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Promoting Understanding Kim Stowell

f seaQuel (Southeast Asian Queers United for Equality and Leadership) could have groomed a program director all the way through his childhood

and college experience, it could not have created a more suitable candidate than the one it just hired. His name is Kevin Lam. From Poughkeepsie (one of two Asian families in town, the other being his cousins), Lam is a first generation American. He majored in Asian studies and theater in college, and he is gay. And smart. “I knew I wanted to work with the Southeast Asian (SEA) community,” he said, adding that Lao was his first language (he learned English in school). He was the President of the Asian Student Association in college, and was a participant in the UniverContinued on page 17

In this issue: 2 Scene Around Providence 5 Op Ed

7 Calendar

3 News Briefs

5 Letters

9 A Conventional Suburban Life

11 The Divine Miss V.J.M.

13 Online Survey Results

14 Church Supper and Drag Show!

15 Voices

16 Rick Harris Rides Again! 19 Dr. Rich Talks about HIV 20 AIDS Community Watch 22 Marriage Equality RI 23 Prov. Gay Men’s Chorus 24 SAGE RI 24 Youth Pride, Inc

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Scene Around Providence We’re so proud of our softball team! They are members of the Renaissance City Softball League, an allgay league that plays from May to October. Catch them and other teams in the Ocean State Classic on Columbus Day weekend. Visit www.providencesoftball.org for more info. Go team OPTIONS!

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News Briefs APRI Seeks Referrals for Gay-Friendly Doctors

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AIDS Project Rhode Island is collecting contact information for “gay-friendly” doctors in Rhode Island. This effort was launched in response to inquiries from APRI clients, and will include primary care practices and physicians who “provide a welcoming and non-judgmental environment,” and “protect the privacy/confidentiality of gay/bisexual clients.” In meeting “gayfriendly” criteria, these doctors will also be aware of the specific health needs and issues of gay/bisexual men. To suggest a doctor, contact bertrandth@ familyserviceri.org with the name, contact information for the practice, and any comments about your experience with the doctor.

Rhode Island Gets Gay The Williams Institute has released a report based on the 2010 U.S. Census that ranks Rhode Island number 14 in population of same-sex couples, and ranks Providence as 11th in similarly sized cities. In Rhode Island, LGBTQ couples number 8.9 of every 1,000 households. Rhode Island lesbians are in the lead, representing 62% of same-sex households, while an overall 19% of couples are raising children. Nationally, census numbers show 22% of more than 900,000 same-sex couples are raising children. Not surprisingly, Provincetown’s gay and lesbian households make it number one in cities with a population under 100,000.

In August, the Public Religion Research Institute released the findings of a survey of millennials concerning the rights of LGBTQ individuals and families. The results showed an unmistakable generation gap in terms of feelings about LGBTQ equality. The poll compared millennials (aged 18-29), the general public, and seniors aged 65+, and

Marriage Equality on the Ballot in NC showed a 20-point gap between millennials Rep. Baldwin and seniors on every LGBTQ-related public policy issue. forty-nine percent of Republican millennials support marriage equality, as do 44% of Evangelical millennials. Overall, 62% of this demographic favor marriage equality, 69% support adoption by same-sex couples, and 79% support legislation preventing employment discrimination against LGBTQ individuals. This is a striking comparison to the 31% of seniors who support marriage equality, and 36% who support same-sex couples adopting children. It should be noted that the Public Religion Research Institute’s poll is in line with other recent polls showing a significant five-year increase in public support for marriage equality.

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win will run for the US Senate in the 2012 elections. Baldwin, a seven-term Congresswoman, will run for the seat being vacated by retiring Senator Herb Kohl. If elected, Baldwin would become the first openly gay U.S. Senator in the nation’s history. Baldwin is no stranger to blazing trails -- she is the only openly gay female in the House of Representatives. She was also co-founder of the House’s LGBT Equality Caucus, which focuses on addressing issues of LGBT equality and discriminatory laws.

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On September 13th, the North Carolina State Senate voted to allow a referendum on marriage equality that will be put on the ballot in May 2012. The Senate passed the measure by a 30-16 vote, just one day after it was passed by the House of Representatives by a 75-42 margin. This means that North Carolina voters will have the opportunity to amend the state constitution to define marriage as one man and one woman. NC law already limits marriage to one man and one woman, but putting the issue to a ballot question ensures no possibility of gubernatorial veto. The original bill text stipulated a November 2012 referendum, which would provide the high voter turnout of a presidential election, while the May 2012 referendum will be held on the same date as the Republican primary. Local and national marriage equality and LGBTQ-advocacy groups are already organizing in North Carolina to ensure that this discriminatory measure does not pass. q

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Queer Headquarters! I am proud to say I’ve been part of an effort over the last six months or so to create a community center for LGBT Rhode Islanders. (We’ve been calling it QHQ – get it?) In talking it up with LGBT community leaders, everyone has been cheering us on. Not only that, but everyone who was approached to serve on an incorporating committee agreed without hesitation to be a part of it. It seemed the timing was right. The next step was to survey the community to see if they agreed, and wow! Talk about validation! The enthusiasm was just bursting off the page, and it was very encouraging to see how many people indicated preferences that were right in line with what we’d been thinking. (You can read a report on the survey on page 13.) To reassure those who remember the last attempt to create such a space, which failed because of the dishonesty of one individual, please know that we are a seasoned group proceeding slowly, transparently and thoughtfully. So far we have a working statement of mission and vision, as follows: Mission: To build and support the RI LGBT community by providing a visible, safe, inclusive, welcoming shared space.

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Letters To the Editor, I want to share a terrifying event that happened to me in hopes that other members of the LGBTQ community will be cautious and aware of the people around them, even at a place that seems comfortable and “safe.” On a recent Sunday night at 11:15, I went out to a local gay bar to relax and have a good time. At some point in the evening, one of the patrons slipped an as-yet-unidentified drug into my drink. While at the bar for an hour, I consumed two cocktails, but I have no recollection whatsoever of the 13 hours that followed.

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I hope that people will hear my story and remember to exercise extreme caution at all times in public areas, even in a “safe” place that you know well. Allowing your drink out of your sight for even one minute can cause irreparable physical and mental damage, and severely jeopardize your personal safety. Chris Bergeron Providence, RI

To the Editor,

This past summer, after 17 years at the University of Rhode Island, Andrew WinAt 1:15 p.m. on the following day, I ters left the university. Originally employed awoke in my bed at home - I was naked and by the Office of Residential Life, he was covered with cuts and bruises. I checked my appointed in 2001 as the first Assistant to wallet and found two receipts, one from anthe Vice President for Student Affairs, Gay, other establishment downtown that I have Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Programs no recollection of being at, and another and Services. Throughout his time at URI, from an ATM with a timestamp of 1:17 a.m. Andrew devised wide-ranging programs for I did not find my ATM addressing GLBT dycard, or any of the cash namics in a university I’d had earlier. I checked setting. I have known Please send letters to: my email to see if that Andrew for 15 years, editor@optionsri.org would help me figure primarily through work out what happened, and or on committees planning I found a message from the yearly URI GLBT P.O. Box 6406, my bank about suspiSymposium. In this letProvidence, RI 02940 cious activity with my ter I would like to pubaccount. The person licly acknowledge some who drugged me and of his contributions. compromised my ability Over the years, Andrew worked with to make conscious informed decisions had many others to organize, on a minuscule also used my ATM card to steal $2,896. budget, exciting conferences that have inI reported the incident to the police and cluded researchers, educators, artists, politiit is still under investigation. I also visited cians, authors, activists and journalists. The the emergency room because I was not sure GLBT Symposium series is one of the lonwhether I was sexually assaulted during the gest running gay-oriented university sympo13 missing hours. I was lucky - my STD tests siums in the country. 2011 marked the 17th came back negative, and my cuts and bruisconsecutive year it was offered on campus. es are beginning to heal, but this does not Symposium contributors over the years have change how this experience has affected me. included: then Providence Mayor David I know firsthand how dangerous people can Cicilline; Rep. Barney Frank (D-MA); Beth be, and I know to keep my guard up at all LaFreda, English Professor and author of times when I’m in any kind of public social Continued on next page situation.

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Chaz Bono is on Dancing with the Stars (DWTS) and I am so excited! It is a brave and much-needed step forward in our country’s dialogue around transgender issues, which include lack of legal protections, rampant discrimination, and inadequate access to health care. We need to talk about this, to understand its very real impact on people we know and love. We need to recognize the struggle of so many of our sisters and brothers. We need to guide the conversation and ensure that we are all ambassadors for those who fear that they cannot safely speak for themselves. All too often, gender identity is misunderstood, even by gays and lesbians in an already marginalized community. It is my sincere hope that Chaz Bono will remind us that the “T” in “LGBTQ” is part and parcel of our collective experience. Chaz Bono is on DWTS and I am apprehensive. I worry about the horrible, hateful, ignorant things that people will say -- in public, in private, on radio stations like WPRO-FM, on media outlets like Fox News (currently telling Americans that if their children watch this season of DWTS, it will irrevocably damage their fragile minds.) I worry that children who know that they are in a body that fundamentally does not fit and who need a positive transgender model will hear these awful words that will cause them unnecessary pain and anguish. But mostly I hope. I hope that this will be a time of unity for our community. I hope that people will speak up at the water cooler, in the lunchroom, or anywhere else they hear derogatory language about transgender individuals. And if you don’t know what to say, I hope you will contact the TGI Network, Rhode Island’s only transgender advocacy and support organization, at info@tginetwork.org. Ask them how you can be a part of positive change, and raise your voice. Emma Garrett Nelson

