Options Magazine-April 2014

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LGBTQ News, Resources & Events

The Meaning of Matthew Shepard pg. 16

April 2014

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LGBTQ News, Resources & Events

Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer community news source since 1982

The Meaning of Matthew

APRIL 2014 Vol. XXXII, Issue 10

Publisher Kyle McKendall kyle@optionsri.org

pg. 16

Editor in Chief Jen Stevens editor@optionsri.org Calendar Editor Lise Schwartz info@optionsri.org

Play Ball!

Interview with Tina Wood

pg. 12

pg. 10

Worth a Look pg. 30

4 Our Letters

19 AIDS Care Ocean State

5 News Briefs

19 Imperial Court of RI

7 Dear Options

20 Youth Pride, Inc.

8 Calendar of Events

21 TGI Network

13 Lesbians on the Loose

22 SAGE/RI

14 RI Pride

24 Resources

15 AIDS Project RI Cover Photo: (left to right) Senator Donna Nesselbush, Judy Shepard & Jodi Glass

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Letter from the Editor

Letter from the Publisher

Dear Reader, Change is difficult, but necessary. “New” doesn’t always mean “improved.” Improvement is a matter of perspective.

I’m fortunate to be contracted half-time by both RI Pride and Options Magazine, which are simultaneously experiencing changes in leadership, as are other organizations like PFLAG and YPI. Activists in the marriage movement have more than earned their repose and other prominent leaders are stepping back.

While these leaders continue to offer vital support, I contemplate that our euphoric marriage victory culminating last August precipitated a collective sigh of relief, allowing some to set their sites on new prerogatives - perhaps career, health, family, or general enjoyment of life - after decades of legislative combat.

Achieving Marriage Equality in our state was the focus for so long, but it is not the be-all-and-end-all of our movement.

Homophobia is no more likely to end than racism and until our LGBTQ brethren in all 50 states, Uganda, Russia and elsewhere can love whomever they choose without fear, the battle will not be over. Perhaps the next wave of RI activists will turn their attention to trans-inclusivity, protections for our youth, and ongoing HIV/AIDS education. But without a rally planned at the State House, I find myself wondering, “Does the community that struggles together, stay together?”

These thoughts inspired On the Shoulders of Giants, a series of Options interviews planned with local community leaders who can now look back over the decades and answer, “What got us here?” We’ll revisit history and highlight those who’ve contributed in a major way toward LGBTQ advancement in our state. Our first subject is Tina Wood, owner of the RILGBTNews listserv.

In this issue, you’ll also find an informative story featuring Judy Shepard, mother of the late Mathew Shepard, who visited RI in March.The many Options features you have come to know and love, such as our news briefs, the calendar, local non-profit articles and our invaluable resources are here as always and recreation leagues, the arts, and entertainment will round out our cultural content.

It was wonderful to hear from so many readers this month, many offering encouraging feedback on new design choices, some congratulating Options for “coming out” of the envelope, while others said an Options mailing without the envelope wasn’t possible for them. I’m proud to say we were able to accommodate them.

Our community-wide quest to define ourselves in terms that offer the most inclusivity is fascinating. No Options editing session passes without a spirited conversation debating the issues. Check out the “Dear Options” submissions for different views on the matter. We’re eager to tackle this topic in future issues, so keep those letters and opinions coming!

In solidarity, Jen Stevens

Dear Reader, It’s easy to see that the gay community has more to offer than bars and clubs, as fun as they may be. Rhode Island is alive with organizations working to advance our well-being and I’ve always been compelled to learn and help more. I’m quite comfortable with a bullhorn and a pride flag in my hands, and have focused this energy volunteering with Options Magazine for the last 3 years, often expressing the potential I saw for this organization and publication to grow. It’s exciting to see Options on this path and I believe it’s promising for the future of our community.

Our team is committed to covering stories you won’t find in other publications. We’re holding ourselves to strict editorial standards while aiming to bring our community closer together through information and education. We’re working diligently to streamline systems, operate efficiently, and build upon the foundation that has been laid for Options. And we’re doing it with a plan to ensure the growth of our readership as we recruit new advertisers. While our typeface, color and layout choices have recently changed, the mission of Options has not. This is the first issue our subscribers will receive without a mailing envelope - a signal that times are changing and Options is open to change.

We welcome your communication, and if you find yourself saying, “you know what you should do?” help us make it happen.

Our office is open to you.

I’ve perused the many issues archived in the Options office.

Having been published since 1982, Options has helped countless LGBTQ people on their journeys. It’s evident many of you share the deep love I have for the magazine and what we do.

Our decisions forge the future of Options, hopefully inspiring others to help shape this organization along the way. We’ve attracted new volunteers to write, edit, and manage projects and we welcome you to share your time and talents with us.

We’re currently seeking folks with Adobe InDesign experience and we always need help distributing to new locations and remote areas of the state. Simply signing up for free home delivery or suggesting Options to a friend are valuable contributions.

Options volunteers have been out in force, attending events all over the state to support other organizations while networking with potential subscribers - and we’re having so much fun doing it! I’m excited to announce a collaboration with Rhode Island Pride on their annual Pride Guide, and for what’s to come in upcoming months .

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News Briefs

Fox Resigns as Speaker Federal and state law enforcement officials seized a large number of boxes and other materials marked “evidence” from openly gay House Speaker Gordon Fox’s home and his State House office, which was also shutdown. Fox proceeded to resign as Speaker of the House. At press time, it was not certain what specifically is being investigated.

Queen Elizabeth II Signs Fred Phelps has Died Fred Phelps, the founder of the anti-gay, Scotland Marriage Law By the end of the year, Scottish gay couples will be able to unite in matrimony.

Ruth Davidson, a high-profile politician in the UK said, “I don’t want the next generation of young gay people growing up as I did believing marriage is not for them.” Under the bill, religious organizations will need to “opt in” to perform same-sex marriages, and any individual celebrants will be able to refuse to carry out weddings for gay couples. It will also allow transgender people to stay married, rather than having to get divorced, when obtaining a Gender Recognition Certificate.

Controversy Continues at Providence College Following organized resistance from Providence College students, the school postponed a talk to be given by Dr. Michelle Cretella, a counselor & member of National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexzuality (NARTH). PC has been no stranger to controversy this academic year. The school made the New York Times during the fall semester when the administration made a unilateral decision to un-invite John Corvino, a nationally known professor of philosophy who travels the country debating the merits of same-sex marriage. The talk’s cancellation led to a backlash by students and faculty, ultimately resulting in the passage of a new anti-discrimination policy, which now includes sexual orientation.

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GLSEN Day of Silence 4/11 The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network Day of Silence is a student-led national event that brings attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in schools. In an effort to encourage schools and classmates to address the problem of anti-LGBT behavior, students from middle school to college take a vow of silence. In order to promote the Day of Silence’s positive impact and address criticism that downplays the problem of anti-LGBTQ name-calling, participants are asked to register. Visit glsen.org to register.

military-funeral-protesting Westboro Baptist Church, has died at the age of 84. Son Nathan Phelps left the anti-gay church in 1980 and now lives in Canada working to support LGBT rights.

Mayor Skips Boston Parade over Gay Exclusion Boston Mayor Martin Walsh did not participate in last month’s St. Patrick’s Day Parade because organizers excluded gay groups. In an email, he expressed disappointment that parade plans prevent all Boston residents from participating fully.

The mayor said the celebrations honor Irish history, which has been shaped by the fight against oppression. Lead parade organizer Philip Wuschke Jr. said gay people are not prohibited from marching. He said organizers do not want the parade to turn into a demonstration for a particular group. Sponsor Samuel Adams beer pulled its sponsorship of South Boston’s St. Patrick’s Day Parade because of the flap over LGBT participation, after which Boston’s Cornerstone Pub refused to serve Samuel Adams Beer.

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News Briefs cont.

New York’s Gay Men’s Health Crisis Agency Financially Challenged The New York agency Gay Men’s Health Crisis, long known as the “First in the fight against AIDS,” is experiencing significant financial difficulty, according to The Advocate. Playwright and activist Larry Kramer and several other men founded the organization in 1982 as a response to cultural indifference to HIV/ AIDS. The organization is now under pressure to deal with substantial unused rented space.

Judicial

Rulings Continue to Affirm Equal Marriage

“The momentum for marriage equality is undeniable as yet another federal judge affirmed today that all loving and committed same-sex couples deserve to be treated equally under the law,” said Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin.

“Today’s ruling in Michigan now joins similar rulings in Virginia, Kentucky, Texas, Ohio, Oklahoma and Utah. It’s clear that the law is on the side of LGBT Americans, and we are moving with increasing momentum toward the day when all loving and committed same-sex couples receive the dignity and respect they deserve.”

Marriage Announcement: After 18 years together, David Ahearn and Baxter Chandler were married on September 7, 2013 in Provincetown, MA, on Herring Cove Beach. David is the son of Donna and John Ahearn of Smithfield. Baxter is the son of Marion Chandler and the late Calvin Chandler of Southern Pines, NC. The couple had a small ceremony surrounded by close family and friends. They live in Easthampton, MA with their two labrador retrievers, Sarah and Jetta. David is from Smithfield and moved to MA in 1993 after receiving his Masters degwree in Social Work in Boston. Baxter is from Southern Pines, NC and lived in Atlanta, GA before he relocated to MA in 1995.

