Josephine St. Joseph’s women’s magazine
November 2012
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Make a holiday budget and stick to it It will make everything easier and the season more enjoyable
A local mother uses her experience to help parents with preemies When to scrimp and when to splurge on makeup There is a right way and a wrong way to keep your clothes clean Depression is more than a bad mood, it requires treatment
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cover girl Mickey Prettyman of Bolcow, Mo., comes to the Josephine Expo every year with the Missouri Red Hat Ding-a-lings, based in Maryville, Mo. Her mother founded the group several years ago. “I was a pink hatter when we started because I was under 50,” Mickey says. “They had a red-uation ceremony for me. It was a lot of fun.” She and her mother like coming to the Expo to see all the new vendors. They always make several stops by the Josephine booth to pick up the chocolate candy. When she’s not with the Ding-a-lings, Mickey farms with her husband, makes pageant tutus and paints houses and barns. She also enjoys babysitting her three grandkids.
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Best buys When to scrimp and when to splurge on your makeup
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Healthy holidays Pack on the seasonal cheer, not the pounds, this winter
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Wash, rinse, repeat Tips from the experts on doing the best by your clothes
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A guiding light Gina Schubert draws from her own experience to help parents of preemies
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Stick to your holiday budget Start early to make your dollars last through the holiday season
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Good morning! Wake up ready for the day
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Can you relate? Building a stronger sibling bond
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More than a bad mood Depression requires specialized attention
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By JESS DEHAVEN I know there’s still Halloween candy in the house, but it’s already the time of year to start planning for those bigger holidays — and how you’ll handle them so you won’t wind up broke, stressed and with extra pounds you don’t want. Ideally, budgeting and shopping for the holidays should have started before now, but if you haven’t gotten anything accomplished, there still are things you can do to get on track. Check out Jennifer Gordon’s story on page 20 for tips. If the holiday gatherings, and the food that comes with them, are what has you dreading the season, we can help you there, too. Jourdan Ryan talked to the experts about ways to enjoy a taste of the holidays without packing on the pounds. Turn to page 12 for more. Sometimes it’s family that’s the main stress at the holidays. If you’re still fighting those old sibling rivalries and would like to break the cycle, there are things you can do to improve the relationship. We asked Sylvia Anderson to gather some ideas on building sibling bonds, and you can read up on those on page 24. On a final note, thanks to all of you who helped to make our 2012 Josephine Expo the biggest and best yet. We look forward to seeing you back on Oct. 5, 2013!
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5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 232-9750.
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6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 351-2139.
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Don’t lose your hemline Beauty. Jeans too long? Real Simple magazine advises not to cut off the extra length and at the same time lose the nice crisp hemline (marked by the recognizable yellow thread). Instead, invest in a good tailor. With very long pants, your tailor may have to cut off a bit of fabric above the hemline and reattach the original hems (with barely noticeable blue thread that matches the denim), but the task usually can be achieved by folding a hem up accordion-style and sewing it in place, so the original finished seam is in plain view.
Get great skin nature’s way
Health. Would you like to cut back on all the moisturizers you buy? Try adding moisture naturally from the inside. Drinking water is the best way, but eating fluid-rich foods such as fruit, vegetables and soup also can help, according to Discovery Health. Alcoholic and caffeinated drinks actually work in reverse, causing you to lose fluids. Foods high in essential fatty acids, such as omega-3 and omega-6, help your skin produce more lipids that strengthen your skin cells. These foods include walnuts, flaxseed oil, corn and safflower oil. Foods high in vitamins B-2, B-6, B-12, C and E can help hydrate your skin and repair sun damage. And foods high in vitamins B-2, B-6, B-12, C and E can help hydrate your skin and repair sun damage. Good sources include citrus fruit, nuts, whole grains, broccoli, sunflower seeds, egg yolks and milk.
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Money. The holidays are coming, and if you’re looking for extra money in your budget, try these savings tips from alwaysfrugal.com: ■ Plan your meals in advance and try not to go to the grocery store without a list. ■ Buy cheaper cuts of meat and cook them in a slow cooker to make them tender and flavorful. ■ Use up leftovers to make soup. ■ Go out to eat for lunch instead of dinner.
Braving the bromance Relate. Ever find yourself the third wheel when you’re hanging out with your guy and his best friend? Take it easy, cautions women’s blog Lovelyish. Bromances are typically deep friendships, which means you need to raise the matter delicately. Start by setting boundaries. Make it a rule that phones are put away during date night so your man isn’t tempted to text his friend all night. Give the best friend a night alone with your man, too, and you’ll likely stop any “you spend all your time with her” arguments from the pal.
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Best buys When to scrimp and when to splurge on your makeup By LISA HORN Josephine magazine
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even lipsticks, 12 eye shadows, three mascaras … the list can go on. And chances are, it’s been a while since they have all been in rotation.
Sound familiar? If this list describes your makeup kit, then you’re not alone. On average, women purchase two to three times more makeup than they need or use, according to Vanity Fair. So how do you know what you need and which products call for a splurge and which items you can afford to scrimp on? Debra Swank, program director for the cosmetology department at Vatterott College, says that before putting any color on, you need a good foundation. “You must have healthy skin first,” she says. And while good skin is largely inherited,” Swank adds, “… what we can do is choose products suited for our individual skin types.” And for anyone who has owned a home knows, foundation work can be costly. This, Swank says, is where women should direct most of their cosmetic budget. A skin-care regimen of cleansing, exfoliation, toning, moisturization and protection is critical to keep skin youthful and healthy.
