Josephine St. Joseph’s women’s magazine
September 2012
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She has designs on weddings Megan Schuman has found a way to use her fashion degree close to home
Bag all your essentials in the perfect purse Turn your nails into tiny pieces of art You don’t have to completely trash your wardrobe to stay in fashion Autumn is on the way, and we’ve got some fall vacation ideas
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cover girl Growing up on a farm near Filmore, Mo., didn’t keep Megan Schuman from developing a deep and lasting love for dresses. And now, she’s found a way to craft a career path from her passion right here in St. Joseph, where she works as a manager and dress designer at Shannon Renee’s Formal Wear and Accessories. Ms. Schuman has a degree in fashion merchandising from Northwest Missouri State University and is able to use her background not only to create dresses for Shannon Renee’s private line but also to custom-design dresses for brides. “I don’t have kids, so it’s kind of like my baby,” she says of her design work. Read more about Ms. Schuman on page 16.
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Pretty and practical Purses need to be able to bag the essentials
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Concentrate! Do you have adult ADD/HD?
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Get it arted Don’t just paint your nails, style them with nail art
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A design career, right here Megan Schuman has found a way to use her fashion degree close to home
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It all adds up Saving for college is a lifelong commitment
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Fashionably faddish You can keep up with current trends without constantly changing your wardrobe
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Eight autumn getaways Enjoy a beautiful fall weekend at one of these destinations
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It’s hard to do Don’t get broken by your break-up
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By JESS DEHAVEN It’s happened to all of us. You get started on one task, then move to something else, then dabble in another project, finally jumping to yet another activity. At the end of the day, you have a lot of things started, but nothing really done. For most people, it’s just about being bored or having a scatterbrained day. But if days like this seem all too familiar, perhaps there’s something more at work, something out of your control. We hear so much about ADD and ADHD these days, but it seems that talk is all about kids. However, it might surprise you to know adults can have ADD/ HD too. Sylvia Anderson talked to some experts about the topic. Check out her story on page 12 to find out more. Something else many of us have trouble sticking with is fashion. Fads come and go, and it seems once you’ve made an investment in some trendy items, they’re already out of style. We had Crystal Wiebe gather some tips on how to keep up on the fads so that you’ve got the latest look without spending a lot of money. That feature is on page 22. With the money you save on clothing and accessories, you might be able to find room in your budget for a small trip. Our Shea Conner rounded up some of the best places for a quick fall getaway around the region. Turn to page 24 for more. Fall also means it’s time for our annual Josephine Expo. We’ve made a few changes this year, and there will be more on the event in next month’s issue. So mark your calendars for Oct. 6. We’ll see you there!
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9:45 a.m. (weigh-in at 8:30), TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) a non-profit, weight-loss support and education group, East Hills Church of Christ, 3912 Penn St., 2387245. 5:15 p.m. to 6 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 6711133, $3 a class.
Sept. 17
3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 7070097 or e-mail millergloria@att. net.
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10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., knitting classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 3644799. 7:30 p.m. to 8:15 p.m. Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.
Sept. 4
6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of Cowboys for Christ, Pony Express Saddle and Bridle Club, north of K Highway on County Road 371. Call 238-7503.
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Every Wednesday
7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. 7:30 a.m., St. Joseph BNI weekly meeting, Pony Express Museum. Call 262-9684. 10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., crochet classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799. 5:15 to 6 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.
6:30 p.m., Pony Express Chapter of ABWA meeting. To find out more and to make reservations, please call Vickie at (816) 244-5648 the Friday before the meeting.
Sept. 25
10 a.m., Welcome Wagon Social Club of St. Joseph, monthly meeting, Rolling Hills Library, 1904 N. Belt Highway. Call 279-1947. 3 p.m. and 7 p.m., Young Living Essential Oils presents free natural health seminar, 1570 Calhoun St., Chillicothe, Mo. Call (660) 707-0097 or e-mail millergloria@ att.net. 7 p.m., Introductory session to Creighton Model Fertility Awareness and Appreciation, Heartland Medical Plaza. Course is designed to help couples cooperate with their fertility in family planning. Call 232-2258. September 2012
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10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., knitting classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 3644799. 6:45 to 7:30 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class. Sept. 13 9:30 a.m., St. Joseph Garden Club, “Gardening through the seasons” by Moffet Nursery and Garden Shop, Joyce Raye Patterson Senior Citizens Center. Guests welcome. Call 232-9151.
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5 to 8 p.m., Friday Night Wine Tastings, Smooth Endings Fine Wines, Spirits and Cigars, corner of Belt and Beck, (816) 749-4WINE, $5 per person.
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7 a.m., Farmer’s market, 3821 Eastridge Village. 10:30 a.m., 3 p.m., 4:30 p.m. and 6 p.m., crochet classes, Keeping Good Company, $20 for four weeks, call 364-4799. 9 to 9:45 p.m., Cardio Fit Boxing, Monroe’s ATA, 106 S. Belt Highway, 671-1133, $3 a class.
Sept. 15
9:30 a.m., Second Annual Southside Fall Festival 5K Family Run/Walk, route follows parade route. Proceeds benefit Benton High School Scholarship Fund. Register at www. enter2run.com or at Performance Plus Rehabilitation Center. Call 232-5113.
Sept. 29
8 a.m., First Annual Pony Express Run sponsored by the Junior League of St. Joseph and JDRF, begins in front of the Pony Express Museum. Register at www.ponyexpressrun. org. Costs are $25 for the 5K run/walk, $35 for the 10K run and $10 for kids fun run.
Sept. 20
5:30 p.m., Third Thursday Wine Tasting, Albrecht-Kemper Museum of Art. Cost is $10 per person. Call 2329750.
Sept. 27
6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Aglow Community Lighthouse, St. Joseph Library at East Hills. Call 351-2139.
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One to watch for Health. September is Ovarian Cancer Awareness month. Despite advances in the treatment of cancer, ovarian cancer is one of the most deadly of women’s cancers. When ovarian cancer is found in its early stages, treatment is most effective. Here are some of the signs and symptoms:
■ Vaginal bleeding or discharge from your vagina that is not normal for you. ■ Pain in the pelvic or abdominal area (the area below your stomach and between your hip bones). ■ Back pain. ■ Bloating, which is when the area below your stomach swells or feels full. ■ Feeling full quickly while eating. ■ A change in your bathroom habits, such as having to pass urine badly or often, constipation or diarrhea. Learn more at ovariancancerawareness.org.
