Josephine June 2011
St. Joseph’s women’s magazine
Nice shades
Flashy or sporty, nothing should stand in the way of your personal style when choosing sunglasses
Give yourself some credit
Improving your financial health is worth the work
Warm weather vino Some good summer ideas for wine
Don’t miss your manners From cell phones to wedding invites, navigating the manner minefield can be tough
Quick cooking secrets Keeping the right staples on hand speeds meal preparation
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cover girl It’s summertime, and the living is easy for recent Mid-Buchannan High School graduate Kallie Searcy. The warm weather means time for swimming and hanging out with good friends Alex Massey and Lindsay Green, who joined Kallie for our sunglasses photo shoot. The three already got a jump start on the summer with a trip to Branson, Mo., where among other activities they got to participate in Dolly Parton’s Dixie Stampede show. Kallie is taking a semester break from school but plans to attend Hillyard Technical Center to study dental hygiene.
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Fast food With a little planning and the right ingredients on hand, cooking can be quick
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Mind your manners And your cell phone, and your texting, and your public nail clipping...
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Packing it in When loading your luggage for a flight, what you bring could cost you
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A tribute to two lifetimes Muriel Redmond and Jan Saxton win YWCA awards
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Sun block Know the ABCs of skin cancer detection, prevention
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Chill out These summer wines are perfect for warm evenings
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Extra credit Building up your financial health is worth the effort
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Shady days Shopping for sunglasses about personal taste
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By Jess Dehaven The warm weather is finally here, and it’s hard to resist getting out in the sun in short-sleeved shirts, cute sundresses and swimsuits. But when you do, keep in mind that popular piece of advice: Always wear sunscreen. As a fair-skinned person, I’ve had my share of sunburns, especially as a child. Although I’m careful now to protect my skin (and that of my equally pale daughter), I know that the damage done in years past can have future consequences. As nice as that warm sun feels on your skin, it also can cause some serious problems in the form of skin cancer. That’s why it’s important to have your doctor check your skin regularly, no matter what your complexion, for any signs of cancer so treatment can begin early. This year I even have scheduled an appointment with a dermatologist for a full skin scan. You can’t be too careful. For more on this topic, turn to page 20. And don’t forgot about protecting your eyes from the sun’s rays as well. There are lots of different types of sunglasses out there, and we’ve taken a look at some of them on page 26.
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June 6 7 to 9 p.m. St. Joseph Camera Club, Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.
June 7 6:30 p.m. Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371. Call 238-7503.
Every Wednesday 7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. 7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 2629684.
Every Friday Friday Night Wine Tastings, 5 to 8 p.m., Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.
7 p.m. “Smart Moves” program about the importance of play and making your child smarter, Green Family Chiropractic. Call 387-8994 or check www.greenchirofamily. com for information.
June 21 6:30 p.m. Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. Call 232-7462
June 2 King City Sesquicentennial Celebration, runs through June 5, Tri-County Museum grounds, includes carnival, hot air balloons, concerts, food, crafts and more. Go to www.kingcitysesquicentennial.blogspot.com for specific times and information.
Every Monday 9:45 a.m. (weigh-in at 8:30), TOPS (Take off Pounds Sensibly) a non-profit, weight-loss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn.
June 28 10 a.m. Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, monthly meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. Call 279-1947.
7 p.m. Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258. 7 p.m. Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, Chillicothe Housing Authority building. Call (660) 7070097. 6
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June 1 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m., Hunger Coalition Empty Bowls soup sampling and fundraiser, Wyatt Park Baptist Church. Call 364-3663 or visit www.ourcommunityfoodbank. org/emptybowls for information.
6:30 p.m., Divorce Relationship Recovery class, room 209 of Grace Evangelical Church. Free 12week session with activities available for children. Call Bob Johnson at 387-7424 or Maureen Power at 261-8663 for information.
Every Saturday 7 a.m. Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village
June 9 9:30 a.m. St. Joseph Garden Club, Joyce Raye Patterson Senior Center, “Gardeners Enjoy Birds Too” by Shelly Cox. Visitors welcome, call 232-9151 for information.
6 p.m. “The Wellness Pregnancy” program on staying healthy and common pregnancy complaints, Green Family Chiropractic. Call 387-8994 or check www.greenchirofamily.com for information. 6:30 p.m. St. Jo Women On The Go, Moila, dinner, $15. Call 2794583 for reservations. June 16 5:30 p.m. Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 232-9750. June 23 6 p.m. “The Obese Child” program, Green Family Chiropractic. Call 387-8994 or check www.greenchirofamily.com for information.
6:30 p.m. St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 390-8081.
June 1 & 15 6:30 p.m. Scrap & Chat, at Belt Branch, 1904 N. Belt Highway, of Rolling Hills Consolidated Library.
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Inter-familial relations Relate. Your family can be hard enough to deal with. Someone else’s family might feel impossible. If you’re visiting friends, in-laws or a partner’s family this month, TheNest.com blogger Diane Koutas Poch offers these tips to ensure a smooth(er) visit. • Come bearing food: A gift for the host is always appreciated, even if you’re the only one who ends up eating it. • enjoy eccentricity: You know your family has quirks outsiders find annoying. Resist the urge to eye roll at your host family’s pasttime, even if that means you’re watching SportsCenter all afternoon. • Pamper the pet: The right toy or treat could make you Fido’s new best friend instead of his favorite chew toy. • Keep your opinions to yourself: Other families might hold vastly different political or religious opinions than yours. They might actually enjoy Keanu Reeves movies. Bite your tongue. Smile and nod your head.
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Beauty. Before you see the plastic surgeon, before you plunk down half a paycheck on that pricey anti-aging cream — in fact, before you do anything — put on sunscreen. According to WebMD, it does more than reduce the risk of skin cancer: It’s also an amazing beauty secret that can help keep skin looking young by blocking the aging effects of the sun’s damaging rays. Without the protection of sunscreen, just a few minutes of daily sun exposure over the years can cause noticeable changes in how skin looks and feels. For protection against this, choose a sunscreen with SPF 15, or higher and if you’re going to be in direct sunlight for an extended period, reapply every hour or two. Another option: Use your regular sunscreen before putting on makeup. Then, for touch-ups, use a light, translucent mineral powder to add extra protection throughout the day.
