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From the Editor Dear Reader, Many people have worked so hard to bring you this June issue, the Pride Guide, a true labor of love. And many more still are working to bring you a fantastic 40th Anniversary PrideFest: you can read all about it in the pages to come.To prepare you for this milestone Pride season, here are my suggestions for the “Top Five Ways to Celebrate 40 Years of RI Pride.” When Billy Mencer Ackerly, Belle Pellegrino, and 70 or so others first marched in 1976, they never imagined that the streets of downtown Providence would be filled with tens of thousands of people, celebrating that pride 40 years later. Can you imagine what it must have felt like to march in 1976? What risks would you have been willing to take? This Pride season, let’s remember to express our gratitude to early gay rights pioneers like the “76ers” – grand marshals of this year’s Pride Parade (p. 14) – whose courage back then allows us to enjoy so many things we may take for granted today. Four decades and many civil rights triumphs later, we are celebrating our first RI PrideFest since the US Supreme Court instituted equal marriage rights for same-sex couples last June. The backlash after that tremendous civil rights victory has taken the form of renegade civil servants and discriminatory state legislation, while bigots desperately grasping for any legal way to keep us down have especially targeted the trans community. Let’s make sure the trans people in our lives know we have their backs, because the Federal Departments of Justice and Education sure did by recently declaring North Carolina’s HB-2 to be in violation of civil rights. (p. 23) Thankfully, the current administration has a favorable stance on civil rights. Alongside that wave of backlash and hatred over the past year has come an utterly appalling Presidential campaign. Astonishingly, Donald Trump’s xenophobic, racist, misogynistic, and trans- and homophobic rhetoric only earns him votes in the primaries. I would have preferred to not know that so many Americans agree with his values, but now that he’s risen to become the presumptive Republican nominee in November, we have to do everything in our power to stop Trump. We haven’t come this far to be sent back to the dark ages. As long-time local activist Kate Monteiro would say, “Many hands make light work,” so pitch in this Pride season. Whether you’re volunteering, donating to Pride’s $40 for 40 Years campaign, or literally pitching your refuse where it is supposed to go during PrideFest, you can help ensure that our 40th Anniversary Pride celebration is safe and enjoyable for all. In 1976, it was a radical act to attend community events (p. 18), to create or support LGBTQ organizations, to select an outfit or hair style that felt comfortable, or to be friends with or love whomever you chose. To enjoy those freedoms is a big part of what Pride is all about today.

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In This Issue:

Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982. June 2016, Vol. XXXV, Issue 2

40th Anniversary RI PrideFest Entertainment Lineup p. 43

LGBTQ Safe Zones in Healthcare p. 27

Bites! Dining Near PrideFest

6 From the Editor 8 Pride President’s Welcome 9 PrideFest Sponsors 10 From the Publisher 11 Advertisers in This Issue 14 Rhode Island Pride Honorees 18 Calendar of Events 22 News Briefs 24 Letter to the Editor 27 Designating LGBTQ Safe Zones 32 Bites! 36 PrideFest Essentials 40 PrideFest Entertainers 43 PrideFest Entertainment Lineup

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Sojourner House: 40 Years Strong p. 52

44 PrideFest & Parade Map 46 Glossary of LGBTQ+ Terms 52 Sojourner House: 40 Years Strong 57 Close-up: Finally Facing Myself 62 Out on the Town 64 What’s In a Name? A Pronoun? 65 Transosaurus Rex 68 PrideFestYouth Center & Staff Spotlight 70 What is SAGE-RI? 72 APRI Celebrates Success 75 Bear & Bones 76 Resources 84 Worth a Look

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Contact Us info@optionsri.org PO Box 6406 Providence, RI 02940 (401) 724-LGBT www.optionsri.org Cover: 40th Anniversary Pride logo by Rodney Davis

Welcome to the

th Anniversary

Celebration of Rhode Island Pride!

hen I helped to plan and celebrate the 30th and 35th Anniversaries of Rhode Island Pride, I never expected I would still be around planning for the 40th Anniversary. What does it mean that I am still here? Progress, Celebrate, Excel – our theme for this year – what do those words mean to me? As I think about it, and reflect on some of the events of the past few months here in Rhode Island, there is one other word that keeps coming back to me: community. Last year’s theme, IndiVisible, really helped to define for me how coming together as a community makes us stronger. We progress together when we are united by a common goal. It is as simple as a small group of acquaintances reaching out and finding a way to boost an individual who needs some positivity and support after a week of bad breaks. It’s as complicated as rallying multiple groups and organizations in a years-long effort to eradicate inequalities like marriage, racial profiling, or transgender bias. And it is as beautiful as providing an opportunity for our queer youth to celebrate and build confidence, demonstrating that it is okay to be their true selves. PrideFest is a celebration of our progress, especially in an anniversary year.

As we celebrate, we should remember to look around and witness those of us who are still struggling – those in our community who are still being harassed on a daily basis for the color of their skin, their gender non-conformity, or their rainbow socks. Rhode Island Pride joined the Step Up Coalition earlier this year. Led by the Providence Youth Student Movement, the Coalition is working to pass the Community Safety Act in Providence to protect people of color from racial profiling and unfair treatment by police. By default, it would also work to the benefit of others, such as David Alves of Woonsocket, a deaf man like me, who was arrested and denied his due process rights because there was no system in place to ensure he was treated fairly and equally. As I write this, members of our community are coming to the defense of a transgender teen in Warwick who was unfairly thrust into the public eye because someone did not like her using the bathroom she is legally allowed to use. Last week, youth from across the state descended on the Born This Way Prom in Newport, produced by Interweave at Channing Memorial Church. It was beautiful to witness our queer youth abandon their insecurities

and build confidence throughout the night. But why only a night? Why is this separate event even necessary? As we celebrate this Pride season, remember that we are a community that excels when we support one another. We still have work to do, but from my experiences just in the last few weeks, I believe we are well on our way to accomplishing even more great things. Welcome to Rhode Island Pride’s 40th Anniversary: Progress, Celebrate, Excel! Yours In Pride, Kurt Bagley Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and provides safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders. For more information, email info@prideri.com; call (401) 467-2130; or join us for a gathering in our office at 1055 Westminster Street, Floor 2, in Providence.

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From the Publisher Dear Reader,

Fewer than 100 individuals marched through the streets of downtown Providence in the first Pride march. It was 1976. State and city officials attempted to block the event, but after litigation ensued and a court ruling allowed the group to proceed, our state’s Pride organization began to form. It would be just six years later that the first issue of Options was published. Since their inceptions, Options and Rhode Island Pride have grown their missions, strategies, and services to fit the needs of the community. This year’s Pride march will draw over 30,000 people to the streets of downtown Providence on Saturday, June 18, and Options has chronicled 34 years of our community’s struggles and triumphs. We’ve come a long way since that first march, and we’re proud to have partnered with Rhode Island Pride on this issue, the official RI Pride Guide for the third consecutive year. Options provides a platform for the voices in this community to be heard. We’ve challenged the status quo, and allowed individuals to push boundaries and explore the definition of the very community that we serve. LGBTQ people, for the most part, understand that our definition of ourselves cannot be static, but must instead view changes in our community with openness and acceptance, or at least with tolerance. With such a fluid community comprised of many institutions, individuals, and subcultures, where does the responsibility of leadership fall? Can any one organization claim to represent the LGBTQ community in our state? As you turn these pages, you’ll find hundreds of organizations, businesses, and people mentioned in stories, our Resources section, and the calendar of events. With the flip of just a few pages, you’ll be exposed to an array of people from all walks of life: elected officials, drag queens, youth, religious leaders, moms, dads, executive directors, volunteers. This is our community. It is one that has been, and will continue to be, defined by the people who speak up, become engaged, and use their voices and platforms like Options to influence where we are heading. More than ever before, individuals have the means to spread their messages to the masses. It’s easy to publicly voice your frustrations, but posting complaints on Facebook does little to move an organization, individual, or the community being criticized forward. If you are not pleased with what you see, it’s important to ask yourself what you’re doing each day to bring progress to the LGBTQ community. This is a pivotal moment for us all, as organizations celebrate decades of accomplishments, and our community adapts to the current landscape. Where do you want us to go together? We here at Options know that much work remains.

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Advertisers in This Issue ACLU......................................................................83

Dark Lady - Safari Guide..........................3

Mayor Elorza.....................................................26

Residential Properties..............................30

ACOS: Drag Bingo.....................................11

Deep Eddy Vodka........................................38

Melissa DaSilva, Om Therapy............21

Roger Williams University....................68

ACOS - Get Tested...................................66

Michael O’Mara, Counselor................48

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ACOS - Know Your Status..................73

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The Melting Pot.............................................31

Bank of America............................................35

GoProvidence.com....................................20

PFLAG....................................................................49

The Providence Center.........................21

Beneficent Church......................................49

Gordon School..............................................68

PPAC - Broadway Series.......................17

The Stable...........................................................30

Blue Cross Blue Shield of RI......20, 85

Green Care Landscaping......................10

PPAC - If/Then.................................................71

The Village - Karaoke.................................12

Bob DaRoacha, REALTOR®............20

Gregory’s Optical.........................................24

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The Village - Pride Weekend.............87

Campus Fine Wines..................................56

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Providence Gay Men’s Chorus.......74

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Kellie Marcil, REALTOR®.....................67

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RI Pride - $40 for 40 Years...................35

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2016 RHODE ISLAND Grand Marshals

“The 76ers”

Rhode Island’s First Pride Marchers by Kate Monteiro Shortly after 2pm on June 26, 1976, three remarkable things happened: Elvis Presley took the stage at the Providence Civic Center; the Tall Ships entered Newport Harbor; and 70 brave women and men stepped off in our state’s first Pride March. To the beat of a drum and the buzzing of a kazoo, an American flag leading the way, some marchers wore paper bags to mask their identity; others proclaimed their love for their gay sons. Marchers risked their jobs and their homes, and many even feared for their lives. But still, they marched. The first Pride did not give birth to the RI LGBT community. In 1976 a handful of lesbian and gay bars dotted the state; student activists at URI, RIC, and Brown proclaimed Gay Liberation; and the Metropolitan Community Church served a growing congregation. But never before had LGBT people in Rhode Island purposefully come together to claim their right to participate openly and proudly in the public square. To do so, they had to stand up to Mayor Vincent “Buddy” Cianci and his Chief of Police, suing and winning a federal lawsuit. They also had to face several hundred onlookers, many hostile and condemning, and the possibility of a Providence Journal photograph, which might out them to family, friends, bosses, and coworkers. Those first steps have led to many victories, civil rights protections, and a changed social environment. Our communal journey continues in the fight to protect and empower our youth and our transgender brothers and sisters. As we mark the 40th anniversary of that first march, the original marchers ride at the head of the parade.Their courage and determination continues to lead our way.

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PRIDE HONOREES Honorary Marshal PrYSM

Honorary Marshal Mayor Elorza

by Davide Gnoato and Sarath Suong

The Providence Youth Student Movement (PrYSM) was founded in November 2001, when a series of Cambodian gang fights and resulting deaths inspired local youth and college students to create an organization to support Southeast Asian youth in becoming leaders, organizers, and critical thinkers. With educational workshops, leadership opportunities, mentorship, and oversight of youth-led community organizing projects, they aim to shift oppressive systems through concrete policy change. PrYSM’s goals are to fight the criminalization of the Southeast Asian community, institute an accountability system to end police violence, reduce high school dropout rates by confronting the schoolto-prison pipeline, and position queer and trans young people as the vanguard of the social justice movement in Providence, while honoring their refugee roots. PrYSM hosts Queer and Trans* Thursdays (QT), a social and political organizing space open to people of color under 26 years old who identify as queer and/or gender-queer, to reflect the long history of queer politics and leadership at PrYSM. In 2015, QT received special recognition for their float in the RI Pride Parade, which drew attention to state violence against trans people of color.

