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From the Editor-in-Chief Options has been a consistent community centerpiece for 36 years, and as we aim to once again be the local community’s go-to source for news and events we must embrace the media standards of our day. As Options experiments with bimonthly print publications to lower our printing costs, we’ll be taking the time we would have spent in monthly production to grow our online presence – meaning a revamped, user-friendly website and a more immediately interactive social media experience. With added capabilities for online advertising, we’re hoping to afford to continue to regularly print and mail issues. Options has the opportunity to make an even greater impact as we continue to do what we’ve traditionally done: stimulate culturechanging conversation, provide life-saving health information, and offer opportunities to engage our vibrant local community.Volunteers with web design and social media savvy – we need you! Speaking of volunteers… One decade ago, Maria Phillips came to Options as many volunteers did in 2008; she attended the mailing nights and stuffed magazines into “discrete white envelopes,” so as not to out any recipients. Maria says, “When I came out, I used the gay/lesbian hotline to get information about events, and that's how I found RIWA [RI Women’s Association]. I made some lifelong friends here. I wanted to give some time back. I would have volunteered on the hotline but that was discontinued, so Options was the next thing.” Editor Kim Stowell then recruited Maria to edit and you, dear reader, have benefitted from her contributions ever since. Maria has been attending our beloved editing sessions all these years, where she catches typos, places commas, makes suggestions for clarity, and participates in our lively conversations. She’s also written articles and began contributing News Briefs with Myra Shays. Maria recently retired and is moving to Georgia to be closer to family. We’ll miss her and these contributions immensely, and send her off with our deepest thanks and well wishes for life’s next chapter. While June is often thought of as the month to celebrate LGBTQ culture, the autumn brings other important annual celebrations, such as LGBTQ history month in October, National Coming Out Day on October 11, the Transgender Day of Remembrance in November (p. 26), and World AIDS Day on December 1 (p. 25). Be sure to see the Calendar (p. 8) for details on local events to mark these occasions, including RI Pride’s annual Honors gala on October 14 (p. 14). Election Day is another autumn event to mindfully observe, this year on November 6 (p. 12). Our Massachusetts readers have a particular obligation (p. 12), as voters will decide whether to uphold transgender rights (p. 11). I became a mama last month; voting seems more important than ever.

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FROM THE BOARD PRESIDENT Dear Readers, Thank you for your continued support of Options as we continue to evolve and best support our LGBTQ+ community. Moving forward, Options is fulfilling its new mission by supporting other community organizations, increasing our LGBTQ+ media presence, and keeping our efforts focused on representing our diverse community. Emails and Facebook posts continue to flow in every day asking to have Options delivered to a home or nonprofit organization, to praise the work that we are doing, and to learn how to volunteer and support Options. So, thank you! We have begun asking that readers donate $35, if they can afford to do so, to help pay for the yearly printing and postage fees of one subscription. As I wrote in last issueâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s message, as a community, we need to embrace Options Magazine as an organization, so we can continue to fulfill its mission to further support our LGBTQ+ community by having events that bring us together and support us as a community at large. As the holidays are soon approaching, please consider a gift of donation to Options, which is in turn a gift to yourself and your community. We are most grateful to board member Melissa DaSilva who has brought in the wonderful Victoria Graceffa to join our team to help Options expand its online presence. Our goal is to maintain printing of the magazine while upgrading our website to keep you informed in between printings. Jen Stevensâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s role as Editor-in-chief will grow to also manage our online news presence.The more information we are able share in a timely manner, the more we can do to support our community members and our community partners. Finally, a huge thank you to Board Treasurer Mike Marropodi, and the board at large, for making the Gay 5k such a successful annual event and fundraiser for Options. It was an extraordinary event and, of course, so much fun! Please do enjoy the images taken by Jack Hartwein-Sanchez in our Out on the Town centerfold.We thank him for his magic once again in documenting this fabulous event. Cheers, Dr. TC Rogers Board President

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OCTOBER 5 Gen Silent

OCTOBER 11 National Coming Out Day

OCTOBER 14 RI Pride Honors

OCTOBER 18 Drag Bingo

OCTOBER 19 SAGE LGBT Café

Mon. 1, 8, 15, 22 & 29 Free Play Arcade GAYME night, 7pm1am. Colosseum, 182 Pine Street, Providence. Over 115 vintage arcade games, pinball, skee ball, and drag show. All games set to free play. 18+. $4 cover to benefit RI Pride. For more info, freeplayri.com. Thu. 4 A Panel Discussion About Safe and Affirming Campuses with Judy Shepard, noon-1:45pm. Roberts Hall Auditorium, Rhode Island College, 600 Mount Pleasant Avenue, Providence.

Sun. 14 RI Prime Timers, 4:307pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Thu. 4 Erin McKeown, 7pm. Brown University, Granoff Center Martinos Auditorium, 154 Angell Street, Providence. Singer-songwriter, instrumentalist, producer and activist Erin McKeown performs an acoustic set of her genre-defying compositions that encompass folk, rock, pop, swing, electronics and beyond. $10 for Brown faculty & staff/$20 general admission.

Sun. 14 RI Pride Honors, 6pm. Marriott Downtown, 1 Orms Street, Providence. Honoring Pyramid of Pride recipient Chris Harris, Spirit of Pride recipient George Evans Marley, and volunteer awards. Cocktail hour with performances starting at 7pm. Tix $20 at prideri. org.

Fri. 5 Gen Silent, screening and workshop. 8:15am-noon. Rhode Island Shriners, One Rhodes Place, Cranston. Presented by the NASW RI Aging Committee and SAGE-RI. Continuing Education Credits available. Register at www.rinasw.info. Sun. 7 Drag Brunch, 12pm. Massimo Restaurant, 134 Atwells Avenue, Providence. With Jacqueline DiMera, LaDiva Jonz, and Vi’let. Reservations encouraged at 273-0650. Sun. 7 Options Magazine Release Party, 3-5pm. The Stable, 125 Washington Street, Providence. Volunteers needed for distribution. Wed. 10 Grief Support Group, 5:307pm. Hope Health, 1085 North Main Street, first floor, Providence. Free.

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Thu. 11 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment performed monthly on second Thursdays. Featuring live music, dance, comedy, and more. $7 to pay the artists. For info, facebook. com/sweetlittlevarietyshow and sweetlittlevarietyshow.com.

Thu. 11 National Coming Out Day. Be out and proud!

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Wed. 17 Equity Action Forum: Healthy Aging Among LGBTQ Seniors, 5:30-7pm. Rhode Island Foundation, One Union Station, Providence. Panel discussion and light refreshments. For more information and to RSVP by October 9, contact Jamie Hull at jhull@rifoundation.org.

Wed. 17 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Third Wednesdays at Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle, by Lillian Faderman. Discount on books purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Wed. 17 Interfaith Religious Service acknowledging National LGBT History Month, 7:30pm. Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell Street, Providence. Organized and led by a coalition of LGBT religious professionals. All are welcome.

Thu. 18 Drag Bingo: The Rocky Horror Drag Bingo, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. $100 cash prize for the best costume. 18+. No alcohol. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. For reservations, email bingo@aidscareoceanstate. org with name, number of people, and phone number. Fri. 19 SAGE LGBT Café, noon2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gayfriendly setting on third Fridays sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. $3 donation suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; $6 donation suggested for all others. Reservations required. Call Pauline at 351-6700. Fri. 19 Project Weber/RENEW’s 2nd Annual Benefit: Celebrating CommUNITY, 7-9:30pm. The Arcade, 65 Weybosset Street, Providence. Raffles, hors d’oeuvres, cash bar, live music, and presentation of the PoWeR of Advocacy Award. Proceeds support Weber/ RENEW's peer based HIV and overdose prevention programs, case management, harm reductionbased street outreach, and safe spaces and advocacy for sex workers and high risk cisgender and transgender people. $40-100. For more info, www.weberrenew.org. Sat. 20-Sun. 21 Newport LGBTQ+ Family Weekend. Includes boating, fall-themed events, vendor fair, and kid-friendly drag. For more info, email info@newportout.com or visit http://www.newportout. com/lgbtq-family-weekend/. Sun. 21 Interweave potluck and Transgender Day of Remembrance planning meeting, 5:30pm. Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135

Pelham St, Newport. All welcome. Bring a dish to share. Interweave is Channing's group for LGBTQ people and allies. For more info, interweave@channingmemorial.org or call Rex at 401-595-9068.

November Sun. 4 Drag Brunch, 12pm. Massimo

Restaurant, 134 Atwells Avenue, Providence.With Jacqueline DiMera, LaDiva Jonz, and Vi’let. Reservations encouraged at 273-0650.

Free Play Arcade GAYME night, 7pm-1am. Colosseum, 182 Pine Street, Providence. Over 115 vintage arcade games, pinball, skee ball, and drag show. All games set to free play. 18+. $4 cover to benefit RI Pride. For more info, freeplayri.com.