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Options | April 2014

Dear Options,

Dear Options,

In response to the March 2014 Options letter “Living Under the Gay Umbrella,” it’s clear we have not made our lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and questioning brethren feel welcome enough within what has come to be known as the gay community.

For many lifetimes “queer” was a word that brought shame to your family. Queer is the slur you heard when someone slammed you into a locker, knocked books out of your hand, beat you up, or ostracized you. You didn’t even have to be a queer. If somehow you didn’t conform to the accepted norms of masculine or feminine society, you were tagged. If you were queer, historically, you could be arrested.

You could lose your job. You could lose your home, family, and friends. So many LGBTQ people did and still do in our long, violent, and sometimes suicidal fight to achieve human rights.We walk alongside women, African Americans, Hispanic Americans and other hyphenated Americans in their struggle to be recognized and treated with dignity and equality. Perhaps we have forgotten how society treated the Jews and the Japanese and how when the Italians came to America they were spit on.There are still many who remember when there used to be signs posted that said “Irish need not apply” or simply, “Colored.”

For the sake of bureaucracy our society puts everyone into a box now and you check the one whose umbrella you most closely stand under. All African-Americans are not from Africa. All Asian-Americans are not Japanese.

While we have come a long way in society, human rights are still a great battle being fought. Perhaps the real answer is not how we refer to ourselves, but in how we treat each other. Clearly we need to do more to rid our own community of our own internal prejudices. You know it’s there. Don’t pretend you don’t.

There has been a significant movement to take the term “queer” and dilute the pejorative nature of its slang meaning to claim it as our own and say it with pride. After a lifetime of that disparaging slur, I find that a very difficult change to make, particularly when it is still hurled as an epithet to belittle, hurt and demean by so many right here in Rhode Island. There is a reason that calling dark-skinned Americans the “N word” is not acceptable.

I do not have the answer to what name we can be called that would be all-inclusive. I was fine being called “black” although I am actually brown, and now I am African-American although I am not from Africa. If our lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning brethren are not happy under the gay umbrella then we can start by opening our hearts to help them feel more included within the box. As for the word queer: Maybe after a generation has grown up who hasn’t had to endure the pain and humiliation that so many before them had to and so many in the world still do. But for me it is too soon.

Bradford Greer, Pawtucket

Ah. The name thing. In her March letter to Options, Jen Hug re-introduces an issue that has complicated and confused so many of us over the years. What do we call ourselves? She ends her essay with the question, “What would you choose?” So, grabbing the bait here….

First, let's take a quick look at what we've got now. In the March issue of Options alone we find the following references: GLBT, GLBTQ, LGBT, LGBTQ, LGBTQQ, LGBTIQ2. And, of course, that is not all. Though currently not appearing in this last issue, we have all seen others that seem to go on forever with everything from extra Qs to XYZ! Some of these things can leave you just scratching your head and wondering “what the hell?”

Of course, switching around the G and the L was no help at all. Defying both the logic of alphabet and the laws of demographics, this has never made sense to me. Didn't we have it right the first time? I mean, should not your most inclusive term precede your less inclusive? I can find you any number of gay men and gay women. Seen any lesbian men lately? (Though, these are curious times. I'm not ruling it out.)

I am told from a number of sources (don't blame me) that the switcheroo with the G and the L was the direct result of pressure from the Lesbian front, their lobbying forces far more aggressive than that of their male counterparts out dancing the night away - not that there's anything wrong with that. And we all know not to argue with a politically motivated lesbian. Right?

But it is kind of sad to see these old established groups buckling to that pressure to put that L before the G. Some form of political correctness run amok, I suppose. So now we see things like, “GLBT Hikers Club - outdoor activities for the LGBT community.” What foolishness. Please stop!

Then, of course, there's the issue of QUEER. On this one, please count me out. For those of us survivors from a darker age, this term is much too reminiscent of those days of having one's head slammed into the water fountain (“bubbla” for Rhode Islanders) with that 'Q' word echoing off the tiles of the high school gymnasium. Not quite up there with “faggot,” but not yet banner-ready for my parade.

My solution? Simple, simple! GILBERT! It's got the G, the L, the B, the T. It's got the I. And the E and R? - Everyone Remaining? We're all in there! How inclusive can you be? And, it's a real, pronounceable acronym, not one of these awful tangles of letters and cyphers that changes shape every other week.

So, that's it, at least for this camper. The next time I am approached with any curiosity as to my “affiliation” - not that it's everybody's business - my response? I'm a GILBERT! Proud of it! And don't even think of messing with me!

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Craig ‘Gilbert’ Johnson, Cumberland Send your letters to editor@optionsri.org.

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Calendar of Events April 2014 Thu. 3 Delores Walters: Women’s Resistance:What the Legacy of Margaret Garner Teaches Us Today, 5:30-7pm.

Brown University Steven Robert ’62 Campus Center, Petteruti Lounge (2nd floor), 75 Waterman Street, Providence. Free and open to the public.

Thu. 3 Chris Pureka, 8pm. Luna’s Ladies Night @ Fete Music, 103 Dike Street, Providence. 18+. $12 in advance/$14 at the door. For tickets see www.lunaspvd.com.

Thu. 3-Sun. 27 Our Lady at American Repertory Theater, Cambridge, MA. For information and tickets see www.americanrepertorytheater. org.

Thu. 3-6 Transcending Boundaries, Hartford Sheraton at the Bradley Airport, Windsor Locks, CT. The annual conference brings together sexuality, relationship and gender minorities for three days of education, activism and community building. For more info www.transcendingboundaries.org.

Sat. 5 AIDS Care Ocean State presents Swing Into Spring, 6:30pm-midnight.

Roger Williams Park Casino, 1000 Elmwood Avenue, Providence. A 1930s-40s throwback event including traditional swing dancing with a contemporary spin. Live music

by Superchief Trio, hors d’oeuvres, light dinner fare, and cocktails served all evening. ACOS 2013 Philanthropists of the Year will be honored: Carol Mann & Thomas Wright. Tickets are $75. For info, tickets or to sponsor, see www.aidscareos.org.

Sun. 6 RI Pride Triple Crown Pageant: Once Upon a Time, 6pm door. The Colosseum Mythology Room, 180 Pine Street, Providence. Cheer on your favorite contestants for Mr. Gay RI, Ms. Lesbian RI, and Ms. Gay RI 2014. 18+. Tickets are $15 in advance with VIP booths available at www.prideri.com.

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Mon. 7-Sat. 12 The Black Lavender Experience 2014, Rites and Reason Theater, Brown University. Keynote speaker: E. Patrick Johnson, author of Sweet Tea: Black Gay Men of the South, scholar/artist, Professor of Performance Studies and African American Studies at Northwestern University. Black Lavender will feature films and talks, including a round table discussion of LGBTQ rights in Uganda, that will further extend dialogues about experiences of African diasporic queer identifying peoples. For schedule information and questions please contact karen_baxter@brown.edu.

Fri. 11 The Vagina Monologues, 7pm.

The Spot Underground, 101 Richmond Street, Second Floor, Providence. Special pricing available for students and groups. Email kbergin@sojournerri.org for more info.

Sat. 12 Let’s Party, It’s Springtime RIWA dance celebrating the end of DOMA, 7pm. Letter Carriers Hall, 174 Mayfield Street, Cranston. Admission is $10. This is a potluck, so bring your favorite dish! BYOB. RIWA will provide soda, coffee and water.

Sat. 12 An Evening with Chelsy Lau, 9pm. DeVille’s Café, 345 South Water Street, Providence. 18+. No cover. Doors open at 4pm. Great food and beverages.

Sun. 13 Kathy Griffin, 7pm. The Vets, One Avenue of the Arts, Providence. Tickets are $59.50 and $49.50, and may be purchased at www.vmari.com.

Wed. 16 Queer Book Club, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. “Pregnant Butch: Nine Long Months Spent in Drag,” by A.K. Summers. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For book selection and further information, e-mail queerbookclub@ gmail.com.

Thu. 17 Easter Bonnet Gay Bingo, 7pm.

Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Doors open at 6pm $20 to play. Bingo benefits ACOS and APRI. Wear your favorite Easter bonnet!

Fri. 18 Marilyn Coppola & Coppola-Turner Overdrive, 9pm. DeVille’s Café, 345 South Water Street, Providence. 18+. No cover. Doors open at 4pm. Great food and beverages.

Sat. 19 Options Cocktail Party to Honor Kim Stowell, 7pm. Tir Na Nog Spa, 403 South Main Street, Providence. Hors d’oeuvres, cash bar, music by Becky Chace. Tickets $15 in advance/$20 at the door. www.kimstowell.eventbrite.com.

Sat. 19 Jennifer Minuto, 9pm. DeVille’s Café, 345 South Water Street, Providence. 18+. No cover. Doors open at 4pm. Great food and beverages.

Wed. 23 RI Pride, general social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement, 7pm. 1005 Main Street, #1105, Pawtucket. www.prideri. com.

Thu. 24 Dining Out for Life®. Eat at a participating restaurant; partial proceeds benefit AIDS Project RI. A list of participating restaurants is available at www.aidsprojectri.org.

Thu. 24 SAGE/RI will be Dining Out for Life (AIDS Project RI Fundraiser) at 6pm at Blaze Restaurant, 776 Hope Street, Providence. If you want to join our table, RSVP to Cathy Gorman by April 20; leave a message for her at 528-3259, or at sageriinfo@ gmail.com.

