Health

A matrix for change

Our past experiences can allow us to be governed by fear that holds us back from change. We are perpetually shying away from growth opportunities because it doesn't 'feel good'. Change does feel strange and that's OK, as long as you are prepared to push through it and get the reward on the other side, which is improving who you are as a person, ultimately leading to more happiness.

Change is inevitable, progress is not. As the world spins around us we are constantly changing, the only problem is when we get stuck in our stagnant day-to-day and don't challenge ourselves to see things in a different way. When you set yourself a path and make the most of change and head towards your goals, you actively progress. Become an agent of change — the one that seeks out the challenges and dives in deep to the uncomfortable feeling when change is all around us. The only thing that stays the same is change. Effective acceptance of change takes personal trust in self. When we are growing up our emotional awareness is formed by the experiences we have. As adults we need to go back and question how much we trust ourselves, and if not, then work out how to build that trust. We no longer need to be governed by the beliefs that we created about ourselves as children. Start setting yourself small goals and set out to achieve them to build trust in yourself. Change is not the end, it’s the beginning. Let's face it, we all need an adjustment period when new things happen. We need to wait for it to grow on us, and those of us who see it as an opportunity are the real winners. When chaos hits then these guys are the ones looking for the silver lining. If we take on this mindset, we can look for opportunities that would otherwise be turned down because we were too emotional and not ready for change. The person most able to change will succeed. We all do it, but ask yourself: how could I change my mindset to be more receptive to change and what effects would that have on my life? What would happen if I stayed resistant to change in five years? Our thoughts should be occupied with what we can control and influence.

We can only focus our attention on a limited number of things in life, and if you allocate too many of them with worry then you are wasting your energy. The only things you can control are your own actions, thoughts, and beliefs. The rest is not worth stressing over. You need to be the cause of your own happiness. It’s all up to how you focus your attention. Are you always coming up with reasons why you can’t instead of reasons why you can? Where is all your brain power going? Rock this new change attitude with pride and call yourself up on any resistance you feel. Associate change with growth.

Dani Ferrier is a life coach who runs empowerment workshops from Warwick House.

Culturalchameleons

Mapua Village Bakery

Come and experience their warm, friendly atmosphere with the delightful aromas of a homestyle bakery and cafe. Bring the kids, have your meeting, or just indulge in one of their many delightful food options. Try their gourmet pies, artisan breads or lavish cakes. They serve supreme coffee which will add a bounce to your day.

68 Aranui Rd, Mapua Ph: 03 540 3656 www.mapuavillagebakery.co.nz

Ambrosia Café

As soon as you step inside, the smell of freshly brewed coffee and the delicious daily fare sets your mouth watering. Ambrosia Café is licensed, so whether you want a quick coffee and something sweet, brunch, lunch with friends, a business lunch or a glass of wine and a snack, it’s all here. Open every day.

226 Queen St, Richmond Ph: 03 544 0025 www.ambrosiacafe.co.nz

Anchor Restaurant and Bar

Top quality food is best served with amazing ocean views! Blessed with a fantastic spot on the water, you will feel welcomed and won’t want to leave. Specialising in local seafood and steaks, there are also delectable choices for non-meat eaters, people with special dietary needs and kids.

62 Vickerman St, Port Nelson Ph: 03 546 6614 www.anchorrestaurant.co.nz

McCashin’s Tap Room

Calling all steak lovers! We’ve extended our menu to share the very best and most flavoursome beef steaks. Choose from dry aged Angus sirloin, T bone, ribeye or sirloin served with your choice of four delectable sauces and your favourite sides. Best served alongside one of our own locally made brews. Open breakfast until late 7 days.

660 Main Rd, Stoke Ph: 03 547 0329 www.mccashins.co.nz

The Indian Cafe

With three great locations you can enjoy Indian Cafe’s delicious food no matter where you are. Head in and find out why Indian Café is the favourite choice for anyone looking for the highest quality food and a memorable cuisine experience. All venues offer intimate restaurant dining and courtyard settings and takeaway options.

94 Collingwood St, Nelson | Ph: 03 548 4089 266 Queen St, Richmond | Ph: 03 544 8979 201 Songer St, Stoke | Ph: 03 547 0008 www.theindiancafe.co.nz