MOVES 2022 POWER WOMEN ISSUE

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moonshiners new york

Whether the dimly-lit sexy speakeasies of the 1920’s with their secret knocks and passwords, or the back woods of the Appalachian mountains with mason jars and bearded men in overalls spring to mind, a certain mystery and curiosity hangs around the se cret, illegal liquor of Moonshine.

Moonshine. The term itself comes from Britain, referring to any task that was done by the light of the moon. Moonshine (also called ‘white light ening’, ‘hooch’, and ‘Tennessee White Whiskey’), which is really any ille gally produced liquor but particularly whiskey, can have a proof as high as 150 and the recipe is surprisingly simple enough and hasn’t changed much in the past 150 or so years: Soak corn meal in hot water in a still, add sugar and yeast which begins the fermentation process. Bring up to 172 degrees and the alcohol will begin to evaporate. It exits through a pipe at the top of the still and is collected through a coiled length of pipe submerged in cold water that condenses the steam into a clear liquid that can now be bottled and sold... illegally, of course.

The main point of self-brewing is to bypass those pesky federal taxes but besides that, there really isn’t much difference between moonshine and a whiskey that is legally brewed in a distillery. The amber color that you see in the whiskey at your local liquor store is due to the aging process, which mellows out that infamous moonshine kick. And yes, in the past many have died as a result of poisoning from a particularly unfortunate batch of moonshine, but the thing is, there isn’t anything inherently dan gerous about moonshine when it’s properly prepared.

Mostly remembered from the days of Prohibition, American culture has been saturated in illegal liquor since the Revolution. In order to pay for the war, the government enacted a liquor tax and Americans simply weren’t having it. The Whiskey Rebellion of 1794 erupted. It ultimately failed, but nevertheless moonshining prevailed, especially in the south ern states. But it wasn’t until 1920 when Prohibition went into effect that the demand for moonshine literally exploded behind inconspicu ous doors where you had to knock rapidly in succession in order to gain entrance. After Prohibition was repealed in ‘33, the moonshine market began to dry up, but never really left.

Nowadays, anyone curious enough can find legal, regulated moon shine sold in certain New York City bars, reminiscent of that hushed, speakeasy style. featuring secret entrances, cocktail waitresses dressed as flappers, and beer served in brown paper bags. At one specific estab lishment patrons have to embark on a journey through a hot dog shop, phone booth/hidden door to gain entrance.

Most bars that have mustered up the courage to serve the mystifying drink to the always thirsty, in-the-know masses are supplied through le gal local distilleries, such as Kings County Distillery which proudly takes the title of the city’s oldest operating whiskey distillery, the first since before prohibition. However, other bars want nothing to do with the moonshine business. “We don’t need that kind of trouble around here,” says one bartender who wouldn’t give his name.

As safe or legal as it might be, there’s still an air of danger surrounding moonshine that can be intensely seductive to some. Although home brewing is still quite illegal, the temptation to try one’s hand at it is al ways there. There’s the nostalgia of passed down family recipes and the satisfaction of presenting that “made with your own two hands” bottle. With at home brewing of beer legal since 1978, one might wonder why the ban on home made liquor is still in effect. But one can get a deli cious rush from slipping through a hidden doorway and watching as a bartender in a beaded flapper dress pours the clear-as-ice liquid in front of them, even though it’s really all pretend. Either way, perhaps that in nate desire to give the government the middle finger is just one of those things that will forever be within us.

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TONY GALE is an award wining NYC based photographer, in addition to working with Moves he shoots for a variety of editorial, corporate and advertising clients. He is a Sony Artisan of Imagery, a Manfrotto Ambassador, an X-Rite Coloratti and the APA National President. For fun and work he travels and has been to all 50 states and all over the world.

BALDOMERO FERNANDEZ has a passion for photography that be gan in late 80’s Miami as a sched uling mistake in school. Being a product of that particular time and place he developed a photo graphic style influenced by Film Noir, neon, warm skies and an aes thetic of urban grit. His love of cin ema and photo journalism inspires much of his work which runs the gamut from Supermodels to Acad emy Award winning actors.

SPENCER HEYFRON WAS born and raised in England, relocated to New York City to pursue a career in photography fteen years ago while producing portraits—his portrait of Will Arnett winning him a place in American Photography 27. Warm praise from celebrity subjects have included “Who’s the F**king Lumberjack” from Rahm Emmanuel; “That’s some f**king beard” from Broadway legend Patti Lupone; and “F**k man, you’re quick” from Samuel L. Jackson. Something in Spencer’s persona relaxes people! Must be the beard.

LISA ROBEY. After years of working in corporate America and feeling like I had missed my calling I took a leap of faith and chased after my dream of becoming a professional photographer about 4 years ago. I have zero regrets and have found so much joy in getting to do what I love everyday.

ZOË STAGG is a long term Moves contributor and a trusted source for cover profiles (Jes sica Chastain being one of her favorites). Her writing style is timeless. Her piece on Dermot Mulroney In this issue is a fine example. In her spare time, Zoë travels and trains for triathlons. She also serves in the US Army as a Broadcast Journalist and radio DJ.

NATHAN HEYWOOD

OIs a New York based photographer, and actor. When not in front of the camera he focuses on capturing portraits of fellow actors as well as everyday people. He strives to bring out the personality of his subjects. “The best part of photography, for me, is meeting new people. Everybody has a story to tell

CHESLEY TURNER has been a treasured New York Moves Magazine writer and editor since 2009, crafting feature interviews and trying to get a perspective on things that matter - things that most celebrities don’t get asked. Chesley works in academia and lives in Philadelphia.

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Everyone thinks that today’s society enables them to be jaded and experienced. In some way or another, we all think we’re special and that we’ve been through just as much as everyone else. Well, ladies, that’s absolute bullshit. I can tell you now that you have absolutely nothing in common with those who’ve experienced true hardship. It’s ridiculous to think that just because you couldn’t salvage enough from your paycheck to do your weekly mani-pedi, you think you’re going to be destitute. This world is chock full of people who have nothing and have been through the ringer. No, ladies, just because you’re thirteen pounds overweight doesn’t mean you can hold it against the world. It doesn’t mean you can identify with rape victims, destitute single mothers, or the homeless. Sure, the economy’s in trouble and life isn’t exactly a walk in the park, but appreciate what you have now. Who knows what you’ll have in the future? JB, Driver, SI

Why am I getting naked? I don’t think this is an inappropriate question to be asking. Why are you making me get naked? I get it, you’re a doctor. This is a doctor’s office. Cool. But I’m getting a tetanus shot. All you really need is my arm and if I do suffer from some rare allergic reaction I’m pretty sure you could rip my clothes off quickly enough – I’m wearing a t-shirt. Or I was, before you made me get naked, put on a hospital gown, and walk past the waiting room a hundred times while you shuffled me from room to room. This, I feel, was unwarranted. I’m not downplaying the importance of your profession, but they give flu shots at the drug store. And I’m pretty sure getting naked in a Duane Reade is a chargeable offense. Dylan, Sporting Goods, Astoria

To the woman at the Bloomingdales’ fragrance counter: When I walked into your store, I had intended to purchase gloves, and maybe a scarf or two. What I did NOT expect, intend, or desire was to be gangbanged by a myriad of floral scents that, while maybe pleasant individually, combine to create an olfactory nightmare of monstrous proportions. I appreciate that, while I find it unpleasant, it is your job, but until being a cheap Parisian prostitute is MY job, I ask that you keep your fragrance to yourself. Anna, Designer, L train

Woah! You really think my ass looks great in these pants? Thanks, creepy man riding a bike on 7th Avenue! You made my day! You know, I was feeling really self conscious about my body today, so it was so nice for you to reassure me that you’d love to do a lot of dirty things to my behind. I was starting to give up on men! Seriously, I was! I was about to become a bona-fide lesbian until you came along and restored my faith in humanity. You know, you really should continue riding around the city screaming obscenities at women. We’re all pretty down on ourselves and you really know how to make a lady feel attractive by sexually accosting her. And after you finish doing some more of your groundbreaking work, how about you jump off a bridge and die? Because now that I think about it, that would make me feel a whole lot better. Sandra, Bartender, Bushwick

Stop screaming. You’re indoors. It makes me very anxious. We fully understand that the train has stopped. We’re all riding on it. So please keep your comments to yourself so we can maintain decorum on this cramped subway car. When you scream things, don’t you see that no one is responding? So why do you keep talking? If everyone took a note from your book, we’d all start screaming out of frustration, and then things would get violent, and then there would be bloodshed. Do you want this train car to erupt in bloodshed? No, you don’t. You just want the train to move like everyone else, so please stop screaming and keep your opinions to yourself, I just need to get to Union Square in one piece, ok? Thanks. Asher, Finance, Washington Heights

