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Finances: One of the greatest dilemmas confronting a retired woman is financial. Of the several hundred Internet articles on women’s retirement, most of them address financial challenges. Many of them start out with the phrase, “In this economy…” Why should finances be the most prevalent concern for women? The ICMA-Retirement Corporation claims that 1/3 of women over age 65 in the US lives at or below the poverty level. The reasons for this may be a result of the work history of women: fewer years, part-time employment, and lower wages than male counterparts. It is important to make financial plans years in advance of retirement.
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Although crime against seniors has declined in the last decade, it still isn’t unusual to hear on TV or read in the newspaper of crime targeting the elderly. An older woman living alone needs to consider the implications. Consider, as some widowed retirees have done, installing dead bolts at home and keeping a dog. Other tips: Check door locks, including the garage. Replace nonfunctioning or poorly installed locks. Install an alarm and exterior lighting. Make your home appears occupied when you’re out of town with timers set on lights to mimic normal routine. Cancel newspaper and mail delivery. Know your neighbors. Share an extra key and phone numbers with the most reliable. Keep theirs near your phone with emergency information. Inform neighbors of any scheduled deliveries or home maintenance appointments. Stay safe on the street and walk in well-lit areas and with a friend, if possible.
Satisfaction: Are women content with retirement, especially if they have spent the major part of their adult years working out of the home in a career they enjoyed? When asked if they were bored, Continued on page 51. SEPTEMBER 2009 3
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In every issue 8 Women In Education 12 Parenting Page 14 Food & Entertainment 16 It’s A Woman’s Job 17 Fashion and Fads 21 All About Crafts 24 Cover Feature: Dr.
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40 Heartfelt 42 Pet Page 45 All About Authors 48 Mom’s World 49 High Country Courtesies
PROFILES / FEATURES 3 Monday or Tuesday 6 June Bare 10 Destination Unwound 11 Clarice Weaver 13 From London To Boone 18 Red Hats Sweep High Country 22 Golden Girl With A Green Thumb 23 Golden Moments At A Glance 27 Cove Creek Golden Girls 37 Daughters of American Colonists 38 Never Too Old To Learn 39 Retired Historian Busier Than Ever 44 Piracci At The Farmers Market 46 It’s Not What You Have 47 Elk Knob Community Day 53 High Country Cotillion
52 Cents & $ensibility 55 Your Home 56 Healthy Lady 57 September Calendar 4
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Nancy’s note...
Golden Girls? Duh! Why do you think I go to all the trouble of dyeing my hair two different colors? After you turn 65, it gets harder and harder to be outrageous. And if I can’t be young and scandalous, I’ll settle for being old and outrageous! For some time before the “Golden Age” struck me, Nancy Morrison I bought such books as, Be An Outrageous Older Publisher Woman and How Not To Become A Little Old Lady. I also read How Not To Look Old and even sent copies of that book to all my nieces who aren’t terribly far behind me as their mother was nine years my senior! Now, as most Golden Girls either intuitively know or soon discover, the problem with being an outrageous older woman is that it is so easy to be seen as ridiculous, especially by younger friends. Outrageous is way cool; ridiculous is not. Have you ever noticed how long hair makes some older women look, in their quest for a youthful appearance, a lot more like a cocker spaniel than a runway model? And how the tight clothing of our not yet forgotten youth only emphasizes those curves that are just not as attractive now as they were when we were in our 20s or even 30s? I’m the first to admit that I secretly smile when people exclaim, “Oh no, you can’t be that old! I thought you were in your 40s!” And for all of those people who say things like that, I’m sure there are probably an equal number who, wanting to spare my feelings, don’t say anything about how old they think I look! Thank you! Some years ago, Arlene Scully, the founding president of the High Country Water Media Society, painted a wonderful picture of a rocking chair on a porch. Over the arm of the chair lay a purple sweater and the title of the painting was “For When I Wear Purple.” At that time, I had not heard of Jenny Joseph’s poem, Warning: When I Am An Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple. Curious, I questioned Arlene and then searched out a copy of the poem, which is a tiny, hardback book, and read it for myself. This delightful poem has been adopted by Red Hatters and Golden Girls across the country, who love the “never say die” spirit of the work. Coincidentally, for the last several months I have carried around the full third season DVD of The Golden Girls, intending to watch it whenever I had some spare moments. That show, together with Cheers, always had the capacity to reduce me to full belly laughs. I think it is because, even though Blanche, Dorothy, Rose, and Sophia are caricatures, we all know people who are a bit like them. Yes, I even know a Blanche (I won’t name names, of course!). Kind of reminds me of a time a few years ago when I was pleading for money for the Avery Arts Council before the County Commissioners. I told them that if there had been an arts program in the Avery County schools when I was growing up, I might have been world famous instead of just infamous in Avery County. I didn’t realize the meeting was being broadcast over the local radio station. I heard “Infamous in Avery County, huh?” about a million times over the next few months. Oh well, more power to all of us infamous, outrageous Golden Girls who are living life to the fullest and enjoying it! Infamous in Avery County forever!
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The popular Golden Girls TV sitcom has always made aging look fun as its feisty, cantankerous and over-zealous leading ladies give seniority a youthful appearance. In reality, growing older is probably not as glamorous or exciting for many, but I know of those who, way Sherrie Norris past 65, are much younger in heart, mind and spirit Editor than those of us still on the other side of 50! I am constantly amazed by the active lifestyles of the majority of our High Country seniors. Staying busy, they say, keeps them healthy and vibrant. Many fill valuable roles as volunteers and contribute much to improving the quality of life for others. Rather than rocking themselves to death on the front porch, as sedentary retirement has allowed some to do, most seniors – who are able – want to stay busy and are constantly looking for ways to do so. Without senior-focused programs – and there are several in this area from which to choose – Monday through Friday each week would be quite dull for hundreds if not for congregate meals and activities at the local senior centers plus transportation to and from! The Senior Companion Program offers opportunities for those healthy golden-agers to bring in a little extra income by lending a hand to their peers who need a little help. Its sister outreach, the Foster Grandparent program, connects children and seasoned role models who, more often than not, form life-changing and enriching relationships. Consider also, the volunteer slots at hospitals, nursing homes and agencies such as Hospice that are filled largely by retirees who donate thousands of hours of service every year. On the flipside, however, where would some seniors be without home delivered meals, in-home care services, health promotions and screenings, legal assistance, home improvement, respite care and adult day care? And what about the aging family members and grandparents who are basically forced into roles of fulltime caregivers and guardians for loved ones? Chances are, these are not all about volunteering or getting the most possible fun out of those golden years as once anticipated. Regardless of their roles, seniors are invaluable. Most offer deep pools of wisdom from which we all should draw often and quickly. What an injustice to future generations that we do not capitalize more on the opportunities before us today. As storehouses of knowledge, senior adults have amazing stories to tell. We should listen closely. This moth, Nancy and I are celebrating our first anniversary at the helm. We can’t begin to tell you how much we appreciate the great feedback and especially the advertising support we receive from the wonderful High Country community. We take great pride in the fact that our feature writers and columnists are people you know and trust. We are fortunate to have so much to write about in our area and writing about what we know is great fun. That seems to be exactly what you want, because you tell us so. We wouldn’t be your hometown women’s magazine if we didn’t respond to your needs and requests on a personal level. In fact, we can’t respond quickly enough, as the list of requests grows longer each month! Thank you for your input and responses. Keep them coming! Celebrating everything that’s golden – especially the “girls!”
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June Bare
BY ANITA LAYMON When she was very small, June Bare had imaginary playmates: Jim Greene, her “husband” John, their son, and John’s twin sister Betty. June was known as Dr. Elizabeth Killemquick, an unusual moniker for a girl destined to one day be a nurse! June, after Aunt Ronie sat on John, buried him under the maple tree in the yard. But, as June said, “He was so bad that the buzzards brought him back!” June loved creating images and stories in her mind and hoped to be a writer. Another desire was to become a musician, developing her talent on the violin. Journalism was entertained by June as another possibility, as well. However, college was not an option because of her mother’s serious chronic illness. As a senior in high school with finances for college extremely limited, June enrolled in the School of Nursing at Harrisburg (PA) Hospital. “For a total sum of $200 for the entire three-year residential course, including room and board,” June says, she completed the studies for her RN certification. And, despite the chronic illnesses, June’s mother lived to the age of 90! A housewife and mother who worked as a nurse for many years, June retired in 1991. She and Larry, her husband of 50 years, moved to their new, beautiful 20-acre farm in Beaver Dam, where they raise Christmas trees. They 6 SEPTEMBER 2009
have apple trees and gardens to harvest from which they can and freeze food each year. In her spare time, June crochets and plays her banjo and fiddle. The couple has one daughter, Elizabeth Hoyt, who lives near Hickory with her husband and sons. Warm “people person” that she is, June has recently joined the volunteer staff of Hope Pregnancy Resource Center to help counsel clients. She is often deeply touched by the stories of these (mostly) young women experiencing a crisis pregnancy. June’s writing began with poetry, including composing new words set to old tunes. It all started when she acquired her first computer in the 1990s. One of her projects was a genealogy of her mother’s family, followed by children’s books and an ongoing stream of poetry. In one of her latest works of fiction, June felt a strong need to write the story of a young woman caught in the throes of a life-changing decision after a vicious attack, which resulted in rippling effects throughout her family and community. Set in the early ‘50s, the girl is a typical teen of that era whose mother did not
feel comfortable talking about sexual topics. Not realizing it, the teens were uninformed and vulnerable. All Things by June Bare tells a story of a lost career as a professional musician, of the heart-wrenching decision to leave familiar surroundings, and of mercy and grace abounding in the most difficult situation. June is now putting the final touches on Soar Above the Yesterdays, the sequel to All Things. “This is more of a romance,” June says. “Life goes on and the main character focuses on maintaining her purity.” Ten percent from each book sold benefits the Hope Pregnancy Center in Boone. To purchase All Things, visit the Cornerstone Bookstore, Hope Pregnancy Center, or click on www.JuneBareBooks.com. Check the local papers also, for June’s book signings.
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Women in Education
BY SHERRIE NORRIS
Jane Brown And The Golden Threads of Life Jane Comfort Brown is a name easily recognized throughout Western Technique International and a registered Movement Educator in the North Carolina from the world of arts and crafts to music, movement International Somatic Movement Education and Therapy Association. Jane is also a Fellow of the Academy of Orton-Gillingham Practitioners and beyond. Currently a familiar face around the campus of Appalachian State and Educators. For 15 years, she was a student of the famous June University where she is an adjunct faculty member, Jane has had Lyday Orton and has tutored dyslexic children and adults since 1965. the “profound pleasure,” she says, of sharing the principles of the Jane teaches the Alexander Technique through ASU’s Hayes Alexander Technique to countless students and faculty members since School of Music to students of all ages and in all stages of their education 1989. through junior high to graduate levels and faculty who are interested Prior to ASU, she was well known and appreciated for her in improving not only their performance skills, but their general use of contribution of 21 years of selfless service to Penland School of Crafts, self. where she served as assistant to her late husband, Bill Brown, himself a She explains, “The Alexander Technique is an established method driving force behind the school’s success. of movement re-education, which As Penland’s second director, promotes a healthful, non-injurious use of the body. succeeding founder Lucy Morgan, Bill Discovered by F.M. Alexander in was a sculptor and design teacher who shared Morgan’s devotion to experiential the early 1900’s, the study has gained education. The school’s recorded history worldwide acceptance and enthusiasm, indicates, “Brown brought vision, new particularly by those persons in the energy, and a network of connections in performing arts, its popularity growing the emerging studio crafts movement. He still, as an educational psycho-physical put out a call for help and the artists who principle. came to teach at Penland brought the Jane counts great philosopher school to new heights.” and educator John Dewey as a strong During her husband’s reign at the advocate of Alexander’s discoveries about the human mind/body mechanism. “He unique institute of learning, Jane’s said, ‘Mr. Alexander has demonstrated a presence – combined with her vast new scientific principle with respect to knowledge, talent, skill, enthusiasm control of human behavior, as important and love for life – only added to Bill’s as any principle which has ever been successful leadership. Not only did the discovered in the domain of external couple open their lives to all that was nature . . . not for our undoing but for Penland School, but also their home and human use in promoting our constructive hearts to those who passed through – as growth and happiness . . . But the mentors, servants and entertainers. Jane method is not one of remedy; it is one worked tirelessly at her husband’s side, of constructive education. Its proper field but always literally on the move. of application is with the young, with the During that time, she established a growing generation, in order that they movement program, which included major may come to possess as early as possible emphasis on the Alexander Technique, in life a correct standard of sensory the principles of which are based on the Jane Brown in her “comfort” zone. appreciation and self-judgment . . .’” discoveries of F.M. Alexander, an aspiring Australian actor in the late 1800s who, after experiencing great vocal Jane elaborates, “Students are asked to become active observers hoarseness and loss of voice, developed his own observational skills of their personal coordination by performing such simple activities and solved his voice problems. He discovered that by becoming aware as walking, sitting, or talking. As they become aware of the habitual of his habitual manners of use of his entire mind and body, he could manner in which they do these simple tasks, they are guided to apply make constructive change. A student of the technique is encouraged their new observations to more effective performance in music. As to follow a similar path of self-discovery and is often able to rediscover coordination improves, they often experience new confidence in personal freedom and flexibility in all of his or her life endeavors. their performance potential.” She adds, “Once this groundwork is Jane began her study of AT in 1975, did her major study for ten established, performance fears can dissipate. There will be no miracle, years under the late renowned senior teacher, Marjorie L. Barstow of but a solid awareness of personal potential.” Lincoln, Nebraska, and received her AT teaching certification from the From those early days dedicated to helping artists and crafters Alexander Foundation in Philadelphia, PA in 1988. She received her discover their fullest potential, Jane Comfort Brown continues in her B.A. degree in education from the University of Delaware in 1954 and quest to bring out the best in all people. her masters in special education: learning disabilities from American Widowed much too early in 1992, Jane makes her home in Boone, University in 1985. She is a teaching member of the Alexander where she leads an active life outside of her teaching obligations. 8 SEPTEMBER 2009
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success will follow! This information that they glean and practice prepares them for all of life’s endeavors. In working with each student, I have become a more finely tuned observer and respecter of human nature and of God’s gift’s to each one of us! Unbelievable joy fills my heart every time I see a student meet his or her (young or old, big or small) individual beauty given to each of us at birth. Thus every day of sharing this wonderful study is truly a celebration for me!” As a young teenage girl who hoped someday to form an orphanage, to be a teacher, a dancer and singer, she was blessed from the start of her life, Jane says. “No way could I have dreamed of God’s plan’s for me! I now see a golden thread was being woven for me each moment of my life!” Jane takes great pride in family. Her two sons were active contributors and participants, “in the wonder of the Penland experience,” growing up with many of the most creative artists and craftspersons in the world and adding endless support to their parents, faculty etc. “Billy and Jerry set the scene/protocol for many faculty children during our Penland years. It was all a family affair!” A gifted craftsman and studio sculptor since 1978, Bill, Jr.’s work, crafted in his Anvil Arts Studio, Inc. near Linville Falls, is found in museum exhibitions, and invitational and gallery shows across North America. He and wife, Liz, the director of the Art Cellar in Banner Elk, have two children: Whitney, an artist, and Gamble, a high school freshman. Jerry, a musician who formed The Shady Grove Band about 27 years ago, is an independent recording artist who owns an active recording studio in Chapel Hill. His wife, Susan, is a social worker. They have one child, six-year-old Abigail. In her free time, Jane enjoys daily dancing, singing and walking and says that staying on the move keeps her healthy, vibrant and enjoying life in her golden years.
