea’s services in different aspects,” Adams said adding that her confidence has grown since then. “She gave me a lot of insight and self-worth in the workplace making sure I understood my value and what I bring to the table.”
Chapter 7 bankruptcy is the most common form of bankruptcy, and, unlike reorganization in a Chapter 13, this type of liquidation usually only takes 3-4 months before you receive a discharge. Above are just some of the generalities about the types of bankruptcies most people file, and there are a number of considerations that go into deciding whether a reorganization or liquidation bankruptcy makes the most sense. Be sure to talk with your attorney about your income, expenses, assets and debts so that together you can
make the best decision for your situation. Ethan D. Dunn is a member of Wolverine Bar Association and is the managing member of MAXWELL DUNN, PLLC, a boutique business and bankruptcy law firm. He earned a B.S. in Finance from Wayne State University and his J.D. from Case Western Reserve University. In his law practice he guides individuals and entrepreneurs through their toughest financial challenges using both bankruptcy and non-bankruptcy legal tools for dealing with debt.
For the future, SGRX plans to press full-steam ahead towards evolving as a company, including expanding on already established practices. SGRX opened two satellite offices in 2021; one in Nashville, Tennessee and the other in the heart of downtown Detroit. Though the Michigan market has been tough for the company to break into, its home base
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“We’ve had challenges penetrating this market because our larger competitors have done a great job of convincing the smaller groups they’re the only option. So, our goal is to work harder over the next year to open up those doors,” says Ekpenyong. “We’re focused on the automotive sector. That sector was hit really hard over the last year and a half so we believe we can come in and significantly reduce their healthcare costs if given the opportunity.
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“A serious heart problem almost stopped me. I put my heart in their hands.” YOUR HEART IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE An MRI revealed Otis had two abdominal aortic aneurysms and would need heart surgery. “I’ve received excellent care throughout my life at the DMC. I trusted they would know what to do. They reassured me I would be tap dancing again once I recovered,” explained Otis. The DMC cardiothoracic surgeon and heart team repaired Otis’ heart and used a cardiopulmonary bypass machine to pump and cool the blood during the extensive surgery. Otis is back to doing what he loves. “Tap dancing is my soul’s way of speaking to the world. I put my heart in their hands, and I got my voice back.”
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“I ALSO WAS HESITANT ... THEN I DID THE RESEARCH.” DR. JOHN DUCKWORTH, PASTOR, GETHSEMANE MISSIONARY BAPTIST CHURCH
Research shows COVID vaccines are safe. Get the facts, then get vaccinated. Like many in his community and congregation, Dr. Duckworth questioned the COVID vaccines at first. Would they be safe? Could they be trusted? But he didn’t rely on rumors or social media for answers. He spoke to people who had received the vaccine. He looked to medical experts. And then he got vaccinated to protect himself and others. The vaccines have been tested for safety and are trusted by doctors. But it’s okay to have questions. Do your homework and get answers, like Dr. Duckworth.
To find your vaccine: Visit Michigan.gov/COVIDvaccine, call 211, or text your zip code to 438829.
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By Megan Kirk If it is one thing Detroit is known for, it is music. Famous for the Motown Sound, Detroit has produced some of the most notable musical performers and top-charting hits. From R&B to disco, rock to rap, music is ingrained in the DNA and continues to permeate the city. A playlist can always help to set the mood. Whether you want to hear old or new school love, Detroit has a sound that matches every mood. With some of the most iconic love songs stemming from the city, here is a lot of song to be sure to add to the bae playlist. “One In A Million” Aaliyah: Known as Detroit’s princess, the beloved singer passed away in a tragic plane crash over the Bahamas in 2001 at the age of 22. Though her discography spans several albums, “One In A Million” is undoubtedly one of the singer’s most recognizable hits. Born in New York, but raised in the city, the singer, actress and icon’s music is now available to stream on all major platforms after more than 20 years. “Kissing You” Keith Washington: Released in 1991, “Kissing You” peaked at number 40 on Billboard’s Hot 100 chart. The singer also took to the screen with roles in hit sitcom “Martin,” a stint in daytime television on “General Hospital” and even took his talents to the big screen as Dexter in “Poetic Justice.” Washington, who is still a resident of Detroit, is married. That should tell the story of how his love songs belong on the list. “Let’s Get it On” Marvin Gaye: If this classic has not already been in the arsenal, then does the playlist even exist? Known for both his smooth sensual voice and attractiveness to match, Marvin Gaye’s sound is still sampled in many songs today. Though not originally from Detroit, the city embraced him as a son after signing under Berry Gordy’s Motown label. “I’m Gonna Make You Love Me” Diana Ross and The Supremes with The Temptations: Music lovers can get a double dose of Detroit with this Motown classic. Released in 1968, this oldie but goodie is a feel-good song with an up-tempo to enjoy a dance with the one you love. This song is also perfect for couples’ karaoke! “Share My Life” Kem: As soon as this song comes on, Kem’s velvet voice is all the ambiance needed to share a romantic moment. Ranked number 25 on the Hot R&B and Hip Hop Songs chart, “Share My Life”
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Chauntel Nelson, founder of The Clever Curation Group.
