So We Have Mommy Issues

So, we have mommy issues. The first step in healing from these mommy issues is recognizing that we have them. It is recognizing the power this issue has over our life and the change we want to make. In my experience, mommy issues are not talked about as much as daddy issues.

So, let’s talk about it.

First, what are mommy issues? Mommy issues are “personal issues stemming from the relationship you had with your mother as you were growing up.”

According to Nicole Beurkens, a clinical psychologist, mommy issues stem from the attachment style that the child creates with their mother during childhood. These attachment styles look at the patterns of interaction and relationships between mother and child. It then looks at how this impacts the child's development.

According to TalkSpace, mommy issues are the result of many factors, these factors include, but are not limited to, mothers who are overprotective, overly permissive, controlling, loving but are emotionally unavailable, manipulative, abusive and/or neglectful. However, mommy issues can come from seemingly innocent behaviors from the mothers as well.

Mommy issues are also defined as “psychological challenges you deal with as an adult that result from your childhood relationship with your mother or another adult female figure in your life.” These psychological challenges can be presented in your relationship with others and can prove to be detrimental if not caught early enough.

For example, growing up I was always nervous to ask my step mother for something because I was afraid of how she would react. Now that I am in a relationship, I notice that I get anxious and overthink my boyfriend's reaction to some of my questions. This has a direct correlation to my childhood and asking my mother questions. If I am afraid to ask my boyfriend questions, how can we