Mon. 5, 12, 19 & 26

Tue. 6 State of RI General Election, 7am-8pm. To find your polling location or more info, elections. state.ri.us/elections. Thu. 8 Sweet Little Variety Show, 8pm. Mirabar, 15 Elbow Street, Providence. A queer-produced potpourri of entertainment performed monthly on second Thursdays. $7 to pay the artists. For info, facebook.com/ sweetlittlevarietyshow and sweetlittlevarietyshow.com. Sun. 11 RI Prime Timers, 4:307pm. Social, dinner, and networking group for older gay and bi men on second Sundays. For more info, www.riprimetimers.org or call Steve at 996-3010.

Thu. 15 Drag Bingo: Giblets and Gravy, 6-9pm. Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Avenue, Cranston. Hosted by Haley Star and LaDiva Jonz. $20 gets you in all games with over $2,000 in cash and prizes awarded monthly. 18+. No alcohol. Theme dress suggested. Bring a Thanksgiving-related, nonperishable item for our food pantry. All funds raised benefit AIDS Care Ocean State and AIDS Project RI. For reservations, email bingo@ aidscareoceanstate.org with name, number of people, and phone number.

SAGE LGBT Café, noon2pm. Church of the Transfiguration, 1665 Broad Street, Cranston. A delicious, low-cost lunch in a gayfriendly setting on third Fridays sponsored by Meals on Wheels, the Department of Elderly Affairs, and SAGE-RI. $3 donation suggested for LGBT people 60+ and people with disabilities; $6 donation suggested for all others. Reservations required. Call Pauline at 351-6700.

Fri. 16

Screening of the documentary film Gen Silent, 5:30pm. Paff Auditorium, URI Providence Campus, 80 Washington Street, Providence. Six LGBT seniors living in the Boston area must decide if they will hide their sexuality in order to survive in the long-term health care system. Presented by URI Providence Campus Arts and Culture Program and SAGE Rhode Island. A discussion and light refreshments will follow. Free admission. For information, 2775206 or uri.artsandculture@gmail. com. Fri.

Transgender Day of Remembrance service at Channing Memorial Church, time TBD. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. For more info, interweave@ channingmemorial.org or call Rex at 595-9068.

Sun. 18 Wed. 14 The Edge of Each Other’s Battles: The Vision of Audre Lorde, 6:30-8:30pm. Black Box Theater at The Artist’s Exchange, 50 Rolfe Square, Cranston. Film viewing and discussion. Refreshments for sale. Donations requested. RSVP at www.surveymonkey.com/r/ RHNPPR2.

Interweave potluck and movie night, 5:30pm. Parish Hall of Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport. All welcome. Bring a dish to share. Interweave is Channing's group for LGBTQ people and allies. For more info, interweave@ channingmemorial.org or call Rex at 595-9068.

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NOVEMBER 4 Drag Brunch

TGI Network’s annual service in honor of the Transgender Day of Remembrance, time TBD. Beneficent Congregational Church, Providence.

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Wed. 21 Queer Book Club, 7-9:30pm. Third Wednesdays at Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence. Reading: Logical Family by Amistead Maupin. Discount on books purchased at Books on the Square. For more info, email queerbookclub@gmail.com.

Grief Support Group, 5:30-7pm. Hope Health, 1085 North Main Street, first floor, Providence. Free.

NOVEMBER 6 General Election

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Regularly Scheduled Support Groups: ACOS (HIV/AIDS): youth, Tue. 4pm/gay males, Wed. 1:30pm LGBT Alcoholics Anonymous: Tue. 7pm PFLAG (parents, friends, allies): 1st & 3rd Wed. 6:45pm TGI Network (trans,par tner, and non-binary groups): 1st & 3rd Tue. 7pm/Sat. 1pm

TransFamily New England: 2nd Mon. 6:30pm YPI (youth): Way Out, Thu. 4pm/Gender Spectrum, Tue. 4pm/youth 13 and under : Thu. 5pm See Resources on page 28 for complete information

NOVEMBER 14 The Edge of Each Other’s Battles: The Vision of Audre Lorde

NOVEMBER 20 Transgender Day of Remembrance NOVEMBER 21 Queer Book Club

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Local Grief Support Group Continues

All are welcome, free of charge, to join the monthly grief support groups continuing on certain Wednesday evenings at Hope Health, 1085 North Main Street, first floor, in Providence. Hope Hospice & Palliative Care RI conducts the groups to share experience of loss, and to learn and practice self-care skills. Referrals to clinicians are available. Upcoming dates are Wednesdays October 10, November 28, and December 19, 5:307pm. Further information is available at 4154684, or by writing Alex Zima at azima@ hopehealthco.org.

Project Weber/RENEW, a peer-based program providing harm reduction and recovery services to sex workers and highrisk men and women, including transgender people. Black and Latino men who have sex with men are at high risk because of the lack of cultural competency of the usual people offering the services. By contrast, some of the Project Weber/RENEW staff have been homeless and/or sex workers themselves and have years of experience reaching out to this population. The balance of the fiveyear grant from the U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services will be used by The Miriam's STD clinic and the RI Public Health Institute, in part to monitor and evaluate the success of the initiative.

LGBTQ Candidate Wins Newport Primary

Brown University Removes Trans Study from Website

Black and Latino MSM Will Benefit from $2.5 Million Federal Grant

The Miriam Hospital in Providence will use a recent $2.5 million federal grant to establish the state's first program providing substance abuse treatment specifically to Black and Latino gay and bisexual men. About $1 million will be used by the Miriam's partner,

to discredit support for transgender youth. Brown has not decided whether to repost the story after PLOS ONE issues its final opinion.

Brown University has come under attack for removing from its website a reference to a study on transgender youth because the research methodology is being questioned by the journal PLOS ONE, where it was initially published. The author, Brown University assistant professor Lisa Littman, defends her study, which stated more research needs to be done. The controversy centers on the fact that the parents who answered the online survey were biased in their opinion of transitioning and largely disagreed with the children’s transitioning. It was said that the LGBT community pressured Brown to remove reference to the study on its website. Brown defended its position, stating they didn’t want the conclusions of the study

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by Rex LeBeau Valerie Larkin was victorious in the nonpartisan primary race for a Newport City Council seat, defeating opponent Liam Barry. Incumbent Lynn Ceglie earned 661 votes in the primary, to Valerie’s 322. She and Valerie will compete for the City Council Ward 2 seat in the November 6 election. “I was very pleased with the results of the primary,” said Valerie. “My objective was to come in the top two finishers in the primary, which is what I needed to do to be on the ballot in November, and I accomplished that. I am running against the incumbent, who of course has an advantage of name recognition, and I have been gradually getting to know more and more people in my ward. Between now and November 6, we will continue to knock on doors and hold more events to get the word out in the community. I am hopeful that people will respond to my message of an open and transparent city government that is inclusive of everyone.” Those living in Newport's Ward 2, which comprises the middle section of the city, can vote for Valerie and help bring her skills and diverse perspective to the council.

Massachusetts Voters Urged to Approve Transgender Rights

An important referendum will appear on Massachusetts voters' ballot on Election Day, November 6. The voters will be asked whether to continue civil rights protections for transgender people in the state, and Boston Pride is urging everyone to vote "Yes" on Question 3.Two years ago the legislature enacted laws protecting trans people from discrimination in public places such as medical offices, restaurants, and retail stores. Now Massachusetts is the first state to have the general public vote on whether those rights should remain in effect. If you would like to join the Pride Committee's campaign to encourage "Yes" votes on this Question, visit www.BostonPride.org. But above all, make sure you get out and vote November 6!

Gender-Neutral Salon Pricing Comes to RI

The Ky Michaels Salon in North Providence announced in September that it will become one of the first salons in the state to offer gender-neutral pricing as of October 1, 2018. Said Michaels: "Women typically pay $50 to $120 for a haircut, while men usually pay $30 to $60. We are simply changing the system so that it's fair for everyone. It's exciting to be a pioneer for equality." The salon's new pricing will be based on the time it takes to complete the service, making costs fair for all clients. For more information, visit Michaels' salon at 1868 Smith Street, or write to ky@kymichaelssalon.com.

Anti-gay Groups Sue Over Story Hour

Two anti-gay Christian groups are suing the town of Lafayette, LA, the governor of Louisiana, and the Lafayette Public Library for presenting a story hour for children, ages 3-6, hosted by drag queens from the Delta Lambda Phi fraternity of the University of Louisiana-Lafayette. Lafayette Mayor Joel Robideaux has condemned the story hour and vowed he will do everything in his power to cancel it. Meanwhile, at its most recent meeting, the Lafayette City-Parish Council avoided taking a position. Library officials stand by their decision stating “all story programs for this age group are designed for families to attend together and involve books, songs, and craft activities…all of which are age appropriate.”