Continued from previous page “Losing Matt Shepard;” actor Calvin Levels, in “James Baldwin: Down from the Mountaintop” (Tony Award-nominated original solo play); Providence Gay Men’s Chorus; Anthropology Professor Brian Gilley, author of “Becoming Two Spirited: Coming Out in Indian Country.” (Options has participated in this conference several times too. – Ed.) Andrew took the lead in arranging for an elaborate traveling exhibit depicting the experiences of homosexuals in Germany called Nazi Persecution of Homosexuals, 19331945, organized by the U.S Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, DC. The exhibit, which filled the URI Fine Arts Gallery for six weeks, opened with a lecture by the Holocaust Museum’s national curator. It was visited by students on class assignments and others beyond the campus and state. URI was one of only three New England universities to host this important exhibit. Another national touring program, The Call to Duty, was made up of seven gay and

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lesbian veterans of the Iraq war, many of whom had been discharged under the military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy. The veterans told a rapt audience about the difficulties they faced trying to serve their country while being forced to hide their sexual orientation. The URI appearance came right after the group’s inaugural presentation at Harvard. On a daily basis, Andrew created a sense of community and hospitable campus environment for GLBT individuals. He developed a welcoming GLBT Center where students could drop in and where meetings, weekly conversation groups, gay-oriented film series and other activities could be held. Through the Center, Andrew extended himself as a resource and advocate for all aspects of gay life. Recognition of Andrew’s accomplishments has come in the positive change in the national reputation of URI in terms of campus climate for GLBT students. Early on, in two consecutive issues of the Princeton Review, URI was rated one of the most ho-

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mophobic campuses of those evaluated. In recent years this characterization has disappeared altogether. In the last two years, The Advocate magazine listed URI as one of the 100 most GLBT-affirming campuses in the country. Andrew was deeply attuned to the multiple issues surrounding gay lives both on and off campus. The scope of his campus work included counseling individual GLBT students, informing university policy, educating the campus about GLBT topics, and trouble-shooting cases of apparent discrimination. He was instrumental in establishing a solid foundation of respect and dignity for GLBT issues, carrying out his many complex tasks with a praiseworthy degree of good humor and commitment. URI is a better place for GLBT students and others because of Andrew’s pioneering work. Al Lott URI Emeritus Professor of Psychology Kingston

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AIDS Project RI “Walk for Life,” 9 a.m at the State House.

PFLAG of Greater Providence, 6:45 p.m. The MET School Justice Building, 325 Public St., Providence. www. pflagprovidence.org or call 751-7571 or e-mail pflagprovidence@verizon.net for more information.

Gay Men’s Meditation Group, 7 p.m. 120 Wayland Ave., Suite 4B, Providence. 4312953. Fee applies.

RI Prime Timers – A club to aid and support the aging gay and bisexual man. Social from 4:30-5 p.m., dinner and meeting from 5-7 p.m. $20 per person. See www.riprimetimers.org.

“Coming Out as a Way of Life,” 7 p.m. RI Pride, 1005 Main St. Pawtucket.

14 COMPASS meeting. New England area female-to-male (FTM) trans support, information and social group. For more information e-mail compassftm@comcast. net. 14 SAGE/RI & YPI Present: An Evening OUT, 6-9 p.m. Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Open mic and potluck dinner. This event is free, but donations are welcome. For more information call Kerri at 421-5626. 19

Queer Book Club, 7 p.m. Books on The Square, 241 Angell St., Providence. A discount is available if the book selection is purchased at Books on the Square. For more information and book selection, e-mail queerbookclub@gmail.com.

20 Rocky Horror Gay Bingo. The Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Ave., Cranston. Doors open at 6 p.m. Bingo starts at 7 p.m. sharp! $20 for all games. For more information or to be a sponsor, contact Stephen Hartley at 521-3603 or stephenh@aidscareos.org. 21 AIDS Care Ocean State’s 15th Annual Art Beat Auction. The Grand Ballroom of the Providence Biltmore Hotel, 11 Dorrance St., Providence. 6:30 - 9:30. For more information, tickets, or to contribute art, please contact either Kalene Brennan or Stephen Hartley at 521-3603. 21 Becky Chase, 9 p.m. The Oakhill Tavern, 565 Tower Hill Rd., North Kingstown. 22 Becky Chase, 9 p.m. Girlspot at Club X, 681 Valley St., Providence. $7 cover.

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23 Providence Gay Men’s Chorus’ Cabaret: “Glimmer & Glow” at Aspire in the Hotel Providence, 139 Matthewson St., Providence. 4 p.m.

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Church Supper and Drag Show, 6 p.m. St. Peter and St Andrew Church Parish Hall, Pemberton St., Providence. $12. Call church: 272-9649.

10 YPI Annual Event/Fundraiser: “Stepping Up, Stepping Out,” 6:30-11 p.m. The Biltmore Hotel, Providence. Cocktails, dinner, dancing, award presentations, and a silent auction. YPI is honored to be presenting awards to the following: Founders Award: Ken Fish; Lipsky/ Whittaker Award: Options Newsmagazine;

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10 Ani DiFranco and Melissa Ferrick at the Wilbur Theatre, 248 Tremont St., Boston. See www.ticketmaster.com for more information and tickets. 11 COMPASS meeting. New England area female-to-male (FTM) trans support, information and social group. For more information e-mail compassftm@comcast. net. 13 RI Prime Timers – A club to aid and support the aging gay and bisexual man. Social from 4:30-5 p.m., dinner and meeting from 5-7 p.m. $20 per person. See www.riprimetimers.org. 16 Queer Book Club, 7 p.m. Books on The Square, 241 Angell St., Providence. A discount is available if the book selection is purchased at Books on the Square. For more information and book selection, e-mail queerbookclub@gmail.com. 17

Brokeback Mountain Gay Bingo. The Riviera Bingo Palace, 1612 Elmwood Ave., Cranston. Doors open at 6 p.m. Bingo starts at 7 p.m. sharp! $20 for all games. For more information or to be a sponsor, contact Stephen Hartley at 521-3603 or stephenh@aidscareos.org. q

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Leading a Conventional Suburban Life: Ron Margolin and Lynn McKinney Kim Stowell

I met with Lynn McKinney and Ron Margolin after reading a wonderful article about them in the South County Independent. I was so proud of them – and of the writer, Liz Boardman – for how well they had represented themselves and our community. It occurred to me that they might be willing to expand on their message specifically for our readers. They readily consented. It was difficult to know what to ask them at first, as the previous article had already covered so many bases. Primarily focused on the couple’s plans to get a civil union, it talked about their reasons for wanting to do so. Margolin was quoted as saying that they “always liked a good party,” but they also wanted to thank Governor Lincoln Chafee for his support of same-gender couples, and to send a message to young people. This was my launching point: I asked them to talk about that message.

with this stereotype that moved them to make a public statement in 1979, when they held a commitment ceremony (they are convinced that they invented this phrase). “Ron and I clearly wanted the same thing,” says McKinney with a smile, “and that was to be a stable couple.” They wanted the world to know they were making a commitment to each other, and they wanted to be “respected as a couple and not just sex playmates any longer.”

“This is an important point,” said Margolin. “We had no protection. There were no laws, no recourse if you were fired for being gay, or denied rights or whatever. Our ceremony had no significance other than what we brought to it.” Margolin continued to be seen as a potential suitor for the single ladies in the office, and his moving in with McKinney was often seen more as an act of kindness -- that he was helping his friend cope with a divorce – than a loving couple sharing a home.

Things have changed, they began. When they first met, in the late 1970s, the world was a very different place if you were gay. “Everyone just thought all gays were hairdressers or decorators,” said Margolin (who is Vice President for International Advancement at Brown University), “and the New York Times wouldn’t even print the word ‘gay.’ Coming out was an act of bravery.”

I asked the two about the pivotal moments in their lives as gay men, and they talked about the forming of a networking group for gay men in Rhode Island in the early 1980s. They were surprised by the numbers who would come to their meetings and events. “As many as 150 or more gay men would show up!” said Margolin. They also remembered trying to open the group to lesbians, who were even more closeted than the men. “There was such a level of mistrust,” he said. “It was sad. They wouldn’t even allow their last

This was especially true for McKinney; when they began dating, he risked losing custody of his two children, and so they kept their relationship quiet for a long time. But the two fell in love and, getting tired of the secretiveness, they slowly became more open about it. Still, it was the time of flower children, and it was before HIV was on anybody’s radar screen. There was an air of sexual freedom, and exclusivity was not a term associated with gay couples. It was frustration

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The event pushed buttons for some, as did their moving in together, and again they put themselves at risk. Margolin had been told to hide his orientation in his new position at the University of Rhode Island (where McKinney still works, as URI’s Dean of Health and Human Services); so having a ceremony in URI’s back yard of Kingston was bold, to say the least. “We were so nervous,” remembers McKinney, “We were very aware that this could have ruined Ron’s career. It took us a long time, and a few stiff drinks, before we began the ceremony.” A friend (who had no official status or affiliation beyond being a fellow URI professor) performed the ceremony.

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names to be used.” Margolin also mentioned the disclosure by actor Rock Hudson, an icon of manliness, that he had AIDS. “I think that was the beginning of gay life coming out into the open. It really called people’s conceptions about AIDS and about gay people into question.” Next, they spoke of the establishment of the Richard Katzoff Collection at Brown University’s John Hay Library, a collection of gay and lesbian literature in which both men have played instrumental roles. They are both proud and humble about the work they have done on behalf of the gay community, seeming to feel it a natural part of being a member of a community.

