Modern Woman - Autumn 2018 issue by Modern Woman

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CONTENTS 12

Business and Italian politics: Paola Diana

Power of a woman: suited and booted

Meditate and feel your true self

In the Mix: Paris Cesvette

Deeper than the gloss of PR: Lysbeth Fox

Don’t go hungry: Food and Drink

Banking & babies to property: Nicole Bremner What’s happening with our property market?

Babies and business: How to manage it all

BEAT It: Eating Disorders

Watch those pennies: Finance

Spa It! Everyone needs rest & relaxation

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BEAUTY & FASHION EDITOR: JO SUGAR DESIGN & PRODUCTION: STEWART HYDE WEBSITE DEVELOPMENT: TOTALDESIGNWORKS.COM CONTRIBUTORS: MAUDE HIRST, JESS BAKER, SAMANTHA BAINES, ALEX LARMAN, FIONA MINETT, GEORGINA FULLER, POPPY CORSS, MEGAN DAVIES, MABEL NUNEZ, VIVIENNE HARRIS, GRAHAM NORWOOD

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CONTRIBUTORS

MAUDE HIRST

POPPY CROSS

GEORGINA FULLER

Maude is a born-and-bred east Londoner. An actor, writer and yoga teacher, she is best-known for her role as Helga in the hit TV show, Vikings. In her work both on- and offscreen, she is dedicated to creating roles that showcase women’s talents and address gender inequalities in the industry. As a yoga teacher, she focuses her practice on reconnecting breath, body and balance to promote well-being in our busy modern world. @maudehirst

Poppy started her career in journalism at Harper’s Bazaar, which launched her straight into an editor role for three luxury London lifestyle magazines. Concurrently, her passion for health and fitness saw Poppy specialise in these areas for The Mail on Sunday, The Evening Standard, Psychologies and Tatler Spa Guide. Poppy has a health blog and when it comes to what’s hot in wellbeing, she’s the gal in-the-know. @poppycross

Georgina Fuller is an award-winning freelance journalist, editor and mother-of-three. She writes about parenting, women, work and travel for The Telegraph, The Guardian, The Daily Mail, Little London, Red and Smallish magazine. She also blogs for Selfish Mother and has written for The Mother Book, published in 2016. Georgina has appeared on BBC Radio 2, BBC3 and various stations to talk about parenting and women at work. @georgie_writer

JO SUGAR

JESS BAKER

From fashion to the media, Jo has a client list that reads like a celebrity Who’s Who (Serena Williams, Vanessa Feltz and Lorna Luft). One of the most sought-after make-up artists in the country, she is also an educator, lecturing at events and seminars throughout the year. She is a regular at LFW, heading her own shows each season. Jo says, “Every job is different so you never stop learning.” @jo_sugar

Jess is an independent business psychologist and women’s leadership coach (CPsychol, AFBPsS). Jess feels most fulfilled when running workshops that help women to own their space emotionally and physically. As well as her column in Modern Woman, Jess speaks on stage at wellbeing events, is quoted in magazines and interviewed on podcasts. Check out her body confident #elbowselfie campaign. @therealjessbaker

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EDITOR’S letter We have lift off Over the past few months I’ve met some incredibly inspirational women from all walks of life. There is one thing they have in common: a strong, powerful voice that echoes through their work, but which is also typically discreet. To me, this encapsulates where one of our chief workplace equality issues lies: women just don’t shout from the rooftops about their successes, often preferring to keep their heads down and just get on with the job. And while they walk the walk, we think it’s time to start talking the talk too – to which end, we’re dedicating this issue to all those brilliant women who remain unsung. This is your moment to be loud and proud. In this issue, we talk to exciting emerging entrepreneurs, whose stories are, without fail, exceptional and motivating. We delve into their expertise and how their life experiences have shaped their successes. Read all about them by leafing through these pages, or why not listen to their podcasts or, even better, drop into Modern Woman’s debut panel event on 4 October? We’d love to see you there. Recently, we have been working with the charity BEAT, in aid of which I ran the Great North Run last month. The charity raises funds to support those with eating disorders, serious mental illnesses that affect some 1.25 million people in the UK. In this issue, I interview one of BEAT’s ambassadors, Nichola Swallow, to raise awareness for the cause and encourage others not to suffer in silence. It’s been a tremendously busy month at the Modern Woman HQ. We’ve been getting this issue prepped and ready, as well as organising our launch event and I am so excited to meet friends old and new who will be attending. I’m also ever so slightly scared to be hosting our first interview panel! It’s the good sort of fear though, thanks to all the support we’ve had from day one with Modern Woman. It has been astounding and although we may be here to empower you, you should know that your support and the community we are building together does the same in return for us. Here’s to fearless women everywhere. With love, Rosie

Would love to hear from you, get in contact: hello@modernwoman.co @moderwoman_int Modern Woman International

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WOMEN OF THE WORLD All the must-know news from women in work across the globe

VIETNAM Vietnam sets equality targets Vietnamâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s first female President, Dang Thi Ngoc Thinh, has said that the country is moving towards gender equality at home and in the workplace. Speaking at the Eurasion Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Forum in Russia in early September, prior to her appointment as interim President following the death of Tran Dai Quang, she said that targets had been introduced in order to achieve equal gender representation, including but not limited to increasing the number of women in leadership and business roles, and offering more opportunities for women living in poverty. She asked that the global community come together in order to collaboratively support the advancement of women socially and economically, many of whom are affected by not only natural disasters, but political, religious, social and cultural pressures. Dang Thi Ngoc Thinn was the first female Vice-President that Vietnam has ever appointed, and will act as interim President until the new Head of State is elected, breaking boundaries for women across Vietnam.

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NEWS: GLOBAL ROUND UP

CANADA Canada’s gender equality week Canada’s first-ever gender equality week took place in September, preceding Women’s History Month in October. In a statement, the Prime Minister Justin Trudeau acknowledged the week as “a historic step, and a chance to celebrate gender equality as a key to Canada’s success. We honour the people behind the progress we’ve made, and turn toward the work left to do to make sure everyone has the opportunities they need to thrive.” Trudeau described the week as a celebration of all who have contributed to equality and justice in Canada. Canadians were encouraged to use the hashtag #EveryoneBenefits, which was embraced across social media.

INDIA Instant divorce outlawed The Indian Government has banned a practice known as talaq-e-biddat, or ‘the triple talaq’, which has, until now, allowed Muslim men to legally divorce their wives in an instant by repeating the word ‘talaq’ three times out loud or in writing. The same does not apply to Muslim women. The Women (Protection of Rights on Marriage) Ordinance was passed on 19 September 2018, and makes the use of the ‘talaq’ punishable with up to three years imprisonment. Prime Minister Narenda Modi has been vocal in his criticism of the triple talaq and said: “We are committed to helping our Muslim sisters and daughters.” The move has been met with protests and criticism from some religious groups who have argued that the law discriminates against men.

EGYPT Paper confronts harrassment An Egyptian newspaper, Sawt al-Azhar, has released an issue on the cover of which a number of women address sexual harassment. Some of these women pictured are unveiled, a shocking move to many of Egypt’s more conservative groups. When questioned, the editor said that the decision was made to “make a statement against harassment”. The feature follows a video that went viral, showing a young Egyptian woman being harassed in Cairo. The newspaper stated that: “Harassment is a forbidden and deviant behavior, as it encroaches on the privacy, freedom and dignity of women. Justifying harassment with the women’s clothing shows a misinterpreted understanding of the issue.” It is hoped that the move will prompt positive discussion.