Transgender Youth Suicide on the Rise

A study published in July by the American Academy of Pediatrics revealed alarming suicide attempt rates among transgender youth, noting a particularly “heightened risk for female to male [50.8 percent] and nonbinary transgender [41.8 percent] adolescents.” It’s a fact that transgender youth experience more family rejection and bullying and harassment than the average youth. These youth need a safe haven to be themselves and decide their next steps under the guidance of a trained professional.The Human Rights Campaign Foundation’s Welcoming Schools program provides guidance to parents and teachers to prevent this harassment and rejection.Visit their website for more information.

India Repeals Gay Sex Ban

India’s highest court ruled unanimously to repeal a colonial-era law banning intercourse between consenting same-sex partners. The law, passed in the 1860s, was used as an excuse to discriminate and harass India’s huge queer population. This particular law was repealed in 2009; however, in 2016, conservative groups fought to have the law brought back.This victory was celebrated throughout the streets in India’s cities.

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am writing to correct Cheryl Duarte's assertion that you owe your readers an apology for referring to Guillaume Bagal as a Coverboy [in the September issue of Options’ Editor Note]. According to the American Heritage Dictionary the definition of a coverboy is a man or boy – usually a model – who is featured on a magazine cover. It is a common term used in the magazine/newspaper industry which bears no racial reference to whom it is applied. It is usually used as a compliment. Conversely, a coverman is akin to a wingman who helps his buddy pick up women by talking him up or smoothing over a bad situation with a woman he is interested in. As an African American man I can say that no apology is necessary except to Ms. Duarte who, through no fault of her own, did not understand the way in which your compliment was meant. Bradford Greer, Pawtucket

ote on Tuesday, November 6

Thanks for highlighting legislators in our state who are advocates for our community [in the September issue of Options]. As a co-sponsor of the RI Marriage Equality bill in the RI House of Representatives and as a gay woman, it's imperative that voters focus on candidates who will uphold their values. Human rights and reproductive rights must be preserved. On a state level, we've passed significant laws to protect the LGBTQ community: banning the “gay panic defense'' and banning conversion therapy. However, on a national level we are dangerously close to seeing many of our rights dismantled. I advocate as a co-sponsor of the bill to extend the statute of limitations on childhood sexual abuse. I also plan legislation to help older adults in our LGBTQ community who, as they often age alone, need caregivers, home health workers, and visiting nurses who are sensitive to their sexual orientation or gender identity. There is so much more work to be done. And now is NOT the time to be silent. Every vote counts. Your vote matters. Please vote on Tuesday, November 6.

Representative Deborah Ruggiero, Jamestown rep-ruggiero@rilegislature.gov

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Honors by Joe Lazzerini, President, RI Pride

Rhode Island Pride invites you to celebrate the outstanding “Louder and Prouder” accomplishments of members of our local LGBTQIA+ community and our allies at the annual Rhode Island Pride Honors Gala on October 14 at 6pm in the Grand Ballroom at the Providence Marriott Downtown. This year’s Honors Gala will be hosted by local drag queen and former Miss Gay RI Complete Destruction.

This year we are honoring Chris Harris with our highest honor, the Pyramid of Pride Award, for his lifelong commitment to the Rhode Island LGBTQIA+ community. Chris Harris has spent his life throwing some of the best parties in New England, all while giving back to the local LGBTQ+ community, even while battling cancer.

to Rhode Island Pride and the broader LGBTQ+ community. A prolific fundraiser, volunteer, and Pride's vendor coordinator, no matter what, George is always there with a smile on his face, ready to give whatever he can to the cause.

Matthew Caswell

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George Evans Marley will receive the Spirit of Pride Award for his continued commitment and dedication

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In addition to those awardees, RI Pride will also honor Volunteer of the Year Matthew Caswell, Rookie Volunteer of the Year Erik Keough, Festival MVPs Tricia Phelan and Rebecca "Red" Ralphaeson, and our annual Parade Award recipients. Our volunteers are the heart and soul of our organization and we can't accomplish anything without their love, support, and dedication. Purchase your tickets today at www.prideri.org/honors. . Rhode Island Pride is a 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting the visibility, equality, and diversity of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community and providing a safe space to come out, express, and celebrate all sexual identities and genders. For more information, email info@prideri.com or call (401) 467-2130

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by Yael Bat-Shimon and Paula Smith

10 Tips for Dating

Dating in the LGBTQ community can be a minefield, but it can also be fun and exciting. Between the two of us, we’ve been on over 75 dates. We have fallen in love, had gut-wrenching heartbreak, and at times been made to feel absolutely insane. So we can say with a degree of certainty that there is no way to really know who someone is (or if they even exist) from the pictures they post, the job they have, or the status updates they write. The only way to know is to go out on a date in a neutral place, interact with them, and find out for yourself. Although it isn’t an exhaustive list, we’d like to share some things we learned about the dating scene before we finally met each other.

benefits, one night stands, exes with physical strings attached. Use your brain to understand if the person you bumped into is single or just playing the field.You don’t want your heart broken or your ass kicked by her current girlfriend.

Avoid sharing too much. One way to really mess up a first date is to admit how long you spent Google stalking him. We’re guessing you want a second date. The censorship walls can come down after you have committed and moved in together.

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Go Out! Change your wardrobe, enjoy the cool weather, and join the digital party, i.e. Match.com, JDate. com, Grindr, Compatiblepartners. com, Pridedating.com, OKCupid, etc. (We met on Match.com.) First dates are awkward. So lose the ego. You can’t do a second date without doing the first. Silence your phone. Don’t even look at it unless it has something to do with the date. Read the undercurrents. Are they single? Yes, she may be sitting across from you telling you so, but hardly anyone is really single, especially in the lesbian scene. There is often some vibe going on – friends with

You cannot change them. And yes, they will try to change you and you can’t change them either. If they cheat their way into the relationship, they’ll cheat their way out. So will you.

When to get physical? First let us say that we waited three months before we slept together. We did that so we could see who the other really was without all the lust. We were really attracted to each other, so it took time and a little discipline. But we wanted more than sex, which means we had to talk more. That said, the only people who know when you should have sex are you and the other person (or persons). If it feels right at the end of the date, go for it! Make sure your hair and underwear are on point.

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Remember lust wears off. It’s not sad; it’s just a fact.

Open up in a real way if you’re looking for a commitment. Someone who is actually looking to date you, and not just sleep with you, will appreciate this more than you know. It opens up communication for the other person to talk, which can be scary to initiate. It also quickly weeds out those who just want sex because they see you’re serious, which isn’t a bad thing. Open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship.

If you don’t succeed the first time, try again. Commit to going on 10–15 dates this fall. You can learn more about yourself and what you want in a partner. It’s an experiment. Remember if one date goes down the tubes or the relationship turns out not to be what you wanted, don’t give up. Your next date is waiting around the corner and that could be “the one.”

Ultimately, you have to figure out your own way through the world of dating. But remember your values and do not settle. The most compelling people are the ones who are passionate about something. Whatever it is, remember passion is irresistible.

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by Kwana Adams

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Pose is a TV show that the world has needed for a long time. It has the largest transgender cast of any TV show, as well as trans writers and producers. The first season was released on the FX TV cable channel in June and consists of eight hourlong episodes; the show has been renewed for a second season. It can be watched on the FX network website for 5.99/month, or watched on Youtube, Amazon Prime, Google Play and other streaming sites for fees from $1.99. With certain subscriptions, it can be watched on Hulu and HBO Go. Set in the late 80s, Pose is mainly about LGBT ballroom culture. The wardrobe is colorful, vibrant, and representative of the time period. There are different “houses” that compete in a fashion show setting for trophies, glory, and bragging rights. The houses include a “mother” and her “children” who live together and compete as a house. Most, if not all, of the children have been kicked out of their family homes and have nowhere else to go.The mother takes them

in and cares for them. The new families design outfits and walk the runways to see which house can get the highest scores. It’s hard to watch people being beaten and kicked out of their homes for who they are, but these are their stories and they need to be told. Unfortunately homophobia is rampant in the black community, especially in overtly religious families. It’s something that’s not talked about enough. A lot of black youth suffer because their families think there is something wrong with them and their lifestyle. I hope Pose will show them they’re not alone and they don’t have to stay in toxic situations.You can’t choose where you were born but you absolutely can choose your family. A character called Blanca, after receiving a heartbreaking diagnosis, decides to create a new family of her own rather than live the rest of her life living in someone else’s shadow. She takes in people who have been shunned from their previous families,

including Damon, who was beaten and kicked out of his family home after magazines were found under his bed and it was discovered he was dancing ballet. Although Damon is a gay black male and Blanca is a trans woman of color, their stories are similar. They both had parents who could not love them because of who they turned out to be. It’s not just homophobia, but also transphobia that brings all of these youth together and forces them to fend for themselves and one another. It’s unfortunate that they have to meet under these circumstances, but the fact that they have found one another outweighs all of that. Angel, a trans woman sex worker is also taken in by Blanca. Angel demonstrates how difficult it is for trans youth to find work without being discriminated against; sometimes sex work is the only work they can find. Angel is also looking for a relationship, hoping someone will love her and take care of her. As Blanca compassionately takes in all the lost souls who walk the streets at night with nowhere else to turn, she’s also tough on them, forcing her children to get an education because she wants them to succeed. She even marches into a dance school with Damon to give him the push he needed to reach for his dream. While the underground ball scene is fun and amazing, it won’t get them far in life. Blanca’s also desperate to prove herself and not let her life waste away before she can become something. My favorite elements of this show are the representation and the message. Seeing all kinds of LGBT and POC identities represented is really refreshing and hopefully sets the bar for more shows and movies. A lot of shows with LGBT representation are majority white casts, so it’s great to see a cast featured that is mostly black along with other people of color. As previously mentioned, transphobia and homophobia are prevalent in black communities, and while these characters are not perfect, depicting LGBT POC on TV allows LGBT POC to recognize themselves as having stories worth telling, and sends the message that they’re not alone. The message of Pose is one of hope, perseverance, and family. Taking people in off the street and giving them a home is an amazing act of kindness. I know that there are people like Blanca in the real world – people who are willing to throw out a lifeline of tough yet unconditional love. I recommend this show to anyone who needs to be shown hope that there is some good in the world. Kwana Adams is a 24-year-old Community College of RI student who likes cats and vintage sweaters.