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Coming back to the present, I asked the couple why they are choosing to have a civil union. “We wanted to make a statement. Plus, it’s a little tax break,” sighed McKinney, who then produced a draft of their invitation, complete with the following poem: “Dulce et defcorum est desipere in loco” It is delightful on occasion to have some fun! So now in RI, it’s unions, civil; a bit of a tax break, so we won’t quibble. For thirty-two years we’ve been happily bedded; Please come be our guests when we get almost wedded! -- W. Lynn McKinney

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“So,” I asked them, “You say so much has changed. Are we there yet?” Both men shook their heads. “No,” said McKinney. “The kind of change we really need is going to take the passing of a generation.” Still, they say, the publishing of the article in the Independent gave them some insight into the way things have changed. “We were walking out of Crazy Burger the other night, and a man we don’t know who was jogging by yelled out, ‘Congratulations, men!’” The two met with similar greetings everywhere they went, the dry cleaners, the liquor store. They even told of someone who told them he took the article home to show his son. “It was an outpouring,” said Margolin. McKinney talked at length about his hope for future generations, echoing the words of so many: “It does get better,” he said assertively. “What Ron and I have is solid and dependable – everyone, gay and straight, sees us as the most stable couple they know. We have created a family, and we have gone after our dreams in the face of challenges.

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“And I know people talk about how the young people don’t understand what others gave up in years past,” he continued. “I was born during World War II, and I don’t appreciate what people gave up then. I want LGBT youth to learn gay history, to learn how tough it was (and continues to be) for so many. But in general they don’t, and we shouldn’t spend too much time hammering the kids because they don’t know gay history. They have a lot they are dealing with every day.” What they both reiterated was the importance of creating a family of one’s own, of walking away from negatives, and of finding ways to overcome obstacles and risks. Clearly, these two have accomplished these very goals, setting a wonderful example of bravely living what they called their “conventional suburban lives.” The couple plans to hold their civil union ceremony in early November. q

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Varla Jean Merman? A nun?! Yes! Kinda. She’s starring in the Speakeasy Stage Company’s production of Charles Busch’s The Divine Sister. This time Busch takes on the entire nun movie genre. There was the nun who could fly, and there was a real “singing nun.” The Sound of Music was about an almost nun. They were everywhere and some of us – above a certain age – remember them. Busch even tosses in a touch of The DaVinci Code. So says Jeffrey Roberson – aka Varla Jean Merman. Varla has been busy. Roberson spent the summer in PTown performing The Book of Merman, which he says had nothing to with religion but was a “shameless” attempt to cash in on the Broadway show with almost the same title. He’s also starred in the off-Broadway show Lucky Guy and made a film (Varla Jean and the Mushroom Heads). This is a mockumentary in which she’s so desperate to get on TV that she’d do anything. In this case she proposes a thoroughly inappropriate children’s show. The Divine Sister isn’t Roberson’s legit stage debut. He played the gossip columnist Mary Sunshine in the Broadway production of Chicago and on tour. (The role is traditionally played by a man – all part of the old razzle-dazzle the musical thrives on.) In New

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NOTE: 2nd Story Theatre in Warren has scheduled two show of interest to the LGBT community. The award-winning Take Me Out opens in January. And 2nd Story is set to wind up its season with The Divine Sister. Options will take a peek in the December/January issue.

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And the Survey says: Build it, and they will come! Emma Garrett Nelson

We asked, and 117 of you answered Options’ LGBTQ Community Center Survey. We thank you for your willingness to share your thoughts with us. This survey seems to have struck a nerve with the LGBTQ community. You responded quite clearly that you want a place to come together and you want to get involved. We are pleased to share the survey results with you. • 94% of respondents said they were interested in an LGBTQ Community Center for Rhode Island. • 93% are interested in LGBTQ-related information; 89% want social activities; 87% want support groups; 86% want to connect with other community resources. • 77% are willing to volunteer their time and energy at a community center. Respondents’ feedback on community center services varied widely, but they overwhelmingly asked for alcohol-free social events, as well as: • Referrals to LGBTQ-friendly religious congregations, lawyers and doctors; • Family-friendly events, game nights, author-readings, performances, art shows, sports, dances, self-improvement classes, speed-dating; • Legislative and political information and speakers; • Educational workshops around health issues, STD prevention, rapid HIV testing services; • Forums to educate the allied/heterosexual community; • Support and social services for LGBTQ seniors (one respondent suggested

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• LGBTQ historical information and oral history collection, and a lending library; and • Meeting space for AA,NA,GA and other support groups and affiliated/community organizations.

The committee welcomes the help of anyone who would like to share in this effort.

Many respondents shared their thoughts on the current state of Rhode Island’s LGBTQ community. • “I’m a feminist lesbian; most of the stuff I see happening in this town is about cross dressing/drag queens.”

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• “I’ve been here for nearly 10 years and still feel baffled about how to find a community I can relate to.” • “Positive outreach to minorities and those outside of the white male middle class.” • “I don’t feel that bisexuals are as included as the others, and if you are just coming to terms with your sexuality, there really is no place for bisexuals to go in RI.” • “RI needs a safe space for older LGBTQ-ers to not only socialize, but also to help in the coming out process.” • “There are a TON of bored edgy queer folks who have nowhere to go...We need to see the diversity of being queer and not just see ourselves as the diversity amongst the heterosexual population.” • “I think a center like this would ultimately lead to healthier socialization.” Some respondents kept it short and sweet:

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• “A place we can be proud of.” • “An idea whose time has come.” • “A place we could learn about our past while working towards a stronger future.” The conversation doesn’t end here please keep your feedback and ideas coming. We are working to put your ideas into action and we want to know what the LGBTQ community wants and needs. To get involved, to share your thoughts, suggestions, ideas and energy, contact info@optionsri.org. We’re always happy to hear from you! q

Last Chance to See the Church Supper and Drag Show! Maureen DeLoreto

We’re back. I know we said last year that the annual church supper and drag show at St. Peter and St. Andrew Episcopal Church was the last one. It was our 12th year, and the event was held in memory of Donn Middlemiss (aka Candy Wills DuBarry) who had been with the event since it began. Then, about halfway through the show, Vi’let asked everyone there if they would like another one. Everyone said yes. So, here we are, back again to remember Donn and raise some money for “St. P and A” and its outreach programs. Last year Sabrina Blaze helped raise the

roof – and it’s a high one – as did Angela and Sinboy and all the regulars. This year Kitty Litter will be hosting. And of course everyone who has kept the event going all these years will be back. So save the date: Nov. 5. Doors open at 6 p.m. and the eating begins around 6:30; this year it’s a ham dinner. The show begins

around 7:30 p.m. The place is where it’s always been – the parish hall of St. Peter and St. Andrew on Pemberton St., which is just around the corner from the church at 25 Pomona Street, off Academy Ave. Tickets this year are $12. For reservations call the church at 272-9649 or Maureen at 724-8998 or 737-4608. Don’t drag your feet – we sold out last year. q

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Voices and family.

My Wedding Joe Siegel Nearly 10 years ago, I met the man who would become the love of my life at an Options staff meeting. Jerry White was a longtime volunteer who was maintaining the Options web site. I joined the publication and spent over five years writing news and features stories. At my first time there, in December 2001, Jerry handed me an invitation to his annual Christmas party. He really seemed like a sweet guy. I had just moved to Rhode Island a few months earlier, I was unemployed at the time and needed a lead on a job, so I called Jerry. We met on a cold Saturday afternoon at Starbucks on Thayer Street.

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Our dear friend, the Reverend William Zelazny, officiated. Jerry and I selected our own vows, and exchanged rings afterward. The event was the culmination of a decade spent together, and the prelude to many more years of love and support for each other.

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We chatted for a while over hot chocolate and really hit it off. We felt something special between us. A few months later, I moved in with Jerry. Lots and lots of good times followed, and some sad times, but we made it through them together. Fast-forward to July 2011. Governor Chafee signed the civil unions bill into law. On July 4, appropriately enough, I asked Jerry if he would enter into a civil union with me. With a few seconds of thought, he said yes. I went to our town hall in Smithfield and asked for a civil union application. The clerk said I was the first person to ask for one there. After many weeks of planning (and frantic housecleaning!), Jerry and I exchanged vows at our home on a beautiful September afternoon. There were 30 guests - friends

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“This year’s bicycle trip for marriage equality had its ups and downs. I got a very bad case of sun poisoning on the first afternoon out and did not fully recover until about seven days into the trip. (It’s hard to recover from illness when you are riding every day and trying to sleep outside and not in motels....too expensive) I had to cut my trip short to 950 miles and 11 days and stopped just short of Harrisburg, the capital of Pennsylvania, which was my ultimate goal. Despite this, I was able to talk to more than 130 individuals about marriage equality as a civil rights issue. I advised exuberant supporters in New York not to rest on their laurels because the opposition was already cooking up ways to reverse the NY legislation. (I know because I met quite a few opponents during my stops. They were not bashful in telling me how wrong I was in my support for Marriage Equality.) I also congratulated supporters in New York on their efforts and success. I have always ridden well in heat, so I do not think the illness this summer has anything to do with my age (59 going on 60). I believe it was an isolated event. I have ridden very well in heat over 95 - 100 degrees many times. This trip saw 88 - 101 degrees. I met some wonderful people along the way with whom I have maintained contact, and also met some not so nice folks, which

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is typical. I am already planning next year’s trip and may add a fund-raising component to support marriage equality utilizing social networking. My current thinking is to sort of combine “Where’s Waldo” and “Where in the World is Carmen San Diego?” It would work like this: I would get the news of the trip out through various social networks and list the states I would be traveling through. If people on the social network actually saw me traveling, we would encourage them to send contributions to their state marriage equality organization or one of the regional/ national groups. Of course I would still stop and pitch marriage equality at city halls, state houses and tourist locations. I would also directly work with the public to encourage donations by passing out business cards listing places to donate. I’d have floating pennants on the back of the bicycle showing websites where donations could be made. Stay tuned.” q

Rick Harris, LICSW is the Executive Director of the Rhode Island Chapter of the National Association of Social Workers. A strong advocate for LGBT rights, Harris has made this ride every year since 2004.