While she says, “the past has been a fantastic story,” her life over the past 20 years in Boone has been just as spectacular. “I have been given endless chances to give gifts and to receive them. It is an incredible gift to share the concepts of the Alexander Technique with people of all ages. It is a continual blessing to see people respond. I start all of my classes with the words from the classic book The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. ‘Then said a teacher, Speak to us of teaching . . . No man can reveal to you aught but that which already lies half asleep at the dawning of your knowledge.’” “And so,” Jane says, ‘Every day of teaching about the concepts of F.M. Alexander’s discovery about human movement in all phases of our growth – in our minds, our bodies, our emotions, our spirits – is an invitation for the student, and me, to develop a better awareness of our real, God-given potential.” Fortunately for all involved, she adds, The Hayes School of Music students, faculty and staff have been tremendously responsive to the AT principles. “The only problem has been that too many kids have been excluded because the classes are in great demand and fill up quickly.” Jane teaches about 60 students, including faculty, in 9 to 10 group classes each week. “ Over the 20 years of teaching these sessions one hour a week, I have learned that each student needs at least one private session with me in the first 6 weeks of each semester. Then the natural flow evolves into the need for more and more private sessions for, especially, the most wonderful dedicated Alexander Technique – those hundreds of private session hours have helped students enormously over the years.” Once the student comes to the realization that he or she is the true instrument and that with Alexander’s simple principles to guide the person as to the most flexible use of self, it’s a given, she says. “More www.aawmag.com
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Destination: Unwound
It’s easy to come “Unwound” in Blowing Rock. Photo by Mark Mitchell STORY AND TOP PHOTO BY CASEY DORENBUSCH Morris Street is one of Blowing Rock’s bestkept secrets. It quietly slips from Main Street in the heart of downtown and invites visitors to discover its quiet charm. Morris Street is home to two beloved motels, The Homestead Inn and The Hemlock Inn, both of which have a loyal registry of guests whose delight is to sleep in town and walk to all that Blowing Rock has to offer: shopping, dining, ice cream, and fanfare of every description. The town also has its own authentic goldsmith/silversmith who is able to create anything from custom jewelry pieces to fine original furniture. Across the street are the newly-named Shops on Morris Street, which offer unique gifts and accessories from France and Asia. It is at this location that you enter a timeless little store with a large covered front porch. Sitting on this porch during the warm weather seasons are small groups of women who do not glance at their watches or look around to check out positioning of a clock’s hands. There are no computers or fax machines or any other high tech drama on site to “improve your quality of life.” 10 SEPTEMBER 2009
The name of the shop is UNWOUND and the name says it all. It is a place where peace of mind and personal accomplishment go hand in hand. As women take various types of yarn and methodically knit, focusing both on the work and the ease of conversation, they seem to step out of this stressful age we all are bound to and unwind, as if back in time to a simpler lifestyle that seems all but forgotten. Observing their action is almost as therapeutic as participating. The atmosphere surrounding them is welcoming with friendships apparent. Everyone joins in or leaves as she pleases. But the knitting is not limited to the best colors and quality of textiles on today’s market. The knitting also works its way into patterns of relationships shared by those who have discovered what it means to take time out from a busy world. In describing her business venture, UNWOUND’s owner, Melinda Mayronne, states, “Blowing Rock has always been one of my favorite places to visit. Driving up the mountain from Morganton, the world just seems to get lighter. I came across a yarn shop on one of my trips and noticed, through the big bay window, all the wonderful colors and
textures. But since I didn’t knit, I didn’t go in. My next visit up the mountain, I just couldn’t resist going inside the shop to see what all that fiber was all about. As soon as I ventured in, I was hooked! I just had to learn how it was possible to make something to wear with two sticks and some string. Forty-eight scarves later, I was in love with this beautiful tradition that has spanned the centuries.” At the same time, Melinda says, “I have found that knitting and crocheting today is more than something from the past. It’s a new and exciting world of fashion. You will find hand-knits on every runway in the world. In many ways, it’s a unique piece of art that can be accomplished with your own two hands.” Years later, she continues, when bringing a friend to Blowing Rock, she stopped by the shop to discover the business was for sale. “I wistfully thought how wonderful to be in this lovely town surrounded by all this vibrant color and creativity on a daily basis. One and a half weeks later, the shop was mine! That was a year ago. In such a short amount of time, I have learned so much and made so many new friends. I feel that a yarn shop should be a place to gather and share and learn from each other. Unwound is just such a place.” Unwound and all that’s special about Morris Street should be on your next stop in Blowing Rock. Be sure to let Melinda know you read about her in All About Women of the High Country. Melinda loves teaching beginners how to knit and helping accomplished knitters on an individual basis. Give her a call or stop by the store at 131-1 Morris Street in Blowing Rock. Pull up a seat on the front porch, take time out from the world and begin your own new adventure into creativity. Visit unwoundyarns.com, e-mail unwoundyarns@gmail.com or call Melinda T. Mayronne, owner, at (828) 295-5051.
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Clarice Weaver Spans The Chapters Of Ashe County History
BY VICKI RANDOLPH As one of Ashe County’s many influential characters, Clarice Weaver has a long, productive history. With more than eight decades of life and more stories than space would permit us to list, she has played a significant role in some of the most important chapters of Ashe County history. Open historical documents or books about Ashe County and, most likely, you will see her name as a co-author, compiler or committee member responsible for the book. As a major player in the success of the Ashe County Library, Weaver was instrumental in obtaining the original home for the library built in 1977. However, she is unwilling to take credit for her efforts, rather playing down her importance so others can be in the spotlight. As a significant library icon, her face is recognized by many as one who welcomed them to the library countless times. Some will remember her reading to them as children during story time. Whatever her role, this library matriarch has had a huge impact for which many readers, young and old, are grateful. As a young woman, Clarice studied library science at Johns Hopkins University, then began working as librarian in a government library in Maryland, where she remained for seven years. When she felt it was time to move back home, she was offered an impressive position with a military library if she would stay. However, she was determined to return home, much to the delight of her family in Ashe County. She immediately began working for the small, still-developing library, which consisted of about 600 square feet of space and a limited selection of books. As part of a small staff, she joined community members in a move to establish a permanent library home. After the office of the NC State Library approved a location, which had been donated by the town of West Jefferson, Clarice worked www.aawmag.com
her magic and secured a $100,000 economic development grant that required matching funds. Named chair of fundraising for the first Ashe County Library building, Clarice made a quick scramble to see that groundbreaking took place before the end of 1976. From Riverview School children If you ask Clarice Weaver about her age, she’s likely collecting pennies to county to respond, “How old would you be if you didn’t know commissioners appropriating how old you were?” Photo by Vicki Randolph. $30,000, enough matching was also involved in adding the heritage funds were finally raised to begin constructing the building. All went well, and room, auditorium and other features to the the new library opened its doors on April 4, latest renovations. 1977, as part of the Appalachian Regional Today, the newly expanded library in Library system. The first official dedication West Jefferson is a far cry from the original was held on October 23, 1977, with librarian building. Although most of the original Clarice Weaver presiding over the ceremony. structure is still a part of the state-of-the-art Several years later, the library was bursting library, it’s hard to picture it now. There are at the seams and needed more room. Clarice cathedral ceilings, beautiful art work, a train began fundraising again, this time co-chairing for the children that actually moves on a the committee with Frank Colvard. Together, track, a detailed mural painted by Stephen along with the community’s support and Shoemaker, an area for teens, a checkout generosity, the hardworking team saw that desk rivaling that of any university, study renovations and expansions were successfully rooms, computers and plenty of seating for patrons. completed. In 1988, there was another dedication One thing that hasn’t changed through ceremony and again Clarice Weaver was the years is the way the staff members make at the forefront. This time though, she was the library such a welcoming place. They surprised when state officials attended and know patrons by name and are most helpful announced that the children’s department in remembering their favorite authors and was to be named in her honor. Still with a types of books they like to read. surprised reaction today, she says, “I thought There are several women (and one fellow, they waited ‘til you were dead to do something too, who is head librarian!) on the staff today who follow in the footsteps of Mrs. Weaver, like that!” As before, she won’t accept credit, but serving the public of Ashe County with a everyone knows that her hand has been upon smile. nearly every successful project in the library. So, just how old is Clarice Weaver, you She visited every other library around, studied might wonder? Ask her and she’ll answer and received instruction, and learned all she with another question, “How old would you could to help with design, structure, etc. be, if you didn’t know how old you were?” Small things, such as keeping the children’s Classic Clarice style, there, folks – a timeless desks at their eye level and making sure the treasure, just like the thousands of books she shelves were sized and placed for children’s has helped acquire through the years. easy reach, became big things to her. She SEPTEMBER 2009 11
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Sept. 13 Celebrates Grandparents – The Unsung Role Models and Caregivers
Grandparents Day was the brainchild of Marian McQuade of Fayette County, WV, who hoped that such an observance might persuade grandchildren to tap the wisdom and heritage of their grandparents. President Jimmy Carter signed the first presidential proclamation in 1978 — and one has been issued each year since — designating the first Sunday after Labor Day as National Grandparents Day. The first official observance was Sept. 9, 1979. In honor of our nation’s grandparents, the Census Bureau presents some interesting data regarding these unsung role models and caregivers.
Grandparents as Caregivers
• 6.2 million: The number of grandparents whose grandchildren (younger than 18) lived with them in 2007. • 2.5 million: The number of grandparents responsible for most of the basic needs (i.e., food, shelter, clothing) of one or more of the grandchildren who lived with them in 2007. These grandparents represented about 40 percent of all grandparents whose grandchildren lived with them. Of these caregivers, 1.6 million were grandmothers, and 932,000 were grandfathers. • 1.8 million: The number of grandparent caregivers who were married in 2007.
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• 1.5 million: The number of grandparents who were in the labor force and also responsible for most of the basic needs of their grandchildren. • 930,000: The number of grandparents in 2007 responsible for caring for their grandchildren for at least the past five years. • 482,000: The number of grandparents whose income was below the poverty level and who were caring for their grandchildren. • 732,000: Number of grandparents with a disability who were caring for their grandchildren. • 586,000: Number of grandparents who spoke a language other than English and who were responsible for caring for their grandchildren. • $44,469: Median income for families with grandparent-caregiver householders. If a parent of the grandchildren was not present, the median dropped to $33,453. • 71%: Among grandparents who cared for their grandchildren in 2007, the percentage who lived in an owner-occupied home. • 6.6 million: The number of children living with a grandparent in 2008. These children comprised 9 percent of all children in the United States. The majority of these children, 4.4 million, lived in the grandparent’s home. • 2.6 million: The number of children who lived with both a grandmother and a grandfather in 2008. • 30%: Among children younger than 5 whose mothers worked outside the home, the percentage cared for on a regular basis by a grandparent during their mother’s working hours in 2005. Grandparents and fathers were the two biggest sources of childcare by relatives when mothers went to work. *Editor’s note: The preceding data was collected from a variety of sources and may be subject to sampling variability and other sources of error. Questions or comments should be directed to the Census Bureau’s Public Information Office: telephone: (301) 763-3030; fax: (301) 763-3762; or e-mail: pio@census.gov. www.aawmag.com
From London To Greece And On To Boone
Joyce Ham says she would’ve “really missed out” if she hadn’t followed her daughter and son-in-law to Boone. Photo and story by Sherrie Norris. Joyce Ham is a native of Gloucestershire, England, who came to America – via New York City – as a recent widow in 1979. She settled in Tennessee with her daughter, Celia Whitlock, and family, and followed their lead to Boone in 1986. At 92, this gifted artist spends several days a week at the Lois E. Harrill Senior Center in Boone, where art class is among her favorite activities. Not that she needs lessons, mind you, as evidenced by her work at hand. Having studied art for years through visits to European museums and galleries, Joyce has seen it all, including the Mona Lisa at the Louvre in Paris. Intent on finding famous works by Rembrandt, one day she entered a building off the cobblestone streets of Paris, thinking it was a place of interest. Her discovery of a slaughterhouse left her more than disappointed. No stranger to the dark side of life, Joyce had an up close and very personal look at war, having met and married a young man in 1946 whose military service took precedence over his picture framing business in an art shop. She was a scholarship recipient to a teacher’s training www.aawmag.com
college in London in the earlier days of WWII. She recalls bombs exploding all around her, even into the apartment she shared with a cousin. “I found refuge in a big walk-in wardrobe we had for clothes, and often slept there at night.” Especially, she adds, after glass was blown into her bed and the large three-story Kensington home that housed her apartment “cracked down the middle” from the blasts. There were many occasions, she says, “when I felt my heart in my throat.” Joyce had one year of art while in college, but explains, “I did not find what I wanted out of it until I came here,” referring to the art classes offered at the senior center. Joyce taught school for 25 years, mostly in London. After a happenstance meeting with a young Greek, she later lived with his family and cared for his three little girls in Athens, and taught them English for several years. “The girls are married now, but they all still keep in touch.” She says she’s forgotten many things – including names of people and places, “but I can still see them in my mind.”
She’s seen much of the world, she says, with one trip aboard an old wooden boat to Cypress during a bad storm that rocked the vessel – “until everyone on it became deathly ill.” She’s seen the good and the bad in people, places and things – but nowhere has she been more at peace than in the High Country – and she enjoys nothing more than painting the scenes that come to her mind or simply what she sees outside her window. She paints primarily with oils and mainly flowers and nature scenes. “My grandchildren will get them when I die,” she says emphatically. In the meantime, she speaks fondly of those grandchildren and their parents – her son and daughter – and her son-in-law, Dr. John Whitlock. “If I hadn’t followed him and Celia to Boone, I would have really missed out.” The gifted artist loves her cat, enjoys reading and wishes she could be more active outdoors and hike like she once did. “But, I dislocated my shoulder and I have a little trouble with my knees. Everything works out. Sometimes it just takes time.” SEPTEMBER 2009 13
Food & Entertainment
BY Catherine bare
Birdie Brought The Pies Fame can result from many talents. Birdie Townsend is renowned for her gardening and needlework, but to some folks her real celebrity status is derived from her expertise with the fried apple pie. No church dinner is complete at Foscoe Christian Church unless Birdie arrives with a huge platter of warm pies from her kitchen. It is common to hear someone say, “Birdie brought her pies. Be sure to get one before they’re all gone.” Her skills don’t end in the kitchen. Some homes have a welcome feeling that surrounds the house, inside and out. That is true of Birdie Townsend’s home. During growing season, the yard is filled with vibrant, multicolored flowers and shrubs. The grounds are well-groomed, while brimming with yard art, colorful garden flags, welcome signs and too many birdhouses to count. “I love my chickadees with their little black caps,” she explains. She says the yard and garden don’t take up too much time. “I work a few minutes and then sit a few minutes.” Everything, from angel sculptures nestled among the greenery to gently waving purple fronds of butterfly bushes, says, “Come in and stay a while.” Once inside, the welcome feels even stronger. Birdie and Adam Townsend have been married for 66 years. In all that time spent in the Clark’s Creek and Church Hollow area, they have cultivated scores of friendships along with their marriage. Birdie is a busy woman who doesn’t take much time for idle chatter. There are too many things she wants to do with her days. She does yoga, walks at the Wellness Center and loves to read – mostly Christian novels and magazines on gardening. “I’ve dabbled in a little bit of everything. I’ve painted ceramics, done macramé for a while. I do one thing ‘til I get tired of it and then do something else.” She crochets, does cross stitch and pieces quilt tops. Many of her quilt tops are donated to the Foscoe Blanketeers for their Project Linus work. Her husband Adam 14 SEPTEMBER 2009
Known in the Foscoe community for her fried pies, Birdie Townsend was a fixture at Dan’l Boone Inn where she waited tables for 40 years. Photo by Catherine Bare. teases her about the intricate quilt tops she painstakingly pieces. Of one pattern she calls “brick wall,” consisting of hundreds of small pieces cut on the diagonal and then stitched into rows, Adam laughingly says, “I never did understand taking a good, big piece of cloth, and cutting it up into little pieces, just to get to sew it back together again.” But he holds up the quilt top for display, noticeably proud of his wife’s work. Birdie’s life has been filled with satisfying labor. Before marrying, she worked for a local farmer hoeing corn, weeding cabbage, picking beans and whatever he had to do. She earned a dollar a day working alongside other community women taking advantage of the bounty of the fields to earn extra money. “At the end of the week we thought we were rich,” she says. “We could buy as much with that back then as you can with $50 now.” On Saturdays she and a neighbor woman or two “walked to Foscoe [about a mile from her home] to get a Nehi Grape drink for a nickel.”
She eventually found work at the Dan’l Boone Inn Restaurant in Boone where she waited tables for 40 years. Starting out, she earned 50 cents an hour doing any task that needed to be done. Adam worked for 35 years with her, mostly frying chicken. “He fried good chicken there, but he wouldn’t cook none at home. I think that’s the reason he don’t care too much for chicken now,” she laughs. She still works hard, raising a small vegetable garden. “I pickle some green beans, and can a few jars, but I don’t can like I used to,” she says. And she dries her own apples, “when I can get them,” for those famous pies. The pies travel well. Birdie is often called upon to make a batch for a friend or neighbor. She recently made some for a young man visiting the area to attend a funeral. Someone overheard him say he hadn’t had any good fried apple pies since his grandmother passed away. When Birdie heard this, she went to her kitchen and prepared several to be www.aawmag.com
delivered to his home in Virginia. She was a stand-in grandmother for him that day and is an actual much-loved mother to two daughters, two grandchildren and three great – grandchildren. Birdie doesn’t have a recipe for the pies that have bestowed recognition upon her. When asked, she says she uses canned biscuit dough now. “My homemade dough is hard to roll out thin enough.” She prefers to use dried apples for the filling, but canned pie filling will do. She cooks the dried apples, adds sugar and allspice to taste, spoons in about a tablespoon, crimps the edges with a fork and fries in Crisco or cooking oil until brown. Birdie’s cooking skills belie the need for recipes, anyway. Speaking of old-fashioned stack cakes, she says her mother-in-law, May Townsend, used to call them “Townsend Knee-Deep Cakes.” Birdie uses her gingerbread recipe for those and says the key is to roll the layers real thin. She said her mother-in-law would grease a frying pan and cook the layers on top of the stove. Again, Birdie uses cooked dried apples between the layers, but she says applesauce or apple butter works as well. Whether cooking timeless recipes, creating something beautiful for her home, or entertaining guests, Birdie’s life depicts the mountain heritage so valued in the High Country.
Birdie’s Gingerbread Recipe 1 cup buttermilk 2 tsp. ginger 1 ¾ tsp. Arm & Hammer baking soda ½ tsp. salt 1 cup molasses 4 Tbsp. melted shortening 2 to 3 cups sifted all-purpose flour In mixing bowl, add baking soda to the buttermilk and mix well. Add molasses. Mix in the flour, sifted with the ginger and salt. Then add the shortening and mix well. Bake in a 450-degree oven for 15 to 20 minutes.
Charlie Bread 1 cup self-rising cornmeal 1 can creamed corn ½ cup Wesson oil 8 oz. sour cream 2 eggs 2 Tbsp. butter or margarine Grease an 8-inch pan with margarine or butter. Mix all other ingredients well and pour into the baking pan. Bake at 450 degrees for 15 to 20 minutes.
