LIFE
MINI VERSION
Published by Nicho Ntema Unlimited, 2012-13 Copyright Š M.N. Ntema, 2012-13 Nicho Ntema Unlimited
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LIFE “Here I am describing something so intriguing, that no one has ever brought forth a sensible and comprehensive definition. It is a complex issue, that I am attempting to put my mind’s capability to it, so that I understand it and also share that understanding with you. I am working out a better definition of this complex thing called LIFE, in a manner that I hope will make you create a way of viewing it and understanding it so that you find yourself living it well and prosperous. This is LIFE‌
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Note The idea is to share with you a 30 day mental exercise manual that involves thirty powerful messages for everyday living that can effect positivity to our lives.
Remember, this is not only about you but can be shared with friends, lovers, family and everyone else. This should be able to make you see things differently and learn to appreciate LIFE better.
This thirty day exercise will get implanted within your mind and live with your soul within your body throughout your existence.
As a bonus, I have been directed to also share with you massive power messages in a form of quotes that you should make sense out of them yourself‌
Read on..
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About the Me "My life is a combination of two things: God and ‘The’ Perfect Self” In one of the books I am busy writting; You Are a Disgrace: THE ULTIMATE TRUTH ABOUT YOU, I am attempting to define life as I see it. “Looking at how life is formed and sustained makes me to understand the perfection we are. If since your incubation within your mother’s womb, you have been growing in your own pace without external influences, then you have been created to be self reliant, thus you have no cord supplying you with power to do anything. Even the umbilical cord was only for nutrition and development purposes linked to your mother as your incubator. After nine months, the umbilical cord gets obsolete. You are now on your own. You become your own self. You are now individually powered. That power that make you live, think and grow has been installed in you the minute you were conceived. But that power has been there, long before you could exist…” This power is what I call “SPIRIT”: YOUR SOUL BEING | YOUR ELECTRICITY SUPPLY | YOUR INNER STRENGTH | YOUR ENTIRE FORCE | YOUR FULL MIGHT | YOUR GREATEST POTENCY | YOUR ENERGY | YOUR STRONG POINT | YOUR POWER. YOUR COURAGE | YOUR CHARACTER | YOUR GUTS | YOUR WILL | YOUR FORCE | YOUR ESSENCE |YOUR CORE AND YOUR PERSON | YOUR GOD. “…This ‘spirit’ maintains your existence in this world. It fuels your entire body functions on a rotational basis until your body dies. It never stops providing the essential power for your body to run and therefore, this is the perfection I’m talking about. If you can analyze this, you will then see how perfect you are. No one has ever tampered with the composition and functioning of your spirit. Your spirit is yours and never transferable. You can’t even transplant the spirit. This perfection is the basis of your existence in this world”.
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Amidst the many definitions of God and creation, I have opted to be impartial and non-denominational about my understanding of God. I have been raised within the Christian world and family and thus know God through Christian eyes and thoughts. I thus opt to detach myself and my thoughts from the defined Christian God and broaden my understanding that God is beyond religion, defined faith and alignment. The word God, I choose to use, for it describes my thoughts easily to those I intend explaining this issue to. I only use it for descriptive purposes mainly as describing the upper being, the creator and the super being we all know as God. I have concluded that God is my superior and acknowledge that through what my conscience and intelligence guide me to believe. I have seen miracles and undefined occurrences happening since my birth and continue to witness that and I personally attribute that to God and ‘The’ Perfect Self thereof. Throughout the years, I have seen the presence of the super being in our lives and life in general on this planet and beyond. The existence, transformation, longevity and sustainability of life remain a mystery that for now I shall conclude that it is God created, given and held. This gives me the only understanding that I was thus created, placed on earth and thus maintained and lives through God’s ultimate creation and intention. This is not only for me, but you as well including many other animals, plants and anything that lives or just here that we can’t explain. This phenomenon that is life and God is still beyond my comprehension amidst the many theories and beliefs in this world. I therefore declare myself a two-tier creature that I believe is a combination of God and The Perfect Self. This should but not make me think that I am beyond anything else. Every living creature in this world is also through God and the same perfect self. I thus opted to strive for living in harmony with anything and everything God created, be it an ant or the greatest ocean mammals. The purpose may not be the same, but connectivity is surely linked…
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About the Book
There's this thing called LIFE. It's a very beautiful thing when filled with smiles and joy. It's a very sad thing when there's challenges and pain. It is LIFE. Though sweet sometimes and sour, it remains LIFE. Some got it right some lost it. But still, it's LIFE. As diverse or as narrow as it may be to you, it is LIFE and remains LIFE. Mine has been challenging and very exciting. It has been fulfilling. It had been tough and rough sometimes. It is sometimes low and sour. It is transitional though and that's my LIFE. This book is about life the way I see it and how I project it through my daily living. My dream is to see many of you reading this book and copying some of my thoughts and views to life so as you minimize your challenges and hardships so that this life can be as bliss as you wish it to be‌ Just like other books I am about to publish, you get a chance to be a co-Author of this book. Personalize it to suit your circumstances and influence your life. Fill-in the blank spaces with your thoughts, views and wishes.