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Talking about HIV with Dr. Josiah Rich Joe Siegel

On October 2, hundreds of people will participate in the Walk for Life, one of the biggest annual fundraisers for HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the Walk for Life is to raise awareness as well as money, which allows AIDS Project Rhode Island to continue to provide our community with the vital services and education needed to combat HIV/ AIDS.   This year the theme of the Walk for Life is “Take Charge! Get Tested!” and the goal is to promote HIV testing among all Rhode Islanders who may be at risk for HIV. “People are still dying from this disease,” said Dr. Josiah Rich, an attending physician at Miriam Hospital in Providence and a Professor of Medicine at Brown University.

rounding HIV. That, and what he calls a sex-drenched culture, are factors in people deciding to engage in risky behaviors and then refusing to get tested. There is also a lack of promotion of safe sex in the media. “Using condoms is just one thing, but if people get on treatment, the treatment is so effective it reduces transmission to others,” Rich said. “The combination of using condoms and being on treatment is going to stop this epidemic in its tracks. I would like Rhode Island to be the first state in the nation to have everybody tested and everybody in care.” People in the LGBT community need to collaborate in order to combat the spread of HIV, Rich added. “Everyone in the com-

“We still have people showing up at the clinic in the late stages of the disease, never knowing they were infected.” munity has to pull together to address this problem. We need to change the culture to one where it is normal to know your status, to know your partner’s status and to openly discuss how to prevent HIV.” For more information, go to www.aidsprojectri.org, or call 401-831-5522.

Rich, who has been treating people with HIV for more than two decades, said the epidemic underwent a “miraculous transformation” in the 1990s. After a decade when AIDS claimed the lives of hundreds of thousands, it soon became a chronic, treatable disease, thanks to a slew of new medications. In the past few years, however, the rate of HIV transmission by men who have sex with men (MSM) has skyrocketed. “We need to do more HIV testing,” Rich said, noting that a high percentage of the population with HIV remain unaware of their diagnosis. “We still have people showing up at the clinic in the late stages of the disease, never knowing they were infected,” Rich noted. Rich believes there is still a stigma sur-

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AIDS Community Watch Bid High, Bid Often. Art Beat is Here!

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The first bingo of the new season was held on Thursday, September 15 at the Riviera Bingo Palace at 1612 Elmwood Ave., in Cranston. AIDS Care Ocean State (ACOS) and AIDS Project Rhode Island (APRI) ushered in the new season with Golden Girl Bingo. With over 500 bingo-ers in attendance, many of them dressed as Sophia, Blanche, Dorothy and Rose, the first bingo was a HUGE success. We hope you will join us on Thursday, October 20 for Rocky Horror Gay Bingo. Doors open at 6 p.m., bingo starts at 7 p.m. SHARP! See you there!

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Already out? Maybe there is someone you have not come out to yet. Why not do it on October 11? Coming out and living openly as a gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or supportive straight person is an act of bravery and authenticity. Polls continue to show that people who know someone LGBT are more likely to support full equality.

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As the General Assembly meets to discuss pensions this month, Marriage Equality Rhode Island (MERI) is hard at work on its 2012 legislative and electoral strategy. Many of the Smith Hill politicians thought that the civil union bill was going to make us go away. They thought we would all be rushing to City Hall for a civil union license once the summer was over. Well, summer is over and there hasn’t been a stampede yet. We’re planning, organizing and continuing to build our movement until we’re stronger than ever. This issue is not settled until we have marriage equality. Nothing more, nothing less.

lative session and the elections. We’re going to challenge anti-equality legislators who stand in the way of marriage equality. We’re going to support our friends who had the courage to stand up for equality. We’re going to register new voters, knock on doors, make phone calls, stuff envelopes -- do whatever it takes to change the face of the General Assembly.

Of course, before the election cycle officially begins we will be fighting back at the State House. The 2012 legislative cycle is critically important and we’re going to be more aggressive than ever. We will be lobbying at the State House, and we will be asking supporters to contact their legislators. We will continue to identify where our legislators stand on this critical issue, to help us challenge them in the 2012 election. But we need your help to do it. Email volunteer@marriageequalityri.org or call 941-2727 to get involved.

This issue is not settled until we have marriage equality. Nothing more, nothing less.

We were given a bad civil union law and told to like it because it gave us “some rights.” Instead, we’re going to use our frustration and anger to make a positive impact in the 2012 legis-

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Providence Gay Men’s Chorus The ticket price is $20, and there is valet parking available for an additional charge (discounted for attendees). For tickets, visit eventbrite. com. For more information, visit www.provgmc.org.

New Members Welcomed Every year in late summer, the Providence Gay Men’s Chorus (PGMC) opens its Monday meetings to new prospects, inviting local gay men who can sing to join their ranks in preparing for their annual holiday show. Traditionally, the first two rehearsals of any concert prep period are considered ‘Open Rehearsals’ which any interested singer or volunteer may attend, so if you missed this opportunity, another will come soon. Alternatively, you can pretty much just contact them anytime. “We invite people to try us on for size for two weeks,” says PGMC Manager Ray Sirico. “And this year, we really raked them in!” The chorus has welcomed a dozen new singers, making their total number 48 voices. “Fans can expect even more from the chorus in the coming months,” said Sirico, “Adding new members brings new energy and new ideas. We are delighted to welcome our new singers.”

Glimmer and Glow: The PGMC Fall Cabaret Mark your calendar for October 23 at 4:00 p.m. That’s when the PGMC will take the “stage” at Aspire Restaurant in the Hotel Providence on 139 Mathewson St. in Providence for their annual cabaret performance. Hosted by Miss Kitty Litter, the show will feature the individual talents of the chorus as well as group numbers. Now celebrating their 16th season, the PGMC will serenade you with songs that make you smile, songs that make you cry, some that make you giggle and some that bring back memories of yesteryear. And as always, there will be surprises, slightly off-color humor and great choreography and costumes. There is a something for everyone’s taste.

Help us Get to GALA 2012! Every four years, LGBT choruses from around the world gather in one place to celebrate the contributions of LGBT choruses. Next year, thousands of men and women will converge on Denver, Colorado for this monumental festival. The Providence Gay Men’s Chorus is proud to represent the great state of Rhode Island and the LGBT community at this event. The workshops, networking, and singing opportunities invigorate and inspire every member of the PGMC who participates. Your contributions and ticket purchases help chorus members get there with less financial impact. www.provgmc.org

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SAGE RI Talent to Share SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) and YPI (Youth Pride, Inc.) are combining forces to host a fun and fabulous night out on October 14th at Beneficent Church (300 Weybosset St., Providence). The evening will feature an open mic organized by YPI for those of you willing to share your talent (come on down – don’t be shy!) along with a potluck dinner provided by SAGE/RI. The event is free but donations will be welcomed (and shared evenly by the two hosting groups). You’ll want to be there at 6:00 p.m., whether you are signing up to perform or just to make sure you get a good seat to enjoy the show. What a great way to celebrate Coming Out Month! We hope you will join us.

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SAGE/RI is also enjoying sharing talent of a different kind. We have been asked to present an in-service to the staff and volunteers at the Alliance for Better Long Term Care. This organization advocates for people living in nursing homes and assisted living facilities as well as people who are receiving home care and/or hospice services in their own homes. We will be talking about the issues unique to LGBT elders and how organizations and service providers can be more sensitive and effective working with all of their clients. To get on our mailing list or to get more information, write to us at sageriinfo@gmail.com or check us out on Facebook (SAGE/Rhode Island). q

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Youth Pride, Inc. Annual Celebration Youth Pride, Inc.’s annual event/fundraiser will be held on Thursday, November 10, at the Biltmore Hotel in Providence, from 6:30 to 11:00 p.m. This year’s theme is “Stepping Up, Stepping Out” and will include a cocktail hour, dinner, dancing, award presentations, and a silent auction. We are honored to be presenting awards to the following people/organizations for their support of YPI and the LGBTQQ community: TT

Founders Award: Ken Fish; Lipsky/Whittaker Award: Options Newsmagazine; Luis Pagan Award: Noah Rory Mann.

“Stepping Up, Stepping Out” is a fantastic opportunity to enjoy a fun night on the town while supporting the mission of YPI—to provide support, advocacy, and education to LGBTQQ youth and young adults in Rhode Island. Please visit our EventBrite website (http://youthprideinc.eventbrite. com) to purchase tickets online or contact

Kerri (kerri@youthprideri.org) if you’d like to receive an official invitation in the mail. “Stepping Up, Stepping Out” is one of Youth Pride’s major fundraisers, so we hope to see you there!

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MPowerment Conference We are so honored to have been selected as the recipient of the Lipsky/Whittaker Award! Ardent supporters of the organization, we have always been impressed with the important work done by the staff and volunteers at YPI, and we hope our efforts to feature their work has resulted in better visibility for youth in need of support and in the larger community as well.

We are proud to announce that YPI will be hosting the MPowerment Project, a San Franciscobased HIV prevention program specifically designed to address the needs of young gay and bisexual men, during their Providence training from October 3rd-5th. Thanks to funding from the Rhode Island Department of Health, YPI’s peer-to-peer HIV prevention program, known as OMG, uses the MPowerment curriculum as a model for its outreach and training. OMG youth participants will have the opportunity to meet MPowerment staff during a dinner at our drop-in center. Youth Pride, Inc. 171 Chestnut St., Providence 421-5626

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Resources

Help us help you: If you come across a resource listing that is incorrect or needs updating, let us know. Drop us a line at mshays@verizon.net. Please note: All phone numbers are in the (401) area code unless otherwise indicated.

