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3 Appealing to Your Generosity 6 From the Editor 8 Calendar of Events 10 News Briefs 11 Passages: Leslie Feinberg 12 Becoming Me: A Dream Turned Reality 14 How Hormones Affect Gender Transition 15 Streamlining Gender Change on Birth Certificates 15 Transgender Day of Remembrance
Comic Fortune Feimster Performs at Dark Lady pg. 24
16 On the Shoulders of Giants 19 Adopt a Family with ACOS 20 Out on the Town 22 PGMC: I’ll Be Home with Bells On 24 Fortune Feimster: Ask Me Anything 26 Hit the Slopes with OutRyders 28 Lesbians on The Loose 29 HIV Testing on College Campuses 30 News from SAGE/RI 31 YPI’s Cabaret sets Fundraising Record 32 Resources 38 Worth a Look
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Dear Reader, As I flip through the pages of a year of Options gone by, reflecting on the many smiling faces contained within, I consider what a far cry it is from the days of gay marches when faces were often hidden by paper bags. Yet it can still take an act of bravery to be on the cover of this magazine. In addition to monthly news briefs (often chronicling the stampede of 18 state marriage victories in 2014 so far) and reports from our beloved non-profits, long-time readers came to expect other regular features this year: a recreational story, three arts reviews, and an interview revealing on whose shoulders we all stand to see a bit further. Monthly contributor Kelly Scafariello has tracked you adventurous types down to the nearby roller rink, softball diamond, mountaintop, rugby field, volleyball court, running path, bowling alley, and now the ski slopes. Feedback from the various leagues and clubs reveals readers are joining in. Who knew there were so many ways to be active, be gay, and have fun out there? (p. 18) If you’re more of a homebody, you’ve probably looked forward to my personal favorite feature: Worth a Look, by the mysterious Lit Chick who has a knack for knowing which gems of queer culture are worth your precious time. I hope you’ve been making your way to the back of the magazine to find this reward at the end. If your giftgiving style includes books and records, you can always check out our complete archive at optionsri.org to see what you’ve missed. (p. 38) It’s been a privilege to help tell the stories of some of our local community heroes in the On the Shoulders of Giants series. Frank Ferri is this month’s subject and I’m challenged to find a man I admire more. I expect the series’ premise will evolve in the coming year, as diverse exploration of our LGBTQ history is essential to Options. So, please send us your old stories to help us remember. (p. 16) Several relevant stories came to us during November’s Transgender Awareness month. In this issue, the telling of Krystle Ray Baxter’s poignant journey will open your heart, if not your mind, to grasp the transgender experience. Read all about our local community rejoicing streamlined birth certificate regulations, and also mourning those lost to hate on the Transgender Day of Remembrance. Pioneer Leslie Feinberg addressed a topic Options visited several times this year in a recent statement (before she passed away). She said she had “never been in search of a common umbrella identity, or even an umbrella term, that brings together people of oppressed sexes, gender expressions, and sexualities” and added that she believed in the right of self-determination of oppressed individuals, communities, groups, and nations. This comforted me to think we have more options than ever. (pp.11-15) If you’ve appreciated your experience with this unique magazine, and you find yourself possessed by generosity of spirit this holiday season, we would be grateful to receive your charity. With thanks, Jen Stevens
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December Mon. 1 World AIDS Day Reception, 12-1:30pm. Rhode Island State House, 82 Smith Street, Providence. Gov. Lincoln Chafee, Rep. Chris Blazejewski, Dr. Amy Nunn, Josh Kilby, and Brandon Fernandez speak from 12:30-1:30pm. Cider and cookies served 12-12:30pm. Mon. 1 Alternate Endings presented by HeadMaster magazine and Visual AIDS, 8pm. AS220 Black Box, 95 Empire Street, Providence. A program of original short videos by Rhys Ernst, Glen Fogel, Lyle Ashton Harris, Derek Jackson, Tom Kalin, My Barbarian, and Julie Tolentino commissioned to create new and provocative work about the ongoing HIV/AIDS epidemic for World AIDS Day. For more info, visit www.visualaids.org. Free (suggested donation $5) and open to the public. Sat. 6 Rhode Island Women’s Association Dance, 7:30-10:30pm. Letter Carrier Hall, 174 Mayfield Ave, Cranston. RIWA’s final dance for the year is open to all who identify as women. Celebrate the holiday season with old friends and make some new ones. Doors open 7pm. Free to members. Non-members and guests pay $10. Sun. 7 Michael Slade’s Birthday Toy Drive, 12-8pm.The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Bring an unwrapped toy or Target Gift Card for the children of AIDS Care Ocean State. Food and music with hosts Kitty Litter, BB Hayes, Michael Slade, and Scott Connery. Sun. 7 & 14 The Providence Flea, 10-4pm. Hope High School, 324 Hope Street, Providence. The Flea is a curated market offering vintage clothing, jewelry, accessories, upcycled and handmade crafts, recycled objects, housewares, antiques, collectibles, repurposed furniture, photography, curiosities, kitsch, and more. Featuring over 65 local vendors spanning the two dates. Admission is free. Wed. 10 Pride Holiday Party, 7-9:30pm. All are welcome to Pride’s annual celebration with snacks, beverages, and a festive holiday atmosphere. No cover. RI Pride Center, 1005 Main Street #1105, Pawtucket. For more info, www.prideri.com, info@prideri. com, or 467-2130.
Linda Eder Live in Concert December 13 Wed. 17 Foster Care Information Open House, 5-6:30pm. Family Service of RI, 134 Thurbers Avenue, Providence. www. familyserviceofri.org. Wed. 17 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Harriet the Spy by Louise Fitzhugh. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Thu. 18 Fortune Feimster, 7pm. The Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. Fortune Feimster has become one of the hottest performers in comedy. A former writer and regular on E!’s hit talk show Chelsea Lately, Fortune flaunts the sharp, improvisational wit she honed at the world renowned Groundlings Theatre Company. For tickets or more information, visit www.showclix.com/event/ providencefortune89. Thu. 18 Drag Bingo, 6-9pm. Theme: Martha Stewart Craft Bingo. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Kitty Litter and Haley Star. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. Sat. 20 Sarah Rich Live, The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. No cover before 10pm. Sun. 21 Winter Solstice Service, 7pm. Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell Street, Providence. Join us on the longest night of the year as we welcome back the light and join together for worship, fellowship, and reflection about the returning of the light. Cookies and other refreshments follow the service. Wed. 24 Candlelight Christmas Eve Service, 8pm. Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell Street, Providence. All are welcome to the annual candlelight service with music, reflection, and celebration.
Thu. 11–Sun. 14 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus presents I’ll Be Home with Bells On, Thu.-Sat. 7-9pm, Sun. 4pm. Beneficent Congregational Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. For tickets or more info, visit www.provgmc.org. Sat. 13 Linda Eder Live in Concert, 8pm. The Vets, 1 Avenue of The Arts, Providence. $35-$55. Use code “ACOS” to save $5 and an additional $5 goes to ACOS. Sun. 14 Pictures with Santa from 12-2pm at Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell Street Providence. Photos are free; donations accepted. Sun. 14 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Network for gay and bisexual men 50+. Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.
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Sun. 11 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Network for gay and bisexual men 50+. Social, dinner, and meeting. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010. Thu. 15 Drag Bingo, 6-9pm. Theme: Pajama Party Bingo. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Kitty Litter and Haley Star. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. Wed. 21 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: The Call of Cthulu and Other Weird Stories by H.P. Lovecraft. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail. com.