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It’s A Woman’s Job
BY SHERRIE NORRIS
On The Job at 90 –
No Retirement In Sight
“Granny” Mildred Hayes, still working at 90 with no plans to retire. Photo by Mark Mitchell. Three days a week, 90-year-old Mildred Hayes drives from her home in the Laurel Fork community to her job at Mountain Times Publications east of Boone, where, for many years, she’s been inserting those sales papers that few of us gals can live without. The spry senior citizen has more energy than women half her age, her wit and wisdom envied by all. Her infectious smile brightens the corners of her world, her love for others considered a treasured gift. Blessed with good health, she says, only about a decade ago was she diagnosed with diabetes. “But other than that, I do pretty good.” “It’s hard work and livin’ right,” she adds, that has brought her to this milestone in life. A faithful Christian and member of Mount Lebanon Baptist Church, “Granny” as she is affectionately known, hasn’t always seen the easiest of times. Married to her school sweetheart at 25, she was widowed 12 years later when her husband died from a heart attack. Left to raise their two daughters, Mildred never thought of marrying again in those early years. “I still don’t,” she says with a laugh. She remembers when gas was 15 cents 16 SEPTEMBER 2009
a gallon and a coca-cola was a nickel. A lot has changed during her lifetime and she’s seen much of it unfold before her eyes. The Watauga County native easily remembers riding Tweetsie, when it was a major means of transportation in the early 1900s. “The railroad came right by my grandfather’s house where I was born. We loved to hear that whistle blow!” Highway 105, as we know it today, then was nothing more than a rutted-out trail for a few cars at a time. “Most travel was mainly by horse and buggies,” she says. Her daddy bought the first automobile in the neighborhood – a Model T Ford –“and everybody wanted to ride in it. We thought we were on top of the world!” Mildred didn’t have electricity or indoor plumbing until she was married. “Skyline came through with telephones in the ‘50s. We were on a party line with four other families. You could never use the phone and everybody knew everybody’s business.” World War II is the first conflict she remembers, “and we’ve been in war ever since.” Seeing her first plane flying over Boone was a thrill, “but it scared us to death!” Years
later, she rode on one, and says it was fun. As a youngster, she played baseball, jump rope and all kinds of games. She says she was a “big ol’ girl” before the family got radio – and tuning into the Grand Ole Opry on a Saturday night was a treat. Television was even better. “My uncle got the first TV in the community and we’d go there on Saturday nights and watch the Opry on his little black and white set. We’d all have to crowd around close to see.” A walk down King Street back then meant something special. “You knew everybody you saw – not like it is now.” The Dime Store, Boone Drug Store, Hunt’s Department Store, Farmer’s Hardware, Boone Trail Café, and Smithey’s were frequent stops. For groceries, her family patronized the Mast General in Valle Crucis, which was closer than walking into town. Most of what her family ate was raised in the summer gardens and canned for the winter. “We never went hungry.” She can’t remember her mother ever voting, but she takes pride in her personal opportunity to do so. She doesn’t know how to use a computer “And I don’t even want to learn. I’ve lived this long without it, I think I can make it a while longer.” When microwave ovens became popular, her family asked if she wanted one. “What would I want with that?” she asked. Today, she admits, her microwave and dishwasher are two things she wouldn’t trade. She blames TV for the moral decline in America and says parents have let their kids have too much freedom. “Kids today have no respect for the elderly . . . there’s no comparison to the way I was raised. And the way people dress . . . Oh, lands! When I was growing up, our dresses came down to our shoe-tops. If had a young girl today, I guess we’d be in a fight. I sure wouldn’t be buying her clothes!” She remembers when there were only two or three houses near today’s Wal-Mart location in Boone. “And you hardly ever heard tell of people going out to eat.” She says a lot more people are dying with cancer than they used to and believes “it’s all this stuff they spray . . . too many chemicals.” As matriarch of five generations now, Mildred Hayes knows a thing or two about life. Hard work and clean living have helped her reach 90. Maybe there’s a lesson to be learned here. www.aawmag.com
Fashion and Fads With Jenny Church
Be Bold, Go Gold!
In the fashion world, few things are better than gold. If you can wear golden tones, always do so. Every season has a trendy color, but gold is timeless. Even in its most conservative form, gold is flashy and fun. Gold accessories are a must as well. However, it is possible to overdo the whole gold thing. Gold should be saved for those special occasions when you either want to be seen or feel the need to be doted upon. Gold demands attention, so if you overdo it, people will notice. It’s like wearing bright pink every single day. Don’t overuse the golden greatness!
Accessorize!
Gold can be used as a great accessory, and it will complement many outfits. (See photo of model wearing gold and black top with golden necklace.) If gold really isn’t the color for you, you are still in luck. Jewel-encrusted clothing is in! If you want to have gold somewhere in the mix without calling too much attention to it, buy a top that has gold jewels in or on it. It’s elegant, and a little sparkle will leave you feeling luxurious. Another option is to wear bulky, eye-catching jewelry.
Glow and Show Golden!
What always makes a girl feel and look golden is showing off her collar. It is the one part of a woman that stays beautiful no matter what. The collar shows long lean lines no matter what age, shape, or size you may be. Showing off parts of our body that don’t change with age is appealing, and you will look and feel like a true golden girl!
What to Look For:
Make a seasonal transition with zippers – now the trend. Dresses with full-length, visible zippers are a must toward the end of this season. The cropped futuristic jacket is officially in as well (see picture). Small prints are out; large prints are in, as photo of jacket depicts. Bulky sweaters are in fashion, as well as wraps. And scarves are a must-have, too. Purple is officially an “it” color.
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SEPTEMBER 2009 17
Red Hat Society Sweeps The High Country
The Boone Dollies, celebrating five years and now 28 members strong, was named for Dolly Hunt, one of the three founding members.
Approximately seven years ago, the Red Hat Society began making its presence known around the High Country – a phenomena that quickly grew and is still alive and well today. From lavish to ludicrous, red hats of all shapes, sizes and designs intermingle easily with a few pink ones, adding a touch of class to towns all across the country, and the High Country has not been left behind. The organization gives women 50 and above from all walks of life the official opportunity to have a little fun. Members of the Red Hat Society, growing by the thousands annually, believe firmly that their organization brings comic relief to life, and agree to make the most out of the golden years. Underneath the frivolity, they share a bond of affection, forged by common life experiences and a genuine enthusiasm for 18 SEPTEMBER 2009
wherever life takes them next. Inadvertently begun by Sue Ellen Cooper of Fullerton, California, the Society began to take shape when she and a few friends took inspiration from a popular poem entitled Warning by Jenny Joseph, which begins “When I am an old woman . . .” The poem mentions wearing a red hat and purple attire. Cooper and her friends began meeting on a regular basis for tea in their red hats and purple dresses––in public, of course. When featured in Romantic Homes Magazine in July of 2000, they began receiving inquiries from other women wanting to start their own chapters. The rest, as the saying goes, is history . . . There are two ways to get involved: join an existing chapter or start your own. Fifty is the magic number, but some chapters are started by younger “pink hatters.”
It’s simple - gather friends, wear red hats/purple outfits (or pink hats and lavender outfits) and celebrate life. Chapter founders usually receive (from themselves or others) a “royal” title such as Queen Mother, Empress or Queen Bee. From the US and Canada, to the United Kingdom, Australia, New Zealand, Mexico and beyond, new chapters are popping up daily. Official chapters must be registered and annual fees paid, but no official rules exist – only strong suggestions. (Think attire!) Members should wear a red hat and a clashing purple ensemble to all gatherings to keep up the spirit and purpose of the (dis)organization; also women under 50 must stick to the pink hat/lavender attire until arriving at 50. “This adds an element of fun to aging, which we think is invaluable to women in our www.aawmag.com
society who have learned to dread aging and avoid it at all costs,” one active hatter said. “We believe that aging should be something anticipated with excitement, not something to dread. The main responsibility is to have fun!” Most see this crimson opportunity as a way to say goodbye to burdensome responsibilities – to have fun and enjoy life. Of course, someone needs to plan the events or they would never happen, but oftentimes members take turns at these things so that they do not become jobs for anyone. The Red Hat Society does not see itself as an appropriate forum for fundraising or other such things, but participation in charitable events is encouraged. The refrain of the popular Red Hat Society theme song by Mike Harline puts it rather bluntly: “All my life, I’ve done for you . . . Now it’s my turn to do for me.” The Red Hat Society is not a non-profit organization; chapter fees are considered taxable income and used for office expenses and employee salaries at headquarters. As yet, the “dooze,” as they are affectionately called, haven’t come close to covering daily operating costs. Perhaps the words of a local red hatter say it best, “It’s very liberating the first time you step out in your red hat and purple dress – you feel like a complete idiot – oh, but what fun you will have!” Among the area’s many groups of Red Hatters, the Boone Dollies, celebrating five years and now 28 members strong, was named for Dolly Hunt, one of the three founding members. Another local group of the Red Hatters known as “The Bamboo Angels” has been led since its beginning by Queen Virginia Critcher. Sherry Boone, says it’s the little things that count with her group. The “Bevy of Beauties,” about two dozen in number, is led by Joyce Watson, who does “a great job keeping us informed . . . lest we forget – you know how we are after 50!” For more information about this exciting way to face life head-on, contact one of the ladies named in this article or visit www.redhatsociety.com.
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A few of the Mountain Laurel Divas at a recent gathering.
Mountain Laurel Divas of Avery County
The Mountain Laurel Divas meet year round, though some members are seasonal residents who leave for the winter. The first Wednesday of each month will find these fun-loving gals enjoying lunch at a local restaurant. During the summer and fall, the Divas schedule a second outing each month to a theater or off the mountain for shopping. Highlights from October through December include parties and special events featuring hat contests, such as best fall/ Christmas decorated, etc. Last February, the Divas helped establish a new Red Hat group (The Cuties) at The Cranberry House, a new Avery County rest home. The group hosted a Valentine’s party for the ladies there and brought enough red hats and purses for the new group, as well as jewelry, door prizes and refreshments. Everyone enjoyed singing old familiar tunes, accompanied by Diva Tinker Rautenberg on piano. Current Mountain Laurel Divas are: Norma Bell, Frances Brown, Myrtle Brown, Carla Chamblee, Millie Cotten, Emmalene Henson, Pat Hicks, Dorothy Hosford, Peggy Hufnagel, Diane Huskins, Chick Leemon, Pat McMannen, Gwen McNutt, Jeannine Meador, Tinker Rautenberg, Ceile Roy, Faust Spallina, Tommie Tennant, and Sam Tucker.
Always A Place At The Table
The Bevy of Beauties is often seen in local restaurants or theatres, their trips to the Barter Theatre in Abingdon always a special treat. For these gals in their colorful regalia, memories of their last Barter trip in June will “forever be in our hearts,” says Sherry Boone. Continued on page 20. SEPTEMBER 2009 19
Continued from page 19.
Bevy of Beauties will miss their kind, dignified sister, Gaynelle Wilson (third from left), who always entertained them with her interesting stories. “The day was beautiful and everyone had a wonderful time,” Boone explains. “We always do because we truly care about each other. We share our joys and heartaches . . . But we had no idea it would be our last opportunity to spend the day with our sister, Gaynelle Wilson. She passed away on August 4. We had planned to meet on August 7 to have our photograph taken for this magazine. We cancelled. Smiles were scarce.” Gaynelle’s funeral was held on Sunday, August 9. She was wearing a red hat. Her beautiful big red hat that the “Beauties” loved for her to wear was on display. Eleven of her sisters were there, seated together, wearing their red hats and dressed in purple. It was an emotional time for them all. “We will miss this kind, dignified lady who always entertained us with her interesting stories. She always sat quietly, listening to our
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All About Crafts| BY NANCY MORRISON Supplies Needed: 12-inch (across the top) terra cotta pot acrylic non-toxic paint non-toxic spray sealer or varnish (optional) 1 ½ yard fabric with designs suitable for appliqué plastic or metal ring about an inch in diameter (can be found in sewing or craft store) 1 adhesive-backed sheet of cork white glue Tools Needed: scissors pinking shears (optional) small regular or disposable paintbrush
A Cheery Bread Warmer For Your Fall Table
Directions: Terra cotta pots can be used for much more than flowers or plants. Their quality of retaining heat makes them an ideal choice for a container to keep bread warm on the table. Design possibilities are endless, limited only by the imagination. The pot pictured uses appliquéd cutouts, but designs can be stenciled, tole painted, or painted freehand. To use the appliquéd technique, choose fabric that is washable and easy to work with, such as a lightweight cotton, with small individual designs that easily can be cut apart. (*Hint: cut your scarf to go inside the pot first. Then use the scraps for your appliqués.) Seasonal designs are a good idea if you want an attractive and timely table accent for a special occasion. The pot shown uses autumn leaves. For the scarf that goes inside the pot to hold the bread, measure a 30-inch by 30-inch square and cut it. If you have an overlocking serger or a sewing machine that hems, use it to secure the edges. A quicker trick is to cut with pinking shears, but it is probably a good idea to put some Fray-Check along the edges to keep it from raveling. For your pot, choose a color that either matches a color in your scarf or blends well with the designs that will be appliquéd and then paint the entire pot. After the pot is dry, cut out a number of appliqués from your scarf scraps and glue them in a pleasing arrangement around the outside of the pot. When the glue has dried, the pot can be sprayed with a non-toxic sealant or varnish if desired. The last step is to protect your table from the rough pot bottom by gluing a piece of cork cut to fit onto the bottom. To clean pot, wipe out with damp cloth. Scarf may be washed. Put your scarf in the pot, fill it with biscuits or rolls, fold up the scarf and secure the ends with the ring. You have a neat centerpiece for your table that will also keep your bread warm for the duration of the meal. www.aawmag.com
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Nancy Penick –
Golden Girl With A Green Thumb
BY SHERRIE NORRIS
Most first-time visitors to Nancy Penick’s former home on Oak Street in Boone rarely needed directions. They were simply told to look for the house on the corner with all the lovely flowers. After 50 years, Nancy moved from that address. Visitors to her new home off Bamboo Road can still find her quite easily – they just look for the house with all the lovely flowers.
Nancy Penick, surrounded by her blooms and her little buddy, Q-Tip. Photo by Sherrie Norris. Long known for her green thumb, Nancy says her favorite flowers are daisies, poppies and begonias. She has devoted countless hours through the years tending to her blooming beauties and, in fact, had her own greenhouse for many years. She loves knowing that her flower gardens have brought much joy to her community. For many years as well, Nancy and her husband, the late William “Cotton” Penick, and their three sons raised abundant vegetable gardens on the Elbert and Annie Vannoy farm. Their labors not only provided food for their family, but also for many friends and relatives with whom they loved to share their harvest. Born to Stewart and Honor Dee Redmond Winkler, Nancy grew up with her brother on Locust Street in Boone. In 1954, her family moved from that location, where ASU’s Cannon dorm stands today, to Winkler’s Creek Road. She met Cotton through her father’s business connections and the couple married in 1956, spending 43 years together until his death. Nancy attended Appalachian State Teacher’s College where she was a majorette (in high school, too), did the “flying fish” (synchronized swimming for women), and earned a degree in physical education, driver’s education, and social studies in 1958. Upon graduating, she taught at Blowing Rock Elementary and High School, as well as Watauga High School, and taught driver’s education, health, history and PE. For a total of 33 years, she taught driver’s education and helped solve a lot of problems behind the wheel. If a student ever failed to stop completely at a stop sign or ran it, she made the student get out of the car and kiss the stop sign. Former students of all ages still have fond memories of her and are grateful that she took an interest in them personally, beyond driver’s ed. During her entire married life, Nancy lived on Oak Street in Boone where she and Cotton reared their three sons, Stewart, Maurice and Chris. The 22 SEPTEMBER 2009
sons still reside in Watauga County and have blessed their parents with eight wonderful grandchildren. When it came to disciplining her boys, Nancy always used a spatula that had star designs upon it. Her sons jokingly claim they still see stars today! Nancy prefers for her grandchildren to call her Nana. “Grandmother sounds too old!” she says. In fact, says granddaughter Kelly, there’s nothing old about Nana. “She’s my friend, my roommate. We have so much fun together. She has often told us that she liked her teenage years so much that she just decided to stay there and never grow up!” Favorite things? She’s always loved Elvis. She and Cotton saw one of his last performances in Greensboro shortly before his death in 1977. She and Cotton also enjoyed water skiing together. For 30 years, Nancy has taught Sunday school at Boone Advent Christian Church and since June 2003, has taken the lessons one Sunday each month to Appalachian Brian Estates to share with the facility residents. Three years ago, she moved to the outskirts of town where, soon afterward, the world around her was again in full bloom. Words found on her front doormat could be a clue to her youthfulness: Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much. Family members know that if she’s not laughing, something’s wrong. Adding to those laughs and to her quality of life in general is her little West Highland White Terrier named Q-Tip. More than just a dog to Nancy, Q-Tip has been by her side since 1997, and was a comfort to her when Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s diseases took their toll on her beloved husband. A day with Nancy Penick is a refreshing break from the stress of everyday life. One is sure to get a hug, a good laugh and to walk away feeling loved and refreshed, recalling her words of wisdom, “It’s not what happens to a person that counts; it’s how they handle what happens that makes the difference.”
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GOLDEN MOMENTS AT A GLANCE Photos by Sherrie Norris.
A Night With The Stars It was a thrill of a lifetime for Glenbridge Healthcare resident, Patty Norris, (at left) to meet her favorite bluegrass artist, Doyle Lawson, during the recent High Country Bluegrass Festival in Boone.
