Mature Lifestyles - Southwest May 2011 edition by Lifestyles After 50 Magazine

VOLUME 22, NUMBER 5

SOUTHWEST

MAY 2011

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Seniors Celebrate Love Both Early and Late in Life I

t’s always fun to hear a love story, isn’t it? Brookdale Senior Living owns and operates a number of senior living communities throughout the U.S. and they have collected some of its residents’ own classic love stories. The newest (and oldest) wedded couple within the Brookdale family met at The Kenwood Lake View in Chicago during 2007. Tom Stinchcomb, 89, had spotted Joan Garrison, 91, and a friend of hers standing in line at the buffet. Stinchcomb introduced himself to the ladies and asked if they’d mind if he joined them at their table. From then on, Stinchcomb took advantage of every opportunity to spend time with Garrison. Before they were married, the couple lived in the same building but ten floors apart. Stinchcomb, always a

gentleman, would see Garrison to her apartment to ensure she arrived safely after events they attended. From there, their love blossomed culminating in their recent wedding. Carriage Club Charlotte resident Emily Bauermeister has found love and romance three times. Bauermeister met her third husband, Herman, at an elder hostel in Tennessee and knew immediately that she was going to marry him. For a time she ignored Mr. Bauermeister’s attempts to get to know her, but they eventually went to dinner together. Shortly after they met, he started talking about marriage. They married and spent 25 years together. “I can tell you first-hand these two were a match made in heaven,” said Jaynie Segal, life enrichment director for Carriage Club Charlotte. “They were always holding hands,

laughing, enjoying this special time in their lives together, always finding something to talk about and always finding time to steal a kiss.” William Speir, resident of Cypress Village in Florida, took the time to write his wife, Bobbie, of 58 years an emotional poem titled “Dear Bobbie, Do You Remember?” The poem highlights their history together and ends, “The glue of love is still bonding us together – Love is what I remember. Do you remember?” When Carol Mitchell moved into the Classic West Palm Beach, a Brookdale Senior Living independent and assisted living community in Florida, she wasn’t looking for love. However, last June, Jack Levy was sitting in the lobby when he first spotted Mitchell on a tour of the community. She moved in two weeks later, and he next saw her swimming as he sat by the pool reading. He did not take his eyes off her and soon waved to her, beckoning her to join him.

They found they had a lot in common: books, theater, museums and even their favorite New York City restaurants. That night, Levy cooked dinner for Mitchell and they began seeing each other every day. He proposed later that year, and they wed in November 2010. At the Heritage Raleigh, residents Flo Moore and John DeGraff met in November 2006. They met by discovering that they were both Republicans in that election year. They began playing bridge together and taking walks every day, holding hands and enjoying their friendship. Their love has survived his throat cancer and other health problems. Recently, they were sitting outside, holding hands, and a woman crossed the parking lot to where they were sitting to say, “I wish I had what you have!” Don’t we all? Full narratives of each story are available at www.facebook.com/ brookdaleseniorliving.

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This Month, Remember Mom’s Advice

BY JANICE DOYLE Dear Readers,

ay is always a busy month for magazines because so many special days Janice Doyle, have been plopped on Editor May’s calendar page over the years. We could focus on May Day, Mothers Day, Memorial Day and graduation. There’s even a No Socks Day in May as well as National Buttermilk Biscuit Day. As a special month, it’s also Older Americans Month and Jewish American Heritage Month. We couldn’t focus on everything, but we have a great May issue for you to read! To honor Mothers Day, I couldn’t resist once again sharing this little piece because I find it so meaningful myself. Read it and let the memories flow! The Stages of Motherhood

4 Years of Age: My Mommy can do anything. 8 Years of Age: My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot.

12 Years of Age: My Mother doesn’t really know quite everything. 14 Years of Age: Naturally, Mother doesn’t know that, either. 16 Years of Age: Mother? She’s hopelessly old-fashioned. 18 Years of Age: That old woman? She’s way out of date.

25 Years of Age: Well, she might know a little bit about it. 35 Years of Age: Before we decide, let’s get Mom’s opinion. 45 Years of Age: Wonder what Mom thinks about it?

65 Years of Age: Wish I could talk it over with Mom. And, just for fun, remember what our mothers said to us. Of course, none of us were going to say these things to our own children— we were far too modern when our little ones came along! • Always wear clean underwear; you never know when you’ll have an accident. • Don’t make that face or it’ll solidify in that position.

• Be careful or you’ll put your eye out. • What if everyone jumped into a well? Would you do it, too? • You have enough filth behind those ears to grow potatoes!

• Close that door! Were you born in a barn? • If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.

• Don’t put that thing in your mouth; you don’t know where it’s been!

What’s inside We offer you a great selection of articles this month. Since May is Jewish American Heritage Month, we were honored when Tracie Schmidt of our staff was invited to interview Elie Wiesel last month. Read her article and learn how a teenaged Holocaust survivor went forward to influence the world. He’s an Older American we can honor in every way. As you read the story about Wiesel, you will find nothing in his gentle wisdom that would tell you about a recent tragedy in his life. Wiesel is one of those who invested with Bernie Madoff—not just his personal money, but also over 15 million of the Wiesel Foundation for Humanity’s funds. Gone, and yet he never mentioned it in the interview. There’s much diversity in this issue, from our ongoing love affair with jeans to the disconcerting facts about artificial sweeteners and fish oil. You’ll want to sign up for a cruise aboard one of Royal Caribbean’s giant ships after you read the publisher’s article about her cruise on the Allure of the Seas. Be sure to take along the information you learn from our brand new column series “Deal Me In” for the tips you want about your gaming life. For your feel-good pleasure, we’ll also let you in on some love stories as well as tell you how to eat right at KFC. Enjoy.