People have got to stop urinating on my street. And no, I’m not talking about homeless people and I’m not talking about drunk college kids either. I’m talking about normal people like you or I, people who, in their proper state of mind, have made the decision to step up against a building, zip down their flies, and urinate in public. And I live on the Upper East Side. What’s worse, just the other day I saw a mother stop her car, remove her little boy, and instruct him to piss on the side of my building. In broad daylight. And he DID. Look, we’ve all had those moments where we have to pee so badly that our teeth hurt. But we live in New York City. It’s not like it’s 5 miles until the next rest stop. There’s a Starbucks on a corner. There’s a restaurant across the street. Hell, my building has a lobby bathroom for christ’s sake, use it, I wouldn’t mind. I don’t think I’m asking for too much. Let your puppies pee freely, just do me a favor and curb yourselves. Thanks. Esther, Risk Analyst, Upper East Side

The biggest mistake mankind has ever made was creating ESPN. Don’t even tell me you’ve never been shunted aside because there is unlimited ESPN in your household. You slave away all day long and come home to your man, maybe looking forward to that ‘hello’ kiss or even just sitting down for a relaxing glass of wine. But, no! You walk home and there is some RANDOM fucking sporting event that has just invaded his mind and has him sitting in the recliner looking like he’s just had a lobotomy. And it’s never fucking ending! There’s baseball, basketball, soccer, golf, tennis, football, hockey, not to mention the BWOT’s, or the big-waste-of-time’s; poker, horse racing, gymnastics, NASCAR, martial arts, rugby, lacrosse, and the fucking spelling bee! ESPN has every fucking trick in the book to brainwash our men into sitting in front of the TV like a cracked-out junkie. I could start a lap dance in fucking pasties and a g-string and STILL have him watching water polo. Ladies, reclaim your power! Stick it to the man! I want to watch a fucking chick flick and nothing’s going to get in my way. And that’s why ESPN hate’s parental controls, like the one I set to block that shit two days ago. I can’t wait to go home tonight and see his face. Sucka! Christiana, Hospitality, Astoria

I don’t understand hipsters. I have a tattoo. I listen to Ingrid Michaelson. I even have a ukulele (it was a gift) so by all intents and purposes I’m a fully fledged member of hipster society. But this obsession with “shabby chic” is just something I will never get on board with. I live in Williamsburg and that shit is expensive! Seriously, I have a heart attack every time the rent bill comes and it’s been the same every month. Then I go to the Peruvian restaurant around the block from me and order “peasant soup.” Peasant soup. For 22 dollars. Where are these peasants and how can I get in on the action?! And it’s not just the soup. It seems that every shop, boutique, and cafe I go into looks like it’s been through the Chernobyl explosion. I know that peeling paint, beat-up furniture, and exposed light bulbs look “quaint” but when you’re paying a small fortune for rent every month I want that shit blinged out in gold. Seriously, for what I’m paying, they should lay out carpets on the streets of The Burg and shower every man, woman, and child with rose petals and cold hard cash. Because I’m about this close to moving to Iowa. Cheap rent, inexpensive utilities, and I can be as “shabby chic” as my little heart desires. Desiree, Marketing, Williamsburg

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Backsliding

By Sarah Fawcett - Powes

Self-suffiency comes in many forms, the most important of which is emotional. But when you’re a serial monogamist, like I used to be, it can be difficult to achieve. If you have to constantly rely on someone else to make you happy, you’ll never be truly autonomous. Spending a sig nificant period of time as a single woman is essential for female empowerment and independence – and is just an important life skill to tuck under your belt. Once you’ve reached emotional self-sufficiency, you can conquer the realm of sex with unnecessary complications. Which brings me to the issue at hand: backsliding.

“New Girl” may have been the first show to coin the term, but its characters are certainly not the first people to demonstrate this disastrous behavior. We’ve all been there. You break up with a significant other, for relatively good and logical reasons, but find that you can’t replace the quality of sex from your old relationship fast enough to meet your ridiculously high instant gratification standards with new flings. What’s a horny girl with limited resources to do for maximum sexual satisfaction with minimal mental, emotional, and physical exertion? You rack your brain for possible solutions to your very urgent, and in your mind, probable life threatening dilemma. But no matter how hard you brain storm, your imagination keeps taking you back to your most recent and decent sexual encounter: your ex.

So you take a slight step back onto memory lane and start fooling around with your old flame. You call them up, get what you came for (literally). Wam. Bam. Thank you, ma’am. And peace out.

Afterwards, on your glorious walk of shame back to your apartment, you think you’ve managed to accomplish the impossible, have sex with an ex, no strings attached. Right? Wrong!

I broke up with my boyfriend over 6six months ago for one very logical reason: he’s an asshole. But the sex was so mind-blowing, I couldn’t get him out of my head. He lives five minutes away from me and we have the same schedule. He’s a waiter, I’m a hostess. (I find that the restaurant industry conveniently provides the perfect window of opportunity for sexual deviance.) I weighed the pros and cons, but came to the conclusion that all this added up to the perfect bootycall. We’re comfortable around each other, already know how to hit the right spots, and have no emotions left to complicate things. Quick. Dirty. Done. So why did he stay overnight and attempt postsex spooning instead of picking up his shit and leaving? Good fucking question. I thought we were on the same page, which reads, “I want you, I just don’t want to be with you.” Simple enough. But nope, it never is. The problem with backsliding is that the purely physical intentions of the initiate are often one-sided and unreciprocated by the person being used for their sexual prowess. For all the backslider newbies, let me break this down into simple definitions. The initiate is the person making the bootycall. The recipient, is the person being

called to action. Now, at the time of the bootycall, the initiate is completely over the romantic relationship and is only reaching out to the recipi ent for one reason: sex. Nothing more. On the other hand, the recipient has not emotionally moved on from the relationship. But the initiate does not share her version of harsh reality with the recipient so as not to risk the possibility of guaranteed rejection. As a result, the recipient of the bootycall believes that he or she still has a chance to salvage the relationship with the initiate. The repercussions of this omission are im mense and the consequences even worse.

If you haven’t figured it out already, I’m the initiate. My ex is the recipient.

So now he’s calling me, texting me. Asking me to have dinner, to watch a movie, to hang out with him. Not bootycall hours, mind you (which, in my opinion, fall between 11pm-2am), but actual normal people hours. And I only oblige him these meetings because I know how to manipulate my way from the dinner table into the bedroom. What can I say? Girls are ninjas. But I can only fool him for so long. And let the countdown to verbal explosion commence.

One night, I come over, and right as the clothes start melting off, he says those magic words that instantly kill my buzz, “We need to talk.” No, no, we don’t. Don’t ruin a good thing with words and feelings and emotions and the very reason why we’re only having sex and not in a relationship.

“I want to get back together.” There it is, the six words that the initiate never plans on hearing, never takes into consideration because we’re too fucking selfish to even contemplate that the person we’re using as our sexual plaything might actually want something else in return.

I had a choice to make. I could lie. I could tell him that I want to get back together, too. I could lay out all the cliches romantic comedies feed us as ammunition to repair broken relationships. But I wouldn’t just be lying to him, I’d be lying to myself. And being the selfish princess that I am, selfdeception would be positively unbearable.

So I tell him the truth. I tell him that I don’t want to get back together. That reviving our relationship never entered my mind. I break his heart. Again. And what could have gradually turned into a decent friendship between two former lovers is now a minefield of sex, lies, and deceit. Sort of like Las Vegas, with all the guilt and none of the glamour.

Backsliding. A good idea in theory. A novel idea on paper. But in reality, a complete and utter clusterfuck.

- or how those 2am bootycalls are a fatal weakness for an independent women with a wanker for an ex

Swaths of the population may deny the validity of such ephemeral things fossils or the develop mental link between the skeletal structures of the larger primates, those who take stock in the scientific method will attest to this simple fact: the environs of this humble, amaz ing planet have been reborn many times.

Our own genus, homo, likewise possesses a revered canon of pos sible reincarnations and reinventions. Earth’s cycles, far outdating man’s existence, have maintained a relatively self-regulatory mode of life-giving and purg ing. This will certainly continue into the next impending era, though such an age will mark a first for Earth: living things, as far as I know, have never been capa ble of directly effecting so dramatic a change in the Earth’s very essence as to usher in an ice age. Not that I mean to espouse theory as fact here, or anything of the sort, I’m just saying. . .

As we go on blindly ushering in our own imminent demise it should be noted that as humans we possess an impressive ability to alter our collective and individual courses of existence through historic socio-political and technological development. The Italian, and subsequent European, Renaissance arose in the late 15th century and is com monly accepted as the

symbolic end of the Dark Ages. Though its origins are up for de bate, its benefit to the Western tradition is not. In general, the age was marked by the accrual of personal wealth (al beit distributed among a select few) owing to the expansion of com merce, a somewhat greater sense of per sonal agency, a marked interest in scientific en quiry, and most notably the rampant flourish ing of the arts. This is the era that births the namesakes of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, as well as Da Vinci, Botticelli, the Van Eycks to Europe’s north and Elizabethan Eng land (i.e. Shakespeare). Perhaps key in all of this is Guttenberg’s print ing press which, in an early populist gesture, ultimately changed the dissemination of infor mation and scholarship among the masses by informing said masses for the first time.