How One Entrepreneur’s Loss Helped to Mount a Victory By Megan Kirk Michigan Chronicle’s 40 Under 40 is an elite list of handpicked young professionals breaking barriers and making strides in their area of expertise. To be nominated is the first step, but being named to the coveted list is the goal of each chosen participant. However, what happens to those who are not chosen to be on the esteemed list? For one 2021 nominee, not making the final list proved to be just the motivation she needed. Chauntel Nelson has a long history of work in the music media business. Spanning positions with Bad Boy Records, Def Jam, Sony BMG and iHeart Media, Nelson began to build the foundation that would inevitably lead to the formation of her own brand. “During those years, I had acquired so many skills and didn’t know how to apply them. I don’t know exactly what to do to utilize the skills in a way that I could continue working in music and media,” said Nelson. The creation of The Clever Curation Group was the answer. Founding the business in January 2021, Nelson soon discovered she did not know her skills could be further monetized.
“I had been doing business for years and didn’t know I was doing business. I was just freely doing it because I had a passion for the industry and I absolutely loved doing what I was doing,” said Nelson. Unfamiliar with the 40 Under 40 list presented by the publication, a mentor took the chance and nominated the music media veteran. For Nelson, whose budding business had not yet established a website or marketing materials for public consumption, she was unprepared for the revelation the nomination would bring. “When she nominated me, I was so excited. Then I realized from looking at past winners, my business wasn’t as together as I thought it was,” said Nelson. As the 40 Under 40 winners were announced, Nelson was not a part of the class, but still considers herself a winner. Helping to motivate, the nomination provided an added boost to an already growing entrepreneur. “Obviously I wasn’t chosen, but it really put a fire under me to get started and look at what it was that I needed to do to brand myself,” said Nelson. “How can you be a business
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Fall in Love This Season with Your Quarantine Bae and More By Sherri Kolade
looking when to say, “I do.”
Love is in the air – and we’re more than here for it.
According to getordained.org, there are several reasons why people should get married in the Fall.
The pandemic has brought about many things through this 18-month long ordeal that includes unthinkable sorrows and trials -- but thankfully, it has not canceled the spirit of love.
From the beautiful, bold colors and affordability to having more seasonal food and reception options -- bonfire, Thanksgiving, Halloween anyone? -- getting married during this season can be thrilling for all the right reasons.
According to an article in The New York Times, “The Great Pandemic Wedding Boom,” an October Brides’ survey of 4,000 engaged couples showed that 82 percent said that experiencing the pandemic has inspired them to be more excited to move toward wedded bliss with their beau. Also, 55 percent said that the COVID-19 pandemic highlighted new ideas for marriage, and they’re putting their relationship at the top of their priorities. “This year has been the ultimate test of a relationship, so I’ve seen couples who come to me for an engagement ring and say, ‘Well, if we still love and respect each other after being cooped up together during the worst nine months of our lives, then we know he or she was the one,’” said Michelle Demaree who assists couples looking for engagement rings through her site, Miss Diamond
April M. Boyce Cobb, owner and principal designer of Tender Moments, LLC and executive producer and host of the From Yes to I Do Bridal Show tells others that despite the pandemic love is not canceled. Cobb has a hybrid (virtual and in-person) bridal show October 7-9 at Simply Social event space in Hamtramck (in-person is being held on October 9).
April M. Boyce Cobb, owner and principal designer of Tender Moments, LLC and executive producer and host of the From Yes to I Do Bridal Show reminds others of why love is not canceled. Ring. Demaree said she has had a 20 percent increase in engaged couples contacting her about purchasing engagement and wedding rings since the pandemic began. “I have seen some couples that have
met during the pandemic and haven’t known each other that long, but who are getting engaged now,” she is quoted as saying in the article. In getting married, finding the right time to do so is just as important when
Cobb told the Michigan Chronicle said that her full-service event planning and design company is passionate about helping bring weddings to fruition. She said that during the pandemic last year she was “scrambling” to help her clients “keep the dream alive.” “The date may change, the venue may
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change, you may have to shift the guest count [but] one thing remains the same … love, and this is part of their love story – we made it through the pandemic,” Cobb said, adding that her signature bridal show (which draws guests from as far as Australia) helps couples with wedding planning 2.0. “And how to help couples navigate,” she said. “To just celebrate love and connect those couples and help them on their journey from ‘yes’ to ‘I do’ and beyond.” She added that as a “hopeless romantic” she feels any time is a great time to fall in love, and getting married, especially in the Fall, is a great time. “We see leaves changing -- turning over a new leaf and [the] beauty and crispness of fall [is a] shift in the season,” she said. “What I’m finding is most of the brides [use the] colorfulness of the Fall palate and less busyness of Fall.” For more information on the upcoming bridal show visit https://tendermoments.org/ or find it on Eventbrite. Detroit resident Asia Andrews, 23, and her fiancé, Anthony Ticconi II, plan to get married on November 20. Fall is her favorite time of the year and with good reason – her birthday is during this time, along with Halloween, Thanksgiving and even early winter when it is time for Christmas. Her fiancé
Love Songs From page B-1 spent 46 weeks on the chart and is still a hit current day. Used in many weddings, this song is an ultimate show of adoration. The 52-year-old was raised in Pontiac and has a career that has spanned almost 20 years. Signed to iconic Motown, the artist released “Love Always Wins” in 2020 giving lovers more tunes to groove to. “(You Make Me Feel Like) A Natural Woman” Aretha Franklin: It is not
even proposed to her in the Fall, in November 2019. “I was so happy when he did,” she said, adding that she loves the last three months of the year so much she has a nickname, “Hallothanksbirthmas,” she said, now throwing in part of the word “anniversary” for when she will soon be wedded. “Because I love Fall, we knew we were going to be having a Fall -- all I ever thought about was a Fall wedding,” she said of what she describes as her happiest time of the year. “[My wedding is] one more thing we get to celebrate [at] that time. And obviously one of the best things now.” Her wedding will be at a country club in Lake Orion with around 200 guests. Andrews added that the pandemic has not necessarily caused delays for her, but she is up against other brides who had to halt their weddings last year and are putting them on around the same time as her now. She also said that she has lived with her fiancé for some time and their being able to survive the pandemic brought them closer together as they overcame challenges. “You see them in a different light once you start living together but, a pandemic … is an entirely different situation itself,” she said, adding that she knows that some people didn’t make it through their own relationships, which deepened her love even further for her future spouse. “It just solidified you are my person,” she said.