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Pamela Calligan, aesthetician at Covenant Medical Spa in St. Joseph, agrees. It isn’t until we age that we realize the importance of the use of skin protection in our younger years. “The most important product you can buy is sunscreen,” Calligan says. Some foundations, especially mineral makeups, combine sunscreen and coverage into one product. “They are very conducive to skin health and also protect you from the sun,” Calligan adds. For added protection, she suggests using a separate facial sunscreen underneath. By spending more on your “foundation,” Swank says most people can cut corners on makeup, such as eye shadow and mascara. “With mascara, it’s not about the price of the product, it’s about the shape of the brush,” Swank says. “It’s been my experience that there’s not a lot of difference in how these products affect the skin,” she adds. “The difference, however, is in the performance of the product’s duration. Some products do last longer than others.” An inexpensive eye shadow is OK as long as its formula isn’t too heavy, says Danielle Wiedmaier, aesthetician at Images of You salon. Heavy shadows can pull down on lids. “The lighter the makeup is, the better it is for your skin in the long run,” Wiedmaier says. “The skin on your face is the thinnest than anywhere else on your body, and the area around your eyes is the most delicate — most people don’t realize that.” Cheaper makeups can cause irritation for those with sensitive skin, so Swank recommends trying a new product without fragrance first and asking for samples. But whatever cosmetics you choose, be judicious, says Maci Kovac, Images of You makeup artist. “When it comes to anything on your face, you don’t want to go too cheap,” she says. “The cheaper you go, the cheaper the chemicals are in the product.” That low price can be more trouble than it’s worth and may cause acne, dark spots and make for a splotchy, uneven complexion. In other words, cheap can be good, but your makeup shouldn’t look that way.
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Healthy holidays Pack on the seasonal cheer, not the pounds, this winter
By JOURDAN RYAN Josephine magazine
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t’s that time of year again. There’s a turkey thawing on the counter, snow in the air, eggnog in the fridge and presents being purchased. But with all this holiday cheer comes some serious temptation, temptation that could leave you with a gut the size of Santa’s by January. “During the holidays, there may be more social events and gatherings where we are presented with opportunities to access foods that may have lower nutri-
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tional quality,” Hy-Vee dietitian Sheri Caldwell says. “Usually rich dessert items such as pecan pie and decadent cheesecakes are high on the list with the most calories per serving.” Holiday weight gain is something that people trifle with every year. How much can I eat? What should I avoid? Is it OK to cheat on my diet for the holidays? These are questions that can haunt a holiday partygoer, but with a little discipline and some serious moderation, you can go home for Christmas without gaining a pant size or two. In reality, it’s all about portion control. Don’t avoid the foods you love. However, don’t overindulge on them, either. Hy-Vee dietitians suggest that you watch out for thoughtless eating. With all the options in the break room at work or the buffet table at the holiday party you’re attend-
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ing, it can be easy to consume a thousand calories or more on appetizers and snacks alone. Beyond that, watch out for beverages that are high in calories. One glass of eggnog can contain up to 500 calories, and one glass of beer or wine contains roughly 100. Opt for low-carbohydrate juices or water as much as possible. “The biggest mistake people make is not eating in moderation,” registered nurse Jeana Haggard says. “Stop eating when you feel full. Step away from the table to avoid grazing. It’s never in your best interest to completely throw out your diet plan during the holidays. “Think of it as a way of life instead of as a diet,” she says. “You can still enjoy the holidays without all the extra carbs, calories and fats.” Survey the options first. Choose only what you really want to eat, but keep the
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portions small. That way, you aren’t running the risk of binge eating on junk food later and you still get to eat that slice of pecan pie you’ve been eyeing all evening. According to WebMD, it’s good to utilize what’s referred to as “social weight maintenance.” Understand that you won’t be perfect and that you are likely to make mistakes. That’s OK. Allow some flexibility in your eating plan so you can still munch on holiday favorites without going overboard. “For some people, it might be more realistic during this season to set a goal to maintain their current weight and avoid additional weight gain instead of trying to lose weight,” Caldwell says. “Be realistic. Remember that guilt and deprivation are not part of the holiday spirit.” At holiday parties, use the smallest plate available and don’t stack your food on it. Allow yourself a couple bites of each item available, no more than that. That way, you still get to taste everything without the negative effect on your waistline. Dietitians suggest that you eat slowly and be sure to leave space between your foods on the plate, so you know that you’re keeping your portions small. Savor every bite and put your fork down between each one. Chewing at a slower rate will fill you up without allowing you to eat too much food in one sitting. “The holidays can be tough on dieters. We are surrounded by food decisions, some good and some bad. But with a little know-how, you can stick to a healthy plan,” Haggard says. “Drink a full glass of water before you eat. Try salads and soups before breads and pastries. Go easy on the desserts and snack on fruits and veggies as often as possible.” Opting for healthy alternatives is a great holiday helper. Drink low-fat eggnog or eat a slice of pumpkin pie instead of pecan pie. Whip mashed potatoes with skim milk and roasted garlic. Top green beans with slivered almonds. Choose whole-wheat dinner rolls. That way, you can eat what you like without allowing the ghost of Christmas weight gain to follow you around all year. Another calorie saver is so simple that it’s easy to overlook. If you don’t love it, don’t eat it. If you’re full, stop eating. Throw away the notion that you have to clean your plate. Eat what you like, not what’s going to pack on the pounds and turn you into a Grinch later. “Be clear about your health goals and philosophy of eating before the holiday busyness starts,” Caldwell says. “Maybe we need to redefine some of the foods we associate with the season and find some delicious, healthier alternatives and establish some exciting and healthful new traditions.”