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Acknowledgements
This book is entirely influenced by circumstances I usually found myself in at any given time of any given day, and so forth. I would like to thank everyone who contributed to those circumstances, whether in a positive or negative way or otherwise.
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Day 1 "Life is so diverse that if you don't create your own niche, you'll be swallowed in the abyss� As wide as this earth or even the entire universe, that’s how I see life. What is happening in a remote village in Gambia today is completely unknown to us as much as what we do is completely unknown to an electronic company executive in China. This means, we are like many ants pushing some soil up to other people. We are like a herd of cattle crossing the street to others until we create something that will make us be talked about, seen and recognized. Until such time you look within yourself and find that thing that makes you unique and also project your uniqueness to others, you shall remain a number and a soul that is just there, but with no meaning and impact attached to you.
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Day 2 "Life's most memorable moments are sad ones though they are the shortest and most minimal. Look at the bigger picture” It is everyone’s weakness to dwell into those sad, depressing and bad memories, whereas generally life is lived in the most exciting moments. Most of us embrace pain and loss longer and forget to remember that goodness and joy is more in abundance than pain and sorrow. As you read this book, your neighbour is quite and having a good time. There is no much mayhem happening to you right now. Although there’ll always be some bad and sad moments, but generally life is meant to be lived well. For those who remember their lost loves and feel pain, it is because they remember the many good moments that won’t come back due to few bad things that tainted them. Let the good rule and the bad remain in the periphery.
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Day 3 "I wish God can continue to bless me with the mind that beeps every time I'm about to make anyone sad. NEVER LET ANYONE SHED A TEAR BECAUSE OF YOU” In 2000 I met one progressive and successful businessman who said something very profound to me. He warned that ‘NO ONE SHOULD SHED A TEAR BECAUSE OF ME’. Although there will always be those who cry without pain or reason, but there are tears that are generated by deep seeded wounds that has been caused by people, without them being aware that they create a deep black hollow hole for themselves through hurting others. Everything done in a conscious mode to an aware and sober person carries a certain amount of responsibility. If anyone happens to cry because of you because of a deliberate action in a conscious mode with the intention of hurting that person, especially when he/she can’t defend him/herself or you taking advantage of their plight, standard or situation, know that you will one day pay for those tears, but mostly for the duration of the pain endured prior and beyond the tears.
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Day 4 "Life hurts. You fall from infancy to adulthood and it's always rocky” I have come to realize that life is never swift nor sour. It is a combination of many things that transcend from bitterness to sweetness in any given time. For you to realize that, you should acknowledge that today may be a great day but tomorrow may turn out to be a bitter day too. From birth, there’ll always be things that make you cry and those that make your day. Through all these, remember that, that’s how life is designed. Not for you alone but for every one of us. Try to prepare for the rocky part as the smooth part is common anyway, but that is Life for you.
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Day 5 "Life was never about breathing alone. Living is far beyond opening your eyes in the morning and closing them at night. What happens in the middle is of utmost importance. Live your life good today�
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Day 6 "It's not the amount of wealth you have, rather the amount of happiness you can generate to live a content life� Happiness is reciprocal. The more you contribute to generating it, the more it comes back to you. In any give and take situation, you should know that what you give should be taken by another person. The more you give and others take, the better chances of you getting from all of them as when they give.
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Day 7 With or without, life exist. Just like on meat where the spices enhances the taste, joy and happiness enhances living but life remain the same. So next time when you are super happy, remember that life is still the same. Even when you are suicidal, know that life remain the same. Just live it till it ends.
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Day 8 “All happens for a good reason. A bad reason is an eye opener for a good reason to take effect."
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Day 9 The best lesson I learned in life is 'NOT to burn bridges, no matter how shabby or uncomfortable they may be'. Their need is often unequaled to none.
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Day 10 "Life is like a yoyo. It has its ups and downs but finally it breaks off the string” While problems and challenges are facing you, you often ask –“why me?”. When good times come you often say“WOW…how blessed am I”. All these will forever come and go just like that. We therefore need to understand that, that’s how life has been designed until that day when the string breaks off. We need to try making the good times more than bad ones for the string often breaks without notice. Death is indeed certain.