fair to choose! This Detroit legend has so many hits, it would be hard to contain her love songs to just one. Voicing the soundtrack of “Sparkle” in 1976 alongside Curtis Mayfield, Ms. Franklin has songs that are love over melody. “Sweet Love” Anita Baker: How sweet it is? A queen in her own right, Anita Baker has charted hits for decades and her language is love. This song is the artist’s first big hit and helped to establish her as a force on the Detroit, national and global music scene. Win-
ning a Grammy in 1987 for the single, “Sweet Love” continues to be a love song staple. “Find A Way” Dwele: Born on Valentine’s Day, this Detroit singer first hit the scene in 2000. Quickly rising, Dwele has lent his voice to other artists including Kanye West for “Flashing Light.” The 2003 hit, “Find A Way,” tells the story of trying to recapture a love that once was. Taking a chance on love sometimes means granting a second chance. Let this song be the soundtrack to getting your love back.
Nelson stands tall.
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that specializes in project management when you haven’t even branded yourself.” Since then, The Clever Curation Group has continued to grow. Equipped with a website and marketing materials, the brand is intentional on building its clientele as well as aligning itself with projects that hold true to her growing vision. “I’m making sure I’m attached to events that are large-scale events. I do know that I’ve mastered our local event space and making sure that I’m a part of all the important projects locally,” says Nelson. Now, Nelson is working to ensure her name and the name of the company are synonymous with projects that can help grow her network, skills and reach. “People are still wondering ‘what exactly is it that she does?’ We know she works with music somehow, in media
somehow, but we don’t know what exactly it is that she’s doing,” said Nelson. “When I got that nomination, I didn’t want people to say ‘what’s that girl’s name? That description was unacceptable.” Though she did not win, Nelson credits the 40 Under 40 list with the motivation to brand herself, the business and to continue pressing onward. “If I hadn’t gotten that actual nomination, I can’t say that I would have been able to put together what my business actually stands for and how I’m able to apply the skills that I’ve learned over the years,” said Nelson. Entrepreneurs looking to brand themselves and their talents must continually find purpose in their work. With 20 years of experience in music media, Nelson has learned it is passion for the business that helps drive her success. “Continue doing what you love and your passion. I don’t care if it can make me a million dollars per second, if you don’t have a passion for what you’re doing, if you won’t do it for free, then I don’t suggest you do it,” says Nelson.
Cuffing Season 2021 By Megan Kirk Cuffing season is upon us and singles are still trying to get drafted. Luckily, there is still time to get in the game. With winter nipping on our heels, the time to settle down for the season is nearing. To avoid being left out in the cold, singles will have to maneuver through the murky waters of flirting, first dates and left-swipes to find a position in the starting lineup. Cuffing season is defined as the time singles enter into short-term situationships with the hopes of passing time during colder months. Beginning in October and lasting through the start of Spring, cuffing season carries singles through all major gift-giving holidays, but does not mean a relationship will blossom once the weather breaks. Coming off the pandemic, dating may reach an all-time high as individuals gain more access to venues and recreational spaces. With hormones high, singles will be on the search for a nostrings-attached approach to dating. To quickly meet other singles, dating apps are convenient and efficient while remaining aloof until the meet up. Popular dating online source 33000Dates was founded by a woman whose dating life encompassed a divorce and 33,000 dates. Now, the relationship expert is hoping to help singles find a match. “I saw an immediate explosion on my website 33000Dates.com over Labor Day weekend, which signifies that ‘cuffing’ is beginning a month earlier than normal. Considering that 1 out of 3 couples in 2020 met online, I direct my clients to the platform best suited for them based on likes, age, interests, geo area and more,” said Andrea McGinty of 33000dates.com. “There has been an increase in people looking for long term relationships. When the lockdowns ended, people went to see their families and traveled. But now, singles are focusing on themselves. Doing the market research on which sites have the type of singles you are looking for, plus knowing the strength of certain platforms and the breakdowns of male versus females is important with over 1,400 dating apps and sites out there.”