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Wash, rinse, repeat (no really, repeat) Tips from the experts on doing the best by your clothes
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ick Weiser doesn’t usually step into other people’s conversations. But the other day, while waiting with his son for a doctor’s appointment, he had to. The people he stepped in on were talking about adding chlorine bleach to their laundry to make their clothes cleaner. “And I said, ‘OK, chlorine bleach does not just clean, it actually bleaches the clothes, so you can only put it in with whites.” It’s a common mistake (but he says oxygen bleaches are OK, such as Clorox 2 and Oxiclean.) And as the owner of four dry-cleaning businesses in St. Joseph, Weiser runs into a lot of mistakes. So does Oscar Hansen, owner of Beck Road Cleaners. Hansen, Weiser and Robin Summa, owner of Satin Stitches Bridal in Smithville, Mo., offer their list of don’ts (and a few dos) in caring for your clothing. The most common-sense advice, Summa says, is to follow the label. “Although it’s probably the most expensive thing to do, also.”
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A lot of business comes from spots and stains that people have tried to fix themselves, says Hansen. Don’t. Ink, blood and wine, for instance, only get set in and spread around with at-home remedies. Weiser heard one the other day using salt and vinegar. And you can guess that, since he heard about it, it probably didn’t work. People also like to use hairspray, he says, for ink stains. While it might spread the stain around, be careful because it’s the alcohol in the hairspray that’s doing the job, and if you try that on,
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Romancing The Gowns
Wash everything you’re storing for the season, or you’ll get oxidization and insects. It’s a myth, Weiser says, that moths like fabric. What they like is the stuff on the fabric, which is Designer Gowns Without The Designer Prices there if it’s not clean. They’re not even that much of a problem in St. Joseph, he adds. But crickets are. Cleaning up before storage is true for formal dresses and wedding gowns, too, says Summa. After their weddings, most brides are usually JAN MAUGHMER, done spending money, but a final cleaning on OWNER skip washing or dry that dress could save it. ROMANCINGTHEGOWNS.COM cleanings It isn’t usually age that yellows a dress, Sum17498 COUNTY ROAD 287 Smells OK? Looks OK? Probably clean, right? ma says, it’s perspiration and body oils. SAVANNAH, MO 64485 Wrong. “If you don’t put it away clean,” Weiser says, We are always looking 816-803-3153 The oils in your body and from your hair, perfume, “it’s trouble.” for new consigners who want to resell their gowns! makeup, deodorant and the world itself are doing damage to your clothes, breaking down the fibers. And the longer you wear them, the more damage gets done. Cottons, for instance, hold moisture and oxidize over time, turning brown the way apples do once they’re cut open. Christmas Open House For most clothes you launder, Weiser says to wash after a single use. The Ivy Cottage 408 Court — On the Square Wool may be OK for a bit longer, as are Savannah, Missouri 64485 sweaters, which might not even be coming into 816.324.5228 contact with your body. For clothes that are dry-cleaned, he says Friday, November 2nd Saturday, November 3rd it’s OK to get through two or three wears. With 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. 5:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. the down economy, people have been waiting longer, and it could end up costing you more in the long run when your clothes don’t last.
say, silk, you’re going to have discoloration. Dry cleaners use special chemicals, Hansen says, not available to the public. Those chemicals target whatever’s making the stain specifically, Weiser says, like tannins in coffee. “People believe in a lot of home remedies,” he says. But they could cost you, and your clothes, a trip to the dry cleaners anyway.
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Although you should do that, for sure. “To get clothes really clean at home, not only should you try to separate by color, but you should also separate by weight of fabric,” says Weiser. So don’t throw your white towels in with your silk nightgown, for instance. Neither will get as clean as it could, and the nightgown might get beat up in the process.
“Ironing can be disastrous,” Summa says. If she’s not steaming (she gives gowns the night to dry after) then Summa starts her iron low and works up the heat to get the results. She does not use the steam setting on her iron, but relies on her steamer for that. Also, she recommends, turn the garment over and begin ironing at a seam. That way, if you have melting or other damage, it’s hidden.
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Gina Schubert draws from her own experience to help parents of preemies By ERIN WISDOM St. Joseph News-Press
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ina Schubert has participated in March for Babies, the March of Dimes’ annual walk that raises funds for research to help babies born prematurely, since having her first daughter 16 years ago. Baylee was born healthy — not a preemie, not in need of a neonatal intensive care unit. Still, Schubert walked in support of babies and families not as fortunate as hers.
