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From the Editor’s Desk As a member of the incorporating committee for the soon-to-be-realized Rhode Island LGBT Community Center, it is my great pleasure to invite you all to come to a community meeting and hear about it! Actually, there will be two meetings; on the 13th and 16th of January at Bell St. Chapel in Providence’s West End. At these meetings, we will be introducing our newly formed Founding Board of Directors and providing you with lots of information on our progress to date. This has been a lengthy process of creating budget projections, bylaws and policies, and filing endless paperwork with the state. But now we are getting to the fun part, where we can start to imagine our space and what it will contain. For now, all we know for certain is that the Center will be in a location that is safe, visible and convenient to all. This is a very exciting idea whose time has come, and I hope you will be there to help us make it a reality.
I hope that you will also join us at some of our upcoming events. I’m thinking of our holiday party at Antiques and Interiors (see the calendar or our ad on page 9) or our Distribution party at DeVille’s. The next one is January 27, 3-6 p.m. Our friendly bunch of volunteers and friends would love to meet you. As the year draws to a close, many of us take the time to support what is meaningful to us. What brings us joy. What we want to see more of in the world. For some of you, we hope the answer is Options! As you are donning your gay apparel, please take a moment to remember your community newsmagazine with a contribution. We do it all for you, but we can’t do it without you! Feel free to be as generous as possible, but remember also that evey little bit helps.
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The Transgender Day of Remembrance The RI COLAGE Chapter is continu(TDoR) Planning Committee would like to ing to grow and come together on the third extend a message of thanks to RI’s LGBTQ -TDoR Planning Committee, TGI Net- Saturday of every month in East Providence, and Allied communities for participating in work of RI, and Youth Pride, Inc. RI. The upcoming December and January the 14th Annual International Transgender COLAGE MEETINGS are scheduled for Day of Remembrance Event on No12/15 and 1/19 from 10:30am vember 28th at Bell Street Chapel. to 12:00pm. COLAGE is a naq q This year marked the fourth year tional movement of children, the TDoR committee has planned youth, and adults with one or Rhode Island’s event. TDoR holds more LGBTQ parent(s) working special significance with the 2012 to build community and seeking addition of gender identity and social justice through youth emexpression to RI’s Hate Crime powerment, leadership developMonitoring Law. This year’s event ment, education, and advocacy. included speakers, music, and a We invite youth ages 8 and up candlelight ceremony memorializto come and meet others whose ing those we have lost. The ceremoparent(s) identify as LGBTQ. To ny was followed by refreshments, ensure that it is a kid centered afa panel representing different asfinity group, families are asked to pects of the transgender commudrop off their child and return by nity and a mini resource fair. We noon to pick up. To RSVP or to are grateful to Bell Street Chapel receive more information: email and our community partners, TGI Veronica at vjutras5@gmail.com Network, Youth Pride Inc., and SoSincerely, journer House, and a contribution Veronica Jutras editor@optionsri.org • P.O. Box 6406 from the Gordon School which • Providence, RI 02940 • helped make this event possible.
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News Briefs Can You Help Youth Pride, Inc.?
Fenway Health Releases Video During Transgender Awareness Week
Youth Pride is looking to add to their database of The LifeSkills project of The Fenway Institute and the Boundless and Living Well mental health providers. If you or someone you know series at Fenway Health has hosted the debut screening of Fenway’s “I AM: Trans would like to be included in their referral list, please People Speak.” Directed and produced by Jesse Begenyi of Anchors Aweigh Mevisit this site: http://tinyurl.com/ypi-providers dia and the Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition (MTPC), the Fenway The form can also be found under the Support Ser- video is the latest contribution to the national “I AM: Trans People Speak” camvices page on YPI’s website at www.youthprideri.org paign. The “I AM” project raises awareness about the diversity that exists within transgender communities. It gives a voice to transgender individuals, as well as their families, friends, and allies.
Research Survey Underway A new survey is being conducted that focuses on microaggressions (everyday discrimination, intentional or unintentional) against transgender and gender nonconforming individuals. It is research funded by the Lesbian Health Fund and participants are compensated with a gift card to amazon.com. To participate in the survey, visit http://bit.ly/ObfNJO.
Kyrsten Sinema is Nation’s First Openly Bisexual Congresswoman Representing Arizona’s ninth district, Kyrsten Sinema has been elected as the nation’s first openly bisexual congresswoman, the Associated Press reports.
Affordable Housing for LGBT Seniors in the Heart of the Gayborhood The John C. Anderson Apartments in Philadelphia will be the nation’s first urban LGBT-friendly, low-income senior housing in the nation. John C. Anderson was a City Council member from 1979 until his death in 1983, and was instrumental in the pas-
sage of Philadelphia’s civil rights bill for sexual minority individuals. Financing for the $19.5 million project was provided through a Philadelphia HOME grant, Pennsylvania Redevelopment Assistance Capital Programfunds, and Low-Income Housing Tax
Uganda Moves Forward on Anti-Gay Bill As we go to press, Uganda’s speaker of parliament is promising a controversial anti-homosexuality bill will pass by the end of the year. A new coalition led by the former state minister for ethics says the country is prepared to deal with any international fallout. Originally introduced in 2009, the proposal has drawn widespread international criticism. But Clare Byarugaba, the co-coordinator of the Coalition on Human Rights and Constitutional Law, says her coalition is looking to activate local human rights groups to speak out in opposition. “We call upon the international community not to speak out in the media about these issues. Whatever actions that are going to be done, should be done diplomatically, with the relevant stakeholders of this country,” she says. “And let the Ugandan community and the Ugandan human rights organizations and allies do the groundwork.”
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Credits. The project is spearheaded by wellknown gay rights activist Mark Segal, who founded Gay Youth in 1970, the nation’s first organization to deal with gay teens and endangered LGBT youth issues.
Gay Marriage Will Boost Economy By $166 Million, Study Finds The Williams Institute reported last month that wedding spending by same-sex couples in the three newest states to approve gay marriage may generate more than $166 million over the next three years. Economists have followed gay marriage’s impact on the wedding industry and local economies since 2004. In July, CNN Money reported that the legalization of gay marriage in New York boosted New York City’s economy by $259 million in just one year.
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Calendar Got a big event coming up? Let us know about it! Send your listing by the 10th of the month preceding to calendar@optionsri.org, and we’ll see that it gets into the edition.
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World AIDS Day.
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TransPartners of New England, 6:30-8:30 p.m. The meeting location is withheld for participant privacy. Please e-mail partners@ tginetwork.org for more information.
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PFLAG of Greater Providence meeting, 6:45-8:45 p.m. The Met School (Justice Building), 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571.
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The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents “Happy HoliGays” 7 p.m. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Buy tickets at the door or at www.eventbrite.com.
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Borderlands, 7-9 p.m. A peer-led support group open to transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, and intersex people and to those who are exploring whether one of these identities is a good description of their experience. Meeting location is withheld for participant privacy. See info@tginetwork.org for more information.
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The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents “Happy HoliGays” 7 p.m. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Buy tickets at the door or at www.eventbrite.com.
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Big Gay Shopping Day to benefit Options! 3-6 p.m. at Antiques & Interiors, 65 Ashburton St., Providence. Beautiful store, with beautiful things, tasty refreshments, and holiday cheer. Tickets are $10, and can be purchased at www.eventbrite.com.
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The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents “Happy HoliGays” 4 p.m. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Buy tickets at the door or at www.eventbrite.com.
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The Stable Toy Drive, noon-8 p.m. Please bring an unwrapped toy or a Target gift card for the children of AIDS Care Ocean State. Food and fun with your hosts Miss Kitty Litter, BB Hayes, and Michael Slade of the Stable. The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence.
John Kelley’s Thirsty Thursday Jingle-Tini Comedy Spectacular! Thursday December 20 7:30pm With Rhode Island’s Own Mark Shea, Christina Thomas From the Laugh In Peace Comedy Tour Jennifer Munroe Nathans And New England Top Comics Mike “The Deaf Comic” Murray and Cory Guglietti Hosted by John Kelley! Tickets Only $10 at the door or on line at www.ricomedyconnection.com The Comedy Connection 39 Warren Ave East Providence RI (401) 438-8383
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12 RI Pride’s Holiday Party, 7 p.m. Free. All are welcome to celebrate the season with food, drink, and friends. 1005 Main Street, #1105, Pawtucket. 467-2130. 14 All Female Comedy Show, 9-11 p.m. Indigo Lounge, 599 Tiogue Ave., Coventry. $5 cover. Indigopizza.com. 615-9600. 15
COLAGE for children, youth and adults with one or more LGBT parents. 10:30 - noon. Socializing and leadership development. Email vjutras@gmail.com.
20 Martha Stewart Gay Bingo! 6-9:30 p.m. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612
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Providence, RI 02903 16 “Our Commitment Unites Us:” Join the Board of the RI LGBTQ Center to learn about plans to create a visible, safe, inclusive, welcoming shared place for the RI LGBTQ community. 5:30-7 p.m. at Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell Street, Providence. For more information or to get involved and to RSVP, contact RILGBTQCenter@ gmail.com
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Stop in and see us on Sunday afternoon, December 9. Enjoy a glass of holiday cheer and some savory bites, and maybe buy something for yourself, for your home, or for a gift. You’ll be supporting Options Newsmagazine! Antiques and Interiors will donate a portion of all sales directly to Options. $10 ticket can be purchased at www. eventbrite.com. We will share proceeds from this with Youth Pride, Inc.