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ART: MAUDE HIRST

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MAGIC MAUDE HIRST considers the special kind of alchemy it takes to stir creativity

to flow freely. This resonated for me as an actor. The magic happens when I put my focus on the other actor or feel that I am really present in the moment; I disconnect from conscious thought and become reactive to my surroundings (you might call this a meditative state). In these moments, your essence shines through, unfiltered. I have often finished a scene and felt like magic has happened without knowing quite how to describe it. Similarly, the artists spoke about looking at a finished picture and not really being able to say exactly how they created it. The recipe? We all have a unique power waiting to be discovered. Find your passion, do the preparation and realise that you being you is enough.

uddled over a cup of coffee with Susan Aldworth and Nigel Oxley, two of the artists exhibiting in must-see show, Prism, I found myself pondering. As they cradled their lattes and talked about the myriad motivations behind their work, I asked myself: what is the magical recipe that separates a fulfilled artist from a struggling one? Happiness in creativity lies in the discovery of what makes you unique; what might, in other words, be called your unique selling point. Once you find your voice, you become powerful as a creative; no one else can do you better than you. Your USP dissolves all need for competition and allows you to develop and take ownership of what you do. So how do you find it? It is, according to this duo as we drain our cups, all about entering a higher trancelike state. When they are in creative full flow with an artwork, they place their concentration on something outside of conscious thinking. They might turn on the radio or listen to music, helping them to become unattached from logical thinking and allowing the creative process

MAUDE’S MUST SEE’S Theatre: The Woods. Starring the mesmerising Leslie Sharp, this is a haunting but beautiful piece of new writing by Robert Alan Evans. The Royal Court, 5 Sep – 20 Oct royalcourttheatre.com

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INSPIRATION: QUOTES

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WHAT? “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” CONFUCIUS

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“I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” ESTEE LAUDER

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“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.” C.S LEWIS

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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” WINSTON CHURCHILL

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“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” ROY T. BENNETT

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“If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles.” WAYNE DYER

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“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.” NEWT GINGRICH

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BUSINESS: PAOLA DIANA

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BUSINESS: PAOLA DIANA

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SERVICE PAOLA DIANA, philanthropist, founder of a luxury concierge service and bestselling author tells Nancy Alsop why she always hires mothers and how only humanitarian feminsim will save us

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aola Diana was already a superwoman before she became an entrepreneur. At just 28 and as a Political Sciences graduate – particularly young in her native Italy where tertiary education often goes on for seemingly decades – she breezed into a dream role working on the campaign trail for now ex-Prime Minister, Romano Prodi. “My professor asked if I wanted to help with the campaign, which I did for five years. I learnt so much – I had to find locations for events, organise congresses, think tanks and even build a school for the democratic party when the democratic party wasn’t even born in Italy. One supplier said, ‘Paola, you’re so good at negotiating, I want to hire you!’ I was like, ‘No, it’s not an option!’” As she worked behind the political scenes, even standing in Bologna – “it didn’t go well but it was a good experience” – she concurrently took care of her two children, to whom she is a single mother. To Paola, then, spinning plates is something that comes naturally. But in order that she could fulfil all aspects of her life to the best of her ability – an instinctive imperative for this strikingly positive businesswoman – she needed the right support. And so it was that in Rome, while searching for a bi-lingual nanny, her eureka moment struck. That was 13 years ago; she hasn’t looked back. “I started by chance. I was looking for a British nanny, because I wanted to raise my kids bilingual. Eventually I found her in London. But I thought other Italian mothers might also need that service.” She built a website and spread the word within her inner circle. Her instincts that others’ needs might chime with her own paid dividends immediately; the interest was so overwhelming that she had to hire assistants and consultants from the off. “Everything felt very natural. I soon gained clients worldwide and many of them had multiple residences across the globe. In turn, they had international friends so they started calling me from the Bahamas or Texas or Russia. Eventually, I opened in London; it’s the place to be when dealing with high net worth individuals.” Aside from sourcing nannies the envy of every parent at the school gates, The Diana Group – which operates three brands under its umbrella: Nanny and Butler, Supreme PA and lifestyle brand, Sigillus – rigorously recruits staff, from chefs to drivers to the maternity nurses, as well as second-to-

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BUSINESS: PAOLA DIANA none administrative staff. Meanwhile Sigillus exists to help clients make the most of their London lives, from finding the best schools or super cars to arranging incredible trips, particularly, for obvious reasons, to Italy. The nascent days were, she says, thrilling, terrifying and laborious in equal measure. “It was challenging because I had to quit my job, and it’s always a jump in the dark. You really have to be confident and follow your gut. My kids were young; I would put them to bed and then when the house was silent, I answered emails and worked until 1am. Every client counted; if someone pulled out, it was a big deal. But you have to have a positive spirit. It can save you.” She credits her ‘amazing team’ with much of her success, but her greatest tribute is reserved for her now grown-up children. “I got married early, at 23 and divorced at 28. He wasn’t the right man for me, and I knew I could raise my children on my own. I think it’s beautiful if you find the right person, and stay with them for the rest of your life, but if it’s not possible, I think it’s better for your children if you’re honest. My kids made me who I am. I became successful because of my kids. The challenge and the responsibility made me a better human being, a better mum. It’s all connected.” In fact, so supportive of fellow working mothers is she that, refreshingly, she actively chooses them as employees. “I think they have something more because they have more responsibilities, they know what it means to be responsible for other human beings. When other entrepreneurs don’t hire women in case they get pregnant or because they have children, I’m horrified.”

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“I became successful because of my kids. The challenge and the responsibility made me a better human being, a better mum. It’s all connected” It’s a horror that stems from personal experience, both at home and in the workplace. “When I got my degree, my CV was very good and I sent it out to about 800 companies. Not one replied. I had written that I was divorced and had two children. At the time in Italy, they weren’t hiring women with young children. It’s a bit better now but not much. Friends who got interviews were asked if they wanted children and when. You would never ask those questions to men.” Her determination to triumph over adversity was rooted in her childhood in Padua, where her family was highly patriarchal. “My father was the breadwinner and he made all the decisions. If I didn’t agree with him, he

RIGHT Paola Diana says that enlightened men and women working together is the way to save the world

was violent, both physcially and psychologically. That’s why a lot of our charities focus on helping children and girls. Being empowered gives you freedom. It gave me the strength to fight for women and children’s rights.” Her father, a feted academic, highlighted how easy it can be to fake a reputation. “That’s why the #MeToo movement is vital. When men feel the pressure of public opinion and face their reputation being destroyed, they start to think maybe they have to change.” Her passion is what she calls ‘humanitarian feminism’, the kind in which enlightened men stand shoulder-toshoulder with women, whose values – compassion, caring, empathy – are needed now more than ever. “Italy is the worst country in the EU for women. We have the highest femicide rate. We have no visibility and this government is so misogynistic. We’re going backwards.” Her book, Saving The World is a rallying cry for gender equality which follows the plight of women through history, and asks what can be done for the future. She’s not one to shy from a fight, literally. I leave her contemplating her next venture: stepping into the ring for charity. “It sends a message to women that you can fight. The sky is our limit.”

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PSYCHOLOGY: EMOTIONS IN BUSINESS

CRITICAL thinking JESS BAKER, psychologist and women’s leadership coach, talks us through how to tame the nagging voice of your inner critic

ave you ever experienced that little negative voice inside your head? The one that tells you that you are falling short in some way, or that you are not quite good enough? I call this the ‘inner critic’. These negative thoughts are so powerful that they can leave us feeling, at best, under-confident and at worst, useless. There’s a direct link between what you think and how you feel. Let’s say you’ve been asked to give a presentation to the senior team at work, but the last time you did one you got really nervous and mumbled a bit; now you think you are rubbish at presenting. And because you believe you are rubbish at giving presentations, you start to feel extremely anxious. How you feel negatively impacts what you do. You might become so anxious that even when you try to write the content, you find you can’t concentrate properly, and nor are you able to create a presentation with structure or flow. Or you might just attempt to forget about the whole thing and procrastinate, while secretly hoping that it will all just go away, and finding yourself frantically working late the night before to pull something together at the last minute. Does this sound familiar? If so, can you think of a situation, like the presentation in the example, that has triggered your

inner critic in the past? Can you identify the negative thoughts you’ve had about yourself? How did it make you feel? What impact did it have on your behaviour? You see, we all have an inner critic. It’s just that some of us are more susceptible than others to its ability to disempower and undermine us. Some people seem to be able to flick it off like a fly on their shoulder. But for those in the first group, the good news is that you can learn how to interrupt the automatic negative cycle. You’ll have plenty of your own examples. Before I explain what you can do to turn it off or

quieten it, you need to be aware of some basic facts. Your inner critic is never going to turn off; it actually enjoys berating you. Your inner critic is based on something someone once said to you, about you or in front of you – it’s not actually your own original thought, but your brain latched onto it as if it were true. Your inner critic is not based on any evidence whatsoever, but because it is so ingrained in your own head, you don’t dispute it as readily as you would dispute what other people say or do. The good news is that you can tame your inner critic in three simple steps.

NOW FOR THE GOOD NEWS: YOU CAN TAME YOUR INNER CRITIC IN THREE SIMPLE STEPS 1 Tune into it. Buy a nice journal and write down everything it says. The very act of writing it down makes it easier for you to literally get it out of your head and onto paper so that you can then… 2. Engage your rational brain by asking yourself what evidence there is for this belief. For example, even though you mumbled in your last presentation, you weren’t fired from your job; in fact, you were sent on a training course to improve your skills. When you realise that your fears are not based on any evidence, you are ready to get out of your headspace and into action. 3. Act in your best interest. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Your inner critic is trying to protect you from making mistakes or humiliating yourself, so it’s often loudest when you are stepping outside of your comfort zone. If you are ambitious, you often take on new challenges or start new things, so you have to decide whether you are going to let your inner critic get in your way, or whether you are going to take back control.