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Family Service of Rhode Island Promotes LGBTQ Foster Parenting Family Service of Rhode Island kicked off its “We Take Pride in All Families” campaign at a November 6 press conference at Blaze Restaurant in Providence. The goal of this campaign is to raise awareness that LGBTQ foster parents are good candidates to provide loving homes for local children in need. During the press event, Family Service of Rhode Island CEO Margaret Holland McDuff talked about her goals for the campaign, saying, “We are hoping that more LGBTQ Rhode Islanders will feel encouraged to open their hearts and homes to children in need. LGBTQ families are a valued and vital part of our community.” Family Service of Rhode Island is a statewide human service and education agency, offering help in a broad range of areas. To learn more about becoming a foster parent, visit www.familyserviceri.org.
Maura Healey Becomes First Openly Gay Attorney General in U.S. Democrat Maura Healey easily defeated her Republican opponent in last month’s election for attorney general in Massachusetts, making her the first openly gay attorney general in the country. “Maura Healey is one of the staunchest advocates for equality we have in this country, and we join her in celebrating her historic victory tonight,” said Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin. “As the nation’s first openly gay attorney general, she is an inspirational trailblazer and will fight to guarantee civil rights and legal equality for all people of Massachusetts.”
The Advocate Names Vladimir Putin Person of the Year In a year-end review, The Advocate announced Vladimir Putin as their “Person of the Year” for being one of the largest threats to LGBT rights the world has seen in quite some time. Among the most impactful was the signing of the 2013 anti-gay propaganda bill that fines any individual found guilty of the “distribution of information… aimed at the formation among minors of nontraditional sexual attitudes.” The fine for these “crimes” range from $120-$150 for individual offenders and as much as $30,000 for corporations or organizations. Despite the fierce rally for equality during the 2014 Sochi Olympic Winter Games, no lasting improvement was made, and Russians suspected of having nontraditional sexual orientations are being assaulted, harassed, and murdered while Putin boasts of Russia’s “purity.” Other candidates for The Advocate’s Person of the Year included Laverne Cox, Ellen Page, and Neil Patrick Harris.
Apple CEO Comes Out of the Closet On October 29, Tim Cook, the CEO of Apple Inc., publicly announced that he is gay. Cook was quoted in an editorial for Bloomberg Businessweek, “I’m proud to be gay, and I consider being gay among the greatest gifts God has given me.” Cook joined Apple in 1998 under the tutelage of Steve Jobs and was named CEO in 2011. Under his leadership, Apple has increased its donations to charities and has begun to invest more in the development of renewable energy resources. While reports of Cook being gay originally circulated in 2011, Cook kept quiet, deciding instead to make headlines through his work with Apple, rather than his personal life. “We pave the path toward justice together, brick by brick. This is my brick.” Cook is the first openly gay CEO on the Fortune 500 list.
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U.N. Committee Against Torture Concerned Over LGBT Conversion Therapy in U.S.
Marriage Bans Upheld in Four States
Last month, the United Nations Committee Against Torture expressed concern for the first time over the dangers of conversion therapy undergone by LGBT youth in the U.S after hearing testimony by leaders from the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR). Samuel Brinton, a co-chair of NCLR’s #BornPerfect Advisory Committee said, “Survivors generally feel that no one cares about the cruel, inhuman, and degrading treatment we suffered in conversion therapy. Somebody cares now. The committee just used its voice to bring this issue forward, and we survivors are never going to be silenced again.” NCLR’s #BornPerfect campaign is a national effort aimed at ending conversion therapy.
In a 2-1 decision this November, the Sixth Circuit United States Court of Appeals concluded that bans on the marriage of same-sex couples in Tennessee, Kentucky, Michigan, and Ohio do not violate the U.S. Constitution. In recent months, federal appeals courts have ruled that state marriage bans in Idaho, Indiana, Nevada, Oklahoma, Utah, and Virginia are unconstitutional. Now same-sex couples can marry in 33 states as well as in the District of Columbia. An attorney at the National Center for Lesbian Rights, Abby Rubenfield, released a statement saying, “Today’s decision by the Sixth Circuit is deeply disappointing, inconsistent with dozens of other marriage equality decisions since Windsor, and unfair to the hundreds of LGBT Tennesseans who are already married to same-sex partners whom they love. We are hopeful that soon the U.S. Supreme Court will rule that equal protection requires Tennessee, and every state, to treat same-sex couples and their children with the same respect as other families.”
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Leslie Feinberg, Transgender Revolutionary Communist, Dies at 65 Leslie Feinberg who, according to her obituary, identified as an “anti-racist white, working-class, secular Jewish, transgender, lesbian, female, revolutionary communist” died November 15 of complications from multiple tick-borne co-infections at her home in Syracuse, NY with her spouse of 22 years, Minnie Bruce Pratt, by her side. After she exited a contentious family
life as a teen in Buffalo, NY, transgender discrimination limited her to low-wage, temporary employment.
She joined the Workers World Party and moved to New York City, immersing herself in many organizing campaigns to oppose war, fight for workers’ rights, and to shine a light on the AIDS epidemic. Feinberg was a key organizer in Boston’s 1974 March Against Racism and led a team of lesbians on a “Paste Up” of South Boston to remove or cover all racist graffiti. She was the lead speaker at the 25th anniversary of the Stonewall riots in New York City, and would return to Buffalo to defend abortion rights after the violent murder of an abortion doctor there in 1998. A prolific writer, journalist, and lecturer, she made her greatest cultural and political impact with her first novel, Stone Butch Blues, a trailblazing exploration of gender published in 1993. Always expressive, she took up photography after being severely debilitated by her illness, which she believed was worsened by her limited access to health care because of being transgender. Her final words were: photo credit: Leslie Feinberg “Remember me as a revolutionary communist.” q Self-portrait in setting sun
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Becoming Me:
A Dream Turned Reality by Krystle Ray Baxter
I started my transition about ten years ago. Back then it was quite easy to tell that I was just a boy in a wig and a short sequined dress. I never ventured out alone, and as a drag queen, I was very much welcomed as part of the late night scene. As my journey continued, I discovered that being well put together and less obvious in my approach helped me blend into the crowd.
Krystle Ray Baxter
My friends have all warned me that at some point I would have to deal with violence – that it was inevitable. I have always pooh-poohed that notion as just scary talk. I would hate to think they could be right. If violence did occur against me, would the law even be on my side? Or would they say that I brought this on myself by deceiving these men into believing I was something that I am not? The recent Transgender Day of Remembrance reminds us that members of our transgender family have been murdered, and that perpetrators are often given a slap on the wrist because these victims are not looked at as members of the same human race as even the perpetrator, so there is no great loss if one of us is lost to violence—as if no one would miss us if we were suddenly gone. That is so sad and so wrong. That is not the world I want to live in, and I don’t believe it has to be that way. Am I dreaming or just trying to live a fairy tale?
that he wasn’t planning on. So I exited stage left. It’s late; people drink; it’s just one of those things – but two occurrences in a row? Perhaps having breakfast alone late at night isn’t such a great idea for a girl like me.