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Schubert uses experience to encourage other parents of premature children CONTINUED FROM page 17 “I always thought it was a good thing,” the St. Joseph woman, who works full time as a vault teller at Commerce Bank, says. “You don’t know if it’s going to happen to you.” And it did happen to Schubert. Five months into her second pregnancy, a routine sonogram revealed not one but two babies — sharing one amniotic sac and one placenta. Called monoamniotic-monochorionic (or mono-mono) twins, babies that develop like this occur in one in 35,000 to one in 60,000 pregnancies and account for about 1 percent of twin pregnancies. Falling victim to these odds made Schubert very likely to deliver before her due date, especially since her twins’ umbilical cords were tangled together. Her doctor hoped for a pregnancy lasting 32 weeks, but when Schubert went into labor
on July 5, 2000 — despite having been on bed rest since May — she was more than a month shy of that goal and had to be taken by Life Flight to St. Luke’s Hospital in Kansas City. Once there, she received surfactant therapy — which the March of Dimes helped develop — to speed up the maturation of her babies’ lungs. Her labor stopped for the time being but began again just more than a week later, when at 28 weeks she delivered identical daughters Kendall (weighing 2 pounds, 3 ounces) and Taylor (weighing 1 pound, 13 ounces) on July 14, 2000. Twelve years later, the twins are thriving. The marks left by their prematurity — for Kendall, heart abnormalities, and for Taylor, poor eyesight — don’t keep them from living a typical preteen life, complete with sports. And from her place in the present, far removed from the tumultuous early years of their lives,
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Schubert uses her experience not only to continue supporting the March of Dimes but also to offer encouragement to other parents of premature children. One recipient of this encouragement is Laura Pitts, who went through a pregnancy with triplets. She lost one at 24 weeks and delivered the other two, weighing 1 pound and 13 ounces each, at 25 weeks. They spent months in the hospital, during which the boy, Michael, experienced a brain hemorrhage and the girl, Emma, underwent heart surgery. Even after they were well enough to come home, they came with heart monitors and oxygen. “You come out of this situation almost being a nurse without the degree,” says Pitts, whose children are now 4 years old and doing well. “Gina knew the medical terms. I could say something, and she’d know what I meant.” She adds that knowing all the challenges Schubert’s twins had overcome also helped. Kendall and Taylor spent 75 days in the NICU at St. Luke’s, during which Taylor underwent laser surgery on her eyes, Kendall received medication to correct a couple of the abnormalities in her heart and they each received five blood transfusions. Schubert and her husband, Forrest, couldn’t hold the girls until they were a week old. And even after they could
You come out of this situation almost being a nurse without the degree. Gina knew the medical terms. I could say something, and she’d know what I meant.
milestones, they worried. “They’re 2. They’re not walking. That scares you,” Schubert says. “They say 2 is the magic number; a preemie is supposed to catch up by the age of 2.” Fortunately, the twins did eventually walk and develop normally otherwise, as well. And ever since they were small, they’ve participated along with their parents and older sister not only in the — LAURA PITTS, March for Babies but also in the March of mother of premature children Dimes’ Bikers for Babies motorcycle ride, for which Schubert’s husband serves as chairman. This year, the family collected more than $17,000 in donations for the March of Dimes (which happens to prohold them, they could have the girls out mote November as Prematurity Awareof their isolettes for only 10 minutes at a ness Month). time, since they were too small — exactly “She is ... one of the best volunteers I the size of the Beanie Babies placed in have had the pleasure to work with these their isolettes by the NICU nurses — to be past 24 years,” Randi Banker, the March able to regulate their body temperature. of Dimes’ local division director, says of Kendall and Taylor came home in SepSchubert. “Gina works countless hours tember 2000, and between October and for the March of Dimes ... so (eventually) the following April, they each had four other families will never have to face the episodes in which they stopped breathchallenges that her and her husband had ing due to RSV and had to return to the to face.” hospital for a week or more. Schubert and But as long as there are families facing her husband — a truck driver for United what they did, Schubert is glad to shine a Rentals — had no way of knowing how light into their darkness. this and other issues would affect their “They more or less want reassurance daughters’ development. Thus, when that their kids are going to be all right,” the girls reached their second birthdays she says, “and they can see our kids, and without meeting normal developmental they’re awesome.”