Singles looking to stay warm this winter will have to get serious about their dating apps, communication and appearance. McGinty suggests the following steps to ensure a successful cuffing season: If you are online already, refresh your photos and profile. Look at the boxes you checked – are these still valid in what you are looking for? If you are on one dating app, you may think of adding another. Most singles explore two to three apps at the same time once they get serious about dating. If you are NOT online and are pondering “should I do online dating?” The answer is YES. It has the biggest pool of singles in the world – it’s fun, nerve racking and an adventure before the holidays. Don’t send Hearts/Likes without a message. You just totally wimped out and put the ball in your potential date’s court. Men’s #1 complaint: Why don’t women message first if they heart you? Let’s go ladies! We have the right to vote, we have the right to message first. The men like it! Don’t invite a first date for coffee. COFFEE is NOT romantic. It’s a copout. Just where you want to be overheard on a first date – a crowded Starbucks. Drinks are over in an hour and much more relaxed. You’re not auditioning for marriage. You are auditioning for a second date. That’s it! Have a guide/cheerleader/consultant at your side to help ensure more success! I don’t mean your brother who met his girlfriend on Bumble, your mom, your BFF or your kids. A dating pro can do wonders! Photos matter the most. We live in a visual society – selfies and old family photos won’t help! Most of us won’t ask strangers or friends to take photos of us. Advice: the Thumbtack app is designed for you! Much more cost effective than hiring a professional photographer, especially in major markets. Post at least 6 because one photo is suspicious! Your primary photo online must be a showstopper, while still being you. Whiten your teeth. Good dental care counts. BIB_5x10.5_vFINAL.indd 1
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Relationship Green Flags By Megan Kirk Social media is a major part of culture. Bridging means of communication around the world, social media is continually evolving and so are its memes. Tied to a comical picture or quote, memes have grown in popularity and are often used to convey thoughts. Recently, social media reintroduced the concept of red flags. Outlining various red flags spanning topics like relationships, business and other subjects, red flags have been blowing all over timelines, triggering the question, what are some green flags in dating and relationships? Finding the one is hard enough, but how can you be sure it is meant to be? Nothing can be guaranteed, but the warm and fuzzy feeling inside when you are around your flame cannot be denied. Before prematurely blowing the candle out on love, explore the relationship for signs of green flags. 1. You love being around them: When they are away, you anticipate their return. When they are near, you cannot get close enough. You just want to be near them. Call it science or attraction, the chemistry is undeniable. If you find yourself missing your boo when they are not with you, then you may already be on the fast track to love. 2. 21 Questions: So, what’s your favorite color? Naturally being around a person so much will generate a level of curiosity that can also be quenched by digging for knowledge. Asking questions to learn more about a mate helps create bonding moments in sharing past triumphs and pitfalls. Questions also provide the chance to find out what makes your boo tick. 3. Plans Include the Future: If your mate is including you in their plans for future trips and celebrations, pack your bags and be ready for adventure. This means your partner foresees no reason to separate and they anticipate the relationship succeeding through these events. 4. Smooth Sailing: The really of everything being too good to be true is a fallacy that creates room for self-sabotage. Sometimes, it is simply easy. Relationships are not built to be a match between opponents but rather an arrangement between partners. Though relationships require work, having a teammate is much better than an adversary. 5. Authenticity: There is no need to put on airs when you are around the person your heart sings for. There is nothing too embarrassing, no topic too taboo or anything off the table. This person accepts your flaws and it is the same for you. For relationships to work, it is essential to feel safe to show up as your true self. This helps build trust between two parties. 6. They Come First: Sacrifices, big and small, are inevitable in dating. One telltale green flag is prioritizing their needs ahead of your own. Expressing care or concern for your love is a level of intimacy. Reciprocating the feeling, however, will create a safe space for each party to feel their needs are being met. 7. Night watcher: Do you watch your love while they are asleep? Have you ever caught your mate taking it all in while you catch some Z’s? This is a common practice for some in relationships and shows admiration for your significant other. 8. Jumping Out of The Comfort Zone: New foods, places and experiences are not typically in your mate’s wheelhouse, but they are willing to compromise and step out of their comfort zone for you. Flag on the play! Some dating singles can build a guard, but relaxing and enjoying things that make each other happy can also create new memories. 9. Support: Like a good bra, support is needed to hold loved ones up. With bae, their support overflows through good and bad times. They encourage you and uplift you and that is a major key. 10. The “L” Word: While this may seem like an obvious green flag, the “L” word can be intimidating to hear for the first time. Nevertheless, it establishes how your mate feels and their transparency.
Fall Dates in Detroit By Megan Kirk
morning meals or the Knockout Catfish and Acadian and The Champ evening meals.
Grab your honey and cuddle close because Fall has entered the chat. The world is lifting its mandates and allowing for more room to explore the city and the new businesses that have opened since the onset of the pandemic. Autumn is the perfect time to fall in love and these new spots around Detroit are perfect for first daters and seasoned veterans.