Addiction Support Groups AA: Brothers in Sobriety, Community Church of Prov., Wayland & Lloyd Aves., Prov., 751-9328; Sat., 7:30-8:30 p.m.; Central Services, info on all groups, 438-8860; Lesbian and Gay, Park Place Cong. Church, Pawtucket. Tues. 7:30 p.m.; Suburban Gay & Lesbian, Fatima Shrine, Rt. 126, Holliston, MA, Thurs. 8-9:30 p.m.,

Comprehensive Community Action Programs (CCAP) Medical, mental health, dental, social services. 311 Doric Ave., Cranston. 467-9610. Also Coventry and Warwick. Sarah Bowman, LGBT Outreach.

tioning men in So. Coast MA. Info on HIV/ STD test sites & safe sex; social/support groups, therapists & health care referrals; & more. Community Counseling of Bristol Co., MA. (508) 828-6692 or www.projectempower.com.

Crossroads RI Health Care Services: Free, confidential, anonymous HIV counseling & testing for homeless/at risk: Mon & Wed, 1-3 p.m., call Gloria, 521-2255, Ext. 325.

SSTAR (Stanley St. Treatment & Resources): counseling, drug treatment, detox, domestic violence programs; Free, confidential HIV, HEP C (HCV) & STD testing, education, case mgmt. and support. 386 Stanley St., Fall River, MA 02720. (508) 679-5222. Project Aware (HIV/ HCV) (800) 937-3610, Family Healthcare center (508) 675-1054; www.sstar.org.

Alcohol/Drug Helpline. RI Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence, 24-hr., (866) 252-3784.

FACTS (Family AIDS Center for Treatment & Support): See AIDS Care Ocean State.

Gay Al-Anon: Tues. 7:30 p.m., Congregational Church, 71 Park Place, Pawtucket, 726-2800.

Gabriel Care, LLC: Nursing/social worker case mgmt. & financial compensation for assistance and supervision for those living with HIV. MA Health funded for MA residents. Michael (508) 678-1002.

AIDS/Health Resources Afia Center for Health & Wholeness: socializing with other HIV+ individuals. Meals, food pantry, HIV support groups, recovery groups, recreational and social activities. Wed & Thurs, noon to 4 p.m., at Matthewson St. Church, 134 Matthewson St., Prov. Sponsored by AIDS Project RI; free to clients. Gordon Cooper, 331-1350 Ext. 3268 or coopergo@familyserviceofri.org. AIDS Action Hotline: (800) 235-2331, MA only. AIDS Care Ocean State: case mgmt., emergency funds, mental health & nutrition support, FACTS Nursery, housing for PWAs, referrals, advocacy, ADa.m.S Clinic for adolescents, street outreach, ENCORE, education, HIV+ support groups. Sunrise Community Housing for people with HIV/AIDS. 18 Parkis Ave., Prov. 02907. 521-3603; www.aidscareos.org. AIDS Project RI Division of Family Service of RI: Case mgmt., buddies, COBRA & dental services, emergency fund, mental health counseling, nutrition support, assessment & referral, wellness prog., advocacy, strength training. Prevention Ed. 404 Wickenden St., Providence: 831-5522. AIDS Quilt RI: Displays local AIDS Memorial Quilt panels; panel-making programs, including Anna’s Workshop, HIV/AIDS education for young people; PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840; 4344880; www.aidsquiltri.org; admin@aidsquiltri. org; annasworkshop@aidsquiltri.org. Brown Univ. AIDS Program (BRUNAP): clinical trials, public policy, research; lectures/conferences, patient/community education. Bradford Briggs, 863-6790. brunap@brown.edu; www.brown. edu/brunap. Chiropractic Services: Free for unemployed HIV+ patients, Ronald P. Marsh, DC., 11 King Charles Dr., Portsmouth, RI; 683-1941.

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HIV antibody testing, Anonymous: R.I. Dept. of Health, Prov., Newport and other locations, Free or sliding scale, call 222-2320. Home and Hospice Care of RI: Medical care mgmt. for HIV/AIDS. 24-hr. nursing staff for treatment. 782-0725. Bereavement Groups: John Charette, 727-7079.

Tranquil Mind & Wellness: Counseling, alternative healing, yoga, Pilates, meditation and more. 105 Charles Eldridge Dr, Lakeville, MA. (508) 9471683. Thundermist Health Assoc.: 450 Clinton St. Woonsocket, provides HIV/AIDS services including: medical care & treatment by an HIV specialist, dental care, behavioral health counseling, nutritional assessment & counseling, pharmacy consultation, free, confidential HIV testing. Philip Kane 767-4100 Ext. 3516.

House of Compassion: HIV/AIDS housing. 2510 Mendon Rd., Cumberland. 658-3992. Jewish AIDS Task Force: Programs for HIV/AIDS and Jewish communities. 421-4111, ext. 172. LGBT Caregiver Online Support Group for LGBTs caring for someone with chronic health problems, visit www.caregiver.org and click on groups. Luis E. Martinez House CHS, Inc.: Supportive, permanent housing for 10 adults living with HIV/ AIDS and/or substance abuse. New Bedford, MA. Contact Joe Taylor (508) 984-7514. Matthew 25: HIV/AIDS Ministry: Groceries, personal care products, counseling, referrals. Network with other ASOs. Mon., Wed., Thurs. 9:30-12, 1-2:30; Tues. 1-3. 781-9451. Sister Clara or Patty. Partners in Learning About AIDS (PL-AIDS) Outreach to minorities, women of color, and LGBT community at clubs and other locations, and our No. Providence office, providing free condoms and information about STIs and post-exposure prophylaxis for HIV. www.plaidsproject.org or www.pl-aids.org. Email info@plaidsproject.org. 305-3993. Project ACT: Free Anonymous HIV Counseling and Testing. Walk-in Hours: Mondays 9 a.m.-4 p.m. and 5-7 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Other hours by appointment only. 1 Washington St., Taunton, MA (508) 977-8146 Project Empower: Wellness prog. for gay, bi, ques-

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Be There and Be Queer! The Alley Cat: 17 Snow St. Prov. 273-0951 Downtown neighborhood bar. Sun.-Thur. 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri.-Sat. 3 p.m.-2 a.m. http://thealleycat. net. Bobby’s Place, 62 Weir St., Taunton, MA (508) 8249997. Dancing, pool, video lounge, karaoke. Mon.-Thurs. 5 p.m.- 1 a.m.; Fri. 5 p.m.-2 a.m.; Sat. 2 p.m.-2 a.m.; Sun. 2 p.m.-1 a.m. www.BobbysPlaceMA.com. Brooklyn Coffee & Tea House: 209 Douglas Ave., Prov. 575-2284. Special events space, open evenings. Open mike Wed. night, live music Friday night, short film screenings. See Web site for upcoming events. www.BrooklynCoffeeTeaHouse.com. Club Body Center: 257 Weybosset St., Prov. 2740298 www.clubbodycenter.com. Gay men’s sauna. Membership required. One-day pass available. Open 24 hours daily. Club Gallery: 150 Point St., Prov. 751-7166 Disco, karaoke, dancing, outdoor patio. Open daily, noon-1 a.m. (Fri & Sat till 2 a.m.) Chris Harris Presents Fuel @ Diesel: 79 Washington St., Prov. 751-2700. Dancing; house and guest DJs. Sun nights. Late night theme events holiday weekends. www.chrisharrispresents.com Girl Spot, 681 Valley St., Providence, at Club X on

Sat. nights. www.girlspot.com The Homestead, 124 Snow St., Providence.

Cvohs18904@yahoo.com or 212-807-8400. Visit www.amnestyusa.org/Our Issues/LGBT Human Rights.

Mirabar: 35 Richmond St., Prov. 331-6761 www. mirabar.com. Dancing, third floor lounge, ages 18+ Sun-Thurs 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri, Sat 3 p.m.-2 a.m.

BIGFLAG (Boston Immigration Group for Lesbians And Gays): social/support for LGBTs affected by immigration discrimination. (617) 499-9433.

Providence Eagle: 198 Union St., Prov. 421-1447. Leather, Levi, bear cruise bar. Sun-Thurs 3 p.m.1 a.m., Fri, Sat 3 p.m.-2 a.m.

Brown University Queer Alliance: student advocacy and support organization. 683-3062. Email: queer@brown.edu

Mixx: 93 Clemence St., Prov. 421-4744. Video lounge, bar, dancing, pool table., Daily SunThurs 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri, Sat 3 p.m.-2 a.m. Fridays: Lucky Lesbian Nite

Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD): LGBT/HIV legal info hotline, 1:30-4:30 p.m. weekdays, (800) 455-GLAD. www.GLAD.org; 30 Winter St., Ste 800, Boston, MA 02108.

Mega-Plex: 257 Allens Ave., Prov. www.themegaplex.com. Gay men’s bathhouse. Open 24 hours daily. Membership required. One day pass available.

Green Party of RI: PO Box 1151, Prov., RI 02901; 490-7602.

The Stable: 125 Washington St., Prov. 272-6950. Newly renovated downtown bar. Pool table. Sun - Thurs noon - 1 a.m.; Fri - Sat noon - 2 a.m. Touch Providence: All-Male Review 257 Allens Ave., Prov. All nude male strippers, bar, 18+ www.touchprovidence.com. Sun, Wed, Thurs 9 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri, Sat. 9 p.m.-2 a.m. 732-7740. T.W.I.S.T. Program Coffee Night: Coffee, light snacks served every Thursday, 7 – 9 p.m. 1287 Acushnet Ave., New Bedford. 508-672-0378. Union: 200 Union St. Prov. 831-5366. Video lounge, live entertainment. Sun. 6 p.m.-1 a.m., Mon.-Thur. 3 p.m.-1 a.m., Fri.-Sat. 6 p.m.-2 a.m.