Older Americans: Connecting the Community

very May since 1963, people in towns and cities across the country have celebrated the enormous contributions of older Americans. Older Americans Month is our chance to show appreciation and support for seniors as they continue to enrich and strengthen our communities. This year’s theme—Older Americans: Connecting the Community—pays homage to the many ways in which older adults bring inspiration Mature Lifestyles • May 2011 • page 4

and continuity to the fabric of communities. Their shared histories, diverse experiences and wealth of knowledge make our culture, economy and local character what they are today. Older Americans are more active in community life than ever before, thanks in part to advances in health care, education, technology and ﬁnancial stability over the last several decades that have greatly increased their vitality and standard of living.

We salute all of you for giving back and making a difference in your communities. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging to ﬁnd out about volunteer opportunities in your community. In Pinellas and Pasco Counties, call (727) 570-9696. In Hillsborough and Manatee Counties, call (813) 7403888. In Lee and Sarasota Counties, call (239) 652-6900. For Lake and Marion Counties, call (352) 378-6649.

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Around Town

W H AT ’ S H A P P E N I N G M AY 2 0 1 1

– 28 “Poked in the Mind’s Eye: The Humorous Perspective of Doug MacGregor” artwork exhibit at Lee County Alliance for the Arts, 10091 McGregor Blvd., Fort Myers. Visit ArtInLee.org.

Praise Fest 2011 at the Lee County Civic Center. 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. Call (239) 464-5534 for information.

Second Saturday Mackle Park Movie Classics on Marco Island. 7 – 10 p.m. Please call (239) 642-0575 for information.

Art After Dark stroll through Crayton Cove, an Old Naples village-style destination on Naples Bay, 810 12th Ave. S., Naples. Contact (239) 659-2787 for details.

– 15 Spring Dog Show at Lee Civic Center, 11831 Bayshore Rd., N., Ft. Myers. More information at (239) 945-2776.

Taste of the Beach for best local cuisine on Ft. Myers Beach. For information, call (239) 332-2930.

Afternoon Live Radio Show Theme Dance and Lunch featuring Donnie Falknor. Lake Kennedy Senior Center. 1:30 p.m. $10. (239) 574-0575.

Martin Preston as Liberace for Mother’s Day matinee and twilight shows at Broadway Palm Dinner Theater. Tickets at (239) 278-4422.

Mother’s Day Brunch at the Edison & Ford Winter Estates. 11 a.m. brunch. Adults $35; Please call (239) 334-7419 to register.

Mother’s Day Cruises on the Fort Myers Princess. Brunch cruise at 10 a.m.; 1:30 p.m. and 5:30 p.m. cruises. $39/person. Depart Nervous Nellie’s Snug Harbor Marina, 645 Old San Carlos Blvd., Ft. Myers Beach. Call (239) 765-8500 for info.

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“Beyond the Dawn: Amelia’s Last Flight” discussion by author and aviator David Helms. Noon at Cape Coral Library. Call (239) 533-4500.

Pickle Ball games and instruction at Estero Gym every Tues. and Thurs. morning. 9 a.m. to noon. Estero Park. Call (239) 498-0415.

24, 31 “History of the Middle East” discussions by historian and professor Adrian Kerr at Shell Point Retirement Community 10 to 11:30 a.m. in the Grand Cypress Room/Woodlands. $10/each session, $30/all three. Information or tickets at (239) 454-2054. “Great House” book discussion (author Nicole Krauss) at Lakes Regional Library. 2 p.m. Call (239) 533-4000. Ford & Edison Estates Free Admission to Veterans with ID card. 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. (Active military admitted free year round.) Contact the Estates at (239) 334-7419 for more information. Send Around Town news to Mature Lifestyles Magazine, 1602 S. Parsons Ave., Seffner, FL 33584; fax (813) 651-1989. News must be received by the 10th of the month prior to event (i.e. May 10 for June event.) Mature Lifestyles • May 2011 • page 5

The Cupid in Your Computer Part Two

age, weight and sexual history tend to be the general minefield of fibbing. Use the following guideline:

r. Joy Browne, author of Dating for Dummies, 3rd Edition, says, “When it comes to dating, the Internet has broadened and widened the playing field and deepened the pool.” In addition to being precise and choosing a picture carefully, here are more tips from her book: Make your English teacher proud. Check and then double-check your grammar, spelling and punctuation. Nothing will make you look more like a doofus than misspelled words or incorrect grammar. Browne advises, “Ask a discreet friend to read your listing to see if it makes sense and has no major lapses of logic, taste or grammar. Another set of eyes will often catch something you’ve missed.” Keep the fibs to a minimum. Browne says that on an Internet dating site,

• Your age should certainly be within several years of your actual age – no decade reductions. Beware of saying things like “salt and pepper hair” if you haven’t had any hair on your head since dirt was invented.

• Make sure any physical description roughly correlates with what your mirror reflects, not what your heart desires.

• Beware of women who use “code” and say they’re “voluptuous,” which translates into “35 pounds overweight.” If you’re a little heavy, then say, “I’m a little heavy. I can live with it. Can you?” Remember: Sooner or later the intent is to meet face to face, and neither of you should be unpleasantly surprised. • As for sexual history, don’t go there! Your indiscretions are best forgotten or dealt with in the confessional or therapy, but certainly not on a website with strangers.