Leading the Way Geneva Mohr of Crossnore (center), with 2 of her 3 daughters, Margaret Ollis (left), and Shirley Ice, represent decades of valuable service to others. Geneva is a retired nurse; her daughters are both retired educators who now have more time now to enjoy with family and friends. These “girls” represent one of many hardworking pioneer families in Avery County who helped forge the way for future generations.They inherited strong family values and work ethics that are evident in all they continue to do today.
Sister Act Avery County’s Pat Greene, June Buchanan and Margie Calhoun help keep a tradition alive as they gather for an annual family reunion and a southern custom of decorating the graves of deceased loved ones. Pat is retired from the US Postal Service; June (“Sis” ), the oldest of the trio at 75, has been employed at US Textiles in Newland for as long as she can remember – and still works there four days a week! Margie spent 28 years caring for children in her home daycare, leaving an indelible impression on many young lives and their families. Movers and Shakers At The Local Senior Center Derrick Haskin, ASU intern majoring in health promotions, (pictured left), spends several mornings each week helping these golden girls keep fit at the Lois E. Harrill Sr. Center in Boone. Left-right: Eula Byers, Pat Allen, Jacky Doll, Josephine Miller, Cynthia Taylor, Evelyn Hicks. Similar fitness classes are also held at the Western Watauga Community Center each week. Celebrating Success Daisy Adams celebrates with local businessman John Winkler at the 60th Annual Boone Area Chamber of Commerce Awards Luncheon. Winkler received the coveted Alfred Adams Award for Economic Development, named in memory of Daisy’s late husband who was a revered leader in the local business community. Mr. Adams would be very proud of Winkler, Daisy said, for his many efforts and accomplishments as “a local magnate concerning retail properties and student/apartment housing.” www.aawmag.com
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Marguerite Barrier Cooper Living Her Dream At 92
BY SHERRIE NORRIS
Marguerite Barrier Cooper, 92, has a busier social calendar than was one of twelve in a physics class when I received my first F. I just most women half her age. Spending another delightful summer in her did not understand physics and he told me I didn’t have any business childhood home bordering the Avery/Burke county line, she eagerly in that class.” anticipates every possible arts and cultural event she can possibly attend If he could’ve waited around to see history unfold, her teacher before returning home to Memphis, TN before the first snow falls. would’ve been in for a big surprise! She’s full of life with an enviable story of perseverance and In 1933, Marguerite went to the Women’s College of the accomplishment – and seasoned with enough hard times and faith to University of North Carolina at Greensboro and graduated in 1937 keep her humble. She is an amazing, courageous woman who blazed with a Bachelor of Arts degree in chemistry. the trails long before the term women’s lib was coined. While there, she met and later married Harold Cooper, an She was liberated all right, but it took a lot electrical engineer, who had studied at of hard work and determination to break Georgia Tech. The two had met at a the chains that kept most women hostage social function arranged through their to their expected roles. respective colleges. She was born in the late summer of In 1946, they moved to 1917, the first of six children to Lloyd Memphis where Harold was in charge and Tuppy Weatherman Barrier. The log of building the North Memphis cabin her family called home, like most substation for TVA. They had two of the day, offered no such luxuries as children – Joe who now owns his own electricity or running water. Times were business and Susan (Wilson) who is a hard and hard work was a way of life easily physical therapist. (Today, Marguerite understood and accepted. has five grandchildren and one great Marguerite describes her folks as “a grandchild.) In her early years, Marguerite strong willed and God-fearing group of people who were rich in love for family and filled the role of wife and mother with community.” perfection: Sunday school teacher, PTA Education was important to her family, president, Pink Lady volunteering her time in numerous civic and community she says. “It was just understood – if you affairs. She was a very active member had brains, you went to college.” at Parkway Methodist Church in South After she completed the seventh grade Memphis and continues in dedicated (highest level required) at the community service at Mullins Methodist Church in grammar school in Jonas Ridge, Marguerite East Memphis. was able to continue her education In 1964, as her husband’s job at Crossnore School. “A wonderful opportunity,” is how she describes the took him out of town during the week, experience leading up to her graduation at her son living independently and her age 16. daughter a college freshman, she began At first, because she actually lived in a journey of her own toward completing her master’s in chemistry at Memphis Burke County and bus transportation was Having fun in the sun with a friend at Nags Head. State University (now the University of not provided to Crossnore, her father drove her there every Sunday afternoon. She stayed with the Milton Wise family, studied through the week and was returned home on Friday afternoons. During her last year, a bus driven by Salem Franklin, the postmaster who was also her father’s friend, took her to Crossnore and back each day until she graduated. Those years at Crossnore were life defining for the young lass in more ways than one. The Sloops – the school founders – were very helpful and encouraging, but a physics teacher was not so much. “I 24 SEPTEMBER 2009
Memphis). Despite persuasion from the school’s chemistry department head to go for something easier, Marguerite was insistent even though she had to take every undergraduate science and math course all over again. Four years later, she had her master’s degree in chemistry and began work on her doctorate in chemistry soon after. In 1974, at 56 when many women are contemplating retirement, Marguerite Cooper became the first woman to get a PhD. at Memphis www.aawmag.com
State. “That’s when I began living my dream –and I still am! You are never too old, my friend,” she shared during our interview. “And it’s all about priorities. I had a degree as a young woman and then I married, started a family, raised my children, and later, helped take care of my mother. I knew when my time came for me.” She was widowed in 1976. After brief stints as a part-time professor teaching chemistry at the University of Memphis and A portrait of Marguerite in the 1960s Shelby State, Marguerite was asked to join the faculty of Christian Brothers University as an associate professor in the School of Science. In addition to teaching, she took on the role of student counselor, a job easily understood by anyone who spends more than a few minutes in her presence. Marguerite opened her office (and heart) to students who came to her about anything, not just academic concerns. She soon became lovingly known as “Dr. Mom.” To this day, students, grateful for her enduring encouragement, keep her supplied with the requisite white lab coats emblazoned with “Dr. Mom” on the back. And, most importantly, it is for these students that she continues to persevere as an educator through all that life brings to an exceptionally vibrant nonagenarian. Those students, she says, are the reason she showed up on the first day to teach fall classes – after undergoing hip replacement surgery and radiation treatment for throat cancer in the summer of 1998 at the age of 81. And what about those students whom, even last semester, were in her classes as she returned to teach those familiar lessons (to her, anyway!) on chemistry, natural science, biochemistry and lipids? To them, she’s still “Dr. Mom.” As one might expect, through the years Marguerite has been honored on numerous occasions. She has received the Distinguished Alumni Award at the University of Memphis, among other notable citations. Perhaps one of the most significant events marking her life’s success occurred on the campus of Christian Brothers University on October 28, 2008, with the ribbon-cutting ceremonies of the CooperWilson Center for Life Sciences. Honored guests gathered for the occasion in which Marguerite Barrier Cooper, was referred to as “an extraordinary woman, dedicated teacher and mentor, and dear colleague who many on this campus are proud to call friend.” Named in honor of Marguerite and her daughter and son-in-law for their commitments and contributions over her 30-year career at the school, the $12 million project includes a three-story building of more www.aawmag.com
than 30,000 square feet that will serve as a legacy for generations to come. Beyond the science building, Grete, as she is known by family, “was always there,” wrote brother Bill, in a tribute to his older sister on a recent birthday. “Cheerful and loving . . . She would make her special spaghetti sauce and all kinds of cakes and goodies. I remember the good care she gave our mother. Grete still comes to the mountains and still cooks her famous spaghetti sauce and goodies. She feeds everyone who comes by.” Her son, Joe, had this to say, “She always kept Christ and the church as the center of her life. She was a mom to all those students when they were away from their own mothers. She was a spiritual and Christian example to all those with whom she worked and interacted . . . a faithful and true wife and homemaker for her husband; a daughter who respected, loved and honored her parents; the sister who could always be held as an example; a loving neighbor; a mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother who has led our family by example: Christian habits, good character, morality, work ethics, firmness — with love and tenderness.” Having led an active and healthy lifestyle, she says her faith is of utmost importance, as well as good company, good food and conversation, reading, staying abreast of current events and sports, especially basketball. Keeping her adventurous spirit alive, she did take a flight aboard a helicopter (not just any helicopter, either!) during the EAA (Experimental Aircraft Association) AirVenture in Oshkosh, Wisconsin, in late July. Typically about 2,500 show aircraft participate at the event she attended, which includes homebuilts, antiques, classics, warbirds, ultralights and rotorcraft. Her family has a longtime association with EAA and is a generous supporter of the Timeless Voices of Aviation program, a major video history project of the EAA AirVenture Museum. Its goal is to assure that the first-person oral histories of aviation’s development are preserved for future generations of family members, teachers, students, historians and others. We could fill a book about the life and times of Marguerite Cooper and regret that space limits us to just the basics. She has just celebrated her 92nd birthday in her mountain home. It is here, she says, that her relationship with God is strengthened and she has time for those she loves and for reflecting on life. In the midst of the woods that have called her name and claimed her heart for nearly a century, surrounded by the beauty of nature – and especially her lovely flowers, the little humming birds, squirrels and all their friends – Marguerite Cooper is at home . . . and in perfect Marguerite Cooper is at home and peace . . . until the first in perfect peace in her beloved snow falls. hills. Photo by Mark Mitchell. SEPTEMBER 2009 25
Minding Her Own Business| BY SHERRIE NORRIS
Betty Koontz
Local business woman, Betty Koontz, has done her part to make life better for others. Photo by Mark Mitchell Betty Koontz represents a multi-generational business in Boone that has stood the test of time. As business partner with her brother, Cecil Greene, Betty has operated Watauga Building Supply for the majority of her adult life and knows more about hardware, construction supplies and tools than most men (and women!) who use them every day. She didn’t just decide one day to own a supply store – it was ingrained in her as a child when she spent summers with her four older siblings working in their father’s hardware store. Her father, the late Clyde Greene, a successful entrepreneur who was also mayor of Boone, established Farmer’s Hardware in the ‘30s, just at the onset of the Great Depression. Only a day or two before the country’s financial collapse, Greene had paid for a load of seeds that he was able to sell to fellow farmers along the roadsides. “That’s the only thing that saved him,” Betty says. From those seeds, theoretically speaking, 26 SEPTEMBER 2009
came a bountiful harvest that has lasted for decades. Betty could have retired several years ago, but continues to run a hometown business that is near and dear to her heart. She’s quick to say her success would not be possible without the hard work and dedication of numerous family members and several longterm employees who are just like family. It wasn’t her plan to run the business when, after graduation from Appalachian High School, she left Boone for nurse’s training in Winston – Salem. Deciding to marry forfeited her chances for a nursing career; married students were not allowed in the program. Betty eventually became the mother of three girls and moved back to Boone after her marriage ended 38 years ago. Taking the reins of one of her father’s businesses was a challenge for her as a female, she admits, recalling that she was definitely in the minority. She’s glad to see other women in the construction business
today. “There are several female builders now who do a good job and one electrician, that I know of.” Through the years, she’s seen a lot of other changes, too. Computerization was a big step for the business, she says, and now there aren’t as many stick-built projects as there once were. “So much comes pre-built in packages – things that were once done by hand.” Betty has maintained a good working relationship with many of the area’s builders; she takes pride in serving the same companies since the beginning. “We have had a lot of repeat customers through the years and we work hard to meet their needs.” She takes care of the books, answers phones, and keeps everything running smoothly from her desk but, she says, “I don’t do much on figuring houses.” Known for her benevolent spirit and compassion for others, Betty has done a lot behind the scenes that few people know about, but she won’t talk about it. It’s common knowledge, however, that she has made many provisions through the years for those needing assistance with home repairs. She has always been active in the community, playing significant roles in nonprofit organizations such as Habitat for Humanity, in politics and in her church at Grace Lutheran, where she has a big hand in making and sending out about 100 greeting cards each month. She is an avid antique collector – and dealer – and became enthralled, along with her sister, with tealeaf dishes years ago. They have traveled across the country – mostly westward – to meet with other tealeaf enthusiasts who share their interests, and have hosted groups visiting Boone. She also makes crafts each month for residents of a local rest home. Life has been good for her, she says, and everyone knows she’s done her part to make life good for others. Just ask her staff and customers, her daughters, her three “wonderful sons-in-law” (her own description!) or her nine grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. www.aawmag.com
The Golden Girls of Cove Creek children and several grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Betty currently serves as the treasurer of the CCP&D Board. Golden Girls who did not attend school in the historic rock building, but, to the benefit of Cove Creek, are now “transplants,” include Pat Birdsong and Karen James. Pat moved here from Mississippi in 1978. Her children attended the elementary school. She earned her degree from Appalachian State University and has worked as a speech and language pathologist for 14 years. She and her husband, Tim Smith, have four children A special group of Golden Girls – Karen James, Nannie and are adoring grandparents. Pat is a Helen Greene, Amy Shelton, Betty Mitchell Boyd, and Pat CCP&D board member and currently Birdsong – are among those behind the success of the co-chairs the MusicFest ’n Sugar Grove Historic Cove Creek High School’s preservation project. committee. Karen James attended a small rural high school in Iowa that reminds her of Remember the theme song from “The Golden Cove Creek High School. Since her alma Girls” television program, “Thank You For mater was demolished, she really appreciates Being a Friend?” At the Historic Cove Creek the value of saving a community hallmark. High School, lots of special folks have been She graduated from Ohio State University part of its restoration project, including a special group of Golden Girls: Nannie Helen and worked in hospital laboratories for Greene, Betty Mitchell Boyd, Pat Birdsong, more than 25 years. She and her husband Karen James and Amy Shelton – and they Jack moved to the area in 1993. She taught are often found working around the building. healthcare management at Appalachian Two, Nannie Green and Amy Shelton, State University for two years. She and are founding members of Cove Creek Jack have three children and are also doting Preservation & Development that organized grandparents. Karen has served as treasurer in 1996 to protect and preserve the beautiful of CCP&D and her grant writing skills have been essential to the success of the Cove building for the community. Nannie graduated from Cove Creek High Creek High School restoration project. She School and Appalachian State Teacher’s also maintains the computer technology for College and taught off the mountain for the organization and is a vital part of the 32 years until she retired back to the Sugar Sugar Grove Developmental Day School. Grove area. She was the original treasurer of CCP&D and chaired its museum committee for over 10 years. Amy is a native of the Cove Creek community and currently chairs the CCP&D Board. Her four children also attended Cove Creek Elementary School and she has been employed by the Appalachian State University Police Department for 14 years. A third “Golden Girl,” Betty Belle Mitchell Boyd, graduated from Cove Creek High School, attended the IBM secretarial school and various medical management classes and seminars during the 25 years she worked in the profession. Betty and her husband Wil spent several years working in New Mexico before returning to the area in 1999. Their blended family includes eight www.aawmag.com
More About This Historic Landmark The Cove Creek High School was constructed out of native stone in 1941 by local artisans under the Works Progress Administration (WPA) project. “The design, the quality of craftsmanship, and the materials cannot be duplicated today,” according to Jennifer Martin, Preservation Specialist of the NC Dept. of Culture Resources, Division of Archives and History. After the new Cove Creek Elementary School opened and the magnificent stone building was vacated, many women (and
men, too) have been involved in preserving the historic building. Among others, Marian Simpson (1936 – 2005) and Shirley Mast were determined founders of the preservation effort who gathered all of the paperwork necessary to obtain nonprofit status for CCP&D. These two lovely Golden Girls also worked diligently to earn the placement of the building on the National Register of Historic Places, which was accomplished June 18, 1998.