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Why he won’t throw it out What is he thinking? Sometimes we just don’t get guys. Our Shea Conner offers some insight: Jerry Seinfeld once said that “Men wear their underwear until it absolutely disintegrates. Men hang on to underwear until each individual underwear molecule is so strained it can barely retain the properties of a solid. It actually becomes underwear vapor.” Looking through my sock and underwear drawer, I’d have to agree. I still own pairs of boxers that my mom bought me when I was in eighth grade. My Spider-Man boxers have more holes in them than a colander. Why do I hang on to them? Because the band is still intact. It still serves a function. If we still can use it, we still want it.
Fast food
With a little planning and the right ingredients on hand, cooking can be quick By Christina hazelwood heCkman Josephine magazine
Statistics show a climbing percentage of people are eating away from home, and with so many dining-out options available, it’s no wonder. Many think a busy lifestyle means having to choose convenience over nutrition, but a few helpful tips make it possible to have both. According to the United States Department of Agriculture’s food-intake surveys, Americans are consuming more and more of their calories from full-service and fast-food restaurants. The share of daily caloric intake from food purchased and/or eaten away from home increased from 18 percent to 32 percent between the late 1970s and the middle 1990s, and the away-fromhome market grew to account for about half of total food expenditures in 2004, up from 34 percent in 1974. These foods tend to be more calorie dense and nutritionally poorer than foods prepared at home. A national survey released in December by the Food Marketing Institute and Prevention magazine states that there is a strong correlation between consumers who try the hardest to eat healthfully and those who eat dinner at home nearly every day. The report also states that relatively few shoppers believe that grocery stores offer many healthy options in frozen entrees, packaged foods, ready-to-cook and prepared foods. While it seems eating at home is the way to go when health is your priority, some just don’t have time to prepare meals. Many women have faced this obstacle and found ways to make cooking at home less stressful and a more obtainable goal. Pamela Sonnenmoser, author of “Pamela’s Healthy Pantry,” has several tips. She says “plan” is the key word when it comes to making quick meals. “There is nothing worse than having your heart set on making a certain dish and finding that you don’t have what you need,” she says. “Changing gears can slow you down, and running to the store kills the whole idea of speedy meals. I like to make a menu for the week before I go to the grocery store. I may not follow the menu to the letter, but if I start with the plan, I save time by having all of the ingredients on hand.” Knowing exactly what she needs for each meal enables Sonnenmoser to create meal kits as she puts her groceries away. “If I am making fried pork chops, mashed potatoes with gravy and broccoli for supper on Wednesday, I put four chops in a zipper bag, squeeze out the air and zip shut,” she says. “I put a cup of flour, salt, pepper, garlic powder or whatever seasonings I want in another bag and seal it. Then in a third bag I put enough frozen broccoli for the number of servings I need. I also use gravy mixes to save time. So that I don’t have to search through the cupboard for the envelopes, I wrap them in Saran Wrap, and place one or two, depending on the need, in the bag with the vegetables. That bag is then sealed. “I also purchase 10 pounds of potatoes at a time,” she says. “We don’t eat that many, but I can boil most of them and put them in the freezer in zipper bags according to how many I need for a meal. They can be used multiple ways after that, including
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mashing, frying or cubing for salads.” Once a meal kit is assembled, Sonnenmoser puts the zipper bags in a grocery sack, ties a laminated label with the day of the week onto the bag and places it in the freezer. The labels go into a drawer in her kitchen as they are used so they can be reused each week. She puts the appropriate grocery sack in the fridge before she leaves home in the morning, or even the night before. When she gets home it’s all right there, and she can put dinner together in about 20 minutes without having to hunt for any ingredients. Even without her meal kits, Sonnenmoser knows having certain items on hand can make quick meals easy to create. “I grew up in the Southwest, so my go-to foods for quick meals usually involve something with Mexican flair,” she says. “You will always find a can of enchilada sauce, green chiles and corn tortillas in my kitchen. Add a package of chicken breast tenders, an onion and some cheese, and you have a wonderful enchilada casserole in less than 30 minutes. “My mother-in-law taught me the value of having mushroom soup and brown gravy mix in the pantry at all times. You can cook a wonderful beef dish in minutes if you have those ingredients,” she says. “Of course, I want to cook healthy meals in that short time frame, so I always have steamable frozen veggies in the freezer. So convenient and fast, and they taste much better than canned, plus keep more of their nutrients.” Sonnenmoser isn’t the only woman concerned with making meals quickly and making them healthy. Sonia Misemer, leader and ambassador for Weight Watchers, also has a few tips for making quick meals. “The best foods to always have on hand are what Weight Watchers calls Power Foods,” she says. “They consist of lean proteins, fruits and vegetables, fat-free milk products and whole grains. “I try to keep plenty of fresh and frozen fruits and veggies so they are always there when I need them. I always have frozen, skinless boneless chicken breasts that can be grilled, used in salads, stir fry and casseroles,” she says. “Whole-grain pastas and whole-grain bread are also always on hand. Canned beans are great for soups, salads and casseroles. Seasonings are also something you need to add flavor to your food and mix it up in the kitchen.” Misemer says anything that you can do ahead, such as grilling extra chicken breasts to use for different things throughout the week, saves time. Also, having the right tools in the kitchen makes cooking quickly and healthfully a snap. “I love things like my indoor grill and slow cooker,” she says. “They also have to be easy to clean up. Not having basic healthy food items on hand makes it too easy to go through the drivethrough or call for carry out. Our new program makes it very easy to identify what foods are the healthiest and easiest to have on hand. Our materials and meetings are a great resource for new recipes and ideas.” With a multitude of resources geared toward making meals quickly, you have plenty of options to choose from. Find what works best for you. Who knows? You might even come up with some time savers of your own.
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Tired of this type of fast food? Some planning can help you cook quickly at home.
Mind your manners And your cell phone, and your texting, and your public nail clipping...
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A few weeks ago, a wedding invitation came in the mail. Once opened, two tiny squares fell out informing me where the happy couple was registered. I cringed and thought, isn’t that bad etiquette? I’m on my way into the restroom in a public place and while, ahem, there, get to listen to a full conversation thanks to the woman and her cell phone in the stall next to me. Really, I’m thinking? Isn’t that bad etiquette? And when my father-in-law passed away recently, I logged onto Facebook a few hours later to see a friend had broken the news on my husband’s page. Now I know that’s just bad etiquette.