Sunday December 9th, 3:00 - 6:00 p.m. Antiques & interiors • 65 Ashburton street • Providence, ri 02904 • www.AntiquesAndinteriors.biz
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The Yawgoog Incident Kim Stowell
The motto of the Boy Scouts is “Be prepared,” but nothing could have prepared Tavis Morello for what happened to him on that Tuesday afternoon in 1999. Morello, an Eagle Scout, had a summer job at Camp Yawgoog, the 100-year-old Boy Scout camp in Hopkinton, RI. The teen was called into the camp office of Scout Official Gary Savignano and asked point blank if he was gay.
saying that the exchange in Savignano’s office had been a casual conversation – “Kind of like if someone asked you, ‘I heard you were at the movies Monday night, is that true?’” Antonides
“I reflexively answered truthfully and honestly,” Morello recalls. “I said yes without even thinking twice.” In the ensuing conversation, of which there are two distinct versions, the 16-year-old Morello was told that there had been an allegation of molestation made earlier that week against a leader of a visiting East Providence troop, and the camp needed to take some precautions to protect its image. Tavis was told that he could no longer work at Camp Yawgoog. Beyond that, he was told he could no longer be a Scout. “You must understand that as a gay individual, you can’t be a member of the Boy Scouts of America,” Savignano said, “and if you’re not a member of the Boy Scouts, you can’t work on my staff.” Morello remembers handing over his Eagle Scout card. He went to a storage area, took off his nametag, and changed out of his uniform and into plain clothes. “I was sobbing the whole time,” he said. “They offered to have a chaplain speak to me, but I needed to get out of there.” His grief and sadness were compounded when Lyle Antonides, director of the Narragansett Council of the Boy Scouts of America, was quoted in the local paper as
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added that it’s not camp policy to ask campers or employees if they’re gay, and that the camp had never kicked out a scout for being gay, despite the Boy Scout policy. He denied any connection between his conversation with Morello and the allegations against the East Providence troop leader. Finally, he said, “I think this young man is just trying to get a headline.” To say that this case rocked the town of South Kingstown and the RI Boy Scouts organization is an understatement, but the real victim was Morello himself. “I loved Scouting,” he said. “It was such a big part of my life, and I was proud of being an Eagle
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Scout. My family was proud of me, too, and they loved me for who I was. I had never had an incident of homophobia at my high school or in town. So it came as a real shock. And then to have the very leaders that I looked up to and respected lie about it in the papers was even worse. I trusted them, and they were calling me a liar.” The day after the news broke, some 90 members of the Yawgoog staff staged a sit-in in support of Morello, forcing the temporary closing of the camp for the first time in its history. They handed out flyers that said, “As fellow scouts and staff men and women, we cannot sit by idly while this individual’s human rights are violated.’’ Several staff members started a letter-writing campaign and contacted the federal Equal Employment Opportunities Commission. A Yawgoog employee spoke to the media, on condition of anonymity, about staffers being scared, no longer speaking their minds so freely. “Terms such as ‘gay lover’ are being hurled like epithets by some,” said the staffer. “The Boy Scout leadership is trying to cover up the truth.” In the next week, the teenager at the center of the storm contacted GLAD as well as the Rhode Island affiliate of the ACLU, whose staff found the situation troubling. ACLU Executive Director Steven Brown is quoted as saying, “Based on the information I’ve heard, this person was terminated because he acknowledged he was gay. And that’s illegal.” By the end of the summer, and with the specter of litigation hovering over them, the Narragansett Council had reversed its deci-
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sion and offered to reinstate Morello, both as an employee and as an Eagle Scout. This put them at odds with the national organization, which issued a statement reaffirming their position of not allowing gays. It was a policy, they said, based on Scout law and on a clause in the Scout oath, which was written in 1910. “The oath says a Scout must be morally straight,” the statement read, “and Scout law requires the young men to be clean in thought, word and deed.” For the Boy Scouts of America, the case was closed. For Morello, however, the trouble was just beginning.
An Organic Tragedy From his law office on the 44th floor of One Financial Plaza in Boston, the now 30-year-old Morello recounted his experience in the days, months and years follow-
ing that summer in an interview with Options last month.
tried to project this image of myself as impermeable.”
“I was torn apart,” he began. “On the one hand, I was sort of determined that this was not going to affect me. I was a strong person. I was an Eagle Scout! But at the same time, there was this insidious message that there was something defective about me.” That message went straight to his core, delivered Morello today as it was by adults he trusted. And so, where he had once felt free to let his gay flag fly, he now began in subtle ways to redefine himself. “I built up an armor,” he explained. “I
Entering the University of Pennsylvania the following fall, Morello distanced himself from the gay community. He laughs somewhat bitterly now, recalling his attitude toward any public display of samesex affection. “I didn’t understand why people wanted to go to Gay Pride events. I resented them all for being so gay all the time.”
A Mom’s Story Today I stood with my community to see the Veteran’s Day parade in honor of current and former members of the armed services. I waved, cheered, and thanked the men and women who marched in the parade for their courage and the sacrifices they have made that afford me my freedom. I watched them march by in their perfectly starched uniforms, worn with pride and dignity. I thought about my son, Matthew, who was also proudly wearing his Cub Scout uniform in the parade. And I wondered how many of these service men and women had themselves participated in Scouting. Matthew is a member of the Boy Scouts of America and he has earned the rank of Webelos Scout. Scouting has provided Matthew with knowledge and skills in several areas as well as the qualities of leadership, citizenship, and the importance of character and integrity. The activities that Matthew participates in as a Webelos Scout offers him several opportunities for praise which has helped to develop his self-esteem and confidence. He has
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learned how to overcome challenges through the use of teamwork and critical thinking. Matthew has participated in several other activities; however, Scouting has remained the one activity that Matthew chooses to engage in consistently and with great enthusiasm. I am proud of Matthew and all that he has accomplished during his time as a Scout. Each belt loop, pin, and badge symbolizes the effort that Matthew has put forth over the last several years as he has worked his way through the ranks. Soon, Matthew will earn the Arrow of Light Award – the highest rank in Cub Scouting. I am so proud of his success, but I have a sick feeling in my gut. Scouting is such a positive influence in his life, but I wonder if I am making a wise choice as his parent to let him continue participating. Why do I feel so conflicted about Matthew participating in Scouting? I am a lesbian, and the Boy Scouts of America are teaching our children that members of the LGBT community are second-class citizens by discriminating against homo-
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sexuals. I wonder how Matthew will be affected when he learns that this organization does not support his family’s lifestyle. I have raised my son to accept the differences within each person he meets and that our unique qualities are what makes each one of us special. How do I explain to Matthew that what makes his mom and many of our friends special is considered unethical and morally wrong by the Boy Scouts of America? How do I convince Matthew that I support all he has accomplished as a Scout even though I don’t support the policies of the organization? These are complicated questions – imagine trying to explain this to a child. I have decided that I will continue to support and encourage Matthew’s participation with the Boy Scouts of America. While I do not support the policies of the organization, I am confident that I have instilled strong values and morals in my son. I know that if and when the time comes that I have to answer these difficult questions, he will be empowered enough to make this decision for himself. q
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toll on his emotional well-being at the time. It stings to this day. “I didn’t even know how much I was hurting. I missed out on the opportunity to be who I really was.” In law school, Morello began to come out of his shell. “I knew that I wanted to be a lawyer because of what had happened to me that summer and, knowing that, I began to feel that I could hold my head up. I slowly
He knows now that the experience at Yawgoog was the most traumatic event of his life, and that it took a real toll on his emotional well-being at the time. It stings to this day. realized that it was they who were wrong, not I.” It was with this new-found confidence that he began to send a card each year at Christmas to the man who had fired him 3.5 x 2.275. and lied about it. Continued on page 26
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Bless You The Episcopal Diocese of of Rhode Island welcomes its new Bishop. He, in turn, welcomes the new Episcopal liturgy for life-long same-sex covenants Jim Seavor
This liturgy is not written in stone. It is a “provisional” liturgy. For the next three years it will be studied to determine how well it is working, its effect on the church – both nationally and internationally – and if changes have to be made.
We have gathered here today to witness ___ and ___ publically committing themselves to one another and, in the name of the Church, to bless their union; a relationship of mutual fidelity and steadfast love forsaking all others, holding one another in tenderness and respect, in strength and bravery, as long as they live.
When asked if he’s talked with other religious leaders in Rhode Island about the step the church has taken, Bishop Knisely said only, “They know.”
So begins “The Witnessing and Blesing of a Lifelong Covenant” the provisional liturgy for same gender relationships passed by the Episcopal Church at its General Convention in July. It officially went into effect December 2.
What has been the reaction within the church? In informal conversations, Bishop Knisely says people have been both troubled and elated. He points out the conversation to create the liturgy began 10 years ago, and since then there has been a remarkable acceptance of same-gender couples. (In the recent election, three states voted in favor of gay marriage.)
Its use is not mandatory: a bishop can ban it in his or her diocese, and a priest can decline to use it without fear of being disciplined. Here in Rhode Island, Bishop Nicholas Knisely, who became the state’s 13th Episcopal bishop November17, had already approved the liturgy’s first use when Options talked with him while he was Bishop-elect. He stresses that the liturgy is not a marriage ceremony. The church defines marriage as being between a man and a woman. The liturgy is, as its title states, a blessing of the lifelong covenant made between two people of the same gender. It was created for couples who have been united in civil unions or, where legal, married, although the ceremony has elements similar to a marriage ceremony: vows are made and rings are blessed. When asked about its use for couples in long-term, committed relationships who have not used either of the available ceremonies, Bishop Knisely says he would want any priest to ask why they have not taken advantage of those rites.