One of my favorite things to do after a night out on the town is to stop for breakfast. My regular spot is Denny’s on Quaker Lane heading into East Greenwich. The girls are just wonderful – they all know me by name – and the evening manager is always a gentleman.The food is great as well, and that of course is a real plus. But the last two times I’ve stopped in for a late-night snack (or a very early-morning bite), I have had an incident occur with a male patron. Most recently a handsome man came right over to my table and sat down. When you have several obviously straight men at a table, and one is suddenly seated with you asking questions like, “Where are you going after this?” it’s clear he doesn’t realize that things are not quite as they seem. The thought of his sudden realization (that the woman he decided to get up close and personal with is not a biological woman) made my heart stop for a moment. I decided that I did not want to be sitting there with him when it dawned on him that this tall blond had additional operating equipment
But let’s face it: I was a lousy boy. I was skinny and ugly. I couldn’t gain weight or muscle. I was far from impressed with the joy of being a boy, but I had traveled so far away from that little girl. She was all but lost, or so I thought. My friend Elaine, an incredibly beautiful dark-haired woman, moved in with me for about nine months while I lived vicariously through her. That was the catalyst that opened the door to my little lost girl inside. Now, here I am today, ten years later, making the leap towards womanhood with a series of surgeries that will make me even more passable than I am now.
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My ten-year journey is actually much longer than ten years. It started as far back as I can remember, when I used to hide in the bathroom and plead with God to fix what was broken and to make me a girl. I knew that I was a girl on the inside. Why wasn’t I a girl on the outside? My poor parents didn’t know what to do with me, and my five brothers weren’t much help either. They convinced me that I needed to be a boy if I was going to fit in. So I tried to be a boy out in the real world and lived in my fantasy world at home as a girl. Eventually, the fantasy world had to give way to reality, and I tried to be a boy all the time.
But let’s go back to Denny’s and the recent incidents. Maybe I blended in a bit too much at Denny’s. If I become more passable, am I just opening the door to more advances and potential violence as my friends and family would remind me? If my plastic surgeon does an incredible job (and I pray that he does) will I have to hide in the house, lest I be fearful of being
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outed at some horribly inconvenient time? And then would I become just another dead “tranny” that the world will never miss? My response: Hell no! If something happens to one of us, we must be recognized as victims, not as part of a disposable society. I live as a woman 24/7. That doesn’t mean you can stop by my house and find some beautiful June Cleaver-like woman dancing through the halls in stilettos holding a can of Pledge. I am simply not pretty all the time, but I am a woman all the time. I never tell anyone my age, but what the heck; we are all friends, or will be after you read this (God willing). I am 57 years old, and I have lived nearly all of my life trying to be the boy that I am not, and was miserable as a result. I lived all those years in fear that someone would find out my secret. Everyone thought that I was gay, but no, I am transgender, and I am not living in fear of it anymore.
lipstick in my photo in the Corporate Directory. Truthfully, I am not sure that I could have achieved my vice president status at my company as a transgender professional trying to climb the corporate ladder. I got there as a gay professional. Transgender workers don’t have a glass ceiling; we have a steel ceiling, and it is cemented shut. So I will work with my company to help them build understanding; I will shop and eat in public; and I will travel freely but cautiously. I am thrilled to have recently joined RI Pride’s board of directors because I can represent my community knowing what all of this feels like first hand. The transgender community is moving forward, and Jackie Collins at the Dark Lady and my transgender girlfriends at the Satin Doll are symbols of that change. My dream is that in my lifetime, we transgender Americans can live as equally as everyone else does, with the same rights, privileges, and understanding that everyone else has. We are here now. Hear us roar!
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that I was gay, but no, I am transgender, and I am not living in fear of it anymore.”
After 29 years on the job, I am now a woman at work. My coworkers are trying to get used to it just as I am trying to get used to it. Every day that passes somebody new realizes that Krystle Ray Baxter and Raymond Baxter are the same person. (It certainly makes for an interesting day.) I’m blond and wearing
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The next time you are out at the mall, or at dinner, and you see a tall (gorgeous, I hope) blond who seems just a tad too tall, it just might be me… living that dream. q
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Should Hormones Be Part of Your Gender Transition Plan? by Dr. Tracey Cohen, Medical Director of Behavioral Health and Quality, Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island
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ormone therapy has a variety of medical uses: alleviating symptoms of menopause, preventing pregnancy, and treating many health conditions including certain cancers. Each of these uses has different benefits and different risks. For some experiencing gender dysphoria, hormones are an integral part of the gender affirmation process. It can be difficult to find resources on these kinds of hormonal treatments in comparison to hormonal treatment for other purposes, but understanding and accessing your care options can make all the difference in building a consistent and healthful treatment plan. If you’re looking into taking hormones as part of a gender transition, here are some things to consider. Is hormone therapy right for me? If you are considering gender affirmation for gender dysphoria, estrogen or testosterone can provide a more feminine or masculine physique to support this process. It is important to talk these changes through with your doctor. Some changes are reversible, but others are not. By taking estrogen, you will notice breast development, a redistribution of body fat, and changes to the textures of your hair and skin. With testosterone, you will notice increased musculature, new facial and body hair growth, and the cessation of ovulation and menstruation. It’s important to note that hormone therapy will not undo certain physical traits brought on by puberty. For example, taking estrogen will not remove facial hair or cause your voice to become higher, and taking testosterone will not increase height. How do I take hormones? Hormone supplements are available in a variety of forms including shots, patches, gels, pills, and creams. These treatments vary in cost, dose frequency, and potential side effects. Talk to your doctor to determine the treatment course right for you. Are hormones safe? Most researchers agree that a knowledgeable healthcare provider can safely prescribe hormones after reviewing your individual medical history. The most serious risks come from taking hormones without proper medical consultation and monitoring. Of course, there are risks when failing to address gender dysphoria, too.