Give up the problem
Relate. Ever have the same arguments with a partner? Try getting rid of the root of the problem this time with these tips from O magazine.
The home repair. Your partner claims to be good at that kind of thing, and yet the drain is still clogged/cabinet door is still crooked/pipe is still dripping. Call an actual repair person to get it taken care of. It’s not worth the nagging.
Past relationships. If you have a stash of jewelry or photos from past relationships, rest assured your partner will find out about it. Re-evaluate your nostalgia and remember, it didn’t work out for a reason. The epic argument. Whatever was said in the heat of the moment that one time probably wasn’t meant. There’s probably been multiple apologies. Don’t bring it up anymore.
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Coupon it up Budget. Thanks to TLC’s “Extreme Couponing,” all of America knows you can cut your bill with coupons at the grocery store. What you may not realize is these money savers can be used for nearly everything from hotel accommodations to office supplies. Money-saving expert Andrea Woroch recommends mobile coupons to make the process even easier. Coupon Sherpa, for example, has an app that allows you to access coupons from your smartphone for use right there in the store. When grocery shopping, this same app lets you search for a preferred supermarket by ZIP code, then download coupons directly to your loyalty card. The savings are then deducted at checkout.
Put grapes to good use Beauty. Harsh chemicals aren’t a must for making your skin smoother. In fact, for a radiant complexion, Health magazine recommends going natural by slicing a few grapes in half and rubbing the cut sides over clean skin. The fruit’s acids are natural exfoliators.
Expressing himself What is he thinking? Our Kevin Krauskopf wants you to know this: I’ve got nothing, no manly tidbit of advice or macho perspective on life to share to give a unique look into the male mind — which, ironically, led me to the realization of how often I feel that way. Sure it’s changing, as it should, but men are looked to as the head of their family, with all the responsibility and pressure that comes with that. And I have to admit, I’ve got nothing. I don’t always know what major life decision to make, which path to head down. But for my wife and children’s sake, I’m sure going to give it my best. And you better bet I’m glad to have a wonderful wife who fully supports me as we make those life decisions together. That, I think, is a thought more men should express.
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Pretty and practical
Purses need to be able to bag the essentials, no matter what they may be
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ary Poppins certainly knew how to pack a handbag (OK, carpetbag) with everything she needed for any occasion. While real women may not be able to pull a fully functional floor lamp out of the bag like the beloved British nanny, we still want our handbags and purses to hold everything we need to get us through the day. Yes, we want our purses to be pretty, but those pretty purses had better be able to bag the items we have to have in them or they’re going to be tossed in a closet or kicked to the curb in a garage sale. Right, ladies? “I most definitely always carry the essential items even when changing purses,” says Andrea Mackey of Cameron, Mo., who has been making purses for about six years. When it comes to the essentials, it’s a personal decision about what gets included in September 2012
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to make sure they have enough business cards on hand. “Band-Aids are a ‘must have’ and are convenient for a broken nail (or torn cuticle), removing lint and repairing a torn pants seam,” she says. “I always have nail clippers,” Mackey says. Nail clippers are a Niehouse must-have, as well. And, the clippers aren’t just for nails. Niehouse says they come in handy to clip a loose thread on clothing. “Dental floss will guarantee the removal of embarrassing pepper or spinach in the teeth,” Niehouse says. “Unfortunately you can’t necessarily rely on others to point it out.” Shelly Lemke, co-owner with April Nold, of Lil’ Pink Closet in St. Joseph, includes hand sanitizer and sunglasses as essentials many women carry in their purses. “One of the things I always carry is a ponytail holder,” she says. And all three ladies agree that one must-have essential is a little tube of color. “Lipstick, lipstick, lipstick,” Niehouse says. “I always have a lipstick in my purse,” Mackey says, “Both of my grandmas always had lipstick on when they left the house.” Of course, what women choose to throw in their bags often depends on what they are doing for the day. It should be no surprise that the lives we lead influence what essentials we have in our handbags. “I’m constantly putting things in my purse,” Lemke says. A businesswoman who travels a lot and has an hourlong commute to work, what’s in Lemke’s bag reflects her busy schedule. “I have a toothbrush and toothpaste. I have perfumes in my purse,” she says, adding. “The change is probably the worst thing. I’m constantly emptying it out.” On hectic mornings when she doesn’t have time to do her makeup, Lemke tosses her makeup bag in her purse. And women can certainly relate to that one. “I always tell people that you can tell how busy life has been by looking at how messy my purse is,” Mackey says. Of course, sometimes our purses can become somewhat cluttered with all our essentials. Niehouse recommends women really clean out their purses each season (just like your closets, ladies). If you own a leather purse, consider having it professionally cleaned and oiled, she adds. Lemke says that she tries to go through and clean out her purse every week, usually on her day off. It doesn’t matter how much women put in or take out of their handbags. What matters is our purses hold what we need to carry and look good doing it. “Purses are like security blankets,” Mackey says. Mary Poppins would agree.
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Concentrate! Do you have adult ADD/HD? By SYLVIA ANDERSON Josephine magazine
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rish Heath is concerned about her short attention span. When cleaning her house, for example, she has trouble finishing a task before she starts another one.
“I will like change sheets in the bedroom, go do a load of laundry, go back to the room and dust, go do another activity somewhere else, go back to the bedroom to run the sweeper, mostly completing the task, but I seem to have to do it bits at a time,” the St. Joseph woman says.