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HUMOUR: SAMANTHA BAINES

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When, aged 30, SAMANTHA BAINES was told she needed a hearing aid, she thought they were just for the Werther’s Originals brigade. Two years on, she’s learned to love it – not least as a mansplaining filter

t’s all very well and lovely (and looks good on social media) if you love yourself. We are all aiming for self-love right? But what happens if you – the self bit – keeps changing? Am I meant to fall in love with myself over and over again? You see, I recently turned 30. Well, two years ago. I remember my 30th birthday vividly; my younger sister made me a cake and put 30 candles in it, because she is evil. My cake looked like a hedgehog on fire. There I was, faced with this woodland-animal-cakemassacre and as I went to blow out the candles I felt my chin hair set alight and my boobs drop. Okay fine, it wasn’t quite in that moment but my 30th year definitely marked some changes in my body. The biggest one of all was my hearing loss. A few months after my birthday I was told I needed a hearing aid. I was like, ‘what?!’ And the doctor shouted “YOU NEED A HEARING AID”. Seriously though, it was a complete shock; I just thought I had an ear infection and I was going for a hearing

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test as a precaution. Turns out, I have moderate hearing loss, so I was fitted with a hearing aid in one ear. Until that moment, I had thought I was doing pretty well at loving myself and feeling confident in my newfound 3.0 status.But this tiny bit of plastic in my ear seemed to change everything. You see, I thought hearing aids were for grey-haired people with Werther’s Originals in their pockets. You know, the people who wear plaid and like Latin and racism. That just wasn’t me. I felt totally alone, odd and other. I began mourning the loss of my hearing and the old ‘hearing me’ and trying to come to terms with this new lip-reading, ear plugs at gigswearing version of myself. It was tough. Nearly two years on, I have to tell you that Madonna knows exactly what she is doing. Reinventing yourself is key to growing as a person. My Phonak hearing aid really has changed my life. I didn’t realise how much energy I was wasting trying to hear until I put a little battery-powered thing in my ear. Not only has my

hearing aid giving me newfound confidence in loud environments, helped with my tinnitus and enabled me to get a third off travel with a disabled person’s rail card (#winning), it has helped me meet so many amazing people who have similar hearing losses to me. Yep turns out I am not alone. I do live in London though –

A few months after my 30th birthday I was told I needed a hearing aid. I was like, ‘what?!’ And the doctor shouted “YOU NEED A HEARING AID” apparently I am always only a few feet from a rat, so who could ever feel alone really? Possibly the best part of having a hearing aid is that now, when men start mansplaining or come up to me after a comedy gig and say, “I don’t usually find women funny” I reply: “Sorry, can’t hear you, my hearing aid filters out bullshit”.

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LYSBETH FOX’S eponymous luxury PR business has one mission: to make its clients famous. She tells Alexander Larman why she never gave up and how women must never accept second best in business

ysbeth Fox, founder and CEO of the eponymous Fox PR, started her organisation in 2011, but has been in the industry for over 20 years. PR is a profession that has changed a great deal since she first entered it; as she says, “When I began, I had no idea what it was all about. An aunt of mine, who I really respected, said, ‘You’d be good at PR’. I’d done fashion marketing at university, and had no idea what to do. I had lots of interviews, one of which asked me if I was ‘media aware’, and I said, ‘No more than anyone else’.” She began her career with a three-month internship ‘making tea and coffee’. Understanding, then, what it’s like to graft her way up, today she consciously insists that Fox PR’s interns have a useful role to play, writing press releases, and gaining some understanding of what the media does. She cut her teeth at SPA Way and has, ever since, enjoyed a long and successful career. That isn’t to say, however, that her trajectory has been without its share of teething problems. The first agency she worked for guaranteed media coverage which, as she says, seemed ‘unhelpful’ – but it wasn’t long before she proved herself. “I got a

“I put everything that I’ve learned into Fox PR; the first three years were challenging, so much so that in year two I thought, ‘I can’t do this’. I looked for another job, but it felt like I was cheating”

job at a huge multinational, Weber Shandwick, where I learnt strategy, campaigns and why you do PR; it was really interesting having both sides, and I’ve used all my experience within Fox PR.” Lysbeth grew up in a male-dominated Jewish household, “the fourth child amongst brothers”; her experience taught her that, categorically, she did not want to grow up to be a housewife and stay-athome mother. Today, her own agency specialises in luxury PR, their raison d’être summed up in a pithy line: to ‘make you famous’. Her own role is as an interface between the client and the consumer, and she believes that the industry hinges on an ability to create strong brands. “It’s about communicating the brand to the consumer. Our platforms have widened – we have much more than just print and TV, because now there is social media, and there are influencers, and bloggers. The trouble is, these days, that if we have a negative story, it’s like wildfire. A happy customer tells 1,000 potential customers – but so does an unhappy one.” Lysbeth has some interesting thoughts on the occasionally uneasy relationship between PR and advertising. “I would say that any company needs a

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marketing mix, and that PR should be a part of this, just as advertising should. If they want editorial coverage, then they’ll need PR, but then the bigger brands want advertising to get across their message with a mixture of images and a strapline.” Despite the variety of media, she believes that print will always have its place. “It’s being streamlined, but it’s never going to die,” she muses, though she believes that the future is all about video. “Social media platforms, such as YouTube and Instagram, are reaching so many more people than before. It’s an organic, holistic approach, and companies need a coherent, cohesive brand that can be sold through a focused and

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ABOVE Lysbeth Fox specialises in PR for the luxury sector

successful PR strategy.” She’s passionate about equality, citing the ‘ridiculous’ pay disparity between Claire Foy and Matt Smith in The Crown as an example of unfairness. “I have it in my own family. I’ve had an uncle openly sneer at my business. Because I’m a woman, I’ve been patronised and told I’ve ‘done enough’”. She believes that change has to come from women. “We have to stop thinking that we should come second. Look at maternity leave; it stops so many careers, in a way it just doesn’t for men. So we need a conversation about that, and we need more women around boardroom tables.” She has some sage advice for any woman entering the workplace. “Don’t give up.

Just keep going. Ask for help if you need to, but believe in yourself. I put everything that I’ve learned into Fox PR; the first three years were challenging, so much so that in year two I thought, ‘I can’t do this’. I looked for another job, but it felt like I was cheating, so I carried on – and then it got a lot easier.” She believes that being a single mother gave her even greater drive to succeed. “I had a taste of success, and always knew that I could do better. I started from rock bottom”. The hard graft paid off. Today, her mantra is simple: “What goes around, comes around”. Asked for one word to describe herself, the fantastic Ms Fox is nothing if not ‘determined.’ www.foxpr.co.uk

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FIONA MINETT is founder of Boss Your PR. We mine her experience of placing coverage across the likes of Sunday Times Style and ELLE Decoration to Vogue and drill down into her top industry tips styled imagery. If yours is a service business you need profile photography and shots of you in action. For any print media opportunity you will need to provide images of at least 300dpi in resolution.

ave you ever wondered how to make it into the magazines? Do you know how to put your product into the hands of the right people? Or how to make your beautiful brand visible? Fiona Minett spills her top tips for scoring coverage. 1 Nail your brand offering Looking at your brand objectively will get you clear on your strengths and points of difference. PR always needs a clearly defined USP.

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2 Share your expertise

Do this through your outward communication; through your social media; your press coverage; your website; your blog and through networking. People want to feel an element of trust and to be informed by those who they are considering buying into. Sharing your knowledge encourages interest and, ultimately, loyalty. 3 Good photography

is crucial If you are a product-based business, you need cut-out,

IMAGES A small edit of some products Fiona Minnet has successfully placed within the pages of glossy, national and regional titles

industry awards There are always great PR opportunities to emerge from being shortlisted, as well as from winning. Regional and trade media are great for sharing this type of news with; a local or in-dustry success story is always winning content. 5 Be reactive and use

free tools such as JournoRequest Opportunity can come from anywhere. It may take the form of a speaking platform or a collaboration. All of this falls under the banner of PR because it is all about you and your business being visible. Take a look at journorequest.com

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LIANE SMITH is a student on the Central Saint Martins Birkbeck MBA course, which takes a radical approach to business education, placing ethics, creative thinking and social engagement at its heart MW Have you always been

from a different background, whereas I work with people predominantly from fashion. Compared to my degree, I find it more open and the mix of people makes it really special.

creative? LS I think creatively but I’m not necessarily physically creative. My grandfather was a tailor for Hardy Amies so there’s always been that fashion interest within the family, which has probably fuelled my creativity, even if it’s been subconscious.