Just outside of Detroit sits an authentic Caribbean restaurant with flavors guaranteed to make you feel like you are on the islands. Located in Farmington, Good Vybez Restaurant and Lounge sources fresh local ingredients for its dishes. Jerk chicken, curry shrimp and oxtails are always on the menu. Made fresh with an inside track on Jamaican flavors, the menu offers options on spice level and sizing.
Bringing a little piece of Brooklyn to Detroit, Barcade opened its doors in Midtown this summer and has become a hit amongst downtowners. The 21-and-up establishment caters to an adult crowd with a menu that rivals classic arcade favorites. Complete with wings, coney fries and coney-style nachos, Barcade captured the essence and spirit of Detroit through its food options. For a little spice on the night, Barcade also offers a full-service bar featuring signature drinks made with Motor City Ginger Beer and whiskey made by Detroit City Distillery. Barcade is a fun time with Detroit pride at its core. If you and your mate want to celebrate the Fall season in the good outdoors, what better way than a trip to the cider mill. Detroit recently opened its first Black-owned cider mill and it is right in the heart of the inner city. Couples can go walk the grounds of Detroit Farm and Cider which offers more than 130 fruit trees to pick from; check out the greenhouses and even sign up to give back through volunteering. The cider mill hosts Farm-to-Table dinners with a local Detroit chef and offers horseback and carriage rides through their two-acre fruit orchard. Set the mood for date nights with a dinner under the stars and an evening to remember. No date is complete without some good eats. The Joe Louis Southern Kitchen in the New Center area opened May 2021 and packs a punch with its Southern-style menu. Celebrating the legacy of Detroit boxer Joe Louis, the restaurant also boasts its family history as the boxer’s son, Joe Louis II is a managing partner. Serving breakfast all day, couples can partake in their Training Camp or Brown Bomber
Couples who are into the art scene will have a new place to observe local talent. In the Grandmont Rosedale neighborhood, HM Style Lounge & Chill Room is offering the community live art, poetry, music and focuses on local artists, providing a platform for their work. Opened in August, the bar and lounge offers happy hour specials, themed nights such as Taco Tuesday and a community feel like none other. Detroit’s Eastside is home to artistic gem Spot Lite. The female and minority-owned business gives creatives a space to express their art. A date night here could include artist talks with Detroit muralists, listening to every genre of music from hip hop to house or taking in the art in the venue. The establishment also houses a cafe in addition to the live performance space and a small record store for those must-have vinyl. For a sweet way to end the night, one of the city’s very few hand-packed ice cream shops is serving up scoops of Michigan-made ice cream. The vegan creamery offers up classic flavors along with signature tastes. What began as an ice cream truck quickly grew to a brick-and-mortar scoop shop. Grab your sweetie and taste an ice cream made without pre-manufactured mixes, chemical stabilizers or artificial colors and flavors. As restrictions continue to lift, restaurants, bars and lounges as well as other recreational establishments will open their doors and welcome patrons back. Date night is even more vital after staying quarantined for more than a year. Start the season off with a bang!
Athletic Women and the Single Life By Megan Kirk Sports may be a male-dominated field, but women are making their mark. Basketball, football, baseball and other sports are seeing an increasing number of women not only becoming interested, but daring to play the sport. For women who are considered sports enthusiasts, dating is its own world. However, this sector of single chicks knows learning the game is just as important as getting the prize.
Beginning in middle school, Young began to hone her talent. With height on her side, Young had an advantage over other girls her age. “I was 6’1” in the seventh grade and my middle school coach saw me and was like ‘you’re playing for the basketball team,’” says Young. On the dating scene, women who enjoy athletics can find men who share in their thrill of the game. There are some men who will shy away from a woman with game.
It is speculated that men love women who know their way around a sporting event. As a tool in the dating world, women have traditionally used sports knowledge to help win a man’s heart. Still, women who have a genuine love of sports, including female athletes, are not moved by the stereotypes and continue to advocate for their game.
“I do not believe men are intimidated by women who love sports. Some men can be, but in my personal experience, when I encounter someone who loves sports, they’re surprised that I’ll go out to watch football games or I’m at home on a Saturday afternoon watching college football. They’re surprised and excited,” says Young.
Katherine Young fell in love with basketball early. After not caring for the sport at all, basketball gave a new meaning after life took a heartbreaking turn and sports became a place of solace.
For Mikalia Dennis, soccer has been her love since the age of four. Growing up in a single-parent household, the goal for her mother was to get Dennis and her siblings involved in sports.
“I fell in love with sports because my older brother was always the athlete, I never was. He used to always tell our parents he was going to make it to the NBA and buy them a house and take care of them. He passed away prematurely at 14, he just so happened to be playing basketball,” says Young. “After he died, I felt like I found my purpose. I hated basketball when he was living, but once he died I felt like it was my obligation to play and do what he couldn’t do since he was no longer here.”