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She says things and people distract her, even in the middle of a conversation, making it hard to focus on the conversation. Heath wonders: Is she just letting her mind wander too much or could she have adult ADHD? In children, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder has been a growing and controversial concern. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 8.4 percent of children ages 3 to 17 years old, or 5.2 million children, have been diagnosed with ADHD. And in the last 10 years there has been a 66 percent increase in diagnosis of this disorder, according to Dr. Kevin Emery, known as “Dr. Kevin.” He is the author of several books and CDs on the subject, including his latest book, “Managing the Gift of Your ADD/HD Child.” “But the NIH has put out that conservatively at least 20 percent of those kids are misdiagnosed,” he says, “which
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tells you how much confusion and lack of understanding there is in just identifying this.” Even the name is confusing. What was once simply ADD was changed to ADHD with a subcategory of ADD. There is no blood test to diagnose ADD/HD. For the most part, diagnosis has been dependent on observation and family history. A genetic connection is one of the few things that experts agree on. And though ADD/HD officially has been classified as a disorder since the 1970s, it hasn’t been until recently that adults were on the radar. That’s not because adults are suddenly developing ADD/HD. Rather, they were never diagnosed as children. It was originally believed that children outgrew ADD, but experts now say you just learn to cope better. “A lot of people discover their focus problem when their kids are diagnosed,” says Dr. Paul Epp of Heartland Psychiatry Clinic in St. Joseph and a psychiatrist for 30 years. “They will say, I have a lot of the same kind of thing, I just never noticed it.’” Men and particularly women may not have been diagnosed as children because they didn’t have the hyperactivity and impulsive characteristics that are common in boys diagnosed with ADHD. In fact, until the 1990s, scientists believed ADHD was a rarity in females, affecting only one female for every nine males, according to authors of “The Everything Health Guide to Adult ADD/HD,” Carole Jacobs and Isadore Wendel. Today the ratio is one female to two males. Boys and men with the disorder tend to be aggressive, hostile and occasionally violent, the authors say. They are like the squeaky wheel that demands your attention. “Women with ADD/HD are more inattentive,” Dr. Epp says. “Inattentive kids are nice kids and don’t require attention from others. Their heads are in the clouds.” In women, ADD/HD is more of a silent symptom, he says. People may think they are a bit “dingy.” Some problems may be written off as symptoms of PMS, pregnancy or menopause. The biggest issue for them is not being able to focus, and it becomes more of a problem when compounded with lots of adult responsibilities. If you have focus problems, you start things and don’t finish them, he says. You lose your place in conversations, have trouble putting things in order. You’re late for appointments and can’t remember where you left your keys. Dr. Eff says everyone has some of these issues from time to time, but a person with ADD/HD has it all the time.
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“People with focus problems live in a world of frustration and get overwhelmed,” he says. ADD/HD can cause problems with employment, finances, relationships and health. But if you learn to manage and capitalize on your differences, it can be a gift. “I view ADD/HD as an evolutionary process that broadens the bandwidth of humanity,” Dr. Emery says, “which we should celebrate rather than stifle.” His theory is that ADD/HD is a genetic mutation — the kind of mutation necessary and present when there is change. Albert Einstein, Thomas Jefferson, Henry Ford, Alexander Graham Bell, Louis Pasteur — all changed the world and had what is now known to be ADD/ HD. More recently, think about Apple’s “Think different” Steve Jobs and Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps. A person with ADD/HD may have trouble focusing on the things which they consider unimportant, but the flip side of this is that they hyper-focus on their passion. That’s why a large number of people with ADD/HD are inventors and entrepreneurs, he says. Before ADD/HD was an official disorder, they were known as absent-minded professors, dreamers, eccentrics and rarely did well in traditional schools. “If you have ADD/HD, you think differently,” Dr. Emery says. “That wildly creative, brilliant, rebellious, brain-energy spirit doesn’t do well in any kind of box, whether the box is your fourth-grade school desk or your cubicle at Hewlett-Packard or wherever.” So the trick is to learn how to navigate and manage in a non ADD/HD world. Once a diagnosis is made there are medications available that can help, such as the stimulants Dexedrine, Adderall, Vyvanse, Dexoxyn, Cylert and Provigil and a new non-stimulant medication, Strattera. They help you focus on things you need to do — as well as your passion, enabling you to actually finish that invention. On the other hand, medication alone is not the answer, especially in adults who have developed bad habits and coping mechanisms. “Just because you give people focus, doesn’t mean they will automatically start organizing,” Dr. Epp says. “Use the medicine, but use the methods.” Monitoring yourself, working with your doctor, learning new routines and taking care of your health (at least seven hours of sleep each night, no junk food, 30 minutes of sunshine a day and 30 minutes of exercise a day, says “The Everything Guide”) is what will help you stay in focus.
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ADD/HD has both positive and negative traits For more information on treating ADD/HD ,visit Dr. Emery’s website, www.mydrkevin. com. Not sure if you have it? Check out this list of Dr. Emery’s 20 most common ADD/HD negative and positive traits: ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■ ■
Organizationally challenged Trouble starting and finishing project Miss social cues Difficulty being subtle Hyper-focused to the point of losing track of time Multi-tasks to the point of distraction Does not work well in traditional workplace setting Marital troubles Poor listening skills Chronic lateness Angry outbursts Trouble prioritizing Gets bored easily Naturally rebellious Addictive personality Tendency toward self-medicating High energy Highly creative Good problem solver, innovator, inventor When interested, love to learn, share and teach new things
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Get it arted Don’t just paint your nails, style them with nail art
By KRISTEN HARE Josephine magazine
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n his time as a nail artist, Huy Tran has free-handed lots of designs — football themes, flowers, even a deer hunter.
Really. “Whatever,” says Tran, who works at Tips 2 Toes Salon in Platte City, Mo. “You name it, we can do it.” Tran and other nail artists like him aren’t just painting your nails, they’re creating tiny works of wearable art on them. For Tran, the skill has taken a lot of practice and learning to work very, very small for a very big impact. “You know how women love diamonds?” he says. “That’s how it is. It’s the same thing on their fingers.”
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Nail art can be any design from stripes of glitter to animal prints to tiny pictures, and they typically last two to three weeks, depending on how they’re applied. Tran says at his salon they do 10 fingers for $10. Getting your big toes painted with nail art is also popular, says Jenny Bui, owner of Kevin’s Nails in St. Joseph. “They want to look different,” she says of her customers. Bui says nail art has been offered for a long time, but lately it’s picked up some international attention after this summer’s London Olympics. There, U.S. gold medal swimmer Missy Franklin sported tiny American f lags on her nails, according to a USA Today story, volleyball player Destinee Hooker had the Olympic rings and the British f lag, and athletes from England, Mexico and Germany all joined in, having the f lags of their countries on their nails. While the pros at local nail salons have the art perfected, you can definitely dress up your nails yourself. Tutorials abound online, but youtube. com/user/cutepolish has tons of great ideas, from creating your own zigzag design using tape and scissors to newspaper nail art which takes about three steps. The page also includes tutorials for designs such as strawberries, panda bears and tiny mustaches. The site’s Facebook page has more than 200,000 likes, and you can subscribe for new tutorials at www.face book.com/cutepolish. Another way to DIY is with nail wraps, which are available at drug stores and beauty shops. Nail wraps are a bit like Shrinky Dinks for your fingers and can be applied easily with a hair dryer and nail file. For the fall, take some tips straight from the catwalk, which Vogue UK collected for inspiration. Looks include black- or burgundy-tipped nails for a reverse French manicure. Denver Martin, a stylist at Belleza Salon in St. Joseph, says women often will get color-tipped French manicures using shades such as red, pink, blue or silver. If leopard print or hunter-adorned nails are too much for you or your professional life, trends for the fall include deep and dark colors like gun metal silver, according to Harper’s Bazaar, deep burgundy and simple nude colors such as muted gold. Martin is seeing lots of neutrals and browns, and as for length, she says a sporty style, “long but functional,” is popular. You can sport tiny works of art on your nails or just a splash of color. Whatever your choice, with just a little work, you can have a touch of style right at your fingertips.