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Connecting Communities to Address Rhode Island’s Opioid Epidemic

Matthew Collins, M.D., MBA, Vice President, Clinical Integration Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island

Despite national efforts to combat the opioid crisis, it remains a widespread health issue in America. In its most recent Health of America report – The Opioid Epidemic in America: An Update – the Blue Cross Blue Shield Association (BCBSA) found that while the total number of opioid medications filled by commercially insured Blue Cross Blue Shield (BCBS) members across the country has declined by 29 percent since 2013, there were still 241,900 BCBS members diagnosed with an opioid use disorder (OUD) in 2017. Within this population struggling to overcome an opioid use disorder, there is a largely underserved group when it comes to support and treatment access: the LGBTQ community. Nationally, an estimated 20-30 percent of LGBTQ people have misused substances, compared to about 9 percent of the general population. Major factors that contribute to substance use disorders in LGBTQ people include prejudice, discrimination, lack of cultural competency in the health care system, and lack of peer support. As other states across the nation have begun to measure this correlation and are seeing increased numbers in opioid issues within LGBTQ communities, it’s important that the state of Rhode Island also start measuring and reporting on this data to better meet the needs of an often underserved community. Here in Rhode Island, BCBSRI has supported the efforts of the Governor’s Opioid Overdose Task Force to develop and implement strategies aimed at prevention, treatment, rescue, and recovery. BCBSRI has embedded pharmacists in our patient-centered medical homes to help manage opioid use and provide alternative, nonopioid solutions for patients with acute and chronic pain. We have reduced opioid prescriptions and are collaborating with medical professionals, employers, and communities to address gaps in the continuum of care. BCBSRI recently partnered with the Addiction Services Center at Roger Williams Medical Center to deliver medication-assisted treatment to Rhode Islanders struggling with opioid use disorders.

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We also bundled all services so that members only have to make one copay per month – an important step to encourage more people into care management and treatment programs. We have also partnered with Beacon Health Services, whose case management programs assist members in accessing and engaging in treatment and recovery. And we’ve partnered with Anchor Recovery, whose peer support program has enrolled 300 members since January. As they cope with stigma, harassment, and rejection, LGBTQ teens are more likely than their non-LGBTQ peers to begin misusing drugs and alcohol. Coupled with higher rates of youth homelessness, mental health issues, and a lack of support system, it’s crucial that healthcare interventions are available early and often to the LGBTQ community. . BCBSRI has certified over a dozen healthcare practices across the state as LGBTQ Safe Zone providers.The Safe Zone certification identifies healthcare practices providing safe, affirming, and inclusive care to the LGBTQ community.This list continues to grow, with two more locations added to the roster this past January. Complementing local efforts, the BCBSA board of directors has committed to advancing the safety and effectiveness of treatment for opioid use disorders. As part of that commitment, BCBSA will launch Blue Distinction® Centers for Substance Use Disorder Treatment and Recovery to ensure members have access to the best evidenced-based approaches in addressing the long-term issues associated with opioid use disorders. The BCBSA also agreed to establish a national hotline to connect those in need with treatment centers. The hotline is slated to be available by 2020 to both BCBS members and non-members alike. As we continue to work together to combat the opioid epidemic, we must remain focused on those within the LGBTQ community battling not only opioid use disorders, but other physical and mental health issues as well. Here in Rhode Island, BCBSRI is collaborating with state leaders, providers, and community partners to help improve access to quality, affordable behavioral healthcare, especially care that addresses substance use disorders. Blue Cross & Blue Shield of Rhode Island is the state’s leading health insurer and covers more than 450,000 members. The company is an independent licensee of the Blue Cross and Blue Shield Association. For more information, visit www.bcbsri.com, follow us on Twitter @BCBSRI, and like us on Facebook at fb.com/bcbsri. To learn more about Safe Zones, visit bcbsri.com/safezones.

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Rainbow Party

by Tiffani Carcieri, YPI staff

YPI's Annual Rainbow Party is our organization's largest fundraising event of the year. Hosted at the Dunes Club for the third year in a row, the 2018 Rainbow Party on September 23 was a great success. Over 80 individuals attended and raised more than $10,000 on behalf of YPI. Guests enjoyed an open bar with specialty cocktails, a wide selection of hors d'oeuvres, and a dessert station, while taking in beautiful views of Narragansett Beach. Board members, staff, and YPI youth were present to talk with guests and provide insight into YPI, what we do, and how contributions directly support our programs and services. A slide show highlighting important YPI moments ran throughout the afternoon. Photos from Pride, Rhode Island's NOH8 campaign, State House events, holidays, and more were included. Custom YPI t-shirts designed by our youth were available to guests who donated at the door. Board Chair Michelle Saunders and Executive Director Elana Rosenberg addressed the room. The longstanding history of YPI's discussion group The Way Out was told along with snippets of how and why Michelle and Elana became involved with the organization. Ollie and Rowan (Michelleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s son) are two active YPI youths who spoke about our space and

how it changed their lives for the better. Ollie says YPI treated them like family and offered unwavering support even when their biological family could not. We sincerely thank Bank of America, Locke Lord, and IGT for being our sponsors. We also extend profound thanks to State Representative Deb Ruggiero who was in attendance. Deb has been a longtime friend of YPI, and a champion for the LGBT community for years.Without the generous support of all these individuals our Rainbow Party could not have happened. We are incredibly overwhelmed with the generosity of our guests.These contributions will immensely help LGBTQQ youth in Rhode Island get connected to the resources and services they need. A full album of photos of the event can be found on our Facebook page. We look forward to seeing everyone next year! Youth Pride Inc. provides support, education, and advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 9-23. Our Drop-in Center is at 473 Westminster Street, Providence, RI 02903. Visit www.youthprideri.org, emailinfo@youthprideri.org, or call (401) 421-5626 for more info.

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7 WAYS To Commemorate World AIDS Day

by Mikel Wadewitz, Ryan White Director, AIDS Project Rhode Island

Join APRI and Others on December 1 to Shine a Light on the Continued Battle Against HIV. Commemorated every year on December 1, World AIDS Day is a time when we are able to honor those we’ve lost due to complications from the disease; celebrate those who are with us and living longer, healthier lives; and remind everyone of the importance of HIV testing, prevention, and continued research that will bring a cure at long last. For many people, HIV/AIDS are no longer things they hear about in the news. That’s partially because effective medication means more and more people are living longer. HIV, however, is not gone – not by a long shot. December 1 is a perfect time to remember all of the simple ways you can help end the epidemic once and for all. Here are seven of them: 1. Commemorate World AIDS Day Attend a local community event or vigil on December 1. Invite friends and family. Share credible information with others on social media. 2. Get Tested! If you are sexually active, get an HIV test. They are free, fast, and painless, and are available from many community providers

on a walk-in basis, including APRI. Bring a friend and pick up some free condoms while you’re at it. 3. Donate to Organizations Helping Those Living With HIV/ AIDS You don’t need to be an expert on all things HIV or understand all of the science. You can donate to organizations that work on HIV/AIDS-related issues and help some of the individuals in our community who need us most. Even a few dollars means that a client will get the care/services she or he needs. 4. Volunteer With HIV Service Organizations You don’t need to just donate money, of course. Most HIV/AIDS service organizations need volunteers. Even a few hours a week can make a huge impact. For example, we look for volunteers for the APRI Buddy Program to do social activities with clients and as a result we’ve seen big, positive changes in those we work with. 5. Learn More About PrEP and U=U Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP)is a way of preventing HIV by taking one pill a day. It’s a huge game changer and is up to 99% effective when taken correctly. U=U stands Photo courtesy of Netflix

for “Undetectable = Untransmittable.” It’s a campaign that teaches everyone that if someone is HIV+, on medication, and has a viral load so low it cannot be detected in blood tests, they cannot pass on the virus. It’s an important message that helps combat stigma, too. 6. Read the News A simple search of current news stories under the term “HIV” will tell you a lot about what is going on in the world and the latest updates that are changing lives. Publications such as the magazine you are reading, The Body, Poz, and Plus are great resources, as is the World Health Organization and CDC. 7. Ask Your Elected Officials How They Are Working to End the Epidemic Is your local representative voting in favor of increased funding for HIV/STD prevention? Does he or she participate in community events hosted by HIV/AIDS service organizations? Find out! At this writing,World AIDS Day events in Providence and across Rhode Island are still being planned/finalized. Please visit aidsprojectri.org or our social media to keep up to date on local World AIDS Day events. APRI provides free, anonymous walkin testing for HIV and other STIs at 9 Pleasant St. in Providence. Hours are Monday 10 a.m.-1 p.m.,Tuesday 4-6 p.m., Thursday 4-6 p.m., and Friday 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Testing can also be done by appointment. Please call (401) 831-5522 for more information