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O.K., you’re interested. You’re in a committed relationship and want it blessed. But how do you find a priest to talk to? Bishop Knisely suggests going to a local congregation and inquiring. (Options lists a number of welcoming Episcopal churches in its Resources section.) Chances are if the person you talk to is among those who are not using the liturgy, he or she will know someone who is. The blessing wasn’t the only action taken by the General Convention that affects the LGBT community. The convention also officially added “transgender” to the list of reasons that cannot be used to deny ordination to the priesthood. Bishop Knisely says the church has had transgender priests for a long time, and took this action to send the message that transgender people are full members of the Episcopal Church. q
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After meeting in 1980 as young law students, Lise Iwon and Peg Laurence shared a life filled with love, laughter, family and close friends, travel, and civic engagement. Partners in the law as well as in life, they built a successful legal practice, Laurence & Iwon, Attorneys at Law, in Wakefield. They were married in Massachusetts five years ago.
Though Rhode Island has a longstanding rule of recognizing marriages validly performed in other jurisdictions, whether any property that Lise inherited would be exempt from Rhode Island’s estate tax was an open question. It was also unclear whether any joint property that passed to Lise would be treated as owned one-half by Peg for tax purposes.
“Tax equity is one really critical piece of full equality. Spouses who build a life and assets together should not be penalized – piling insult on injury – when one of them dies.” -- Nancy Fisher Chudacoff
When Peg fell ill and passed away unexpectedly in March of this year, Lise was devastated. In the midst of grieving the loss, she was socked by the news that if the Rhode Island Division of Taxation refused to recognize their marriage, she would be forced to pay hundreds of thousands of dollars in estate taxes to inherit the assets Peg had left to her through her will.
That their 32-year commitment and legal marriage could be disrespected in their home state only heaped insult upon injury. “It was a really difficult thing to have to go through and focus on when I lost my life partner and soul mate rather suddenly and then be told that my marriage wasn’t going to be recognized,” says Lise.
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A veteran of multiple gay rights battles in Rhode Island -- both in the courtroom and at the State House -- Lise decided to be proactive about having her marriage to Peg respected and recognized. She sought and won a declaratory judgment from the Rhode Island Division of Taxation that same-sex couples in Rhode Island who are married or joined in civil union are allowed to take the same marital deductions that married opposite-sex couples are able to take for purposes of estate taxes. Thus, Lise and other surviving same-sex spouses who live in Rhode Island will be treated the same as their non-gay peers when inheriting a deceased spouse’s estate. Prior
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Gay Guy on the Loose (Contributors Annie & Melanie, our Lesbians on the Loose, are away on a cruise this month [a lesbian cruise, of course!], so Ryan Francis graciously filled in)
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Over 200 people attended the annual Legends! Calendar Event at Providence’s Colosseum Nightclub on Sunday, November 4th. Local drag sensations, Kitty Litter, Payton St James, LaDiva Jonz, Sabrina Blaze and many others took to the stage, aiming to make a major difference in the lives of those in need. For $20, guests were treated to a cabaretstyle performance of Las Vegas renditions after a personalized calendar signing at the door. 100% of the proceeds from the event directly benefited AIDS Care Ocean State, a major organizer of the evening. The group aims to give quality housing, case management, medical and nursing care, and prevention to adults, families, adolescents and children who are affected by or at risk for HIV infection.
Degan worked closely with Daniel Gagnon, a local photographer, to photograph performers and edit images used in the calendar, which parodies various Las Vegas icons such as Liza Minnelli, Dolly Parton, Cher and Elvis. In addition, over 15 gay-friendly sponsors from around the area joined together to sponsor the event. Degan also assisted with other major facets of the evening, including the location, food, beverages, sponsorships and advertisement. “It was a lot of work, but I certainly enjoyed doing it,” Degan said. The Colosseum and its owners, David, Anthony and Erik, created a memorable ambiance for the night, ranging from champagne bottles chilling on ice at the door to chocolate-covered strawberries and effect lighting. Mr. Gay Rhode Island, Joe Lazzarini, echoed this and many other sentiments of the night. “[The drag performers] are indeed legends of the community. What’s not to love about them?”
The evening was also a keynote event for Kitty Litter, one of Rhode Island’s most well-known and experienced drag performers. “There is nothing more enjoyable than making the crowd laugh for a good cause,” says Kitty, who teamed up with David Degan to oversee production of the event. “[The premise] is simple,” noted Degan. “15 drag queens for one big cause.”
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This Month in Jessica Cinquegrana
December 1982 – The big news is that the social scene in Rhode Island changed dramatically (at least for gay men). Two new large discos opened in Providence: SPECTRUM and 40 EAST.
December 1984 – A lead story reports on the 12/26 bombing of 40 EAST; that there appeared to be little activity relating to it. Whether the bombing of 40 EAST was motivated by homophobia or not, “no retreat means no ground lost in a battle for our rights to live and work and play as we choose.”
RI Project AIDS, 2003 Mardi Gras, Feb. 1997
December 1989 – Featured is a story on the first documented U.S. homosexual rights organization, the Society for Human Rights, which was granted a charter by the State of Illinois on December 10, 1924. The officers were arrested in 1925 for sending “obscene” material through the mail. Although the case was dismissed, the short-lived society disbanded.
December 1990 – On December 2, 1990 at the Bell Street Chapel in Providence, about 35 representatives from nearly 20 gay, lesbian and bisexual groups from the area came together to address their common concerns and discuss areas where the community could work together. Among the issues discussed were ideas about organizing and where it could lead us, and whether it was possible for Rhode Island to finally have a gay community center.
December 1991
– For the fourth year, Rhode Island observed World AIDS Day with activities around the state that underlined that year’s theme, “Sharing the Challenge.” World AIDS Day is a December 1 observance designed to strengthen worldwide efforts to stop AIDS, open channels of communication, promote the exchange of information, and forge a spirit of social tolerance.
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December 1991 – “Lesbian and gay youth have an extremely high incidence of suicide,” stresses Elaine Charpentier, community outreach coordinator of The Samaritans. “We have testified in favor of the gay rights bill in Rhode Island,” she says proudly. “Around the holidays, people suffer from holiday blues.” The Samaritans have provided services to the Rhode Island community since 1977. December 1992 – A headline reads: It’s not too late – shop in the Free States! Readers are urged to “send RI politicians a message on December 5 – shop in a state that protects the civil rights of gays and lesbians. Then meet at the Rue de l’Espoir in Providence in the afternoon to tally the day’s receipts.” December 1992 – The Gayboy Nutcracker was let loose upon Rhode Island. The community was invited to discover the secret life of the Sugar Plum Fairy at this amateur theatrical – a new and queer holiday tradition. The hour-long Gayboy Nutcracker began at 7:30 p.m. on Saturday, December 19th at Providence’s Studio 33; proceeds benefited Sunrise House.
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December 1994 – Citing bias in its coverage of homosexual and AIDS issues, a well-organized coalition of gay, lesbian and AIDS activist groups mounted a demonstration against The Providence Journal-Bulletin. Several community leaders expressed the opinion that the paper had improved its news coverage on gay and lesbian issues, but that the editorial page and newspaper leaders continue to demonstrate homophobia.
December 1996 – Looking like Mae West in a Santa suit, comedian Cheril Vendetti made her return appearance at DeVille’s December 18th. “I love P-town,” she began, “The men love the men, the women love the women and straight people say, ‘Honey get the video camera!’” q
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Voices Not Straight. Not Gay. Just My Father’s Daughter. Mackenzie Schroth Bisexuality is one of the least understood and least accepted sectors of the LGBT community. Some people don’t even believe it exists. One person asked me this past weekend if I “go through phases” of liking men and women. As in, if I were to break up with a boyfriend, would I then go find a girl to date?
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My father, however, disagrees. I only recently came out to him. I was unsure if my commitment to LGBT rights made more sense to him after learning that I fit into that “B” part of the community. He simply responded, “It didn’t make a difference. You would have been passionate about it regardless.” His regard for me is unchanged by my activism or my sexuality.
My mother doesn’t understand how I can “like both.” At the beginning of my most recent relationship with a man, she was worried about my orientation.
“I don’t care,” he says. “I’m proud of you for your intense commitment to something you feel proud about. That’s perfectly fine with me.”
Wouldn’t it be unfair to him, I asked her, if I stopped dating him because I developed feelings for a girl? How would this be different from me developing feelings for another man? She had no answer for me.
In fact, I have changed his outlook on the LGBT community and made him more open-minded.
Luckily for me, my father is more understanding. Nothing against my mother, but I understand it can be a tough pill to swallow. It’s never easy for a parent to think about her child’s sexuality. I know both of my parents love me. I just appreciate having a parent who understands my perspective.
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She explains that they are proud of her for her accomplishments, but “in their mind, it does not directly affect [her] and that [she] shouldn’t get so worked up about it.”
My vocal activism is another difficult aspect about myself for my mother to accept. I was president of my university’s pride group for two years. She worries about people’s perspective of me. What if people think I’m gay? I won’t be able to find a man. I feel that she views me as straight, so she doesn’t understand why I care. Ironically, my father is the more traditional, right-wing of my parents. He’s a conservative, Born-Again Christian. Think about that for a minute. My family is not the only one who has reservations about LGBT activism. My close friend, and former secretary for Pride, said her parents give her “conflicting messages in regards to being a straight advocate for the LGBT community.”
