GOOD
MANNERS
Good manners form an important part of our civilization. We know a man form his manners. Manners are important for our conduct in the society. So, we put too much stress on learning manners. Parents want to teach manners to their children. Teachers want to teach manners to their pupils. Mentors want to teach manners to their disciples. Because manners are so important for us.
Manners are very useful. Manners make us gentlemen. We are called gentlemen when we show good manners. Good manners make friends for us. Because people like to make friendship with the people of good manners. Good manners may turn our enemies into our friends. But bad manners will surely turn our friends into our enemies. So, we should be very particular about our manners.
How would you feel if someone: - talked to your friend but turned his back to you? - pushed you out of the way to get the seat you were about to sit on? - let the door slam in your face as you were about to walk through it? - shared your things but never shared anything of theirs? . never said 'please' or 'thank you' - didn't pass your phone message to your friend?
Good manners is about considering the feelings of other people, and being the kind of person that others will like and respect.
In the 'olden days' children were taught about the Golden Rule - "Always do to others as you would wish them to do to you if you were in their place."
This is still a good way to behave nowadays. If you are respectful to others, then you are more likely to be treated with respect by them. If you show good manners everywhere you go, then you are more likely to encourage others to behave in the same way towards you. Look at the following ideas from kids and see if you can think why they chose these examples of good manners.
What good manners look like at home being helpful to others in your home saying 'please' and 'thank you' sharing and not grabbing and keeping good things to yourself respecting other people's property and their rooms helping the family by doing your chores cleaning up after yourself.
Manners at school saying
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morning/afternoon if you are walking past an adult who you know asking if you can borrow something, not just taking returning things that you have borrowed waiting your turn before you speak saying 'excuse me,' rather than pushing past someone holding the door open for the person coming in, especially if he is carrying something respecting your own and other people's property, especially property saying 'please' and 'thank you'.
When you are out If you are out with other kids...
Respect other people. Be polite to others. Don't use bad language in public - it is offensive to others. Let an older person have your seat on buses, trains and trams if there is nowhere for them to sit. Queue up quietly and don't push.
Put your rubbish into bins, don't leave it for someone else to clean up. Have fun but don't be so loud that you attract the wrong kind of attention. Respect property. Don't make fun of anyone - everyone has feelings. Don't run in shopping centres or where there are other people
If you are out with your parents or other adults... Use your good manners so that you don't embarrass anyone. Introduce any friends you meet to the people you are with. Say 'please' and 'thank you'. Don't be a 'canna'. ("canna have this?" and "canna have that?")
The basic principles of good manners: There are certain fundamental principles on which all our manners should base. They are as follows. We should not hurt the mind of others. We should not wound the feelings of others. We should avoid pride, vanity, emotion, anger and harshness of voice when we behave with others. Our talk should be always plain and sweet. We should give patient hearing to others. We should speak less of ourselves. Our attitude should be sympathetic. We should learn how to make appreciation of others. We should observe the forms of behavior like 'please', 'kindly', 'thanks', 'sorry', 'no, thanks', etc. when they are due. We should be respectful to our elders, and superiors. We should be loving and kind to our youngsters. We should be sincere in our attitude. We should not make false promises. We should never deceive. We should be neat and clean. These are some of the basic principles upon which all our manners and behaviors should rest.
Manners at home: We should obey our parents and elders. We should care for the old and the weak. We should be loving and kin
Table Manners Whether you're eating at a fancy restaurant, in the cafeteria, or at home with friends and families, good table manners make for a more pleasant meal. While you may not need to worry about confusing your salad fork with your desert fork when dining with friends, some basic table manners should never be forgotten. Here are some easy-to-follow Do's and Don'ts:
Table Manner DO'S Sit properly (and straight) in your chair Talk about pleasant things Place your napkin on your lap Wait until everyone is seated before starting to eat Watch others, or ask, if you're not sure how to eat something Ask someone to pass the food, rather than reach across the table Chew with your mouth closed Don't talk with your mouth full Use a knife and fork to cut your meat Say "excuse me" or "I'm sorry" if you burp Say "no thank you" if you don't want a certain dish or are full Say "may I please be excused" before leaving the table
Table Manner DON'TS Don't talk about gross things Don't ask for seconds before others have had firsts Don't take more than your fair share Don't overload your fork or plate Don't gobble your food Don't chew with your mouth open Don't talk with your mouth full Don't play at the table Don't hum or sing at the table Don't tip your chair or lean on the table Don't eat with or lick your fingers Don't push your plate away when you're finished
Manners at a general meeting:
We should behave properly when we are in a meeting. We should obey the president of the meeting. We should not disturb or interrupt when one is speaking. We should not indulge inside-talking when we are in a meeting.