MW How are you able to fit it in around work? LS It’s important to have good time management. I work 10am-6pm in my day job, so I do two hours before I start work. It helps when you’re interested in what you’re doing.

MW What did you aspire to be as a child? LS Originally, I wanted to be a make-up artist. After researching further, I realised it was fashion coinciding with make-up that I wanted to pursue, so I studied fashion promotion and illustration. MW How did you gain work

experience? LS Sixteen years ago, during my degree, I undertook a six-week work placement at Firetrap as part of its marketing team, which I loved immediately. I continued to work there every Wednesday throughout my final year, and they then took me on a couple of days a week. It was an environment in which I was able to excel. I know that I was really lucky to find what I wanted to do so early on. MW What inspired you to

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apply for the Central Saint Martins Birkbeck MBA? LS I was keen to expand my business knowledge and move my career to the next stage. I think a lot of MBAs have a traditional, businessschool focus and that’s not right for me, given I’m from a more creative background. This felt like a good mix of business and creative. MW How has the course influenced your career? LS It’s been interesting learning from other people on the course as well as from the tutors, because everyone is

ABOVE The MBA at Central Saint Martins Birkbeck is perfect for creatives who need a business background to go the whole distance in their careers

you want so far? LS Yes, there is a lot of variety and the topics we study are very current. With a fast-changing industry like fashion, courses need to keep up with trends. Soon, I’ll have expanded my knowledge beyond fashion too. MW Who would you say this

course appeals to? LS People in management positions and those in creative fields, whether arts, fashion, photography or theatre. Anyone who needs the background in business to reach a senior level. www.arts.ac.uk/csm www.bbk.ac.uk

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PARENTING: GEORGIE FULLER

MYSELF and Mum For the first time since having her three children, GEORGINA FULLER finds herself with some time to herself. She discusses regaining a sense of self after motherhood with fellow inspirational mums 28

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ike the smoker who lights another cigarette before the first has finished, I’m the type of person who’s usually thinking about what I’m going to do next, rather than what I’m doing in the present. But now, suddenly and for the first time in the almostdecade since my eldest was born, I find myself with some spare time on my hands. The third and final baby has just started school and, whereas before I was either working or looking after her or her brothers (or both), I’m now in the much longed-for position of not always having to do

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either. I am slowly regaining my sense of self and a little taste of freedom. Until, that is, 3.30pm rolls around and I find myself carrying 1001 book bags, forms, party invitations and water bottles for three tired, grumpy kids. And that’s without mentioning any of my additional jobs: driver, referee, entertainer, washer woman, cleaner, cook and homework coach. Before I became a mum, at the relatively tender age of 31, I swore, like so many women, that I wouldn’t ever lose my identity or become one of those people who are completely obsessed with their children. But it’s pretty inevitable, isn’t it? I

met up with a new friend, who is in her late 20s, a few weeks ago and she said one of the things that put her off having kids is that she would have to sacrifice herself to her unborn child. It’s not something I ever really gave that much thought to but I have certainly met plenty of women who seem to have surrendered themselves completely to motherhood. So how can mothers maintain a sense of self? I put this question to a number of inspirational women I know (or shamelessly stalk on social media), who have kids. Here’s what they had to say. Grace Woodward, presenter and stylist, says she likes to set certain boundaries, especially when it comes to social media. “I don’t have my child or me with my child in any of my social media profile pics. I do have my husband and son on my phone screen saver but not on my computer. I think by keeping these boundaries I’m reminded every day, in some small way, that I have my own identity.” Grace says she also likes to maintain perspective by spending time with people who don’t have children rather than surrounding herself only with other mums. “I go out, generally not with other mums, and put on something totally un-child friendly. I find it endlessly fascinating (and sometime hilarious) chatting with those who don’t have kids. Forgetting that you are a mother for a couple of hours, when you know they are in safe hands, is refreshing. Having the space to miss them makes you appreciate them more and break up the often relentless schedule,” she notes. Charlotte Philby, contributing editor at Marie Claire, says it’s about being

“I don’t have my child or me with my child in any of my social media profile pics. I do have my husband and son on my phone screen saver but not on my computer” ABOVE Charlotte Philby, contributing editor at Marie Claire

true to yourself. “Being a mother is often defined as an unbridled selflessness but taking decisions which are true to you and where you want to be in your life is imperative, not only for you to retain a sense of who you are, but also to avoid feeling the kind of resentment that has a negative impact on your family in the long-term.” Charlotte is a big fan of making lists and ‘checking-in’ with herself to assess what she wants in life – which can

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PARENTING: GEORGINA FULLER range from time with the kids, to travel, to making money, to being creatively fulfilled – and then she looks at what she needs to do to get there. “I get a big piece of paper and a pen and split it into three columns, one of which is “what I want from life” and one which might be “what I have”. I then work out the disconnect, and what I can do to get where I want to be. I think it’s important to know your own goals, and what makes you happy,” she says. Sophie Robinson, interior designer and TV presenter, says getting her wardrobe right helped her regain her confidence. “I lived in Breton tops and maternity jeans for so long after my son was born. My figure had changed shape and none of my old clothes fitted. I felt like I’d lost my identity. I then got a big job offer for a TV show and had to sort out my fashion stakes quickly.” Sophie went into her favourite local boutique in Brighton and they helped her reinvent herself. “I’ve always loved colour and bold designs and getting back into wearing that made a huge difference.” Sophie says she now gets much of her style inspiration from Instagram. “It’s a game changer. Real women with hips, shopping on a budget. I have also met a hugely supportive group of women, many of whom are working mums.” Vicki Psarias, aka the blogger who goes by Honest

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RIGHT Grace Woodward advocates doing some of the things that made you happy pre-kids. Such as drinking champagne at festivals, as demonstrated

BELOW Vicki Psarias aka Honest Mum and author of MumBoss has regained time to rediscover herself post children after a decade

Mum and author of MumBoss, says that, for her, it’s about doing the little things that made her happy before she became a mum. “I do what made me happy pre-kids, post kids. I think that’s really the answer,” she notes. “It’s the little things that remind me of who I am, whether it’s cocktails with girlfriends once a month, or day dates (far easier than evening ones) with my husband, or gallery

FIVE SIMPLED WAYS TO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF YOURSELF • Spend time with people who don’t necessarily have children to remind yourself that everyone’s life doesn’t always revolve around little people. • Write a list of personal goals and look at how you can achieve them. • Think about what made you happy pre-kids and see if you can still do some of the things on that list now. • Go on day dates with your partner or husband. • Visit a local boutique or department store and ask a personal shopper or stylist help you pick something out for a style refresh.

and cinema visits or writing my journal or painting.” I suppose the time, as Moloko once sang, is now and we have to make the most of it. Having children is a privilege and it’s very easy to become completely consumed by them. But maybe we just need to try and keep the little things – that coffee from Pret or the much-missed weekly Pilates class – going because it’s those things that make us who we are and help us to maintain our sense of self.

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FITNESS: POPPY CROSS

MIND Power POPPY CROSS credits meditation with a wealth of positive effects, from helping her to run a marathon to bringing daily peace and poise

ccording to The World Health Organisation, stress has become “the epidemic of the 21stcentury”. So it’s no surprise that practises like mindfulness and meditation are growing in direct correlation to soaring stress levels to counterbalance the crisis. For some time I’d been thinking about meditation and its multitude of benefits for the mind, body and soul. I’d remained however, firmly in the thinking zone without considering the actual becoming part. But perhaps this fence-sititng was due to the fact that I wasn’t in crisis mode. Sure, we all have our moments, but during these times the last thing I fancied doing was making myself meditate. It seemed somehow too much like a discipline (it is) and hard work (yup) and I didn’t fully understand its great pay offs. As time went on I thought about meditation more. I read articles and listened to podcasts where world thought leaders like Tim Ferris, Sam Harris and Oprah

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Winfrey praised meditation and its power to make themselves and others happier, healthier, more productive and less stressed. It shouldn’t just be thought of as a crisis management practice but as something that can optimise even the happiest days. Its efficacy seemed undeniable and the universe appeared to be signalling to me that the time to start meditating was now. A dictionary definition describes meditation as the “focus of one’s mind for a period of time, in silence or with the aid of chanting, for religious or spiritual purposes or as a method of relaxation.” It is up to you which method you use. There is no right or better way to meditate. Founder of app Just Breathe, Michael Wong, also emphasises that there is never a bad meditation. “Expect thoughts to come and go and know that this is natural”, he encourages. It is fundamental too, he says, not to judge those thoughts. Once I had a clearer understanding, I began to meditate daily. For me, this means choosing a

space outside in nature to sit comfortably, close my eyes, set a 20-minute timer and repeat a mantra. Each meditation leaves me feeling more grounded. It’s a reminder to take stock of what’s going on in your internal and external environment and ensure you are optimising your time and energy. Done regularly over time, these little assessments can lead to big outcomes. Last Sunday I ran the Berlin marathon and I believe that

