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Rhode Island’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer community news source since 1982. May 2016, Vol. XXXV, Issue 1
Twenty Years of the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus p. 14
Out on the Town: Triple Crown Pageant p. 20
Yankee Cruising Club Relaunches June 25
4 From the Editor 5 Passages: Roy Eastman 6 From the Publisher 6 Advertisers 8 Calendar 10 News Briefs 12 Adoption Month: All Youth Matter 13 “We Are Doing a Good Thing” 14 20 Years: Prov. Gay Men’s Chorus 17 YPI:Youth Perspective
Worth a Look: Suspect
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18 Put a Little Silver in Your Rainbow 20 Out on the Town 22 Yankee Cruising Club: Relaunch! 25 Pride XL Marshals Chosen 26 Swing Into Spring with ACOS 27 Gay Pride Sabbath, June 17 28 A Transphobic Loophole in MA 29 Transosaurus Rex 30 Resources 38 Worth a Look
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Publisher Kyle McKendall kyle@optionsri.org Editor in Chief Jen Stevens editor@optionsri.org Resources Editor Myra Shays Copy Editors Julia Barber, Hannah Edgerly, Rex LeBeau, Christine Pavao, Myra Shays Graphic Design Theresa “Reese” Barzyk Contributors Kurt Bagley, Adam Brooks, Lit Chick, Keith Costa, Christopher Dalpe, Bradford Greer, Sally Ann Hay, Janelle Heideman, Rich Hite, Stephen Hug, Rex LeBeau, Kiara Nicole, Myra Shays, Wendy Souza Photographers Jack Hartwein-Sanchez, Jen Bonin, Drew Christhilf Finance Director Donny McKendall billing@optionsri.org Subscription Manager Francis Ryan frank@optionsri.org Distribution distribution@optionsri.org Advertising advertising@optionsri.org
Contact Us info@optionsri.org PO Box 6406 Providence, RI 02940 (401) 724-LGBT www.optionsri.org Cover: The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus performs What a Difference a Gay Makes, 2011. Photo by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez.
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From the Editor Dear Reader, Each month, when I set out to write this message, I sift through the issue’s pages, willing inspiration. This time, I was overcome with appreciation for those who brought the issue to life. On Team Options, there are plenty of praises to sing. Frequent contributor Bradford Greer has never shied away from a challenge. Whether he’s distilling Rhode Island’s entire gay bar history, investigating the nuances of the decade-old dispute between Andrew Winters and URI, or interviewing prominent community members, Brad paints a colorful picture, inside and out, spattered with humor. His chronological recap of the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus’ 20-year history will be a delightful stroll down memory lane for many readers. (p. 14) Were it not for The Lit Chick, I wouldn’t have a clue as to what’s happening in pop or literary culture. I’m grateful to rely regularly on her talents, and truly believe her Worth a Look reviews are worth national attention. This month, she introduces us to Ryland Whittington, and I know readers will want to learn more. (p. 38) If there were an Options volunteer of the decade award, it would go to Myra Shays, who has been a copy editor with Options since 2004, and often writes as well. (pp. 11, 27) She’s always the first to review my editor note – her approval being my top aim. Each time we meet, I learn something new about language, and I’m guaranteed a hearty chuckle. Multiple prayers were answered when Rex LeBeau joined the team. Not only do they offer a regular comic,Transosaurus Rex (p. 29), they are a key copy editor, and coordinate Options distribution for all of Newport. Adam Brooks has delivered more content than any other writer in the years I’ve been with Options. His News Briefs (p. 10) keep us up-to-date on relevant local, national, and international issues. When a last-minute story breaks, he’ll quickly write something up and save the day, always meeting his deadline. I could fill the pages of this magazine with stories about our outstanding volunteers. Having made a profession of LGBTQ community building for the last 12 years, I can say there is nothing more valuable than a reliable volunteer. Friends, I should tell you I’ve accepted an actual full time job with the City of Providence. I’m learning what it’s like to work with mostly heterosexuals again, and have health benefits, and I’m trying really hard to become a morning person. It’s not possible to continue my role as Options’ Editor in Chief, as I know it, beyond the publication of next month’s Pride Guide. At that point I will cease to be RI Pride’s office manager, as I have been for ten Pride seasons. In any case, I pledge to remain a key member of both teams. While the organizations’ missions compel me, it’s the people I couldn’t bear to walk away from. If you are interested in working with me as Options Managing Editor, with the potential to become Editor in Chief, please reach out to me.
In solidarity, Jen Stevens
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Passages: Roy Eastman T by Rich Hite
he LGBT community of Rhode Island has lost a longtime ally. Roy Eastman, 82, a longtime board member of PFLAG, died March 8 in Providence. Roy came to PFLAG of Greater Providence fifteen years ago for the same reason that most other members do. As the father of a gay child, he was unwilling to stand idly by and watch his son, along with others in the LGBT community, continue to suffer from the same discrimination they had endured for generations. He and his wife Jane quickly rose to positions on the chapter’s Board of Directors, and have been a constant presence at the monthly meetings, offering frequent advice to others equally concerned about the intolerance faced by their own children and other family members.
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Although Roy lost his son in 2004, his dedication to the cause of LGBT equality never wavered. Regular attendees at PFLAG meetings can become close-knit support groups whose members come to care about each other’s families as well as their own. Roy, like others in the group, continued to concern himself with the struggles faced by the LGBT children of his fellow members. He listened to news of other members’ stories of new relationships, marriages, rejections by extended family members, conflicts with religious institutions, struggles over coming out to parents, and every other conceivable circumstance faced by those in the LGBT community. Longtime members often tell of updates in their family situations. Newcomers have new stories to share. Roy’s own son was gone, but that never stopped him from listening to others and offering input. PFLAG meetings will never be the same, but the mark Roy Eastman left will always be there. q
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From the Publisher Dear Reader,
We’re immensely proud to announce that for the first time in at least five years, Options Magazine has an activelyengaged board of directors guiding the organization. Voted in by the membership at our annual meeting last month, this group of talented individuals have made a commitment to the organization and are ready to ensure we are heading toward financial stability. In the short time the board has been meeting, the organization has benefited greatly from their expertise, vision, and guidance. Please join us in formally welcoming Brendan Chipley Roane, Shawna Lawton, Ed Lemire, Donny McKendall, and Stephen Prignano to the board of directors. In the coming months, we’ll tell you more about these individuals and our plans for the organization. If you haven’t already, please add the community giving day at Whole Foods Market to your calendar on June 1. All three Rhode Island locations of Whole Foods Market (Garden City, Cranston; North Main Street, Providence; and Waterman Street, Providence) are donating 5% of the day’s sales to LGBTQ community nonprofits. Options Magazine, Rhode Island Pride, and AIDS Care Ocean State are the beneficiaries of this event. Help us kick off the Pride season by making a purchase of any amount; 5% of your purchase will be automatically donated. Whether you stop in for coffee, lunch, or dinner; do a week’s worth of shopping; or stock up on a favorite item; your purchase goes a long way. Visit our website and Facebook page for additional information, and be sure to share it with your friends and family. Know that your input is valued by the entire team – be it the content we publish, the events we host, or the changes we make as the organization grows, your thoughts are needed. Options was first published to make gay men and lesbians aware of their options in the state to make positive changes in their lives. The publication has grown and adapted to the changing community landscape, but we’re not losing sight of our mission. If you have an interest in shaping the future of Options, we want to hear from you.
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CALENDAR OF EVENTS MAY
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Sun. 1 King of Queens, 6pm doors/7pm show. The Colosseum, 180 Pine Street, Providence. People who have never performed in drag before are paired with a drag queen as they compete for the title of King of Queens. $15 at the door to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State.
