!Breaking!The!Cycle!! !!!!Take!Your!Power!Back!! ! Svava!Brooks! Cer,ďŹ ed!Child!Sexual!Abuse!Preven,on!Educator! Advocate!and!Survivor! Web!site/blog:!educte4change.com! svava@educate4change.com!
! This program is for informational ! and educational purposes only. It is not meant to replace the counsel or treatment of a licensed therapist. !
How!are!you!Feeling!(now)?!
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Breaking!the!Cycle!–!Sandra!P.!Riggin!
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“We!are!mul,dimensional!beings.! Childhood!trauma!impacts!all!our!dimensions!and!so!healing! each!with!a!holis,c!approach!is!the!only!way!to!go.”!! Sandra!P.!!Riggin!! !
! The!three!things!needed!for!
change!to!occur.! • The!desire!to!change! • The!knowledge!of!how!to! change! • An!environment!where!you! can!prac,ce!your!new! behaviors! ! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Breaking!the!Cycle! !
How!we!respond!to!our!past!is!normal:! • We!feel!responsible!for!the!abuse! • When!we!hide!this!part!of!ourselves,!we!are!disconnected! from!ourselves!and!others! • From!this!agony!we!start!ac,ng!out,!! !oXen!unconsciously:! • Drinking,!drug!addic,ons! • Ea,ng!disorders! • SelfQmu,la,on! • Suicide!aOempts! • Depression,!anxiety,!panic,!PTSD! • People!pleasing! • Sexual!addic,on! • Underachieving!!!!QQSandra!P.!Riggin! !
2013!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Breaking!the!Cycle! Because!of!abuse,!children!grow!up! with___________________beliefs!and!feel!they!are!to! ______________everything!that!happens.!(misconcep,on)! ! They!take!everything!_____________________!don’t!feel! as!if!they!________________________________,!and!feel! _______.!(misconcep,on).! ! To!cover!up!how! ______________________________________! Themselves!and! the___________________________________! as!a!child,!they!fall!into!_____________________behaviors. !!
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2013!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Breaking!the!Cycle! !
How!and!why?!
We!ďŹ lter!everything!that!happened!to!us!through!the! distorted!belief!that!we!are!to!blame.!!! ! We!then!either!recreate!our!childhood!situa,on!or!over! compensate.!!! ! Understanding!what!we!do!and!how.!! Evalua,ng!ourselves!(self!awareness)!gives!the!opportunity! to!change,!make!dierent!choices.! ! Situa,on!+!Belief!=!Consequences/Feelings! !
2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Breaking!the!Cycle!–!Sandra!P.!Riggin! How!and!why?! Requires!work,!dedica,on!and!consistent!effort.!! Sample!phrases:!Write!them!down,!carry!them!with!you.! • Thinking!! !!!!!!!Feelings !!!!!Behavior! • People!don’t!do!things!against!me,!they!do!things!to!meet! • their!own!needs.! • How!people!behave!tells!me!about!them,!not!about!me.! • Things!don’t!bother!me,!it’s!the!view!I!take!of!them!that!does! • I!learned!to!be!this!way,!so!I!can!learn!to!be!different,!and!I!am! learning!to!be!different! • That!was!then!and!this!is!now! • My!name!is______________!and!I!am!ENOUGH!!!!!! QQ!From!the!Breaking!the!cycle.!! !
2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
I!hope!you!join!me!and!20!experts!! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Resources!
The!healing!begins!with!you!and! the!suffering!can!end!with!you.! !QQSvava!Brooks!
• Survivor!Support!and!Resources! ! ! thelamplighters.org! ! siawso.org!
! malesurvivor.org! ! Call!211! ! OneHealth.com! ! acestudy.org!
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! psychologytoday.com! ! educate4change.com! ! JusOell.org! ! jaimeromo.com!
Great!Books!for!survivors:!! The!Courage!to!Heal!–!Ellen!Bass! Breaking!the!Cycle!–!Sandra!Riggins! Repair!Your!Life!–!Marjorie!McKinnon! !
! 1in6.org!
! Taalk.org! ! survivormanual.com! ! survivingspirit.com! ! connec,onssp.org!
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