OPINIONS & COMMENTARY My Mental Health Is Bad, How About Yours?

Mental health is probably the most important kind of health care. It trickles down to everything else. If you are depressed, for example, you won’t want to take care of the rest of your body. It all starts at the top.

I suffer from anxiety and depression. I have for decades but only did something about it a few years ago.

I wish I had taken it seriously when it started in high school. I couldn’t always focus, and my moods went from super happy to super sad. I didn’t really think anything of it because I just described a basic teenager.

By the time I got to Montclair State University, I was telling my teachers that I might have to leave early because I can’t sit through classes. “It’s not

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You would think that would be a warning sign, but no... I thought I was too tough for that. I had created a bunch of crutches to get by instead of dealing with the problem in my head head-on.

About 5 years ago, I finally gave in and started taking a happy pill every day. I didn’t even have to go to a psychiatrist – my own general practitioner was able to prescribe.

The first pill took the edge off, but didn’t solve the problem. So, we upped the dosage. That was ok but it didn’t get the job done. So, we tried a different med. That pill worked even better but I still had some freak-outs for no reason. Finally, the pill I’m on now is pretty good. There are still bad days but I think I’m mostly in the groove with it. I share these trials and errors because I want you to know that simply taking a pill isn’t going to solve everything. You’re still going to have to adjust it, and put the work in. But it’s work worth doing.

Now that I’m on the mend, I can’t believe how long I let myself suffer. I could have been happier for 25 years. A quarter century of “just getting by.” I’m kicking myself now. Why did I wait?

I’ve never been at the point where I was going to hurt myself or others so, to me, I didn’t think I really needed help. I didn’t realize that all this time I really was hurting myself. And I could have been a better husband and friend during those years if I was able to crawl out of my cave long enough to do so. And worst of all, having a toddler while dealing with extreme mood swings was bad. Real bad. There’s a connotation to being “crazy,” obviously. No one wants to be called that – or to think of yourself as that. But we’re all a little nuts, honestly.

I’ve never been to a therapist. I check in at the GP every so often, fill out a questionnaire, and I’m done. What I’ve said to people is “My life is great, but my brain doesn’t let me enjoy it.”

Our brains are full of

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chemicals and electrical impulses. Sometimes, your wiring will be off. That’s nothing to be ashamed of. If you need a cup of coffee to get your head on straight in the morning, why not also take meds?

What’s the difference between taking a pill for a migraine and taking a pill for depression? They both make your head pain go away.

Part of the problem was that I’ve always been so independent that I would never ask for help. I kept thinking “I can handle this. I can fix this.” And I would ignore the evidence that I couldn’t.

I never played a sport in my life, how could I be macho? It turns out that it’s ingrained in us. Men especially are told never to ask for help. Americans got their start by literally fighting for independence. That self-sufficiency is in our DNA. Add to it that Jersey strength and damn, we will fight like crazy and never back down. Never get help. Never admit weakness.

The strongest thing you can do is admit a weakness. It takes amazing bravery to swallow your pride and ask for help.

May is Mental Health Month, where caregivers are trying to eliminate the stigma that keeps people from getting the help they need. So, if I can admit my mental health issues to our tens of thousands of readers, I encourage you to tell the people you love and to tell your doctor. Don’t wait for 25 years like I did.

Chris Lundy News Editor

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Paramount Home Buyer Regrets Decision

My problems as a homeowner continue at Paramount Escapes Ocean Breeze in Barnegat. As one of the 31 homeowners who experienced a significant delay in the construction of my new home due to Paramount’s failure to comply with Affordable Housing regulations, I thought my problems with Paramount were over. Unfortunately, this is not the case.

Fifteen months after I had selected the lot and model home I wanted, I discovered that my house would have both front steps and steps into the garage. None of the model homes have these steps, and it was too late for me to do anything to change it.

