How To Have the Sex Talk: Talk to Your Partner About STDs Discussing the subject of sexual health in a relationship can be difficult. Who starts the conversation? In what way does the conversation take place? How do you have this conversation without seeming aggressive, judgmental, or critical? What if there is bad news? Regardless of how awkward it can be, having the sex talk is critical. If you don't, you could be putting each other's lives in serious danger. Information is Power Make sure you do as much research as possible on testing and STDs. The more facts you know, the more confident you will be when discussing the topic. It will also be easier to help answer questions that your partner may have. Pick Appropriate Timing Be sure to pick a time when you can talk to your partner without being interrupted. It's also good to pick a time when you are both relaxed. Discussing this subject, upon arriving home from work probably isn't a good idea. Try to pick a time when you guys can be in an intimate setting, and before things begin to heat up. Wording is Key It's imperative that you reassure your partner that it's not about a lack of trust. Anyone can contract an STD from a prior relationship and not even know. Tell them that you have been reading up on sexual facts about STDs. 1 in 2 young people who are sexually active will contract an STD by the time they reach age 25. Yet most won't ever know it, as many STDs do not show any symptoms. The only way to have true peace of mind is to ask to get tested. Be A Great Listener After you've finished speaking, listen to what your partner has to say. If there is silence, ask your partner what their thoughts are on the matter, and how they feel about getting tested. This way, you can know if you both are in the same page. If your partner seems hesitant to get tested, then you may want to reevaluate if this is someone who you need to be in a relationship with. After all, do you really want to put your health at risk? Be Prepared For the Results If your partner agrees to get tested, than you must be prepared for what the results may be. If you both come back positive, great! However, if either of you comes back negative, it's definitely not the end of the world. Make sure that you're 100% honest with your partner if your test results come back negative. If your partner is negative, continue to remain supportive. Sometimes it's common from either side to want to
finger point or blame, but try your best not to. All STDs can be treated, and most are curable. As a couple, you should go to the doctor, as soon as possible, in order to get properly treated. It isn't always easy to talk about sex, testing, and STD's. But having the conversation about sex, before you have sex, is showing that you respect your partner and care deeply about their health. It's perfectly normal to feel a little nervous, as this is a serious subject. However, being open and honest with your partner is always the best way to go. Arm yourself with information, be an effective listener, and hold back any need for judgment. So don't hesitate any longer. Make sure you have the sex talk today.