Providence Mayor Jorge Elorza is a tireless leader and advocate for the LGBT community. Soon after taking office, he appointed his Deputy Chief of Staff, Marisa O’Gara, as the City’s LGBT liaison, tasking her with prioritizing inclusive policy creation and serving as a resource for LGBTQidentified residents in Providence. Soon after, he announced that the City of Providence would be designating all-gender restrooms in municipal buildings and adopting an inclusive healthcare policy for city employees and retirees to cover transition-related services. Most recently, the mayor was proud to stand in solidarity with the people of North Carolina and Mississippi, who are being denied basic civil rights and protections, by signing an Executive Order prohibiting nonessential city-funded travel to those states. The mayor is honored to have been selected as an Honorary Marshal for the 40th Anniversary RI PrideFest and looks forward to continuing to be a friend and ally to the LGBT community.q

40 Dollars for 40 Years

Rising public safety costs, due to rising crowds, necessitated RI Pride to put out a call in order to fund its 40th anniversary festival: “Can we find 1,000 people among our 35,000 attendees who can give just $40 each – $1 to mark every year of progress our community has enjoyed with Rhode Island Pride?” These generous donors have answered that call, thus far, and we hope you will join them by making your donation today at www.prideri.com. Options | June 2016

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS JUNE

Wed. 1 Whole Foods 5% Day. Three Whole Foods locations will donate 5% of net sales to Options Magazine, Rhode Island Pride, and AIDS Care Ocean State. 601 North Main Street, Providence, 8am–10pm; 261 Waterman Street, Providence, 8am–9pm; 151 Sockanosset Cross Road, Cranston, 8am–9pm. Wed. 1 Rhode Island Pride Events Committee Meeting, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. A meeting to continue planning the June 18 RI PrideFest. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130. Fri. 3 Lust, a Countdown to Pride event, 10pm. The Providence Eagle, 124 Snow Street, Providence. A night out to support RI Pride while partying with friends from the communities who call the Eagle home: leather, kink, bear, jock, and more. Full event details at www.facebook.com/Eagleprovidence. Sat. 4 Concordia Coffeehouse presents singer/songwriter Jan Luby with special guest Ken Richard, 8-10pm. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living, 292 West Shore Road, Warwick. $8. Doors 7:30pm. Alcohol-free event. Sat. 4 Countdown to Pride at The Village. Come early for dinner and participate in a raffle/auction featuring state-of-the-art tablets and TVs. $5 cover to benefit RI Pride. www. thevillageri.com.

Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Stage open to all performers. $10 donation to benefit Rhode Island Pride. www.icriprov.org.

Thu. 9 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment including comedian Rich Hite, musician Gianna Botticelli, drag king sensations Girls 2 Men, stilting burlesquer Mary Langlois, poet Jennifer Driscoll, and more. $10 to benefit Rhode Island Pride. Visit Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook or www.sweetlittlevarietyshow. com.

Fri. 10 Pride Rainbow Flag Raising & Reception, 5:30pm. Providence City Hall steps, 25 Dorrance Street. Mayor Jorge Elorza and the City of Providence officially kick off Pride Season. Free cheese fondue reception and cash bar at Melting Pot Providence, 6:15-7pm. 199 Providence Place. Fri. 10 Melting Pot Providence hosts Pride Dinner Night, 7-10pm. 199 Providence Place. Mention Rhode Island Pride and 25% of your total bill, including drinks, will be donated to RI Pride. Sat. 11 Boston Pride Parade and Festival, 11am-6pm. City Hall Plaza. Free for all ages. www.bostonpride.org. Sun. 12 Skate Into Pride, 5-8pm. Forest Family Fun Center Skating. 1 Lawton Avenue, Taunton, MA. $15 benefits AIDS Care Ocean State and RI Pride; includes rental and three hours of skating.

Sat. 4 Poppy Champlin’s Master Class Comedy Show with Ray Harrington, 8pm. The Courthouse Center for the Arts, 3481 Kingstown Road, West Kingston. For tickets and info: 782-1018, brownpapertickets.com/ event/254133, www.courthousearts.org. Sun. 5 Imperial Court of RI presents Investitures 1 – Reign XXIV, 9pm. The Dark

Sun. 12 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 9963010. Tue. 14 & Wed. 15 RI PrideFest Volunteer Orientation, 7pm. The Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Learn about and register for PrideFest 2016 volunteer opportunities. Refreshments served. All are welcome.

Wed. 15 Pride Yoga, 6pm. Tanya GorriaranGoodwin instructs an all-levels outdoor Vinyasa Pride Yoga class. South Water Street Greenway, Providence. Free for all participants; donations accepted for RI Pride. Participants should bring mats and anything you may need during the session, such as a towel or water. Wed. 15 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Happiness, Like Water by Chinelo Okparanta. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@ gmail.com.

Thu. 16 Pride Drag Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jones. AIDS Care Ocean State raises funds to benefit Rhode Island Pride. Fri. 17 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Fri. 17 Gay Pride Sabbath Service with special guests Hunter Keith and family, 7:30pm. Temple Habonim, 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. This Reform congregation is the only synagogue in the state to hold a Gay Pride Sabbath. Fri. 17 Official Pre-PrideFest Block Party with Presenting Sponsor Dark Lady & Alley Cat, gates at 7pm. Hoedown at Dark Lady, starring Steve Grand, hosted by Kitty Litter with Lili Whiteass. Rodeo at Alley Cat, starring Dolf Dietrich and Hugh Hunter with hosts Yolandi

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Fizzure and Kandi Dishe. The Dark Lady & Alley Cat, 17-19 Snow Street, Providence. Open til 3am. Fri. 17 “All of Everything: Todd Oldham Fashion” Dance Party, 7-11pm. RISD Museum, 20 North Main Street, Providence. Flash back to the exuberant 1990s – Todd Oldham’s fashion decade – with music by DJ Lady Bunny. Dance to ’90s hits, pose for red carpet photos, and enjoy themed cocktails, beer, wine, and vegetarian hors d’oeuvres. Providence-based fashion illustrator Jarno Kettunen creates portraits of some of the night’s best dressed party guests. For tickets, visit: risdmuseum. org/events/1183_2016_06_17_all_of_ everything_dance_party. Sat. 18 Rhode Island PrideFest Interfaith Service, 11am. South Water Street Greenway, Providence. Service led by faith leaders from various denominations. All are welcome. Free for all ages. Sat. 18 40th Anniversary Rhode Island PrideFest: Pride XL: Progress, Celebrate, Excel, noon-8pm. Presented by Dark Lady & Alley Cat. South Water Street Greenway, Providence. PrideFest features a Kids Zone, Youth Center, over 100 vendors, a beer/wine/ spirits garden, and performances by The Voice’s Sarah Potenza, out and proud country star Glenn Stewart, Joslyn Fox from RuPaul’s Drag Race, Lulu Locks, Jodi Jolt & The Volt, and more. Free for all ages. Donations suggested. Sat. 18 Rhode Island Pride’s Illuminated Night Parade, 8pm. Presented by Dark Lady & Alley Cat. Starts at Dorrance and Weybosset Streets in downtown Providence and travels west on Washington Street and South on Empire Street. Reviewing stand on Empire Street at Westminster Street. Free for all ages. Sun. 19 If / Then, 6:30pm. Providence Performing Arts Center, 220 Weybosset Street, Providence. Pre-show reception from 4pm–6pm at The Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Light appetizers, guest bartender Michael Slade, and a raffle for a pair of tickets to the show. Reception and performance benefit Rhode Island Pride.

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Sat. 25-Sun. 26 Boating on Buzzards Bay with Yankee Cruising Club. For more information or to join, visit www.yankee-cruising.org, email yankeecruisingclub@gmail.com, or call (508) 423-6123. Wed. 29 PrideFest debrief, 7pm. Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. PrideFest volunteers and attendees are encouraged to attend to talk about what worked and what could be improved to help plan for next year’s PrideFest.

JULY

Sat. 2 The White Party, 3pm-2am. The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. Summer Soiree with DJ Andre’ M Spence, 3-6pm with open bar 4-5pm. Main Event with live performances by Noel Gourdin and Mic Lawry, 6-9pm. Dance! with DJ Frankie Paradise, 9pm-2am. Event features an outdoor patio and bar, exclusive VIP access, gourmet buffet and hors d’oeuvres, secure property and parking, and the Café SOUL after party. Partial proceeds benefit DARE (Direct Action for Rights and Equality). For more info, find The White Party on Eventbrite.com, or call Sheila at (877) 314-9544. Sun. 10 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Thu. 14 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence.A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment featuring comic Julie Killian and much more. $7. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook and at www.sweetlittlevarietyshow.com. Fri. 15 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested LGBT people 60+

and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Wed. 20 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Mississippi Sissy by Kevin Sessums. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@ gmail.com. Wed. 27 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. Social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130.

Sat. 30-Sun. 31 Boating in Boston Harbor with Yankee Cruising Club. For more information or to join, visit www.yankeecruising.org, email yankeecruisingclub@gmail. com, or call 508-423-6123.

Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth,Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out,Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum,Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under:Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 76 for more info.

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NEWS BRIEFS Downtown Congestion Expected for PrideFest & WaterFire on June 18 RI PrideFest has been planned for June 18 since last year, but WaterFire Providence unexpectedly settled on the same date in early May, though city officials had long assured RI Pride organizers that the events would not coincide. In hopes of alleviating expected traffic and parking issues, SP+ is offering a Pride 2016 parking special at the PPAC and Garrahy garages for a $15 flat rate. Tickets can be purchased in advance at parkprovidence.com. Parking will also be available at 616 Water Street at their regular rates.

Debate Over Transgender Bathroom Use in Warwick School On April 30, a Facebook post from The Warwick Watch said their team had been informed that female students at Pilgrim High School were uncomfortable using the same changing room as a transgender student. The Warwick Watch, operated by former Republican mayoral contender Stacia Huyler, is a blog that “recognizes the inefficiencies and lack of accountability in local city government, and speaks out against corruption and abuse of power,” but is recognized by many locals as being a sponsor of conspiracy theories. Pilgrim student Ashlynn Cameron, age 16, posted on the thread admitting that she is the trans student targeted by the post. A heated argument arose between supporters of Ashlynn and “concerned” parents who felt their children’s rights were being violated by Pilgrim’s bathroom and changing room policy, which allows students to use the facility corresponding to their gender.A page administrator deleted many of the posts in support of Ashlynn, keeping up mainly the posts that condemned her. “I don’t know how I make these girls uncomfortable when I change in the bathroom stall, which [has] doors, and I mind my own business!” Ashlynn wrote. “What is so wrong with my rights as a transgender teen/person.” Warwick Watch responded to Ashlynn’s post with many offensive comments, going so far as misgendering Ashlynn and claiming that all trans people have a mental disease that requires therapy. In opposition to the stance taken on the Warwick Watch page,

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many Facebook users posted encouraging messages on their own pages with the hashtag “#IStandWithAshlynn.” Students and alumni of Pilgrim stated that they have never had an issue with the transgender policy that has been put into place, and Superintendent Phillip Thorton said he has yet to receive any complaints from parents or students regarding the issue.