This is not to say that the Renaissance was a wholly modern izing age. Its spirit of innovation enacted a fundamental progres sive momentum for human history, but it was also an obsessively backward-looking culture that valorized the Greek and Roman ideals of physical beauty and thought, so much so that the natural development of Latin was thought to be subverted by an insistence on speak ing classical Latin (in churches, etc.). In this sense, the period was

somewhat restrictive. It also must be admit ted that royalty and aristocracy maintained a strangle-hold upon social and economic functions in nearly ev ery society and that any remotely democratic government of-thepeople had yet to be established. Patronage was, indeed, the spirit of the time.

Whether the Renais sance was a Golden Age or not, it renewed the power of human intellect by incessantly gesturing back to the highlights of ages long since passed. This was a fairly collective mo tion and its modifica tion of the classical imperative should be appreciated as a paradigm of human progress: looking in two directions simulta neously.

From the Renaissance to contemporary times we navigate the Age of Reason and Colonial ism, the Enlightenment and Romanticism through the Industrial Revolution and Mod ernism (and the PostModern, if indeed such a thing exists). The revolutions throughout Europe and America engendered by the En lightenment, in fact, set the stage for what was, at the time, the most rapid advancement of every facet of human existence to have ever occurred, period. It is this very same hypermomentum that ushers in the next great im pediment to and spur of human progress: the World Wars.

of all the species on the planet only desire, consciousness, and sometimes invent themselves... collectively, individually, whater the cause the results are largely And there’s

Perhaps we can see their advent as the logi cal end of unchecked progress, or as the ultimate expression of an age that, as Baudelaire would cer tainly note, refused to look back for nearly a century. Yet out of the Wars’ unbridled human cruelty and terror and exploitation of technol ogy, the world is given what may be the most fundamentally impor tant artistic age that has taken place in Western history: Eliot, Kafka, Woolf, Joyce, Orwell –all of these stem from or are dramatically modified by the experi ence of one or both of the Wars. Politically, the UN developed out of a near-planetary reaction to the horrors of the past (a past still very fresh in the collective consciousness). As a race, we finally started looking back. At the time, what looked like a brush with total de struction engendered something like a worldsociety wherein, theo retically at least, each nation was responsible to those around it. This noble, concilia tory and regulating act in a way more accurately mimicked the interdependent sovereignty of citystates of yore (though ideally without their warring tendencies) by foreclosing the possibility of politi cal empire. Forward and backward, at the same time, the world is reborn with hope that such terrors as genocide and nuclear assault will never again be witnessed.

As human history underwent a renais sance of sorts, though this time through flesh and metal, more local ized systems of rebirth became entrenched in individual societies. The American worker sought to better his life, and then her life, and moved to the suburbs.

Civil Rights were born and America was taken to task on its own in ternal inequities. Then high school was no longer enough educa tion and we needed Bachelor’s Degrees which then necessi tated Master’s Degrees. And now there are many who have taken it this far only to be left with a fundamental question: What the hell do I do now? How do I find success in a world dominated by the feudal lords of big business and big box stores and big norms of taste and culture? Looking back at it like this, it’s no longer so refreshing, but the general importance of understanding progress by looking to history cannot be refuted.

The society-specific rebirth thus becomes a very personal and internalized struggle with self-modification. New York recently ran a cover story about burnout and how it re lates more to our selfcontained imperatives than to the restrictions imposed by our profes sional lives. Mean while, the self-help topic of the moment is, naturally, the question happiness (Is it biologi cal? Is it chemical? Is it

environmental? How come I’m not living in a penthouse overlooking the Hudson?). And as New Yorkers there are constant reminders of the need to get ahead, to make our lives bet ter: free street-corner catalogues stacked in yellow plastic dispens ers doling out advice on making it rich in real es tate or a simpler ques tion: Busca trabajo?

But under what pretenses are these personal renaissances undertaken? As a writer, I am con stantly questioning my career-choice – its less-than-lucrative benefits, its odd hours, its complete reliance on self-promotion, the necessity to wait tables – and I consider reinventing myself as an office stiff, as a fun draiser, as a non-profit pioneer. But these options never prove enticing as I won der which direction, forward or backward or nowhere, I would then be looking. If I’m stuck looking cross-eyed at the role of history in human progress, how can I expect those around me to be any better off? Given our pasts, should we be so caught up in this forward-only momen tum? We can keep it up, for sure, but all of you inland suckers are going to be real sorry when you don’t have New York to snapshot with your families for your mantles and walls. Why, you ask? Our quaint city will soon be underwater, or frozen, or both.

only humankind has the know how, sometimes sadly, need to constantly reindividually, often criminally but largely responsible for progress. there’s the rub!

JALYN HALL

By Sydney Champagne Photography Nathan Heyward

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Jalyn Hall is a young man who currently carries a huge responsibility... but with the potential for a huge future in the industry riding on it. As Emmet Till he plays the victim in the real life story of an horrific murder of this 14 year old by white supremacists in 1955 Mississippi. In “Till” his mother Mamie TillMobley (in an oscar worthy performance by Danielle Deadwyler) turns her son’s lynching into a nationwide cause celebre that challenges and changes the racist “Jim Crow” laws in the American Deep South

Photography : Heyward

“... This is SOMETHING thathappened67yearsago , and it’sstillhappening today, that should makeyouwanttogetoutand CHANGE THE WORLD... ”

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Gen Z is often criticized for its reliance on me dia, scolded for sticking their noses in places they don’t have much experience in. What these critics don’t see are the individuals who embody the best of Gen Z; those who have intelligence, wit, and a willingness to learn and make the world around them a better place.

Jalyn Hall encapsulates the best of what Gen Z has to offer the world. The star of the newly released movie Till, the 15-year-old is prepared to tackle every opportunity that comes his way.

Hall always knew acting was his calling. “When I was four I said I was gonna be in the TV,” he said with a smile. “I didn’t know how I was gonna be in the TV, but I was dead set on being in it!”

He recalls going to acting camp at 7-yearsold and falling in love with the performing arts. “From that point on, the flame that was acting just kept burning brighter and bright er in my heart,” he said. “It just kept pushing me until I got here.”

Hall has an extensive resume: from a regular cast member on the CW’s All American to roles in films including Space Jam: A New Legacy and the upcoming 2023 drama se ries The Crossover, Hall is booked, busy, and ready to change the industry.

His most recent film, Till, follows the story of Mamie Till-Mobley in seeking justice for the 1955 lynching of her 14-year-old son Emmet (played by Hall). It’s a story that holds a lot of weight, and still resonates with us today as America continues to fight racism and call for equality for all its citizens. Playing the

role of Emmett Till comes with a heaviness, a load of responsibility– and that was not something Hall took lightly.

“Embodying a character, not a character actually, a human being like this who never really got to exert his personality into the world is so crucial because now you have to do it as accurate and authentic as possible,” he said. “And that was my, like, sort of minimission for myself…I really wanted to do that to the best of my ability.”

Hall has the ability to make you fall in love with the characters he plays instantaneous ly. He doesn’t leave his charisma behind when he enters a role, but carries it with him to enhance the character he plays. You become attached to him– it’s part of what makes him such a talent.

But when watching Till, Hall doesn’t want the focus to be on him, but rather on the societal changes we must make to make the world safe and equal for everyone. “This is something that happened 67 years ago and it’s still happening today, that should make you want to get out and change the world, you know? So, this [Till] is that realization and that wake-up call for the world.”

Though the pressure was heavy in a role like this, Hall isn’t one to shy away from a chal lenge. He recognizes that this wasn’t just a role, but a story that was bigger than him and more important than just a line on his resume. “I was never scared to do anything like this, to do this in particular because of its importance– it’s one of those things that is bigger than you, you know, and when it’s

bigger than you, not to say…that you have to get rid of whatever opinions or your opin ion doesn’t matter, but you have to be self less right?” he said. “Because I’m not por traying a character, I’m not a character in a movie…I’m portraying a human being that is crucial to a point in our history. And that responsibility is great, that honor is great. So, I had to welcome it in that mindset”

As for the rest of the cast? Hall had nothing to say but praise every single person who worked on the film. “Literally everybody on the cast, behind the cameras, did their part and did it amazingly to come up with this work of art that has so many messages rolled into one that affect the world,” he said. “Working alongside them was a pleasure.”

Hall is confident that his future remains on the big-screen; or, rather, behind the camera. His passion for films and filmmaking is larger than life. I have a very, a wonderful imagina tion right? So acting is my way of, you know, exerting myself. That’s my goal, that’s my mis sion, that is making me, you know, that’s my dream,” he said. “So, what better way to pro long the dream [than] by helping others with their dream and directing and you know living on a vision. So that’s definitely in the cards for me, I know that for sure. Acting, directing, you know, filmmaking, books, everything.”

Dreaming big and reaching for the stars: an other theme prevalent in Gen Z today that Hall embodies to the fullest. And why not? Hall has proven to himself, and the world, at just 15-years-old that the world is his oys ter. It’s his story to create. And I, for one, am more than happy to watch him thrive.