“She tried us out on a few different sports and soccer was the one that stuck for us,” says Dennis. Also a collegiate soccer star playing four years on varsity at Michigan State University, soccer has been with Dennis since before the discovery of the opposite sex. However, Dennis does admit male athletes are a preference in dating. “I find myself more attracted to male ath-
letes. There are just certain conversations that don’t have to be over-explained. These are individuals who already understand having busy schedules, already know how to balance work and school and it’s just a mindset as well, being an athlete,” says Dennis. “It also poses issues of when are we going to kick it, when are we actually available. Things can get real busy, but also really comfortable.” Noting female athletes are not a one-size-fits-all when it comes to sports knowledge, female athletes are clarifying just because they are interested in their sport, does not mean there is a fondness of all sports across the spectrum. “Sometimes there may be certain sports we may be watching and I’m not necessarily interested. I do think it seems like men enjoy having women around that can enjoy or appreciate the sports that they’re into. It almost helps them bond more,” says Dennis. “I haven’t met anyone who wasn’t attracted to me because I was an athlete.” No matter which side of the game board you stand on, having a basic knowledge of sports can help you get in good with men and may also help you discover a new pastime to enjoy.
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By Sherri Kolade We got the morning routine on lockdown -- the evening and night routine is set, too. Yet, when it comes to the afternoon, don’t slow down on that momentum just yet. According to https://camdenkelly. com/, hacking the afternoon can be done with simple tips including powering up your post-lunch performance.
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1. Move It, Move It: Take a post-lunch walk (or stroll for a few hours) before leaving work could help revamp one’s energy. Taking time to get up and walk around while incorporating it in the afternoon routine could help individuals stay motivated and clear out “brain cobwebs” after the morning. 2. A Chance to Meet: Placing an engaging item on your afternoon itinerary could keep the creative wheels turning. “It will hold you accountable to get something done, the interactive nature of meetings or collaborative sessions with coworkers will keep you focused, and these tasks are better reserved for this time period because you need to focus on more challenging, focus-driven tasks in the morning,” according to the article. 3. Chip Away at Those Looming Projects: Do you have a long day ahead with creeping project deadlines and you feel like time is slipping away during the afternoon? Tackle those projects head-on and “spend just a small pocket of time” (about 20 minutes to an hour) getting that final progress together before doing other tasks. 4. Easy Things First: Afternoon routines can drag on, especially after lunch. But to take on the sometimes gargantuan task of beating the after-lunch slump, try doing the easy stuff right away and then move into more difficult tasks. “This will help you ease into a mindset of productivity and focus. When you focus on your easier tasks first, you’ll get a lot done in a short period of time,” according to the article. “With that momentum, you’ll be able to transition back into more challenging work easily and you’ll get a lot more done in the afternoon than you usually do.” 5. A Brain Lift: Brain fog during the afternoon is a real thing and facing this mental inconvenience is one that can be handled with some (brace yourselves) some fun – yes, even at work within reason. With puzzles and brainstorming sessions, the mind can be refreshed out of the afternoon dreariness. “Reengaging your analytical and creative faculties will clear the way for a more productive afternoon,” according to the article. 6. Productivity Ahead of Time: “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do this afternoon.” That well-known quote applies to all areas of the day, especially in the afternoon. One noteworthy item to take away is to plan the next day to conquer the afternoon, according to the article. “Taking time to plan tomorrow will help you stay productive from the moment you walk in the door the next day to the moment you leave,” the article adds. “Productivity experts may not talk about afternoon routines as often as morning routines, but their power shouldn’t be underestimated.” Get ahead of your afternoon by focusing on the day’s projects, narrowing your goals for the day, and remembering to get it done and get going so you can win the day.
By Sherri Kolade Self-sabotage. What is it and why do some people undermine their own success? Is it fear of failure or nervous of self-fulfilling prophecies yet to be fulfilled? According to positivepsychology. com, author Christina R. Wilson said in an article that self-sabotaging and delaying potential success is a common human trait that has occurred since back in the day – way back in the day; think Babylonian times. Since during that era, people have attempted to make goals – and keep them -- but have failed time and time again. As many know, New Year’s resolutions are set, but not necessarily kept. Annually, by the beginning of February, around 80% of new goals have been abandoned, according to the article. Although putting a goal on the back burner, or completely leaving it alone altogether, when doing this on a consistent basis it can become a negative pattern with bad results. “Chronic self-sabotage can lead to destructive outcomes in our personal and professional lives,” Wilson said, adding that pretty much everyone experiences some form or another self-sabotage. “Self-sabotage is more prevalent than we realize. Abraham Lincoln, Fred Rogers, Michelangelo, John F. Kennedy, and George Washington all experienced some aspect of self-sabotage before they made history.”
“An example of conscious self-sabotage is deciding to eat cake, despite a goal to eat healthy,” Wilson said. “Unconscious self-sabotage happens when a personal goal or value has been undermined but not initially recognized. Someone with a fear of failure might wait until the last minute to work on an important project, unconsciously avoiding the prospect of advancement.”
include fearing commitment, the unknown, change, failure, and losing control.
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People from all walks of life sabotage themselves by letting negative thoughts spiral out of control, and this is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg (Berg, 2015).
Self-sabotaging incidents could stem from childhood ideas and patterns (like a parent who lacked confidence to achieve greater). The parent who also tells their child to always be careful while playing might cause the child to think that the world is not safe and risks should not be be taken.