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by Ethan Huckel

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This fall, there are a number of developments here at TGI Network. As always, we are running our support groups. We have rekindled our partnersâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; group and a group for family and friends to find information and community. In addition, our new non-binary group is growing each month! If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d like to learn more about attending a support group, please email us at info@ tginetwork.org. At 7:30pm on October 17, we are hosting an interfaith service at Bell Street Chapel in Providence, and at 7pm on November 20 we will hold our annual service in honor of the Transgender Day of Remembrance at Beneficent Congregational Church in Providence. Please mark your calendars and invite your friends and family to attend these two very special events. We are in the process of putting together a series of informational workshops for community members, including sessions on resume-writing, interview skills, and financial awareness and planning. We have created a new model through which to train and support our peer facilitators and will be inviting new facilitators to participate in training soon. Stay tuned! With another political season upon us, last month we shared some of our legislative goals for the next few years, including non-binary driversâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; licenses, inclusive language for LGBTQ parents, greater access to emergency services for LGBTQ Rhode Islanders, the thorough implementation of the Community Safety Act in Providence, and protections for the local immigrant community. Hopefully this political season will bring us closer to realizing these goals. TGI Network of Rhode Island is the only statewide organization providing support, advocacy and education for the transgender, gender-variant, and intersex community (aka trans* community). Incorporated in 2011, our mission is to be a resource for TGI people navigating their lives and the medical and legal systems; to serve as a resource for professionals working with TGI people; and to serve as a liaison between the TGI and LGB communities and the community at large. Visit us at www.tginetwork.org.

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RESOURCES Options originated in 1982 as the offical newsletter of the Rhode Island Gay Task Force. Editor Jos Fayette explained, “The RIGTF wants to make the homosexual community aware of their options as gay men and women in Rhode Island. And it’s only because we live, work, love, and play in this state that there are such a large number of options available to all of us.” Options has always, and will continue to print LGBTQ resources so that

you can, as Fayette went on to say, “Exercise your OPTIONS today to make positive changes in your life tomorrow.” Help us help you! Email info@optionsri.org if you come across a resource listing that needs updating. New, updated, and featured resources are highlighted. Phone numbers are in the 401 area code and addresses are in Rhode Island, unless otherwise indicated.

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AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS memorial quilt panels, panelmaking programs including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people. PO Box 2591, Newport. 434-4880. admin@ aidsquiltri.org. www.aidsquiltri.org. Brown University AIDS Program: Clinical trials, public policy, research, lectures, conferences, patient and community education. 121 South Main Street, Second Floor, Providence. 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu. brown.edu/Departments/BRUNAP. Community Care Alliance: Case management, support, personal care items for people living with HIV/AIDS in northern Rhode Island. 245 Main Street, Woonsocket. 235-6092. lcohen@famresri.org. Comprehensive Community Action Programs: Medical, mental health, dental, social services, LGBT outreach. 311 Doric Avenue, Cranston. Also Coventry, Pawtucket, and Warwick. 4679610. Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case management and financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MassHealth funded for MA residents. 376 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. Contact Jenn, (508) 678-1002. HIV Antibody Testing: Anonymous. Free or sliding scale. RI Department of Health. Providence, Newport and other locations. 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care management for HIV/AIDS. 24hr nursing staff for treatment. 1085 North Main Street, Providence. Referrals: 782-0725. Bereavement groups: Contact John Charette, 727-7079. Main Office: 415-4200 or toll-free 800338-6555. www.hhcri.org. House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Road, Cumberland. 658-3992. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group: For LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems. www.caregiver.org Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor. (508) 984-7514. Miriam Hospital HIV & STD Testing Clinic: For gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, Hep C, and trichomoniasis. Linking to physicians for PrEP. Wed. -- Fri. 12:30 -- 3:30. 1125 N. Main St., Providence (rear of building). 793-4715

AA Brothers in Sobriety: Saturday 7:30pm. 372 Wayland Avenue, Providence. 751-9328. AddictionCenter.com: Web information guide for addiction resources nationwide. Or call 1-877-830-2915. Alcohol/Drug Helpline: RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence. 24hr. (866) 252-3784. RI LGBT AA Group: Tuesdays 7 -- 8 pm Bell Street Chapel, 5 Bell St., Providence, 273-5678. All are welcome. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: Addiction support services and Narcan. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Leonard Amaral, Program Manager, lamaral@sevenhills.org. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous: 12-step program. Fridays at 7pm. Providence Presbyterian Church, 500 Hope Street, Providence, side entrance, downstairs to the left. Gay, but all are welcome. YPTQ (Young People, Queer, Trans) meeting of AA: Wednesdays 7:30 -- 8:30pm, “common room” of Brown University Alumni Hall, 194 Meeting Street, Providence.

AIDS/HEALTH RESOURCES

Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recreational and social activities. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI. Free to clients.. Wed. and Thurs. 12 -- 3pm. 134 Mathewson St., Providence. Info: Kim Clohecy, 831-5522, Ext. 2299. AIDS Action Hotline: MA only. (800) 235-2331. www.aac.org. AIDS Care Ocean State: Confidential HIV & Hep C testing, safersex supplies, case management, emergency funds, clinical services, assisted and supportive housing for people living with HIV/AIDS, street outreach, ENCORE, HIV+ support groups. Speaker’s Bureau, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence. 521-3603 (call 781-0665 to schedule an appointment). www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI: Division of Family Service of RI. Case management, buddies, COBRA and dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment and referral, wellness programs, advocacy, strength training, prevention education, HIV testing. 9 Pleasant Street, Providence. 831-5522 www.aidsprojectri.org.

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Partners in Learning About AIDS: Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations. North Providence office provides free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. 1006 Charles Street, Suite 5, North Providence. 484-7523. info@plaidsproject. org. www.plaidsproject.org Planned Parenthood of So. New England: Confidential, lowcost, same-day & walk-in STD and HIV testing. Commonsense approach to health. 175 Broad Street. 800-230-7526. www. ppsne.org. Prima CARE Transgender Clinic: Fall River, MA. Counseling, hormonal reassignment, referrals for surgery. Kishore Lakshman, MD. 508-235-0481. Seven Hills HIV Prevention & Screening: TWIST program, HIV and STI prevention and testing, partner care. 1173 Acushnet Avenue, New Bedford, MA, 508-999-4159. 310 S. Main Street, Fall River, MA, 508-235-1012. Contact Leonard Amaral, lamaral@sevenhills.org. SSTAR (Stanley Street Treatment & Resources): Counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs, free and confidential HIV, HEP C, and STD testing, education, case management and support. MA and RI locations. 386 Stanley Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/HCV); (508) 324-3561. Family Healthcare Center; (508) 675-1054. www.sstar.org. Steppingstone, Inc.: Welcome Home Medical case management program. One-on-one peer support in Somerset to Wareham area. HIV support groups available. Free and open to any HIV+ person 18+. 5 Dover Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 984-7514. www.steppingstoneinc.org. Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation.109 Rhode Island Road, Lakeville, MA. (508) 947-1683. www.tranquilmind.net. Thundermist Health Center: Provides HIV/AIDS services including medical care and treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment and counseling, pharmacy consultation, free and confidential HIV testing. 450 Clinton Street, Woonsocket. Contact Philip Kane. 7674100 ext. 3516.

RILGBT-News: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. South Coast LGBTQ Network: Information & advocacy network for individuals of all ages. 774-371-0711. info@ sclgbtqnetwork.org. www.sclgbtqnetwork.org. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1 on your telephone.

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The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health: Education, pleasure, health, advocacy. Tues. -- Sat. 12 -- 6 and by appointment. 250 Main Street, Unit 1, Pawtucket. 489-5513. www.thecsph.org. Fenway Community Center LGBT Helpline: Support, information and referrals. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston. Open daily 6-11pm. (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-452 GLBT National Help Center Hotline: Local resources nationwide provided by social services agency. 888-843-4564. www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org. Newport Out: LGBT website for Newport. www.newportout.com.