Thu. 24 Imperial Court of RI’s In-Town Cocktail Party & Awards, 8-10pm The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. No performances, casual attire, no charge.

Thu. 24 The Fund for Community Progress Annual Awards Ceremony, 6-8pm Pearl Lounge, 393 Charles Street, Providence. Honorees: Ste-

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ven Brown of RI ACLU. Dr. Michelle Forcier of RI Adolescent Clinic, Richard Holcomb of Project Weber, and GoLocal Prov. Hors d’oeurvres and cash bar. $25 tickets may be purchased at www.fundcp.org, or at the door.

Fri. 25 Imperial Court of RI’s Out-ofTown Show at the Dark Lady, 24 Snow Street, Providence. Doors 9pm/show10pm. $10.

Sat. 26 Imperial Court of RI Coronation XXII: The Seven Deadly Sins – A Night in the Underworld. The Providence Biltmore Hotel Garden Room, 11 Dorrance Street, Providence. Voting for the next Emperor and Empress will be held from 6-9pm.Valid ID and photo required.

Cocktails6pm, dinner at 7pm and show at 8pm. Tickets are $80 and can be purchased at icricoronationxxii.eventbrite.com.

Sun. 27 ICRI Victory Brunch, 10:30am Providence Biltmore Hotel Garden Room, 11 Dorrance Street, Providence. $35.

May 2014 Fri. 2 La Cage Aux Folles, 8pm.The Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket. Tickets are $19 and may be purchased at www.stadiumtheatre.com. Miss Jacqueline DiMera is a member of the cast!

Sat. 3 Northampton Pride Parade and Rally, 12 noon. Northampton, MA.

Sat. 3 Scrumptious Spring, 6-11pm.

Knights of Columbus Hall, 1675 Douglas Avenue, North Providence.

Proceeds benefit We R Group Hug to support Monkey See...Monkey Do Backpack Program. Fill backpacks with kid-friendly foods for low income kids who are affected by HIV/ AIDS who otherwise go hungry over the weekends. Food stations, steamship round, cash bar, music by Debra Coppola & Second To None, auction, raffles, penny social.Advanced tickets: $50/$65 at the door. Reservations suggested.Tables available. For tickets and info call 301-9305.

Sat. 3 La Cage Aux Folles, 8pm. The Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket. Tickets are $19 and may be purchased at www.stadiumtheatre.com. Miss Jacqueline DiMera is a member of the cast!

Sun. 4 AIDS Care Ocean State presents King of Queens! The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. Doors open 6pm/show 7pm. $15. See www.aidscareos.org for tickets.

Sun. 4 La Cage Aux Folles, 2pm. The Stadium Theatre, 28 Monument Square, Woonsocket. Tickets $19, purchase at www.stadiumtheatre. com. Miss Jacqueline DiMera is a member of the cast!

Thu. 8-Fri. 9 Eddie Izzard, 8 pm. The Wang Theatre, 270 Tremont Street, Boston, MA. Purchase tickets at www.citicenter.org Sat. 10 An Evening with Chelsy Lau, 9pm. DeVille’s Café, 345 South

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Water Street, Providence. 18+. No cover. Doors open at 4pm. Great food and beverages.

Thu. 15 Red, White & Blue Gay Bingo, 7pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Doors open at 6pm. $20 to play. Bingo benefits ACOS and APRI. Let’s celebrate America!

Wed. 21 Queer Book Club, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. “Michael Tolliver Lives,”

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Wed. 28 RI Pride, general social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement, 7pm. 1005 Main St. #1105, Pawtucket. www.prideri. com.

Wed. 28 2nd Annual LGBT Health Fair, RI State House Rotunda, 1pm to 5pm. Designed for LGBT Rhode Islanders of all ages, sponsored by SAGE/RI. Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (youth) -Tue ACOS (gay males) -Wed COLAGE -1st Sat PFLAG -1st Wed TGI Network -1st & 3rd Tue TransFamily New England -2nd Mon Youth Pride, Inc. -Tue See Resources section on page 24 for more information.

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“On the Shoulders of Giants” Jen Stevens

An Interview with Tina Wood

Tina Wood is the creator and maintainer of one of the greatest resources our community has: the RILGBT-News listserv. Here’s how it works: you send an email to tinawood@cox.net asking for your email address to be added to the listserv. The rules are clear. Anyone can post but all posts must be news and announcements relevant to the RI LGBT community. It’s not a discussion group. Replies should be sent to individuals, not to the list. When a rule is broken you can bet a polite, to-the-point reminder will come from Tina.Thanks to Tina and participating organizations, it seems nothing is missed when it comes to local news stories and events.You can avoid inbox clutter by selecting the digest setting so a maximum of one email is received per day. It’s more convenient than surfing the net and offers a simple solution for those looking to stay connected on a semi-daily basis but who aren’t plugged into social media. RILGBT-News comes highly reccomended for those who are new to RI or the community.

Options: When and why was the RILGBT-News listserv created?

Tina: Early 1996. At the time, it wasn't easy for anyone to create an email list like it is today, but I happened to be involved with an online project with someone who had access to his own server. At an Alliance* meeting, I asked if it would be helpful to have an email list for local LGBT news, and people said that it would, so I asked my colleague to set it up. Later that year we had to move to a new server, so the list was offline for a while.

O: How do you cultivate content for the listserv?

T: I encourage organizations to post their own announcements and news on the list as much as possible. When I was more active in politics, I made a point of at least scanning pretty much all of the newspapers in the state that had content online to see what was in the news (and later added blogs and websites for local TV and radio stations.)

A number of newspapers have started putting less material online for free due to how the Internet has affected the newspaper industry. Sometimes people send me pointers to stories that I otherwise would have missed (especially when I am out of town), and I am always grateful for their help.

O: How has the listserv impacted the community legislatively?

T: We were able to get information out quickly about things like how legislators voted in committee and in floor votes, even before that information was available anywhere else online. We were also able to put the word out when legislators particularly needed to be pressured.

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O: Do you have any favorite posts from over the years?

T: I know a lot of people will laugh when I say that I have a lot of not favorite posts! But I guess a couple of my favorites were in 2001 when, on the last day of the legislative session, the Senate passed two important pieces of legislation that had already passed the House: the transgender civil rights bill and the bill granting domestic partners benefits to state employees. When I got home, I posted to the list with the subject line in all caps, "WE WON! WE WON!" and then explained in the body of the post that, yes, we had won twice! Another good memory was when Governor Almond signed the bill repealing the sodomy law in 1998. We got the news on the phone from Representative Edie Ajello, but it wasn't in the paper or elsewhere in the news. I posted on the list to let people know. At the time, Massachusetts still had its sodomy law on the books, so I said that people who wanted their sex lives to be illegal would have to go to Massachusetts instead.

O: Could you tell us your vision for the listserv’s future?

T: My vision for the future is that there be no major changes (other than those that have to happen in terms of newspapers not putting content online anymore). I reject the idea that an organization must always be changing and "improving." I see the list as the equivalent of a public utility: it provides a specific ser*The RI Alliance for Lesbian & Gay Civil Rights was established in 1983 and was RI’s primary LGBT advocacy group for 20 years until the Campaign for Marriage Equality formed.

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vice that some people need or want and should not branch out into things that are not germane to that. The electric company should not start selling ice cream on the side.

O: Do you have a coming out story that you'd like to share?

T: I grew up in the South and came out in college in Boston. I didn't have an easy time, and my experiences shaped my determination to make things easier for others.

O: How does 2014's reality line up with or differ from a younger you's vision for her future?

T: Politically and in terms of social acceptance, I am so happy at all of the progress that we have made. I don't know what younger me's vision might have been other than to keep moving forward as much as we could.

O:You've been an activist fighting every LGBT legislative battle in RI for how long now? Â What drew you to activism?

T: I was here for the very tail end of the fight for the sexual orientation civil rights law in 1995. I've been glad to be able to move into the background over the last few years instead of having to be at the State House myself. I'm very introverted and have anxiety, so doing the direct work at the State House was always very difficult for me.

O: Is there any one (or two, or three people) whom you especially looked up to as you were cutting your activist teeth?

T: You would need a much larger print budget for me to list all of the amazing people that I've looked up to over the years.

But let me take the opportunity to name a few who are sadly not with us anymore: Julie Pell, Shirley Smith, Jan Wood-Thomas (no relation, but we called each other cousins), and Reverend Al Barnaby.

O: Do you have a favorite community memory, perhaps from a hearing, meeting, event, or rally?

O:What moment has surprised you most throughout our community's struggle for equality?

T: There are a lot of things that I cannot talk about; but I will say that mostly behind the scenes, I have seen the best and the worst in people over the years. I was incredibly moved by many of the heartfelt speeches by legislators last year when marriage equality passed. People I never expected to support the legislation ended up not only voting for it but speaking with real conviction and love. In particular, Senator Maryellen Goodwin's speech and vote were such a perfect coda to a long struggle.

O:Would you describe the most triumphant moment you've experienced in the LGBT movement?

T: As happy as I was about finally gaining marriage equality, my most triumphant moment will always be the passage of the transgender civil rights law in 2001. We were the first state to pass it as standalone legislation, and once we passed it, other states followed suit - Little Rhody led the way and helped change history. I had taken more of a lead role on it than I had on other legislation, and I had sweated through so many potential pitfalls along the way, even up until the last moment.