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Stick to your holiday budget Start early to make your dollars last through the holiday season By JENNIFER GORDON Josephine magazine
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Planning for the travel and gifting of the winter season can begin as soon as the gift-giving ends, say both Dr. Rebecca Travnichek, a financial education specialist at the Andrew County University of Missouri Extension, and Wakefield Hare, a financial planner at Choice Financial
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Planning in St. Joseph. “The more time you have to plan for that the better prepared you’ll be,” says Hare. “There’s really no time you should let up planning for holiday spending.” Unexpected expenses come up all the time, but you know that when December rolls around, you’ll need some cash reserves to buy presents and plane tickets. The more you plan, the more flexible you can be to take advantage of the stores’ best prices. They typically raise prices closer to the end of December. You also can spread out the big gifts so that December doesn’t totally drain your bank account, he says. To get an idea of how much you should stash away, look back at what you spent on gifts and travel last year. Use that figure as a guideline. If you don’t know how much you spent last year, keep track of your purchases for the 2012 holiday season in a notebook or on your phone, so you’ll be ready for next year, Travnichek advises. Hare recommends making a physical copy of the holiday budget. There are apps for smart phones and websites like Mint.com that can help you see how close
you are to your goal. Travnichek suggests that people put aside holiday money in an account separate from a checking account. “If you do not use a special account for these funds, you will likely spend them on other things well before holiday time,” she writes in an e-mail to Josephine. Kids are notorious for changing their minds about what they want at the last minute. Travnichek recommends parents buy the presents the kids need months in
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advance, saving electronics and toys for closer to holiday time. You don’t want to end up buying a game in July for a gaming console that becomes obsolete in November. Having the financial flexibility to swap out gifts, too, will help make the holidays go smoothly. Credit cards should be used sparingly, Hare says. Work how much you want to put on your credit card into your holiday spending plan to keep from using it for impulse purchases. Know how you use your credit card; if it’s gotten you into financial trouble in the past, don’t use it for holiday spending. Should your budget not meet the demand of the holidays, Hare advises families to be honest about it. The holidays aren’t worth going into debt over. Bad financial decisions this year will impact holidays for years to come. Maybe this year’s budget is more suited for an alternative holiday tradition. Travnichek suggests families consider donating to a local charity or volunteering at a food kitchen during the holidays. Whatever the budget, don’t think of it as a constraint on your holiday. “So many people hate the word budget
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Wake up ready for the day BY CRYSTAL K. WIEBE Josephine magazine
Angela Lutz always hated mornings. As a teenager, it could be so hard to get out of bed that her mother had to call the school to assure teachers her daughter would eventually arrive. Nighttime socializing only increased the desire to sleep in through college and beyond. “For years, the hours between 4 a.m. and noon didn’t exist to me,” says Lutz, now 30. Then, about six months ago, the Kansas City writer’s personal rhythm began to change. “I can’t make myself sleep past 7:30 anymore, and I’m in bed every night by 10,” she says. “I’m becoming a morning person.” There’s a twinge of reluctance in her voice when she says that – “morning person.” According to a study by Emotion, a journal of the American Psychological Association, “larks” (morning people) 22
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tend to be happier and healthier than “owls” (night people). Scientists from the University of Toronto surveyed more than 700 adults of various ages. Common habits of the happier larks included figuring out the next day’s to-do list the night before, tackling the hardest projects first and never hitting the snooze button. Yet, in a harried society where many struggle to squeeze in the recommended eight hours of sleep, it’s easy to resent the stereotypical overly bright and too-chipper morning person. Theresa Meyer, 46, doesn’t have to worry much about offending colleagues with her early rising ways, since she operates Move It With M&S, an independent mov-
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ing company, out of her St. Joseph home. “I get up, do the shower thing and pop my contacts and clothes on, and head out to the office, which is just in our living room area,” she says of her daily routine. “I return any phone calls and respond to e-mails initially. I then indulge in reading the papers online.” More time to indulge in whatever you enjoy is one oft-cited benefit of being an early bird. Lutz now relishes the moments before she has to clock in at a corporate office in Overland Park. “It’s like time stops in the morning,” she says. Because she still requires coffee to feel fully energized, Lutz loves the chance to pop in, unhurried, at a favorite coffee shop.
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Productivity is the chief reason Amy Flowers, 36, says she’s always been a lark. The district manager for LaborMax Staffing in St. Joseph has a morning ritual that includes hot tea and catching up on a few work e-mails before she even gets to work. “I love getting up early,” she says. “It is easier to get more tasks done, and there is less traffic.” Meyer says she can stay up late when her business requires it but agrees that she’s at her peak in the a.m. “I’ve never had to do shift work, thankfully, so being up and ready to face the day in the morning is part of who I am,” she says. “I attribute that to my parents, who as farmers were, and still are, always up and ready to work when the sun rises.” For Lutz, the transition from owl to lark didn’t happen on its own. Her newfound ability to rise with the sun coincided with a decision to give up alcohol. At that time, she was also working as a full-time freelance writer. She realized that starting her day sooner would help her accomplish more. Never having to battle a hangover has the made the transition all the easier. For morning haters who want to start enjoying more a.m. benefits, Flowers recommends developing a routine that involves exercise, eating right and, of course, good sleep. Meyer agrees: “Have a plan, it doesn’t need to be set in stone, but know what you want to accomplish that day. And be realistic. If I’ve been up until 3 a.m. due to work from the day before, I will probably sleep in the next day.” To summarize: Be kind to yourself, as much as you can. The only bad thing about being a morning person? It can make the nights seem short. “The only time I get to see my boyfriend is in the evenings,” Lutz laments. “I feel like I only go over there to sleep.” And then it’s morning again so soon.