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Veteran Writes Novel about Vietnam

Candy.” When I asked how much of the book is true, n real life, George Ratz he answered, “I let people went to Vietnam as a decide for themselves. signalman with the U.S. Usually spies won’t tell Army and then worked you if they were spies.” six years for the NaResearching the details of tional Security Institute. the book was very important He followed that with to Ratz. “Those who have a career in the mining been there know the industry which took geography. They him all over the world. know when something Someone along the way isn’t right.” probably said, “You Like many Author and should write a book.” Vietnam veteran, other veterans, Ratz Whether they said it himself returned from George Ratz or not, Ratz has just Vietnam with scars – published “George’s Candy” which with Post Traumatic moves with rapid-fire speed through Stress Disorder. the many adventures of a double Retired now and living in Brunswick, agent and his spy named Candy. Georgia, he said, “I got the help I The novel’s plot begins with a needed. PTSD never leaves you. You package to be delivered to Saigon. don’t become cured, but you learn to The narrator takes the reader down cope with it. From place to place and the streets filled with the destitute person to person you’re always trying locals, into the jungles, the bars to prove yourself as to why you do and back to the States. Safely in the what you do. That’s the difficult part.” U.S., he learns that the woman he One way he copes is by helping met in Vietnam—Candy—needs other veterans. He has gone from him to come back and rescue her. participating in group meetings to As a double agent, he and Candy find working individually with veterans as themselves in the Vietnamese tunnels well as with parents and families of and in mysterious debriefings. There returnees from Iraq and Afghanistan. are dealings with Navy Seals, FBI and Ratz said thinking up the plot for Special Forces before they leave the “George’s Candy” came easily for country. Candy proves herself valuhim. He started writing after his able as a sailor, a pilot and land travyounger daughter wanted to know eler as well. There seems to be no end more about his life before she to their adventures as they make their was born. That effort became a way from one tight spot to another. very long story and eventually The main character in the book strug- the first chapter of the book. gles with what has become known His wife helped with typing and as PTSD. And even as a toughened friends became readers and gave spy who can seemingly take on any suggestions. A golfing buddy’s wife difficulty, he recognizes times when owned the publishing company he must control his emotions; at one Ratz used, and she recommended point he says, “I am afraid this dethe other contacts needed to make briefing has taken too long. I feel the the book become a reality. toll on me could reach a point where it A true page-turner spy novel, would require someone’s intervention “George’s Candy” is a good read to bring me back to the present.” and an excellent adventure. Ratz told me he has spent the Available through Barnes and last three years writing “George’s Noble and Amazon.

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Elie Wiesel Connects Cultures, Generations Through His Work It was not easy to start thinking of Author and death as not being he theme for Older teacher, the norm—that it Americans Month this Elie Wiesel. was an individual year is “Connecting the tragedy. And then, Community,” and for writhow to adjust to er, philosopher and Holothe living? How to caust survivor Elie Wiesel, adjust to the other. the tradition of passing How to adjust to down wisdom from one love? Mostly it was generation to another and a total change.” encouraging communicaNot only was the tion between cultures and physical aspect religions has always been Photo by Cheryl Johnston of everyday life of great importance. a challenge, but the experience also Wiesel was born in Romania in 1928 caused him to deeply question his faith. and was only 14 when the German “Before the war, my faith was army swept through his village, forcing total,” he said. “I never thought all of the Jewish residents into the I could question God. Now I do. Auschwitz, Buna and Buchenwald But I never divorced God. concentration camps. His loved “Before the war, I was so religious,” ones were separated, and of his ﬁve he continued. “I came from a Hasidic family members only himself and background and I wanted my faith to his two older sisters survived. be stronger and stronger. But what As a young man. Wiesel lived in did I know about suffering? Only Paris for a time after World War II and what I had read in the Bible and eventually became a journalist, writing to promote awareness of anti-Semitism, Talmud about previous centuries. oppression and indifference. He chroni- Jewish history is actually a history of cled his experiences in the concentration suffering. But in spite of the suffering,” he said, “faith must continue.” camps in the memoir Night—one of his most famous works—and over the Connecting the Community course of his life he has written several Of the ethical problems that the world books, plays, essays and memoirs. faces today, Wiesel sees indifference “I tried to be a witness, so I went and apathy as the greatest challenges. everywhere,” Wiesel said of his trips “I’ve spent years and years of my to countries such as Cambodia and life ﬁghting indifference. It is because Bosnia, where he spoke out against violence and genocide. In 1986, he was so many people are indifferent to other persons’ tragedies, pain, that the awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for his efforts on behalf of oppressed peoples. problem becomes so acute it seems Wiesel became a citizen of the United insoluble,” he spoke. “Indifference has become a kind of religion.” States in 1955 and has since devoted Wiesel cites the Holocaust as an his life to educating, writing and example; while it was one of the raising his family. He is currently the history’s darkest tragedies, most of professor of Judaic studies at Manhatthe world was unaware of it until after tan’s City College of New York and it had occurred. However, he stresses teaches classes at Florida International that similar horrors can be prevented Universities as a visiting scholar. with awareness and moral activism, and that hatred and indifference are not Rebuilding innate to mankind, but rather taught. During one of his visits to Sarasota, “It’s not genetic. Ultimately, it’s a I had a chance to ask him what it choice,” he said. “It’s simply easier took to rebuild his life after his not to be involved. It’s easier not to experiences in the camps. “It was not so easy to adjust,” he said, look at those who suffer. But who “not only to the living, but to the death. says that life should be easier?”

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One solution he suggests is to open the lines of communication between peoples and communities, especially in places like schools where different cultures and religions meet in an atmosphere that promotes the exchange of ideas. “I’m sure that where you have colleges, you have Muslims. Meet them,” he urged. “Every month, organize something with you and your friends. Say, ‘Come, lets have coffee together. For an hour, two hours—let’s talk.’ “People want to know each other better. They want to know the good in the other person.”