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But all of these things are issues we have to deal with constantly now thanks to our interconnected and highly technological world. That doesn’t mean they’re OK, though. While I’m in no way much of a Miss Manners, I’m not cool with the woman clipping her nails in the tiny office of the car dealership while we both wait to get our oil changed or the young mom who put her toddler’s portable potty seat on the table where we were eating (after it had just been used.) I’m not making any of this up, by the way. So please consider this a refresher on what’s appropriate and what’s not. There are many websites out there that claim to corner the market on manners, but I turned to an old-fashioned source who’s done a great job keeping up with things — the world of Emily Post. Emilypost.com offers tips and advice on nearly every situation you could think of. The site is run by the Emily Post Institute and the advice is given by the next generation of Posts. Here are a few of my most frequent (and frustrating) etiquette issues.
CELL PHONES That “can you hear me now” guy started this, maybe, but does it seem people are incredibly loud on their cell phones? And seemingly totally unaware that they’re in a public place where we can all hear them? And when someone answers their phone in public and says “nothing” to the unheard question of what are
you doing, I’m stuck thinking, really? Looks like we’re having dinner. Or checking out at the grocery store. Or whatever else that call has just been allowed to interrupt. Post actually has several articles on cell phones, but the four essential rules for cell phone etiquette break it all down quite nicely. • Turn off your ringer. It’s bothersome and interruptive (especially when it’s a song.) • Step away when you need to make or answer a call, and when doing so, politely excuse yourself. Imagine someone actually walked up to you to interrupt whatever was going on. You’d step away with them or maybe even ask them to come back later because whatever you’re doing does deserve your attention. • Don’t say anything personal when you’re out in public. Really. We can all hear you. • And watch your volume. Yes, you have a lot going on around you, but the person on the other end, as well as the rest of us, can hear you just fine.
WEDDING REGISTRIES Post’s site puts it quite simply: Step away from the invitations. “It’s never OK to include registry information on or with any invitation to the wedding or reception or with any announcement.” Ha, I thought so. And the reason is very simple. Weddings aren’t about the gifts, they’re about celebrating a special day with people you care about. Sending information about registry shifts the focus from that to “here’s what you need to buy us.” For the shower, however, Post’s site says it is OK, but the whole purpose of a shower is to prepare the couple for their new
lives together. Makes sense. So say you get an invitation to a wedding and no little paper squares fall out telling you where to buy a gift. What are you supposed to do? Call the couple, text them, find them on Facebook, speak with a friend or relative of theirs, or, here’s a novel idea, buy them a gift you think they’ll enjoy and remember that, indeed, it is the thought that counts.
SOCIAL MEDIA This seems like it should be common sense, but for all the people who’ve been fired for posting rants about your boss, let’s refresh. The basic tenant, emilypost.com says, is don’t post anything in a public forum that you don’t want everyone to see. Think of it like a bulletin board — it’s out there because you put it out there, but you can’t control what people do with it. Better yet, follow the rule my mom hammered into my head years and years ago — don’t say or do anything that you’d be ashamed for people to find out about. Personally, I love my cell phone, my Facebook page and all the new ways I’m able to stay connected with the world. The key, I think, is to consider what you’re giving up to create that connection. Often, things like texting during dinner may give you a connection outside the room, but is terribly rude to those who are really in it. To see more tips for modern survival, check out Post’s Etipedia at www. emilypost.com/etipedia.
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When packing, be aware that what you bring could cost you By JENNIFER HALL Josephine magazine
If you haven’t flown in a while, there are some things you need to know to avoid extra fees. Shannon Kennings says she is still amazed at how unprepared people are when they get to the airport. The St. Joseph businesswoman flies regularly for her work and feels she has learned a lot along the way. “Read every detail of your airline’s requirements for luggage,” she says. Almost every major airline charges for checked luggage. The worst part, says Kennings, are the fees for additional luggage. “I think it is absolutely ridiculous what they charge,” she says. “But I’ve learned how to deal with it and save some money.” So, when it comes to traveling this summer, that extra beach towel could cost you. Learning to layer and being realistic about what you’ll be wearing is half the battle. Kennings says wearing her heaviest pair of shoes and layering a little including her
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jacket on the flight can be worth it. She also says that the way you pack clothes in a suitcase as well as the type of suitcase you own can weigh more, too. “I love my roller bags, but they weigh more and have less space,” she says. “I also roll all my clothes, which allows me to fit more in my suitcase. When you plan to bring a few things back with you, that accounts for a lot of extra room.” Fellow frequent flier Aaron Bahr says having a scale at home isn’t just for weight loss. The St. Joseph man weighs every piece of his luggage, including his carry on, prior to leaving his house. “I don’t know what I ever did before this,” he says. “I figure that if they’re going to try to gouge me, I might as well be prepared for it.” Most airlines have a complete list of luggage weights and costs and other requirements for traveling on their websites. Both Kennings and Bahr recommend learning about the different airlines prior to booking your flight. “I’ve found the airlines I feel are the best,” he says. “You shouldn’t learn about them after you’ve had a bad experience.”
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Muriel Redmond, left, and Jan Saxton, right, will be among those honored at a lunch at 11:30 a.m. June 16 at Civic Arena. Nominees for other YWCA Women of Excellence awards that will be given that day are Clifton Gunderson and Family Investment Center, for Employer of Excellence; Jaime Dial, Heidi Eggers, Amy Goddard, Amber Harmeyer, Michelle Meierhoffer, Amanda Miller, Genesis Parra Lugo and Tabitha Yount, for Emerging Leader; Carolyn Pease, Erin Christiansen, Erin Hook and Madeleine Misemer, for Future Leader; Diane Hargrave, Miele Sutter and Kelly Tudor, for Support Services; Denise Cotter, Janice Eaton, Jane Goeking, Sandy Hamlin, Cheryl Jarrett, Carlene Makawski, Mary Marowski, Sharon Millard, Sherrie Poppa, Alison Schieber, Virginia Testerman, Lynn Watkins and Allene Wright, for Woman in Volunteerism; and Elaine Coder, Amber Harmeyer, Mary Houston, Terri Johnson, Debra King, Glynda Lee Ann King, Laura Moore, Susan Rinne, Carol Robb, Sally Schwab, Julie Walker, Kim Weddle, Debbie Weinhold, Rebekah Younger and Heather Yount, for Woman in the Workplace. See story on page
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A tribute to two lifetimes
Muriel Redmond and Jan Saxton have been named winners of this year’s YWCA Women of Excellence Lifetime Achievement Awards By Erin Wisdom Josephine magazine
As bad as the most recent economic decline has been for some, Muriel Redmond and Jan Saxton have seen worse — and done more than merely survive. Each of the St. Joseph women had her start, in some way, during the Great Depression. And each went on to thrive in a way deemed worthy of the St. Joseph YWCA’s Women of Excellence Lifetime Achievement Award: Muriel for her volunteerism and Jan for her workplace contribution. As pleased as both are with the honor, they’re also surprised at the attention they’re receiving for what, to them, are simply their stories.
