EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS
Evaluative Word
Giraffe Feeling(s)
Giraffe Need(s)
Abandoned Abused
Terrified, hurt, bewildered, sad, frightened, lonely Angry, frustrated, frightened
(Un) accepted
Scared, lonely, hurt, anxious
Attacked Belittled
Scared, angry, defiant, hostile Angry, frustrated, tense, distressed
Betrayed
Angry, hurt, disappointed, enraged Angry, scared, confused, antagonistic, hostile, bewildered, hurt Angry, scared, pressured
Nurturing, connection, belonging, support, caring Caring, nurturing, support, emotional safety, physical safety, consideration, for livings things to flourish Inclusion, connection, community, belonging, contribution, respect Safety, consideration Respect, autonomy, seen for true self, acknowledgement, appreciation Trust, dependability, honesty, honor, commitment, clarity Accountability, causality, fairness, justice
Blamed
Bullied
Autonomy, choice, safety, consideration Caged/boxed in Angry, thwarted, scared, anxious Autonomy, choice, freedom Cheated Resentful, hurt, angry Honesty, fairness, justice, trust, reliability Coerced Angry, frustrated, frightened, Autonomy, choice, freedom thwarted, scared Cornered Angry, scared, anxious, thwarted Autonomy, freedom Criticized In pain, scared, anxious, Understanding, frustrated, humiliated, angry, acknowledgement, recognition, embarrassed accountability, respectful communication Discounted/diminished Hurt, angry, embarrassed, Acknowledgement, inclusion, frustrated recognition, respect Disliked Sad, lonely, hurt Connection, appreciation, understanding, acknowledgement, friendship, inclusion Distrusted Sad, frustrated Trust, honesty Dumped on Angry, overwhelmed Respect, consideration Harassed Angry, frustrated, pressured, Respect, space, consideration, frightened peace Hassled Irritated, distressed, angry, Serenity, autonomy, choice of frustrated pace and method, calm, space
Nonviolent Communication
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EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS Ignored Insulted
Lonely, scared, hurt, sad, embarrassed Angry, embarrassed
Interrupted
Angry, frustrated, resentful, hurt
Intimidated Invalidated
Scared, anxious Angry, hurt, resentful
Invisible
Sad, angry, lonely, scared
Isolated
Lonely, afraid, scared
Judged
Resentful, scared, hurt, angry
Left out
Sad, lonely, anxious
Let down Manipulated
Sad, disappointed, frightened Angry, scared, powerless, thwarted, frustrated
Mistrusted Misunderstood
Sad, angry Upset, angry, frustrated
Neglected
Lonely, scared
Overpowered
Angry, helpless, confused
Overworked
Angry, tired, frustrated, exhausted Angry, frustrated, resentful
Patronized Pressured
Put down
Anxious, resentful, overwhelmed Angry, frustrated, hostile, antagonistic, resentful Angry, sad, embarrassed
Rejected
Hurt, scared, angry, defiant
Ripped off/screwed
Anger, resentment, disappointed
Provoked
Nonviolent Communication
Connection, belonging, inclusion, community, participation Respect, consideration, acknowledgement, recognition Respect, to be heard, consideration Safety, equality, empowerment Appreciation, respect, acknowledgement, recognition To be seen and heard, inclusion, belonging, companionship, community Community, inclusion, belonging, contribution To be seen, consideration, fairness, equality, justice Inclusion, belonging, community, connection Trust, dependability Autonomy, empowerment, trust, equality, freedom, connection, authenticity Trust To be heard, understanding, clarity Connection, inclusion, contribution, community, care, consideration Equality, justice, autonomy, freedom Respect, consideration, rest, nurturing Recognition, equality, respect, mutuality Relaxation, clarity, space, consideration Respect, consideration Respect, acknowledgement, understanding Belonging, inclusion, closeness, to be seen, acknowledgement, connection Consideration, justice, acknowledgement, trust
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EVALUATIVE WORDS CONFUSED WITH FEELINGS Smothered/suffocated
Frustrated, desperate, fear
Taken for granted
Sad, angry, hurt, disappointed
Threatened Trampled/walked on
Scared, frightened, alarmed, agitated, defiant Angry, frustrated overwhelmed
Tricked Unappreciated
Embarrassed, angry, resentful Sad, angry, hostile, hurt
Unheard
Sad, hostile, frustrated
Unloved
Sad, bewildered, frustrated
Unseen
Sad, anxious, frustrated
Unsupported Unwanted
Sad, hurt, resentful Sad, anxious, frustrated
Used
Sad, angry, resentful
Victimized
Frightened, helpless
Violated
Sad, anxious, agitated
Wronged
Angry, hurt, resentful, irritated
Nonviolent Communication
Space, freedom, autonomy, authenticity, self-expression Appreciation, acknowledgement, recognition, consideration Safety, autonomy Empowerment, connection, community, to be seen, consideration, equality, respect, acknowledgement Integrity, honesty, trust Appreciation, respect, acknowledgement, consideration Understanding, consideration, empathy Love, appreciation, empathy, connection, community, compassion Acknowledgement, to be seen, appreciation, to be heard Support, understanding Belonging, inclusion, caring, nurturing Autonomy, equality, consideration, mutuality Empowerment, mutuality, safety, justice Privacy, safety, trust, space, respect Respect, justice, trust, safety, fairness, equality
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