Dreams and Ambitions I asked him if the ambitions he had when he was younger had come to pass, and if there were still things he wanted to achieve. “My dream was really to become a teacher,” he replied. “A head of a Hasidic academy in a small village. Here I am; I’m a teacher, and I’m the head of at least my department, and I have a special chair in Paris and here. So I do what I wanted to be.” In his classes, Wiesel focuses on philosophy and draws from a variety of sources, encouraging both his students and himself to ask questions. “It can be just history, it can be Danté, or maybe the Bible. I love the Bible. With it, I question not only why people behave the way they do, I even question, ‘Why did God create man?’ Did he need problems?” he laughed. “He must have known that the moment he created us, there would be problems!” Wiesel is also a disciplined writer; he wakes up at ﬁve every morning and writes for at least four hours every weekday, always busy working on new books. As far as accomplishments go, he only has one regret. “The only thing I did want…at one point, I oscillated between music and philosophy,” he remembered. “I wanted to become a conductor, because in Paris when I went from one orphanage to another, I was a choir conductor. And I felt, ah—that’s my goal in life! And for a few months I was really hesitating: philosophy, or music? Then I asked myself, what

good can I do for the world if I become a conductor? So I chose philosophy.” When asked about the high points in his life, he replied, “Oh, I got married and had a son, then grandchildren. I was asked by my students, what does it mean to be a grandfather? And I said, I fell in love again!”

On Aging As a proliﬁc writer, speaker and traveler, Weisel is always on the move, even at 83. But he still feels an intimate connection to his peers. “Not because of my age, but my religion, I have a tremendous affection for older people. When I was younger and my grandfather came to visit, it was the best day of the month,” he remembered. “It is not so in America. Here, children can’t live with their parents—they send them away. Mostly to Florida,” he laughed. “But why send their parents away, when they can learn so much from them?” He encourages seniors to write down their experiences—not only to keep their own memories alive, but so future generations can learn from them. “My fear is not only that a person would forget, but that a generation would forget—that the world would forget,” he cautioned. “As a writer, I compare everything to books. For someone with Alzheimer’s, life is like a book out of which, every day, you tear a page. At the end, the patient is like a book without pages anymore— just a cover and the last page. What can we do to retain that memory? Without it, nothing exists. It needs a language.” Throughout his life, Elie Wiesel has faced illness and death, loss of loved ones and separation from familiar surroundings—issues that many seniors also face. I asked him if he had any advice for others his age. “If you are a religious person,” he stated, “the ﬁrst prayer you say in the morning is, “Thank you, God, for my waking up!” He smiled, and continued, “As long as I am alive, I have a choice. As long as I am alive, I don’t believe in death. With my last breath, I believe that every one of us is immortal. We must do everything we can to help each other.”

Health and Wellness

Program to Receive Susan G. Komen Grant for the Cure

afford to pay for an exam and a mammogram. Along with other distractions, the lack of money keeps women enior Friendship Centers was from taking care of themselves. recently honored The Cancer Doesn’t by the news of Wait program wants receiving a Susan G. to stop this trend. The Komen for the Cure purpose is to make grant to provide women aware of their the Cancer Doesn’t health and wellness, Wait program. This and to keep women Health and Wellness from waiting to get program is staffed Senior Friendship Centers’ their mammograms, by retired and volHealth and Wellness Staff. especially those that unteer physicians, may not understand that it saves lives. nurses and health professionals who The purpose is to stop breast cancer. make a difference in the community Our volunteer gynecologists see by helping low income, uninsured uninsured senior women ages 50 – 64. seniors age 50+ receive preventative After a clinical breast exam and medical screenings, health education education on self care, a prescription and information on community for a screening mammogram is issued resources. This program would not be and the patient is scheduled. The possible without many partnerships, results are reviewed by our doctors including Goodwill Industries and and it is decided whether they need the United Way, who provide space at continued care or just their annual the Hatton B.Rogers elder residential mammogram in another year. facility in North Fort Myers and at Our Health and Wellness Coordinator the Dunbar United Way House in will be providing community educaFort Myers. Our one part time paid tion that will increase breast screening staff is funded by United Way of and self exam awareness to women Lee, Hendry and Glades Counties. who are at the highest risk of developSenior Friendship Centers’ Cancer ing breast cancer, and linking them to Doesn’t Wait program assists uninsured senior women in the community screening services. This program will provide over 50 patients with mamwith getting their mammograms in mograms—over 50 women that would a timely manner. Many women tend have otherwise gone without. Cancer to let this test wait for a variety of Doesn’t Wait. For more info, contact reasons. Cancer Doesn’t Wait… But Julie Ramirez at (239) 656-0221. women with limited income cannot BY NANCY GREEN-IRWIN

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All I Want Are Some Jeans That Fit

BY CINDY PHILLIPS

did it again. I spent hours going store to store convinced I could find them. I must have tried on a hundred pairs, putting on one leg and then the other, shimmying as I tugged them up toward my waist. A few times I actually thought I was going to make it only to be disappointed as the material ran out even though my backside kept going. Why can’t I find a pair of jeans that fit? We Boomers invented the perfect jeans. We made them popular. We faded them, acid-washed them, colored them, added stretch to them, cut them into shorts and frayed their bottoms. We paired them with t-shirts, crew neck sweaters, buttondown shirts, tank tops, blazers and

sequined satin blouses. We wore them with sneakers, boots, high heels, top-siders and flip flops. I remember my first pair of jeans. Actually, they were my sister’s first pair of jeans. The first time I saw them, I was in awe. They were like nothing I had ever seen. When she let me try them on, it was nirvana. Even though she was five years older than me, those jeans fit each of us like a custom-made glove. As I prepared to go off to college, my mother took me shopping for clothes. By this time, I had my own jeans and knew exactly what I needed. They were the Levi’s with the red tag. You didn’t have to try them on, you simply looked for your size, waist times length, and took them to the