One of the most damaging eco nomic effects of the Covid lockdown of 2020 - and there were many- was the disproportionate number of women who left the workforce... and have not returned. A She-cession. Whatever we have to do to get them back, DO IT!

By Nazzic Keene CEO, SAIC

“Diversity drives innovation – when we limit who can contribute, we in turn limit what problems we can solve.” These wise words from Dr. Telle Whitney, a computer scientist and pioneer on the issue of women in technology, point to a fundamental challenge we’re currently facing – one that can and must be solved if we don’t wish to stifle national innovation.

In the wake of the pandemic, over 40 percent of workers are considering leaving their jobs to pursue new opportunities. Aptly named “The Great Resignation,” this mass migration of work ers is driven by workforce challenges – struggles that disproportionately impact women. In fact 1.8 million women in the United States left the workforce during COVID-19 – a trend dubbed the “she-cession.”

Why are women leading the charge when it comes to The Great Resignation? For most, it’s about maintaining a work-life balance. In fact, 80 percent of women across 10 countries said their workloads increased as a result of the pandemic and 66 percent took on more respon sibilities at home. Increased demands, both at home and in the workplace, has led to nearly three-quarters of workers feeling disengaged with their jobs or burnt out, especially women. And with many women stuck at home work ing to juggle their family and professional lives, the burden simply became too much, forcing them to reprioritize entirely. In a recent survey, 92 percent of women agreed that “time is too precious to waste on things that don’t serve my purpose/well-being.”

The price of this talent loss to U.S. government agencies, companies and the economy will be in performance. Gender diversity has been proven to be critical for organizations of all types across decision-making, problem solving and collaboration. Gender diverse companies are 21 percent more likely to have “above aver age” profitability and companies employing an equal number of men and women manage to produce up to 41 percent higher revenue. Di verse teams are even 87 percent better deci sion-makers than individuals. It’s clear from these figures that gender diversity is directly connected to business success. And when it comes to the global economy, gender diversity efforts provide great promise, given global GDP could increase by $28 trillion if the global workforce became equally genderdiverse by 2025. We’re just years away from that milestone, so it’s critical that we staunch the flow now before it’s too late.

Because diversity of thought based on a variety of team backgrounds and experiences leads to better ideas, efficiency and advanced technology, the stakes are simply too high to ac cept this alarming trend. Government and indus

try leaders must embrace a new vision of work to optimize talent retention and performance. While the pandemic continues to have ripple effects across industries, one silver lining in the technology sector was the rapid move toward digital transformation. This shift enabled remote work in sectors like the government that had not previously embraced a mobile workforce – es pecially good news when it comes to retaining female talent given the additional burden placed on them during the pandemic. Even so, organiza tions across industries have to make a concerted effort to evolve in delivering better experiences for diverse workforces through the innovative use of benefits, work flexibility and culture to attract and retain the best talent.

According to a 2020 Metlife survey, 69 percent of employees say having a wider array of benefits would increase loyalty to their employer. So, em bracing the future of work by offering increased flexibility is key. Commuting to and from the office for a rigid 9-to-5 workday is a thing of the past. Organizations should be open to non-tra ditional work schedules that allow employees to work when it best suits their schedule. The fourday work week model has been proven time and again to increase productivity and boost morale. Rather than becoming overworked and burnt out – a key force driving The Great Resignation – employees remain mentally healthy and happy and more flexibility is afforded to working moth ers, advancing gender diversity efforts. While this represents a more extreme scenario and may not be feasible for all organizations, this flexible ap proach is one that all should look to emulate.

Beyond embracing hybrid/remote work and flex schedules, it’s crucial that we compensate wom en adequately. In 2019, the median annual earn ings for women working full time, year-round was $47,299, or 82 percent of men’s earnings. It’s high time for fair and equal compensation for women. We need structural policy change to ensure full recovery and economic security for women moving forward.

At the end of the day, women need equal support – whether that’s in the form of employers rising to the occasion on rising medical insurance plan premiums or family leave as a basic benefit. But in addition to these more tangible benefits – and in the wake of the shift in priorities we’ve seen in response to the pandemic – it’s clear that purpose and culture are crucial. More than ever before, it’s critical that organizations clearly communicate their mission, stay true to their values and dem onstrate the importance of inclusion and equity within their corporate cultures.

As a nation, we can’t be at our best if we’re not empowering over 50 percent of our potential talent to thrive and help shape our economic prosperity and national security as we head into 2022. Talking the talk is one thing – it’s high time we all walk the walk.

Ali Wentworth cover story

by chesley turner photography: spencer heyfron

Ali Wentworth’s style is a confluence of easygoing casualness and underlying fearlessness, and the creative output that results is full of candid obser vation and curiosity.

“Yeah, I think it’s fearless. But I think that I know how to read the room. I’m not trying to be provoc ative...but I see things the way I see things.” Perhaps that skill for social finesse that just skirts the third rail is not quite as surprising when you consider that her mother was a Democrat who served as White House social secretary for the Reagan ad ministration. It’s bred in her. But her creative work isn’t political; she’s just keeping an eye on things and giving us the benefit of her unique perspective.

“I think my humor and the way I observe things came from a reaction to growing up in Washington during Watergate, where I found everything to be incredibly tense and humorless. I thought politics were corruption.... I was going to school with G. Gordon Liddy’s son. So I think my creative, come dic mind came out as a reaction to all of that.” May

be it was inevitable that despite ditching the capital to move LA for several years, Wentworth ended up back on the east coast, married to George Stepha nopoulos, and offering her comedic take on the baffling times we’re navigating.

In her recent book, “Ali’s Well That Ends Well: Tales of Desperation and a Little Inspiration,” Wentworth uses her signature voice to bring a little levity to surviving COVID and demystifying persistent taboos. “I don’t really understand why people don’t talk about things. I don’t know what that is. Growing up in my family, you know, we never talked about sex. So, because of that, as an adult, I talk about sex. Because it felt repressive and tight to me as a kid. So, again, it sounds like everything is a reaction to my childhood.... But ev erything is a reaction to my childhood.”

Her personal stories are only circumspect when her kids’ experiences are in the telling, whether she’s writing or podcasting or guest-hosting on LIVE with Kelly and Ryan. “Initially, when I was

writing stories that I thought were completely in nocuous and funny, you know, my children were like, ‘These are our stories. You can’t tell them; you can’t use them for humor.’ So, I stopped doing that. They’re allowed their privacy, and it’s their story.”

That personal perspective isn’t just meant to preach, but to connect. “I’m not a provocative per son. I don’t say big sweeping extreme political stuff at all. I make, you know, I make jokes about myself.” Wentworth imagines the benefits of a more open, connected world. “Can you imagine if we were all just really honest with each other, and humanity was warm and inclusive...especially women.”

For example, Wentworth remembers when she was considering blepharoplasty to eliminate the bags under her eyes. She called a bunch of friends and acquaintances in New York and LA looking for recommendations on plastic surgeons, and every one denied ever having had any work done.

“They all denied it. ‘No, I haven’t done anything,’

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and I thought, How!? I’m telling you I’m doing it! Don’t lie to me. I actually wrote a piece about it because I felt like I was trying to get an abortion in the 1950s, you know – or today, as it turns out. I didn’t understand why women wouldn’t reach out and try to help each other.” So, she offered up her own experience, videoing the prep, pro cess, and recovery, so that other women could learn from her experience. “Why not be relatable to each other? It’s like, we don’t talk about meno pause; let’s all pretend that we’re fitter and better and happier than we are. But I have found that when [I’m] with a group of women and I give my self, you know, I’m the sacrificial lamb; I say, ‘Hey, listen, marriage is hard, blah blah blah....’ And then everybody starts feeling comfortable.

“I think people should communicate. I mean, you know, women particularly. Women – we do have our own sort of oral history. When one of my kids was sick when they were little, I wouldn’t call my doctor. I would call one of my girlfriends. Women have the knowledge that we hand to each other all the time. I think if we have uncomfortable con versations, it helps us all.”

In a social-media-oriented world, however, Wentworth acknowledges the benefit in never having been an ingenue, overly reliant on per fect looks or tying self-worth to outward ap pearances. “For me, now, sexy-sexy is over, you know. I’m happy to put on a straw hat and grow tomatoes.” Still, for young women and girls, there is much to navigate. “I can’t imagine be ing a teenager in this world. I joke, but I’m like, they’re teenagers! They’re supposed to be out holding up liquor stores and getting pregnant.” Somewhere amidst the pandemic, the Trump years, the politics, the climate crisis, the over turning of Roe versus Wade, our kids are trying to grow up, learn who they are, and learn who they want to be. Their attempting self-discovery in a world that seems out to get them. “If I were a teenage girl, I’d never get out of bed!”