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Many websites purport to offer “safe” hormone therapy without a prescription, but the safest and most effective path to gender affirmation includes a medical provider partner who can assess and discuss with you your particular risks and benefits in initiating and maintaining hormone therapy. In this way, many of the unintended consequences of hormone therapy, such as increased chances of developing a heart condition or particular cancers, can be minimized and managed. How much do hormones cost? Costs of hormone therapy vary based on the kind of treatment and whether or not your insurance company covers any of the costs. Many Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island (BCBSRI) policies cover treatments related to gender reassignment. If you are a member of BCBSRI, you can call our member hotline at 1-800-639-2227 to learn more about what your individual policy covers. q
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New Birth Certificate Regulations for Transgender Rhode Islanders
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ast month the Rhode Island Department of Health passed new regulations for transgender individuals who seek to change the gender markers on their Rhode Island birth certificates.TGI Network of Rhode Island wishes to thank our many leaders and advocates who fought alongside us to make this change possible including Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, Youth Pride Inc., the RI chapter of the ACLU, and the RI chapter of the National Association of Social Workers. “For far too long, transpeople born in Rhode Island who wished to update the gender marker on their birth certificates were held to outdated guidelines requiring surgical treatments that are inconsistent with the standards of care for treating transgender individuals,” said Jayeson Watts, a clinical social worker and TGI Network board member. “This regulatory change is the result of years of education and advocacy with the Department of Health, and I want to thank state officials for their leadership on this issue.” The new regulations will help to align state requirements for updating identity documents with existing federal policies for updating documents including passports, foreign birth certificates of U.S. citizens, and Social Security. In 2001, Rhode Island became the second state in the nation to pass broad legislation to protect transgender individuals from discrimination in employment, housing, credit, and public accommodations. In 2012, Rhode Island’s Department of Motor Vehicles joined a handful of other states by updating their driver’s license and state ID policies to allow transgender individuals to obtain appropriate documentation without subjecting them to invasive questions about their personal medical information. And now in 2014, Rhode Island has become one of seven states to remove surgery requirements and streamline the process for updating birth certificates. The TGI Network’s website has details about this new process for updating birth certificates and plans to reach out to the medical providers who will be asked to complete the required documentation. q
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ovember 20 marked the 16th annual observance of the Transgender Day of Remembrance, an event that grew from a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999 marking the one-year anniversary of the still unsolved murder of Rita Hester in Boston. The event continues to be observed nationally on or around November 20th each year. This year’s local event took place at Temple Beth El in Providence and included speakers from the trans* community, a health/resource fair, and a panel discussion. The crux of the event is honoring, by name, the lives and identities of individuals who have been killed this year due to anti-transgender-related hatred and bias. These murders tend to be particularly horrific and often described as “over kill” meaning that their bodies are subjected to forces far beyond what would be needed to kill them. This year’s list includes shootings and stabbings, but also beheadings, dismemberments, blunt force trauma, being run over repeatedly by a car, hanging and being dragged through the street. This is a hard day and a difficult event to discuss. No one likes to talk about how uncertain life still is for some members of our community. Most of the transgender lives that are lost are women of color. It is important for us to remember that intersecting oppressions, access to competent health care, and community support play a major role in some people being more at risk than others. In remembrance of those we have lost, we ask you, fellow LGBTQ community members and allies, to take the time to reflect on actions that YOU can take to help make this world safer for transgender people. That is the overriding purpose of the Transgender Day of Remembrance. q TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy, and education for the transgender, gendervariant, and intersex community. Incorporated in 2011, its mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large.Visit us at www.tginetwork.org. Looking for life insurance? Concerned about your medical history? We have a guarantee issue life insurance policy that may help. You don’t have to leave your loved ones unprotected.
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“On the Shoulders of Giants”
An Interview with Frank Ferri
by Jen Stevens
Options: Do you have a coming out story you'd like to share? Frank: Coming out was a gradual process. Through high school and some of college I had both a girlfriend and a boyfriend. Around age 19 I realized that I had to live my life as who I was – a gay man – and slowly came out to others as I gained their friendship. I was honest when people asked if I was gay. Over the years I participated in LGBT organizations and events. I would say my greatest coming out story was when I ran for office as openly gay and married. My first mailer was a letter to my neighbors introducing myself and included mention of my LGBTQ activism and marriage to Tony. Once I was elected,Tony and I became the most visible gay couple in government. That was quite a coming out. O: Who or what inspired you to become active in the local gay rights movement? F: Those who first marched through the streets of Providence and who fought for Rhode Island’s non-discrimination legislation in the 90s were a great inspiration. I realized they were marching for me, and I had an obligation to help. The Alliance for Lesbian and Gay Civil Rights, Rhode Island Pride, and many individuals inspired me.
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O: What memories are you most fond of from your time as co-chair of Marriage Equality Rhode Island? F: When I first helped establish the Campaign for Marriage Equality, as we called it then, I did not want to chair it. I was willing to do anything to help, but not be a chair. We first had three co-chairs, and then when two dropped out I was convinced to be a chair. My co-chair, Jenn Steinfeld, became our first executive director when we were able to secure some funding, and there I was chair of Marriage Equality RI. I am so proud of all we did to raise awareness for marriage equality. We traveled the state and spread our message. MERI volunteers inspired me to work hard and then to run for office when the opportunity presented itself. Our rallies were always a highlight, and the most memorable was when I proposed to Tony during our rally in 2006. The crowd exploded, and it was such a wonderful moment. Lobbying at the statehouse was also a great experience.You, Jen (our first paid staffer), Scott Simmons, and my good friend Sue were the first to lobby legislators for the marriage bill. O: Your ability to speak openly and honestly from the heart may be what most inspires others to follow your lead. How do you prepare to address a crowd?
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F: You’re right; my speeches always came from the heart. I stressed over what I would say, never wanting to come across phony. I would actually write my speech at the last minute and often surprised myself with the result. It was never calculated – just plain honest. O: As the owner of Town Hall Lanes bowling alley in Johnston, how has being an openly gay man affected your business? F: The majority of my customers who know me have always supported me. Disparaging remarks were made now and then, but they were extremely few. My employees have always been supportive, and for that, I am grateful. I would be blown away when a parent of a youth league bowler, a senior citizen, and other customers, after seeing a newspaper article or TV news report that I had been in, would make it a point to say they were supportive and believed marriage equality would eventually happen. I have many stories of support.
F: Many are critical of politics because of the negativity and abuse that we see. We actually do have a great system of government. The writers of our Constitution did a good job of giving us a foundation to create a government that worked for all citizens. But it takes perseverance and hard work to keep it strong. During my first five years I often heard, “How do you go on when you can’t even get a vote in committee on the marriage bill?” I knew when I first testified at the State House that Rhode Islanders did support us. We just had to make ourselves visible and show who we were: neighbors, co-workers, professionals, etc. I was at first critical of politics, especially after the Nixon years, but gained optimism when I realized legislators actually listened when you spoke with them face to face and that the way our government is designed does work. Being part of the solution has renewed my faith in government. You just cannot sit on the sidelines and expect things to change.
O: I had the pleasure of celebrating your wedding to Tony Caparco on the first day same-sex marriages were performed in Rhode Island (August 1, 2013). How did you know you wanted to marry Tony, and how has marriage changed your lives? F: Tony and I have now been together for 33 years. In 1998, Tony and I had lived together in our home in Warwick for 13 years, lived as a married couple, joined our neighborhood association, and were active in our community. That’s when I first testified at the State House for the marriage bill that Rep. Michael Pisaturo had first introduced a year earlier. It was just wrong to deny us the right to marry. Whenever someone asks how marriage has changed our lives, I answer that it’s difficult to explain. Emotionally one doesn’t really know until you actually get married. I believe it has changed those around us more than it has changed us. Others are more comfortable talking about gay marriage and accept us as just another married couple. No more whispering and feeling uncomfortable because of not knowing what to say. O: If marriage equality and equal rights broke out across the globe, would it still be important for LGBTQ people to build community? F: If achieving civil rights meant never again having to be concerned about losing those rights, then I would say it wouldn’t be important. Unfortunately, that is not the reality. We must always be on our toes making sure we have justice for all. It will always be important to build community. O: How has serving as a Representative of Warwick in the Rhode Island General Assembly these past seven years changed your view of politics?
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Ferri sworn in as State Representative in 2007 O: Your bid for Lieutenant Governor ended with the September primary election. What stands out most about the experience of running a statewide campaign? F: First and foremost is the money you have to raise. I think it is obscene. We definitely need campaign finance reform. I had to spend most of my time on the phones begging for money rather than being able to meet voters and talking to them about why they should vote for me. When I think of the money that was spent on elections this year and how that money could be
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better used to help Rhode Islanders, it makes me ill. O: How did you feel about last month's general election results? F: I believe those that were elected truly want to make a better Rhode Island. I had a wonderful experience as a legislator because there was always mutual respect among my peers. There were some who would never agree with me, but it was important to have conversations and the opportunity to present your side. I would love the opportunity to work with any of them to help move Rhode Island forward. O: Where do you see yourself in five years? F: In five years I’ll be 65 - hopefully retired! Seriously, I am not sure. Life has always presented opportunities and hasn’t let me down yet. I am waiting for the next opportunity. O: What's your wish for Rhode Island’s LGBTQ community? F: We have a vibrant and dedicated LGBTQ community that I am proud to be a part of. Some of my wishes are that we can hold on to our history; work together to support all of our community, including youth, transgender people, and seniors – a future that includes everyone; and to never let our guard down. q On the Shoulders of Giants is an ongoing series showcasing those who have dedicated decades to furthering LGBTQ equality in RI and have made major contributions to our community’s shared history and victories. This is the ninth interview in the series.