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“It made me more aware of the illegitimacy of certain stereotypes,” he says. “Certain words that might have been acceptable when I was growing up are not acceptable to people now in the LGBT community. I’m more aware of the feelings of others, and how unintentionally offensive some of that lexicon I was using was.” He’s even become an advocate of his own, trying to change his friends’ behavior. My father sees me as a person, as his daughter. This is ideal to me. Being a bisexual woman, I don’t want people to define me by my sexual orientation. I want them to view me the same whether they see me interested in a man or in a woman. As my father summarized, it’s the goal of any minority group “to get to the point where people don’t care.” I’m an independent person. I don’t need people’s approval to feel good about myself. A lack of validation from others isn’t going to make me question my sexuality. I am, however, proud of my dad – and grateful to him – for being so accepting and supportive. q
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Cathy Robinson
The fabric of our country changed forever on Election Day as history was made by equality supporters in Rhode Island and all across the country. From local legislative and Congressional candidates, all the way up to President of the United States, individuals who embraced equal rights, recognition and respect for all Americans were resoundingly chosen to lead our state and nation. MERI and Fight Back RI are profoundly proud of and grateful to all the pro-equality candidates who stepped up this year to run for seats in the General Assembly. We’re especially appreciative of all the volunteers who turned out to make thousands of phone calls, knock on doors and do the work that needed to be done to help our candidates win. Thanks to the efforts of many, 2013 will see more pro-equality senators and representatives seated in the Assembly than at any other point in history – including five new allies in the State Senate. The pro-equality impact on this election was both significant and undeniable, and we’ll capitalize on the momentum from these historic wins as we move towards the 2013 General Assembly session. We eagerly anticipate working with new and long-time marriage equality supporters from both sides of the aisle when the Assembly returns in January. And while electoral wins certainly feel great, we have little time to rest on our laurels. Starting this month, we’ll be setting up phone banks in key legislative districts to begin lobbying legislators before the session begins. There couldn’t be a more important time to get involved, so please, call us at 941-2727 to join a volunteer effort near you. The 2012 elections proved that when we work together, we win. Your efforts on the phone now in these important months can make all the difference, so we hope to see you soon. MERI 118 N. Main St. Providence, RI 02903 www.marriageequalityri.org 941-2727 q
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Youth Pride Inc. is proud to be one of the member agencies of the Fund for Community Progress—an alliance of 26 organizations with the common mission of guaranteeing fairness and opportunity for all Rhode Islanders. The Fund for Community Progress coordinates workplace giving campaigns in an effort to raise unrestricted funds for all 26 organizations. Now is the time to start 2013 workplace campaigns. Do you work at a company that is currently not involved with the Fund for Community Progress? Are you interested in booking a presentation about workplace campaigns? Please call Kerri Kanelos (421-5626) or e-mail kerri@youthprideri. org for more information.
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Visible Lives SAGE/RI’s first health care conference, Visible Lives: Caring for LGBT Elders, was well attended and well received by a variety of health care providers. The day (October 24th) began with thoughtful welcoming comments from two of Rhode Island’s committed LGBT allies: Lt. Governor Elizabeth Roberts and RI’s First Lady Stephanie Chafee. Dr. Patricia Burbank, from URI’s School of Nursing, was the first presenter, and she offered a solid overview of the health care issues unique to LGBT elders. Marcia Blair, a retired public health educator, used clips from the powerful HBO movie “If These Walls Could Talk 2” to encourage attendees to explore and expand their awareness of LGBT elders and their often invisible lives. In recognition of the wide-spread lack of knowledge regarding transgender people, the conference agenda included two important presentations to address some of those gaps. Annie Kosar and Dr. Annie Russell, from URI’S LGBTQ Center, gave a lively and informative introduction to “Trans 101.” Rounding out this primer on transgender concerns, Joan Stratton, a social worker at High Point Treatment Center, generously shared her own story about her life before and after transitioning and her experience within the healthcare world. During lunch we viewed a brief and telling film clip “How Can You Treat Me If You Don’t Know Me?” Melissa Miranda then gave a succinct summary of SAGE/ RI’s recent lesbian elders health care survey. Miranda, the program administrator at Healthcentric Advisors, noted that the survey identified and challenged the notion held by many providers that they can offer an LGBT-friendly (and safe) environment simply by “treating all of our patients
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Within the next few months, we expect to follow up on Lt. Governor Elizabeth Roberts’ invitation to meet with her for a conversation about improving healthcare services to RI’s LGBT elders. with respect.” Having established the need to improve the quality of services to LGBT elders via specific and proactive changes in the healthcare world, Marguerite Mclaughlin, the senior program administrator at Healthcentric Advisors, then walked people through a wide variety of the helpful strategies and resources included on the CD given to each attendee. Organizing and putting on this conference was a lot of work, but members of SAGE/RI were very encouraged by the positive and enthusiastic feedback they received. Several participants suggested the confer-
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Coming off the excitement and success of the Visible Lives conference, the SAGE/ RI Advisory Committee happily – and quickly – shifted its focus to our “Coming Out Party” held on October 28th at Roots Cultural Center in Providence. What fun! Despite the hint of drama offered by Hurricane Sandy’s prelude, a hardy group of folks gathered to celebrate our recent affiliation with SAGE/USA, our successful bid to claim our name and our first year of activity. It was wonderful to see so many people from SAGE’s earlier incarnation, folks who have joined in the past year and people who are just learning about SAGE/RI. The program was kept brief and partygoers enjoyed appetizers, desserts and great conversations. The staff at Roots created a warm and welcoming environment for us. We finished the evening with a much-anticipated drawing for the door prize: a generous gift card donated by the good folks at Blaze Restaurant on Providence’s East Side.
Getting on the Radar As part of our effort to expand our network and reach, SAGE/RI re-joined RI’s Senior Agenda Coalition. As members we were able to have a table at the Coalition’s fifth Annual Senior Expo held on November 3rd at the Crown Plaza in Warwick. The Expo drew a large number of exhibitors representing an amazing array of organizations providing services to RI’s elders. We weren’t quite sure what to expect as we were setting up our table, since this was the first time SAGE/RI had participated in the Expo. While there were some folks who were clearly not interested in our presence, we were greatly heartened by the number of interesting and varied conversations we had
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during the day, and with the number of connections we made with other organizations and with potential new members. We’re looking forward to being a part of the Senior Expo again next year. SAGE/RI has been getting on the radar in some areas of the political landscape as well. Within the next few months, we expect to follow up on Lt. Governor Elizabeth Roberts’ invitation to meet with her for a more in-depth conversation about improving healthcare services to RI’s LGBT elders. At the Visible Lives conference, we were touched by RI First Lady Stephanie Chafee’s interest and enthusiasm in our work. Chafee, a nurse and healthcare activist in RI, has indicated she would like to stay connected with SAGE/RI. And, finally, SAGE/RI was pleased to receive a citation commending us for the work we are doing from U.S. Senator Sheldon Whitehouse as part of an event held by the Women’s Fund of RI formally announcing recent grantees. We are delighted to have received the citation and proudly displayed it at our Coming Out Party and the Senior Expo.
Stay Tuned While we catch our breath, SAGE/RI has begun making plans for the upcoming winter months. As Options goes to press, the only event we have confirmed is our next conference which will be co-sponsored by the Rhode Island Chapter of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW) on January 18. Staying with the theme of our October conference, the title of this event will be: Visible Lives: The Psycho-Social Aspects of LGBT Aging. NASW CEUs will be available. More information will be posted on RI NASW’s website and will be available from SAGE/RI. We are hoping for a holiday event and another movie night – be sure to keep in touch with us for more details. SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE/RI, contact us at sageriinfo@gmail.com or find us on Facebook as SAGE/Rhode Island. q
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AIDS Community Watch ArtBeat 2012 A Great Success Kalene Brennan AIDS Care Ocean State is pleased to announce that our annual ArtBeat auction raised $40,000 to support the programs and services we provide to our clients. Held on October 19 at the Providence Biltmore Hotel, our live auction featured items from prominent artists such as Barbara Whitford, Neal Drobnis, Ken Connell, Mark Freedman, Mac MacDougall, Zulu Nyala, and David Dadekian. New to the live auction this year were artists Phil Shaw, Brian Xavier and Jay MacKay. We especially thank our Featured Artist, Dennis Akervik Coelho, who generously contributed a piece of his work, and Featured Designer Jonathan Joseph Peters for donating a one-of-a-kind custom design apparel experience. Roz Rustigian, our Honorary Chair, gave a beautiful Kilim rug from Rustigian Rugs. We’d also like to thank the Providence Biltmore Hotel and Kim Zandy from 92 PRO FM, who served as one of our celebrity auctioneers. We’re grateful to all of our volunteers for helping us set up and work the event.
Legends! 2013 Calendar has Arrived LEGENDS! 2013 is here! The Calendar Release Party was held on Sunday, November 4, at the Colosseum in Providence and featured a fabulous drag show with all of the lovely LEGENDS! Ladies performing numbers from their Las Vegas LEGENDS! calendar spread from Elvis to Liberace. ACOS would like to extend our deepest thanks to David Degan, Daniel Gagnon Photography, and all of the sponsors of the LEGENDS! 2013 calendars. We also thank the Colosseum and the Legends performers for making the evening spectacular. LEGENDS! 2013 Calendars are now available for purchase at www.aidscareos. org. For only $15.00 you can look at the
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Each year ACOS runs an Adopt-a-Family holiday campaign. Please consider adopting a family this season. For only $50, you provide a client family with heat for their home, warm clothes, and gifts for their children for the holiday.