As a mother of two young women, Wentworth admits: being a parent right now is harder than ever before. You’re worried for your kids, also anx ious and sad and scared yourself. “I do find myself saying to the next generation, you know, you’ve got a shitload on your plate. We dropped the ball. And yes, we dumped it on you, and I hope that you – particularly my daughters – are fearless fe males that are going to go and do what they can to, you know, mop up our mess.”

It's a different world, and today’s teens do have the strong benefit of more teenage role mod

els. From Greta Thunberg to the survivors of the Parkland shooting, it’s okay to be an activist. “And they need to be, because the adults aren’t doing anything.”

When she has questions, Wentworth uses her podcast called, “Go Ask Ali,” to find the right people who can shed some light on the topic at hand. “I ask anybody that is an expert in some thing I’m interested in that I think a lot of other people would be interested in hearing about.” Season one was about how to raise a teenager in a pandemic, “because that’s all I was thinking about. I was talking to family therapists and anxi ety specialists and Peggy Orenstein about sexual ity and girls and how the pandemic sort of halted all that. And I talked to somebody that dealt with addiction and teens. All within the lens of being in a pandemic.” With season two under her belt and just starting season three, she still doesn’t have a specific hook. It’s just things she wants to know more about, where she isn’t the expert at

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all. “I don’t pretend to know more than I do.” Wen tworth jokes. “I mean, my fashion podcast would last one second. I’d be like, ‘Wear jeans.’”

With her podcast, books, and a possible scripted series in the hopper, Wentworth has a packed tocreate list, but home base is still her own house. With one daughter in college and the other a se nior in high school, things are about to get very quiet at home. “I’m very cognizant of the fact that I’m soon to be an empty nester, so I’m going to be all over my daughter all the time, and she’s gonna hate it. Besides that, I have all these conversations with George about, you know, what the back nine of life looks like. I think we both are at a point where we want a little bit more quiet, a little more coziness. I feel cozier times ahead, which I’m looking forward to.” Still, she has no plans to slow her creative work, and sharing her creativ ity and curiosity with the world.

“I won’t stop! I promise.

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One Manhattan Square

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to live in a hotel and feel like you’re on vacation all year round? That’s what every day feels like when you live at One Manhattan Square on the Lower East Side. With over 100,000 square feet of indoor and outdoor ameni ties, One Manhattan Square has something for everyone. Your own personal vertical vil lage awaits with the very best of New York City right outside your doorstep. To top it off, you will wake up every morning to the most breathtaking views of the city skyline and East River. Come inside.

One Manhattan Square has striking inte rior design and architecture that is sure to catch your eye. World-renowned architec tural firm Adamson Associates designed the glass tower’s exterior, and all interiors are designed by Meyer Davis Studio, the firm behind Oscar de la Renta’s worldwide bou tiques. Available for immediate occupancy, the 815 residences, ranging from one-tothree bedrooms, are beautiful with optimal light, incredible views, and open layouts. One Manhattan Square homes also feature

5” wide-stained, oak flooring, imported stone and custom finishes. The homes are so warm and comfortable that you may nev er want to leave – but once you do, a funfilled day of attractions await you.

So, what exactly differentiates the exqui site One Manhattan Square from all other buildings? An amenity package that is like no other and is just an elevator ride away from your home. Spread across four floors, these added luxuries were designed to pro vide the utmost recreational, social and fit ness experiences.

Start your day with a little you time at One Manhattan Square’s ultra-luxury spa – tru ly rivaling the hotel spa experience. Built around a sunken tranquility garden with pri vate treatment rooms, you are sure to feel pampered here. Sweat it out in the sauna. Take a dip in the hammam with a cold plunge pool. Stay in shape utilizing the state-ofthe-art fitness center, and after that work out, take a dip in One Manhattan Square’s indoor 75-foot saltwater swimming pool and hot tub. You can also take advantage of the state-of-the-art fitness center, the spin, Pilates and yoga studio rooms, the bowling alley, the full-court basketball court, golf simulator, squash court and yoga studio.

Host your next Superbowl Party in One Manhattan Square’s screening and perfor mance center. Take the kids for a day of fun in the children’s playroom and teen arcade. Work from home in the culinary lounge. Have a post-dinner drink in the wine room. Additional indoor amenities include the cigar room, cellar bar and demonstration kitchen. You will always be entertained when inside your vertical village.

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Hosting a gathering at One Manhattan Square has never been easier with one of New York City’s premier grocery stores soon opening at the base of the building, bringing yet another convenience to the dynamic neighborhood. Brooklyn Fare

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If you do find yourself venturing outside of your ver tical village, the best of New York is located right at your fingertips. Uniquely situated at the nexus of the Lower East Side, South Street Seaport and China town, One Manhattan Square joins a bustling part of Downtown Manhattan along the East River Es planade, with an abundance of trendy restaurants, bars, and nightlife.

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ThanksGiving...

One thing has never made sense to me: Why do we teach children about the ‘meaning’ of Thanksgiving only to later reveal the gruesome reality of it is far from this symbolic image of collaboration? Growing up, I did Thanksgiving arts and crafts, wrote stories about the Native Americans and colonizers, and presented my cre ations with pride to my classmates and parents. Then in middle school the school system throws us a huge just kidding - what you thought was a peaceful, collaborative dinner between two groups of people was actually genocide! As a middle schooler I was too young and naive to ask why we were initially given a false narrative. If we are too young to learn about the harsh reality, then why even teach us about it at all?

Education is arguably the most important thing we should collectively spend our money on... our tax dollars. But unfortunately for the kids it is also the most neglected, manipulated ... and abused.

I hated school growing up. I genuinely found no value in the information they were teaching us. Ultimately in college, I ended up picking a major that would require the least amount of schooling. I didn’t figure out my natural curiosity and genuine love for learning until I finished my first year of college. But why did it take me so long to realize something that I now consider a fundamental part of my identity? I realized the answer lied in the way education in America is taught, not as a tool to expand one’s mind, but as a way to install pa triotism and nationalism in the youth (as well as productivity and discipline but that’s a conversation for another day).

The way American history was taught in my public school was based on the premise to regurgitate facts. When I wrote papers in my history classes there was no application of critical thinking or problem solving, but rather simply writing about what hap pened. My theory is that if we were to critically assess America’s past that would go against the ‘fact’ that America is the ‘best’. We are taught to love our country, the home of the free and the brave. We are taught to love the fact we can do whatever we want because we are not living in a third world countrywe are living in the great world superpower that is America!! And do not get me wrong, I am extreme ly grateful I live in a place where I have the privilege to get an education and create my own life rather than living in a war torn or famine stricken area, but this does not mean America is entirely free of criticism. The many con versations I have had with older, more politically conservative individuals offer me the insight that they were taught and preached chauvinism, most likely stemming from wartime where the general headspace of the country was an us vs them mentality. For these people who hold such chauvinist viewpoint, realizing that not everything in America is fine and dandy would be to completely alter their reality. It is very difficult to accept that the reality one once knew was nothing but an altered state of perception, mainly stemming from the fact that they are not the ones experiencing the great est injustices in American society. This is why educa

tion is so important. We must educate our youth on how society really functions in order to progress, as they can offer new perspectives on things we simply don’t see. If we teach them America is great, things will stay the same and this is fundamentally counterin tuitive to progress.

We learn about how bad slavery was, ensalving people is horrible but why do we learn and read about it over and over again throughout different levels of schooling? My question was trying to understand why I can recall vivid details about the Transatlantic Slave Trade, Frederick Douglass, the Underground Railroad, ect. but any history of social injustice against Black people following Reconstruction or the Civil Rights Movement was summed up in essentially a month or two where we talked about desegregation and the Montgomery Bus Boycott. I actually think I spent more time learning about hippies and Counter Culture than I did on the topic of ‘modern slavery’ - or the way Black people were and are still oppressed through sys tematic processes and institutions. I personally think the reason why we are taught so much about slavery, as opposed to the way our current and contemporary political systems fail those of color, is that the mes sage is trying to be pushed on us that we overcame slavery. As in we saw the error in our ways and we fixed them, Go America! Attention wants to be drawn away from the fact that modern day slavery very much exists but in more subliminal ways that are less, or not even, apparent to white people. To teach the youth about these injustices would be to teach them how to critically think about the pitfalls of our country and that maybe America isn’t so great after all (going completely against everything we stand for as a coun try painted as the illusion of the American Dream).

If the education system genuinely wanted students to expand their mind through education, subjects like art, philosophy, and anthropology would be installed into the curriculum. The issue here in lies with the where education is prioritized in the economy. Teach ers don’t make much money, therefore most people are unmotivated to become teachers, unless a their true passion overrides the societal pressure to make money. Therefore in public schools, teachers are typi cally unequipped to teach more specialized subjects from lack of training that again would cost time and money with little monetary benefits. Subject like poli tics, anthropology and philosophy are not taught or given little attention in schools because unequipped teachers do not have the resources to properly teach these subjects. Teachers are afraid of subliminally pushing their political agenda on their students and thus getting complaints. But, education is inherently political. There are deliberate decisions made on what information to omit and include in history text books, not to mention how this information is told.