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Day 11 "The fear of being inadequate is far more worse than death"
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Day 12 "Your purpose in life is as unique as your fingerprints but when it fits in a collective, it's then that it has meaning. We are all born from different backgrounds and parents. This is our uniqueness though only limited to us as individuals. Our main role is to be able to fit within the collective purpose that makes us to be part of the group. We should therefore remember that we individually have unique and personal purposes to fulfill but that has to fit within the Creator’s collective purpose for the betterment of mankind and life in general.
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Day 13 "In life you must always look up. That's where everything in abundance is. No limits" The sky is never full nor over populated. No one lives there but phrases like, “Up we go” “Higher Stakes” “Stand Tall” and “Love lifts us Up where we belong” proves that down is in the negative and up in the positive. Remember these… “put down” “graph was pointing down and spelled disaster”… So make it your habit to look up. Not just up in the sky but point all your energies upward, forward and on.
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Day 14 "Life has three spheres. Birth (the beginning), Growth (the journey) and Death (the destination/end).
Many fail immediately after the first sphere and plan for the last" Most of us determine our destinies through the baggage we carry. We often see our future through our present and thus limit our prosperity for we tend to create our own boundaries, limitations and obstacles. After birth, it is the beginning of an exciting journey with limited possibilities but we often ignore the journey part and want to reach the destination. We live through “what if� based on the ultimate. We fail to realize that life should be lived not seen as a door to death. Thus the funeral and insurance industries remain so lucrative.
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Day 15 We are here not to learn but to remember. We've been made to live on our own free will and thus we need to remember.
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Day 16 “Life is only precious when death is knocking at the door”. You must have heard many times people say “God is great…I should have died in that accident”. This only makes life valuable, for death was smelled at the time. When confronted with life threatening challenges, we only then see how precious life is and how we must preserve it. We fail to see that everyday of us breathing is crucial and thus remain integrally special. When we attend funerals, we often come back a bit changed for we have seen with our own eyes how someone’s life has ended. Some change their ways after that and emotions make the changes quick but not sustainable. It is time you see life as precious in its purest form. Death should not remind you. Pain should not knock sense in your head. If your everyday can be as precious as when you nearly died, then life will have a profound meaning to you and those around you. The purpose shall be more visible and more impactful.
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Day 17 “The power of every man lies in the impact he makes in other people's lives�. The air you breathe is not yours alone. The water you drink is not yours alone. The food you eat is not yours alone. The ground you walk on is not yours alone.
We share everything. Where we don't is through selfishness and greed. Every carnivorous animal kill one prey at a time and let nature preserve the rest for the future. No lion brags about how much prey it kills. No elephant brags about how much grass it eats. They even know how to live with and without food. Only man thinks that this oxygen is for all of us but food is for those who can afford it and thus look down on others who have been made not to live normally by others. BEFORE YOU LOOK DOWN ON SOMEONE, LOOK AT YOURSELF AND POINT ANYTHING NATURAL THAT IS BETTER THAN ANYONE'S. There's none. We are all the same. We are all equal before we made ourselves unequal. You are therefore not an island and the poverty of your neighbour will soon catch up with you.
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Day 18 In life, there's only one thing one needs to know. Nothing that is detached from you, belongs to you" From money to cars‌What other things you claim are your but are not‌
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Day 19 Life has no colour. We paint it what we like and even colour-block it when we want.
How bright or dark is your life‌
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Day 20 “Find your purpose today and feel how life tastes” What is your purpose…
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Day 21 ...'you are smarter than you think. You are bolder than you know. You are more beautiful than you have been told. You are you and you are perfect. Know that today and have a super day.'
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Day 22 “Like a new born child, life has no guarantees. The belief and trust in those taking care of her guarantees her better upbringing. Never lose touch with those who came before you or who God gave you the gift of knowing�
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Day 23 “Birth happens once. Reborn, rebirth and born-again are just illustrative words aimed at making a point�. As we have heard of words like evolution. Everything in this life changes and takes a different shape or turn all the time. If you find yourself stagnant and not contributing to this life, you are defying the purpose of you being here. Those who see then need for this change are constantly being reborn, have a rebirth of their belief systems or ways of life and thus born again. This is how much they emphasize the need for a new thinking and new way of life.
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Day 24 Life's journey is full of pitfalls and potholes though most of them are manmade through stupidity and ignorance.
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Day 25 “The value of life hasn't been determined yet and it's far too bigger and worthy than Gold, Silver and Platinum ever mined�.
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Day 26 Lessons on Negativity
“IS YOUR DAY STILL SHINING LIKE IT STARTED IN THE MORNING?” Do you still feel the way you did when you left your bed? If not, know that this is what we call life. In all its forms and shapes but mostly the darkness is brought in by us. No matter how bad and sour someone can do that to you, stand tall because negativity never lasts. It lacks longevity.