Manners at interview: Sometimes we shall have to appear at interview in order to get a job. There we shall have to be very particular about our manners. We should not go before them unless we are called for. We must keep sitting on the waiting bench till they call us. We should not ask them to call us. We will allow them to call us at their convenience. We should keep proper discipline and silence when we are on the waiting bench. We will go before them immediately after we are called for. There we will salute them. We shall not sit unless we are told to sit. We should always pay attention to what they ask and say. We should not look round here and there like monkeys. We will answer to them in a gentle voice. We will answer that much which they want. We should not move our legs, hands and heads. We should not put our hands on their tables. We should not stand so close to them. We should be very neat and clean.
In Conversation
Maintaining eye contact and being actively engaged in conversation are two aspects of good manners. Many expressions of good manners are verbal in nature and are easily noticed in conversation. It is good manners to speak at a moderate pace with appropriate pronunciation and correct grammar. People with good manners regularly say please, thank you and excuse me. They introduce themselves when first meeting and ask the names of those involved in the conversation. It is good manners to use that person's name periodically in conversation. Being actively engaged in the conversation, including asking questions to clarify statements that aren't understood, also is polite. As a general rule, people with good manners don't interrupt, whisper in front of people, whine, brag, or belittle others. They do not point or stare. They do not argue, although they may politely disagree. Volume
is also an essential component of good manners, as it is rude to speak too loudly. Of course, there is more to conversation than words. Good manners also apply to actions and body language. It is considered good manners to maintain eye contact with those you are speaking to and sit still. Fidgeting, interrupting, looking around or walking away are all examples of bad manners.
Body Language
Yawning and laying your head down while someone is speaking shows bad manners. Body language can communicate messages even when we aren't speaking. Human posture and actions can send powerful messages about how a person is feeling. Even if you claim to be interested in someone's story, rolling your eyes and sighing communicates another message entirely. Good manners require a person to sit and stand with good posture. Smiling and appearing pleasant are also signs of good manners. Bad manners, such as slouching or staring into the distance, make you less approachable.
Good Manners for Teens
Teenagers need to learn good manners.
Teenagers must learn good manners in order to function well in an adult world. Many adolescents may be careless about the way they act, not realizing how important it is for them to develop good manners. Good manners provide a set of social skills to use in any situation. Teens must learn to be aware of their surroundings and execute the appropriate behavior.
Courtesy Being courteous towards others by always saying "please" and "thank you" will show people appreciation. Being polite is also an aspect of courtesy, such as holding the door open for an elderly couple or helping a neighbor carry her groceries inside. It is courteous to speak softly when using the cell phone in a public place and to limit the length of the call; personal problems shouldn't be discussed in public. Cell phones shouldn't be used when in a restaurant, church or library or other social settings.
Listening Skills Part of having good manners is listening to what others have to say. When engaged in a conversation, a well-mannered teenager will make eye contact and nod in understanding. He will also avoid interrupting when it is another person's turn to speak; focusing on
the subject at hand is important. In addition, teenagers who remember the other person's name and use it in conversation show respect.
Punctuality Being on time shows another person that you acknowledge that his time is valuable. Arriving late for an appointment shows irresponsibility and disrespect. If bad weather is coming or the traffic is heavy, it is smart to leave a few minutes early. If going for a job interview, be prepared and dress appropriately.