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Adopt a Family with AIDS Care Ocean State
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few years ago, Scott Mitchel, an employee of AIDS Care Ocean State, was making his annual deliveries of presents to our clients and their families for the Adopt a Family Program. He was not expecting what happened when he stopped at the home of a single mother with a six-year-old daughter. The woman opened her front door and saw Scott standing there with a big bag of presents. She began to cry and fell to the floor. Without a word, she pointed to a Christmas tree, decorated but with nothing under it. The woman thanked Scott over and over as he left the building, teary-eyed. He later received a hand-written letter from the daughter saying, “Thank you for the presents, Santa.” AIDS Care Ocean State’s Adopt a Family program was implemented to provide support for our clients and the community during the holiday season when they need it most. Started in 2008, the program has delivered over 100,000 toys to children in need, provided over 4,000 articles of clothing, purchased over $50,000 in food vouchers, and assisted with over $60,000 in emergency heating assistance to our clients. Long after the holiday season is over, these emergency assistance funds support our clients during the coldest and harshest months of the year. AIDS Care Ocean State needs your help again this
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season. Please Adopt a Family for just $50 at aidscareos.org. It’s that simple, and your donation is greatly appreciated. For more information about AIDS Care Ocean State’s Adopt a Family campaign, or if you would like to donate toys and gift cards, please contact Stephen Hartley at 521-3603 or info@aidscareos.org. q AIDS Care Ocean State provides comprehensive AIDS services, supportive housing, emergency funds, and a speakers bureau. Located at 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. (401) 521-3603. Appointments: (401) 781-0665. www.aidscareos.org.
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I’ll Be Home with Bells On by Bradford Greer
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he Providence Gay Men’s Chorus is coming home for the holiday season with bells on. The fine tuning for the performances and the décor and atmosphere are almost done. The rehearsals have had the choristers exploring the theme of holiday home celebrations since August.
they could sometimes be hard to sit through, but over the years they have come full circle and are one of the best in the country. Also, seeing how the chorus has included other nonprofits over the last few years makes it more of a community event. I will work hard to make sure that the PGMC is financially sound
When Stephen Hartley, Development Director of AIDS Care Ocean State, thinks of home, he thinks of a place where there is love, respect, and fun. He usually hosts a small, intimate party with close friends. The newlywed celebrates the day with his husband Brian, his daughter Courtney, and other family members.
and will have the funds needed to produce all their shows in a professional manner.”
When asked about his spirituality, Hartley says “I practice love all year long. I also believe in paying it forward. If you have success in your life, pass on what you can to those who are less fortunate.” His philosophy is reinforced every Christmas Eve when he attends A Christmas Carol at Trinity Rep.
What drives him to devote so much of his time and energy to the community? “I just do what I can do to make the gay community more visible. I’ve felt a deep devotion to the gay community since the first day I met Julie Pell, Rodney Davis, Kate Monteiro, Ken Fish, and many others who have devoted so much time. I feel if everyone just stopped and took two hours per week to donate their time; imagine what the community could be. I work so hard out of respect of those who have done so much before me.”
This year the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus will be the happy recipients of that generosity when he takes over the fundraising coordination job for the PGMC. He’s attended almost every PGMC concert. “I believe in their mission, and I love everyone in the chorus. I’ll be honest: At the beginning
Dave O’Brien, president of the PGMC, shared this: “We are so excited with the possibilities that Stephen’s professionalism and fundraising acumen will bring to the growth of our organization. He has been our most fervent and enthusiastic supporter for almost twenty years and I couldn’t be more
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thrilled to officially welcome him into our choral family as an integral member of our administration.” Matthew Melton is one of five new singers in this concert. “I’ll Be Home for Christmas” is Matthew’s favorite holiday song but the Texas baritone with a background in theatre was not sure he would make it home for his mother’s prime rib Christmas dinner this year now that he has moved to Rhode Island. A recent graduate of Johnson and Wales, the 23-year-old is employed by Wildtree Herbs in Warwick developing new recipes and products. Christmas is one of the few times of the year when the whole family is together. Matt came out when he was 14, and raised a Catholic, he thought he was going straight to hell as a result. Fortunately, his parents supported him out of that theory. While he enjoys trading presents and going out to view decorations with friends when he goes home, the true gift of the season is the smile on his mother’s face throughout a stay-at-home Christmas Day shared with his immediate family. That is one important gift worth coming home for. The Dolly Parton holiday jingle “I’ll Be Home with Bells On” evokes a joyous trek home to embrace your loving family and spend time with very dear friends. Or will you be secretly packing a cross with holy water and with your phasers set to stun? Whether your shields are up or it’s the most wonderful
time of the year, the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus will help you jingle all the way with a cavalcade of music designed to get you in the mood and to help you remember what the holidays are all about: your own personal spirituality; sharing kindness, forgiveness, and peace; celebrating with your family— whoever they may be; good food; good friends; and of course, great holiday music. I’ll Be Home with Bells On performs December 11-13 (Thursday – Saturday) at 7pm and Sunday, December 14 at 4pm at Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street in Providence. Proceeds from the Friday night performance will benefit AIDS Care Ocean State. For tickets, visit provgmc.org. q
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Ask Me Anything:
Fortune Feimster by Kristen Connolly
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omedian Fortune Feimster (yes, that’s her real name) recently chatted with Options about her upcoming stand-up show in Providence. Feimster, a North Carolina native who is best known for her roundtable yuks on Chelsea Lately, first made her name as a member of top improvisational comedy troupe the Groundlings, and recently sold a sitcom to ABC that will be co-produced by Tina Fey. Options: Why stand-up? How did you get started? Feimster: I’d been doing improv and sketch comedy—that’s how I started, and one of my friends came to one of my sketch shows and she was like, “You’re a stand-up. Your delivery is very much like stand-up and the way you write jokes.” O: You have played a lot of sketch characters. Which one’s your favorite? F: Probably the Darlene Witherspoon character—that’s the Hooters waitress. I find that a lot of people come to my shows still quoting that video. O: How did you get the idea for Darlene? Did you know a lot of Hooters Girls? F: I had grown up going to Hooters because I have two older brothers, so I was very familiar with the Hooters’ brand and I, for Halloween one year, needed a costume, and I was like, “Well, that would be funny if I dressed up as a Hooters waitress.” O: How did you end up on Chelsea Lately? F: They were doing a wide search for a new writer and a lot
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of comics in town put in a package and I somehow ended up getting the job. I still don’t know how, but I'm really glad I did. O: Who does your hair? (I think it might be the same person who does mine.) F: Supercuts, obviously. Yeah, there’s not much you can do with this ‘fro. One of my friends does color on people’s hair and he was like, “Girl, you are not going to Supercuts anymore,” so he’s fighting me on it. So every now and then I’ll let him lighten it up a little bit. O: When did you first realize that you were gay? F: As I got older and I moved to L.A. and I started to be around more gay people, it really opened up my world and my eyes to being gay. One day I was just like, “Oh, crap, I’m gay.” I wish I could say I had some gorgeous girl hit on me, and I saw the light, but that’s what happened. I was actually kind of terrified of women for, like, the next two years. O: What was the reaction when you came out to your folks? F: They were super awesome. I mean, I’m very lucky in that my family has been completely supportive from day one, so that was never an issue. O: What advice would you give to the youngsters, or those who might be still struggling to come out? F: Everybody’s on a different path as far as that’s concerned. Some people recognize it when they’re young, and good for
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them. Other people just kind of need to experience life a little bit longer and be in a place where they feel they can handle it, so I’d just say to be true to whatever your own journey is and just know that even if you don't get the support in certain areas there are many other people out there who will support you. O: What do you think people would be surprised to know about you? F: I’m a little shyer sometimes than people would realize. Because I was on Chelsea and because I play so many crazy characters, people kind of assume that I’m bouncing off the walls all the time and that’s definitely not me. I’m more of a laidback kind of person; I’m not a party girl. I like to have a good time but I more like hanging out with friends and just being chill.