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Megan Schuman has found a way to us
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t. Joseph may not be a mecca of fashion design, but Megan Schuman is making a go of it here anyway. It’s a path that was foreshadowed, perhaps, by the contents of a sketchbook she never showed anyone. The sketches in it date as far back as when she was 10, growing up on a farm north of Filmore, Mo., and secretly drawing formal dresses. Yet years later, when the time came to declare a college major, the 2010 graduate of Northwest Missouri State University drew from her roots and decided to study agriculture.
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Megan Schuman designs wedding dresses at Shannon Renee’s Formal Wear and Accessories.
When she opted to follow her other passion and changed her major in her junior year to fashion merchandising, the shift came as such a surprise to her family that her grandfather initially took “merchandising” to mean she was going to pursue grain merchandising. And equally surprising not only to her family but to her, was an opportunity that came this year to trade in the banking job she’d gotten after graduating from college for a position that puts her fashion background to use. “I was doing really well at the bank and wasn’t planning to leave,” Ms. Schuman says. “But when this opportunity came, I was like ‘I really want to do this while I’m young.’” That opportunity was with Shannon Renee’s Formal Wear and Accessories,
which opened a shop at 2315 Frederick Ave. in St. Joseph last March. Ms. Schuman was hired not only to manage the store but also to serve as an on-site dress designer. A second-floor landing space serves as her design studio, and the first dresses with her design label — Shannon Renee by Megan Schuman Designs — arrived in the store last month. “It’s an awesome feeling to actually get the dresses in your hands,” Ms. Schuman says. “It’s like ‘I did this.’ It’s a huge sense of accomplishment.” One of her first clients happens to be her cousin Hayley Grimes, who didn’t love anything she saw when she started dress shopping. Thus, Ms. Schuman offered to create a dress for her based on details Ms. Grimes liked from several different dresses. The resulting design features a high-low skirt, which will allow for Ms. Grimes’ cowboy boots to show.
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“She’s really all about the bride and what she wants on her day,” Ms. Grimes says. Ms. Schuman adds that while a bride’s preferences often provide her main design inspiration, influences can come from a number of other sources, as well. “I love how today, fashion is pulled from every aspect of life from flowers to feathers, country life to city life, rich and famous to normal people like us,” she says. “I also am a vintage and old-fashioned-inspired designer, so you will see a lot of lace and romanticism in many of my designs.” Some of these will be on display this month at Shannon Renee’s Bridal Expo and Fashion Show, which will take place from noon to 5 p.m. Sept. 23 at East Hills Shopping Center with wedding vendors set up throughout the afternoon and fashion shows scheduled for 1:30 and 3:30 p.m. Shannon Beemer, who owns the Shannon Renee’s shops in both St. Joseph and Maryville with her husband, Jason Beemer, notes that she didn’t know of any area formalwear retailers with a designer on staff before she hired Ms. Schuman, whom she connected with due to her step-daughter and Ms. Schuman’s sister going to school together.
“I’ve been in this business for five-plus years, and no one has ever come to me and said ‘I design dresses,’” Ms. Beemer says, adding that she’s as happy about the asset Ms. Schuman is to her business as she is about the opportunity she’s been able to provide her to pursue her dreams: “To be able to foster that for someone is beyond words.” Equally priceless for Ms. Schuman is being able to begin her fashion career close to home. Although she’d anticipated in college that she’d need to move to have a career in her field, she found when applying for jobs that willingness alone wasn’t enough: “I remember applying and applying and applying for jobs, but no one is going to take you seriously if you’re in Missouri and trying to get a job in New York.” And when it came down to it, she wasn’t entirely ready to make a move so far from her family, anyway — which works out well for brides-to-be in this area. “My favorite inspirations come from being able to work with the soon-to-bebride and pick her brain on what she imagined she would wear on one of the biggest days of her life,” Ms. Schuman says. “The dress should not only complement her beauty but also show off her personality.”
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It all adds up Saving for college is a lifelong commitment
By BROOKE VANCLEAVE Josephine magazine
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he birth of a child is a happy occasion, but it comes with much responsibility. For many parents, a baby’s arrival also means it’s time to start saving money for college. According to savingforcollege.com, the average cost of a four-year education at a public university for an in-state resident is $33,300 in tuition and fees, not including the cost of room and board. Eighteen years from now, that number could rise to $95,000. So it’s no wonder that setting up a college fund is one of the many items on a new parent’s to-do list. There are several ways parents can choose to put money away for their child’s future. One of the most common is a 529 20
plan. These plans, usually organized by the state, allow individuals to set money aside to be used specifically for college. The funds then can grow tax-free. Coverdale accounts are a similar type of investment but are a bit more restrictive of the amount of money that can be put aside. Dave Hinde of Hinde and Co. thinks 529 plans can work well for a person depending on the situation. This especially rings true for parents who don’t start saving money right away. “It’s never too late to start saving … There are some tax benefits where you could possibly save some money on your state income tax,” Hinde says. “(529 plans) still make sense even if the child is 10 or 12.” States encourage parents to invest in 529 plans because there are sometimes significant tax benefits associated with
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them, and they are fairly hands-off for investors once the plan has been set up. Marilyn Baker, director of fi nancial aid at Missouri Western State University, is encouraging her daughter to use the Missouri MOST plan for her own daughter. “They are promoting saving for college to prevent students from having to borrow money through student loans,” Baker says. However, not all fi nancial planning consultants encourage this type of college savings strategy. Bob Den Ouden of Choice Financial Services doesn’t believe in 529 plans. “There are penalties involved with taking money out if the child doesn’t go to college,” Den Ouden says. Instead, he thinks parents should save outside those plans and use their money in other ways.
