MAY 2020 | VOL 01 ISSUE 001
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PAEDOPHILIA : THE UNSPOKEN TRUTH by Motswedi Mankwe
In this newsletter:
Pedophilia
is
attraction
What is paedophilia? Page 01
Types of paedophilia Page 02
Recognized signs to look out for Page 03
How can paedophilia be prevented? Page 04
the
sexual
towards
pre-
Living in a cultural and highly sensitive
society,
where
such
pubescent children of ages 13
things are always swept under the
and below by an older man or
carpet, it is very difficult to have
woman.
conversations
Paedophiles
aroused
by
and
are
fantasize
about
issues
of
child sexual abuse.
almost exclusively about
In an African household, parents
pre-pubescent children.
or guardians would rather protect a child abuser and throw out their
We always hear about people
gay or lesbian children due to
who
sexual
ignorance, fear and hierarchical
interactions with children and
structure in society . This on its
some
own shows that we have a long
have have
had
unfortunately
experienced such. It is usually
way
at the hands of trusted family
normalizing talks about child sex
members,
abuse
trusted
close
people
positions.
friends in
and
leadership
to
go
and
with
actually
regards having
to the
courage to report abusers to the authorities, regardless of who the perpetrator is.
The Unspoken Truth | page 01
TYPES OF PAEDOPHILES FIXATED PAEDOPHILES
WHO COULD BE A PAEDOPHILE?
DESCRIPTION
Researchers do not know for sure what causes
They are people who are predominantly attracted to children. They have poor social skills and prefer the company of children instead of adults. They
plan
offences
paedophilia, however, many child molesters or sexual abusers have proven that anyone in any profession could be a paedophile due to many causes. CYCLE OF ABUSE
beforehand
(premeditated
Some research papers state that people who become
offences).
sexual abusers may have experienced some kind of
These kind of paedophiles usually offend outside of
sexual abuse from their loved ones when they were
their families. They are usually fixated on a specific age group of children.
young. It damages them somehow and causes a cycle of abuse where they further victimize others. Here is a youtube video of a rapist, James, explaining how his childhood experiences led to him becoming a
AGGRESSIVE PAEDOPHILES DESCRIPTION
rapist.
https://youtu.be/WpgDPwo64lo
SOCIAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL EXPLANATIONS
These kind of paedophiles are sadistic and violent. They abuse children because of the sense of power they have over children.
Researchers found that sexual abusers are more prone to having psychological disorders and are thought to be socially
awkward.
Furthermore,
they
suffer
from
depression, are highly sensitive and prone to loneliness as well as low self esteem. They tend to have better
REGRESSED PAEDOPHILES
relationships with children and believe that children understand them better.
DESCRIPTION They are predominantly attracted to people of their own age. They
have
a
regular
intimate
relationship life and may even be married. Their paedophilic tendencies develop during adulthood as a result of stressors around them. Some of their offending is usually caused by the abuse of alcohol and other substances. This kind of paedophile is most common in families and households.
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PAEDOPHILIA IN BOTSWANA It
is
important
to
note
that
all
the
According to Mmegionline, from
30th
information provided is research done in
March 2020 to 5th April 2020, there
other countries. All efforts have been
were 23 reported cases of defilement
made
is
and 22 rape cases. Of the 22 reported
contextualization to Botswana. However,
cases, 7 involved minors. Keep in mind
it is difficult to do so because sexual
t h a t t h e s e a r e o n l y r e p o r t e d c a se s,
abuse relating to minors is not reported
which means that the numbers could
as often as it should be. Furthermore,
b e h i g h e r i f e v e r y o n e r e p o r t e d su c h
there is no specific clarification of crimes
cases.
specifically relating to paedophilia. All
In addition, in January 2019, it was
reported crimes are either classified as
r e p o r t e d t h a t t h e r e w a s a n i n c r e a se o f
defilement, molestation or rape.
sexual
The
to
ensure
outbreak
resultant
lock
of
that
Covid-19
down
there
and
the
regulations
have
offences
against
m i n o r s.
Statistics show that from January to May 2017, 171 cases of defilement
created an opportunity for paedophiles
were reported. Furthermore, in 2017
to constantly, sexually abuse children
there
more than they usually do.
compared to 543 cases in 2015.
were
617
reported
c a se s
as
This shows there is indeed a growing p r o b l e m t h a t n e e d s t o b e a d d r e sse d .
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Note that paedophiles are very manipulative and deceitful. They use different tactics to lure children and establish a relationship with them. This makes it extremely difficult to notice if your child is being taken advantage of. Furthermore, women CAN be child sexual abusers or paedophiles, however, because it rarely happens or gets noticed, there are less known cases of such.