up in the South and about my life experiences and dating. I feel like there’s a lot of different things that any and everybody can relate to. And, you know, I'm pretty silly, and when people come to my shows I want them to have a good time, whatever stressful day they had or whatever they're going through. The one thing people will tell me a lot when they leave my shows is that they were so happy to forget about that stuff and just laugh and smile and that’s what I try to do—just bring the lighter side of life to people. Feimster performs at the Dark Lady in Providence on Thursday, December 18. Tickets are going quickly; reserve yours now at Showclix.com. q
O: You’re visiting Providence on December 18. Have you ever been to Providence before? F: This is actually my first time ever performing in Rhode Island. I’m pretty pumped because I can’t believe it’s never happened before. It’s the most gorgeous area I’ve ever been through. When I rode through Rhode Island my jaw was on the floor, I loved it so much. I’ve always heard really wonderful things about you guys from my friends who performed out that way. O: What can you tell us about the show? F: I tell a lot of stories about my family and about growing
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Hit the Slopes with OutRyders Kelly Scafariello
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ashing through the snow, in a one-horse open sleigh, o’er the fields we go, skiing and snowboarding all the way. Skiing and snowboarding with the OutRyders club, that is! OutRyders is New England’s largest LGBT nonprofit, allvolunteer, ski and snowboard club. It’s open to all individuals interested in meeting new people who love spending their winter outdoors. OutRyders was founded in 2001 by a group of gay men who loved to ski and snowboard. Member Mike Mell said that when the club was formed, “the vision for the club was a simple one: to have a gay group that was all about great friends, great mountain fun, and great times at off-mountain social events.”The vision for OutRyders was a successful one. About 400 outdoor enthusiasts have been members over its 14-year history, with 220 members participating in the 2014-15 season. The club takes pride in the friendships that have been built throughout the years. According to the OutRyders website, “As a new OutRyder, you will meet some of the friendliest people on the planet. Every season lots of new members join for the great opportunities to connect with other gay skiers and snowboarders in small, on-mountain groups and at huge social events.” The club also has an online forum available to all registered members that keep them informed of upcoming events. Another goal of the club is to “do everything we can to
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make connecting easy.” On the ski and snow outings, members are usually divided into groups based on experience levels. All groups are led by “friendly, volunteer mountain guides who know the terrain.” At the end of the day, the group reconvenes at the lodge for food and drinks. OutRyders offers a winter calendar season filled with many outdoor and social events. In December, three events are being held: a day trip to Bretton Woods in New Hampshire, a weekend trip after Christmas to Sugarloaf in Maine, and a holiday party at Club Café in Boston. After the New Year, OutRyders will host additional winter ski and snowboarding outings across the New England region at Okemo Mountain, Mount Snow, Sunday River, Sugarbush, Stratton, Jay Peak, and
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Killington. OutRyders’ big event takes place in January when the club’s members head to British Columbia to celebrate Pride and Ski Festival at Whistler. President of the club Steve Sage said, “This is my tenth season as a member of OutRyders.â€? Sage commuted 100 miles from Hartford, Connecticut to attend his first event – an OutRyders season-opening party in Boston. He commented, “I wasn’t sure what to expect‌but that night was the start of something great for me. I didn’t know it at the time, but soon I would be feeding my passion for skiing several times a month.â€? Fast-forward nine years, and Sage is now living in Boston, and has a circle of “ski buddies [who are] gearing up for the best OutRyders season yet!â€? If you are ready to kick off the winter season by meeting new people and tackling some of New England’s most popular slopes, now is the time to join OutRyders. Membership costs $55. All membership fees are used for member parties, raffle prizes, and “other fun thingsâ€? the club can think of. As a member, you will also receive a t-shirt and discounts on lodging and lift tickets. Sage said, “I believe OutRyders truly offers something special to anyone who loves to ski or snowboard. Whether you are looking to ski, snowboard, make new friends, or take great trips at discounted group rates, OutRyders is the club for you!â€? For more information, visit www.outryders.org. q
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Lesbians on the Loose by Annie Cronin-Silva and Melanie Silva
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all festivities were in full force for the Lesbians on the Loose! The Halloween Drag Bingo, our annual fall foliage trip to Ogunquit, the ACOS ArtBeat fundraiser, and the opening of The Village (a new lesbian bar/restaurant) made for a busy October and November. October’s Drag Bingo was festive and full of energy. Drag hosts Kitty Litter and LaDiva Jonz entertained the crowd with their antics and paraded attendees in Halloween costumes around the hall. Our favorite masquerader was the girl dressed adorably as a flowerpot, though many costumes were creative and original. Over 900 people came out to support this AIDS Care Ocean State fundraiser, setting a Drag Bingo attendance record. Join the crowd on the third Thursday of the month at the Riviera Bingo Hall on Elmwood Avenue in Cranston. Gather a group of friends (ten or more) to make a reservation. It’s always a blast. We took our annual foliage trip to Ogunquit, Maine. I am sure many have ventured to “The Beautiful Place by the Sea” during the summer, but it’s the colorful trees and the fall scents in each of the quaint stores that draw us back every October. The town was decorated for its annual OgunquitFest, complete with gigantic pumpkins and vast Halloween displays at all the major B&Bs and inns. We spent our time admiring the foliage, walking along the Marginal Way Preservation and the beach while breathing in the crisp air, searching the antique stores
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Melanie, BB Hayes, Donny McKendall, and Annie at ArtBeat for that special something, and enjoying fresh apple pie and pumpkin lattes. Autumn is a special time in Maine. We attended our first ArtBeat, one of the major fundraising events for AIDS Care Ocean State, which was held at The Biltmore on October 24 and hosted by Kitty Litter and Jacqueline DiMera. Early in the evening, we mingled and bid on the silent auction items such as paintings, jewelry, business services, and sculptures. It was an impressive display of contributions from local artists and businesses. We were excited to see so many people bidding on paintings, sculptures, and even a safari trip. It was rewarding to know all the money raised goes to families affected by AIDS. The fall also brought a new lesbian spot to Providence. The Village, a bar, restaurant, and live entertainment venue, opened at 373 Richmond Street. Ladies, you’ll see many familiar faces when you stop by to check out this amazing space. Russ, Stacy, Lori, and Vivian from Deville’s will be there to greet you and will make all feel welcome. We attended the jam-packed soft opening and were much impressed with the space, vibe, designated parking, and outside seating.The acclaimed all-female band Sister Funk performed when we returned on Halloween. Their non-stop energy had the crowd dancing late into the night. Definitely check out their brunch menu, and thank the staff for bringing this much-needed nightspot to the LGBTQ community. q
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AIDS Project RI Tests for HIV on College Campuses