Programming for Youth and Families at 40th Anniversary RI PrideFest The Kids’ Zone, a fixture at RI PrideFest for more than a decade, and sponsored for the second year by Hasbro, Inc. (www.hasbro. com), will include many play stations and activities thanks to this generous support. Hasbro’s Equality Awareness Resource Team (HEART) will manage this safe, family-focused play and entertainment area set aside on the PrideFest grounds for children up to age 14 who are accompanied by a parent or adult guardian. Youth Pride Inc. and the Department of Health have teamed up to offer the Pride Youth Center for youth ages 23 and under. (See story on p. 60.) The Hasbro Kids’ Zone and the Pride Youth Center will be open on PrideFest day, June 18, from 12-5pm on South Water Street in Providence. There is no cost to participate. Christian Group Claims to be Sending Men into Women’s Bathrooms A director of the American Family Association (AFA), a fundamentalist Christian group, said that it has begun sending men into women’s bathrooms at Target stores in an attempt to test the transgender policies that have recently been announced by the chain. The group’s primary concern is that men falsely claiming to be transgender in order to enter women’s restrooms could possibly victimize women and children. “The chief concern, even more than just, I think, trauma, certainly

for little girls of having men dressed like women coming in their bathrooms, the chief concern of the American Family Association is the predators who will take advantage,” said the AFA’s director of government affairs, Sandy Rios, during a radio interview. “I think there’s no question when you say that there are no barriers in the bathroom. We’ve already had… men trying to go into [women’s] bathrooms. There is absolutely no barrier.”The AFA has officially boycotted all Targets and reportedly has over one million signatures of consumers vowing to no longer shop at the retail chain.Target has not made any official statement regarding the AFA at this time.

US Lacrosse and You Can Play Form Partnership in Support of LGBT Athletes US Lacrosse, the national organization for men’s and women’s lacrosse, is teaming up with the You Can Play project to promote inclusion at all levels of the sport. You Can Play is an organization dedicated to ensuring a positive, respectful, and safe environment for athletes, coaches, and fans of all sexes, genders, and gender identities. It has helped US Lacrosse to become the first national governing body to provide LGBT inclusion messaging to all of its members and teams. A similar program was started by Major League Lacrosse. This means that equality, inclusion, and acceptance are assured for all levels of lacrosse players, from beginners to professionals. “We are committed to ensuring that all lacrosse participants are given a fair opportunity to compete and are celebrated for their athletic achievements on the field,” said Melissa Coyne, director of games administration at US Lacrosse. The National Hockey League, Major League Soccer, the Canadian Olympic Committee, and Canadian Women’s Hockey League have all joined forces with You Can Play since its inception.

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Haley Star Moderates Panel at National Media Conference In late April, Haley Star, Providence’s official “Glambassador” and popular drag personality, took part in one of the world’s largest social media gatherings: Playlist Live, in Orlando, Florida. Playlist Live is a three-day convention for YouTubers, online creators, and their biggest fans and supporters to convene for a spectacular weekend. The event features concerts, meet-and-greets for fans and creators, and a multitude of panels ranging from a basic Q&A to more in-depth topics. Haley moderated the LGBT panel, which featured seven of the top LGBT YouTubers, including Nicola Foti, Miles Jai, Jack Baran, and Hartbeat.The panel focused on sexual orientation and gender identity, exploring the role that online experiences play when it comes to raising awareness on sexual and gender fluidity. The panel was live streamed and a wide audience was able to watch the dynamic conversation from home.The panelists recognized how far the LGBT community has advanced, and also pointed out how far we still need to go.

Dept. of Justice Declares North Carolina’s HB2 Violates Civil Rights On May 4, the Federal Department of Justice declared North Carolina’s HB2 antiLGBT law to be in violation of Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 by stating in a letter that, “Access to sex-segregated restrooms

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and other workplace facilities consistent with gender identity is a term, condition, or privilege of employment. Denying such access to transgender individuals, whose gender identity is different from the gender assigned at birth, while affording it to similarly situated non-transgender employees, violates Title VII.” Department officials gave North Carolina a deadline to outline its plan to avoid violating the Civil Rights Act. Days later, the Department of Education and Department of Justice signed a letter addressing public schools and their transgender policies across the nation.The letter directed school officials to embrace transgender students and allow them to use the facilities that correspond to their gender identity and participate fully in school activities. Along with the letter was a 25-page guide detailing the policies that schools should be adopting in order to ensure safe, inclusive, and non-discriminatory environments for transgender students.

Obama to Create First Monument Honoring Gay Rights According to the Washington Post, President Obama is on track to create the first national monument to recognize the triumphs of this country’s LGBT community. It would be placed in Greenwich Village in New York City, the neighborhood where the Stonewall Riots occurred in 1969. The monument would designate the area, and the city itself, as the birthplace of America’s modern LGBT movement. Stonewall marked the gay rights movement’s unofficial start, and led to a year of protests that resulted in the city’s first Gay Pride Parade in 1970. Last December, Congressman Jerrold Nadler, a Democrat whose district includes the Stonewall Inn, introduced legislation to establish the

Stonewall Inn area as a commemorative landmark. President Obama could establish the monument through an executive order, without going through Congress. Said Nadler, “The Stonewall uprising became the major catalyst for change in the selfawareness of the LGBT community… and now represents to the nation and the world the struggle for LGBT civil rights.”

Federal Court Sides with Transgender Student in Bathroom Lawsuit A federal appeals court in Richmond, Virginia, has ruled that a transgender boy can sue his school board for not allowing him to use the boy’s bathroom. The U.S. Court of Appeals for the 4th Circuit deferred to the U.S. Department of Education’s stance that transgender students should have access to facilities that match their gender identities. In the case involving high school junior Gavin Grimm, it stated that forcing a trans student to use a bathroom that corresponds with their biological sex is in direct violation of Title IX, which prohibits discrimination based on sex at any school that receives federal funding. The 4th Circuit ordered a lower court to rehear the student’s claims that the Gloucester County’s school board has a bathroom policy that violates the federal law. The county’s current policy requires that transgender students be relegated to a separate unisex bathroom instead of the facilities used by the rest of the student body. LGBT advocates applauded the court’s decision.q

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n April 21, I was listening to the Dan Yorke talk show on WPRO radio (99.7 FM) in Rhode Island, which airs from noon to 3pm. Late in the show, Mr. Yorke was discussing the new Target bathroom policy which invites transgender people to use the bathroom that matches their gender identity. Yorke told a man who had called his show that he empathized with that caller’s stated dislike of sexual advances from gay men. Although Yorke distinguished the Target bathroom policy from the caller’s issues about gay sex, Yorke’s tone became extremely angry and hostile as he told the caller that he knows from personal experience what it feels like to have a gay man touch his leg.Yorke said that the first reaction is to have your knee start moving around, and next, you want to kill them. A commercial break followed this statement. I immediately called Mr. Yorke’s radio screener, saying that I found Yorke’s statement about killing offensive and dangerous. I explained that Yorke’s

remarks were consistent with attitudes that have long resulted in murder and other forms of violence and harm done to gay men. I also mentioned the similarity between Yorke’s remarks and gay panic defense. The screener told me to call Yorke’s manager if I had a complaint, and that he would communicate my message to Mr. Yorke. I listened to the conclusion of Mr. Yorke’s show, which followed the intermission. Yorke did not apologize or make any reference to objections I had registered to his screener. When the show ended, I promptly called and eventually spoke with Tony Mascaro, the person I had been told is Dan Yorke’s manager at the WPRO station. I told Mr. Mascaro that I found Mr. Yorke’s remarks dangerous, harmful, and consistent with a long history of violence against LGBT people. I pointed out that Mr.Yorke is also an announcer at URI basketball games – a university that, since 1995, has been included five times on the Princeton Review’s list of America’s most LGBT

unfriendly campuses. I added that I have been aware of other anti-gay sentiments expressed by Mr. Yorke on air extending back to the release of the film Brokeback Mountain. I reminded Mr. Mascaro that other hateful and insensitive remarks by other WPRO talk show hosts have contributed to the current longstanding and continuing boycott against the WPRO station. Mascaro told me he would listen to the recorded version of Mr. Yorke’s show, and assured me he would get back to me, though he has not. Mr. Yorke’s hateful speech confirms that we still have a long way to go to bring sensitivity, respect, legal compliance, and appropriate corrective action within Rhode Island public higher education and the public sphere.

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communicating a patient’s sexual orientation or gender (when appropriate) when referring the patient to another provider. • The practice undergoes an annual review process to ensure that forms and/or providers do not assume patients’ gender, marital/partnered status, and/or sexual activity.

L to R: Dr. Katherine Dallow, VP, Clinical Affairs, BCBSRI; Jennifer Gruslin, Communications and Events Specialist, Thundermist; Stephanie Huckel, Manager, Culture and Diversity & Inclusion, BCBSRI, with plaques for three of nine BCBSRI LGBTQ Safe Zone certified practices.

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A 2010 report from Lambda Legal highlights the ways in which these all-toocommon experiences for LGBTQ people turn healthcare settings into challenging environments, and even impact the quality of care we receive. When Health Care Isn’t Caring: Lambda Legal’s Survey of Discrimination against LGBT People and People with HIV shares some pretty stark statistics. Their survey of nearly 5,000 LGBT individuals showed: • 70% of transgender or gender nonconforming and 56% of lesbian, gay, bisexual (LGB) patients surveyed have experienced some type of discrimination in healthcare. • 73% of transgender respondents and 29% of LGB respondents reported they believed they would be treated differently by medical personnel because of their LGBT identity. • 52% of transgender respondents and 9% of LGB respondents reported they believed they would be refused medical services because of their LGBT identity. Each of us deserves the right to safe and affirming medical care, regardless of our individual identity or relationship(s). While there is no one answer, Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island (BCBSRI) is doing everything we can to ensure that Rhode Islanders—all Rhode Islanders— have access to affordable and effective healthcare. We understand that those with an LGBTQ identity face additional

hurdles. More and more healthcare providers – be they for physical, dental, or mental health – are already educated, or willing to learn, about how to provide culturally competent care to LGBTQ people. Our new program, BCBSRI LGBTQ Safe Zone certification, aims to close this gap.

• The practice keeps materials and resources readily available to refer LGBTQ patients and employees to community-based services. • The practice demonstrates public support for and/or integrates with the LGBTQ community, whether through the sponsorship of LGBTQ events, participation in RI PrideFest, outreach in the LGBTQ community, or offering services designed for the LGBTQ community.

Clinical practices (whether physical, dental, or mental health providers) can now apply for certification through the BCBSRI LGBTQ Safe Zone program. These healthcare practices must commit to all of the following: • Each staff member has completed cultural competence training specific to the care of transgender and LGB patients. • The practice has at least one genderneutral bathroom available for patients and at least one gender-neutral bathroom available to staff. • The practice has a visible patient non-discrimination policy that includes protections for patients on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity or expression, and a similarly inclusive employment non-discrimination policy. • Forms allow for patients’ legal and preferred names and pronouns, and an “other” option for gender. • Staff members use patients’ preferred name and pronouns, even when they are different from legal documents.

Upon certification as a Safe Zone from BCBSRI, a practice is provided with a window cling and plaque so that they can display their designation. Additionally, Safe Zone-certified practices can be found at bcbsri.com/safezones. If you’re a provider seeking certification, please write to gail. carvelli@bcbsri.org. When you next look for a healthcare provider, the Safe Zone certification is a new tool to help you make your decision. In addition to reviews and other criteria that matter to you, look for the Safe Zone designation to ensure the most welcoming experience.