With more education comes the burden of knowl edge. This burden referring to the knowledge of how things actually work in society. Teaching children there are issues in America today, inspiring them to change these systems, would be to threaten the power of those who hold it. However we have a duty to our children and this country to live up to the title of America as #1, not just in the sense of our military, but also in our humanity, ethics, and morals.

Power Women 2022

women’s rights, social fairness & equal opportunity

GRETA GARBO

“...I want to be alone...!”

Born Greta Gustafsson in Stockholm in 1905, POWER WOMAN GRETA GARBO first rose to international fame in the silent movies of the 1920’s. In 1930, she made a successful transition into talkies, in the film Anna Christie, which was marketed under the slogan ‘Garbo talks!’ Her first line was an iconic ‘ Give me a whisky, ginger ale on the side, and don’t be stin gy baby’ , which was delivered with a deliberately heavy and husky Swedish accent. She appeared in classic films such as ‘ Queen Christina’, ‘Anna Karenina’, ‘Mata Hari’ and ‘Camille’. Noted for her flawless beauty, cool persona and melancholy, she retired from the screen aged 35 in order to live her life on her own terms. A Power Woman indeed! For the rest of her life, she lived as a recluse, which passingly echoed her most famous film line from Grand Hotel.

2022 Power Women Honorees

Ali Wentworth, Actor, Comedian, Author, Producer

Hazel Sanchez, Anchor at PX11 Morning News

Nazzic Keene, CEO, SAIC (Science Applications International Corp.)

Ann-Marie Campbell, EVP of US Stores & Int’l Operations, Home Depot

Bess Freedman, CEO, Brown Harris Stevens

Makiko Matsuda Healy, Managing Director, Tourism Market Development, NYC & Company

Nelle Miller , Managing Director, Co-Head of New York, J.P. Morgan Private Bank

Linda Findley, President and CEO, Blue Apron

Caroline Proulx, Minister of Tourism, Lanaudière region, Québec

Livia De Paolis, Actor, Director, Screenwriter, Producer

Angie Pizzuti, VP, Customer Service Operations, DTE Energy

Karen Reif, VP, Renewables and Energy Solutions, PSE&G

Noni Ellison, SVP, General Counsel and Corporate Secretary, Tractor Supply Company

Anne Chow, Lead Director ,Franklin Covey, fmr CEO, AT&T

Anna Manz, CFO, London Stock Exchange Group

Samantha Lomow, Claire’s Board Member, fmr CCO Foot Locker Inc.

Laura Heltebran, Chief Legal Officer, Wheels Up

Laura Heltebran Chief Legal Officer Wheels Up

First, we must deepen the fe male leadership bench within our organi zations – women should be a significant part of the leadership pipeline. I try to do my part and more than 50% of my team are wom en. Second, we can vote with our wallets and direct external spending power toward female owned busi nesses and vendors that demonstrate a real com mitment toward the ad vancement of women.

Makiko Matsuda Healy

Vice President, Tourism Market Development NYC & Company

Establishing gender equality from early child hood education for all is the number one ac tion we, as a society can take. Everything goes back to the core values that are shaped in our childhood... my mother educated me to be independent,

Noni Ellison

Senior Vice President, General Counsel and Corporate Secretary at Tractor Supply Company

Ibelieve staying active in supporting and empowering other women is essential. Making a difference is about the state of mind and following through with determination and focus. A “Power Woman” should be willing to adapt to change because it is the only constant. We must recognize the change and challenges women face... supporting their development.

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There are so many talented women out there and we need to level the playing field to en able talented individuals to achieve their goals and reach their full potential. That happens when men and women are promoting change together not when it is viewed through a lens of male versus female.

But I think that having diversity at any table and any part of the organization just creates better decision making. The dialogue is better, the conversation is better. We all bring a different perspective. I think having that diversity of thought and the diversity of experience and say women think differently than men and in general we do.

Nazzic Keene

Chief Executive Officer of SAIC

Nelle Miller

If you don’t have a diverse work force, you’re not facing off against a diverse client base. Besides that, I believe that it becomes dangerous when a homogenous group keeps using only themselves for ideas. Eventually, they create an echo chamber.

Managing Director, Co-Head of New York J.P. Morgan Private BanK

Angie Pizzuti

Vice President Chief Customer Officer Customer Service DTE Energy

It’s so important for our society to create opportunities for women to receive education and training, and building networks to support them throughout the process. Education opens doors to women that may otherwise be closed. It’s also crucial for financial resources to be facilitated... in order to offset the challenges that women experience when pursuing an education,

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Society places an abundance of responsibility on women, and we have higher expectations of ourselves. This is where creating a network of sup port makes all the differ ence. I truly believe that part of being a lifelong learner is connecting with people who can help you, teach you and push you to be successful.

Caroline Proulx

Minister of Tourism Lanaudière region Queb ec

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It’s encouraging to see a shift in the number of women engaging in politics, not only because we are seeking gender balance but because women now understand that politics can channel their need for change and for improvement.

Livia de Paolis

Actor, director, screenwriter and producer.

Idespite the attachment many hold to the ways we have functioned in the past. Without evolu tion, our society will grow odd and dangerous.

Bess Freedman

CEO Brown Harris Stevens

You have to find what’s your truth and what your journey tells you, do what’s right for you, not what society constructs for you. You know you need to decide for yourself what feels freeing and true... we need to have new rules for what’s okay, that’s all.

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It’s important to have more balanced executive teams, board rooms, and senior management represen tation. This is where or ganizations like Moves Power Women can really make a difference — if you’re in those rooms and environments, with posi tions of power and influ ence, use it to bring more people into the room!

Elizabeth

SVP Engineering Streaming Paramount

K imberley Williams

The number one action our society can take toward empowering women is by nurturing children and supporting motherhood. We should make better efforts to provide care and support for mothers in the workplace. Removing that stress would make for more productive and healthy employees.

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am very, very passionate about mental health. I had an experience with someone very close to me who battles a extremely difficult mental health diagnosis. We do not have the resources to truly help people and break down barriers that keep us from

Ithink that we have to sort of ask ourselves, what are our priorities? Is it mon ey? Is it making a lot of money? Or is it having a verdant suc cessful community. I think we’ve gotten lost with with the money. We don’t have a free education system, a higher education system in this country. We don’t we don’t have that because things are too valuable. Somebody’s making a lot of money. And so we’re not putting the value where it belongs.

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As a woman in the media, GIVE WOMEN A VOICE! I feel we need to lift each other up by spreading the word about our female leaders, mov ers and shakers. Female success stories are widely underrepresented. And I truly believe, if you can see it, you can be it. Women should share their stories and be willing to share the stage with others who’ve found success.

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I have is that people will generally rise or fall to the level of expectations that you have for them. Even a 15-year-old can sense when somebody believes in her.

We’re at a time where gender is fluid and everyone’s really open to be themselves to be empathetic to connect with it all... we sort of play with that gender identity concept and just as an art ist, in my opinion, there’s no barriers... so it’s very ex citing in that way.

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One of the most fundamental ways we ensure gender equality and women’s empowerment is to ensure access to universal health care and child care. A narrative has been allowed to persist that government-sponsored health care and child care are strictly “social programs” when really these should be viewed as drivers of economic growth.

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DERMOT MULRONEY

“I got into this business on word of mouth, there wasn’t email, it was people calling peo ple and saying ‘Yes,’ who passed me along.” With his signature lazy grin and smoldering gaze peeking out from under a dash of dark brows, his tousled silver hair is the only thing that looks different from the beginning of his decades-long career. The big break that started it all was a phone call from the direc tor of his first studio film to the director of Young Guns. That’s all it took to land him in the iconic Wild West super-group romp that heated up the summer of 1988. “All because another guy said, ‘Yeah he’s good, put him in.’ In other words, I was already working some where else, I didn’t audition for Young Guns. Can you imagine? I was handed this incred ible character role to play as a 23, 24 year old.” His joyful and boyish energy is almost giddy and seemingly unbothered by the years of Hollywood grind since.

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Of course rom-com fans know there’s noth ing special about the big 3-0 — the real mile stone that mattered was the big 2-8 — the age of the marriage pact in My Best Friend’s Wedding. While Julia Roberts and Cameron Diaz duked it out for his affection in the icon ic flick 25 years ago, his charm absolutely still shines as bright. Looking at the plot in 2022 and clocking the “expiration date” of 28 (!?), it’s clear that age in Hollywood is undergoing a renaissance. Dermot points to actors like Jane Fonda, “She’s had a great bloom in her, whatever, seventh decade of being an actor, yeah? I’d wish that on everybody— that’s cer tainly my plan.” At this point in his career, he’s enjoying his experienced outlook. “Maybe I’m noticing it more now from my vantage point of being kinda like “the older guy” on the set or whatever, but I really see technicians as well as cast being like, ‘Come on, we can do this together,’ or, ‘Here, let me show you this.’

Dermot Mulroney is in the right place at the right time.