American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 128 Dorrance Street, Suite 400, Providence. 831-7171. riaclu.org. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTQ human rights. (212)807-8400. Cvohs18904@ yahoo.com. www.amnestyusa.org. Brown University Queer Alliance: Student advocacy and support organization. queer@brown.edu. Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline. Weekdays 1:30-4:30pm. 30 Winter Street, Suite 800, Boston, MA. (617) 436-1350 or (800) 455-GLAD. gladlaw@ glad.org www.GLAD.org. Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall Street, Suite 1500, NY. (212) 809-8585. www.lambdalegal.org. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for LGBT causes. lawyersforequality@gmail.com.

NIGHTLIFE The Alley Cat Providence: Downtown neighborhood bar. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday 3pm-2am, Saturday 2pm2am, Sunday 2pm-1am. 19 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. Bobby’s Place: Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. SundayWednesday 5pm-1am, Thursday-Saturday 5pm-2am. 62 Weir Street, Taunton, MA. (508) 824-9997. www.bobbysplacema.com. Brooklyn Coffee Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Providence: public/private venue for music, art, film screenings, weddings, showers, etc. RHODYWOOD@yahoo.com; 359-0192. Club Body Center: Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24hr. 257 Weybosset Street, Providence. 274-0298. www.cbcresorts.com. The Dark Lady: Downtown bar and nightclub. TuesdayThursday 9pm-1am, Friday & Saturday 9pm-3am, Sunday 9pm1am. 17 Snow Street, Providence. 272-6369. EGO: Providence’s newest gay nightlife performance/event space. Sunday and Thursday 9pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 10pm-3am, 73 Richmond St, Providence. 383-1208. www.egopvd.com. Mirabar: Downtown bar and nightclub. Monday-Thursday 3pm-1am, Friday and Saturday 3pm-2am, Sunday 3pm-1am. 15 Elbow Street, Providence. 331-6761. www.mirabar.com. Providence Eagle: Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. MondayThursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday-Sunday 12pm2am. 124 Snow Street, Providence. 421-1447. The Stable: Downtown video bar. No cover. Monday-Thursday 2pm-1am, Friday 2pm-2am, Saturday 12pm-2am, Sunday 12pm1am. 125 Washington Street, Providence. 272-6950.

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National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: Works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues. info@ nlgja.org, www.nlgja.org. The Next Thing (TNT): Political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. 863-3062. tnt@ brown.edu. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: Hate crime awareness training program. www.hatecrimeri.org. RI Socialist Action: 952-5385, adgagneri@gmail.com. Spanish: 351-3514, walsil@cox.net. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations, and credit. 180 Westminster Street, 3rd floor, Providence. 222-2662 TTY: 222-2664, richr.ri.gov. Scouts for Equality: An organization composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. Contact Carol Crowther. ccrowther1@ gmail.com. Facebook.com/riscoutsforequality. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Serving LGBT military personnel and veterans. PO Box 65301, Washington DC. (202) 328-3244. or (800) 538-7418. sldn@sldn.org. www.sldn.org.

RELIGIOUS & SPIRITUAL

All Saints Memorial Church: 674 Westminster Street, Providence. 751-1747. asmcri@verizon.net. www.allsaintsmemorial.org. Amicable Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Pastor William Sterrett. Sunday 10am. 3736 Main Road, Tiverton. 624-4611. amicablechurch@aol.com, www.amicablechurch.org. Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists: robin@awab.org, www.awab.org. Barrington Congregational Church: UCC. “The white church.” Sundays 10am. 461 County Road, Barrington. 246-0111. office@bccucc.org, www.bccucc.org. Bell Street Chapel: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 5 Bell Street, Providence. 273-5678. www.bellstreetchapel.org. Beneficent Congregational Church: UCC.An Open & Affirming congregation in the heart of Providence. Sundays 10am. 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. 331-9844. BeneficentChurchUCC@ gmail.com, www.beneficentchurch.org. Berean Baptist Church: A safe and welcoming place for all God’s children. Sunday 10am. 474 Chapel Street, Harrisville. 568-5411. bereanbaptist@verizon.net. www.bereanri.net Calvary United Methodist Church of Middletown: LGBTQ early dementia support group. Contact Amy. Sundays 10:30am. 200 Turner Road, Middletown. 847-6181, www.middletownmethodist.com. Central Congregational Church: UCC. An Opening & Affirming Congregation. Sundays 10:30am. 296 Angell Street, Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church: Unitarian Universalist. A Welcoming Congregation. Sundays 10am. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. administrator@channingchurch.org. www.channingchurch.org. The Chapel of the Holy Spirit: Independent Old Catholic. Fr. Jakob Lazarus. Sunday 9am and 6pm. 155 Douglas Avenue, Providence. 413-4821. www.holyparaclete.org. Chapel Street Congregational Church UCC: Open & Affirming.

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185 Chapel St., Lincoln, RI. 722-7934. www.chapelstreetucc.com. Charter Oak Grove ADF: An Open and Welcoming Congregation of Neo-pagan Druids in CT. charteroakadf@gmail.com, www.charteroakadf.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale: 1643 Lonsdale Avenue, Lincoln. Services 8am and 10:30am.725-1920.office@christchurchlincoln.org. www.christchurchlincoln.org. Church of the Ascension, 390 Pontiac Ave., Cranston, RI 02910. Sundays at 10am. 461-5811. www.ascensioncranston.org. Church of the Epiphany: A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. 1336 Pawtucket Avenue, East Providence. 434-5012. info@epiphanyep.org, www.epiphanyep.org. Church of the Redeemer, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 655 Hope St., Providence. www.redeemerprovidence.org. office@ redeemerprovidence.org. Rev. Patrick Campbell, 331-0678. Concordia Center for Spiritual Living: A diverse community welcoming all spiritual paths to God. Sunday Celebration 9:15am. 292 W. Shore Rd., Warwick. Rev. Ian Taylor, 732-1552. info@concordiachurchri.com. www.ConcordiaCSL.com. Edgewood Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Service 10am. 1788 Broad Street, Cranston. 461-1344. office@edgewoodchurchri.org. www.edgewoodchurchri.org. Emmanuel Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland. 658-1506. office@emmanuelri.org. www.emmanuelri.org. First Unitarian Church: A welcoming congregation. Sunday 10:30am. 1 Benevolent Street, Providence. 421-7970. admin@firstunitarianprov.org, www.firstunitarianprov.org. First Unitarian Church: Service 11am. 71 8th Street, New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-9686. admin@uunewbedford.org, www.uunewbedford.org. First Universalist Society: UU. Welcoming congregation. Samegender weddings. 262 Chestnut Street, Franklin, MA. (508) 5285348. fusf@verizon.net, www.fusf.org. Foxboro Universalist Church: UUA. Service 10am. 6 Bird Street, Foxboro, MA. 508-543-4002. chair@uufoxborough.org. www. uufoxborough.org. Grace Episcopal Church in Providence: 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. hello@gracechurchprovidence.org. www. gracechurchprovidence.org. Hopedale Unitarian Parish: Sundays 10:30 am. 65 Hopedale St., Hopedale, MA. www.hopedaleunitarian.org, 508-473-0745. Rev. Tony Lorenzen. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation. Pastor Sandra Demmler D’Amico. 647 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2898. www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing Memorial UU Church: Organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons, and their allies, confronting oppression. 135 Pelham Street, Newport. 846-0643. Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd: A “Reconciling in Christ” congregation (Welcoming). 3383 Old North Rd., Kingston, RI. Sundays 9 am. Pastor Mary Hansen-Joyce. 789-7776; office@ goodshepherdri.org Mathewson St. Church: United Methodist. 134 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-8900. MathewsonStUMC@gmail.com. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. mercycomm@yahoo.com, www.mgc.org. Murray Unitarian Universalist Church: Marriage and commitment ceremonies for all. Rev. Bob McKetchnie. 505 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org.

