Helping Children Emotionally Prepare to Return to School

By Frances Sanchez-Duverge, Psy.D, Healthcare Network of Southwest Florida

Raising little ones is a challenge in the best of times; however, since the coronavirus pandemic, it has presented new obstacles for parents, caregivers, and educators alike. The question of how to balance keeping our children safe, intellectually stimulated, and socially adept has been a point of concern in our community since mid-February when our new normal shocked families across the country. The upcoming academic year brings a new level of uncertainty, and questions abound.

My child is nervous going back to school because of COVID-19. How can I help?

In this regard, information is key. Helping your children understand what COVID-19 is and how it can impact their lives can be useful in dispelling some myths that can exacerbate anxiety. Education will depend on their age and developmental level. The Florida State University Center for Child Stress & Health has a story and activity book that can help parents explain the virus to younger children. Families can access this resource at www. fsustress.org/ebook.html. With our older children, it is important to discuss sourcing of information, ensuring that they are accessing reliable outlets of healthcare education rather than depending solely on social media.

How can I encourage my child to follow precautions?

Practice, practice, practice. Modeling handwashing and physical distancing, and developing them into habits will help turn these behaviors into second nature. When it comes to younger children, reminding them not to share food or drink and teaching proper mask usage will be critical. Labeling personal items will help encourage their sense of personal property and aid teachers and caregivers when organizing lunchtime and other such activities. With our teens, the conversation about the birds and the bees has never been more critical. Intimate activities such as kissing, sex, and even handholding carry an inherent risk that should be discussed within families.

I’ve decided to keep my child at home. How can I help ensure he doesn’t feel isolated?

Although we have a natural tendency to discourage screen time in favor of active play, the role of screens has taken on new meaning since COVID-19 and a new priority. Allowing your child to engage with peers through electronic means (i.e., Xbox, PS4, FaceTime, etc.), with appropriate parental controls, may help alleviate some of the loneliness that can ensue. Likewise, thoughtful discussion with children about what led to the decision to homeschool will help keep feelings of resentment at bay since they may feel it is unfair that peers are going back to school while they are not.

How can I emotionally check in with my children to ensure they are OK?

Younger children are usually quite transparent in their feelings despite having difficulty articulating them. Regressive behaviors such as tantrums, thumb sucking, or requesting bed-sharing can be some indicators of emotional distress. Older children may show some self-isolation and withdrawal from the family. In both cases, engaging in activities of togetherness such as family game night, movie night, or family dinners can assist parents in staying attuned to their children’s emotional cues. Parents should not hesitate to contact their child’s pediatrician should they notice these signs, as early intervention is key to maintaining physical and emotional well-being.