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Nu r tu r ing Love and M a r r iage Growing up every girl bought into the fairy tale stories about love and marriage: Snow White and Cinderella to name a few. Every woman wants a prince charming and every man wants a trophy wife, wonder woman or both. Now, you're all grown up and reality hits or is about to in a big way! You're either in one of two positions, which are, you are still looking for prince charming, wonder woman or trophy wife. Or, your spouse's performance on the wonderful stakes is dismal to say the least. The reality is men and women are very different; we want different things and have different expectations about love and marriage. No one really tells you about compromise, expectations, goals, differences and the reality that is marriage. Once you've found that special person and you've had the wedding of your dreams and then settled down into married life what next? A house surrounded by a white Pickett fence and some children? What we were never told growing up, is marriage has to be nurtured, that is, you have to work at it! Jesse Duplantis once said, 'if the grass is greener on the other side, mow your own lawn!' Love alone is not what makes up a good marriage, for a good marriage to exist you have to nurture your love and your marriage. You may have regular get- a- ways and dinner for two, but it takes a lot more than just spending time together to nurture love and marriage. Seven ways to nurture love and marriage are: 1. Keep your wife close to your heart, she is the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh that means she is a part of you so treat her as you would want to be treated. Don't shut her out! 2. Be united to your wife by leaving your father and mother - this means you are no longer a 'mama's boy' you make your own decisions for your family. Be the head of your home. By all means listen to and take wise advice from your parents, however, you are not their little boy anymore. 3. Have a shame free marriage - have a sexual relationship that is shame free between you and be open with each other. 4. Honour your husband, give him your utmost respect, after all you married him - see it like this, he is the president, and you are his deputy - ever heard the saying too many cooks spoil the broth? 5. Listen to each other - consider the other's opinion and submit to it. 6. A husband who loves his wife loves himself and will have no trouble having a submissive wife. 7. Train up your child (ren) in the right way so when they are old they will continue in it. Also, I once heard the saying when you dishonour your spouse you shame your children. So, give your children a perfect example of nurturing loving and marriage. When we understand our God given roles in marriage and work with them, then we are nurturing love and marriage. http://www.lovenurture.com Euvwu J. Obuaya is a writer and the author of Anchored Assurance, she regularly writes for
Love Nurture a family oriented organisation she set up that helps build stronger families. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Eruvwu_Obuaya Anchored Assurance.