Eight Things to Do After Losing Your Wallet

osing your wallet or purse is stressful. This to-do list from the Federal Citizen Information Center helps you prioritize: 1. Make a list of what you had in your wallet and tackle the important things first. 2. Immediately cancel all your credit and debit cards, letting your bank know that your wallet was lost or stolen. Request new copies of the card with a new account number. 3. If you were the victim of theft, file a police report so there is an official record. 4. Report a missing driver’s license to your state’s department of motor vehicles and request a new copy. 5. Alert the fraud departments of the three major credit reporting companies. They will place a fraud alert on your name and Social Security numMature Lifestyles • May 2011 • page 10

ber, and you can request that they alert you before opening a line of credit in your name. (Equifax: 1-800-525-6285; Experian (formerly TRW): 1-888-3973742; Trans Union: 1-800-680-7289) 6. Request a replacement Social Security card and consider not carrying it in your wallet in the future.

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Having your cards lost or stolen can be traumatic. But these tips from the Federal Citizen Information Center can help you recover. The only thing you’ll have left to do is pick out a new wallet.

checkout. Every pair fit the same. I had three pairs of those jeans and I alternated them each day. I could typically get at least two wearings from each, and then it was time to wash and dry them. It’s not that they were dirty, but they needed tightening up. There was no better feeling in the world than slipping on those Levi’s straight out of the dryer. Sometimes, while struggling with the freshman five, I had to lay on the bed to get them zipped up. But once I closed that top button and stood up, the view from the back was exquisite. And then something went terribly wrong. Those jeans that I had revered all these years rebelled. They started going by names like True Religion and Jordache. And for some totally unexplainable reason, they

decided to come to a complete halt when they got halfway up my behind. Who could think this would be comfortable for a Boomer body already struggling with self-image issues? Who thought this would look attractive on a bulging Boomer belly? Who came up with this idea? Not only do I now have a love-hate relationship with every pair of jeans I own, but I am also experiencing relationship issues with all my shirts. “Pick me, wear me today,” they call out from the closet. It is disheartening to have to look at them and say, “No, I can’t wear you today, you simply aren’t long enough to cover the chasm from where my jeans end and you begin.” It’s time for a Boomer to start a new jeans company to design the denim to fit our ever-changing bodies. I have the perfect name for the line—C.Y.A. Jeans. Any takers? Contact me at cphillipsauthor@ yahoo.com.

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• 2nd Annual Driving Out Hunger Golf Tournament May 21. Get your team registrations and sponsorships in now. Shotgun start at 8:30 a.m., and a BBQ style lunch will be served around noon. Join the fun and help the Charlotte County Homeless Coalition. 7 a.m. to 1 p.m. at the Kingsway Country Club, 13625 SW. Kingsway Circle, Lake Suzy. (941) 627-4313.

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Laugh for Better Blood Vessels Can Wii Fit Make You Fit?

augh your way to better blood vessel function by watching a funny flick. Laughter relaxes blood vessels and increases blood flow—the exact opposite of what your blood vessels do when you are stressed. In a small study of healthy men and women with normal blood pressure, watching a funny movie increased blood flow. If funny movies aren’t your style, spend time with the people who tickle your funny bone. Blood vessels are lined with a layer of cells called endothelium; they regulate blood flow by helping blood vessels expand and contract. In the study, healthy men and women watched either a funny movie or an intense, violent one while researchers measured blood flow through an artery in their upper arm. Watching the funny movie caused blood vessels to dilate, increasing blood flow by about 22 percent. The action movie caused mental stress and

blood vessel constriction, decreasing blood flow by about 35 percent. Having relaxed blood vessels decreases strain on the heart. Researchers aren’t exactly sure how mood states affect blood vessels. Different mood states may alter levels of hormones, such as cortisol, that affect blood vessel function or nitric oxide function. Nitric oxide is a chemical messenger that promotes blood vessel relaxation. Proper diet and regular exercise are the mainstays of improving blood vessel health, but laughing often is a great adjunct. Learn health tips at RealAge.com.

laying two Wii Fit video games— Step and Hula—can provide adequate exercise to improve health and physical fitness, reports a study in the March issue of The Journal of Strength and Conditioning Research. Wii Fit Step and Hula games “can be used as an effective mode of physical activity to improve health in adult women,” according to the study. However, the researchers emphasize that players “should strive to participate at higher (intermediate) game levels” to gain exercise benefits. Oxygen consumption, energy expenditure and other measures of the body’s response to exercise were assessed as players advanced through different levels of each game. It should be noted that at the starting levels, neither Step nor Hula produced high levels of oxygen consumption or perceived exercise intensity.