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Den Ouden suggests one of the best ways for kids to build college funds is to earn the money themselves, thereby giving them a sense of responsibility for their own education. “That way they don’t do what I did and waste my first couple years just having a good time,” he says. Once he became responsible for paying his own way through his last two years of school, he says it was a great motivator for him to take his education more seriously. Den Ouden believes parents should set up a college fund at birth that the student will have to earn each semester he or she is in school, similar to a scholarship. If students are unsure about whether or not to go to college, he says they should wait until they are ready to make the commitment and try a trade school or job first. “A student should have an idea of what they are going to college for and what type of degree that will help them attain the end result,” Den Ouden says. “You match that with the type of college and the expenses related to it.” Whether or not they think investment plans are right for them, Hinde encourages parents to speak with a financial advisor when setting up college funds, because the process often can be confusing. If a family neglects to set up a college fund during a child’s early years and doesn’t start saving until late in the game, fortunately there are other financial aid options available. Baker says the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) is a resource every student should consider. The application, which must be resubmitted each year the student is in school, utilizes current tax information from the student’s household to determine financial need. Grants, college work study money and federal subsidized or unsubsidized loans then can be awarded to students based on need. Baker also says that current high school students should explore external scholarships from local groups like churches, rotary clubs, Lions’ clubs or other private organizations. Internet sources such as Fastweb allow students to do online scholarship searches after answering a question form to determine what kinds of scholarships they qualify for. However, she warns students to make sure Internet sources are reliable before inputting information. “You should never, ever have to pay an organization to apply for financial aid,” Baker says. Paying for a college education is a serious financial commitment, but it is one that will eventually be beneficial to a child’s future that parents don’t have to shoulder alone.
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Fashionably faddish You can keep up with current trends without constantly changing your wardrobe By CRYSTAL K. WIEBE Josephine magazine
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old, bright colors, including every shade of neon, have dominated runways, style blogs and the racks of your favorite stores all year.
A wardrobe cannot exist on trends alone. Kemberley Elliott, a twentysomething retro model and writer for the lifestyle and fashion blog Chroniclesofasweet tooth.blogspot.com, believes every woman needs a few key items in her closet. “Great fitting black trousers, a black pencil skirt, flat front khaki pants, button-down shirts in several different colors, your favorite little black dress and a couple of cardigans. If you have this,” Elliott says, “then you have an easy canvas to work in the more trendy pieces.” When your closet is based on classic essentials that never get tired, you can look fresh every season with a few choice accessories. Says Lemker: “A bracelet, a scarf, sometimes just a handbag or a pair of shoes can pull you in to where you are in the trendy style.” Whatever trend you’re rocking, a good rule of thumb is to go small but memorable. For neon, Elliott suggests: “Pair a more muted palate of clothing with a pop of neon in a skinny belt or a pair of bright flats.”
and odd cuts rarely are. We all remember fads we wish we didn’t. Lemker shudders at the memory of gunny sack dresses. Jess Afshar regrets ‘90s-style rolled-down socks. Afshar, 29, keeps the online style diary MimiandChichi.com with a friend. The mom, Air Force veteran and cancer survivor has fun with fashion but focuses only on the trends that really suit her. “I embrace the trends that go with my personal style,” Afshar says. “I like to incorporate chic fitted pieces with elements of punk. Sharply cut blazers are my favorite pieces to buy. I skip anything that I don’t see myself wearing more than once.” If something wild really speaks to you, Chasingdavies.com blogger Megan Davey says go for it – just don’t spend too much and make sure it works with items you already own. “Having ideas of ways or functions to wear something before I even buy it ensures I’ll get use out of the item,” the 29-year-old says. Unless you have a collector’s budget, it’s generally just unwise to invest big money in the trends you can tell will look dated within a few months. For those must-have in-the-moment styles, get them where they’re cheap. “I like to add trendy pieces as long as they are reasonably priced. I usually hit up stores like H&M or Forever 21 for pieces like that since they have more affordable options,” Afshar says. Thrift stores and shops like Lil’ Pink Closet, which offers a mix of gently used and never-been-worn inventory, are also good bets for bargains. And, because fashion is constantly recycled, don’t forget the vintage shops.
Don’t overpay for fads
Do flatter your body
If you long to embrace big color – or any other fashion trend – tell the inner style security guard who’s holding you back to take a break. Anybody – make that any body – can rock a trendy outfit. The key to pulling it off is starting with a classic style foundation and integrating trend pieces strategically. That’s a standard rule of fashion. It’s also the unanimous advice given by three Kansas City style bloggers and Shelly Lemker, the fashionable-at-almost-40year-old co-owner of Lil’ Pink Closet, a St. Joseph boutique.
Do begin with basics
There’s no way around it. Fashion constantly evolves. While some pieces really are timeless, the most eye-catching colors
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tuate every body – from an aesthetic or comfort perspective. “If you are 4 foot 11, then wearing a very full maxi dress is probably not going to make you look your best. If you are a woman that rarely wears heels, then getting the latest platform stilettos is probably not going to make you feel confident, and if you don’t feel confident in your appearance, then you are not going to feel like you look your best,” Elliott says. Embrace the trends that make you feel good — inside and out. But also don’t fear the occasional fashion faux pas. “You can learn a lot about your sense of style and what flatters your body by making mistakes,” Davey says.
Do skip some trends If neon pink only brings to your mind the nauseating scent of Debbie Gibson’s Electric Youth perfume, pick another color. Or don’t pick neon at all. Lemker got over it in the ’80s and would rather not go back. Although Davey modeled some 1990s-inspired attire recently on her blog, she acknowledges that styles evoking that decade “might not work for who I am today.” That’s OK. There’s a new trend born every minute.
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Eight autumn getaways
Whether north, south, east or west, enjoy a beautiful fall weekend at one of these destinations By SHEA CONNER Josephine magazine
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rom Pumpkinfest in St. Joseph to the Haunted Homes Tours in Atchison, Kan., and everything in between, our area has a lot to offer when fall rolls around. But sometimes, you want to venture off the beaten path for a weekend. Maybe you’d like to soak in the brisk September air on a visually thrilling hike or watch the leaves change color in a beautiful little town. Or maybe you’d prefer to drink wine in a cave or chow down on some pork ribs. Either way, we’ve got you covered. Here are eight destinations that offer an outstanding autumn experience. All of them are just a five-hour drive (or less) away from St. Joseph. So skip the airlines and get to packing!