“Meditation shouldn’t just be thought of as a crisis management practice but as something that can optimise even the happiest days” my meditation practice helped me overcome the pain I felt in the second half. I was able to be in the moment and run each step at a time. Do yourself a favour and take this as your formal invitation: start meditating today. poppycross.co.uk

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MENTAL HEALTH: BEAT EATING DISORDERS

BEAT it It is estimated that 1.25 million people in the UK are suffering with an eating disorder. Rosie Coxshaw meets NICHOLA SWALLOW, an ambassador from the charity BEAT to learn about her road to recovery RC There are many forms an

eating disorder can take. In the first instance, how would you define what an eating disorder is? NS A lot of people identify an eating disorder by its physical characteristics in terms of weight, but those are symptoms of something going on internally. It’s a mental illness and can affect every part of your life. RC Describe how the illness

can pervade your life? NS I call it a tiger. The tiger is with me all the time, like a pet, and when I was suffering we were constantly fighting. The tiger was overpowering both me and my thoughts. The feeling was really painful.

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PICTURED BEAT supported Nichola Swallow as she recovered from disordered thinking around food

I had low self-esteem, low self-worth and felt unloveable. You believe those things to be true. RC How far then do those feelings of low self-esteem make the disorder selfperpetuating? NS It’s a vicious cycle. When you’re in that frame of mind and you let those voices tell you unhelpful things, it triggers a lot of anxiety, which in turn can trigger the disordered eating behaviours. Demonstrating such behaviours just drives the self-loathing. The key is to keep on top of those thoughts and to ensure that you’re in a positive mindset as consistently as possible.

RC How and when did you

realise you were suffering? NS I have been suffering with an eating disorder for about 17 years. I’m now 33 but I wasn’t diagnosed with a binge eating disorder until 2015. The first time I went to the GP in 2009, my weight was fluctuating violently they were very dismissive and offered me discounted gym membership. I then went back to the GP in 2015 to find out what was wrong with me and why I felt so sad. My GP then referred me to the specialist eating disorder clinic to get treatment. RC Do you feel that societal pressure to diet plays a role? NS Absolutely. When I was in

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the middle of it and my BMI was fluctuating massively, I was trying diet after diet. The diet industry is such as scam. I mean, what other product can you buy that when it fails you blame yourself and then you go and buy it again. It’s really unhelpful. RC Do you think that in essence having an eating disorder stems from the same mentality as someone abusing drugs or alcohol? NS Yes. When I saw my GP in 2015, she said to me, “the way you’re talking about your problem is the same way that an alcoholic would speak about their addiction.” With a recovered alcoholic, they wouldn’t go and have

one pint; they would stay away from it eternally. In the same way I am recovered but it will always be with me. RC But the problem with

food is that we need it in order to live... NS Food isn’t the problem, there is no such thing as good and bad food. It did take me a long time to come around to this way of thinking, but the problem is behaviour and disordered thinking – not the food. RC How has BEAT helped? NS I followed BEAT on social

media and the great articles they shared were really helpful. I’ve also attended their group therapy sessions

VITAL INFO Beat is an eating disorder charity. We are a champion, guide and friend to anyone affected, empowering sufferers and their families, increasing understanding of these serious mental illnesses, and campaigning for better access to treatment. Anyone worried about their own or someone else’s health can contact BEAT’s Helpline, 365 days a year, via phone, email, anonymous one-to-one webchat or social media messaging. Beateating disorders.co.uk Helpline: 0808 801 0677 @BeatED

which helped massively, I then applied to become an ambassador. I felt so lucky to have access to the treatment. RC Tell us how we can help

to support BEAT? NS People support BEAT through events and sporting activities. Funds go towards a dedicated call centre, online function to speak anonymously and running campaigns lobbying government to encourage access to treatment. RC Tell us about recovery… NS It feels peaceful. I didn’t

realise that there was so much noise in my head until it quietened down. Now I feel balanced and liberated.

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PARIS CESVETTE is a DJ and music producer whose debut album went straight in at number one. She tells Rosie Coxshaw what it’s like to be a woman in a male-dominated market and why it pays to let the music do the talking RC First things first. How did you first get into music? PS I was raised on music as a little girl. My parents are big record collectors

and before I could talk I was singing. I could sing Blackstreet and all the big R&B bands before I knew my ABC. RC When did you realise you could turn that early passion into a career? PS I was eleven years old and obsessed with Missy Elliot. Back then, I wanted

to be a rapper but my heavy British Hertfordshire accent totally killed that and I realised it was never going to happen! I was playing the saxophone one day when my dad said to me, “The vibe you’re going on is either one of these LPs: Joe Sample’s Voices in the Rain or Bobby Cladwell’s What You Won’t Do For Love.” I chose Bobby Cladwell and that’s what set my music foundations. With the software EJAY, I learnt how to fuse the music together and that’s when I started producing. MW The media platforms via which to get music out there are constantly

evolving. How have you dealt with those changes? PS I believe in showing the consumer consistency and this is how I have built a strong following. The amount of people who suggest I produce a track based on what’s hot... I know I have people who love what I do and I make music for them, capturing a niche market. RC Your debut album went to number 1. That must have felt incredible. Can you tell us about that EP? PS That was my debut album, Celestial: My Journey Among the Stars. It’s a twelve-track EP which I created with a whole bunch of friends who I’ve worked with over the years. It was, literally, a musical party. RC How do you juggle your career with being a parent? PS Motherhood has been the biggest life lesson. I realise now I didn’t know

who I was before my son arrived. When I had him, I stopped work for two years but by the grace of life, I had done enough to keep my name going. When I was creating my album, he was always on my lap, at every production. He is what drives me to keep going. RC In what sense didn’t you know yourself before becoming a mum? PS I think it affected my processing of everything. This industry is extremely RC territorial, even hostile. It’s a nightmare. My sensitivity almost died. For some people, having a child makes that even more acute, but for me it put things into perspective. Before I would have done a lot to appease business deals, whereas now I’ve learnt how to say no when things don’t feel right.

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People can’t argue with a good product. Let the consumer decide

RC There must have been

some challenging times. Can you share your experiences? PS I was given one of the biggest artists at the time but just before he was properly famous. I was asked to be his producer, and to teach his production collective to produce the way I produce. But they didn’t offer me the right deal. I said no. It turns out he is now a multi-million pound selling artist, but the deal was not for me. I did try to negotiate but they were not interested and just needed a quick resolution.

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STRIKE A POSE Paris Cesvette believes in letting her music speak for itself

RC Music is a maledominated industry. Are you optimistic that this will change and how do you think it will happen? PS I think we have to focus on our art form. We have to almost move in silence, in the shadows and keep focused on our work. The amount of men who have told me I’m not allowed to be here, that I’m not good enough. My attitude is that people can’t argue with a good product. Ultimately I believe in letting the consumer decide.

RC Tell us what you have in the pipeline – what can we expect to hear from you in the near future? PS OPOM – Our People, Our Music – is my new venture. It bridges the gap between nightlife and the record industry and the music community, and it’s all fuelled towards R&B, soulful and dance music. It connects the sounds all on one platform.

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QUICKFIRE QUESTIONS First gig? Club in Vauxhall. I did a 10-hour set. Altenative career? I’d have been a spy for MI6. In fact, I’d have made a great spy in the music industry. I’ve practised my poker face. Define yourself in a word? SophistiFunk. Define success? Almost not feeling it. I follow Taoism so I believe in the law of attraction and I stay thankful for everything. I feel my success when I can work from home and be with my son. What more can you ask for? ON THE DECKS Paris doing what she does best

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FOOD & DRINK: EATING OUT

CLASS Act

With the arrival of autumn, we dispense with our summer casuals in favour of all-out gastro glamour

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PIED A TERRE 34 Charlotte St, Fitzrovia, London W1T 2NH pied-a-terre.co.uk In the heart of Fitzrovia on buzzing Charlotte Street is one of London’s veteran Michelin-starred restaurants: Pied à Terre. Independently owned, its succinct Gallic menu oozes sublime confidence. And well it should. Super talented head chef, Andy McFadden, is the man at the pass, who crafted his culinary skills in at the Fitzwilliam Hotel in Dublin, and worked his way to the top. At Pied à Terre, he follows the luminary likes of Tom Aikens, Sahne Osborn and Richard Neat and upon his à la carte menu, which is £65 per person, punters may pick from a concise selection of French dishes. Our recommendations are the smoked quail to start, followed by the 120 days old St Brides chicken or young grouse, finished with a transcendent cherry parfait or a traditional cheeseboard. Established since 1991, Pied à Terre has not taken a misstep since; and in London, with its fast-moving culinary scene, that is something truly extraordinary. It deserves every stellar gong going.