That’s one of the beauties of this industry, is that you’re literally passing hand-to-hand knowledge of things that don’t exist in a book or an instruction manual. It’s amazing making movies. It goes back to how much I work. I can’t turn stuff down because I love it so much. Being asked to, it’s just so touching to me.”

While Dermot has rounded up a slew of western roles throughout his career, includ ing The Last Outlaw and Bad Girls, there’s one cowboy role he’s never played. “I’ve yet to do my first rodeo movie so anybody out there, clock’s ticking on that one.” He laughs, “But you know now I’m gonna be the old guy leaning on the fence instead!” From west erns to action to romance, what matters is that he’s working — a LOT. “The more you do it, the more you have to do it. It’s really a craving kind of thing, wanting to act.” Chas ing that full work schedule along with everexpanding platforms for content, is why well into his fourth decade of acting, he’s busier than ever. “For some reason, I just fit this new landscape of jobbing.” Gone are the days of all of Hollywood scrapping for top billing in the few new releases of the year, content is the new Wild West — and it’s allowed him to continue to grow. “I’ve changed that mental ity with the industry and it’s worked out great for me. I’ve wound up with some of the most varied types of roles, you know, than ever at this age.” Recent projects range from Agent Game, the spy thriller with Mel Gibson, to Along for the Ride the coming-of-age Netflix movie based on the Sarah Dessen novel of the same name. “Now that there’s all these places your work can be seen, I’m getting calls from all over the place.”

Not content with just being seen in movies, he’s taken up another professional career in the arts. While Dermot’s been a cellist since he was in school, it wasn’t until he was in his 40s that he became a union player in scoring orchestras all over Los Angeles. He figures he has played in the orchestra for about 20 major motion pictures — and a few galas. “I have been known to ask the cellist to go get a drink on me and I play their instruments, I’ve done that a couple of times at fancy dress parties. That’s like my parlor trick.” He cred its his range of talent to his upbringing. “I’m a parent, and I recognize how important it was to my parents to put us into museums, the symphony hall, and into theater to watch

“The more you do it, the more you have to do it. It’s really a craving kind of thing , wanting to act.”

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plays. They took us to all the great movies, the westerns with my dad and car chase movies, I had such an influx of culture.” Cul ture of course includes the classics, and he admits those sometimes feel very recent. “The classics have changed since the clas sics of shall we say, our day. The classics are now [the original] Scream from ’96 which, to me, seems like yesterday. And now they’re on Scream 6 and they invited me on board to be in that cast.”

With all the wild experiences playing over 100 roles has given him, he’s got his feet on solid ground. “I don’t want to learn how to fly a he licopter so that we can scratch off my bucket list,” he laughs. “I think Tom Cruise was put here on earth to show us all that. Knowing how amazing his skill set, multi-combined the way it is, has shown us the way but, uh, no thank you with the flying thing.” He scrunches up his face and punctuates the thought with a shrug. It’s not to say that he doesn’t have a need for speed in his blood. “I have race car driving in my family so I could have taken that path. My dear departed dad drove cars for 35 years from the age of about 48 to his last race at 83 years old at the Indianapolis 500. The Brickyard means a lot to us in our family.” His siblings race and collect cars and he’s happy to let them keep the family legacy going. “It is a strong strain in my family but I don’t think I’m going to do that either. They’re all really cool things, but I don’t have the balls for it!”

He might not want to be behind the wheel, but it brought him one of his most cherished memories. “One of my dear friends was Paul Newman, we knew each other for like the last five or six years of his life. I believe I appeared in his final on-camera movie and we remained friends. In the summer that we worked together, he and his partner Carl had a race team and he took me around ev ery weekend. We’d get on his private jet and fly to the race and go into the pit and then watch open wheel Formula 1 cars driving two feet in front of me. I was even driven by Paul twice. Once on a track in Pomona, California, he was in a lap car, a pace car. I was in the passenger seat and he’s flooring a street car going about 120 on a ramp like this,” He slices a 45-degree angle through the air in amaze ment. “And then he drove me in a street car in between the races at Long Beach, Califor nia, which is a road race, like a Lemans-type

race. I’m in the car with Paul driving at top speed on a street course. My heart is racing,” The memory of the day comes at him fast. “I have a lump in my throat even talking about it,” he manages.

“He signed a hat for my dad. He knew he was, you know he knew he was a driver. And Paul didn’t sign many things, the story that he told me was ‘the last time somebody asked me to sign an autograph I had to put my dick down to do it because I was stand ing at a urinal.” The story comes out with the panache befitting a legend. “Hell of a guy, and everyone that ever worked with him would tell you exactly the same full-blood ed, big-hearted stories that I just did, he was just, he was the exception. Incredible.”

Experiences like this, being open to the work, to people, have created a career full of magic that he doesn’t take for granted, even for a minute. “A lot of actors forget

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that we come for just a small portion of the whole making of the movie, if you date it back to when the writer picked up their pen. You can’t beat acting for hard work, weird hours, but it’s a privileged position, and we’re work ing with people who work even harder than we do.” While Dermot still has work he wants to do — a turn on Broadway, for one — he’s happy. “My heart’s full, the people that have been half as kind as Paul was to me, I mean it. You know, just to give me the opportunity, it’s amazing what people did for me.”

He flashes back to the phone call that got him his big break in Young Guns, and he’s almost flustered by it even now. “That’s 37 years ago and I still remember it. I haven’t thought about it in a long time so I wanted to honor that mo ment. Two guys just said, ‘Yeah sure, why not him?’ And then, look what happened.”

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F&WOMEN’S EQUALITY DAY

CLIMATE CHANGE THIS IS REAL

Climate Change is the most devastating crisis facing the human race today. Disaster on an unimaginable scale is looming... ...and we still hesitate to take action.

Keynote Debra Messing Activist and actor (‘Will & Grace’)

Moderator: Alisa Petrosova, Artist & Climate Storyteller

Panelists: Nadiya Khalif, Earth Up Rising Meera Dasgupta, 2020 US Youth Poet Laureate Ajani Stella, Kids Fight Climate Change Vincent Vertuccio, Climate Activist

“2030 - It Is Just Too Late For Us”

How the younger generations will bear the brunt of the inaction to combat climate change.

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Moderator: Moonah Ellison, Publisher

Panelists:

Nicola Armacost Mayor, Hastings-on-Hudson

Livia De Daolis Director, ‘The Lost Girls’

Victoria Harmon CEO, VL Harmon Advisors

Is The Day”

It’s Women’s Equality Day: or how the US ARMY overcame gender prejudice. Plus The Role That Women Play In Climate Action.

Moderator: Moonah Ellison, Publisher

Panelists: Gena Pemberton, Omnicom Health Group Maj. Blondene Goulbourne, US ARMY

Seema Lisa Pandya, Artist

Livia De Paolis, Actress, director, screenwriter, producer

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Special Performances River Sage Singer Songwriter

Meera Dasgupta 2020 United States Youth Poet Laureate

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I’m not one of those people that praises America. (I mean in the cur rent state we’re in, what compli ments are there really left to pay?) I detest the people who post statuses on Facebook saying something to the effect of, “This is America.” In my mind, they always have a long Southern drawl because that’s where the ignorant rednecks who still fly the Confederate flag, have a shit ton of guns, and are ‘God fearing people’, live. If I read that status, or anything remotely resem bling this thoughtless expression, I defriend them. Instantly. But as a person who works in the hospitality industry, I believe that the restau rant business is the one exception where American customs must be observed or else people may be subjected to what I like to call, “I will cut a bitch” syndrome. This isn’t everywhere else in the world where tip is included on the bill. Doesn’t matter if you come from Russia or from under a fucking rock. You absolutely HAVE to tip the wait ers and waitresses. I don’t care if it’s less than 20%. Hell, I don’t even care if it’s less than 10%. But if you have enough money to take your broke ass out to dinner, you damn sure better be tipping the person who served it to you. Another thing, this isn’t fucking Europe, where everyone and their grandmother eats dinner after 10:00pm and stays until 2:00am. This is America, where people don’t have the luxury to just breeze along lackadaisically while you take three years to sip wine and eat dessert. If the kitchen closes at 10:30pm, you don’t make a reserva tion at 10:15pm and proceed to order the 9-course tasting menu and make the entire restaurant staff stay an extra three hours because in your culture, that’s an acceptable form of behavior. In America, this behavior is referred to as douche bag, asshole, or in layman’s terms, “That Guy.” Don’t be him. He’s not cool. I think every international tourist should be given a handbook of local customs that must be fol lowed to prevent fatal injuries or at the very least, death stares, from the natives. Restaurant etiquette needs to have its own section. Because if I have to delay my personal freedom because some Parisian princess has to eat at 11:00pm, there’s no telling what might happen to her food. Rikki, actress/server, Brooklyn