Thu. 12 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. Queer-produced potpourri of entertainment featuring musician Lara Herscovitch, comedian Reece Cotton, Bernard Morton playing theremin, sketch comedy with Erin Olson and Steven Dionne, and more. $7. Find Sweet Little Variety Show on Facebook and at www. sweetlittlevarietyshow.com.
Sun. 1 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-6pm. The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join us for the release of the May issue.Volunteers needed for distribution.
Wed. 4 Community dialogue with the RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias in cooperation with RWU School of Justice Studies, 9am-12pm. Baypoint Inn & Conference Center, 144 Anthony Road, Portsmouth. A conversation on cultivating authentic community between public safety and communities of color. Contact jlglass53@ gmail.com for info or to RSVP. Wed. 4 Rhode Island Pride Events Committee Meeting, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. A meeting to plan the June 18 PrideFest. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130. Fri. 6 Leah Dubie, 8pm. The Village, 373 Richmond Street, Providence. Dubie was named one of the hottest queer women in comedy by AfterEllen.com, was called “smart and opinionated” by Time Out New York, and found to be “a little fresh” by her mom. $10. Reservations can be made at www.thevillageri. com or 228-7222. Sat. 7 Concordia Coffeehouse presents jazz, rhythm & blues artist Kim Trusty, 8-10pm. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living, 292 West Shore Road, Warwick. $8. Doors 7:30pm. Alcohol-free event. Sun. 8 RI Prime Timers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 9963010.
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Sat. 14 Swing Into Spring, 6:30-10:30pm. Roger Williams Park Casino. Great Gatsbythemed extravaganza to benefit AIDS Care Ocean State. Featuring: SuperChief Trio, pianist Danny Arico, swing dance lessons, hors d’oeuvres, cocktails, raffles, and prizes. $50. www.aidscareos.org. Sat. 14 Team Terrible and The Dark Lady present Grease, a Countdown to Pride event, 7pm show/6pm doors. 19 Snow Street, Providence. Reserve $10 seating by emailing info@prideri.com. $7 general admission. Sat. 14 SAGE RI Gala: Put a Little Silver in Your Rainbow, 7-10pm. Warwick Art Museum, 3259 Post Road, Warwick. Drinks, dessert, hors d’oeuvres, dancing, silent auction, and art. $50. Find tickets at www.eventbrite.com. Sat. 14 Jodi Jolt &TheVolt, 9pm. Fran’s Place, 776 Washington Street, Lynn, MA. Wed. 18 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: The City and the Pillar by Gore Vidal. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@ gmail.com. Wed. 18 Dyke Night, 8pm-1am. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. DJ dance party for dykes and their friends. Donations accepted at the door. Thu. 19 Drag Bingo: White Party, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI.
LEAGUE STARTS TUESDAY, MAY 10, 2016
Tue. 10 Big Gay Al’s Bowling League kick Announcing our 17th Season! off, 7:15pm. Town Hall Lanes, 1463 Atwood Big Gay Al’s kicks off Tuesday, May 10th Avenue, Johnston. To join or form a team, It only costs $15 to bowl and all the money visit BGALBowling.com, contact Leo at we raise is donated or to charity.
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Thu. 19 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus 20th Anniversary Celebration, 7pm. Providence Public Library. $25. For more info, www.provgmc.org.
Fri. 20 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested from LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested from all others. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700.
Sat. 21 & Sun. 22 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus 20th Anniversary Celebration, Sat. 7pm, Sun. 4pm. Greenwich Odeum Theatre, 59 Main Street, East Greenwich. $25. For more info, www.provgmc.org. Wed. 25 Rhode Island Pride Open House, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. Social gathering and discussion of community events and opportunities for involvement. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130. Thu. 26 Pride Lip Sync Battle, 9pm-1am. Gallery 333, 333 Westminster Street, Providence. $5 suggested donation to benefit RI Pride. For more info or to sign up to compete, email jim.todd@prideri.com. Sun. 29 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-6pm. The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Join us for the release of the June issue, the official RI Pride Guide. Volunteers needed for distribution.
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Wed. 1 Whole Foods 5% Day. Three Whole Foods locations will donate 5% of net sales to Options Magazine, Rhode Island Pride, and AIDS Care Ocean State. 601 North Main Street, Providence, 8am–10pm; 261 Waterman Street, Providence, 8am–9pm; 151 Sockanosset Cross Road, Cranston, 8am–9pm. Wed. 1 Rhode Island Pride Events Committee Meeting, 7pm. 1055 Westminster Street, Providence, Floor 2. A meeting to continue planning RI PrideFest. All are welcome. For more info, www.prideri.com or 467-2130.
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Fri. 3 Lust, a Countdown to Pride event, 10pm. The Providence Eagle, 124 Snow Street, Providence. A night out to support RI Pride while partying with friends from the communities who call the Eagle home: leather, kink, bear, jock, and more. Full event details at www.facebook.com/Eagleprovidence. Sat. 4 Concordia Coffeehouse presents singer/songwriter Jan Luby with special guest Ken Richard, 8-10pm. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living, 292 West Shore Road,Warwick. $8. Doors 7:30pm. Alcohol-free event. Sat. 4 Countdown to Pride at The Village. Come early for dinner and participate in a raffle/auction featuring state-of-the-art tablets and TVs. $10 cover to benefit RI Pride. www. thevillageri.com. Sun. 5 Imperial Court of RI presents Investitures 1 – Reign XXIV, 9pm. The Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Stage open to all performers. $10 donation to benefit Rhode Island Pride. www.icriprov.org. Thu. 9 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Aurora, 276 Westminster Street, Providence. A queerproduced potpourri of entertainment including comedian Rich Hite, singer/songwriter Gianna Botticelli, Girls 2 Men, and more. $10 to benefit Rhode Island Pride.Visit Sweet LittleVariety Show on Facebook or www.sweetlittlevarietyshow. com.
Thu. 10 Pride Rainbow Flag Raising and Reception, 5:30pm. Providence City Hall steps, 25 Dorrance Street. Mayor Jorge Elorza and the City of Providence officially kick off Pride season. Free cheese fondue reception and cash bar at Melting Pot Providence, 6:15-7pm. 199 Providence Place. Thu. 10 Melting Pot Providence hosts Pride Dinner Night, 7-10pm. 199 Providence Place. Mention Rhode Island Pride and 25% of your total bill, including drinks, will be donated to RI Pride. Sat. 11 Boston Pride Parade and Festival, 11am6pm. City Hall Plaza. Free for all ages. www. bostonpride.org.
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Sun. 12 Skate Into Pride, 5-8pm. Forest Family Fun Center Skating. 1 Lawton Avenue, Taunton, MA. $15 benefits AIDS Care Ocean State and RI Pride; includes rental and three hours of skating. Sun. 12 RI PrimeTimers, 4:30-7pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www. riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010. Tue. 14 & Wed. 15 RI PrideFest Volunteer Orientations, 7pm. The Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. Learn about and register for PrideFest 2016 volunteer opportunities. Refreshments served. All are welcome. Wed. 15 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Happiness, Like Water by Chinelo Okparanta. Discount if book is purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@ gmail.com. Thu. 16 Drag Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. $20 gets you in all games with over $2000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jones. AIDS Care Ocean State raises funds to benefit Rhode Island Pride. Fri. 17 SAGE LGBT Café, noon-2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gay-friendly setting sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. Programming after lunch. A $3 donation is suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; a $6 donation is suggested for all others. Reservations required: Call Pauline at 351-6700. Fri. 17 Gay Pride Sabbath Service with special guests Hunter Keith and family, 7:30pm. Temple Habonim, 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. This Reform congregation is the only synagogue in the state to hold a Gay Pride Sabbath. All welcome. Fri. 17 Official Pre-PrideFest Block Party with Presenting Sponsor Dark Lady & Alley Cat, gates at 7pm. Hoedown at Dark Lady, starring Steve Grand, hosted by Kitty Litter with Lili Whiteass. Rodeo at Alley Cat, starring Dolf Dietrich and Hugh Hunter with hosts Yolandi Fizzure and Kandi Dishe. The Dark Lady & Alley Cat, 17-19 Snow Street, Providence. Open til 3am. Sat. 18 Rhode Island PrideFest Interfaith Service, 11am. South Water Street Greenway, Providence. Service lead by faith leaders from various denominations. All are welcome. Free for all ages.