RECOGNIZED SIGNS TO LOOK OUT FOR to
It is important for parents to be vigilant
children than to adults and has either
of how their partners relate with their
very
whose
children. Observe the way they touch
friends might also be sex offenders.
children, speak to them and even the
Someone few
who adult
relates
friends
better
or
gifts they give to them. Single mothers Look out for people who ‘hang out’
are an easy target for sexual predators
with children more than with their
whose
own age mates. Paedophiles usually
relationship
prefer children in one specific age
c o n t i n u i n g a s e x u a l r e l a t i o n sh i p w i t h
group, such as infants and toddlers,
the mother.
real
intention with
the
is
to child,
have
a
while
children between six and ten years old, or young teenagers up to the age of 16. When
male
malome
children,
“tla
(uncle) ke
bone
says
to
gore
o
godile” which loosely translates to
show
me
your
private
parts
and
proceeds to touch the private parts of children. This is not right and should be taken seriously because it is
a
sign
Family molester is usually an adult
that
one
could
be
such
as
the
father,
st e p f a t h e r ,
u n c l e , g r a n d - f a t h e r o r y o u n g e r c o u si n s who live with the family as well as carers. Ask your children to show you how their cousins, siblings or anyone
who usually bathes them. This is often an opportunity to take advantage of children.
a
paedophile. Such behavior should be discouraged. The Unspoken Truth | page 04
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HOW CAN PAEDOPHILIA BE PREVENTED?
with
In efforts to encourage children to
children, to enable them to
speak up and be open with their
freely talk to parents or any
parents, we encourage parents to
adult whom they trust about
teach
anything.
P.A.N.T.S. RULE.
Building
friendships
Reporting any
and
looking
allegations
into
made
by
children about being sexually abused.
their
children
about
the
P – pri vate parts are private, no one should touch them A – always remember, my body is
mine and only mine N – no means no and I won’t give
Raising
awareness
sexual
abuse
about in
the
community.
in to pressure T – there are no secrets from mom
and dad S – say something so mom and
Parents need to learn how to create meaningful friendships with their children. An environment where children can speak openly about
dad can do something
anything without fear. The Unspoken Truth | page 05
ABOUT US
THE UNSPOKEN TRUTH AN INITIATIVE BY MOTSWEDI MANKWE The Paedophilia campaign started as a
To rewrite the rules, I started doing
final year project among a group of ten
what I call awareness-drives. This is
media studies students, but it evolved
where I go around schools to talk to
into something bigger as we saw the value
children about paedophilia and equip
and impact of the campaign. The project
them with knowledge on how to deal
is
Unspoken
with such issues. I have already been to
Truth. The campaign ran from March 2019
two schools and the reception has been
and ended on May 2019.
amazing. In order to reach adults, I had
called,
Paedophilia:
The
planned an event titled “Mamas and I
continued
working
on
this
project
because I believe I can be the solution to the problems around me and that it will help save a lot of people from going through
the
traumatic
experience
of
having their innocence taken away from them. I genuinely believe that the reason why some of my peers are rowdy, and act irresponsibly is because they are trying to run away or heal from previous traumas they
experienced,
one
of
them
being
Papas workshop about paedophilia� but the plans got thwarted by the Covid-19 outbreak...so, be on the lookout for that once the outbreak has been dealt with completely. On
my
journey
to
create
a
new
tomorrow for our future generation, I met a few people who recognized the potential of my project and offered a helping
hand.
I
hope
to
create
a
sexual abuse.
network of such people, where we learn
They engage in dangerous activities to get
create a safer tomorrow for children in
from one another and most importantly
rid of the pain they carry around with them.
The
project
exists
to
prevent
a
repeat of what is going on right now. To save our younger brothers and sisters from
addition to rewriting the rules and talk openly because
about it
child
does
exist
sexual and
abuse it
ruins
peoples lives.
going down the destructive path my peers find themselves in, I am trying to rewrite or create a new reality for the upcoming generation.
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REFERENCES Bothoko,P.(14 April 2020).Close family members drive lockdown rapes Police. Mmegionline .https://www.mmegi.bw/index.php? aid=85233&dir=2020/april/14 Jacks,T(28 February 2017).What is grooming? How to spot a paedophile before it's too late[BlogPost].Retrieved from https://www.theage.com.au/national/victoria/what-is-grooming-how-to-spot-apaedophile-before-its-too-late-20170228-gumyd4.html Khulma,M.(13th January 2019).Botswana becoming a paedophiles paradise. Sundaystandard. https://www.sundaystandard.info/botswana-becoming-apaedophiles-paradise/ Mallett, X. (26 May 2016).Psychology of a paedophile: why are some people attracted to children?[Blog Post]. Retrieved from https://theconversation.com/psychology-of-a-paedophile-why-are-some-peopleattracted-to-children-59991 McCartan, K. (2008). Current understandings of paedophilia and the resulting crisis in modern society. Montaldo, C,(06 July 2019).Profile and Common Characteristics of a Pedophile[Blog Post]. Retrievedd from https://www.thoughtco.com/profile-ofpedophile-and-common-characteristics-973203 PANTS: The Underwear Rule. (n.d.). Retrieved May 16, 2020, from https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/underwearrule/ Rowan M.D., E. L. (2006). Understanding Child Sexual Abuse (1st ed). Mississippi, United States of America: University Press of Mississippi.
C O N TACTS
facebook.com/thedefendersbw/ thedefendersngo@gmail.com motswedimankwe@gmail.com The Unspoken Truth | page 07