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G&T with coffee • 25ml London dry gin • 25ml cold brew coffee • 125ml chilled Classic London Tonic • Orange wedge • Build over ice

G&T with absinthe • 25ml Juniper heavy gin • 2 dashes absinthe • 125ml chilled Bitter Orange and Elderflower Tonic • Tarragon sprig • Build over ice

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16-22 Great Russell St, Fitzrovia, London WC1B 3NN www.dallowayterrace.com Walking through the doors of Dalloway is like being whisked away into another, much quieter and more luxurious, world. First we fortify ourselves with a quick snifter at the adjacent The Coral Room, a recently opened stunning grand salon bar evocative of Miami’s best Art Deco, all housed inside a former lobby in the Sir Edward Lutyens-designed Grade II-listed building. It’s a suitably glamorous way to start our evening as we sip exemplary G&Ts in sultry surrounds. Just as we’re knocking back the last of it, we are ushered to our table at the Dalloway Terrace, which feels like entering a twinkling magical land where fairy lights illuminate the scene and the walls are festooned with flowers. Welcome to the Fitzrovia’s most beautiful secret garden. A hearty helping of unbelievable Guinness bread sets the tone for the repast, and is not let down by the ensuing scallops and prawns, which pack in light but deliciously fresh flavours. Next up is pan-fried cod with piquillo peppers and harissa dressing and the sublime Cotswolds chicken with preserved lemon; both are cooked perfectly, as are the accompaniments we enthusiastically wolf down: truffle chips and toasted almond broccoli. Despite having tucked in greedily, we find room for the cold chocolate and coffee fondant with salted caramel ice-cream, which is every bit as absurdly delicious as it sounds. Every dish, every fairy light, every flower, along with every bit of service at the enchanting Dalloway Terrace is impeccable.

Islay Spritz • 25ml Lagavulin • 10ml lemon juice • 5ml sugar syrup • 125ml chilled Delicate Ginger Ale • Orange wedge • Build over ice

Highland Highball • 25ml Blended Scotch Whisky • 125ml chilled Grapefruit and Rosemary Tonic • Lemongrass & sage

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EAST is EATS

East London is still the hottest place on the capital’s map for eating out. Here’s three of the best

SMOKING GOAT 64 Shoreditch High St, London E1 6JJ smokinggoatbar.com/shoreditch Inspired by the late night open-air canteens found across Thailand, the east London instalment of Smoking Goat is a social dining affair. “Aharn Glam Lao” (which is Thai for “drinking food”) is the concept. So just get a bunch of small plates and share over some drinks, but order more than one of the barbecue Tamworth pork skewers. It’s hands-down the best £1.60 you will spend in London. If you really like spice – I mean tongue-smacking, not just liptingling – and have never had larb before, give it a try. It’s a dry aromatic fried dish – think of it like a meat salad with rice – and this one is with made finely chopped liver and duck hearts.

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Making a good sourdough isn’t a skill, it’s a science. At Sodo Pizza Café, the chefs go about things with Heston-like perfectionism (minus the white lab coats). The dough is fermented for up to 48 hours, then blasted in a pizza oven at over 450 degrees. Toppings are kept simple and local where possible and the cured meat is a sure-fire winner. It’s an intimate little candle-lit spot with exposed brick and space for around 30 people. Perfect for date night. Do save room for the tiramisu.

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INVEST in the best

If you can buy clothes and shoes, you can learn how to invest, says MABEL NUNEZ

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tudies show that women are the Chief Purchasing Officers of our homes, making roughly 80 per cent of all purchasing decisions. We spend a lot of money on shoes, accessories, clothes, fancy phones,and much more besides. But did you know that the vast majority of the products and services our

money is being ploughed into on a consistent basis are from publicly traded companies? What does that mean? It means that we can all become investors in those companies and grow our wealth over time by becoming â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;part-ownersâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; through stock investing. It also means that we can expand the way in which we think about creating wealth to go beyond traditional

FINANCE: MABEL NUNEZ methods, such as real estate or just saving the money we make. It is very difficult to grow wealth by saving alone. If we have the money to spend shopping, it follows that we have the money to invest. It is that simple. Just remember these rules. The knowledge we acquire as consumers can be gold when it comes to investing. We know when a product is good and of high quality (or terrible) and we can use that information to our advantage. Some of our best investing decisions can come from first-hand experiences. Investing is for everyone. You don’t need to have a degree in finance or millions in the bank. If you have some money saved that you won’t need in the near future, or a job that provides some income, or you simply make a commitment to yourself to organise your finances to allow for it, you can invest. What you earn is not as important as how you manage your money. Someone who earns hundreds of thousands of pounds per year can have a hard time managing money and be in high levels of debt. Equally, those who earn a lot less and yet are responsible with their finances, living frugally, can save and invest. The choice is yours. Saving and investing goes beyond the concept of just making money. It can afford us freedom and flexibility to pursue the things we want without the burden of financial worries. How do we invest? For many people, investing can seem confusing and overly complicated. As a matter of fact, the big

investment banks want you to think that investing is difficult and that only they can do the work for you.

ABOVE Mabel Nunez advises losing credit card debt and getting into the habit of saving before you invest 3

is to get yourself into the habit of saving and into an investing mindset.

Before you jump into the stock market, eliminate your lingering consumer debt (i.e: credit card debt). Interest rates on credit cards are aggressive. Even if someone is making money in the stock market, it won’t be enough (in the short-term) to offset the interest rates accumulating on a credit card. So get rid of that.

Choose your platform. Once you have some money saved, you can transfer some of it to an actual investing account. Do some research on the best online brokerage or investing accounts available to you and go with the one you feel most comfortable with. Keep an eye on fees and make sure the account is insured (all this information should be available to you on the account’s website). My preference is for online brokers when it comes to investing platforms because they allow for greater flexibility. You can also open an account at a respected institution that allows for fund investing and invest in a low-cost FTSE 100 fund.

Once you’ve eliminated debts, roadblock. Open a savings account, name it your ‘money cushion’ and add to it consistently. Get into the habit of sending £50 (for example) or whatever you can comfortably afford to that account with every pay cheque. The point of this

Stay consistent. Continue being responsible with your finances, saving, and sending money to your investing account. If you have the money to invest in other people’s businesses by routinely buying their products and services as a consumer, why not also benefit as an investor?

It is good for business to keep you confused. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Anyone has the brainpower to learn to invest and it is a skill you can pick up at any point during your life as long as it is something you are willing to dedicate some time to.

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HOME truths

From fashion to banking to babies and now property, NICOLE BREMNER’S industrious life has been rich and varied. The key? An entrepreneurial spirit and the independence that being your own boss brings Words & podcast by Rosie Coxshaw

RC Can you tell us a bit about your roots? NB I’m Australian, I was born in the city and then my parents moved to the country where we had a farm. My grand-parents always ran dairy farms in the rural midnorth coast of Australia. Then I moved to the UK in 2000. RC What prompted you to move here? NB I followed my partner at the time. He’d been transferred to the UK with work. We’d only been together for a few months and he said, “Hey, do you want to come to London with me?” and I said, “Absolutely!” I’ve been here for 18 years. RC Yours has been a diverse

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trajectory. Tell us about your early career... NB I’ve been working since I was 14, starting off at McDonald’s. I always felt that full-time education was a complete waste of time for me and I wanted to work and make money, rather than sit in a classroom and study all the time. I did go to university, studying pre-med with the idea of becoming a dentist. This lasted for a few months but I quit and found a job at a stock broking firm in

Brisbane, Australia. I quickly realised all these people were making tons of money that they didn’t have to study seven years at uni to make and I felt hugely excited by the whole industry. RC So did you quit your studies at that juncture? NB Actually I ended up studying full-time whilst working full-time, which was a heavy schedule. I also enrolled in my financial planning certificate so was doing three qualifications, plus working sometimes at night, stacking shelves all the time just to make money because I came from quite a humble background. I ended up becoming the first youngest (CFP) Certified Financial Planner in Australia. However, once I moved to the UK my qualifications were completely worthless. I reached a crossroads and started questioning what I should do. I’d started in banking but in all honesty I wasn’t great at it. I persisted for a few years because it was decent money. RC So what changed? NB In 2006, I decided to jump on the online fashion bandwagon, setting up

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an online boutique called Brittique. It was endlessly fascinating because all I knew was that I loved clothes, yet I knew nothing about the fashion industry. I was a complete outsider but it was about championing young British designers. It was a lot of fun, until I was transferred with my partner’s work to the US and it was really hard to continue a British-based online company. I managed to keep it going for a little while longer but then I had my first baby. I went back to work at Goldman Sachs on Wall Street but after falling pregnant again I closed down the online business and soon had baby number three. RC What drew you to online fashion? NB I wanted to be my own boss. I was always looking at ways of making money myself as opposed to being employed. I wasn’t a great employee, I always felt I wanted to do things differently, more efficiently. I didn’t mind what the business was, I just wanted to work for myself. Fashion was what I was really passionate about.