However, at the intermediate level the energy expenditure was equivalent to a fairly brisk walking pace of 3.5 miles per hour. At the intermediate level of the Hula game, players could burn approximately five calories per minute. The study results suggest that the Wii Fit can be used as an effective activity for promoting physical health with the benefits increasing as you move to the intermediate or higher game levels. (From Newswise)

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The Florida Senior Medicare Patrol (SMP) program is looking to recruit and train volunteers to educate Medicare beneficiaries and caregivers on Medicare fraud, waste and abuse. The problem we face today is an estimated $68 billion dollars that is lost to fraud at the national level each year. In Florida however, it is estimated that the cost of fraud on taxpayer is $3 to $4 billion dollars annually. This is why we need your help. SMP is supported by the joint efforts of national, state and local aging network advocates and is primarily funded through the Administration on Aging. With the help of our partners and volunteers we are committed to strengthening health care anti-fraud and abuse programs to help combat Medicare fraud. GET INVOLVED Florida SMP is currently seeking volunteers in various areas including:

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Live and, more recently, in the series Weeds. His mother says he did ive successful adult get material from his family life, children who each call their but he uses a line in his comedy mother every single day? What indicating that the Nealon family is wrong with this picture? was “so normal we didn’t provide Absolutely nothing! That is the as much material as we could very real and happy world for have if we’d been dysfunctional.” Kathleen Nealon, who lives with Did Kathleen Nealon do anyher husband Emmett on Captiva. thing special to produce a comeRecently recognized in the comdian like Kevin? No, in fact, she munity by The PACE Center for said that all five of the children Grand Dame Kathleen Nealon (center) and her family. Girls of Lee County as one of this are naturally funny. Watching year’s Grande Dames, Kathleen finding fun in every situation for him become successful at is a mother who believes in laughter herself, her husband and her children. comedy was a part of watching one of and love. “Everybody in our family Emmett’s career with Sikorsky her children choose a career. She said, is funny—we love to just have fun Aircraft meant many moves. When “You’ve done all the mothering before when we all get together,” she said. he traveled, she would often have the they become successful. I didn’t She learned to love laughter from children alone for extended periods realize his ambition when he was a her father. “We would have funny of time. “We learned to really rely child, and I don’t think he did either.” comments going back and forth all the on each other, which brought our Kathleen talked about the sarcasm time. Mother was mostly the audience family closer together,” she said. and shock factor used by comedians who laughed along with it. She knew Among the five children, one has today. “Neither are necessary when good humor when she heard it.” made a stage and screen career as a you can find humor in everyday life. Kathleen took that spirit of fun comic. Kevin Nealon is best-known Jerry Seinfeld is very good at that. into her years as a mother of five, for his nine years on Saturday Night He can bring up common ordinary BY JANICE DOYLE

things and make them funny. Sarcasm is hurtful and not really humor. Audiences don’t like to hear humor if they know it’s hurting someone else.” Of the five children, two live in California near each other, one is in Atlanta and two live in Ft. Myers. They vary in careers from human resources, comedy and law enforcement to an artist and a businessman. Her two grandchildren are a granddaughter, 23, and a 4-year-old grandson. Kathleen said her children have all found the right friends in life which has enriched her life as well. “They’ve found people like themselves and many of those people have become our friends as well.” A plaque in the Nealon’s living room reads “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass but learning to dance in the rain.” And when five children have danced in the rain with Kathleen Nealon, there’s no reason they can think of not to call her every single day. And so they do.

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: I hear a lot about gold on television lately. Why is there so much interest in gold these days? A: One of the reasons that gold has received so much media attention recently is that gold is currently at the highest price in our lifetimes. Gold recently hit an all-time high of over $1500 per ounce. Gold has risen over 500 percent since 2001 and over 4000 percent since 1971. These high prices are generating a lot of interest within the public to either buy or sell gold items that they may own. Q: I have some old gold jewelry that I never wear anymore and some old items that are broken. Are they worth anything? A: Yes. Anything that is made of gold (jewelry, coins, dental scrap, etc.) has participated in the incredible climb in the price of gold. Most of these items were purchased when the price of gold was much lower than it is today. The recyclable gold in these items has often doubled, tripled or even quadrupled in value. Q: If I am interested in selling a few of my items, how do I make sure that I am dealing with a reputable business? A: Always use a business that is accredited by the Better Business Bureau. Q: What should I look for when I enter a business to have them value my gold and make me an offer? A: First, the business should always evaluate your items right in front of Mature Lifestyles • May 2011 • page 20

you. Second, they should always test your valuables and separate them by karat. Third, they should weigh your items on a scale that displays the orange Florida Department of Agriculture certification sticker. Lastly, you should see the scale read-out for yourself and ensure you get paid for every gram.” Q: I have some gold and jewelry that I am planning on passing down to my heirs. Are there any advantages to selling those items now and distributing the proceeds in accordance with my estate plan? A: Yes, there are several advantages to selling items now and distributing the proceeds. First, liquidating certain items in one’s lifetime can avoid some of the administrative expenses associated with distributing these assets through probate. Second, liquidating assets in one’s lifetime may avoid estate taxes in certain cases. The IRS reinstituted the estate tax as of January 1, 2011. The estate tax requires that all estates pay a tax of 55 percent on all assets above the IRS permitted exemption level. As with any estate planning decision, it is critical that you contact your attorney or financial planner before making any decisions. Robert S. Lovett is a licensed attorney and member of the Florida Bar as well as an executive director of Windsor Precious Metals Group. If you have any questions that you would like him to answer in future columns, please e-mail them to Robert@windsorpm.com.

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Allure of the Seas—Full of Imagination and Innovation ﬁnd your way around, it is easy to maneuver. Interactive touch screen guides offer room ﬁnder information—buttons telling what is going on right now and how many people are eating in each restaurant on board.

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oyal Caribbean’s newest ship, the Allure of the Seas, is a huge ship, which became an understatement once we were aboard. The ship can sail with 6,000 passengers and over 2,000 crew members aboard. We joined passengers all along the promenade for a look at the “Move It! Move It!” DreamWorks Animation parade including characters like Shrek, Po from Kung-Fu Panda and Madagascar’s penguins in full costume.