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now that our parents are deceased and we have children of our own, I miss those nights we shared — sleeping in matching twin beds, making up silly stories, sneaking downstairs for cookies and making our bellies slosh around after drinking lots of water. My sister always has been there for me despite any differences or arguments we might have had. And it’s hard to imagine my life without her, even
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Building a stronger sibling bond though we have lived continents apart at times. So it’s no surprise to me that scientists are now discovering that sibling relationships are the most important ones in our lives. “Your parents leave you too soon and your kids and spouse come along late, but your siblings know you when you are in your most inchoate form,” says Jeffery Luger, author of “The New Science of Siblings,” in an interview with salon.com. “Certainly, people can get along without siblings. Single children do . . . but to have siblings and not make the most of that resource is squandering one of the greatest interpersonal resources you’ll ever have.” Unfortunately, we all know of siblings who can’t stand to be around each other, even as adults. Or maybe they don’t fight, but they don’t connect at all. That’s because getting along as siblings is not easy. According to researcher Laurie Kramer, professor of applied family studies at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, on average siblings between age 3 and 7 engage in some kind of conflict 3.5 times an hour. Favoritism and competition factor in, as well. Tim and Jill Morrow could write the book on how to instill brotherly and sisterly love. The Kidder, Mo., couple has six boys and one girl ranging in ages from 6 to 27. Jill Morrow says it’s been a conscious effort to keep the family close. “We do a lot together as a family,” she says. “We take trips, we read, play games. There’s a lot of give and take, and we all work together to make it work.” One son is now a Marine in Japan and another is married with children, so iPhones and texting have replaced some of the day-to-day contact they used to have. Sometimes it takes compromise on everyone’s part to come up with a good day and time to get together. Two of the sons have become closer now that they are adults, she says. An eight-year age difference made it hard for them to relate to each other when they were younger, but they have made it a priority to connect now. “They weren’t that close until a year and a half ago,” Morrow says. “Now they are really friends. They did a run together in Kansas City, and they do things together on purpose.” The key to the strong bond between the Morrow children now is the result of making it a priority from the start. This has included encouraging them to see the importance of teamwork and not treating them all as if they were the same. “We’ve said God has made each of you unique, from the time they were little,”
We know from longitudinal studies that if kids start off their relationship with a sibling on a positive note it’s more likely to continue positively over time.
always conclude it with, “I just have to agree to disagree.” ❯ Be technologically connected. Text a casual, “Hi, what’s going on in life?” Stay connected on social media such as Facebook and Twitter. ❯ Give thoughtful gifts. Who wouldn’t like that?
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Morrow explains. “You have strengths the others don’t; the others might have ones you don’t. Together we are strong.” Research backs up how important the parental role is. In an article in the journal New Directions for Child and Adolescent Development, Kramer wrote that the most important thing parents can do is to help foster a supportive relationship between siblings from the very beginning. “We know from longitudinal studies that if kids start off their relationship with a sibling on a positive note,” she wrote, “it’s more likely to continue positively over time.” But what if the relationship has turned sour? Two things tend to bring adult siblings closer together, according to Luger. One is conflict with parents, such as in divorce or parental abuse. The other is the death of a parent. Rather than hoping for either of those, magforwomen.com has these suggestions:
❯ Don’t bring up bitter childhood memories. ❯ Spend more quality time together – beyond the official family gatherings. ❯ Accept them for what they are, even if you disagree on their life choices. ❯ Don’t ever gossip about them. ❯ Don’t let arguments rule your relationship — if there is an argument, learn to be the one to say sorry if it is your fault. If not, you can
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More than a bad mood
Depression requires specialized attention By CHRISTINA HAZELWOOD HECKMAN Josephine magazine
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What is depression? Depression is a medical disorder. It is not a weakness or a fault. It disrupts your daily life and affects your thoughts, feelings, behavior and physical health. Some people experience depression even when life is going well. Depression can occur when the chemicals in the brain are not balanced, and a family history of depression can increase your chances of having the disorder. Extreme stress, grief and other illnesses may trigger it. The use of drugs or alcohol or a history of abuse also can cause depression. And for some, a simple change in the seasons can bring them down.
Symptoms An episode of depression lasts at least two weeks and includes symptoms such as profound sadness, lack of pleasure in activities you normally enjoy, anxiety, reduced energy, change in sleeping habits or appetite, difficulty concentrating, change in motivation, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of guilt disproportionate to cause, crying, lack of hope and thoughts of self-harm. Children and adolescents may exhibit symptoms by being irritable or acting out. “You can tell it’s depression when it begins to affect your everyday life in negative ways consistently,” says Charla Markt, board-certified psychologist at the Samaritan Counseling Center. “For example, if you have very low energy, problems going to sleep or staying asleep or want to sleep all the time and you are having trouble completing your daily tasks. We typically look for three dimensions when diagnosing depression: frequency, severity and duration. Some questions we ask are, ‘How often do you feel this way?’ ‘On a scale of one to 10 how are you feeling?’ And, ‘How long have the feelings been occurring?’”
Diagnosis Based on depression statistics in America, about one in 10 people suffer from symptoms associated with depression at some point in their life. “It’s hard to pin a number on this, since people who don’t report depression don’t get counted,” says Dr. Charles R. Shuman of the psychiatry department at Heartland Regional Medical Center. “Historically, patients haven’t wanted to report difficulties with mood because of our cultural preferences not to address these issues. Depression is frequently seen as a moral fault or character flaw. Historically, it has not been viewed as a medical condition.” Becky Draper-Stuck, a licensed clinical social worker at Northwest Health Ser-
Many people think you should be able to change moods just because you want to or should. They do not understand that clinical depression is a chemical imbalance in your brain.