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nce a month, Christion Battey, AIDS Project Rhode Island’s (APRI) Program Coordinator, gears up with clear Tupperware boxes brimming with HIV rapidtests, free condoms, and lube to give to college students at the University of Rhode Island. He hops into his sporty little hatchback with a rainbow bumper sticker and cruises down the highway to head to the campus. Students wait for him in the health services building on the URI Kingston campus, some of them thumb through their phones to push back their mounting anxiety. Most of the students have never been tested before. Some of them worry that they may not receive favorable results. Christion breezes into the building smiling, volunteers in tow, and he treks down to the basement where he sets up his testing kits and clipboards in neat, color-coordinated rows. Then, one by one, students sit with him to ask questions about sex and HIV. They swab their gums with OraQuick tests and wait for what some describe as the longest twenty minutes of their lives. Christion answers their questions: “No, it doesn’t hurt… I promise.” or “Yes, it’s really only 20 minutes!” With the help of URI’s LGBTQ Center and Sergio Suhett,
APRI’s October testing at URI pulled in a group of over 50 students. When asked if these testing services are important to the college community, senior Ianna Leshin, one of the LGBTQ Center’s student employees, stresses that services provided by APRI are “beneficial to college students because they encourage students to learn more about their own health, which will help prevent the spread of diseases like HIV.” Leshin is optimistic about testing on college campuses because, “College is a time full of change, and even if the change is something [as difficult as HIV], the period of transition may ease the process and help to prepare them to live a healthier life.” APRI tests on college and university campuses across the state including Rhode Island College, Brown University, Salve Regina University, and RISD. Make sure that you’re practicing safe sex, no matter whom you’re having sex with, and get tested every three months for HIV because it takes the virus about that long to be able to be picked up in the rapid-tests. Knowing your status will keep you and others safe. q AIDS Project RI is a division of Family Service of RI, providing case management, various health-related services, advocacy, prevention education, and HIV and Hep-C testing. APRI’s location is 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. Walk-in testing hours: Tuesdays 4-6pm and Thursdays 5-6:30pm. Call (401) 831-5522 or visit www.aisdprojectri.org for more info.
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News from SAGE/RI by Cathy S. Cranston
LGBT Older Adult Meal Site in the Works Tis the season to think about gathering together around the dinner table for good eats, conversation, and comradery. Or is it? For many LGBT older adults the picture is not so rosy. According to data collected by the Massachusetts LGBT Aging Project, 75% of LGBT older adults live alone, 80% are single, and 90% do not have children, putting them at risk of social isolation and declining health. The RI Senior Nutrition Program, funded under the Older Americans Act and operated by a variety of agencies under contract with the Department of Elderly Affairs (DEA), has a long history of providing both Meals on Wheels and dining sites. The program delivers nutritious meals but, equally important, serves as a gathering place for people to join with others to create community. SAGE is collaborating with the DEA and the RI Senior Nutrition Program directors to establish a meal program for LGBT older adults. There are now eleven LGBT cafés in Massachusetts providing nutritious meals, health and wellness programs, and a safe and welcoming environment where friendships and community are built. It is time for one in Rhode Island! To ensure that the program reflects the needs and preferences of the community, a brief survey has been developed to gather input on questions such as where the café should be located, and what day and time is best. Access the survey at: www.surveymonkey.com/s/XJKHQPM. The Purpose Prize Do you know someone who is over 60 and taking on some of society’s biggest challenges? Wouldn’t you love to give them $100,000? Sponsored by Encore.org, the prize recognizes those with the passion and experience to create new ways to solve tough social problems. Nominees, who may be working for organizations in the nonprofit, public, or private sectors, must be legal residents of the U.S. or U.S. citizens living abroad who have initiated important innovations in an encore career. The nomination deadline is January 15. Visit www.encore.org/prize
to learn more about the nomination process. Mid-Winter Brunch SAGE/RI invites members of the community to join them for brunch and lively discussion about SAGE’s strategic direction on Saturday, January 24, 2015, from 11am-3pm at Chelo’s on Post Road in Warwick. Watch your inbox or follow SAGE/Rhode Island on Facebook for more details. Training the Next Generation of Doctors to Get LGBT Health Right The Association of American Medical Colleges has published a manifesto intended to change medical school curricula so that future doctors are trained to help patients who are LGBT, gender nonconforming, or born with sex differences in development. Moving from added content or a lecture on LGBT issues, the new curriculum defines 30 competencies that all medical students need to have. Always at the forefront on emerging issues, SAGE/RI members recently participated on a panel discussion on this topic at the Brown University’s Medical School. Another example of how SAGE/RI has your back. Video Project Who better to share their experiences, challenges, and triumphs than older members of the LGBT community themselves? SAGE/RI is pleased to announce that it will be working with University of RI student intern and seasoned videographer Jeff Hartley to produce a video of older members of our community sharing their views on aging and what things are most important to them at this point in their lives. Recruitment of folks interested in being interviewed and the selection process will be available in January. Stay tuned! q SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE/RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; leave us a message at (401) 528-3259; write to us at 235 Promenade St., Suite 500, Box 18, Providence, RI 02908; or find us on Facebook as SAGE/Rhode Island.
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Youth Pride Cabaret Sets Fundraising Record by Kerri Kanelos Cabaret, the annual awards dinner and dance for Youth Pride Inc. (YPI), raised more than $23,000, exceeding revenue from last year by more than $6,000. The event, which supports programs for Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning (LGBTQQ) youth, was held on October 17 at the Crowne Plaza in Warwick. The evening was hosted by Jacqueline DiMera and featured performances by a variety of local artists including Kitty Litter and Jennifer Minuto. We are so pleased with the amazing generosity we received this year – both from sponsors and attendees as well as the many performers and volunteers who helped put the event together. It’s wonderful that our community came out in full force to support the growth and development of LGBTQQ youth. The organization’s largest annual fundraiser honored individuals and groups who have provided vital resources for youth served at the drop-in center and throughout the community. Recipients this year included Providence College’s Feinstein Institute for Public Service, Lauren Nocera, and Jesus Holguin. Youth Pride has hosted this event for more than ten years, so it’s exciting that we could make it even more successful. Thanks to some of our new sponsors, particularly MetLife Auto & Home, Neighborhood Health Plan of Rhode Island, Orange Square, and Thundermist Health Center, for coming on board along with our long-term friends BankRI, Embolden, and John Snow, Inc. Proceeds from the event support the organization’s mission to provide a safe space, programs, and services for youth and young adults impacted by sexual orientation and gender identity or expression. Last year alone, YPI served approximately 750 area youth. About 40 to 50 youths come into the drop-in center each day.
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Fundraising is critical as the need for services continues to expand. We continue to serve youth who, in many cases, have nowhere else to go, with meaningful programs that provide a wide range of social services. Our work in the community is also so important as we educate teachers, clinicians, and other youth service providers on issues impacting LGBT youth and their peers. q Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903.Visit www.youthprideri.org, emailinfo@youthprideri.org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.