Fast forward another seven months to closing. I discovered that the cement entryway steps were uneven in height, narrow in width and lacked handrails. I also learned that the garage steps extended so far into the garage that I could not park my car on that side. My two-car garage is in reality a one-car garage, unless I decide to buy a Mini Cooper.

Paramount flatly refused to work out a compromise with me on the front steps. All they offered to do was bring the steps up to code by making the risers of equal height. It’s no surprise that I didn’t accept Paramount’s offer. There is no point in ripping out the steps a second time in order to achieve a safer result with a wider footprint and handrails.

I now regret that I didn’t get my deposit back from Paramount last summer and walk away when I had the chance to do so.

Dorothy Quail Barnegat

Epilepsy:

Continued From Page 6 named Duck, who eagerly await James’ return home from school so they can give him kisses. However, James is not fond of the dogs licking his face after he eats and will make a fuss.

Kristy said daily prayer is a critical part of her life and remembers asking God to stop the seizures. Watching her son’s little body become tired was difficult as the episodes came one after the other.

“They still kept coming,” said Kristy. “It was so frustrating.”

A chance encounter with a random stranger changed Kristy’s way of thinking. A store clerk said his grandfather told him that no matter how bad you think you have it, somebody else always has it worse.

Kristy swears the young man was put on her path to deliver a message, one that didn’t make sense at the time. Her prayers changed to expressing gratitude for the things she could. For example, James can breathe on his own, and he can eat – both things everyone takes for granted.

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Continued From Page 1 students create and submit their poster, members of the fire department judge each one and select one winning poster from each division.

At a recent Township Council meeting, Assistant Chief Richard Orlando, Inspector Joseph Sansone, Herbertsville Fire Company Station 24 and of course Sparky the Fire Dog were on hand to congratulate the award winners.

“The fire prevention contest has been around for many years. With the help of the fantastic Brick Township teachers who get really involved, the students navigate through the design of these posters. They’re given contest rules, a current subject that’s set forth by the National Fire Protection Association,” Orlando said.

This year, the poster theme was “Fire Won’t Wait. Plan Your Escape.” The posters should promote fire prevention and encourage fire safety awareness in the home, school and community.

Out of the 22 Brick Township winners, five moved on to be county winners.

“They move on from the county up to the state which is pretty neat. Last year, Brick Township did have one state winner,” Orlando said. The local award winners were given a bag of goodies, contributed by the Fire Department, Fire Commissioners, the Joint Board of Fire Commissioners, and the Fire Commissioners of Fire District 1, 2, and 3.

Winners included: Londyn Kinney, Lucas Hazelet, Tyler Magan, Ashley Martinez (county winner), Luna Acosta, Lariana Pinero-Correa, Shae Rose Lynch, Londyn Fleuriot, Finley Lindholm, Samantha Sei (county winner), Joseph “Joey” Garone, Yago Enriquez, Elisa Escalante, Isabella Reid, Stephan Saullo (county winner), Kim Ni, Sicilia Booker, Nathanael Le, Gianna Gallagher (county winner), Ava Pellisia, Myles Laughlin (county winner) and Francis Doyle.

“There are only about 200 children known to have KCNT1 epilepsy,” said Kristy. “There’s more and more getting diagnosed because genetic testing is key. They couldn’t find out what it was without it, and the testing is helping to target treatment.”

The KCNT1 Epilepsy Foundation supports parents who may feel alone in finding resources. According to Kristy, the Foundation is also trying to raise awareness and donations for drug research and development.

“I am doing as much as I can to participate in all the surveys they (the Foundation) provide,” Kristy shared. “They’ve been looking for blood samples, so we’re working on getting blood to them from James.”

James also participated in a year-long natural history study, which required Kristy to document seizure activity and sleep. The family has also participated in interviews with a doctor and a psychologist and donated James’ saliva in conjunction with a study in Chicago.

“I felt like I was not helping enough at first because I was so used to doing this on my own,” said Kristy. “Now there are these people who want to get the word out – and we’re not the only ones anymore.”