Muriel Redmond She was 16 when she graduated from Benton High School in 1932. There was no money for college, but Muriel didn’t let discouragement set in. “I knew there had to be a job for me,” she says. “There just had to be.” And there was, at Big Smith Overall Factory. Muriel sewed there for four years, until a conversation with a couple of women she worked with spurred her on to a career change. Sixty dollars paid for three years in the nursing program at Sisters Hospital and paved her way to becoming a registered nurse — which in turn gave her a chance to spend the rest of her life giving back. Even at 95 and long retired, she remains at heart a nurse and a volunteer willing to help whoever asks. “I have to say I’m still at it, if anyone needs anything,” Muriel says with a smile. She’s especially excited at the aid she has a hand in offering every spring — financial aid, that is, in the form of a scholarship in her name given by the
Heartland Regional Medical Center Auxiliary. Heartland named it for her in 1988 in honor of Muriel marking 50 years as a registered nurse. Muriel chooses the recipients — six of them this year, receiving $1,500 each to study for a career in the medical field. She counts having a scholarship named after her as the most outstanding moment of her career, much of which consisted of volunteer work after she married a doctor and went on to raise two sons and two daughters. She served on hospital committees, worked in the gift shop and trained candy stripers. She also acted as a part-time nurse in her husband’s office and even helped out during occasional emergency house calls. And her volunteer work wasn’t limited to the medical field; she served with organizations such as the YWCA, Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts, as well. Winding through all of these activities was a common thread of enthusiasm for people and life in general that Muriel still glows with today. “I am an optimistic person. And a happy person. And I’m going to keep it that way,” she says. “ ... It’s just wonderful to be alive — wonderful, wonderful.”
Jan Saxton Long before they were commonplace, miniature golf courses were a way of life for Jan’s family — literally. Her parents were inspired to build several when she was young, and business boomed. Then the impact of the Depression swept through the Midwest, the courses folded and her family had to travel from place to place for her father to work — so much so Jan and her older brother attended nine different schools one year. They didn’t learn much, academically speaking. But they did learn the
people skills necessary for making friends fast, which Jan later recognized as good preparation for operating her own miniature golf courses. Among these is Cool Crest Garden Golf, which she and her husband built on the Belt Highway in 1948, before much of anything else was out there. “I just thank God every day for our life and the golf course,” Jan says. “I love nature, and I love people. Between the two, it was wonderful.” When Cool Crest opened, a round cost 30 cents. Jan and her husband, Guy, built the course’s forms themselves and planted thousands of flowers around them. The playing surface early on was made of rock dust, which had to be regularly and tediously scraped, sifted and smoothed. Carpet came later, as did the collection of bronze sculptures Jan and Guy picked up during the travels they took every winter, when Cool Crest is closed. But other than additions such as these — and of course a gradual increase in the cost to play — Cool Crest has remained much the same for its more than 60 years, Jan says. And that’s just the way she’d have it. Managed now by her grandson, the course is still the place for good, clean fun it was intended to be in the beginning. It’s also a fulfillment of the Depression-era dream of her father — who did go on to own several courses of his own later in life — as well as a fond reminder of her husband, who passed away last year. Jan still talks about how great he was and how good he was at his work. But when it comes to receiving recognition for her own, she remains a bit baffled. “I haven’t done anything except enjoy Cool Crest and the people,” she says. “That’s why we’re still here after 60 years, is because of the people.”
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What is a tan? Dr. Melody Stone with Advanced Dermatology & Skin Cancer Center in St. Joseph explains: “What a tan really means is that there has been damage done to the skin from the sun’s rays. When the sun’s rays strike the skin, a reaction occurs within a special cell in the skin called a melanocyte (the melanocytes are the pigment producing cells in the skin). The reaction, which is a complex chemical reaction, causes the cells to produce pigment to try and block out any further radiation from the sun, which damages the DNA in skin cells. This is just one of the body’s natural defense mechanisms to protect itself. This is what we all perceive to be a tan. The bottom line: A tan equals damage to the skin.”