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village of Ste. Genevieve (one hour south of St. Louis and one hour north of Cape Girardeau) is the oldest European settlement west of the Mississippi River. It has the greatest concentration of French Colonial buildings in North America, and the area also boasts one of the best winery tours in the Midwest. In the morning, guests can enjoy breakfast at the Huddle House before starting the tour at Sainte Genevieve Winery. This winery occupies a house, built circa 1900, in the historic district beside the Mississippi River. In addition to grape wines, they produce an impressive array of fruit wines. From there, guests will visit one of the most unique wineries in the entire world — the tasting room at Cave Vineyard sits above a natural cave wine cellar. While there, guests can sample Strussione wines, visit the cave and take in the scenic views of the vineyard and rolling hills from the outdoor pavilion. In the afternoon, guests will travel south to Charleville Vineyards and Microbrewery and Twin Oaks Winery. Charleville offers a large open-air patio with a panoramic view of the vineyards — a great place to relax and share a bottle of wine. Meanwhile, Twin Oaks
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boasts a tasting room with a century-old bar, antiques, movie memorabilia, a cozy fireplace and large-screen TVs. The evening will end with a visit to Chaumette Vineyards and Winery. They have it all: a tasting room with a superb view from the terraced patio, a gift shop, a gourmet restaurant, 26 villas (each with a fireplace, kitchen and shaded porch with a panoramic view) and a full-service day spa. “A visit to any of these wineries makes for a wonderful outing,” says Scott McCullough of the Missouri Division of Tourism. “Collectively, this is a wine road worth exploring.” On Nov. 17 and 18, the Route Du Vin Wine Trail will hold its annual Wine Diva Weekend. During this event, ladies will be treated to fine wine perfectly paired with a delicious “diva treat” at each of the distinctive wineries. For more information about the trail or the Wine Diva Weekend, call (800) 398-1298 or visit www.
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Roots N Blues N BBQ
This annual festival in Columbia, Mo., has brought some of the greatest blues musicians alive to the heart of the Show-Me State. That list includes Buddy
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Guy, Booker T, Derek Trucks and Susan Tedeschi. On Sept. 21 and 22 of this year, Al Green, John Mayall, Trampled Under Foot, Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeroes and many other acts will descend upon the city for Roots N Blues N BBQ. The main stage lineup alone will entice visitors from all over the country, but the delicious smell of chicken, ribs, beef brisket and pulled pork also should pull in thousands who aren’t musically inclined. More than 60 barbecue teams from all over the Midwest will compete for $10,000 in cash prizes and bragging rights at the sixth annual Kansas City BBQ Society sanctioned Roots N Blues N BBQ competition. “This is a fabulous festival that blends both music and food into a neat package,” says Jo Duncan, director of media relations for the Missouri Travel Council. For a full music schedule or more information about the event, visit rootsn
Many visitors stop by Big Spring Park, near the historic Neosho Square, to walk through its spectacular gardens. The picturesque footbridge over the clear spring waterfall, the floral clock, picnic tables and benches provide a natural gathering place for a family reunion or a restful spot just to sit and enjoy the surroundings. We recommend visiting on Oct. 6, when the Rocking R Ranch hosts the Neosho Fall Festival and local folks are inspired to put up scarecrows, pumpkins and other fall displays in many yards around town. If you’re considering a trip to Neosho, don’t pass through without stopping by Crowder College, located on the site of a former army camp that inspired Camp Swampy in Mort Walker’s cartoon strip “Beetle Bailey.” For more information, visit www.neosho
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In September and early October, there’s no better place in Missouri to go fishing than Roaring River State Park (90 minutes southeast of Joplin). You can fight trophy trout in one of the most awe-inspiring settings imaginable. The park contains one of the premier trout fisheries in the nation, and it’s stocked each night. “It always amazes me — flood, ice, windstorm, hail — people are always out here fishing every fall,” says Dusty Reid, the park’s superintendent. “And the fish are always biting.” This park might offer the best hiking and camping in Missouri as well. The natural setting – towering hills above a deep blue spring — provides a breathtaking scenic backdrop as the leaves turn yellow, orange and red. Seven hiking trails cut through the park’s rugged terrain, and lodging options from campsites to cabins make Roaring River a unique slice of Missouri. An additional bonus: the 18-hole Cassville Golf Club is only minutes away. Special nature programs are held throughout the fall. For more information, call the park office at (417) 847-2539 or visit mostateparks.com.
Flint Hills
Out in the Flint Hills (two hours southwest of Kansas City), everything you ever heard about the big prairie sky suddenly makes sense. It’s immense and domed, soothing and a little scary, and, well, vast. You watch the sun travel each day from east to west, and the horizon envelops you. Walt Whitman once called the land “limitless and lonesome.” Europeans flock to the Flint Hills every fall to experience this landscape. They visit the Tallgrass Prairie National Preserve, where free bus tours take you out into the
Mattie Mae Haynes, 2, grimaces as a goat reaches for the food she holds in 2005 at a petting zoo in Pittsburg, Kan. Assisting her is her grandmother, Sharon Green. The petting zoo is part of the city’s annual Little Balkans Days celebration. 3-foot grasses that once covered much of the Midwest. The historic cowtowns of Council Grove and Cottonwood Falls are perfect bookends to the prairie. Stay at the restored Grand Central Hotel and groove to a jam session at the Emma Chase Cafe. For more information, visit kansasflint
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Little Balkans Days
On every Labor Day weekend, Southeast Kansas tips its hat to the Balkan Peninsula of Europe during Little Balkans Days in Pittsburg, Kan. (45 minutes northwest of Joplin, Mo.) And in this 27th consecutive year, Balkan history, heritage, art and culture will be celebrated. Like many other festivals, Little Balkans Days includes the usual suspects — petting zoos, baby contests, car shows, carnival rides, 5K runs and pie-eating contests. However, the event also boasts the eclectic Tallgrass Film Festival Road Show, a chili cook-off, a salsa cook-off, a buffalo wing competition, a wide variety of ethnic food and all of the authentic Balkan polka you can handle. This year’s festival will be held from Aug. 31 to Sept. 2. For more information about Little Balkans Days, call (620) 2403675 or visit www.littlebalkansfestival.com.
Neosho Fall Festival
Just 30 minutes south of Joplin, the “Flower Box City” of Neosho, Mo., blooms each autumn with vivid color. Famous for their friendly flower boxes, Neosho is a small city with a wide variety of beautiful trees that have made it a sought-after fall destination.