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hundermist strongly believes in LGBT access to culturally competent healthcare. By developing the LGBT Safe Zone Program, Blue Cross has helped make this access possible for patients. For members of the LGBT community to develop a trusting and honest relationship with their providers, they need to know that they are in a safe space to openly share their needs and concerns. The Safe Zone signage is a practical tool that helps put patients at ease.Thundermist has seen how this signage can encourage LGBT community members to visit our practices and refer family and friends. “Our staff is proud of what they do and the Safe Zone designation is a testament to their hard work. We urge other providers to earn their Safe Zone designation through Blue Cross’s simple process that provides all the resources needed. Every provider has LGBT patients in their practice; they may just not realize it. Safe Zone designation allows providers to be proactive in asserting that its staff cares about LGBT issues and that the practice is open to all.” – Lauren Nocera, AVP, Program Development & Grants, Thundermist Health Canter

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GI Network of RI is excited to endorse Blue Cross & Blue Shield of RI’s Safe Zone initiative. Though we recognize that it is impossible to ensure that any practice is entirely safe, the criteria that practices must meet to obtain this certification are comprehensive. We commend Blue Cross & Blue Shield of RI for being thoughtfully inclusive of the needs of transgender patients when crafting this policy. Practices that seek certification must ensure that both patients and staff have access to gender-neutral facilities, that pronouns and preferred names can be designated on paperwork, and that staff will participate in cultural competency training specific to the transgender community. “Though the Safe Zone certification cannot guarantee that each staff member has endorsed the policy, by seeking this certification, practices demonstrate their commitment to serving the needs of the transgender community, and create the structure necessary to provide that care.” – Ethan Huckel, Board Chair, TGI Network of Rhode Island q Stephanie Huckel, MS, manages Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island’s Culture and Diversity & Inclusion initiatives. Options | June 2016

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ptions sent writer Maria Phillips out on the town to discover some of the best gay-owned or -managed restaurants, within walking distance of PrideFest festivities. In addition to the fantastic restaurants mentioned below, Options also recommends The Melting Pot for its excellent service and romantic atmosphere, and Friskie Fries, the hangover-preventing food truck that’s most often parked by the Dark Lady and Alley Cat, to curb your late-night munchies.

atmosphere. It was bustling when we got there. Reservations are a must. We were seated on time at a nice table. The menu is quite varied including a raw bar, beef carpaccio, mussels, smoked salmon, croque monsieur or madame, seafood, steak, duck, chicken, and substantial salads. There is also a “burger bar” where you can build your custom burger. In addition, there is a brunch menu available on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday until 3pm, which includes eggs Benedict, French toast, corned beef hash, and eggs. The wine selection is good and we all settled on glasses of red: Pinot Noir, Merlot, and Côtes du Rhône. The wine came accompanied by a fresh baguette wrapped in a paper sleeve with fresh creamery butter. After reviewing the menu, our attentive waitress took our order of beef tenderloin and top sirloin.

Bravo Brasserie Upon entering Bravo on a recent Saturday evening, we were immediately aware of the expansive bar, which is surrounded by dining tables. The restaurant is decorated in dark wood hues reminiscent of a “gentlemen’s bar”

Our meals were outstanding. The beef tenderloin came with a Béarnaise sauce and accompanied by lyonnaise potatoes and grilled asparagus. My dining companions both ordered the steak frites, which was a top sirloin accompanied by fresh French fries and a mixed green salad. There was room for dessert, at least for two of us: apple crisp and salted caramel

vanilla crunch cake. Other choices included chocolate thunder cake as well as old standbys tiramisu, carrot cake, and crème brulée. Bravo also hosts special events such as an evening with a psychic medium, and “Murder on Us” dinner theater. It also has a banquet room with catering services available for private parties.This is a more formal dining experience, which would perfectly precede a night exploring the rest of downtown Providence. Bravo Brasserie is located at 123 Empire Street in Providence and operates Mon. 5-10pm, Tue.-Thu. 5-11pm, Fri. 11:30am11pm, Sat. 11am-11:30pm, and Sun. 11am-10pm. Valet parking is available. For reservations: bravobrasserie.com or 4905112.

Clean Plate Many will remember this spot as the last location of the beloved lesbian bar DeVille’s, and it’s right beside RI PrideFest. A full bar greets you as you enter the first level, which is very colorful with yellows and reds accented with varnished wood. The second level contains more private dining space in a casual atmosphere. We

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arrived around noon on a Saturday, and it was pretty quiet, but gradually customers began filling the space. Clean Plate offers two menus: breakfast and lunch/dinner, which starts at about 2pm. Our attentive server immediately seated us and took our drink orders: coffee and chamomile citrus tea.The coffee was rich and robust, and the tea had floral and grassy notes with subtle citrus flavors. Our timing gave us the breakfast menu, which is pretty extensive and includes the usual breakfast items: eggs, omelettes, and bacon. There are several waffle offerings including corned beef hash waffles and grilled cheese waffles. Items to share include a hummus and kisir plate with toasted pita, and mini pumpkin donuts with maple cream. It was difficult to choose, but we went with lemon ricotta pancakes and crunchy French toast with a maple banana sauce and two side orders of bacon.

chicken thigh with sweet and spicy honey mustard; a classic Reuben; and a veggie wrap with cucumbers, carrots, hummus, kisir, lettuce, and tomato. And what would a restaurant be without a burger section? The burgers again carry an international theme and include a pastrami burger; a peanut butter, bacon, and fried banana burger; and a black bean and quinoa burger.The signature burger is made with a blend of short rib, brisket, and chuck meat. If you are in the mood for creative food in a casual atmosphere, I highly recommend Clean Plate.

Clean Plate is located at 345 South Water Street in Providence and operates Tue.-Fri. 11am-9pm, Sat. 9am-9pm, and Sun. 9am-3pm. A parking lot is available. For more information: cleanplateri.com or 6212888. Our order came and we were not disappointed. The three pancakes came with a ricotta cream. They were light and golden brown – no burnt edges. The ricotta made the pancakes creamy, while the lemon gave a fresh and bright taste not normally found in otherwise dense pancakes.The French toast was two thick slices of bread coated with an almond crumb crust and sautéed in butter. The maple banana sauce gave the dish the right amount of sweetness. The bacon was cooked to crispy perfection. The lunch/dinner menu is very international. Matzo ball soup, clam fritters, chicken empanadas, and small chickpea flatbread sandwiches round out the appetizer section. Entrée salad choices include grilled salmon on romaine lettuce; crab and asparagus with garlicky croutons; and a truly Greek salad with feta cheese, chicken kabobs, chickpeas, and Lebanese bread. The international theme continues with sandwiches including a Cuban made with porchetta; a Calvin, a Korean inspired

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arrived immediately with menus. We all settled on drinks: iced teas, water, and a Magic Hat #9 on tap.There were specials as well as regular menu items. Shrimp with grits, chicken marsala, a turkey club, and a cowboy burger rounded out our order. Other choices include salads and gourmet pizzas.They even have an LGBT sandwich – lettuce, guacamole, bacon, and tomato. We enjoyed one another’s company as our meals were being prepared. When our meals arrived, we were very happy with our choices. The shrimp and grits were colorfully presented – orange shrimp on yellow grits and green spinach. The chicken marsala was a generous portion of chicken breast with a classic marsala sauce. The only critique here is that there was no side dish; vegetables or pasta would have rounded out the portion. The turkey club was prepared with fresh turkey and a cranberry mayonnaise on toasted marbled rye. A side salad made a perfect accompaniment. The cowboy burger was a half pound of fresh beef served on a grilled pretzel roll with barbeque sauce and onions. A nice side salad also joined this order. We had no room for dessert, but their selections were very tempting: strawberry shortcake, flourless chocolate torte, and peanut butter pie. Yum! Desserts change on a daily basis.

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A popular Sunday brunch is offered from 10am-3pm. You can also enjoy trivia and musical bingo, karaoke, comedy nights, and live music on certain nights of the weeks. This is great casual place to meet friends, enjoy great food, and just generally hang out. You will not be disappointed.

On a recent Sunday afternoon, after seeing a play, some friends and I, decided to have dinner at The Village. We were greeted with, “Seat yourself anywhere you’d like,” which we did. Our server, who was great throughout our meal,

The Village is located at 373 Richmond Street in Providence and operates Wed.Thu. 11am-1m, Fri. 11am-2am, Sat. 11am2am, and Sun. 10am-1am. Free parking is available. For information: thevillageri.com or 228-7222. q

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Getting to PrideFest: PrideFest takes place in the heart of downtown on South Water Street, along the Providence River waterfront. Driving: From the North or South: I-95 to exit 22A towards downtown/Memorial Blvd. Count 5 traffic lights, starting at the bottom of the exit ramp from Rt. 95. At the sixth traffic light you will see the festival entrance at the road closure at South Water Street. From the East: I-195 West to exit 2 (South Main St.). Make a left onto College Hill and then a left onto Memorial Blvd. At the next traffic light you will see the festival entrance. From the West: Take US Rt. 6 East/Rt. 10 North towards I-95. Take the downtown exit. Count 6 traffic lights to the festival entrance. GPS: 345 South Water Street, Providence. Parking: In addition to more than 40 parking lots and garages, downtown Providence has over 1,100 onstreet parking spaces. Meters cost $0.25/12 minutes and are in effect Monday-Saturday from 8am-6pm. Parking is free at all other times. Street parking is limited in the area immediately around the festival site. The Dyer Street parking lots are adjacent to the festival and are within easy walking distance from the parade route. Providence Place Mall and Rhode Island Convention Center parking lots are also just a ten-minute walk down the river. Bus: The RIPTA Bus Terminal located in Kennedy Plaza is within walking distance from the festival site. For scheduling information, visit www.ripta.com or call 781-9400. Peter Pan Bus Lines (800-343-9999/www.peterpanbus.com) offers service from Boston, Hartford, the Cape, and New York City. Greyhound Bus Lines (800-231-2222/www.greyhound.com) also offers service to Providence’s Kennedy Plaza. Train: PrideFest is just ten minutes down the riverwalk from the Providence Train Station, which is served by Amtrak and by the Massachusetts Bay Transportation Authority (MBTA) commuter trains from Boston, though be careful to check the return schedule. Call Amtrak at 800-USA-RAIL or visit their web site at www.amtrak.com. The MBTA offers weekend commuter rail service to Providence from Boston. Call the MBTA at 800-392-6100 or visit their web site at www.mbta.com.

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Safety Tips: The Providence Police are at the festival along with RI Pride’s Safety Team. If you have a non-emergency medical need there is a first aid tent located across from the information tent. If you have a medical or police emergency dial 911. Pride volunteers can be identified by their t-shirts and identification badges. If you need information or assistance within the PrideFest grounds please feel free to approach a volunteer. Take care of all personal belongings and be aware of those around you. Keep wallets, purses, handbags, mobile phones, and cameras secure and within sight at all times.

Many organizations, including RI Pride, will be asking for donations at PrideFest. Individuals soliciting donations for organizations should be identifiable by badges or affiliation information. If you believe that someone is panhandling or harassing our guests for money, please report the activity to a Pride volunteer. Even though PrideFest is a safe and friendly venue, we still recommend the buddy system. Spend the day with a friend, travel to and from the festival in a group, and make sure that you stay aware of your personal safety. Remember you should carry identification with you at all times. We want your Pride experience to be as safe and enjoyable as possible. Please report any concerns to RI Pride Security or the Providence Police. Trash and Recycling bins are located throughout the festival grounds. Please be responsible with your trash and keep the street as clean as possible. RI Pride is responsible for the clean-up and removal of all trash from South Water Street. Please help us by pitching in. Alcoholic Beverages: A festival is a place to party, and some people like to do that with a drink. The Beer,Wine, and SpiritsTent is located adjacent to the Main Stage. Proper ID will be required to enter and to purchase alcohol.All beer, wine, and spirits must be consumed within the fenced area. Please drink responsibly.

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Pets are allowed on the festival grounds during the event. For everyoneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s safety, please keep your pet leashed and be courteous to pick up after your animal should he or she answer the call of nature. Bicycles, skateboards, skates, scooters, and motorized vehicles of any kind (except wheelchairs) are prohibited from the festival grounds for the safety of our guests. Lost & Found and Lost Children: RI Pride does not operate a lost-and-found service, but sometimes people turn in found items to the Pride information tent. Lost children should be taken to the Pride information/ security tent or to a police officer. ATMs are located on the festival grounds for your convenience. There is a transaction fee.