RC Today you’re founder of East Eight developments. It’s a leap from fashion – how did you get into property? NB We bought a flat in Clerkenwell, which we rented out whilst we were in the US. When we came back to London, I released we had doubled our money on the flat in less than 10 years. We sold it, cashed the money and used it to buy a derelict vicarage which I then renovated to be our family home. I thoroughly loved the whole process and that’s how it all started.

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PROPERTY: NICOLE BREMNER RC What challenges have you experienced? NB The biggest one for every single business is cash flow. Especially in the property business. I don’t have a steady income, I get money in when I sell something and then the money gradually goes out, meaning I have to hold back a lot of capital for all expenses and running costs, and that’s really hard to account for. If you can stay on top of your cashflow and have a buffer at your disposal, then your business is going to do better. RC How have you made property work for you? NB I like the flexibility that property offers. When I started, I remember taking my baby strapped to me, being on site and able to project manage with my babies in-tow. I’d be breastfeeding in my carrier, speaking to my builders and they had no idea – I used to call it inflight refuelling! I love the fact I can use all the skills I’ve learnt and also make a decent income. I tried various things, from knitting to photography. They were creative but I made no money, I think everyone measures their success by the amount of money they make to an extent. RC How have you juggled motherhood with your work? NB I spent a good couple of years with the kids but I got bored. Whilst some mums are happy sitting down, playing with their children all day, there are some who are not and I realised I wanted to get back to work. I also felt I would be the best example to my children if I got out and worked. Their father is very active in their lives which is very good. It’s never easy being a single parent, but if you’ve got a really good

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realise that the opportunities which have arisen because of social media have been incredible. RC As a woman in business, what changes would you like to see? NB Everything is changing so much already. Even when I was in banking, there were powerful women rising up, and the company was honouring full bonuses whilst women were on maternity leave. They also had pumping rooms where women could express milk for their babies, so when they did come back to work they had such facilities available. I’m seeing more women coming into property; there is something very powerful about a group of women working together.

relationship with your ex, that communication goes a long way to ensure the kids are happy and that you are sharing things. RC What are your views on

social media being vital to business these days? NB I think your social network is equal to your net-worth. You are only as valuable as the people you know. I have been trying to acquire as much virtual real estate as possible with my social media and I would say most of what we do is on social media. If you don’t grab that real estate then other people are going to. We have to accept this is part of life now. RC Do you ever long for a break from the digital world? NB Absolutely. I think there is a fine line between saying, “I’m having a tough time right now, I’m stepping back,” and airing dirty laundry. I don’t think people want to hear the details. And then you fall back in love with it and I

ABOVE One of Nicole Bremner’s showstopping developments for East Eight

RC What issues that can

arise when men and women work together in business? NB Sometimes men don’t fully understand the commitments of being a mother. It’s not really about being a woman, it’s about the situation. It’s hard to get across that sometimes I finish at 4pm because I’ve got the next three hours with my children but I’ll pick up work at 7.30pm when they’re in bed. Stand firm; realise that actions speak louder than words. If you’re delivering, that speaks volumes. RC What’s the future for women in business? NB There has never been a better time for women in business. I still think that women are fed a myth that you can have it all. It’s not possible at every stage of your life to have everything but you can do it by breaking it down at different periods of your life. But starting a business is the way to get true independence and take charge of your own life.

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AWAY and Up Up VIVIENNE HARRIS is cautiously optimistic about the London property market. But, she warns, be prepared to price your home realistically, lest you frighten away any buyers at all

hat seems to have come out of summer’s lovely bright days is a slight upturn in the property market. Certainly, rentals have been busy, while the sales side has seen improvement with serious buyers not only searching for the right homes but committing when the right property comes along. Due to the current mismatch between the availability of homes for sale or rental and the requirements of proposed

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buyers and tenants, the market is like a jigsaw that doesn’t fit together. This creates stagnation and frustration for all concerned. Sellers want to see more activity and buyers can’t find what they are looking for. The same applies to lettings, with a dearth of high-quality property being offered on the market. This is not a surprise, taking into account the extra tax implications and loss of tax benefits for private landlords, many of whom are now trying to release themselves from the rental sector, looking

BELOW In this market, rental properties must be in immaculate condition to achieve higher rental prices

instead to invest in product that provides more income without the hassle. What was the government thinking when it imposed the ridiculous extra Stamp Duty taxes back in 2014 and then clubbed to death the private rental industry by increasing taxation further and removing many of the benefits? It doesn’t take a genius to work out that rents would increase due to lack of stock, as landlords take refuge from paying punitive revenues. One might think that due to the present lack of quality stock,

opportunities may abound when buying an investment property. But some words of warning: unless what you are offering is presented in tip-top decorative condition with a high-quality kitchen and bathrooms, excellent finishes and located within easy reach of a tube, do not expect to get inflated rent. The market is certainly patchy for second-hand looking homes or those with a lived-in look, which are struggling to achieve the same incomes as last year, let alone anything higher. As for sales, presentation is important too, but it’s more about asking a realistic price to tempt in prospective buyers and then working on any offers that may be received. By starting to market at an unrealistic price, purchasers may not even be interested to view. In the age of the internet, nothing is secret, so potential buyers often establish their idea of the value of your home even before making an appointment. As a timepoor society, combined with the advent and regular use of smart phones and all the current fingertip technology, purchasers these days often won’t waste time with viewing overpriced property in the hope that a vendor will take an offer. In fact, many would rather wait and see if a price is reduced at some later date before even committing to an appointment. Therefore, prior to placing your property for sale, arrange a few market appraisals from local, renowned agents to ensure that it is going to be priced realistically. This will provide you with the most up-todate information and at least give you a fighting chance and the opportunity to successfully make a move in your desired time frame.

CAPITAL GAINS

London’s market is regaining confidence, says Graham Norwood

ABOVE It may be tough out there, but London is once again attracting buy-to-let investors, overtaking the south-east

London may remain nervous as political and economic uncertainty dominate headlines, but there are many reasons to be confident in the capital’s housing market. Knight Frank has analysed international real estate investment flows and London emerges with flying colours. The agency reveals that the capital has the second highest proportion of international developers in the world, beating Shanghai, Beijing, Hong Kong, Singapore and the Middle East, and second only to Sydney. On top of that, crossborder property investment movement increased 82 per cent last year, despite Brexit and global concern over the UK economy. “We expect this trend to continue with a significant volume of activity seen in the first quarter of 2018,” the report says. Commercial Trust, a specialist buy-to-let and investment lender, says London is back as the most popular part of the UK for residential investors. In quarter two of 2018, it says 15.34 per

cent of its applications for BTL mortgages were for properties in London, overtaking the south-east. These two regions have dominated buy-to-let purchase data historically, but other regions had closed the gap recently – until now. “Whilst property prices and stamp duty costs have quelled the investment ambitions of some landlords, there are those still willing to put their faith and money into London bricks and mortar,” explains company chief executive Andrew Turner. Additionally, London saw the highest annual rent rises since 2014, according to an analysis by Rightmove. In April, May and June, asking rents in London rose to an average of £2,000 per month, fuelled by a shortage of new rental properties. This has helped to push the annual growth rate of London asking rents to 3.4 per cent, the highest level for three years. “After a few years of more plentiful supply we’ve now reached a point again where competition among tenants for a great rental home can be very high in the most popular rental areas of the capital,” Miles Shipside, Rightmove’s housing market analyst, says. “This reduced choice could be symptomatic of fewer landlords buying and some selling as rental returns are diminished by more onerous tax,” he adds. So the market is tough out there – very tough – but London is still giving positive returns to investors.