Information/Education Feminist Voices: women’s chorus. www.feministvoices.com. Fenway Gay and Lesbian Helpline: support, info & referrals for GLBT community from Fenway Community Health Ctr., Boston; (617) 267-9001 or 888-340-4528, 6-11 p.m. seven days a week. GayLab: outreach & education for healthy relationships. James at 781-762-6629, or info@gaylab. org or www.gaylab.org. GLBT Helpline of RI: Info and referrals to physicians, therapists, businesses, agencies, social support groups, links to call-in helplines and more. www.glbthelpline.org. NewportOut.com: LGBT Web site for Newport, RI. RILGBT-NEWS: Low-volume email distribution list for LGBT & AIDS news from RI. Not a discussion list. To subscribe: tinawood@cox.net. United Way of RI Referral Line: 2-1-1

Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund: 120 Wall St., Suite 1500, NY, NY 10005; (212) 8098585, Fax: (212) 809-0055. Lawyers for Equality and Diversity (LEAD): Advocates for lgbt causes. lawyersforequality@gmail. com Marriage Equality RI (MERI): Works for equal access to marriage for all. www.marriageequalityri.org or call 941-2727. 17 Gordon Ave. #205, Providence RI 02905. The Next Thing (TNT): political and support group for queer people of color located at Brown University. Contact the Brown Queer Alliance, 8633062. RI Commission on Prejudice and Bias: hate crime awareness training program www.hatecrimeri. org. RI Human Rights Commission: Anti-discrimination law enforcement agency with jurisdiction in employment, housing, public accommodations and credit, 180 Westminster St., 3rd floor Prov. Phone: 222-2662. Fax: 222-2616, TDD: 2222664. RI Patient Advocacy Coalition: legalization of marijuana use for medical purposes. RIpatients.org or www.RIpatients.org. Servicemembers Legal Defense Network: Assisting active duty service members affected by the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. PO Box 65301, Wash., DC, 20035; (202) 328-3244, ext. 100, sldn@sldn.org, www.sldn.org. Straight But Not Narrow Coalition: Straight support for LGBT, PO Box 2591, Newport, RI 02840; 333-6991 or (800) 843-8383.

Religious Resources

Youth Pride, Inc. HIV Peer Educators: HIV education discussion, games, thought-provoking activities. Led by trained youth educators. Free. 421-5626.

Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptists, email: mail@WABaptists.org.

Political & Legal Groups

Bell Street Chapel (Unitarian Universalist), A Welcoming congregation: Rev. Jose Ballester, Minister. 5 Bell St., Prov., 273-5678, www.bellstreetchapel.org.

American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): 831-7171; 128 Dorrance St., Suite 220, Prov., RI 02903. Amnesty International OUTfront: Program to campaign globally for LGBTIQ human rights.

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Barrington Congregational Church (UCC) “the white church”, 461 Old County Rd., Barrington. 246-0111.www.bccucc.org

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Open & Affirming congregation since 2001. Visit us Sundays at 10 a.m. or on the Web at www.beneficentchurch.org. Co-Pastors Todd & Nicole Yonkman, 331-9844. Calvary Episcopal Church, Open and welcoming. 158 Broad St., Burrilville, RI. 568-3888. www. calvaryepiscopal.us.email, calvary125@aol.com. Central Congregational Church (UCC), where we believe God is still speaking. Services Sunday, 10:30 a.m. We welcome all. 296 Angell St., East Side of Providence. 331-1960. www.centralchurch.us. Channing Memorial Church, Unitarian Universalist, A Welcoming Congregation, 135 Pelham St., Newport. Call 846-0643 or visit www.channing. Newport.uua.org. Christ Church in Lonsdale (Episcopal), 1643 Lonsdale Ave., Lincoln. Services 8 and 10:30 a.m. www.christchurchlincoln.org. 725-1920. Church of the Epiphany, 1336 Pawtucket Ave., Rumford. 434-5012. A diverse Open & Affirming Episcopal congregation. www.epiphanyep.org Church of the Holy Paraclete, Independent Old Catholic; Mass every Sunday at 6 p.m. 155 Douglas Ave., Providence. http://holyparaclete. org; Fr. Jakob Lazarus (774) 888-8576. Episcopal Cathedral of Saint John. 271 N. Main St., Prov. 02903. Please call 331-4622. Emmanuel Episcopal Church. 120 Nate Whipple Highway, Cumberland RI 02864. 658-1506. First Congregational Church in Bristol, an Open and Affirming Congregation. 281 High Street, Bristol. Pastor Dan Randall, 253-7288. First Unitarian Church. A Welcoming congregation at One Benevolent St., Prov.; 421-7970. Services Sunday 10:30 a.m. First Unitarian Church. 71 8th St., New Bedford, MA 02740. (508) 994-9686. First Universalist Society, Franklin, MA: UUA Welcoming congregation. Same-gender weddings. 262 Chestnut St. (508) 528-5348. www.fusf.org. Email fusf@verizon.net Foxboro Universalist Church, Unitarian Universalist Association. 6 Bird St., Foxboro, MA 02035. Pastor Katie Lawson, 508-543-4002. Welcoming congregation, marriage ceremonies. www.uufoxborough.org Grace Episcopal Church in Providence, 175 Mathewson Street, Providence. 331-3225. Immanuel Lutheran Church: A Reconciling in Christ congregation, 647 N. Main St., Attleboro, MA 02703. (508) 222-2898, www.immanuellc.org. Interweave at Channing UU Church in Newport (135 Pelham St.) A membership organization for the spiritual, political and social well-being of LGBTQ persons -- and their allies -- confronting oppression. 846-0643. Mathewson St. Church (United Methodist), 134 Mathewson St., Prov., 331-8900. Mercy of God Community: Christian, inclusive religious order. If you feel called, please visit our Web site: www.mgc.org.

Murray Unitarian Universalist Church, 505 N. Main St., Attleboro, MA, 02702 Rev. Sandra D. Fitz-Henry. Marriage & commitment ceremonies for all. (508) 222-0505 www.murrayuuchurch.org Newman Congregational Church, Open & Affirming. 100 Newman Ave., Rumford, RI. 43114742. Newport Congregational Church: UCC. Rev. Hayes & Rev. Baker. Open & Affirming. 73 Pelham St., Newport. 849-2238 or nccucc@newportcongregationalchurch.org.

Temple Beth-El: GLBT-welcoming. Rabbi Sarah E. Mack. 70 Orchard Ave., Prov., RI 02906. 3316070 Temple Emanu-El, Sessions St. & Morris Ave., Providence. A welcoming Conservative congregation. Rabbi Wayne Franklin, 331-1616. Temple Habonim (Reform): Rabbi Andrew Klein, 165 New Meadow Rd., Barrington, 245-6536. www.templehabonim.org. Temple Sinai: A Welcoming Reform Temple. Rabbi Peter Stein, 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston, RI. 9428350. www.TempleSinairi.org.

Park Place Congregational Church, 71 Park Pl., Pawtucket, 726-2800.

Unitarian Society of Fairhaven (MA): 102 Green St., Fairhaven, MA 02719; (508) 992-7081.

The Pub Church: A church that meets in a pub! Saturdays, 5 p.m. at The Dugout, 722 Commonwealth Ave. Boston. Open & Affirming. Affiliated with Protestant Disciples of Christ. Email thepubchurch@gmail.com. Location may change, so check blog: thepubchurch.blogspot. com.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation of So. County: 27 North Rd., Peace Dale, RI; 783-4170 or Val 789-7282. www.uusouthcountyri.org.

Pilgrim Lutheran Church, an inclusive congregation: 1817 Warwick Ave., Warwick. 739-2937

Westminster Unitarian/Universalist Church: 1395 Nooseneck Hill Rd., Coventry RI , 02818. 8845933

Pilgrim United Church of Christ. Open and affirming. 635 Purchase St., New Bedford. 508-9975684.

United Church of Christ: Coalition for LGBT Concerns. 13 Steven Circle, S. Kingstown, RI 02883, Ray Bradley at 782-3871.

email Kenneth Hayes (‘91) khayesbbc@msn.com or visit www.bridgew.edu. Cape and Islands Gay & Straight Youth Alliance (CIGYA): (508) 778-7744. CORISMA: Gay and lesbian couples of RI and Southeast MA. Potluck get-togethers for couples only. For info or to be added to email list write: corismainfo@comcast.net. www.corismagroup. org Defenders/Providence: Leather/Levi club, c/o PO Box 41153, Prov., RI 02940. Third Sun at 6 p.m. Fall River’s Rainbow Girls: private, moderated welcoming group for women in the Fall River Area. groups.yahoo.com/group/ Fall_River_Rainbow_Grrls. Gay Lesbian Alliance of Newport County Etc. (GLANCE): Social and entertainment events. E-mail glance1234@hotmail.com. Gay Dads Group: Meets monthly for socializing and support. E-mail serrel30@aol.com. Imperial Court of RI at Prov: Male, female, drag king & queen performers raise funds for local charities. Meetings 1st Mon of month, all welcome. PO Box 6583, Prov., RI 02904;www.icriprov.org. Men’s Card Group: New group in formation. E-mail johninprov@gmail. com or call John 261-9715.

Riverside Church (U.C.C.) 15 Oak Ave., Riverside, RI. 433-2039. www.rcc-ucc.com St. Augustine’s Church and Episcopal Center at URI: 35 Lower College Rd., Kingston. 783-2153 www.staugustineURI.com.