With the goal of creating a user-friendly website that answers these questions, AIDS Project Rhode Island is leading an effort to create Rhode Island’s first gay men’s health and wellness website: www.men2menRI. org.
To Adopt-a-Family today, please visit our website at www.aidscareos.org and click the link to Adopt-a-Family. It’s that simple, and your donation is greatly appreciated. For more information about ACOS’s Adopt-aFamily campaign, please contact Stephen Hartley or Kalene Brennan at 521-3603 or info@aidscareos.org. On behalf of the entire ACOS staff, we wish everyone a safe, happy, and healthy holiday season.
One of the unique features of this site is the opportunity for men to ask questions and create a “community dialogue.” The site is being designed so that men can provide insights, share experiences, recommend doctors, and provide advice to one another about all kinds of topics, ranging from coming out in Rhode Island to finding friends and getting involved.
Rhode Island’s First Gay Men’s Health and Wellness Website Under Development Thomas Bertrand I’ve been asked this question a lot: “Why do you need another website for gay men’s health? Can’t men already find the health information they need using Google?” The answer is a resounding “No.” Through surveys we have conducted in the past year with men in Rhode Island, here are some of the most common questions that many men want answers to: 1. Where can I find a gay-friendly doctor in Rhode Island? 2. I just moved to Rhode Island and I want to know how to meet other guys.
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With the help of Dr. Phil Chan from The Miriam Hospital, men will also be able to ask personal health questions. These questions will be answered by Dr. Chan and posted on the website on a regular basis. The questions can be specific around safe sex, or more broad questions about what health screenings men should be getting. The planned “turnaround” time for questions and posted answers will be 24 hours. We want the website to have a distinctive Rhode Island “look and feel,” with stories, pictures and advice from real men of all ages and backgrounds in Rhode Island. In addition, we are looking for any “leads” to get funding for the development and marketing of the site. If you would like to get involved in the development of the website or have any leads for funding, please contact Tom Bertrand at Thomas@aidsprojectri.org. q
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Eagle Scout continued from page 12 It is only in the last few years, Morello said, that he feels he has moved beyond his Yawgoog experience. He works for a law firm – Mintz Levin – that often takes on cutting-edge cases involving LGBT issues. He is on the diversity committee at work, and has served on the board at BAGLY, the Boston youth pride organization. He feels a need to be visible, understanding that this is not safe in all cases. “The national headquarters of the Boy Scouts is in Irving, Texas, which might be part of the problem,” he laughed, adding that Irving might be a place where it is not safe to be out. “But this is all founded in fear,” he went on. “People need to know that there are LGBT people in their lives.” Beyond that, he feels strongly about pushing back against discrimination, and mentioned the positive messages that organizations like the United Way make when they publicly refuse to support the systemic bigotry perpetuated by groups like the Boy Scouts.
“As much as I struggled – and I really struggled – had I not had support, things could have turned out differently for me. Instead, it galvanized me.”
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“The Boy Scout organization is so ingrained in America,” said Morello. “It is validated through our society, and yet it has this discriminatory policy that can be so damaging, as it was in my case. There are other hate groups in this country, but none that are so much a part of the fabric of America.”
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To any young person finding himself in the same nightmare that Tavis lived through, he says that “it is entirely possible to be gay and still be ‘morally straight’ and ‘clean in thought, word and deed.’” And he hopes they have a safety net like the one he had. “As much as I struggled – and I really struggled – had I not had support, things could have turned out differently for me. Instead,” he continued, “it galvanized me; it showed me, eventually, my path to becoming a lawyer, and to taking a stand. I wish that the next young person to get caught up in its destructive power could know that there is nothing wrong with him. Scouting taught me to be loyal, honest and true, and those are very good qualities to aspire to, no matter who you are.” q
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Resources Help us help you: If you come across a resource listing that is incorrect or needs updating, please let us know! Drop a line to mshays@verizon.net. NOTE: All phone numbers are in the 401 area code unless otherwise indicated.
Addiction Support Groups AA: Brothers in Sobriety, Community Church of Prov., Wayland & Lloyd Aves., Prov., 751-9328; Sat., 7:30-8:30 p.m.; Central Services, info on all groups, 438-8860; Lesbian and Gay, Anchor Recovery Center, 249 Main St., Pawtucket, Tues. 7:30 p.m.; Suburban Gay & Lesbian, Fatima Shrine, Rt. 126, Holliston, MA, Thurs. 8-9:30 p.m.
Chiropractic Services: Free for unemployed HIV+ patients, Ronald P. Marsh, DC., 11 King Charles Dr., Portsmouth, RI; 683-1941. Comprehensive Community Action Programs (CCAP) Medical, mental health, dental, social services. 311 Doric Ave., Cranston. 467-9610. Also Coventry and Warwick. Sarah Bowman, LGBT Outreach.
Alcohol/Drug Helpline. RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence, 24-hr., (866) 252-3784.
Crossroads RI Health Care Services: Free, confidential, anonymous HIV counseling & testing for homeless/at risk: Mon & Wed, 1-3 p.m., call Gloria, 521-2255, Ext. 325.
Gay Al-Anon: Tues. 7:30 p.m., Congregational Church, 71 Park Place, Pawtucket, 726-2800.
FACTS (Family AIDS Center for Treatment & Support): See AIDS Care Ocean State.
AIDS/Health Resources
Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case mgmt. & financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MA Health funded for MA residents. Michael (508) 678-1002.
Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: socializing with other HIV+ individuals. Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Wed & Thurs, noon to 4 p.m., at Matthewson St. Church, 134 Matthewson St., Prov. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI; free to clients. Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 Ext. 3268 or coopergo@familyserviceofri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: (800) 235-2331, MA only. AIDS Care Ocean State (557 Broad St., Providence): case mgmt., emergency funds, mental health & nutrition support, FACTS Nursery, housing for PWAs, referrals, advocacy, ADa.m.S Clinic for adolescents, street outreach, ENCORE, education, HIV+ support groups. Sunrise Community Housing for people with HIV/AIDS. 18 Parkis Ave., Prov. 02907. 521-3603; www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI Division of Family Service of RI: Case mgmt., buddies, COBRA & dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment & referral, wellness prog., advocacy, strength training. Prevention Ed. 404 Wickenden St., Providence: 831-5522. AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS Memorial Quilt panels; panel-making programs, including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people; PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840; 4344880; www.aidsquiltri.org; admin@aidsquiltri. org; annasworkshop@aidsquiltri.org. Brown Univ. AIDS Program (BRUNAP): clinical trials, public policy, research; lectures/conferences, patient/community education. Bradford Briggs, 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu; www.brown. edu/brunap.
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HIV antibody testing, Anonymous: R.I. Dept. of Health, Prov., Newport and other locations, Free or sliding scale, call 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care mgmt. for HIV/AIDS. 24-hr. nursing staff for treatment. 782-0725. Bereavement Groups: John Charette, 727-7079. HPV study for gay/bi men ages 18 -- 26. Receive free HPV vaccine and HIV testing. Must be HIVnegative. Call Gail at Miriam Hospital (7934335) or Email gyates@lifespan.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Rd., Cumberland. 658-3992. Jewish AIDS Task Force: Programs for HIV/AIDS and Jewish communities. 421-4111, ext. 172. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group for LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems, visit www.caregiver.org and click on groups. Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/ AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS (PL-AIDS) Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations, and our No. Providence office, providing free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. www.plaidsproject.org or www.pl-aids.org. Email info@plaidsproject.org. 305-3993. Project ACT: Free Anonymous HIV Counseling and Testing. Walk-in Hours: Mondays 9 a.m.-4 p.m. and 5-7 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays 9
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a.m.-4 p.m. Other hours by appointment only. 1 Washington St., Taunton, MA (508) 977-8146 Project Empower: Wellness prog. for gay, bi, questioning men in So. Coast MA. Info on HIV/ STD test sites & safe sex; social/support groups, therapists & health care referrals; & more. Community Counseling of Bristol Co., MA. (508) 828-6692 or www.projectempower.com. SSTAR (Stanley St. Treatment & Resources): counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs; Free, confidential HIV, HEP C (HCV) & STD testing, education, case mgmt. and support. 386 Stanley St., Fall River, MA 02720. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/ HCV) (800) 937-3610, Family Healthcare center (508) 675-1054; www.sstar.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation and more. 105 Charles Eldridge Dr, Lakeville, MA. (508) 9471683. Thundermist Health Assoc.: 450 Clinton St. Woonsocket, provides HIV/AIDS services including: medical care & treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment & counseling, pharmacy consultation, free, confidential HIV testing. Philip Kane 767-4100 Ext. 3516.
Be There and Be Queer! The Alley Cat/Dark Lady: 17 Snow St. Prov. 2730951 Downtown neighborhood bars. Sun.-Thur. 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri.-Sat. 3 p.m.-2 a.m. http:// thealleycat.net. Bobby’s Place, 62 Weir St., Taunton, MA (508) 8249997. Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Mon.-Thurs. 5 p.m.- 1 a.m.; Fri. 5 p.m.-2 a.m.; Sat. 2 p.m.-2 a.m.; Sun. 2 p.m.-1 a.m. www.BobbysPlaceMA.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Prov. 575-2284. Special events space. Open mike First & Third Sat. of each month. Film screenings and other public/private events. See us on Facebook and at www.BrooklynCoffeeTeaHouse.com. Club Body Center: 257 Weybosset St., Prov. 2740298 www.clubbodycenter.com. Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24 hours daily. Club Gallery, 681 Valley Street., Providence. DJ, dancing. Deville’s: 345 South Water St., Prov. Lesbian, gay, straight, it’s all good. 383-8883, www.devillescafe.com.