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Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in RI, unless otherwise indicated. Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7-8pm. The Wellness Company,132A George M Cohan Blvd., Providence. All are welcome. Set Them Free: Narcotics Anonymous open discussion group. Wednesdays 7:30-9pm. Anchor Recovery Community Center, 249 Main Street, Pawtucket. 721-5100. info@anchorrecovery.org. www.anchorrecovery.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext. 3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & HEP C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 7810665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org. AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org.www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org.
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Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002. HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or tollfree 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@ plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org. Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. 383-4888. www.projectweber.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 9847514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net.
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Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 7674100 ext. 3516. Information/Education The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Thursday-Saturday 12-6pm and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com. RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list.To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Sunday-Wednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: Special events space, film screenings and other public and private events. Open mic first and third Saturday 8:30-10:30pm. 209 Douglas Ave, Providence. 521-2095. www.brooklyncoffeeteahouse.com Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.clubbodycenter.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. Tuesday-Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm-1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com. Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm-2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950. Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@ yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu.
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Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@ glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com. The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@ gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org. Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org.
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Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org. Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 5685411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 4345012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org. Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Pastor Dan Randall. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@ firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Same-gender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 528-5348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org.
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Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence.org. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org. Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com.
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Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Street, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@ gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org. St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net, www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Rev. Joy Utter. Sundays 9am. 600 Fall River Avenue, Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@ verizon.net, www.scc-ucc.com Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org. Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Peter Stein, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081.www.uufairhaven.org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27
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North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 8845933. www.westminsteruu.org. Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com. Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 424-9595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bear-identified and affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya. org, www.cigsya.org. Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA. corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1005 Main Street #1105 Pawtucket. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 40 and older. Second Sunday. Contact Steve, 9963010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net. SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBTQ seniors. 235 Promenade Street, Suite 500, Box 18, Providence. 528-3259. sageriinfo@gmail.com.
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SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage & specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com. Sports & Recreation PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling. com. www.townhalllanes.com. GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Prov. Season thru April. View us on Facebook or email galabowlingleague@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com. Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 2747672.www.mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org. Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com. Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net. Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult co-ed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road,Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6 ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org .
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Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance: Steven Camara, Advisor. BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree Street, Fall River, MA. (774) 357-2391. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. COLAGE: Support and social activities for children of LGBT parents. Coordinator Veronica Jutras. Third Saturday 10:30am-12pm. Gordon School, E. Providence. rhodeisland@colage.org www.colage.org/colage-chapter/colage-rhode-island-chapter/. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private one-toone chat and info on local resources. Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www.fenwayhealth.org. Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Mandy Hart. mandy.hart@salve.edu. SeaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership): a program of PRYSM. Monthly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. SeaQuel@prysm.us. www.prysm.us. S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu. The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org. University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu.
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URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org. Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911.TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 3315437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org. Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 3311350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378. Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. Confidential. PO Box 587, Boston, MA 02117. (617) 376-3612. info@goalne.org, www.goalne.org. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org. GLBTQ Domestic Violence Project: Support, info, shelter. 955 Massachusetts Avenue, Private Message Box 131, Cambridge, MA. (800) 832-1901. www.glbtqdvp.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS.
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Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+. Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com. National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org. Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@ fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Greater Providence chapter, serves all RI and southeastern MA. First Wednesday 6:45pm. Met School, 325 Public Street, Providence. 7517571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com, www.pflagprovidence.org. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 8616191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www.straightspouse.org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, genderqueer and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group, first and third Tuesday 7-9pm. For location and information 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org, www.tginetwork.org. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org. q
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This Is M.E. The incomparable Melissa Etheridge is back with This Is M.E., her twelfth original album. This new album is what it says it is: quintessentially Melissa Etheridge. Etheridge’s powerful vocals and loud-and-proud guitar will energize long-time fans and new listeners. This Is M.E. feels like the best of Etheridge’s previous albums, but with entirely new songs. It has the angry, gut-wrenching breakup track, “Ain’t That Bad,” the flirty pick-up song, “Take My Number,” the go-it-alone-tobecome-me anthem “Stranger Road,” the self-processing “Do It Again,” the LGBT power ballad, “Monster,” the relationship recovery track, “A Little Hard Hearted,” and the poppy, feel-good ditty, “A Little Bit of Me.” The cover art is also a nod to long-time followers; the large photo
Lady Valor: The Kristen Beck Story What happens when a Conan becomes a Barbie? That’s the central question in the documentary Lady Valor: The Kristin Beck Story. Kristin Beck was formerly Christopher Beck, a U.S. Navy SEAL who served in 13 deployments, including on SEAL Team Six. While a SEAL, Beck was highly decorated, receiving the Bronze Star and Purple Heart, among other commendations.After 20 years of military service, Beck continued high-level clearance work for the U.S. government and at the Pentagon. Then, Beck came out as a woman. “This film is not about my physical transition,” says Beck. “It’s not about all of the sad times and all of the other things going on in many transgender people’s lives.That’s a story that’s been told quite a bit, and I spoke with the filmmakers right at the beginning and I said,‘I’m only doing this if we can do this differently.’” Beck aimed for something uplifting that would help viewers see that it’s possible for someone to be the toughest of the tough and still be in the LGBT community— especially in the “T” community. Beck wanted to show that the two are not mutually exclusive. Says Beck, "The gray area between genders is so much more vast than we could ever imagine, and I think that’s because when you look at the deep down, the inside, we are all the same.” Lady Valor is a joint production of CNN Films and Wolfe Video and is available on DVD and at WolfOnDemand. Beck’s book, Warrior Princess, published in 2013, is also available in paperback at Amazon.com.
of Etheridge belting out a tune is made of thousands of photos from her fans. Also of note is “Who Are You Waiting For,” the song she wrote for her wedding to her longtime best friend, prominent television producer/writer Linda Wallem. The moving and deeply personal track served as her vows in the ceremony. This is M.E. is available now on iTunes. Since it’s officially the holiday season, I will be decorating my Charlie Brown tree to her holiday album, A New Thought for Christmas, also available. If you want to learn more about Etheridge, visit melissaetheridge.com, and for an even deeper fix, I recommend listening to her recent interview with Howard Stern, available free on YouTube.
Winning Marriage In Winning Marriage, Marc Solomon, the national campaign director for Freedom to Marry, details the inner politics of the fight for marriage from 2003, when popular politicians wouldn’t touch the issue, to this year, when same-sex marriage has the support of the majority of Americans and same-sex couples are able to marry in 33 states and the District of Columbia. This is the other side of the story, the unseen side behind the news reports: the story of the meetings, the personal conversations, the political deals and fundraisers, the late-night calls, and the media pressure. Solomon’s description of Rhode Island’s fight is sparse, although the in-depth description of how his team honed its winning strategy in Massachusetts is notable. Solomon was present at the Rhode Island State House when Governor Lincoln Chafee signed the bill into law. He writes, “At a reception after the bill signing, Chafee told me it was his happiest day in office.” If you worked on or volunteered for the campaign in Rhode Island, the campaigns Solomon describes may take you back to those days, and you may recognize some familiar names. For everyone, this book is a primer for how a national movement is organized and an important chronicle of one of the most significant periods in the history of human rights. I picked up my copy of Winning Marriage at Books on the Square (also home to Providence’s Queer Book Club) at 471 Angel Street in Providence, but you can also pick up a copy online.
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