HAPPY HOUR DRINK SPECIALS Tues - 4-8pm: The Pocket Mon March 16- $5 martinis, $5 domestic beer pitcher, $10 craft beer pitcher.
FROM 9pm-1am:OPEN-6PM Kung Fu Rodeo
Hours Mon-Thurs 2pm-2am • Fri-Sun noon-2am it in the can night - $1 domestic, Wed - GetMon June 7 -Jukebox $3 craft- w/DJ JR
Tues JuneThurs 8th --$2 Open from 8-9:30 offMic all Comedy drinks and OpenRicky Mic T $210-close Labatt Electric drafts w/DJ Wed Juneof9th Ricky Tat $8 (2-8pm) Fri March 20 - Buckets Beer- DJ starting $2 domestic drafts & $3 drafts Happy Hour: The Chris Michels Band Then:craft The Isaac Ryder Band from 7:30-11pm. (No Covers) Sat March - The Ryder Thurs21June 10thIsaac - Comedy ShowBand (9-11pm)
Y TUESDA TRIVIA TIO PA ON THE PM 7-9
TO-GO OR DERS AVAILABL E 231-2524157
Sun-Thurs Noon-10pm Fri/Sat Noon-11pm (kitchen open noon-9pm) closed Wednesdays
DRINK SPECIALS (3-6 Monday-Friday): $2 well drinks, $2 domestic drafts, $2.50 domestic bottles, $5 Hornitos margarita SUNDAY - $6 Ketel One Bloody Mary & $4 Mimosas
Summer Special DAILY FOOD SPECIALS
Sunday Fri & Sat June 11thMarch & 12th22- Snack & Five KARAOKE ( Sun June 1310pm-2am) - Karaoke
941-1930 downtown TC check us out at unionstreetstationtc.net
(3-6pm): Monday - $1 chips and salsa Tuesday - $1 enchiladas Thursday - $5 fried veggies (cauliflower or mushrooms) Friday - $5 hot pretzels w/ beer cheese
Buy 3 Slices Get the 4th ent Fri June 11th - Chris Michaels Band tertainm Patio en -9:30) Sat June 12th - The Time Bombs Slice Free (6:30 221 E State St. downtown TC Both Stores open 7 days & nights
EAST BAY, ACME 4500 US-31 NO. 231-938-2330
DOWNTOWN TRAVERSE CITY 116 E. Front St 231-947-4841
See it Made... EAST BAY, ACME 4500 US 31 North 231-938-2330
6-30.cf.216104
Downtown TRAVERSE CITY 116 E. Front Street 231-947-4841
Creamy, Delicious Fudge for 57 Years!
www.murdicksfudge.com • 1-800-2-FUDGE-2
Sugar-free fudge & candies old fashioned peanut & cashew brittle Murdicksfudge.com
OPEN 7 DAYS & NIGHTS WHERE NATURE IS YOUR NEIGHBOR
PRE-OWNED HOME FOR SALE
Pre-Owned Home Located at Woodcreek set in an excellent location, in a quiet cul-de-sac that is close to the Lodge and South Airport exit. The 1,568 sq. ft. home has two living room spaces. This 3 bedroom 2 bath home is a must see, hosting a fireplace, beautiful hardwood floors and a second bathroom shower! Open floor plan on this home has fresh paint, new lighting fixtures and a huge wrap around deck. The listing price is $110,000.00 and is ready for immediate occupancy.
Call Lyndsay Hergstad (231) 933-4800 www.woodcreekliving.com
36 • june 07, 2021 • Northern Express Weekly
the ADViCE GOddESS
BY Amy Alkon
Hate-Loss Diet
Glued-In Allergy
Q
Q
: Last year, I broke up with the man I was engaged to and loved deeply. I’d found out he was cheating on me constantly with many different women throughout our relationship. My life has gone on, but I often think of what he did to me and feel incredible anger. I’d like to forgive him, but I’m not sure how to do that when these feelings pop up throughout my week. — Stuck
A
: It’s hard to move on emotionally when you not only have a grudge but take it everywhere with you like a cockroach on a little yarn leash. This isn’t to say you should forgive the guy. There’s this assumption that forgiving someone who’s wronged you is the healthy, constructive thing to do — and, sure, it can be. Evolutionary social psychologist Michael McCullough defines forgiveness as “an internal process of getting over your ill will for an offender.” He explains that forgiveness is “adaptive” — functional, beneficial — when there’s a valuable relationship at stake: when you’d benefit from continuing contact with the perp (and it seems unlikely they’ll be a repeat offender — harm you again in a similar way). But you aren’t looking to re-up with the guy! And you probably have zero indication he’s changed anything — aside from which woman he’s two-timing (or, uh, 22-timing, as a rough quarterly estimate). What you’re really seeking is peace of mind. Consider that anger, like forgiveness, can be functional. The anger you still have probably remains for a reason: a warning sign that you’re in danger of being cheated on again. But there’s a way to shut off that alert — and protect yourself in the future — and it’s by turning this into a learning experience. Be accountable for the part you played in what happened — not because, “Yay, blame the victim!” — but because it’s the part you can control. Did you, perhaps, want so badly to believe you’d found love that you ignored signs you’d landed a cheating creep posing as an adoring boyfriend? Being honest about what you could — and should — have done differently can become your guide for what you will do differently the next guy around. A man can give you the sense he has a moral compass, but it’s best you give it a hard look to see it isn’t cracked and dusty from constantly being dropped in other women’s bedrooms.
: I’ve been dating a guy for three months, and I’d like us to be exclusive, but I don’t know how to go about addressing it. I’m worried that if I say I need him to commit, he’ll feel pressured and bolt. — Quandary
A
: For a man, agreeing to go exclusive is a bit like wedding vows lite, as posed to the man’s penis: “Do you swear off sex with all the other ladies forever?” Penis: “Frankly, that sounds a little grim.” Men evolved to have the hots for sexual variety — casual sex with a slew-apalooza of different partners — to a degree women do not. (An ancestral woman could get pregnant and stuck with a kid to raise after a single hookup with some rando, while the more randos Grok had sex with, the more likely he was to pass on his genes.) Feminist scholars contend that “patriarchal” culture — not evolution — leads to men’s greater preference for the sexual variety pack, but it even shows up in “gender-egalitarian” Norway. Evolutionary scientist Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair and his colleagues asked Norwegian men and women the number of sex partners they’d want over a 30-year period. Women, on average, wanted about five sex partners. Men? About 25! Still, many men eventually tire of the swiperight hussy of the night lifestyle (which, admittedly, isn’t an option for men low on the mate-value ladder) and start feeling ready for a relationship. However, even if this guy’s open to commitment and maybe already pointed in that direction, consider the lesson from “psychological reactance,” a term coined by psychologist Jack Brehm. Our getting the sense that somebody’s trying to control us, limit our freedom, motivates us to “react”: rebel against being controlled. Give yourself a (silent) deadline so you won’t be waiting around forever, and then ask him how he sees things going forward: what he’s looking for, what works for him. The conversation itself should give him the sense that you might be headed for the door if he doesn’t boyfriend up. Wanting to be with you might motivate him to make the necessary sexual trade-off — which is ultimately a pretty big deal for a dude. Picture the Souplantation buffet, but all those stainless steel bins are filled with the same one item, and you’ll have to eat it for every meal for the rest of your life: “Welcome to the suburban gulag. Table for two?”