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Renaissance City Softball League: Play Ball & Do Good!

Kelly Scafariello Spring is in the air with the hope that winter snow is long behind us. Springtime in Rhode Island brings joy to warm-weather sport enthusiasts. One particularly popular sport among Ocean State residents is softball. It’s easy to find a softball league to join anywhere in our tiny state. One league worth joining that’s been serving our LGBTQ community is the Renaissance City Softball League (RCSL).

The RCSL formed back in 1997, and now enters its 17th season. Founded by Bill Gorman, the RCSL is a fun and competitive co-ed league for Rhode Islanders.The league played last season’s games on two East Providence fields: Agawam Softball Complex and Pierce Memorial Field.

RCSL Public Relations and Recruitment Director Nick Ciaccio said that in the league’s inaugural year, there was “a handful... four, maybe five teams.” Last season, the league had grown to 14 teams. Due to its growing popularity, however, the 2014 season will look to expand to a projected 16-team field.The number of teams is a strong indication that the league has exploded in popularity. Ciaccio alludes to the passion and commitment of the league’s members, who have enjoyed being a part of their teams for many years. Current commissioner Phil Lagoy looks to expand the league even more.

The league is welcoming to all levels of athletes, from novice to pro. RCSL has two divisions available. The D Division is for

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beginners looking to play at the recreation level.The C Division is for advanced players who are looking to play at a more competitive level. For people who aren’t sure which camp they fall under, the RCSL offers Free Agent Day (4/6), which according to Ciaccio, is “a day clinic filled with basic drills and activities allowing the league coaches to assess the individual’s abilities so they can be put on the best team possible.”

While the RCSL has made a name for itself on the field, it also looks to show support to the Rhode Island community off the field.The league launched a new campaign called the Heart of Providence Initiative. This initiative is a yearlong volunteer program allowing members to donate time supporting and volunteering at events presented by AIDS Care Ocean State. “The league is made up of a special group of people. This league is made up of more than just softball. When the games are over, you will walk away with friendships and a feeling of a strong community,” says Ciaccio.

If you are interested in being a part of a fun co-ed softball league that gives back to the LBGTQ community, then the Renaissance City Softball League is for you. The official season kicks off on Opening Day, April 27. Games are played Sunday until July 27 with a fall session to follow. For info, please contact Commissioner Phil Lagoy at commish@providencesoftball.org.

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Lesbians on the Loose Annie Cronin-Silva & Melanie Silva

Well, it didn’t take us long to get back into the swing of things! Valentine’s Day brought us together with our friends at DeVille’s to see the “Live, Laugh, Love” comedy show hosted by Christina Thomas and featuring comedians Kelly Mainor and headliner Mike Murray: The Deaf Comic. What a great combination of talent at this comedy show. Each comic had his or her own personal vibe and delivery of their jokes, which were always on point. This is the third or fourth time we have seen both Christina Thomas and Mike Murray. They always have us bellowing with laughter during their sets! If you get the opportunity to see any of these comedians, definitely check them out - you won’t be disappointed.

At the end of February we surprised everyone when we showed up at The Stable for the Options Release Party.

We had just arrived home from a long weekend away at The Gazebo Inn in Ogunquit, Maine, for some much-needed alone time. (Winter is the perfect time to take advantage of Ogunquit’s discounted rates and beautiful, scenic, snowy beaches.)

We couldn’t miss the release party, as this was the first issue in which Jen Stevens took the helm as the new editor and Kyle McKendall became publisher. We wanted to be there to support them as they launched their first issue. Based on the number of people who came out, we would say the release party was a huge success! We had a fabulous time mingling with the rugby players who were there celebrating. I think we gave them a run for their money in the enthusiasm department, especially when our Options signature song came on! Whenever you hear P!NK's “Just Give Me a Reason” at The Stable you can be certain the Options crew will be belting it out and, ahem, "serenading" the bar patrons and, yes, even jumping up and down – right, John Kelley?! You should join our next release party; it’s a great way to meet new people. Have a glass of sangria and mingle with the volunteers who help put this magazine together!

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March roared in like a lion. That first Sunday started with Drag Brunch at Aspire Restaurant. This brunch was extra special as it celebrated the birthdays of two legendary drag queens, LaDiva Jonz and Vi'let, and was hosted by the talented and enthusiastic Jacqueline DiMera. Jacqueline is always the “hostess with the mostest.” The sold-out crowd was definitely in for a treat as these three lovely ladies performed and mingled with the patrons. The high-energy music and dancing kept everyone entertained for hours. It was wonderful to see so many familiar faces out supporting these ladies who give so much of their time and energy to our community.

We raced from Drag Brunch up to Chan’s in Woonsocket for the 15th Annual Goddess Show, aka The Lesbian Event of the Year! It was hosted by the hilarious Poppy Champlin and featured local artists including The Mary Day Band, poet Marie Michaelle, hooper Rachel Lindenthal, acoustic musicians Emily Smith and Susan Souza, burlesque performer Bettysioux Tailor, Miss Gay RI Justus, Ms Lesbian RI Leisha Ellery and the headliner Rachael Sage! Even though we missed a couple of the opening acts due to Drag Brunch, we heard from several people how amazing the women were. Where else are you able to be surrounded by women artists, each with their distinctive talents, all in one venue? Thanks go out to the exceptional artists who dedicated their time for this Rhode Island Pride fundraiser.

Folks, don’t be shy. We would love to see more of your faces in the crowd. Let’s not be divided, as in boys’ events vs. girls’ events. We’re all one community and we need to stand together and support one another. We recommend you mark your calendar for upcoming events such as Options party for Kim Stowell (4/19), the Triple Crown Pageant (4/6), Channing Interweave’s Born This Way Prom (4/25) and King of Queens (5/4). Come out, be seen and be part of the community. It’s fun!

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RI Pride Jen Stevens As I look over my calendar, I count 13 events or open meetings that Pride has held in the last 34 days. There was a karaoke contest, a couple Valentines events, the Triple Crown Step-down, Goddess Show, our festival planning retreat, and a well-deserved tribute to Rodney Davis & Brian Mills, to name a few. The accomplishments of our dedicated volunteers are truly incredible, yet we could always use more help. The past month has been a fun and wild ride here at Pride and while the accomplishments of our dedicated volunteers are incredible, we know PrideFest season is heating up and we can definitely use more hands!

I hope you’ve marked June 21st in your calendars for the 39th Annual RI PrideFest & Illuminated Night Parade! We’re actively seeking vendors, parade contingents, and many, many volunteers. Perhaps the greatest contribution you could give our organization this month would be a connection to a potential PrideFest sponsor. Please take a moment to consider if you know a leader within an organization or businesses who might benefit from the exposure only PrideFest offers. AIDS Care Ocean State, Lifespan, Blue Cross and Town Hall Lanes have generously signed on in support again this year and I can’t imagine how PrideFest would be without them.

A recent innovation to Pride’s regularly scheduled programming is our collaboration with other organizations to co-host our open house held on the fourth Wednesday of each month. Formerly known as “general meetings,” the open house still offers a brief Pride update, though now other LGBT groups have the floor to briefly inform our membership about their activities.We’re aiming for more casual, social gatherings with snacks, beverages and mingling. We invite anyone and everyone to drop in, get a feel for what’s happening in the community, and hopefully get to know some Pride Committee members one-on-one.

In the meantime, we encourage you to visit prideri.com for exciting announcements just on the horizon such as this year’s festival theme, entertainment headliner, and parade Grand Marshalls.

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AIDS Project RI Stephen Hug AIDS Project Rhode Island (APRI) is proud to announce that longtime news anchor and reporter Mario Hilario will again be chairing this year’s Dining Out for Life®. This signature fundraising event will be held on Thursday, April 24 at participating restaurants across the state.

Mario has been anchoring NBC 10 Weekend Sunrise since 1997, is an Associated Press award winner, and is a five-time Emmy award nominee. He also generously volunteers his time at a number of nonprofit organizations.

“Marking the 10th anniversary of Dining Out for Life® in Rhode Island, I am especially honored to chair this important event that brings about awareness of HIV/AIDS as well as raises funds for HIV testing, education and prevention efforts, and to care for people infected with HIV,” he said.

“We are fortunate to have Mario as our chair, helping us to...raise awareness that HIV/AIDS is very much a threat,” said APRI Executive Director Thomas Bertrand, MPH. “We see the toll it takes every day in our work at AIDS Project RI.” The concept of Dining Out for Life is simple: eat at a participating restaurant on Thursday, April 24. Restaurants donate a portion of the day’s proceeds to APRI. A list of participating restaurants is available at www.aidsprojectri.org.

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The Meaning of Matthew Brian Gay

The Rhode Island Commission on Prejudice and Bias in cooperation with the Roger Williams University School of Justice Studies hosted an event at the Bay Point Inn & Conference Center in Portsmouth on March 17. The event drew about 100 attendees, including students, advocates, and representatives from law enforcement agencies across Rhode Island and southeastern Massachusetts.

The speakers program featured a keynote by Judy Shepard, mother of Matthew Shepard, the 21-year old University of Wyoming student who was the victim of a hate crime in 1998.