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On Oct. 25, 1864, on the banks of Mine Creek (in Pleasanton, Kan., one hour south of Kansas City), two Union brigades of 2,800 troops defeated 8,000 Confederates from General Sterling Price’s Army of Missouri. Federal Colonels Frederick W. Benteen and John H. Philips led the attack in one of the largest cavalry battles of the Civil War and a major battle fought in Kansas. After this battle, Union forces continued their pursuit of Price’s army into Missouri, Arkansas and the Indian Territory of Oklahoma, ending the Confederate threat to Kansas. On the 148th anniversary of this crucial battle, you can learn about the cavalrymen — their food, weapons, and clothing — and visit the site itself. Their dramatic story comes alive at Mine Creek Battlefield. For more information, call (913) 352-8890 or visit www.kshs.org mine_creek.
Loess Hills National Scenic Byway
Anyone who has taken the drive on Interstate 29 from St. Joe to Sioux City, Iowa, has probably seen the Loess Hills to the east but never bothered to take a closer look. Maybe they should have. The distinctive grass- and tree-covered bluffs on Iowa’s western edge support a surprising variety of plants and animals, and the 220-mile Loess Hills National Scenic Byway links prairies, parks, forests, communities and overlooks. You’ll find amazing hiking and biking trails all over the scenic byway in Iowa towns such as Sioux City, Crescent, Council Bluffs, Pisgah, Moorhead and Turin. On the third Saturday of the month in September and October, the Living Loess tour highlights local history and agriculture. Stops include Loess Hills Lavender Farm, Hitchcock Nature Center and Garden Grove Eatery. For more information, visit www.visitloesshills.com. September 2012
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It’s hard to do Don’t get broken by your break-up By JENNIFER GORDON Josephine magazine
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The relationship, the one you thought would work out, just ended. The other person is all you can think about, which is why “Someone Like You” makes you cry. Every. Single. Time.
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Break-ups are difficult because they’re a major loss, says Susan Shuman, a counselor at the Samaritan Center in St. Joseph. “Especially if it was a long relationship, you feel like you’re losing a part of yourself sometimes,” says Shuman, PsyD. People have different ways of working through loss, Shuman says, so don’t expect a friend’s post-break-up behavior to look like yours. Spencer Squires goes out more often after a break-up to avoid sitting around and crying. Friend Sara Mathews focused on playing the ukulele after a particularly harsh break-up. “I think it was subconscious therapy,” Mathews says. “It let me focus on (playing) instead of what other people were thinking.” Shuman advises the recently single to remember who they were before the relationship. Your identity might have gotten lost while you were part of a couple, she says. It happens even to people in healthy relationships. Squires also seeks the company of friends and family after a relationship ends, something Shuman says can be a big help for someone going through a break-up. Family and friends should let the person in transition from relationship to single know they’re there to help. But they should refrain from sharing their true feelings about the ex or from encouraging the newly single to focus on the ex’s negative qualities. Should friends be making the “You’re better off without him” comments before you’re ready to hear them, Shuman recommends you speak up. Your friends and family are likely not going to view the situation the way you do, and that’s OK, Shuman says. “The person going through this loss, any thought or feeling they may have is going to be valid because it’s theirs,” she says. Everyone might have her own style of coping, but there are wrong ways of dealing with the end of a relationship. Mathews and Squires both say to avoid social media. Checking someone’s Facebook page or Twitter feed does not help with the recovery process, they say. Friends also should keep an eye out for newly single friends who are suddenly drinking more alcohol, eating more or spending more money than usual, as these behaviors can leave that person in a vulnerable position. The same goes with friends who try to rebound into a relationship too quickly. There isn’t a standard time to wait before you date again. Go at your own pace, but if you’re comparing every new person that enters into your life to your ex, it might be time to let it go, Shuman advises.
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Shades of Grey Does bestseller really reflect women’s interests? ALONZO WESTON is a columnist and reporter for the
St. Joseph News-Press staff for more than 20 years. He and his wife, Deanna, have two children and a dog. The St. Joseph native is also a sports junkie who doesn’t pick up after himself. If you’d like to suggest an idea for this column, contact Alonzo at alonzo.weston@newspressnow.com.
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’m overcome by 50 shades of confusion. Women want to be treated with respect and dignity and rightly so. But why is a book like “50 Shades of Grey,” where this guy dominates this woman into blissful submission on the bestseller’s list? It’s even being called mommy porn. I guess daddy porn is all the other dirty stuff like Penthouse and Hustler that we get chastised for reading. Take the recent movie “Magic Mike” about male strippers. It’s playing in family-friendly theaters. By comparison, any guy wanting to see a movie about female strippers has to venture to a movie house in a dangerous neighborhood with guys in raincoats drinking from paper sacks out front. It’s not fair. To be honest, I haven’t read the “50 Shades of Grey” books, nor do I have any desire to read one. I’ve read online discussions and book reviews about it. And I’ve thumbed through a copy that a lady had here in the office. When I asked to borrow it, she just threw it on my desk and ran like it was going to go off or something. After just reading few pages I understood why. Ostensibly the story is about this young naive virgin woman named Ann who becomes infatuated with this rich emotionally scarred guy named Christian. From what I gather, this guy is a freak. Apparently there is no limit to what he asks this girl to do. And not knowing what is normal, there isn’t much she will
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say no to. I heard it said that Ann submits this way because she only wants to be loved. I can’t imagine any girl, no matter how chaste and naive, who would mistake being spanked, whipped and humiliated for being loved. Only someone far removed from civilization and the Internet would be so clueless. But this is a college girl, mind you. Even if she is a virgin, I’m sure she’s heard other girls in the dorm talk about their sexual escapades. The book explains away Christian’s kinkiness by basically saying he carries emotional baggage from his childhood. That’s why he acts so weird. C’mon, no guy needs an excuse to be adventurous when it comes to sex. Most of us are only as conventional as our options. In another day and time I would imagine mobs of women armed with torches and pitchforks chasing after “Shades of Grey” author E.L. James like she was some sort of masochistic monster for writing a book that’s degrading to her fellow women. But many matchmaking websites have seen an increase in women looking for this very type of arrangement. Brandon Wade, CEO of SeekingArrangements.com, said in a Business Insider article that 1.6 million seeking arrangement profiles mention “50 Shades” 28,382 times. “I think we are the biggest financial beneficiary of that book other than the book and the author herself,” he said. The times they are a changin.’