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ADVERTISING PROMOTION: TAVISTOCK RELATIONSHIPS

Career change; TV to couple therapy Kate Thompson left a career in TV to do something “more meaningful”. She is now a couple psychotherapist and Head of Strategic Development at Tavistock Relationships

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started with Relate while I was still working in TV and then undertook additional training with Tavistock Relationships – first the three-month Introduction Course and then the four-year MA in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy. As part of the course you have to go into therapy yourself which is really important and instructive. I chose ‘Tavistock’ because of the reputation and prestige, but the teaching is strong and helps you through the tough bits. “Couple therapy is the most creative job I have ever done; much more creative than TV. It’s about ideas. You are balancing the theoretical and the clinical, easing distress and trying to help. Couple diagnosis is especially fascinating as you know that if you can help a couple you are probably helping a whole family. “The Tavistock Relationships approach to couple therapy is about finding new ways of working through problems with people.

We apply this approach to different scenarios including people struggling with adoption, people who are depressed, parents in long-term dispute, as well as couples facing a crisis in their relationship. “I love my job and I really enjoy working with like-minded people. I’m based at Tavistock Relationships in London three and half days a week and have private clients on the remaining two days. This a good career to take up when you’re older. It is also fairly flexible and I work mostly from home. I was in my 40s when I retrained and there’s no doubt that life experience is valued in this profession. I hope I’ll still be working in my 70s.”

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“Meditation shouldn’t just be thought of as a crisis management practice but as something that can optimise even the happiest days”

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Balance is everything. After a restorative stay in BATH SPA, we head for more of the same in the country, courtesy of the sublime CHEWTON GLEN

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TOWN The Gainsborough Bath Spa, Bath

hile its gleaming Georgian façade exudes polished grandeur, there is no hauteur about the welcome at Bath’s newest five-star hotel, right in the middle of town, which is all warmth. We’re soon on first name terms with all the staff, who’ve checked us in and whipped away our bags before you can say ‘spa break.’ And yet those are surely the words on every guest’s lips, thanks to the fact that the hotel’s name refers to more than just its spa town location. Offering all the welldocumented benefits of Bath Spa’s healing waters, extolled since Roman times, the hotel’s refreshingly contemporary take on ageold rituals allows guests to take a circuit of three natural thermal plunge pools, all housed within a resplendent

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ABOVE Chef Dan Moon’s dishes are as elegant as the beautiful interiors housed behind the Georgian facade at The Gainsborough Bath Spa

glass atrium. After which renewal, relaxed guests can dip in and out of the saunas, steam rooms and even an ice alcove, the waters of which are supplied by Bath’s original thermal spring. Treatments are influenced by Malaysian healing customs, though it is thanks to a Swedish massage that we emerge unwound and smelling of neroli, rosemary and pine. As befits a member of the Leading Hotels of the World group, this sets high standards for the operation as a whole – and then exceeds them. In a town that has always been a big draw for visitors, this 2015 addition has raised the game. On the third floor, our luxurious lodgings offer stunning views over Bath through elegant sash windows, allowing us to see everything from the Abbey to the fields beyond. Lovely

touches abound, from the welcome bottle of BillecartSalmon and selection of sweet treats to the gloriously comfortable bed. Chef Dan Moon, who himself hails from the West Country and thus understands what it is to cook locally, is behind the restaurant that bears his name, where guests can choose from the à la carte to a creative six-course tasting menu. Thanks to his own links to the area, expect to sample seasonal examples of the cream of the west, from Creedy Carver duck and the wild garlic that proliferates in the countryside to Bath Blue Cheese and Mendip lamb. This newcomer is reassuringly excellent in all regards, making guests’ stay a sybaritic pleasure. You won’t want to leave. thegainsboroughbathspa.co.uk

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here is little, in a sense, that needs to be said about the doyen of England’s luxury hotels, the great Chewton Glen. The ethos is, and has been for decades, of sophistication, of luxury without bling and of creating a home-from-home. Yet Chewton Glen, like everywhere of its calibre, has to innovate. People with deep wallets and expensive tastes are selective, and expect 21st-century luxury. A few years ago, this took the form of opening a set of uber treehouse suites within the grounds, complete with hot tubs, welcome bottles of Taittinger and ‘breakfast boxes’ delivered to one’s room for lavish picnics. Now, the latest innovation is a more food-oriented one. The celebrity chef James Martin differs from many of his peers in being a hands-on presence in his restaurants. Thus, it comes as a boon that he has worked with the hotel to open a new and exciting restaurant and cookery school, The Kitchen. Unlike the more

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formal main hotel’s dining room, the emphasis here is on keeping things familyfriendly and at a reasonably accessible price point. Thus, a small toddler might be placated with pineapple and pancetta pizza and a scoop of delicious Laverstoke Park Farm ice-cream, while grown-ups might feast on mussels and local chorizo to start, followed by panzanella salad and (very good) ribeye steak. The wine list, by standards of five-star hotels, is a steal, with a bottle of light and delicious English wine costing a mere £25. Cocktails too, at a tenner apiece, represent excellent value. James Martin’s presence in the adjacent cookery school is keenly felt. There

ABOVE Chewton Glen in Hampshire is a grand-dame of five-star luxury and adept at judicious reinvention

he hosts a dozen classes a year, which are announced at relatively short notice, and allow the lucky ten who can book the chance to have an intimate experience with one of Britain’s most beloved chefs. There are plenty of other treats too, such as events with guest chefs including Duck and Waffle’s Dan Doherty, and a variety of classes aimed at everyone from the aspirant Fanny Craddock to the most limited novice. Even children can get in on the fun, with a ‘Junior Chef’ class aimed at the eight to twelve year olds. Expect mess, fun and the chance to get one’s son or daughter to whip up an award-winning soufflé upon returning home. We stayed the night in the beautifully furnished ‘Croquet Room’, which has a vaguely baronial air, thanks to the tartan armchairs, tastefully muted wallpaper and sense of refined comfort; the complementry half-bottle of champagne made for a splendid accompaniment to a post-prandial muse, uninterrupted except by the gentle slumbering noises of a replete and happy toddler. chewtonglen.com

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LAST WORD: HISTORICAL HEROINES

The First

ir, if you were my husband, I’d poison your tea,” said Nancy Astor, the Americanborn first female MP to Winston Churchill. His reply has gone down in legend as an example of his trademark wit: “Madame, if you were my wife, I’d drink it!” Inarguable though his mastery of the quick risposte was, Lady Astor’s own talent for political badinage has not endured in quite the same way. How many, after all remember another sparring exchange between these two political titans in which Westminster’s first woman came off the better? When Churchill explained that having a woman in Parliament was like having one intrude on him in the bathroom, Lady Astor assured him, “Sir, you are not handsome enough to have such fears.” Her prolific pithy one-liners include amongst their number her assertion that, “I married beneath me. All women do.” She was born Nancy Langhorne in 1879 in Virginia into an impoverished family whose fortunes transformed by the time Nancy reached adolescence. Already noted for her good looks, she had been to finishing school in New York by the time she married socialite Robert Gould Shaw, with whom she had one son. But when that marriage dissolved, she moved to England, where she met William Waldorf

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NANCY ASTOR, an American-born socialite, wit and mistress of Cliveden House, was the first woman MP and a champion of women’s rights. Words: Nancy Alsop

Astor, 2nd Viscount Astor. They married in 1906 and had five further children; the same year Waldorf was gifted the Cliveden estate in Buckinghamshire, one of this country’s most spectacular stately homes, as a wedding present from his father. Thus Nancy entered the aristocracy, becoming one of the most famous women in the world. But not content to simply support her husband’s political ambitions from the

ABOVE Nancy Astor, mistress of Cliveden and the first female MP in the House of Commons, fought for the lowering of the voting age for women from 30 to 21

sidelines, after he gave up his seat upon inheriting his title, Nancy decided to stand for parliament in her husband’s seat as a Conservative MP for Plymouth Sutton. She became the first woman to ever sit in the House of Commons on 1 December 1919. Uncowed by the baying male voices, she became an advocate for women’s rights, and championed causes that benefited women and children. In her maiden speech, she warned the naysaying men that, “You must remember women have got the vote now and we mean to use it wisely.” Indeed, she supported lowering the age of the female vote from 30 to 21, an act that was passed in 1928. Additionally, as a tee-totaller (“I like to know when I’m having a good time”), she campaigned for the legal drinking age to be 18 rather than 14, and she spoke out against the rise of Nazism. On 2 May 1964, Nancy died at Grimsthorpe Castle in Lincolnshire, aged 84. As her family gathered around, she asked her son, “Jakie, is it my birthday or am I dying?” But perhaps the words that truly define her are these: “We women talk too much, but even then we don’t tell half what we know.”

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