The RI Pride Illuminated Night Parade winds its way through the streets of Providence from the intersection of Dorrance and Weybosset Streets, makes a left on Washington Street, and turns left on Empire Street, traveling past the reviewing stand. Pride volunteers and the Providence Police work extremely hard to keep the more than 30,000 people who crowd the streets of Providence safe and happy. By following these simple suggestions you can help us help you maximize the viewing experience.

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You must remain on the sidewalk as the Parade passes. People standing on the street are not only a safety hazard but also block the Parade from passing and slow the procession.The Parade route in front of the Providence Biltmore and near the Reviewing stand on Empire Street can become very congested. Prime viewing is available all along the Parade route (Dorrance Street, Washington Street, and Empire Street) and is just as much fun. Many of the city streets remain open to traffic during the Parade. Please observe all police direction and obey traffic signals and crosswalks. Do not approach floats or vehicles in the parade. Vehicles are likely to move without notice. If you are not officially registered in the Parade, please do not enter the Parade route. Keep your children safe and out of danger. Use extra caution with strollers on the parade route and hold young childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hands. Children should not be allowed to enter the Parade route for any reason without adult supervision. We hope you have a great day with RI Pride at the PrideFest and Parade. However, even in the fun atmosphere of a festival, the Providence Police are responsible for enforcing all applicable state laws and local ordinances during the Pride event which include, but are not limited to: public decency, alcohol, controlled substances, public safety, and parking. As the event organizer, RI Pride reserves the right to decline admittance to anyone who violates the reasonable policies established for public safety, tries to gain entrance to restricted areas, or causes serious disruption to the good order of the event. Have a happy, fun, and safe Pride! q

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PROVIDENCE EAGLE PRIDE New England’s Most Exotic Outdoor Dance Party with New England Rubber Men

North East Leather Family

FRIDAY, JUNE 17 BOYS AHOY IV with the Leather Boys of New England SATURDAY, JUNE 18 March along our Float EAGLE NIGHTCLUB ON WHEELS Followed by our annual BLOCK PARTY

PRIDE UNDER THE STARS III PROVIDENCE’S PREMIERE OUTDOOR DANCE PARTY - OPEN ALL DAY

SUNDAY, JUNE 19 T-DANCE WITH DJ CISCO Starting at 3pm DISCO NIGHT PARTY WITH DJ SANDY SNOW at 9pm PROVIDENCE EAGLE EVENTS LEADING UP TO PRIDE Bear Brigade Military Underbear Party with Bear Providence: Saturday, May 28 Lust 2016 RI Pride’s Countdown to Pride Event: Friday, June 3 N.E. Leather Pride Party and Charity Auction with Q-Flag 2016 Remi Graber: Saturday, June 4

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2016 PRIDEFEST ENTERTAINMENT Presented by

Nina Sky From the time Natalie and Nicole Albino were

small, the identical twins set to work constructing a universe all to themselves within their Queens, NY neighborhood. Their third album and latest release, Brightest Gold, a collection of line-blurring R&B tracks, marks a significant evolution in the duoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s decade-plus career. The album is all about fluidity, and the multidimensionality of love. The duo has worked with everyone from pop titan Bruno Mars, to hip-hop heavy Rick Ross, to multi-hyphenate production darling Diplo. Connect with them at www.ninaskyhigh.com.

Sarah Potenza

After performing locally for seven years with her band Sarah & The Tall Boys, Sarah Potenza relocated to Nashville, Tennessee with not much more than her husband Ian and her monster vocals. Those ingredients, along with her honest, reflective songwriting, quickly led her to become a staple at the world-renowned Bluebird CafĂŠ and the globally broadcast Music City Roots program, which resulted in an invitation to compete on the NBC television show The Voice. Potenza met the challenge, landing a four-chair turn. Out of 50,000 contestants, she made it to the top twenty. Her passion for performing and undeniable voice resonated with America and made her a fan favorite across the country. Nashville welcomed her home, and she made her debut at the Grand Ole Opry shortly thereafter. Her latest album Monster was released earlier this year.

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June 18, South Water St. Providence Glenn Stewart

puts on a top-notch show, performing original high-energy songs and radio station hits. Fans describe his rock/country/ pop style as “country that kicks.” His live show delivers all the elements you would expect from an arena atmosphere: interacting with the audience, leading sing-alongs, and adding a touch of comedy. During his 25year career, Glenn has opened for such artists as Grand Funk Railroad, Tim McGraw, George Strait, Sara Evans, Brad Paisley, Randy Hauser, Chuck Wicks, Alan Jackson, Lady Antebellum, Josh Turner, Jake Owen, Jack Ingram, and Keith Anderson.

Adrienne Mack-Davis with Felicia Cruz combine classicallytrained soul and hip-hop with high energy and positivity. They have been touring worldwide for three and a half years with over 600 performances and 50 workshops and they have no intention of slowing down, always looking for the next opportunity to be of service. Carrie Ashton Band delivers a captivating acoustic rock show. Bandleader Ashton, who began performing at age thirteen, has been performing professionally for over twelve years in top showcases in New York, Connecticut, Massachusetts, and at college campuses throughout New England. She has shared the stage with Natalie Merchant, the Go-Go’s, REO Speedwagon, Antigone Rising, and Van Zant. Complete Destruction is a former Miss Gay RI (2015), an Imperial Crown Princess of the Imperial Court of Rhode Island, and an overall drag monster, who is secretly an android sent by an alien race to infiltrate and eventually

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Joslyn Fox

hails from Worcester, Massachusetts and has performed drag for eight years. A ditzy but adorable small-town queen, Joslyn never met an accessory she didn’t like. She invaded televisions around the world with her infectious giggle and bubbly personality on RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 6.The professed dark horse of the competition came in sixth place, quickly becoming a fan favorite with her quirky antics and sometimes unintentional humor. This queen is happiest when with her fans, whether it be onstage performing, or offstage at a meet-and-greet. After marrying her longtime fiancé on the Drag Race reunion special, she is back touring the world and keeping it Foxy. destroy the human population via art. You can see her hosting and performing at KINK Wednesdays at the Dark Lady, and every #EGOThursday and #EGOSaturday at EGO Providence twirling it up. Find Complete Destruction on Facebook and Twitter to learn more. Daniel Ouellette and the Shobijin is an experiential tour de force that fuses the musical traditions of new wave, technopop, new age, and world music with lyrics in English, Spanish, and French. An eclectic mélange of electronic music, projected visuals, props, and traditional (and nontraditional) instruments, their interactive, high-energy shows blend playful performance art with true musical talent in an engaging you-had-to-be-there style. Ephraim Adamz is an American musician, DJ, and filmmaker, finding musical inspiration from pop, hip-hop, Baltimore club, Miami bass, Vogue, ballroom, and RnB. His debut album Innocent is now out on iTunes.

PRIDEFEST ENTERTAINMENT The Imperial Court of Rhode Island at Providence is a social organization founded in 1992 to perform noble deeds for the community, raising nearly $500,000 for organizations and individuals in Rhode Island to date. Jodi Jolt and The Volt came together in the spring of 2011, after Jodi went to The Dark Lady in Providence to dance her tail off. Dancing keeps her in aerobic shape so she can rock for hours. Jodi noticed a sister she had never met before, Christina Jay, dancing by herself at the edge of the dance floor. Surprise! Christina, a guitarist, had seen a post on Craigslist for transgender musicians months before, and had almost contacted them. Next thing you know, Christina was on board, rocking steady on rhythm guitar. The Volt has been performing their original high-energy music and select covers around New England and donating performances for nonprofits. The Volt has been featured in Frock Magazine, Transformation Magazine, and TGForum. Johnny Blazes & The Pretty Boys formed in 2011 to bring the traditionally karaoke or lip-syncing art of drag into the realm of live music, covering classic soul and funk songs with an unapologetic flamboyance and verve. They have been blasting East Coast audiences with their glitter-filled, vaudevillian, horn-heavy sound ever since. Lulu Locks is the owner of Suite Tart, a West Side salon that blends old-school techniques with fashion-forward aesthetics, and Providence Pin-Up, a vintage styling and photography studio. Lulu is happy to make her PrideFest debut, as she is often called upon to emcee charity events like The Red Tent and Sojourner House’s annual Masquerade Ball. Lulu is also a frequent collaborator with Chifferobe events. Her extensive experience in design and style led her to become Director of Installations and then Back of House Manager for StyleWeek Northeast. Lulu has created custom looks for Marchesa, the Rhode Island School of Design, Dear Kate, and Maria del Carmen Mercado. Lulu is also a guest lecturer at the Rhode Island School of Design.

Metamorphosis: The TEN31 Dance Company creates a captivating and unique experience, from immersive environments that bring themes to life, to presentational performances to get the party started. With endless possibilities, the dancers embody the essence of any event, and ignite imaginations. Miss Gay RI USofA 2015 Kira Stone has been a drag performer for over six years, competing in pageants, working with local charitable organizations, and bartending at Club EGO. She loves to sew. Run Jenny, aka Sister Funk, is New England’s high-energy, 5-piece, all female, feel-good, pop/rock original band, which was inducted into the International Women’s Hall of Fame in 2010.

TRIPLE CROWN TITLEHOLDERS

Ally P. Sha Ms. Lesbian RI 2016

Joe DiMauro Mr. Gay RI 2016

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ENTERTAINMENT LINEUP 12:00pm Welcome with LuLu Locks 12:05pm Jodi Jolt and The Volt

EMCEES

12:00pm-2:30pm

12:30pm Daniel Ouellette and the Shobijin 1:00pm Metamorphosis: The TEN31 Dance Company 1:15pm Carrie Ashton Band 1:45pm Imperial Court of Rhode Island

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Elena Jawitz

1:55pm Ms. Lesbian RI 2016 Ally P. Sha 2:05pm Johnny Blazes & The Pretty Boys 2:35pm Complete Destruction 2:50pm Adrienne Mack-Davis with Felicia Cruz 3:20pm Miss Gay RI USofA 2016 Kira Stone

LuLu Locks

2:30pm-5:00pm

3:30pm Mr. Gay RI 2016 Joe DiMauro 3:40pm Run Jenny (aka Sister Funk) 4:10pm Miss Gay RI 2016 Neoki Feytal 4:20pm Glenn Stewart with Joslyn Fox 5:00pm National Anthem & PrideFest Rally

John Kelley

Lily Whiteass

5:00pm - 8:00pm

5:50pm Nina Sky 6:30pm Sarah Potenza 7:30pm Ephraim Adamz

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MAP ELEMENTS

Accessible Parade Viewing First Aid Parade Route Parade Staging Parade Viewing Stand Parking Sponsored by SP+ Parking Parks Places of Interest Pride Information PrideFest Closed street Closed street due to block party

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PrideFest & Illuminated Night Parade

Saturday, June 18, 2016

Presented by The Dark Lady and The Alley Cat

PLACES OF INTEREST

1. City Hall 25 Dorrance St 2. Convention Center/Providence Visitor Center 1 Sabin St 3. Dunkinâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Donuts Center 1 La Salle Square 4. Kennedy Plaza 1 Dorrance St 5. Providence Performing Arts Center 220 Weybosset St 6. Providence Place Mall 1 Providence Pl 7. Providence Train Station 100 Gaspee St

BARS & CLUBS

PrideFest, noon-8pm Over 120 vendors, youth activities, live performances, and a beer, wine, and spirits garden.