Skin cancer facts 1. Skin cancer is the most common form of cancer in the United States. 2. Each year there are more new cases of skin cancer than the combined incidence of cancers of the breast, prostate, lung and colon. 3. One in five Americans will develop skin cancer in the course of a lifetime. 4. During the past 31 years, more people have had skin cancer than all other cancers combined. 5. About 90 percent of nonmelanoma skin cancers are associated with exposure to ultraviolet (UV) radiation from the sun. 6. Treatment of nonmelanoma skin cancers increased by nearly 77 percent between 1992 and 2006. Source: Skin Cancer Foundation
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Know the ABCs of skin cancer detection, prevention By Cathy Woolridge Josephine magazine
A, B. C, D and E aren’t just letters at the beginning of the alphabet. They are letters that can help save your life, especially when it comes to detecting skin cancer. It’s probably a given that most women aren’t going to avoid the sun, despite the fact that the American Cancer Society, the National Comprehensive Cancer Network and the Skin Cancer Foundation all note skin cancer cases have been steadily increasing for years. We know that ultraviolet radiation, whether from sunlight or tanning beds, should be avoided, but we want to see a bronze beauty reflected in the glass when we look in the mirror. However, a tan may not be the only thing reflected in the glass. “Skin cancer is the most common cancer in humans,” says Dr. Melody Stone of Advanced Dermatology & Skin Cancer Center in St. Joseph. “This is a fact that many people are not aware of.” And there is more than one form of skin cancer. Basal cell and squamous cell cancers are the most common and melanoma is the most deadly form of skin cancer, according to the National Comprehensive Cancer Network. Melanoma also is on the rise among young females ages 20 through 29, Stone says. According to the American Cancer Society, more than 2 million cases of basal and squamous skin cancer are diagnosed each year. The National Comprehensive Cancer Network reports that about 60,000 cases of melanoma are reported yearly. “Most skin cancers can be cured if found early and treated,” says Dr. Robert Johnson, radiation oncologist with The Cancer Center at Heartland Regional Medical Center. And that’s where knowing your ABCs can help. Both Stone and Johnson, as well as the professional organizations already mentioned, advise people to pay attention to any changes in their skin. “Skin cancer has many faces,” Stone says. It can manifest in a chronic wound or rash that doesn’t heal. It can be a new bump in any size, shape or color on any part of the body. Stone adds that skin cancers sometimes bleed, itch or cause pain. Melanoma can develop in a mole or as a new mole, Johnson says. One of its first signs is a change in shape, color, size and feel of a mole. “The acronym ABCDE can help people
remember what to look for,” he says. He explains what each letter stands for and how that can help a person spot possible signs of skin cancer: • Asymmetry: The shape of one half does not match the other half. • Border that is irregular: The edges are often ragged, notched or blurred in outline. The pigment may spread into the surrounding skin. • Color that is uneven: Shades of black, brown and tan may be present. Areas of white, gray and even red and pink may be seen. • Diameter: There is a change in size, usually an increase. Melanomas can be tiny, but most are larger than the size of a pea. • Evolving: The mole is changing over a few weeks or months. “Remember the golden rule,” Stone advises. “If you develop something new or have a change of a lesion from its baseline and it does not go away or improve in three to four weeks, you need to see a dermatologist.” If skin cancer is determined, treatment will depend on the type and stage of the cancer, doctors say. There are a variety of treatment options available, including surgery, chemotherapy, radiation, scraping and burning with electricity and freezing with liquid nitrogen. “Once a person has a skin cancer, they are at an elevated risk to develop another skin cancer during their lifetime,” Stone says. Prevention becomes key to decreasing your chances of getting skin cancer. “The best way to prevent skin cancer is to protect yourself from the sun,” John-
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son says. If you love the bronze look of a tan, there are other ways to get it rather than suntanning or a tanning bed. Try sprayon tanning solutions and self-tanning creams. “As the number of sunburns in one’s life increases, so does their risk of developing skin cancer due to the repeated damage that is done to the DNA of our skin cells,” Stone says. When outside, wear long sleeves and long pants, sunglasses that absorb UV radiation and a wide-brimmed hat. Try to do outdoor activities before 10 a.m. and after 3 p.m. Don’t rely on tanning beds or sun exposure to get your vitamin D (get your vitamin D through your diet). Avoid tanning beds. When outside, apply sunscreen with a SPF (sun protection factor) of at least 15 but preferably 30 and apply 30 minutes before going outside and every two to three hours when outside. “Protect yourself from the sun’s rays reflected by sand, water, snow, ice and pavements,” Johnson says. “The sun’s rays can go through light clothing, windshields, windows and clouds.”
For more information O American Cancer Society: www.cancer.org O National Comprehensive Cancer Network: www.nccn.org O Skin Cancer Foundation: www.skincancer.org O Advanced Dermatology & Skin Cancer Center: www.advanceddermatologyscc.com O The Cancer Center, Heartland Regional Medical Center: www.heartland-health.com
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These summer wines are perfect for warm evenings By Sylvia anderSon Josephine magazine
On cold winter nights, sipping mulled wine or a rich Merlot in front of a glowing fire makes everything cozy and wonderful. Likewise, on a warm summer’s eve, the right wine can bring out the best of the season. But it needs to be something different: lighter, more casual, chilled and refreshing. Only what? We asked local wine experts to help by telling us their favorites. Ultimately, it comes down to personal preference, they say, and trying a variety of wines. One thing is for sure, summer has never looked so good.
Favorite summer wine:
Vignoles
Who: Jason Gerke, Jowler Creek Winery, Platte City, Mo. “My favorite summertime wine is our Jowler Creek Vignoles,” says Jason Gerke, who with his wife, Colleen, owns the award-winning Jowler Creek vineyard and winery located between Platte City and Camden Point, Mo. “It is semisweet and very tropical with nice pineapple, peach and honey flavors. And it is very versatile — great with a light salad, crab cakes or seed fruits. Maybe it’s because my mom always prepared baked ham with pineapple when I was growing up, but I personally like the Jowler Creek Vignoles with a nice ham and cheese panini.”
Favorite summer wine:
Muscato
Who: Oscar Hansen, Smooth Endings Fine Wine, Spirits and Cigars, St. Joseph “Muscatos has been huge for the last six to eight months,” says Oscar Hansen, owner of Smooth Endings. “They’re a sweet white wine with a little bit of sparkly with it, too. It’s really caught on and we carry a lot of different brands. “Muscato is the base white wine in Asti Spumanti, the sweet bubbly sparkling wine from Italy. Most Musatos are sweet, but they come in drier versions, too.
Favorite Summer Wine:
Pirtle Apple
Who: Patricia Pirtle, Pirtle Winery, Weston, Mo.
Patricia Pirtle, matriarch of the award winning, family-owned winery, says it’s a toss-up between their Apple, Weston Bend Rose’, Cherry and Mellow Red wines. We gave Apple the top position because of the fun way to serve it. “I put a piece of red and a piece of green apple in ice cube trays. I then pour Apple wine over this,” Pirtle says. “Then in a large wine glass, I put the ice cubes and then the Apple wine. It makes for a very fun and cooling summer drink and a good conversation piece. It sort of breaks the ice when you are around new friends.”