Presentations were also given by FBI Special Agent Cynthia Deitle regarding Federal Hate Crime law and Huffington Post Blogger Wayne Maines, who discussed his journey as a father of identical twins, one of whom is transgender.

RI Commission on Prejudice & Bias The RI Commission on Prejudice & Bias has been a major resource for hate crime trainings for law enforcement throughout RI for the past 30 years. RICPB is chaired by Norman Orodenker, a Providence attorney. Its program administrator is Jodi Glass, a long time social activist and self-employed doctor of audiology.

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academies and all local and university departments. They collaborate with many community agencies to speak out against bullying, homophobia, racism, and sexism. Representatives of the US Department of Justice as well as speakers representing communities most often affected by hate crimes are involved in every training.

Judy Shepard and The Meaning of Matthew Shortly after midnight on October 7, 1998, Matthew Shepard was lured into a vehicle where he was then abducted by Aaron McKinney and Russell Henderson. The two men brought Matthew to a remote area east of Laramie on the Wyoming prairie, where they proceeded to tie him to a split-rail fence and severely beat him with the butt of a pistol. He was left tied to the fence to die, where he remained through the cold night until he was discovered 18 hours later by a bicyclist who mistook him for a scarecrow. Matthew’s attack, death and funeral were featured widely in the media and focused national attention on the issue of homophobia and gay bashing in the United States.

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just and tolerant society. According to its website, the foundation was “created to honor Matthew in a manner that was appropriate to his dreams, beliefs, and aspirations” and seeks to “replace hate with understanding, compassion, and acceptance” through its varied educational, outreach, and advocacy programs, and by continuing to tell Matthew’s story.

In the years following Mathew’s death, Judy worked tirelessly toward expanding hate crime legislation to include sexual orientation as a protected class so that cases such as Matthew’s could be prosecuted as hate crimes.Victory would take over 10 years, with the ultimate passage of the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, signed into law by President Obama on October 28, 2009. The Shepard/Byrd Act expanded the 1969 federal hate crimes legislation to include crimes motivated by a victim’s actual or perceived gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, or disability.

Shepard’s book, The Meaning of Matthew: My Son’s Murder in Laramie, and a World Transformed (also the name of her keynote address) was published in 2009. It’s an emotional read, which shares personal stories about her son’s life, the aftermath of his death, and the choice she made to become an international gay rights activist.

“I’ll never understand why anyone would want to hurt Matt, with such cruelty, with such disregard for another human being,” Shepard said. “How could anyone feel so threatened by this tiny, sweet child, that they would do this to him? Such an act of cruelty is incomprehensible.”

Federal Hate Crime Laws Following Shepard’s keynote, FBI Special Agent Cynthia Deitel opened her presentation by stating that, “Rhode Island does a great job reporting hate crimes… in some states its more difficult [because] people don’t know what [the term hate crime] means.”

Deitel shared statistics, noting that racial bias has been the number one motivation to perpetrate a hate crime, traditionally followed by religious bias, except in 2012 when sexual orientation was the second most reported targeted class.

Reporting plays a major role because if a hate crime is not reported, the crimes will not count in the collected data.

Deitel gave a detailed explanation of the changes in hate crimes law occurring with the passage of the Shepard/Byrd Act. She described how in the cases of Shepard and Byrd (who was brutally murdered in 1998 by three men in Jasper, Texas who tied Byrd to the back of their pick-up truck and dragged him to his death along an asphalt road) there were certain issues that prevented the crimes from being prosecuted as hate crimes. In the case of Shepard, there was no federal authority prior to 2009 to handle hate crimes based on sexual orientation. Byrd’s case was complicated by the fact that the road along which he was dragged was not a public road, which failed to meet the requirement of the victim to have been engaged in a federally protected activity at the time of his attack.

With the passage of the Shepard/Byrd Act, the jurisdiction has been expanded from covering violent crimes causing bodily injury (or attempting to do so) with a dangerous weapon that are motivated by the victim’s actual or perceived race, color, religion or national origin, to also include gender, gender identity, sexual orientation and disability, so long as the crime affected interstate or international commerce or was committed on federal property. Thus there is an extra burden of proof required when pursuing cases involving gender, gender identity, sexual orientation or disability. Deitel stated that it is usually not hard for the FBI to find a way to argue that a crime has impacted interstate commerce in one way or another, so it is always beneficial for local officials to reach out in order to see what their options are.

“I’ll never understand why anyone would want to hurt Matt, with such cruelty, with such disregard for another human being.”

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Wayne Maines on Raising Transgender Daughter The final presentation of the day was given by Wayne Maines, EdD a blogger for the Huffington Post, who writes extensively about his experience as a father raising identical twin teenagers, one of whom is transgender. Maines made news in the State of Maine for his involvement in court battles seeking protections for transgender residents like his daughter.The family had to move as a result of transphobia and their daughter’s safety is always their number one priority. Dr. Maines gave a heart wrenching account of his experience as a father raising a transgender child and all that entails.

Maines’ daughter Nicole exhibited traditionally feminine behaviors from an early age and in elementary school began to understand that she was transgender. While Maines’ shared how much he loves his daughter (he calls her “my baby”) he also described his internal struggle to accept the fact that what he had understood to be his little boy and son was actually his little girl and daughter. “I had to listen to my heart and then open my mind. Listen to your heart first and then your mind will open up.”

Dr. Maines spoke extensively about the threats his daughter faces as a transgender individual, citing a 45-50% suicide rate for the community. Despite his daughter’s high risk, Maines says she is not fearful. He told of how he has had to coach her twin brother to defend and protect her whenever they go out in public together. “There’s just not enough protections for these kids…

Sometimes it’s harder on him. He’s a boy in middle school,” Maines said, expressing his concerns about the pressure his son is under to keep his sister safe.

As a safety professional, the fact that his daughter’s safety is largely out of his control gives him great pain. He told us how a boy at Nicole’s school harassed her by following her into the girls’ bathroom and stating, “my grandpa says if a faggot can use the girls room so can I.” He expressed concerns about his daughter’s desire to go to college in South Carolina. “I prayed my son was just gay. The NSA guy prayed his son was just gay. Because being transgender was no picnic.”

Maines spoke fondly of Judy and Dennis Shepard and the Matthew Shepard Foundation, saying they provided vital support in recent years when no one else would help his family. He expressed deep gratitude to the LGBT community for their support during these trying times.“Judy’s been doing this work for 15 years and is still doing it today, helping families like mine.”

Maines repeatedly said that being a father to Nicole has been a learning experience for him. It was personal experience that led him to be the advocate he is today. “I had to live it, watch my kids grow, and experience it.”

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Mark your calendars for the 4th Annual King of Queens fundraiser for AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS)! This year we have teamed 13 local celebrities who have never dressed in drag paired with one of Providence’s most famous drag divas to perform a pageant and see who reigns supreme. With the help from their drag mothers, each contestant will receive a complete makeover and prepare to give the show of their life!

Expect to see RI’s Comedy Legend Frank O’Donnell, ACOS Board Member Michael Leighton, comic John Kelley, The Alley Cat’s Cathy O. and other fabulous contestants work it on stage for AIDS Care Ocean State! King of Queens 2014 will take place on Sunday, May 4 at the Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. Tickets are $15. Doors open at 6pm and the show starts at 7pm.Visit aidscareos.org for more info.

Did you know that Rhode Island has its own royalty? Well... kind of. And you can vote in the newest monarchs! The Imperial Court of Rhode Island at Providence is a 501c(3) organization and part of the International Court System, which was founded by the late Empress Jose I,The Widow Norton and has become the second largest LGBTQ fundraising organization in the world. ICRI was founded 21 years ago on the principles of raising money and doing noble deeds for charitable organizations and provides an outlet for social interaction among those with common interests.

ICRI was founded by four incredible individuals: Ralph Martino, B.B. Hayes, Lee Daniels, and W. Fitzgerald Himmelsbach, who all wanted to better the community as a whole. We’ve raised funds for charities such as RI Pride, Sojourner House, The Autism Project, and Birthday Wishes, to name a few.

In April 2013, ICRI celebrated its 21st year by crowning Scott Diamond McMahon and Gia Devaroux at the annual Coronation Ball.Throughout the year ICRI’s membership has raised thousands of dollars for charities in need.

We’ll be celebrating a fun-filled year and the start of the 22nd reign at the Providence Biltmore Garden Room on April 26. This year’s candidates for Emperor and Empress are Ryder Hard and Jealousy Jonz.

Here’s our event schedule: TT Thurs. 4/24: In-town Cocktail Party & Awards.The Stable, 125Washington Street, Providence. 8-10pm. Free. No show. Casual attire.

TT Fri. 4/25: Out-of-town Show. Providence Biltmore Garden Room, 11 Dorrance Street, Providence. 7:30-10pm. $10.

TT Sat. 4/26: Coronation XXII: Seven Deadly Sins: A Night in the Underworld. Providence Biltmore Garden Room. 6pm cocktails, 6-9pm voting (with state issued ID and ticket), 7pm dinner, 8pm show.

TT Sunday, 4/27: Victory Brunch. Providence Biltmore Garden Room. 10:30am. $35.

Beneficiaries for coronation weekend are Sojourner House and Birthday Wishes. ICRI will also be awarding its second annual scholarship. For more information visit www.icriprov.org. Purchase tickets at icricoronationxxii.eventbrite.com or contact Rob at treasurer.icri@aim.com.