“First, an individual needs to be evaluated to determine the cause of depressive symptoms,” Shuman says. “For a ‘straightforward’ episode of depression, psychotherapy can be very helpful. Modern forms of psychotherapy commonly include elements of self-help. Medications may play a role for more serious conditions or for patient preference. An episode of untreated depression usually lasts about six months. With treatment, people should be seeing improvement in two to — Charla Markt four weeks.” board-certified psychologist Draper-Stuck says people benefit from at the Samaritan Counseling Center various therapeutic techniques such as pastoral/spiritual counseling, support groups or medication/antidepressants. Many also benefit from holistic approaches such as exercise, nutrition and selfvices, says primary care physicians now help books. are using questionnaires and other aids “The best is a combination of medicato help identify depression. tion, cognitive behavioral therapy (talk “A person’s physical symptoms can therapy) and lifestyle change,” Markt contribute to depression, and at times de- says. “With the proper treatment, symppression can cause physical symptoms,” toms of depression can be lessened in a she says. “At our agency, the PCPs use a few weeks. It varies by individual due questionnaire, a PHQ-9, to assess depres- to finding the right medication, meeting sion. School personnel are informed as with a licensed therapist and changing to the signs of depression in the student your situations.” population.” Those dealing with depression may find talking with a counselor very helpful. Misconceptions “Counseling is very beneficial for the “There is a general stigma about mendepressed person,” Draper-Stuck says. tal health issues overall including depres- “Verbalizing issues and having an imparsion,” Markt says. “Many people think tial person listen and help to process the you should be able to change moods just issues is of great value.” because you want to or should. They do Markt agrees that counseling is a great not understand that clinical depression is tool for recovery. a chemical imbalance in your brain. Peo“Counseling aids in changing negaple are misinformed and nervous around tive thoughts to positive,” she says. “It people with mental illness. They assume provides insight into life situations which people with a mental illness are dangerare maintaining depressive symptoms. ous. There is also a lack of activism by Counseling also aids in understanding people with a mental illness because they and healing the source of depression and feel ashamed.” decreases stress.” While some experts think there is a Those who have struggled with depresstrong social stigma regarding depression know how important it is for those sion, others believe that is starting to around them to be patient while they change. work toward healing. If you’ve never “There is much less stigma surrounddealt with depression firsthand, you may ing depression today,” Draper-Stuck feel at a loss when someone you care says. “It is difficult to read a magazine about is facing the issue. or watch TV without an advertisement “One of the most important things you for an antidepressant being present. can do is listen,” Markt says. “Be aware Sadly, there still may be jobs that take a of suicidal thoughts and behaviors. If dim view of an employee who is taking someone makes a statement about wishan antidepressant or talks about their ing they were dead or do not want to wake depression in the workplace. Even among up the next day, you should encourage our families and closest friends it can be them to seek professional help. Be sensidifficult to admit that we need help.” tive. People may be embarrassed about their depression.” Treatment Depression is a legitimate medical disorder, and you shouldn’t feel ashamed if Shuman says treatment should be sought when a person notices a change in you can’t just snap out of a bad mood. You don’t have to fight it alone. If you think satisfaction with their lives, and certainyou may be dealing with depression, get ly if there are thoughts of harm to self or help. others.
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ALONZO WESTON has been a columnist and reporter for the St. Joseph News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@ newspressnow.com.
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here’s this 1950s movie called “Queen of Outer Space” where three American astronauts land on the planet Venus and find it inhabited entirely by women. These were not your everyday, walking-around-town-and-in-thegrocery-store type women. They were hotties in high heels and satin mini-skirts. But the queen of Venus, who wears a mask, hates men and wants her charges to feel the same. She locks the astronauts up and sets out a plan to destroy Earth. However, a band of women who still love men help the guys escape while devising a plan to unseat the queen. They succeed in this endeavor and remove her mask to find a horribly disfigured face. It’s discovered that that’s the source of her masculine hatred. Her beauty was destroyed by radiation wounds caused by the wars that men fought. The queen eventually dies, and the women of Venus happily get to enjoy the love of men again. Even as a 10-year-old boy, I recognized it as pure male fantasy. Being one of three guys in a world full of women seemed like Utopia. But I was young and naive. With years of experience since then, I’ve come to the realization that would be no fun at all. It could be the end of men. According to author Hanna Rosin’s new book, “The End of Men and the Rise of Women,” this already is happening. To hear her tell it, we’re already obsolete and passe. One statistic she cites as proof is the fact that women now earn 60 percent of the nation’s bachelor’s degrees. This, coupled with
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the loss of manufacturing jobs, mostly a male dominated industry, has caused many women to be the breadwinners in the family. In a recent Wall Street Journal interview, Rosin wanted to make it clear that her book is in no way a feminist manifesto. She said that she’s simply marking a moment in human development. “The women in the ’40s and ’50s had grown up expecting the men to be the heads of the households in the very traditional way that that is defined — meaning the man is the breadwinner. But now these women are finding themselves to be the breadwinners,” Rosin said in the published interview. Rosin’s book is based on information she gleaned from interviews she conducted with women in Silicon Valley, at Yale and at an unnamed Ivy League business school. She said many of these women talked about their future husbands as if they were children. Women are climbing up while men are not. Guys are dropping out of school while women are not. Gone are the days when men were able to support a family on a middle- to upper-class lifestyle with a manufacturing job income. Add to that the fact that marriage rates are down. “The problem with the middle on down is that people aren’t getting married anymore and men are truly moving into obsolescence in terms of their role in the family unit,” Rosin said. Wait until there’s a noise downstairs in the middle of the night or one of these women need something fixed. Then, we’ll see who is obsolete.