Efforts associated with CCP&D include MusicFest ‘n Sugar Grove that began twelve years ago to honor Doc Watson and his family and continues to offer a warm, inviting event with exceptional, talented artists. Nearly 300 people volunteered their time to make the 2009 MusicFest a success. Farm Heritage Day is held in September with local crafts, heritage displays, music and more for its patrons to enjoy. The historic site is currently the home of Sugar Grove Developmental Day School, Enviro-Build Journey Woodworks, and Jung Tao School of Classical Chinese Medicine, which offers a school of acupuncture and an acupuncture clinic for patients. Collectively, these businesses have created the venue for over forty employment opportunities. Also located in the building are the CCP&D offices, the Doc & Merle Watson Folk Art Museum, and the Red Raider Room, which was originally the school’s lunchroom and is available for community functions and meetings. Renovation and restoration projects are still in progress at Cove Creek. Current endeavors include meeting ADA compliance, roofing the rock building, and constructing a backyard drainage system. Grants, fundraising events, and rental income have sustained the project thus far, along with dedicated and loyal board members and volunteers. If you would like to learn more about Cove Creek or participate in its ongoing projects and events, call (828) 297-2200 or visit www.covecreek. net. SEPTEMBER 2009 27
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Dr. Alan Lazar, Gilbert Williams and Men About Town
Dr. Alan Lazar –
On The Cutting Edge Of New Technology
BY SHERRIE NORRIS
A decade ago, Dr. Alan M. Lazar, well-known and highly respected repairs and decrease healing time. Dr. Lazar has always desired to treat board-certified orthopaedic surgeon from Plantation, Florida, came to the people with the least amount of risk, pain and down time, and his new mountains with Barbara, his wife of 36 years. The couple fell in love with treatment plan allows him to do just that, he says. “With platelets and stem the area, decided to stay – at least seasonally – and bought a home at cells, no one gets hurt. Side effects of this treatment are extremely rare. Hound Ears. They love being here so much that Dr. Lazar has opened a There is no surgery or potential for anesthesia problems – and less risk of Boone office to share his expertise and skills with the people they’ve come infection or nerve damage.” At a recent International Cartilage Repair Society medical conference to know and love. Believing they landed here in this special place to learn and appreciate in Miami, Dr. Lazar says, studies were presented that documented the life, the Lazars love being surrounded by nature, Barbara says – and their treatment’s success, based findings by Italian researchers who referred to it as a promising method for treatment three Shitzus. of cartilage defects, showing that PRP “We try to spend most of our time stimulates cartilage growth in soft tissue here, as it is our favorite place in the and bone. world,” she says. “The people are warm, Always on the cutting edge of friendly and kind. We feel the energy from the mountains and love listening to the medicine, (no pun intended!), Dr. Lazar has birds and the river. When you look at the recently incorporated the Power Plate into mountain, it reminds you of the creator . his physical therapy practice to accelerate . . We are in awe of the beauty every day recovery from injuries and surgery. Power and never take nature for granted. It is our Plate has been described as “a pleasantly special place.” vibrating platform that strengthens and Dr. Lazar says among their favorite tones your body by causing a reflexive response to subtle disruptions in stability.” things to do is hike with their dogs and It also can reverse osteoporosis, facilitate take advantage of the parks and trails fat loss, reduce pain and has anti-aging and the river and lakes. The restaurants properties. Studies have shown that it are wonderful and the grocery stores are increases human growth hormone. amazing, they agree. “We still cannot get In addition to providing the over the smiles and friendliness of the people here. We are hoping some day to utmost in patient care for over 20 years, be here forever!” Dr. Lazar has also developed the Fountain The Lazars have two “wonderful, of Health. Dr. Lazar says these safe and effective supplement formulas have top successful children” of which they are quality ingredients for optimal health. He indeed proud. Their 29-year-old daughter is the author of the soon-to-be-released lives in Manhattan and is a social worker book, Beyond the Knife: Alternatives to now in nursing school. Their son, 26 and Surgical Treatment. recently married, owns his own music Originally from New York City, publishing company in Los Angeles and Dr. Alan and Barbara Lazar love being surrounded by puts music to movies, commercials and nature – and their three Shitzus. Photo by Mark Mitchell. Dr. Lazar graduated from Brooklyn College television shows. and City University of New York. Then he Occupying space in the office complex of Boone Podiatry off State went to medical school at New York Medical College, graduating in 1976. Farm Road in Boone, Dr. Lazar’s practice focuses on a wide range of After completing his internship and residency in New York City hospitals, general orthopaedic medicine. He utilizes a relatively new non-surgical, he was certified by the American Board of Orthopaedic Surgery in 1981, less expensive treatment known as Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP) and Stem awarded fellowships by the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgery in Cell Injection Therapy – citing PRP as “the new age power of the needle” 1983, the American College of Surgery in 1984, and licensed by the State that is also often used in conjunction with surgery to strengthen surgical of Florida in 1979. He entered private practice in 1980, served on the staff 28 SEPTEMBER 2009
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of Westside Regional Medical Center as Vice Chief of Surgery from 1988-1990 and Chief of Surgery from 1990-1991, serving on the Executive Board from 1988-1991. He currently serves on staff at Westside Regional Medical Center, Hollywood Memorial - Pembroke, Outpatient Surgical Services and Weston Surgical Center. Since 1992, he has served as Clinical Assistant Professor, Department of Surgery, at Nova Southeastern University’s Health Sciences College of Osteopathic Medicine. He also is Clinical Assistant Professor of the Physician’s Assistant Sciences, College of Allied Health at Nova Southeastern University. He serves on the Board of Trustees at Outpatient Surgical Services in Plantation. In addition to his practice and professional affiliations, Dr. Lazar has presented several papers at scientific meetings and has published articles in esteemed medical journals.Dr. Lazar is also certified in age management (anti-aging) medicine by Cenegenics. Realizing that surgery is no longer necessary for many common orthopaedic or arthritic injuries, Dr. Lazar offers new “beyond the knife” help for those suffering from such conditions as arthritic joints (including osteoarthritis of the hip, knee or shoulder), sports injuries including tendonitis (tennis and golfer’s elbow), neck and back pain, as well as injuries to ligaments and tendons such as the rotator cuff. When asked why he feels that stem cell therapy is necessary, he responds, “In some extremely serious arthritic joint conditions, the cartilage has almost completely been destroyed. In that situation, a stem cell transplant may be helpful. Stem cells are harvested from the patient’s own bone marrow, then filtered, cleansed and concentrated. The stem cells are injected into the severely arthritic joint and there they grow and develop into cartilage. It, too, often eliminates the need for surgery.” Dr. Lazar welcomes new patients and appreciates the warm welcome he and his staff have received in the High Country. For more information, call (954) 476-9494 or (828) 265-3668.
Gilbert Williams Has Seen It All BY SHERRY BOONE The shirt he wore to his 90th birthday celebration says it all: At my age I’ve seen it all, I’ve heard it all, I’ve done it all – I just can’t remember it all. But one thing Gilbert Williams does remember is how to bowl, and he does it very well. Twice each week – on Monday evening and Tuesday morning – Gilbert eagerly heads toward Boone Bowling Center where he joins his buddies who make up the Old Timers’ League. In honor of his 90th birthday recently, his friends, including the center’s owners Mario and Diana Perret – Gentil, surprised Gilbert with a party to celebrate his big day. He was all smiles as the party began and was still smiling when it ended. Gilbert is no stranger to being in the spotlight, but celebrations these days are a little tamer than what he once knew. A native of Presque, Maine, Gilbert had a good foundation as a young man, and was a Sunday School teacher as a teenager. When he was 19 years old, he was named the Maine State Boxing Champion in the Silver Gloves Competition – and lost only one match in his boxing career. He pursued a military career that spanned more than 31 years, first in what was then called the Army Air Corp and later the Air Force, serving through three wars – World War II, Korea and Vietnam. His family has placed a military plaque to honor Gilbert and other veterans in the Presque Isle Mall. Gilbert is a great dog lover, accompanied by his pets almost everywhere he goes. He once drove his young daughter over 2,000 miles, round trip, for a dog. Those who know Gilbert see him for the gentle man that he is. He is the proud father of seven, grandfather of nine and great – grandfather of seven more who make his life complete. Hats off this to active senior citizen who did his part to keep us free! www.aawmag.com
Gilbert Williams celebrates 90th birthday with friends at Boone Bowling Center.
The Old Timers’ Bowling League keeps things rolling at Boone Bowling Center every Tuesday morning. Photo by Mark Mitchell. SEPTEMBER 2009 29
I could not, at any age, be content to take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life. – Eleanor Roosevelt
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Men About Town
Photos by Sherrie Norris.
Daymon Pritchard (second from right) of the Stamey Branch Community in Avery County, is a young man at 91, who has been a shining light to all those around him, especially his sons – Steve, Scott and Doug – pictured here during his most recent birthday celebration. Local much loved minister, Bud Russell (right), never misses an opportunity to soak in a few words of wisdom from men like his good friend, Bob Shields.
Some men, like Lon Wiseman, are like a fine wine. Even at 81, he just gets better with age! Boone’s own George Wilson (second from left) will always be young at heart as long as he’s got a guitar in his hands.The multi-talented Wilson and his Buck Haggard Band, have a solid gold sound as they perform classic country around the High Country and beyond with sounds of yesterday. Pictured with Wilson (l - r) are: Ed Main, Greg Russell, Tracy Brown and Jimmy Cannon. Behind The Wheel Few driveways around the High Country in the last 30 years have escaped having his Chevrolet emblem upon their vehicles; his name is practically a household word. A well-respected businessman who cares about his fellow man, Mack Brown and his wife, Willa Jean Brown (at right), have served the Boone area for many years and are known for their benevolent community spirit. In fact, we captured this photo of the couple during a benefit car show their business hosted in midAugust. 32 SEPTEMBER 2009
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Golden Girls Aging With Beauty Hormonal changes in females often alter the internal factors that affect the skin’s appearance, health and strength. Let’s just say, “Thank you for being a friend” to those products on the market that assist mature skin in aging more beautifully. In keeping with nature’s timeline for our skin’s longevity, we need to remember that at the age of 30 we begin preparing our skin for age 40; at 40 we’re already setting the stage for 50 and beyond. Let’s talk about some key facial fibers and cellular activity that takes place in the skin as it matures.
Collagen
A protein fiber that is produced by fibroblasts (connective tissues found in collagen and elastin) and fibroblasts make up 70 percent of the dermis (the live layer of connective tissue below the epidermis). The environment and the sun will lessen those proteins and connective tissues. Thus the skin loses its tone and can become thinner because of less elasticity and fiber. Vitamin C, an antioxidant, is helpful in warding off the signs of aging because it promotes collagen production in the dermis as well as helping prevent the capillary walls from breaking. When the capillaries break, the skin can show signs of bruising, redness around the upper lip, on the corners of the nose, and bleeding gums, etc. Because of its beneficial qualities and promotion of collagen production, Vitamin C does help with free radicals that our skin is exposed to regularly. When considering a facial, moisturizer, or mask application, check to see if each has Vitamin C.
Night Creams
These solutions usually have a thicker consistency than a day moisturizer. Their purpose is to moisturize, neutralize free radicals, tone, replenish texture, increase firmness, and minimize wrinkles, lines, or sunspots on the skin. Nighttime is when skin goes into a repairing mode, where there is an increase in blood microcirculation (small vessels that are responsible for the distribution of blood within tissues) and cellular activity. Night creams restore and replenish the skin on a deeper level because of oxygenating the blood, which results in a healthier complexion. The epidermis (outermost layer of skin) is composed of 30 layers of cells. The basal layer (first layer of the epidermis) generates new cells; the epidermis is renewed about every 30 days. As cells move to the surface of the face, they protect and strengthen.
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Bloom Where You’re Planted| BY SHERRY BOONE
A Visit with Vera
A visit with Vera Church of Zionville can easily become a history lesson. At 98, Vera’s keen mind and quick recollection easily take a guest back into the early days when, in Watauga County, there were no paved streets, electricity or hospitals, and the centers of education were the proverbial two- or three-room schoolhouses we’ve all heard about. She recalls the walks to school when rain or snow made wagon travel through the ruts impossible. Vera’s parents, Niley and Charlotte Byers, were teachers and expected their only child to always set a good behavioral example for all students – in and out of school. Since none of the wonder drugs of today were in existence then, families used castor oil, Epsom salts, onion poultices and camphor grease to cure chest colds and more. Vera’s wonderful sense of humor surfaces as she recalls the little white bag story: In the small bag was asafetida, which is the gum from the roots of a number of oriental plants from the parsley family, having the odor and taste of garlic. Each family had their own ideas on how to get well, but the way to stay well was by using the bitter plant extract. The stuff was placed in a small bag and worn around the neck, Vera tells us. But, that’s not all –– the little bag was sucked on to get the best results. Whew! She recalls with a chuckle. “In the fall of the year, when school
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At 98, Vera Church continues to make a difference. was in session, almost every student came in with the little bag tied with a string long enough to hang around their necks; the bag was supposed to ward off everything from tuberculosis to itch and head lice.” Little wonder the concoction warded off head lice. “Had I been one [a louse], I’d have hopped off at first sight of the bag!” Vera said she was devastated when her mother refused to allow her to have her very own bag. “Mother thought it was highly unsanitary. Imagine that!” As a little girl, Vera felt so deprived that after a few weeks, she traded a schoolmate a pencil just to wear her little bag for a day! Vera watched carefully and when she saw someone else with a bag in his or her mouth, she’d pop her borrowed bag in her mouth and away she’d go, sucking on it just like everyone else! “That’s how the medicine got into our system. Just suck on the bag. I must have gotten a good supply and forgot that I’d reek with the scent of garlic. When I got home from school that day, the scent of garlic reached my mother before I did. I was half-sick and in deep trouble. I think I was pretty much a rebel as a child and, looking back, I wonder why my parents didn’t throw me out with the bath water,” she said. They must’ve known what a gifted child they had! Today, they would be so proud of her and all that she has accomplished in her lifetime. Her life has touched people in many different ways. In 1967, she began her career with W.A.M.Y. Community Action, Inc. Her original title was Neighborhood Visitor, which changed in 1969 to Outreach Worker. Her duties included, with the help of co-workers, mapping out all areas of Watauga County, including homes, businesses, buildings and churches. Then, each worker was assigned an area to survey and visit each home to determine the needs of the people. Many times Vera wasn’t welcomed, but tried to always be considerate and patient Continued on page 41.
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Daughters Of American Colonists Unite As a member of the Daughters of American Colonists (DAC) for at least 20 years, Patricia Quinn of Boone, current Vice Regent of the Catawba Chapter of the DAC, was pleased to host the organization’s quarterly meeting in her home recently. To become a member, Patricia says, one must be able to prove her ancestry back to colonial times, something that only a few local women have been able to do. “I joined at the invitation of Mrs. Margaret Ely, who was a well known lady in our community and a retired school teacher. She was the only Boone member at the time and has been deceased probably 10 years or more.” Currently, two Boone women, Diz Mackley and Anne Millsaps, both active leaders in the Daniel Boone Chapter of the Daughters of American Revolution (DAR) are applying for membership with the DAC, Patricia says. “We would like to have more members from this area join us and we encourage their membership.” The Catawba Valley Chapter of the Daughters of the American Colonists meets quarterly with plans to return to Boone next summer to tour Hickory Ridge at Horn in the West. During its recent gathering in Boone, newly elected officers for 2009-2010 assumed their duties and plans were formulated for the coming year. Who is a Daughter of the American Colonists? She is a person who, first of all, shares the devotion to her country and the principles upon which it was founded, that inspired her ancestors. She is a person who believes that the gifts of the past, both spiritual and material, should be preserved, and who has deep concerns for the welfare of the nation’s government and its people. The object of the Society is patriotic, historical, and educational: to research the history and deeds of the American colonists, and to record and publish them; to commemorate deeds of colonial interest; to indoctrinate and foster love of the United States of America and its institutions by all its residents; and to obey its laws and venerate its flag, the emblem of its power and civic righteousness. The Society was incorporated under the laws of the District of Columbia on April 25, 1921; and a Federal Charter was granted to the National Society by the Ninety-eighth United www.aawmag.com
DAC Officers, left to right: Julia Floyd, Regent; Patricia Quinn, Vice Regent; Peggie Corby, Chaplain; Jeanne Boggs, Secretary-Treasurer; Julia Morrison, Registrar-Historian; and back row: Kathleen Hatchett, librarian. States Congress as Public Law 98-561 on October 30, 1984. The objectives of DAC are fulfilled in many ways and through various committees. The Society has an excellent genealogical library with many hundreds of books and manuscripts at National Headquarters, located in Washington, D.C. New members become part of a Chapter, a State Society, and the National Society, which is one of the largest of the nation’s hereditary organizations. Every member’s interest and participation is vital to aid the Society in continuing to move ahead and to grow in strength and achievement, in love of country, in historic preservation of a cherished heritage, and in education of all citizens in what the real America is, and what America stands for. Any woman interested in becoming a member of the National Society can contact: National Headquarters, National Society Daughters of the American Colonists, 2205 Massachusetts Avenue NW, Washington, D.C. 20008-2813. E-mail: hqnsdac@verizon.net
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Never Too Old To Learn New Skills
Marie Culler says staying busy and active are keys to a healthy life. Photo by Sherrie Norris Those entering the Lois E. Harrill Senior Center in Boone are often greeted by Marie Culler, who is employed through a program called Winston-Salem Urban League, or Title V, says center director, Tabitha W. Thomas. “The program helps older adults receive workplace training in hopes of getting a job. Marie works with me in an effort to gain new skills to help her in a job search. However, we like having her here so much, we hope she stays on indefinitely! It’s working out well for all
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of us and provides her a good, albeit modest, income.” Marie works 20 hours a week at the center and says she enjoys every minute on the job. Having had her own home daycare for 30 years, Marie knew she had to stay busy after retirement. “I didn’t want my life to be over without doing all I could do.” Originally from the Asheville area, Marie came to Appalachian State Teachers College in 1954 as one of approximately 3,000 students and lived in one of two dorms for girls. “We were not very brave or bold back then. We knew our place and stayed in it. In fact, the girls’ dorm was on one side of Kraut Creek and the boys’ was on the other side. We were told if we crossed the creek, we’d be sent home. I never tested the rules!” Today, the youthful matriarch who represents four generations loves flowers, gardening and working outside. “I love helping Tabitha when I’m here. I take care of the giveaway table, the bulletin boards, our coupon swap – and other little things that need to be done. This is a wonderful place to be.” For three years prior, she rode the Appalcart to the senior center each weekday and still loves to be involved in many of the scheduled activities. She has also been involved in the Appalachian Foster Grandparent Program - a natural place for her, she says, just as her current role makes her feel right at home. Marie encourages other seniors to get involved at Lois E. Harrill Senior Center, sponsored by the Watauga County Project on Aging, located at 132 Poplar Grove Connector, Suite A in Boone.