AIDS Care Ocean State is looking for HIV+ individuals who are interested in joining our Speaker’s Bureau. ACOS Speakers provide prevention and education information to a variety of groups in Rhode Island and Massachusetts by sharing their stories and speaking publicly about HIV/AIDS. If you would like to learn more and get involved or if you would like the Speaker’s Bureau to come to your school, college or support group, please contact Stephen Hartley at stephenh@aidscareos.org.

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GSA Conference On Saturday, March 15, YPI held our 9th annual RI GayStraight Alliance Coalition Leadership Conference. The conference was intended to not only increase the leadership skills of the youth in attendance, but also to provide the opportunity for youth to present their own workshops.

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12 different Rhode Island high schools and colleges. Additionally, five of the nine workshops presented this year were led by youth. Workshops focused on leadership development and empowerment and covered topics such as tips for running a successful GSA, how to talk to teachers, knowing what rights LGBTQ youth have in schools, LGBTQ comprehensive sexual health, queer pop culture, community organizing, and more.

One participant answered that the most important thing they learned at the conference was, “to speak up and to look at situations with open eyes.”

Day of Silence This year’s Day of Silence, a quiet but powerful student-led action raising awareness about the silencing effect of anti-LGBT bullying, harassment, and discrimination, will be held on April 11. If you would like to hold a Day of Silence event at your school, please contact Elana at elana@youthprideri.org for more information or visit the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network’s (GLSEN) page at glsen.org/participate/programs/day-of-silence.

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Monique Paul My name is Monique. I am a mid-late 50’s pre-op transwoman. I’ve been living as a woman full time for just over 2 years. For the first 52 years of my life, I was in complete denial about being transgender. I felt I was alone in the universe - a cosmic mistake of biblical proportions! I know many of you can relate to that, especially those of us old enough to remember a time without computers and the internet.

I did what was expected of me, I ignored my deep feelings, I went to school, got a job, got married, got divorced, and had a “regular” life. After the divorce I started going out at night to the clubs. It was in a club in Providence when I found my first copy of Options Magazine.That was about 8 years ago.

There was a list of support groups in the back of Options and a small ad for Borderlands, a support group for gender-variant people. I kept the magazine and the ad but didn’t do anything for another couple of years. I was still not ready; I was busy trying to deny these feelings. About 6 years ago, I had a heart attack. Lying there in the hospital, I finally had my breakthrough; I realized I was going to die miserable and unhappy if I didn’t do something!

I pulled out that old copy of Options - yes, I still had it – and called the phone number in the Borderlands ad. I didn’t know if it even still existed, but I had to try! Someone called back, and after a nice conversation, I was told where and

when the meetings were being held and that I was welcome to attend. It still took me a few weeks to gather up the courage to trek over to a meeting.

What I found that evening was a hodgepodge of wonderful people! I’ve met transmen, transwomen, cross-dressers, and many variations in between. Over the following months I became friends with many of them. We all accepted each other for who we were; it was as simple as that! When I asked about therapists who may be “trans-friendly,” TGI Network had a list of possible people. When I was considering hormones, again TGI had a list of doctors. These wonderful people became an important part of my life. I hope I became an important part of theirs in return. TGI Network is here to help if you want it. We have support groups for trans people, their families and supporters.We are a part of the community that we are trying to help.

TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community. Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their life journeys and medical and legal systems, to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people, and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large.

For more info visit tginetwork.org.

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SAGE/RI Sally Ann Hay Join Us for Dinner SAGE/RI will once again be participating in Dining Out for Life, the annual fundraising event to raise funds for AIDS services. We will be gathering on Thursday, April 24, at 6pm at Blaze Restaurant, 776 Hope Street, Providence. Blaze is one of many fabulous restaurants that has agreed, bless their hearts, to contribute a significant percentage of their receipts from that evening to AIDS Project Rhode Island to support programs and services for individuals and families coping with AIDS/HIV, and to carry on outreach and education efforts.

Do plan to join us! Enjoy a wonderful dinner with some wonderful people for a wonderful cause. Be sure to contact Cathy Gorman by April 20 to save your seat at the SAGE/RI table.

Leave her a message at 528-3259 or send her an email at sageriinfo@gmail.com.

Save the Date! LGBT Health Fair Back by popular demand – the LGBT Health Fair for people of all ages! For our second year, we will be at the State House Rotunda on Wednesday, May 28 from 1-5pm. LGBT and LGBT-affirming organizations will be on hand to provide information regarding the various aspects of LGBT health and well-being: health information, advocacy and support, spirituality, and wellness activities. For those of us “of a certain age,” State and Federal representatives will be there to provide information regarding health-related programs and benefits.

We’ll have music, refreshments, and door prizes! What’s not to love? More details will come in next month’s Options. If your organization is interested in getting involved, drop us a line.

life are very common. For older LGBT people it can be even more disturbing. This is the point at which we often hear of older LGBT people resisting or postponing getting the help they need, wondering if it is safe to disclose their orientation or gender identity, worrying whether they will receive quality care if they do “out” themselves, and for some, a time to consider going back into the closet.

So, here’s the good news! RI’s Long Term Care Coordinating Council (LTCCC) meets monthly to address concerns and work together to improve the quality of care offered to Rhode Islanders. Lt. Governor Elizabeth Roberts, chair of the LTCCC, recently established an LGBT Elder Care Subcommittee as the result of a series of conversations with SAGE leadership and other concerned health professionals. Newly formed, the committee has already submitted legislation and is looking at regulatory changes to increase LGBT cultural competency and sensitivity training for health care professionals. It may even develop a speakers bureau. SAGE/RI is delighted with these developments as this new subcommittee is in a position to make significant changes that will positively impact LGBT elders in the Ocean State.

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to GLBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE/ RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; leave us a message at 528-3259; write to us at 235 Promenade Street, Suite 500, Box 18, Providence, RI, 02908; or find us on Facebook at SAGE/Rhode Island.

Long Term Care… and Why We Care “Long Term Care” is an umbrella term in RI that includes home and community-based services, nursing home and assisted living facilities, and preventative services programs for adults. In short, it covers the medical professionals who step in when a person can no longer take complete care of themselves. As you might imagine, this is usually a pretty distressing time in anyone’s life. Feelings of vulnerability and loss of control in one’s

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Resources

Help us help you! If you come across a resource listing that needs updating please let us know at info@optionsri.org. All phone numbers are in the 401 area code and all addresses in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328.

Saturday 7:30-8:30pm Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence.

24hr. (866) 252-3784 Gay Al-Anon: Tuesday 7:30pm. Congregational Church, 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800 RI LGBT AA Group: Anchor Recovery Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. Tuesdays 7pm Set Them Free: Narcotics Anonymous open discussion group. Meets Wednesdays 7:30-9pm. Anchor Recovery Community Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. 721-5100 Suburban Gay & Lesbian: Fatima Shrine, Rt. 126, Holliston, MA. Thursday 8-9:30pm AIDS/Health Resources AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & HEP C testing (call 7810665 to schedule an appointment), safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups, The Speaker’s Bureau. 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. aidscareos.org AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities.

Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday & Thursday 12-4pm. Matthewson Street Church, 134 Matthewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper. 331-1350 ext. 3268. coopergo@ familyserviceofri.org AGAPE/Family Resources Community Action: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331 AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA & dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment & referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panelmaking programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840. 434-4880. admin@ aidsquiltri.org. annasworkshop@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient & community education.

863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. www.brown.edu/brunap Chiropractic Services: Free for unemployed HIV+ patients. Ronald P. Marsh, D.C., 11 King Charles Drive, Portsmouth. 683-1941 Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston.

Also Coventry and Warwick. Contact Sarah Bowman. 467-9610 Crossroads RI Health Care Services: Free, confidential, anonymous HIV counseling & testing for homeless/at risk. Monday & Wednesday 1-3pm. Contact Gloria. 521-2255, ext. 325

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Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management & financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. Contact Michael. (508) 678-1002 HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. Free or sliding scale. 222-2320 Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/ AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette. 727-7079 HPV Study: For gay/bi men ages 18-26. Receive free HPV vaccine and HIV testing. Must be HIV-negative to participate. Miriam Hospital.

Contact Gail. 793-4335. gyates@lifespan.org House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992 Jewish AIDS Task Force: Programs for HIV/AIDS and Jewish communities. 421-4111 ext. 172 LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514 Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 305-3993. info@plaidsproject. org. www.plaidsproject.org or www.pl-aids.org Project ACT: Free anonymous HIV counseling and testing. Walk-in hours Monday 9am-4pm & 5-7pm, Tuesday & Thursday 9am-4pm or by appointment. 1 Washington Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 977-8146 Project Empower: Wellness program for gay, bi & questioning men in south coast MA. Info on HIV/STD test sites & safe sex, social/support groups, therapists & health care referrals. Community Counseling of Bristol County. (508) 828-6692. www.projectempower.com Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV & Hep C testing, clean needles. www.facebook.com/ projectweber. www.projectweber.org SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free & confidential HIV, HEP C & STD testing, education, case management and support. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/ HCV). (800) 937-3610. Family Healthcare Center (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org Steppingstone, Inc.: Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. Free & open to any HIV+ person 18+. Second Wednesday 6-7pm. First Baptist Church of Fall River, Kay Conference Room, 228 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. Third Wednesday 10-11am. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation. 105 Charles Eldridge Drive, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683 Thundermist Health Association: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care & treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment & counseling, pharmacy consultation, free & confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton

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Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516 Information/Education The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Thursday-Saturday 12-6pm and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org Fenway Gay and Lesbian Helpline: Support, information & referrals.

Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-4528 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www. glbtnationalhelpcenter.org Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com RILGBT-NEWS: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. MondayThursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm-2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369 Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Monday-Thursday 5pm-1am, Friday 5pm-2am, Saturday 2pm-2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: Special events space, film screenings and other public & private events. Open mic first & third Saturday. 209 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 575-2284. www.brooklyncoffeeteahouse.com Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 2740298. www.clubbodycenter.com The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub.Tuesday-Thursday 9pm1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm-1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369 DeVille’s: Lesbian, gay, straight, it’s all good. Sunday, Wednesday & Thursday 5pm-12am, Friday & Saturday 5pm-1am. 345 South Water Street, Providence. 383-8883. www.devillescafe.com Ego: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space.

Thursday 9pm-1am, Saturday 9pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence.

383-1208 Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Sunday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 3pm-2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447 The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Sunday-Thursday 12pm1am, Friday-Saturday 12pm-2am. 125 Washington Street, Providence.

272-6950 T.W.I.S.T. Program Coffee Night: Coffee & light snacks served Thursday 7-9pm. 1287 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford. 508-672-0378 Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171 Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTIQ human rights. 212-807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org

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BIGFLAG (Boston Immigration Group for Lesbians And Gays): Social/support for LGBTs affected by immigration discrimination. (617) 499-9433 Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. 683-3062. queer@brown.edu Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. (800) 455-GLAD. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. www.GLAD.org Green Party of RI: PO Box 1151, Providence, RI 02901. 490-7602 Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY, NY 10005. (212) 809-8585 Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062 RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662.

TDD: 222-2664 RI Socialist Action: 952-5385. adgagneri@gmail.com. For Spanish: 351-3414. walsil@cox.net Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans affected by the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy. PO Box 65301, Washington DC, 20035. (202) 328-3244, ext. 100. sldn@ sldn.org. www.sldn.org Straight But Not Narrow Coalition: Straight supporters. PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840. 847-7637 Religious & Spirtual All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence.

751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: mail@wabaptists.org Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” 461 Old County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. www.bccucc.org Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A welcoming congregation.

Rev. Ann Willever. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www. bellstreetchapel.org Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 3319844. www.beneficentchurch.org Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org Calvary Episcopal Church: Open and welcoming. 158 Broad Street, Burrilville. 568-3888. calvary125@aol.com. www.calvaryepiscopal.us Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181 Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming

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Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us

Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937

Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. www.channingchurch.org

Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford. 508-997-5684

Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of neopagan druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com. www.charteroakadf.org Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln.

Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. www.christchurchlincoln.org Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation.

1336 Pawtucket Avenue, Rumford. 434-5012. www.epiphanyep.org Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. www.edgewoodchurchri.org Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Cumberland. 658-1506

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First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Pastor Dan Randall. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288 First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am.

One Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970 First Unitarian Church: 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686 First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Same-gender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 528-5348. fusf@ verizon.net. www.fusf.org Foxboro Universalist Church: Unitarian Universalist Association.

Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. www.uufoxborough.org

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Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225

Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 35 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153 www.staugustineuri.com St. Francis City Ministry at the Church of St. Mary: Office of LGBT Outreach. 535 Broadway, Providence. 353-1422 St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence.

353-2079 St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: 50 Orchard Street, Providence. 751-2141 St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: County & River Streets, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-8972. stmartins1887@aol.com St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. www.stpaulspawtucket.org St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 862-1466. www.stpaulsportsmouthri.org St.Peter & St.Andrew’s Episcopal Church:25 Pomona Avenue,Providence.

272-9649. stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpetersandstandrews.org Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 2634296. www.saintthereseocc.org Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming.

50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 222-4677. www. attleborosecondchurch.org Seekonk Congregational Church: Rev. Joy Utter. 600 Fall River Avenue, Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. www.scc-ucc.com

Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation.

Pastor Sandra Demmler Damico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org

Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education.

Contact for weekly meetings in Providence.930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. Providence contact: adrienne.r.landau@gmail. com. www.sgi-usa.org

Interweave at Channing: UU Church. A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643

Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congrgation. Rabbi Elyse Wechterman. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. www.agudasma.org

Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900

Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence.

331-6070

Meditation: Gay men’s meditation experience. Relax and connect. Fee applies. Third Tuesday. Cranston. 7-8pm. 944-0723

Temple Emanu-El: Sessions Street & Morris Avenue, Providence. A welcoming conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 3311616. www.teprov.org

Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. www.mgc.org Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage & commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Sandra D. Fitz-Henry. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 4311-4742 Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes & Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. nccucc@ newportcongregationalchurch.org Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800 The Pub Church: A church that meets in a pub! Open & Affirming.

Location may change. Saturday. 5pm.The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com

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Temple Habonim: A warm, welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 245-6536. www.templehabonim.org Temple Sinai: A welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Peter Stein, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. www.templesinairi.org Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 No Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org. www.unitarianchurchfr.org Unitarian Society of Fairhaven (MA): 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081 Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. www.uusouthcountyri.org

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United Church of Christ: Coalition for LGBT concerns. Contact Ray Bradley. 13 Steven Circle, South Kingstown. 782-3871

RI Association of Gay Professionals: Professional networking and philanthropy. 453-9276. gayprofessionalnetworkofri@gmail.com

Westminster Unitarian/Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933

RI Lesbian Social Club: Social gatherings for women. 272-2962. heylari@yahoo.com

Social Organizations

RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children.

Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com

Bisexual Resource Center: 29 Stanhope Street, Boston, MA. (617) 424-9595. www.biresource.net Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. www.biversity.org Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman.” www.biwomenboston.org Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and-affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome.

Age-restricted. bearsoceanstate-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate Bridgewater State College GLBT Alumni Group: Contact Kenneth Hayes (‘91). khayesbbc@msn.com. www.bridgew.edu Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGYA): (508) 778-7744 CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. . corismainfo@comcast.net. www.corismagroup.org Defenders/Providence: Leather/Levi club. Third Sunday. 6pm. PO Box 41153, Providence, RI 02940 Feminist Voices: Women’s chorus. www.feministvoices.com Gay Lesbian Alliance of Newport County Etc. (GLANCE): Social and entertainment events. glance1234@hotmail.com Gay Men’s Meditation Group: Fee applies.Third Thursday. 7-8pm. 225-8149 Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. First Monday. RI Pride Office,1005 Main Street, #1105, Pawtucket. All welcome. PO Box 6583, Providence, RI 02904. www.icriprov.org Lesbian Writers Group: Writing exercises, support. No critiquing or workshopping. Free. Rochambeau Library, Russian or Computer room.

708 Hope Street, Providence. Monday 7-8:30pm Men’s Card Group: Contact John. 261-9715. johninprov@gmail.com Men’s Gay Camping: In RI, CT and MA. Gatherings organized from tents to RVs during spring, summer and fall. 277-0075. gaycamping@gmx.com Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.MixedBorders.com Opera Club: Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. Enjoy hearing and attending. Dave, BrettCornellpi4@aol.com Pawtuxet Pride: GLBTQ folks & friends in Pawtuxet Village (Cranston and beyond). 345-1264. EDZL@aol.com

RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, RI 02901. Office: 1005 Main Street #1105 Pawtucket. 467-2130. info@prideri.com. www.prideri.com RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 40 and older. Second Sunday. 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational?

Refreshing discussion.

Fourth Saturday. Seekonk restaurant. http://skeptics.meetup.com/133/ RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBTQ seniors. 235 Promenade Street, Suite 500, Box 18, Providence, RI 02908. 528-3259. sageriinfo@gmail.com SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of south eastern MA and RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com Trans Queer RI: Friendship, fun activities and support for transgender, queer & like-minded people. Gatherings third Sunday. trans.queer.ri@gmail.com T.W.I.S.T. Project: Program for gay and bisexual men in Fall River/New Bedford area. Drop-in center, referrals, condom distribution, social groups. Coffee night Thursday 7-9pm. (508) 672-0378 UNISONG: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. jlglass53@aol.com. www.unisong.net WomenRIsing: Feminist chorus. Director Nancy Rosenberg. Contact@ womenrisingchorus.org. www.womenrisingchorus.org Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT people interested in vintage & specialty cars. sisherwood@aol.com. www.yankeelcc.com Sports PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/ teams in Boston area. (617) 937-5858. www.pridesportsboston.com Boston Gay Basketball League: (617) 937-5858 ext. 2. www.bgbl.com RI GALA Bowling: Sunday 6pm. East Providence Lanes, Newport Avenue, East Providence. Contact Bruce or Bill. 397-3803 or 828-5587.

Monday night women’s bowling league. Contact Pat. 451-2188

Welcoming LGBT professionals and their friends

Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org Queer Book Club: Third Wednesday 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. queerbookclub@gmail.com Raging Grannies: Women “of a certain age” working toward a more peaceful, equitable society with song, humor & passion. Will sing for rallies & events. jlglass53@aol.com

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A membership organization focused on: • Shared Member Contact Information • Professional Networking • Philanthropic Causes • Member Benefits

For more information, please contact: Phil Laffey at 401-727-4100, visit RI AGP on Facebook or email us at info@riagp.com

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Royal Court Bowling League: 9pm Wednesdays. Woonsocket Hill Bowl. 767-2110

Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown Univeristy for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown.edu or lgbtq@brown.edu

Big Gay Al’s Duckpin Bowling League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes.