Favorite Summer Wine:
Sangria
Who: Lee Robertson, Uncorked Events by Lee, wine tasting and event planning “I generally serve semi dry and sweet whites for summertime, but it depends on what I’m eating,” says Lee Robertson of Uncorked Events by Lee. “For chicken or fish, I prefer a good chilled Chardonnay. If I’m going to have a steak or burger, then a Cabernet or Pinot Noir. But if I’m just going to be sipping wine on the deck, I will probably have a Pinot Grigio or a Riesling. Rieslings are just so smooth,” she says. “Or what’s really great is Sangria. Take some red wine, add some brandy and fruit and you have great summer wine.” We think Lee’s Sangria wins hands down. Here’s the recipe:
Sassy Sangria 2/3 cup Chambord 2/3 cup apricot brandy 2/3 cup black berry brandy 2 tablespoons sugar (to taste) Mix all together in a large pitcher and add in fruit to marry flavors at least two hours before serving. Use dark-colored fruits such as red grapes, black grapes, red apples, lemon, lime, oranges, strawberries or plums. Raspberries and blackberries will not hold up but you could use them as garnish. Add: 2 bottles of chilled Cabernet or Merlot wine 2 cans of chilled 7UP (or Sprite if you like sweeter) Could also use Wild Vines Blackberry wine. This will make it a sweet sangria.
Summer wine tips O Water cools faster than air. For urgent chilling needs, fill a bucket with ice, cold water and some salt. Dunk bottle. O Small pours. When it’s hot out and the wine is cold, just do small pours since wine in the bottle keeps colder. O Think pink. Cast aside any lingering prejudices, and catch the hot wine of summer, a dry rosé. They are so food friendly and offer something with more substance than a white. O Put the stem in stemware. Try the “impact resistant” crystal glasses from Schott Zwiesel. If you do have to use plastic, try to make it thin and clear. O Forget the corkscrew. Go on a hike or a boat, and leave the corkscrew behind. Choose a wine with a screw cap or possibly even in a TetraPak (lighter to carry back out empty). Or go for the ultimate no-corkscrew-needed wine — champagne. (Caution — not so great on hikes, though.) — Dr.Vino.com
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Extra credit Building up your financial health is worth the effort
By Lisa Horn Josephine magazine
When building — or rebuilding — credit, knowledge is power. That starts with checking your credit report on a yearly basis. Eighty-five percent of people have something wrong on their credit report, and 40 percent of those people have an error that’s negatively affecting their credit, says Jana Root, community outreach director with Apprisen Financial Advocates, Consumer Credit Counseling Service. Root and Bob Means, president and CEO of Pony Express Community Bank, urge all consumers to monitor their credit reports once a year. Annualcreditreport. com, the website created by the three nationwide credit reporting companies, provides the report to consumers for free every 12 months. For a young person starting out with little to no credit, Means suggests building credit slowly and strategically. Opening a checking account with a community
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bank is a good place to begin, he says. “Many community banks will use a properly handled checking account as a replacement, if you will, for a lengthy credit report,” he says. This can be especially helpful if you’re looking to that same bank for a loan and have handled your checking account responsibly — with regular deposits and no overdrafts. Banks may offer other “credit-building” products such as a secured credit card, Root says. When the term is complete, payments are then reported to the credit bureaus. “Paying a credit card in full each month is the preferred method of handling a card as opposed to making minimum payments,” Means says. The card should be used to buy things you need, such as a computer for school, a piece of furniture (like a bed), a washer/dryer or other appliance. Dining out, entertainment and clothes buying are not a wise use of a first credit card, he says. “It comes down to needs versus wants,” he says. When choosing the card, Means suggests the credit limit to be no more than your net monthly income or what you take home after taxes, insurance, union dues and other fees are deducted from your paycheck. And whatever you do, be sure to read all the terms and conditions before signing the contract of any credit product. “Some credit cards charge horrendous limits and membership fees,” Root says. “Once you sign off on that
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contract or click ‘I agree’ on the computer, you are subject to those terms and paying back the money.� Also, if you know you will miss a payment, contact your credit card company as soon as you can. “It is really important for people who are going to miss a payment to a creditor that they are on the phone before it’s too late,� Root says. When looking to buy that first big-ticket item like a car, Means recommends applying for a loan through your bank or dealing with an institution that will report your payments to the credit bureaus. He also warns people of all ages to be wary of paying unusually high interest rates when looking to make such a purchase. In other words, don’t take the first deal you’re offered. “Patience is a virtue,� Means says. “In the long run, it will help you save more for a down payment and qualify for standard instead of high-risk financing.� If you’re trying to rebuild bad credit, Means and Root again suggest starting with your annual credit report. Once you determine the errors that need to be corrected or issues to be addressed, get your payments current, Means says. Whittle away at your unpaid bills by starting with the smallest, most manageable amount. Pay that off and continue until all your debts are paid. “This will allow you to free up cash flow, so you can move on to the next balance,� Means says. The hard part, however, is that lifestyle changes may be necessary to get back on solid financial ground. “It’s a discipline to live within our means, put food on the table and meet our financial obligations,� Means says. The Consumer Credit Counseling Service (CCCS), which has a location in St. Joseph, may be able to help with that goal, he adds. They can help merge your bills into a more manageable, single, monthly payment. Root advises to be wary of companies charging to repair your credit. “Unfortunately, right now because people are stretched so much, there are others trying to take advantage of the situation,� she says. “They won’t do anything that you can’t do yourself.� And while the recent credit card reform laws have been helpful to consumers, vigilance is still required. “Credit card companies are having to be a lot more transparent, but we have to be aware that they may be doing other things to make up for lost revenue,� Root says. A bright spot for people trying to rebuild their credit is to know that today is more important than yesterday. “The longer something’s been on your credit report, the less influence it has on your score,� Root says. “What you’re doing today has more impact than the past.�
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By Jennifer Gordon Josephine magazine
es in an array of colors. Those who literally want to see “la vie en rose” can opt for pink shades. When it comes to picking the right shape lens, go for the opposite of your face shape. Oval faces should stick to rounder lenses, and rounderfaced women should stick to squarer lenses. Trends call for bigger sunglasses, but temper the size of the lens with common sense — unless you’re going for the human-fly look. “You want your eyebrows to be somewhat visible,” says Rachelle Schneider, merchandise execution manager at J.C. Penney in St. Joseph. Sunglasses frames get as loud and crazy as you want. High schoolers tend to buy more wild colors, reflected in J.C. Penney’s Arizona brand of bright neon shades and pastel-colored frames. Older shoppers opt for more traditional black and brown frames, but they still go for more distinguished frames. “I think someone in their mid-20s to 30s, they’re looking for something with a little flair,” Schneider says. At Dillard’s, sales associate Wilma Furgeson also notices women gravitating not necessarily to more color on the frames but to more detail. “A lot of women like Jessica Simpson and Guess because they’re bigger and they have a lot of bling,” she says. Top-tier brands might hurt a pocketbook, but Furgeson recommends the investment in a pair of shades from a brand such as Ray Ban or Fossil, as both stand up to the rough and tumble of daily living. Above all the lens options and the price for a pair of sunglasses, trust your instinct in picking the perfect pair. “Satisfy yourself and not anyone else,” Furgeson says.