Travel Both the Allure of the Seas and her sister ship Oasis of the Seas are the results of years of research and development into making the cruise ship itself a destination to enjoy in the Caribbean. These ships are not about seeing an island or visiting quaint port towns; they are all about the ship and its amenities. They do, however, stop at several ports of call where new, clean facilities have been specially built to accommodate the size of the ships and the numbers of passengers who debark. State-of-the-art technology makes the ships quite manageable. Veteran cruiser Kathy Clor and her husband of Sun City Center recently sailed aboard the Allure of the Seas and commented that once you

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The Royal Promenade With pubs and clubs, karaoke and Latin dancing, the Royal Promenade Kathy and Bill Beck meet is where the action happens. You can Princess Fiona from “Shrek.” enjoy shopping and casual dining The Size and Function or take a trip in the Rising Tides Royal Caribbean has created the Bar—an elevator bar that ferries simplest and most orderly boardings guests between the Promenade and ever. Once aboard, even with over Central Park. There is something 8,000 people aboard, you don’t feel for everyone here; Kathy’s favorite that many people because the ship hangouts were the Cupcake Cupboard is divided into neighborhoods. And and the very first Starbucks at sea. there are enough speedy elevators that you never have to wait. The distinct ship neighborhoods include the Boardwalk, Royal Promenade and Central Park, along with the pool and sports zone, the spa and fitness center, the youth zone, and the Entertainment Place, with its 1,300-seat theater, nightclubs, casino and ice arena. Central Park Sold as an urban experience, guests walk on stone paths in Central Park among thousands of trees and shrubs. It feels like being in a city with five passenger decks of cabins rising on each side. Guests can also walk or

The Entertainment Neighborhood In the entertainment neighborhood, the venues look like they came straight from Broadway. Chicago was fabulous. (On the Oasis, the musical Hairspray has played to raving crowds as well.) Entertainment offered includes a Cirque de Soleil-style water show, an ice skating show, the comedy

club, a jazz venue or the casinos (both smoking and non-smoking), a Latin music club or a karaoke room. Searching for activity? How about four pools and 10 whirlpools, a rock-climbing wall, a basketball court, a miniature golf course, an ice skating rink, a shopping promenade and a fairground-style carousel. The Food It is possible to eat all your meals at restaurants “free” (meaning the cost is included in your cruise fee). Restaurants with the word “specialty” have an added fee. Among the 24 dining choices are Johnny Rockets, an Asian restaurant, a hot dog spot and a pizza place. Fine dining, including wine, can be had for $25 extra. Kosher meals are available in the main dining room.

Don’t Miss the Art! Both the Oasis and the Allure of the Seas feature vast collections of art pieces (over 9,000 commissioned works on each ship). On the Oasis, for example, two cast bronze trees reach toward the sky with individually cast butterﬂies perched on their limbs. Buy the Wonderbook when you get on board to appreciate the diversity of media. Susan Zoeller, former owner of Cruise World in Tampa, says seniors love the ships and all of the new amenities. “I just love all of the different neighborhoods and our seniors do too. They offer so many choices in activities. We have had many groups sail on board the ships and they have all returned with RAVE reviews.”

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Mini Triathalon. Swim 400 meters in FGCU’s campus lake, bike 12 miles around Estero, and run 3.1 miles around FGCU’s campus. Relax afterward at the post race party and expo with food, sponsors, awards and music! Register by May 5. Packet pickup is from 5 – 7 p.m. on May 6 at Florida Gulf Coast University, 10501 FGCU Blvd. S., Fort Myers. Beach race in the morning: 4:30 – 6:45 a.m. Pre-race meeting: 6:55 a.m. Race start: 7 a.m. T-shirts limited to the first 300 registered. Info: (239) 590-1000.

Glimmers of Gold Benefit for the Alvin A Dubin Alzheimer’s Resource Center. Enjoy lavish hors d’oeuvres and decadent chocolate desserts by award-winning bakers and chefs from Anthony’s on the

Blvd., Cypress Lake Country Club, Heritage Palms Country Club. Attire: Cowboy Casual with “glimmers of gold.” Cash needed to participate in the Prospecting for Gold activities. Silent and live auctions to benefit the Alzheimer’s Resource Center. $75 per person. RSVP to (239) 437-3007.

Lifestyles After 50 Expo from 20 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Lake Kennedy Center, 400 Santa Barbara Blvd.,

History of the Middle East seminar. Shell Point Retire17 ment Community will welcome

4125 SE. 20th Place, Cape Coral. Bagpipes, food, fun, games, rock wall climbing, freedom bracelets, candle vigil at dusk. (239) 470-3662.

Professor Adrian Kerr back to the community to present a three-session class on the history of the Middle East. The presentations will take place on three consecutive Tuesdays; May 17, 24, and 31 from 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. in the Grand Cypress Room/Woodlands. Tickets are $10 for each session, totaling $30 for all three. For tickets or additional information, please call (239) 454-2054.

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An exceptional artist will be honored by the Board of County Commissioners with a proclamation recognizing them as the May, 2011 Artist of the Month. Their exhibit is part of the Arts & Humanities Council’s Art in Public Places program. 9 a.m. at Charlotte County Administration Building, 18500 Murdock Circle, Port Charlotte. For more info, call (941) 764-8100.

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brave men and women who have fought and continue to fight for the independence of our country and our way of life. They will never be forgotten. Ceremony at 10 a.m. at Coral Ridge Funeral Home and Cemetery, 1630 SW. Pine Island Rd., Cape Coral. For more information, please call (239) 283-0540.