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Day 27 Lesson on Being a Parent
One of the greatest lessons that should guide us on parenting is to remember how our parents always told us about things we never thought could happen to us but later came to being true. We ‘now’ understand what our parents said ‘then’. We should then relate to our kids on those experiences from when our parents warned us on them until they came true later in life. Other people also help us in learning things indirectly. We therefore can learn from others, though with caution as we may never know the depth of their experiences. Generally all occurrences are poised to generate curiosity that is the basis of our investigative mindsets. We just need to be open-minded.
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Day 28 Lessons on Love
Life is nice because it's live and we can live it. Love is also nice because it is also live but we fail to love it. Most do say they love but don't have love themselves. Neither for themselves nor for others. In a live situation, nothing is rehearsed. Everything is spontaneous and now.
So from today, know that you can never give what you don't have. As much as your life is yours and not transferable, it can impact on others for you know its value.
But when you love yourself, you'll be able to love others as you know its value. True love doesn't discriminate. With it you don't love for... or because of.... It happens and never dies even when the relationship dies. It is cosmic and celestial. It’s God's love and never ends.
To this day, we still live through that love that we fail to see within ourselves but expect to get from others, who still don't have it within themselves too. When love hits you, let it run, for it is not yours, thus you can't search for it. It will come to you. Just LOVE.
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Day 29 Lessons on Goodness
The pain roaming around many people's lives today is not of their own doing but by others. The very same pain endured by so many animals and plants today, are not by their own doing but mostly by humans. This brings me to the understanding that humans are the cause of many problems in this world and thus should be the force to reverse these pains and problems. You should see yourself as being capable in doing just that. We need to recreate the world as the creator envisaged it to be. We need to curb the scourge of poverty through real empowerment so that people can pull themselves out of poverty as the creator envisaged. We need to recreate a social fabric that makes anyone a partner for the good of all man. Through that we will have become what the creator envisaged and thus serve the purpose. Do good whenever you can for goodness multiplies and thus create a good world. BE GOOD TODAY...
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Day 30 Lessons on Fear
There is this biggest threat to our harmony and happiness. A threat to our prosperity and imagined good life. This is called FAILURE. In its purest form, FAILURE in inevitable. It is a situation that reverses your expectations or others’ expectations on you. This cannot be avoided. Many of us find ourselves in broken families, broken marriages, broken relationships, heart threshing situations, disappointing circumstances and many other situations that I call Acceptable Abnormalities. This is what we then see as our failure in those things I mentioned. To hide from them, we drug ourselves with many engagements to be away from them and only engage God when we feel we can’t take it anymore. Let me tell you the sad part about all these. Your Creator knows about all those while you still hide them away from other people’s eyes and ears. The Creator felt your pain long before you could feel it yourself as the creation started with the organs that recognized pain that you do not have power and control over. This is due to the fact that we think we know better. We should but we don’t know much. We have been fooled so much that we want and let others know those thing for us. We decide and choose to let others deal with our problems and challenges and the minute they fail we call on God to intervene. This boils down to one thing. FAILURE! We allow ourselves to fail for fear of failing. The Fear to Fail is more intense than Failure itself. So, from today, keep FAILURE at bay. Keep the FEAR at bay. Whether you have an unruly child, your relationship is failing or your marriage is on the rocks. Kill the FEAR that “what people will say”. Look within yourself and find what the Creator has implanted in you to fix or move away from disharmony, unhappiness and failure. To fail to realize that, you are limiting your chances of finding peace and harmony within yourself. Never FEAR to FAIL for when you do that, you’ll FAIL to see what you have been created to be. THINK
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Conclusion The motivation
This is the feeling you get when you are used to being accommodated and suddenly that accommodation is now denied. When love is still hot there are no “No's” because you both feel that love can’t accommodate that. When the feelings of importance still hover above you, you can’t say No for that feeling will soon disappear. When you are constantly told that you are the one and suddenly there is a No, you feel that there is now another one. Rejection can be misjudged but you feel it. You don’t understand. You ask questions you can’t get answers to. You class yourself. You look down on yourself. You feel cheap. You feel dejected. You lose yourself and try to be someone you don’t know, just to be accommodated again. You thus feel unwanted. That’s rejection.
This is the best motivation ever, for it hits back to you that your self love has diminished and you are now dependent. This is often brought up when you have neglected yourself and now live for others. When they see you giving what you don’t have, they drift apart. They reject you for you are no more real. You are not yourself. This is the time for you to start looking inside yourself to find oneself. It’s not the end but the beginning of being “You” among them, not you in them. Find yourself today…
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