Trying on sunglasses can be as agonizing as jeans shopping. The wrong lenses can bring the wrong kind of attention to a prominent nose, protruding ears or chubby cheeks. But, as with jeans shopping, finding the right shades is a necessary evil. Sunglasses protect your eyes from harmful UV rays and reduce the risk for cataracts and cancers around the eyes, according to the Environmental Protection Agency. All full-spectrum UV protected lenses should have a sticker or some indicator, Cheri Clark, a marketing director at The Spec Shoppe in St. Joseph, says. “Usually what you want to look for is polarized sunglasses. What polarized sunglasses do is they cut the glare of the sun on the windshield,” she says. In addition to offering prescription sunglasses, The Spec Shoppe has several top-tier styles such as Maui Jim and Oakley with a variety of lens colors for a customized pair of shades. Brown lenses, Clark says, allow you to see more color. Gray-tinted lenses allow more detail. Golfers prefer persimmon-shade glasses because they offer better depth perception on cloudy days. Maui Jim sunglasses offer some of the highest abby values for sunglasses, a measure of lens clarity. Oakley has a line of high-definition lenses that make its brand a popular choice as well. Department-store fashion brands such as Steve Madden and Jessica Simpson also make sunglass-
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Lindsey Green is wearing from left: Nike Siege 2, from the Spec Shoppe, $169; Genna DeRossi, from JCPenney’s, $30; and A/X Armani Exchange, from Dillards, $58-$70.
Kallie Searcy is wearing from left: Jessica Simpson, from Dillards, $40-65; Versace VE4204-B. from Spec Shoppe, $279; and Liz Claiborne, from JCPenney’s, $30.
Alex Massey is wearing from left: City Streets, from JCPenney’s, $20; Maui Jim Black Rock, from Spec Shoppe, $299; and Jessica Simpson, from Dillards, $40-$65. photos by Wansuk Choi/Josephine magazine
average joe
I Tying the knot And now, the real work of life begins
Alonzo Weston is a columnist and
reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press. The St. Joseph native has served on the News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.
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t’s June and like a lot of other oncesingle men, you’re getting married. No more hanging out late with your buddies. No more beer for breakfast. No more being the general slob you are. Just be thankful that some woman thought enough of you that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. That’s like a notary seal that says you’re not a total loser. But if you believe H.L. Mencken, you might just be her best option. In his “Defense of Women,” Mencken says a woman forms a vision of her ideal mate when she’s young. And it’s usually some way-too-perfect fairy tale character or movie actor. She’ll date a series of suitors in search of that ideal, but none ever come close. From sheer exhaustion, she finally settles for you. And perhaps the reason she settles for you is because she sees you as being more malleable than the rest. Like a can of Play-Doh, she believes she can easily shape you into her ideal guy. But I like to believe that your future wife picked you for better reasons. For one, she honestly believes you will be a good provider. She also doesn’t mind having children that look like you. That has to be a compliment. How many people are there who think that anything about you is good enough to be duplicated? You also should know that the woman you marry is not necessarily the woman who will become your wife. That lovely girl you kissed at the altar will slowly morph into a completely different creature after a few years. And you will transform, too.
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An AskMen.com article quoted Ludwig Borne, the 19th century German political writer and satirist, as saying “A sweetheart is milk, a bride is butter and a wife is cheese.” To that the author of the article added “To a woman a boyfriend is like wine, a groom is like cocktails and a husband is like flat beer.” Make no mistake, you’ll both gain weight after marriage. You’ll also both settle into a routine and begin to take each other for granted. What were once cute habits for both of you are now annoying traits that you both thought the other would outgrow. Your sex life will most likely change as well. In many cases, it will never be as daring and as adventurous as it was before you got married. You’ll get too used to each other. Author Dennis Boyles said there are certain laws to marriage. One is that your wife will pick a fight with you when you are at your most stupid and defenseless, like when you’re in your underwear or half shaved. And she will want to talk about an important subject during the most exciting game ever on TV. But like anything else, marriage takes work. You marry for better or worse, rich or poor, and promise to always be there for each other. You’ll see plenty of available and temptingly attractive women after you’re married. For some strange reason they hid when you were single and desperate. But know that the one you married is worth two in the bush. Probably the best advice comes from Dr. Stanley “Jack” Watson, a marriage and family therapist for the Family Support Network. He says: “The greater part of communication Is learning the art of negotiation; And when you’re old and very wise, You might have learned to compromise.”