Sat. 18 40th Anniversary Rhode Island PrideFest: Pride XL: Progress, Celebrate, Excel, noon8pm. Presented by Dark Lady & Alley Cat. South Water Street Greenway, Providence. PrideFest features a Kids Zone,Youth Center, over 100 vendors, a beer/wine/spirits garden, and performances by The Voice’s Sarah Potenza, out and proud country star Glenn Stewart, Joslyn Fox from RuPaul’s Drag Race, Lulu Locks, Jodi Jolt & The Volt, and more. Free for all ages. Donations suggested. Sat. 18 Rhode Island Pride’s Illuminated Night Parade, 8:45pm. Presented by Dark Lady & Alley Cat. Starts at Dorrance and Weybosset Streets in downtown Providence and travels west on Washington Street and South on Empire Street. Reviewing stand on Empire Street at Westminster Street. Free for all ages. Sun. 19 If/Then, 6:30pm. Providence Performing Arts Center, 220 Weybosset Street, Providence. Reception and discounted performance tickets benefit Rhode Island Pride. For more info, www.prideri.com. Sat. 25-Sun. 26 Boating on Buzzards Bay with Yankee Cruising Club. For more information or to join, visit www.yankee-cruising.org, email yankeecruisingclub@gmail.com, or call 508423-6123. Wed. 29 PrideFest debrief, 7pm. Dark Lady, 19 Snow Street, Providence. PrideFest volunteers and attendees are encouraged to attend to talk about what worked and what could be improved to help plan for next year’s PrideFest.
Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth,Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out,Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum, Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under:Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 30 for more info.
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NEWS BRIEFS RICARES Launches LGBT Recovery Group Rhode Island Communities for Addiction Recovery Efforts (RICARES) has announced the launch of an LGBT community group, Recovery Pride. The purpose of RICARES is to ensure that all Rhode Islanders have access to their own pathway to recovery. “Not everyone finds their recovery solely through twelve-step meetings, and some folks may not go that route at all,” says Rev. David Martins, executive director at RICARES.“A big part of recovery is always community, and the support of peers.” In recovery himself, and also a member of the LGBTQQ community, Martins says that RICARES hopes to establish both a recovery presence in the LGBTQQ community, and an LGBTQQ presence in the recovery community. The group hopes to provide a social environment, various sober events, and LGBTQQ-specific recovery-oriented resources. The first meeting of Recovery Pride will be Monday, May 9, at 7pm, at RICARES, 1345 Jefferson Blvd., in Warwick. For more information, email Father Dave at dmartins@ricares.org. Frontrunners RI and Rhode Runner Hold 5K to Benefit Youth Pride Inc. Frontrunners RI, a group of diverse LGBTQQ walkers and runners, is celebrating its 20th year by teaming up with athletic footwear company Rhode Runner Providence to present a Free 5K for Youth Pride Inc. (YPI). Rhode Runner, meeting the needs of local runners since 2001, holds a monthly 5K to benefit community organizations. In May, the funds raised by the Free 5K will benefit YPI, an organization devoted to providing services and support to LGBTQQ youth. In order to support YPI, register for the 5K at eventbrite.com.There, you will have the opportunity to buy raffle tickets, or simply
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make a donation.The proceeds go directly to YPI. Registration is free and although registration before the race is possible, online registration will allow you to cut any line that may form for runners looking to join the race last minute. Rhode Runner will provide a timing clock that will run until the last participant crosses the finish line, along with plenty of water, sports drinks, and raffle prizes from running apparel companies and local businesses. People of all walks of life are encouraged to participate, and being quick on your feet is not a requirement. The 5K will be held at Lippitt Park in Providence, on Wednesday, May 25 at 6pm (race starts at 6:30). To register online, visit www.eventbrite. com/e/blackstone-blvd-free-5k-fun-runmay-tickets-24041462662, and for more information, email frontrunnersri@gmail.com. Investigation of Homophobic & Anti-Semitic Graffiti Continues at Brown U. On the night of March 17, Marcy House, the Brown University residence that houses the Jewish fraternity Beta Rho Pi and the co-ed fraternity Zeta Delta Xi, was defaced with anti-Semitic and homophobic graffiti. It was found on the walls, in the hallways, and in the bathrooms. That night, administration officials and staff from several university departments worked together with Marcy House residents to gather information, remove the graffiti, and offer support to students. The Department of Public Safety has begun a full investigation, and announced, “The impact of identity-based threat is not easily wiped away. While the investigation continues, there is no reason to believe there is any immediate danger to any individual, organization, or the campus community.” Brown/RISD Hillel, which is part of an international network of Jewish student organizations, issued a statement that read, in part, “This hateful behavior is unacceptable…. We condemn this antiSemitism, homophobia, and other forms of threatening speech. College Hill and the Brown/RISD Hillel have been a home for us as we explore and develop our Jewish identities.” The two fraternities announced
that “It is not a coincidence that the targeted building houses two organizations that are visible symbols of the Jewish and LGBTQ communities at Brown. We are grateful for the outpouring of support from students, alumni, and organizations across campus.” The university immediately organized three community gatherings for in-person support, and Hillel offered meetings as well. - by Myra B. Shays LGBT Discrimination Signed into Law in North Carolina Last month, North Carolina Governor McCrory signed into law the most radical anti-LGBT bill this country has ever seen. The bill eliminates LGBT nondiscrimination protections and prevents such protections from ever being passed by cities in the future. It also prohibits transgender students and employees in government buildings from using the bathrooms that correspond with their gender identity. Similar proposals have been made in other states this year. “Governor McCrory’s reckless decision to sign this appalling legislation into law is a direct attack on the rights, well-being, and dignity of hundreds of thousands of LGBT North Carolinians and visitors to the state,” said HRC President Chad Griffin in a statement. “This outrageous new law not only strips away the ability of local jurisdictions to protect LGBT people from discrimination, but it goes further and targets transgender students who deserve to be treated equally at school – not harassed and excluded.” Transgender people who have not taken surgical and legal steps to change the gender displayed on their birth certificates are now not legally allowed to use public restrooms of the gender with which they identify in North Carolina. Cities and counties are no longer allowed to set their own standards for protections for transgender citizens. There may be some hope in the major backlash the state is experiencing. American Airlines, Apple, Facebook, Google, and Microsoft, to name a few, have all released statements expressing their disappointment with the law. The companies haven’t threatened to pull out of the state yet, but economists are saying
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it’s a viable option for many big businesses. Payment processing giant PayPal went so far as to cancel plans to open a global operations center in Charlotte. If millions of protesters across the United States can’t change the minds of North Carolina’s politicians, perhaps the idea of an economic downfall will.
Mayor Elorza Enacts Non-essential Travel Ban to NC and MS After Mississippi passed its latest religious freedom law and North Carolina terminated their anti-discrimination laws protecting LGBTQ people, Providence Mayor Jorge Elorza officially banned nonessential city-funded travel to Mississippi and North Carolina in an executive order signed last month. “The City of Providence is committed to fostering an inclusive environment for everyone who lives, travels, and works here,” said Mayor Elorza. This travel ban prohibits an officer or employee of the city to use city funds for non-essential official travel to North Carolina or Mississippi until these acts have been repealed. Elorza joins a long line of public officials, including Connecticut and New York governors and mayors from around the country, who have enacted such travel bans. Since taking office, Mayor Elorza has encouraged the City of Providence to develop a healthcare policy that covers transition-related costs for city employees and retirees, offered genderneutral bathrooms in some public facilities, and appointed Deputy Chief of Staff Marisa O’Gara as the city’s LGBTQ Liaison.
