Marriage Problems: Conflict as a Positive Process? Do you believe, that the process of resolving interpersonal conflicts means investing a lot of energy just to solve a situations that are unpleasant? And from that perception that you always feel that conflict is a negative force in your marriage? Would you agree that most of us have have not been educated to confront anyone, and specially not the ones they care in a such way that the issue resolved *BUT* the relationship reinforced? photo by:jcoterhals So today, you will see conflict as a positive process of change and growth in your relationship. You should first accept that interpersonal conflicts are inseparable from our human nature. And that by confronting our problems we grow and reach our full potential. We live in a world full of diversities: there are differences of opinion, fate, personalities and beliefs. But without these differences, you become stagnant and growth will never be possible. But conflict is not handled properly can be unpredictable and cause people to react in a defensive manner. This is why most people will do almost anything to avoid a confrontation. But how can you view it as a positive process? It's through conflicts and confrontations that:
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You are able to clarify important problems and issues and avoid focusing on the person.
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You can come up with solutions to individual problems that leave both parties in a better position than before.
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You can work together in resolving issues important to the other person.
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Promotes authentic communication and helps you in working through emotion, anxiety, and stress.
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Builds cooperation through learning more about each other.
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Helps you develop understanding of other's positions and interpersonal skills.
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Provides recognition and acceptance of each other's humanity.
By accepting that this process of conflict is leading you to maturity, growth and positive change in your relationship, you scan start seeing conflicts as the necesary step to build a solid foundation. You will never know what you can achieve without challenge and opposition. You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force you to do so. In short, without the necessary conflict, you will never grow. Neil Warner is the Co Author of the The Art of Positive Conflicts. If you are having more conflicts that you can manage, you must find a better solution to fix your current problem before it is too late! Learn how to deal with marriage problems as soon as possible!