Self-sabotage is rooted in counterproductive mindsets including negativity, disorganization, indecisiveness, and negative self-talk. Perfectionism and imposter syndrome are also forms of self-sabotage. An insidious and ubiquitous form of self-sabotage is mindless distractions that prohibit goal attainment. Some mindless distractions include binge watching TV, surfing the internet, scrolling through social media, video game obsession, and internet shopping. Besides counterproductive mindsets, we engage in counterproductive or destructive behaviors. Some common behaviors include overeating, excessive drinking or drug abuse, pornography, smoking, gambling, self-injury, and overspending.
Self-Sabotage is when people “deliberately hinder” their own success and wellbeing by “undermining personal goals and values. But why? It stems from negative mindsets, according to the article.
Avoiding behaviors keep us stuck in negative and self-destructive cycles. Common avoiding behaviors include procrastination, chronic tardiness, giving up when things get rough, and lack of assertiveness.
Self-sabotage (also described as behavioral dysregulation) can be conscious or unconscious based on a personal level of awareness, according to the article.
Rational fears are essential for safety and perpetuation. However, when fears become imbalanced, they hold us back from progress in careers and personal life. Some common ungrounded fears
Other forms of self-sabotage can be because of some factors including: 1. Approach Avoidance conflict includes setting goals and avoiding the goals -- a perceived threat-- to reduce potential problems.
3. Adaptive to maladaptive behaviors “We adopt behaviors that are initially considered adaptive for surviving challenges; however, behaviors can become maladaptive when they continue long after the challenge has passed,” Wilson said. Self-limiting beliefs and insecurities are also common traits for people who result to self-sabotage. “Insecurity originates from the inner critic that tells us we can’t accomplish a certain task or aren’t good enough,” she said. “These remnants of the past deplete our self-confidence and compel us to create dysfunctional habits that serve to protect us from the pain of failure.” Wilson added that people repeat self-sabotage because of potential subconscious factors. “Simply put, what gets rewarded gets repeated. Sabotage fills a need or void of some kind. To stop the cycle of destructive behavior, we need to discover the void and learn new behaviors,” Wilson said.
How A Morning Routine Can Save The Day By Megan Kirk A morning routine can help set the tone for a successful day. On the other hand, allowing the day to go unplanned can leave room for stress and wayward thoughts. For those looking to find their Zen and declare good vibes on their day, a few additional steps in the morning could lead to more centered days. If you are someone who finds yourself off-balance each morning, you may benefit from having a morning routine. While there is no right or wrong way to schedule, allowing time for the mind and body to completely awaken is key. Sleep is a complex action with multiple parts of the body and brain at play. Allowing each system to become alert can help eliminate that groggy feeling. Meditation While meditation is not a new practice, it is becoming increasingly popular amongst millennials. Some may see it as an eccentric practice, however there is science behind the benefits of meditating. A 2015 study released by the Department of Neurology and School of Medicine at the Uni-
versity of California, Los Angeles, shows regular meditation can improve cognitive functions like attention, memory, speech, processing speed and overall cognitive health. Meditation is not exclusive to mornings as it can happen any time of the day and does not take a lot of time. Sometimes intertwined, prayer and meditation are two very similar methods of calm. Both require stillness and quiet in order to get the full benefits from each. Prayer, for those who believe in a higher power, is how many begin their day. While prayer can happen aloud, praying silently is a stillness that can already be reached though calm. After awakening the mind, the body comes next. Get creative and get the body moving. Opening up the body through movement helps blood and oxygen flow. It also releases serotonin, the happy chemical, in the brain. Yoga The practice of yoga can help achieve inner peace. The morning leaves the body ripe for movement to help open the joints and other systems. Another ancient practice made
current by millennials, yoga stretches the body and also incorporates aspects of meditation. According to Johns Hopkins Medicine, yoga can improve strength, balance and flexibility all while aiding in pain relief. Yoga also has sleep and heart health benefits. Similarly with other forms of exercise, yoga helps to increase energy and can lead to leaner muscles. Sex Let’s talk about sex, baby. Although this activity is a fun way of playing with your partner, it also has major health benefits for the body. Sex can eliminate stress and serve as a mood booster for the day. Climaxing releases both oxytocin and dopamine, another happy chemical in the brain. This is particularly great in the morning before the regular schedule settles in. If the activity is rambunctious, sex can serve as a light workout. The body can burn, for women, up to 70 calories per minute and for men, up to 100 calories per minute. No wonder they are always losing weight. Refueling What is a morning routine without breakfast? The next
step to a stress-free morning routine is refueling the body. Eating a full breakfast will help provide energy to the body for the day. Choosing foods rich in protein, vitamins and other nutrients help the body in more ways than one. Eggs: Scrambled, over easy or in omelet form, eggs make the body feel fuller for longer. They are also a versatile start to the morning as they can be served in a number of ways. Certain antioxidants in eggs can also help protect the eye against disorders like cataracts and
macular degeneration. Oatmeal: Cereal lovers can indulge in this hot approach and is another great choice to fuel the body. Rich with fiber, oatmeal aids the digestive system and can reduce the chance of getting upset tummies. Allowing for a fuller feeling for the day, oatmeal is rich in antioxidants which may also benefit heart health and decrease blood pressure. No matter how you choose to start the day, staying mindful is key and sticking to your morning routine does help.