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Tennessee Passes Anti-LGBTQ Mental Health Professional Bill Tennessee legislators passed a bill last month that would potentially allow mental health professionals to reject patients based on “sincerely held principles.” This legislation could prevent LGBTQ individuals from receiving treatment from counselors, therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists, among others. The Republican-sponsored bill will now go to Governor Bill Haslam, who will either veto or sign the legislation into law. Many opponents of the bill are concerned that the vague wording may allow discrimination against other groups besides LGBTQ people, such as people of color or religious minorities. The bill is in direct violation of the American Counseling Association’s code of ethics, which stipulates that a mental health professional is not allowed to refuse treatment based on any personally held values, beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors.
Louisiana Gov. Signs Executive Order Granting LGBT Protections Last month, Louisiana Governor John Bel Edwards signed an executive order that extended protections to state employees against discrimination on the basis of gender identity and sexual orientation in addition to race, color, religion, sex, national origin, political affiliation, age, or disability. “While this executive order respects the religious beliefs of our people, it also signals to the rest of the country that discrimination is not a Louisiana value,” said Edwards. Last year, Governor Edwards opposed the Marriage and Conscience Act. He and many other officials, saw the act as being bad for Louisiana’s economy, tourism, business, and people.
Out Magazine Releases LGBT “Power 50” Out Magazine, a leading gay fashion and lifestyle brand, announced in April their 10th Annual Power List, which ranks the 50 most influential figures in the LGBT community. The list this year contained a mix of celebrities, activists, businessmen and women, and television personalities. Topping the list for the second time in a row was Apple CEO,Tim Cook who came out publically in 2014. Cook, in a recent commitment to improve technology in public schools with minority students, donated over $100 million in Apple technology. Cook told Stephen Colbert in an interview that he came out because, “It became so clear to me that kids were getting basically discriminated against – kids were even being disclaimed by their own parents – and that I needed to do something.” Other notable Out Magazine Power List figures were Ellen DeGeneres, who was also recently named one of Forbes most powerful women in the world, Rachel Maddow, Anderson Cooper, and Ryan Murphy, all of whom have appeared on the list in recent years. A few notable LGBT people also made their debut on the list, including, Caitlyn Jenner, filmmakers Lana and Lilly Wachowski, SNL’s Kate McKinnon, writer/director Jill Soloway and YouTube personality Tyler Oakley. Also included in the list were RuPaul Charles, Andy Cohen, Sia Furler, Neil Patrick Harris, Ellen Page, Robin Roberts, and Laverne Cox.q
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All Youth Matter:
Supporting LGBTQ Youth in Foster Care and Adoption by Wendy Sousa
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elcome to May, National Foster Care Month. As many of you may know, LGBTQ youth are often not safe in their homes, schools, and communities. Many experience discrimination, bullying, and violence because of their sexuality and gender identity. Many also experience rejection from their families and communities. The experience of LGBTQ youth in the child welfare system can be fraught with even greater risks and barriers. Research indicates that LGBTQ youth in care are more likely to have multiple placements, be placed in group homes and/or congregate care settings, and have higher rates of homelessness than their peers.They often re-experience rejection, discrimination, and isolation. We can change the course for LGBTQ youth by providing them affirming and meaningful support when they are most vulnerable. By matching youth with adults and caregivers who are open and willing to discuss issues related to sexual orientation and gender identity, who will believe reports of mistreatment and bullying, and who will stand up for the needs of these children, we can help all youth feel safe and respected. We can create an environment that enables all
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children to reach their full potential. Here at Adoption Rhode Island, one of our core values is to advocate for the safety and well-being of children. We believe that all youth matter. We believe that all families matter. As May is National Foster Care Month, we would like to remind you that everyone has something to offer a child, and that any individual or couple who welcomes a foster child into their home can count on support from Adoption RI. Adoption RI offers both home-based and office-based support services for children and families that include individual,
family, and group counseling; events; activities; and trainings that promote and support the permanent placement of children in families. All children and families impacted by adoption – domestic and international – are welcome. Would you like to learn more about helping LGBTQ youth by mentoring, fostering, or adopting? Are you a family brought together through adoption that would like to learn more about our community, services or support? Contact Adoption Rhode Island at 865-6000, adoptionri@adoptionri.org, or visit our website at www.adoptionri.org. q
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Leighton and Fernandes Family
Knowing in our Hearts, We Are Doing a Good Thing by Stephen Hug
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ay is National Foster Care Month, and Family Service of Rhode Island, a statewide non-profit organization, is utilizing the opportunity to raise awareness that LGBTQQI foster parents are needed to provide loving homes for children in need. “We hope more LGBTQQI Rhode Islanders will step forward to open their hearts and homes,” said Family Service of Rhode Island CEO Margaret Holland McDuff. “We’ve developed a recruitment campaign called #WeTakePrideinAllFamilies, and are thankful Marc Fernandes and Michael Leighton, two former foster parents and now adoptive parents, have helped with this effort, proudly marching with our We Take Pride in All Families banner in last year’s Rhode Island Pride Parade.” Foster parents are needed for Rhode Island children of all ages, from infants to teenagers. “There’s particularly a need for homes for older children,” said Christine Forsyth, who is a foster mom of two teenagers and clinical director of Family Service of Rhode Island’s foster care program. “Singles, partnered, married,
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already parenting – all are welcome! Please contact us. We take pride in all families.” Marc Fernandes and Michael Leighton thought a long time about becoming parents.“A few years after we bought our home we started to discuss the idea of adopting a child. We decided we should start by becoming foster parents to see if we had what it takes to be parents.” The two men, who were recently married, started fostering a sister and brother, Zendaiya and Jaydais, when the two were nine months old and almost two, respectively. “I will never forget the day they arrived and the way we felt when we first held them,” said Marc. Suddenly having two little children at once was a huge adjustment, but, “We had plenty of support from Family Service of Rhode Island. We really can’t say enough about the support they provided us.”
Marc and Michael feel they haven’t had any issues or challenges with being gay foster, and now adoptive, parents. “We have been very open with our places of employment, neighbors, friends, family, and community,” said Michael. “I feel strongly about being ‘all or nothing,’ and standing proud, being who we are, and knowing in our hearts we are doing a good thing. I think people who have seen us out and about have been very happy for us knowing we are giving these two beautiful children a loving, happy home.” Potential foster parents go through screening and training before receiving a state license. “We work with you to ensure it’s a good match for you and the involved child or children,” McDuff said. Anyone interested should call the agency’s foster care program at 3311350 ext. 3305. More information is also available at the agency’s website, www. familyserviceri.org.q
Today Zendaiya is weeks from turning three and Jaydais will soon be celebrating his fourth birthday. Earlier this year, this foster family officially became an adoptive family.
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Twenty Years of the
Providence Gay Men’s Chorus by Bradford Greer
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rom a dream in a karaoke bar to a concert in the newly renovated Odeum Theatre in East Greenwich, the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus (PGMC) has traveled a long and winding road, making music up and down Route 95 and then some.