Newman Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Avenue, Rumford. 434-4742. www.newmanucc.org. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Open & Affirming. Rev. Hayes and Rev. Baker. 73 Pelham Street, Newport. 849-2238. Park Place Congregational Church: 71 Park Place, Pawtucket. 726-2800. office@ppucc.necoxmail.com, www.parkplaceucc.com. Pilgrim Lutheran Church: An inclusive congregation. Sundays 8 and 9:30am. 1817 Warwick Avenue, Warwick. 739-2937. parishasst@pilgrimlutheranri.org, pilgrimlutheranri.jimdo.com. Pilgrim United Church of Christ: Open and Affirming. 635 Purchase Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)-997-9086. Providence Presbyterian Church: 500 Hope St., Providence. Service 10 am. 861-1136. www.provpresri.org. provpresri@ verizon.net. The Pub Church: An Open & Affirming church that meets in a pub. Location may change. Saturday 5pm. The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA. thepubchurch@gmail.com. Riverside Church: UCC.15 Oak Avenue, Riverside. Service 10am. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com. St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 15 Lower College Road, Kingston. 783-2153. Sundays 8am and 10am. StAugustinesChurch@necoxmail.com, www.staugustineuri.org. St. James Church: Episcopal. 474 Fruit Hill Avenue, North Providence. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 8 and 10am. 50 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 751-2141. StMartinsNB.Secretary@gmail.com, www.stmartinsprov.org. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: Welcoming Church. Monthly LGBT Eucharist. 136 Rivet Street, New Bedford, MA. (508)9948972. stmartins1887@comcast.com, www.stmartinsma.org. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church: Sundays 9am. 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. office@stpaulspawtucket.org, www.stpaulspawtucket.org. St. Paul’s Church: A welcoming Episcopal church. Sundays 9am. 2679 East Main Street, Portsmouth. 683-1164. stpaulsportsmouthri. org. St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Avenue, Providence. 272-9649.stpanda25@verizon.net. www.stpeters-standrews.org. Saint Therese Old Catholic Church: Open & Affirming. Fr. David Martins. Sunday 10:30am. 1500 Main St., W. Warwick, RI 02893. 680-9076. stocc134@gmail.com, www.saintthereseocc.org. Second Congregational Church of Attleboro: UCC. Open & Affirming. 50 Park Street, Attleboro, MA. Sunday 10am. (508) 2224677. office2nd@verizon.net. www.attleborosecondchurch.org. Seekonk Congregational Church: Open & Affirming. Sundays 9 and 10:30am. Rev. Joy Utter, 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. (508) 336-9355. sccucc@verizon.net. www.scc-ucc.com. Soka Gakkai: Buddhist association for peace, culture, and education. Contact for weekly meetings in Providence. 930 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston. (617) 264-2000. www.sgi-usa.org. Temple Agudas Achim: Reconstructionist congregation. 901 North Main Street, Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243. office@agudasma.org, www.agudasma.org. Temple Beth-El: Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Avenue, Providence. 331-6070. info@temple-beth-el.org, www.temple-beth-el.org.

Temple Emanu-El: A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin. 99 Taft Avenue, Providence. 331-1616. info@teprov.org, www.teprov.org. Temple Habonim: A warm, Welcoming Reform congregation. Rabbi Andrew Klein. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. 2456536. office@templehabonim.org, www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform temple. Rabbi Jeff Goldwasser, 30 Hagen Avenue, Cranston. 942-8350. webmaster@templesinairi.org, www.templesinairi.org. Unitarian Church in Fall River: Sunday 10:30am. 309 North Main Street, Fall River, MA. 508-678-9700. office@unitarianchurchfr.org, www.unitarianchurchfr.org. Unitarian Universalist Society of Fairhaven: Service 10:30am. 102 Green Street, Fairhaven, MA. (508) 992-7081. www.uufairhaven. org. Unitarian Universalist Congregation of South County: 27 North Road, Peace Dale. 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. uucscri@ yahoo.com. www.uusouthcountyri.org. United Congregational Church, 524 Valley Rd., Middletown RI 02842. A Welcoming congregation. Sunday, 10 am. www.UCCMiddletown.org. 849-5444. Westminster Unitarian Universalist Church: A UUA Welcoming Congregation. 119 Kenyon Avenue, East Greenwich. 884-5933. www.westminsteruu.org.

SOCIAL ORGANIZATIONS Bisexual Resource Center: PO Box 170796, Boston, MA. (617) 4249595. brc@bicresource.net www.biresource.net. Biversity Boston: Mixed-gender social events for Boston and the surrounding area. (617) 424-9595. biversity-subscribe@biversity.org, www.biversity.org. Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman Quarterly.” www.biwomenboston.org. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGSYA): 56 Barnstable Road, Hyannis, MA. (508) 778-7744. info@cisgsya.org, www.cigsya.org. Communisong: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.communisong.net. Gay Men’s Social Group: FirstTuesdays,6 -- 9pm,Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Refreshments. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or lamaral@sevenhills.org. Imperial Court of RI at Providence: Drag and non-drag performers raise funds for local charities. All welcome to general membership meetings on first Monday at Dark Lady, 17 Snow Street, Providence. icri.prov@gmail.com. www.icriprov.org. Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more. Monthly meetings, all welcome. Mixedborders@cox.net. www.mixedborders.com. Opera Club: Enjoy hearing and attending. Last Sunday of each month at 1pm. BrettCornellpi4@aol.com. Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and non-singing volunteers welcome. Monday 7-9:30pm. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset Street, Providence. www.provgmc.org. Queer Book Club: 3rd Wednesday, 7pm. Books on the Square, 471 Angell Street, Providence, queerbookclub@gmail.com.

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RI Association of Gay Professionals: Networking and philanthropy. www.riagp.com. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie. 464-2288. saphicangel120@yahoo.com. RI Pride: Open house 4th Wednesdays. Festival & Parade 3rd Saturday in June. Office: 1055 Westminster St., Providence 02903. Mail: PO Box 1082, Providence, 02903. 467-2130. info@prideri.com, www.prideri.com. RI Prime Timers: Social and networking group for older gay and bi men. Second Sunday. Call Steve, 996-3010. www.riprimetimers.org. RI Skeptics Society: Yearning to talk with someone rational? Refreshing discussion. Fourth Saturday. East Providence restaurant location. www. meetup.com/skeptics-133/. RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group. 21+. Dances & events. www.riwa.net SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders): Advocacy, education and social events for LGBT seniors. SAGE-RI at CareLink, 1 Virginia Ave., Providence, RI 02905. 443-4451. sageriinfo@gmail.com. www.sage-ri.org. SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of southeastern MA & RI to foster strong friendships. Semassmen-subscribe@ yahoogroups.com. rlevass@yahoo.com. Smart Monkey Gay Men’s Support Group. Meets twice monthly in Cranston to learn about integrity, intimacy and male roles. Write Paul (ctripaul@yahoo.com) or Steve (43dadzone@gmail.com). South Coast Social Club for Gay & Bisexual Men: Social and networking opportunities for gay & bisexual men in S.E. Mass. www. southeastsocialclub.com. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for GLBT vintage and specialty car enthusiasts. www.yankeelcc.com.

SPORTS & RECREATION PrideSports Boston: Network of twenty-plus gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area. www.pridesportsboston.com. Boston Gay BASKETBALL League: ksg.bgbl@gmail.com, www.bgbl.com. BOATING: Yankee Cruising Club, New England’s club for LGBTQ boaters. www.yankeecruising.org. yankeecruisingclub@ gmail.com. Keith (508) 423-6123. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin BOWLING League: Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Tuesday 6:30pm. 1463 Atwood Avenue, Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. Contact Frank Ferri. 831-6940.www. bgalbowling.com. www.townhalllanes.com. FIELD HOCKEY: Teamworks Somerset, 732 Lee’s River Ave., Somerset, MA. New season every 10 weeks. (508-676-3956) info@teamworkssomerset.com GALA Bowling League: Sundays 5:50 p.m., E. Providence Lanes, 80 Newport Ave., E. Providence. Season begins in Aug. View us on Facebook or email galabowling1990@gmail.com. FLAG (For Lesbians And Gays) FOOTBALL: Bostonbased recreational football club. All skill levels are encouraged to participate. Saturday mornings in the fall and spring. www. flagflagfootball.com. Boston Pride HOCKEY: www.bostonpridehockey.org. Rondeaus KICKBOXING: 272-5425. www. rondeauskickboxing.com.

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Main Street MARTIAL ARTS: Non-profit. Welcoming dojo and community center. 1282 North Main Street, Providence. 274-7672.www.mainstma.org. Chiltern Mountain Club: OUTDOOR recreation club in New England. events@chiltern.org. www.chiltern.org. Boston Gay ROWERS: Worldwide online community for gay and lesbian rowers, coxies, coaches, and race officials. www.glrf.org. Boston Ironsides RUGBY Football: www.bostonironsides.org. Providence Women’s RUGBY Club: Competitive and recreational. www.providencerugby.com Frontrunners Rhode Island RUNNING Group: Running and walking group. Newcomers welcome. Meet at the end of Blackstone Boulevard at Hope Street, Providence. Thursday 6pm. Contact Brian. 751-7643. bripm@cox.net, frontrunnersri@ gmail.com Frontrunners Boston RUNNING Group: Morning walk/ run along the Charles River. Saturdays,10am. Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Avenue, Boston, MA. www.frontrunnersboston.org. OutRyders SKIING: New England’s largest gay and lesbian ski and snowboard club. www.outryders.org. Boston Strikers SOCCER Club: Non-profit social organization to learn and improve soccer skills in a relaxed, congenial environment. www.bostonstrikers.com. Renaissance City SOFTBALL League: New players and boosters always welcome. www.providencesoftball.org. Beantown SOFTBALL League: Friendly competition. 27 teams in four divisions of play: competitive, intermediate, and recreational. (617) 297-7490. www.beantownsoftball.com. LANES (Liquid Assets New England SWIMMING): Fitness and/or competition. (617) 937-5858. www.swim-lanes.org. TENNIS-4-All: Boston area tennis organization. www. tennis4all.org. Cambridge Boston VOLLEYBALL Association: Players of all skill levels welcome. secretary@cbvolleyball.net www.gayvolleyball.net. Ocean State Pride VOLLEYBALL League: Adult coed indoor league following USVBA rules. No try-outs. Fee applies. Kent County YMCA, 900 Centerville Road, Warwick. ospvolleyball@gmail.com. East Coast WRESTLING Club: (617)937.5858 x6. ecwc@juno.com. www.eastcoastwrestlingclub.org.