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(StatePoint) While there is a lot of guidance available about what to feed children, until now, there has been little guidance about how to feed them. New recommendations offer parents and caregivers practical tips for encouraging healthy eating habits vital to growth, development and health. “Childhood is a critical period for developing lifelong eating habits, and home is one of the first places where these habits emerge,” says Megan Lott, MPH, RD, deputy director of Healthy Eating Research (HER). “As a registered dietitian and parent myself, I know that reluctance to try new foods and other picky eating habits are common in childhood.” In an effort to make mealtimes easier for families, HER, a national program of the obert Wood Johnson Foundation (RWJF) based at Duke University, recently convened R a panel that reviewed scientific research to develop recommendations for how to feed children ages 2-8.
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Simple Tips to Adjust to The Time Change (StatePoint) Daylight Saving Time (DST) ends November 7, and if you are already dreading the adjustment, you are not alone. The physical and mental effects are real, and many people undergo mood shifts, fatigue and stress as their bodies adjust. To “fall back” this fall stress-free, try these techniques: • Adjust slowly: Rather than wait until DST ends to shift your sleep schedule by a full hour all at once, start to adjust incrementally in 10 to 15 minute segments over the course of four to six days. This method will help you sleep more soundly and be less tired. If possible, adjust your meal times accordingly as well. For an easy transition, get the entire household in on the evolving schedule, including children and pets. • Get a great timepiece: The simplicity of having your watch adjust automatically to the correct time will help ensure you are awake and where you need to be in the days ahead. To that end, consider updating your timepiece to one that’s Bluetooth-enabled. Those in the Edifice lineup are especially useful for travelers and those who work with people around the world, as they analyze current time and positioning data and reset automatically four times a day to always display the accurate time in your location, as well as locations globally. You might also consider a watch with Multi-Band 6 technology.
This useful tech feature of many Casio and G-Shock timepieces synchronizes with atomic clocks -- the most accurate form of timekeeping in existence -- by receiving information from radio waves. • Seek sunlight: With the sun setting at an earlier hour, you may find yourself in the dark as your work day ends. Sunlight is a source of vitamin D, which is vital to your health. It also boosts happiness hormones to help beat depression and stave off Seasonal Affective Disorder. If possible, take a walk midday or sit near a window at lunch to ensure you get a daily dose of sun exposure each day. • Create a routine: You can avoid the pitfalls of fatigue that many experience when DST ends by carving out an evening routine that prepares your body for bedtime. Whether it’s a half an hour of screen-free reading, meditation, journaling or enjoying a cup of herbal, caffeine-free tea, such rituals can help signal the body and mind that it’s time for sleep. Likewise, a morning routine -- such as performing a set of dynamic stretches, jogging or eating a protein-rich breakfast, can energize you for the day ahead. While time changes are never fun, you can help ease the transition with new habits and innovative tech tools.
They found that structuring the home to provide healthy choices and supporting children’s independence in trying and learning to like new foods are more effective than pressuring children to eat. They also found PHOTO SOURCE: (c) SouthWorks / iStock via Getty Images Plus that the single most effective strategy to get kids to eat healthy food is through repeated exposure. Here’s a snapshot of the panel’s top tips:
• Promote independence: Giving kids some control at mealtime helps them learn to like healthful foods. Avoid pressuring kids to finish everything on their plate. Instead, help them learn to identify when they’re hungry or full. • Get them involved: Get kids involved in meal selection and preparation. Even very young children can help wash fruits and vegetables. • Make mealtime fun: Give foods fun names, share family recipes and food traditions, and talk about your favorite dishes. • Avoid food rewards: Bribing with sweet treats is tempting, but non-food rewards are more effective in the long run. You can also use praise, like “Good job trying the beans!” to convey love and encourage trying healthy food. • Create a positive environment: Provide an environment that lends itself to healthy habits. Keep a bowl of fruit on the counter and chopped vegetables in the fridge. Portion healthy snacks into individual-serving size containers and leave them at kids’ eye level and within reach. Offer vegetables as an appetizer to give kids the opportunity to eat healthy foods when hungry and without other competing food. Limit the number of unhealthy snacks in the house. • Try, try again: Toddlers and preschoolers commonly go through a phase of fearing new foods, however, most kids grow out of this. Try to be patient. It often takes time for kids to develop new, healthy eating habits. Repeated exposure matters. In fact, kids may need to try something 10-15 times before knowing if they like it or not, and this can happen over weeks or months and through different preparations. To avoid food waste, start small. For a new food, consider offering just a few bites. • Be a role model: Kids often look around them for cues about what to eat, and they look up to you! Let them see you make healthy choices, for your sake and theirs. For more tips that encourage healthy eating habits, visit HealthyEatingResearch.org and follow #HealthyTipsHealthyKids on Instagram. “The recommendations were designed to give parents, caregivers and the providers who work with children reliable information about what we know works,” says Lott. “However, our national policies must do a better job of supporting the health and well-being of children and families, prioritizing equity, and making healthy food available to and affordable for everyone.”
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