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Recently Retired, Historian Diane Barefoot Is Busier Than Ever BY CATHERINE BARE “What do a night club, a hospital and a convention center have in common?” asks Diane Barefoot, with a twinkle in her eye. “Silverstone Enterprises has done custom seating for all of them!” she laughs, answering her own question. Silverstone Enterprises, Inc. is Diane’s Internet business where she sells high-end designer fabrics and leather hides. She ships fabrics all over the United States and internationally. “I never thought I’d be mailing stuff to Tasmania, Macao and Poland, but we have!” The other part of the “we” in the relationship is her friend and consultant, Steve Terry. Together they have built a thriving business that also includes custom furniture. The two work hard. They recently reupholstered 6,700 conference chairs for the Charlotte Convention Center. Just coordinating the project from her home base was a massive task. Diane kept the books and managed payroll, while Steve coordinated the skills of about 50 upholsterers and temporary workers. This business is quite a change for the recently retired faculty member. Diane holds both BS and MA degrees in history from ASU. She taught and advised at ASU from 1985 to 1998, when she left to teach at Caldwell Community College and Technical Institute. She retired in June to dedicate more time to her family and her business. Devoted to her immediate and extended family, Diane grew up in Silverstone and still lives only a few hundred yards from her childhood home. She sees her mother, Edith Cook, nearly every day. Her Watauga/Avery County roots “are about six or seven generations deep.” As a child, Diane loved to visit her grandmother and greatgrandmother and thinks her interest in history stems in part from those visits. “Their houses were old and they had oldtimey stuff all around . . . and they would tell stories about the past.” When she spent the night with her grandmother, Mamie Ward, and listened to those stories, she says, “I thought I could hear horses www.aawmag.com
and covered wagons going up the gravel road by her house.” That imagination was further fueled during her freshman year world civilizations class when she encountered Bettie Bond as her teacher. Diane Barefoot, left, is presented flowers at the annual gathering of the “It was because of Watauga Historical Society by vice president Bettie Bond for her contributions Bettie’s enthusiasm for to the recently completed work, The Architectural History of Watauga history, treating it as County. a great big wonderful The finished work, The Architectural story, that I became a History of Watauga County, includes over 360 history major.” She gives credit to other teachers who also pages with some 600 pictures. inspired her, including: Drs. Carl Ross, Roy “We expect delivery in October and Carroll, George Antone, Charles Blackburn, appreciate so much everyone who has purchased a book or given a contribution toward Ruby Lanier and Don Saunders. “Dr. Raymond Pulley was my mentor in publication.” graduate school and got me going on architectural Pre-sales are still possible and donations are welcomed to complete final funding needs. and social history.” The Watauga County Historical Society Accomplishment of this project has not is thankful that Diane’s interest and formal dampened her enthusiasm. She has a long education took that particular route. She has list of future goals for the Historical Society. been a member of the local historical society They include building membership, increasing for over 20 years and became president of the attendance at meetings, establishing systematic group in 2006-07. Under her leadership, the fundraising activities, locating a permanent society engaged Daniel Pezzoni, of Landmark home for the office and archives and serving as Preservation Associates, to combine work done a clearinghouse of historical information for the by several authors from architectural surveys community. completed over the past 30 years. The result Diane’s home is busy with two dogs, two is a lengthy historical essay on the county and Arabian mares and four cats. And it is made complete with Steve and daughters Julie and inventories of surviving buildings. Over the past two years, Diane wore several Tai. Tai will be a senior at ASU this fall majoring hats. She conducted some of the research for in anthropology. Julie works for the Watauga the project, took photos, gathered information County Sheriff’s Office in telecommunications. and applied for grants, and proofread, and Julie’s daughter, Andie Elizabeth, is ten months proofread, and . . . She shepherded the society’s old and is Diane’s first grandchild. “All three have book committee through this long process and been central to my life since they were born.” To learn more about Diane’s fabrics, is quick to give credit to all the other members leather or custom or contract furnishings, who have been committed to the project for 30 visit her eBay store, silverstonefabrics78. For years since the society was organized in 1977. And she thanks all the individuals, corporations more information about the Watauga County and foundations that have donated funds for the Historical Society, you can reach her at (828) 297-6120. project. SEPTEMBER 2009 39
Heartfelt| BY TERI WIGGANS
Appreciating The Wisdom of Our Elders
Among the many elders I know in the High Country, three women have been especially inspirational to me. As I share some of their pearls of wisdom, I refer to Webster’s definition of wisdom: “an ability to judge rightly based on knowledge, experience and understanding.” My daughter wrote her own definition of wisdom in fourth grade: “actions based on intelligence and love.” These three women have similar qualities in that they are very energetic, share themselves generously, walk their wisdom and are highly inspirational.
Lundee Amos I first met Lundee Amos over ten years ago when we both lived in Greensboro. She has been coming to the High Country for the past nine years to her second home, which is in Blowing Rock. She celebrated her 70th birthday in July. “Be the change you want to see in the world,” are among her many pearls of wisdom. She enjoys sharing from her heart, in a state of love and gratitude, she says, because it connects people and it is healing. She had breast cancer in 2001 and chose to receive chemotherapy, change her diet and exercise routine, and receive alternative modalities of healing, such as healing touch, massage, reiki, etc. She is now in a place where she gratefully gives back as a certified healing touch practitioner by volunteering at a Greensboro clinic and a Winston-Salem nursing home. Choose to create a healthy environment. She chooses to create a healthy environment, believing that healthcare is all-encompassing, including routine physical and dental examinations plus mental, emotional and spiritual care. She participates in a church community and states that her connection to God is very important. She spends time regularly with her three grandchildren who give her joy as she watches them grow. She also balances her life with contra dancing two times weekly, participates in yoga classes at the wellness center and loves hiking, biking, kayaking and aqua aerobics. Angels fly high because they fly lightly. Lundee believes that service work is vital in keeping one lighter. She shares the benefits of becoming lighter or less serious through laughter workshops and simply clowning around. She has a trunk full of costumes and masks and gadgets that make funny sounds. Her first entry into the world of humor was as a tooth fairy. In that persona, she wears a pink tutu, wings with lights and carries a wand. She has gone into elementary school systems promoting the value of toothbrushing. The children are delighted. As a bundle of energy, passion and joy, 40 SEPTEMBER 2009
Lundee is proof that laughter lightens our load and is truly one of the best medicines!
Pam Noble A friend of mine for the past two years, Pam Noble was a leader and guide in my first vision quest. She has shared her heart and wisdom in our local spiritual group, cooks a mighty delicious meal and tackles just about any task put before her. She has co-created numerous support groups like Numina and WomanQuest. Celebrate elderhood and be playful. When she turned 65, she celebrated the year as a rite of passage by holding a Crone Carnival with a friend who was turning 80. After serving a feast and providing playful activities, they invited their friends into a circle in which they each expressed what they wanted to claim for themselves in their elder years. She felt the experience left a stamp of blessing upon each woman who attended. Surrender to life as it arises each day and receive everything that comes as a gift. She allows whatever happens to become her teacher and, in doing so, she’s discovering a freedom of being that far exceeds her younger years. Claim the gifts of elderhood and share the collective wisdom in community. Pam, who is and has been a shining light of compassion, inspiration, focus and creativity, is calling together an elder circle to provide support needed in this stage of the journey. Brenda Carson I have known Brenda Carson for the past two years as a client at the Heartfelt Healing Center and more recently like member of my family. She has had multiple health issues and, over the last two years, has experienced remarkable changes in her physical, mental and emotional health. She is energetic and passionate about contributing to others. She is only 55 years old, but her great – grandmother Day from Ashe County lived to be 102. Brenda has been told by many relatives that she is just like her great-grandmother in spirit. She shares Grandma’s three pearls of wisdom for living: Honor thy parents – they raised you. Serve God – keep him in your daily life. Rattle them bones. In other words, exercise, move and work. Brenda is full of gumption, has an open heart radiating joy and light and love and she tickles me silly with her humorous and lively stories of life. Remember this little bit of wisdom that I picked up from the Internet: Inside every older person is a younger person wondering, “What the heck happened?” Teri Wiggans, RN, a health practitioner at Heartfelt Healing Center in Boone, may be reached at (828) 264-4443. www.aawmag.com
Continued from page 36. in order to gain the family’s respect and confidence. In doing so, she was able to help them improve life skills by teaching them to make mattresses, reupholster furniture, cook, sew, and more. After 13 years, Vera retired and was presented with a watch and a little piglet wrapped in a blanket. The tiny animal represented the animals that she and other co-workers of W.A.M.Y. had delivered to families over the years to help them get started raising farm animals. Music has been a big part of Vera’s life. She has taught piano lessons to perhaps 300 students through the years and, even now, has one young student, whom she says will be her last. Vera was the musician at Mabel United Methodist Church for many years and was always a blessing to the congregation. Vera is not always able to attend church now as she once did. However, her talents and love for her church family has made a lasting impression on the church members and in the community. She is loved dearly by her children, grandchildren and greatgrandchildren and, even in her golden years, continues to make a positive difference in the lives of many.
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Pet Page| BY GENEVIEVE AUSTIN
More Than Just A Pretty Face
A miniature donkey is both beautiful and devoted. While its beauty is an asset, its devotion includes defending its territory from wild animals and predators of livestock. Generally, donkeys are known to be stubborn, perhaps as a reflection of their intelligence. Donkeys develop strong loyalties to their masters and their farms. Miniature donkeys are the passion, the entertainment and the business of Rocking - W- Ranch in Vilas. A fun place to visit, it also supplies other farms with loving and loyal miniature donkey friends. Owners Phillip Wilson and daughter Melanie are business partners and animal lovers. Phillip got his first pony when he was six years old. Melanie was born into pet ownership when the Wilsons got a dog right before her birth. Phil’s father, Forrest Wilson, shared his love of animals with Phil, who was an only child. Animals have always played a significant role in his life, both as companions and entertainment. Melanie Wilson and her pet donkeys.
He says, “I’ve yet to meet an animal lover who is mean-spirited. There’s somethin’ about animals that those who love ‘em share a bond.” The Wilsons have also had quarter horses, shorthorn cattle, chickens and many other animals through the years. Phil remembeers the day he told his father, “Dad, I’m gonna get me a mule. I’ve never been kicked by a mule in my life.” His father’s reply was, “Getcha mule and you’ll get kicked.” Phil ended up getting two –– Radar and Flash –– and he did get kicked. Melanie enjoyed riding the mules until she fell off and broke her thumb. Then Phil told his dad he wanted a donkey because he’d love to hear it bray. His father told him, “Getcha one and you’ll hear it bray.” Phil says of mules and donkeys, “Oftentimes, the mule or the donkey has a lot more sense than the human being who owns it.” He continues, “Donkeys always check out a mud puddle before stepping 42 SEPTEMBER 2009
into it. They stop in front of it, paw the puddle and see if it’s a hole or a puddle. If we change the barn entrance in the slightest way, they notice something as subtle as a piece of rope hanging where it wasn’t before. If it looks different, they’ll study what’s changed and make sure it’s safe to go inside.” Melanie got involved with the donkeys about five years ago. Donkeys are fiercely protective of their territory and know the difference between friend and foe. Melanie now has two children with whom the donkeys are extremely gentle and protective. Phil retired from the bulk of the animal business with the exception of his two mules, miniature donkeys and a rooster named Goober. Goober befriended one of their donkeys and could be seen riding on its back. They’ve now added fourteen more little donkeys to the family: Nicademous, Buckwheat, Bendy, Miss Kitty, Cindy, Dorothy, Fern, Nora, Myra, Gracie, Janie, Holly, Flowerpot, and Brayley. Janie is a beautiful brown donkey who will soon add a new foal to ranch. Phil intended to sell the first foal, but when it was born, his wife and daughter Melanie just couldn’t part with it. But soon they did begin selling the miniature donkeys. Donkey males are referred to as “jacks” and females are called “jennys.” While both are very loyal and strong protectors of cattle, horses, sheep and goats, jennys are better suited to herds that may breed. Phil says jacks can become aggressive toward newborn livestock to encourage the females to be ready for breeding sooner. Melanie’s life has been filled with animals. In charge of administrative tasks, Melanie remains the designated “spoiler,” giving the donkeys a thorough brushing and treats. Her two children, Molly and Mason, are ranch assistants. Melanie hopes they may take over the business one day. Right now, they are stepping right into the footsteps of their family by becoming animal lovers. Call Phil for more information and to schedule appointments to visit: 828-964-6834. www.aawmag.com
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Piracci Comes Full Circle At Farmers’ Market Cheryl Piracci has been a member of the Watauga County Farmers’ Market for the last 20 of its 30 years. With 120 vendors and approximately 1,500 to 2,000 customers visiting each Saturday, the market has an educated and discerning community, Cheryl says, which values fresh, locally grown produce, quality plants, food and crafts. It is becoming the new town square, she says. She, like her fellow gardeners, loves gathering each week to share her bounty with others. She became involved because of what she produces, grows and creates: plants, jams and jellies, biscotti, pesto and tomatoes, and has stayed involved with a lot of behind-the-scenes activity. Cheryl’s interest in gardening began when she was 11 years old by selling flower seed packets to earn enough points from the seed company to get a Brownie camera that she treasured. She had several
Cheryl Piracci is proud to be a representative of the Watauga County Farmers’ Market. Photo by Sherrie Norris packets of unsold flower seeds left, so she thought, “Why not plant them myself?” Thus, Cheryl pulled weeds and cleared a small patch of earth for bachelor buttons and carnations, starting her journey to gardening. Cheryl seems to work magic by connecting plants with clients. She listens to her clients and matches the plants to their needs. She tries to visualize the customers’ expectations and dreams for their landscaping and suggests ideas that are appropriate to their landscapes, yet will also fulfill their dreams and what the gardens can produce. Not only is she the sole proprietor of her business, Bella Rooster, she has initiated friendships to be “cultivated” over the years – celebrating births and sometimes sharing condolences. As a matter of fact, some of her customers have even volunteered to help at her booth when she is so busy. Cheryl has also served on the board of the Farmers’ Market for over 12 years and was elected treasurer in 2004. As such, she prepares budget analyses of income and expenditures and presents the annual financial report to the membership each March. Serving as parish administrator at St. Luke’s Episcopal Church (Boone) in the 1990s gave Cheryl experience in preparing budgets, which led to her current role on the market board. No stranger to Boone and its business circle, Cheryl moved to the High Country in 1988 and opened an antique business in Sugar Grove in a 100-year-old farmhouse that her husband Remo restored. Her husband, an accomplished contractor/woodworker, followed his passion for clay and made the transition to full-time potter. He also has found his place as a vendor at the Farmers’ Market where visitors find him and his work equally intriguing. Plan to drop by the Farmers’ Market soon and take a moment to meet Cheryl and Remo. With much to offer together and separately, the Piraccis are proud to be a part of the Boone business community. 44 SEPTEMBER 2009
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All About Authors: Nora Percival Writes To Share Life Experiences
BY MAGGIE BISHOP
Award-winning author, Maggie Bishop, has agreed to share with our readers a monthly interview with fellow writers, beginning with the one and only Nora Percival who says, “I have been a senior many years and I am looking forward to my 95th birthday in October. But being a senior has not kept me from pursuing my writing career. I achieved my first book publication at 88, and have been writing steadily ever since.” MB: Tell us about your latest published book. NP: My latest work, just out, is Pell-Mell, a novel about a difficult romance. Now, I am embarked on another novel, which will include many autobiographical elements, but will not be a memoir like Weather of the Heart and Silver Pages. The hardest thing about writing memoirs is coordinating facts with feelings and creating response in the reader without going off into fiction. MB: Why did you switch to fiction for your Pell-Mell story set in North Carolina in the 1970s? NP: I wanted to write a regional book, since my first two works were set in Russia and New York. I wrote it [PellMell] first as a NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) challenge. I found this was the best writing discipline I’d experienced. MB: Describe when and where you write. NP: I write on computer in my homework room. First, I mull over an idea for a long time, gradually developing my characters and plot lines until the moment arrives to put it all on paper. Then I try to write every day as much as possible. MB: When did you first know you wanted to write?
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Now nearing her 95th birthday, Nora Percival was 88 when her first book was published. She’s been writing steadily ever since. NP: I’ve wanted to be a writer since high school, when a wonderful English teacher praised my work. She read my poem out loud in class and said, “This is a piece which one would wish to have written.” These words turned my life in a new direction. I write to share my life experiences and ideas. I love to write, and therefore must have readers. MB: How do readers inspire you? NP: I get lots of feedback from readers who become interested in my characters and events. Many ask questions about Russia or the Depression of the ‘30s, and many fall in love with my grandmother. My most memorable reader was Eiji, a Japanese friend of my son’s, who read Weather of the Heart on a ship going down the Volga River in Russia and loved it. We became “e” pen pals. MB: What brought you to the High Country? NP: I came to live in the High Country
after my second husband died. I wanted to live near my daughter who settled here nearly 30 years ago. I’ve loved living here for 20 years. When I’m not writing, I read, play computer games (especially bridge), and watch good old movies from Netflix and current events on TV. MB: Where can readers find your books? NP: My books can be found on Google, Yahoo, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or directly from me at percival@skybest. com. Maggie Bishop lives in Watauga County, the setting for her mystery and romance novels. Regional books are available at Todd General Store, ArtWalk (Boone), Antiques on Howard (Boone) and Tuckers on Main (Blowing Rock). http://maggiebishop1.tripod. com. SEPTEMBER 2009 45
It’s Not What You Have, But What You Do BY SARAH G. HINNANT AND JAIRUS JENKINS, ASU JOURNALISM STUDENTS Patsy Eller has devoted her life to helping those around her. She insists, “I’ve just always tried to do the best I could do.” This is an ongoing theme that she values. As a child, Patsy sacrificed her time to help family and neighbors harvest tobacco crops and do other daily chores. She was always eager to increase her knowledge in various fields. Her grandmother taught her how to cook and provide for the family at a very young age. As Patsy gained wisdom and age, she also mastered the art of quilting. She started making elaborate quilts for
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Patsy Eller is known as a loving, humble and inspirational human being who brightens the world around her and is a driving force behind the success of Elk Knob Headwaters Community Day. Photo by Kelly Safley. her family and friends, using old scraps to make intricate patterns. Patsy’s father instilled in his children the value of utilizing time. Patsy says, “When Dad spoke, we knew to move.” As a child, Patsy and her brothers and sisters had a bedtime of eight o’clock every night. This ensured that Patsy and her siblings would be ready to get up at five in the morning to help milk cows and do other imperative tasks. Getting up early in the morning to do chores gave her a beautiful utilitarian outlook on life. Caring for others has always been a way of life for her. When Patsy’s grandmother taught her to cook as a child, she passed on many family cooking secrets. Patsy learned how to can all kinds of jellies and vegetables, which she still shares throughout the community. (She even taught us the proper way to make apple jelly – the secret is in the apple juice, but we won’t tell!) Patsy has always been very involved in the community. While she was rearing her son Scotty, her days were filled with volunteering at school events, taking kids to Sunday school, or giving kids a ride to the football game. Even today, she continues to be very involved with the annual Elk Knob Headwaters Community Day, which is scheduled this year for Saturday, September 12, from 11 a.m. until 4 p.m. With a heart as big as the sun, and her simply delicious blueberry pies and famous coconut cake, it’s no wonder that Patsy has become the chair for Headwaters Day. She is someone who truly cares about the people around her more than herself. She says about her community, “I love the people, they are caring.” In reality, it is Patsy who is so incredibly caring. This is a woman whose personality is infectious to everyone who crosses her path and who has a truly genuine demeanor. When she meets you, her true heart’s desire is to make you happy. www.aawmag.com
If Patsy could be summed up in three words, those words would be loving, humble, and inspirational. Everyone could take a life lesson from Patsy Eller. It’s not about what you have, but about what you do with the gifts with which you are blessed. Patsy Eller truly brings light to the world.