Tuesday 6:30pm. Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri.

831-6940. www.bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com

Bryant Pride: Bryant University Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Student Association. 232-6389

FLAG (For Lesbians and Gays) Football: Boston-based recreational football club. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. www.flagflagfootball.com Northeastern Nitro Football: Professional women’s football team.

Members of the Women’s Football Alliance. Practices held in Bethel, CT. Contact Amy Manfred or Carley Pesente. amymanfred@yahoo. com or linebackergirl56@aol.com RI/S.E. MA Flag Football: Saturday 10am. All levels and genders welcome. mbs1994ever@yahoo.com Boston Pride Hockey: (617) 937-5858 Ext. 7. www.bostonpridehockey.org Ice Hockey for Women: Contact Gail Wickstrom. gwick@kersur.net Rondeaus Kickboxing: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com Main Street Martial Arts: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672. www.mainstma.org Chiltern Mountain Club: New England’s LGBT outdoor recreation club. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org Boston Gay Rowers: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org Boston Ironsides Rugby Football Club: www.bostonironsides.org Frontrunners Rhode Island: Running Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Thursday 6pm. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Contact Brian. 7517643. bripm@cox.net Frontrunners Boston Running Group: Saturday morning walk/ run along the Charles River. 10am. Meet in front of Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org OutRyders Skiing: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. brian@outryders.org. www.outryders.org Boston Strikers Soccer Club: Non-profit, social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment (617) 937-5858 Ext. 9. www.bostonstrikers.com Renaissance City Softball League: New players and boosters always welcome. (226) 7771-642. rcsl_commish@cox.net. www. providencesoftball.org Beantown Softball League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in 4 divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and two recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com LANES (Liquid Assets New England Swimming): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org Tennis-4-All: Boston, MA area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org Cambridge Boston Volleyball Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. (617) 633-2180. www.GayVolleyball.net Ocean State Pride Volleyball League: Adult co-ed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com East Coast Wrestling Club: 467-6737.(617) 937-5858 ext. 6. ecwc@ juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance (BCC/GSA): Steven Camara, Advisor. 774-357-2391. BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree Street, Fall River, MA

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CCRI Triangle Alliance: Student & staff GLBTQ group meets on Flanagan and Liston campuses. 455-6065 COLAGE: Support and social activities for children of LGBT parents. Third Saturday 10:30am-12pm. Gordon School, East Providence. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. vjutras5@gmail.com. www.colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-island-chapter/ Fitchburg State College GLBT Alliance: Social support group for students. One-in-Ten and Friends. 978-665-3164. sfranzemn@fsc.edu Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-2535 or (800)-399-PEER S.A.F.E (Sexual Advocacy for Everyone): Roger Williams University LGBTQ & allies group. Weekly meeting in Intercultural Center. Speakers, social and awareness events. Pride week in April. saferwu03@gmail.com Salve Regina University Gay Straight Lesbian Bisexual Alliance (GSLBA): 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Sister Johnelle. Lucianij@salve.edu SeaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership): Bi-weekly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. SeaQuel@Prysm. us. myspace.com/seaQuel S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks.

(866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org University of RI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer & Questioning (LGBTIQ2): Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@advance.uri.edu URI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894 Youth Pride Inc./The Way Out: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23. Drop-in center at 743 Westminster Street, Providence. Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm, Friday 4-8pm, Saturday 10am-5pm. The Way Out peer support group Tuesday 5pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tuesday 5:30pm.

Ask about 14-and-under day. 421-5626. kerri@youthpride-ri.org. www.youthpride-ri.org Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. Network/LaRed. advocate@tnir.org Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-54337 Foster parents needed: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 766-0900, ext. 1213 Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4318. www.childrensfriendri.org Foster parents sought: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305

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Behavioral health outpatient services: Fall River area. S.T.E.P.: (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T.: (508) 672-0378

Wednesday 6:45pm. Met School, 325 Public Street, Providence. 7517571. pflagprovidence@verizon.net. www.pflagprovidence.org

Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057

RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 4948100. 467-9940

Catholic Parents Outreach: Always Our Children, first and third Tuesday. Sacred Heart Convent, 395 Chestnut Street, Springfield, MA. (413) 736-6803

RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. RI Relay 711.

COLAGE (Children of Gays): A national movement of people with one or more LGBT parents. Social activities, education & advocacy.

Third Saturday. rhodeisland@colage.org. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. vjutras5@gmail.com

Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org

Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@comcast.net. www.compassftm.org Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700 Day One (Formerly Sexual Assault and Trauma Resource Center of RI): Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/abuse & incest.

24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100 Dementia and Early Alzheimer’s LGBTQ support group: Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown, 200 Turner Road, Middletown.

847-6181

Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish).

No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. Contact Aida. 861-6191 ext.

121. amanduley@sojournerri.org Sojourner House: Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 861-6191 Straight Spouse Support: Straight spouse professional offers peer support and referrals. Contact Jane Harris. (413) 625-6636. jcmalinski48@gmail.com Straight Spouses Group: For information on groups and online support. www.straightspouse.org

Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline.

782-3990

TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, genderqueer & intersex people. Borderlands peer group first and third Tuesday 7-9pm. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org

Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. outreach@gayfathersboston. org. www.gayfathersboston.org

Transgender Support Group: Cape Cod (508) 362-4435

Gay Fathers Support Group: Rhode Island. Fee applies. Contact Tom Fronczak, LICSW. 431-2953 Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project: Support, info, shelter. (800) 832-1901. www.gmdvp.org Gay Officers Action League/New England (GOAL NE): Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 587, Boston, MA 02117. (617) 376-3612. info@goalne.org. www.goalne.org Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee.

Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@gayshare.org. www.gayshare.org Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108 Kathy’s Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Meets monthly in Providence. Partners and caregivers welcome. 888-5KATHYS

Trans Family New England: Gives parents and family members of transgender people a safe place to explore impact of gender identity of their loved ones and to connect with other families. second Tuesday.

Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org Trans Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. Last Wednesday. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org TransYouth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org. www.imatyfa.org Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263

Elizabeth A. Coderre, LMHC Board Certified Diplomate in Professional Counseling

Lesbian Moms of Southern NE: Discussion, support and activity list for lesbian mothers. foradancer63@aol.com. www.topica.com/listsLMOSNE Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men.

Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+.Taunton Thursday & New Bedford first Tuesday. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com

Psychotherapy with Individuals, Couples and Groups

National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org

Most Insurances Accepted

PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Greater Providence chapter. Serves all of RI and southeastern MA. First

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194 Waterman Street Providence, RI 02906

401-487-0024 401-765-4519

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Worth a Look: The Lit Chick

HBO’s new series, “Looking” is worth a look. The halfhour show follows three 20-to-30-something friends (played

by Jonathan Groff, Frankie Alvarez, and Murray Bartlett) as they navigate life’s ups and downs. The series premiered earlier this year as a self-proclaimed comedy, but it feels more like a drama. The most striking thing about the series is how secondary gay identity is to the storyline. It has been described by critics as being a post-gay gay show. Although the characters are gay men, the show’s focus is on who they are beyond that identity. The characters are easy to follow and even easier to look at. One is a young professional struggling with introducing a new boyfriend to his parents while being seduced by his Aussie boss. Another is an older restauranteur anxious about opening a new business. The third is a scraggly and struggling painter who risks his long-term relationship for a chance at a big break. Binge watch the first season on hbogo.com.

If you were disappointed that “Blue Is the Warmest Color” didn’t turn out to be this generation’s “Claire of The Moon,” you may still want to check out the graphic novel on which the film was based. The novel, which took artist and author Julie Maroh eight years to complete, is a poignant and heartbreaking tale of a young girl learning how to be herself by loving someone else. The novel was originally written in French,

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but the translation is virtually seamless, and Maroh’s use of color in her artwork draws the reader in by complementing the story flawlessly. “Blue” almost becomes a character in itself. The truth is, Maroh says more in two pages than the film director was able to say in 45 minutes. It’s a quick read, but worth it. “Blue is the Warmest Color” is available at Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, and at Amazon.com.

And finally, queer queen of comedy Poppy Champlin is at her best in her newest DVD release, “Poppy Champlin Live.” The Rhode Island native and URI graduate does not disappoint on stage.

This hour-long performance is a mix of new material and old favorites, including jokes, stories, and even bird calls.

The show also includes several original musical numbers, such as “When You’re a Dyke,” “I’m Telling You I’m Eatin’,” and “I’m a Gay Woman.” My favorite part of Poppy’s shows is when she hits the mark and laughs at her own jokes, which is often. Poppy always looks like she’s having fun, and the audience is along for the ride. From her stories of strapping it on at a recent gay cruise, to watching spiders do the soft-shoe shuffle on the walls of her Rhode Island home, Poppy shines through on this DVD. If you enjoy standup comedy at all, you should order it. Pick up Poppy’s DVD online at www.PoppyChamplin.com.

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ZERO COST Free condoms to protect against HIV and STDs are now available throughout Rhode Island.

Visit health.ri.gov/safersex for a list of participating sites or call 401-222-5960.

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