Mixed Borders Gardening Group: Gardening and more! Monthly meetings, all welcome! For more information: www.MixedBorders.com or EMail Mixedborders@cox.net

St. Francis City Ministry at the Church of St. Mary, 535 Broadway, Prov., Fr. Frank Sevola; Rene Perreault, Dir. of Pastoral Ministry, 353-1422

Opera Club: last Sunday of each month at 1:00 p.m. Enjoy hearing and attending. Call Dave, 765-0209. Pawtuxet Pride: GLBTQ folks & friends in Pawtuxet Village (Cranston and beyond). All welcome. Call Ed at 345-1264 or email EDZL@aol.com.

St. James Church: Episcopal, 474 Fruit Hill Ave., No. Prov. 353-2079. St. Martin’s Episcopal Church, 50 Orchard St. East side of Prov., 7512141 St. Martin’s Episcopal Church: County & River Sts., New Bedford, MA. (508) 994-8972, stmartins1887@aol.com. St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 50 Park Place, Pawtucket. 728-4300. www.stpaulspawtucket.org St. Paul’s Church, a Welcoming Episcopal church. 2679 E. Main St., Portsmouth. 862-1466. www. stpaulsportsmouthri.org

Social Organizations Atheists/Agnostics: RI Atheist Society – “Working to keep Church and State separate” Welcoming all. Meets 3rd Monday of the month at an area restaurant for lively discussions among likeminded people. For info: www.RIatheist.net Bisexual Resource Center: 29 Stanhope St., Boston, (617) 424-9595 or www.biresource.net.

St. Peter & St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church: 25 Pomona Ave., Prov.; 272-9649. Email.stpanda25@ verizon.net. www.stpetersandstandrews.org.

Biversity Boston: Mixed-sex social network. Bimonthly brunches and other social events. http://biversity.org.

Saint Therese Old Catholic Church, Open & Affirming, Sunday Mass at 12:30 p.m. at 134 Mathewson St., Providence. Fr. David Martins, 263-4296. www.saintthereseocc.org

Boston Bisexual Women’s Network: Social activities including monthly brunches, coming out groups, and quarterly newsletter “Bi Woman.” Subscribe at www.biwomenboston.org.

Seekonk Congregational Church: 600 Fall River Ave., Seekonk, MA. 02771, (508) 336-9355, Rev. Joy Utter, www.scc-ucc.com.

Bears Ocean State (BOS): Informal e-group for gay & bisexual bear-identified and -affiliated men for friendly companionship. All welcome. http:// groups.yahoo.com/group/bearsoceanstate or bearsoceanstate-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. Age-restricted.

Temple Agudas Achim: GLBT-friendly, Reconstructionist cong. Rabbi Elyse Wechterman. 901 No. Main St., Attleboro, MA. (508) 222-2243 or www.agudasma.org.

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Providence Gay Men’s Chorus: Mon, 7-9:30 p.m., Beneficent Church, 300 Weybosset St, Prov.. New season rehearsals begin in January and August. Singers and nonsinging volunteers welcome. 484-7900 or www.provgmc.org.

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Queer Book Club. Meets 3rd Wednesday 7 p.m. at Books on the Square, 471 Angell St., Providence. Email queerbookclub@gmail.com. Raging Grannies: Women of “a certain age” working toward a more peaceful, equitable society with song, humor & passion. Will sing for rallies & events. Email jlglass53@aol.com. RI Association of Gay Professionals. Professional networking and philanthropy. gayprofessionalnetworkofri@gmail.com. 453-9276 RI Feminist Resources Network: Free, online e-community in which you are invited to share events or highlights in your organization or just find out what’s going on in our “like-minded” communities. www.rifrn.net RI Lesbian Social Club: social gatherings for women; email: heylari@yahoo.com or call 272-2962. RI Parents Pride: Gay parents socializing together with their children. Contact Melanie, 464-2288

eastcoastwrestlingclub.org, email ecwc@juno. com, (401) 467-6737 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 6

tional League, (617) 889-1552.

or saphicangel120@yahoo.com RI Pride: Parade & Festival, year-round events; Box 1082, Prov. RI 02901, info@PrideRI.com; www. PrideRI.com. RI Prime Timers. Social and networking group for gay and bisexual men 40 and older. Meets 2nd Sundays. www.riprimetimers.org

DARTS: Bean Town Soft Tips Darts League www. bsdl.org. FLAG FOOTBALL: FLAG (For Lesbians and Gays) Football www.flagflagfootball.com, (617) 9375858 Ext. 4.

Students & Youth Bristol Community College Gay/Straight Alliance (BCC/GSA); Steven Camara, Advisor (508)6782811 Ext. 2391, BCC-H202, 777 Elsbree St., Fall River, MA 02720.

RI Skeptics Society. Yearning to talk with someone rational? Meetings 4th Saturday at a Seekonk restaurant for refreshing discussion. http:// skeptics.meetup.com/133/

FOOTBALL: Women’s professional team Northeastern Nitro. Members of the Women’s Football Alliance. Practices held in Bethel, CT. Contact Amy Manfred at amymanfred@yahoo.com or Carley Pesente at linebackergirl56@aol.com.

RI Women’s Association: Lesbian social group; age 21+; dances/events. www.RIWA.net

RI/S.E. MA Flag Football: Sats. 10 a.m. All levels and genders. mbs1994ever@yahoo.com

SAGE/RI (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) Advocacy, education and social events for RI’s LGBTQ seniors. sageriinfo@gmail.com.

GOLF: Golf4All www.golf4all.net (617) 450-8682.

Brown University Grad Student - Med Student - Staff LGBTQ Association: queer-med-gradmembers@queer.brown.edu

HOCKEY: Boston Pride Hockey www.bostonpridehockey.org (617) 937-5858 Ext. 7.

SEMASSMEN: Social group for GBQ men of S.E. Mass and RI to foster strong friendships.Semassmen-subscribe@yahoo groups.com or email moderator rlevass @yahoo.com.

Brown University Staff LGBTQ Assn.: call LGBT Resource Center: 863-3062

ICE HOCKEY for WOMEN: email gwick@kersur.net.

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Brown University LGBTQ Resource Center: 8633062, e-mail lgbtq@brown.edu

KICKBOXING or BOXING for WOMEN: Tues & Thurs evenings. Christina, 996-5425. www.rondeauskickboxing.com

Bryant Pride: Bryant College Gay/Lesbian/ Bisexual Student Association. 232-6389.

T.W.I.S.T. Project: Program for gay and bisexual men in Fall River/New Bedford area. Drop-in center, referrals, condom distribution, social groups. Coffee night Thursdays 7 – 9 p.m. (508) 672-0378; www.myspace.com/twistprogram. UNISONG: For unity through song. Non-performance monthly singing session. www.unisong. net or jlglass53@aol.com VegOut Rhode Island: Social group for LGBT vegetarians, vegans and friends. Potlucks, VegOutings to restaurants, and other fun. Visit www. meetup.com/vegout-ri WomenRIsing. Feminist Chorus. Director Nancy Rosenberg. www.womenrisingchorus.org. Email: contact@womenrisingchorus.org. Yankee Lambda Car Club: Regional club for glbt people interested in vintage & specialty cars. www.yankeelcc.com, sisherwood@aol.com.

OUTDOORS: Chiltern Mountain Club: outdoor recreation for men & women; Call 617-869-7958 for newsletter; PO Box 390928, Cambridge, MA 02139; www.chiltern.org. ROWING: Boston Bay Blades www.bayblades.org/ boston (617) 937-5858 Ext. 11. RUGBY: Boston Ironsides Rugby Football Club. www.bostonironsidesrfc.org. RUNNING: Frontrunners Rhode Island: Brian 751-7643, bripm@cox.net; Frontrunners Boston www.frontrunnersboston.org (617) 937-5858 Ext. 3. SCUBA DIVING: Triangle Divers: www.triangledivers.org.

Brown University Queer Alliance: umbrella org. for groups. 863-3062. www.queer.brown.edu

CCRI Triangle Alliance: Informal student GLBQT group, 400 East Ave., Warwick. Call 825-1125 or www.ccri.cc.ri.edu/triangle. COLAGE. Support for children of LGBT Parents: rhodeisland@colage.org; http://www.myspace. com/colage_ri. 331-9844. Fitchburg State College GLBT Alliance: social support group for students. One-in-Ten and Friends, 978-665-3164, sfranzemn@fsc.edu. Peer Listening Line/Fenway Community Health Ctr.: Boston. Youth-staffed hotline for GLBT youth; support, info and referrals. (617) 2672535 or (800)-399-PEER, 5-10 p.m. all week.

SOCCER: Boston Strikers Soccer Club www.bostonstrikers.com (617) 937-5858 Ext. 9.

RIC Rainbow Alliance: GLBT students at RI College, Fridays 12:30 -- 2 p.m, in Unity Center in lower Donovan. Office in StudentUnion 425. ricrainbowalliance2007@yahoo.com. Phone 456--8121

PRIDESPORTSBOSTON: Network of twenty+ gay sports leagues/teams in Boston area: www. pridesportsboston.com 617-937-5858

SOFTBALL: Renaissance City Softball League. New players and boosters always welcome. 3236642 or rcsl_commish@cox.net. Visit www. providencesoftball.org

Salve Regina University Gay Straight Lesbian Bisexual Alliance (GSLBA), 100 Ochre Point Ave., Newport. Sister Johnelle, Lucianij@salve.edu

Gay sports in Boston and beyond: www.gaysports. com. Email info@gaysports.com.

Beantown Softball League: (617) 937-5858, Ext. 1, www.beantownsoftball.com.

BASKETBALL: Boston Gay Basketball League: www.bgbl.com or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 2.