Brian Lopes, Charlie Petriello, Ray Sirico, May 1999
Brian Lopes, founder of PGMC, remembers it this way: “The PGMC’s first concert was about 12 men, and about 50% of them had never been on stage. We accepted anyone who wanted to sing – no tryouts.You were able to just come and be. A family was established, and support for each other grew through the difficult times and the good times. It was a great place to go each week, and I always looked forward to the next week’s rehearsal.” Their road to harmony was paved
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like many Rhode Island roads. In 1996 Providence was not ready to embrace a gay men’s chorus. The newly formed group rehearsed around a living room piano because no one would allow them rehearsal space. Then no local church would permit their first concert. This is It, directed by Carl D. Swanson, was first performed at The Church of The Good Shepherd in Wareham, Massachusetts. It was the Episcopalians who finally came through with a place for regular rehearsals. St. James Episcopal Church on Fruit Hill Avenue in North Providence opened their doors. The piano was broken so they rehearsed with an organ. Although they often performed at the Unitarian Universalist Bell Street Chapel, the men had no permanent concert home. Their early concerts such as Songs of Peace and Joy, Let All Men Sing, Taking a Chance on Rich and Steve, and Someday My Prince Will Come, were performed at benefits and churches in different locations in Rhode Island and Massachusetts with Bruce Ruby, who accompanied the group on the piano for seven years. They eventually did find a home at the Park Place Congregational Church in Pawtucket. Clearly they had made an impression. In 1999 under the directorship of Charles Pietrello, Rhode Island Governor Lincoln
Almond proclaimed November 14 as The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus Day. It was one of many proclamations and awards they would receive over the years. May 1999
In 2003 the group did their first cabaret performance. The Men of The Starlight Lounge was an ambitious evening of dinner cabaret, where the performers also served as the cooks and waiters. Encouraged, PGMC upped the ante again when they purchased a score and choral arrangements from the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus called ExtrABBAganza.” Directed by Dan Moore with choreography by CJ Racinski, an original script was written by new
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chorus member Bradford Greer (myself), in which the members shared their coming out experiences along with the progress of gay rights in America. Their stories were punctuated by the music of ABBA. The heavily choreographed musical took the members off the risers again, and out of their traditional formal attire. It played to packed houses and is remembered as one of the most fun shows in the group’s history. In 2004, Assistant Director Terry Lindsey became the director. He conducted the chorus in their first holiday-themed concert in five years: Winter Serenade. The men sang “It Won’t Feel Like Christmas,” a song Lindsey wrote for his parents. The song was later chosen and performed by the Broadway cast of The Boy from Oz for Broadway Cares, an annual AIDS fundraiser. It was under Lindsey’s directorship that the chorus moved to a memorized program, delighting their audience with the elegant Cole Porter revue Too Darn Hot, as well as other musical treats like Home for The Holidays, It’s a Fabulous Life, Seasons of Song, and Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Pride in America. “The challenge isn’t just about being gay,” said Lindsey. “It’s about human rights for everyone.” PGMC was voted Best Male Chorus by Rhode Island Monthly in 2008.
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The first thing Dr. Teresa Coffman did after she was hired to succeed Terry Lindsey in 2008 was to accompany him in his last act as choral conductor, presenting the chorus in Miami to represent Rhode Island at the sixth international Gay and Lesbian Association Chorus Festival (GALA). Coffman’s infectious spirit and breadth of musical knowledge continued to elevate the quality of PGMC’s sound. She led the chorus through a succession of
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joyful musical performances such as Glitter and Be Gay, Each Other: Why We Sing – Remembering Stonewall, Showstoppers, and What a Difference a Gay Makes. In 2009, the group was voted Best Male Chorus by Motif Magazine. (They’ve earned that title four times since.) They also won the RI Pride Parade award for Best Use of Theme, which was Paint the Town Proud. Artist Michael Willhoite sketched caricatures of famous gays and lesbians on a rolling painted wheel. Around this time the PGMC was invited to participate in Shining Though Broken Glass: A Kristallnacht Concert with eight other choruses and narrated by Leonard Nimoy at The Veteran’s Memorial Auditorium. “Working with PGMC changed my life,” says Coffman. “It was an honor to work with this group for four years, and the PGMC gentlemen reminded me at each rehearsal that singing together is a joy and a privilege, as well as a necessity, for many of us. I loved that this group provided something – camaraderie, music, support, bonds, strength – that might have been missing elsewhere in our lives. It was serendipitous that our paths crossed; I was asked by the then-president of the group if I knew of anyone who might be interested in applying for the position as musical director
Miss Gay Rhode Island was a member in 2008
of PGMC. After much thought, I realized I was interested in this myself! I am proud to be a past conductor of PGMC and cherish my memories with them.” Coffman left as she came in: a whirlwind of music, love, and fashion, conducting her last performance with the men at the 2012 International GALA Choral Conference in Denver.
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At the same concert, accompanist and Assistant Director Kim Kuda stepped off the stage and assumed the direction of the PGMC. She had already gained the respect and affection of the men. Now she made an impression on the audience with her original song about Rhode Island, “Out on the Bay.” When Kuda rose from accompanist to director, she made it clear she didn’t want the group to be known as “just a gay chorus.” She set out to improve the musicality so that the fact that gay men were singing was secondary, if not tertiary, to its popularity. “My goal for the future of the PGMC is to continue to foster enthusiasm for the art of choral singing, so that its members and our audiences can all experience the true power of music. With respect, cooperation, acceptance, tolerance, and inclusion, we are changing our world through song. I believe it’s just as important to have a
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positive atmosphere of community within the chorus as it is to increase our visibility throughout the state of Rhode Island and beyond. In recent years, we have sung in venues never before known to this chorus: the RI Statehouse, Providence Performing Arts Center, the RI Convention Center, Blithewold Mansion, Linden Place, Waterplace Park, Woonsocket’s Stadium Theatre, and St. Ann’s Cultural Arts Center, to name just a few. We’ve sung with the Ocean State Summer Pops Orchestra and for the Pawtucket Red Sox. “I’m proud and humbled to say that the members of the PGMC inspire me to be both a better musician and a better person. They were there for me when my mother passed away and when I had to have unexpected surgery smack dab in the middle of our rehearsal period. They continually show me the true meaning of camaraderie and friendship, of dedication and commitment, of infectious humor and, dare I say it, gaiety. I can’t wait to see where we go next!” PGMC Sings Happy Birthday to Kitty Litter Fans come and go, but none have been more ardent in their support than the venerable Kitty Litter. From the very first concert she has been a staunch supporter and dedicated promoter of the group. She raised thousands of dollars emceeing cabarets: Kiss N Tell, Glimmer and Glow, and Ooh La La. She also volunteered as a fundraising coordinator, and further demonstrated her affection for PGMC by asking them to sing at her wedding. They were thrilled to do so. When asked about the chorus, Brian Lopes said, “My hopes were that it would continue to be a place for gay men to come together and support each other, and have a great time doing something other than hanging in bars. As you know, 20 years ago was a much different time than today, and being a newly gay male out of the closet, there were not many opportunities to be with others like myself, and the chorus was a dream. I had to have a place where someone could come and be themselves without judgment, without ridicule, and to just be able to share. For a lot of the
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original guys, there was a hidden desire to share their artistic talents, but they didn’t have an outlet. The PGMC gave them that opportunity.” Gary Roy, an original PGMC chorus member, said, “I can still recall the very first rehearsal on November 1, 1995. We were asked, individually, why we wanted to sing. My response was that when I was younger, I always wanted to be in theater. However, my father was an abuser and totally squashed my creative ability. He would tell me that dancing and singing were for girls. It wasn’t until 1995 that I sang my first song. It was then that I took a step forward and joined the chorus, and I’ve been singing ever since. He is now facing his mortality. And, he still has not accepted me. But the chorus has always been my savior, my home, my backbone, and in a sense, my dignity, something of which my father has never been. The chorus, unlike my father, has never separated from me. It is my hope to continue to be a proud, loyal, and privileged chorus member for at least another 20 years.”
In 2009, the group was voted Best Male Chorus by Motif Magazine. They’ve earned that title four times since.