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here is nothing worse than hearing from a friend, “Wow! That was one great party … and you missed it!” Well, as your friend, I need to tell you if you didn’t get to the Josephine Expo this year, you missed it. For those of you who attended, you know exactly what I am talking about. But this article is not written to you. It is for those who have never attended. I feel like I need to explain why it is one of the hottest tickets in town. The Expo began in 2005. The editors of this great magazine that you are reading decided to invite all of the readers to a gathering, and that event has evolved into what just occurred on Oct. 6. It is held yearly at Civic Arena, and before you even walk into the doors of this party, you can feel the excitement. People of every sex, shape and background are filing toward the door, smiling ear-toear with joyful anticipation. Everyone is friendly, happy and waving to old friends, as well as new acquaintances. It is like going to a family reunion, minus the fried chicken and the drunk uncle. As you enter, the building reverberates with the sounds of laughter and conversation. You see the smiling attendants at the turnstiles, waving for you to step inside. The second you hand them your ticket, you are handed your first gift. A bag of FREE goodies from “Josephine” herself. Every attendee gets one of these bags of goodies. This year, we all received coupons for free food from local restaurants, fingernail files, notepads, pens, coupons, helpful literature and more. You walk up and down the ramp and see copies of the beautiful covers that have adorned this magazine from its beginning lining the walls. You feel yourself getting inspired as you are reminded of the stories of the women who have graced the covers, strong women who overcame so many obstacles. When you walk into the center of
the arena, you are hit with sparkles, heavenly smells and beauty. Every vendor has a booth set up, and in those booths are things that the vendors are so passionate about, they are willing to give their Saturday just to share them with you. You find people talking about makeup, massages and medical cures. Chiropractors give you advice on posture, dieticians tell you about cleanses and medical professionals inform you to get a mammogram. Crafters show you works of art that they themselves created, and bakers share their fresh goods with you. Most booths have some type of free gift to give you, just because they love the readers of Josephine. Your bag gets filled with pens, reusable totes and water bottles, grocery pads, samples of lotions and tons of literature, all free, just for being you! And don’t even get me started on all of the drawings you can register for. Massages, free sunglasses, free eye exams, free groceries, free CHOCOLATE. Shoot, the organizers of the event even gave away the most delicious berry-flavored lip gloss just for filling out a brief survey. Add to all of this free stuff music! Yep, they have live music playing at all times. Models walk the runway in the latest fashions so you will know what is hot and what is not, and the smell wafting from the food vendors entices you to sit down and have lunch with your friends. As you walk around taking in the sights, you hear others talking about driving in from Nebraska, Kansas and Iowa each year just to attend this event. Although I boasted about all of the great things you can do at this event, I have to stress the most important part: Friendships and the encouragement of others. You can’t help but leave this event feeling better. Not because you have two bags of free stuff, but because you see women, surrounding other women, encouraging one another that life is beautiful and so are they. I hate to be the one to say it, but if you didn’t attend, you really did miss it.
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STACEY MOLLUS is a humor columnist who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”
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Trouble with truffles My friend Shirley likes to hear about the various celebrities I assisted throughout my career. Tommy Smothers was one of the most disappointing. I had just finished making the world’s largest chocolate truffle for Macy’s. It was to be auctioned off for charity, so it had to be the real thing. This was no small undertaking, and the chocolate experts weren’t sure that I could make one so large from a traditional recipe, thinking that it would collapse under its own weight. I managed to make it in two very large stainless bowls, glued them together with chocolate, trimming a lampshade to use as a candy cup. Unfortunately, after I completed it I realized that I couldn’t lift it! I had to hire a transport company with a gurney to move it to Macy’s. The now famous truffle got invited to appear on a San Francisco program along with the Smothers Brothers. I was ecstatic, loving the comedic duo. It went downhill. Tommy threw a temper tantrum in the green room, swearing that he didn’t want to go on television with a piece of candy! Proud of my creation, I told him the candy had more personality than he did. It went further downhill. After the dust settled and Dick Smothers apologized for his brother, both Tommy and the truffle went on stage. The following recipes are not for the world’s largest truffle, but they are some of the world’s best!
Simca’s Truffles I loved Simone Beck; her recipe uses Benedictine liqueur, developed by her grandfather. 10 ounces quality semi-sweet chocolate 1/2 pound toasted nuts, hazelnuts or almonds (enough to make 1½ cups ground) 1/2 cup unsalted butter 1/4 cup Benedictine liqueur 2/3 cup powdered bitter cocoa
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Melt chocolate, add ground nuts, let cool, add butter and liquor. Refrigerate until firm. Roll into uneven balls about an inch in diameter, roll in cocoa. Serve in fluted paper cups. (I freeze these until time to serve.)
White chocolate truffles I know, white chocolate is not really chocolate, but these are really pretty and taste great! 1 pound white chocolate 3/4 pound unsalted butter 3 tablespoons water 2 egg yolks Melt chocolate, butter and water in a double boiler. Let mixture cool slightly before adding egg yolks. Beat in yolks and continue beating until the entire mixture comes together. Keep beating until it is cool to the touch, refrigerate overnight. Form into balls, roll in chopped nuts, dip in dark chocolate or press a walnut half onto the truffle, as you prefer. Keep chilled until serving.
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LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental Hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.
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