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ust one be a mathematician with the ability to figure angles just to be able to park a car against a cement curb? I have been a legally licensed driver for more years than Katy Perry has been alive, but I still have to drive around the block for 30 minutes until I can find a place to put my car that does not require me to parallel park. Throughout my life, I have had every sized vehicle, from a tiny compact car to a large pickup truck, and my parking style is always the same: Pull slowly up to the curb, drive up over the curb then land with a thud about 10 inches away from the curb. As you well know, 10 inches is not within the legal limits, so I have to start the whole process again, doing it over and over until I finally get so frustrated I pull out of the spot, drive down the road to an empty lot, park there, then walk to my destination. I knew early on that I was not gifted with the ability to park against a curb and was actually surprised that I got a driver’s license because parking is such a major part of the testing. I still remember the day the driving instructor gave me my test. The nice lady took me down a side road and said, “Parallel park between those two posts, please.” My hands were sweaty as I drove up past the first post and slowly began to turn my wheel as I went into reverse like I knew I was supposed to do. I crept into the microscopic slot (or so it seemed to me), and as the instructor looked down to check the box marked “pass” she didn’t notice
that I crashed into the back post. I quickly pulled out of the spot and drove away, grateful she did not see my parking faux pas. I took that newly acquired license and headed off to high school in my baby blue Ford Pinto. I was such a bad parker, my friends would actually go out to my car during lunch, pick it up, and put it up on the sidewalk. I would come out after school and figure I must have just parked it there, so their practical joke went unappreciated. As I grew, it was obvious to all of my companions that I lacked a parking ability, and they would yell out “curb check” every time I swiped my tires against the cement boundaries that lined the roadway. My white-wall tires were never white. My skills never did improve, so I had to count on my husband to teach our children how to park their cars. He did such an amazing job, I thought I would have him coach me. That lesson ended with me standing on the sidewalk, arms folded, threatening to never drive a vehicle again! I think it is time for me to just face the fact that I will never be able to line up my car with the curb, embrace my weakness and make it a strength (I learned this technique from Oprah. Or, maybe it was Popeye. I can’t remember for sure.) I need to begin to tell myself that I CHOOSE to drive around the block so I can “see the beauty of God’s creation,” and I always park several blocks away from my destination so that I can walk as “part of a healthy lifestyle.” Like eating Cheerios. If I can really get to the point where I believe that nonsense, I won’t feel so bad when the traffic is lined up and honking at me to get the heck out of the way!
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getting real
Park it Have a parallel problem? Just work around it STACEY MOLLUS is a humor columnist who believes laughter is the best form of exercise and happy people are the best looking people. She loves her family, chocolate, clothes that are stretchy and things that sparkle. You can contact her at queenofchocolates@live.com or follow her on Facebook at “Queen of Chocolates.”
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Neighbors in the hood
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iving in various areas of the country, I’ve had mostly terrific neighbors and a few pretentious, clueless wannabees. Being relatively food centric, one of my favorite neighbors was MFK Fisher, one of the great food writers. We both lived in Glen Ellen in Sonoma, and our homes bordered the Audubon bird preserve. Mary Francis was a great friend to Julia Child. I fixed meals for them several times, and it was an honor to cook for them. So what to make? Both Julia and MFK liked anything that was well prepared. I was a nervous wreck. Happily my cooking was a success.
NOUGATINE GLACE AU CAFÉ (FROZEN COFFEE MOUSSE WITH NUT BRITTLE)
For brittle: 1/2 cup sugar Water 1/4 cup walnuts, toasted 1/4 cup almonds, toasted 1/4 cup filberts, toasted, skins removed For mousse: 4 eggs, separated 1/3 cup sugar 1 tablespoon (heaping) instant espresso 1 cup whipping cream 1/4 teaspoon vanilla 2 tablespoons powdered sugar For topping: 5 ounces semisweet chocolate 1/3 cup strong coffee (can make with instant espresso) 1/4 cup water 3 tablespoons butter To make brittle, put sugar into heavy saucepan and cover with water to about 1/4 inch over sugar. Bring to a boil, swirling pan by handle until it clears; DO NOT STIR. Continue to boil until sugar turns a golden caramel color. Immediately remove from heat and add toasted
nuts. Now stir to coat nuts, turn out onto a greased cookie sheet. Let cool until hard, break up and coarsely chop. For the mousse, beat yolks and all but 2 tablespoons of the sugar until fluffy. Put over hot water and beat until very thick. Add coffee powder, mix well and remove from heat. Beat whites until soft peaks form. Add the reserved 2 tablespoons sugar and beat until stiff peaks form. Stir 1/3 of whites into yolk mixture to lighten. Fold in remaining whites. Beat cream, vanilla and powdered sugar together to the soft peak stage. Fold cream into coffee mixture along with the chopped brittle. Pour into a six-cup mold and freeze for at least six hours. This can be served molded or unmolded. For the topping, melt chocolate, coffee and water together over very low heat or in a double boiler. Remove from heat and beat in butter bit by bit. Serve with mousse.
GOLDEN CAVIAR SAUCE
I made a salmon wrapped in puff pastry. (Yes, I made the puff!) Since that is rather out of vogue these days, I have included the recipe for the Golden Caviar Sauce served on the side. This is a versatile sauce, good with fish or chicken and I have used it as a dressed up veggie dip. 4 ounces golden caviar 1/2 cup vegetable oil 1/2 cup crème fraiche 2 tablespoons chopped chives 1/2 teaspoon whole allspice, crushed 2 teaspoons lemon juice 2 tablespoons vodka 2 teaspoons ketchup Whisk the caviar until it becomes frothy and the eggs begin to separate. Add oil slowly in the thin stream, conditionally whisking, until thoroughly incorporated. Fold in the crème fraiche. Gently whisk in remaining ingredients. This is best served at room temperature.
LONNIE GANDARA TAYLOR is a St. Joseph native who has returned home after a prestigious career in the culinary field. She taught cooking classes in the San Francisco Bay area for years and was a professional assistant to Julia Child, James Beard, Martha Stewart, Simone Beck and Martin Yan, among others. She is a graduate of the Paris Cordon Bleu, the Academie du Vin in Paris and the first culinary class held in the Oriental hotel in Bangkok, as well as being the author of five cookbooks.
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