Greg Wright joined the chorus in 1999, served as board president from 2003 to 2005, and has been vice president for the past two years. “I had always loved to sing and perform, and a friend told me about a group of gay men that got together to sing. From the first week I knew I was coming back. They all made me feel welcomed and right at home from the first night. Over the years, I’ve made so many irreplaceable friends and have made so many fond memories.” There have been lean years and difficult times. At one point the membership dropped to under thirty.The group realized that dancing was not putting their best foot forward, and shifted to more subtle stage movement in order to keep the focus on the music. There have been administrative struggles and some difficulty maintaining their tax status when the IRS changed the rules for nonprofit arts organizations.
Pride 2015 Assistant Choral Director Mark Lima had to step in when Ms. Kuda had emergency surgery at a crucial time. A Fall Cabaret was postponed due to lack of rehearsal time and member availability. The 2016 GALA appearance was cancelled due to insurmountable logistical problems. But these gay men (and their ladies) have persevered and continue to grow. Chris Lauth became the business manager of the chorus just last year. “The PGMC is truly more than a men’s choir; it’s a family, and I’m proud to be a part of this family who takes care of one another.” The group has also hired a new professional fundraiser. April Ricci has already been successful in securing a new corporate sponsor and increasing in-kind donations and silent auction items. PGMC has been called upon to honor the memories of people lost too soon. “Singing the Dream” was performed when the State of Rhode Island honored Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.; the Yom Hashoah Service was performed to honor the memory of Holocaust survivors in Rhode Island, and the PGMC is a staple at AIDS Candlelight Memorial services. You’ll find PGMC at social events like Dragstravaganza and the Imperial Court of RI’s Coronation. RI Pride, AIDS Care Ocean State, and the Providence Public Library have all benefited from PGMC fundraising concerts. If the success of their more recent concerts, Get Happy, I’ll Be Home with Bells On, The Love Concert, and Rejoice, are any indication of what is to come, fans of the PGMC should hustle to Providence Public Library on Thursday, May 19, at 7pm (for those who do not have a passport stamp to leave Providence city limits). They will also perform at the Odeum Theatre in East Greenwich on Saturday, May 21, at 7pm and Sunday, May 22, at 4pm. The PGMC hopes to expose a new audience to a different kind of choral entertainment with highlights from their history in this 20th Anniversary show.q
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almost every day during the school year. In all reality, it’s been a little more than a year and because of this place I’ve come out of my shell. I saw YPI go from white walls to color, and in a way it has seen me go through the same. With all the programs from Gender Spectrum (a group for trans youth) to workshops on healthy relationships where we talk about dating and sexual health, the community here really helps you understand the things you’re going through. Writing is one of the ways I express myself, and the Break the Silence Open Mic this past April was the perfect opportunity to share my work in a safe space. YPI is one of the coolest places to hang out, so if you identify as LGBTQ or as an ally, check us out! We’re open
Tuesday through Thursday at our space across from Classical High School for drop-in from 2-8pm for young people ages 13 to 23. If you’re 9 to 13, check out our 13 & Under Thursdays when the drop-in center is open just for you from 5-8pm. PrideFest is coming up on June 18, and I would like to formally invite you to join us at our tent and march with YPI in the parade. It will not be a disappointment, because at YPI there is never a dull moment. q Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 9-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www.youthprideri.org, email info@youthprideri.org, or call (401) 4215626 for more info.
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NEWS FROM by Sally Ann Hay
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ife at the Intersections was the title and the theme of our successful April 8 conference. Designed for health care professionals, the program was held at Save the Bay in Providence, and began with an astute presentation by Jayeson Watts, who is the Trans* Health Program Manager at Thundermist Health Center. Watts offered insight as to how best to affirm and be effective helping transgender clients or patients, as well as looking at the challenges faced by transgender people when their identities intersect with other factors, such as aging and ageism, economics, culture, race, and religion. The second part of the program was a panel featuring local practitioners who spoke on “Best Practices Working with LGBT Older Adults.” Michelle Forcier, MD, a physician from Lifespan who is well known locally for her work with transgender patients of all ages, built on the call for using a person-centered care model when working with all patients, especially LGBT people. She noted that for too long, the model was, “You [the patient] are different; how can we fix you?” Whereas she has found it to be far more effective to follow a patientcentered, consent-based model where the bottom line is, “The story is who you are…where are you in your story now?” Lauren Nocera, the AVP for Program Development at Thundermist Health Center, answered the question, “What can we do?” by calling on attendees to hold themselves and others responsible for their language and behaviors – not leaving it to the LGBT patient or client to educate providers. To encourage providers (organizations as well as individuals) to up their game in working with LGBT people, Katherine Dallow talked about the LGBT Safe Zone Program recently initiated by Blue Cross Blue Shield of Rhode Island (BCBSRI). BCBSRI will certify programs as being a “Safe Zone” if they meet a series of criteria that assure competent and affirming care for LGBT patients. (For information about the program, contact Susan Walker at susan.walker@bcbsri.org.) Dallow, who is the VP of Clinical Affairs and Quality at BCBSRI, also reminded the audience of the many “small” discussions they have in their personal and professional lives that can make an impact – opportunities to encourage inclusiveness and education. Elmhurst Extended Care has taken the lead in developing policies and practices that promote acceptance and welcoming care for LGBT older people in their program. Heather Siravo, a social worker from Elmhurst, talked about how that policy was put into place and how it has made a positive difference in their work. She noted the importance of training everyone on staff, recognizing that everyone has the potential to impact every resident and every family member.
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The panel was ably moderated by Dr. Scout, who is the Director of HealthLink, at CenterLink. Scout engaged everyone in the discussion – bringing in audience concerns and framing questions to highlight the best practices each presenter could share. In wrapping up the conference, SAGE-RI Board Member Freeman T. Freeman announced that SAGE is planning a fall conference to look at end-of-life care and concerns for LGBT elders, and another conference in the spring that will address elder abuse in the LGBT community. Lots to share and learn!
Put a Little Silver in Your Rainbow, SAGE-RI’s second annual fabulous fundraiser, is coming up on Friday, May 14, from 7-10pm. The evening will feature wine and hors d’oeuvres, desserts, a silent art auction, and dancing – what’s not to love? Ticket sales were taking off as this issue of Options headed to press, and we are looking forward to another wonderful turnout in the Gallery at the Warwick Art Museum. For tickets, please visit our website, www.sage-ri.org. In addition to the delicious goodies, the silent art auction was a highlight from last year that we plan to repeat this year. A partial list of the generous artists who have donated items to auction includes: Carol Conley, Leslie Bostrom, Hilary Price, Aarav Sundaresh, Janice Kissinger, and Scott Simmons. New this year, we will also be offering a gift certificate from Providence Picture Frame toward framing a piece of art. Join us for a fun night out, and don’t forget your dancing shoes. q SAGE-RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) addresses issues of concern to LGBT elders and is an organization of diverse people of all ages. For information on programs or to join SAGE-RI, drop us a line at sageriinfo@gmail.com; leave us a message at (401) 443-4451; write to us at SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Avenue, Providence, RI 02905; on the web at www.sage-ri.org, or find us on Facebook as SAGE/Rhode Island.
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hen I moved back to Boston, I was disappointed to find out that the Yankee Cruising Club (YCC) was not very active. I’m excited to be part of the efforts to get the club going again and I’m looking forward to a great season. The YCC, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters, has refocused on its core mission of bringing together gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender boaters to have fun on and off the water. We welcome all new members with an interest in boating, and we’re especially open to more women members. As part of the relaunch, the YCC has created a new website, planned several events, and suspended dues. The new website, www.yankeecruising.org is a place where members can learn about events, see photos from past outings, chat about boats, and get in touch with other members. The club has planned regular meetings both on and off the water. During the sailing season, there are three on-thewater events planned: June 25-26 on Buzzards Bay, July 30-31 in Boston Harbor,
and August 13-14 in Provincetown for Carnival. In addition, there are plans for many smaller events to give members without boats a chance to get their sea legs. The Yankee Cruising Club was founded over 25 years ago to bring gay and lesbian boaters together to meet, make friends, and – most importantly – get out on the water. It is an open and friendly place for people to socialize and be themselves. The club is made up of a diverse group of water lovers: men and women, young and young at heart, boat owners and crew, sailboaters and power boaters, those who are new to the sport and those with extensive blue water experience. For more information or to join, visit our website www.yankeecruising. com, email us yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com, or call (508) 423-6123. q Keith Costa is the incoming Commodore of the Yankee Cruising Club.