STUDENTS & YOUTH Bristol Community College The Lambda Connection: (TLC@ BCC) Robert Delaleu, Advisor; BCC-G118, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA (774)357-4056. Brown University Queer Alliance: Umbrella organization at Brown University for LGBTQ groups. 863-3062. queer@brown.edu or lgbtq@brown.edu. CCRI Gender Equity Initiative: SafeZone & Trans* 101 training. Support, info for LGBTQ people and allies. www.ccri.edu/genderequity. CCRI Triangle Alliance: an LGBTQQ student-run group at CCRI, on the Flanagan, Liston, and Knight campuses. www.ccri.edu/triangle/. Home to Hope: Support for housing-insecure LGBT youth 13 -- 24. Crisis intervention, medical and other services. At YPI (743 Westminster St., Prov.) and Mathewson St. Church (134 Mathewson St., Prov.) varying days and times. For info/appointments: ayanna@ rihomeless.org or 484-7720. LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743. Private one-to-one chat and info on local resources.

Peer Listening Line: Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth. Support, info and referrals. 5-10pm. Fenway Community Health Center, Boston, MA. (617) 267-9001 or (800) 399-PEER. www.fenwayhealth.org. Queer & Trans Thursdays: 6-8pm. Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalition-building and organize to address intersections of oppressions. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm.us. 383-7450. Rhode Island College LGBTQ+ Office: works towards inclusion of gender, gender identity/expression and sexual orientation in all appropriate aspects of campus life. 401-456-9033 www.ric.edu/lgbtq Salve Regina University – The Alliance: 100 Ochre Point Avenue, Newport. Contact: Benjamin Mead, benjamin.mead@salve.edu S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Square, Providence. 865-1631. shepard@providence.edu. The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth. Also offers social networks. (866)4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). thetrevorproject.org. University of RI LGBTIQ2: Alumni association. 874-5808. gsimonelli@uri.edu. URI LGBTQ Center: A cultural department for students, faculty and staff. Florence Badejo. 874-2894. Youth Pride Inc.: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13--23. Tues. -- Fri. 2 -- 8pm. The Way Out peer support group Thurs. 4pm. Gender Spectrum support group Tues. 4pm. Visit our website for full calendar of events. 743 Westminster St., Providence. 421-5626. info@youthprideri.org. www.youthprideri.org.

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Abuse Victims and Survivors: Support on phone for LGBTQ victims & survivors of partner abuse. Confidential peer-led groups. Hotline: (617) 742-4911. TTY: (617) 227-4911. advocate@tnlr.org. Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help. Jewish Family Service, 959 North Main Street, Providence. Contact Betsy Alper. 3315437. www.adoptionoptions.org. Blackstone Valley Advocacy Center: Offering resources for victims of domestic violence. 723-3057. www.bvadvocacycenter.org. Child & Family Services: Counseling, young parent support, adoption, more. LGBT groups beginning July. Open six days. 66 Troy St., Fall River, MA. (508) 676-5708. www.childfamilyservices.org Community Care Alliance: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 235-6095. www.famresri.org. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group. Boston first Thursday 7-9pm. compassftm@gmail.com. www.compassftm.org. Crossroads RI Hotline: (800) 367-2700. Day One: Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/ abuse & incest. 24hr hotline. (800) 494-8100. 421-4100. www.dayoneri.org. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling relationships. 24hr free and

confidential helpline. 782-3990 or toll free 800-494-8100, www.dvrcsc.org. Family Service of RI: Training, stipend, support provided for nurturing adoptive families. Family Service of RI. Contact Gregary Wright. 331-1350 ext. 3305. www.familyserviceri.org. Foster parents needed: For newborn to age six. 276-4300. www.childrensfriendri.org. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: Support. 738 Main St. #323, Waltham, MA. (781) 333-8429. info@gayfathersboston.org, www.gayfathersboston.org. Gay Men’s HIV+ Social Group: Third Tuesdays, 6 -- 9pm. Refreshments. Seven Hills Behavioral Health, 1177 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford, MA. Info: Lenny Amaral, 508-999-4159 or email lamaral@sevenhills.org. Gay Officers Action League (GOAL)/New England: Law enforcement officers (sworn & civilian), fire, rescue & publicly employed EMS. Confidential. P.O. Box 171587, Boston, MA 02117. www.newenglandgoal.org. On Facebook at NewEnglandGOAL. Gay Share: Coming Out? Gay men’s support group. No fee. Wednesday 7:30pm. Contact Tom or Mike. 369-9448. info@ gayshare.org, www.gayshare.org. LGBT Grief Support: monthly meetings Oct. 10, Nov. 28, Dec. 19, 5:30 -- 7pm at Hope Hospice, 1085 No. Main St., Providence. Center for Hope & Healing (888-528-9077). Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline and social networks for crisis and suicide prevention. 24/7. (866) 4-U-Trevor. HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group: Refreshments served. AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Avenue, Providence. 5213603. New members contact Scott. 640-3108. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: Thurs. eves. in Taunton, MA. Social support for gay, bi, and questioning men from Mass. and RI. Confidential, drug- and alcohol-free. Find us on Facebook and MeetUp. MentalHelp.net: National directory of inpatient treatment options for those with substance abuse problems. www. mentalhelp.net/care/substance-abuse/ri/ Partner Support Group at Fenway Health: A ten-week support group with the purpose of building community and connections for anyone who identifies as non-trans, ages 18+, and is in a relationship with a trans* person(s). 1340 Boylston Street, Boston, MA. Contact Sarah Eley, LICSW. 857-313-6551. seley@fenwayhealth.org. PFLAG (Parents, & Friends of Lesbians & Gays): Attleboro Chapter serves Southeast Mass. Third Wednesday 6:45 p.m., Second Congregational Church, 50 Park St. (side door). email pflagattleboro@gmail.com. Greater Providence Chapter serves all R.I. First Wednesday at 6:45 p.m., Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571. PFLAGprovidence@gmail.com. www. pflagprovidence.org. Project RENEW: Support, employment services, HIV prevention for male and female sex workers. Amos House, 415 Friendship St., Providence. 272-0220. Trans support group meets Thurs. Info: transoutreachpwr@gmail.com.

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Queer & Trans Thursdays: Space for LGBTQ and heterosexual youth (24 and under) of color to foster coalitionbuilding and organize to address intersections of oppressions. 6-8pm. 669 Elmwood Ave., Rm. B7, Providence. www.prysm. us. 383-7450. Rape Crisis Center for S.E. Mass: New Hope, Inc. Advocacy, shelter, services for domestic abuse survivors. Hotline (800) 323-HOPE. Office (508)226-4015. RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 24hr helpline: (800) 494-8100. 467-9940. RI Rainbow Support Group: For people with disabilities who identify as LGBTQ. Last Tuesday. 98 Rolfe Street, Cranston. 6-7:30pm. Contact Ken Renaud. 785-2100. Samaritans: 24hr hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 365-4044. 272-4044 (RI only). www. samaritansri.org. Seven Hills Behavioral Health: HIV Prevention and Screening. 310 South Main Street, Fall River, MA. (508) 235-1012. T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378. Sexual Health Education & Advocacy Program: HIV, sexual wellness, domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential, bilingual (Spanish). No caller ID used. Calls blocked for safety. 861-6191 ext. 121. Sojourner House: Call for confidential support group. Support, shelter, advocacy and information for people in abusive relationships. Including specific LGBT services. No caller ID used. Outgoing calls blocked for safety. 24hr helpline. 765-3232. 861-6191. Office 861-6191. www.sojournerri.org

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St. Mary’s Home for Children: Sexual abuse treatment for children. 450 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Providence. www.smhfc.org. Adam Cable, 353-3900. Straight Spouses: Groups and online support. www. straightspouse.org. TGI Network of RI: Support, advocacy for transgender, transsexual, gender-variant and/or intersex people. Borderlands peer group 1st & 3d Tues. and 1st & 3d Sat. of the month. Location & information: 441-5058. info@tginetwork.org. www. tginetwork.org. Trans* Partners New England: Gives romantic partners of transgender people a confidential, safe space to explore the impact of a loved one’s gender identity on their relationships, and to connect with other loved ones of transgender people. First Wednesday 6:30-8:30pm. Providence. Location unpublished for privacy. partners@tginetwork.org. Trans* Youth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. info@imatyfa.org, www.imatyfa. org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www.tavausa.org. Women’s Resource Center of Newport and Bristol Counties: Offering services to victims of domestic violence. 846-5263. www.wrcnbc.org.

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A SLIMY FELLOW AT THE HELM

Another version of this poem appeared in The Emily Dickinson International Society Bulletin, May/June 2018.

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