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Port Charlotte. Meeting devoted to all forms of photography. Images shown, techniques discussed, information exchange between all attendees. Info: Bernie Hynes at (941) 627-3832.

Peace River Quilter’s Guild, 13 Inc. 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. weekly at Church of Good Shepherd, 401 W. Henry St., Punta Gorda. Weekly:

hand sewing. Second Friday: Show and Tell—projects that have been done recently. Occasional speakers and trunk shows. All are welcome; the first meeting is free. For information, call Gert Dussault at (941) 833-4477. Writer’s Tea. 1 to 3 p.m. at 17 The Literary Suite, Artisan’s Atelier, Herald Court Centre, 117

Herald Court, Punta Gorda. Enter on Olympia Ave., Punta Gorda. Presented by Peace River Center for Writers. Free to members; guests welcome. An informal collection of kindred spirits who share writing and give input if asked. Enjoy reading, snacks and conversation. For info, call (941) 637-3514 or e-mail prcw@edison.edu.

Third Thursday Gallery Walk. 5 to 8 p.m. at Downtown Punta Gorda. Free. Live entertainment, food and drink samplings, art demonstrations and exhibits, health and beauty demonstrations. Free parking. For information, call Jerry Presseller at (941) 639-3990.

“Laughter on the 23rd Floor.” 20 7:30 p.m. May 20 – 21, 26 – 28; 2 p.m. May 22 at Cultural Center

of Charlotte County Theater, 2280 Aaron St., Port Charlotte. $15 adult; $8 student/child. The Charlotte Players presents this Neil Simon comedy with adult language. For tickets, call (941) 625-4175 or visit charlotteplayers.org.

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n the world of Southwest Florida housing choices, it seems like a senior has unlimited options. Assisted living, independent living, and even skilled nursing facilities abound. But what if your budget is limited? Are there nice places to live that fit into that category? As a matter of fact, there are! Ft. Myers Presbyterian Apartments is a stately 16-story building located right on the Caloosahatchee River next to the EdisonFord Winter Estates. With 180 units, this building has a floor plan for almost every senior. And with monthly rents starting at just $341 per month, you can’t find a more reasonably-priced way to spend your independent retirement years. Ft. Myers Presbyterian Apartments offers Standard Efficiency, Wide Efficiency, and One-bedroom apartments. Two-member households are the first to be offered the One-bedrooms, and there are many singles in the Efficiencies. Water, sewer and trash are included in the monthly rents as well, further stretching your living budget. Each

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ear Mark: Is $600 enough of a bankroll for playing quarter slots for a weekend casino trip? —Theresa S.

That depends, Theresa, on which quarter machines you choose to play and the speed at which you play them. A $600 bankroll on a two- and three-coin machine should be enough to keep you playing for a weekend just so long as you’re not Speedy-Gonzales-fast when hitting the credit button. Characteristically, a player yanks a handle or pushes a button once every ten seconds. On a 3-coin quarter machine, wagering 75 cents per spin, that’s $4.50 per minute, or $270 per hour. Since the average quarter machine returns approximately 92 percent to the player, over the long run you will lose around $22 for every hour of play. Four, 4-hour sessions will cost you $352, which is less than your stated bankroll. Simple “Rithmetic” states you probably won’t tap out and that $600 is enough.

Entertainment But I couldn’t help thinking of those quarters, each 1.75 mm thick, in one immense coin roller, stretching 4.5 yards, and why it won’t work on all quarter machines. A $600 bankroll wouldn’t be enough for a multi-coin/ multi-line slot machine where you’re betting 50 quarters per spin, which buys you fewer than 50 spins. If you’re on a cold machine you could bust after 10 minutes of play Another alternative, Theresa, is that I sweet-talk you into playing video poker instead. Even poor play on a video poker machine will give you a better payback than most “reel” slot machines do, and that $600 bankroll will last even longer.

Dear Mark: My husband left a cold video poker machine and within two minutes, someone else sat down on the machine he was playing and instantly hit a four-of-a-kind, followed a few

minutes later by a royal flush. Would another $10 in that machine have gotten him the same hands? —Sherry F. I share your disappointment, Sherry, in giving up on a cold machine only to see someone else plop down in front of it and good fortune suddenly bless the newcomer. Yet, the chill comfort I can provide you is in letting you know that all machines cycle through thousands and thousands of outcomes each and every second. Your husband would have had to hit the deal button at the exact same instant that the following player did in order to have had that four-of-a-kind, let alone the royal. A millisecond difference, earlier or later, would have produced a less juicy outcome. Dear Mark: Thanks for sharing your great insights about gambling in the casinos. Reading your material quells lots of myths about how slot machines react to gamblers. My question is, are there general casino rules concerning money that a customer finds left on a slot machine, or if when the Player’s Club card is inserted a voucher prints out with money on it? Can the customer keep the findings? —Grady K. According to them, and we all know who “them” is, ‘taint yours. “Sea gulling,” i.e. purposively circling the casino looking for orphan credits on a slot machine, vouchers, change on the floor, chips under roulette wheels, or half-eaten sandwiches in the coffee shop, is illegal. That doesn’t mean there are not opportunists making a full-time occupation of cruising the casino and scavenging the millions lost each year by gamblers who forget their stored credits (winnings). Clearly, you’re not a slot stalker looking for an easy score. But a tip to you and other slot-playing patrons: before you walk away from any slot machine, don’t forget to press the cash-out button. Millions are lost each year by gamblers forgetting their stored credits. (SENIOR WIRE) Mature Lifestyles • May 2011 • page 27

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