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Girl Spot in Providence: Every Saturday night Lesbian dance party at Platforms, 165 Poe Street, Providence. www.girlspotri.com Luna’s Ladies Night, Fridays 8 p.m. -- 1a.m. Female performers and DJs. 276 Westminster St., Providence. www.lunaspvd.com. Providence Eagle: 198 Union St., Prov. 421-1447. Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Sun-Thurs 3 p.m.1 a.m., Fri, Sat 3 p.m.-2 a.m. Mega-Plex and Hush Providence: 257 Allens Ave., Prov. www.themega-plex.com. Gay men’s bathhouse. Open 24 hours daily. Membership required. One day pass available. The Stable: 125 Washington St., Prov. 272-6950. Newly renovated downtown bar. Pool table. Sun - Thurs noon - 1 a.m.; Fri - Sat noon - 2 a.m. Tommy’s Lounge Gay/Lesbian Night each Friday (21-plus) Doors open 8 p.m. Music from 80’s, 90’s and today’s hits on the video screen. $5.00 cover. 99 India Street, Pawtucket RI 02860 T.W.I.S.T. Program Coffee Night: Coffee, light snacks served every Thursday, 7 – 9 p.m. 1287 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford. 508-672-0378. Union: 200 Union St. Prov. 831-5366. Video lounge, live entertainment. Sun. 6 p.m.-1 a.m., Mon.-Thur. 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri.-Sat. 6 p.m.-2 a.m.
Information/Education Feminist Voices: women’s chorus. www.feministvoices.com. Fenway Gay and Lesbian Helpline: support, info & referrals for GLBT community from Fenway Community Health Ctr., Boston; (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-4528, 6-11 p.m. seven days a week. GLBT National Help Center Hotline. Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.GLBTNationalHelpcenter.org. NewportOut.com: LGBT Web site for Newport, RI. RILGBT-NEWS: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 Youth Pride, Inc. HIV Peer Educators: discussion, games, thought-provoking and empowerment activities. Led by trained youth educators. Free. 421-5626.
Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 831-7171; 128 Dorrance St., Suite 220, Prov., RI 02903. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTIQ human rights. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com or 212-807-8400. Visit www.amnestyusa.org/Our Issues/LGBT Human Rights. BIGFLAG (Boston Immigration Group for Lesbians And Gays): social/support for LGBTs affected by immigration discrimination. (617) 499-9433. Brown University Queer Alliance: student advocacy and support organization. 683-3062. Email:
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queer@brown.edu Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline, 1:30-4:30 p.m. weekdays, (800) 455-GLAD. www.GLAD.org; 30 Winter St., Ste 800, Boston, MA 02108. Green Party of RI: PO Box 1151, Prov., RI 02901; 490-7602. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall St., Suite 1500, NY, NY 10005; (212) 8098585, Fax: (212) 809-0055.
Nicole Yonkman, 331-9844. Calvary Episcopal Church, Open and welcoming. 158 Broad St., Burrilville, RI. 568-3888. www. calvaryepiscopal.us.email, calvary125@aol.com. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown, 200 Turner Rd., Middletown, RI 02842. 8476181. Ask Amy about LGBTQ Early Dementia support group.
Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for lgbt causes. lawyersforequality@gmail. com
Central Congregational Church (UCC), where we believe God is still speaking. Services Sunday, 10:30 a.m. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. 296 Angell St., East Side of Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us.
Marriage Equality RI (MERI): Works for equal access to marriage for all. www.marriageequalityri. org or call 941-2727. 118 No. Main St., Unit 3, Providence RI 02903.
Channing Memorial Church, Unitarian Universalist, A Welcoming Congregation, 135 Pelham St., Newport. Call 846-0643 or visit www.channingchurch.org.
The Next Thing (TNT): political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. Contact the Brown Queer Alliance, 8633062.
Charter Oak Grove ADF, an open and welcoming congregation of neopagan druids in CT. www. charteroakadf.org. Email charteroakadf@gmail. com.
RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: hate crime awareness training program www.hatecrimeri. org.
Christ Church in Lonsdale (Episcopal), 1643 Lonsdale Ave., Lincoln. Services 8 and 10:30 a.m. www.christchurchlincoln.org. 725-1920.
RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations and credit, 180 Westminster St., 3rd floor Prov. Phone: 222-2662. Fax: 222-2616, TDD: 2222664.
Church of the Epiphany, 1336 Pawtucket Ave., Rumford. 434-5012. A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. www.epiphanyep.org
RI Patient Advocacy Coalition: legalization of marijuana use for medical purposes. www.RIpatients.org. RI Socialist Action: adgagneri@gmail.com. 9525385. Español: walsil@cox.net. 351-3414 Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Assisting active duty service members affected by the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. PO Box 65301, Wash., DC, 20035; (202) 328-3244, ext. 100, sldn@sldn.org, www.sldn.org. Straight But Not Narrow Coalition: Straight support for LGBT, PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840; 847-7637.
Church of the Holy Paraclete, Independent Old Catholic; Mass every Sunday at 6 p.m. 155 Douglas Ave., Providence. http://holyparaclete. org; Fr. Jakob Lazarus 218-0706. Emmanuel Episcopal Church. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland RI 02864. 658-1506. First Congregational Church in Bristol, an Open and Affirming Congregation. 281 High Street, Bristol. Pastor Dan Randall, 253-7288. First Unitarian Church. A Welcoming congregation at One Benevolent St., Prov.; 421-7970. Services Sunday 10:30 a.m. First Unitarian Church. 71 8th St., New Bedford, MA 02740. (508) 994-9686.
Religious Resources
First Universalist Society, Franklin, MA: UUA Welcoming congregation. Same-gender weddings. 262 Chestnut St. (508) 528-5348. www.fusf.org. Email fusf@verizon.net
Amicable Congregational Church (UCC), 3736 Main Rd., Tiverton. Open & Affirming. Sunday worship 10:00 a.m. Pastor William Sterrett, 624-4611. Email amicablechurch@aol.com
Foxboro Universalist Church, Unitarian Universalist Association. 6 Bird St., Foxboro, MA 02035. Pastor Katie Lawson, 508-543-4002. Welcoming congregation, marriage ceremonies. www.uufoxborough.org
Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists, email: mail@WABaptists.org. Barrington Congregational Church (UCC) “the white church”, 461 Old County Rd., Barrington. 246-0111.www.bccucc.org Bell Street Chapel (Unitarian Universalist), A Welcoming congregation: 5 Bell St., Prov., Rev. Ann Willever. 273-5678, www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church (UCC), in the heart of Providence at 300 Weybosset St. An Open & Affirming congregation since 2001. Visit us Sundays at 10 a.m. or on the Web at www.beneficentchurch.org. Co-Pastors Todd &
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Grace Episcopal Church in Providence, 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation, 647 N. Main St., Attleboro, MA 02703. (508) 222-2898, www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing UU Church in Newport (135 Pelham St.) A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons -- and their allies -- confronting oppression. 846-0643. Mathewson St. Church (United Methodist), 134 Mathewson St., Prov., 331-8900.
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Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. If you feel called, please visit our Web site: www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church, 505 N. Main St., Attleboro, MA, 02702 Rev. Sandra D. Fitz-Henry. Marriage & commitment ceremonies for all. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org Newman Congregational Church, Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Ave., Rumford, RI. 43114742. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Rev. Hayes & Rev. Baker. Open & Affirming. 73 Pelham St., Newport. 849-2238 or nccucc@newportcongregationalchurch.org. Park Place Congregational Church, 71 Park Pl., Pawtucket, 726-2800. The Pub Church: A church that meets in a pub! Saturdays, 5 p.m. at The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Ave. Boston. Open & Affirming. Email thepubchurch@gmail.com. Location may change. Pilgrim Lutheran Church, an inclusive congregation: 1817 Warwick Ave., Warwick. 739-2937 Pilgrim United Church of Christ. Open and affirming. 635 Purchase St., New Bedford. 508-9975684. Riverside Church (U.C.C.) 15 Oak Ave., Riverside, RI. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 35 Lower College Rd., Kingston. 783-2153 www.staugustineURI.com.
Main St., Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243 or www.agudasma.org.
Gay Lesbian Alliance of Newport County Etc. (GLANCE): Social and entertainment events. E-mail glance1234@hotmail.com.
Temple Emanu-El, Sessions St. & Morris Ave., Providence. A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin, 331-1616. www. teprov.org
Gay Dads Group: Meets monthly for socializing and support. E-mail serrel30@aol.com.
Temple Habonim: a warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein, 165 New Meadow Rd., Barrington, 245-6536. www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform Temple. Rabbi Peter Stein, 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston, RI. 9428350. www.TempleSinairi.org. Unitarian Society of Fairhaven (MA): 102 Green St., Fairhaven, MA 02719; (508) 992-7081. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of So. County: 27 North Rd., Peace Dale, RI; 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. www.uusouthcountyri.org. United Church of Christ: Coalition for LGBT Concerns. 13 Steven Circle, S. Kingstown, RI 02883, Ray Bradley at 782-3871. Westminster Unitarian/Universalist Church: 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich, RI 02818. 884-5933
Social Organizations
St. Francis City Ministry at the Church of St. Mary, 535 Broadway, Prov. Office of LGBT Outreach 353-1422 St. James Church: Episcopal, 474 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Prov. 353-2079.