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Mom’s World| BY HEATHER JORDAN, CNM, MSN
“Set the Gearshift for the High Gear of Your Soul. . .” “Beware of women wearing Walkmen!”
These were the words my good friend, Emily, teased me with as we prepared to run up Grandfather Mountain. (Now certainly I would get a lot of arguments from folks that women in their late 20s to early 40s hardly qualify as “Golden Girls,” but I couldn’t help but think of this recent experience and how it caused my friends and me to reflect on what it means to complete such a challenge at this stage of our lives.) In trying to inspire and motivate myself to follow my own healthy living advice and start a regular exercise program, it was this goal that helped keep me going. I had approached Emily in early January with my goal to start running, and she quickly made me aware that she and another neighbor were planning on doing “The Bear,” a road race in which you climb approximately 1,500 feet over five miles heading from Linville to the Swinging Bridge at Grandfather Mountain. “I’m doing it,” I told her, despite the fact that I had not run regularly in probably fifteen years. I took on the challenge, not because I’m some superwoman or really felt the need for torture, but rather because I recognized the fact that, when it comes to something like exercise, I tend to have external motivators––such as other friends with expectations that we will do something together. So, this commitment with my friends helped me on weeks when energy was low, sleep deprivation was high, and my muscles were reminding me that I was no longer eighteen. As the race date drew closer, I was nonchalant. Truly, I was too busy to really ponder it much until the last day or two before the race, but then it hit. I told my mom, “I feel like I’m back in high school getting ready before a track meet!”
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My stomach was upset and I felt anxious. I knew that there was no pressure––nobody with expectations for time to beat or placement. I really just wanted to run as much of it as possible and finish. On race day, I picked up my packet and went home to change. I laughed as I fished through my drawer for what shirt would be comfortable and cool. I had carted around running garb forever, thinking one day I would get back into it. The only tanks I could find were from road races from years ago when I was still in track. I smiled and grabbed one from the Peaks of Otter Christmas Classic in 1984. Twenty-five years later I was running up a different mountain! Then, I found a fanny pack for my other blast from the past – an old Walkman to play a mixed tape from my husband from 1991. No, I did not have an iPod and had not taken the time to load my son’s MP3 player with songs. My CD player was skipping and I was back to the Walkman, which my husband informed me was celebrating its 25th anniversary that very week. So, there I was with our crew of women––all of us moms with 13 kids between us––wearing my Walkman and proud of it. My anxiety faded quickly and we set off with nearly 900 other runners, all of us finishing and feeling great with our times (even though it didn’t matter). The first song that played was Run Like An Antelope by Phish with the lyrics, “Set the gearshift for the high gear of your soul . . . and run like an antelope out of control.” It was great fun. I rediscovered my love for running, especially outside, and am eagerly looking for the next race. You might see me – I’m the one with the Walkman. Comments or questions about this article may be directed to Heather Jordan, Certified Nurse-Midwife, at the office of Charles E. Baker, MD at (828) 737-7711 ext. 253 or e-mail her at landh@localnet.com.
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High Country Courtesies| BY Sharon carlton
Intro to Introduction
Part 2
Beyond being able to introduce ourselves courteously, we need to be able to introduce our family, friends, business associates, and acquaintances to others. Understanding a few general guidelines for introducing people can help us feel confident and can help others feel comfortable in social encounters. Introduction etiquette involves precedence, an order in which people are addressed, greeted and introduced. The purpose of these basic introduction rules is to show respect for presumed position or accomplishments, not to demean or classify other people as inferior. A person of lesser accomplishment or position is presented to a person of greater accomplishment or position. Males are presented to females as a courtesy. The person doing the introducing should address the person of greater position or accomplishment first. • Male to female: “Mrs. Brown, may I introduce Mr. Jones? Mr. Jones, this is Mrs. Brown.” • Younger to older: “Grandma, this is my friend, Susan Edwards. Susan, this is my grandma, Mrs. Anderson.” • Persons of non-title to titled persons: “Mayor Smith, may I present my teacher, Mr. Williams? Mr. Williams, this is Mayor Smith.” Business contacts and staff are introduced to clients, students to teachers and guests to hosts. When introducing two persons to each other, we should include a little information about each of them, especially mentioning a common interest. The details of interest we offer may provide an opening for conversation. • “Coach Garcia, may I introduce my cousin, Chris? Chris plays soccer in Florida. Chris, this is Coach Garcia. He is my favorite soccer coach ever.” Formal introductions for a formal or business setting should include, “May I introduce…” and “I would like to introduce…” More casual introductions for friends are “This is…” and “I’d like you to meet…” Business etiquette has evolved to be genderless among peers. Bosses and supervisors should still be addressed according to traditional precedence. When we cannot remember someone’s name, we can attempt to be graceful. We can honestly confess, “I am so sorry. I cannot recall your name.” Or, we can bluff by addressing the person whose name we have forgotten, and by asking them if they have met the other person, hoping that they will introduce themselves. “Have you met my friend Steve? He was on my baseball team.” When introducing people, we should speak everyone’s names clearly. Should a name be misunderstood, we should politely correct the mispronunciation as soon and as graciously as possible to prevent further miscommunication. If we have met someone but are not sure they remember us, we should be thoughtful and proactive by reintroducing ourselves. “Hello, www.aawmag.com
Mrs. Sharpe, my name is Carol.” When we are introducing a friend to a small group, we introduce everyone in the group by name. However, when we are in a large group, introducing only the friend by name is appropriate, rather than everyone in the group. “Hello, everybody, this is my neighbor, Pat.” When we are introduced to other people, “How do you do?” is the best traditional acknowledgement. Upon meeting someone that we have anticipated meeting, saying, “I am so glad to meet you at last!” and then further commenting on the reasons we are glad is appropriate. When we lead the introduction process, we generally control the conversation. We can guide the new acquaintances to a simple appreciation of each other or, perhaps, to a budding connection. By learning how to politely conduct and receive introductions, we can smooth the process of meeting new people for others and we can make terrific first impressions for ourselves. Sharon Carlton, High Country Courtesies ©2009 Sharon Carlton conducts High Country Courtesies customer service workshops and is Director of High Country Cotillion, a social education program for youth. She writes and speaks on modern etiquette and life skills topics. Contact her at sacarlton@skybest. com
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YOU GO, GIRL!| BY SHERRIE NORRIS
Jessica Lawrence
Jessica Lawrence of Zionville made local headlines last spring when she and her boyfriend, Daniel Miller of Boone, not only captured firstplace honors in the NC Automobile Dealers Association competition, but also came in third place at the National Automotive Technology Competition in New York. The dynamic duo’s stellar performance resulted in their returning home with enough tools and scholarship opportunities to last most youngsters a lifetime. Since then, the two auto tech students have graduated from Watauga High School and, despite offers to attend several schools across the US, chose to enroll in Central Piedmont Community College to complete the Toyota T-Ten program. Through the Caldwell Community College - Huskins Dual Enrollment program, Jessica says, Jessica Lawrence and her boyfriend, Daniel Miller, left, have made they both completed 24 credit hours of automotive technology while headlines this year in both state and national auto tech competitions. in high school. “With the help of this program, we will be able to Photo by Sherrie Norris graduate Central Piedmont Community College in May.” After CPCC, through the school year, we started dating and have been ever since.” they both hope to work at Modern Toyota of Boone. A relationship “founded over our interest in vehicles,” she says, was a Their high school auto tech instructor, Larry Jones, had a huge stepping-stone to success. “We could practice anytime we wanted, or impact on the team’s success, Jessica says. “He sacrificed time after discuss things involved in the competition.” school and on snow days to help us learn the things we needed. He was At the state competition, however, they both were very nervous. no stranger to the competition as he has been there several times before “As soon as we began working on the car (a Toyota Matrix), our nerves with other students and, in 2006, he was named the state’s automotive calmed because we were well prepared.” They had 90 minutes to repair teacher of the year.” the car. “Within 20 minutes, we had diagnosed all the problems.” The Jessica admits to growing up a tomboy. “I’ve loved to fish and do national competition was “a completely different ballgame,” she recalls other outdoor activities all my life. I grew up helping my grandpa on – much more challenging, but their car was the first one running – and the dairy farm and I currently have nine cows that I have bottle-fed and within five minutes of their three allotted hours! raised. I’d like to own and operate a dairy farm one day.” “There were four pages of work orders, which means there were Jessica has been involved in many school and extracurricular about 20 problems with the car – ranging from disconnected wires to bad activities – basketball, clogging, etc. – since her days at Mabel Elementary, sensors and windshield wiper blades. Our judge told us we had a perfect where she attended kindergarten through eighth grade. car except we missed a worn wiper blade. We fixed every complicated Involvement in Pleasant Grove Baptist Church has been the problem on the car, but overlooked the most simple problem.” cornerstone of her life, she says, “since birth,” and has included Going into the competition, they hoped for a top-10 finish. “As the numerous years of Vacation Bible School (as student and teacher), Bible top 10 teams were being announced, we were so nervous we were nearly Drill competition (as a church, association and state winner, one year sick! We expected to hear our names until fifth place was announced and with a perfect score!), mission projects and trips locally as well as to such then assumed we were out. When they called our names as third place places as Canada and Ecuador. winner, we were astonished. We could hardly walk to the stage!” At Watauga High School, she was a member and chapter reporter Having competed in several arenas such as Bible Drills, clogging, of Skills USA, member of National FFA, National Beta Club and National FFA events, and basketball, Jessica says this one was much different. “I Honor Society. Among numerous recognitions and awards, Jessica was excited to be a part of it, but also nervous. I was glad to have Daniel received the Academic Letter and Lamp of Knowledge during each year helping me because he has worked on vehicles all his life.” of her high school career.As a junior, she received the Star Greenhand There was only one other girl in the competition, Jessica says, “And her Award as well as the Youth in Agriculture Award at Watauga County’s team did not place.” Farm City Banquet. When asked about the important things in life, Jessica’s reply is When asked about her fascination with auto mechanics, she simple. “The most important thing to me is knowing that without God’s explains, “A man who’s like a grandfather to me had a 1990 Chevrolet help, we could do nothing. He gave Daniel and me the ability to be skilled truck when I was growing up and he gave it to me when I turned sixteen. technicians.” It’s a gift, she says, that is not taken lightly. I not only became a Chevrolet fan, but I got interested in vehicles, which Since ninth grade, Jessica has been employed at New River Building influenced me to take auto mechanics in high school.” Supply as a cashier and does stocking, cleaning, and other office duties She met Daniel on the first day of high school in that class. “Halfway as needed. 50 SEPTEMBER 2009
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Continued from page 3. retirees will usually answer, “I don’t have time to be bored.” On the other hand, many relate that the plans they made prior to retirement have not necessarily come to fruition, yet they are not disappointed. Often, large chunks of time involve grandchildren, volunteer work, social groups, and other activities.
Illnesses: Illness and decreased mobility contribute to changes or abandonment of dreams for the retired. Caring for a family member with health issues causes the focus of life to change. It is important for caregivers to have a support system beyond the home to help them maintain a sense of normalcy. At the same time, the person who is in need of care needs to be encouraged to focus beyond his or her physical situation and develop new interests. It is essential to avoid conflict due to role reversals or other problems that arise due to the change.
Self-identity: How does a woman who has spent years in a career identify herself? Does she say, “I’m a retired nurse…teacher…secretary…social worker?” Although she has defined her life by her career in the past, she is more likely to now define herself as “retired” or “I used to be a…” Some women continue to be loosely connected with a former profession, often on a volunteer basis or in the capacity of a consultant – however, this does not always define them. Life has entered another stage.
Memory: Indeed, forgetfulness is common as people age. In the early stages of retirement, however, it is more likely the loss of routine that serves as a temporary basis for confusion. No longer does a scheduled discipline rule their world, but routine does help to minimize confusion. It is amusing to listen in on a gathering of senior citizens and hear elaborate descriptions of events from 60 years ago, but at the same time, the name of a well-known acquaintance is not easily retrieved. There may be more to blame on forgetfulness than old age. More information is available today than for any generation in history. Seniors have 65 years (plus!) of information filed away in long-term memory storage. On the other hand, short-term memory lasts approximately 18 seconds. Forgetfulness can be minimized in several ways: • Make lists of tasks and shopping needs. • Place appointments and events on a calendar. • Repeat someone’s name in a conversation several times, especially if it is a new acquaintance. • Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. • Maintain an active body and mind. • Make associations to help jog the memory; if a word cannot be retrieved, run quickly through the alphabet to try to find it. • Place important objects, such as keys, in the same place all the time. • Know when to say “No.”
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Cents and $ensibility|
BY corrinne loucks ASSAD
Credit Card Debt –
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I recently received a letter from my credit card company informing me that my interest rate would be raised from 7.99 percent to 23.5 percent on the first of the month! What did I do to deserve such wrath? I used my card. They thanked me for my 13-plus years of business, explaining that the current economy forced them to “adjust” customer rates, lower limits and/or cancel cards. I am, in their words, one of the customers whose business is so important that they’re only tripling my rate! Now that’s true appreciation. Apparently, credit card companies can not only change their rates at any time, they can also lower limits, change minimum payments, charge new fees and cancel at any time. It says so in the small print in that booklet they sent when you first received the card. You did read that booklet, didn’t you? Should you be lucky enough to receive a thank you letter such as mine, be careful to read through not just the small print, but the teeny–tiny print, too. I read that if I sent a letter by the 15th of the month, I could reject the new rate, provided I never used the card again. I did. Send the letter, that is. It reminded me of 20 years ago when AT&T offered thousands – myself included – the opportunity to sign on the dotted line, accepting our transfer to a sales position or to seek employment elsewhere. “Opportunity” is a fancy word for company downsizing. Newly passed legislation, scheduled to take effect early next year, is designed to protect us from just such credit card company tactics. The Credit Card Accountability, Responsibility and Disclosure Act I restricts their right to jack up rates indiscriminately or to seduce kids into easy credit/debt. It also prohibits unfair application of payments, limits fees and penalties, ensures that cardholders are informed as to the terms of their account, and protects those of us who pay on time. It will not, however, rein in your bad spending habits nor solve your credit card debt problems. Only you can do that. Some tips: 1. Stop Blaming Others for Your Credit Card Debt. It’s not the economy, the system, your boss or your income. You’re not stupid or bad. You made a willing decision to borrow what you did not have. The very first month that you could not pay your balance in full, you exceeded your income. That was the beginning. The good news is you got yourself into this and you will get yourself out! 2. Make Every Penny Count. Don’t think of money in categories, such as gas money or grocery money or clothing allowance. If you seriously intend to pay it off, you’ll use money you might have used in other ways to pay down the debt. 52 SEPTEMBER 2009
3. Stop Before Considering Pay-off With Home Equity Line of Credit. If your debt is manageable and you just want to save some interest, then okay. If you think you have an inkling of a chance of declaring bankruptcy, don’t use a HELOC. The worst a credit company can do is to send you to collections. The worst a bank holding your equity line can do? Take your home.
4. Sell Any Non-restricted Investments to Pay Credit Cards. Rule of thumb: It’s always better to lower debt where the interest rate is 10 -12 percent or more and is not tax deductible. Choose which investments very carefully, however, as some cashouts could have nasty tax consequences. Consider selling stocks and bonds. The capital gains tax you pay is nothing compared to bad credit card debt. And if there was no gain, you’ll have a writeoff. 5. Pay Off Your Lowest Balances First. Once paid off, use that additional money to pay extra on the next card, etc. Referred to as “snowballing” in the financial industry, this method results in higher (and higher!) payments being made to each creditor until the last one is paid off. 6. Send Extra Cash As Payment. Making sure your minimum payments have been made in full and on time, and send any extra money in as additional payment. This can be $5, $10 or $12.34. If it’s in your wallet, you’ll spend it. Send it in as an additional payment and your balances will slowly disappear. 7. Cut Up Your Cards or Make Them Difficult to Access. An age - old technique is to freeze the card in a block of ice, restricting impulse buys. You may think you cannot pay your bills without them. If that is indeed true, you need to change your lifestyle, not just your spending habits. Credit cards are not paying your bills, but extending time until the day when you’re in bigger trouble. Learn to use your debit card instead. That’s the true test of whether or not you can afford it. 8. Get a Second Job or Other Form of Additional Income. If you are serious about paying off debt, and you should be, you will find ways to make additional money and pay off credit cards. You will have to sacrifice to meet your goal. It could take a year or it could take a few years. But after that time, you will be on your way to financial independence.