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RI PR I D E A
by Kurt Bagley
pril was an exciting time for Rhode Island Pride. As we are in the midst of planning for PrideFest, we are also saying goodbye to our 2015 community titleholders and welcoming new ones. Mr. Gay RI Richie, Miss Gay RI Complete, Ms. Lesbian RI Lorena, Ms. Bisexual RI Amber, and Ms. Trans* RI Alejandra have all stepped down after a successful year representing our community. Kudos and thank you to all of them!
their support. Check out our Facebook page, website, and calendar for opportunities for involvement, planning meetings, events, fundraisers, and more. q
At the Triple Crown Pageant on Sunday April 10, there was an error that saw the crowning of the wrong Miss Gay RI. After admitting the mistake and extending our apologies to those affected, especially the very gracious Noellie Sanchez, the rightful winner was crowned and we are pleased to present Miss Gay RI 2016 Neoki Feytal, Mr. Gay RI 2016 Joseph Di Mauro, and Ms. Lesbian RI 2016 Ally P. Sha. There were no contestants for any other titles this year, but the Pride board of directors remains committed to finding a way to make sure the pageant is open to all of the diverse gender and sexuality roles that make up our RI LGBTQ community. The conversation will continue as we look toward the 2017 pageant. Let us know if you would like to be a part of it.
Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and provides safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders. For more information, email info@prideri.com; call (401) 467-2130; or join us for a gathering in our office at 1055 Westminster Street, Floor 2, in Providence.
RI Pride XL: Progress, Celebrate, Excel! Our 2016 theme encompasses our 40th Anniversary through the Roman numeral “XL,” represents our continued call to action for our rights and inclusion in society, encourages an exuberant celebration of our identities and of the great strides we’ve made recently within the LGBTQ community, and reminds us that we must continue to excel in all we do to keep the momentum going. Rhode Island Pride members chose to honor the RI 76ers as Grand Marshals.The 76ers are the surviving members of the Toward a Gayer Bicentennial Committee, the original defenders of our right to march, and the organizers and participants of the first Rhode Island Pride event in 1976. We collectively honor their legacy as they lead the march 40 years later. Honorary Marshals include PrYSM (Providence Youth Student Movement) chosen for their stewardship of the advocacy effort to pass the Providence Community Safety Act, and in recognition of their 15th anniversary as an organization supporting the queer Southeast Asian community in organizing for social justice. Mayor Jorge Elorza joins PrYSM as an Honorary Marshal in recognition of his enactment of forward-thinking policies that make the City of Providence more respectful and inclusive of the LGBTQ community. We are well into Pride season and happy to announce that the Dark Lady and Alley Cat are continuing their historic sponsorship as presenting sponsors of Rhode Island PrideFest. They’ve got some great events and surprises planned, especially for our pre-Pride block party on June 17. Stay tuned and be sure to let them know how much our community appreciates
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Transgender Activist & Family Will Speak at Gay Pride Sabbath by Myra B. Shays
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uring Sabbath services on Friday evening, June 17, Temple Habonim in Barrington will observe Gay Pride Sabbath by presenting a young transgender man and his family who are active in the Detroit Jewish community. Hunter Keith and his family will share the story of Hunter’s transition from his identity as Olivia, and of their becoming advocates for transgender education and awareness. This is the fifth consecutive year that Temple Habonim, a Reform
congregation at 165 New Meadow Road in Barrington, has celebrated Gay Pride Month with a specially designed service. It is the only synagogue in the state that does so. The service begins at 7:30 pm, with a reception to follow. All are welcome to attend, regardless of religious affiliation. Several local organizations and agencies that work for gay and transgender causes have received written invitations to the services. The Keith family’s home congregation hosts a parent support group co-facilitated by Hunter’s
mother, and a teen group will begin this fall. The Keiths want to provide transgender youth with the tools they need to be empowered, supported, and validated as they transition to their authentic lives. The family was invited to the U.S. Department of Justice last June as featured speakers at its Pride Month luncheon. For more information about the service or about Temple Habonim, please call 245-6536, or visit www. templehabonim.org.q
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CLOSING A LOOPHOLE FOR DISCRIMINATION IN MASSACHUSETTS by Janelle Heideman
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lthough Rhode Island has had a comprehensive LGBT nondiscrimination law on the books for almost two decades, neighboring Massachusetts is still struggling with providing comparable protections for its transgender and gender non-conforming residents. In 2011, then-Governor Patrick signed a law legally protecting Massachusetts transgender and gender non-conforming people in the areas of credit, housing, employment, and public education. However, in order to get enough votes to pass that law, protection against discrimination in public spaces was dropped, leaving a huge loophole. As of this printing, Massachusetts residents could still be denied access to public spaces, such as restaurants, bathrooms, and even public transportation based on their gender identity. An act introduced by State Sen. Sonia Chang-Diaz is the most recent bill to address this problem. Both Senate President Stanley Rosenberg and House Speaker Robert DeLeo support the bill, and believe there is enough support for it to pass the State Legislature. However, Governor Charlie Baker has refused to comment on whether he would sign the bill if it made it to his desk, saying he would need “to see the details.” This has led to a stalemate in the legislature, since its leadership has not been able to pinpoint a veto-proof 2/3 majority of lawmakers in favor of the bill. Meanwhile, support for comprehensive protection from discrimination has poured in. In February, Freedom Massachusetts (a non-partisan campaign which says on its website it is “working to ensure all people are treated fairly and equally under the law”) announced the support of 16 leading women’s advocacy groups across Massachusetts, including the Massachusetts chapter of National Organization
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for Women and The Women’s Bar Association of Massachusetts. In March, the state’s largest teachers’ unions and associations representing school superintendents and school committees came out in support of the legislation, pointing out that transgender and gender non-conforming students have been protected in Massachusetts public schools for years without issue. One openly transgender school committee member, Jacquelyn Ryan, explained in an OpEd in Commonwealth Magazine that, while students are protected from discrimination, adult transgender and gender non-conforming educators must do their jobs without such protections. In March, Boston Mayor Marty Walsh also expressed support, and Attorney General Maura Healey launched the #EveryoneWelcome campaign in favor of the law, with endorsements from Caitlin Jenner and other celebrities and national figures. In April, large businesses in Massachusetts, including General Electric and Massachusetts Business Roundtable, also announced support for the bill. The issue of public accommodations in Massachusetts has been made more urgent by events elsewhere in the United States. Although 17 states and the District of Columbia currently have public accommodations protections, states and municipalities across the country introduced so-called “bathroom bills” in 2015 and 2016, notably restricting transgender and gender non-conforming people to using bathrooms that conform to the sex they were assigned at birth. Anti-LGBT legislation in South Dakota and Georgia passed their respective legislatures and both governors vetoed the law. Then, in March, Governor Pat McCrory of North Carolina, after calling a special session of the state legislature, signed a law
that not only reversed anti-discrimination laws in North Carolina municipalities such as Charlotte (whose recent antidiscrimination law was one of the main targets of this legislation), but explicitly stated that people must use the bathroom facilities corresponding to the sex on their birth certificate. This all came to a head on April 13 when, while speaking at the Boston Spirit LGBT Executive Networking Night, hosted by Boston Spirit Magazine, Gov. Baker still refused to take a stand on the legislation. Supporters of the legislation in the audience (many of whom had attended thinking that Baker would finally announce his stance on the issue) booed and chanted “Pass the bill,” until he eventually left the stage. On the same day, Rosenberg announced that the Senate would be holding a debate on the bill the following week. Here in Rhode Island, members of the transgender and gender non-conforming community realize how privileged we are that there has not been such contention over these issues and that public accommodations protections have been in effect for so long. It would be in the best interests of the Rhode Island LGBT community to stand by the supporters of the Massachusetts bill, and encourage its passage into law. q TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy, and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community). Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large. Visit us at www.tginetwork.org
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RESOURCES
Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.