SQUASH: Boston Boasts www.bostonboasts.com

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BOWLING: RI GALA: 6 p.m. Sun., East Prov. Lanes, Newport Ave., Bruce, 397-3803, or Bill, 828-5587 www.galabowling.com. Monday Night Women’s Bowling League, Pat 451-2188. Royal Court Bowling League: 9 p.m. Wed., Woonsocket Hill Bowl; 767-2110. Big Gay Al’s Duckpin bowling league: Tuesdays 6:30 p.m., Proceeds benefit AIDS causes. Town Hall Lanes, Johnston. www.BGALBowling.com. Frank Ferri 831-6940. www.townhalllanes.com. BOWLING: BOSTON: Monday Night League, www.mnbl.net (617) 713-4832 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 5; Beantown No. G&L Invitational, www. beantownbowling.com (617) 738-0708 or (617) 937-5858 Ext. 10; Beantown South G&L Invita-

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SNOWBOARDING: OutRyders, www.outryders. org or email brian@outryders.org.

SWIMMING: LANES (Liquid Assets New England Swim-Team); www.swim-lanes.org; (617) 9375858 Ext. 9. TENNIS: TENNIS-4-All: www.tennis4all.org. VOLLEYBALL: Cambridge Boston Volleyball Assoc. www.GayVolleyball.net, (617) 633-2180 VOLLEYBALL: Ocean State Pride Volleyball League meets Sundays at Pawtucket YMCA. Two leagues for varying abilities (afternoons and evenings) OSPVolleyball@gmail.com. www.volleyballri@yahoo.com YOGA for gays & lesbians. 9 a.m. Saturdays. All welcome. www/meetup.com/Gay-Meditation/. Fee applies. WRESTLING: East Coast Wrestling Club www.

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SeaQuel: Southeast Asian Queers United for Empowerment and Leadership. Bi-weekly Sunday meetings. 383-7450. myspace.com/seaQuel; Email SeaQuel@Prysm.us S.H.E.P.A.R.D. (Stopping Homophobia, Eliminating Prejudices and Restoring Dignity): Providence College, 1 Cunningham Sq., Prov., RI 02918, E-mail pclgbt@gmail.com. 865-1631 The Trevor Project: The only nationwide, aroundthe-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lgbt youth. Also offers social networks. 866-4-U-TREVOR; thetrevorproject.org. The Next Thing (TNT): political & support group for queer people of color at Brown Univ. Call Brown Queer Alliance, 863-3062. University of RI: OutRI: GLBTQ Center: Education, Advocacy and Support. Open to campus

and community. Adams Hall, 1st floor, Room 111. Andrew Winters, andrew@uri.edu 8742894 Web site: www.uri.edu/glbt. Email: Andrew@uri.edu. Youth Pride Inc./The Way Out: Support, education & advocacy for LGBTQQ young people ages 13-23.Drop-in center at 171 Chestnut St., Prov. 02903; M-F noon-8 p.m. The Way Out support group meets Thurs., 5 p.m. The Gender Spectrum support group meets Tues. 5:30 p.m. Call 421-5626 or email kerri@youthpride-ri.org Web: www.youthpride-ri.org.

Female-to-Male Support Group: Transgender peer support, information, social group. For those who identify somewhere on the trans-masculine spectrum. Regular meetings. Visit www.SNE_ FTM@yahoo.com Gay/Bi/Lesbian Coming Out support Group: Facilitated meetings, social events. tjfronczak@aol. com. Fee applies. Gay Fathers of Greater Boston: support: E-Mail outreach@gayfathersboston.org. www.gayfathersboston.org. Gay Fathers Support Group in RI. Tom Fronczak, LICSW, 431-2953. Fee applies.

LifeLines RI: For transgender, genderqueer, intersex, etc. people. Advocacy, support, education. TGI Network of R.I. www.tginetwork.org. info@tginetwork.org. Mantalk of S.E. Mass: social/discussions for gay/ bi/curious men 18+. Taunton every Thursday, and New Bedford 1st Wed. of the month, 7 – 8:30 p.m. Confidential. Drug/alcohol-free. Email mantalksouthcoast@yahoo.com Nat. Lesbian & Gay Journalists Assoc./New England: works for fair and accurate media coverage of LGBT issues, info@nlgja.org.

PFLAG: Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays: Greater Providence: First Wednesdays, 6:45p.m. at Met School, 325 Public St., Providence. 751-7571; www.pflagprovidence.org; pflagprovidence@verizon.net; South/Central RI: www.pflagscri.org, 219-0265, epbonetti@gmail. Violence Project: support, com; Cape Cod/Falmouth: Last Tuesday of each month, 6:30 p.m. Unitarian UniversalNew Transgender Resource: ist Fellowship of Falmouth, 840 Sandwich TGI Network of R.I. provides support and Rd., E. Falmouth. joann@pflagcapecod. advocacy for the Transgender, Transsexual, org.

GayLab for Healthy Relationships: Learning & practicing healthy ways to socialize in safe, nonjudgmental environment in LGBT community. www.gaylab.org. Email info@gaylab.org. James, 781-762-6629

Support Groups & Social Services Adoption Options: Non-sectarian help for LGBT and straight adoptions. Betsy Alper, Jewish Family Service, 959 No. Main St., Providence. 331-54337.

Gay Men’s Domestic info, shelter. (800) 832-1901, www. gmdvp.org.

Foster parents needed: Stipend, assistance, training provided by Family Resources Community Action. 766-0900 X1213.

Gay Men’s Meditation Group: Professionally led. No prior meditation practice required. Fee applies. www. meetup.com/GayMeditation/

Foster parents needed, for newborn to age six. www. childrensfriendri.org. 276-4318 Foster parents sought: training, stipend, support provided for nurturing families. Gil Wright, Family Service of RI, 331-1350 Ext. 3305 Behavioral health outpatient services in Fall River area, inclusive of LGBT: S.T.E.P. (508-)2351012; T.W.I.S.T. (508) 672-0378 Catholic Parents Outreach: Always Our Children, 1st and 3rd Tuesdays, Sacred Heart Convent, 395 Chestnut St., Springfield, MA. Call Ann, (413) 736-6803. COLAGE (Children of Gays): A national movement of people with one or more LGBT parents. Social justice, education & advocacy. Meets 3rd Saturday of the month, Beneficent Church (3319844), 300 Weybosset St., Providence. Jamie Pease, rhodeisland@colage.org. www.myspace. com/colage_ri Coming Out Support Group: Monthly meetings professionally facilitated. www.meetup.com/ ComingOutRI/ Fee applies. Compass: FTM trans info, support and social group, meets in Boston First Thursday, 7 – 9 p.m. www.compassftm.org, compassftm@comcast.net Crossroads RI: Hotline (Travelers Aid): (800) 3672700 Day One (Formerly Sexual Assault and Trauma Resource Center of RI): Counseling & legal aid for victims of sexual assault/abuse & incest. 24-hr hotline (800) 494-8100, collect calls accepted: 421-4100. Domestic Violence Resource Center of South County: Support, court advocacy, counseling, safe home, info for women and men in abusive or controlling, LGBT or straight relationships. 24 hour free and confidential helpline. 7823990.

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Gay Men’s Support Group. Professionally led monthly meetings. Fee applies. www. meetup.com/gaysupportRI/

Gender-varient, Genderqueer and Intersex communities. Now manages programs of LifeLines R.I., Borderlands, TransPartners New England, and Southern New England FTM Group. www.tginetwork.org. info@tginetwork.org.

Gay Officers Action League /New England (GOAL NE), gay/lesbian/bisexual law enforcement officers, sworn & civilian. Fire, rescue and publicly employed EMS. P.O. Box 587, Boston, MA 02117; www.goalne.org; info@goalne.org; (617) 376-3612. Confidential. Gay Share. Coming Out? Gay men’s support group Wed., 7 p.m. No fee. Call Tom/Mike, 369-9448 or www.gayshare.org; Info@gayshare.org. Helpline for LGBT Youth: Trevor Helpline, call 24/7 for crisis and suicide prevention. Also social networks. 866-4-U-Trevor HIV+ Gay Men’s Support Group at AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Ave., Prov., RI. 5213603. Refreshments served. New members should call Scott: 640-3108 Intimacy Between Men: Social support group for gay/bi men focusing on issues of intimacy and relationship. Led by Tom Fronczak, LICSW, call 431-2953 or email TJFronczak@aol.com. Fee applies. Kathy’s Group: free support group for lesbians with cancer or any life-threatening illness. Meets monthly in Providence. Partners and caregivers welcome. Call 888-5KATHYS. Lesbian Moms of Southern NE: discussion, support and activity list for lesbian mothers. www. topica.com/lists/LMOSNE or ForADancer63@

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RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence: info at 467-9940; 24 hr. helpline, (800) 494-8100.

Samaritans: 24-hour hotline for suicidal, lonely, despairing, depressed. (800) 3654044 (RI only), 272-4044; www.samaritansri. org.

Sojourner House: Support, advocacy, info for people in abusive same-sex relationships. Call Jenn at 861-6191 M-F 9:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m. We DON’T use Caller ID; calls are blocked for safety. Straight Spouse Support: RIKate6129@yahoo.com. Straight Spouses Group: Visit www.StraightSpouse. org. for info on groups and online support. Transgender Support Group: Cape Cod (508) 3624435 Trans Partners New England: Professionally led group for loved ones of trans people. Molly.lifelinesri@gmail.com, TGI Network of R.I. www. tginetwork.org. info@tginetwork.org TransYouth Family Allies: Support for gender-variant and transgender children ages 3-18. Info@ imatyfa.org. www.imatyfa.org. Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA): Growing organization to address the concerns of fair treatment of transgender veterans and active duty service members. www. tavausa.org. WomenCARES: HIV/domestic violence risk reduction. Free, confidential. Call Patricia at 861-6191 (Sojourner House), M-F, 9-5. Calls blocked for safety. q

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