Bisexual Resource Center: 29 Stanhope St., Boston, (617) 424-9595 or www.biresource.net.
St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, 50 Orchard St. East side of Prov., 751-2141
Biversity Boston: Mixed-sex social network. Bimonthly brunches and other social events. http://biversity.org.
St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. www.stpaulspawtucket.org St. Paul’s Church, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 2679 E. Main St., Portsmouth. 862-1466. www. stpaulsportsmouthri.org St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Ave., Prov.; 272-9649. Email.stpanda25@ verizon.net. www.stpetersandstandrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church, Open & Affirming, Sunday Mass at 10:30 p.m. at 134 Mathewson St., Providence. Fr. David Martins, 263-4296. www.saintthereseocc.org Second Congregational Church of Attleboro (UCC) Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday worship 10 a.m. (508) 222-4677, www.attleborosecondchurch.org Seekonk Congregational Church: 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. 02771, (508) 336-9355, Rev. Joy Utter, www.scc-ucc.com. Temple Agudas Achim: GLBT-friendly, Reconstructionist cong. Rabbi Elyse Wechterman. 901 No.
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Temple Beth-El: GLBT-welcoming. Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Ave., Prov., RI 02906. 3316070
Atheists/Agnostics: RI Atheist Society – “Working to keep Church and State separate” Welcoming all. Meets 3rd Monday of the month at an area restaurant for lively discussions among likeminded people. For info: www.RIatheist.net
St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: County & River Sts., New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-8972, stmartins1887@aol.com.
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Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups, and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman.” Subscribe at www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bear-identified and -affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. http:// groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate or bearsoceanstate-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. Age-restricted. Bridgewater State College GLBT Alumni Group: email Kenneth Hayes (‘91) khayesbbc@msn.com or visit www.bridgew.edu. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGYA): (508) 778-7744. CORISMA: Gay and lesbian couples of RI and Southeast MA. Potluck get-togethers for couples only. For info or to be added to email list write: corismainfo@comcast.net. www.corismagroup. org Defenders/Providence: Leather/Levi club, c/o PO Box 41153, Prov., RI 02940. Third Sun at 6 p.m. Fall River’s Rainbow Girls: private, moderated welcoming group for women in the Fall River Area.
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Imperial Court of RI at Prov: Male, female, drag king & queen performers raise funds for local charities. Meetings 1st Mon. of month, all welcome. PO Box 6583, Prov., RI 02904;www. icriprov.org. Lesbian Writers Group, Rochambeau Library, Hope St., Providence. Mondays 7 -- 8:30 p.m. Writing exercises, support. No critiquing or workshopping. Free. Russian or Computer Room. Men’s Card Group: New group in formation. E-mail johninprov@gmail.com or call John 261-9715. Men’s Gay Camping: In RI, CT, MA. Gatherings organized for tents to RVs during Spring, Summer and Fall 2012. www.webspawner.com/users/gaycamping/index.html or call 277-0075 or email gaycamping@gmx.com. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more! Monthly meetings, all welcome! For more information: www.MixedBorders.com or E-Mail Mixedborders@cox.net Opera Club: last Sunday of each month at 1:00 p.m. Enjoy hearing and attending. Email Dave at BrettCornellpi4@aol.com Pawtuxet Pride: GLBTQ folks & friends in Pawtuxet Village (Cranston and beyond). All welcome. Call Ed at 345-1264 or email EDZL@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: Mon, 7-9:30 p.m., Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset St, Prov.. New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and nonsinging volunteers welcome. www.provgmc.org. Queer Book Club. Meets 3rd Wednesday 7 p.m. at Books on the Square, 471 Angell St., Providence. Email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Raging Grannies: Women of “a certain age” working toward a more peaceful, equitable society with song, humor & passion. Will sing for rallies & events. Email jlglass53@aol.com. RI Association of Gay Professionals. Professional networking and philanthropy. gayprofessionalnetworkofri@gmail.com. 453-9276 RI Feminist Resources Network: Free, online e-community in which you are invited to share events or highlights in your organization or just find out what’s going on in our “like-minded” communities. www.rifrn.net RI Lesbian Social Club: social gatherings for women; email: heylari@yahoo.com or call 272-2962. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie, 464-2288 or saphicangel120@yahoo.com RI Pride: Parade & Festival, year-round events; Box 1082, Prov. RI 02901, info@PrideRI.com; www. PrideRI.com. Office at 1005 Main St. #1105, Pawtucket. 467-2130 RI Prime Timers. Social and networking group for
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DARTS: Beantown Soft-Tip Dart League www.bsdl. org.
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RI Skeptics Society. Yearning to talk with someone rational? Meetings 4th Saturday at a Seekonk restaurant for refreshing discussion. http:// skeptics.meetup.com/133/
FLAG FOOTBALL: FLAG (For Lesbians and Gays) Football www.flagflagfootball.com, (617) 9375858 Ext. 4.
Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance (BCC/GSA); Steven Camara, Advisor (508)6782811 Ext. 2391, BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA 02720.
RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group; age 21+; dances/events. www.RIWA.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) Advocacy, education and social events for RI’s LGBTQ seniors. sageriinfo@gmail.com, on Facebook: “Sage/Rhode Island.” SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of S.E. Mass and RI to foster strong friendships.Semassmen-subscribe@yahoo groups.com or email moderator rlevass @yahoo.com. Trans Queer RI: friendship, fun activities, and support for transgender, queer & like-minded people. Gatherings third Sunday of each month. Email trans.queer.ri@gmail.com. T.W.I.S.T. Project: Program for gay and bisexual men in Fall River/New Bedford area. Drop-in center, referrals, condom distribution, social groups. Coffee night Thursdays 7 – 9 p.m. (508) 672-0378; www.myspace.com/twistprogram. UNISONG: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.unisong. net or jlglass53@aol.com VegOut Rhode Island: Social group for LGBT vegetarians, vegans and friends. Potlucks, VegOutings to restaurants, and other fun. Visit www. meetup.com/vegout-ri WomenRIsing. Feminist Chorus. Director Nancy Rosenberg. www.womenrisingchorus.org. Email: contact@womenrisingchorus.org. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for glbt people interested in vintage & specialty cars. www.yankeelcc.com, sisherwood@aol.com.
Sports
FOOTBALL: Women’s professional team Northeastern Nitro. Members of the Women’s Football Alliance. Practices held in Bethel, CT. Contact Amy Manfred at amymanfred@yahoo.com or Carley Pesente at linebackergirl56@aol.com. RI/S.E. MA Flag Football: Sats. 10 a.m. All levels and genders. mbs1994ever@yahoo.com GOLF: Golf4All www.golf4all.net (617) 450-8682. HOCKEY: Boston Pride Hockey www.bostonpridehockey.org (617) 937-5858 Ext. 7. ICE HOCKEY for WOMEN: email gwick@kersur.net.
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KICKBOXING or BOXING for WOMEN: Tues & Thurs evenings. Christina, 996-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com MARTIAL ARTS: Main Street Martial Arts. Nonprofit, welcoming dojo and community center. Scholarships available. 1282 No. Main St., Providence. 274-7672. www.mainstma.org. OUTDOORS: Chiltern Mountain Club, New England’s LGBT outdoor recreation club. www. chiltern.org. Email events@chiltern.org. ROWING: Boston Bay Blades www.bayblades.org/ boston (617) 937-5858 Ext. 11. RUGBY: Boston Ironsides Rugby Football Club. www.bostonironsidesrfc.org. RUNNING: Frontrunners Rhode Island: Brian 751-7643, bripm@cox.net. Frontrunners Boston www.frontrunnersboston.org (617) 937-5858 Ext. 3. SCUBA DIVING: Triangle Divers: www.triangledivers.org. SNOWBOARDING: OutRyders, www.outryders. org or email brian@outryders.org. SOCCER: Boston Strikers Soccer Club www.bostonstrikers.com (617) 937-5858 Ext. 9.
PRIDESPORTSBOSTON: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area: www. pridesportsboston.com 617-937-5858
SOFTBALL: Renaissance City Softball League. New players and boosters always welcome. 2267771
Gay sports in Boston and beyond: www.gaysports. com. Email info@gaysports.com.
642 or rcsl_commish@cox.net. Visit www.providencesoftball.org
BASKETBALL: Boston Gay Basketball League: www.bgbl.com or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 2.
Beantown Softball League: (617) 937-5858, Ext. 1, www.beantownsoftball.com.
BOWLING: RI GALA: 6 p.m. Sun., East Prov. Lanes, Newport Ave., Bruce, 397-3803, or Bill, 828-5587 www.galabowling.com. Monday Night Women’s Bowling League, Pat 451-2188. Royal Court Bowling League: 9 p.m. Wed., Woonsocket Hill Bowl; 767-2110.
SQUASH: Boston Boasts www.bostonboasts.com
Big Gay Al’s Duckpin bowling league: Tuesdays 6:30 p.m., Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. www.BGALBowling.com. Frank Ferri 831-6940. www.townhalllanes.com.
VOLLEYBALL: Cambridge Boston Volleyball Assoc. www.GayVolleyball.net, (617) 633-2180
BOWLING: BOSTON: Monday Night League, www.mnbl.net (617) 713-4832 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 5; Beantown No. G&L Invitational, www. beantownbowling.com (617) 738-0708 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 10; Beantown South G&L Invitational League, (617) 889-1552.