Addiction Support Groups AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012.
Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. Young People’s Sexual Diversity meeting of AA. Fridays at 7pm at Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, 250 Main St., Pawtucket. 489-5513.
AIDS/Health Resources AFIA Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients. Wednesday and Thursday 12-3pm. Mathewson Street Church, 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. Contact Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 ext. 3268. info@uwri.org. www.familyserviceri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safer-sex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.
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AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panel-making programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org. Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 467-9610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002.
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HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous.Free or sliding scale.RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800-338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject.org. www.plaidsproject.org. Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 111 Point St., Providence. 800-230-7526. www.ppsne.org. Project Weber: Services for male sex workers. Drop-in center, support groups, HIV and Hep C testing, clean needles. 383-4888. www.projectweber.org.
Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing,partner care.1173AcushnetAvenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net. Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 767-4100 ext. 3516.
The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 Foster Parents needed for newborns to age six. Visit www. chidrensfriendri.org or call Joyce, 276-4318. GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564.
www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com. RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.
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Nightlife The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street,Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192. Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com.
Indigo Lounge: 599 Tiogue Ave, Coventry RI 02816. Breakfast buffet, specialty pizzas, T Dances, live entertainment, karaoke Thurs. Hours vary, closed Mon. www.indigopizza.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com. Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950. The Village: Downtown Providence’s newest LGBT owned and operated restaurant and live entertainment venue. Lunch & dinner Wednesday through Sunday for varying hours. 373 Richmond St. 228-7222, www.thevillageri.com
Political & Legal Groups American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 220, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212) 807-8400. Cvohs18904@yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu. Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/ HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com. National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org.
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The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.
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Religious & Spiritual All Saints Memorial Church: 674Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org. Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org. Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Rev. Margaret Weis. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC. An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.org. Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC.An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail. com, www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: Episcopal. 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am. 725-1920. office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910. Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org.
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Church of the Holy Paraclete: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 218-0706. www.holyparaclete.org. Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am. 292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Congregational Church in Bristol: An Open and Affirming Congregation. Skip Macaulay, Interim Pastor. 281 High Street, Bristol. 253-7288. www.fccbristol.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org. Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www.uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www.gracechurchprovidence.org. Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643.
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Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org. Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com. Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail. com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)994-8972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am.50 Park Place,Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri.org.
St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com. Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org. Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www. uufairhaven.org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.
Social Organizations Bear Providence: Monthly social events for the bear community. www.bearprovidence.com Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bearidentified and affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org. Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. CORISMA: Potluck get-togethers for couples from RI and southeast MA.
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corismainfo@comcast.net, www.corismagroup.org. Gay Men’s Social Group: First Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm, Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.
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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www.meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net.
SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail. com. www.sage-ri.org. SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@ gmail.com). South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.
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PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www.bgalbowling. com. www.townhalllanes.com. FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins Aug. 30. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Boston-based recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www.flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com. Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672.www.mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org.
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Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence.Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com. Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www.tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net. Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.
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Students & Youth Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@ BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown. edu or lgbtq@brown.edu. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private oneto-one chat and info on local resources. Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www. fenwayhealth.org. Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@ salve.edu
S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu. The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org. University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu. URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.
Support Groups & Social Services Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911.TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 331-5437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.child-familyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org. Family Service RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378. Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and
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men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www. gayfathersboston.org. Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm. Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 521-3603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Kathys’ Group: Free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Partners and caregivers welcome. Meets monthly in Providence. 888-5KATHYS. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Socializing and discussions for gay, bi and curious men. Confidential. Drug and alcohol-free. 18+. Thursdays in Taunton and first Tuesdays in New Bedford. 7-8:30pm. mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www.mentalhelp.net/ care/substance-abuse/ri/
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Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org. Project Renew: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. LastTuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www.samaritansri.org. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 8616191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. www. sojournerri.org Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www.tginetwork.org. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 8465263. www.wrcnbc.org. q
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WORTH A LOOK Raising Ryland is the remarkable story of a family who accepted their transgender son unconditionally and has worked to provide a childhood for him that affirms who he is and gives him the courage to become the person he was always meant to be. You may have seen the video of Ryland Whittington that made the rounds on Facebook last year. As a follow-up, his mother Hillary has written Raising Ryland, a book documenting the family’s experiences. Ryland, now 8, was born deaf and was able to hear for the first time as a toddler after receiving a cochlear implant. When he began talking, he immediately referred to himself as a boy.The story is unique in that it is told through If MTV’s Catfish is your guilty pleasure, you may like Suspect, a new show developed by host Nev Schulman that investigates mysteries at the behest of concerned friends and family members. “When someone is hiding something, those around them fear the worst, but in reality the truth is almost never what you expect,” says Schulman about the new show, a departure from Catfish, where pretty much everything is worse than what everyone expects. For Suspect, Shulman’s loyal salt-and-peppered sidekick Max Joseph has been replaced by genderqueer activist iO Tillett Wright. “All my work is about making people excited about becoming their true selves, which is exactly what Nev and I hope to accomplish with this show,” says Wright, a celebrated photographer who has been a featured contributor to T Magazine. If the stakes in Catfish are high, the stakes in Suspect are even higher; instead of figuring out whose phone bill they’ve been paying for two years, or whether Bow Wow has a crush on them, they may be looking into a relative’s mystery illness or the concerning way their mother seems to be paying the rent. Although the new topics stretch the Catfish format, and at times the reveals seem even more awkward, the motivation is still love. Suspect makes a good appetizer for Catfish or a snack in between. Catch new episodes every Wednesday on MTV and watch clips at MTV.com.
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by The Lit Chick a parent’s eyes, and all the more touching as a mother describes the one thing any mother wishes for her child: his happiness. The book also reads like a roadmap for other families who may have the same struggles, and it details the process the Whittingtons followed to facilitate Ryland’s transition in his school and community. My favorite part of the book was the photos, which tell the story better than words ever could. Hillary and Jeff include photos before and after Ryland’s transition, and it’s clear from the wide smiles that Ryland is now the happiest he has ever been. Learn more about the book and the Whittingtons at Facebook. com/RaisingRylandBook.
RuPaul’s Drag Race season six runner up Adore Delano keeps the dance beats pumping with After Party, a new album that perfectly fits its title. American Idol fans may also remember Delano, also known as Daniel Noriega from season seven, where, as a wee lad, he belted his way to the semifinals. The voice that carried him through Idol is the hallmark of After Party. There is no shortage of talent here; all the songs have a polished party-anthem, devil-maycare, drag attitude. After Party is the dance party after the party, where everything that’s happened finally gets pushed to resolution. From the first time I heard the album, I could imagine it blasting at EGO or the Dark Lady as I danced late into the night, preferably after a second round of Friskie Fries. Standout tracks for me were the upbeat, bouncy “Take Me There,” the trippy, driving “Constellations,” and the bitchy, brooding “Save Your Breath.” If the time came, though, “After Party” is the song I would most want to lip sync my life to. Delano’s After Party is worth a listen, not only for your after partying, but also your pre-partying. It will definitely set the mood for the night ahead… or help you remember the night before.q
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