8. Club Body Center 257 Weybosset St 9. Dark Lady & Alley Cat 19 Snow St 10. EGO 73 Richmond St 11. Gallery 333 333 Westminster St 12. Mirabar 15 Elbow St 13. Providence Eagle 124 Snow St 14. The Stable 125 Washington St 15. The Village 373 Richmond St

RESTAURANT SPONSORS 16. Bravo Brasserie 123 Empire St 17. Clean Plate 345 S Water St 18. Friskie Fries 19 Snow Street 19. Garde de la Mer 86 Dorrance St 20. The Melting Pot 199 Providence Pl

ACCOMMODATIONS

21. Courtyard Providence Marriott 32 Exchange Terrace 22. The Dean Hotel 122 Fountain St 23. Hampton Inn 58 Weybosset St 24. Hotel Providence 139 Mathewson St 25. Hilton Providence 21 Atwells Ave 26. Omni Providence 1 W. Exchange St 27. Providence Biltmore 11 Dorrance St 28. Renaissance Providence 5 Ave of the Arts Cartographer Jen Bonin PhD

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Glossary

of LGBTQ+ W

e at Options originally created this glossary of LGBTQ+ terminology in order to help readers best describe their experiences both as individuals and as a community, and to better understand one another. We have revised it to include readers’ feedback since its first printing in January. We hope you find it helpful, and encourage you to send us feedback for future versions. Why not tear it out and hang it on your fridge as a year-round reference, or offer this resource to people who are challenging themselves to better understand the sexual and gender identities of all people? While this is not meant to be an exhaustive list, it’s a well-rounded introduction to the mostused terms within our diverse community. Please contact us with your feedback and suggestions.

GENERAL TERMS Advocate (n.) A person who publicly supports or defends a cause or policy; (v.) to publicly defend a cause or policy Ally A person who advocates for a group without being part of that group Closeted One who conceals their LGBTQ status from others (i.e., being “in the closet”) Coming Out, Coming out of the Closet Acknowledging one’s sexuality or gender identity to oneself or others Fluidity Describes an identity that fluctuates over time; fluidity is often attached to another term, such as genderfluid or fluid sexuality Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD) A non-profit legal rights organization based in Boston, working to end discrimination based on sexual orientation, HIV status, and gender identity and expression

Terms GLAAD A U.S.-based non-governmental, media-monitoring organization founded by LGBT people in the media, formerly the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation Heterosexism A system of attitudes, bias, and discrimination in favor of opposite-sex sexuality and relationships (i.e., the presumption that other people are heterosexual or that opposite-sex attractions and relationships are “normal” and therefore superior) Homophobia Fear, anger, and discomfort with LGBTQ people, often directed outward at others, in cases like hate crimes, and sometimes focused inwardly as one’s own sexuality is being called into question (internalized homophobia) Human Rights Campaign (HRC) The largest national LGBTQ civil rights advocacy group and political lobbying organization Inclusivity The act or policy of including all kinds of people and being open to everyone – regardless of gender, sexual orientation, ability, and race – or any group who might otherwise be marginalized Intersectionality A term coined by civil rights advocate and legal scholar Kimberlé Crenshaw to describe the study of overlapping or intersecting social identities and related systems of oppression, domination, or discrimination, and how those systems interact Invisible Minority A group whose minority status isn’t always visible, such as some disabled people and LGBTQ people. Examples include mentally ill people, transgender people who appear cisgender, and bisexuals in heterosexual relationships

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Kinsey Scale Also called the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale, the scale was created in 1948 by Alfred Kinsey, Wardell Pomeroy, and others, to describe a person’s sexual orientation ranging from 0 to 6, from exclusively heterosexual to exclusively homosexual. There is also a marker of X to indicate asexuality LGBTQ/LGBTQQIA+ An intentionally inclusive acronym to describe those who are sexual and/or gender minorities (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual or Ally, and other associated sexual and gender identities other than heterosexual and ciscender) Lambda The Gay Activist Alliance originally chose lambda, the Greek letter “L,” in 1970 to symbolize Liberation. The word became a way of expressing the concept “lesbians and gay males” in a minimum of syllables, and has been adopted by such organizations as Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund Outing The act of disclosing an LGBTQidentified person’s sexual orientation or gender identity without that person’s consent Queer An umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities who are not both heterosexual and cisgender. Originally meaning “strange” or “peculiar,” queer came to be used pejoratively against those with same-sex desires or relationships in the late 19th century. Beginning in the late 1980s, queer scholars and activists reclaimed the word to establish community and assert a politicized identity separate from the gay political identity. Queer identity may be adopted by people who reject traditional gender identities, or who seek a broader, less conformist, or intentionally vague alternative to the label LGBT

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SEXUALITY TERMS Androsexual One who is sexually attracted to males Asexual Someone who feels no sexual attraction toward any group or person

whose appearance or behavior does not conform to traditional masculinity

Bigender A gender identity classified by identifying as both male and female

Monogamy/Monogamous The state of having or being open to having one romantic or sexual partner or relationship at a time

Binary Gender A gender identity classified as strictly male or strictly female

Autosexual One who is sexually attracted to oneself

Pansexual A person who is able to feel attracted to any and all gender orientations and sexes.

Bisexual 1. A person who is sexually attracted to both men and women. 2. A person who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to persons of more than one gender

Polyamory/Polyamorous The state of loving or being open to loving more than one person romantically and/or sexually at a given time

Demisexual An identity characterized by a lack of sexual attraction toward any person without a deeply emotional or romantic connection Heterosexual A person who is attracted to only members of the opposite sex. See also Straight Heteronormative Denoting or relating to a worldview that promotes heterosexuality as the normal or preferred sexual orientation Homosexual A person who is attracted to only members of the same sex. See also Gay, Lesbian Heteroflexible A sexual orientation classified as being mostly attracted to the opposite sex, but on occasion attracted to the same sex, sometimes referred to as “mostly straight” Gay See Homosexual. Usually refers to homosexual males but can also be used as a blanket term Gynesexual One who is sexually attracted to women Homoflexible A sexual orientation classified as being mostly attracted to the same sex, but on occasion attracted to the opposite sex, sometimes referred to as “mostly gay” Questioning The process of analyzing one’s own sexual orientation or gender identity Lesbian A woman who is attracted to women Metrosexual Describes a fashionable and well-groomed man living an upscale lifestyle. Can also describe a heterosexual man

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Polygamy A marriage that contains more than two spouses Polysexual A person who is attracted to multiple orientations, but not all Same-Gender-Loving (SGL) A term coined by activist Cleo Manago to describe homosexuals and bisexuals, particularly in the African-American community Sapiosexual Being attracted to especially intellectual people Skoliosexual A person who is exclusively attracted to those who identify outside of the gender binary (i.e., non-binary or genderqueer) Straight See Heterosexual Sexual Orientation A person’s sexual identity in relation to the gender or sexes to which they are attracted

GENDER TERMS AFAB Acronym for “Assigned Female at Birth,” which is often determined by a clinician following a visual assessment of an infant’s genitalia

Biological Sex A person’s sex as determined by anatomy, chromosomes, or hormones. Altering one’s hormonal makeup via transitioning can change a person’s biological sex. Butch An identity in which an LGBTQ person is notably and deliberately masculine in manner or appearance, especially in lesbian culture Cisgender/Cis A term to describe those whose sex assigned at birth and gender identity are traditionally aligned Cis man A person who was assigned male at birth and identifies as male; a cisgender man Cis woman A person who was assigned female at birth and identifies as female; a cisgender woman Crossdressing The behavior of dressing as the opposite sex Drag King A female person who dresses as male, usually in an exaggerated sense, for entertainment purposes Drag Queen A male person who dresses as female, usually in an exaggerated sense, for entertainment purposes Femme An identity in which an LGBTQ person is notably and deliberately feminine in manner or appearance, especially in lesbian culture FTM A term referring to a person transitioning from female to male

AMAB A term meaning “Assigned Male at Birth,” which is often determined by a clinician following a visual assessment of an infant’s genitalia

Gender The social and cultural constructs that signify masculinity, femininity, androgyny, and other identities outside of these categories

Agender A gender identity classified by an attachment to no particular gender; also called non-binary

Gender-neutral Having no preference or distinction toward being male or female. Examples of gender-neutral pronouns are xe, zie, and ze, all pronounced “zee,” used in place of he or she. Hir or zir (both rhyming with “deer”) may be used in place of him/ her.*

Androgynous/Androgyny Exhibiting masculine and feminine characteristics in near equal proportion

Genderqueer A term meaning that one’s gender is queer, and falls outside of a normative structure. Can include non-binary gender identity, bigender, and some trans identities Gender Binary System The classification of gender and sex into two distinct, opposite, and disconnected constructs of masculine and feminine and male and female Gender Confirming Surgery Also called Sexual Reassignment Surgery (SRS) or Gender Reassignment Surgery (GRS), the term refers to the surgical interventions a person may take to transition from one sex to another.The term is often used to reference surgery on the genitals but can also include other surgeries related to transition (e.g., breast and chest surgeries, facial surgeries, hair transplants and removal, and other procedures) Gender Conformity Behavior and appearance that conforms to the expectation of one’s assigned gender (e.g., masculine men and feminine women) Gender Expression The outward manner in which one expresses their gender identity, relative to masculinity and femininity, via choices such as hair style, clothing, mannerisms, and name/gender pronouns Gender Identity The gender or absence of gender that a person identifies with Gender Variance A departure from one’s assigned sex; the state of being gender nonconforming, transgender, or genderqueer

all people who experience any level of gender variance or are not cisgender.The use of the asterisk is meant to be specifically inclusive to all gender nonconforming people, including but not limited to agender, bigender, non-binary, and genderqueer people Transgender A term used to describe a person who has a gender identity different from their sex assigned at birth. Includes binary transgender people, non-binary, and genderqueer, among others Transitioning The process of moving from one gender binary to another, via means of any, but not necessarily all, of the following: gender expression, name change, hormone therapy, and gender confirming surgeries Transphobia A range of antagonistic and or negative feelings towards transgender, transsexual, or trans*-identified persons; can be directed towards oneself (internalized transphobia) or outward towards others Transsexual A person who moves from one gender to another via medical interventions such as hormones and surgeries Two-spirit A modern, umbrella term sometimes used by Native American indigenous groups to describe gender-variant people * Options recommends that you ask a person what their preferred pronouns are if you are unsure.You can research to discover other gender-neutral pronouns and their uses. q

Intersex Describes someone whose biological sex is not strictly male or female, as related to genitalia, chromosomes, and hormones MTF A term referring to a person transitioning from male to female Non-binary See Agender Non-op A transgender person with no plans to undergo gender confirming surgery Passing, Pass A term describing a transgender person’s ability to be perceived as the gender with which they identify Post-op A term to describe a person who has undergone sexual reassignment or gender confirming surgery or surgeries Pre-op A term to describe a trans-identified person who desires gender confirming surgery but has not had it yet Sexual Reassignment Surgery See Gender Confirming Surgery Trans An abbreviation for transgender, often used by the transgender community Trans man A transgender man; one who has transitioned from female to male Trans woman A transgender woman; one who has transitioned from male to female Trans* An umbrella term, like trans and transgender, to describe

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Sojourner House:

40 Years Strong by Jodi Glass and Jenn Steinfeld

his year marks the 40th Anniversary of Rhode Island Pride, and the 40th Anniversary of Sojourner House, a local domestic violence agency founded with a feminist mission. Jodi Glass and Jenn Steinfeld recently hosted a conversation with co-founder Cathy Lewis; former volunteers Wendy Becker and Deb DeBare; former staff C. Kelly Smith; and current Executive Director Vanessa Volz, about the founding and development of Sojourner House as a feminist organization. Today Sojourner House is the only domestic violence organization in the state that runs explicitly LGBTQ programming and support services for men experiencing same-sex domestic violence. Jodi: What was the landscape like in 1976, when Sojourner House was founded? Cathy: That year student activism erupted on the Brown University campus after a Brown Corporation proposal to cut back on student aid, which would have disproportionately impacted students of color. Students held a weeklong strike, and in the aftermath of that uprising there was lots of consciousness-raising and discussions of race and class on campus. We decided we needed to inject issues of gender into that conversation, and we started a study group called the Socialist Feminist Caucus. We started learning about violent partners, the lack of options for housing, how it cut across race and class lines…. There were no shelter services for women facing domestic violence. We decided to do something about that, and started building a network beyond the campus and researching services available beyond Rhode Island. Sojourner House was designed very intentionally to challenge traditional power structures, and we were built as a nonhierarchical collective. Our socialist feminism came through in this intentional structure, and impacted how information was shared, how decisions were made,

everything. We were also a mostly lesbian group of women, very different from the women involved with the other women’s groups who didn’t understand the problem in the same way we did. Wendy: Ten years later, when Deb and I got involved, the split between Sojourner and the other women’s groups were obvious in the culture of feminism, and the divides between the organizations were in the forefront. Jodi: When I got to Rhode Island I was also working with socialist groups at Brown, but with a sense of distrust, because I felt the groups were being pushed by men. That was when we were starting Take Back the Night, and as a community person with a lot of education and privilege, I still felt like I wasn’t invited in. Wendy: I can remember going to meetings where you were, and feeling like there was a divide between the communities and the Brown feminists. I could tell you didn’t like us – that we weren’t on the same wavelength. But SoJo [Sojourner House] was very integrated and helped to break down the walls. People like Peg Harris and Mildred Bates, who I now look at as mentors and friends, were all part of the community of volunteers and staff. We would have trainings where there was no differentiation between community and students.