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making their Cotillion experience enjoyable and inspirational. In covering age-appropriate topics for each class, we coach students in classic and current etiquette: introduction skills, making conversation, using common courtesies, technology (telephone, cell phone and Internet) etiquette, team work, thank you notes, RSVPs, dining etiquette, making a good impression in an interview situation, and more!” she said. “And we do it through games, skits, and interactive discussion!” By popular request, Club Cotillion events will continue this season. After the high school classes, these events offer an additional fun, safe environment to socialize and dance with friends. Rather than a class atmosphere, Club Cotillion is a dance. Any current or previous High Country Cotillion student may attend and bring a friend. Guest DJs play great tunes for dancing and lead the group in non-stop activities and dancing. At last spring’s finale event, ASU Chancellor Kenneth Peacock urged students to continue using the skills that they were learning at Cotillion. “These are the skills that will get you through life,” he told students. For more information about High Country Cotillion, visit www.highcountrycotillion. com, or call Sharon Carlton at (828) 2973133 (Limited partial scholarships are available for worthy students.) SEPTEMBER 2009 53
Young at Heart| BY Heather Young
I Remember Cece
Grandmothers from popular fiction and film are often the apron-wearing, cookie-baking, grandchild-doting variety. My grandmother, Pauline, was not one of these. She was a stern woman, very proper and very stubborn and most certainly not one to spoil a grandchild. She probably would have felt more at home as the warden of a women’s prison than she ever did playing with her grandchildren. I respected my grandmother, but was always a bit afraid of her. I regret that I was never able to get past the childhood awe to develop a warm and fond relationship with my grandmother before she passed away. Never having had an affectionate relationship with my grandmother, I did not realize that such a rapport could be exceedingly rewarding. Then, I met Roger’s grandmother, Cece, and witnessed their bond. My eyes were opened! Roger and Cece had a closeness I envied. She was the warm, loving grandmother I had always imagined. She baked, she told great stories and, yes, she doted on her grandchildren and great-grandchildren. She was also graceful, interesting and independent – everything I strive to be. Cece was a classic southern matriarch who reigned not with an iron fist, but with courtesy, patience, a sense of humor and the knowledge that we humans are not perfect. She always had perfectly coiffed hair, wore a bit of a heel and never left the house without a touch of lipstick. Cece never had to demand respect; it was given willingly. I always felt very welcome at Cece’s home. If she felt that I was not good enough for her grandson, she certainly never let me know. She was the perfect hostess, never failing to offer a freshly baked treat or an ice-cold Coke. I enjoyed perusing the family photos that lined the walls, some from the early days of her marriage and many of her ever-growing progeny. She had a collection of stories that I never tired of hearing. Cece had a way of spinning the tale so that the listener would find himself laughing each and every time. I especially appreciated her recollections of Roger’s childhood renditions of popular jingles, and her anecdotes of the trip to Europe, where she acted as chaperone for Roger’s French class. She not only had to retrieve his forgotten passport, but she had to intervene with an unfortunate bus driver who experienced the effects of Roger’s stomach bug firsthand. Over the years, I began to think that maybe Cece would let me adopt her. She was always very kind to me, asking if I was warm enough when we would visit, showing an interest in my job and changing her patented recipe for squash casserole to accommodate my aversion to mushrooms. We shared an interest in food, albeit very different styles. She was firmly in the Paula Deen camp, while I belong to Team Morimoto. Although southern cuisine is not what I grew up eating, I never tasted anything that Cece had prepared that was a disappointment. She baked wonderful zucchini muffins and was an expert at all things dessert. She was equally fair with my culinary experiments and was willing to try the ethnic restaurants to which Roger and I would drag her. One such experience was my 30th birthday party. I was extremely pleased that Cece had agreed to make the trip with Roger’s parents. The meal was a 12-course Chinese feast, complete with unpronounceable 54 SEPTEMBER 2009
dishes that most of my quests had never before seen or tasted. I had taken great care to plan a menu that I thought would appeal to everyone, even those who had never eaten real Chinese food. Cece enthusiastically tried each and every dish that passed by her plate. Earlier this year, I was honored when she accepted my invitation to Mother’s Day tea. She was very complimentary of my cucumber sandwiches and iced tea (and my iced tea-making skills are sorely lacking). It was a very pleasant afternoon. Cece passed away on July 4th at the age of 91. The minister appropriately noted in her eulogy that it was right for such an independent woman to depart this life on Independence Day. She was still living on her own, cooking her own meals and enjoying her favorite hobbies, like playing bridge and watching reruns of Murder She Wrote. She never lost the feisty spirit that I admired, and she refused to be defeated by age or its inconveniences. Even with failing eyes and a dependence on oxygen, Cece would eagerly jump up at family meals to refill drinks or clear plates. I never realized just how fond of Cece I was until she was gone. I am saddened that I did not get to spend more time with her, but I cannot help but smile when I recall her stories, her enthusiasm and her feistiness. I feel fortunate to have known her, and I hope she does not mind if I think of her as my adopted grandmother. I have no doubt that from time to time I will see or hear or taste something that will be reminiscent of her, and in the moment, I will remember Cece!
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Your Home|BY CORRINNE LOUCKS ASSAD
Which Hue Speaks For You?
The colors we choose for our home’s interior affect us every day. Our mood, emotions, thoughts and even our appetites are influenced by the colors with which we choose to surround ourselves. Many colors have profound significance in some nations and cultures. Rather than worrying about what’s in or what’s out when it comes to decorating, it’s more important to consider family personalities and the type of mood you wish to convey. For colors that withstand time, choose wisely, ensuring that they flow smoothly from room to room. Consider the size, purpose and desired ambiance of each room. Whether working with experience or having no idea where to start, it’s good to check out decorator magazines, books and Web sites for ideas. Work around the colors in your favorite furniture, as matching paint to furniture is much easier than the reverse. Ask your paint supplier to mix paint in sample sizes so that you can try it on the walls before investing in several gallons. As a general rule, light colors make a room feel brighter and more expansive. Darker colors can help larger rooms feel more intimate by giving a warm and sophisticated air. Let’s take a look at some of today’s more popular colors in home decor: Intense red pumps the adrenaline. Red is a good choice for stirring up energy and emotions. Known to cause a fight-or-flight response, red has been proven to raise blood pressure, heartbeat, increase circulation – and can cause irritability. On the positive side, red can stir up conversation in a living or dining room. It also makes a strong first impression in an entryway. Red is often considered to be too stimulating for bedrooms unless you spend time there only at night, when the lamp light can make it look rich and warm. In general, red should be avoided as the main color of any room as it can break down the sense of peace and hospitality. Yellow causes eye fatigue but evokes joy and happiness. Energizing and uplifting, it’s a great choice for kitchens, dining rooms and bathrooms. Paint your bathroom yellow, and you’re sure to be awake and in a good mood after your morning shower! The yellow rose is a symbol of friendship, less passionate or threatening than red. Not a great choice in the main living areas, however, yellow can also cause anxiety, raise tempers and has been found to make babies cry. It is no secret that fast food restaurants often use the anxious, quick–paced combination of red and yellow so that their customers will have increased appetites, dash in, make quick decisions and then dash back out. www.aawmag.com
Green is easy on the eyes. Green can be a good color for just about any room in the house. Medium greens, like sage, cool things down in the kitchen. In a family room, green promotes comfort and togetherness. Green also has a calming effect when used as the main color in a decorating scheme. Most often cited as a favorite color, green represents nature, health, youth, spring and vigor. Green can make a great bedroom color, as ancient lore attributes fertility to the color green! Blues – calming, relaxing and serene. Blues are often recommended for bedrooms and bathrooms. The warmer shades such as periwinkle, slate or turquoise, are good choices for promoting a relaxing environment in the main living areas of a home. In rooms with little or no natural light, however, check the paint on the wall before committing, as it can come across as cold and uninviting – think “swimming pool” blue. Also beware of dark shades of blue, as they can feel depressing or sad. In China, blue is associated with immortality. For Jews it symbolizes holiness. In the Middle East, it is a protective color. Representing peace and tranquility, blue is considered to be the safest global color. Rich and luxurious purple. Perceived as royal, sophisticated and creative, purple makes a terrific second color or furniture accent color, offering great depth. Purple dye was once made from the mucous gland of a snail. It required thousands of snails to yield 1 gram of dye, causing it to be a color only nobles could afford. Today purple is a trendy color for creative types. In lighter shades such as lilac or lavender, purples have the same calming effect as the blues and are often used in the offices of healing professionals, such as doctors and dentists, or in massage rooms. Exciting orange Great for a fitness or game room, orange evokes excitement, energy and enthusiasm! It has been used for attention-getting tactics, as with caution signs. It signifies vibrancy and flamboyancy. Keep this color out of sleeping areas! The above list is a generalization of the effects that different colors can have on mood. While perception of color can be somewhat objective, there is no denying that colors have specific emotional qualities and universal meanings. From advertising to interior design, color tops priority lists. Memory, culture, history and personal preference can all play on the effects on your mood. Avoid trends and go for what you like, what speaks to you. You don’t have to be an expert to know your colors. SEPTEMBER 2009 55
Healthy Lady| BY CLARISSA SHEPHERD WITH BONNIE CHURCH, CNC, WELLNESS COACH
Finding Your Way through Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue
In 1992, Clarissa Shepherd was stricken ill. Her body ached. She felt exhausted. She had unexplained memory loss, debilitating migraines and nausea. Just getting through the day was a challenge. The diagnosis: Chronic Fatigue Immune Deficiency [CFID] and Fibromyalgia [FM]. These often paired disease states are characterized by a constellation of symptoms: muscle pain, morning stiffness, headaches, irritable bowel syndrome, numbness or tingling of the extremities, restless legs syndrome, painful menstrual periods, temperature sensitivity and cognitive and memory problems (sometimes referred to as “fibro fog”), headaches, tender lymph nodes, sore throat, headache and incapacitating fatigue. Ninetyfive percent of FM and CFID sufferers are women between the ages of 35-55. In her book, Find Your Way - A Guide to Healing While Living With Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome and Fibromyalgia, Shepherd shares the steps she took, under the guidance of her health practitioners, to restore her wellbeing. “There is no cure for CFIDS nor FM, yet there is hope for a brighter future,” she concurs. Some highlights of Clarissa’s’ action plan include: Remove Chemicals: “CFID and FM patients are extra sensitive to chemicals. Being exposed can cause you to be sick. Exposure can even worsen the symptoms of your illness. These chemicals include, but are not limited to, perfumes, colognes, smelly hair products, air fresheners, cleaning products, laundry detergents and dryer sheets. The things you put on your body, such as shampoo, soap, lotion and deodorant should be gentle and unscented, when possible.“ Change Diet “As much as is possible for you, remove the following from your diet for three months: milk, wheat, sugar, corn and peanut products. Sometimes these can cause reactions adding to your exhaustion and stomach problems. You can find wheat-free and soy products at some grocery 56 SEPTEMBER 2009
markets and at health food stores. Removing these items for a while will give your system time to take a good breather.”
vision problems and plays a role in the immune system health. (7) Ginkgo Biloba: Helps with memory and brain fog. (8) Garlic: Supports the immune system. (9) Milk Thistle: Great for eliminating toxins from the liver and also good for liver function. (10) Probiotic Acidophilus: Promotes healthy function of the intestines. (11) Omega 3 Salmon Oil: Important for cellular, heart and metabolic health. Helps to balance hormones.
Deep Breathing and Exercise “When you are ill, you don’t realize that you aren’t breathing all the way into your diaphragm. As you learn to breathe normally, more oxygen reaches your brain. This helps to In her book, Find Your Way - A Guide to Healing While Living With Chronic Fatigue Immune restore a feeling of well-being and relaxation,” Dysfunction Syndrome and Fibromyalgia, Clarissa Shepherd says. She also practices Chi Kung. Shepherd shares the steps she took, under the “It is an ancient Chinese exercise used both guidance of her health practitioners, to restore her to relax you and to send good energy or (Chi) throughout your body. There are six groups of wellbeing. breathing exercises contained in this Chi Kung exercise.” Her book contains specific exercises that helped her restore stamina and energy. Drink Water “You also need to drink eight 10–oz. glasses of water a day. This helps to wash unwanted Acupuncture “This ancient Chinese healing technique is toxins from the body and is just generally good for us. Just keep water around wherever you are of great benefit. It can relieve pain and fatigue, and sip it through the day.” adding to the progression of healing. Acupuncture can work to complement those other changes you’re making for your body and your life.” Suggested Supplementation Start slowly, under the supervision of your Grace health care provider: “Be especially kind to yourself. Don’t feel (1) Co-Q-10: Essential to the production of energy by almost every cell in the body. guilty or beat yourself up because you need extra (2) B-12: Helps with energy and care, naps, or must rest many times throughout emotional wellbeing. the day. Your body needs this as healing time. (3) Calcium, Magnesium, Zinc: Your mind needs this as down time. After all, if Calcium is good for bone health. Magnesium is you don’t do this for yourself, then who will? You helpful with inflammation. Zinc is an excellent deserve the best for your life. Be true to you.” For more details on each specific step, support for the immune system. (4) Vitamin C: Supports the immune order a copy of Find your Way - A Guide system and vision. to Healing While Living With Chronic (5) Vitamin E: A powerful antioxidant Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome and Fibromyalgia at www.booksurge.com and also helps with immune system function. (6) Vitamin D: Good for long bone pain, or call (866) 308-6235.
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Among the Tuesday morning Old Timers League at Boone Bowling Center are these Golden Girls who stay fit and have loads of fun every week. One member, Faye Foley, who has bowled for 32 years in Boone, serves as the secretary and is among those who say they wouldn’t miss it for anything. Photo by Mark Mitchell.
SEPTEMBER: Aug 21 - Sep 6 Hank Williams: Lost Highway, A musical biography of the country legend. Presented by the Blowing Rock Stage Company. Showtimes vary. Hayes Performing Arts Center. (828) 295-9627. 4 Bluegrass and Barbeque Bonanza, to benefit Watauga Arts Council, 4:30 p.m. Live music and food. Ticket prices tax deductible. Call (828) 264-1789 or visit www.wataugaarts.org; see special events. Downtown Boone Art Crawl beginning at 5 p.m. Sponsored by Downtown Boone Development Association Public Art Program. Call (828) 262-4532 or visit www.boonenc.org. High Country Beer Fest, Broyhill Inn & Conference Center, Boone. Call (800) 9516048 for details. 5 - 6 Labor Day/ Award Show Week – Fine Art and Craft Show. 10 a.m.- 5 p.m. Great Train Robbery, Banner Elk Call (828) 898-8645 for details. 6 New River Blues Festival featuring regional and national blues musicians. 1:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. At Jefferson Landing, Jefferson, NC www.aawmag.com
Mountainhome Music presents Salute to All Those Who Labor. 8 p.m. First Baptist Church of Boone. Led by Joe Shannon and the MHM Bluegrass Boys. Call (828)-964-3392. The 2009 High Country Praise Festival 4:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m. The Holmes Center, Boone. Admission $5.00. Call (828) 2626603 for details. 11 - 12 5th Blue Ridge Relay Mountains of Virginia and North Carolina. Call (336) 877-8888 for details. 12 Grandfather Mountain Kidfest. 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. Guided hikes, games, storytellers, music and fun. Included with park admission. Call (800) 468-7325. 47th Annual Art in the Park, 10 a.m. - 5 p.m. Downtown Blowing Rock. Awardwinning juried art and fine handcraft show with 100 exhibitors. Call (800)-295-7851. 12 - 13 Annual Farm Heritage Day and Country Fair, 10 a.m., Historic Cove Creek School in Sugar Grove. Old-Fashioned family fun. Farm exhibits, live music, petting zoo, crafts, and more! Call (828) 297-2200. 13 Blowing Rock Concerts in the Park, 4 p.m.; Memorial Park, Downtown Blowing
Rock featuring The Watauga Community Band. Free. Call (828) 295-7851. 18 - 19 7th Annual Ashe County Quilt Fair. Friday, 10 a.m. - 6 p.m.; Saturday 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. Approx. 100 quilts on display. Jefferson Station, West Jefferson. (336) 2463230. 19 Elkland International Puppet Festival, Todd Mercantile in Todd. Family fun organized and hosted by Elkland Art Center. Features world-class puppetry for all ages. Call (336) 877-5016. 5th Annual Watauga Lake Triathlon. Meet at Sugar Grove Baptist Church, Butler, TN. Sponsored by Footsloggers. USAT Sanctioned. Door prizes, awards, and BBQ dinner. For information, visit www. wataugalaketriathlon.com 39th Annual American Girl Scout Day at Grandfather. Mountain. Girl Scouts and troop leaders admitted free with proof of membership. Discount admission for other family members. Call (800) 468-7325. High Country Hospice Fall Ball. Chetola Resort, Blowing Rock. For tickets/information call (828) 265-9443. SEPTEMBER 2009 57
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