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ur city parks are full of excitement. Where else can you go to watch children throw sand at each other, cheer on middle-aged men playing Frisbee and laugh while folks fight bees for a chicken leg? Recently, my family and I went to partake of the great outdoors. Trying to recapture my youth, I ran for the swings, just like I was a kid. After five minutes of kicking my legs up and down to try and get moving, I had to take a break to catch my breath and recover from a bad case of motion sickness. I sat down on a bench and watched the arrival of a young couple, who were obviously in love. Their handholding soon gave way to chasing each other around the slide, giggling with excitement. He caught her, swooped her up and carried her to the bench where I was sitting. He gently sat her down, and they began chatting. “Look at that adorable little boy over there with the ice cream cone. Makes me want ice cream,” she said. The love-struck male, who just wanted to get back to their physical contact, said, “You don’t need any ice cream. Now come here.” He reached in to tickle her but this time, it was not well received. She folded her arms and turned her back to his advances. I immediately knew what the problem was, because I spoke fluent “woman-eze”. Her female brain heard him say, “I am in charge, and I say you don’t need anything.” “What’s wrong?” he asked, his expression a mix of fear and confusion. “Nothing,” she replied sharply. Nothing. A word that by definition means “not anything,” but when used by a pouting female means, “I am mad and I am not going to give you any
hints, clues or ideas as to why. If you truly love me, you should be able to guess what is wrong. Oh, and if you don’t guess right, I am going to give you the silent treatment for the rest of the night.” I smiled, not at his crisis, but at the memory of how much I used to enjoy playing this game. My husband spent many nights under the heavy cloud of my silence, or so I thought until during one of my “word boycotts,” I noticed his big, cheesy smile out of the corner of my eye. I broke from my silence to ask him, if he was being tormented, why in the world did he look so happy. He explained, “Truthfully, I love the silent treatment. It is the only time I get any peace and quiet.” I looked at the young man who was now squirming beside me and wondered how long it would take him to embrace the silence like my husband did. He nervously ran his fingers through his hair, desperate to figure out what went wrong. He even discreetly lifted his arms to sniff his pits, thinking maybe the physical activity had made him smell and that was why she was so aloof, but the reassuring scent of his Axe deodorant told him hygiene was not the problem. I felt a sense of nostalgia as I watched the young admirers learning this game of love. He knelt before her, unlocked her arms to take hold of her hands, looked directly into her eyes and began begging for forgiveness for a sin he wasn’t even sure he had committed. “I am sorry for whatever I did. You know I don’t always think before I speak but I tell you what, let me buy you some ice cream as a peace offering.” He got it! She spun around and hugged his neck as he smiled from ear to ear. This boy was her true soul mate. He read the thoughts and intentions of her heart. Shoot, who am I kidding? Truth is, he was just like the blind squirrel — lucky enough to occasionally find a nut.
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getting real
Ah, young love He has no idea what he’s in for
Stacey molluS is a humor columnist
who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”
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Get your Tex-Mex fix
tex-mex avocado wrap 4 6-inch flour tortillas Olive oil spray 6 ounces sliced smoked turkey breast 1/2 small ripe avocado (1/2 cup cubed) 1/2 cup tomato salsa, drained Several lettuce leaves Spread tortillas on a work surface and spray with olive oil spray. Divide turkey among tortillas. Peel, seed and cube avocado; spoon over turkey. Drain salsa and add. Place lettuce on top. Roll up the wraps and cut in half on the diagonal. Makes two servings.
Nutrition information per serving: 378 calories (29 percent from fat), 12.1 g fat (2.3 g saturated, 6.8 g monounsaturated), 54 mg cholesterol, 27.8 g protein, 39.2 g carbohydrates, 5.5 g fiber, 697 mg sodium.
red bean salad McClatchy-Tribune
Helpful hints: • Use any type of lettuce. • A reducedfat vinaigrette dressing can be used instead of the lime juice and olive oil in the recipe.
Simple menu is all wrapped up By Linda Gassenheimer • mcClatchy-Tribune
No need to turn on the stove for this quick meal of TexMex Avocado Wrap with Red Bean Salad. Tomato salsa, avocado and sliced smoked turkey wrapped in a flour tortilla create a simple dinner. The secret to a good wrap is to moisten the tortilla with a spread or oil. For this recipe, I sprayed the tortillas with olive oil spray. The spray adds flavor without too much fat. Flavored tortillas would be perfect for this recipe. This meal contains 589 calories per serving with 26 percent of calories from fat.
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1 tablespoon fresh lime juice 2 teaspoons olive oil 2 tablespoons diced red onion 1½ cups rinsed and drained canned red kidney beans Salt and freshly ground black pepper Several lettuce leaves Mix lime juice and olive oil together in a medium-size bowl. Add the onion and red beans. Add salt and pepper to taste. Toss well. Place lettuce on a serving plate and spoon beans and dressing on top. Makes two servings.
Nutrition information per serving: 211 calories (22 percent from fat), 5.2 g fat (0.8 g saturated, 3.7 g monounsaturated), no cholesterol, 10.5 g protein, 32.2 g carbohydrates, 11.1 g fiber, 300 mg sodium.
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Get your Grill On... T-Bones with Sweet & Savory Steak Sauce • 2 beef T-bone steaks, cut 1 inch thick (about 16 ounces each) • 1/2 pound small carrots with tops, trimmed • 2 tablespoons water • 2 medium zucchini and/or yellow squash, cut in 1/2-inch slices • 1 teaspoon olive oil • 2 teaspoons coarse grind black pepper
Sweet & Savory Steak Sauce • • • • • • • •
1 can (8 ounces) tomato sauce 1/3 cup chopped pitted dates 1/4 cup chopped onion 3 tablespoons balsamic vinegar 1 tablespoon molasses 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 teaspoon minced garlic 1/2 teaspoon salt
Total Recipe Time: 45 to 50 minutes
1. Combine Sauce ingredients in small saucepan over medium heat; bring to a boil. Reduce heat; simmer, uncovered, 10 minutes to blend flavors, stirring occasionally. Place sauce in blender or food processor container. Cover; pulse on and off for slightly chunky texture. (For a thinner sauce, stir in additional 1 to 2 teaspoons water.) Return sauce to saucepan; keep warm until ready to serve. 2. Place carrots and 2 tablespoons water in large nonstick skillet. Cover; cook 8 to 10 minutes or until water has evaporated; add squash. Drizzle with oil; toss to coat evenly. Continue to cook, uncovered, 6 to 8 minutes or until vegetables are crisp-tender and beginning to brown, stirring occasionally. Season with salt, as desired. 3. Meanwhile, press pepper evenly onto beef steaks. Place steaks on grid over medium, ash-covered coals. Grill steaks, uncovered, 14 to 16 minutes (over medium heat on preheated gas grill, covered, 15 to 19 minutes) for medium rare (145°F) to medium (160°F) doneness, turning occasionally. 4. Remove bones; carve steaks crosswise into slices. Season steak salt, as desired. Serve with sauce and vegetables. Makes 4 servings Nutrition information per serving: 354 calories; 12 g fat (4 g saturated fat; 6 g monounsaturated fat); 61 mg cholesterol; 792 mg sodium; 30 g carbohydrate; 4.9 g fiber; 32 g protein; 6.7 mg niacin; 0.8 mg vitamin B6; 2.4 mcg vitamin B12; 5.8 mg iron; 12.3 mcg selenium; 6.0 mg zinc; 22.0 mg choline. This recipe is an excellent source of fiber, protein, niacin, vitamin B6, vitamin B12, iron and zinc; and a good source of selenium.
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