Being in mid-twenties is a difficult time to gauge your friends as people who are just having fun in their fleeting youth - or are gradually be coming alcoholics. A few years ago, getting textbook plastered every other night didn’t, in anyway, trigger any alarms. We were all just having fun and experiencing life out of col lege and taking control of everything for ourselves. But now it seems like a bit too much. How do you take care of business when you’re hungover as shit all the time? I know I can’t drink like I used to -- the consequential hangover feels like I’m legitimately dying. I can’t imagine feeling like that all the time now! I would curl up in a ball, and then actually die. But some of my friends are still subjecting themselves to these terrible morn ing-afters and perpetually lost cell phones and spilt red wine -- even though they know the repercussions very well. Guess I’ll give it another year or two before I start personally escorting them to AA classes. Ben, chef, Harlem

I am quite the literary fanatic. One might even use the word “nerd” to describe me. I love to read. Always have, always will. It’s how I was raised. When my father took me to the bookstore and announced that he would buy me two books, I spent hours ensuring that I picked the perfect ones. As a result, being literarily inclined is a quality I look for in the people I surround myself with: friends, co-workers, and es pecially significant others. So when I hear someone who I have come to admire, and enjoy spending time with, say, “I don’t like to read,” It’s a turn off. A major fucking red flag that forces me into an existential crisis and causes a ripple of questions to pop into my mind. Did this person go to college? Yes, that’s how I met him. Then how can he not like read ing? I don’t know. What’s the best part about reading? That it engages the imagination. Does this person blow my mind in bed? Yes. Then how could he not like reading? I don’t know. No matter how many questions I ask myself, I can never understand why anyone, young or old, male or female, could possibly abhor reading. Besides the airplane, it’s the closest thing we have to time travel. Books have brought us the most iconic entertainment series of our generation. Harry Potter Game

of Thrones. Even The Walking Dead was a graphic novel! So if you don’t like reading, I think it’s time to reevaluate your life. At the very least, it’s time to get out of mine. Because I have no use for people who can’t think outside the box.

Elenore, publishing, UWS

Public transportation may have the word public in it; but in reality, that shit is private. Every person is in their own little world: either wrapped up in a portable device, an intense con versation with a peer, or entranced in reading material. Whatever medium they’re choosing to occupy their time, they want to be left alone. Especially if someone is wearing headphones. That is universal sign for “Do Not Fucking Disturb Me.” So, surely you can understand my outrage when a man approaches me on the subway and attempts to strike up a witty conversation. Well, I know that you’re not blind, because you can CLEARLY see I am wear ing headphones and purposefully blocking out all other noise around me. 1. I just got off work. I am tired, I had to spend my entire day talking to people. And now you’re turning what would have been quiet time into “I’m going to pretend to want to get to know you, but really all I want to do is get in your pants” time. Basi cally, you’re disrupting my Me Time. 2. Public transportation is crowded and cramped as it is; you’re making me feel more uncomfortable by the second because you’re intruding on my bubble of personal space, which I have no opportunity to escape without making myself look like a total bitch, and you like a complete asshole - which you are. 3. Unless you are devastatingly handsome, like a full-on 8 or higher, go away, because you have no shot in hell with me.

Sarah, personal trainer, Hoboken

I’m sitting on my morning one-train, waiting for it to depart (I live way way up in the Bronx.) It’s pretty early in the morning so there are only a few of us in the car. Engine’s off. It’s dead silent. Since unprovoked human interaction has, quite frankly, died, it’s pin drop quiet. Seriously; all I hear is ragged breath and the wind howling outside. All of a sudden the silence shatters in the most gut wrenching, stomach turning way possible. There’s the faintest suck

ling, squishing noise. The woman in the next seat is chewing gum. Chewing gum with your mouth open is not only rude, it’s positively revolting. Chewing gum so loudly that everyone within the general vicinity can hear it pop, smoosh, and then reform inside your probably cesspool infected mouth? That is the most passive aggressive form of ob noxiousness that I can imagine. It’s borderline hillbilly behavior. Close your mouth and chew in silence.

Show some respect.

Letitia, lawyer, Bronx

It’s so weird interacting with lov ers of loves long past. I always find myself on this weird fence of am I going to be a dick to them because they really hurt my feelings and should give them a taste of their own medicine… or am I going to be nice so I don’t seem like a total bitch? Because once it’s usually done, I’m not really one to revisit. So am I boring and nice, facilitating a cordial face-to-face? Seems like the right choice, but that’s so boring and meek! I like the spicy idea to confuse them, making them unsure if I can tolerate them or not. I like being ambiguously sassy. After this course of action, I may sometimes feel petty and childish; but it’s just such an uncomfortably awkward situation! I don’t know what to do. It’d really just be better if they didn’t contact you months later and pretty much just forgot you existed. That would be the polite thing to do. But of course, chivalry is dead.

Camila, designer, Union Square

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SEPARATE LIVES

There is something innately disappointing about every divorce (despite a million comic punch lines and several debasing celebrity settlements), but what is sadder is the horrific joy the protagonists take from the salt they can administer to their own, and their former lover’s, wounds. And all this from our revered human emotions. Thanks!

by Andrew DiLauro

We all know someone who has been through a difficult divorce, with all the attendant emotions and perceived lack of justice. The aftermath of divorce is rarely free of malcontentedness. There are lingering feelings of having been shortchanged and the sensation of inequity with regard to financial obligation and the division of time spent with children. Divorce counter parties experience these feelings independently. They are usually unable, or perhaps more accurately, are unwilling, to stand in the other’s shoes. Instead, they often choose the lens that validates their own view, their own perception of how family law is skewed and falls short of equitable distribu tion. So is family law skewed? Does it presuppose the roles of the parents and allocate resources without prejudice? Yes and no. Does it matter? In the absence of any grotesque and obviously unfounded imbalances, the answer is no. Gender skew does exist in family court, just as it does in the rest of the natural world, especially where human emotions and interests are involved. To fight it, then, is to fight nature. The more meaningful pursuit is to accept that such a tendency is inevitable, and to spend effort on what is in the best interest of the children.

Distortions in distribution abound around us. The queen ant distributes re sources asymmetrically between herself and her offspring, as well as among the various grades of her offspring. Lunar tide cycles do not distribute wa ter-born nutrients evenly in estuaries. Food and water is unevenly deposited throughout the Serengeti. In these and millions of other examples, it is appar ent that skew is a naturally occurring phenomenon whose existence certainly predates the creation of family law. There are also non-naturally occurring examples, such as government unemployment and inflation statistics, where data is arguably skewed to create a desired effect (such as placating capital markets or keeping social security payments out of pace with real inflation). Skew, natural or synthetic, is part of the world we live in, as well as the world we have created, including family law and divorce court.

At one point in time, children were considered to be the property of the father; consequently, men were awarded custody in virtually all divorce cases. But by 1990, though the exact figures are opaque, the granting of sole custody had shifted to the mother in over 70 percent of U.S. divorces. Each of these extremes demonstrates a proclivity to favor one gender over the other in accordance with the prevailing attitudes of the time. Given this information, it’s logical to conclude that bias will continue to change to reflect concurrent population characteristics. There are myriad other sta tistics and studies which underscore gender skew in divorce, but that is not

the intent here. Skew exists in nature, mathematics, geometry, computer chips, and family law. The intent is to illustrate that it does exist and to urge a reasonable acceptance of that fact.

Its fairness, its constitutionality, its effect on populations, and so on, can be argued without end. Is it fair that the queen ant maintains a sterile popula tion of offspring to insulate her and her higher-quality offspring from dis ease and war? Whether it is fair or not is irrelevant. It simply is. And so is the existence of gender skew in family law and divorce court. Is it fair? Probably not. Is it an inescapable fact? Certainly. Will it change? It appears the pen dulum has begun to swing away from the extremes of the 1990’s. Theoreti cally, it will at some point reach a state resembling equilibrium. Or it may not. What is certain is that the attitudes of parents, lawmakers, and judges will continue to change and skew the outcome of divorce proceedings with respect to the gender of the parents.

Awareness and acknowledgement of these tendencies do not help in any way to diminish the natural reactions of fist shaking and foot stomping. If it were that easy, the complexion of the world would be quite different. Ac cepting the truth as it exists – bearing witness to it without judging it – is but a step in the greater practice of self-awareness as it pertains to post-divorce behavior and decision making in general. The existence of sour feelings and skew are inevitable. To react to them or to acknowledge them while making decisions with a greater good in mind is a choice.

William Arthur Ward said, “The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” As it applies to the yachtsman, so it applies to any person. Complaining and expecting change tend to focus on non-existent past or future events. Adjusting to conditions as they are tends to bring action into the present. When one accepts condi tions as they are in the here and now, one can most effectively and suc cessfully move forward. Parents today can predict with a certain amount of accuracy what the final divorce decree will look like. They have little choice other than to work within the confines of court mandates, state derived calculations, and the existence of built-in gender skew. These are the facts, here and now. Accept what is and set aside the gripes about what is and isn’t fair. Devote otherwise wasted energy to caring and providing conti nuity for the children involved. Keep their interests as primary objectives. Decide what is important and what can be overlooked without prejudice. In divorce, the only ones getting screwed are the kids.

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