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SWIMMING: LANES (Liquid Assets New England Swim-Team); www.swim-lanes.org; (617) 9375858 Ext. 9. TENNIS: TENNIS-4-All: www.tennis4all.org.
YOGA for gays & lesbians. 9 a.m. Saturdays. All welcome. www/meetup.com/Gay-Meditation/. Fee applies. WRESTLING: East Coast Wrestling Club www. eastcoastwrestlingclub.org, email ecwc@juno. com, (401) 467-6737 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 6
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Brown University Queer Alliance: umbrella org. for groups. 863-3062. www.queer.brown.edu Brown University Grad Student - Med Student - Staff LGBTQ Association: queer-med-gradmembers@queer.brown.edu Brown University Staff LGBTQ Assn.: call LGBT Resource Center: 863-3062 Brown University LGBTQ Resource Center: 8633062, e-mail lgbtq@brown.edu Bryant Pride: Bryant College Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual Student Association. 232-6389. CCRI Triangle Alliance: Informal student GLBTQ group, 400 East Ave., Warwick. Call 825-1125 or www.ccri.cc.ri.edu/triangle. COLAGE. Support and social activities for children of LGBT Parents: meets third Saturday of the month rhodeisland@colage.org; http://www. myspace.com/colage_ri. 331-9844. Coordinator Veronica Jutras (vjutras5@gmail.com) Fitchburg State College GLBT Alliance: social support group for students. One-in-Ten and Friends, 978-665-3164, sfranzemn@fsc.edu. Peer Listening Line/Fenway Community Health Ctr.: Boston. Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth; support, info and referrals. (617) 2672535 or (800)-399-PEER, 5-10 p.m. all week. RIC Rainbow Alliance: GLBT students at RI College, Fridays 12:30 -- 2 p.m, in Unity Center in lower Donovan. Office in StudentUnion 425. ricrainbowalliance2007@yahoo.com. Phone 456--8121 Roger Williams University LGBTQ & Allies group: S.A.F.E (Sexual Advocacy for Everyone): Weekly meetings in Intercultural Center; speakers, social and awareness events; Pride Week in April. Email: saferwu03@gmail.com. Facebook: S.A.F.E. Salve Regina University Gay Straight Lesbian Bisexual Alliance (GSLBA), 100 Ochre Point Ave., Newport. Sister Johnelle, Lucianij@salve.edu SeaQuel: Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership. Bi-weekly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. myspace.com/seaQuel; Email SeaQuel@Prysm.us S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Sq., Prov., RI 02918, E-mail pclgbt@gmail.com. 865-1631 The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, aroundthe-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. 866-4-U-TREVOR; 866-488-7386. thetrevorproject.org. The Next Thing (TNT): Political & support group for queer people of color at Brown Univ. Call Brown Queer Alliance, 863-3062. University of RI Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer & Questioning (LGBTIQ2)
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association dedicated to campus inclusiveness among staff, faculty, alumni and students. gsimonelli@advance.uri.edu. 874-5808.
group at Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown, 200 Turner Rd., Middletown RI 02842. 847-6181.
and New Bedford 1st Wed. of the month, 7 – 8:30 p.m. Confidential. Drug/alcohol-free. Email mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com
Youth Pride Inc./The Way Out: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 1323.Drop-in center at 743 Westminster St., Prov. 02903; Mon.---Thurs. noon--8 p.m, Fridays 4 -8 p.m., Sat. 10 -- 5. The Way Out peer support group Tues., 5 p.m. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 5:30 p.m. Ask about the 14-andunder day. Call 421-5626 or email kerri@youthpride-ri.org Web: www.youthpride-ri.org.
Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling, LGBT or straight relationships. 24 hour free and confidential helpline. 7823990.
Nat. Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues, info@nlgja.org.
Support Groups & Social Services
Female-to-Male Support Group: Transgender peer support, information, social group. For those who identify somewhere on the trans-masculine spectrum. Regular meetings. Visit www.SNE_ FTM@yahoo.com Gay/Bi/Lesbian Coming Out support Group: Facilitated meetings, social events. TJFronczak@ aol.com. Fee applies.
Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline (617) 742-4911. Network/LaRed. Email office: advocate@tnir.org
Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: support: E-Mail outreach@gayfathersboston.org. www.gayfathersboston.org.
Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help for LGBT and straight adoptions. Betsy Alper, Jewish Family Service, 959 No. Main St., Providence. 331-54337.
GayLab for Healthy Relationships: Learning & practicing healthy ways to socialize in safe, nonjudgmental environment in LGBT community. www.gaylab.org. Email info@gaylab.org. James, 781-762-6629
Foster parents needed: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 766-0900, ext. 1213. Foster parents needed, for newborn to age six. www. childrensfriendri.org. 276-4318 Foster parents sought: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Gregary Wright, Family Service of RI, 331-1350 Ext. 3305 Behavioral health outpatient services in Fall River area, inclusive of LGBT: S.T.E.P. (508-)2351012; T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378 Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center, offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 7233057. Catholic Parents Outreach: Always Our Children, 1st and 3rd Tuesdays, Sacred Heart Convent, 395 Chestnut St., Springfield, MA. Call Ann, (413) 736-6803. COLAGE (Children of Gays): A national movement of people with one or more LGBT parents. Social activities, education & advocacy. Meets 3rd Saturday of the month. rhodeisland@colage.org. www.myspace.com/colage_ri Coordinator Veronica Jutras (vjutras5@gmail.com) Coming Out Support Group: Monthly meetings professionally facilitated. www.meetup.com/ ComingOutRI/ Fee applies. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group, meets in Boston First Thursday, 7 – 9 p.m. www.compassftm.org, compassftm@comcast.net Crossroads RI: Hotline (Travelers Aid): (800) 3672700 Day One (Formerly Sexual Assault and Trauma Resource Center of RI): Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/abuse & incest. 24-hr hotline (800) 494-8100, collect calls accepted: 421-4100. Dementia and Early Alzheimer’s LGBTQ support
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Gay Fathers Support Group in RI. Tom Fronczak, LICSW, 431-2953. Fee applies.
Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project: support, info, shelter. (800) 832-1901, www.gmdvp.org. Gay Men’s Life Coaching Group: Empower Your Life! 4th Friday of the month, 7 -- 8 p.m., 877 Broadway, E. Providence. 944-0723. $20 per session. Gay Men’s Meditation Group: Relax and connect! Second Wed. of the month, 7 -- 8 p.m. at Positive New Beginnings, 877 Broadway, E. Providence. Call Tim at 944-0723. $10/session. Gay Officers Action League /New England (GOAL NE), gay/lesbian/bisexual law enforcement officers, sworn & civilian. Fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. P.O. Box 587, Boston, MA 02117; www.goalne.org; info@goalne.org; (617) 376-3612. Confidential. Gay Share. Coming Out? Gay men’s support group Wed., 7 p.m. No fee. Call Tom/Mike, 369-9448 or www.gayshare.org; Info@gayshare.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline, call 24/7 for crisis and suicide prevention. Also social networks. 866-4-U-Trevor HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group at AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Ave., Prov., RI. 5213603. Refreshments served. New members should call Scott: 640-3108 Kathys’ Group: free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Meets monthly in Providence. Partners and caregivers welcome. Call 888-5KATHYS. Lesbian Moms of Southern NE: discussion, support and activity list for lesbian mothers. www. topica.com/lists/LMOSNE or ForADancer63@ aol.com. LBT Women’s Mediation: De-stress and express yourself! 4th Wednesday of the month, 7 -- 8 p.m., Positive New Beginnings, 877 Broadway, E. Providence. $10 per session. 944-0723. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Social/Discussions for gay/ bi/curious men 18+. Taunton every Thursday,
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PFLAG: Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays: Greater Providence: First Wednesdays, 6:45p.m. at Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571; www.pflagprovidence.org; pflagprovidence@verizon.net; South/Central RI: www.pflagscri.org, 219-0265, epbonetti@ gmail.com; Cape Cod/Falmouth: Last Tuesday of each month, 6:30 p.m. Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Falmouth, 840 Sandwich Rd., E. Falmouth. joann@pflagcapecod.org. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: Info at 467-9940; 24-hour helpline, (800) 494-8100. RI Rainbow Support Group for people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Meets last Tuesday of each month. 98 Rolfe St., Cranston, 6 - 7:30. Ken Renaud, 785-2100. RI Relay 711. Samaritans: 24-hour hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044 (RI only), 272-4044; www.samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, LGBTQ-friendly and bilingual (Spanish). Contact Aida (amanduley@sojournerri.org) or call 861-6191, ext. 121. No caller ID is used; calls are blocked for safety. Sojourner House: Support, shelter, advocacy, info for people in abusive relationships. Call us at 861-6191 We DON’T use Caller ID; calls are blocked for safety. Straight Spouse Support: Straight spouse professional offers peer support and referrals. Jane Harris, (413) 625-6636. Email jcmalinski48@ gmail.com. Straight Spouses Group: Visit www.StraightSpouse. org. for info on groups and online support. TGI Network of R.I.: Support, advocacy for Transgender, Transsexual, Gender-varient, Genderqueer & Intersex people. www.tginetwork.org. info@tginetwork.org. Transgender Support Group: Cape Cod (508) 3624435 Trans Partners New England: Provides loved ones of transgender people with a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. Meeting location unpublished for privacy. Email partners@tginetwork.org. TransYouth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. Info@ imatyfa.org. www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties, offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. q
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