Deb: They weren’t feminist. Cathy: And they weren’t lesbian. It definitely made it harder to get funding. Mainstream funding sources weren’t comfortable with the visibility of lesbians, and other groups either. Wendy: SoJo was REALLY lesbian. The core organization, in terms of volunteers, was heavily lesbian.The staff were probably all straight. Deb: Well, there were only two staff, but probably. Wendy: And this huge group of women was coming out at Sojourner House. I remember going to a “staff meeting” – because none of us were paid – and it was this mass of people who were all coming out together. Deb: I remember doing a speaking engagement to a community group of all men in some rural area, and getting the question: “Isn’t it just a group of lesbians?”, which I wasn’t prepared to answer. I wasn’t prepared to come out; I wasn’t prepared to answer them. Wendy: One of the things that came

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and made the commitment to still come to work, because it was about the WORK. We were going to face the hardships of missing a couple of paychecks, which superseded our desire to be paid. Wendy: I don’t know if that would happen today.

through when I was there was a consciousness about the process. There was a conscious consensus that was important to the relationships that were developed there. We had these mass meetings that went on forever, so we spent a lot of time together making decisions and educating ourselves. Deb: The difference in culture for SoJo compared to other shelters was in the consciousness at the heart of the founding. Core to the process was taking on – upending – power structures in society that caused domestic violence. Kelly: I started in the 1990s with the Women’s Center, then with the Coalition [Against Domestic Violence], then joined Sojourner, which was more closely aligned to my values. I bore witness to the sequelae of the ideological differences between the organizations, and wore some different hats to try to bring them together. Wendy: One thing we haven’t talked about is the physical space, and how many volunteers came together. You had to physically go there, and there were sign-up sheets on the walls with blocks to sign up for shifts, and all those women’s names. There was a whole different sense of urgency. People slept here! Deb: And this was a mix of students and non-students; I would say it was a 50/50 split. And so much urgency – such a huge group of women were needed. Kelly: I remember a time when the director collected us together and said that the State is going to be late in paying us the contract money, and we don’t have the money to pay you until that check comes in. Everyone looked at each other

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Deb: Absolutely not. I have wonderful staff [at the Coalition Against Domestic Violence] who love their work, but they would not come to work if they weren’t getting paid. Jodi: I think volunteering is great, but I don’t think we should be expecting people to volunteer rather than being paid. I’ve done so much as a volunteer, and I don’t think it’s fair. Deb: When I started, the volunteers had the jobs! I was the office manager, I worked 20 hours a week, I had a job description, but I wasn’t paid. And though Sojo had a very different analysis of its ideological roots, the process of expecting that kind of work without pay is coming from a place of privilege. Wendy: I was the shelter manager, and I was a volunteer! Vanessa: And you couldn’t do it today. The liability would be too significant. Cathy: Yes, we had these painful threshold years where we had major discussions about our survival. If we wanted to survive we needed to do it as a traditional, hierarchical organization, otherwise major funders wouldn’t take us seriously. Deb: This came through even in the nitty-gritty process of applying for a grant. There was only one line for an executive director to sign on, and we didn’t have an executive director. Wendy: At that time, you could feel the professionalization tension. I think there was always tension between the process of running an organization as a feminist and of becoming a professional in a feminist way.

Deb: These exact issues have been part of the movement ever since. I’m still working in this movement, and one thing that has happened is that the coalitions are trying to bring back the roots of social change, since the agencies have become focused on the business of being an agency, and providing the services, and raising the money. Jodi: What difference are we making? Cathy: Currently? Good question. When we were first organizing, we thought: Give us a generation, and domestic violence will be a thing of the past. We didn’t know what we didn’t know. The roots of sexism are broad and deep; we didn’t know then how deeply they go. We’ve made significant strides, but we have a LONG way to go.We felt optimistic, engaged, empowered back then – and we were a group of privileged white women, none of whom had experienced DV (domestic violence). We were analytical, and it wasn’t until we opened the shelter and started working with women who were experiencing DV that we started to understand domestic violence on a more personal level. We had to learn a whole other level of engagement that we were unprepared for – women with no financial resources, a large number of women of color, women who didn’t speak English, women coming with their children. Deb: Now we are talking about three generations out – your children’s children’s children – and I don’t know that I would have had the energy for that. Wendy: It’s disappointing that they would set up a notion that it’s okay for it [domestic violence] to last three generations. There’s no sense of urgency. Deb: To me that is exciting, because it’s beyond the immediate of saving lives and moving into social change. We could have talked for days and enjoyed sharing one another’s differing opinions. The 40th Anniversary Breakfast on April 28 was a celebration of herstory, perserverence, struggle, humor – yes, humor – and survival. Sojourner House continues on. q

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by Ethan Huckel

ride season is upon us, and with it comes the reminder that being out is a powerful political act. Without question, the visibility of LGBTQ people has shifted public opinion in our favor throughout the years. Ask someone what they think of gay marriage, and you’re likely to get into a conversation about their gay cousin or neighbor. Ask if they know a transgender person, and they may mention Laverne Cox, Chaz Bono, or Aydian Dowling. Visibility has not erased bigotry, but it has given the LGBTQ community a public face, and that has helped humanize us to the straight, cisgender world. When faced with steadfast opposition, despite visibility, the act of being out becomes even more powerful. For many of us, being out means that we are forced to confront bigotry in a way we might not have to if we never disclosed our gender identity or sexuality. Standing up in the face of that opposition to live firmly in our identities is a powerful, courageous act. I’m sure if you venture into downtown Providence on June 18, you will see quite a few people who are doing just that. They are asserting their right to be unapologetically themselves, and it is a beautiful thing. In fact, it’s probably my favorite thing about Pride. I love my queer community, and I am grateful to all of those who stand up to be seen, because I know that they are making the world safer for us all. When I was growing into adulthood, I wore my queer identity as a rebellious badge of honor. I held my love of women as a sacred truth I could not

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reject and would not disparage. It was not the first thing I told people about myself, nor was it a secret. And it always came up eventually. Of course it came up! I was dating. I was going to talk about that. Regardless of my actions, I was easily read as a lesbian or as queer, and though I struggled with elements of those identities, I was happy to be seen as a part of my queer family. Being out wasn’t so much an act as an inevitable consequence of being me.

“I LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND AM FINALLY FACING MYSELF.” But I wasn’t fully out then. I was seen as queer, but there was so much I wasn’t saying. I spent many of those years struggling to understand the person people saw when they looked at me. They saw someone like me, but the picture was incomplete. Now, I have taken steps to amend that dissonance; a lot has changed. I look in the mirror and am finally facing myself. And, though I am finally seen by others as the man I know myself to be, I find myself struggling with something new: how to be out as a queer, trans person without betraying my own privacy. If you pass me on the street, you will probably read me as a straight, heterosexual man. Add my wife and son to the picture and you will likely create a story for me that is only a small piece of who I truly am. You won’t guess that I am trans unless I tell you. You won’t guess that I am queer or the wide range of my attractions. My transition has

afforded me a great deal of privilege. One aspect of that privilege is my ability to move through the world effortlessly, and invisibly. I wasn’t able to do that before, and it can be a comfort not to be seen. On the other hand, there is a part of me that wants to stand unapologetically in my truth, like the newly-out teenagers draped in rainbows at Pride. It’s that part of me that serves as the board president of TGI Network and works to help my community in any way I can. It is true that I struggle to find a balance between outspoken political openness and the quiet privacy I often seek. I know that being out as transgender opens me up to feedback I don’t always want. Sometimes, I’d rather just be a dad at the park, playing with his son. I don’t know exactly where the balance lies, but I imagine it will take shape gradually. It’s likely that time will shrink the number of people who do not know I’m transgender, but there will always be strangers I choose not to tell. Part of being a proud trans man is knowing that I am in control of what I share about myself. So I am not out to everyone, but I am out. And I am committed to doing what I can to make it easier for the next generation of trans folks to come out, too… if they want to be out, that is.q TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy, and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community). Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large. Visit us at www.tginetwork.org.

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What’s in a Name? What’s in a Pronoun? by TC Rogers

s society continues to grapple with what is and what isn’t gender, there are those who sit comfortably in the standard binary and many who feel the gender they appear to be is their own. For those who identify as “other” than male or female, identification markers in speech and writing, such as names and pronouns, are challenges. Pronouns have become so embedded in our speech and writing that not to use a pronoun can feel a bit like hopping on one foot. Genderneutral pronouns do exist and are being embraced, especially by higher education institutions. The use and awareness of these pronouns, such as xe, ye, and ze, are in their infancy. Thus the current use of such pronouns may cause someone who identifies as gender-neutral to shine an undesired spotlight upon zirself. Young people are often best at expressing an authentic view of societal shifts in thought. So, I decided to reach out to the youth of two well-known local nonprofits that include activities to educate, celebrate, and advocate for LGBTQ adults and youth:Youth Pride Inc. and the Gordon School. “As far as YPI’s role in the discussion of pronouns, I think we are a place where pronouns are affirmed and respected – respecting pronouns is one of our

community norms – but also a place where youth can learn why pronouns are important and explore more about gender identity in general,” said Alexis Hall (she/her), Programming Coordinator for YPI. “At Gordon, the question of gender and pronouns is part of the ongoing conversation about how to sustain an inclusive community for all families. Parents, students, and faculty are supported as they define themselves in ways that authentically reflect their own identity expression. In the classroom, Gordon’s statement of inclusivity sets the expectation that ‘faculty actively teach students to confidently consider multiple perspectives, examine and express their own beliefs, and respond respectfully to the ideas and beliefs of others,’ ” explained Kim Ridley (she/her), Assistant Head of School. Below are many of the responses from the youth who spend time at YPI; the Gordon School’s Gender Sexuality Alliance (GSA); and the student group at the Alliance Against Prejudice (AAP): What’s in a Name? For transpeople, it is often empowering to change your name because people

might make an assumption about your gender, though this could also be dangerous for people who aren’t out. For me it was great to change my name to something that was more gender-neutral because it made me feel more masculine while not outing myself to others. It helps people describe themselves and it means something to them. A name is important to a transgender person because it says who they are instead of their dead name, which makes them feel stuck or empty. A name is something that is assigned to you by your gender at birth. Names can hurt, but they are helpful to describe who you are. Within a name there are stereotypes. Names can represent a connection or disconnection with your family. My name is feminine, which will label me as a girl almost instantly. Fortunately, I identify as a girl, but for someone else, their name might be a reminder of a gender that isn’t theirs.

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What’s in a Pronoun? I think about this so often. It’s a way to automatically gender someone, which can be offensive if they are mis-gendered, but helpful in figuring it all out. It’s not something that many cisgender people think about, but can be very important to someone.

he/she place, so it’s complicated. I prefer they/them over other ones in general. It’s something you can change over time. A pronoun can be a pride thing. Also pronouns can put people down. Pronouns can make people more comfortable with themselves.

Labels are conforming.

Labels make people feel validated.

A pronoun is how someone identifies.

As we discuss the use and power of names and pronouns, as shared through some of our local youths’ perspectives, it is imperative to consider the sensitivity of confirming one’s preferred name and pronoun. GLAD offers this advices on their website: “If you’re unsure which pronoun a person prefers, listen first to the pronoun other people use when referring to that person. Someone who

Pronouns can make people more comfortable with themselves. he her him she zie ze pre spivak Gender. Who you are. “Labels.” They determine what people expect of you. Pronouns are gendered. I don’t fit the

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knows the person well will probably use the correct pronoun. If you must ask which pronoun the person prefers, start with your own. For example, ‘Hi, I’m Dani and I prefer the pronouns she and her. What about you?’” Also consider that it will take time for people to get in the habit of using new names and pronouns, rather than previous ones. Although someone might ask to be called ye, and you have the best intention to do so, you might have a mind slip and say a different pronoun. If this happens, gently apologize and move on. Part of honoring confirmation of self is allowing people to be – peacefully.q To learn more about the use of various general neutral pronouns, visit www. genderneutralpronoun.wordpress.com/tag/ ze-and-zir.

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Youth Center at PrideFest Youth Pride Inc. will once again offer a Pride Youth Center at PrideFest this year in coordination with Rhode Island Pride on June 18. The Youth Center, open from noon – 5pm, will be a space for youth 23 and under to relax, meet other youth, and learn more about Youth Pride Inc.’s services. Youth are also welcome to stop by the center to learn about how they can be a part of YPI’s parade contingent during the parade that evening. New Staff Member Youth Pride Inc. is happy to welcome a new youth worker to the YPI team: Jesus Holguin. Jesus has been involved with Youth Pride Inc. since he was a sophomore in high school more than

eight years ago. Jesus also organizes with the Environmental Justice League of Rhode Island in many capacities, most recently as the Youth Leadership Director, educating and mobilizing youth to fight toxic infrastructure in their communities. Born in Manhattan, he now resides in Providence. He identiﬁes as a cisgender queer Afro-Latino youth. Through community connections, he was introduced to Direct Action for Rights and Equality (DARE) shortly after his mother was incarcerated and deported on February 11, 2010. As a result, he quickly became passionate about organizing and changing the community. Because of his passion for justice, he was selected to attend the National Youth Organizer Training Institute with SOUL

(School of Unity and Liberation) in California, and is a member of a coalition called Right to the City. Recently, he was selected to be part of a national group called Beyond the November Movement, also known as Black Youth Project 100 (#BYP100). His main areas of activism are environmental racism and food justice, LGBT rights, gender justice, and immigration rights.q Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 23 and under. Our drop-in center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www. youthprideri.org, email info@youthprideri. org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.

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e are living longer. We are living healthier. We are living open lives. We are citizens; the time has come. We are the community of SAGE-Rhode Island – lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, and all the letters of the rainbow. SAGE-Rhode Island enlists elders to work together to identify needs and set priorities. We want quality of life as we age. We want to sustain and deepen the relationships we have spent lifetimes building. And we do not have time to wait. We have spent our lives at the forefront of the LGBT rights movement, and now we find ourselves advocating for our needs and rights as elders. The fight for respect, civil rights, and full legal and social equality is not over. We want to live the rest of our lives with our partners, friends, and families, meaningfully engaged in the work of building and maintaining the better world we have spent our lives pursuing. SAGE-Rhode Island is affiliated with SAGE-USA, making us part of a national movement for quality of life as we age. We are not content to be a separate community, because everybody ages. Many of our needs are what everybody needs, even if we are LGBT and elders. But we can’t assume that our needs and wants will be respected unless we organize to make ourselves an effective voice for change.That is the ongoing work of SAGE. Once a month SAGE-Rhode Island sponsors the LGBT Café, with the cooperation and participation of Meals on Wheels and the Rhode Island Department of Elderly Affairs. It is social. It is lunch and catching up with friends, and sharing a bit of useful information. It is one small way that SAGE networks with our allies.

Twice a year we hold conferences. The topics vary. This spring’s event focused on trans needs and trans health, which proved to be remarkably timely in light of current events. We made sure to invite appropriate professionals and offer accredited continuing education credits. The conferences help us build community and networks at the same time. Our annual gala is another way we have fun and raise money. We recently spent a night having delightful refreshments and being entertained at the Warwick Art Museum. Some art was available for auction. Our purchases supported SAGE and enriched our lives. We have an active presence on social media. We send a lot of emails – it’s free! We hold meetings to hear the voice of the community so that we can represent our needs and wants to those in power. We speak up on the issues of the day that affect us and give our community a face and voice. SAGE-Rhode Island is a membership organization. It is supported by dues from individuals and sponsorships by organizations. This allows us to have a part-time staff and be present where and when we need to be on behalf of our members. We have a booth at PrideFest. Please come by and say hello. We want to meet you and talk and listen. We would love for you to join our membership if you haven’t yet.There is strength in numbers q SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; leave us a message at (401) 443-4451; write to us at SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Avenue, Providence, RI 02905; on the web at www.sage-ri.org, or find us on Facebook as SAGE/Rhode Island.

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RESOURCES

Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012.

Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. Young People’s Sexual Diversity meeting of AA. Fridays at 7pm at Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, 250 Main St., Pawtucket. 489-5513.

AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext. 3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org. Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.

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HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous.Free or sliding scale.RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org. Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org. Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. 383-4888. www.projectweber.org.

Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing,partner care.1173AcushnetAvenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net. Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516.

The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 Foster Parents needed for newborns to age six. Visit www. chidrensfriendri.org or call Joyce, 276-4318. GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564.

www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com. RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.

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Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192. Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.

Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com. Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950. The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue. Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours. 373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com

Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu. Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com. National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.

The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.

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Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org. Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org. Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC.An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail. com, www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910. Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.

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The Chapel of the Holy Spirit: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org. Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am. 292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org. Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence.org. Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643.

Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org. Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com. Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail. com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)994-8972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am.50 Park Place,Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com. Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org. Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www. uufairhaven.org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org. Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA.

corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org. Gay Men’s Social Group: First Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm, Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net.

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail. com. www.sage-ri.org. SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@ gmail.com). South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

Sports & Recreation

PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling. com. www.townhalllanes.com. FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins Aug. 30. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com. Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672.www.mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.

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Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com. Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net. Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

Students & Youth Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@ BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private oneto-one chat and info on local resources. Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www. fenwayhealth.org. Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@ salve.edu

S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu. The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org. University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu. URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911.TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-5437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.child-familyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org. Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378. Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100.

www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www. gayfathersboston.org. Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm. Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+. Thursdays

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in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www.mentalhelp.net/ care/substance-abuse/ri/ Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org. Rape Crisis Center for S.E. Mass: New Hope, Inc. Advocacy, shelter, services for domestic abuse survivors. Hotline (800) 323HOPE. Office (508)226-4015. Project Renew: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 861-6191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. Office 8616191. www.sojournerri.org St. Mary’s Home for Children: Sexual abuse treatment for children. 450 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Providence. www.smhfc.org. Adam Cable, 353-3900. Straight Spouses: Groups and online support.www.straightspouse. org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www.tginetwork.org. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and

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to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. www. wrcnbc.org. q

WORTH A LOOK It used to be that one of the deadly sins was singing country music, but not so for the legendary Cyndi Lauper, who takes fans on a detour with her newest album, Detour. This is no popapologetic, watered-down twang; this is porch-sitting, sweet-tea sipping, vintage country, with covers of early mainstays made famous by such artists as Waylon Jennings, Patti Page, Loretta Lynn, Conway Twitty, and Willie Nelson. It’s unusual to see an artist so unabashedly able to experiment with completely different styles and still make them her own, whether she’s bopping with Boy George on her latest concert tour or yodeling with Jewel on “I Want to Be a Cowboy’s Sweetheart.” Time after time, Lauper delivers sparkling clear, upbeat vocals, perfectly matched to the songs. “I just start popping my brain medication, one pill at a time, you know, one, two – honestly, I must have taken 10 to 15 pills. Next thing you know I’m in an ambulance,” says WNBA superstar Chamique Holdsclaw, describing the night she almost lost her life to mental illness. “I felt so much shame. I felt like, how did I let things get this bad? I’m supposed to be better than this, stronger than this.” Holdsclaw’s lifelong battle with bipolar disorder is documented in Mind/Game: The Unquiet Journey of Chamique Holdsclaw. Holdsclaw, an all-American high school basketball player who led the University of Tennessee to three straight NCAA championships, including an undefeated season, was the number one WNBA draft pick in 1999. Holdsclaw’s incredible rise to success led to the false confidence that she could conquer the illness by herself, with disastrous results. These days, Holdsclaw is taking what she has learned to the athletes of tomorrow. “Now just being Chamique, being able to go and speak to young girls about self esteem and handling pressure, feels just as good as any game-winning shot,” she says. “These doors that I thought were closed because of my own fear and embarrassment are waiting open for me because I’ve dealt with me. I’ve confronted me.” Watch Mind/Game on Logo and Logo On Demand, and learn more about Holdsclaw in her 2012 book, Breaking Through: Beating The Odds Shot after Shot.

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Always unapologetically herself, Lauper, whose older sister is a lesbian, is a longtime advocate for the LGBTQ community; she was one of the first major artists to support AIDS care and research. In recent years, Lauper established the True Colors Fund and True Colors Residences to help combat the epidemic of LGBTQ youth homelessness. Even if you’re not a country music fan, it’s worth listening to Lauper’s Detour. With songs like “You’re the Reason Our Kids Are Ugly,” a duet with Vince Gill, it’s obvious Lauper just wants to have fun. If you listen long enough, you may even find yourself in cowboy boots and a Stetson hat at Rhode Island Pride, which is never a bad thing.

The Best Party of Our Lives: Stories of Gay Weddings and True Love to Inspire Us All, by Sarah Galvin, tells the stories of 23 LGBTQ couples’ weddings and how each arrived at the alter. Chapter names include “Rings,” “Ceremony,” “Music,” and “Booze,” but each chapter is really about the couples themselves: how they met, how they fell in love and how their relationship evolved to find them standing together at the altar, pledging the rest of their lives to each other. “It is impossible to have a party that expresses the magnitude of love, but it seems to me the parties people throw for love (a.k.a. weddings) are generally the best ones imaginable,” says Galvin, a former caterer who now covers weddings for the Seattle’s Stranger newspaper. The weddings are diverse and described in detail, and the book makes it easy to fall in love with each couple and celebrate with them all. There are lots of ideas here, but most of them are about the beauty of finding your special someone. The Best Party of Our Lives is worth a read if, like me, you’ll be planning a wedding soon, or if you’re just a hopeless romantic who enjoys stories about real-life couples’ happily ever afters.q

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When you could use a little face time with your health plan. Introducing Your Blue Store.SM A place to talk local with a local team, in English or Spanish. A place where you can learn about your health plan options, take a fitness class, or even make a payment. When you come to one of our three stores, you’ll also find a warm local welcome – just like at our network providers that proudly display our Safe Zone logo as LGBTQ-friendly offices. It’s not what you’d expect from a health plan, but maybe you should. Visit bcbsri.com/yourbluestore

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